Surviving Divorce: Support and Healing for Those Facing Divorce or Separation

Going through the process of divorce or separation can be tough. As Christians, we are all brothers and sisters. We are called to be there for one another, no matter the circumstances. Here at Our Lady of Lourdes, we have a ministry that supports those who find themselves in a divorce or separation situation — Surviving Divorce.

Debbie Locke led this 12-week course along with Dulce Rodriguez, a parishioner from Holy Name of Jesus Cathedral, in early 2022.

“As Catholics, many of our parish activities or ministries are geared towards the family, and rightly so,” Debbie says. “But for the few who have gone through the pain of divorce, you might wonder where you fit in. By having this ministry, we are saying, ‘You do matter. You do belong here.’”

Debbie was first introduced to Surviving Divorce when she went through a session back in 2012. Catholic author Rose Sweet wrote this program. Each session of Surviving Divorce: Hope and Healing for the Catholic Family includes a 30-minute video with a discussion to follow.

“I received so much just being in a group with others who were going through a similar experience,” Debbie says. “It is hard to put into words.”

When Debbie was introduced to Dulce, she knew this would be an opportunity to offer that same healing to others. Debbie likes that this program is from the Catholic perspective. A bonus was when Vikki Newell, Director of the Diocese of Raleigh Tribunal, spoke at a session and answered many questions the participants had regarding seeking an annulment. This program helps participants realize that they are not alone in their journey. It offers the chance to speak to others in a similar situation and discover the Catholic Church community is there for them.

“Participating in this ministry can bring about healing, and when we experience healing, we are in a better position to give more of ourselves to others,” Debbie says.

As Debbie points out, those who receive this healing will ultimately get more involved in the parish and feel more accepted. They may decide to get involved in a parish ministry. Many receive an annulment and can then be in full communion with the church and receive the Eucharist.

“Faith is a gift from God given to us at Baptism and can increase when we exercise our faith through prayer and reception of the sacraments,” Debbie says.

For more information about Surviving Divorce, contact Debbie Locke at debbie7yankees7@gmail.com — put “Surviving Divorce” in the email subject.

Debbie Locke leads the Surviving Divorce Ministry.