4 Golden Rules For Raising Emotionally Healthy Child Parenting is just not about buying the latest and greatest bright colored toys. Parenting means guiding the child's emotions, and teaching them to cope with difficult situations. Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and express emotions constructively. Acquiring this skill begins to develop in the earliest stages of life. According to Daniel Goldman, "all the small conversations children have with their parents or guardians convey their emotional feelings." The World Health Organization has found that children with emotional disorders such as anxiety or depression are more likely to experience extraordinary irritability and hopelessness. Besides, it can give rise to physical disorders, such as abdominal pain, headaches and nausea. However, most parents are not able to identify and understand their child's emotional needs. Parent’s busy schedules do not help.
Attending a Gottman parenting workshop is one of the best -- and quickest -- ways to learn about the emotional, social and intellectual development for babies, young children and teens. This parenting workshop is an amalgam of scientific research and public education that teaches parents how to improve a child’s emotional strength and, consequently, increase their resilience and confidence in adulthood. Parents who attend the parenting workshops say it has helped to improve relationships and strengthen their families. Here are 4 parenting principles from the Gottman parenting workshop: ●
Talk About Feelings With Your Child
Recent studies of college students have shown that more than 60% of children feel academically prepared for college but not emotionally prepared. Respondents report they lack the skills to cope with uncomfortable feelings such as despair, anxiety, and isolation. The vast majority of parents realize their own parents never mentioned the word "feelings" to them. Thus, they aren't able to recognize their feelings and to deal with them. Parents should use the word "feelings" in the day-to-day conversation and help children pinpoint exactly what the feeling is. Also, parents know how to be “Emotion Coaches” can teach them to manage and constructively express their emotions. Instead of saying “Quit being so grumpy!” -- try to understand what the child is going through. Then, say, “Yes, it’s disappointing that your team lost. I’m feeling sad about it, too, especially when you worked so hard.” The goal is to show understanding and not to impose your solution on your child’s problems. ●
Guide Your Child Towards Independence
Teaching children about emotional intelligence is extremely important for developing self-control and decision-making abilities. As your child grows into the pre-teen years, encourage independent decision-making. This means “allowing your teen to make unwise (but not unsafe) decisions from time to time,” said Dr. John Gottman in this book, “Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child.” If you have created a safe, supportive environment in your home, then he or she will be better able to cope with and learn from mistakes. ●
Learn Together
One of the essential elements of healthy parenting is to show your children how important they
are to you. This can be served by engaging and spending time with them. Involve yourself with your child’s games or other activities. Engaged with them in both happy and difficult times. However, give them appropriate space when necessary, such as during moments of conflict. During difficult times, assure them of your support and keep communication lines open. ●
Show Respect To Your Child
Listen to your children carefully and take them seriously. This does not mean that you have to agree with what they say, but attentive listening shows that you respect them. Children who feel respected tend to treat others with respect and are capable of having healthier relationships with their friends and acquaintances. Speak to your children with courtesy. Avoid criticism and name-calling. Instead, describe the desired behavior you expect. Instead of saying, “You are so selfish and only think about yourself,” try saying, “I feel angry when you keep me waiting, especially when I am taking you to your practice. In the future, give yourself enough time to be ready early so we can drive safely.”
Finding Answers This brief explanation of emotional IQ probably has led you to more questions about the specifics of Emotion Coaching. For example, how do you maintain composure when the child is acting out? How do you set boundaries? Attending a Gottman parenting workshop can answer those questions. Or, if your situation seems dire, then a family therapist may be a necessary third-party to help you and your child making the essential repairs to get you on the path to an Emotion Coaching relationship
Author’s Bio Sunny Skousen is an experienced writer who has over 20 years of experience in ghostwriting, blogging, journalism, speech writing, and content marketing. She specializes in writing about Couples Therapy, Family Therapy, Faith-Based Counseling, Anxiety Disorders, Mood Disorders, Grief/Loss and Trauma, Supervision and Consultation, and more!
Contact Us: Website: https://principleskills.com/ Phone no: +1-719-494-7412