Coaching youth soccer today means coaching their parents, too

by Robel Ramos

Gone are the days when parents are just on the sideline watching and cheering their kids and their team. Today, parents are very supportive of their kids’ passion. They are, as a matter of fact, often more enthusiastic than their kids. They encourage their children to train and practice hard. That is a great attitude, if I may say so.

However, let us not forget that they are still kids, children, and even toddlers just trying to enjoy the most beautiful game. Regardless of their skill sets or football IQ, the fact remains that they are kids.

Pushing our kids to give their best is an excellent way to motivate them, but going overboard is something else. Consider this. Not long ago, an overeager parent/ supporter hit a player on the opposing side.

How often have coaches told parents to behave during the game? Yes, parents, not kids. One of the coach’s many responsibilities is disciplining players and, increasingly so, their parents. Cheering loudly is fine. But it is unacceptable to hit, shout hurtful things, and make derogatory remarks to players, coaches, and referees. And parents, remember these five other basics…

• When your kids get tackled or hurt during the match, remember that it is part of the game. Football is a physical, contact sport. If that is troubling, then try another sport.

• Never humiliate kids in front of their teammates.

• Do not coach/instruct on the sideline too. Instead, let your kid’s coach do their job.

• Do not get discouraged if your child gets limited playing time, is not on the starting lineup, or cannot play the entire game. Instead, encourage your child to focus more, practice harder, and have a positive outlook.

• When your kids lose a game, teach them to accept defeat gracefully. And when they win, never gloat and be humble. Finally, cheer for the whole team, not just for your kid(s). After all, football is a team sport.

Robel Ramos wrote this piece when his son was playing U12 soccer. Today, his son is playing U17. He republished the article to remind players, parents, and coaches of what he considers to be the basics of parental behavior.