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WHEN EVEN MOM CAN'T MAKE IT BETTER...

While I’ve had a few health-related issues now and again (most recently, this darn foot surgery), they’ve typically been minor inconveniences. And probably like you, I think health and wellness are important. Not that you’d believe me if we’ve eaten together, as I have a voracious appetite and not always for food that’s considered healthy. Anyway, I digress.

Health takes on even more importance when it involves a diagnosis with no cure.

And especially so if this diagnosis involves your child. Such is the case recently with my “Health is a state daughter Elly, and it’s been a bit of a wake-up of body. Wellness is call. I am thankful for the resources we have in Columbia — both traditional and nona state of being.” traditional. I’m also thankful that Elly is open ­—J. Stanfor to both. Not everyone is (health care is such a personal situation) and that’s quite alright.

The timing of this diagnosis is interesting as this particular issue of COMO Living introduces us to some fascinating people in the health and wellness arena. Hopefully you’ll discover something of interest here.

I’m confident Elly will manage her new normal successfully, as have others ­— perhaps even you. Wish us luck.

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THE OUTSIDE INN Believe it or not, one of the fondest memories of my childhood home was our walkout basement. I’m not sure how this idea came about, but my parents decided to bring the outside in by creating a large family room that replicated a country cabin, complete with a wooden front porch, bright green carpet that resembled grass, and an iconic Coke cooler fit for family get-togethers.

A simple wooden sign hung on the wall identifying the space as “The Outside Inn.” When I think about my childhood, I remember the countless sleepovers held in that room, a mound “A healthy of giggly girls curled up in their sleeping bags on the lawn. That room serves as a reminder that what is outside starts outside can come in, but more importantly, what is from the inside will always come out. inside.”

So how is your health? Is what’s going on inside —Robert Urich affecting your outside world?

This issue is full of strong women, ladies whose lives and characters model this kind of integrity and holistic health. I am excited for you to meet Dr. Lynn Rossy, chefs Nina Furstenau and Donna Battle Pierce, artist Ladenia Cowper, Dr. Arminta Phelps, and Pastor Charity Goodwin.

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ABOUT THE BOARD

FOSTERING WELLNESS

Keys to living a healthy, happy life.

Members of the COMO Living Advisory Board give a nod to the things that keep them feeling their best.

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I’ve always been a sound sleeper; however, that started to change recently. I read that magnesium was a good natural supplement for a good night’s sleep. The first night I took a mega-dose and slept through the night. Wow — a whole new world. What happened next was a total surprise. As I got out of bed and started walking, I noticed my planter fasciitis was completely gone.

When I think of wellness, a beauty product does not typically pop into my mind. However, the 15 minutes of calm and stillness that comes with this facial mask is a strong dose of wellness. Yes To Tomatoes Detoxifying Charcoal Mask is a one-time use paper mask that pulls the toxins out of your pores, reduces redness, and leaves your skin feeling smooth. I use this mask once a week. I leave it on for 15 minutes while I listen to some tranquil music and not only is my skin left feeling radiant, but my mind and soul are also detoxed.

This may be a stretch, but my favorite wellness product is my pair of Nike tennis shoes! I’ve had both of my feet operated on ANN within the past MERRIFIELD year, and now that Columbia College they’re healed, I’ve started a daily walking regimen. My tennis shoes are light, comfortable, and provide great arch and back support. They come with me to work so I can wear them for my daily walk, and they go home with me every afternoon. To me, walking is the best thing I can do for my physical and mental health.

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My favorite wellness product would be water, water, water! The benefits for your skin and entire body are awesome, and it’s always available. My oldest daughter also bought me some Missha All-Around Safe Block, specifically the Soft Finish Sun Milk, and I just love it! It feels great on my face and protects me from the sun.

If I were to identify the one key factor that dictates how I feel and energizes my step, it would be the assurance that my relationships with the people in my life are healthy and positive. In addition to my husband and my mother, I’m blessed to have three grown children, and their children, who stay in touch with me regularly and rely on me for advice, support, and an ear for listening, even though each of them is highly successful in their own professions and lives. It’s important to me to know that I’m needed just as I need them.

Similarly, key to my sense of well-being are those very special friends God has brought into my life. These are my peers who, in some cases, are relationships that started in high school or college. They know me well and consistently provide wise advice, encouragement, acceptance, and support through all the challenges and triumphs of life.

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SHELF LIFE

GETTING LOST IN THE LIBRARY Eve r y re ad e r n e e ds a go o d bo o k .

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don’t get lost in a good book very often anymore. I get so frustrated when I pick out book after book that doesn’t captivate me. So frustrated, in fact, that I often forget to turn in my library books. As the daughter of a librarian, that’s pretty embarrassing. But I’ve been inspired to try again.

Recently, I babysat a child who claims he can’t read. And while he’s wrong, he is still learning. This future astronaut is an expert in Lego construction, loves to learn about how things work, and loves to be read to. His older brother gets lost in chapter books about Captain Underpants, but this easily-distracted kid was missing out on that getting-lost-in-a-good-book feeling.

I could relate more to the older brother. My whole childhood was spent in the stacks of Ellis (courtesy of my mom) or Daniel Boone Regional Library. Many of my early memories involve finding a quiet place and diving into a world of fairies, babysitters, or runaways.

But when I think back far enough, I remember being a kid who struggled with reading too. In first grade, I “read” behind a big book of poems, scowling at my teacher for assigning us the impossible task of turning alphabet soup into a story. I don’t remember the day I learned to read, but I also don’t remember most of first grade.

At some point, the alphabet soup must have made sense, because all I remember is

American Girls escaping plantations, Laura listening to Pa’s fiddle, and Claudia Kishi’s personal landline ringing.

My appetite for new worlds was satiated in those library stacks. I can still remember the floorplan of the old Daniel Boone Regional Library; the flying French fries give me warm fuzzies.

I wanted that experience for this boy I was caring for, but I certainly didn’t have some “O Captain! My Captain!” style lesson in mind.

I was just trying to fill time on a Saturday afternoon. I figured we’d rent some movies and get another Captain Underpants book. And we did those things. But we also checked out “Professor Astro Cat’s Atomic Adventure.”

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Wow. This kiddo may be a cautious reader, but Professor Astro Cat was just his style. It was a beautifully illustrated book of amazing facts and science. The library gods (AKA actual librarians — hi Mom!) had smiled upon him. He settled into a cartoony Swedish lounge chair in Daniel Boone Regional Library’s children’s section and drank in the book with his eyes. For the next few days, the future astronaut was clearly “lost in a good book.” Later, when he asked to be read some of the harder sections, he wasn’t frustrated.

As a reader, it’s easy to get frustrated and want to go play with our Legos. But there is a book out there for everyone. Do you need a “Professor Astro Cat” in your life? Or at least a trip to the library?

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In the early fall of 2008, we dreamed up Studio Home as a space where we could focus our energy into doing what we love. It quickly became a reality, and we opened our doors October 14, 2008. It is hard to believe that was 10 years ago.

As fall of 2018 comes upon us, we would like to thank each and every individual in our community who has helped support us. Thank you to our friends, family, clients, fellow designers, contractors, architects, and the countless others who we have worked with throughout this past decade.

We have several exciting changes coming to Studio Home in 2019; we look forward to sharing these changes with you while continuing to share our love of design with the community.

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T R A N S F O R M AT I O N S

FROM FOSTER CARE TO FOREVER FAMILY

Tiffany Lester finds community at Coyote Hill Christian Children’s Home.

by K AT I E P E R RY H A R R I S | ph o to s by K E I T H B O R G M E Y E R

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hen describing her childhood, Tiffany Lester calls it “standard and what every kid goes through.” But the standard childhood the now 28-year-old Tiffany is referring to is for foster care children.

“From kindergarten to first grade, I was taking care of my little brother by myself,” says Tiffany. With an absent father and a mother who suffered from depression and alcoholism, Tiffany was frequently left on her own. “I would go all over the place until it was dark,” she remembers. “I could cook sandwiches and eggs and oatmeal. I’d make sure my brother

would get on the bus and then I’d walk the five or six blocks to school.”

The pattern continued until a neighbor noticed and reported the neglect to the Division of Family Services. “The next thing I knew, I was at a random house in Moberly,” Tiffany shares.

For the next 10 years, Tiffany moved throughout the foster care system. She remembers that first foster care home, where she was placed with her younger brother, as “not at all pleasant.” The family was authoritarian and used corporal punishment. “To this day, I can’t stand the smell of mayonnaise,” she says. “The family rules dictated that if there was something

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you didn’t like, you had to eat more of it, including mayonnaise, or go without anything at all.” By the time Tiffany reached fourth grade, her weight had plummeted to 64 pounds.

After a year in Moberly, Tiffany was sent to a respite home. From there she moved to Cairo, Missouri, for four years, this time without her younger brother. While the Cairo family afforded her more freedom and didn’t use physical punishment, Tiffany remembers emotional punishment. She was also in charge of doing physical work on their farm, filling up five-gallon buckets of water and going up a hill to water the tomato plants about 40 to 50 times a day.

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Tiffany remained in Cairo until the eighth grade, landing in another respite home for a short time before moving to Sturgeon in time for her freshman year and finally to Coyote Hill Christian Children’s Home.

FINDING COMMUNITY “Coyote Hill is a special place. You have to go out there to understand the feeling you get,” Tiffany says. “Seeing the kids laughing and playing like any other kids — these kids have a new start after all they’ve gone through.”

For Tiffany, that new start arrived when she came to Coyote Hill her sophomore year of high school to live with house parents Amy and Jacob Kingery. Coyote Hill, which inhabits a 200acre campus north of Columbia in Harrisburg, provides five blended family homes with a goal of stopping the cycle of abuse and neglect and replacing that with a cycle of success.

“I was nervous showing up there,” Tiffany says. “It took me a while to warm up because I was very much an independent individual. I had raised myself for years.”

Tiffany found that she wasn’t worrying about trying to fit in so much, as the school district and students were familiar with Coyote Hill and the foster care system. She didn’t feel so different. “Being in foster care for so long and moving around so much makes things difficult. You’re not used to making friends,” she shares. “You give up because you’re just going to move again.”

Tiffany finally found a sense of community at Coyote Hill with the support of the Kingerys and other kids who were going through the same thing. “You lean on each other,” she says.

“There was always someone to talk to, but if you just wanted to be alone, you could have that space, too.”

She practiced riding horses thanks to Coyote Hill’s equestrian program and remembers family outings to a ballgame and Lambert’s Cafe for their famous “throwed rolls.”

Coyote Hill also offered a program called Independent Living, which taught Tiffany essential life skills like budgeting, job interview skills, how to look for car insurance, and how to choose a bank. Armed with these new life lessons and motivated, she graduated from Harrisburg High School a semester early.

STARTING HER OWN FAMILY “I have very high standards for myself,” Tiffany says, citing statistics about the percentage of emancipated children who end up homeless.

She experienced this firsthand with her brother, who was homeless and passed away a year ago.

Tiffany worked hard to make a new life for herself. She met her husband, Ryan, at work.

They’ve been married for seven years and have a 4-year-old daughter, Lexi.

There were setbacks along the way – she wished she had stayed in the foster care system longer for its continued assistance – but she’s thriving as a proud wife and mom. “She’s one of the best moms ever to her little girl,” says former house mom Amy Kingery. “You can tell her heart — she loves her little girl. She wants to be the best mom she can be for Lexi and provide the best foundation.”

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Amy describes Tiffany’s giving nature and recalls a moment last year when Tiffany returned to Coyote Hill with a box to donate her clothes. All these years later, Tiffany had held on to that box. “In foster care, you move your stuff in trash bags,” she says. “That was the first box I’d had to keep stuff in. It was my box.

I never threw it away, I just kept it.”

Tiffany has taken Lexi out to Coyote Hill and shown her what used to be her bedroom.

“The feeling you get when you’re out there is hard to describe,” says Tiffany. “You get out of the car and you’re out there in the woods and you see kids running around and playing and having fun. It’s like it’s a big summer camp. It has its own community. The kids have other kids to talk to and play with and find similar interests and learn new things from each other.

It’s relaxing.”

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If you are building a custom home, it is really easy to get caught up in all the decisions of construction and interior design and forget about landscaping until the last minute. We might be a bit biased, but don’t underestimate the impact landscaping can have on the look of a finished house. So, here is my advice on a few details to consider as you plan and build your new custom home.

1. Consider a realistic landscape budget— There is nothing worse than building your dream home and not being able to finish it off with proper landscaping. Keep in mind irrigation, lawn, landscaping, and hardscapes for all of your outdoor spaces and add up a budget that works with your overall budget.

2. Include your landscape designer early— Small details can often be overlooked but make a huge difference. Too often, we see a brand new house that could have been even more inviting with just a few small tweaks to something as simple as a driveway or sidewalk layout. It might be fully functional, but there is nothing we can do to improve the aesthetics if we come in at the very end of the project.

Plus, if nothing else, for a cohesive look, design your home and landscape together.

3. Plan ahead—There are a lot of elements of landscape design that should be considered early in the construction process. Grade changes, walls, patios, and outdoor spaces should not be an afterthought. There is a lot a landscape crew can do that is purposeful and preventative and much more cost effective, rather than trying to correct a problem later on. It is important to know how you intend to utilize your yard and what features you would like to include. Designers then take those elements into consideration while balancing what will work best with your particular piece of property such as lot size and location, foundation, and elevation.

A custom home should look and feel just that—custom. For what is comparatively just a little more of an investment, you can make your new home stand apart from the sea of homes

popping up all around you. Consider these guidelines, talk specifics with your designer, and we can promise you will feel the difference when you pull into to your new dream home.

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TURN YOUR BASEMENT FROM CREEPY TO COZY

BY CALE KLIETHERMES Find more at: www.kliethermes.com

Whether you have ample floor space or a tiny bungalow, your home’s basement doesn’t have to be a scary, damp storage space.

Your basement can be a great space for entertaining, working or a play area for the kids. To turn your basement into a lower-level oasis, try these fun tips!

HEATED FLOORS Keep your feet nice and toasty by installing electric heating cables under the floors.

This can be a more expensive option, but it will keep your floors warm all year round.

Alternatively, cork floors provide a natural thermal and moisture barrier while also coming in a variety of stylish designs and colors.

INSTALL A GAS FIREPLACE Nothing says comfort like a crackling fire while you enjoy a cup of coffee or cocoa.

A fireplace is a lovely addition to your basement that can help warm up space quickly so you can focus on entertaining.

As an added bonus, you may not need a chimney because you can simply direct the flue up through the wall.

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You may have some natural lighting from basement egress windows, but chances are it’s faint. Warm LED lights and cozy paint colors will work wonders when it comes from transforming your cellar from dungeon to den.

Just because your new space is underground doesn’t mean it shouldn’t have a cohesive flow with the rest of your home. Keep finishes and furniture similar to the upstairs to ensure your basement feels intentional, and not an afterthought.

DESIGN FOR FUNCTIONALITY One of the most important things to consider when remodeling your basement is how you want to use the space. Will you use it for entertaining or for quiet reading? Does it need to be able to fit a crowd comfortably, or just your family? Make sure you account for all the possibilities before you finalize your designs.

DIRECT AIR FROM THE FURNACE Your basement is one of the coldest spaces in your home. An in-line fan can be installed during remodeling to evenly spread warm air around the basement and you can even control how often it runs with a thermostat.

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Cale Kliethermes has learned the construction business from the ground up, working with his father to uphold the 40-year legacy that is Kliethermes Homes & Remodeling. Having been immersed in the industry since his teenage years, Cale possesses decades’ worth of expert knowledge and experience regarding new construction and remodels. Cale studied business administration and finance at Regis University, in Denver, Colorado, and earned his CGR (Certified Graduate Remodeler) designation from the National Association of Home Builders (NAHB). He also served in Iraq with the U.S. Marine Corps, where he built secure housing and observation posts. Cale specializes in leading homeowners through the creative process of designing their ideal home, and he is skilled in determining unique solutions that result in life-changing differences.

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WHEN IS THE RIGHT TIME TO FRESHEN UP YOUR DECOR?

BY ANNE TUCKLEY Find more at: AnneTuckleyhome.com

Change your air filter every 3 months. Replace your make-up every 6 months. Get your oil changed every 3 months or 3,000-5,000 miles.

Replace your mattress every 8 years.

We know these rough guidelines. They help ensure that our air is clean, our skin is clear, our cars are running, and our slumber is, well, not disgusting. But what about aesthetic revamps?

What are the guidelines for updating our wardrobes and our decor?

Whether it is a new property or a home they have lived in for years, I frequently have clients bringing me in because they feel like a space is dated. To be clear, dated in this context does not simply mean old. You can have a gorgeous antique, Victorian home, and while old, everything is perfectly fashionable for the property. Dated means out of style.

Like fashion, decor goes through cycles. Just like your old bell bottoms you have buried under the bed will one day be back in style, so

will your roll of shag carpeting tucked away in the corner of your basement.

When fads first fade is when the memory of them is cringe-worthy. All fads phase through

a cycle of fashionable, utterly horrible, and ultimately nostalgic only to repeat themselves at unexpected times. The utterly horrible phase is when we are ready for change.

So what should you change and when?

While there is no golden timeline in the decor world, I recommend the following guidelines: Paint: Refresh every 2-3 years Bed Comforter/Duvet: Every 2-3 years Large Furniture: Every 4-5 years do an analysis and donate or refurbish the dated pieces and update with a few new ones if necessary.

Accents: Accents should be refreshed regularly with the changes in trends. This includes lamps, art, door knobs, cabinet pulls, etc.

Want to know what you should get rid of or change immediately?

• Ditch any shining gold 80’s decor • Ditch the heavy drapes • Ditch the dried eucalyptus swags • Ditch the fake ficus trees • Cover that muted gold paint • Paint those oak cabinets • And please get rid of those toilet seat covers and rugs A little change can make a dramatic difference.

ANNE TUCKLEY

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Anne has been in the interior design industry for over 20 years and has resided in many metropolitan cities from NYC to Houston while honing in on her skills.

Her specialties are interior design and home staging, with a focus on unique perception. Anne graduated with a BFA in fine art with a concentration in design and illustration. She has extensive experience in designing new construction as well as remodeling and conceptualizing out-of-the-box ideas. She ensures cutting edge design and superb customer service.

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COMPANY’S COMING…

BY JAKE BAUMGARTNER Find more at baumgartners.com

As we move into the holiday season, the most essential space in the home becomes the dining area. This is where friends and family gather to eat, celebrate and reminisce. When your company arrives, you want your home to look its best. For most of us, a full renovation isn’t on our to-do list, but simple updates can be made fairly easily. Here are a few budget-friendly trends for dining areas that can be easily implemented into any home.

BENCHES The addition of a bench to the dining set is a popular trend this year. Whether you’re looking to replace your dining set altogether, or simply add a bench to your current set, there are a wide range of styles to choose from.

Rustic wood, accent cushions or upholstery allow you to truly customize your bench to fit the personality of your home. Depending on length, the addition of a bench can also add extra seating space to the dining table, which is invaluable when entertaining.

INTERESTING ELEMENTS While the table and its décor function as the centerpiece of the dining area, adding statement pieces to the walls serves not only as a design element, but also as a conversation point with guests. Mirrors, lighting or molding can bring an extra liveliness to your space. These kinds of elements are great DIY projects as they can easily be hung or installed.

STORAGE SOLUTIONS Cabinets are great décor, as they are functionable as well as beautiful. A china cabinet is used to store and show off your best china. Wine carts or consoles are an elegant and functional way of displaying your wine. Closed cabinetry can be an excellent way to hide the kids’ clutter when entertaining.

When looking for the perfect cabinet to fit

your dining space, consider color, texture and size. These elements can help to add more dimension to the room. But don’t be afraid to blend different styles!

The right furniture is the most important aspect in when re-working a space. I hope

that the options I have listed have given you inspiration for your dining space. Visit our Auxvasse locations for a variety of furnishing options. Whether you’re looking for a new dining set or a fresh accent piece we can help find the right fit for your home.

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Jake essentially grew up in the furniture industry as he is the fourth generation involved in Baumgartner’s Furniture. Working very closely with his father, Alan, Jake has been devoted to the stores full time since 2004. His greatest enjoyment, however, still comes from working closely with the customers. He is married to Sarah and they have two active boys, Noah and Laine. Jake received his degree in finance from Saint Louis University.

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BUYING ON A BUDGET: THE VALUE OF FIX/FLIP

BY DENISE PAYNE Find more at www.denisepayne.com

When I was growing up, “flipping” meant flipping a pancake or making your hair flip like Farrah Fawcett. Now, everyone seems to want to flip a house. Flip an entire house? That sounds interesting, scary and exciting all at once.

What does it mean to flip a house? It can be as simple as buying from a very motivated seller and waiting until the market shifts to make some money, or it can be moving walls, installing new cabinets and re-wiring the entire house to make it more appealing to today’s sophisticated buyer.

I’ve done both many times and because of my experience, I am able to point out simple improvements for my buyers so they can reap valuable monetary rewards. Recently I helped a young couple with a small child buy a home that they could improve. This family had a budget up to $150,000 yet every house they liked was met with other buyers putting in stronger offers. We had to think quick and come in at the best price they could afford.

Time and time again (7 times, in fact) we were outbid by another buyer.

I took them to a house that reeked of pet odor and needed a lot of work. Even the professionals can come short on doing what is right by the house. I have seen pet stained areas still in place and wood floors sealed with all of their scratches, when doing a proper wood refinish would actually bring the floor back to its previous luster.

I explained how they could pull up the carpet, KILZ the concrete slab and install new flooring themselves. They also did not like the cabinets so I explained how they could remove the hardware, sand, de-gloss, prime and paint.

The husband put on a hooded coverall, rented a dumpster and went to town with the horrible smelling carpet and pad; just getting it out of the house was a huge improvement. He then KILZed the floor just as I had explained and the wife purchased some click and lock hardwood flooring which she installed. She even installed

the new baseboards. I visited them a few weeks ago and WOW—they have done a terrific job.

The value of their newly fixed up home has now increased by $30,000-$40,000.

I am always so excited to see how a house can transform with just a few weekends of work.

Not all buyers want to take on projects which

gives way to the fix/flip segment of real estate, but when they do, it is a rewarding experience.

I hope that my example of this young couple will inspire future buyers on a budget to find the home of their dreams and gather a few skills along the way. It is always fun when I can help a buyer obtain sweat equity.

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s I walk into Ladenia Cowper’s home, I am greeted by three things: a hug, a smile, and a bright green wall full of vibrant, original oil paintings. Ladenia is an 81-year-old artist, and her home reflects her unwavering passion for creating.

Ladenia found her love for painting while moving between foster homes as a child in Kansas City. She figured it was a good way to spend much of the alone time she faced.

“I just picked it up and taught myself,” Ladenia says. “Other artists may be better because they went to school, but I went to Ladenia school.”

Painting remained a creative outlet for Ladenia as she navigated through different seasons of life. In 1974, Ladenia moved to Columbia to raise her eight children — four boys and four girls. She is now a grandmother

to 33 grandchildren and 33 greatgrandchildren. She beams with pride while talking about her ever-expanding family.

“It’s a wonderful thing to have that big of a family, but I’m just glad they all don’t live here to hassle me,” Ladenia laughs. “I’m just a very blessed grandmother.”

Ladenia moved into her current home on Third Avenue in 2005, which was built in the same year she was born, 1936. “I like this old house. It’s got good bones,” Ladenia says. “When I moved in here, I decided I will never have another white wall.” Sitting in the living room, you can see that she has stuck to her word: The walls are painted purple, yellow, and green.

Ladenia’s home is not only colorful in the way it looks, but in the energy and creativity that is apparent in what’s found inside. Picasso

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In 1981, Ladenia started selling her paintings through the Columbia Art League downtown. Although she is no longer able to move paintings back and forth, customers frequently reach out to her when they hear about her artwork through word of mouth.

Ladenia’s family, her childhood, and impactful moments are main focuses in the art she creates. African-American families seen dancing outside project housing, a memory she remembers from Kansas City, are seen in one painting; joyous fun is shown through the movement and colors. One of her most successful paintings to date was of Hurricane

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Her current ongoing project is painting all 66 grandchildren and great grandchildren on a 5-by-7 piece of plywood leftover from a home renovation. Ladenia has already painted 33 of the familiar, smiling faces.

“What makes me proud is that I can put something I think of on canvas, and if someone else will like it too and come buy it, I must be doing pretty good,” Ladenia says. She has paintings in Philadelphia, Texas, Illinois, and even Japan.

Her reasoning behind choosing what to paint is simple: “If something crosses my mind, or if it stays on my mind, I put it on canvas and see how it looks,” she says.

Although Ladenia suffers from arthritis and chronic pain, it doesn’t stop her from pursuing other hands-on hobbies like ceramics, crocheting, and sketching. She admits sometimes inspiration can be fleeting, and she knows she can’t ever force an idea or project. “You have to do your hobbies when you feel like it or it won’t turn out right. It never does,” she says.

Ladenia’s vibrancy is shown through her artwork, her home, and her warm presence.

All her creations are for sale, but selling has never been more important than taking the time to create a one-of-a-kind masterpiece.

“You have to do it because you love it, and that’s what I do. If they sell, fine. But if not, I’ll just continue to sit here and enjoy them myself,” Ladenia laughs.

The master bedroom highlights Ladenia's vintage style and favorite color. It took her nine years to find the perfect curtains.

Ladenia's painting of the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina

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The Story of Us Preserving family recipes breathes renewed life into cultural and family heritage. s to r y by J E S S I C A VAU G H N M A R T I N ph o tos by S A D I E T H I B O D E AU X an d T I F FA N Y S C H M I D T

Authors Nina Mukerjee Furstenau and Donna Battle Pierce are award-winning Mid-Missouri food journalists who use food as a lens to view and discuss culture, history, and more. The two were part of the Bon Appetit panel at the 2018 Unbound Book Festival.

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As Nina watches the butterflies, the longing to reconnect with that story surfaces. “I thought, well, what about a reverse migration for myself?” she says.

As she did in “Biting Through the Skin,” Nina continues telling her family’s story in an upcoming book, “Green Chiles and Other Imposters,” which will jump another generation back to her grandmother’s Bengali food story.

“She lived through the partition of India and colonial rule and the end of it, so she was familiar with both pre-colonial food and colonial food,” Nina says. “I wanted to find her story, because I think that her life was an interesting time.” Nina will be researching on the ground in Kolkata, India, for eight months through a Fulbright Global Scholar grant.

It’s important to her to save these stories from extinction — something she has seen firsthand. Artifacts from the Missouria Otoe Native American tribe who lived on the land that is now the Furstenau farm are now washed up in stream beds on the property.

Arrowheads, utensils, many things they used to find and prepare their food; this is all Nina knows of them.

“They had a whole history and life that I really know nothing about,” she says. “I was thinking about why I don’t know much about them. In my kitchen, which is a modern kitchen, I don’t know how to make the foods they ate every day. Because I can’t imagine the processes they went through, I can’t imagine their life. So I’ve lost that connection. I think about that, in just my little piece of Missouri, and that’s happening all over the world. To me, every time that happens, you lose a culture, and it’s a world heritage lost.”

Recipes, especially when handwritten, she says, not only preserve culture, but people, too. “I can picture the scene of when she was writing it for me, or imagine her cooking it.” she says. “It preserves them for me in a way that is very alive and has energy. It’s not just a flat, ‘Aunt Mildred was a nice lady.’ I picture her sniffing a spoon, or putting a little bit of extra spice in a dish because she knows somebody she loves likes that. It makes the person seem like they’re still sitting with you.”

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A KALEIDOSCOPE OF YELLOW sulfur butterflies flutter beyond the windowpane in late summer outside author Nina Mukerjee Furstenau’s home in Fayette, Missouri.

They know it is time. Time to begin the journey back to the warmth of Florida as the torrid midwestern air slowly exhales into autumn. They return south for a culinary dance, tasting azaleas through receptors in their feet. It was migration in process, the movement of beings from one place to the next, following the inherent urge to return to the homeland.

Somewhere within us, too, is the need to connect with our homeland. Food is often at the heart of this, just as it is for the butterflies.

For Nina, it is her calling. She has spent the most recent segment of her career focused on writing and teaching about food, food systems, and food culture. Often, the focus is food as a means of preservation: of family, of culture, and of history.

“When you have a recipe, it’s like an artifact of an era, a family, a life, and a culture,” Nina says. And that artifact is often etched with very specific family markings.

“If you look at the margins in recipes where someone in your family might have written a note — in my family it might be ‘no peas for Rich’ or ‘Shipra likes less cayenne’ — it’ll be different for every family.”

In her award-winning 2013 memoir, “Biting through the Skin: An Indian Kitchen in America’s Heartland,” Nina recounts her own food story, a braid of Midwestern and Indian culture pieced together from her childhood in rural Kansas and longing for a deeper understanding of her Indian heritage. At the center of her story are five recipes — the recipes she and her mother, unknowingly, carried with them as a remembrance of home as they became new brides.

Of these recipes and others she holds dear, she says: “It’s not just a story, it’s a story of us, because it’s becoming very specific for what is flavorful for my family, my relatives, and what tastes they appreciated more than others. To me, preserving that recipe tells me a lot more about my family than I ever would have known.”

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Celebrating Life ANOTHER MIDWESTERN writer, Donna Battle Pierce, has also experienced this bond with her family recipes. When Donna got the somber call telling of her grandmother’s passing, she was nearly 2,400 miles away from the family home in Mobile, Alabama. “I had always been her special grandchild; she was the one who taught me to cook and really made me love cooking, and told me all of her secrets,” Donna says.

In lieu of attending the funeral, Donna’s mother suggested a different kind of celebration of life. “What I do want you to do,” Donna recalls her saying, “is invite all of your friends over to eat, and cook your grandmother’s favorite foods that she taught you.”

In her San Francisco kitchen, half a continent away, Donna pulled out her grandmother’s gumbo recipe and fired up the stove. As she cooked, she knew she wasn’t alone. “I get goosebumps whenever I talk about it,” she says. “I made gumbo of course, and I made her rolls, and I made ambrosia, but not only was it the best gumbo I have ever made — I have never had gumbo turn

“It was my real experience that when you pass down your recipes, you don’t go — there’s a little part of you that stays with the people who love you and that food.” out that amazingly perfect before — but everybody who came was just raving and dying to be in the kitchen with me.”

It was then that Donna fully realized the power of preservation. “It was my real experience that when you pass down your recipes, you don’t go—there’s a little part of you that stays with the people who love you and that food,” she says.

A former fashion and business journalist, Donna’s work has since spanned the pages of local papers like the Columbia Daily Tribune and the Chicago Tribune, in national magazines such as Ebony, and on her own blogs, Black America Cooks and Skillet Diaries.

Today, she’s focused on revealing the stories of black American chefs who have heavily influenced modern food culture.

“I’m writing a book about untold stories, stories that have been hidden,” Donna says. “What a lot of people don’t understand is what I believe has been a lot of co-opting of recipes that were created by black people, southern recipes, during a time when we did not have a voice.” The headliner is Freda DeKnight, the first food editor of Ebony and a close friend of Donna’s late grandparents.

Freda’s cookbook, “A Date with a Dish,” is considered the first major cookbook written by an African American for an African American audience.

Donna connects on a personal level with these chefs. As an elementary-aged child new to Missouri, she took part in one of the most historically momentous events in modern America: school integration. Skin color was not the only dividing difference for Donna and her siblings as they navigated an even more unusually difficult season of life. It was food, too, that others, even friends, found divisive.

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“I remember very distinctly: I had friends who made fun of my family recipes,” she says. “My family recipes were southern creole. We ate gumbo, a lot of dishes like that. I had friends who would say to me that my family’s food was too spicy, and I remember this distinctly from one of my very best friends who said, ‘My mother says that real ladies don’t eat spicy food.’ I can still feel that clench.”

Instead of falling away from her traditions in response to criticism, she leaned in to them. Preservation comes with an embrace of who you are. For Donna, this realization spawned a career and kept her close to family through food. “Even though we were part of the great migration, my sisters and brothers and I, my parents were five generations in Mobile, Alabama,” she says. “The Gulf of Mexico and New Orleans — all of that was our food and our heritage. My family moved north to have a different life for their children, but the southern part, it keeps me tied to a region, to family, to a home, to happy thoughts of sitting around a table. If I ever need to feel closer, or need to feel belonging or any of that, I cook [those recipes].”

Preserving recipes saves much more than a dish. It’s a cultural or family artifact, a connection to the homeland, and a piece of the story of us. For Donna and Nina, and for all of us, that’s what’s at the heart of it all. “What is distilled into recipes from that culture is sort of like the end result of all the same things from every family in that culture,” Nina says. “It shows what’s important to them, what makes comfort, what satisfies hunger, what makes you well, what is tasty. All those things are sort of distilled into a collection of recipes for the culture, and to me that’s so precious.

It’s like a gift.”

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GRANNY’S DEVILED CRAB

Courtesy of Donna Battle Pierce | Serves 6

photo by donna battle pierce

• 8 slices dried white sandwich bread, torn into 2-inch pieces, see note • ¼ cup milk plus more if needed • 1 stick of butter • 2 small onions, finely chopped • 4 ribs celery, finely chopped • 1 green bell pepper, finely chopped • 2 eggs, beaten • 1 pound fresh or canned crabmeat

• 2 tablespoons minced fresh parsley • ½ teaspoon each of ground red pepper, dry mustard, salt, and freshly ground black pepper • 3 tablespoons dried bread crumbs or cracker meal • 2 tablespoons mayonnaise

Heat oven to 425 to 450 degrees and place bread pieces in large bowl. Pour milk over dried bread and set aside for 5 minutes.

Press milk into bread with a fork to make a thick paste, adding more milk if necessary.

Set aside.

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For the cook in the family, I’d say it’s important to find a person in the next generation who has the same passion that you have and then really develop that.

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Heat two tablespoons of the butter in a large skillet over medium heat. Add onions, celery, and green pepper. Cook until vegetables soften (about 6 minutes). Stir in remaining butter until melted; pour over bread paste. Stir in eggs; add crabmeat, parsley, red pepper, mustard, and salt and black pepper to taste. Stir just to combine.

Divide crab mixture evenly among 6 individual greased crab shells or spoon into a large greased baking dish. Sprinkle bread crumbs over crab mixture. Top each crab shell with a 1 teaspoon drop of the mayonnaise without spreading. Bake until heated throughout, about 8 minutes.

Spread the hot mayonnaise over mixture with the back of a spoon. Bake 3 minutes longer. Serve warm.

Note: To dry fresh bread, place in 200-degree oven about 10 minutes.

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Cover the bottom of a heavy pan with vegetable oil and heat. When hot, drop in the whole spices and let sizzle for about 30 seconds. Add the onions and stir fry until the onions begin to brown at the edges. Push them to the side and add the sugar. Stir the sugar in the hot oil until it begins to caramelize and is mostly dissolved.

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Stir fry the chicken with the onions until the chicken begins to turn brown. Add the ginger, cayenne, garlic, and salt. Lower heat, add a little water if necessary, and fry until the meat is well coated with the spices (20 to 25 minutes — this long simmer is essential to bring out the flavor of the finished dish). Add about one cup of water. Loosely cover the pan and simmer until heated through (about 5 minutes). Add yogurt, sprinkle a little garam masala into the pan if you have it, and simmer an additional 5 to 10 minutes.

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Mindful Eating

State of Mind Dr. Lynn Rossy guides others toward mindful eating and living.

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Mindful Eating

“I decided if I got down to a certain weight, I would be happy,” Dr. Lynn Rossy recalls. She had spent several years counting calories and trying every fad diet in order to lose the weight she gained during a dark period of her life that had led to overeating. “I remember distinctly the day I got to that weight, and I was happy for one second. Then I heard my mind say, ‘But you could lose five more pounds.’ And I thought, ‘That’s it! I’m not doing this anymore.’”

As a clinical psychologist, author, and president of The Center for Mindful Eating, Lynn, 62, has been practicing mindfulness for 20 years. An increasingly popular therapy, mindfulness is a mental state that brings a person’s focus into the present through awareness and acceptance of thoughts, emotions, and sensations in the body.

Lynn has adapted these principles to the thoughts and behaviors that surround our eating habits and has been teaching a mindfulness-based eating class since 2006. And it’s something she practices everyday for herself.

“I don’t weigh myself. I pay attention to how my body feels and what my body wants and all kinds of internal signals that give me all the information I need about my body,” she says.

“A number on a scale does not define me.”

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That Which Does Not Kill Us

A Columbia native, Lynn says she moved to San Francisco at the age of 21 to find herself. She fell in love, and at 28, she moved to Los Angeles to get married. But the marriage fell apart after one month, and the emotional fallout left Lynn on a path of self-destruction. She turned to drugs and eventually entered rehabilitation, but early in her recovery, she fell into a period of binge eating.

“During my initial recovery, I had a bout of depression and, instead of drugs, turned to food for comfort — chocolate brownies and ice cream were two of my best friends,” Lynn says. “The dark night of my soul in Los

Angeles was a pivotal point for me. I knew I was either going to die or I was going to get better. When I got better, I knew there was a reason. And that reason has turned out to be teaching and helping others through the practice of mindfulness.”

At her mother’s suggestion, Lynn moved back to Columbia at the age of 35 for a fresh start. She enrolled at MU, and by 2001, she had completed her bachelor’s, master’s, and doctoral degrees in psychology. While pursuing her studies, she began to explore mindfulness, something she had been introduced to in rehab, from a clinical perspective.

“When I first started doing mindfulness, it was not popular. Nobody knew what it was, and they thought I was strange,” Lynn laughs. “My professors in my graduate program were like, ‘What is mindfulness?

What are you doing?’ I had to explain myself a lot.”

Lynn also studied insight meditation at Spirit Rock, in California, and she studied mindfulness under Jon Kabat-Zinn, author and creator of the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Health Care, and Society at the University of Massachusetts Medical School.

In 2002, she became a certified kripalu yoga instructor, as well.

After working at the Student Health Center for five years, Lynn was asked to develop a mindfulness-based eating component in 2006 for MU’s Healthy for Life program, which offers a variety of wellness resources to students, faculty, and staff.

“I wasn’t planning on teaching mindful eating,” Lynn admits. “But the minute I taught my first class, I was hooked because I discovered very quickly the tremendous amount of suffering people have around food and their bodies. That’s what I related to — this suffering.”

Learning to Look Within

Lynn says it’s no surprise that so many struggle in their relationship with food and their bodies, pointing to a pervasive dieting culture as a primary culprit. While her students are predominantly women, they are of every age

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and body type, including trim and athletic women who struggle with rigid diets. Instead of focusing on a number on a scale, Lynn’s mindfulness-based eating approach teaches people to look within as a means to make health and well-being their focus.

“Mindfulness is the ultimate guide and ally in helping you make better food choices,” Lynn says in her book. “Beyond self-discipline or willpower, it’s about

“You have to learn to love and respect yourself first. When you teach people how to bring more compassion to themselves and to stop the criticism and judgment, they start taking care of themselves better.”

the power of awareness. Behavior change happens when you become aware of what you’re doing and why you’re doing it.”

Her class and her book teach students to stop dieting, step off the scale, and listen to cues from their bodies to identify physical hunger versus emotion-based cravings.

“We eat when we’re happy, sad, lonely, bored, confused, stressed. But, there are

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Mindful Eating ways of dealing with emotions in ways that are helpful. We discover what those things are when we use the practice of mindfulness to slow down and pay attention to what we really need and what would really soothe us.”

Lynn does not tell her students what to eat or not eat, and in fact goes one step further by encouraging them to drop the idea that certain foods are forbidden, which she says sets up a cycle of deprivation and craving that ultimately can lead to binge eating. Instead, mindfulness can be used to know when enough is enough.

At the core of all of these teachings and principles centered on food, however, is the idea of self-respect and love. In Lynn’s research from the mindful eating class, she found that as people became more mindful, they also had more compassion for themselves, became more appreciative of their bodies, ate based on physical hunger cues, and significantly reduced overeating.

“You have to learn to love and respect yourself first. When you teach people how to bring more compassion to themselves and to stop the criticism and judgment, they start taking care of themselves better.”

Enjoy Every Moment, Savor Every Bite

From Lynn’s first class in 2006 sprang a career committed to helping others through the practice of mindfulness. In 2016, after 10 years with the Healthy for Life program, Lynn was contracted for a year to develop an employee mindfulness program at Veterans United Home Loans. She also published her first book, “The MindfulnessBased Eating Solution: Proven Strategies to End Overeating, Satisfy Your Hunger & Savor Your Life.” She is currently working on her second book.

In 2017, after her time at Veterans United ended, Lynn struck out on her own and opened her own mindfulness practice from her home, teaching her Eat for Life program online several times a year to students around the world. As president of the Center

for Mindful Eating, a nonprofit dedicated to training professionals and the general public, she is working on adding a component that businesses can use to incorporate mindful eating into the workplace. She also teaches at alleyCat Yoga twice a week.

Lynn says mindfulness has changed how she relates to life, which has become about

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“enjoying every moment, savoring every bite.” It’s a life she wants for others, too.

“Mindfulness has made me more generous, patient, curious, forgiving, creative, and kind,” she says. “Believe me, I still have a lot of work to do, but I don’t have to judge myself for not being perfect.

That has been a very big change.”

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he first thing that people think of when they hear the word “chiropractor” is usually something associated with lower back and neck pain.

Sure, chiropractors are able to assist in those areas, but they can also do so much more.

“Chiropractic care is the big picture of lifestyle health,” says Dr. Arminta Phelps, owner of Achieve Balance Chiropractic. “It is preventative care that can keep a person healthy rather than trying to heal someone who is already sick.”

Chiropractic care assists the body so it’s in the best position to begin its healing process. It centers on the nervous system, taking care of the spine for better brain-body communication so the body is able to heal itself once it’s in the right state to do so.

Arminta looks at chiropractic care as part of a healthy lifestyle. She assesses patients based on a system of toxicities and deficiencies. “Do we have too much of the stuff that we do not need? Or too little of stuff that we do need?” she says. “When we replenish deficiencies and eliminate toxicities,

it’s going to be self-serving and self-healing on its own. So really we look at a system from the inside out instead of looking at it from the outside in.”

And her philosophy extends to patients of all ages.

From Their First Breath

Many chiropractors in the Columbia area see patients from every generation. “My oldest patient right now will be 95 by the end of this month, and my youngest right now is about 2 months old,” says Arminta. “But I’ve got a slew of pregnant women who are just about ready to have their babies, so I’m sure that we’re going to get a few new little ones in soon.”

Arminta has also provided chiropractic care for her own baby.

“One of the things that I requested in my birth plan was that I would have immediate skin-to-skin contact, so after a couple of moments, I actually adjusted my son right away,” Arminta says. “I made sure that his spine was functioning right because those little bones in his neck can misalign.”

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“We are created perfect. We are made just right. And as long as you support that system, that system will be able to heal what it needs to.”

Arminta’s passion for chiropractic care in kids has only increased because she wanted to take care of her son, Jackson. He is now 10 years old and has never had an ear infection or taken an antibiotic. “Twenty-five percent or more of children in the United States are taking one prescription medication a day,” Arminta says. “And that’s alarming because

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that’s not giving trust in the innate healing potential of the system. We are created perfect. We are made just right. And as long as you support that system, that system will be able to heal what it needs to.”

Dr. Amanda Owens, owner of Tiger Family Chiropractic, along with her team, has had additional training in prenatal care.

She says that 91 percent of infants have a strain after delivery. Even a C-section can cause strain on the baby. So, by getting a child to the chiropractor early, or even after birth, they are more likely to be comfortable while sleeping, breastfeeding, and with movement in general.

Chiropractic care can also address digestion concerns, colic, ear infections, and torticollis. There can be some hesitation from parents thinking that chiropractic care could be too intense for a baby; however, Amanda says that babies frequently sleep right through the chiropractic appointments.

If the child is older, there might be some general fussiness from being a toddler, but the treatment is gentle. There are specific chiropractic adjusting tables and pressure

“Healthy mom, healthy womb, healthy baby — that’s how I look at it. If a mother can be comfortable and ready to take care of the baby as soon as she the whole experience everyone involved.”

Pregnant and Poised

The female’s body goes through a lot of changes while creating another human being.

For many pregnant mothers, it can be hard to get comfortable, whether it’s walking, sitting, or sleeping. The good news is that chiropractic care can also help pregnant mothers have an easier, smoother, and more comfortable pregnancy and birthing experience. Dr. Ashley Emel, owner of Compass Chiropractic and Wellness, says that getting chiropractic care while pregnant could even make the delivery process quicker.

Chiropractic care can also help pregnant mothers with indigestion problems such as heartburn and acid reflux as well as problems with their thoracic spine or pelvic area and overall nutrition. Arminta sees mothers as the beginning: where it all starts.

“Healthy mom, healthy womb, healthy baby — that’s how I look at it,” she says. “If a mother can be comfortable and ready to take care of the baby as soon as she delivers him or her, the whole experience will be better for everyone involved.”

One of the most interesting parts of chiropractic care for prenatal patients is with babies in the breech position. “There is something called the Webster technique that is very successful in allowing the baby to return to the natural head-down position,” Amanda says. “The process is gentle and includes aligning the pelvis and soft tissues, which allows the baby to correct their own position rather than being rough on the mom and baby,” she continues. “The technique focuses on bringing back everything into alignment as a way to correct whatever is causing the imbalances.”

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Boone Miller was only two and half months old when he started experiencing seizures.

“We took him to the emergency room and he was admitted into the hospital for four days of evaluation,” says Dr. Jenna Miller, Boone’s mother and a dentist with Willett Dental Associates. “After many tests, they couldn’t see what was causing the seizures, so

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“That’s when someone mentioned chiropractic care as a treatment option,” Jenna says. “I researched and found it had been successful for many people.” Boone was taken off the medication and was referred from Kansas City to Achieve Balance. They were able to see Arminta the same day they called her. The way Arminta approached the case was head-on: “Why don’t we go after the cause of the problem instead of putting a Band-Aid over it?” she says.

To their delight, after multiple adjustments, Boone stopped having seizures. “She would come in after hours and on weekends to see him,” Jenna says.

Now, Boone has been seizure-free for eight months. Jenna and Boone still see Arminta for maintenance, but she changed their lives.

“She has been a lifesaver for my son and our family,” Jenna says.

Emily Purves also saw Arminta for her children and prenatal needs. Emily, unlike many other pregnant women, was able to keep moving throughout her pregnancy. The adjustments took pressure off of her so she could move regularly and exercise. When it came time for labor, Arminta took a house call to adjust Emily so she was able to give birth, and once her son was born, Arminta also adjusted him.

Alaina’s Sharp’s son, Beckett, who was 6 months old at the time, was having problems sleeping through the night. After multiple adjustments, Beckett, now 3 years old, was sleeping soundly. Alaina’s other son, Rowan, who is now 1 year old, also goes to Arminta.

“Once you get into a rhythm, you start to see the potential the patients begin to express.” Arminta says. “You see somebody that has been sick and suffering and hope is lost, and then you start to watch them heal, and you watch them trust their body again, and you see them come in more relaxed.”

Eventually, she says, they start to smile. “You watch families get their lives back. If they didn’t have that, what would it be?”

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Cause Taking a moment to learn about menopause and andropause.

by J O R DA N M I L N E

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rom our birth until our death, our surroundings shift through various seasons,

and our bodies follow suit. Menopause, and her male counterpart, andropause, wait around the corner for each and every middle-aged woman and man.

“Often, when a woman begins to go through the menopausal transition, she will notice many changes in her body and emotions,” says Dr. Laura Grant, owner of the Women’s Wellness Center. “In severe cases, this can be overwhelming.”

Grant explains that it’s not uncommon for a woman to think she is losing her mind because of the relatively rapid onset of mood swings, brain fog, hot flashes, and insomnia.

“This is no small matter for a modern woman,” says Grant. “She may be managing a career, as well as a family, which may also include caring for aging parents by this time of life.”

Kim Stewart, a mentor and student ministry leader at Christian Fellowship Church, was 43 years old when she first noticed the symptoms of menopause, which, she admits, felt “a little too early to start.”

“The first changes I began experiencing were increased hot flashes, migraines, and fatigue,” says Stewart. “By age 46, I had stopped having menstrual cycles and began struggling with anxiety and brain fog.”

When her symptoms seemed to worsen, it became difficult for her to find emotional and physical energy for activities that she had previously looked forward to.

“I began having anxiety traveling and driving long distances — two things I had always enjoyed,” she says. “For quite some time, I told myself, ‘Just press through.’”

Defining the Transition “Menopause is diagnosed after a woman experiences 12 months without a menstrual period with no other obvious causes,” says Ryan Woodman, DO, assistant professor of endocrinology and metabolism at MU School of Medicine.

According to Dr. Woodman, menopause can occur in the 40s or 50s, but the average age of menopause in the United States is 51.

“During menopause, a woman’s ovaries stop producing eggs, which results in low levels of estrogen production and high levels of folliclestimulating hormone (FSH), the main hormone that stimulates production of a woman’s eggs,” says Woodman. “The transition into menopause is known as ‘perimenopause’ and is characterized by irregular menstrual cycles and fluctuating estrogen levels, and it can be associated with many symptoms, such as hot flashes.”

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Grant notes that while the term “menopause” simply refers to a woman’s final menstrual period, most significantly, it marks the point in time that her ovaries no longer produce the sex hormones estrogen and progesterone. The third sex hormone, testosterone, also becomes markedly diminished by this stage of life.

“This ‘hormone plummet’ does not happen all at once but rather over a few years’ time,” she says.

Dr. Grant goes on to explain that if a woman has functioning ovaries removed surgically, at any age, she will experience immediate loss of the ovarian sex hormones and is prone to having all of the symptoms and health consequences of natural menopause.

Menopausal Symptoms The symptoms related to menopause (or, more specifically, symptoms related to diminished sex hormones) may range from non-existent to severe and commonly include the following: hot flashes, night sweats, insomnia, brain fog, mood instability (crying or irritability), reduced sex drive, and vaginal dryness causing pain with intimacy. It is also not unusual to have bladder dysfunction — the leaking of urine related to hormonal depletion.

“Aside from the uncomfortable symptoms, there are also long-term health consequences of hormonal loss,” says Grant. “And since a woman is expected to live a few decades after menopause, this is concerning.”

Grant reports that whether or not a woman has any of these symptoms, studies have shown that estrogen depletion, in particular, contributes to risk of heart disease, osteoporosis, dementia, and metabolic changes that can lead to diabetes.

Woodman adds that fluctuations in estrogen can cause weight gain, thinning hair, and dry skin.

However, “As a woman’s hormone levels start to stabilize, many symptoms will decrease,” observes Woodman. “And in some cases, completely resolve.”

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Andropause and Its Symptoms Andropause, male menopause, or the more tongue-in-check term “manopause,” refer to the gradual decline of testosterone in men as they age.

“Testosterone levels in men generally peak by age 30 and slowly decline every year thereafter,” says Woodman. “This contrasts with women undergoing menopause, whose estrogen levels plummet over a much shorter period of time.”

“Menopause is no small matter for a modern woman. She may be managing a career, as well as a family, which may also include caring for aging parents by this time of life.”

—Dr. Laura Grant Grant notes that “by age 50ish” a man’s testosterone production will be about half the amount he produced at his peak.

Woodman emphasizes that it is important to rule out other causes for low testosterone in men before contributing these changes to age. Conditions associated with low testosterone may also include

testicular injury or infection, radiation, chemotherapy, medications (e.g., opiates), kidney disease, Type 2 diabetes, HIV/AIDS, or genetic conditions.

“The symptoms of andropause are often referred to as ‘low testosterone syndrome,’” says Woodman. “The most recognizable symptoms of low testosterone include changes in sexual function, decreased libido, erectile dysfunction, hot flashes, infertility, sleep disturbances, decreased muscle mass and increased body fat, mood changes, breast enlargement, decreased body hair, and osteoporosis.”

Modalities, Medications, and Treatment Options Woodman relays that menopause and andropause, generally speaking, require no medical treatments. Instead, treatment is usually focused on relieving the associated symptoms and focusing on preventing or managing chronic conditions.

“The most important thing that can be done to ease the symptoms of menopause and andropause is to maintain a healthy lifestyle,” says Dr. Woodman. “In general, we recommend healthy lifestyle choices, including smoking cessation, diet and weight management, quality sleep, stress management, a yearly mammogram, and exercise. Also, both aerobic exercise for cardiovascular health and weight training exercise to help with bone health.”

For Stewart, it was a combination of various lifestyle changes and hormone therapy that proved to be her saving grace. “Nutrition and exercise have helped tremendously,” she says.

“It became apparent that I couldn’t just press through and experience a healthy quality of life for myself and my family,” says Stewart. “I made changes to my diet, began attending strength conditioning classes, and sought the help of a physician to explore my options medically.”

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For women with significant daily symptoms, Woodman lists potential common treatments such as hormone replacement therapy, vaginal estrogen, low dose antidepressants, and, in some cases, behavioral therapy.

Grant explains that in an effort to avoid hormone treatment, several different prescription medications (such as antidepressants, other psychoactive medications, or drugs to reduce the bone loss that leads to osteoporosis) may be prescribed for various symptoms.

“These types of medications may or may not be effective in alleviating all the symptoms and health concerns related to hormone loss,” says Grant. “And they are often associated with side effects or risks. The body will recognize the sex hormones and will respond accordingly, whereas

the other drugs are simply a way to chemically combat the problem, as if treating a disease.”

Grant emphasizes that menopause is not a disease, but rather a natural phase of life that can often be characterized by diminished well-being due to deterioration of bodily systems that were previously supported by a full complement of sex hormones.

According to Grant, if a woman has significant symptoms of hormone deficiency, nothing can take the place of hormones to alleviate her discomforts.

“Herbal remedies may dampen symptoms for a while in isolated cases,” she says.

“However, studies have shown they are not good long-term solutions for most symptomatic women.”

According to Woodman, some of the complementary and alternative medicines known to help manage the symptoms of menopause include plant estrogens, black cohosh and other botanical supplements, yoga, acupuncture, relaxation therapies, and hypnotherapy. He says that these treatments “do not have strong scientific evidence to support their use, but they are currently being studied.”

Grant explains that many of the tissues in a woman’s body contain receptors for hormones, including the particularly studied and notable hormone estrogen. When hormone receptors are empty because of diminished hormone levels and a woman is having symptoms, Grant believes the most effective solution is to replenish her body with hormones, which she believes is the most natural solution of all.

“Ideally, hormone therapy should be identical to the hormone molecules made by the human body, and these are available in a number of different formulations,” says Grant.

“Estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone can be administered easily to control symptoms and reduce risk of adverse health consequences related to hormone deficiency.”

However, not every woman will need any of these three sex hormones, and Grant advises that the hormone treatment should be individualized with attention to each woman’s symptoms and health history.

“For men with symptoms of hypoandrogenism (andropause), testosterone replenishment is the answer,” says Grant.

“This can be administered as a gel,

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Explore all your options for caring for your mind, body, and spirit, and do what is best for you.”

—Kim Stewart intramuscular injection, skin patch, or as pellets implanted beneath the skin.”

Dr. Woodman agrees that once the diagnosis of low-testosterone is confirmed with symptoms, then the mainstay of treatment is testosterone replacement therapy. He notes the aforementioned methods listed by Dr. Grant, adding that “The best option is based on patient preference, tolerance, and cost.”

Resources and Reaching Out “There are many resources to help with education and counseling on these life changes,” says Woodman. “Most importantly, share your experience with others to help them understand what you’re going through.”

Stewart advises that reaching out to others is key and that women should not be ashamed of this season in their lives.

“I’ve had so many conversations with women who are on the other side of menopause and who have shared that they silently walked through menopause alone,” she says. “As women, we need the support of one another. Explore all your options for caring for your mind, body, and spirit, and do what is best for you.”

However, as Grant warns, there are many sources of misinformation in the media, on the web, and in the average person’s social and familial circles. Not every primary care physician may be well-informed or interested in discussing the complexities of hormone therapy.

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“If a person believes they are beginning to have symptoms of menopause or andropause, they should seek out a physician who is knowledgeable about hormone replenishment,” says Grant. “Those practitioners who are up-to-date and interested in hormone health are able and willing to spend the time it takes to explain what is happening within the person’s body and to provide full education about safe choices for hormonal replenishment.”

Regarding women in particular, Dr. Grant says that “often, the last person a woman looks out for is herself.” She encourages midlife women (and men) to pay close attention to their bodies’ signaling and to seek professional help as soon as symptoms arise.

If you are wishing to support someone going through menopause or andropause, Stewart recommends reading up on the effects of the condition to start gaining a better understanding.

“Often the woman or man experiencing this feels very out of control with her or his own body,” she says. “A loved one who is well-informed can be more empathetic and supportive. Show compassion and don’t judge. Be a safe place of support for your loved one in whatever path they have chosen.”

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t seems like yesterday that I found myself in the dining area of the Ozark Riverview Manor, an assisted living community overlooking the Finley River. It was a long-awaited day. The room was festive and lively. People were laughing, chatting, and enjoying their cake and punch. The friends and family ranged in age from toddlers to teenagers to elderly residents.

Everyone was there to celebrate. In fact, more than 100 people had assembled for the occasion. My grandfather, Richard Taylor Gardner Sr., otherwise known as Pawpy Dick, was turning 100.

“He made some extraordinary decisions as he aged. He stayed actively engaged with people.”

I looked around astonished. The impact of my grandfather’s life was poignant. Our biological family was small. His childhood friends were long gone. Yet he had filled a room with people he knew personally. People who picked him up for church, listened to his stories, laughed at his jokes, read to him when he lost his vision, and appreciated his quirky t-shirts.

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On that November day in 2010, I saw my high school biology teacher across the room and waved. I wondered how she met Pawpy. I met the 18-year-old Eagle Scout who befriended my grandfather at his new church. I heard stories from my dad’s friends, who stayed in touch through the years. And the list went on … a story matched with each name on his guest list.

He was never too old to make new friends.

Even today, as I near the half-century mark, his actions inspire me. They encourage me to get to know others, especially those younger than me. They remind me to take initiative to stay in touch with friends. To go out of my way to meet new people and extend hospitality. To be intentional about building relationships and staying connected. To live with my end in mind.

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LIFE COACHING

OVERCOMING OVERWHELM A re yo u li s t e n i n g t o your b ody?

by C H A R I T Y G O O DW I N, PA S T O R A N D C OAC H , M I S S O U R I U N I T E D M E T H O D I S T C H U R C H

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y wake-up call rang while lying on my red microfiber couch.

I thought I was having a heart attack. After EMTs poked and prodded, one of them asked, “ma’am are you under any stress?”

A mom of two small boys, one with special needs, serving two churches, and working through a strained marriage? Of course I was stressed.

For me, overwhelm is serving or living from an empty cup. It’s being available for everyone but yourself. I know when it’s happening because my body begins to break down. Brené Brown, a wellness researcher at the University of Houston, says our bodies get the first crack at our emotions, and I certainly feel that.

Even when overwhelm presents as a body issue, too often I’ve repressed or ignored my emotions in favor of adding another appointment or project to my planner or the latest organize-my-life-and-work app.

Like many of us, I suffer the consequences of overachieving and extreme productivity.

You see, that day, I did have a heart attack — an emotional heart attack. My buried feelings unearthed in the form of spasms and pulsating pain.

Since then, emotional health is the touchstone by which I measure my OK-ness.

Here are three keys to practice for overcoming overwhelm:

WRITE PERMISSION SLIPS Give yourself permission to do or not do, say or not say. Place the slip somewhere you can access it, like your laptop, the console in the car, or your pocket. When I’m on my A-game, before bed I look at the day ahead and write permission slips I need. You can write these anytime in the day — before a meeting or a hard conversation, for example.

NAME EMOTIONS We can experience multiple emotions at the same time. I used to cancel emotions with logical deductions. If I felt happy and then sad, I must be sad. But emotions — all emotions — can be experienced at the same time. Take a moment to ask yourself, “What feelings am I experiencing right now?”

TALK TO YOURSELF LIKE SOMEONE YOU LOVE Overwhelm still gets the best me, especially during certain seasons. I’m cultivating the practice of self-compassion by talking to myself like someone I love. Instead of critical and berating self-talk, I try to talk to myself with the same love I express with my boys or my best friends.

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That day on the couch was seven years ago.

Today, I’m doing better honoring my emotions and working through them, and it’s not easy.

Because heart matters are hard matters, it takes courage to address what’s really going on inside. Here’s to our heart health!

Reflect for a moment and rate on a scale of 1 to 5 (low to high) how true each statement is for you: • I listen to my body when it’s tired.

• I take naps, enjoy lazy days, and sleep in sometimes.

• I practice daily moments of silence, prayer, or meditation.

• I use all of my vacation time.

• I have one or more days off a week.

Don’t judge your answers.

Now, in light of your reflection, consider one of the three keys to practice.

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MAN’S BEST FRIEND How Officer Jamie Dowler and Gorrit have become more than partners in stopping crime.

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Hand-picked from Europe, Gorrit was moved to Shallow Creek Kennels in Pennsylvania, where he received several weeks of pre-training to become a police dog. The head K-9 trainer for the Columbia Police Department, Sergeant Scott Hedrick, had the task of matching Officer Dowler to a dog.

Knowing Officer Dowler’s specific personality traits and observing the personality of other dogs in the kennel, Sergeant Hedrick matched him with Gorrit.

After the match was made, Officer Dowler and Gorrit went through an eight- to 10-

week handler training where Officer Dowler learned how to make commands, Gorrit learned who was boss, and a strong bond was formed.

In June of 2015, Gorrit completed the extensive training and got ready for field duties. He’s now able to detect narcotics, performing area, article, and body searches, and he can track and apprehend suspects. In October of 2017, a nonprofit organization, Vested Interest in K9s, donated bullet and stab protection vests for the K-9 dogs of the Columbia Police Department. Because of the charitable donation, the only thing Gorrit has to worry about is minor hip or knee issues from jumping in and out of the police car, which is why police dogs are able to retire at about 9 years of age to obtain a better quality of life.

Just like people with jobs, the police dogs of the Columbia Police Department go home after work and relax with their

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I want him to decompress just like I do.

When we’re not working, I make sure we don’t do anything work related,” he says.

“We go home, we relax, we play ball and run around.”

When it comes time for Gorrit to retire from the K-9 Unit, Officer Dowler will have the choice of whether or not he wants to take in Gorrit as a family dog. “I haven’t met someone that wouldn’t take their own dog,” he says. “I’m with him more than my own family. We have a pretty unique bond; he’s my partner.”

The K-9 Unit at the Columbia Police Department is currently four strong with dogs Kane, Raf, Duncan, and Gorrit.

They are seen as invaluable assets to the department. To Officer Dowler, not only is Gorrit a partner when stopping crime, but he’s also a partner in his life.

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CURATING COLUMBIA’S GALLERIES Local galleries choose artwork that embodies their particular aesthetic.

by M E L I S S A W I L L I A M S , M E L I S SA W I L L I AMS FIN E ART

From left: Jonny Pez, Amy Meyer, Rachel Trout, and Joel Sager

The staff at Sager Braudis at work choosing art for the December Masters Exhibit.

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luestem is a quintessential gallery: white walls, meticulous and creative displays, and a subtle scent of something fresh and herbal. The Bluestem partners have filled the gallery with selected works by over 300 artists, but the overall feeling is spacious, serene, and light. How do they do it? Paula McFarling, a new partner in the gallery answers, “We’re here at all hours doing the behind-the-scenes work.”

To curate their gallery, the partners at Bluestem attend craft fairs and visit studios.

They also look through digital photo files that they receive and—if they think the work may be right for Bluestem—they request samples to examine in person. Every object they choose has to meet high standards of workmanship and creativity and two of the three partners must agree on any choice they make.

But when a customer like myself walks into Bluestem, there is such a relaxed atmosphere that it is easy to be misled about the hard work, focus, discrimination, and discipline that goes on behind the scenes.

At the Sager Braudis Gallery, Joel Sager laughingly told me, “There are five of us working incessantly to make our gallery appear effortless.”

The work scheduled at the Sager Braudis Gallery is especially complex right now because the staff is already in the process of carefully choosing each piece for the next Masters Exhibit in December. The Masters Exhibit has such a great following that Director Hannah Reeves feels both excitement and pressure. “We have looked in person at over 2,000 original works so far, trying to find the right paintings that will both embody the spirit of midcentury art and speak to our customers and our community.”

The staff at Sager Braudis and the staff at Bluestem have an unusually good justification for trusting their art choices, since every staff member at both galleries is a practicing artist.

Curating for my own gallery is different because the art I sell is not contemporary and because I have the instincts of a collector, not an artist. If a painting is hanging in my gallery it is because I find the work irresistibly intriguing. It needs to have a beautiful ‘surface’ with accomplished brushwork and unusual color relationships. The technique needs to be confident and the whole approach inventive and complex. In addition, I want the artist’s biography to include numerous one man shows, museum acquisitions, juried shows, and prizes.

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OCTOBER 5 That Promised Land: The Journey of the African American Spiritual Second Missionary Baptist Church, 7:30 p.m.

OCTOBER 6-7 Crush Festival Les Bourgeois Vineyards, 2 to 6 p.m.

Saturday, 12 to 4 p.m. Sunday

OCTOBER 11 Humanity Quartet Stotler Lounge, Memorial Union, 7 p.m.

OCTOBER 11-13 Songs for a New World Studio 4, McKee Gym, 7:30 p.m.

Tickets $16 OCTOBER 12 Oktoberfest: Odyssey Chamber Music Series, First Baptist Church, 7 p.m.

OCTOBER 12-14 , 18-21 & 25-28 Sweeney Todd Talking Horse Productions 7:30 p.m. Thursday, Friday, and Saturday 2 p.m. Sunday

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NOVEMBER 1-4 Citizen Jane Film Festival Stephen’s Campus NOVEMBER 8 Boone County Historical Society Hall of Fame Gala, University Club 5 to 10 p.m.

OCTOBER 7 Columbia Civic Orchestra Fall Concert Missouri Theatre, 7:30 p.m.

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OCTOBER 24-25 Katy Trail Fall Colors Tram Tours Katy Trail in Rocheport, 10 a.m.

Suggested donation of $5 adults and $3 for children

OCTOBER 13 Bear Creek Run Half Marathon Bear Creek Trail 8 a.m., $55 advance registration

NOVEMBER 11 Katie Thiroux Trio Murry’s, 3:30 p.m. and 7 p.m.

NOVEMBER 16-18 Columbia Holiday Festival Holiday Inn Executive Center 6 to 9 p.m. Friday, 8 a.m. to 5 p.m.

Saturday, 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. Sunday Tickets $50 Friday or $5 Saturday and Sunday NOVEMBER 17-18 Fall into Art Parkade Center, 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Saturday.

11 a.m. to 4 p.m. Sunday fallintoart.org NOVEMBER 22 Turkey Trax 5k 700 East Broadway,8:30 a.m.

Registration online, ultramaxsports.com NOVEMBER 26 Mannheim Steamroller Christmas by Chip Davis, Jesse Auditorium, 7 p.m.

OCTOBER 18-21 MO Autumn Carnival and Balloon Festival Cartwright Business and Technology Park mohotair.com, Parking $10

NOVEMBER 29 Ashley McBryde: The Girl Going Nowhere Tour, The Blue Note 8:30 p.m., Tickets $15

OCTOBER 20 Meet the Author: Angela Mitchell Boone County History and Culture Center, 10:30 a.m.

NOVEMBER 30 Choreographic Installation School of Missouri Contemporary Ballet 6 p.m, Tickets $10

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WHAT IS YOUR BACKGROUND? I’m a graduate of the MU School of Nursing.

I’ve worked as a pediatric nurse at Children’s Hospital in St. Louis, a med surgery and surgical ICU nurse at MU Health, an ICU nurse in California, and an ICU nurse at Boone Hospital. After I left Boone, I was the office manager for my husband’s orthopedic practice. I officially retired from nursing in 2006 and currently serve on the Boone Hospital Board of Trustees.

WHAT IS THE MOST REWARDING PART OF YOUR JOB? I love working with my fellow trustees to help shape the future of healthcare in our community. It is an awesome responsibility and opportunity that most don’t ever have, and I take it very seriously.

WHAT IS SOMETHING SURPRISING ABOUT YOU? I flunked microbiology in college and had to repeat it before I could continue on to my other nursing courses. Th is put me back a semester in school, and it was during my last semester of college that I met Wilson Beckett, a second year medical student, who would become my husband for the last 47 years.

WHAT DO YOU DO FOR FUN? I love to travel. Whether it is to see my daughter and family in Chicago, a riverboat cruise in Europe, or a family vacation in Florida, I love going to other places, learning about their history, experiencing their cuisine, and meeting their people.

WHAT PROJECT ARE YOU CURRENTLY WORKING ON? The biggest project for the trustees is helping to determine the future of Boone Hospital.

The hospital will be 100 years old in 2021, and what we decide will affect the citizens of Boone County for many years to come.

WHAT IS SOME ADVICE YOU’D GIVE A YOUNGER YOU? Don’t sweat the small stuff. I look back and think that I sometimes worried needlessly about little things that eventually worked themselves out without any interference from me.

WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST INSPIRATION? Over the years, I think my biggest inspirations have been my patients. When I was working with them, I was reminded on a daily basis that people have the capacity to overcome most obstacles in life with the support of those around them, that we all need help sometimes, and that when we work as a team, almost anything is possible.

COFFEE OR TEA? WINE OR BEER? Coffee and wine, not necessarily in that order!

WHAT IS YOUR PASSION? My passion is helping others. Since my retirement, volunteering has become a way for me to help others.

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE COLOR? My favorite color is blue, but I don’t consider myself to be a blue person. I like to think that my personality is more yellow, sunshiny, and pleasant!

WHAT IS ONE MOMENT IN YOUR LIFE THAT DEFINED YOU? When I became a mother, it was life changing. I often say that raising my two children was the most important job of my life. On a professional note, early in my nursing career, it may have been when I had a doctor sit me down after a particularly difficult night and tell me that sometimes, despite all our best efforts and care, some patients die, but we must continue to do our very best for every patient every day.

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COUPLE YOU SHOULD KNOW Elton and Nancy Fay value their independence and their togetherness.

HOW DID YOU MEET ?

Elton: A mutual friend, Pat Basset, arranged our first date, so I met Nancy when I knocked on her door and introduced myself.

Nancy: Our first date was dinner at Los Bandidos. We’ve been together almost 33 years.

WHAT IS UNIQUE ABOUT YOUR REL ATIONSHIP? E: Both of us were well established in our chosen professions before we met. She married me and my 5- and 8-year-old children, so she had a major adjustment from a single lifestyle to a rather hectic home and activity schedule immediately after our wedding day. It’s amazing she survived!

N: I was quite independent when we got married, and Elton has given me the space I need. I have continued to have my own checking account — and it works!

WHAT IS THE KE Y TO A L ASTING AND HE ALTHY REL ATIONSHIP? E: Sharing life with an unselfish person who loves her creator as much as I do and who loves to serve others. I’m fortunate to have found that person in my bride.

N: Participating in some activities together, like teaching Sunday School, while each having our own interests that we pursue individually.

WHAT IS THE ONE THING PEOPLE DON’T KNOW ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE? E: She went to a one-room schoolhouse from first to eighth grade. She was both the top of her class and the bottom of her class for many of those years.

N: He has been involved with Missouri Boys State for 53 years.

WHAT BROUGHT YOU BOTH TO COLUMBIA? E: Nancy grew up in New Melle, Missouri, and graduated from MU. She began work

as a laboratory scientist at the VA hospital before joining Boyce and Bynum Labs, where she worked until her retirement. After graduation from William Jewell College, I attended the MU School of Law and remained in Columbia, joining Philip A. Grimes to establish Grimes and Fay, now Grimes, Fay and Kopp LLC. WHAT MAKES YOU MOST PROUD OF YOUR PARTNER? E: She loves MU sports and looks forward to attending sporting events. For that, I’m really fortunate.

N: He loves to be around kids; it keeps him young!

WHAT DOES THE FUTURE HOLD FOR THE T WO OF YOU? E: We hope to complete our goal of attending away football games at all the SEC schools. We’re five short at this time: Florida, Alabama, Auburn, Mississippi State, and Ole Miss. We plan to get Alabama checked off this fall. We both look forward to seeing our grandson in heaven.

N: Travel! We are getting old, so we must do it soon!

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WHAT’ S YOUR FAVORITE PL ACE YOU’ VE BEEN TOGETHER? E: I’d call it a tie between Alaska, Hawaii, the Rhine River cruise, and a trip hosted by the family of one of our Rotary exchange students in southern France.

N: The Rhine River cruise and the bike trip through Germany, Austria, and Switzerland.

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE RESTAUR ANT IN COLUMBIA? E: A tie between the original G&D Steakhouse and Tony’s Pizza.

N: Flat Branch Pub on the patio.

TELL US ABOUT YOUR FAMILY ?

E: Our son, Garett, and his wife, Jenny, live in Las Vegas. Our daughter Erin and granddaughter, Chloe, live in Portland. Our daughter Whitney does civil litigation in Kansas City. We have two dogs and two cats.

WHAT ARE THE BEST ASPEC TS ABOUT YOUR PARTNER? E: She is a beautiful person inside and out. If something needs done, ask Nancy. I’m blessed to be able to share our life journey together.

N: He is a thoughtful person and always looking for ways to help others.

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