Como Living Magazine June July 2018

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Meet the Test Driver “I need a certain level of spunk in my car to match the spunk in my spirit.”

PARKABILITY: During the course of doing my job as President of The Business Times Company, I spend a significant amount of time downtown. I can parallel park Dani in just about any space on the first try. Being a size that enables me to still do this is a must.

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I LOVE MY CAR. I mean…I REALLY love my car. I drive a 2012 Volkswagen Passat V6 SLE. This year I turned 40 and Dani turned 176,000 miles. I have decided that it’s time for me to consider getting a new car. This decision comes with a fair amount of angst for me as I decide what to do. I mean, how does one replace the perfect car? As a professional problem solver, I decided to create a rubric to measure my new car choices against to see how they fit me. Here’s what I came up with.

VOLKSWAGEN: This is an easy one. It has to be one. I’m a diehard, loyal fan. My car has been mechanically sound for all of her 176,000 miles.

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GAS MILEAGE: Lastly, I drive from Boonville to Columbia every day for work. This means that I need my gas mileage to be efficient. I don’t want to sacrifice financial efficiency for sportiness.

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2019 VW Jetta SEL Premium My first thought when I saw this car was “This is a small car.” The Atlas was a mid-size SUV and this Jetta is a compact sedan. (Is this starting to sound like The Three Bears?) But, it was super sleek! Black paint with black leather interior and some super fancy black rims. I kept the car two days to put it through the pace of my everyday life. Here is how it scored on my test: VOLKSWAGEN: Check.

PARKABILITY: I certainly thought parking this baby would be a breeze. And, it was! I loved having the backup cam in this smaller car.

However, I’ll have to get used to the smaller size. I still left it too far from

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the curb on my first try after being used to my longer Passat. I’m quite sure it will be easy to improve on this.

I give it a 5/5 on parkability. No need to penalize the car for user error.

SASS: This Jetta has sass in spades!

In fact, my teenagers were all about it! They even called their friends over to come look at it. My 17-yearold was quite sure he could talk me in to buying it for him. (No, my love, mamma comes first!) It has the keyless system I liked. The leather was luxurious. I was impressed to see that this size of car had the media panel and navigation system that the larger SUV had. In fact, it was even more seamless with my technology than the Atlas was. This car also had

the adaptive cruise control and blind spot monitor which can be super helpful as I spend so much time on I-70. It’s not as peppy as my Passat and I think the black rims worked more for my teen boys than me.

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GAS MILEAGE: Great gas mileage in this little guy. Factory information states that it gets 34 mpg. I got really close to this myself. I give it a 5/5 for fuel efficiency.

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LE T TER from THE PU B LISHER

WANDER WHERE THE WI-FI IS WEAK …

Summer finally arrived … dropped on us like a bomb, pollen and all. But, if you’re like me, you’ll take it any way you can get it. And given the fact that we are firmly planted in the middle of the country with nary a mountain or ocean to be had, outdoor living in Columbia is still pretty great this time of year.

We are all anxious to embrace something outdoorsy right about now, whether it’s simply eating al fresco, heading for the lake, or hitting the trails. I’ll confess that one of my favorite mindless outdoor activities is pulling weeds in my front yard. Weird, I know, but if you saw my yard, you’d see why I find it so rewarding … it’s nearly all weeds. And while it’s a task I’ll never successfully complete, there’s something very cathartic about this activity.

This issue offers up a variety of fun and interesting topics pertaining to Columbia’s great outdoors – gardening, outdoor entertaining, even some gun-toting bad a— gals.

There’s something for everyone in this one. And I have to say, if I had the fabulous nails we’re showing off, I’d not be pulling my weeds without garden gloves!

So, whatever it is that gets you outdoors this summer, I hope it provides you with the same sense of zen-ness that my weedy little yard does for me. Sitting on your deck reading this issue is a great place to start, if you ask me. (And you can easily take it up a notch by adding a perfectly chilled vodka tonic or white sangria!)

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LE T TE R from TH E E D I T O R

WILD AND FREE Several years ago, I found myself at Silver Dollar City staring at the entrance to WildFire. Was I going to take a risk or play it safe? My dilemma was embodied in two good friends.

We talked about our roller coaster experiences. I mastered the Zambezi Zinger at Worlds of Fun as a child. I endured the rickety wooden coaster at Belmont Park in San Diego. My body pumped adrenaline after the jolting start on PowderKeg. All things But I drew a boundary at going upside down.

My friend’s voices mirrored the dialogue that ensued good are wild in my head. One insisted I let loose and give it a try. The and free. other assured me the potential nausea wasn’t worth it.

So, I chickened out. I stood on the sidelines watching as the two of them twisted and turned, upside down and right-side up, laughing and screaming, wild and free.

The next summer, I found myself in the same situation, only this time I chose the front row and strapped in. Fear was not going to define me again.

Our Outdoor Issue is dedicated to that spirit — to courage, to joy, to play, and to stretching ourselves. You’ll find it represented in our book recommendations, Charity Goodwin’s Transformation, our female hunters, and even our nail art.

Get outside to enjoy the season, experience adventure, and discover new things about yourself!

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ABOUT THE BOARD

DAY TRIPPIN’

Fun places to explore this summer.

COMO Living’s Advisory Board members share their favorite experiences within driving distance.

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CAROLYN PARIS Carolyn Paris Consulting

My favorite day trips are when my husband and I take a date day and drive to St. Louis. We start by dropping the girls at their grandparents’ house in Lake St. Louis, and then we head down to Central West End and sit outside at Brennan’s, one of our favorite places for a drink. We people watch and enjoy the weather. We then head to Forest Park, which holds special memories of our dating days. After that, we head back west on Highway 40 and make one more stop at BrickTop’s restaurant in Frontenac. The deviled egg appetizer and ribs are delicious, and so are the French martinis!

I feel the most enlivened and inspired when I’m outdoors, so it’s no surprise my favorite day trip is to the countryside. My buddy Sue and I pack up my SUV and head to a farm. This is no ordinary farm, though; The rolling hills are covered with native wildflowers and the views of the river are magnificent. Once, we came upon an eagle resting in a tree and she soared off above our heads. Each time we spot something like this, Sue and I glance at each other with a look of glee and gratitude. Our ritual is to hike along the cliffs towards a Native American burial mound.

Most of the time there are no words; we’re just being present and free in the wonder of nature. Every once in a while, Sue will identify an animal track, and I’m always impressed.

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My favorite day trips have been renting a bus and visiting a few wineries in California. It is a lot of fun to load up with friends and family and enjoy some good food and wine without the hassle of driving. Missouri has a lot of great wineries as well. I can only imagine how beautiful it would be to catch the winery in Holts Summit or Jefferson City and then hit some in Hermann this fall as the trees are turning. What a way to sit back relax and enjoy life!

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My family loves taking day trips to just about anywhere, but our favorite thing to do is to head back to Rolla, my hometown. The drive itself is beautiful, with rolling hills and the trees in various stages of bloom. We know we’re getting close when we can see the fire tower. The trip is usually timed to hit Maid-Rite for lunch. Their loose meat burgers are legend — it’s the reason many alumni of Rolla High return periodically. We cruise past the replica of Stonehenge and head out of town, where the real treat is waiting for us: Lane Spring Recreation Area, which is part of the Mark Twain National Forest. We can spend the entire day exploring the Little Piney, swimming if it’s not cold, collecting neat rocks, and catching crayfish. And of course, no trip is complete without a stop at A Slice of Pie on the way out of town.

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To celebrate my 35th birthday, my friends and I took a trip around the world — Missouri style. Missouri is home to towns with the same names as countries and famous cities from around the world: Mexico, Paris, Amsterdam, Sweden, Hermann, etc. (I know the last one doesn’t share a name, but it does share the vibe of a German town.) Each town is full of some great antique shops, cafés, and charming little stores. While we didn’t fly anywhere, we did cover a lot of miles, and this day trip was full of adventures and memories. Maybe for my 40th, we’ll will hit up the real places.

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SIZZLIN’ BOOKS OF SUMMER Waste away an afternoon with these titles of mystery, romance, and intrigue.

1. Setting Free the Kites

6. Nadia Knows Best

Alex George

Jill Mansell

The founder of the Unbound Book Festival brings us this narrative on the friendship between two teenagers and the harsh realities of growing up.

British author Jill Mansell delights in light-hearted, romantic stories perfect for reading poolside, earning her Editor Beth Bramstedt’s seal of approval.

2. Arrowood

7. Shadow of the Wind

Laura McHugh

Carlos Ruiz Zafon

Local award-winning thriller writer Laura McHugh takes us to a historical house on the Mississippi River, where a chilling mystery unfolds.

Translated from Spanish, this scary, tragic, and thrilling novel set in Barcelona in 1945 captured Publisher Deb Valvo’s heart and remains her favorite.

3. Paper Towns John Green The author of “The Fault in Our Stars” pens this coming-of-age story of friendship and love. As the book is set in her hometown of Orlando, our department editor, Madison Love, gives it two thumbs up.

4. In the Unlikely Event

8. The Bad Break Jill Orr Obit writer Riley Ellison is up to more mischief in this humorous sequel to local author (and COMO Living Advisory Board member) Jill Orr’s first novel, “The Good Byline.”

9. Paris for One

Judy Blume

Jojo Moyes

A beloved author from our childhoods takes us to the 1950s in Elizabeth, New Jersey, where three generations of lives profoundly change one winter.

Nell is 26 and has never been to Paris. The author of “Me Before You” takes Nell to the romantic city for the most adventurous weekend of her life.

5. Camino Island

10. A Bend in the Road

John Grisham

Nicholas Sparks

Known for his courtroom capers, John Grisham delivers in this story of a young novelist with writer’s block and a circle of literary friends dabbling in unsavory ventures.

It wouldn’t be summer without a romance from Nicholas Sparks.

This tale of Miles Ryan’s life after the death of his wife will tug at your heartstrings.

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T R A N S F O R M AT I O N S

FROM HUMAN DOING TO HUMAN BEING

Charity Goodwin overcomes perfectionism to embrace love for herself and others.

by B E T H B R A M S T E D T | ph o to s by K E I T H B O R G M E Y E R

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or as long as she can remember, Charity Goodwin, pastor of discipleship at Missouri United Methodist Church and mother of two boys, focused on achieving.

Naturally industrious and competent, she loved to produce and she loved to win. She was self-assured and ambitious and could make things happen. Yet her overidentification with success came with a determination to project an inauthentic persona, one that was masking a sense of her own unworthiness.

Whether she was excelling in her school for the gifted, fluently speaking Spanish by fifth grade, or being awarded scholarships for

her essays, Charity saw herself as a doer. She believed her projects and roles totaled the sum of who she was.

“I had gained my worth in the things I did,” Charity shares. “When I excelled, I felt like I was worthy and loveable and all of that. When those things didn’t happen, or I didn’t achieve in a certain way, like not getting an A, or a scholarship, or the grant, then it reflected like something was wrong with me.”

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perfectionism,” Charity says. “Excellence is more of a striving, where perfectionism is about proving and wanting to be seen, so you overdo and over compensate.”

THE ROOTS OF PERFECTIONISM Charity and her twin siblings, who are three years younger, were raised by their single mother in St. Louis. “I was part of the desegregation program. That was a big deal,” Charity says. Her ambition insisted she attend Kirkwood High School for their award-winning journalism program. Her siblings attended elsewhere. “With three kids in different county

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schools, we had to maximize time, energy, and resources. My mom was always clear that we had to work hard, and we had to organize our lives to survive.”

Charity also knew that attending college required getting scholarships. Without internet, that meant going to the St. Louis public library to do research. Her scholarships would get Charity a ticket to the Missouri School of Journalism, something that still makes her proud.

She was driven by her natural personality and the values of her mother, but Charity also found herself striving to compensate for being a double minority. “It created another layer that fueled my perfectionism,” she says. “I felt like I had to outperform others.”

All the things Charity learned from her childhood became foundational tools until, eventually, they became all she knew. “Then it didn’t work,” Charity says. “Others would call these things achievement or productivity, but it wasn’t fully who I was. It was a fake, or a ‘hustle,’ as Brené Brown says.”

A CATALYST FOR CHANGE After finishing journalism school, Charity received her Master of Divinity degree from the St. Paul School of Theology in 2005, got married, started her ministry, gave birth to her son, Gabriel, in 2011, followed by Levi in 2013, and then she found her way back to Columbia in 2015 as a single mom.

Charity’s journey towards wholeness first began as she was exploring the beliefs of the United Methodist church in seminary. Through a mentor, she gained a new understanding of grace. “People would talk about grace being free, or undeserved, but there was something different about learning that grace was not contingent on me,” Charity shares. “It was liberating. It set me free to know that God loves me without expectation or judgement.”

With the seeds of this new understanding planted, the catalyst for significant change came during pregnancy. As she contemplated being a mother, Charity couldn’t help but notice the issues from her upbringing that were making their way into this new area of her life. Her faulty thinking needed an adjustment.

“Having a child changed everything,” Charity says. “He was the incarnation of grace.”

The path to loving herself was illuminated further when she learned that Gabriel was on the autism spectrum. “You can imagine how having a child with special needs changes some things,” Charity says. “You see that this kid needs additional support and help, but that doesn’t make him ‘less than.’”

Charity believes there was something in having Gabriel, and finding Brené Brown’s work, that helped her see she was actually playing small. While appearing confident, she was limiting herself. “I believed that if people saw what I was capable of, then I’d just start having more criticism,” she says.

Charity says her road to recovery has been a self-reflective, contemplative journey. From therapy to group work to journaling, all these things helped her go inward quickly and deeply.

“I often say that I’ve been saved from being judgmental,” says Charity. “I want to see myself and love myself as I am — with my scars.

They’re still part of me. They are constantly being redeemed and making me who I am.”

A BRIGHT FUTURE This fall, Charity will have the chance to put her new freedom to the test when she launches an innovative worship service within her church.

“I’m excited,” she says. “I’m going to turn church on its head.”

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Charity has come to realize that her motives and emotions matter. She wants to create and produce from a space of intentionality and contemplation — love and joy rather than competition and overachievement.

She hopes this authenticity will be evident at the core of her new work. “I want people to experience it and be comfortable growing into that space with me,” she shares. “I’m approaching it from the standpoint of everyone having a story to share and purposes for their lives.”

How will this venture be different? “It doesn’t have to be perfect,” Charity says. “We can experiment and have fun and there’s really no failure, and that’s a new perspective on success for me.”

Charity sees this season of her life as the formation of a constellation, the bringing together of all the things from her past that connect to create an expansive picture.

Before, her success would have been about her reputation and accomplishments. Today, it’s all about valuing the inherent worthiness and potential of people and creating places for them to belong in our community.

“Learning to love myself allows me to love other people in a much more genuine way,” Charity says. And she’ll take that over perfectionism any day.

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Making your dream home a reality When it comes to our homes we always seem to be wanting more. The feeling of being unsatisfied with your home should not become familiar. Taking the time to narrow down what you want and what is doable in your home is important but can be overwhelming.

The Kliethermes family is here to help you turn your home into a space you are proud of. We know the reality of remodels and what is reasonable for the home you have. We can help you decide the most cost and time efficient way to reach your goals. Give us a call today and together we can turn your home into what you have always dreamed of.

Call Cale today to begin your next project.

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THE IMPORTANCE OF CURB APPEAL

BY DENISE PAYNE Find more at www.denisepayne.com

Everyone talks about curb appeal when buying or selling a house. And of course, it can mean something different to everyone. I’ll give you my opinion on what curb appeal means to me.

When meeting with a seller to discuss projects, they should do to increase their likeliness to get a good offer, we always end up discussing curb appeal. It can be as simple as painting the front door and putting some colorful flowers on the porch in a nice pot. More than that, it can also involve weed control, mulching, cleaning up discarded flower pots from last year, power washing driveways, even minimizing those ever popular “yard ornaments.”

Why is this so important? The National Association of Realtors indicate a home with nice curb appeal will sell for 5.5% to 12.7% more than a home with poor curb appeal. And that can equate to a lot of money!

Sellers need to view their home through the eyes of someone who’s never seen their property before. It’s not a bad idea to drive around and critique other homes in the area of similar value. It’s easy to find fault with other people’s homes! The trick is translating that same critical eye to your own house.

To achieve a great outdoor impression without spending a lot of money, think about putting in a rock garden. Weeding or resodding can be time consuming and expensive depending on the severity of the issue so sometimes it’s best to think outside of the box. Rock gardens can be interesting and still colorful by adding planters with seasonal flowers or herbs. Within the garden, you can create a seating area with Adirondack chairs and pavers placed among the rocks so buyers see another possible space to use.

And why are nice entrances so important?

This is where the buyer stands while the Realtor is opening the lockbox. This is your first impression. If you don’t make a good first impression, it is difficult to get buyers to

love your home. I have had to force buyers to look at a home because the curb appeal in the photos was horrible.

To my sellers, I try to explain the importance of first impressions. To my buyers, I try to teach them not all listing agents and sellers understand the need for good curb appeal so give the house a try.

In summary, good curb appeal means money.

It also can mean a much quicker sale. And it shouldn’t end at the curb. With buyers looking for more and unique options to extend their outdoor space, it’s really more about outdoor appeal. The same discerning eye used for the front yard needs to be used for the sides and backyard areas. A little extra effort outside of your home can be very good for the inside of your wallet.

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Denise has been a Realtor since 2004 and achieved the designations of Graduate of REALTOR Institute and Certified Relocation Professional. A Mizzou Alumni, she ensures that she knows all the current options of home financing to help both her sellers and her buyers know all their options. Denise also understands home staging and owns her own staging furniture and accessories to offer her sellers at no additional cost. She’s won many awards including the Centurion Producer and is a regular member of the Weichert President’s Club. She services all of Mid-Missouri by belonging to 3 MLS systems.

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CONSIDERING SOLAR?

BY DAN SHIFLEY Find more at dogwoodSOLAR.com

When making any investment, it is smart to ask relevant questions and do your research.

The internet and referrals make this easier than ever. When learning more about solar energy options you may have been curious about these common questions: “I’ve heard President Trump put a tariff on solar panels; how will this affect my system?”

The simple answer is, nobody knows for sure. Details of the 30% tariff on imported solar panels are still being negotiated. This uncertainty makes it harder for manufacturers and installers to plan production and availably of solar panels. This may create some supply constraints, but there are a couple of things working in the favor of residential and commercial installations here in Boone County.

1. We use premium solar panels that may be exempted from the tariff.

2. The first 2.5 Gigawatts of imported solar panel production are exempt as well. For a typical 300 watt panel, that means we can import about 8.3 million panels annually before the tariff takes effect above that threshold.

3. The tariff steps down from 30% to 15% over four years and then goes away 4. Huge commercial solar farms now being developed are far more price sensitive on the cost-per-watt of a panel than a typical residential or commercial installation.

Size, Pitch, Roofing Material: How much space you have available and the pitch of your roof determine how many solar panels will fit on your roof. If you have a small section available, we may use a premium panel to increase the amount of power we can fit in smaller dimensions.

Roof Age: If you know you need a roof replacement, it is wise to complete this first or in conjunction with the solar installation [we can help coordinate this]. This ensures our longlasting solar panels [typically warranted for 25 years] have a good base underneath.

“What if I sell my house?”

Assuming you have been in the house for two years or more after installing your solar panels, you could still be in great shape.

While you will have provided the initial investment for your system, you will also have received the 30% federal tax credit and any local incentives that greatly reduce the installed cost. Due to the long service life of a solar panel [25 years or more] the system’s value and monthly energy savings are attractive to potential home buyers.

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“How do I know if I have a good roof for solar?”

Orientation: A south facing roof is the best as it captures more sun for a longer portion of the day. A west-facing roof also performs well, because peak solar production occurs in late afternoon when electric demand is also at a peak to power air conditioners and heat pumps.

Shade: The more sun the better, but you do not need a shade-free roof to have a solar system that meets your needs. Nearby trees, other homes or even portions of your own roof may affect production. We model the shading specific to your site, so we know how it impacts performance on your roof.

Dan founded Dogwood Solar in 2010 to bring solar into the lives homeowners and business-owners throughout the area. He adheres to the standards set by the North American Board of Certified Energy Practitioners [NABCEP], and is nationally certified as a Photovoltaic Installation Professional and a Solar Heating Professional. Dan specializes in beautiful solar installations that perform as well as they look. Very happy to call Columbia home, Dan spends time enjoying this great town with his wife and three daughters.

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BEFORE YOU DIVE IN

BY JAKE FRINK Find more at rostlandscaping.com

Thinking about putting in a pool? After years of experience designing, installing, and teaming up with pool contractors, we’ve put together a list of considerations you should be sure not to overlook!

Plan Early Unfortunately, you can’t contact a contractor in spring and expect to be laying poolside, lounging in the sun by summer. Quality contractors are booked quickly so start the planning process early in order to get on the installation list for the next fall/spring.

Don’t forget to plan out the space around the pool in conjunction with deciding to install a pool. The best back yard oasis is more than just the pool. An overall design and concept is key to creating a space that you, your friends, and family can enjoy all summer long. But, remember, it takes lots of design time and planning to make a great pool space come together. Having a project manager help coordinate the process, from design to installation, is one of the easiest ways to help your project go smoothly. In the end, it will pay off to have all your subcontractors (from the pool company, to the electrician, to the concrete crews, and more) working together and communicating with one person that is keeping your project on trawck.

based on your space, needs, and preferences.

For both functional and aesthetic purposes, we normally use a mixture of materials in our designs.

The Surrounding Hardscapes: Consider walls, fountains, steps, water or fire features, and shade structures. Properly incorporating these features around your pool make a huge impact and add value to the outdoor space.

Amenities/Spaces Within the Space A pool with a concrete deck isn’t very exciting— and it has so much potential. If you decide to invest in such a big project, why not make it shine?

We love designing pools spaces, where the pool is obviously the main attraction but so much more can be added to the design that improves

Sun Exposure Obviously, the ideal pool space needs sun exposure for soaking up rays, but one quick piece of advice: don’t overlook areas that will offer some relief from the sun!

Materials The Pool: There are 3 types of pools-liner, shotcrete/gunite, and fiberglass. There are pros and cons to each, which I won’t go into now, but be sure to choose the option that works best for your needs.

The Pool Deck: One of the most important aspect of this is the material selection. Pavers, stone, treated concrete, wooden decking, etc. are all options. Talk to your designer for their advice

the overall look and function. Consider the fact that pools can only be used during the summer, be sure to include some spaces within the space that extend their uses beyond summer, into the rest of the seasons. Consider amenities such as a fireplace/fire pit, fountains or waterfalls, patios, outdoor kitchens, pergolas, lighting and sound systems. Keep in mind fencing too, when designing your pool area as well. Many city and county codes will require fencing around pools.

Fencing can be an eye sore, or add to the feel of the space.

There are lots of factors to think about before installing a pool so keep these considerations in mind when meeting with your designer and contractor.

JAKE FRINK ROST LANDSCAPING

Jake Frink is a Columbia native who enjoys working and playing in outdoor spaces. He has a degree in plant science and landscape design from MU. With Rost Landscaping for nearly 18 years, Jake is the Design Manager. His natural talent for creating beautiful outdoor spaces gives him a huge sense of satisfaction.

Jake considers himself to be a very lucky husband as well as a lucky dad of three great kids.

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BY CALE KLIETHERMES Find more at: www.kliethermes.com

DOORS & WINDOWS

As summer approaches and we begin to open our homes for summer it is important to take a look around and see what needs to be done. Before you start tackling any remodel project, whether big or small, it’s important to manage your expectations, your budget and your timeline.

A punch list is a document that’s prepared toward the end of a remodel project that lists extra tasks and small details that need to be finished before the project can be completed and the final payment collected. This type of document is put in place to ensure your construction company’s final product meets your expectations.

Here is an example of a general punch list any homeowner can use:

WALLS Are there any visible cracks, smudges or dings in the drywall?

Is crown molding installed correctly and painted?

Is the backsplash even, grouted and applied correctly?

Are any screw heads visible through the drywall?

Are any nail heads popped in wood framing?

Does paint evenly cover each wall with no thin spots, drips or other mistakes?

Do pantry doors and interior doors swing open and close easily?

Is weather stripping applied to all exterior doors?

Are doors hung correctly?

Do windows open and close easily?

Do windows lock properly?

Are window screens installed?

Are there any cracks in window panes?

Are there any dents, scratches or buckling in interior doors?

CEILING Are smoke detectors installed correctly and working properly?

Are there any visible cracks or peeling?

Are light fixtures installed properly without doing damage to the drywall?

Is the paint evenly distributed without mistakes?

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FLOORING If using tile, is your tile floor evenly grouted and sealed?

Is your floor level?

Are there any gaps between flooring and cabinets?

Is there any visible damage to the floor from construction?

ELECTRICAL Are all light fixtures installed and working properly?

Do all outlets, switches and cable jacks work?

Are all switch plates and cover plates installed?

Your relationship with your construction company is dependent on how you communicate with each other and how satisfied you are with the quality of the remodel project. Having a punch list helps achieve both of those things. And remember, as you continue to cross things off your punch list, you’re one step closer to enjoying your newly remodeled space!

Ready to get started? Kliethermes will be there to make sure your remodel goes smoothly and is finished on time and on budget. Call us today at (573) 446-2222!

KLIETHERMES HOMES & REMODELING

Cale Kliethermes has learned the construction business from the ground up, working with his father to uphold the 40-year legacy that is Kliethermes Homes & Remodeling. Having been immersed in the industry since his teenage years, Cale possesses decades’ worth of expert knowledge and experience regarding new construction and remodels. Cale studied business administration and finance at Regis University, in Denver, Colorado, and earned his CGR (Certified Graduate Remodeler) designation from the National Association of Home Builders (NAHB). He also served in Iraq with the U.S. Marine Corps, where he built secure housing and observation posts. Cale specializes in leading homeowners through the creative process of designing their ideal home, and he is skilled in determining unique solutions that result in life-changing differences.

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WHERE COMFORT MEETS STYLE

BY JAKE BAUMGARTNER Find more at baumgartners.com

People are constantly looking for that piece of furniture that makes their home feel like a home, yet also adds the element of style. LaZ-Boy has been the go-to source for comfort since 1928. While some may think of this line as being a little less streamlined, the brand has evolved to create furniture that is sleek and less bulky. Whether your home is inspired by the Mid-Missouri country theme or the elegant urban design, every interior design could benefit from the stylish comfort of La-Z-Boy. La-Z-Boy has more designs than ever that fit any style of family room. Customers like to have options and La-Z-Boy has several to offer, from reclining sectionals with storage consoles that have electrical outlets for the modern age or a classic look for the fashion savvy. We like to make sure that there is not a need to sacrifice comfort when looking for style. Choose from different fabrics and colors to reflect the perfect image you are trying to achieve. Whether you are looking for a modern, classic, or comfortable style there is always an option that fits within your home and your

budget, yet still having the comfort we all want.

We understand everyone has a different style preference that will best fit your home and we aim to have the most updated selection available. Let us help you add comfort to your home and you may be

surprised by what La-Z-Boy has to offer.

These new styles can complement any room and still be comfortable enough for family movie nights. While we cannot supply the movie, we can supply the luxury seating needed for ultimate family relaxation.

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Jake essentially grew up in the furniture industry as he is the fourth generation involved in Baumgartner’s Furniture. Working very closely with his father, Alan, Jake has been devoted to the stores full time since 2004. His greatest enjoyment, however, still comes from working closely with the customers. He is married to Sarah and they have two active boys, Noah and Laine. Jake received his degree in finance from Saint Louis University.

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BY ANNE TUCKLEY Find more at: AnneTuckleyhome.com

Life is hectic. We have our work life and personal life, but frequently those lives bleed together.

Work seeps into our personal time and our personal obligations sneak into our work lives. It is impossible to truly separate the two because the demands of both are being placed upon a single individual and life’s demands do not always cooperate with scheduling conveniences (despite our time management efforts). As a result our days are filled with conferences, PTA meetings, soccer games, meal prep, commuting, calls, bedtime routines, snuggles with our loved ones, dishes, laundry, vacuuming, pet walking, and on, and on, and on.

We are stretched thin and it is easy to see why.

When life is constantly demanding your time, the idea of tackling desired household design projects seems unrealistically daunting. How can you fit in those wants when you are exhausted from fulfilling the needs?

Want to know a secret? You can make major impact with very little time incurred.

Here are 5 easy design refreshers that take minimal time to implement and completely transform your space: 5. Bathroom: Nothing gives your bathroom a quick makeover faster than replacing your shower curtain. Purchase a new, bold shower curtain, pair it with matching towels, and voila, instant face life.

4. Kitchen: Kitchen makeovers seem to be

high on almost everyone’s to do list and they can also be the most daunting. Postpone the full redo and opt instead to paint the cabinet doors and replace the cabinet hardware. The doors are a great way to add a pop of color whether by just adding trim accents or painting the whole door.

3. Entryways: Doors don’t have to be black, white, or brown. Get creative by painting your interior and exterior doors a bright, welcoming color.

2. Bedrooms: Duvets transform bedrooms

like shower curtains transform bathrooms.

Update that old comforter with a seasonal duvet cover.

1. Dining Room: This is one of my personal favorites. A simple transformations in a dining room is to replace the lighting over the table.

Unlike many other rooms, the lighting in a dining room is always part of the central focus of the room, and replacing the light can instantly transform the look and elegance of the room.

Happy decorating!

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Anne has been in the interior design industry for over 20 years and has resided in many metropolitan cities from NYC to Houston while honing in on her skills.

Her specialties are interior design and home staging, with a focus on unique perception. Anne graduated with a BFA in fine art with a concentration in design and illustration. She has extensive experience in designing new construction as well as remodeling and conceptualizing out-of-the-box ideas. She ensures cutting edge design and superb customer service.

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“This has been a very nice house to us, and we try to make it better than when we inherited it.”

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n 2002, Stephen and Christi Brietzke moved to Columbia and bought their charming yellow house with black shutters and a red brick chimney off Tayside Circle. The house, which was built in 1991, served the Brietzkes perfectly until the deck’s stairs began to deteriorate and collapse. After 26 years, the deck was ready to be restored.

Dr. Brietzke, an endocrinologist for MU Health, had used Manor Roofi ng and Restoration for other projects, so it was a no brainer to call owner Nick Allen again, this time for a deck upgrade. “We feel like Nick is part of our family,” Stephen says. “He is always very responsive and courteous.”

Nick was thrilled to take on the restoration. “Decks are very exciting projects, and outdoor living is currently an extremely popular part of the construction market,” he says.

Stephen and Christi’s deck was a dark, burnt wood color before the renovation, and the house came with an in-ground hot tub that had become dilapidated over time.

The project called for a material and color upgrade as well as a solution for the space formerly occupied by the hot tub.

The Brietzkes sat down with the project manager to discuss what they did and did

not want in their new deck. They were shown several computer mock-ups as well as different options for materials and vendors. The process took about a month.

The planning phase resulted in a soft gray deck with white railing that matches the bright tone of the house. The Brietzkes settled on polymer, a PVC-type material, because of its permanence. “Th is fits the idea of putting something back better than what we started with,” Stephen says.

“Th is has been a very nice house to us, and we try to make it better than when we inherited it.”

When the Brietzkes talked about what to do with the hot tub space, they debated between a gazebo, a fi re pit, and a few other options. They settled on a fi re pit. Since the renovations, the Brietzkes have had one deck party and have plans for more events this summer. Currently, Stephen uses the deck to grill when the weather is nice.

When contemplating a deck project, Stephen recommends choosing materials that add to the attractiveness of the house.

“Do it to please yourself,” Stephen shares.

“I could have built a wooden deck for a third of the cost, but the permanence of the polymer deck and the low upkeep over time is a good long-term investment.”

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ne of the many wonderful things Columbia has to offer is its impressive system of trails, chief among them the Katy Trail, which runs south of the city and is the country’s largest rail trail.

Whether you’re looking for leisurely sightseeing with your family or a fast-paced day of cycling, you can fi nd it all in MidMissouri’s section of the 240-mile Katy.

You can even make a day out of your trail experience by stopping in at one of the many unique and delicious restaurants positioned right on the Katy Trail. The Station House at Katfi sh Katy’s, Chim’s Th ai Kitchen and the General Store at Cooper’s Landing, and the Meriwether Cafe will leave you peddling faster to enjoy great eats and

live music this summer.

“Beth and I ride our bikes to all three of these locations on a monthly basis,” says Barbie Banks, executive director of the Citizen Jane Film Festival. “We love to ride from Columbia and stop at Katfi sh Katy’s for a beer and hushpuppies, then continue on to the Meriwether Café. Their pastries are amazing, and all their food is fresh and local and delicious. And I think Chim’s Th ai Trailer at Cooper’s Landing is the best Th ai food in Columbia.”

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You can’t go to the Station House at Katfi sh Katy’s without trying their Katfi sh Tacos or the Big Tree Burger. There’s nothing better than pulling up a seat on their huge covered patio and enjoying dinner, drinks, and live music.

“I love Katfish Katy’s,” says Ann Merrifield, senior director of alumni relations at Columbia College. “It sits right on the Katy Trail and is down the road from the famous bur oak tree. And their jalapeño hushpuppies are fantastic — as long as you have a cold beer to go with them!”

Katfish Katy’s has been a household name for those who enjoy the trails around Columbia for many years. If you haven’t been there lately, you’ll notice they’ve rebranded as The Station House at Katfish Katy’s. Owners Zac and Laura Cutler finished the remodel and opened for business

in September 2016. They offer a full-service kitchen, bar, and live music with covered patio seating for up to 120 people.

“I’d say we’re most known for a lively outdoor dining and music experience,” says Zac Cutler. “Our menu is designed to be simple but good. We’re a comfortable distance from Columbia on the MKT/Katy Trail, so on nice weather days we can have a great crowd from cyclists as well.”

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One of their best kept secrets that brings patrons out is the family atmosphere. “I’m not sure it’s a secret anymore, but we’ve been able to be very kid-friendly without sacrificing being mom- and dad-friendly,” says Zac. “We’ve had a great response from nearby families. Many have become regular customers that we see almost every weekend.”

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There’s something fun about a neat, funky Thai food truck overlooking the river. Couple that with a laidback music venue and BBQ food and salads coming from the General Store and you have the recipe for the perfect evening at Cooper’s Landing.

“People love it, they love the idea of it — the rustic feel and authentic food,” says Vanessa Leitza, general manager at Cooper’s Landing.

“People from all walks of life enjoy our little oasis. We are always family friendly and enjoy getting to know new people.”

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Mike Cooper purchased Cooper’s Landing 32 years ago with the idea of starting a bait shop and a handyman service.

At the time, Katy Trail construction was underway along the old railroad, and he saw it as a great opportunity as well as a beautiful place to live.

“Our best kept secret are the sunsets,” Vanessa says. “Every single one is brilliant, diff erent, and we off er one of the best views to see it from the river.”

Today, great weather and good music draws in crowds. “Our varied beer selection has become an attraction, mainly due to the low prices we keep due to low overhead costs. No one is ever in a hurry at the river: People are encouraged to stay as long as they’d like, to visit with friends, enjoy the music, or sit by the fire,” says Vanessa.

“Chim’s Thai Kitchen remains a big draw for people from Columbia and surrounding areas as well as bikers and hikers on the trail.”

“Eating at Chim’s on Cooper’s Landing is like eating the best street food in Thailand while sitting at a picnic table by the Missouri River, listening to live music,” says Stacie Pottinger, owner of Rogue Studios.

“It’s something you just have to experience first-hand.”

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For those early risers, Meriwether Café and Bike Shop is the perfect stop along the trail to grab breakfast and sip your coff ee on their patio. “We have really developed a crowd following for our breakfast menu and pastry selection,” says Brandon Vair, who owns Meriwether with his wife, Whitney.

Try their take on a classic by ordering their buttermilk pancakes with Fretboard coff ee, or, if you’re looking for a hearty breakfast, order their best-selling Louisiana Purchase. “It’s your choice of Show Me Farms bacon or sausage, two local eggs from Fed from the Farm (located outside of Boonville), home fries, and two huge buttermilk pancakes with fresh berries,” says Brandon. “It’s a doozy! So much tasty food. People love it.”

Their entire menu is made from scratch using responsible stewardship of the land and quality ingredients. Focusing on local ingredients “allows us to continually recreate our menu, making it as unique as the seasons,” says Brandon.

“We pride ourselves on locally sourced proteins and scratchproduced pastries that vary from brioche cinnamon rolls to our Honey Sunny cookies.”

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“Rocheport is such a beautiful rural town that has a lot of recreation and commerce,” says Brandon. In addition to their café menu and pastry selection, Meriwether Café off ers bicycle rentals, special order cakes, and small-event catering services.

Entering their second season on the trail, Brandon says Meriwether Café’s best kept secret is their entire operation.

“We will continue to provide a dynamic, scratch-made, and locally sourced menu coupled with friendly service and naturally charming atmosphere to build our customer base and get the secret out,” he says.

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On the Hunt

Marcia Thrasher and Deb Corkery answer the call of the wild.

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unting and shooting sports have been dominated by men for generations; even the ambiguous term “outdoorsman” leaves women stuck inside. But according to the National Shooting Sports Foundation, women are the fastest growing demographic among hunters, with more than 3.3 million female hunters nationwide and counting.

COMO Living sat down with two such local female hunters who share what the thrill of the hunt means to them.

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Marcia Thrasher is warm and energetic with a disarming smile. It’s easy to see how the 37-year-old excelled as a social worker for years before turning to her current career as a real estate agent. Her polished demeanor doesn’t jibe with the stereotypical persona of a woman hunter.

Though she grew up around hunting in her hometown of Shelbina, Missouri, Marcia didn’t discover her passion for it until five years ago, when she met her boyfriend, Evan, who’s an experienced hunter.

Evan took Marcia to Prairie Grove Shotgun Sports to shoot sporting clays and get a little experience handling a shotgun and firing at a moving target.

“What I thought was going to be an intimidating experience turned out to be quite enjoyable,” Marcia recalls.

“I thought I was going to be around a bunch of men — and I was, but they were very supportive in answering my questions, whether it was about gun safety or the sport itself.”

exposed to hunting with penraised birds,” Marcia says about her first time quail hunting.

“That gave me experience with live targets and working with the dog safely without the pressure of being with other hunters in the wild.”

Remi’s job is to sniff out the quail and startle them into flying out of the brush, giving Marcia

Dating Evan also meant becoming an adoptive parent to his German Shorthaired Pointer, Remington, a highly trained hunting dog who retrieves fowl on both land and in water.

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a clear shot. While Marcia didn’t have much beginner’s luck with the clay targets, it was a different story with quail.

“I was one-for-one! I got one on the first shot. It was incredible,” Marcia remembers with a big laugh. “I don’t know how Remi knows who shot what, but he brings the bird back to the right person every

time. Every time we’re out, he does something new that I never thought a dog could do.”

Marcia says that when she downed that first quail, Remi turned to her with a stunned but approving look, then ran off dutifully to retrieve her prize.

She had earned Remi’s esteem as a hunter.

“My bond with Remi became even stronger after hunting together,” Marcia says.

Marveling at Remi’s abilities isn’t the only reason Marcia brandishes her 20-gauge overunder double-barreled shotgun each fall in search of fowl; it’s had an impact on several other areas of her life. She says hunting has helped her relate to and meet the needs of real estate clients looking for recreational land. And it’s turned into a great couple’s activity for her and Evan.

“What I thought was going to be an intimidating experience turned out to be quite enjoyable.

I thought I was going to be around a bunch of men — and I was, but they were very supportive in answering my questions, whether it was about gun safety or the sport itself.”

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“I don’t know that I would have ever tried this, or that I would have enjoyed it as much as I do [if not for Evan]” she says.

“It’s something we do together.”

Marcia says it’s also provided an unexpected outlet for relieving stress.

“I think, with this sport, it’s more about the mental aspect than the physical. There’s that element of being out in nature that’s therapeutic for me,” she explains. “It helps me be more mindful and in the present.

When I’m there, I need to be there. I get to be free there. I get to get away from the stressors of modern life and decompress.”

Marcia says hunting is just like anything else: The more you do it, the more confident you get. But she understands that at first it can be a daunting sport for women to crack into. “Women sometimes think that they had to have grown up on a farm to go hunting. But that’s not the case,” she says. “My [female hunter] friends come from all over — different backgrounds, different experiences. I would love to encourage anyone who’s thinking about hunting to try a shooting range or gun club, where it’s relaxed and there’s no pressure.”

Marcia plans to someday expand her hunting endeavors to include game in the wild, though that would likely mean leaving Remi at home. For now, hunting is a family activity that includes a beloved and trusty canine who tracked down a quail she took on her first shot.

“That shot gave me the confidence to think, ‘I can do this. This is fun. I might enjoy doing this long-term,’” Marcia says. “And I have.”

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“Crisp early mornings, watching the sun rise. Just being out in nature, walking in the woods.”

That connection with the great outdoors is what draws Deb Corkery to hunting. At 65, the retired Gentry Middle School principal has been hunting, primarily deer, for about 30 years.

“I don’t need a gun to enjoy the outdoors,” Deb acknowledges. “I enjoy watching the animals. I’ve watched coyotes and bobcats play out in the field in front of me. Then you go back out in the evening and watch the sun go down.

You just never know what you’re going to see.”

Retirement has also given Deb more time to spend with her two grandsons, who are four and six and visit often. There’s plenty of room for them to play outside, and she looks forward to teaching them about the outdoors as they grow.

Deb and her partner, Sam, hunt and fish on the 150 acres they own north of Columbia near the Pinnacles. She navigates two miles of trails to access her five deer stands. Each stand has a storied moniker, like “Three Does in Heat,” which is named for a time when Deb and two of her female friends holed up in the stand to hunt deer. Most of her female friends are hunters like her, and she still hunts with men she’s known since her childhood spent near the small river-bottom town of Gilliam, Missouri. Growing up, Deb remembers when the boys her age got their introduction to shooting.

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Hunting Terms to Know SKEET: A sport in which the shooter fires at one or two crossing clay targets moving laterally to the shooter.

TRAP: A sport in which the shooter fires at clay targets moving away from the shooter.

SPORTING CLAYS: A sport in which the shooter fires at clays moving in all directions.

SHOTGUN: A firearm with a long barrel that is smooth inside. The smoothness allows a cartridge or shell filled with shot to glide down the barrel without friction. The shot has a wide scatter when the shell bursts upon firing. Shotguns may have one or two barrels; two-barreled shotguns may have side-by-side barrels or an over-under configuration in which the barrels are stacked vertically.

RIFLE: Like a shotgun, a rifle has a long barrel, but the barrel wall has spiraled grooves. The grooves make the bullet spin out of the barrel, which causes the bullet fire straighter and travel faster.

“If I never shot another deer, I wouldn’t care. But I love watching all the critters. I can sit out there for hours on end and never be bored.” she recalls. “I think that lured me into hunting. Over time, I learned how to shoot and acquired my own equipment for hunting.”

Today Deb hunts deer with a 260-caliber rifle. She hasn’t kept track of how many deer she has shot over the years, but she says she’s gotten one nearly every season she’s hunted, something she’s done more regularly since her retirement in 2007. She and Sam like doe venison and have some in the freezer every year, but Deb has taken enough bucks to pass on them unless they’re impressive.

“Sam says don’t pull the trigger on a buck unless it looks like Bullwinkle,” Deb laughs.

Deb says hunting is a popular sport nationally and needed in many places like Missouri for conservation efforts. In addition to deer hunting, she now has her sights set on turkey. “I’m trying to become a turkey hunter. That’s my new challenge,” she says. “I started hunting with a crossbow a few years back after I broke a few ribs because it’s easier to load than a regular bow. One time I shot at a turkey with my bow, and I missed it because I’d never shot the bow from the tree stand before. I didn’t know which crosshairs to use. The turkey jumped and feathers flew up and he ran off. It was hilarious.”

as well. “I’m learning there are apps for turkey calls on your phone. Who knew?” Deb laughs.

Regardless of the season, you’ll find Deb walking her land or enjoying the view from one of her deer stands. That visceral

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“If I never shot another deer, I wouldn’t care,” she says. “But I love watching all the critters.

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Tips from the pros on throwing a spectacular outdoor party.

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“I always recommend a lounge setting for all types of outdoor parties. The vintage furniture complements outdoor spaces so well, and they are so cozy and inviting, no matter what the outdoor scenery may be.”

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s summer approaches, we’re reminded of all the things we’ve missed during these past cold months. Leaves are appearing back on the bare trees, tulips are blooming, the air warms, and the outdoors slowly welcomes us back.

Summer’s arrival invites us to celebrate with friends and family, and what better way than to throw an outdoor party?

Regardless the event, outdoor parties are a classic tribute to summer. Knowing some tips to make yours stand out is always a good idea.

Planning the perfect party can seem overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. With a little bit of help from some local Columbia vendors, your summer parties will be talked about well into winter.

RENTING THE ESSENTIALS The first thing any party needs is tables and chairs. It seems obvious, but it’s easy to underestimate how many you really need.

A-1 Party and Event Rental and E. Clare Vintage are two great places to go for help.

“It’s the bread and butter of our business,” says Elizabeth Henley of A-1. “You’re going to need the tables, chairs, tents, linens, and centerpieces at your event.”

To throw an entertaining 4th of July barbecue, you can even rent coolers, pitchers, cornhole, large floor fans, badminton, a propane grill, and A-1’s Concoction Caravan (their brand new trailer bar). If you’re going for a more elegant, stylish look for your summer festivities, there are chandeliers, candelabras, staging, and flooring rentals. Your vendor can even build the venue for you.

“I always recommend a lounge setting for all types of outdoor parties,” says Emma Wacker, owner of E. Clare Vintage. “The vintage furniture complements outdoor spaces so well, and they are so cozy and inviting, no matter what the outdoor scenery may be.”

Another item that is sure to bring excitement to your outdoor party is a mimosa bar. E. Clare Vintage offers a vintage bar cart rental that can be transformed into anything: champagne bar, sundae bar, popcorn cart, you name it!

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says Anne Churchill, owner and lead planner of AnnaBelle Events. “Put it right in the middle of your party.”

SW Productions and Bussen Productions also have photo booths, and each is different.

Bussen Productions has a bus called the “Sunset Camper Photobus,” which you can rent and take photos in. It’s a unique way to spruce up your summer celebration.

Adding these special touches to your party will create lasting memories for your guests.

In taking these extra steps, you’ll be elevating your party to more than a get-together; it will be an event in and of itself.

CREATING THE AMBIENCE Ryan Adams, owner and lighting specialist for SW Productions, specializes in lighting design, lighting production, pyrotechnic displays, and special effects. He has helped create many fun and uniquely styled parties over the years.

“I’ve done everything from political campaigns and corporate parties to weddings,” Ryan says. “Last summer, I did lighting for a 40th birthday tiki party where they had sand sculptures.”

When the night comes out, you’re going to need light to keep your party going. With help from Ryan, you could even add a bang to your 4th of July party with fireworks.

Of course, when you have so many eyecatching pieces to your party, you’ll want keepsakes to help remember it all. This is where photographers and videographers come in.

TOASTING THE MILESTONE A party isn’t a party without the cocktail menu. Les Bourgeois Vineyards has mastered staying cool in the summer with their wine cocktails.

It’s no secret that frosé (that would be “frozen rosé”) is a summer favorite once again. It tastes just as good as it looks. You blend a bottle of Les Bourgeois St. Vincent Rosé with ice, fresh strawberries, and a pinch of sugar. Serve in a wine glass and top with a strawberry (or some rose petals, for a dash of elegance).

Along with specialty drinks, it’s good to have wine on hand for those wanting to keep it simple. “Our most popular wine is definitely our Riverboat Red,” says Mary Lathrop, private events director for Les Bourgeois. “It’s a tantalizing blend with aromas of raspberry and cherry. This chilled sweet red wine dazzles the palate with layers of ripe fruit.”

ARCHIVING THE MEMORY Bussen Productions provides videography and photography for any event and has lots of experience working with a wide variety of clients, including Günter Hans and Logboat Brewing Co. “You want to capture your event in a unique way,” says Karlos Bussen, owner and videographer for Bussen Productions. “You want to hear the laughter and cheers. The event comes back to life through video.”

“Photography is another good way to capture your event,” says Justin Kelley, owner of J. Kelley Photography. “A lot of people run around with their phones, but I recommend hiring someone, because then you don’t have to worry about anything.”

J. Kelley Photography also offers fullservice photo booths for every occasion.

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Event planners always have good recommendations for whatever you’re looking to have at your event, whether it be flowers, catering, or entertainment.

As our days get longer and our nights get warmer, you can use these tips to ring in summer and join together with friends and family. Consider adding something new to your usual get-togethers: maybe a tent to keep you cool, eye-catching centerpieces, the Sunset Camper Photobus, gorgeous photography, or a video to pull it all together.

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helter Gardens and the MU campus: two Columbia landmarks known for their floral lusciousness. To both the passersby and frequent visitors, these landscapes are a delight to the senses, but for two Columbia women and their crews, they are also a full-time job.

“In 1974, Scotty Garret [then head of maintenance and grounds at Shelter] came up with the idea of a community garden to provide a place for people to just slow down and enjoy nature,” says Katrina Monnig, superintendent of grounds at Shelter Insurance. The five-acre garden now yields over 300 varieties of trees and shrubs and more than 15,000 annuals and perennials.

Katrina heads up a crew of five full-time employees in the grounds department and an additional two seasonal employees in the summer. She started working at Shelter in May of 2012, when she took over for her aunt, Joy Long.

“I have always enjoyed working with plants,” says Katrina. “I enjoy seeing the new plants that come out and being able to try them.”

Katrina joined Shelter after working as a landscaper at MU for 13 years, largely under the guidance of landscape gardener Marsha Bower. “Marsha taught me a lot about the plants before she lost her fight with cancer,” Katrina says.

It was also at MU that Katrina worked with another knowledgeable Columbia gardener, Jenna Rozum, manager of horticulture.

“My grandparents had a garden when I was young — they still do — but I never considered it a career,” says Jenna. “My senior year of high school, I needed one more elective, so I settled on landscape horticulture solely because I thought it would be easy. I remember how much I loved identifying trees, and that’s when I decided to pursue a degree in the field.”

Her passion took root and Jenna started working at a local nursery as well as at the horticulture center at Illinois State University, where she received her master’s degree in agribusiness with an emphasis in horticulture in 2009.

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Jenna took over Marsha’s position as the landscape gardener, supervising the herbaceous (flower) garden crew at MU in 2010. She took a break for a few years to work at the Missouri Botanical Gardens in St. Louis, returning in 2016.

“I work with a team of wonderful groundskeepers who each have designated areas of campus in which they work and perform garden maintenance,” says Jenna, who is responsible for all tree, shrub, perennial and annual plantings on campus. “I also help the department with educational and fundraising events, give garden tours, and design the seasonal color displays around campus.”

Jenna’s department consists of 35 employees — 29 full-time and six student assistants — who maintain 752 acres of the main campus.

PLANNING THE PLANTINGS

When deciding which varieties of flowers to plant, “I take into consideration the sun and shade flowerbeds,” says Katrina. “We also change up the look with different design layouts and colors just to keep it interesting.”

When researching the different types of trees and shrubs, Katrina and Jenna choose varieties that are hardy here in Missouri, and they pay particular attention to those that are diseaseand pest-resistant.

“There are a number of factors to take into consideration: hardiness, light availability, form, function, appearance,” Jenna says. “On campus, we additionally look at pedestrian traffic patterns, where nearby underground utilities may be, and the potential for building or construction projects that may impact a site.”

Jenna and her crew also try to vary the number of species they have in any given area to avoid monocultures.

Both Jenna and Katrina mix annuals and perennials to keep things eye-catching year-round.

“We have several beds in the [Shelter] gardens that are planted with tulips in the spring, and then we plant annuals,” says Katrina. “The other beds throughout the garden have a mixture of trees, shrubs, and perennials.”

MU also has a mixture of hardy plants and the seasonal, annual plantings around campus that change three times each year.

“The Eighth Street Circle annuals are particularly popular at graduation,” says Jenna.

“We also design perennial gardens that are often memorials. We take pride in honoring alumni, friends, and others in this way.”

The MU team also propagates their own stock of large tropical plants for displays. The trees, shrubs, and perennials come from a variety of vendors across the state while the bedding annuals are grown for them by Jeff Oberhaus, owner of Vintage Hill Farm in Franklin, Missouri.

“This way we’re able to get exactly what we want,” says Jenna, “which enables us to design seasonal displays that are new and exciting each year.”

Jeff also grows the majority of plants Katrina and her team use at Shelter.

“In the fall, I have some blank blueprints of the annual beds, and we design the next summer’s display,” says Katrina. “I will then put together a list of plants for Jeff to grow at Vintage Hill.”

YEAR-ROUND MAINTENANCE

“For us, things are seasonal, and you get into a routine year after year,” says Jenna. “For example, in the spring, we’re cleaning up beds, cutting down grasses, fertilizing and seeding the turf. In the summer, because Missouri tends to be so hot and dry, we spend a lot of time watering annuals, as well as new trees and shrubs. The fall is dominated by leaf cleanup, and in the winter is when we do most of our mulching across campus.”

Katrina and the Shelter crew have also maintained a seasonal regimen.

“Before we plant, we till up the beds,” says Katrina. “We will then plant and water them, usually mixing in a water-soluble fertilizer as we water. In the winter, we will winterize the irrigation. We will also mulch all of the areas during the winter and spring.”

In addition to tending to the plants, Jenna’s team is also responsible for the coordination of snow removal on campus in the winter, which tends to be a time of rest for the garden beds themselves.

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flower heads] as possible for winter interest,” says Jenna. “It isn’t until late winter or early spring that we clean up most beds to prep them for a new season.”

Last year MU invested in a ride-on aerator and a spreader, which Jenna says has made it much more efficient for the turf crew to aerate, seed, and fertilize campus.

“We use a variety of different tools to help us perform our jobs,” says Jenna. “We rely on irrigation for certain turf areas across campus, as well as watering the annuals beds in the summer. Over the past few years, we have reduced our staff and have relied more on native plants in an effort to help reduce maintenance and watering.”

WORDS OF WISDOM When it comes to gardening, the pros give sound advice.

Jenna emphasizes keeping in mind the soil condition and exposure of your site.

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“The easiest mistake to make is planting something in a location it’s not suited for,” says Jenna. “Plants will ultimately look poor when planted in the wrong spot.”

A key rule that Katrina and her crew adhere to is making sure they put the taller plants in the back and the shorter ones up front. She is also a firm believer that Mid-Missourians can help achieve a basic, attractive landscape by simply mowing their yards and pulling weeds.

“Pull a few weeds, a little at a time,” says Katrina. “Then you won’t be spending hours at one sitting. As long as you show your plants a little care, they will usually do their best.”

Jenna agrees: A little effort goes a long way.

“First, I would be honest with yourself about how much maintenance you want to do and understand that no garden is maintenancefree,” she says. “For myself, I find doing a little bit each day really helps, whether that’s pulling weeds, planting flowers, or trimming. Small tasks daily make a big difference in keeping your garden in check and preventing large amounts of maintenance later.”

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H E A LT H

COMMITTED FOR LIFE

K i mbe r ly Ea r n e s t r u n s t owa rd l on g-term physical an d f in an cial h eal th.

by H A R T L E Y W R I G H T | ph o to s by A N T H O N Y J I N S O N

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imberly Earnest ran faster than any other woman in last summer’s Show-Me State Games triathlon and hasn’t blown a financial budget in 116 months and counting.

Kimberly is a role model for those who strive to keep the excess off their waistline and the surplus in their bank account. She is a dedicated fitness practitioner who loves to cheer others on and help them learn to become better, stronger athletes. She is also a financial connoisseur who enjoys teaching people about personal finance management, simpler living, and the peace those things can bring to one’s life.

For the Love of the Run Six days a week, Kimberly wakes up at dawn to run, swim, or bike. On two of those mornings,

she also lifts weights. Some days she adds another bike ride or a workout in the evening.

“I’ve run in 10 to 15 races a year for the last 22 years,” Kimberly says. Her passion for physical health took an early start. As a sophomore in high school, she started running year-round, regularly, on her own.

“My first race was a five-mile St. Patrick’s Day run. I guess you could say I got the racing bug at that point and discovered road races were really fun,“ Kimberly shares, “so every summer I ran a bunch of 5Ks and 10Ks and developed a passion for healthy living.”

That passion pushed Kimberly to run two triathlons and four marathons while earning a degree in health management at Southeast Missouri State University. She trained for each race without a mentor or coach. “My freshman year of college, I trained on my COMO L I V I N G

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own for my first triathlon,” she says. “I had no idea what I was doing, had never swam laps before in my life, had no biking experience as an adult.”

She must have gotten a handle on it: She is currently ranked as a USA Triathlon All American.

Since 2004, Kimberly has also participated in the Columbia Multisport Club. “People in the club have mentored me, taught me how to be a better athlete, and, now that we’re older and seeing new and younger people in the sport, we’re here to mentor and help them.”

Working out with the community has also been inspiring to Kimberly. Seeing those who are 10 and 20 years older than her putting up fast times pushes Kimberly further in her training. Her husband is one of those sources of inspiration.

H E A LT H “Because Brad is several years older than me,” she says, “I look up to him because I see he is still doing this as an older runner who can still be active, race hard, and have fun.

I can trust that this doesn’t have to end at a certain age.”

Bike Rides and Balanced Budgets In addition to participating in the local fitness scene, Kimberly and Brad are committed to building a financially healthier community. Twice a year, the couple presents workshops on budgeting. They also spend 18 weeks a year at Columbia’s Woodcrest Chapel leading Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University courses, teaching others how to make better financial decisions and meet their financial goals.

Exercise is one thing, but finances are another, and Kimberly believes no one should run a financial race without following a guide.

“Your budget has to be your plan, something that is going to guide you, or you won’t make progress,” she says. Kimberly believes personal finance has more to do with having a budget than anything else.

“I think people get scared of the word ‘budget’ and believe they can’t stay committed to one,” she continues. “A budget is simply a plan, and it’s a plan you get to write. And you can change the plan. It’s being intentional with your money. Through the vessel of a budget and having little or no debt, you can talk about your dreams and your goals and consider what you want to accomplish.”

While some might say there’s no correlation between the gym and a financial plan, Kimberly argues that one set of skills applies to both areas. “The discipline muscle I developed and strengthened over the years during physical training and conditioning definitely helped when we were paying off debt,” she says. “Similar to training for a race, you focus on the goal and what you need to do to accomplish it.”

versions of themselves by discovering and developing a practice of being more intentional with their finances and more active with their bodies.

Kimberly finds it fulfilling to connect with people, invest in their lives, and encourage those who are willing to learn to live healthy, active, balanced, simple, debt-free, and peacefilled lives. “I want to be a positive, good mentor, just as others have mentored me,” she shares.

EXERCISE IS ONE THING, BUT FINANCES ARE ANOTHER, AND KIMBERLY BELIEVES NO ONE SHOULD RUN A FINANCIAL RACE WITHOUT FOLLOWING A GUIDE. For Kimberly, exercise and financial freedom go hand in hand with her desires for social connectivity, leisure time, and feeling accomplished. While we might hear her talk about keeping things balanced in life, what we actually see is not balance, but integration: We see how well Kimberly integrates aspects of her work, family, faith, and community into her daily routine without losing herself or neglecting those she cares for and loves.

It helps to have a partner who shares her passion for strong health and finances.

Kimberly met Brad in a 5 a.m. Tuesday and Thursday runners’ group, and their first dates consisted of early morning workouts.

(Their courtship via exercise hasn’t stopped— Kimberly and Brad work out together every week.) Kimberly’s financial fitness and discipline played a part in the couple embracing and employing the seven financial planning steps of Financial Peace University.

When they married in 2008, their only debt was a mortgage, which allowed them to spend just over two years building an emergency fund, planning for retirement, and saving for college tuition for their kids.

At the beginning of 2011, with nine years remaining on their mortgage, Brad and Kimberly realized they could pay off their note much quicker with some focus and sacrifice. Two years later, after living on way less than they earned in order to put nearly every dollar toward their mortgage, they succeeded in paying off their home.

So whether it’s fitness or finances, Kimberly Earnest will run often. She will run long. And she will never outrun the joy of being a disciplined athlete.

“I love lining up at the starting line and going as hard as I can and seeing what I can do to the best of my ability,” she says.

Life Integrated Kimberly now gets to do professionally what she has always done as a volunteer. As part of the Wellness Team at Veterans United, serving as their financial fitness coordinator, she thrives when employees become better

Kimberly and Brad Earnest lead Financial Peace University at Woodcrest Chapel.

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NO MATTER THE AGE… GET A YEARLY PHYSICAL It’s important to establish a relationship with a primary care physician and schedule annual check-ups. Yearly visits are the best way to detect changes in your health before they develop into larger issues.

KNOW YOUR HISTORY Find out what health conditions run in both sides of your family. Sharing your personal and family history will help your physician determine your risk level for any particular condition or disease.

DO A MONTHLY BREAST SELF-EXAM Women are encouraged to perform breast self-exams at least once a month in order to become familiar with how their breasts normally look and feel.

Report any changes to a health care provider right away.

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In your thirties…

Your 30s are all about finding balance in your life while keeping health a main priority.

Common health topics for women in their 30s include maintaining a healthy weight, preventing bone loss, dealing with reproductive difficulties, keeping skin healthy and reducing stress.

Lifestyle advice: FOR STRONG BONES: Balance bone loss by doing weight-bearing exercises and eating a diet rich in calcium, vitamin D, magnesium and folic acid.

FOR HEALTHY SKIN: Keep your skin properly hydrated and exfoliate regularly to remove dry, dull skin. Don’t forget to apply sunscreen every day.

FOR LESS STRESS: Make your well-being a priority. Schedule some self-care time into your daily routine.

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In your forties…

Turning 40 is the big mid-life milestone that tends to kick off quite a few changes in the body. Common health topics include perimenopause, bladder control, heart disease and risk of breast or ovarian cancer.

What is perimenopause?

Perimenopause is transitioning into menopause.

The transition itself may last up to four years and officially ends when a woman has gone a year without a period. Similar to menopause, women may experience hot flashes, fatigue, mood swings, breast tenderness and low sex drive.

SCREENINGS AND EXAMS NEEDED MONTHLY • Breast Self-Exam

ANNUALLY • Physical • Cholesterol Test

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• Diabetes (if you’re at increased risk) • Mammogram • Vision Screening

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When you reach your 50s, you’re no longer a stranger to change, but maintaining your health may require a little extra effort. Common health topics include menopause, overactive bladder and increased risks of heart disease, diabetes, stroke, osteoporosis and ovarian cancer.

Tips for staying active: HEART: Make sure you have some cardio in your daily routine, such as a brisk walk, to keep your heart healthy and strong.

JOINTS: Flexibility training, like yoga or Pilates, helps keep your joints mobile.

BONES AND MUSCLES: Strength training and weight-bearing activities help support both your bones and muscles.

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SEASONS

BEYOND SKIN-DEEP

Embracing words with life-changing power.

by BE TH BRA MST E DT

Dependable, trustworthy, responsible, and loyal.

If you ask an acquaintance or co-worker to describe me, many would reply with some combination of these adjectives. I meet deadlines, follow through on promises, work out conflict, and strive to exceed expectations. I can’t help it; it’s who I am.

And it’s who I’ve always been. In high school, I was allowed to leave campus during study hall because the secretary knew I’d come right back. When I accidentally smashed the school’s French horn, the band director was happy because he knew he’d get a new one without incident. And, when my parents left me home alone for the weekend, I spent the time attending church services with a friend.

Goody two-shoes. Teacher’s pet. Both disparaging, yet they’re also synonyms for responsible and dependable. They’re strong, foundational, respectable words.

In recent years, however, I’ve realized that I am also so much more. I am playful, engaging, affectionate, and courageous. As I look below the surface, beyond the clichés, these adjectives ring deeper, truer. They are richer, more dimensional.

The word

COURAGE

noun cour·age \ `k r-ij , `k -rij \

in its original form, meant “to speak one’s mind by telling one’s heart.”

And they are more vulnerable. They feel risky and subjective, with far more potential to be misunderstood. They are no longer defined and measurable, but messy and deep. They are intimate, and most often expressed in the context of interpersonal relationships.

And that feels scary.

Yet it is when I’m engaging and courageous that I truly connect with those whose lives I touch. When I listen

to someone attentively, call out their strengths, empower them, laugh with them, or speak truth into their situation, a simple conversation turns into something transformative. And, at the end of the day, that’s the kind of legacy I want to leave.

How about you? What adjectives are foundational to who you are and who you’ve always been — your “go to” descriptors?

How have they served you well?

And what new words would you like to embrace: a bolder, richer version of yourself?

What adjectives, if worked deeper into your veins, have the power to enrich the lives of those around you? Will you own them?

Will you take advantage of opportunities to exemplify them?

I love the word “courage” because in its original form, it meant “to speak one’s mind by telling one’s heart.” Embracing new words is like speaking with your heart. It’s part of owning your story, loving yourself, and transforming the lives of others through the process.

And it’s one of the bravest and most generous things you will ever do.

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Earlier this year, I was experiencing the doldrums. I caught the flu, had back spasms, and broke my right arm all in a short period of time. I stopped going to the gym first thing in the morning. The quality and quantity of my food was poor. The usual zest for my business was missing. I had become stagnant.

It was time for me to pick myself up and find a way to move back into my progressive mode. But, as I said, I was stuck. After sharing this with my performance coach, we came up with a plan of action — the key here is action!

There is value in being aware of the source of your pain. However, it’s not efficient or effective to try to think and feel your way through times like these. I once heard a quote that said “the quality of your life is determined by the questions you ask and the company you keep.” This wise remark rings true for me.

Here are three questions to consider when you’re interested in making a shift, either away from something or towards something.

• NUMBER ONE: “What is missing?”

This could mean establishing boundaries around making time for yourself, finding time to balance your checking account, or having a critical conversation.

• NUMBER TWO: “What am I doing too much of?” Perhaps it’s binge watching Netflix or surfing Facebook in the evening. It could be spending too much time on projects, striving for perfection versus excellence, or being concerned with what others think of you.

• NUMBER THREE: “What am I not doing enough of?“ This might be not being active enough, not getting enough water, or not voicing your opinion at appropriate times.

After I addressed all three questions and moved back into action, I went from being a victim to being present and responsible.

THE QUALITY OF YOUR LIFE IS DETERMINED BY THE QUESTIONS YOU ASK AND THE COMPANY YOU KEEP. Here are some of the positive actions that brought me back into living an inspired life: A friend and I went to a museum; I filled up my emotional tank by spending time with my grandson and his parents; I was in bed by 9:00 p.m. and back to the gym in the morning; my grocery list was made with the intention that my food intake should reflect my commitment to healthy well-being; I shared with trusted friends what was going on with me; and I reached out to experts for advice.

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In my worldview, this is called a reinvention. When I’m experiencing discomfort or pain, I see it as growing pains. I embrace it as an opportunity to be in action and design a life full of vitality, enthusiasm, and ease.

Whether you are in the midst of the doldrums or just in the middle of the road, I invite you to ask yourself these three questions. What is missing? What am I doing too much of? What am I not doing enough of? It might be interesting to discover what shows up for you.

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FOR THE LOVE OF CATS Foster homes give kittens a second chance.

by J O R DY N M I L L E R | ph o to by S A D I E T H I B O D E AU X

“I THINK ABOUT IT LIKE PROVIDING A HOTEL ROOM FOR CATS NEEDING A BETTER HOME. AND THERE’S NOTHING LIKE FINDING A HAPPY AND HEALTHY CAT A NEW HOME.”

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ith the hot nights of summer upon us, cats all over Missouri desperately need homes.

Many of them find one through Second Chance, the shelter and foster program founded in 1985 to help rehome unwanted animals in Mid-Missouri. Animals end up in Second Chance either as strays or as placements from families who no longer can tend to the animal. As a volunteer-based organization, Second Chance provides cats with foster homes until they are given a forever home.

Kathleen McKinney, executive director of Second Chance, says there’s always a need for cat foster families.

“Spring and summertime are what we call ‘kitten season,’” says Kathleen. “Once the weather gets warmer, our needs go up.”

Second Chance provides foster homes for kittens less than 9 months old, as kittens can’t be at the volunteer site due

to the possible spreading of illness. After kittens reach 9 months, they can either be integrated into the adoption facility with other cats or be adopted by their foster family. Kathleen says this is always a bittersweet moment.

“In some ways, we hope that people won’t want to adopt their foster cat so they can continue to foster more for us,” says Kathleen. “But we’re always happy when that happens.”

Kitten foster parent Grace Haun ended up adopting the kitten she fostered from Second Chance.

“The first cat I fostered never left,” Grace says. “She got along so well with my resident cat, I felt like she couldn’t leave.”

Since then, Grace has fostered cats that need extra attention due to past trauma.

Before fostering is an option, volunteers have to specify what kind of time and effort they’re able to put into fostering.

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Volunteers can indicate if they’re comfortable with fostering cats that need medical care or have special needs.

Volunteers also answer a series of questions about their homes, living styles, and other current pets to determine what kind of cat would be a good fit for the family.

Kathleen says there are no real restrictions on who is able to foster besides the ability to care for the animal. Second Chance also has foster liaisons, which are experienced volunteers who mentor new foster families.

Second Chance provides volunteer and foster opportunities via applications on their website. If fostering is too much, there are other ways to help out the organization: by working at off-site adoption events, for example, or taking pictures of adoptable animals, transporting animals, and more. Second Chance pays for food and vet care for fostered animals, which they hope encourages individuals to be interested in fostering.

“There are always cats in need of temporary homes. Second Chance finds homes for hundreds of animals a year, but they couldn’t do that without foster homes,” Grace says. “Finding the right adopter, making sure the animal is healthy and up-to-date on shots, takes time. I think about it like providing a hotel room for cats needing a better home, and there’s nothing like finding a happy and healthy cat a new home.”

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F O R W H AT I T ’ S W O R T H

MEET FRANCES HERDLINGER

Painting of young MU chemist now on exhibit.

by M E L I S S A W I L L I A M S | p a in tin g ph o to by D E A N N A D I K E M A N

At Mars in 1930

Andrew Loomis, 1892-1959 In the Lab at Mars Co., 1930

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The 1930s also saw the creation of a new form of commercial advertising that was illustrated by professional painters. During Frances’s career, one of the most influential of these artists, Andrew Loomis, was creating paintings to illustrate the allure of Mars candy, Kellogg’s cereals, and Coca-Cola. One of his paintings featured Frances, created from a photograph taken while she was working in the laboratory at Mars Inc. Though there is no evidence that the painting was used in an advertisement, the artwork was left at the lab.

When Frances decided to marry in 1935, she and her fiancé travelled from Chicago to Columbia for a quiet wedding at Calvary Episcopal on Ninth Street. They stayed at the Tiger Hotel.

During the tight job market of the Depression, there were some who thought women should give up their jobs when they married. Frances, however, kept her job at Mars Inc. for five years before leaving in 1940 to start a family. When she left, Mars gave Frances the painting as a retirement gift.

Andrew Loomis’ painting of Frances Herdlinger is now on exhibit at Melissa Williams Fine Art.

n 1927, a petite, lively redhead entered the virtually all male chemistry program at MU. Two years later, the same young woman won her degree and ranked not just at the top of the chemistry class, but also at the top of her entire graduating class.

The young Frances Herdlinger, who was only 20 at the time of her graduation, managed to get a job teaching high school chemistry, only to see her job eliminated by the economic pressures of the Great Depression.

Meanwhile, Forrest Mars, who is widely regarded today as a visionary businessman, had been working in his newly built laboratory in Chicago with a chemist named Estelle West. In 1930, Mars needed a second chemist and, partly through the intervention of an MU chemistry professor, offered the job to Frances.

During the years Frances worked at the lab, Forrest Mars was developing the Snickers and Three Musketeers candy bars. Though Mars was relatively isolated from the rest of his staff, he liked to visit the chemists in his lab. Frances told a reporter, “He would turn up often with something new for us to try.”

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JULY 13 Movies in the Park: “Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory” Cosmo Park, free Begins 8:45 p.m., 573-874-7463

JUNE 7-10 Missouri State Senior Games Throughout Columbia; times, pricing, and locations vary 573-882-2101

JULY 18 Family Fun Fest: Fitness is Fun Cosmo Park, free 6 to 8 p.m., 573-874-2489

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Fire in the Sky Flat Branch Park, free Activities start at 6:30 p.m.; fireworks start at 9:30 573-874-2489

JULY 19 Summerfest Concert Event: Jon Pardi The Blue Note, tickets $35 in advance, $40 at gate 573-874-1944

JUNE 7-24 “Bye Bye Birdie” Columbia Entertainment Company, $14 per ticket Times vary, cectheatre.org

JULY 28 Show Me the $ at Bank of Avilla Murder Mystery Victorian Country Inn, Hallsville $59 tickets 6 to 8 p.m., 573-819-2000

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We salute women who... stay calm under pressure have a sense of purpose focus on the next step are willing to learn overcome obstacles are visionaries exude confidence build relationships operate with integrity (left to right)

support other women

Kari Vogt Financial Planner Polly Reynolds, CPA, CTFA Vice President & Trust Officer Jenny Hayes Account Administrator

You’re sure to like the women at The Trust Company as they embody these attributes and more.

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STRONG WOMAN

ROCKIE ALDEN Community role model feels blessed with a second chance at life. ph oto by K E I T H B O R G M E Y E R

Rockie Alden shares her new lease on life since miraculously surviving congestive heart failure while giving birth to her son, Jake.

own. To me, relying on others to help you through challenges is the key, and for me, I need to rely on God’s strength.

AGE: 58.

WHAT WOULD WE BE SURPRISED TO LEARN ABOUT YOU? That I played on the championship flag football team while in college at Arizona State University.

YEARS IN COLUMBIA: It will be 20 years next month!

TELL US ABOUT YOUR FAMILY. My husband of 26 years, Mike, and our son, Jake, who is 23.

WHAT DO YOU DO FOR FUN? Travel, creative projects, read, hike, bike, watch movies, volunteer, teach at preschool, go to Bible study.

WHAT IS YOUR BACKGROUND? My degree is in interior design, and I did sales in that field and others until my son was born. Since then, I’ve found a variety of ways to be involved in the communities we’ve lived in.

WHAT IS THE MOMENT IN LIFE THAT DEFINED YOU PERSONALLY? When my son was born I had cardiomyopathy, also known as congestive heart failure. The prognosis was grim. I was in rehab for a year, and it took a little longer to get off all my medications. It was a long road with small steps of progress on the way. I’m so blessed to say that I recovered completely!

WHAT ARE THREE WORDS THAT YOUR FRIENDS WOULD USE TO DESCRIBE YOU? Compassionate, fun-loving, and creative.

WHO OR WHAT HAS BEEN YOUR BIGGEST INSPIRATION? I have been blessed with a lot of women who have inspired me! My mother is an amazing example of strength through very difficult times, and she always finds individuals she can bless with care and compassion. I have also been abundantly blessed by a lot of

women of faith whom I have done Bible studies with over the years.

WHAT IS THE BIGGEST LESSON THAT YOU’VE LEARNED? Life is precious and can change at any moment. We all would agree with this, but it’s completely different when you experience it. When I get caught up in the challenges of life, big or small, I try to remember how quickly things can change and what that felt like. I feel blessed to have been given a second chance.

WHAT IS YOUR PASSION? I love planning events! Whether it’s for nonprofits, Mike’s previous role with MU athletics, or personal events, I love the creative part of putting an event together.

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE A STRONG WOMAN? Knowing that you can’t be strong on your COMO L I V I N G

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WHERE DOES ALL YOUR STRENGTH COME FROM? Knowing that God is with me with every step of the way, especially during challenges.

And from the abundant positive role models I’ve had in my life, especially my husband!

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE ACCESSORY? Tough call. I’ll go with scarves.

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE CHARITY EVENT? This is a tough one too — there are so many great charity events in COMO! It’s what makes our town so incredible. I love Linking for Love, which brings together the leaders in all our Columbia churches and ministries.

Also, the American Heart Association’s Go Red Luncheon is great. It’s fun and educational and I always leave with a new purse from the purse auction.

WHAT IS SOMETHING MOST PEOPLE DON’T KNOW ABOUT YOU? My husband and I met on the Fiesta Bowl Committee while we were living in Arizona.

And we almost got married on a parade float on national TV.

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ADVERTISER INDEX A-1 Rental 42 Achieve Balance 86 Anne Tuckley Home 39 Atkins, Inc. 14 Baumgartner’s Furniture & Carpet 8 & 38 Boone Hospital 9 Brain Balance 55 Busenbark Flooring and Granite 12 Cherry Hill Clinic 73 City of Columbia Water & Light 86 Columbia Art League 73 Coming Home 90 Commerce Bank 3 Dave Griggs Flooring America 15 DogMaster Distillery 92 Dogwood Solar 35 Downtown Appliance 100 Dr. Letrisha Thomas 84 Eat Fit Go 4 Edward Jones 90 Ferguson 20

First Midwest Bank 96 Free Association 61 Great Outdoors Landscaping 29 Jasany Home 7 Jenning’s Premium Meats 22 Joe Machens - Volkswagen 10 & 11 Johnston Paint & Decorating Direct 5 Keith Borgmeyer Photography 68 Kliethermes Homes and Remodeling 32 & 37 La Di Da 29 Landmark Bank 99 Macadoodles 44 Makes Scents 61 Midway Golf & Games 78 Muse 74 My Sister’s Circus 22 Organize That Space 40 Personal Touch Cleaning Service 74 Providence Bank 84 Provision Living 40 Realty Executives - Heath Higgins 13

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COUPLE YOU SHOULD KNOW Sarah Lockwood and Rebecca Burkholder make love look effortless.

HOW DID YOU MEET ?

Rebecca: We first met at a friend’s wedding.

Sarah asked if she could cut my hair. I said no, not knowing that she was a hairdresser. We still get a good laugh about that one. We were friends for many years before we started dating.

WHAT DO YOU LIKE TO DO IN YOUR FREE TIME? Sarah: Most nights we hang out and read or binge watch Netflix. I also love to cook and have people over.

R: We love to travel! Mini trips to St. Louis, big out-of-the-country trips, camping with our homemade teardrop camper. We also like hiking, biking, and kayaking.

WHAT IS THE KE Y TO A L ASTING AND HE ALTHY REL ATIONSHIP? S: For me, the key is to practice patience, be enthusiastic, and be present in a relationship.

The busier we get, the more important it is to prioritize saving energy, time, and humor for home.

R: Trust, honesty, love, and forgiveness.

Things will go right and things will go wrong, but it’s how you handle the ups and downs that will bring you closer together.

WHAT IS THE BEST QUALIT Y OF YOUR PARTNER? S: Becca talks to anyone, anywhere, anytime. It doesn’t matter if we are going to dinner or the DMV — it’s going to be an adventure and chance to meet someone new.

R: Being the exact opposite of me. We would have never come this far in our relationship, business, or our lives if we were not strong when the other is weak.

WHAT MAKES YOU MOST PROUD OF YOUR PARTNER? S: Becca is a jack-of-all-trades. From auto and home repair to accounting and nature photography, if she set out to learn

something, she’ll master it. I’m always awed to see her tackle projects she may not know much about in the beginning and become successful at it.

R: Being able to watch as her dream to own her own clothing boutique comes to life.

I love to see her personality, her fashion choices, and her hard work come together.

HOW WOULD YOU DESCRIBE YOUR REL ATIONSHIP IN ONE WORD? S: Lighthearted. Becca and I tend to be very silly and spontaneous.

WHAT DOES THE FUTURE HOLD FOR THE T WO OF YOU? S: Becca and I have a long list of places to travel to and home improvements to tackle.

In a few years, I’d love to start producing my own clothing designs, so I should probably learn to sew soon.

WHAT’ S YOUR FAVORITE PL ACE YOU’ VE TR AVELED TO TOGETHER? R: Thailand. Everything was so different.

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Their religion, food, culture. We were free to roam around their country, and at every new stop, we were made to feel welcome.

HOW DOES BUSINESS PL AY INTO YOUR REL ATIONSHIP DYNAMICS? S: Our business relationship is a lot like our home relationship. We opened our clothing store, Free Association, this spring, and it works because we’re good at opposite things.

Becca runs the books and did our buildout because she’s great at being organized and paying attention to detail. I love being creative and hands-on, so I’m in the shop ordering clothes and meeting people.

R: We tackle it the same as we do our relationship. We divide it up based on our strengths.

WHAT HAS BEEN YOUR FAVORITE PROJEC T TO WORK ON TOGETHER? S: My favorite project has been our house.

We’ve redone bathrooms, torn up flooring, added storage, and have a hundred other ideas to get through before we’re done!

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