Columbia Home Magazine - August/September 2012

Hardest-Working Women in Columbia P. 47

Magnificent

Moms

P. 63

August/September 2012

Robin Pingeton At home and on the court

Campfire

Cookout P. 67

Women at work issue

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Women at Work

There are so many examples of hardworking women whom I admire in our community. Rose Ditter, for example, spends most days standing at her station at KeLani Salon and Spa while cutting and styling hair in the latest fashions. But those of us who have sat in her chair know that’s not all she’s doing. She is multitasking, making business decisions, gently managing her staff, buying product and selling product, all while kindly entertaining whoever might be in her foils.

Many people aren’t aware that in the span of her career, she has opened three salons, a spa and is a grandmother of two. She invested her money through the years in residential and commercial properties and provided and maintained safe places for many businesses to operate. She is highly involved in promoting and planning community events such as King's Daughters. And did I mention that she’s a wife and a mother of three? Keep up the good work, Rose.

Another woman in our community who knows the value of a hard day’s work is Pat Carl. She is what I would describe as a creative, decisive, selfconfident, self-made woman. Pat owns and operates the Home Store, as well as investment properties. Starting out with “very little,” she credits her success to her work ethic. She’s an example for us all that you don’t have to be born into money to make it in Columbia. The opportunities are here for those determined enough to take them. See Pat's talent in action in this issue's Designer's Palette department (page 31).

This issue’s theme is Women at Work. Associate Publisher Lily Dawson and I conducted a survey of the members of our advisory board and had them make nominations and recommendations of people they believe deserve to be featured in this issue. In every editorial department, from The Dish (page 37), to Expert’s Advice (page 27), to The Last Word (page 106), we profile women who have inspired us through their creativity, leadership and work ethic. I hope you find them as inspirational as I do.

To all the hardworking women out there, this issue is for you. Enjoy!

Edito r ial Betsy Bell, Publisher Betsy@ColumbiaHomeMagazine.com Lily Dawson, Associate Publisher Lily@ColumbiaHomeMagazine.com Katrina Tauchen, Copy Editor Katrina@BusinessTimesCompany.com contribu t i n g E d i to r William Dawson Cons u lta n t Sherry Hockman, Interior Decorating Editor-At-Large MA NAGEMENT Chris Harrison, General Manager ChrisH@BusinessTimesCompany.com Renea Sapp, Business Manager ReneaS@BusinessTimesCompany.com Cindy Sheridan, Operations Manager CindyS@BusinessTimesCompany.com DESIGN Kristin Branscom, Art Director Kristin@BusinessTimesCompany.com Creativ e Se rv i c e s Kayse Loyd, Creative Marketing Director Kayse@BusinessTimesCompany.com Rebecca Rademan, Graphic Designer RebeccaR@BusinessTimesCompany.com M ARKETING REPRESENTATIVES Teresa White TeresaW@BusinessTimesCompany.com Annie Jarrett Annie@JeffersonCityMag.com CONTRIBUTING P H OTOGR AP HERS Taylor Allen, Whitney Hayward, Angelique Hunter, Kayse Loyd, Gilbert Marlowe, S & J Photography, Emily Southerland CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Ene-Kaja Chippendale, Lily Dawson, Kate Smart Harrison, Ellie Hensley, Jill Orr, Keija Parssinen, Molly Wright, Nancy Yang Int e r n s Maddy Bailey, Alexandra Bronsky, Madeline Gibbs, Whitney Hayward SUBSCRIPTIONS Subscription rate is $12.95 for 6 issues or $18.95 for 12 issues. Call Cindy Sheridan at 573-499-1830 ext.1003 to place an order or to inform us of a change of address.

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FEATURES

21 Live Outdoors

Inspired by nature, family and a love for all things green, homeowners are making outdoor living spaces just as valuable to homes as the inside.

39 Homemade Peach Jam

Homemade jam makes a great gift for friends and neighbors and a wonderful winter treat after an abundant peach season.

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47 Columbia’s Seven

Hardest-Working Women

Columbia Home honors local females who give it their all.

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63 Magnificent Moms

At Columbia Home we love moms, which is why we created the Magnificent Mom contest and asked you to tell us why your mom should win. Meet the winners we selected from all the touching submissions.

67 Campfire Cookout

Wrap up summer with a spark with these dishes that can be prepared by the open fire.

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75 Continuing Education 101

Business professionals reap the benefits of going back to school.

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On the cover MU Women's Basketball Coach

Robin Pingeton

Campfire

Cookout

P. 67

is one of the

Magnificent

Moms

Meet the winners P. 63 AUGUST/SEPTEMBER 2012

Hardest-Working Women in Columbia P. 47 WOMEN AT WORK ISSUE

MU Women's Head Basketball Coach Robin Pingeton was named one of Columbia Home's Seven Hardest-Working Women in our Women at Work issue. See the rest of the women honored on page 47. Photo by Angelique Hunter.

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Welcome Calendar Expert’s Advice Design Trend Designer’s Palette Dear Kate Shopkeeper’s Story The Dish Mommy Chronicles Vacation Getaway Fashion Forecast Makeover Book Club Welcome to the World Weddings Announcements Lily’s Must List City Scene Home Bound The Last Word columbiahomemagazine.com | 15

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Rainbow House Golf Classic TournamentPlay with the Pros, Country Club of Missouri, $5,000 for a four-person team plus a professional player, $800 for a four-person team. Registration at 8 a.m., tee-off at 9 a.m., tournament concludes at 2:30 p.m.

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Cracker: 9th Street Summerfest, The Blue Note, 7 p.m., free

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Family Fun Fest: It’s a Circus, Flat Branch Park, 6-8 p.m.

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Kid Series: World of Art, “Hello Dali,” MU Museum of Art & Archaeology, 4 p.m. Preregistration required. Call 882-3591. Limit two children with adult.

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Kids Series: World of Art, “Photocollage,” MU Museum of Art & Archaeology, 4 p.m., preregistration required.

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Parachute & The Cab, The Blue Note, 6:30 p.m., $14 adults 21 and older, $16 minors

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Pat Green, The Blue Note, 8 p.m., $20 Mojo’s Happy Hour with Doc Ox and Cowboy Billy, Mojo’s, 5 p.m., free

Film Series: Rembrandt, MU Museum of Art & Archaeology, 7 p.m., free

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Deadman Flats, Mojo’s, 9:30 p.m., $5

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Focus on Health Chiropractic Run/ Walk 5K, Cherry Hill on Compton Road, 9 a.m. to noon. Supports the Habitat for Humanity.

Early registration July 27 by noon, $25 for adult, $10 for children; late registration after July 31, $30 for adults and $15 for children.

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Outdoor Movies in the Park: Dr. Seuss’ The Lorax, Flat Branch Park, 8:30 p.m., $2 per person, free for kids 8 and younger

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Uncorked: A Wine Experience, University of Missouri Alumni Center, 6-9 p.m., $75+

Boone Dawdle, Les Bourgeois Bistro, 5:30 p.m., $25-75

Jazz Under the Stars: MU Faculty All Stars, Missouri Theatre patio, 7 p.m., $20 general admission standing room only, $25 reserved seating

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Built to Spill, The Blue Note, 8 p.m., $16

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Mojo’s Happy Hour with Jordan Thomas (of the Mojo Roots), Mojo’s, 5 p.m.

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MU Football vs. South East Louisiana

Sept. 1-2 Wait Until Dark, Maplewood Barn Theatre, 8 p.m., $7, $1 for children younger than 10

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MTV VMAs Watch Party, The Shack in the MU Student Center, 7 p.m.

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WILCO, 9th Street Summerfest, 7 p.m., $35

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Open Mic Night, The Blue Fugue, 7 p.m.

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Sept. 23 West African Dance Class, Element Yoga, 2:30 p.m.

Sept. 30 Columbia Farmers Market Gala, Parkade Center, 5:30 p.m., $25

Sinbad, Jesse Auditorium, 7 p.m., $19-29

The Upper Deck Karaoke, The Upper Deck, 8-11 p.m.

MU Tiger Football vs.

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MU Football vs. Arizona State

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Susan G Komen’s Mid-Missouri Race for the Cure, Mizzou Sports Park, 8:30 a.m.

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Old 97's, The Blue Note, 8:30 p.m., $20

Tab Benoit, The Blue Note, 7:30 p.m., $15

Family Fun Fest: Creative Kids, Flat Branch Park, 6 p.m., free

Ladies Night, Sidelines Sports Bar, 8 p.m.

Polica, Mojo’s, 9:30 p.m., $10

Sept 21-22 Roots N Blues N BBQ, downtown Columbia, $60 early bird general admission for the weekend, $225 VIP for the weekend, $40 day passes, $125 for Friday VIP, $125 for Saturday VIP; $75 general admission for non-early bird for the weekend

Wines and Champagnes, Missouri Theatre, 7 p.m., $30 champagne and wine, $20 wine only

Head and the Heart, 9th Street Summerfest, 7 p.m., $25 Show Me 100 Bike Ride, Parkade Center, $25 Paws in the Park, Columbia Second Chance, Stephens Lake Park, 9 a.m.

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Local roofers exceed expectations for homeowner, Jason Ridgel Written By: Molly Wright

April showers are supposed to bring flowers. But on April 28th, Mother Nature obviously had other plans when a hailstorm brought nothing but headaches to thousands of homeowners in Mid-Missouri. Jason Ridgel, general agent with American National Insurance Agency remembers the day well. “Quarter size hail fell for 10-15 minutes, and my gutters couldn’t handle it. When it was over, there were two and half feet of ice on the side of my house.” With his own roof damaged and numerous clients anxious for repairs, Ridgel contacted Ryan Gilmore of Cameo Construction. And he’s so glad he did.

From the start, Ridgel says, Gilmore was professional.

“He was not only timely, he used special tools and techniques to access the damage and found problems not visual to the naked eye.” Ridgel also feels Gilmore provided exceptional service to all of Ridgel’s insurance clients and his crew “followed through on everything they said they were going to do, and there were no discrepancies in the cost… Ryan is a good person who genuinely wants to do a good job for everybody. He knows what he’s doing and it shows, and he works hard to keep repeat customers.”

Based in Ashland Missouri, Cameo Construction opened in June 2011, but they have already made name for themselves in the roofing business. The Better Business Bureau selected them as featured roofers in a marketing campaign, and according to Gilmore they’ve already done over 80 roofs. But Gilmore is quick to point out that storm repair is just part of their services. Cameo specializes in all exterior remodeling, from roofing and gutters, to siding, windows and doors. “We do free estimates, free hail inspections, and free collateral damage estimates.” They also take bids on roofs throughout Mid-Missouri.

Customer satisfaction is important to Gilmore, so he goes the extra mile, such as carrying Workman’s comp and general liability. “We’re also Better Business Bureau accredited and certified as master shingle applicators,” Gilmore adds. “Overall, we’re just a bunch of honest, clean-cut guys, here to build a base and have a long-lasting business in this area.”

Cameo Construction: Free Inspection & Estimates!

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Introducing Our Interns

By L i ly Dawso n | P h oto s by w hitney hay war d

Whitney Hayward Photography Intern Whitney started with us in May and has moved up the ranks quickly as a photographer for Columbia Home and our sister magazine Columbia Business Times.

When she isn’t snapping photos, she likes catching movies at Ragtag, knitting and baking. As an international studies and photojournalism major at the University of Missouri, she dreams of doing freelance photography that incorporates travel.

Innovative Designs

...by Priya

Alexandra Bronsky Graphic Design Intern St. Louis native Alexandra (or Ally) just graduated last May from MU with a B.F.A. in graphic design. She would love to work for a PR firm in Chicago but really enjoys Columbia.

Her favorite thing to do in town is walk around downtown and eat frozen yogurt. She has a soft spot for animals and even has a pet miniature bunny named Captain.

Maddy Bailey Social Media Intern This Kansas City girl started with Columbia Home in the middle of the summer and has been working her social media chops on our blog and Facebook pages (check out both at columbiahomemagazine.com). She is a strategic communication major at MU with a love for the outdoors. She can envision herself in Chicago, her favorite city, or writing greeting cards for Hallmark.

Madeline Gibbs Editorial Intern Madeline hails from Jefferson City and attends Stephens College. Don’t let this townie fool you though. She has big dreams to travel the world and immerse herself in different cultures. In the meantime, this marketing major will stay relatively close.

She’d love to move to St. Louis or Kansas City after she graduates. A little-known fact about Madeline: She has been a classical pianist for 16 years.

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Inspired by nature, family and a love for all things green, homeowners are making outdoor living spaces just as valuable to homes as the inside.

By L ily Dawson P hotos by A ng el i q ue H u n t e r an d W hitn ey Hay war d Staged by She r ry Hoc kman columbiahomemagazine.com | 21

A Decorator’s Dream A local designer transformed her pool deck into an outside oasis with the help of Kliethermes Homes & Remodeling. She has two distinct spaces that serve different purposes all year long.

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“This fireplace is used all winter long,� says the homeowner. In the cooler months the family moves the sectional seating closer to the fire and hangs drapes around the archways to keep warm.

The remodeling team at Kliethermes spared no expense to get these homeowners exactly what they were wanting.

Mounting their gas grill in stonework both on the upstairs and downstairs patio has turned an eyesore into a matched set.

2. Chameleon Quality The owner of this porch loves to change the look of the area for any occasion. Interior designer, Sherry Hockman suggests purchasing high quality staples to match many different looks, and tying the area together with more design-oriented accents.

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4. Get the look Hockman decorated the space by wrapping glasses in old netting and using large shells as paperweights. Twine around candle bases and terracotta planters also warm up the space for guests.

5 7 5. Tablescape Transformation Choosing neutral colors as bases, Kliethermes’ upstairs outdoor living space design caters to everchanging decorating ideas. This whimsical, summery tablescape involves blue and green glass and patterned placemats and chargers.

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8. Beautiful BackSide

7. DIY Centerpiece Using plastic vases, decorative sticks and Chinese lanterns, Sherry created fun centerpieces for a summer gathering. She affixed the lanterns to the sticks with clear fishing line and then placed the sticks inside the tall vases.

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The large house also features a beautiful pool that has been enjoyed by the family for years. Kliethermes Remodeling created the arches in the back to separate entertaining areas from the pool deck.

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Outdoor Oasis The Sinquefields love their outdoor living space designed by Majestic Homes. The area is equipped with a massive beer cooler, stone fire pit, gas grill, hot tub and space for their growing family to enjoy for years to come.

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2. Durable Decking Majestic Homes listened to all of Randy’s concerns throughout the remodel and provided plenty of recommendations.

CertanTeed decking material was used for its ability to last up to 40 years.

3. Open to Kids One of the most important aspects of the design of the space is the open edges. You will find no railings or other barriers to entry, just steps surrounding the footprint of the deck. Laura and Randy wanted to be able to keep an eye on their kids and friends if they were enjoying time on the patio.

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3 4. Relaxation Station Rost Landscaping installed the 10,000-gallon waterfall and koi pond facing the patio. They put in all of the landscaping and irrigation around the home. “We were just blown away,” Randy says of Rost’s work.

“We think everything looks amazing.”

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The Sinquefields love to entertain.

This space hosts guests weekly and perfectly accommodates large groups of friends. “I absolutely love listening to music, having drinks with friends, watching my son run around in the yard and cooking outside on the grill,” Randy says.

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5 5. Making up for lost time “On a cold night we like to sit around the fire pit and jump into the Jacuzzi to warm up,” Randy says.

Growing up in the Santa Monica mountains, the Sinquefields weren’t allowed to have fires. This led the couple to add a fire pit to their must-haves when moving to the Midwest.

Inspired by Randy’s parents’ house that incorporated tons of natural stone elements, the Sinquefields used weathered fieldstones on the fire pit, grill and entire façade of their home.

8. Green Thing The house itself is a passive solar house. This means that energy to heat and cool the home is collected in a designated area: in the Sinquefields' case, their “green room.” The room stores the energy to be distributed but also serves as a magnificent place to grow plants in a controlled climate. columbiahomemagazine.com | 25

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expert's advice | Anne Tuckley Home

Setting the Stage A glimpse behind the curtain of home staging with Anne Tuckley Home What is home staging? Few would-be buyers can visualize their future home when they are standing in an empty room or surrounded by another person’s personal belongings. The idea of a home stager is to transform rooms into spaces that are difficult to leave. Home staging is the professional art of preparing a private residence for sale. A home stager will make a house more appealing to potential buyers and result in the property selling quicker and for the highest possible price.

Photo by taylor allen

How to select a home stager: The seller of the property should select a home stager based on three important criteria: record of success in selling properties quickly and efficiently; creativity and ability to enhance strong features and eliminate weak points; and, most importantly, a real understanding of the real estate market, preferably gained as a qualified Realtor. Check out stagers’ websites to see examples of their work, talk to real estate agents and ask for references. Find out about specific examples of success, such as homes that have sold quickly for full asking price. If your stager has relationships with other reputable local service providers, that’s even better.

What is involved? Following an initial review of the property, a professional home stager will give you a staging proposal outlining the work required to complete the staging. If the property is vacant, selected pieces of furniture can be provided. If the property is furnished, the available pieces will be placed to enhance the

aesthetic beauty of each room. In some cases the proposal will include recommendations to complete some basic maintenance; in others more comprehensive work might be required, such as painting, replacement of fixtures or removal of drapery. From start to finish, the staging process can usually be completed in four to five days.

What staging is not: It is not just about reorganizing, cleaning and fluffing pillows. It is certainly not redecorating, which is very specific to the needs and tastes of an individual person or family. Not everyone can effectively stage property for sale. There is no right way to stage, for every property has a different statement to make and a unique appeal.

When should I consider staging? Ideally, you should engage with a professional stager as soon as you decide to sell your property. Working with a real estate agent who has access to a proven stager is a great first step. Getting a stager’s input early in the process can give you a significant edge, especially in today’s demanding real estate market.

How about return on investment? Real estate statistics show that properties that have been professionally staged sell within two months versus the national average of more than six months. Price realization is 5 percent to 10 percent higher, and the property is more in demand and not on the market long enough for price erosion to occur. The cost of a full professional staging is usually about the same as a monthly mortgage payment, so when you take into account that your property could sell four months faster than average, the return on investment is almost immediate. columbiahomemagazine.com | 27

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Factory Chic by lily dawson photo s by taylor allen an d Whitney H ay war d Fashion has taken inspiration from the factory floor lately with industrial edginess as evidenced in zippers, hardware and shiny elements. These mechanical looks create a raw and modern feel when placed in home dĂŠcor. Old pipes, rusty metals and tinny finishes characterize the industrial trend. Shop this look in Columbia at Lifestyles, McAdams' Ltd. and I.O. Metro.

Product information (counterclockwise from top left): Wallpaper Samples, Johnston Paint and Decorating; Copper Sculpture, Hockman Interior Design at the Marketplace, $23.50; Propeller Wall Clock, McAdams' Ltd., $149; Vintage Teak Cube, I.O. Metro, $199.95; Small Silver Iron Strip Ball, I.O. Metro, $14.99; Small Rust Jax, I.O. Metro, $49.95; Dancer Candle Holder, The Home Store, $69; Tall Silver Lamp, Lifestyles, $469; Silver Sculpture, Hockman Interior Design at the Marketplace, $63; Tile Samples, Johnston Paint and Decorating. columbiahomemagazine.com | 29

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designer's palette | the Home store

Impressive First Impression Using gold finishes, dark woods and a stunning blend of textures and fabrics, Pat Carl of Home Store selects pieces for a living space fit for welcoming company and comfortable conversations.

By L ily Dawson Photo s by Taylor A llen

Pat Carl of the Home Store has been in the home furnishing business long enough to have a handle on the important aspects of designing a room. She suggests homeowners always start off with a plan. “You don’t want to just accumulate or buy a piece at a time,” she says. “Go in with a plan so you don’t end up at a road block later on.” Carl planned out the furnishings for a stunning living room as a welcoming space for greeting company and a more formal place to entertain. She pictured this room as the primary living room, a place reserved for first impressions and comfortable conversation.

Carl’s process for designing this space is similar to the one she uses for all of her home decorating projects: starting with large items such as paintings and ending with smaller accessories such as lamps and accents. Quality of textures and fabrics must be considered when decorating as well. Durability is key if you have a family. Carl suggests saving the trendy pieces for small accessories that are easy to replace or switch out as tastes change.

She also warns of the fine line between mixing and matching. “It’s too easy to just pick out things that match each other,” Carl says. Use color to add interest to the room in ways that highlight certain features. This palette, for instance, can change a lot by paint color. Shades that work for this space are neutral greens, browns and golds. She even suggests limiting your accessories and using paint to make up for the empty spaces on an accent wall.

This room evokes an upscale feel with gold finishes and dark woods. These paired with whimsical sculptures and plant life warm up the fancy sitting room and create a comfortable spot for guests to gather. Find these items and others to fit your style at the Home Store.

Pat Carl is the owner and designer at the Home Store located at 7700 I-70 Dr. Southeast in Columbia. She has been in the design business for over twenty years.

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dear kate

Life, love, family and more. Your questions answered.

dear kate

, Simply said, I’m unhappy with the state of my person. I am about 30 pounds over my cruising weight and severely out of shape, and I don’t need anyone to tell me that the fact that I don’t exercise and consume the majority of my meals out of wrappers play a role in this. Oh, and I should probably mention I’m a smoker. The past year or so my overall physical health has been weighing heavily on my mind. I have made a number of valiant attempts to stop smoking, eat healthy and exercise daily (sometimes all at once), but each attempt lasts a week at most, and then I return to my old ways with gusto. I am frustrated with myself because I do want to make some changes and feel better, but I don’t know if I have it in me. H.S.

Dear H.S. Sometimes when we decide to make a change, we bite off more than we’re really ready for, and the desired change lasts about 30 minutes. Then we feel like we’ve failed and we’re attempting the impossible, so we resign ourselves to failure and revert to old behaviors while battling feelings of guilt and shame.

Typically, implementing changes such as “I will never eat at another fast food restaurant” (when it is daily fare) or “I will be at the gym seven days a week” (when you haven’t seen the inside of a gym since high school) is setting you up for failure. It’s not that you can’t do these things; it’s that it takes time, planning and practice to make the change.

It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. What can you realistically do? What are you ready to do? It’s more important to take small steps and be successful than gigantic ones and not be able to maintain what you started.

You are squarely in the middle of making a change and have been for a while. Check out Prochaska and DiClemente’s “Stages of Change Theory,” which provides a comprehensive overview of how we humans navigate the change process. It sounds like you are in the preparation/determination stage, which is smack in the middle. This stage is critical to sustainable change; it’s where you lay the groundwork for success.

From what you shared, it sounds like there are several lifestyle changes you want to make. What feels the most pressing and possible to start with? Select an area you feel ready to tackle, and develop a plan for change. Instead of eating fast food daily, make it a twice-a-week treat. Pick some form of exercise you think you would enjoy, and start with 30 minutes, three times a week. Build off the initial changes you make until you reach the goals you have set for yourself.

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dear kate,

My husband and I are in continual disagreement over finances and have been since we married. He frequently makes big purchases that I don’t feel we can afford and are more for his pleasure than the family as a whole. There have been several times he has mentioned purchasing something and I have asked him not to, and he eventually does it anyway — and we are not talking about a new pair of golf shoes. I manage the household finances and am fully aware of our financial situation, but when I attempt to bring it to his attention, he brushes it off. We both work full time, but he makes about 30 percent more than I do. Part of me feels guilty for my frustration because he does make more, so perhaps he should be able to spend more. I’m frankly sick of the argument and the frustration. Any suggestions? D.N. Dear D.N. When it comes to finances, taking care of your family’s needs is priority, but maintaining some autonomy is pretty important, too. It’s important for both you and your husband to spend money on things that are important to you without bearing guilt or resentment.

It sounds like there is one lump account you and your husband work from, so you witness every transaction, whether it’s made with your blessing or not. Have you considered maintaining a joint account for home and family matters and creating personal accounts for you and your husband?

Determine your monthly household expenses and figure what percentage of your combined income it will take to cover this. Both of you then contribute an equal percentage to the family account, and the remainder is deposited into individual checking accounts. Or alternatively, continue to deposit both salaries into a joint account and agree on a monthly personal allowance for each of you to spend as you please. Draw this out at the start of the month and spend at will.

Whatever you do, ensure it’s fair to both you and your husband. You are a team, and despite the difference in pay, you both work full time in your careers as well as at home.

Have a question for Kate?

Email kate.smart@gmail.com

Kate Smart Harrison holds a B.A. in psychology from Loyola University, New Orleans and a master’s degree in social work from the University of Missouri.

Kate also attended a graduate program in Austria for peace studies and conflict transformation.

Disclaimer: The advice provided in this column is for general informational and educational purposes only; it is not offered as, and does not constitute, a therapeutic relationship or psychotherapeutic advice. None of the information presented is intended as a substitute for professional consultation by a qualified practitioner.

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shopkeeper's story | mcadams' ltd.

The Business of Memories

For Rebecca Fahrendorf and Charlie Graznak, the mother-daughter duo behind McAdams’ Ltd., old-fashioned customer service and a strong work ethic are guiding forces behind their success.

By Molly Wright

Discovering a passion When Fahrendorf landed a job with Buchroeder’s in 1972, she was pretty excited, and she started taking jewelry classes from the Gemology Institute of America. “I have my certification to grade and evaluate diamonds and colored gemstones and appraise jewelry,” she says.

It was also during her six years with Buchroeder’s that Fahrendorf gave birth to her three children: twins Charlene May (Charlie) and Elizabeth (Liz) in 1976 and Sarah, born 13 months later in 1977.

Fahrendorf remembers how hard those days were, especially when her husband left not long after Sarah was born. “I could not have raised my children without my parents,” she says, who made it possible for her to keep working.

In 1978 Fahrendorf, looking for a change, answered a classified ad for the store manager position at McAdams’ Ltd. Phillip McAdams had opened the store just three years earlier and, like Fahrendorf, discovered his passion for antiques from his mother, who ran an antique store out of her home in Moberly. Fahrendorf’s jewelry expertise and McAdams’ knowledge of antiques made them a good team, and soon 34 | august/september 2012

they were buying more merchandise. They also began knocking down walls and expanding the floor space in the old building, which had once served as a feed store. And they became good friends.

As McAdams’ Ltd. grew, so did Fahrendorf’s children, and over time she began introducing them to the antique business in much the same way her own mother had introduced her. However, according to Fahrendorf, her children weren’t quite so excited to learn about old things. “They would say, 'Oh, not another antique store, not another museum,’” she says.

Fahrendorf’s children did enjoy spending time with her parents, and soon the three girls were helping out at their grandfather’s businesses. Graznak remembers working alongside her grandfather at Ernie’s and carrying firewood when he started a firewood delivery business. “We delivered firewood when we were so little we could only carry one piece at a time,” she says. Although her grandfather passed away in 2011, Graznak says he left a lasting impression on her. “For me, I can’t really imagine leisure time.”

Changing hands In 1989, Fahrendorf suffered a blow when McAdams died suddenly at age 40. "He was a good, kind, gentle person, and he had a passion

“You really need to care for every single person who comes in. You develop not just customers but friends.” — Rebecca Fahrendorf

photos by taylor allen

Whoever coined the phrase “A woman’s work is never done,” it undoubtedly applies to Rebecca Fahrendorf and her daughter Charlie Graznak. As owner and general manager of McAdams’ Ltd., respectively, Fahrendorf and Graznak are workaholics. For them, arriving early and staying late at the long white building on the corner of Providence and Broadway is routine, and they often see customers long after the closed sign should have been flipped over. But for this dynamic duo who truly love what they do, working is never a chore.

It’s a joy, a privilege and a long-standing family tradition of which they are proud.

Born in Columbia to Betty June and Wayne Gladney, Fahrendorf learned to appreciate hard work at an early age by watching her father. Gladney, who grew up on a dairy farm, owned and managed several restaurants in Columbia, including the popular Ernie’s Café and Steak House on Walnut Street. As children, Fahrendorf and her sister, Suzanne, were encouraged to work. “It was pretty mandatory,” she says. In fact, her first job was at Osco Drugs, which used to be across the street from McAdams’. But she credits her love of jewelry and antiques to her mother. “My mother always liked to go to auctions when I was a kid, so I’ve always thought it was interesting.”

McAdams’ Ltd. 32 S. Providence Road, 573-442-3151 Hours: Monday-Saturday, 10 a.m. to 5 p.m.

FAR LEFT, LEFT: McAdams’ Ltd.’s diverse offerings include beautiful and distinctive jewelry, antique furniture and accessories and the largest selection of sock monkeys in Columbia. ABOVE: Certified to grade and evaluate diamonds and color gemstones and to appraise jewelry, McAdams’ owner Rebecca Fahrendorf believes in a strong work ethic and old-fashioned customer service. “It’s not just about one sale,” she says. “It’s ongoing; it’s about a lifetime.”

for placing the right object with the right person,” she says. Following McAdams’ passing, Fahrendorf bought the store.

A shared philosophy Along with a strong work ethic, Fahrendorf and Graznak also share

Graznak began providing seasonal help at McAdams’ Ltd. when

the same philosophy about treating customers. “You really need to

she was in high school. After graduation in 1994, however, she went

care for every single person who comes in,” Fahrendorf says. “You de-

to college to get her teaching degree. It wasn’t long before she decided

velop not just customers but friends. We know our customers, what

teaching was not her forte. She returned to Columbia a year later and

they like. It’s not just about one sale. It’s ongoing; it’s about a lifetime.”

began working at McAdams’ on a regular basis and quickly became a favorite among the customers. “You are your mother’s daughter,” Graznak says they would tell her. “And they’d let me help them.”

Graznak agrees: “I care about the people I work with, and I think they can feel that.”

Fahrendorf and Graznak also believe in old-fashioned customer

In 2002, Fahrendorf sold the store to Chet Breitwieser but stayed on

service. They have a layaway plan, and they also allow customers

to manage for the next five years. When he decided to sell in 2007, he

to take things home and try them out before purchasing. Longtime

asked her if she would like to buy it back. Although she was excited

customers are greeted by name when they enter the store, and all

at the prospect, she said she should probably ask her husband first.

customers are offered refreshments. Fahrendorf says it’s not un-

Fahrendorf says his response was, “You don’t work down there any

common to have a group of women seated in the store while sip-

less than when you owned it, so what’s the difference?”

ping tea or wine and enjoying a snack. “We have men who come in

Today, Fahrendorf and Graznak thoroughly enjoy their working re-

and sit down and drink a beer,” Graznak says.

lationship and appreciate what the other brings to the business. “I

Fahrendorf sums it up: “We’re customer-serviced based. Caring

don’t know very many business owners like her who work every day that we’re open,” Graznak says. “She puts one dollar in all the piggy

about making somebody’s experience memorable is the key.”

Fahrendorf and Graznak are proud of McAdams’ Ltd. “McAdams

banks, and all the money clips in the men’s section have dollars in

has made so many memories for so many people,” Graznak says.

them. Not one dollar has disappeared.”

With three rooms filled with everything from beautiful and dis-

Graznak also says she admires her mother’s knowledge of the in-

tinctive jewelry, antique furniture and accessories to stained-glass

dustry. “If you could just be a fly on the wall, it’s fascinating to hear

windows, oriental masks and the largest selection of sock mon-

what comes out of her mouth,” she says.

keys in Columbia, every shopping experience at McAdams’ Ltd.

Although flattered, Fahrendorf admits she will never know every-

is unique. And true to their nature, neither mother nor daughter

thing. “You could study oriental rugs, for instance, for your entire

plans to retire anytime soon. “When they carry me out feet first

life and not become an expert.” But Fahrendorf also appreciates her

in a box, I'll leave,” Fahrendorf says with a smile. “That’s why I’m

daughter’s role at McAdams’. “Many people say she has brought a

so fortunate that Charlie has a passion for this business and this

new freshness to the store. She looks at things with different eyes

store. She’s going to have to put me in a rocking chair in the corner

than I do.”

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Photo by taylor allen • Jina photo by Kayse Loyd

the dish | Jina Yoo's

Bacon-Wrapped Dates

Jina Yoo is the head chef at Jina Yoo’s Asian Bistro, located at 2200 Forum Blvd., No. 108 in Columbia

Jina Yoo is known in Columbia for her inventive and delicious Asian dishes served at her namesake restaurant in south Columbia. This summer, however, Yoo is serving up inspired tapas plates from her food travels around the world. Every Friday from 5-6:30 p.m., you can try her weekly menu of these small bites at the bar at Jina Yoo’s Asian Bistro. Here is one dish you may be lucky enough to sample during this special dining experience.

ingredients • 10 pitted dates • 10 slices of bacon • 4 ounces Spanish blue cheese • 20 Marcona almonds • 10 toothpicks preparation 1. Preheat oven to 375 degrees F. 2. Fill the date with 2 almonds and 1 teaspoon of blue cheese.

3. Wrap bacon around the dates and secure with a toothpick.

4. Place on baking sheet and bake 15 minutes.

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Peach Homemade

by L ily Dawson Photo s by Emily Southerl an d

Homemade jam makes a great gift for friends and neighbors and a wonderful winter treat after an abundant peach season.

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What you need: Jars Peaches Lemon juice Sugar Box of pectin

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Remarkably high June and July temperatures caused many fruit and vegetable crops to fail.

Peaches, however, fared well as the heat wave made them juicier and sweeter than ever.

Savor these summer peaches year-round by making a big batch of peach jam and storing it for the colder months to come. Emily Southerland, our resident Martha Stewart, shares her tips and tricks for tasty peach jam.

Directions: 1. Start by boiling your peaches and follow the instructions tucked into the pectin box.

2. Warm the jars (lids off) in hot water so they’ll be more ready for the hot jam to pour into them eventually.

3. The boiling water and hot peaches get dumped into a cold bath of water. This makes the peaches super easy to peel, cut and pit.

4. Peel and blend the peaches. Add lemon juice, pectin and sugar, according to your proportions.

5. Boil the pureed, blended fruit mixture. Keep stirring until rolling boil. Once it boils, pour jam into the warm, dried jars.

6. Turn the hot, lidded jam upside down to heat-seal.

7. Store jam in a cool, dark place up to a full year.

Idea:

Print your own labels, and place on the lid with a ribbon for gifting.

Emily Southerland is a professional photographer, mother of two and homemaker extraordinaire. When she isn’t crafting up fun projects and gourmet treats, you can find her blogging about her daily musings at emilys-little-world.blogspot.com. columbiahomemagazine.com | 41

mommy chronicles | Apparently, I do not know Jack

Apparently, je ne sais pas Jacques.

By Jill O rr Well, French women, you have done it

day — with a restrained, casual elegance

again. As if it isn’t enough that you stay

that smacks of confidence at its best, indif-

slim while eating cheese-filled puff pas-

ference at its worst.

three daily mealtimes and one 4 p.m. snack.

• While American children collapse into

try and you can pull off short fringe bangs,

Here are some of the differences Druck-

tears at the slightest disappointment,

now, according to Pamela Druckerman,

erman saw between American mothers and

French children rarely throw tantrums or

you’ve bested us Americans at mothering

French mothers during the years she spent

as well.

raising her kids in Paris:

even whine.

• And my personal favorite: French moth-

In the book Bringing Up Bebe, American

• While we Americans orbit around our

ers do not carry around the heart-stop-

journalist Pamela Druckerman makes the

kids and rush in every time Junior needs

ping, soul-crushing guilt that American

case that French women enjoy parenting

anything, French women set firm bound-

mothers do when we — gasp — do some-

more than American women do. This is

aries but provide kids great autonomy

thing for ourselves that has nothing to do

not to say that French mothers love their

within those boundaries.

with our kids.

kids any more than we do but rather that

• While we construct elaborate play dates

I’m not saying I buy all of it, but Drucker-

they find the task of parenting to be more

and suffer through afternoons at places

man’s hypothesis is intriguing. In her essay

pleasurable and less stressful than most

such as Chuck E Cheese’s or Pump it Up!,

in the Wall Street Journal, she outlines some

American women. Druckerman contends

French women sip coffee and chat at

of the key points her book explores in more

that the image of the harried mom so com-

home or in the park while the kids play.

detail. The one that caught my attention

mon in America doesn’t exist in France.

By themselves.

most was the idea of delayed gratification

Apparently, French mothers parent the

• While we kill ourselves trying to navigate

and how ingraining the simple ability to

same way they smoke in public, handle

the desires of our picky eaters, French

wait can produce children who do not inter-

marital indiscretions or drink wine mid-

kids eat what they are served during the

rupt, whine, nag, kvetch or otherwise pester parents the instant their needs are not met.

This is a problem in my house. My oh-sovery American children have to be reminded on a daily basis not to interrupt when I’m talking. At dinner, sometimes it’s hard for my husband and me to have a conversation consisting of more than two consecutive sentences without one kid or another popping off on some unrelated note. Their non sequiturs seem to scream: “Hey! Did you forget about me? How dare you discuss something that doesn’t relate to me!” It drives us nuts, and we always respond with some sort of impotent admonishment that is promptly forgotten and/or ignored.

So what’s the secret to French women’s ability to not only teach their kids patience but also teach it so the kids actually learn it?

According to Druckerman, you have to mean it. Like, really mean it. When you lay down the law, you have believe to your core that the limit you are setting is the actual limit. Not the “If you do that one more time…” limit. But the actual End. Of. The. Road. If you deem a behavior unacceptable, it must be unacceptable the same way it would be unacceptable for your 5-yearold to drive a car or crack open that bottle of cabernet. In other words, it is not just

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Something about the way mothers deliver this line — their conviction, their certainty, their fortitude — conveys to children that it really is pas possible. … I’ll admit, I fantasize about having that kind of authority. something you frown upon; it is something that is not possible.

Druckerman says that French mothers divide things into two camps: possible and pas possible.

When a kid wants to eat a brownie at 9 a.m. in America, a mom might respond with a reasonable, rational, five-minute discussion about how “We don’t eat sweets at 9 a.m. because it isn’t good for your belly. We eat healthy things like eggs and toast and soy milk.” In France, the answer is, “Ce n’est pas possible.” (It is not possible.)

That’s it. End of story. And something about the way mothers deliver this line — their conviction, their certainty, their fortitude — conveys to children that it really is pas possible. In other words: “No means no. And don’t ask again.” I’ll admit, I fantasize about having that kind of authority.

But here in America, we have our own way of doing things. Maybe it doesn’t lead to quiet dinners out or leisurely afternoons spent sipping coffee with friends, but I like to think it leads to kids who have spunk, if nothing else. Besides, Americans look downright French when you compare us to the Chinese tiger mothers, right?

Maybe the takeaway here is that there are thousands of ways to screw up parenting your kids, and you just have to find the way that works best for you. For me, any parenting model that involves more puff pastry is worth a second look.

Jill Orr is a stay-at-home mom of two (an odd title because she is rarely ever at home). In her pre-Mommy days, she graduated from the University of Missouri with an undergraduate degree in journalism and a master's in social work, with an emphasis on children and family studies. But she wishes she would have gotten a Ph.D. in What's For Dinner and How to Get Bubblegum Out of the Carpet. That would have served her better. Read her blog at jillsorr.com.

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travel | Oregon Wine Country

King Estate Winery

Sweet Oregon Berry Co. White Rose Winery Fino in Fondo

Vacation Getaway

Oregon Wine Country Only 30 minutes outside of Portland, the Willamette Valley boasts some of the best pinot varietals in the world. by l i ly daws on | Photo s by G ilbert Marlowe White Rose Winery Located on a bluff overlooking neighbors Domaine Drouhin and Domaine Serene wineries, White Rose Winery stands out as an award-winning niche manufacturer of pinot noirs. Head winemaker Jesus Guillen is often in the tasting room to answer guest questions.

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Sweet Oregon Berry Co. Located in the heart of wine country, this fruit and vegetable store serves as a great pick-me-up in the middle of a day of wine tastings. Try the raspberry hand pies, or snack on a pint of strawberries as you meander through the open-air produce stand and winery.

King Estate Winery Known worldwide for its pinot gris varietal, King Estate is a completely organic and sustainable winery that also contains a restaurant serving housemade charcuterie and small plates. King Estate is located in Eugene, Ore., near the University of Oregon.

Fino in Fondo Italian salumi is celebrated in the Wilamette Valley as a perfect complement to light white and red wines. Fino in Fondo welcomes guests with large glass windows into the meat-aging rooms and plenty of crackers, snacks and pickled veggies to pair with sausages.

Pacific City Beach

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Pacific City Beach Unlike most beach cities in the U.S., Pacific City Beach allows cars to drive oceanside on its beaches. The beach is located just a couple of hours from wine country and hosts a must-stop brewery, Pelican Pub & Brewery, overlooking the water.

Red Hills Market

The Allison Inn & Spa Just opened in 2009, the Allison Inn & Spa is surrounded by vineyards, orchards and farmland. This boutique hotel is LEED certified and prides itself on this “green seal.”

Its restaurant, Jory, serves up farmfresh dishes in a state-of-the-art dining room.

Red Hills Market In Dundee, Ore., you can find a handful of shops and restaurants on the way to your next wine tasting.

Red Hills Market offers inventive sandwiches, salads and packaged foods to take on your way. Find great souvenirs for the whole family in its cubby-holed gift areas.

La Rambla

La Rambla In McMinnville’s bustling downtown, great restaurants are easy to come by. La Rambla is one of the standouts.

Serving up delicious Spanish tapas, the first-rate service and ambience transport you from the U.S. to northwest Spain. columbiahomemagazine.com | 45

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Chim Duncan Pramuan "Chim" Duncan, owner of Chim's Thai Kitchen, has been feeding people for most of her 60 years, but when she talks about her Columbia-area restaurants, her eyes still glow like a young girl's.

Chim grew up in Khon Kaen, Thailand, known for its fine silk, great university and pungent food. As a young girl, she learned to cook in the open air; she managed four or five pans at once and sold her dishes to customers on the street. Although her father, a businessman, wanted her to go to college, she was drawn to cooking, which she continued to do until she was running a large restaurant in Thailand.

"Little by little I move up," she says. It's a philosophy that has served her well in the United States. Since she started her Thai Kitchen at Cooper's Landing 11 years ago, Chim has been involved in seven restaurants throughout the state. She has weathered the ups and downs of forging a family business, buying everything second hand, working through the night and facing defeat when things didn't pan out. Today she owns and operates her Thai Kitchen at three locations: at Cooper's Landing, at 3907 Peachtree Drive in southwest Columbia and at 10th and Ash streets downtown.

To a casual observer, it might be hard to see where the restaurants end and the family begins. Her son, Jay, manages the downtown location; her daughter, Boo, runs the Peachtree restaurant; and she works at Cooper's Landing while overseeing all three. Chim works every day, travels only for business and says she treats everyone who works for her like family.

On a sizzling afternoon in June, she cooked

alongside two employees in the small trailer at Cooper's Landing without breaking a sweat.

"Some customers say they can tell who cooks their meal," she says, explaining that the taste and fragrance of a dish can vary depending on technique, timing and order.

These things are just as important to her cooking as the ingredients, she says. "I can tell you, but after food comes out, not same."

Like many immigrants, Chim's work ethic is rooted in a desire to create a better life for her children and grandchildren. Along the way she has embraced many of the other people who have come into her life. Earlier this year, the landlords of her downtown location showed confidence in her business abilities by cutting her a deal. It was a welcome surprise after years of sacrifice, and it brought her to tears.

As for her customers, it's easy to see why they keep coming back. "People come far for my food," she says. "So I never say, ‘No.’" columbiahomemagazine.com | 49

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Stephanie Hall Stephanie Hall gazes at the walls of her latest venture and says, "I think that's how the inside of my brain looks." The Canvas on Broadway, the downtown business she and partner Angie Bennett opened last spring, is a riot of color and bold strokes of paint. In the spirit of its owners, the main objective is to have fun.

The Canvas is where Stephanie goes after a day of designing kitchens at Mark Hall Cabinetry, a business she owns with her husband. She might also stop by after a committee meeting for the Home Builders Association. Or between baseball, cheerleading, dance or soccer practice. On weekends, her family drops in as well. In fact, the place seems more home-away-from-home than workplace.

The rooms are furnished to entertain the kids, and Friday night classes have been known to run into the wee hours.

The concept was hatched when Stephanie and Angie, who also own a custom picture frame company together, were looking for a way to make the creative process more social. After some brainstorming and a few trials, the business was born, and in the process it released a personal roadblock for Stephanie.

“I didn't paint because I would think I had to produce a masterpiece,” she says. “But to get this business going, I had to produce. So I just did it, and the pressure was gone.”

Now she and Angie want to spread the love — and fun — with classes that guide participants of all levels through the process of making a painting. With the premise of the project on display, they walk each class through the steps required to complete a painting. Options include embellishing at will and refreshments: beer, wine, sodas or champagne.

“It's art for everyone,” Stephanie says. “People generally leave here and say, ‘I had a great time.’ If you hate it when you're done, who cares? You had fun while you were doing it.”

Back in college, Stephanie studied fine art with an emphasis on painting. She says she has immense respect for anyone who paints for a living.

But The Canvas, which she lovingly refers to as a “paint bar,” is more about the painter than the product.

“All of us could use a little art to take the pressure off,” she says, with a smile that rarely leaves her face. “It's therapeutic, releases tension, and for a couple hours you don't think about anything else.” columbiahomemagazine.com | 51

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Jennie Belzer Jennie Belzer and her husband, Joe, never really had a number. Instead, when they looked around the dining room table, it seemed like someone was missing. Then Gracie arrived.

"We are done," Jennie says. "We're not going for a world record. Now our table is full." The Belzers have 12 children, ranging from Gracie, now 2, to Josiah, 22. Jennie gave birth to each of them, and at some point all have been homeschooled.

"I've chosen home-schooling because I wanted to give my children the gift of childhood,� Jennie says. “Childhood is playing in the yard or making a tent in the basement." She says that home-schooling allows her to pass on her values as well as her passion for lifelong learning.

When Jennie was in high school, a guidance counselor recognized this passion and recommended her for the Missouri Scholar's Academy, a summer program for gifted high school students. MSA fueled her confidence and later helped her earn a full ride to the University of Missouri.

Jennie met Joe during a mission trip to Thailand and Burma, and they were married while she was in college. Joe has worked in ministry at Truman State and in Fort Meyers, Fla., and is now campus minister at the Christian Campus House. If making ends meet on one salary has been a challenge, it seems only to have strengthened Jennie's resolve.

"Resourcefulness is probably one of my stronger points," she says. "We drive old cars. We don't have big TVs. We don't have smartphones. We do without some things."

Aside from a mortgage, they have no debt.

Jennie seems genuinely amazed by this and believes her faith has played a role.

A year ago, the Belzers were driving their 12-passenger van when they were hit by an uninsured driver. A family from their congregation responded with a gift of $10,000 for a new vehicle. "It's humbling," Jennie says. "It taught us to be generous with what we have as well."

Of course large families are nothing if not organized, and Jennie runs a tight ship. The family rises around 7 a.m. for morning chores. Even Corrie, 3, is learning to put away the silverware.

The older kids get themselves off to school, and the day's lessons begin at home. Afternoons include independent reading, appointments (going to the dentist requires blocking off most of the afternoon) and limitless loads of laundry.

"I think that everyone is busy in their own way," she says. "I deeply believe we make time for what we really love to do — what we value."

For Jennie, it means finding slivers of time to read a book, listen to a podcast while folding laundry and gather with her family for their evening meal around the table. columbiahomemagazine.com | 53

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Robin Hubble One day this summer, Robin Hubble lost her purse. Everything inside had to be replaced, and at first she was devastated. Then she went back to work.

Robin is a collaborative nurse for Missouri Cancer Associates. During any given day, she witnesses the arc of life: the joy and gratitude when a patient survives a serious condition and the terrible sorrow when a patient doesn’t.

“I realized I wasn't going through anything like what my patients go through,” she says. “A purse is only a material object. We need to keep things in perspective to deal with the everyday stressors of our job.”

Growing up on a farm helped lay the foundation for Robin's nursing career. Farm life gave her a daily understanding that a job needed to be done no matter what and that everyone worked toward a common goal. It might have also sown the seeds for her tendency to overachieve.

Robin went to college year-round with dual majors in education and nursing. After a stint of student teaching, she had an "aha" moment. It was spring, and a trailer full of fifth-graders with blossoming hormones made her realize this wasn't something she could do for the rest of her working life. In the fall, she registered for nursing exclusively at MU. “With a nursing degree, you can do so many different things,” she says. “You never get stagnant in your career.” Before coming to Missouri Cancer Associates, Robin had worked as a floor nurse in mental health, in workers comp, in home health and in case management of high-risk pediatrics.

“It really helps our practice so much because I've touched on the process in so many ways,” she says.

“I've hit all the big players.”

A few years ago, she and her boss, Dr. Joe Muscato, were both living with the cancer diagnosis of a loved one. Robin’s father had developed cancer of the tongue, and Dr. Muscato's wife had been diagnosed with breast cancer.

“No one's ever prepared when it happens to them,” she says. Changing hats from family member to health care professional was difficult, but she says she believes that in the end it, too, became a valuable experience.

Robin's family life is rooted in Sturgeon, Mo., where she and her husband, Kenny, grew up. Although they now live in Columbia, they still attend church there, and their son, Landon, has been able to grow up with his cousins.

“Family time is priceless,” she says. “It can never be replaced. Without that support, it's hard to be happy in your professional life.” columbiahomemagazine.com | 55

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Tammie Pryor Tammie Pryor would rather be cooking than just about anything. It’s a love she’s carried with her nearly all her life, and today it’s also her livelihood. In April 2000 she opened Tammie’s Covenant Kitchen, a catering business that specializes in home-style cooking for area businesses and organizations. Her specialties include pulled pork, smothered chicken and the best mashed potatoes in town.

She remembers watching her mother cooking for her 12 children. “It was amazing how she brought all this food to the table hot,” she says. “It never left my heart. Momma didn’t have much, but I never remember a hungry day. The way we lived, it shouldn’t have been that way.”

Tammie’s mother taught her how to stretch her money by purchasing canned and frozen foods first so there would always be enough for a meal. Now that she’s in business, her commitment to economy and careful planning serve her well.

“I love going to the store,” she says, explaining that she shops all over town for the best deals. “I talk to everyone — everyone knows me. When you get a good relationship with someone, it does your heart good.”

Linda Moss, her longtime best friend, never doubted that Tammie’s dream of owning and operating a catering company would come true. She credits her success to determination, the love she gives to people and her relationship with God. Tammie sees her cooking as a ministry and always makes a little extra so that no one goes home hungry. An elder at United Com-

munity Cathedral, she also provides meals at her church twice a month. She takes great pleasure in seeing people enjoy her food and says that even if she didn’t have to make a living, she’d probably teach others about cooking.

“I want to serve with love and joy,” she says.

“I love serving the last shift as well as the first shift. Most of the people who work for me have got to like me and love what I do. Then it’s coming real.”

She expresses gratitude for all of the people who have supported her business and continue to believe in her. Her brother Fred appreciates the long road she’s traveled and often tells her: “If Momma could see you now, she’d be so proud. Come from nothin’, and now you’re somethin’ — and you don’t mind sharing.”

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Robin Pingeton Several nights a week Robin Pingeton finds herself tucked away in the quiet of her office, far from the rhythmic stomp of a ball or the whistle of pivoting sneakers. As head coach of women's basketball at MU, she has discovered that late nights can be a good thing.

“It's amazing how much you can get done without the phone ringing,” she says of returning to the office after her two young boys have gone to bed. “It's just not a 9-to-5 job. There's always one more letter or email to write, phone call to make or DVD to watch.”

Robin was hired in April 2010 to rebuild the MU program. She knew she would be recruiting kids from many different backgrounds and that she needed to create a culture of trust and respect. What drives her, she says, is the opportunity to impact young people's lives so they can be successful.

“I believe this is a place where we can win a national championship,” she says. “But it's a marathon, not a sprint. We built a program before, and those first few years you put in just crazy hours.”

Before arriving at MU, Robin spent seven years as head coach at Illinois State, where she led the Redbirds to their best three-year record in history. Her staff followed her here, and later she hired Michael Porter, her brother-in-law, as director of basketball operations.

“I have a great staff that's been with me for nine years now, and they're some of my closest friends,” she says. “When you're surrounded by people who have been there before, who are very loyal and driven, it makes it easier.”

Perhaps her greatest support comes from her husband, Rich Pingeton, and his dedication to their family. Rich, who achieved success in the transportation industry and also in sports marketing, can appreciate Robin's passion for her job. Knowing the long hours, travel and pressures of taking over a program, he decided it was her turn to shine.

“He was very successful, but we had to decide whose career to follow,” she says. “I absolutely love what I do and wouldn't trade being a wife, mom and coach for anything in the world.” The roles seem to work symbiotically for Robin. She's discovered that being a mother has made her a better coach and that her family life has helped her focus on priorities.

Modeling this delicate balance for the players can't hurt either. “Our responsibility is to prepare our players to be successful in life,” Robin says. “Sooner or later, that ball is going to stop bouncing.” columbiahomemagazine.com | 59

Angie Azzanni It was the winter of 2003 when life changed for Angie Azzanni. She had been a student in Columbia for six years while working on her bachelor's and master's degrees before she ventured into parts of the community that can be invisible to white, middle-class students. There she discovered a whole new world — on the other side of town and within herself.

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refuge from the outside world. Immediately, children came over and sat on Angie's lap, and she was overcome with a sense of connection and love.

"God had placed in my heart this passion for these kids that I never knew I had until that first day," she says. "These are some of the most amazing people I've ever met. I'm in awe of how hardworking, dedicated and persistent the moms are — and you see that in their children. There's a peace about them."

Inspired, she called Pam Ingram, founder and volunteer director of Granny's House, and arranged an internship. She logged 400 hours that semester, an intensity that seemed only to increase her passion. By July 2004 Angie had managed to raise money for her salary and began working full time as program coordinator. She had found her calling.

As is often the case with a labor of love, Angie's work and personal life have become virtually one in the same. Her schedule varies

from day to day, with lots of late nights and weekends. Much of her time is spent in the car, shuttling kids to everything from football to job interviews, and she has learned the value of a captive audience.

"My favorite times with the kids are in the car," she says. "Teenagers open up and can talk about pretty deep things. For someone to let you into their life — especially teenagers — is a real privilege."

Angie recalls the time she gave a ride to some of the boys enrolled at Granny's House very late at night. Their language and the topics they had chosen weren't "the greatest," she says, and a kid who had joined them was using a lot of curse words. One of the boys shut off the radio, turned to the back seat and told him, “You don't say that in this car.”

After countless hours of quiet guidance, the moment must have been music to Angie's ears.

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the beginning, she’s been there for us. She’s provided the

soft shoulder we’ve needed to cry on and strong arms to hold us tight.

She’s also been our strongest supporter in everything we do, even as she wrings her hands with worry. And though she’s normally the last one to sit down at the table, she’s the first person we call, regardless of the news. Mom. Even the word sounds warm and comforting.

At Columbia Home we love moms, which is why we created the Magnificent Mom contest and asked you to tell us why your mom should win. It was hard choosing just 10 because every mom deserves to wear the crown, but here are the winners we selected from all the touching submissions.

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Deb Duren

According to Kerri Burrows, her mother, Deb Duren, is not just a Magnificent Mom; she’s the best mom ever. “She keeps her mouth shut and lets us make mistakes so we can figure out how to solve them on our own,” Burrows says. In addition, Duren is adept at everything from fishing and gardening to operating a stick-shift car, and she has worked hard to pass these skills along to her two daughters. Duren also enjoys taking care of her family, Burrows says, whether that means traveling to Alaska for Christmas to keep her daughter and her husband company or making sure she has enough games and snacks to last a long car ride when she takes her grandchildren on vacations to the beach. For Burrows, her mother is the person who makes life special for the whole family.

Susan Bear

Born and raised in Columbia, Susan Bear has worked as a registered dental hygienist for seven years, but two years ago she put her job and life on hold when her daughter, Theresa, was born prematurely. At only 2 pounds, 5.3 ounces, Theresa was immediately moved to the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit at St. Louis Children’s Hospital. It was a stressful time for everyone, says husband Matt, who nominated Susan for Magnificent Mom, but especially tough for Susan when a month later Theresa had to undergo surgery on her aorta. Instead of falling apart, however, Susan kept a vigil at her daughter’s side for 10 weeks. “Seven of those 10 weeks were spent living out of her in-laws’ home,” Matt says. For Matt, Susan is a marvelous mom for all her love and dedication to their daughter.

Melanie Bowers

Depending on the season, when Melanie Bowers, a psychological examiner for Columbia Public Schools, comes home at the end of the day, she still has baseball, basketball, soccer or football practices or games to attend. As a mother of four — Brant, 9; Brady, 7; Megan, 4; and Mallory, 2 — her free time is often nonexistent. According to her husband, Kyle, even the little free time she has is often spent volunteering with the Millcreek PTA or helping plan events for the Mizzou Tiger Quarterback Club. “She always puts herself last in everything she does,” he says. “There could never be a better mom.” Her whole family nominated her for the most Magnificent Mom in Columbia.

Linda Vandepopuliere

Anastasia Pottinger thinks magnificent is a good term but super mom is better for her partner, Linda Vandepopuliere. When their 7-year-old son, Isaac, was diagnosed with multiple mental and emotional health problems last year, Vandepopuliere held the family together. Now, she makes sure all Isaac’s needs are met while ensuring older brother Joseph, 12, receives the attention he needs as well. She supplies healthy foods and good books for everyone and has learned to play Wii games. According to Pottinger, she doesn’t even mind playing in the dirt.

“Even when I know she's tired and would rather just take some time out for herself, she goes out to play with the boys,” Pottinger says. “And she always has a smile on her face.”

Sally Blakemore

A learning and development analyst for State Farm, Sally Blakemore has three children: Brayden, 13; Lauren, 8; and Meredith, 6. Along with being involved with their activities, Blakemore participates in her church and is completing a college degree. But according to co-worker and friend Louesa Runge Fine, who nominated Blakemore, “Sally balances all of her commitments beautifully.” She teaches her children to appreciate and respect everyone and to not be judgmental. She also encourages them to focus on what they can do rather than what they can’t. “I am so impressed by the way she responds to her children and how she’s developing their characters and personal value systems,” Fine says.

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Christy Stretz

For Sidney, 21; Harrison, 18; and Piper, 16, their mom, Christy Stretz, is by far Columbia’s most Magnificent Mom. Although she’s busy as the membership coordinator for the Association of Health Care Journalists at MU, Christy always approaches life with a positive outlook. In the past two years, she has faced some serious health issues, resulting in a gastric bypass. She lost more than 200 pounds and inspired the rest of the family to become healthier. Not long after the surgery, however, Christy was diagnosed with lymphoma. “Only once have I seen my mother stay in bed past 8 a.m., and it was on the day of her diagnosis,” Sydney says. But the next morning, Christy got up and said she would fight the disease for her children. Sydney and her siblings are proud of their mother and thrilled she is cancer free.

Sarah Renteria

In May 2009, when daughter Isabelle was born, Jason Renteria and his wife, Sarah, felt very blessed. But three days later when Isabelle suffered a stroke, their lives fell apart. “At first we were told that she would probably be blind,” Jason says. Refusing to accept the prognosis, Sarah immediately began searching for information to help her daughter. “With the help and faith Sarah has provided for our daughter, Isa now has almost all of her sight back,” Jason says. “In fact, when most people see her, they don't even know she doesn't have full use of her sight.”

In November of 2010, Sarah gave birth to their son, Dominic. Now as a mother of two with a full-time job at Veterans United Home Loans, Sarah also takes care of Isa’s therapies, provides nightly craft times with the kids and even runs a small cake business.

Susanna Kettlewell

“There has never been a day my mom has not been there for me,” says Jenny Kettlewell about her mother, Susanna. According to Jenny, her mom is also the most selfless and supportive person she knows. Jenny, 21, and her sister, Mary, 18, feel they can talk to their mother about anything without fear of judgment and can count on her no matter what. Susanna’s husband, Ted, agrees. “She is in many ways the girls’ best friend,” he says, adding that she has always attended their performances or activities and welcomed their friends into their home. “It was very common for us to have 50 to 70 kids at the house from dinner until midnight,” Jenny says.

“I feel privileged to have been blessed in life with such a caretaker.”

Karen Bentley

Karen Bentley often says, “I am raising adults, not children.” As an accountant for University Physicians and a single mom, Bentley believes in the importance of raising self-sufficient, respectful and hardworking people. But for daughter Emma, 20, who nominated her mother, it’s easy because her mother always leads by example. “When my dad left, my mom took on the responsibility to provide for her family,” Emma says, adding that when her mom comes home, she leaves her work worries behind to cook supper and then stay up late helping son Isaac, 15, with his homework. “She shows us what it means to be selfless. She also shows us a love we cannot get from anyone but her.”

Laura Merson

Shelli Thelen’s son, Cooper, and Laura Merson’s son, Blake, were always the best of friends.

But in 2011 when Blake died of a rare form of cancer, it was Thelen and Merson who developed a special friendship. “Laura has had to endure the most unbearable thing any parent should face,” Thelen says. “But that tragedy led to building a friendship with a mother who inspires me beyond belief.” Although Merson experienced many dark days initially, Thelen says her friend’s love for daughters, Kayla, 18, and Alyssa, 8, and for life itself allowed her to go on. To Thelen, Merson is not only magnificent for her ability to see joy each day but also for holding her daughter’s hand on the way to school when she aches to be holding her son’s as well. columbiahomemagazine.com | 65

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Campfire Cookout Wrap up summer with a spark with these dishes that can be prepared by the open fire.

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Above: Banana s’mores and grilled peach cobbler are a sweet ending to an evening outside. Recipe p. 72. Below: Rustic andouille hash with over-easy eggs and coffee to start your morning out fireside. Recipe p. 71. Opposite page: Dredge your favorite veggies in olive oil, salt and pepper, and then make packets with tin foil and grill until softened.

Savory Maple-glazed Pork Chops • 4 boneless pork loin chops (each about 1 1/2-inches thick) • Salt and pepper • 4 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil • 1 cup chicken stock • 6 thyme sprigs, leaves stripped and chopped • 1/4 cup maple syrup • Juice and zest of 1 lemon Directions: Season chops with salt and pepper.

Preheat a large skillet over medium-high heat with 4 tablespoons of olive oil. When the oil begins to ripple, add the pork chops and sear for 2 minutes on each side, then turn the heat down to medium and cook another 5-6 minutes. Transfer chops to a plate and cover loosely with foil to keep warm. Add the chicken stock, thyme, maple syrup 2 teaspoons of lemon zest and the lemon juice to the skillet. Bring to a bubble and simmer until lightly thickened. Return the pork chops to the pan with the glaze and flip them around to coat. Place the chops on plates; drizzle with any remaining glaze.

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Warm Balsamic Tomato Relish • 1 can (14 1/2 ounces) diced tomatoes, no salt added, drained • 1/4 cup sugar • 1 teaspoon cornstarch • 1/2 teaspoon ground cumin • 1 tablespoon balsamic vinegar Directions: Combine the tomatoes, sugar, cornstarch and cumin in a small saucepan. Bring to a boil. Cook and stir for 3-4 minutes or until mixture thickens. Remove from the heat; stir in the vinegar. Keep warm.

Andouille Hash, p.68 • • • •

2 pounds red potatoes, cut into 1/2-inch pieces 1 large onion, chopped into 1/4-inch pieces 4 tablespoons unsalted butter 4 links andouille sausage, cut into 1/2-inch pieces • 1/2 cup red bell pepper, chopped into 1/4-inch pieces • 1/2 cup green bell pepper, chopped into 1/4-inch pieces • 1/4 teaspoon salt • 1/2 teaspoon black pepper • 1/4 teaspoon cayenne pepper • salt and pepper • 1/4 cup finely chopped green onions Directions: In a large, heavy pan, sauté the potatoes and onions in butter over medium heat for 15 minutes, stirring occasionally. Add the diced sausage, bell peppers, salt, black pepper and cayenne, and continue frying until the sausage is browned, about 5 minutes. Add salt and pepper to taste and garnish with green onions.

Left: Pair your meal with a screw-top wine, such as the Bonterra Vineyards organic sauvignon blanc. Sturdy glasses with short stems or mason jars are perfect for a rustic setting. Opposite: Create a spread campers will graze on all day. Serve crusty, grilled bread instead of buns, and substitute warm balsamic tomato relish for traditional ketchup. columbiahomemagazine.com | 71

Raspberry Beer Cocktail • 3/4 cup frozen raspberries • 3 1/2 (12-ounce) bottles beer, chilled • 1 (12-ounce) container frozen raspberry lemonade concentrate, thawed • 1/2 cup vodka Stir together ingredients.

Serve over ice.

Grilled Peach Cobbler, p. 68

• 1 pint vanilla ice cream

Add the remaining butter, sugar and cinnamon to

• 6 ripe peaches, halved, pit removed

• 1/2 cup prepared caramel sauce, heated

the granola in a small bowl and toss until combined,

• 1 stick (8 tablespoons) unsalted cold butter,

Directions: Heat the grill to medium. Place the

adding more butter if needed. Top the peaches with

peaches cut side down on the grill until browned.

the granola mixture and place the gratin dish onto

• 8 tablespoons light brown sugar, divided

Remove from the grill, cut into wedges and place into

the grill. Cover grill and cook until the peaches and

• 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon, divided

a cast-iron skillet. To the peaches add half the butter,

granola are golden brown, about 15 minutes. Serve

• 1/2 cup granola

half the brown sugar and half the cinnamon, and toss.

with ice cream and caramel sauce.

melted, plus more if needed, divided

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Valerie Shaw

Valerie Shaw is a woman of her word; once

money for tuition, she completed both pro-

her job and wants to share her knowledge

she commits herself to something, follow-

grams without incurring debt.

in real time by teaching others. The M.B.A.

ing through is the only option. When her

provided the perfect avenue; she is in the

youngest son was in college and she de-

From the classroom to daily life

clared she would go to college once he fin-

So why continue your education, especially

course to a mixed class of traditional stu-

ished, it was only logical that he looked at

if you are well-positioned in your career?

dents and working professionals.

her on his graduation day and asked when

Talk to individuals who have taken the

Opportunities for advancement and im-

she was enrolling. The following year, she

plunge, and you’ll get a long list of reasons.

proved leadership skills are some of the

midst of teaching an online media-buying

“Education is very important, and the

more obvious career benefits of continu-

At 50 Shaw graduated with a bachelor’s

piece of paper (you earn) is affirmation, but

ing education, but less obvious benefits

degree in business from Stephens College

it’s the experience people simply can’t dis-

abound. One of the most germane is the

and promptly jumped into William Woods

count,” Shaw says. The experience of learn-

opportunity to implement new skills and

University’s M.B.A. program. She earned

ing alongside other professionals from

ideas in the workplace as they’re learned

both degrees while earning steady promo-

diverse industries and developing lifelong

in the classroom. Current work chal-

tions within Commerce Bank, from branch

leadership skills transcends the classroom.

lenges can also be the subject of class-

manager/vice president to the position she

Erin Parnell also pursued her M.B.A. at

room learning (as long as confidentiality

holds today as executive vice president. And

WWU and took on the program while work-

is maintained) and create more relevant

Shaw made it a personal goal to complete

ing full time as a media buyer with Bucket

and applicable learning opportunities. The

both degrees without student loans. Shaw

Media. For Parnell the decision to acquire

diversity of the classroom also allows for

employed her financial savvy, and using a

her M.B.A. was born out of a desire to share

both networking and the critical skills of

variety of methods from employee tuition

her industry with others as well as en-

learning how to effectively work with dif-

assistance to receiving all holiday gifts as

hance her leadership abilities. Parnell loves

ferent personalities.

did just that.

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Erin Parnell

Fitting in the program

seem a bit daunting. Shaw and Parnell

week. A study group that is your team for

The relevance of continuing education is

expressed similar concerns about getting

the duration of the program requires week-

not restricted to the workplace. Both Par-

back into the structure of school and bal-

ly meetings as well.

nell and Shaw emphasize the positive im-

ancing their professional, academic and

pact pursuing their M.B.A. has had in mul-

personal lives. After settling in, both wom-

Reaping the rewards

tiple areas, from family life to community

en found their fears were unfounded. “The

Parnell and Shaw speak of cohorts, study

involvement. Parnell highlights increased

program is designed for working adults,”

groups and group projects with an enthu-

confidence in her ability to lead and how it

Parnell says. “They’re not going to overload

siasm one does not generally equate with

has encouraged her to take on more leader-

you but give you enough to benefit you.”

school. Although the two went through the

ship roles in the various Columbia commu-

Not that the combination of working full

program at different times, both extol its

nity organizations in which she is involved,

time, going to school full time and main-

virtues similarly. Neither can say enough

from the Chamber of Commerce to Junior

taining a personal life isn’t challenging. It is.

about the quality and diversity of their

“It takes a lot of time and a lot of sacri-

peers, the excellence of the teachers and

Achievement.

Continuing education allowed Shaw to join Delta Sigma Theta, a sorority with deep

fice,” Shaw says. But as both women clearly demonstrate, it is possible.

relevant knowledge gained.

“It was a real opportunity for us,” Shaw

roots in education and service. And Shaw

Both Shaw and Parnell heavily credit the

strongly emphasizes how the program en-

structure of the WWU program for their

hanced her communication skills; being

success. “It’s not easy,” Parnell says, “but

It’s been Shaw’s and Parnell’s experience

quick to listen and slow to respond is just as

the ease of the way the program is set up

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Benefits aside, enrolling in school years

program is earned in less than two years

made the sacrifices and are certainly reap-

after you’ve hung up your backpack can

and requires class attendance one night a

ing the rewards.

says. “We were all looking for ways to capitalize on our time and investment.”

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Kari Laudano is an active member of community organizations, a successful business owner and a ballroom dancer. Kari’s busy schedule demands a lowmaintenance getting-ready routine. She keeps her hair short to cut down on “hair time” in the mornings and applies basic makeup. Deciding what to wear is another easy decision: black or white. Kari's wardrobe is all neutrals. “I’d love to learn how to wear different colors,” Kari confesses. At a size 2, she also has the body to experiment with fun fits and less traditional pieces. Kari has a heart of gold and prefers spending money on others. As a makeover candidate, Kari received gift certificates to Dryer’s Shoes and Swank Boutique to kick start her transformation.

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FIGURING FIT “The best way to show off her body,” prescribes Erin Wagoner, owner of Swank Boutique, “is for Kari to wear pieces that add volume to her hips.” She suggests defining her waist with a belt, giving Kari more of a curvy appearance: “Cinching at the waist draws the attention into the tiniest part of her body, while creating the hourglass shape that we’re striving for.”

SHOE SMART Krystal at Dryer’s Shoes downtown outfitted Kari’s footwear. Kari wears high heels a lot and usually pays for it at the end of the day. Lucky for Kari, Dryer’s has a ton of comfortable shoes that are easy on the eyes. “There are many comfort shoe brands that are revamping their product lines and offering a much more fashionable shoe as comfortable as some of their original styles,” Krystal says.

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High Society and the Next Generation Review of Maggie Shipstead’s Seating Arrangements Don’t be fooled by the title and jacket copy.

Seating Arrangements, the debut novel of Wallace Stegner Fellow Maggie Shipstead, which is set on the fictitious New England island of Waskeke and takes as its subject a blueblood wedding weekend, is a serious work of literature. Its startlingly fresh language recalls the artistry of John Cheever, its psychological depth the work of Virginia Woolf. But though it’s miles away from chick lit, it contains enough wry humor and ridiculous predicaments to keep the reader laughing, cringing and thoroughly entertained from start to finish.

The novel tells the story of Winn Van Meter, stuffy patriarch of a WASP-y clan that includes his longtime wife, Biddy, and two daughters: the pregnant bride Daphne and brooding Livia, who is nursing a heartache handed down to her from the son of Winn’s society nemesis, Jack Fenn. All manner of pre-wedding

➞ Q & A with Author Maggie Shipstead

Q: You wrote part of Seating Arrangements while living alone on Nantucket in winter.

How did that islander solitude affect the creation of the book?

A: My island solitude drastically accelerated the creation of the book. When you live in a place where you don't know anyone, your options for procrastination run out quickly, especially when you don't have Internet. My dog wanted to go for a long, freezing walk every afternoon,

By Kei ja Par ssinen

high jinks ensue on the picturesque island: bridesmaids and groomsmen behaving badly, rehab-worthy boozing and inappropriate middle-aged lusting. And though this might sound like familiar territory, Shipstead’s outstanding prose and ruthless satirizing make this story a singular exploration of high society and its many constrictions and expectations, real and imagined, as well as the inevitable erosion of those aristocratic mores in the hands of new, freer generations.

With a light touch, Seating Arrangements asks serious questions about the fate of a man who spends his life striving for wealth, status and the utmost propriety in every action.

In the end, it is Livia, the darkly observant daughter, who proves it is better to humiliate oneself for love than to live trapped in Winn’s lukewarm, passionless world of rules and appearances.

but other than that, I was alone in a room with my laptop.

Spending so much time alone was challenging, but it changed me in ways I'm grateful for.

I'm much more self-contained now, more patient and more disciplined. I wrote the whole first draft in five months. When I decided to go to Nantucket, I thought being there would enrich the book's setting by providing details and local color, but Nantucket in the winter has nothing to do with Nantucket (or the fictional Waskeke) in the summer. The ocean, sky, houses and vegetation are all gray; everything is closed; the wind never stops. It's possible, though, that Waskeke was made more summery by my longing for breezy summer loveliness.

Q: You have said authors should “write what they wonder about.” What was the source of wonder that spurred you to write Seating Arrangements?

A: I lived in Southern California until I went to Harvard for college, and when I got there, I was fascinated by the kids I saw who had this East Coast style with madras pants and Top-Siders and little whales everywhere. They seemed at ease in an environment I found foreign and intimidating, and I was curious about their upbringings. Through some twists of fate, I ended up with close friends who have very WASP-y backgrounds but who have a sense of humor about that scene. I also met people who treated New England traditionalism as a matter of grave importance. When I wrote the book, I was wondering about privilege and its problems.

The problems of privilege are the kind people are lucky to have, but they're still problems.

Privilege can be stifling, and it can be disorienting and self-defeating. I was interested in the consequences of

entitlement and tried to explore them through the character of Winn Van Meter. If you think you deserve the best of everything in life and that the best of everything is attainable, then how do you ever find contentment?

Q: Which writers have most influenced your writing?

A: I definitely worship at the altars of John Cheever and John Updike, though they're hazardous to imitate because it's impossible to write with that kind of verve and not come up with something that's flowery to the point of silliness.

I love Virginia Woolf, Jane Austen, Evelyn Waugh, F. Scott Fitzgerald and Jeffrey Eugenides.

Right now I'm all about A.S. Byatt and John Le Carre. I love writers who are amazing stylists but who aren't self-serving and who generate compelling stories and characters. columbiahomemagazine.com | 85

Welcome to the World

Emmie Micale Graves Pa r e n t s : Cal and Kitt Kelley-Graves B i rt h w e i g h t: 6 pounds, 8 ounces

What has surprised you the most about being a mother? How nothing else seems quite as important anymore. You automatically love this little person and would do anything for them right from the beginning.

What did you not expect that happened? Diapers!

Everyone said be prepared to go through lots of diapers, but we never expected to go through as many as we have already!

The most memorable thing that had happened since becoming a parent? When she first recognized our voices and smiled back.

Julius Cleveland Smith Pa r e n t :

B i rt h w e i g h t:

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6 pounds, 14 ounces

What did you not expect that happened? I did not expect to go into labor when I did. My son was three weeks early, so when my water broke the night before he was born, I was in denial because I swore I had at least another week or so before I really had to start getting things together for his arrival. Thankfully my mother was there to help me organize everything last minute.

What was your first reaction upon seeing your new son? I was overjoyed when I first saw my son. He was very healthy and very handsome; I couldn’t have been prouder!

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Natalie Rae Palmer Pa r e n t s : Adam and Taylor Palmer B i rt h w e i g h t: 7 pounds, 14 ounces

What have you learned since becoming a mom? The red face she makes isn't because she's mad; it’s gas, and it is usually followed by a loaded diaper.

Jacqueline Claire Schneller Pa r e n t s :

B i rt h w e i g h t:

Jennifer and Justin Schneller

7 pounds, 15 ounces

What do you love most about being a parent? The first moments of a smile, her blue eyes opening to stare back at you with a soft grin, the deeper love and bonding she brings to first-time parents.

How has your life changed? It has made our house a home in a poetic sense. A new focus to what we aspire for in the future together as a family.

Will you do this again? Yes, at least two more times!

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Quiet Surprises

By Ellie H en s ley p hoto s by s & J Photogr a p hy When Leighton Waint was attending the University of Missouri's Sinclair School of Nursing, there were very few of her classmates whom she hadn't met. "You get to know each other well when you're stuck in the same classrooms," she says.

She never actually spoke to fellow student Greg Caplinger until their last semester, when the entire class went out to a pub crawl. "The first thing I noticed about her was her super blonde hair and her beautiful smile," Greg says.

Once they hit it off, the next eight months were a whirlwind. When Leighton went to visit family in Minnesota, she jokingly asked him to buy a plane ticket and join her. "Of course she didn't think I would do it," Greg says. "Little did she know, I took her seriously and flew up there."

Taking that flight surprised even Greg himself, and he says that's when he knew she was the girl he wanted to marry. He bought a ring and held onto it for a month while waiting for the perfect moment, which wound up being a simple dinner together at their apartment. Leighton said that many of their friends were getting engaged, to which Greg quietly replied, “I have a ring for you.”

“Then he got down on one knee and said all the things every girl wants to hear, and of course I cried,” Leighton says.

The couple wed on Oct. 1, 2011, at Leighton’s childhood church, Faith Lutheran in Jefferson City. She describes it as simple and traditional, except for one meaningful personal touch added by her pastor, the Rev. Tony Alter. “For every wedding he does, he picks out a kind of task to complete for the couple when they’re standing in front of everyone,” Leighton says.

Because of their nursing backgrounds, the pastor opted for a health care theme.

The couple’s task was to wrap their arms around each other and, using only one hand each, open a bottle of soap and successfully wash their hands together over a basin.

Despite a short engagement period, their big day was a huge success, in part because of all the support offered by each of their families. After the reception, the newly minted Caplingers honeymooned in Ocho Rios, Jamaica, and then returned to their nursing jobs in Columbia, where she works at University Hospital and he works at the Missouri Orthopaedic Institute.

“People always say that when you meet the right person, you know,” Leighton says. “I never believed things like that, but I’m a true believer now.” columbiahomemagazine.com | 89

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announcements | engagements

Love Stories

Four Columbia couples on the road to "I do" Lauren and Andrew met in high school during a summer camp in Colorado; it would take three more years, however, for the couple to start dating. They both attended Baylor University, where Lauren graduated with a degree in interior design, Lauren Martin and Andrew Summersett Andrew in business management. The pair is now pursuing higher degrees in the Lone Star State. They plan on tying the knot in Dallas on Jan. 5, 2013, with a party of 10 bridesmaids and groomsmen. Lauren has always loved Andrew’s adventurous spirit, as was apparent in Andrew’s proposal. At the side of a mountain during a weekend trip to Colorado, Andrew took a knee along the Long’s Peak Trail. Traveling is one of the couple's favorite hobbies; they also studied abroad together in the UK. Parents of the engaged couple are Cheryl Martin Baumann and the late Robert Martin of Columbia and Jim and Allison Summersett of Weslaco, Texas.

Aniz Mora and Jeffrey Knaebel

Aniz Mora and Jeffrey Knaebel are planning a St. Thomas, USVI, wedding on Aug. 10, 2012, with 20 of their closest friends and family. The pair got engaged at sunset on Maroma Beach, Mexico, and have an obvious passion for tropical retreats. Aniz grew up in Santa Fe, N.M., and graduated from Columbia College with a degree in business administration. Jeff is from Moberly, Mo., and attended the University of Central Missouri. Jeff works in sales at Mid America Building Supply, and Aniz is the fitness director at the Club at Old Hawthorne. The couple loves to play golf together. Aniz is the daughter of Charles Ronald and Esther Consuelo Mora, and Jeff is the son of Mary Ellen and Joseph Frank Knaebel.

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Allison Goldman and Joshua Parshall

An October wedding is in the works for native Texan Allison (Alli) Goldman and Columbia local Josh Parshall. The two currently live in Jackson, Miss., and met while working together at the Institute of Southern Jewish Life. Alli is now earning her master’s degree in education and teaching biology. The 130-person wedding will be held in Frisco, Texas, on Oct. 20, 2012. Josh is the son of Timothy and Lynn Parshall of Columbia. Alli is the daughter of Larry and Mimi Goldman of Dallas. Josh and Alli love each other’s sense of humor and share two cats, Finn and Simon. Josh proposed to Alli on Valentine’s Day by presenting her with a giant stuffed gorilla as a diversion while he got down on one knee. The couple's favorite date spot is their couch watching a movie — or, rather, Alli sleeps while Josh watches the movie. Alli and Josh will honeymoon at Jekyll Island, Ga.

It all started at Anne Marie’s sorority house while she and Paul attended the University of Kansas. She had just moved into the Alpha Chi Omega house as a sophomore, and Paul was working there as a “house boy.” His charm worked on Anne Marie during a Anne Marie Fitzgerald and Paul Mattli full year of giving her rides to and from her Thursday night meetings. The couple has been together ever since and plans to marry Oct. 20, 2012, in Kansas City. They each will have eight attendants and are planning a beachy honeymoon. Paul is from Columbia and son to Gregory and Virginia Mattli. Anne Marie hails from Kansas City, daughter of Timothy and Leanne Fitzgerald. The pair currently resides in Kansas City. CH

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entertainment | Lily's must list

With the last month of summer facing us, the itch to do those neglected warmweather activities is begging to be scratched. Take a break from your to-dos, and enjoy Columbia's fun August and September activities before fall begins.

By L i ly Daws o n | P hoto s by Whitney H aywar d an d G ilbert Marlow e

My musts for summer usually revolve around being outside and experiencing fresh, local food.

This typically involves regular trips to the many farmers markets that Columbia offers and to patios to enjoy the results. Some of my favorite patios include the Wine Cellar & Bistro and Flat Branch, and you can’t go wrong with any of the weekend markets in Columbia. Be

sure to visit the Musitas booth at the North Village Arts District Farmers and Artisans Market. They make mouthwatering dulce de leche cookies that will have you reaching for more.

The three-woman Spanish chef team also just started making tamales for the Sunday markets. They catered a summer party I held, and the tamales were the stars of the show (though I

didn’t see any leftover Musitas cookies either). The offerings at the market become a little trickier in late spring and early fall, but I’ve learned to experiment with what they have to offer, and you may actually end up liking beets and chard.

Come out to the Columbia Farmers Market Gala on Sept. 30 to sample goods from all the vendors and farmer-led cooking demos.

The Columbia Farmers Market is held on Saturday (8 a.m. to noon) and Wednesday (4-6 p.m.) behind the ARC, Thursday (3-6 p.m.) outside Forum Christian Church and Friday (3-6 p.m.) in the Brookside Square subdivision. The North Village Arts District Farmers and Artisans Market is held every Sunday from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. at 126 N. 10th St. The Boone County Farmers Market is located at 1005 W. Worley St. on Saturdays (8 a.m. to noon) and Wednesdays in the Parkade Center parking lot (4-6 p.m.).

Indulge in September music in The District. Sept. 12: Old 97's at The Blue Note. Sept. 16: WILCO Live on Ninth Street. Sept. 21: Roots N Blues N BBQ Festival in The District. Sept. 29: Head and the Heart at Summerfest.

David Mamet’s play Duck Variations featuring seasoned actors Addison Myers and Aaron Kravitz. Sept. 28-30, 7:30 p.m. at the Berlin Theatre.

Wine Tasting Wednesdays at the Wine Cellar & Bistro. Cost is $20, and space is limited. Call 442-7281 for more info.

Aug. 16: The “We Always Swing” Jazz Series “Jazz Under the Stars” performance atop the Missouri Theatre featuring the MU Faculty All-Stars. Tickets range from $18-$25.

Raise money to fight breast cancer. Susan G Komen’s Mid-Missouri Race for the Cure will be held on Sept. 16 at Mizzou Sports Park at 8:30 a.m.

Lily Dawson has lived in Columbia for 25 years and enjoys spending her time exploring this wonderful city. She serves as the associate publisher for Columbia Home. columbiahomemagazine.com | 93

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Farm to Table Night

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Local farmers were celebrated on June 13 at Smarr Custom Homes Home of Possibilities.

Sycamore, Tallulah’s and Columbia Home sponsored the event, which raised more than $1,000 for Ronald McDonald House Charities of Mid-Missouri.

Cale and Micki Kliethermes

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Summer Collins and Betsy Bell

Carrie Gartner and Jonathan Sessions

Sarah and Joe Dubbert

Harris Giger, Lily Dawson and GIlbert Marlowe

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the last word | Ene-Kaja Chippendale, Ph.D.

The Magic of Reading Why imaginative writing and effective strategies are key to reading proficiency E n e - K aj a C h ippen dale, Ph.D. | p hoto by taylor allen Shortly after we arrived in America as displaced persons from Germany following World War II, we moved in temporarily with a family in a small town in Connecticut. I was enrolled in third grade and arrived at school not knowing a word of English. I became the object of much interest on the playground, and children often gathered around, talked and gestured. I just stood by and watched. I had no clue what they were saying, and my Estonian and German were useless. I was not sure whether the “Eenie meenie miney mo” they often chanted was meant as a friendly greeting or a putdown.

My classroom was another place of great confusion. I was relieved that the math was familiar, and working problems salvaged a bit of my wounded pride. However, the reading group remained a daily nightmare. I dreaded having to read out loud because I felt so inferior to my peers. The teacher was kind, but I knew I was performing poorly, and that hurt. Even when I learned to sound out words, I had little idea of what they meant. Many days I feared I would never learn.

Not being able to read in English was very discouraging. I could read in other languages; why was English so impossible? I received a copy of Tom Sawyer and opened it eagerly. However, I could not get past the first few lines.

I read “’TOM!’ No answer. ‘TOM,’” and then the language defeated me. English gradually became more comprehensible, and it was a thrill to pick up the book again about a year later and enjoy the full adventure of Tom and his gang. My fear and embarrassment gradually abated.

Now I work with children who struggle to read, and I understand. Whether the child is a second-grader who knows he or she is not “on level” or a high school student unable to comprehend a reading assignment, the feelings remain the same: fear, frustration and even shame. This fear prompted one very creative child to dictate a story in which she flew to another planet where nobody reads but everyone enjoys drawing and painting. Some students may develop avoidance strategies that are reported back to parents as signs of inattention or, the ultimate putdown, not caring.

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quickly and easily while others, equally bright, do not. In truth there are no easy or definitive answers because reading is a very complex cognitive process, and we have only recently begun to learn how the neural pathways in the brain operate during the reading process. I have been lucky to share several incredible "aha" moments when the world of print suddenly made sense to a child. All occurred after extensive reading, not skills and drills but actual partner reading.

Children learn to read when they have books that interest and excite them, and they enjoy humor. This is true for all ages and levels. Dr. Seuss wrote his engaging Green Eggs and Ham using only 50 words, and Roald Dahl created his unforgettable Miss Trunchbull and the Twits using vivid, imaginative language.

Children have extraordinary imaginations, and they long to learn. They are also perceptive critics who recognize boring stories and banal writing. It is no accident that the Harry Potter series, with its vast landscape of characters, nonstop action and underlying moral complexities, is so widely loved. A child who truly wants to read a book that promises a good story or offers fascinating information about poisonous snakes will exert the effort needed to unlock the text.

One effective strategy for developing reading proficiency for students of all ages is using audio texts that highlight words as they are read. Audio books (including ebooks) allow students to read a wide range of materials without fear or embarrassment. Some students experience the pleasure of comprehending what they are reading for the first time in their lives because they are no longer stumbling on words. As they listen and follow along, readers subconsciously internalize the cue systems of text that operate during reading. With regular practice, students develop greater fluency, and over time they also gain independence. Some are able to read the texts on their own after only a few audio readings.

Others have to reread books multiple times — there is no single timeframe for success.

Students learn to read because they are actually reading, and they are reading without fear, frustration or embarrassment. The audio texts have opened the world of books to struggling readers who can now truly experience the magic of reading.

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