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18 MOCKTAIL MOMENTS

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20 b3 MD

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28 b3 FIT: LET'S GET THAT BODY BACK

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30 MY TODDLER IS A PICKY EATER

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32 BABY BEAUTY BAR

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62 MUMMY I DID IT... BY MYSELF!

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Editor's NOTE

Child·hood noun [chahyld-hood] 1. The state or period of being a child

2. When a kiss made the pain go away, the ice cream man was God, green veggies were the devil, and finger painting and nap time went hand-n-hand

F

- Urban Dictionary, 2013

unny, I thought, and true.

There’s a purity and simplicity that I associate with childhood.

Carefree days filled with whim, fantasy and laughter. Never-ending play with cousins, and friends we called cousins. Adventure occupied

our minds and captured our days, and simplicity was dictated by fewer

choices. This is the simplicity that we miss when we grow up, face life, and embrace

.

the responsibilities of adulthood. If we only knew then what we know now, I’m sure we

really would have put more effort into enjoying every single moment as children. I watch

with pride when I see my two children playing; and I’m ecstatic when they’re outdoors! So,

like a host of other mothers that I know, I’m on a mission to secure the happiest, fondest memories for my children. When they look back at their early days as I do at mine, I want them to smile at the beauty of a perfect childhood.

As you read through our pages, know that b3 is all about the parenting process – the

things we need to know, and the things we want to know. The ups and downs, the light stuff and the serious issues. Any and every thing that affects us as parents. In each

issue, we look forward to sharing our journey with you, and likewise, you with us.

Your emails, tweets and facebook posts do more for us than simply letting us know you like what we do. You tell us just what you want to see and learn about; we value

your comments and suggestions, so continue to write in and share your thoughts.

We’re Turning One!

Every birthday is an occasion to celebrate, and we’re thrilled as we celebrate

our first. Time really does fly when you’re having fun. And we are definitely

having fun! Despite the long hours, the sleepless nights…we’ve ignored the no’s

from the naysayers and embraced the yeses from the believers. One year later, as we go to press

with our fourth issue, I’m saying a big thank you for an incredible first year! If I were to list

the names of everyone who deserves to be thanked, my Art Director would hang me out to dry

for changing layout with too many pages! It would however, be remiss of me not to thank the

most amazing team any magazine could ever have. Dwayne J, Dwayne W, and Claire. It is my

privilege to work with such talent, passion and synchronicity. From the bottom of my heart, I thank you. Here’s to the many more birthdays!

We’re growing up folks. We’re just one-year-old. And if you’ve ever parented one of those,

you KNOW, the fun’s just started! Here’s to celebrations, childhood and being forever young!

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Who we

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MICHELLE GORDON

DWAYNE JUREIDINI

DWAYNE WATKINS

A lover of life and family, Michelle brings

Dwayne's love affair with design began as an

As a child, Dwayne Watkins remembers

Two decades later, armed with his Dad’s

capture things in a way that evoked incredible

Editor-in-Chief & Creative Director

Art Director & Layout Artist

authenticity of all aspects of the parent-child

assistant to his dad, himself, a graphic designer.

style. With 28 years of combined experience

priceless tutelage & the constant desire for

bond to the page with diamond-studded in service, entrepreneurship and motherhood,

she adds to that a passion that gave birth to

b3. Michelle is mother to 8 year old Christian and 5 year old Amanda.

ARLENE L. MARTIN

creating artwork of an international standard,

the love affair continues. DJ's fingerprint can be seen on pieces ranging from invitations to

recognised international publications. Dwayne is father to 5 year old Sarai.

Photography Director

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being amazed by a photographer's ability to emotion. These days you can catch Dwayne around Jamaica and beyond, capturing couples

as they say, "I do". Dwayne's portfolio also

includes fashion and commercial work.

Dwayne is godfather to 4 year old Skyler.

Visit dwaynewatkins.com/blog

Asst. Editor

Assoc. Creative Director & Features Editor

CLAIRE HARRISINGH

ANGELIE SPENCER

Arlene L. Martin has had a passion for design

Born in Jamaica, Claire graduated from Oxford

Angelie Martin-Spencer is a weekly

were self-taught when she actively took up

Media Group; from Editorial to PR, for three

columns: DIY in Thursday Life and Rock

and sewing since childhood. With skills that the craft as a hobby in her late teens, she has since blossomed and turned the passion into

something extraordinary - drennaLUNA. Arlene is aunt to 5 nieces and nephews.

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Brookes University. Next stop, a London

publications. Back in Jamaica, after serving as (Corporate Responsibility) Special Projects Manager, Claire is now Principal of Strand Creative. Claire is mother to 2 year old Levi.

Fashion Editor

contributor to the Jamaica Observer with 2 the Cloth in Saturday’s Under the Dryer

(co-authored with sister, Arlene L. Martin).

Angelie is a mother of two 8-year-old Anna and 3-year-old Luke.

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Send your comments, questions and suggestions to

editor@b3caribbeanmagazine.com

We Hear You! NEED HERE’S MY LIST OF ALL YOU'LL TO TAKE FOR YOUR BIG DAY.

BUMP

"LOVE MY LIST"

Mummy’s Bag

You’ll need something loose and comfortable For a quick cover up if required pair for regular walking around Rubber ones for showering and another Your feet can get cold during labour

A Going Home Outfit Robe

Slippers Socks

I bought this magazine at the airport in Kingston and it was a great read on my

Bring at least 2 packs

Maternity Pads

1 Pack

Breast Pads

feeding Front opening for easy access for breast moisturizer, toothpaste, toothbrush Lip balm, Towels, hairbrush, lotion, for some good old 'Ting' Water tasted terrible to me, so I opted games and so on Your iPad, Kindle, Books, magazines, don’t have enough Or your blanket. Some hospitals simply Some you don't mind disposing of

4 Night Shirts Toiletries

Snacks and drinks

Something to Read or Listen to Pillows

flight back home. I found your list on Packing For Your Big Day to be very helpful.

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Inexpensive underwear

For your mental privacy

Ear plugs

For Your Spouse A change of clothes Camera, phone, camcorder

I actually photocopied it and used that as my guide. I didn’t want to tear out the

you’ll want to keep in the loop Or a list of the family and friends who you as Daddy may be pre-occupied with Have a back-up person to do the calling,

For Your Baby

Have your infant car seat installed

page – magazine too nice! Thanks!

You never know… the moment. Don’t forget to pack In the event he remembers to capture the chargers

Address book

in your car BEFORE leaving the hospital

3-4 side-snap shirts 3-4 sleepers

6 Receiving Blankets 6 Burp Cloths

1 Pack of newborn diapers 3-4 pairs of socks or booties.

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3 Hats

— Petra M. (Barbados)

3 Hooded Towels 3 Washcloths

Diaper cream

One outfit for the trip home

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Two weeks after I lost my second pregnancy, I saw this magazine in the waiting

area of my doctor’s office. I read your article On Surviving Miscarriage, and though it made me cry, it also made me remember that I was not alone. My wounds were

still fresh, and up to that point, I was not prepared to speak about what I had gone

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"HELP WHEN I NEEDED IT MOST"

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It can seem like an abyss of grief you don't know how to navigate your way out of; but there is comfort and healing to be had with time and through sharing.

So, here are my musings...

On Surviving Miscarriage .

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by Claire Harrisingh

ot even the stat

that

one in five

pregnancies

end s

through. Your article helped me to grieve privately, and I credit it with starting my

in

miscarriage

offered

up by my

empathetic Doctor that afternoon could provide any comfort. No safety in numbers

to be had. By the time I made it there from the scan which confirmed my pregnancy had

healing process. Thank you b3.

things to take care of my pregnancy. Google

and I became best friends, along with those

sites which offer weekly tracking of your baby from microscopic speck onwards. The

pregnancy was confirmed viable, and that

first gallop of a heartbeat had been heard. A still flat belly got lots of rubs from me, already wanting keep my unborn child safe. I bought

the books and the cocoa butter. Truth is, I

felt like a Mother the instant I saw those two lines on the test.

I got the swollen and sore boobs, the

ended I was already lost in a grief I never knew

fatigue...but, looking back, something just

The news of my pregnancy was not taken

dizzy a lot, and very weak. One day, in

could be felt over someone I’d never even met. didn't feel right from the beginning. I was for granted. I knew so many couples who

desperately wanted children, but for one

reason or another it just wouldn't happen for

— Natasha W. (via email, Jamaica)

white screech owl. You know where I’m going

them. So when I was ‘surprised’ with a positive

from this if you’re from the Caribbean, where

I was confident I was doing all the right

My hand went straight to my belly. I don’t

test the precious news was kept private.

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the rain, I pulled up to my gate. Sitting in

a puddle, blocking my way, was a ghostly-

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their association with ‘duppies’ is well fabled.

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"LOVING SHAGGY" I have loved Shaggy since his Boombastic days, and I was excited to

learn more about his personal life in your story done on him. He’s always been very private, and I think your interview with him was

.

nice. He’s done a good job at keeping a squeaky clean image as an entertainer, and is impressive as a father. My only disappointment

was that there were no pictures of his kids. Good job, though. It’s nice to see the Daddies involved.

Shaggy Daddy .

Laid back in the lush gardens of his Kingston home, Shaggy gave B3 an unprecedented look into his family life: from a childhood filled with milk box cars, when he wrote his first song at 9 years old for his Grandma (we were even treated to an impromptu serenade!), to being a father of five and on car-pool duty.

Interview: Claire Harrisingh • Photography: Dwayne Watkins • Make-up: Angelie Spencer Syling: Shaggy's own (hat by Grandeur, Kingston Jamaica)

— Nadeen R. (Trinidad)

"INSPIRATION" I trust that b3 will go from success to success because if you are able to do it then others looking on will be

encouraged to move forward with their dreams also. We have to find inner strength and courage, I know, but sometimes doubts do creep in and when there's someone holding the vanguard you can still hold on to hope.

Keep up the good work b3, and all the very best.

— Joy F. (via email, Jamaica)

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Boy O Boy Limited PUBLISHER Michelle Gordon EDITOR-IN-CHIEF & CREATIVE DIRECTOR Dwayne Jureidini ART DIRECTOR & LAYOUT ARTIST Dwayne Watkins PHOTOGRAPHY DIRECTOR Claire Harrisingh FEATURES EDITOR & ASSOCIATE CREATIVE DIRECTOR Arlene L. Martin ASSISTANT EDITOR Angelie Spencer FASHION EDITOR & STYLIST

• Contributing Writers Arlene Martin Claire Harrisingh Elena Diedrick-Lynch Gillian Whyte-Roseway Kamille Jackson Melanie Schwapp Michelle Gordon Natalie Graham Richard Graham Thea Davis M.D.

Contributing Photographers Marc Evans for Marc Evans Images Michael Ernie Hall for Photos by ME

Special thanks to Jeaneane Swaby ThruJensEyes Debbie-Ann White Louis Grant Sandals Resorts International

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Copyright © 2013 Boy O Boy Limited. All rights reserved.

This material may not be reproduced, displayed, modified or distributed without the express prior written permission of Boy O Boy Ltd. For permission, please contact myboyoboy@gmail.com

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Baby’s Arrival as told

by Mummy & Daddy

by Natalie and Richard Graham, Jamaica

It’s a journey you start very much together, and trod for those 9 (or 10!) months in a state of preparation for the absolute unknown.

When it comes to pregnancy, labour and delivery, and navigating those first 6 weeks, the individual experiences can be nothing less than dramatic! Join us as one incredibly in-love couple shares the tale of the start of their life as a Caribbean family with b3.

She Said

ON PREGNANCY Mummy: So many thoughts go through your head when you see that little pink plus sign appear. Whether it’s that instant or some time

down the road, I think every parent –especially the mom- hits a OMG

Daddy: When I saw the positive result, at first I was stunned, then

overwhelmed, then happy. Immediately I began wondering if I’d ‘get

it right’, and raise a child who would play a positive role in the world.

moment. Can I do this? Will I be good at this? WHO WOULD LET

I wondered if he or she knew I already loved him/her. Something

fill you, and you move on. My “move on moment” was definitely the

going to have a child soon and there was this sense of awe and pride

fear, every question fled at once and all that filled me was this awe of

baby, but also my wife, who I saw in a whole new light- she wasn’t

ME HAVE A BABY? Meltdown ensues, then calm and purpose

second his perfect heartbeat filled the exam room. Every doubt, every what my body was able to do and an already unconditional love for

inside me grew immediately the moment I saw the test result. I was

that pushed everything else aside. I didn’t just feel protective of the

just my wife anymore, but the mother of our baby! I was by her side

this little person I was just “meeting”. I kept stopping the technician

for every single appointment (except two) and right up to when our

I listened, crying silently, overwhelmed with it all. I knew whatever

come along, but that doesn’t always have to be a bad thing. Ours grew

from turning off the volume, I couldn’t get enough of that heartbeat.

came, I was ready. More than ready…I was made for exactly this moment, and exactly this child.

son emerged into the world. They say a marriage changes when kids

even more amazing.

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ON LABOUR Mummy: Terrifiying. That’s my labour word. Before I even got

Daddy: Labour was the worst thing I’d ever seen. You can plan for it

here and tell you that it "wasn’t as bad as I expected", but I would be

in the world and you can’t do anything for her, you feel helpless. All I

pregnant, that was my word for labour: Terrifying. I’d love to sit

and prepare for it, but when it’s your wife and she’s in the worst pain

lying. It was terrible. And yes: terrifying. 4 days after our son’s due

could do was reassure her and hold her hands and watch the monitor

really quickly, and what started out as a pain I could totally Facebook

could brace for breathing. Soon, she was feeling contractions before

my body became focused on breathing and getting the baby out safely.

and the breaks were shorter. I know it wasn’t technically a long labor,

not despair. I felt as if I had this finish line to cross and no one could

internally swearing we’d never do this again.

date had passed, I finally agreed to being induced. My body responded

through, rapidly became: “I AM GOING TO DIE”. Everything in

There was no room for any other thought or emotion, not exhaustion, stop me.

so I could try to tell her when the contractions were coming so she

the monitor could tell me, and they were getting longer, and harder but for me those were the longest hours of my life, watching her and

THE BIRTH Mummy: There comes a point in labour when you know it’s just

ANY of this again. Ever.” Then I heard this little cry, the cutest little

hobble on my own two feet over to the delivery theatre, where things

few seconds, then handed him to me. I was so excited that he was alive

time to get the baby out. When that moment arrived for me, I had to became a big blur of pain and eventually bliss. What I remember is

this: Hobble. Sit on delivery table. Push. Pause. Push. Pause. Gasp-A

cry ever. And there he was…healthy and perfect. She held him for a and all was well that I followed the nurse from the theater holding

our son without a second thought. “I’m a DADDY!” was all that was

BABY! Why is he blue? Is he ok? Oh goody, he’s pink now and crying. going through my head. When the euphoria started to die down and I

Look at his little fingers- Are there 10? COUNT THEM! 10? Yay, realized that my wife was nowhere to be seen, I rushed back to theatre oh he’s perfect. And ginormous.

Then it all went black. 9lbs, 10.5 oz of baby, delivered naturally and

without hard drugs. I remained unconscious for the next 3+ hours.

to find her unconscious and the medical personnel fluttering about

her. The next few hours were extremely nerve-racking. I thought she

was dying. At one point I thought she was dead. I was thrilled about

our baby, but terrified for her. I cannot tell you what it felt like when

Daddy: What I can tell you is this: When I first saw our son, I thought

finally I was reassured that my wife was going to be fine. A healthy

clutching my wife’s hand, thinking “We can NEVER go through

the best outcome you could get on this day.

he was dead. He was blue and totally still and silent. I remember

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THOSE FIRST 6 WEEKS Mummy: I work in the creative industry, so all nighters are nothing new to me, but all nighters with no days off to recover? Yeah, it’s a

shock to the hardiest system, and after delivering a 10lb baby, my

must have always been there just waiting for him, I think. And I felt that, from day 1 and then all through those 1st 6 weeks.

system was greatly depleted. Breastfeeding went from fine to MISERY

Daddy: Well I didn’t really get much leave from work to help with the

all, the pain was excruciating to me, and got in the way of my milk

admit that my wife did much of the heavy lifting then. I’d rush home

weight fast enough, and recommended formula supplementation, I felt

wish I could have helped more during the days. I consider myself a

in a few weeks. Until we discovered and treated the thrush behind it

supply. When my pediatrician informed us that our baby wasn’t gaining

like an abject failure. That’s an emotion that dogged me for a really

baby. I had maybe 2 days, not counting the day he was born. I have to

as soon as possible, and spend every moment helping out, but I really very hands-on daddy; diaper duty, baths, bottle feeding…there is

long time those early days. During those weeks, until we figured out

nothing I won’t do to help with our son. I was even the one who had

those other beautiful things about a new baby. Thanks to my supportive

it freaked my wife out a bit. But I still really wanted to be there to

crazy, but even in those brutal first 6 weeks, I actively enjoyed my son

out of her way to ensure I wasn’t woken up so that I could go to work

cry at each other, but those were the definite minority. I started waking

They grow so quickly. From the day that I first held him up to this day,

we could ‘hang out’ again. My friends thought I was crazy. Maybe I

6 weeks is not so much stress or exhaustion, but just amazement that

of crazy? I doubt it. And for me, those first 6 weeks flowed into what’s

just…part of the deal. And he was definitely completely worth it.

breastfeeding again, I almost lost out on the chance to revel in all

husband, I soon re-connected with the joy- and what joy! I know it’s

THOROUGHLY. Yes, I had moments when the two of us would just up just before him for his feedings, eager for him to wake up too so

was. Can you ever really survive motherhood without just a little bit

now been 18 months of the level of love that can never be explained,

to clean his umbilical stump and hold him for his early shots, because

help her in the days, and to make her nights a little easier. She went in the days, but whenever I could outmaneuver her, I’d be right there. he’s changed so little, yet so much. What I remember from those 1st this new little person was really all ours. All the work required was

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by Dr. Thea-Nicole Davis

MBBS, DM (OB-GYN), Jamaica

Dr. Thea-Nicole Davis is our Consultant Obstetrician and Gynecologist who answers your questions and addresses your concerns on medical matters pertaining to bumps, babies and beyond. Dr. Davis is mother

to 3 yr old Imani. She is an avid reader who, like all our contributing writers, has a passion for children and parenting. Dr. Davis lives in Mandeville, and practices in both Kingston and Mandeville, Jamaica.

Send your questions to info@b3caribbeanmagazine.com

Dear Doc, I’m a coffee drinker. However with my pregnancy now, I’ve managed to eliminate coffee totally, thinking that Teas would be a good replacement. But they seem to contain just as much caffeine. Any suggestions?

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Caffeine intake during pregnancy can be

potentially harmful for your growing baby

and has been reported to be associated with

several adverse pregnancy outcomes, including

early pregnancy loss, preterm birth, and impaired

fetal growth. Coffee, tea, cocoa and some carbonated

soft drinks are the main sources of caffeine intake. It

is recommended that pregnant women limit caffeine

consumption to less than 200 to 300 mg per day to

potentially reduce their risk of possible adverse reproductive

effects. Coffee contains 50 to 70 percent more caffeine than tea and other products. As a

guide one cup of coffee contains approximately 100mg-200mg of caffeine depending on how it is prepared e.g. Instant versus brewed. Green tea (6 oz) contains approximately 40 mg and

Black tea (6 oz) 45 mg. Avoiding caffeine as much as possible is however the safest option.

I think this magazine is great, and your column is very informative. I wish I’d had this with my first 2 pregnancies. On my third now, and I’m very curious about cord blood banking in Jamaica. Is it available here or anywhere in the Caribbean?

Firstly I would like to thank you for highly rating this extraordinary magazine. Cord blood banking is relatively new to the Caribbean and unfortunately at this time there are no

cord blood banks available within the Caribbean region. However, cord blood can be

taken at the time of delivery here in Jamaica and sent to a cord blood bank overseas. This

is accommodated by your Obstertrician and Gynacologist who will contact the cord blood bank of your choice who will then send a special kit and instructions to collect the cord blood. Once collected it would be sent immediately via a courier service to the bank.

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Two main types of cord blood banks exist, public cord banks and private cord banks. In addition to these two main types of cord blood banks, some private

and public cord blood banks provide a service called directed cord blood

banking in which cord blood is reserved for a sibling or family member with

a known potentially transplant-treatable disease.

I recommend that you contact the Cord Blood Registry at www.cordblood.com.

You can also see a listing of other collecting units worldwide at www.bmdw.org.

The day I entered my final trimester my skin changed. My underarms, neck, and bottom are blotchy and about 5 shades darker. I feel unattractive and miserable. Please tell me this will pass soon, and is there anything that’s safe to use now, that will help.

Most pregnant women develop some degree of increased skin pigmentation

(colour) that usually resolves after pregnancy. The cause of this increased pigmentation is reported to be hormonally related. Common areas include

the nipples, underarms, genitalia, buttocks, inner thighs and the neck. The

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good news is that for the majority, post delivery, these areas become less pigmented over a period of several months. Unfortunately, this condition is not deemed treatable during pregnancy as it is self-limiting. To minimise the

pigmentation in the mean time I recommend that you use a sunblock daily that

protects against both UVA and UVB rays with SPF 30 or higher and limit

exposure to the sun. After pregnancy and breastfeeding if your skin remains

significantly discoloured without any signs of improvement then consult with

a dermatologist who may recommend the use of topical skin lightening agents,

glycolic peels or laser treatments. Please remember however that these changes will not occur over night and patience is the best remedy for this condition.

Apart from my prescribed pre-natal vitamin and folic acid, I’m also taking Vitamins B, E and Cod Liver Oil. Am I over-doing it?

WANT TO STOP FINGER-SUCKING?

1.

Give your child a good reason to stop. “Let’s

try to stop before school starts”, as opposed

to “ You better stop sucking that dirty finger before everybody laughs at you!”

2.

Supplementation of your diet with prenatal

he’s tired or hungry or sad? What are the

essential for

triggers? Once you’re aware of the signs,

you can offer a practical alternative before the

general health

but also for your

developing

to know when your child will

suck his finger. Does it happen when

vitamins is indeed

not just your

Anticipate. Prepare. Plan. Get

baby and

the placenta. At a minimum, the daily

multivitamin-mineral supplement you take should contain key vitamins/ minerals that are often not met by diet alone, such as: iron, calcium and folate. In addition to these, pregnant women also require adequate amounts

of vitamins A, B complex, E, C D, and zinc. Most commercial “pre-natal” vitamins already contain all these essential vitamins/minerals in their required

amounts therefore additional vitamins/minerals are not necessary. Some

vitamins can be potentially harmful when taken in large quantities. These

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finger-sucking starts.

3.

Help your child to recognize when, and perhaps why he is sucking his finger.

Discuss alternative ‘comfort-habits’, and try

implementing them on a slow and steady basis.

4.

Do not pressure your child. Take your time, and let him take his. Just be sure to remain

consistent. And let him know that you’re there to help him, no matter what.

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Diapering 101

CHANGE IS GOOD Diaper changing is a delicate art. Master it and everyone will be happier. Here’s how.

When diapering is not a chore, you’ll find that both you and your baby can enjoy the time

you spend together in this daily routine. Over the years we’ve learned plenty about diapering babies — and have gathered some of the best suggestions right here.

GATHER CHANGING ESSENTIALS Most parents agree that a well-planned changing area makes diapering quicker and easier. Keep essential supplies close at hand (yet out of baby’s reach) on nearby shelves. Essential supplies include: diapers, baby wipes, baby lotion (cream

or oil), cotton, petroleum jelly, diaper rash cream and diaper rash liquid powder. .

Since a baby who is preoccupied is a baby who won’t wiggle and squirm, give baby something

to look at while being changed — such as an unbreakable mirror or a colorful picture. Later

on, when baby is able to grasp objects, keep favorite toys close at hand.

STEP 1

EASY AS 1-2-3

Gently lay your baby down on a flat, firm

soiled diaper and thoroughly cleanse baby’s

hold both your baby’s legs up by grasping

HUGGIES® Baby Wipes, and be sure to

surface. Unfasten the soiled diaper and

both ankles with one hand. Remove the

bottom in and around all the creases with

wipe baby’s bottom from front to back.

STEP 2 Now apply any jelly, cream or powder you’re going to use. If you use baby powder or

cornstarch, shake it carefully into your hand

first and then pat it on your baby. That way

baby won’t breathe in a cloud of powder. Or,

use liquid powders that don’t have airborne

particles.

STEP 3 Next, slide a clean diaper under your baby

If you want to tighten or adjust the diaper,

the diaper up between baby’s legs, making

them anyplace on the special tab “landing

so that the fasteners are in the back. Pull

sure it’s on straight, so it will wrap evenly

around baby’s hips. Then open the tabs,

place them over the front of the diaper,

and press them down firmly in place. For a snug fit, fasten the side closest to you

zone,” which is often marked by colorful

characters near the top of the waistband.

The fasteners on HUGGIES® diapers

are ‘refastenable’ and can be opened and fastened again as often as necessary.

first. Then roll your baby toward you to

Special safety note: Be aware that even a

keep the overlap of front and back as neat as

table. So use either a changing table with a

tighten and fasten the other side. Try to

possible so the diaper will hug baby’s waist

comfortably.

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simply lift the fasteners and reposition

tiny newborn infant can roll off a changing

strap or keep one hand on your baby at all times.

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THE SCOOP ON POOP Most newborn babies have between one and ten bowel movements daily, and their stools

are usually quite loose. It may be weeks, or

You should also be aware that breast-fed

babies usually have stools of a yellowish-

greenish color and those of bottle-fed babies

even months, before your baby has well- tend to look darker. If you notice an increase formed, pasty stools. If your baby is being

in the number of your baby’s bowel movements,

breast-fed, your newborn may have a bowel

or if you notice a change in color or odor, your

will probably be much looser than those of a

should consult your doctor at once.

bowel movement for up to three days at times

frequent stools, you’ll want to make sure

trouble pushing the stool out or goes longer

the legs and waist. They’ll give a secure fit to

movement at every nursing, and the stools

bottle-fed baby. Some babies may not have a

— this is not abnormal. But if your baby has

baby may have a case of diarrhea and you And, because newborns have loose and

your new baby wears diapers with elastic at

than three days without a bowel movement, help stop leaking.

call your doctor right away.

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Most parents " agree that a well-

planned changing area makes diapering quicker and easier. Keep essential supplies close at hand (yet out of baby’s reach) on nearby shelves.

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THE HEARTBREAK OF DIAPER RASH Even with the most expert and careful diaper changes, diaper rash happens. It’s one

irritation most babies go through, particularly

if their skin is sensitive. Despite its name,

diaper rash isn’t really caused by diapers. It is caused by bacteria that react with urine in

a baby’s wet diaper to form ammonia. It’s the

ammonia that irritates the skin, causing small, red pimples or patches of rough, red skin.

Doctors say that keeping a baby dry is the

best way to prevent diaper rash. So check

diapers often, and change them as soon as they show the slightest trace of wetness. Highly breathable diapers like HUGGIES® can also

help keep baby’s skin dry. Of course, if your baby has a mild case of diaper rash, be extra

careful to change diapers frequently. Your doctor will probably also recommend that you apply a thin layer of protective ointment

or petroleum jelly to the affected area.

Also, many mothers report that leaving

diapers off a baby for at least 15 minutes daily

often helps to clear up a case of diaper rash.

Of course, if a rash doesn’t heal in a couple of days, consult your doctor.

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DIAPERS TO GO The diaper bag is the essential piece of luggage whenever you

travel with your baby. You can buy a diaper bag made just for that

purpose, or easily improvise one out of almost any roomy canvas

or nylon tote.

What to pack? Be prepared for anything with the following

diaper bag essentials: a HUGGIES® Baby Wipes Travel Pack, a

supply of HUGGIES® Diapers, plastic bags with twist ties for

easy disposal, whatever cream, jelly, or protective ointment you use, and — in a separate pocket of the bag — any bottles needed for

meals on the go. Don’t forget a small toy or rattle to distract your squirming baby while you diaper. And HUGGIES® Disposable

Changing Pads are perfect for changes on the go. They protect your

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BABY

Let's Get That Body BACK! A Simple Post-Natal Exercise

Exercise Routine Illustrations: Rachel Wade

Exercise after pregnancy and delivery is critical in helping you return to your pre-pregnancy shape (and sometimes better) and gives you increased energy to cope with the new demands of motherhood. You can begin exercises to tone your pelvic floor and abdominal muscles as soon as you feel ready, but please be sure to ask your doctor before starting any exercise programme, especially if you have had a Caesarean section. It is important to make sure your abdominal muscles have healed before you do any vigorous exercises such as crunches. .

OBJECTIVES OF POST NATAL EXERCISES The aim of post natal exercise is to enhance the regeneration of connective tissue and muscles in support of the return to a prepregnancy body. It concentrates initially on strengthening the pelvic floor and later on rebuilding the superficial abdominal muscles.

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Health and Wellness Benefits

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Flat belly

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Avoid possible incontinence

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Defined muscles

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Tight skin

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Feel-good figure

GENTLE TUMMY EXERCISE In the meantime, you can start to tone your tummy with this simple exercise that helps to strengthen the deepest muscle layer (transversus abdominus). It is very easy, and you can do it lying down, sitting or standing.

1.

Sit with back straight for

10 seconds (lean forward at bit and stretch the

back while tightening the

tummy muscles)

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Slowly relax and release the tension in back and tummy

to a concave position for 10

seconds (let your neck hang loose as well)

3.

Return to straight

posture with tummy

muscles still tight. Repeat the steps x4

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My Toddler is a Picky Eater

As your baby gets older he or she may become very picky about the food they eat. He may eagerly devour carrots one day, then completely reject them the next.

Don’t worry! It’s perfectly normal, but here are some things you can do to get through these testing days.

SET THE STAGE Sometimes, it’s the environment and not the food that contributes to baby’s pickiness. Try creating a calming environment at mealtime whether by eating together as a family, or feeding your baby without others around. Here are some suggestions: •

Prepare everything you need-napkins, utensils, etc. on the

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If the phone rings, don’t rush to answer…they will call back.

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table before the meal starts so you don’t have to get up.

Make your friends aware of mealtimes and ask them to avoid stopping by at those times.

Turn off the TV and radio when it’s time to eat. Create

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Limit the number of bowls, spoons and cups on his table.

•

Try to sit down and eat meals as a family. Remember to be a

Giving too many utensils too soon, can be overwhelming and cause a distraction from eating.

good role model for your child!

family rituals at the dinner table to establish a sense of

tradition. Be sure to include your child in the conversation.

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BE FOOD SMART The other factor that contributes to your baby’s pickiness is the food itself. These tips may help you handle her changing tastes: •

Large portions may overwhelm your baby, so place small

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Respect your baby’s hunger and fullness cues – stop when

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Give them time to chew, swallow, and even play a bit with

•

Remember your baby will refuse to eat foods you show a

learning. Rushing your baby takes the fun out of eating and

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Serve a variety of healthy foods and partake in them also.

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portions on his tray.

a new food. Playing with food is an important part of adds stress to feeding time.

Expect a mess. It will make the feeding experience more

pleasant for you and your baby. Protect flooring near your

baby’s high chair with a plastic runner or newspapers. Give

•

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unbreakable dishes and a child-size spoon.

Remain patient. If your baby rejects a particular food,

they’re done, even if it’s just after a taste.

dislike for. Watch your reactions to food around baby.

Never force your child to eat. While your role is to decide what foods to offer let your baby decide how much to eat.

Be realistic. Your baby may never love green beans but with your help, he can learn the joy of trying new foods and the

pleasures shared around the dinner table.

prepare it in a different way next week and try offering it to her again. It may take up to 10 or 15 tries for your baby to

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accept it.

Try a new food along with a familiar food, even mixing

the two. For example, if your baby likes bananas, introduce

peaches by mixing them with bananas.

•

When introducing a new food, wait for your baby to open

•

Make eating a positive experience. Avoid pressuring her to

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Gerber® baby food will be with you every step of the way as your baby grows and learns to try new foods.

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his/her mouth and just touch the tip of the spoon to her lip. try a new food.

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Baby Beauty Bar As soft as a baby’s bottom, they say? With the days of petroleum jelly now nestled comfortably in history, there are so many options for protecting baby’s skin available today. We checked around and found some great products for baby’s skin.

Here are our top 5 choices available in stores in the Caribbean, or online.

Ultimate Ointment by Noodle & Boo noodleandboo.com $15

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Ultimate Ointment works by creating a moisture repellent barrier between the skin and sources of irritation to help enhance the natural healing process. Contains active ingredient Zinc Oxide to help protect and enhance the natural healing process. Soothes inflamed skin with bisabolol and allantonin helping to prevent further aggravation.

Available in Antigua & Barbuda (Piglets)

Why we love? Noodle and Boo Ointment surprised us by having such great medicinal value. We coined the term ‘royal relief ’ for this product!

Smooth Moves Daily Lotion babyganics.com

This extra gentle, non-toxic formula absorbs easily and provides deep lasting hydration. Specially formulated with natural plantbased ingredients like Shea Butter, Aloe, Vitamin E, and Olive and Avocado Oil, skin feels so silky smooth the whole family will want in on the action!

Available in Jamaica (Babeelicious)

Why we love? There’s something really pure and simple about Smooth Moves Daily Lotion. It’s very light to the touch, offers deep penetration and is completely non-greasy. It’s also non-scented, so it’s great for those sensitive little noses.

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Lavender Scented Baby Oil littletwig.com $12.50

Great for soothing and smoothing.

Little Twig Baby Oil combines a calming lemon-lavender essence with essential oils for silky-soft skin.

Made with organic ingredients, and is nut, soy and wheat-free. Pediatrician tested and b3 approved.

Why we love? This baby oil has a great light scent, and the lavender is perfect for a relaxing massage.

Nappy Rash Ointment mattercompany.com $18

Petroleum-free, this Nappy Rash Ointment forms a protective barrier against wetness as it soothes and protects baby’s skin. Their herbal formulation of calendula, marshmallow root, St. John’s wort, yarrow and myrrh powder has a special affinity for balancing young, sensitive skin. Combined with a rich, nourishing base of shea butter, carrot oil and cocoa butter, Matter Company’s sweet scented roman chamomile essential oil completes this indispensible multi-purpose ointment.

Why we love? Nappy Rash Ointment is exactly that! A nappy rash ointment.

And a very effective one. Chock-full of natural ingredients, it applies easily, protects well, and removes without leaving a pasty film.

Soothing Ointment mum + bub™ skin care aidenandanais.com $15.95

Aiden and Anais strikes gold again with their Mum + Bub line of skin care products. Infused with fresh fermented pawpaw fruit, this nourishing ointment relieves, protects and cleanses skin when applied topically. Also works wonders as a diaper ointment, and for limited first aid application such as minor cuts, chapped lips and insect bites.

Why we love? Mum + Bub is truly a great ‘one-stop shop’ for both mother and child. We love the delicious scent of this product. It’s not too heavy, so it’s perfect for use in our warm Caribbean climate.

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On Surviving a new in .

Babythe Family

B

by Elena Diedrick-Lynch, Jamaica

ringing a new baby into your family is a new and exciting journey

for everyone, and with it comes uncharted territory. Whether

it’s baby number two (or three or four), new challenges are

presented for everyone involved. Having a baby opens your

heart to an entire world of adjustment and re-prioritisation,

and as parents we constantly juggle all of the pieces of our lives to ensure we have everything together. Here are some

easy suggestions that will help maintain your sanity, and bring

a sense of normalcy to the first few months after bringing home a new baby.

Schedules make your life easier, although some parents admit to not having enough time to

make them. However, once you do put your life on paper, it helps everyone stay on the same

page. Provide school-aged children with their weekly schedule broken down by activity or subject, so both parents can keep track of what their children are doing, and when. It’s also a

help for your support structure - family and friends who will chip in at some point or another

once the new addition arrives. School activities, play dates, extra-curricular activities and

after-school lessons are a lot easier to monitor once they’re all organised in a central location.

I also like having a meal plan set out for the month so there’s no daily issue of “what are we

eating tonight”. New parents don’t have the capacity to think about non-essential things – let someone else deal with that.

Routines are the framework for your baby’s day and your family’s survival. It’s a blueprint

that gives new Mummies & Daddies a clear-cut idea as to when they’ll have some down time.

My clients, and anyone who reads my blogs, know the importance I place on a strong routine

being adopted and supported by everyone in the family. New babies thrive on the predictability

and consistency of knowing what’s happening now, and next. Mummy and Daddy can also

rest at ease knowing when they have a moment to themselves, time to run errands and fit in

some one on one time with other siblings, friends etc.

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D

ate Nights provide parents with

a few quiet moments outside of the home. Get dressed up and

go out on the town for dinner,

a quiet movie, book a hotel room and just

go and indulge in some well needed ZZZ’s – whatever you mutually agree on. Time away

from your kids is important. Enjoy guilt-free

focus on YOU, and keep the spark alive so you

can continue to lean on each other for support during those times when you just want to rip out your hair. A word to the wise; treat this

like an appointment – don’t just ignore or

forget it like so many other things in our lives.

Make it a priority, organise your babysitter and go out once a week on a set day. Make all the necessary arrangements for baby’s care, to .

avoid calls that interrupt your evening. Every now and then, don’t talk about the kids!

Filling Emotional Baskets - Everyone

needs to be validated – especially your toddler.

Filling your child’s emotional basket, is the

time you spend one on one with each child. This isn’t time you spend

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with all of your kids. Ensure each child gets your undivided attention

for that period alone. Create a 10-15 minute window in your routine,

and spend it with your kids. –They each need your time and this goes

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cream – regardless of the activity make sure they feel special

distracted and in the end, they don’t get the validation they need. Once

the benefits of it are almost instantaneous. It’s incredible to see a child

whose emotional needs are met, and how they relate to their parents.

As parents, we have idyllic fantasies of our children being harmonious

together – unfortunately the reality may be quite different. When it

comes to preparing younger siblings for the arrival of a new baby do it slowly, it’s a process.

•

Be in constant communication and conversation about what they can expect, and create a realistic picture of what life with

a newborn will be like. Avoid mentioning you’ll have a new

playmate for them, when in reality it will be months before

doing something alone with you.

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Involve them in the day to day caring for the new baby – setting the bath, changing a diaper, massaging after bath time, picking

out an outfit for the day – once they feel involved, they’ll

have a sense of where they belong in this new dynamic. Don’t

force them though – with different levels of enthusiasm or

involvement, it’s ok for them to take their time.

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ummies and Daddies are now even further stretched

and pulled in different directions, but ultimately, the

key is to keep in mind that it’s a constant process.

Striking the balance between each child is important

to ensure that everyone feels validated, and hopefully, implementing these suggestions will help to make your lives that much easier to

the new baby will be able to interact independently with their

manage. Happy Parenting!

Involve older siblings in the process by including them in the

Elena Diedrick-Lynch is a mummy, parenting consultant and owner BlissfulMummy.com, a blog and parenting advice site. For consultations or assistance in night waking issues or routine implementation email her at Elena@blissfulmummy.com

older sibling.

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away with your older children to do fun things – might just be

book in the book section, catching a movie or grabbing an ice

about their day, friends etc.). Steer clear of technology - the kids get

being polite, etc. It makes your life that much easier to navigate, and

Once baby arrives try to steal special “Big girl or big boy” time running to the supermarket and having them pick out a special

something that is one on one (i.e. Reading, telling a story, chatting

to listening, following instructions, taking the initiative to help out,

no matter what this baby hasn’t arrived to steal her mummy

from her.

for both parents. Ideally it’ll happen twice a day with each parent doing

their emotional baskets are filled they become that much more receptive

One on one time is critical for your little one to know that

preparation of the nursery.

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On The Inside

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Children’s Stores Across The Caribbean

May is Child's Month

Celebrating our Children in Words

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PIGLETS – ANTIGUA Piglets retail boutique offers a fresh and funky selection of baby, children, maternity apparel, accessories, educational toys, equipment & furniture. Are you a new Mom, or

do you need to entertain your little ones? Check out their weekly workshop schedule...

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MARAY’S KIDS N STUFF – TRINIDAD Manufacturers and retailers of quality children’s furniture, Maray’s Kids n Stuff creates customised pieces, wall murals, and storage solutions. Transform any room

with simple and colorful designs. Give your child well-made, durable furniture, that

can be passed from one generation to the next, and beyond. All pieces are non toxic

and lead-free. Available through a network of local retailers, and marayskidsnstuff.

com Made in Trinidad.

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COVER STORY

The Makings Of A Great Childhood

I couldn’t have been older than seven, maybe eight years old. It was the summer holidays, and not yet time for our annual trip ‘abroad’. The days were long, and had to be filled by imagination and wonder. The luxury of iPads and Apple TVs was still about 30 years off at that point, and children still had to be entertained. JBC (the Jamaica Broadcasting Corporation – then the only television station) would sign on at 4p.m., so between waking up, and that heavenly hour when we got to watch Ruff n Ready and Batfink, my sisters, friends and I did just about everything we could to fill that gap. .

I

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f nothing else, we were creative. We had to be, and I’m glad we were.

They say imagination fosters learning, but I believe it fosters a whole lot more than that. These were the days of childhood past where friendships

were formed, characters were built, and memories that last were made.

From sun up until sundown, imagination, wit and creativity occupied our days. I’d say the iPad generation has nothing on us!

If we really think about it, childhood is the time in life, where

happiness should be the order of the day - everyday. The only thing

that should bring a tear or two, should be the occasional cut and scrape. That’s it. There’ll

be plenty of time for work, worry and responsibility - later. So for now, let’s pack every

ounce of pure, unadulterated happiness into the lives and memories of our children. We have but one chance, let’s make it count!

So what makes an amazing childhood?

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hildren will be children, no matter where in the world they live. But

here in the Caribbean, we’re blessed with the canvas of sun-shiny

days and warm breezes almost 365 days of the year. What better

palette could any youngster want to paint the perfect portrait of his childhood?

PLAY TIME

“Turn off that television and go play outside!” If you’ve ever uttered those words, or a variation

of same, then you’re sure to understand the passion of a parent who sometimes wishes the

TV would disappear with the twitching of her nose. According to the World Bank Indicator for Latin America and the Caribbean, 88.3% of all households in the region now have

access to television services, and have television sets in their homes. This simply means that

more children are able to watch television today, as opposed to a generation ago, when only approximately 72% of Caribbean homes were equipped with television sets. This, coupled

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with the phenomenal growth in electronic entertainment offered by handheld devices and

wireless gaming, sets the stage for an even greater challenge for parents to encourage our

children to get outdoors.

For the most part, we’re ‘preaching to the converted’. Most parents agree that outdoor play is

best for their children. We polled 30 parents, on 7 islands about their parenting practices, and

all state that they include at least 1-2 hours of outdoor play for the children age 3 – 12 years.

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LEARNING MORE THAN LEMONADE...

Although not a Caribbean original, the lemonade

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stand is a classic way to engage your child’s desire to

baked goods (cookies or cupcakes are a perfect choice),

to the lemonade stand, and they’re bound to have a

have fun while beating the island heat. It also presents

great day! Create hand-written flyers ahead of time

valuable money lessons – with the right guidance;

to have customers come by.

an incredible opportunity to teach your child some

you may just foster some entrepreneurial skills in

the process.

From making the lemonade, to seeing their first

satisfied customer, your children will have a great

time at every stage. Be sure to supervise them during

and distribute to neighbours, this way, they’ll be sure Encourage your child to use proceeds from the

lemonade stand wisely. This can be the money they

put toward buying that toy he or she wants so badly,

or it could go to a charity of their choice. You may be

surprised at how carefully they’ll spend their money

the process, and don’t ‘take over’ the fun. Add some – now that they did the work to earn it!

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LEMONADE “THESTAND

IS A CLASSIC WAY TO ENGAGE YOUR CHILD’S DESIRE TO HAVE FUN WHILE BEATING THE ISLAND HEAT.

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LIFE LESSONS LEARNED EARLY I recently saw a group a nine children, aged 3 – 8 years- own solution, with no adult interference whatsoever. old, solve a problem. They had to choose two teams

to play a game, which required an equal number of

players on each side. They did the math, and quickly

Not surprisingly, the position of the judge soon after became quite coveted!

Children have fun when they play games, but it is

realised that one team was outnumbered. After trying

also a great opportunity to teach that you win some,

other team, they decided amongst themselves, that

children often believe that Mummy and Daddy can

unsuccessfully to con a grown-up into balancing the

you lose some. In their perfect little worlds, young

one person would have to sit out the game. Needless

fix any and every problem. So it’s natural that they

amount of youthful debate, they established a rule – if

play time. While games help introduce children to the

to say, that one person was not happy. So after a fair

turn to you when something goes wrong – even during

ever there was an ‘odd person out’, that person became

difficult reality that a lot of life is beyond our control,

recognised they had a problem and created their

appropriately in order get the best results.

the official judge. I watched with pride, because they

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the onus falls on us as parents to apply that knowledge

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WHAT’S THE BIG DEAL WITH WINNING? COVER STORY

“I tried my best, but I still didn’t win!” says the

3 year-old boy to his mummy. A familiar cry at

many Sports Days, and one that requires just

HERE ARE A FEW TIPS ON RAISING A GRACEFUL WINNER OR LOSER. •

the right amount of compassion, with a bit of

if he wins, be sure to demonstrate the

poses the challenge. If we place the emphasis

same.

•

Teach your child to congratulate

others when they win. The gesture of a handshake sets the foundation for a

solid business practice incorporating

and tell your child how proud you

Hearing kind words after a loss will

help to ‘ease the hurt.’ Talk about what happened and always encourage him

encourage good sportsmanship, and

It’s the learning-to-lose gracefully part that

Recognise any small steps of growth are of his efforts at handling loss.

with your child, and whenever you

to be gracious yourself. If he sulks,

Losing happens; it’s a natural part of life.

half the battle would already be won.

Don’t let your child win. Play games do, be fair. If he loses, make sure

tough love to illicit the ideal effect.

on ‘trying your best’, and not on coming first,

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to try harder next time.

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Children need validation. It gives them the security they need to be

confident in life. But it’s important to

know that winning does not validate.

Trying does.

integrity and good wishes.

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TAKING TURNS Save for Solitaire, just about every game

not interrupt Mummy while I’m on the phone”.

way to teach them that others have needs

includes the task of taking turns. Waiting

Do you have any idea just how hard that is to

as well. It’s also the same foundation we set

imagine what a child, who wants every turn to

you something right away? (Ever noticed

success in life. Waiting develops self-control

is hard, even for some of us grown-ups, so

be his, must go through. It’s hard for them to

learn, and also hard for us to teach. But, this

is the same foundation set when we say - “Do

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do, when your three-year-old needs to tell

for their balanced development and overall

that that’s when they just MUST tell you – a critical component of character-building.

something?) For so many children, who think that it’s ‘all about them’, this is an important

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SNACK TIME Ask any 30- or 40-something islander today

sugar cane, tamarind balls, mango chow, and

what was one of their favourite things to do ‘dollar’ pholourie. when they were growing up, and you’re sure to

We have however gotten smarter, wiser and

hear ‘eat’. We’re not talking about the major

more conscious of the implications of eating

meals, the filler-uppers and the little snacks

& Nutrition Institute introduced Project

meals here… I’m referring to the in-between

unhealthy foods. In1991, The Caribbean Food

more outdoor playtime, these statistics stand to improve even more.

* The CFNI is a specialized Centre of the Pan American Health Organization/World Health Organization (PAHO/WHO) that serves a total population of about six (6) million.

that we weren’t allowed to have before dinner. Lifestyle, a pilot project launched in several

“Don’t spoil your appetite!”

Well, the more things change, the more

islands aimed at introducing concepts of weight control, healthy eating and physical

they stay the same. From the western-most tip

exercise into the public school curriculum.

of Long Bay, Barbados, Caribbean snacks

foods for their children that are good for them,

of Negril, Jamaica, to the most easterly point remain vital in the life of a child.

Think fresh fruit, banana chips, natural

So today’s Caribbean parent proudly prepares and provide balancing results. Obesity in the

Caribbean is on the decline, and coupled with

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BEACH TIME beach days were – jumping or diving from

Sunscreen is a must. And don’t forget toys

walk, and for others an exciting family trip.

acrobatics, and water wars. For those too

non-swimmers in your family, take along

a picnic basket, or not. Good food is never

on the sand were just as fun. Children revel

can be brutal, so be sure to take enough cold

Little else conjures up such excitement

but the joy of covering friends and family in

but certainly not least…your camera – there

Just about all homes in the Caribbean have

access to a beach! For some it is just a short

After all, this is the Caribbean! You can pack far away.

in young children as a day at the beach. So

many Caribbean children learn to swim at the beach; a great combination of learning a useful skill while having fun. And fun those

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the jetty, swimming to the reefs, underwater young to venture out into the deep, the joys

not just in building sand castles and carvings,

mounds of sand, always evoked shrieks of laughter.

Heading to the beach? Be sure to pack

for the children to play with. If you have

your floatation devices. The Caribbean sun

water for everyone in your party. And last,

are sure to be many ‘kodak’ moments, so don’t leave home without it!

all you’ll want and need to have a great day.

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GETTING DIRTY Children who play outside become more

and assessing risk. Try gardening – get them

develop a keen understanding of identifying

the yard for them, buy them some seeds…and

adventurous than those who don’t. They also

their own gardening tools, dedicate a spot in

let them loose! They’ll get dirty, but they’ll

also have fun, and you may get some tomatoes in the process.

SCHOOL TIME I remember the excitement my son felt just

children cannot escape. School is one of them.

is where your child will receive extensive

first replicas of structured society that your

including his habits, socialisation, discipline

prior to starting Kindergarten at age 4. “Let’s

And for good reasons too. This is one of the

cute that first early morning. We parted in

child learns. Rules and regulations must

and governance structures.

respect for authority is instilled. These are

the tools to keep the Caribbean vibrant and

go to school Mummy,” his little lisp was so

class without tears or drama, and I was so very proud. The following day however, he

be followed, actions have consequences and

protested. “I already went to school, Mummy… key lessons taught in the Caribbean school yesterday.”

There are many realities of childhood that

system. Choosing the school your child will

attend is not a decision to take lightly. This

influence on his educational experience,

We are equipping the next generation with

productive. Encourage and support education

programmes in your area. Mentor a child. Get involved in your child’s education.

SERIOUS TIME aka DISCIPLINE I recall with extreme clarity, the way I was

cane from its resting place. (Yes, he had a 3

so well-planned and controlled that it was

for I was a good child. (insert laughter here)

descent to my hand). Now, please understand

Hollered even, probably out of embarrassment

and found guilty of whatever infraction I was

throughout the entire day while awaiting

me a valuable lesson. Never punish a child in

punished as a child. Not often, I might add,

Once caught, (it didn’t count if I wasn’t caught)

foot cane that whinnied through the air on its

that I would have to endure this thought

charged with, my father would advise me that

my punishment that evening. Can you say

dinner and read the paper, I was to retrieve the

his plan, because his beating/spanking was

when he got home from work, after he had his

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never as painful as anticipated. But I still cried.

more than anything else. But my father taught anger. His giving ‘notice’ gave us both time to think; him about not killing me, and me

about what I did.

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Today, there are so many ways to discipline

is still practised as a means of discipline. Let

and removal of rewards are widely used. And

out such calculated punishments to me, now

a child. Time-outs, withholding fun activities, me just add that the same father who meted while certainly no longer as common, spanking

vehemently opposes any spanking of his

grandchildren. Hah!

“He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes..…

Proverbs 13:24

CHURCH TIME When I was a little girl, there was a reverence

sisters and I went each Sunday, (kicking and

God, and taught about faith, hope and love;

day from all others in the week. The air waves

of those fun, music-filled churches. Ours

me together.

Skeeter Davis and Sam Cooke make me smile,

by routine and boredom (sorry Mummy),

loving parent, they also need a foundation

that I had for Sundays that differentiated that

sounded different on Sundays. Memories of

and a ‘drive out’ after dinner, became as sure

screaming nonetheless.) We didn’t go to one

was more along the traditional lines dictated

but it did provide us with a very important

as rain. Sunday School was a must, and my

foundation for our lives. We were exposed to

It’s not all bad. We often speak about the ills

effect on children who watch age-appropriate

something I believe grounded me, and kept Just as children need the validation of a

of faith that will help to define them as they become increasingly independent.

TV TIME and harmful effects of the television, without

well. So be sure to set a standard that you’re

programmes which have a positive emphasis. comfortable dealing with.

giving much credence to any positive influence . Remember your TV habits ultimately set that it may have. Television can have a positive

the foundation for your child’s TV habits as

All the trimmings of a happy childhood are

requirements of your local Health Ministry.

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When you think of luxurious and opulent vacations in the Caribbean, Sandy Lane is sure to top your list. This is THE address to visit on the island paradise Barbados, where the discerning traveler who accepts nothing less than the best of both worlds when it comes to a family escape: absolute serenity, and endless possibilities for activities.

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Escape to the Luxurious

Sandy Lane Lux•u•ry noun [luhk-shuh-ree]

Sumptuous surroundings. Extraordinary pleasure one allows ones self.

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hink crystal clear waters, pure luxury and style, options galore

arrive with Airport Concierge and executive

attentive and friendly team that

through to the second you leave. You may even

and bespoke service with an

is second to none. Sandy Lane strikes the perfect chord whether your vacation needs

call for the romance of a babymoon or a family getaway. Sandy Lane is Barbados’ premier destination.

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Your vacation starts the moment you

transportation to the property, and continues

soak up enough rest and relaxation that you’ll survive hours of flying with your toddler on

board with a faraway look in your eyes and a smile on your face. It’s that incredible. Your kids are sure to be worn out for the flight

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anyway, because while you embrace the

of water sports. Do we even need to mention

into a myriad of age-related activities. It’s the

Caribbean sea? We didn’t think so. The Spa’s

opulence around you, they can jump right ultimate vacation; children of all ages immerse themselves in the fun and creativity of The

Treehouse Club, the modern appeal of The Den, and the cool factor of The Lounge.

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the pristine beach lining our sparkling marble reception sets the tone for the world

class treatments available. You can’t help but unwind and spend quality family time tailored

to your needs here, in the absolute finest of styles.

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All onsite programmes, available to children and teenagers of all ages, are complimentary to guests of Sandy Lane.

THE TREEHOUSE CLUB The Treehouse Club at Sandy Lane is

dedicated to creating enchanting memories for your children aged 3 – 12 years. While

you relax, your children will make new friends

and have so much fun they will never want to

leave. For the young children, arts & crafts, baking demonstrations, miniature golf, and

swim time at pool (swimming lessons offered) are just the tip of the entertainment iceberg at the resort.

THE DEN AND THE LOUNGE Teens can enjoy The Den, a virtual paradise for

13 -15 year-olds, while The Lounge entertains

young adults ages 16 years and over. Movie nights, Beach time with games, Pool BBQ parties and a host of outdoor and beach

sports will no doubt keep youths entertained.

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limestone cavern, and the Concorde Experience – a thrill for visitors to the island who continue to be amazed at the airplane’s

stunning combination of advanced engineering and elegant beauty. For the animal-lovers, a

swim with the turtles or a visit to the Wildlife Reserve and Zoo, makes for an incredible island experience.

Other fun activities that children can enjoy

at Sandy Lane include games room with table

tennis, air hockey, foosball, pool tables and

Juke box. They will be sure to love the thrills

of Zip-lining & nature tours, ATV’s - rugged outback tour.

A state-of-the-art Space featuring an

internet café with multi touch computers,

iPads, and an Interactive Zone, is topped

only by the Party Zone – the ultimate bar

and nightclub comes alive each weekend (nonalcoholic beverages) where a touch-screen

song request system makes virtual DJ’s of the children. Fun personified!

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Glama Mama

Tamara Lake-Mair

Tamara's Photos: Michael Hall for Photos by ME

Striking perfection between being Mummy and being fabulous is an intricate balancing act for many at best. Devoted wife to Michael, and mother to Brennan, celeb make-up artist and stylist Tamara Lake-Mair, makes it look as easy as pie! “I love beauty, which is great for me, since beauty is my work. Just because a woman becomes a mother, that’s no reason to stop being glamourous.” Showing us how it’s done is this issue’s GLAMA MAMA Tamara Lake-Mair!

What is your must-have accessory and how would you describe your style?

Beaded Bracelets & watch - (busy Mummies gotta keep their time in check. Brenny keeps

me in sync with time. I haven't yet coined the word to describe my style, but my ideal daily look is an off-the-shoulder anything, skinny jeans and ballet flats.

Being a full-time Mummy, having a full-time job, and being an entrepreneur, what do you do to maintain your fabulosity?

I don't know what I do, I just know I can’t leave the house looking like a hot mess. I'm a

major multi-tasker, so my makeup generally gets done on my 20 minute ride to work each day. My focus in the morning is Brennan. Up, bathed, teeth brushed, uniform on, fed... fix

my juice and out the door. I don't have time to eat so juicing has become a part of my life that has had a positive effect.

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Me Time and Guilty Pleasures: I love music. As long as it’s what I’m into, I feel it deep

within me. Pandora is my best friend. I have it on all day while working. So although I’m working I feel like it’s me time every day. Guilty pleasures.... Brie, Carr's crackers and Pinot Noir.

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Beauty Must-Haves: MAC Concealer and Nars tinted moisturizer,

Bobbie Brown Gel Liner, Nars blush, MAC brow pencil, Mac/Nars/Smash Box gloss.

Biggest Challenge since becoming a mom & what’s the difference between Tammy pre and post Mummy?

Sleeping in- I'm a night owl. So being

a Mummy has put a major damper on my mornings. But it's ok though...as a good friend

always tells me, you can sleep when you’re

dead! I've always been an ambitious person

but now I've upped the ante and so my major

shift is my son and providing for him; it’s not just about money, but I want him to know what hard work does, and to learn what’s truly important in life.

Where is your favourite family vacation destination?

Rock House, Negril. It’s my ideal escape.

It completes me spiritually, mentally and physically. It’s my soul food. And if my family is there then that’s my cherry on top.

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Happy Readers; Happy Families .

by Melanie Schwapp, Jamaica

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am sure that every parent

store, we nodded proudly at any passersby

their children’s upbringing

children with their piles of books as if to say,

recalls several milestones in

whose eyes we could catch, indicating our

where they have had cause “That’s my child!”

to puff their chests with

Backtrack several years – our first child,

pride and give themselves a

Briana, loved to read. As a matter of fact, at

job well done. Well for me,

were ready to enlist her in the Mensa program.

hearty pat on the back for a

three years old, she read so fluently that we

that moment came on a family trip to Florida, It was with heavy hearts that we discovered

one on which my husband and I were so intent

on keeping our three children ‘whine-free’ on the long drives and many family visits that we

that in reading her favorite books to her every

night, she had memorized the text, and was

not in fact reading, but reciting from memory. .

Our second child, Daniel, hated to read. As

a matter of fact, he had only two uses for books

– to grab them from his sister and run through the house screeching “Mine! Mine!”, or to use

them to build magnificent towers. When it

came time for school, the dilemma of getting

Daniel to read gave us many sleepless nights, and home-work time became a sullen time

for both parent and child. My husband and

I were completely overwhelmed. How could

this curious, bright little boy hate reading

so much? PETER AND JANE WERE

GOING TO THE BEACH, AND SPOT

WAS GOING TO CATCH THE RED

BALL! Who wouldn’t want to read about

that? Apparently Daniel couldn’t care less.

Daniel wanted to ride his bicycle (which he > FACT: Reading to, and with, your child significantly impacts their love of books and reading.

usually high-tailed it straight from the airport

did expertly, without training wheels, from

the age of two) and Daniel wanted to build

to a Toys-R-Us store. On this momentous

Lego structures and catch millipedes to count

the X-Ray belt and working out the quickest

Then one day, I got a brainwave. I realized

trip, however, while we were hauling bags off route to the toy store, our children piped up with a question that to this day is still like

music to my ears. “When can we go to the

their legs.

that Daniel’s love for the outdoors, his need to be using his hands and engaging his mind

in nature, was being hindered by sitting at a

bookstore, Mom?” I tell you, my husband

desk over a book. I wrote all the words from

and I swear tears of joy came to our eyes. That

them over the garage walls. Then I told Daniel

age-related aisles in the Barnes and Noble

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ride to each word as he repeated the sentence.

when they watched television, they became

Wonder of wonders! The child rode to every

cranky and argumentative, unfocused towards

at home-work time, he was racing through his

reading. We therefore made a decision that

word, and after playing that game every day

home-work, and displayed little interest in

reading books like a champion. My husband

in their younger years, we would not put

program.

they would be allowed to watch TV would

and I once again began eyeing the Mensa

T

he truth is, parenting is a learning

experience, and what our children

televisions in their rooms, and the times that be limited to weekends only. Seemed harsh,

eh? But wait till you hear the results! – Our

taught us first and foremost, is that

children began to play outdoors with each

methods we used to encourage Briana to read

and we often had to threaten to get them

no two children are the same. The

.

had to be completely different from the ones

we used for our son. We learned how to think

on our feet. No child would get left behind,

especially with that Mensa dream hanging in front of us like a bone. My husband and

I began researching methods of raising ‘A’ students, and every single article pointed to

the fact that reading was the essence of most

successful students. However, with the issue

of Daniel's dislike for reading, we had to find novel ways to encourage a love for books. One

of the most successful decisions we made was

to absolutely never make reading a chore. We wanted reading to be a happy, comfortable

event, so we decided to abandon the books

on Metaphysics, and buy ones which were

directly related to the children’s interests.

Briana loved animals, especially horses, so we bought books with animal stories, or books

other till long after the sun had come down,

"

The truth is, parenting is a learning experience, and what our children taught us first and foremost, is that no two children are the same. inside. The most amazing thing was that the

on animal anatomy. Daniel loved construction

fighting was drastically reduced and laughter

bought him books on those topics. By the time

this day, I am convinced that the extremely

and discovering the way things worked, so we

rang through our home like musical notes (To

our third child, Claire, came along, we had

strong bond that transcends age and gender

have no choice but to develop an interest in

those times of play).

so many books that the poor thing seemed to

animals and construction too.

It still was not a walk in the park, and there

"

between my children was created largely by Another decision we made was that we

would continue to read bedtime stories to them

were many steps my husband and I had to

even when they were past the age where they

One of the key things we noticed was that

to be such a cozy, warm part of the day that

take to keep the children focused on reading. could read to themselves. We found this time

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we were hesitant to let it go. My husband and

momentous occasion in the bookstore. My

the voices and generally carrying on like crazy

our children, then went on a summer trip to

I took turns reading to each of them, making

husband and I bought books upon books for

people depending on the drama level in the

England and forgot every one. When bedtime

memory as some of the most special times I

for a story, we had nothing, so I had to make

story. These family times are imprinted on my

have shared with my children. It was often

during these moments when all guards were

down that my children released little secrets of

came and my children began their demands

one up. Well, out of that trip was born the

story of Lally-May. “Lally-May’s Farm Suss” was the first book I wrote and published, and

their lives, or expounded on incidents which

all because of those three, story-

my husband and I were entertaining at home

children.

had occurred at school. Many times while

one of us would have to be excused as three

children unapologetically invaded the party to demand their bedtime stories.

A

s the children got older, however,

our techniques had to change

somewhat, for we realized

hungry angels I call my

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Melanie Schwapp is a writer, mother and wife. She is the author of two books, Lally-May’s Farm Suss (2005) and Dew Angels (2011).

that we had to find methods

of making them responsible for their own reading and gathering of knowledge. We tried

to direct most of their television watching to the National Geographic, Discovery and

Travel Channels, and we sparked discussion

about the things we watched while having

dinner. Whenever questions arose, even if we

knew the answers, we encouraged the children

to research the answers and to come back

and relate their discoveries to the rest of us.

The results were nothing short of miraculous!

My children began to thirst knowledge and

to crave books like nothing I’d ever seen (or

had to pay for). One of the greatest gifts I have ever received was when Daniel asked

me to edit one of his college essays. The

question asked him to describe something about himself, and he stated that he had a

thirst for knowledge that was created by his

parents always encouraging him to look up

the answers to his own questions. Mensa?

Where are you?

Well, back to the story about that

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Mummy I Did It…

By Myself!

by Gillian Whyte-Roseway,

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here comes a point in a child’s life

when they become independent.

This change is not only at age 18, when many parents cut the

purse strings, and teenagers want to move

developmental success and challenges that children may encounter, that

is directly correlated to how they

are treated. These stages include trust vs. mistrust, autonomy vs.

out. Independence can be said to first occur

shame and doubt, and initiative

or are taught, to do things on their own. The

according to Erikson occurred

it can come as a sudden turn of events. Either

year to three years and ages three

at ages two through six when children learn,

change can be a subtle transition, as well as

way, children go through a phase of learning

and wanting to do things on their own. At birth children are completely dependent; an

vs. guilt. These milestones

from birth to one year, ages one years to six years respectively.

While theories are speculations,

there is some validity to Erikson’s

adult has to do everything needed to survive.

claims. A child’s development is directly

adults provide the same nurturing, secure and

are raised. Parents and guardians have a

There is then a stage of interdependence where

safe environment; however there is some input

affected by the environment in which they

very important role to play in the successful

in activities on the part of the child. The final

development of children so they become

children learn to do things all on their own.

At this young age, children not only learn

stage is one of complete independence where

From I need you completely, to I need you

somewhat, and then I don’t really need your help at all.

balanced, well-adjusted members of society.

easily, but they are eager to learn. It is the

duty and privilege of the adults in their life to encourage, facilitate and support

want to do things for themselves, but also

eagerly try to assist adults. Chores like sweeping and even cooking will be challenges .

they want to take on. Have the child assist with making cookies…putting on sprinkles

is a big job!

Things won’t be done right, not at first, but

allow the child to try. Let them button up,

independence. Children will become eager

clean up and pack up. Prepare for shoes to

them a sense of accomplishment that they are

put on backwards or inside out. I did it all

to “do what mummy or daddy does”. It gives

growing up, and capable of handling certain

activities on their own. As a parent, don’t

be disappointed when your help is refused,

be put on the wrong foot and clothes to be by myself may not be 100% correct but

ensure an A+ is given for effort.

Your child’s independence is necessary,

take comfort in knowing your little one

as hard as it may be for you the parent,

Some activities that your child may

you are still needed. Facilitating this

may not be so little anymore.

it should be nurtured. Not to worry,

want to start doing include: feeding “I can do it alone” stage will allow your

themselves, putting away their toys or

brushing their teeth on their own. Parents

who enable such activities allow the child to

develop high self-esteem. It also fosters trust

try to manage on their own, while limiting

refused. There is a sense of accomplishment that children get when they can bathe and

dress themselves, not to mention a triumph

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allowing them to explore activities they can

activities that may be harmful or not age

appropriate. So go ahead, allow your child to pick an outfit to wear, polka dots and stripes

can go together if they say it can! Milestones should be anticipated and celebrated. The

such as potty training. There is a reason why a “mummy I did it….all by myself ” will leave

children develop in a predetermined order. “potty dance” exists and the “I’m a big kid now”

The stages from birth to age six speak to possible

adult, and must guard children from danger.

school alone. Yes, without you holding their

on helping themselves and for your help to be

Development postulates that

their own. However, you still remain the

Children must be given controlled freedom,

hand. Be prepared for your children to insist

Stages of Psychosocial

and equip them to make decisions on

and confidence in themselves and their own

abilities. Children will also want to walk into

E r i k s on’s

child to develop confidence, be assertive,

song is so popular. Children will not only

them feeling successful…revel in their victory

moment, and prepare for many more.

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Christopher Ramson

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For the most part when we think of a single parent, we almost always think of the mother. But we’re flipping the script here. Meet Christopher Ramson; entrepreneur, sports enthusiast, and single Daddy to three energetic boys!

What was your first thought when you realized you were now a single parent?

I thought that this wasn’t going to be such a big deal. I took the challenge head on and did all the school runs, left work early to help with homework,

and showed up for football games. But I soon realized that there is a lot more to parenting than just making sure that they get up and go to school, brush their teeth, do homework and have good manners. Many parents don’t really understand how the dynamics of two parents really compliment a family unit.

As a single father there is no ‘good cop bad cop’ played out so I really had to

change my parenting style and learn when to be the disciplinarian and when

to be the gentle giant. Patience was also something that I have had to practice because as a single father everything from the cut you can’t see which needs a band aid, to the flying karate chop comes to you.

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favorite ways to bond with them are through,

fishing, hunting, boating and wrestling. If

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there is one thing that can turn around a

tantrum, it is a pile on dad, no holds barred,

pillow throwing, all out wresting match on the

bed. And you get extra points if dad actually gets hurt.

Your boys are 10, 8 and 6. They’re pretty close in age, but i’m sure different in personality. Any special tricks up your sleeve on dealing with them?

You are very right that they are all different.

The trick with my boys is learning to read the signs before the issues actually happen. Very

often, I can see the problem building and can avoid a melt down with a little distraction early

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on. My eldest son, Shane, is the barometer in

the house, in that the other two usually follow his lead. There is also strength in numbers

so forget trying to work all three at the same

time. I usually tackle Dominic first because he doesn’t usually resist and once one is down,

the rest tend to follow easier. But the one thing

I have learned is that there is no set formula because my boys are forever trying to figure me out and test the boundaries.

How has being a single parent had to do, I would never want it to change. changed you?

What would you consider your My life has taken a complete turn around, and greatest achievement parenting I almost missed out on the most important alone? thing my life had to offer. I had become the stereotypical Dad that worked hard while

mom took care of the kids. Unfortunately

when you work so hard you miss out on a

lot of the stuff that really matters, and in my case it was Shane, Dominic and Ryan.

Now I get to see every bump, every cry, the imagination, the insecurity and the courage,

the small achievements not just the big ones,

listening not just hearing, supporting not just showing up, and learning to let them be who

Learning to connect with my boys is an ongoing achievement that I experience in

small ways at the oddest of times. As I watch them grow and process why their life has

changed so dramatically, I see why a mother is so important for children so it is important

for me to keep building that bond with them and nurturing them, something more natural

for a mother. I also see the importance of a father so I am learning to play both roles.

they are, not what you think they should be.

Any special bonding activities for you and the boys?

it is the most challenging thing I have ever

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What’s the best, and hardest part of being a single father?

This is a tricky one because I wouldn’t trade

my life as a single father for anything, but the hardest thing that I have had to do is maintain

balance in my life. There is a delicate juggling

act that I have to do now with work, play, and family because without a partner to fill in the

gaps at home, it shows up quickly when one

aspect of my life begins to dominate the other too much.

How big a role does the support of family and friends play in your role parenting?

They say it takes a village... and without friends and family to help out it would be

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and one that offers me a female’s perspective. My parenting style has definitely been influenced by friends and family.

You seem to be an anomaly in today’s Caribbean society.

What words of advice would you share with other fathers, (single or not) out there?

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If you learn to hear what your kids are telling you and find the joy in the noise that they make, it will open a whole new world for you that will bring a lot of rewards.

What would you say to mothers who more often than not, are the ones who end up parenting solo?

Wow! I had no clue. Hats off...

What are the most important lessons that you’d like your boys to learn about being a man?

Don’t be afraid to look within for the answers.

How do you make time for a social life?

This is one of the juggling acts that I do. My social life has changed so now it’s not so much night life, but more sports-oriented, and one that involves my kids. I play Ultimate Frisbee, Football and fish,

all of which my kids enjoy and participate in. I also practice yoga which gives me a chance to go within and just be with myself, and time for yourself is very important.

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Victoria: Wears a lace OMG! girl top in purple, which is brightened with a neon camisole. Cami and shorts from the OMG! Boutique.

Madyson D: Is oh so cute in tie-side shorts and a poncho-style top.

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to be exact – called OMG! girl. The transition from designing for the woman to designing for a tween was not as different as expected. I discovered in the exercise that they are 'little women' – not just

girls; that cute, like pink, is out, and they definitely have their own style. And trends are still very

important even at that age. So most of the pieces we created still offer the flexibility of styling based on their personal taste – and each if not a trend in itself would facilitate one – like layering.

We moved from the fun of creating the collection to the launch of the label to the first photoshoot

which was done for this issue of b3. And I think this last activity was most fun. Can you tell?

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Giselle: Also a fan of the trend of lace, Giselle opted for the lace/chiffon racer back top from OMG! girl.

Cami and shorts from the OMG! Boutique.

Madysin C: Styles her OMG! girl cowl-back blouse with cami and shorts from the OMG! Boutique.

Nia: Wears an OMG! girl romper.

And to pull in the neon trend sports a neon pink purse, and completes her look with glasses.

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too long ago because I can

still remember it, the days were long and dreamy, the nights

were cozy and quite fantastic. I couldn’t wait to wake up. Each

morning was the beginning of another adventure, one we would create as

the minutes crept stealthily by like cats in the backyard, and, voila! Memories were

made, shared and placed on the topmost shelf of the what-not for safe keeping. Summer had

arrived like an uncle from England; long awaited and cheerily bearing presents in his plaid fabric

sack with a shiny brass buckle (a.k.a. grip).

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sister would motorize the gate on its puny little hinges and give us a thrilling ride! I’m not sure who had more fun – she or the turn takers, perhaps it was equally matchless for we

never tired of this game. It broke one summer.

The older ones got a whooping to boot, and we sought out a new means of occupying our time.

Our gate is still broken – but the memories are perfectly intact.

With hopscotch, Chinese Skipping, Stucky

and Rounders, trees to climb and water slides… there was ne’er a chance to say that something was a “bore”!

The nights were the most fun. The greatest

ones were when we suffered a power cut.

No matter which house we were in, for in

those days it was a community that raised us, we would all meet at the gates, parents .

and children alike. With no electricity, not only could we not see to continue to play our

heated evening game of Chinese checkers, Boy/Girl or Jacks, but it was hot indoors,

and that, was our greatest woe. We would congregate on the sidewalk out front and the story telling would commence. For we always had amongst us a Griot of sorts. There was

nothing more exciting than a good ‘Duppy’ story on a moonlit, powercut night with

nothing but chirping crickets and barking

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he days were hotter than any fan could alleviate, knocking on the

window like a friend next door calling us out to play. Happily,

we obliged. The Julie mango tree was often

the first stop; some scampering up the tree like a wide eyed monkey to pick the golden fruit and start the day. We, less agile, would rest on the lower limbs and swing skinny little

legs to and fro to the summer beat that was the sweet sweet St. Julian. The mangoes were

like pure sugar, warm from the kisses of the

morning sun with juice that escaped through our clasped fingers and spiraled around our

up-held arms,… to elbows – this was breakfast (lunch and snack time too)!

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dogs as background music.

There was nothing more exciting than a good ‘Duppy’ story on a moonlit, powercut night

The stories were created on the fly,

illustrated in our minds eye, illuminated by a single flashlight shining up from the story teller’s chin, and animated with gestures and sound effects of sticks on pavement and

stones far flung into the darkness, landing on

someone’s vulnerability to shards of shrieks and laughter.

I wonder what the parents were thinking,

I remember looking back at them in their cliques – the sound of ice clanking against

the glass as they swirl their summer drinks – rum, (I’m sure now), in some concoction of

freshly made mango juice, lemonade or simply

neat, rhythmically interjected with roars of

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GRIP - " Piece of luggage that was

fashionable in the 1950's when the early

immigrants went to Great Britain..upon

returning for a visit in the 1980's the same

luggage was not so fashionable, albeit

functional for "bearing presents""

ROUNDERS - "Jamaican version of

Baseball... the bat was the palm of your hand,

the ball was anything that could be tossed and

the base was usually a tree, a light post or the

neighbour's parked car, or all of the above" STUCKY - A game of catch whereby you

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have 3 lives; upon being touched by the "It"

you are rendered immobile until a team mate

releases you before you are caught again by

the "It". There are three chances to be caught.

The aim of the game is to have the children

run around and tire themselves out so that

they will eat their vegetables and sleep without argument when evening arrives.

BOY/GIRL - a game of wit, speed and

individual creativity. Still fun. Last played

December 2012. All you need is a pencil or

pen and a piece of folder paper.

JACKS - a game of pick up. Part skill,

rounding up of broods for the inward-journey each to their respective homes

by the parents, followed closely by pleading and negotiating to “sleep over” at someone’s house. Someone would win. On rotation meant everyone won.

Slumber parties meant pillow fights and all night jokes. Someone’s Daddy would pop his head in and tell us to be quiet and to get some sleep.

Summer was wonderful that way. And tomorrow would be another such

frivolous day.

We’ve all grown up now. Children of our own. And as summer comes

rushing toward us, I can’t help but remember how good we had it growing up, and how much I want to share those joys with these, my (God) children...

if they would ever get off the Wii (tablet/ Ipad/ DS) and try, at least once, to climb a Julie Mango Tree.

and part distract them so you can tell them

they missed your full sweep. Practice makes

perfect! Myth: a game for girls.

HOP SCOTCH - a game of agility and

accuracy. Worthy of Olympic inclusion.

Important aspect to your success in the game

is the selection of a "Man"... but I digress.

Myth: a game for girls.

WHAT-NOT - "a piece of furniture perhaps

invented by a 1960's housewife who collected

far too many glazed porcelain roosters and doilies"

DUPPY - Myth. or is it???

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By Michelle Gordon, Jamaica

recently fell in love with the hip song “Call Me Maybe”, and I tend to ‘get my dance’ on every time it hits the airwaves. Well, during a recent

dance session, (whilst enjoying my 40-year-old self at an 8-year-old’s

birthday party) my son discreetly walked up to me and whispered through gritted teeth…”Mummy, please don’t dance, you’re embarrassing me.” It then dawned on me that perhaps I’m not a cool as I thought. Could it be possible? I remember promising myself that once I became a parent, I’d

stay en trend. I’d know all the cool terms, the latest games, movies and

songs…the whole nine yards, in an effort to really know what my children were up to. But it occurred to me that sunny afternoon last month, not unlike when I was a youngster, that at some point in a child’s life, parents just aren’t cool.

So here’s a little quiz. Check your weight on our “Cool School Scale”. Be sure to like us

on Facebook. Complete this short questionnaire and post your scores on our Facebook page.

We’ve got a little surprise for the Caribbean’s Coolest Parent! (Winner will be randomly chosen at a date to be advised.)

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1. What's on your iPod playlist? a.

Bruno Mars, Kes, Adele, Konshens and Bob Marley

c.

Keith Sweat, Milli Vanilli and Lovindeer

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b. Atlantic Starr, Sparrow, Michael Jackson and TOK

2. Do you even have an iPod? a.

No need. My smartphone does it all.

b. Of course!

c. My cd player needs to be fixed, so I’m currently listening to the radio.

3. Have you ever jumped in Trini Carnival? a.

Oh Gawwwwd, dat cyaan miss me!

b. I would, but just never made it to Trinidad.

c. No. Extended exposure to the sun, coupled with drinks and long party hours, aren’t good for me.

4. Do your children's friends like you? a. .

Yup. They call me their second Mom!

b. I make them do homework before they play, so I’m c.

in the middle.

I can’t say. They all wave at me from afar.

5. One Direction a.

What a talented group!

c.

What’s the question?

b. Very cute kids.

6. Does your child still let you kiss him or her goodbye? a. We’re more of a fist-knocking, high-fiving kind of team

b. Yes, but it’s quick and painless, and must happen c.

before we arrive at school.

Nope. I steal my kisses at bedtime.

7. Reading is encouraged in our home. a. Newspapers, story books, magazines, comic strips and board games.

b. We’ve got a family desktop which we share.

c. I’m fighting the electronic invasion. I encourage all

reading using our great library of books and extensive Encyclopedia collection.

8. It's a night out with friends, you… a.

Do the hair and nail thing and get completely ‘glam’

b.

I’ll probably get dressed in anticipation, but fall sound

c.

My going-out days are long gone. I have to prepare

for a night off from the children, and a fun time out!

asleep while taking the 5-minute nap I think I need. for the week ahead. There are lunch boxes to plan,

Your Cool School Report Card Being cool in the eyes of your child may not be

the most important thing in being a good parent,

right? WRONG! According to Dr. Susanne Neita,

(accreditation) how your child sees you plays a very important role in how they see themselves, and by extension the world around them.

Did you get mostly A’s, B’s or C’s?

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– Straight to the head of the class for you!

You are the Cool School for Parents Class

Valedictorian. You are definitely way up

on the cool list. You hold the coveted

position of not just having your children think you’re cool, but they’ll respect and admire your opinion on

just about all matters. You’ll be the parent who’ll have your children’s friends continue to visit even when

they’re off at college. They’ll be there when you need

them, and you’ll be in a better position to have them

trust you regarding the things that matter most. IRIE man, keep up the good job!

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– You’re registered at Cool School for Parents, but you’re spending too much

time on the playground. Although you

have potential, you’re still struggling in

the cool department. At the rate you’re going, you’ll

only join the cool school when your children become

parents themselves, and they eventually see the wisdom

of your ways. Nothing wrong with that, but remember being cool doesn’t mean you’re no longer ‘the parent’. It just means that you’ll earn your stripes as really knowing your stuff.

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– If you enrolled at The Cool School for

Parents, you’d be expelled for not showing up for class. Your efforts at remaining in the dark ages may well be rewarded by

having children with whom you have difficulty relating.

Relax a bit, and get to know the world your children are

growing up in. It’s not all that bad. Keeping in touch with popular trends and happenings, doesn’t mean you

have to sacrifice values and traditions. Striking that balance is important, and will bridge the parent-child gap faster than you think.

activities to schedule and homework assignments to check.

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