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From The Publisher This is such an exciting time of year for Boston Spirit.

We’ve got our annual Executive Networking Night, our spring issue, the Fenway dinners, a host of other events, and we are gearing up for Pride season. Suffice to say there is a lot going on. And we love it all.

Spring really is an exciting and fun time in the LGBT community in New England. Everyone emerges from their winter hibernation, the South End restaurants start to set up their outdoor dining, P’town and Ogunquit ramp up for another great summer, and we all realize, once again, how lucky we are to live in this region of the country.

As many of you have seen, Boston Spirit has been writing a column for Boston.com for about a year (www. boston.com/lgbt). In the last few months we have written columns about a man in Tennessee who gave his dog to a kill shelter because he thought the dog was gay (thankfully the dog was later adopted), a high school in Indiana that was considering a ‘straights only’ prom, and the GOP’s decision to spend an additional $3 million to defend DOMA (we’ve also posted many uplifting, positive columns too!) To me, the columns serve as a constant reminder that Massachusetts is a great place to live (blizzards aside).

Need more evidence? How about the fact that this issue has an extended section on Weddings? Once Rhode Island passes marriage equality legislation, coming soon, all six New England state will be on board.

Take a look at our feature on getting married in the great state of Maine.

More evidence? In March 2012 we had more than 1,300 people at our LGBT Executive Networking Night.

The impact of the community on this region’s corporate world is beyond measurement. This year we are very honored to have Gautam Raghavan, the White House LGBT liaison as our Keynote Speaker.

So take it all in everyone … the magazine, the events, Pride, and the upcoming spring season. And don’t worry if your dog is gay, this isn’t Tennessee, it’s Massachusetts and we love your dog.

David Zimmerman Publisher

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Springfield bests Northampton on the LGBT scale, according to The Advocate.

And Albuquerque ranks higher than Provincetown in a survey by The Human Rights Campaign (HRC).

Really?!

Color me skeptical, but something smells fishy about recent surveys on queer quality control.

“As long as people aren’t pouring boiling water on you, they’re considered friendly,” jokes LGBT travel expert Andrew Collins in this issue’s story, “‘Gay-Friendly’ Is Not Good Enough Anymore.”

I am a journalist. I know the impact of the unusual. I know what makes readers turn their heads. But, c’mon, there is turning heads and then there is just plain ridiculous. If these allegedly reputable organizations think their brands won’t suffer from ludicrousness, then more power to them. At Boston Spirit, I hope we maintain a bit more integrity. I am happy to visit Albuquerque and to know that I can travel around in safety, but to say Albuquerque is better than Provincetown, is absurd.

At least you can get married in Springfield, Massachusetts. I love Springfield.

The gay nightlife, the Basketball Hall of Fame, and the Seuss sculptures are all great. But a half-hour drive away, Northampton ranks in the US census top-ten concentration of same-sex couples, and its Pride parade boasts thousands.

Springfield held its first Pride parade just two years ago. Don’t tell me Springfield is better. Tell me it’s great — which it is — but not better.

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I just moved from Jamaica Plain — which boasts the third largest concentration of lesbian couples in the country — to the Hyde Park neighborhood of Boston, which, well, I can’t seem to find much on LGBT stats there. On my first visit to Hyde Park, it just happened that the only person out and about happened to be a gay friend of mine whom I hadn’t seen in a while. It turns out he had moved to Hyde Park from Jamaica Plain a few years earlier.

“I like it here,” he said. Everyone’s nice.

But there’s no gay people,” he told me.

“There’s you,” I said. “And now me. And I also know a lesbian friend of mine is moving in next month just a couple of blocks away.”

“Nice.”

It is nice. I am warming up to Hyde Park — particularly after the nasty snowstorm kept me housebound for a few days. I like Hyde Park a lot. No one has poured boiling water on me yet. But, honestly, if you’re a gay person, it’s no Jamaica Plain.

I don’t need HRC or The Advocate to tell me that visiting Springfield and Albuquerque are great for LGBTs. I am excited that they are. But, please, don’t insult my intelligence by saying they are better than Northampton or Provincetown.

Puh-lease!

James A. Lopata Editor in Chief

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Contents

Forever Young: Massachusetts Commission on LGBT Youth

Mar|Apr 2013 | volume 9 | Issue 2

Spotlight A Very Close Shave A Clean Commute An Explosion of Color Your Farm to Your Table Calling All Artists!

A Tale of Two NYC Accommodations Ricardo Recommends Go Figure Word Is Out

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Three New Books Inspire and Guide Couples on How Throw A Wedding Gay Marriage in Maine Fashion: Here Come the Grooms!

Hair and Make-Up Tests Can Relieve Stress on the Big Day ‘Gay-Friendly’ Is Not Good Enough Anymore

Forever Young

With a new leadership team of 20-somethings, the Massachusetts Commission on LGBT Youth is breathing new life

Does HRC Really Think Albuquerque Is Better for LGBTs Than P’town? Yep.

Accused of ‘comical’ methodology, the nation’s largest LGBT advocacy group is taking heat from cities for its new Municipal Equality Index’s (MEI) narrow focus on laws and policy and ‘one size fits all scoring’

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Gay Marriage in Maine Now that it’s legal, here’s how-to

Here Come the Grooms!

Sure, classic tuxedos or dark navy suits can be entirely appropriate. But who wants to always be appropriate?

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Hair and Make-Up Tests Can Relieve Stress on the Big Day

When it comes to travel and tourism, it’s not enough for places like New England to boast inclusivity — queer travelers expect it — today’s gays want more.

New photography series gives all shapes and sizes of guys something to smile about

Dreams Deferred and Dreams that Explode

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Speakeasy Stage and The Huntington tackle race and real estate, then and now, in Clybourne Park and A Raisin in the Sun

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Ageless icon Barbara Cook still glitters Ryan Landry tackles Fritz Lang’s masterwork M for the Huntington

Scene PrideSports Awards Gala Glitz — Dyke Night New Year’s Eve Waltham House 10th Anniversary Charity Bingo with Constance Waverly and The Boston Sisters The Arches of Hope Inauguration Party

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Calendar Edie’s Triumphant Return!

From P’town to Vegas and back again, Cirque du Soleil star to be Grand Marshall in Carnival Parade

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As ‘G’ As We Can Be Our Other Beloved Barbara

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The Easiest Test You’ll Ever Take 62 ‘Gay-Friendly’ Is Not Good Enough Anymore

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Heading toward 30, Boston’s LGBT Film Fest distinquishes itself as the place for world diversity

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Seasonal How to Throw A Wedding

Global-scale Queer Cinema Alights in the Hub

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A Very Close Shave Luxury Barber Comes to Newbury Street Originally only found in high-end department stores, luxury-shaving brand The Art of Shaving has opened an exclusive Barber Spa on Boston’s Newbury Street. The masculine environment combines dark wood paneling with brilliant marble counters and rich, tufted leather details. Traditionally ornate barber chairs are the focal point of the room. In addition to their signature Royal Shave experience, the store’s Master Barbers, acquired from some of the city’s toniest barbers, “can do some pretty amazing things with beard and moustache trimming,” says out manager, Michael Dow.

A highlight of the location is the full line of the Art of Shaving’s retail selections. Based on a 4-element regimen, a ritual consisting of the application of Pre-Shave Oil, Lather, Shaving, and Moisturizing, the system comes in 5 aroma collections. While the original 4 scents – Sandalwood, Lemon, Lavender, and Unscented – remain popular, the newest, Ocean Kelp, is in high demand.

With essential oils of bergamot, neroli, and lavender, the line has some anti-oxidant features to fight signs of aging and a Pre-Shave Gel that is lighter than the oil found in the other lines.

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For a truly amazing shave, Dow recommends the Power Shave Collection, consisting of a Power Shave Razor, Badger Power Brush, and customizable stand. “The micropulse technology helps to relieve irritation on the skin by lifting and slicing the hairs as the blade passes,” explains Dow. “It also offers an LED light to help you see under your chin, and a sensor to help you decide if it’s time to change the blade.” A truly unique feature is the Power Brush that “helps drive the shaving cream deeper into the base of the hairs to soften the skin and beard.”

First time users should be prepared for a routine-changing experience. “We are trying to help men love their shave,” brags Dow, “not make it something that they hate doing in the morning.” [JOC] The Art of Shaving

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Chris George, Michael Poulin Contributing Lifestyle Editor

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An Explosion of Color A Nostalgic Solution for a Dreary March As March trudges along with its cold, damp weather, we all long for a sign of spring’s joyous color. Long a destination for hip-minded fashionistas, South End shop Motley has developed its own line of t-shirts emblazoned with vintage logos in bright festive colors.

Representative of a simple time, the clean graphics give a touch of whimsy that will brighten any day.

A Clean Commute Combining a love for accessories with a passion for a greener lifestyle, local company Exposed Seam’s StaySharp commuter cuff combines the best of both worlds for commuting bicyclists. A right leg spat bridges the space between the bottom of a trouser and the top of a shoe protecting the trouser from getting stained by the bicycle’s chain.

An elegant solution cleanly executed!

Rolling your trousers up to our knee is no longer necessary; no one looks good in knickers. Available in khaki or black. [JOC]

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The shirts coordinate perfectly – both in color and attitude – with their line of Pure Vida bracelets. Handmade in a small Costa Rica town, the simple designs are meant to be worn together reflecting the individual personality of the wearer. Each bracelet is 100% water proof and softens up with continued wear. Pura Vida donates a portion of its proceeds to the Surfrider Foundation, dedicated to cleaning up beaches and oceans around the world. Motley’s collection sells out regularly. If you see a color you like, grab it. They who hesitate often have to wait for the next shipment. [JOC] motley

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Your Farm to Your Table Boston Flower & Garden Show brings ‘Seeds of Change’ This year’s Boston Flower & Garden Show, March 13 through 17 at the Seaport World Trade Center in Boston, focuses on more than just beauty and goes deeper into the practical aspects of the art. “In developing this year’s theme, we took a look at all the ways people are using their outdoor living space.

We found it goes far beyond planting ornamental gardens and entertaining. The concept of ‘urban homesteading’ has hit a note with our audience,

so we’re featuring seminars on topics such as backyard chicken raising and bee keeping at this year’s event,” says Carolyn Weston, show director of the Boston Flower and Garden Show.

environment and enthusiasm for home veggie production have been a motivating factor in modern gardening.

The five-day event features over 20 gardens that highlight innovative new plants, materials and techniques that increase the beauty, harvest and ecological friendliness of gardens and outdoor spaces. Concern for the

Two of the fastest growing environmental hobbies, raising chickens and bee keeping, will be given spotlights in The Birds & The Bees. Rebecca Killigrew of the Natick Community Organic Farm will offer

Nancy Mangion, the owner of Beekeepers Warehouse will be sharing her beekeeping knowledge at the Boston Flower & Garden Show a lecture on first-time backyard chicken raising, passing along her personal experiences and providing tips. Nancy Mangion, the owner of Beekeepers Warehouse, shares all the buzz in Beekeeping 101, providing tools and guidance for future apiary enthusiasts. [x] [JOC]

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Embark on a retail excursion and then relax and revel in all of your fabulous finds. The Boston Marriott® Copley Place, which is connected to over 200 shops and restaurants and is just a few blocks away from Newbury Street and the South End, is offering a Shopping Spree Package that includes: • Deluxe accommodations in our newly renovated guest rooms • $25 Simon Mall American Express Gift Card (one gift card per night) • Overnight valet parking for one vehicle To book your Shopping Spree Package, call 1.800.MARRIOTT or visit CopleyMarriott.com.

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UFORGE Gallery, founded through the collaborative efforts of Brian Crete, a gay painter, and Rob Festa, a straight photographer and architect, is thriving on Jamaica Plain’s Centre Street. The gallery, which celebrates its two-year anniversary in April, features non-juried exhibitions containing firstcome, first-displayed submissions submitted on a monthly theme. The first time Festa and Crete lay eyes on the work is on delivery for that month’s exhibition. “It’s open to everyone,” says Festa. “It’s fun for us to see everything as it arrives.”

“It’s our challenge to put it all together,” laughs Crete.

Festa and Crete created the gallery in direct response to the continued hardships facing artists. “There are so many galleries that people – artists and viewers – feel they can’t walk into,” explains Festa. “It’s usually all about the sale.” The pair, who met while doing work at the nearby Footlight Theatre, deliberately chose Jamaica Plain to create their judgementfree space. Says Crete, “It’s really all about getting exposure for the artists, to cultivate them so they can promote their own work.” While the artists who exhibit at UFORGE are

primarily from the eastern Massachusetts area, work has been submitted from as far away as Roanoke, Virginia. Artists have ranged in age from 4 to 95.

The gallery also offers a monthly talk-back for those exhibiting. “It’s a great networking opportunity for the artists,” says Crete. “It’s never a critique, but a chance to get the story behind the art.” The UFORGE team then passes along this information in their interactions with the gallery’s visitors.

“The story is what often sells the piece,” says Festa.

January’s show, Texture, was the biggest single show to date with 47 pieces submitted by 44 different artists. March’s theme, Grayscale, will be followed by Sideshow in May and Contemporary in June, Potluck in July, and REM Cycle in August. April will feature the annual show “JP to Me” this year in response to Jamaica Plain’s origins. The privately funded gallery is also available for rental for special occasions and meetings. [x] [JOC] UFORGE Gallery

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A Tale of Two NYC Accommodations A fabulous new très gay resort in Midtown Manhattan—THE OUT NYC— and an apartment with a view in Jersey City— NYC-JC Guest Suites Even in New York—the city that has it all—you still can’t have it all at once. So you make choices. You can have a small room in the heart of Manhattan or a full apartment with a stellar view in Jersey City. You could pamper yourself in a luxury spa and splurge on eating out every night or you could save some dough by bedding down in a pad with a full kitchen and make your own meals and perhaps enjoy a few more Broadway shows?

We spotlight two properties: a fashionable and fun, new, très gay resort in Midtown Manhattan, THE OUT NYC, and apartment rentals with fabulous views in Jersey City, NYC-JC Guest Suites. [JL]

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THE OUT NYC Heart Of Manhattan On West 42nd Street, steps away from Times Square, and sandwiched between queer neighborhoods of Chelsea and Hell’s Kitchen.

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Full Service Resort Includes a gorgeous spa, fun restaurant, workout facility, and several public areas for mixing and mingling, and sunning—yes! get a tan in midtown!

Fabulous And Fun An improbable and perfect match of astroturf fun and stylish elegance—the fabulous Sol LeWitt-inspired entry corridor doesn’t quit and has to be experienced to be believed.

Bunks Offers less expensive accommodations for those willing to bunk in close quarters.

NYC-JC Minutes To Manhattan In Jersey City with easy access to both midtown and downtown Manhattan by PATH subway.

Jersey City Prices $$$ Eurostyle Gay-Friendly Owned and operated by Scandinavians; you’re bound to bump into fashionably dressed tall blonds in the elevator.

Luxury Flat Front desk services, and, depending on the unit, includes full kitchen, washer/dryer, dishwasher, dining room, living room, and more.

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A look at Mitchell Gold and Bob Williams’ picks from their new Spring Collection 2013.

What is better than being part of the opening of Mitchell Gold & Bob William’s new flagship signature store in Boston—besides watching Lady Bunny spin her magic at the party?

Well, being able to catch up and spend some time with the dynamic duo behind the eponymous home and furniture line.

And what is better than getting to know this awesomely genius pair?

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Well, to have a chance to pick their brains for what they consider are the must-haves from their brand new Spring Collection 2013.

So here we go. From the two men whose brand is all about classic comfort, let me introduce you to their new classics:

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Prescott cocktail table I love the mix of the natural white oak and dark ebony-stained oak on this architectural piece.

Winslet chair in black lacquer The perfect combination of traditional and modern in this re-imagined Windsor chair in high gloss black. So chic.

Muffet Tuffets I love our new modern bean-bags in a 24” round size or 30” square. They are great as extra seating or a foot rest and have really good flexible but firm support … they are also the perfect way to add pattern, texture and color to a room without making a huge commitment.

Our Matouk bed linens So classic and beautiful in 100% cotton long staple crisp white percale sheeting with 520 thread-count outlined with details in a variety soothing colors. Matouk is one of the oldest and finest bed linen manufacturers… make sure you add your monogram to personalize them.

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Farrah 6 drawer dresser Love the look of the curved bird’s eye maple drawer fronts with clean-lined lacquered cases in matte bone finish – this 1970s Art Deco Revival look is so fresh for spring. The dresser even has a flip down drawer front for media component storage.

Trent chair I love the look of this fully upholstered chair. Very retro-modern.

Deano Table Lamp in Amber This oversized glass lamp is modern and bold with its white drum shade– the amber color is a great pop of color for spring.

Indigo Rug Our new Indigo wool rug has hand-tufted construction and features a dark indigo ground with a light linear pattern and has a great vintage look to it.

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Dimitree Pull-up Table I don’t know which color I like better, the soft white matte because it can go in any room or the antique gold, which adds a rich glamour and pop of color to any space it’s in. Plus, who doesn’t want a showstopper table to put their drink on!

[10] Winston Mosaic Leather Ottoman I love the soft tones of the white to taupe colors and the big over sized polished stainless steel legs, it is a great way to make a cool fashion statement in your home (reminds me of color blocking so popular in fashion now).

[11] Black & White Iconic Photography from the 70’s (exclusive to MG+BW from the Conde Nast archives) What can I say … the people, the fashion and the times. The images speak for themselves.

[12] Spencer Sofa in Hipster-Tuxedo Pattern “Wow!” This sofa makes a big bold statement without saying a word.

[13] Paxton Swivel Chair The secret is out … now you know which swivel chairs I’m getting to go with the Damon Sofa. I love the grid tufted sides—very sophisticated.

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Avery Chair I have been thinking about designing a chair like this for the past few years and I’m glad we waited until now as I feel like now is the time for something this bold. This chair looks amazing in every color.

Our occasional chair from our new Prescott Collection Clean & comfortable. The two best adjectives to describe this chair. The lines and natural white oak finish are so simple and clean, yet it has a sit and pitch to the back that will let you sit for hours talking to friends and family.

Bowie Table Lamp The way the light hits the vintage nickel color on the curves of this lamp are one of the many things I love about it. From any angle the lamp shines and sparkles with the extra tall black drum shade on top which adds to the drama. It looks like a piece of sculpture waiting for a black-tie event.

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$5M Total foundation grant funding targeting transgender communities, increased from $3 million in 2010.

[Source: “Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender ad Queer Grantmaking by US Foundations,” Funders for LGBT Issues, 2012]

1 out of 5 Number of federally funded health centers that were found to do HIV testing for all patients ages 13 to 64. Coincidentally, the CDC also estimates that one out of five people in the US living with HIV doesn’t know his or her status. [Source: “HIV Testing

New HIV infections among black women

Percent of high school students who reported feeling unsafe because of their sexual orientation, compared to 67% of students in schools without LGBTQ-inclusive curriculum.

[Source: “Implementing Lessons That Matter: The Impact of LGBTQ-Inclusive Curriculum on Student Safety, Well-Being, and Achievement,” Gay-Straight Alliance Network, Jan. 2013]

Number of new HIV infections among black women in 2010, compared to 7,700 in 2008. This shows a 21% drop in the number of new HIV cases among black women. [Source:

“New HIV Infections in the United States,” Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Dec. 2012]

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27% to MSM. [Source: “New HIV

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Percent of Christian website respondents who said homosexual behavior was a sin in 2012, down from 44% the previous year. [Source:

[Source: “Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender ad Queer Grantmaking by US Foundations,” Funders for LGBT Issues, 2012]

Percent increase in foundation grant funding given to LGBTQ communities, from $97.2 million in 2010 to $123 million in 2011. [Source: “Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender ad Queer Grantmaking

by US Foundations,” Funders for LGBT Issues, 2012]

New HIV infections among MSM 13-24 years

Number of new HIV infections among men who have sex with men (MSM) aged 13-24 in 2010, up from 7,200 in 2008.

Across all ages HIV incidence among MSM increased 12%.

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Word Is Out In a preemptive move, out Massachusetts state Representative Carl Sciortino announced his intention to run for US Congress in the event that Edward Markey, currently representing Massachusetts in Congress, wins his bid to fill the US Senate Senate seat vacated

by John Kerry, who became Secretary of State. Sciortino has been instrumental in passing legislation in the Commonwealth in support of gender identity and expression.

On January 23, Andrew J. McDonald was confirmed by the state Senate and House to become the first openly gay justice on the Connecticut Supreme Court. He is only the third justice to be appointed to the state’s Supreme Court without prior judicial service, having worked as a state senator and as Chair of the Judiciary Committee.

Eastern Bank this year announced its charitable support of the Tiffany Club of New England, a long-standing organization providing a safe, friendly place for transgender men and women to meet and find a community. Its ‘First Event,’ held this year January 23 to 27, provides a safe environment for trans participants, as well as their families, to feel accepted.

On January 27, Boston Pride and GLAD (Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders) held their “Oui for Equality” rally outside the Consulate General of France in Boston to support the marriage equality bill currently being considered by the French government. The Bostonian participants stood alongside members of local chapters of the French socialist party and an association for French expatriates.

Larry Kessler, founder of the AIDS Action Committee of Massachusetts, was named as the Victory Programs’ new director of the Boston Living Center on January 24. The center, located in Back Bay, provides more than 40,000 meals as well as other services each year to its 1,100 members, who are affected

by HIV/AIDS.

Over Martin Luther King, Jr. Day weekend, vandalism was found in a Boston College meeting area for the Lambda Law Students Association office, an LGBT student organization. Homophobic and racial slurs were found written on the walls. The Dean of BC Law School stated in a letter to the community that “The cowardly act of vandalism … is reprehensible and runs counter to everything we stand for as a law school,” and that the school was doing everything in its power to find the perpetrators.

The Rhode Island House of Representatives passed a bill legalizing marriage equality for same-sex couples on January 24, led by House Speaker Gordon Fox, who is gay. The bill now goes to the Senate, where it faces opposition by Senate President Teresa Paiva Weed. It may be weeks or months before the Senate votes on the bill. As it stands, Rhode Island is the only New England state where same-sex marriage is not legal.

The Advocate’s 2013 list of gayest cities in America included Providence, Rhode Island ranked at 12, and Springfield, Massachusetts at two. The magazine cited LGBT and LGBT-friendly students at Providence’s universities and the high percentage of same-sex couples in Springfield in making their decision.

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Plaintiffs in Sexual Minorities Uganda v. Lively made their arguments against Scott Lively on January 7, saying the antigay religious advocate needed to be held responsible for his actions in inciting hate against homosexuals in Uganda. The case, held in Springfield, is the first to attempt to penalize international persecution of LGBTI people in a US federal court.

A federal judge in Vermont ordered Rev. Kenneth Miller to be held in custody for at least one week after he refused to testify in a custody case involving a same-sex couple. Miller was convicted last August for helping Lisa Miller, unrelated, flee the country with her daughter after Lisa renounced her homosexuality and dissolved her civil union with Janet Jenkins.

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Forever Young With a new leadership team of 20-somethings, the Massachusetts Commission on LGBT Youth is breathing new life When Julian Cyr was in high school, he nearly joined the Massachusetts Commission on LGBT Youth, a state agency that advocates for vital policies and programs.

Growing up in remote Truro could be tough for a young gay man. Though his parents were supportive, Cyr attended some schools where homophobia was common. Even in neighboring Provincetown, he knew, certain straight students, miffed at their town’s association with the gay community, reserved special animosity for local queer kids. But meetings in

Boston proved too impractical for a teen, so Cyr put his goal of joining the Commission on hold — but he never hit “pause” on his advocacy work. The self-described “policy wonk” became a White House staffer and AIDS Support Group of Cape Cod project coordinator, and is currently deputy director of government affairs at Department of Public Health.

Now in 2013, Cyr is also the new chair of that LGBT Youth Commission — elected after a rare, spirited campaign. (Commission chairs have often run unopposed.)

Cyr is 26, and his two co-chairs are also under 30. Together they form a leadership team that some members say is infusing the Commission, now long in the tooth, with a renewed sense of vitality.

“I think the election spoke more to the excitement and energy around the Commission than it did to any person, position or faction,” says Cyr, brimming with

Governor Deval Patrick speaks at the swearing-in ceremony. photo Eric Haynes/Governor Patrick’s Office

enthusiasm over the possibilities ahead.

“Our job now is to capture that energy and sense of empowerment and translate it into action.”

And what actions are ahead? Cyr says that research indicates the Commission must make especially important inroads addressing the unique needs of transgender youth and queer youth of color. Promoting policies and programs that impact these populations is paramount, says Cyr, and so is ensuring that the 50-member agency reflects greater diversity. He says that including commissioners of all ages from urban, suburban, and rural parts of the state alike is vital to building a representative body.

That perspective heartens Gunner Scott, an influential transgender activist who has served on the commission since 2007 but stepped down following Cyr’s election.

That was, he says, a vote of confidence.

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A March 2012 meeting between the Mass. Commission for LGBT Youth, Mass. Governor Patrick, and administration officials photo Eric Haynes / Governor's Office

“Leaving the commission now is an endorsement that I believe in the folks that are taking leadership,” says Scott. He says previous chairs imposed a hierarchical approach that made it difficult for a variety of voices, particularly those of LGBT youth, to be heard on the Massachusetts Commission of LGBT Youth.

“They were not very connected to the youth community. There was a wide divide,” says Scott.

Of course, every aging state agency needs an added shot of oomph now and then, and the Commission on LGBT Youth is no exception. After all, it was founded amid enough drama to put grays on anyone’s head. The agency started in 1992 as the Governor’s Commission on Gay and Lesbian Youth, Governor William Weld’s response to youth-related issues like antigay harassment and suicide. It was the first commission of its kind in the country, and its power expanded in 1998 under Governor Paul Cellucci. Suicide prevention programs, “safe school” administrator trainings, GSA support and more all flourished under the early commission.

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“ Our job now is to capture that energy and sense of empowerment and translate it into action.”

Julian Cyr newly elected chair of the the Massachusetts Commission on LGBT Youth.

But in 2006, Governor Mitt Romney almost hastily dissolved the commission in anger after it issued a Youth Pride press release on stationery that included his name. Emergency phone calls from political allies averted that catastrophe, but a lesson was learned about entrusting the commission’s existence to any one elected official. So the legislature hurriedly created the current incarnation of the Massachusetts Commission on GLBT (now LGBT) Youth, which exists independent of the governor’s office. In this form the commission is safer from the whims of an

inhospitable executive, but even its members admit that the rushed nature of the reorganization made things a challenge.

“In many ways we had to figure out how to be a legislative commission. I think there was a period of just finding out the best infrastructure,” says Grace Sterling Stowell, executive director of Boston Alliance of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender Youth (BAGLY). Stowell was a founding member of the Governor’s Commission in 1992; in the agency’s current incarnation she occupies a seat appointed by the Massachusetts Lesbian and Gay Political Caucus, one of 27 community organizations that now have appointing powers.

It took time to recalibrate the infrastructure of a commission with such a broad mission, says Stowell. “In some ways we’re twenty-one years old; in other ways we’re only six or seven,” explains Stowell. “We weren’t given much guidance or bylaws, and like any new coalition there were challenges in figuring things out. I think we will be much more efficient going forward.”

As executive director of a youth-led organization, Stowell is also excited about the new Commission chairs. She agrees with Scott that the agency has wanted for youth perspectives. “With all the leadership positions being people under thirty, it’s exciting to me that the commission is being proactive in representing young people,” says Stowell. “We live in a world that’s set up for adults, and it’s challenging for young people to participate in governmental bodies like this.”

While engaging youth is important, it’s vital to remember that the agency is not intended to be a youth development organization, says former Commission chair Arthur Lipkin. Lipkin has extensive experience working on LGBT youth issues: from directing the Governor’s Commission’s Safe Colleges Program to teaching the first course on LGBT school issues at the Harvard Graduate School of Education. He has also authored two books on LGBT issues in educational settings, and taught in Cambridge Public Schools for 20 years. Lipkin hopes commissioners will continue to view the agency as adult-run

“ Our primary goal as a commission is not the positive development of our youth members — it is the positive development of youth across the state.”

Arthur Lipkin former Commission chair

and youth-advised, not the other way around.

“I recognize how much work it takes to have a youth-led, adult-organized structure, and I don’t feel the Commission can be that,” says Lipkin. He says soliciting guidance from youth members is important, but that the Commission should keep its focus on its marching orders: to provide

recommendations for resources, policies, and programs that improve the lives of LGBT youth across the state. “My primary position is that although we are very much in touch with youth, our primary goal as a commission is not the positive development of our youth members — it is the positive development of youth across the state.”

To that end, says Lipkin, he prioritized research initiatives throughout his tenure.

“When I became chair, the state just didn’t have the money to invest in evaluation and research. They were focused on provision of services, and weren’t able to find the wherewithal to do the stuff that might improve those services in the long run.”

So Lipkin initiated partnerships with institutions like Harvard University, Boston College, and Fenway Institute.

These collaborations yielded a number of research initiatives, including an 11-year grant to study the impact of communitybased support programs on the health of LGBT youth of color; a grant to study the goals and effectiveness of the Massachusetts GSA system; and the creation of an interactive geo-map of clinical and

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Julian Cyr at the podium, with Governor Deval Patrick looking on. photo Eric Haynes/Governor Patrick’s Office support services for LGBT youth across the state. Under Lipkin’s chairmanship the Commission also held 20th anniversary public hearings, where adult and youth speakers on topics like homelessness, bullying, and legal system discrimination helped the Commission assess the current needs of LGBT young people and make its Fiscal Year 2014 recommendations to various state departments.

These recommendations stressed everything from the importance of LGBT cultural competency training for state employees, to the value of collecting data on sexual orientation and gender identity to gauge the efficacy of programs.

The Commission even researched itself, in a way; it used a grant from The Boston Foundation to hire a consulting firm that made recommendations for future planning.

Research isn’t glamorous, and it doesn’t always provide the sense of momentum that program development does.

But Lipkin says it is vital. After all, how can the agency recommend policies without understanding problems? How can it suggest new programs without knowing the effectiveness of those that already exist? “I don’t fault the people in the trenches for not being able to step back and take that perspective,” says Lipkin. “They are putting out fires every day.

They have kids coming to them who have no home, who are

dealing with family rejection, HIV, and STDs.” “But the commission is not providing direct services, so we are in the perfect place to be studying these issues.”

Turning research into action is where the Commission will head, says new chair Cyr. For instance, he says, the valuable research has elucidated the disparities that exist around issues of health and homelessness for transgender youth and LGBT youth of color. Now it’s a matter of translating recommendations into action; and one first step has been developing liaison relationships between Commission members and specific state departments. Fostering those connections is what will take thorough but highly academic recommendation reports off “to-read” lists and put them on “top priority” agendas.

Besides research and action, there’s another balance that must be struck. “Over the last few years we’d have plenty of conversations around adultism, which says ‘You’re too young to do this,’” says Cyr. He has nothing but admiration for older commissioners, and says that ageism won’t be tolerated either. “We can’t be saying to people who have been doing this for twenty years, ‘Step out of the way and let the new kids do it!’” promises Cyr. Step out of the way? No. But prepare to make room. [x] Massachusetts Commission on LGBT Youth

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feature Civic Life story Scott Kearnan

Accused of ‘comical’ methodology, the nation’s largest LGBT advocacy group is taking heat from cities for its new Municipal Equality Index’s (MEI) narrow focus on laws and policy and ‘one size fits all scoring’ If there’s something the gay community knows well, it’s that you shouldn’t put too much stock in stereotypes. But if asked to guess which American cities are considered most inclusive of LGBT people, one could be forgiven for making some assumptions.

For instance: when it comes to having more pro-gay policies, would you bet your money on Provincetown, Massachusetts or Charleston, West Virginia? Would you choose Northampton, Massachusetts or Kansas City, Missouri?

What about Montpelier, Vermont versus Tucson, Arizona?

In each case, it’s the New England community that comes up short on LGBT protections.

At least, that’s according to the Human Rights Campaign’s Municipal Equality Index (MEI), a report released at the end of 2012.

The inaugural edition of this now-annual study examined municipal policies in 137 cities nationwide, and awarded points for criteria that ranged from employment non-discrimination laws to school anti-bullying initiatives. Based on its findings, the MEI ranked the LGBT-inclusiveness of each municipality on a point scale of 0 (that’s bad) to 100 (that’s good). Overall, New England fared fairly well: Boston and Cambridge were two of only 11 cities that scored a full 100 points.

Hartford, Connecticut scored a

HRC MEI top-ranked New England towns Hartford Augusta Boston Cambridge Northampton Provincetown Concord Providence Montpelier

community. He takes exception with a study that would rank the LGBT-inclusiveness of Provincetown below that of, say, Albuquerque.

‘Comical’ Methodology “This study did not apply key research or logic to its methodology to arrive at this outcome,” says Marmillion, who has extensive experience analyzing data for local government organizations; his firm has done strategic planning work for the National Association of Counties and the National League of Cities. He says many pro-gay policies rewarded by the MEI are moot in Provincetown, where LGBT life is simply an established part of the social fabric. “I give credit to the HRC for stimulating conversation,” says Marmillion of the report. “But there is an almost comical lack of understanding of the threshold question: Where did these communities begin?”

Not so fast, says study author Cathryn Oakley. Oakley understands some will be surprised to see that a few famously gay-friendly locales received low scores. But she

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But other New England locales rated by the MEI, including several spots widely considered gay enclaves, received poor rankings.

Provincetown scored just 59, Northampton 64, and Montpelier 68. Augusta, Maine received a 67, and Concord, New Hampshire received the region’s lowest score at 53.

Yikes. New England prides itself as being a progressive region for LGBT people — yet if these were class grades, some of our prized pupils would have flunked the test.

That has many New Englanders steaming mad. They say the HRC study fails to accurately reflect LGBT life.

Its methodology, they argue, applies cookie-cutter criteria without regard to the unique infrastructural realities of certain communities.

One critic is Provincetown’s Val Marmillion. Marmillion runs a national PR firm that works with the town’s tourism office, but he also has a personal connection to P’town; he has a home there, co-owns retail store The Little Red with his partner Juan Pisani, and is highly active in the local

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stresses that the MEI was not designed to reflect how welcoming or affirming a community is based on cultural values; it is not an LGBT “best places to live” list. Rather, the MEI was specifically designed to evaluate whether local governments have laws and policies that expressly protect LGBT people. And Oakley says that while there is no doubt New England is on the “right trajectory” when it comes to promoting LGBT equality, the MEI should encourage reflection on what more can still be done.

Why would the pro-gay sensibility of certain communities not already be reflected by municipal policies? “There are a few explanations,” says Oakley. “When you’re already known as a fantastic place for the LGBT community, there isn’t the same incentive. And when state law is good, people

can get complacent. They believe they have protections that they don’t, or they stop seeing LGBT rights as a priority.”

Still, some local leaders take issue with how their communities were scored by the MEI. A chief criticism is that the report’s criteria was too challenging for small towns to meet. The MEI evaluated 137 locales that vary significantly in size: it chose to include all 50 state capitals, plus 25 each of those large-, mid-, and small-population cities with the highest proportion of same-sex couples. (It also surveyed cities with HRC steering committees.)

‘One Size Fits All Scoring’ That MEI applies unfair “one size fits all scoring,” says Montpelier city manager Will

Fraser. The Green Mountain State has a reputation as a hippy hideaway — and according to a Gallup poll released in February, it ranks as the third most liberal in the country.

(Only Massachusetts and Oregon have more self-identified progressives.) Yet its capital only scored 68 on the MEI. But Montpelier’s population of 8,000 makes it America’s smallest state capital. Is it reasonable that it be subjected to the same criteria as, say, New York City? Several other New England spots surveyed are nearly as small: Provincetown has a population of about 3,400, Augusta about 19,000, and Northampton about 28,500. (Even Concord, New Hampshire, at 43,000 people, is well below the MEI “small city” ceiling of 100,000.)

“I understand the value of all these things,” says Fraser, reflecting on the report’s

itemized requirements. “We just don’t have the resources for them.”

For instance, the MEI awards 7 points to a city if it has its own Human Rights Commission; 5 points if the city has a Mayoral LGBT Liaison or an Office of LGBT Affairs; and 7 points if the city has an LGBT Liaison or Task Force in its police department. Montpelier has none of the above — that’s 21 points missed, right off the bat.

But, says Fraser, Montpelier has a part-time, volunteer mayor who operates without an office staff: so no, there is no LGBT-dedicated department.

And the police department has about 17 officers: so no, there is not an LGBT-specific Task Force. The MEI also identified that Montpelier does not require city contractors to have non-discrimination or equal benefits ordinances

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Does the MEI place smaller cities at a disadvantage? Size doesn’t matter, says author Oakley. She says the standard criteria are flexible enough to allow small cities to score on par with large ones (an LGBT affairs office could be volunteer-based, for instance), that various “bonus point” categories offered avenues to make

up the difference, and that the ultimate MEI results did not show a statistically significant correlation between city size and city score.

But evaluating large metropolises alongside tiny towns was not the criticism local officials had for the MEI. Others say that the report seemed to reflect missing or incomplete information.

Oakley says that the report reflects months of research about each city, and that after data was compiled scorecards were sent to city officials — typically via the mayor’s office — for review. But Northampton Mayor David Narkewicz says he didn’t find out about the MEI until its publication, and was unable to find anyone in his office who said they had been contacted by the HRC. “The gaps of information leave me scratching my head,” says Narkewicz.

Northampton: ‘We Don’t Fit On This Scale’ For instance, the MEI indicates that Northampton did not report 2010 hate crimes statistics to the FBI, thereby denying the city 10 points. But the actual FBI report shows that Northampton did file statistics for every quarter of that year. (Reporting a total of zero crimes.) The MEI also withholds 8 points from Northampton because it does not have an LGBT Liaison in its police department.

Ironically, it was Northampton police officer Preston Horton that founded the Gay Officers Action League of New England (GOAL-NE) all the way back in 1991. Oakley says the MEI doesn’t give credit for bygone accomplishments, just the current state of affairs; but Narkewicz maintains that the LGBT

liaison role still exists, and that one of the force’s highest ranking officers is an out man.

Northampton also misses out on 5 points because it does not have a Mayoral LGBT Liaison. Well, that’s true. But before Narkewicz assumed the post in 2012, Northampton spent the prior 12 years under lesbian mayor Mary Clare Higgins. A special liaison doesn’t seem necessary when the mayor herself is openly gay; and after a decade-plus with an out mayor, not to mention several other gay high-ranking city officials, is it fair to assume that the LGBT community has an established relationship with city hall?

“I think that maybe we’re so far out [on LGBT issues] we don’t fit on this scale,” says Mayor Narkewicz of the MEI. “We’re so far ahead of the curve.”

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“I just don’t think you’d find the need for certain policies or institutions here,” agrees William Bridgeo, city manager of Augusta, Maine. In November 2012, Maine joined Maryland and Washington as the first states in the country to approve same-sex marriage by popular vote. Shortly after, Augusta resident Dale McCormack, a founder of EqualityMaine and the first openly gay person elected to the state legislature, told the Kennebec-Journal that LGBT people were probably too wellensconced in the overall fabric of the community to require, say, a special liaison. “I don’t think we have liaison to any one ethnic group or minority,” McCormack told the paper as comment on the MEI. “I don’t think any of us care if we have a liaison.”

Officials in Provincetown, Montpelier, Northampton, and

Augusta acknowledge that the MEI is designed to rate city laws, not LGBT-friendliness; but they say the progressive culture of New England is precisely why special local policies are not necessary. The same protections needed in Mississippi are not needed in Massachusetts, and low ratings for certain New England cities effectively punish them for their success.

Are some New England spots simply too “post-gay” to be fairly reflected in the MEI? “It’s incredibly wonderful for cities to say that they live in atmospheres like that. But that still doesn’t mean the work is done,” cautions Oakley.

She says the MEI should draw attention to specific areas where even progressive New England can make more – well, progress. For instance, says Oakley, the report underlines the fact that some New

England locales do not have the same anti-discriminations protections for gender identity as they do for sexual orientation. In Massachusetts, the Transgender Equal Rights Bill, enacted last year, did not include public accommodations protections; efforts are underway to address that issue at the state level, but in the meanwhile municipalities could enact local policies.

“New England has been a real leader on LGB issues, and to some extent on transgender issues,” says Oakley. “But that’s one area where the region can still step up its game.”

The MEI report makes it difficult for New England to rest on its laurels. Even Provincetown received zero points for the MEI criteria, “Local Proequality Legislative or Policy Efforts.”

“It’s important to mention that we were looking at the last

couple of years,” says Oakley about the MEI criteria. “There may have been great things happening ten years ago. But we were looking for what’s happening in cities right now, on the record, in favor of equality.”

Some say that’s a shame. “As I was reading the report, I would see a community receive bonus points for something that P’town did fifty years ago,” says Varmillion. “The intrinsic nature of a community doesn’t come out at all.”

And even if the MEI aims to capture quantifiable local laws and policies, Varmillion says it should have accounted for something familiar to any social scientist: a baseline.

“In Provincetown, gay is not exceptional — gay is standard,” says Varmillion. If only there were bonus points for that. [x]

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Reflecting after the event, Brown and Ayers realized, they “kind of just made it up based loosely on non-gay weddings.

The book came out of a series of brainstorm sessions that attempted to answer the question, ‘What is a same-sex wedding?’” explains the pair. “We wanted the book to be practical, like any how-to manual, but we also wanted to focus on

the political and social implications … and funny. Weddings are fun and we wanted the book to give couples the confidence and tools to produce their own special day.”

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with vendors — florists, photographers, venues and entertainment — to discussions about the wedding party’s attire, the book addresses every possible concern.

The pair has made sure to talk about all aspects of each component in terms of historical and current trends, dealing with potential homophobic interactions, and, also very important, budget.

Ayers and Brown chalk up going over budget to be one of the biggest challenges couples make in wedding planning. “What does it cost to pick up a dinner? Now multiply that number by everyone you want at your wedding. Now double that,” caution the authors. “The whole wedding business is based on getting your adrenaline pumping with thoughts like ‘you only do this once in your life, go for it! Aren’t we worth it?’”

The pair advises couples “… to put aside your fears of looking like second-class citizens, and get your priorities in check.

Don’t begin your legal partnership in debt.” While the guide does have some light-hearted moments, the budgeting advice is no-nonsense and is re-addressed numerous times throughout the book.

The Guide purposely has an evenly split focus between male and female couples’ weddings. “Believe it or not, we haven’t really discerned any consistent differences,” say the authors. David Toussaint’s The Gay Couple’s Guide to Wedding Planning takes a decidedly more masculine approach. “Now that male same-sex weddings are so common, it’s great to address issues that affect men. We talk about everything from how to combine tuxes to whether or not you can throw a bouquet,” says Toussaint. “My advice: Of course you can!”

The Gay Couple’s Guide presents a lighthearted year-long timeline. “I wanted to present a lot of helpful practical information, but infuse it with a sense of humor.

I went with a 12-month guide since that’s the average time for engagements, and it helps people focus,” says Toussaint. “I threw in humor about Groomzillas and the Biggest Gay Weddings EVER! so guys can laugh.”

In a particular effort to address some gay men’s concerns, Toussaint offers a re-occurring segment entitled “Fit to Be Tied” with the handsome Joey Gonzalez,

of Barry’s Bootcamp fame, advising couples on how to get into shape before the big day.

Toussaint notes that as society is changing with the increasing commonality of gay weddings, so too are the events themselves changing. Says the author, “It used to be that [gay couples] felt the need to go over the top … They would have huge weekend affairs. Now, they’re getting a bit more practical — in part because of the economy — and they’re having simpler, elegant affairs.”

“You don’t need to spend a billion dollars to prove that you’re in love,” advises Toussaint.

Both books acknowledge that a common obstacle in same-sex marriage is still homophobia. Ayers and Brown say, “In most cities you can find vendors who are happy to accommodate your needs; but it’s important for vendors to discuss attitudes with their staff. The wedding industry has discovered a whole new clientele in search of caterers, florists, tuxedo rentals, and honeymoon packages.”

Dealing with families, however, can be much more emotionally charged. One of

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In most cities you can find vendors who are happy to accommodate your needs; but it’s important for vendors to discuss attitudes with their staff.

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the biggest challenges in planning a same-sex wedding is, “Overcoming the homophobia that exists in families,” says Toussaint. “It’s much less common than it used to be, but it exists. Often, one parent or one set of parents doesn’t accept the union, and that can be devastating. Ditto for close relatives. And sometimes you don’t know that until the invitations get send out.”

To walk through any fear regarding the question of whom to invite, Ayers and Brown advise that couples “Decide whether to invite people based on whether you will be comfortable with them, but don’t decide for them that they’ll be uncomfortable.”

The publishers of The Gay Man’s Guide promises a lesbian-focused book that will be released in the Fall of 2013.

While mainly intended as a resource for photographers, Capturing Love: The Art of Lesbian and Gay Wedding Photography can be an invaluable resource to those planning a wedding as well, particularly for those who find themselves having trouble articulating their desires for their own ceremony. “The loving couples celebrated here reveal tradition and purpose, shared intimacy and meaningful moments,” writes Timothy Chi, CEO of WeddingWire in the book’s foreword.

Curated by Thea Dodds of Authentic Eye Photography and Kathryn Hamm of GayWeddings.com, it showcases 46 same-sex couples in both unconventional wedding and newtwists on conventional wedding imagery.

Says Hamm, “What works for John and Barbara won’t necessarily work for Matthew and Rick, let alone Jill and Louise. We asked three simple but important questions: Are these images authentic? Do these images reflect intimacy?

Are these images believable?”

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It’s not unheard of to schedule your wedding date around that of the photographer

Now that it’s legal, here’s how-to Gay marriage in Maine.

For many same-sex couples already in Vacationland, and for the untold number who love the state, the concept is second only to the seventh day of creation. And, for anyone peddling an essential product or service for perfect nuptials, it is manna. Sure, gays and lesbians have been “getting married” in Maine for a long time, but shortly after midnight on December 29 last year, suddenly you could do it with a license in hand, thus making it official—and when things become official, they tend to also become more expensive.

Sid Tripp knew this: within two weeks of Election Day 2012, when Maine became the first state to pass a gay marriage bill by popular vote (some would say handily), he and his marketing company Proactive Resources had announced the launch of the web site gayweddingsinmaine. com. By the time it was up and running, he already had 200 vendors on board. Now, with 350 Maine-based vendors and nearly one million hits, the site, says Tripp, is well on its way to being the largest of its kind in New England.

“It’s a testament to what we already knew, that gay marriage would be huge in Maine, and not just for Mainers,” says Tripp. “People are reaching out to us everyday to be included.”

As for the economic boost predicted by Tripp, the

Bangor Daily News reported in December that the windfall from Maine couples alone could be the in the $15.5 million range. According to 2010 census data, Maine is home to an estimated 3,958 same-sex couples. “If half those couples get married in the next three years and spend between $7,000 and $8,000 on their weddings, that will generate $15.5 million,” the newspaper reports, adding that that is a “very conservative estimate considering the average wedding in Maine costs closer to $20,000.”

The number doesn’t seem to take into account those who actually plan to come to Maine to be wed. And, let’s face it: Mainers likely spend less on the big day (and the week leading up to it) than, say, wellheeled gays from Massachusetts, New York, Connecticut … the list goes on. No matter, planning is universal and, if this summer or next is in the stars for you and your loved one, now’s the time to get started.

The date Next to the photographer, this will be your most important consideration when planning your wedding in Maine.

First things first: throw the traditional notion of a June wedding out the window. That month is probably the most unpredictable on the calendar.

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Have mercy on your guests. Remember that Maine, for all its beauty, has only two major airports, and there is some truth to that evertrite saying “you can’t get theya from heya.”

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Shoot for late July or August for at least a smidge of calm that you’ll be warm and sunshine will abound. If you’re a betting person, late September into early October is the most beautiful time in Maine—the foliage is stunning, you can be more flexible with your attire, and photos will be all the more vibrant. But, if names like Irene and Sandy ring a bell, well, let’s just say you’ll want to keep your fingers crossed.

The photographer Nail down the person who will chronicle the wedding before attempting any other task —it’s not unheard of to schedule your day around that of the photographer. The photos and/or video will be the only things of value—other than the rings—that won’t wilt, be eaten or imbibed. There is no shortage of decent photographers, but it’s hard to beat Brittany Rae of Brittany Rae Photography (www.brittanyraephotography. com, 207-671-5331). An award-winning wedding and portrait photographer, Brittany captures weddings with a mix of classic poses and candid shots: we could

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The location Have mercy on your guests. Remember that Maine, for all its beauty, has only two major airports, and there is some truth to that ever-trite saying “you can’t get theya

from heya.” Translation: plan your big day at a locale within an hour or two of Portland or Bangor. Of course, that includes a good majority of the state including Acadia National Park, most of the mid coast, the western lakes region and, of course, Ogunquit.

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Maine with a nightlife of note and enough gay-owned bed and breakfasts to put up every member of your family and circle of friends.

It’s also close to Clay Hill Farm (www.clayhillfarm.com; 207-361-2272) which has been hosting commitment ceremonies for years. The 11-acre property, which is a stone’s throw from the ocean and the iconic Nubble Light House (great for pics), boasts the first restaurant in the country to be certified as a wildlife habitat

and bird sanctuary; a lily pond; lush pathways; and a red barn of which they are particularly proud. The entire facility has been voted by many as the #1 spot for weddings of any persuasion.

“Clay Hill Farm has been an advocate for the gay community for over thirty years, doing ceremonies of every kind you can imagine,” says Tripp. “They were one of the first, and continue to be one of the best.”

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Boothbay Harbor, which has a number of gay-owned businesses, is nothing if not the epitome of an iconic Maine resort/fishing village—and, for some reason, it attracts a lot of gay and lesbian summer folks.

For something truly upscale, investigate The Camden Harbour Inn (www. camdenharbourinn.com, 800236-4266) located a bit further up the coast in the town where Peyton Place was filmed and where, now, the world's largest collection of The Wizard of Oz memorbalia is being readied for a new museum — yes, there is something in the air here).

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Brunyanszki and Oscar Verest, a couple from The Netherlands, have updated and polished everything at this 1800’s luxury boutique hotel which has unmatched views of the harbor and Penobscot Bay. With 20 huge guest rooms, this is the perfect spot to consolidate your guest list. The award-winning on-site restaurant Natalie's is an exceptional locale for an intimate affair.

And the grounds can accommodate up to 110 guests, should the weather hold.

Rings Why not go big on your wedding bands—the intent is to be buried with them, right?

Splurge and have something made from scratch. Jennifer Atkins Lisa, the driving force behind Quench Metalworks (www.quenchmetalworks.com, 207-445-2481) has recently expanded her portfolio to include bands that not only resemble the unique style she’s been honing since graduating from RISD, but they also have a holistic provenance: her new line of bands and engagement rings are transformed from the sterling silver and 18k gold scraps at her work bench

A fabulous destination wedding awaits just an hour from Boston on the islands of Martha’s Vineyard and Nantucket.

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Remember to take care of the friends who will stand with you on your wedding day, those who keep you sane during the marriage process, and those who will inevitably spend a fortune on clothing, travel and lodging into wonderfully organic yet modern wearables.

“It’s about time,” says Lisa of the passage of a gay marriage law in Maine. “I’ve always had pride in my home state’s many wonderful attributes: Yankee ingenuity, dramatic change of seasons, rugged coastal terrain, diversity of professions, and the native potpourri. Maine has earned another bragging right in my book.” And another page to her already impressive online portfolio.

Gifts While on the topic of jewelry, remember to take care of the friends who will stand with you on your wedding day, those who keep you sane during the marriage process, and those who will inevitably spend a fortune on clothing, travel and lodging. CHART Metalworks, (www.chartmetalworks.com, 207-221-6807) has made a name for itself as the ultimate memory-maker in Maine. Its one-of-a-kind jewelry and accessories made from nautical charts, maps and various metals, are adornments that allow you and yours to wear your world. Each customized

CHART Metalworks piece depicts a story – in this case, you may want to consider the site of your wedding. The collection includes earrings, pendants, necklaces, bracelets, charms, rings, cuff links, tux studs, key rings, lapel pins, zipper pulls and belt buckles.

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The Legal Etiquette of Same-Sex Marriage “Simply put, same-sex marriages do not have the same level of privilege and legal rights provided to straight couples, regardless of where the wedding takes place.”

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A recent interview with New York Magazine on “The New Etiquette of Same-Sex Weddings” brought to mind the need to remind Boston Spirit readers of many important issues that make same-sex marriages unique from a legal standpoint.

While we can relish our new marriage etiquette in the afterglow of newly established same-sex marriage in New York (and now Maine, Maryland and

Washington) – from matching wedding gowns and tuxedos, to traditional and non-traditional wedding vows and officiants – new soon-to-be spouses need to be aware of the complex legal ramifications that remain as we approach almost nine years of legal same-sex marriage in Massachusetts. Simply put, same-sex marriages do not have the same level of privilege and legal rights provided to straight couples, regardless of where the wedding takes place.

The key complexity factor remains the federally enacted (and soon to be addressed by the US Supreme Court) Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which provides each state with the ability to determine whether to allow same-sex marriages or unions within its borders, as well as the right to determine whether it will recognize same-sex marriages performed legally in other states.

Likewise, DOMA mandates that the federal government shall not recognize

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same-sex marriages, and, therefore, any and all rights, duties and obligations created under the aegis of the federal regulatory and statutory scheme that apply to married heterosexual couples do not apply to married same-sex couples.

While many pundits opine that the US Supreme Court may strike down the federal aspects of DOMA, affecting federal tax and pension rights issues, most commentators are concerned that provisions regarding a state’s right to continue to preclude samesex marriage and not recognize such marriages performed in other states will stay in place. Such a determination will result in a whole host of continued complications affecting the “portability” or non-recognition of the marriage in most states, including: whether a child is deemed to be born of the marriage; estate and retirement planning; health care issues; and ability of couples to have access to the court, obtain a divorce, and address custody, support, property transfers and asset division. What can be done?

Premarital Agreements.

Premarital agreements for same-sex couples can provide a way to address the issue of portability. Although a same-sex marriage may be recognized by a limited number of states, if a marriage is not recognized by a state, a whole host of issues can come into play such as nonrecognition of parentage, no estate rights on death of a spouse, or no court recourse for fair division of assets on ending the marriage.

Divorce. Obtaining a divorce is and will continue to be problematic for same-sex couples in most of the United States. It may be wise to address this issue by

requiring the parties to obtain jurisdiction in an appropriate state or to draft an agreement that becomes a binding contract between the parties and would be enforceable apart and aside from the marriage.

Consider addressing with your spouse and attorney issues such as division of assets and support. Likewise, the adverse tax consequences of transfers, whether in the form of capital gains or gift taxes, can be addressed and avoided as much as possible.

Adoption. Even if a state recognizes your marriage and recognizes a child of one spouse born during the marriage as being legally the child of both spouses, when you venture beyond such a state, that recognition may be extinguished in other states, and the parent-child relationship would not have any legal recognition. The cure: have the child or children adopted by the spouse whose parentage may not be acknowledged.

The reasons are compelling and many, including school registration, inheritance, ability to address child’s health care and more.

Health Care Directives. If a state does not recognize your marriage, it will not recognize your right to have input on health care decisions for your spouse, or even allow for visits in a hospital. Put in writing what you want to do, and who you want to allow to make health care decisions for you in the event you cannot make those decisions for yourself.

estate planning as well. If, at the time of death, a spouse resides in a state not recognizing his or her same-sex marriage, he or she could not be considered a spouse. Therefore, the surviving spouse would not be entitled to any share of the estate under state law unless there is a will or trust in place. Likewise, it is important for gay individuals who have parents or other relatives who wish to provide in their estates for the gay or lesbian child’s children to specifically name each child in the will, and not just include them as part of a class such as “grandchildren.” If the state where a will is being probated does not recognize same-sex marriage, the “family tree” of the same-sex spouse will not be recognized.

Let us hope for, and work together toward that day President Obama alluded to in his inaugural address when legal protections extend to all.

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Estate Planning. As a result of the federal unavailability of tax-free transfers between same-sex spouses upon one spouse’s death, estate planning must be done carefully; hopefully this will be addressed by lawmakers shortly.

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The Easiest Test You’ll Ever Take Hair and Make-Up Tests Can Relieve Stress on the Big Day There’s a very strong chance that you’ll be bringing in professionals to make sure that the food and flowers for your wedding will be absolutely perfect. Why shouldn’t you bring in a professional to make sure you look your best as well? And like you would have a tasting or a sample arrangement, a hair and make-up test is a great way to go over your options or experiment with new ideas long in advance of the actual ceremony. The morning of your wedding is not the best time to try a new hairstyle or make up technique.

The amazing staff at G2O Day Spa Resort on Boston’s Newbury Street brought in two couples to demonstrate the process and to offer styling tips and ideas. Fiancées Maura McDonald and Jennie Brown and fiancées Lucia Page and Robin Grace are hoping for wedding styles that are two sides of the same coin. Brown and McDonald are planning on a very casual and relaxed affair that they are hoping to make a little more elegant while Grace and Page are throwing a very traditional wedding that they want to make sure is fun and not too formal. The G2O staff, Brian Brady, Elle Martens and Alison Pitty, addressed all of their needs with some spectacular results.

Brady recommends coming in for a test run a few months before the ceremony. The more neurotic you are, the earlier you should come in for a test run. Or if you don’t know what you want, says Brady. “I have some brides that come in a year in advance; it’s not too soon.” G20 also recommends microdermabrasion facial a month in advance to address wrinkles, fine lines, pigmentation imbalances, and sun damage.

The spa is also available to host bachelorette parties and, of course, all your needs on the day of the ceremony.

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[a] Stylist Elle Martens consults with Maura McDonald on her ideas for hair. They decide on modern up-do, with the hair pulled to the side. [b] Jenny Brown looks on as Martens starts to prep McDonald’s hair. The stylists recommend that you not wash your hair the day of your wedding as it will hold the style longer. [c]Alison Pitty starts to work with Brown’s natural curls by using a curl activator and pinning the curls so that they don’t dry flat. [d]McDonald and Brown check in on each other’s progress.

[e]Grace and Page expressed their

concerns and wishes during their consultations. “When I put my hair up, I hate how I look. I have a complex about my face looking too long,” says Grace with a laugh. “And my hair doesn’t take curl well. At all.” [f]Martens starts work on Page’s up-do, something she was concerned about due to the length of her hair. [g]Having found that Grace’s hair does not take curl, Pitty applies salon-quality products to help the curl maintain its shape.

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While Grace normally wears minimal make-up, Page is thrilled with the results of the test. [c] Brady applies individual lashes to Page’s eyelid. The individual lashes allow for more specific control over the overall shape of the eye. [d] As Brown wears very little make-up on a daily basis, Brady applies just a tinted moisturizer and a very natural lip giving her a clean, polished look. For most applications Brady uses a moisturizer, followed by a primer that allows the make-up to go on smoother and stay on longer. [e] With McDonald’s freckles, Brady advises that they not be covered up as, “You’d have to match such a fair skin tone. The overall effect is usually much too light.” [f] Brown and McDonald’s final look. Brown’s hair is finished with a simple headband of floral shaped diamonds. As McDonald wears make up as part of her daily regimen, Brady was able to give her a more “made-up” look. “She can handle something a little more dramatic.” [g] A jeweled brooch finishes Grace’s up-do, while Page opted for a small gathering of flowers. The results are formal, but still relaxed and elegant.

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Seasonal Travel story Scott Kearnan

‘Gay-Friendly’ Is Not Good Enough Anymore When it comes to travel and tourism, it’s not enough for places like New England to boast inclusivity — queer travelers expect it — today’s gays want more.

With the cold days of winter now behind us, many New Englanders are looking forward to sunny summer vacations on the horizon. (We consider them welldeserved rewards for freezing through the last several months.) But lest we take our quaint corner of the country for granted, it’s worth remembering that New England certainly attracts its fair share of tourists — millions every year. Many are LGBT, and they come here in spring, summer, fall, and winter (yes, even then!) because they know ours is a progressive place that is uniquely welcoming to the community.

Just look at an equal marriage map.

Unless they have friends and family in the area, travelers are most likely to look at travel guides and websites to figure out where to go and what to do — and an entire market exists specifically to advise LGBT tourists on hospitable destinations.

But that got Spirit wondering: how do gay travel guides cover New England? What do writers and experts outside our region think of us? What recommendations do they make to our visitors? And how do they identify gay-friendly spots in an area of the country that is, well, already pretty gay-friendly?

It’s Not Enough To Be ‘Gay-Friendly’ Anymore “Really, the phrase ‘gay-friendly’ doesn’t have a lot of meaning anymore,” explains Oregon-based gay travel writer Andrew Collins. Collins has spent many years covering destinations from an LGBT perspective. He is editor of the magazines OutAloha and OutCity Northwest,

heads the Gay & Lesbian Travel channel of About.com, and has contributed to publications for countless other brands like Fodor’s and Zagat. He says that American culture has reached the point where gay travelers have at least some options everywhere; even more conservative states have bright spots where gay communities thrive. (Think: Austin, Texas.) Cities and vacation spots can no longer coast on a “gay-friendly” reputation. “As long as people aren’t pouring boiling water on you, they’re considered friendly,” jokes Collins. “That alone doesn’t make a destination desirable.”

So what does? Recommendations for great restaurants, cool craft cocktail bars, vibrant art and culture, and outdoorsy options for the active traveler. In other words: all the same things that straight tourists want.

“I remember when I wrote the first Fodor’s Gay Guide, people would say, ‘Do you think a book like this will be obsolete in ten or fifteen years?’” recalls Collins.

Sure enough, it was. “There’s still a huge market for gay travel. But the culture changed, and now what’s needed is a more informal perspective – a filter. Now I’m looking both at places that are and aren’t explicitly gay.”

“It’s made my job harder!” jokes Collins.

It’s a good problem to have. After all, once upon a time travel gurus highlighted small handfuls of gay-identified businesses — bars, nightclubs, and restaurants — because they were guaranteed safe havens. Even if the food was so-so and the cocktails ho-hum, practical considerations of avoiding violence and overt

Experts’ New England Off-Beat Picks Look, we love Provincetown, Ogunquit, and all the other New England queer favorites. But if you’re tired of the same old getaway, we asked our gay travel gurus to suggest some less expected nooks and crannies of New England. discrimination were paramount. But now, especially in liberal regions like New England, most gay travelers assume that welcoming environments will be a rule — not an exception.

“We’re not willing to pack our closet,” says Boston-born, NYC-based gay travel expert Ed Salvato. He’s a board member of the International Gay & Lesbian Travel Association, a travel guru tapped by myriad print and radio outlets, and he now runs the recently launched ManAboutWorld, the first gay travel magazine made exclusively for the iPad. He says travel experts have had to recognize changing consumer expectations, especially among urban LGBT people. “Those from metro areas like Boston and New York, we’re at a point where we demand that we can go anywhere and be ourselves,” says Salvato.

That’s especially true of younger generations, adds Collins. “For them, it’s not enough to say, ‘This is a supportive restaurant,’” says Collins. As a travel guide, he can no longer justify recommending otherwise undeserving establishments just because they fly a rainbow flag out front. “They’ll say, ‘That’s nice that it’s gayowned, but I want to go somewhere with a great craft beer list and farm-to-table food.’”

Gay travel writers no longer want to suggest locations “just” because they’re considered “gay.” Now they’re more likely to start by identifying great overall destinations, or categorizing ideas by general interests (best skiing spots, for example).

Then they home in on specific establishments and activities that allow readers to get the most out of a gay experience while there.

“We choose [destinations] based on being interesting, up and coming places that we think people should go,” says Salvato. “We might anchor it around a major event. Then it becomes, ‘What are you interested in?’ And we do the legwork of identifying great recommendations.” [x]

Coastal New Hampshire Manchester has most of the state’s few gay bars, like Club 313 and The Breezeway. But Portsmouth, just an hour north of Boston, has a hip and sophisticated seacoast vibe that LGBT travelers will appreciate. Check out the art galleries, boutiques and coffee shops that line the cobblestone streets downtown. The foodie scene bustles, so bring your appetite to a culinary gem like The Library, an elegant steakhouse in an 18th century mansion. Then sip a handcrafted local beer from the famous Portsmouth Brewery, or grab a stiff one at The Red Door, a sleek upscale martini bar where chill DJs spin nightly. In the morning enjoy breakfast at The Friendly Toast, the fabulously tasty diner – full of kitschy knickknacks and mid-century brica-brac — that spawned a sister location in Cambridge. (For a more rural getaway, head north to the White Mountains — and The Highlands Inn, a beloved lesbian resort in Bethlehem. Nestled on 100 wooded acres, it offers a cozy retreat with outdoorsy activities for all four seasons.)

Central Vermont For rolling green hills and total relaxation, you can’t beat the middle of the Green Mountain State. The gay-owned B&B Moose Meadow Lodge comes highly recommended; it’s a small luxury log home flanked by state forests, offering plenty of outdoor activities and panoramic views of utter gorgeousness. From there it’s not far to Woodstock, where farmer’s markets and artisan food purveyors flourish. (As do antique shops!) And there’s White River Junction, a once-depressed railroad village that has recently been revitalizing itself as a quirky artist colony. That’s been helped by its proximity to neighboring

Hanover, New Hampshire, home to Dartmouth College, which adds some academia-powered urbaneness to the rural region.

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We all bleed the same green, and the Constitution State’s casinos, Mohegan Sun and Foxwoods Resort Casino, have long marketed to the gay community. At various points they’ve hosted special gay parties and offered overnight packages for same-sex couples, so it’s worth keeping an eye on their websites. (Plus Lady Gaga is at Mohegan on March 3. We can make some safe assumptions about that crowd.) Nearby New London has a gay club in Frank’s Place Bar & Kitchen, a downtown spot with an ample patio and regular events like T-Dances and karaoke nights. O’Neill’s Brass Rail is a popular spot for dance parties and drag shows. New London is also close to Mystic Seaport, a quintessential New England maritime village.

Down East Maine You’ve surely spent some summertime in Ogunquit, and probably hit Portland for its fabulous foodie scene and smattering of gay coffee shops and clubs, like Styxx. But head up even further to Hallowell, just outside the state capital of Augusta. It has become a regional arts center over the years, with theater, galleries, and art festivals thriving amid storied old architecture. There’s a strong gay sensibility here, and an amazing place to stay in Maple Hill Farm, a gorgeous bed & breakfast owned by former state congressman Scott Cowger and his husband.

Even further north, Bar Harbor, a summer colony for the wellheeled attracts plenty of gay visitors for boating, biking, and hiking, especially at the gem that is Acadia National Park.

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Gay History Tour

LGBT people have contributed to American history in every way, but it’s a lot harder for them to be recognized, says Paula Martinac, historian and author of The Queerest Places: A Guide to Gay and Lesbian Historic Sites. That’s because even in modern circles, it’s often perceived as “impolite to claim people as gay,” says Martinac, even when there is ample evidence to suggest that certain writers, artists, and other history-makers had same-sex lovers. (After all, few would have been willing to self-identify as gay in their

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time; and for that matter, in some ways earlier perspectives on sexuality allowed for greater fluidity than our contemporary views.) In fact, 2011 was the first year that the National Trust for Historic Preservation included a panel on LGBT sites in its conference. In addition, many important, seminal spots in LGBT history have revolved around bars and other gathering spaces that are unlikely to remain preserved. Still, Martinac shared suggestions on a few lesser-known places in New England worth a pilgrimage to pay tribute to their gay history connections. Our path may not be paved as clearly as, say, the Freedom Trail—but who needs straight lines around here, anyway?

“ It’s not enough to say, ‘This is a supportive restaurant.’ That’s nice that it’s gayowned, but I want to go somewhere with a great craft beer list and farm-to-table food. ” Andrew Collins

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Declared a National Historic Landmark in 1997 and opened to visitors in 2007, this study in minimalism—an abode of glass walls that look out on the landscape—is probably the most well known work of Johnson, one of America’s most influential architects.

It is also where he spent 45 years with his partner David Whitney—and died at the age of 98.

Mount Auburn Cemetery Cambridge, MA Besides being one of the most beautiful cemeteries around, full of ornate carvings, Mount Auburn is also the final resting place for a number of 19th century lesbian artists.

Pulitzer Prize-winning writer Amy Lowell, stage actress Charlotte Saunders Cushman, and sculptor Harriet Hosmer all have hugely storied histories worth exploring—and all are all laid to rest here.

As a travel guide, he can no longer justify recommending otherwise undeserving establishments just because they fly a rainbow flag out front.,

Jacob’s Pillow Dance Festival Lee, MA Though he was at one point married, there is little speculation remaining about the more honest sexuality of Ted Shawn, America’s male pioneer of modern dance. (He shared a clandestine relationship with his muse and lead dancer, Shawn Barton.) The highly influential dancer and choreographer founded this now-famed Festival on farmland he owned, a National Historic Landmark. A weathervane atop the barn-like Ted Shawn Theatre, the first US theatre designed specifically for dance, depicts Barton.

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Edna St. Vincent Millay’s memorial Camden, ME A lyrical poet, playwright and feminist, Vassar-educated Millay was only the third woman to win the Pulitzer Prize for Poetry. And she did it by creating gorgeous sonnets that spoke unabashedly about, among other things, her love affairs with women.

(And if, while overwhelmed, you’ve ever wailed about your candle burning at both ends, you’ve unwittingly

quoted her.) Millay grew up between several family homes in Camden, but now you can visit the historic Whitehall Inn, where Millay got her start by entering her first poem in an anthology contest at just 19. An entire parlor room is devoted to her books, photographs, and papers. North of Camden, on Mount Battie, is an 800-foot tower in her memory. [x]

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Hang with hipsters. For a certain generation, the “hipster” label has associations — artsy, liberal, discerning, invested in counterculture — that suggest some degree of gay sensibility.

If the word is mentioned in Yelp reviews of a nightspot, you’ll probably find twenty- and thirty-something straight guys and their gay pals sharing small plates, talking music and politics, and clinking cold, sudsy microbrews in perfect harmony.

Go where business is good. Many cities have LGBT professional associations or chambers of commerce. Their member businesses are obvious go-to spots for embracing environments.

Identify allies. The downside of progress: New England has become home to fewer and fewer gay bars over the years. Where else can you expect particular hospitality? Try bars and restaurants that have hosted recent Pride events. Visit the local Pride organization’s website to see what venues have held afterparties, fundraisers and other fetes. Even if they’re not explicitly gay, if they’re happy to host half-dressed parade marchers, they’ll probably be happy to have you.

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Grin and Bear It New photography series gives all shapes and sizes of guys something to smile about It’s no secret that the modeling industry has long grappled with body image issues — usually as they relate to women.

The unfortunate message has been clear: if you’re not super-tall, super-thin, and super-busty you don’t belong in front of the camera. (And that’s the bare minimum criteria.) But in recent years, as it has become increasingly common for A-list Hollywood actors to bulk up and strip down, greater attention has been paid to idealized images of male beauty — especially within the gay community, where everyone from academics to physicians has suggested a particularly powerful strain of The Adonis Complex seems to exist.

Lights, camera, action!

Enter: The Bear Sessions, a photography series celebrating men who embrace every inch of their rugged, masculine appeal.

In keeping with the common hallmarks of gay culture’s bear communities, these models proudly show off thick, hairy bodies that wouldn’t steal the spotlight from the smooth and sculpted chests of Magic Mike, but will definitely leave those who prefer more rugged, macho types roaring with approval.

The Bear Sessions is the brainchild of lifestyle editor John O’Connell and photographer Joel Benjamin, who have collaborated on many magazine fashion spreads — particularly for Boston Spirit. After years spent culling through comp cards of impossibly buff, collegeaged, straight male models, the pair was inspired to capture images that are much harder to find: gay men who fully inhabit mature bodies of size.

“The images already out there are hyperunrealistic for the average man to attain,” says O’Connell. “We wanted guys outside the realm of Hollywood, Madison Avenue, and even iconic gay imagery. What’s refreshing about the bear community in particular is that there’s an authenticity to what is found there. We wanted to capture moments of realness: men being men, embracing their sexualities and their bodies.”

The series started with ten subjects from the Boston-area bear community featured in simple, black and white shots. Then came ten more. Soon The Bear Sessions was featured in a gallery show at Full Kit Gear during Provincetown’s Bear Week 2012. While there, they shot over 30 more subjects in just three days. Some photos were of single men, some of trans-men, others of committed couples. Some subjects gazed passionately at a loved one, and others sent smoldering glances to the camera. Some men stood stoically while others emerged, soaking wet, from the sea.

All showed plenty of skin, and the tasteful photos proved that testosterone-drenched eroticism is not limited to certain age groups and body types.

“There is a fetishization of male youth in our culture, but no one can keep that type of body forever,” says O’Connell, who says that he understands what it’s like to feel overlooked by a culture that only seems to value young bachelors with flawless physiques. “I’m over 40, I’m overweight, and I’m married. I’m invisible in Provincetown,” he explains.

Not to everyone. “I wasn’t really aware of the bear community until I started this project,” adds O’Connell. And man, was it refreshing. “The community is really all about authenticity. As artists we don’t often get to deal with men who aren’t really obsessed with their bodies, judgmental about their bodies, and don’t hold their dedication to the gym up on a pedestal.”

Of course, there’s no such thing as perfection. O’Connell acknowledges that he’s learned about an unofficial “class structure” that can rear its head even among bears. (Former circuit types are now becoming top-dog “muscle bears,” for instance.) And although there’s a recent trend among younger gay men to embrace cub-like characteristics (facial hair is fashionable, and hirsute happenings like Boston’s Fur & Gold parties are becoming more popular), they seem less willing to self-identify as “bears,” a label that sometimes has stigmatized associations among the tenderfoot.

The response to The Bear Sessions has been hugely positive, says O’Connell, who in March will travel to Dallas for the annual Texas Bears Round-Up, a multi-day celebration that attracts nearly 2,000 from across the country. There will be more subjects to shoot, and it will be a chance to unveil the Sessions’ first publication: a 72-page magazine featuring favorite and previously unseen photos.

The Boston Center for Adult Education (BCAE) just announced that it will feature the series during its annual Pride Gallery showing, opening May 17. O’Connell is also relocating to Palm Springs, California (Benjamin continues to live in Boston) and has plans to shoot at conventions on the west coast — making The Bear Sessions a truly national project.

As the series grows, so does O’Connell’s excitement about the sense of liberation it has unleashed in many of its subjects.

“There’s such a sense of excitement from the guys,” says O’Connell. “It’s not often they would have the opportunity to be shot like this.”

And for those who have packed on a few extra pounds, seeing sensual portraits celebrating diverse body types can lead to a much more important gain: confidence. [x]

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culture Theater story Loren King

M. Bevin O’Gara

Dreams Deferred and Dreams that Explode Speakeasy Stage and The Huntington tackle race and real estate, then and now, in Clybourne Park and A Raisin in the Sun The irony of staging Clybourne Park, Bruce Norris’s searing play about race and real estate, in Boston’s South End isn’t lost on director M. Bevin O’Gara.

The mix of upscale residences, businesses and cultural landmarks such as the BCA alongside much less affluent and minority populations is as famously gentrified as the titular one in the play. Many of the

attendant issues surrounding gentrification — property values and who has a claim on community — are alive in both the South End and the play that will be staged there.

“I’m in the South End all the time and I’m always looking at apartment buildings, wondering what people are planning to do with the houses. I love to walk through the

neighborhood and pick out different ones and wonder,” says O’Gara, who is helming Clybourne Park at the SpeakEasy Stage Company March 1 to 31.

O’Gara read Norris’s Tony Award-winning play years ago but “never in a million years” thought she’d get to direct it. When Speakeasy announced Clybourne Park for its current season, O’Gara sent an e-mail to SpeakEasy producing artistic director Paul Daigneault. “I realized it was the perfect combination of a great company and a great play,” says O’Gara who’d directed Norris’s The Pain and the Itch (starring Speakeasy veteran Nancy Carroll) for Company One in 2009. “Speakeasy understands the importance of a relationship between a director and a writer. When a director starts a journey with a writer’s work, you want to continue the dialogue with the audience.”

Clybourne Park is inspired by, and boldly riffs on, Lorraine Hansberry’s seminal 1959 drama A Raisin in the Sun. Norris’ play is set in the same house in a Chicago neighborhood. The first act takes place in 1959 as community leaders try to stop the sale of a home in a white community to a black family. Act two is set in the same house in 2009, as the now predominantly African American neighborhood battles to hold its ground in the face of gentrification.

The play made its world premiere at off-Broadway’s Playwrights Horizon and then went to the Mark Taper Forum in Los Angeles before opening on Broadway. It won the 2011 Pulitzer Prize and the Tony Award for best play.

Boston audiences will get a feast of theater history and powerful, contemporary staging of both plays simultaneously. The Huntington Theatre Company presents A Raisin in the Sun March 8 to April 7 at the Avenue of the Arts / BU Theatre. Renowned director Liesl Tommy, who helmed the Huntington’s acclaimed production last year of Ma Rainey’s Black Bottom as well as the 2009 Pulitzer Prize winner, Lynn Nottage’s Ruined, will direct.

Hansberry semi-autobiographical play depicts an African-American family whose struggle to achieve the American Dream leads them to purchase a house in a white Chicago neighborhood. It was the first play by an African-American writer to premiere on Broadway. The production received four Tony Award nominations in

1960 (Best Play, Actor, Actress, Direction) and was adapted for the screen (starring Sidney Poitier) to great acclaim.

It received the 1959 New York Drama Critics’ Circle Award for Best New Play and has been in continuous production for more than 50 years.

“One informs the other in very different ways,” says O’Gara, a Boston University graduate whose “day job” is associate producer at the Huntington Theatre Company. A Raisin in the Sun had been “on and off the Huntington’s list for awhile, and now it felt like the right time to do it so both plays could be happening in the city at the same time,” she says. “Boston audiences will have the opportunity to see both plays in a conversation with one 12_Layout 1 2/13/13 another.”7:43 PM Page 1 “Clybourne Park” has assembled a stellar cast of Speakeasy veterans headed by Thomas Derrah, last seen in his brilliant performance as artist Mark Rothko in Red. He stars alongside the legendary Paula Plum whose recent Speakeasy credits include The Divine Sister and Body Awareness.

A Raisin in the Sun grew from Hansberry’s first-hand experience when her father, Carl, moved his family to an all-white neighborhood of Chicago in 1938. Their neighbors fought to remove them by citing a restrictive covenant they had signed to keep African-Americans out. When the Illinois Supreme Court ruled against the family, Carl appealed to the US Supreme Court in 1940. The high court ruled in favor of the Hansberrys but did not address the over-arching civil rights issues. Even 50 years later, the same themes resonate: Liesl Tommy, a graduate of Newton North High School and a native of Cape Town, South Africa, recalls conversations about housing with her father, an urban planner who worked on low-income housing in Boston. O’Gara, who grew up on Long Island, remembers just one African American student in her “very white” neighborhood of the late ‘80s, early ‘90s. “I’ve been thinking of her a lot while I’ve been working on this play,” she says.

O’ Gara says what she loves most about Clybourne Park is that Norris is unapologetic about not just about race but other

forms of bigotry, including the way deaf and gay characters are treated in his play.

Norris doesn’t offer answers, says O’Gara.

Rather than satisfying summations, audiences will leave with a not-so-gentle nudge to do something about the issues he presents. “It’s a great play but it’s not for everyone,” O’Gara says. “Some people will be upset and may find the play offensive.

All of us have to be game for that challenge and be confident with any reaction. We have to be brave and allow the play to be as provocative as it is.” [x] Clybourne Park

SpeakEasy Stage Company March 1 – 30 Calderwood Pavilion at the BCA speakeasystage.com/clybournepark A Raisin in the Sun

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culture Film story Loren King

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 1 Boston LGBT Film Festival runs from May 2 to 12

Global-scale Queer Cinema Alights in the Hub Heading toward 30, Boston’s LGBT Film Fest distinquishes itself as the place for world diversity That Boston marches to its own drummer is hardly news in the political or LGBT arenas. That this is also true in rarified atmosphere of film festivals, particularly in the niche world of LGBT film festivals, is one more reason to wear the badge of Bostonian with pride.

The Boston LGBT Film Festival, which runs from May 2 to 12, has, at 29 years, earned the distinction as one of the oldest LGBT film fests in the nation. Through many changes in both the film and the LGBT scene, Boston has managed to annually deliver a celebration of international queer cinema that’s as diverse as the city itself. “We’ve learned what works here. Our audience doesn’t mind subtitles;

one of the biggest hits of recent years was the Tom Twyker film 3. Gay Hollywood movies don’t work for us. We program rom-coms for a date night film but what sells out in Phoenix doesn’t do well in Boston. Women’s films do well here, sometimes better than men’s,” says James Nadeau, the festival’s executive director.

This year’s event takes place at various venues including the Museum of Fine Arts and Institute of Contemporary Art. Nadeau and his team are also considering hosting festival screenings outside of Boston, such as in Salem where it will be more convenient for the North Shore’s gay audiences.

Although this year’s schedule is still being locked down at press time, several films are already on the slate. These include Laurence Anyways, the new film from Canadian filmmaker Xavier Dolan who directed Heartbeats (2010) and I Killed My Mother (2009).

“It is a dramatic feature about a man who reveals his desire to become a woman and the consequences of revealing this to his loved ones,” says Patrick Faloon, programmer for the Boston LGBT festival. The film was awarded with the Queer Palm Award at the 2012 Cannes Film Festival.

The complete schedule will be announced April 16 at the festival’s

launch party at Post 390 (406 Stuart Street, Boston). It is free to the public.

Those interested can RSVP on the festival web site.

Says Faloon: “We are negotiating for the James Franco produced Interior.

Leather Bar, directed by Travis Mathews.

It is notorious for trying to recreate 40 minutes of BDSM scenes excised from the 1980 Al Pacino film Cruising and lost many years ago. Another film is the French film of lesbian love, Bye Bye Blondie, which takes place in the punk era of the late 70’s and flashes forward to modern times.” Mathews also directed I Want Your Love, about a man who leaves San Francisco after 10 years and returns to the Midwest. Nadeau says this film could be programmed this year, too.

Another confirmed title is Magnificent Presence, an Italian film directed by Ferzan Ozpetek and starring Elio Germano,

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Paola Minaccioni and Beppe Fiorello. It’s a comedy about a gay man with an apartment inhabited with the ghosts of a 1940’s theater troupe. Ozpetek directed the 2010 festival hit Loose Cannons.

Audiences can also expect screenings of director Earl Goshorn’s Tennessee Queer, in which religion, politics and gay pride clash in a small Tennessee town when an out New Yorker returns home to make life better for the LGBT teenagers there.

“We’ve had several submissions about being gay in the South so we may do a program of those films,” says Nadeau. He’s also planning a sidebar of films about gay life in the Middle East, which includes a film about the trans community in Pakistan and the first queer feature from Lebanon. Nadeau also expects this year’s festival to showcase Latin films, which so far includes Xavier Villaverde’s Sex of the Angels, described by Nadeau as “a bisexual film that ends happily” and Una Noche about a brother and sister fleeing Cuba, directed by Lucy Mulloy. [x] Boston LGBT Film Fest

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As ‘G’ As We Can Be

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‘Out in the Open’ is ‘a gay movie for straight people’ For Matthew Smith, producer/director of the new film Out in the Open, the desire to make coming out/being out easier for young LGBTs came from his own experience as a young actor.

Smith, 25, came out at 15 and moved to Los Angeles a year later. He’s been featured on the Disney Channel’s Wizards

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of Waverley Place and served for two years as a Disney Channel host. But he’d gotten career advice not to be out so Smith found himself “acting on and off screen.”

“I finally took a break and went on a cross-country trip. When I came back [to L.A.] I decided to be out no matter

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what,” he says. Most colleagues were supportive but “it all comes down to money when you’re an actor. It’s better, but it’s still not as accepting as you might think.”

Out in the Open is the first film from Smith’s Real Stream Productions. In it, celebrities of all orientations such as Carson Kressley, Greg Louganis, Eric and Eliza Roberts (they have a lesbian daughter) and Josh Strickland offer positive messages about acceptance and tolerance. Breaking Glass Pictures is releasing the 88-minute Out In The Open to select theaters over the next few months and it is available on DVD and Netflix. But Smith makes sure that Out in the Open is light in tone; he didn’t want a heavy, message-movie.

“I wanted it to be a gay movie for straight people,” Smith says. “Often LGBT stories are sad and that’s not always true. No one in this film disputes that gay is OK.” Or, as Carson Kressley describes where he falls on the alphabet spectrum, “I’m as ‘G’ as I can be.”

The playful tone of the film is due mostly to the presence of Smith and his

Solly Hemus and Matthew Smith boyfriend, Solly Hemus. Smith says he didn’t plan to be in the film but found that doing so gave it a personal touch and a storyline. It also doesn’t hurt to see two young, cute guys joking around the Smith family dinner table or kissing on the red carpet.

Smith traveled to Boston in May 2012 to shoot a scene with Patrick Burke, co-founder of the Boston-based You Can

Play Project, which promotes equality, respect and safety for athletes, without regard to sexual orientation. “We saw a Red Sox game. I love Boston,” Smith says adding that he hopes Boston is among the cities he’ll travel to in the coming months to promote Out in the Open at schools and LGBT youth centers. [Loren King]

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Our Other Beloved Barbara Ageless icon Barbara Cook still glitters She’s long been a gay icon. Yes, her signature songs include “Glitter and Be Gay” — considered a showpiece for sopranos — from Leonard Bernstein’s Candide. She starred in the 1962 musical The Gay Life (in a nod to the new meaning of the word, its title was changed to The High Life for a concert revival in 2005.) But gay audiences adore Barbara Cook because she’s a gifted and generous performer whose storied career includes more than six decades worth of musical theater, cabaret and concert hall tradition. At 85, she’s still one of the premiere performers on the planet and a show biz survivor.

Cook — who can put Tony Award winner (for The Music Man), 2011 Kennedy Center honoree, and a host of other accolades next to her name — appears at Symphony Hall Saturday, April 6 at 8 p.m. with guitarist/vocalist John Pizzarelli as part of the Celebrity Series of Boston.

Reached at her Upper East Side apartment while a storm battered New England, Cook reminisced about the many career associations with the city of Boston. Besides frequent appearances with the Boston Pops and a master class she taught at the Boston Conservatory last year, her connections to this city date back to one of her first singing jobs. “I love Boston. I lived there for nine months in 1949-50 while I performed in a five-singer tribute to Cole Porter at the Darbury Room,” she says. “I remember great restaurants: Locke-Ober, the Parker House. I loved going out for Italian food.”

Back in the days of swanky supper clubs, the 150-seat Darbury Room — at the corner of Dartmouth and Newbury streets — presented the revue A Tribute to

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Barbara Cook photo Denise Richards Cole Porter with Cook, Guy Guarino, Alice O’Leary, Bill Conlan and Al Drootin (the cover charge was $3). Bill Riley, in a Billboard magazine review of the show, cited Cook as “a pert little blonde with a neat sense of showmanship and a fair voice.”

Just a year later, that “fair voice” marked its Broadway debut as the ingénue lead in the musical Flahooley, which was quickly followed by Ado Annie in the City Center revival of Oklahoma! and a national tour of that show. Cast as Cunegonde in the original production of Candide, Cook remembers a try-out in Boston just before the now legendary show flopped on Broadway in 1956. “We didn’t even have the finale [‘Make Out Garden Grow’] until previews. I remember thinking Richard Wilbur’s lyrics were so wonderful but how daunting it would be to compose music

for them. When Bernstein did it, I was thrilled. But people just didn’t know what to make of Candide.”

Audiences won’t hear “Make Our Garden Grow” — one of the most beautiful and most difficult musical theater songs to sing — on April 6 but there are plenty of YouTube videos of Cook knocking it out of the park. The song is a brass ring for other stellar singers; check out the YouTube clip of Streisand tackling it in a recording studio (she didn’t release it on either of her Broadway albums). “Renee Fleming, who is a friend, recorded it and told me she’d never do it in concert,” says Cook.

For her Celebrity Series concert, Cook will perform songs from her newest CD, Loverman (DRG Records), a mix of jazzy standards, which represents a departure for her. “I’d been wanting to do swing and

jazz songs for awhile, so I put together a show for Feinstein’s at the Regency in New York. I didn’t know how it would be received. I worried about what Stephen Holden of the New York Times would think, but he loved everything I did. That helped me to continue.”

Cook imbues all the songs on Loverman with her impeccable phasing and distinctive delivery. There the title tune, a Billie Holiday signature; two songs by Hoagy Carmichael, “The Nearness of You” and “Georgia on My Mind”; Harold Arlen’s “Let’s Fall in Love”; and the poignant ballad “If I Love Again.”

One of the bittersweet aspects of a long life, of course, is that Cook has outlived many of her contemporaries in show business. “People start dying around you,” she says, remembering close friend and longtime arranger Wally Harper who died in 2004. “He was a huge personality; it filled the room. I think or talk about Wally every day. He was one of the best arrangers around and I sat next to him for 30 years so I learned something. All the arrangements [on Loverman] are mine; the song choices are mine. I’m very proud of it.”

“ People say I was part of the ‘golden age’ of Broadway and I was.

It was a great time, but you don’t know you’re in a golden age at the time. We could be in one now. We should act as if every day is the golden age. ” Barbara Cook Even into her ninth decade, Cook’s voice is as clear as it was in her youth (although she admits she hasn’t sung “Glitter and Be Gay,” an intricate aria with high Es and Cs, in years). But arthritic knees have forced her to sit for much of her concerts, a fact she faced reluctantly at first. “I’ve learned

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Cook knows she represents for many fans a bygone time of landmark musicals and theatrical songwriting — she’s a premiere interpreter of the work of Jule Styne, Stephen Sondheim, Rodgers and Hammerstein, Leonard Bernstein, Jerry Bock and Sheldon Harnick and numerous other composers. But her approach to being a legend is characteristically downto-earth. “People say I was part of the ‘golden age’ of Broadway and I was. It was a great time, but you don’t know you’re in a golden age at the time,” she says. “We could be in one now. We should act as if every day is the golden age.” [x] Barbara Cook vocals and John Pizzarelli guitar/vocals

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The ‘Most Unfunny Thing in the World’ Ryan Landry tackles Fritz Lang’s masterwork M for the Huntington Ryan Landry refuses to be compartmentalized as an artist. Yes, he’s the master of gay camp with his original, theatrical riffs on classic movies that have entertained audiences for years in both Boston and Provincetown. His latest show, Mildred Fierce, a lavish musical about the mother of all pie-baking mothers, stars Varla Jean Merman and runs to March 17 at Machine, the Boston home of Landry’s longtime troupe, The Gold Dust Orphans.

But the hard-working, prolific Landry is about to debut a bold new work, his adaptation of M, German director Fritz Lang’s 1931 film noir classic starring Peter Lorre about a child killer hunted down by

Ryan Landry the criminal underworld. M will be staged March 29 to April 27 at the Huntington Theater Company where Landry has been a Playwriting Fellow since 2008.

The Huntington’s Artistic Director Peter DuBois calls M an “amazing collaboration between two Boston theatre legends.”

Boston Spirit recently had the following e-mail interview with Landry whose responses are characteristically opinionated, thoughtful and very funny as he prepares for his most challenging work to date.

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[Boston Spirit] A German film from

1931 about a child killer ... what made you want to turn this into a play?

[Ryan Landry] Because it is a beautiful masterwork.

A goal to which other artists should aspire.

I chose this film because I wanted to write a play based on the most unfunny thing in the world and still make it [the play] funny.

It is a sad play too. It is a human play.

People often say that I am a funny person but I also think of myself as somewhat sad at times. This is not because I am a depressed individual. It is because I am a human being.

I like to be sad, for brief periods anyway. Because I am human, I possess all the colors in the spectrum within my soul, as

anyone who has the courage to let those colors in must have in order to live out a full existence.

I am not made up of just “happy” colors. By these I mean the obscenely bright Barbie pinks and putrid Easter Day purples so often used in today’s most offensive toys.

These colors are also used (in the most violent manner imaginable) to decorate the bedrooms of innocent teenaged girls. Poor things. Their msothers should be arrested.

To me, these are simply put: ungodly colors.

They are the colors I see on my television. The colors I see within the eyes of our current “celebrity” zombies.

People like Justin Bieber, Beyonce and Kim Kardashian appear freakishly inhuman to me. Like cheap marshmallow chicks gone past their expiration date, I want them out of sight as soon as

possible. They are plastic, they are phony and worse of all, they rot your teeth.

[BS] Were you a fan of Fritz Lang or the film before taking this on?

[RL] Of course. I went to art school.

[BS] Will M be different from the Ryan Landry/Gold Dust Orphans shows? What’s similar about it?

[RL] It will be different as it marks the first collaborative effort between myself and my nightmares. It will be the same as it will start on time.

[BS] The Huntington is such a prestigious company — how did this come about and how do you feel about writing this show for them?

[RL] Prestigious? What exactly is that supposed to mean?

If you mean to say that the Huntington puts out incredible work, I agree. If you mean to say they are more “legitimate” than any struggling artist out there then I disagree. I think also, that my dear friends at the Huntington, Peter DuBois, Lisa

Timmel, Charles Haugland, and Bevin O’Gara would disagree. I know these people well at this point, and not one of them is in it for the “prestige.”

They are working artists, ready, willing, and more than able to support other working artists like myself. Questions concerning “prestige” would be best directed toward those who do not live to create but simply truck their shit in from New York. The ones (and there are plenty out there) who are in it for anything but the art. In my humble opinion, the word “prestigious” should go the way of “upscale” and “High End.” All should be wiped away, flushed and left for the sanitation department to handle. [x] M

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PrideSports Awards Gala Boston | Westin Waterfront | January 26

Hundreds of participants from New England LGBT sports leagues gathered for a night of fun, friendship and recognizing sportspersonship.

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Glitz — Dyke Night New Year’s Eve Machine | Boston | December 31

It was a madFEMMEpride night dancing in 2013 with over a thousand women and their friends.

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Waltham House 10th Anniversary Club Café | Boston | January 26

Lauren Gillis, Waltham House Committee Member Audrey Gillis, Joanna Chan and Morgan Lee

The Home for Little Wanderers celebrated ten years of Waltham House.

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Charity Bingo with Constance Waverly and The Boston Sisters

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The Boston Sisters are pleased to announce that due to the kindness of Club Café’s hostess with the most-ess, Constance Waverly, they have been able to collect over $11,000 which has been distributed to 14 different charities throughout the Boston area. The monthly event started in July of 2011 and has benefitted such charities as The LGBT Asylum Task Force, IMPACT LGBTQ Scholarship Fund, Community Research Initiative, Children’s Hospital,The Theatre Offensive, and Harbor to the Bay — with a record evening of $3,032 collected this last September. Each December, the evening is dedicated to Toys for Joys, this having 6 large bags of toys donated and over $700 to help the group continue their good work.

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“The Arches of Hope,” an interactive art installation and social media campaign, held its inauguration at THE OUT NYC to benefit Lifebeat: Music Fights HIV/AIDS and the MTV Staying Alive Foundation.

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Thu Mar 7 - Sun Mar 17

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Jiri Kylian's Wings of Desire, Tar and Feathers, and Symphony of Psalms, considered some of his most iconic ballets.

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Danish Dance Theatre, Love Songs

Sat Mar 16 Sun Mar 17

Boston | Tsai Performance Center

An evening dance and jazz meditation on the search for love.

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The Sleeping Beauty

Fri Mar 22 - Sun Apr 7

Boston | Boston Ballet

One of Boston Ballet's trademark works. Marius Petipa's beautiful ballet features original costumes and lavish sets by David Walker from The Royal Ballet.

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Editor's Pick

Reflections: Love, Loss and Living

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Boston | The Boston Conservatory

ClimACTS! Unbound

Thu Apr 18 - Sun Apr 21 A first-of-its-kind interdivisional performance project showcasing works that explore the universal human experience of loss and grief, and how we overcome these experiences. Performances include excerpts from Elegies for Angels, Punks, and Raging Queens, and D-man in the Waters by Bill T. Jones.

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Spring Program

Thu May 2 - Sun May 12

Boston | Boston Ballet

Wayne McGregor's Chroma is book-ended by George Balanchine's Serenade and Symphony in C. Boston Ballet | bostonballet.org

Coppelia

Thu May 16 Sun May 26

Boston | Boston Ballet

A light hearted comedy for the whole family!

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Wed Mar 20

Boston | Theatre Offensive

Celebrate queer sexual liberation and support The Theater Offensive’s arts programs by, for, and about the LGBT community in Boston’s neighborhoods.

Legendary drag performer Sherry Vine will emcee the event, featuring performances by Cazwell of "Ice Cream Truck" fame. At Rumor, 111 Washington St Theatre Offensive | www. thetheatreoffensive.org

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Symphony No. 7

Fri Mar 15, Sun Mar 17

Boston | Symphony Hall

After conducting H&H in sold-out performances of Beethoven’s Fifth Symphony in 2011, Richard Egarr takes Symphony Hall by storm with Beethoven’s masterful Symphony No. 7.

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Cosi Fan Tutte

Fri Mar 15 Sun Mar 24

Boston | Boston Lyric Opera

A light and airy romp that proves that love is indeed a serious game.

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La Boheme

Thu Apr 4 - Sun Apr 7

Boston | The Boston Conservatory Theater

Amid the great swirl of the bohemian lifestyle in Paris, youthful dreamers are drawn to the creative pulse of the city and find themselves at the mercy of life’s harsh realities.

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Vivaldi Virtuosi

Fri Apr 5, Sun Apr 7

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Barbara Cook and John Pizzrelli

Sat Apr 6

Boston | Symphony Hall

The legend and the legend in the making share the Symphony Hall stage.

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In Time of War

Sun Apr 7

Cambridge, MA | Sanders Theatre

Coro presents Haydn's Mass in Time of War and Ginastera's Lamentations of Jeremiah paired with Lee Hoiby's Last Letter Home and Peter Eldridge's Come Home.

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The Flying Dutchman

Fri Apr 26 - Sun May 5

Boston , MA | Boston Lyric Opera

A tale of doomed sea captain and a yearning heroine set against the uncontrolled violence of the sea. Ends Boston Lyric Opera on a note of high drama.

Boston Lyric Opera | blo.org

Editor's Pick

The Book of Mormon

Tue Apr 9 - Sun Apr 28

Boston | Boston Opera House With nine 2011 Tony Awards, this is this season's must-see event. Created by Trey Parker and Matt Stone of South Park and co-creator Robert Lopez of Avenue Q. Hysterically irreverent and honestly affecting. Do. Not. Miss.

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Pippi Longstocking

Fri Apr 12 - Sun May 12 She's the strongest girl in the world, has a pot of gold in her cupboard and a monkey for a best friend. Who couldn't relate? balletrox.org/urbannutcracker/

April 9 - April 28 and the Boston Opera House. With nine 2011 Tony Awards, this is this season's must-see event is The Book of Mormon.

Hysterically irreverent and honestly affecting. Do. Not. Miss.

Editor's Pick

Beowolf - A Thousand Years of Baggage

Handel Jephtha

Fri May 3, Sun May 5

Boston | Symphony Hall

The H&H Period Instrument Orchestra and Chorus performs Handel’s oratorio Jephtha which H&H premiered in the US and has not performed it since 1867.

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Past and Future

Sun Jun 2

Boston | Church of the Covenant

Schubert's Mass in G, with works by contemporary composers: Jennifer Higdon's Southern Grace and the world premiere of Greg Bullen's The Orchard.

Coro Allegro | www.coroallegro.org

Performance Editor's Pick

The Second City: Laughing Matters

Wed Mar 20 Sat Mar 23

Providence | Trinity Repertory Theater

Chicago’s legendary sketch comedy theater will bring some of their best sketches, songs, and improvisations from their fifty-two year history to the Trinity Rep stage.

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Editor's Pick

David Sedaris

Sun Apr 7

Boston | Symphony Hall

The writer and cultural observer returns to Boston for his annual appearance. Sure to be a sell-out.

Celebrity Series | www.celebrityseries.org

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Lungs

Ongoing thru Sun Mar 10

Newton, MA | New Repertory Theatre

A young couple agonizes over having children in a world of overpopulation and global warming. An intimate, laughable look at the really important decisions we make in our lives.

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By the Way, Meet Vera Stark

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Fri Mar 29 - Sat Apr 27

Boston | Boston Center for the Arts

Fri Mar 8 - Sun Apr 7

apart, the play examines race, real estate and the values of each through discussions of diversity and gentrification.

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Lorraine hansberry's groundbreaking 1959 drama is an inspiring and moving portrait of people whose dreams are constantly deferred.

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Adapted from the Fritz Lang film by Ryan Landry. Lang's film noir masterpiece gets the Landry treatment in a squeamish tale about a child killer brought to justice by the criminal underworld. Features Boston favorite Karen MacDonald.

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A Raisin in the Sun

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Jersey Boys

Ongoing thru Sat Mar 9

Boston | Citi Colonial Theater

This modern family favorite tells the story of Frankie Valli and the Four Seasons through their own music. A jukebox musical at its finest.

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Reflections of a Rock Lobster

Sat Mar 9 - Sun 17

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Social Creatures

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Thu Mar 28 - Sat Apr 27 The epic tale becomes a 21st Boston | Lyric Stage century mead hall. Watch as Beowolf sings, struts, and A headstrong Africanslashes his way through 1000 American maid is cast in the same movie as her boss, a Hol- years of literary scholarship. lywood star desperately grasp- Music composed by Dave Malloy of last season's sold out ing to hold onto her career.

Three Pianos. lyricstage.com American Repertory Theater | www. americanrepertorytheater.org Editor's Pick

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Trojan Women

Wed Apr 17 - Sun Apr 21

Boston | Paramount Theater One of the greatest antiwar dramas ever written, the royal women of Troy, still mourning the death of their sons and husbands, await enslavement and exile.

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Fri May 10 - Thu Jun 6

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Winner of 2008's Tony for Best Musical, the show spices up traditional Broadway fare Master Class with hip hop, salsa, and rap

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On the Town as Callas.

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Holland on Paper: The Age of Art Nouveau

House & Garden

Wicked

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Boston | Boston Opera House Ongoing thru

Thu May 16 - Sun Jun 30 Wed Aug 7 - Sun Sep 15 The theatrical event of the season: two plays taking place simultaneously in different theaters by the same actors.

Audience members stay put, seeing each production one at a time. Expect wacky characters, gin-soaked truths, and high-speed topsy turvey stories.

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The phenomenon returns in this untold story of the Witches of Oz from their childhood origins to what really happened when Dorothy arrived.

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Sun Jul 7

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The Postcard Age: Selections from the Leonard A. Lauder Collection

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This new play brings together college friends decades after graduation in a comedy about family, career, romance, and the decisions that define life.

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Sun Apr 28 - Sun May 19

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Peter Schaffer's contemporary masterpiece examines the relationship between genius Early drawings by well-known Boston | Museum of Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart artists such as Mondrian and Fine Arts/Boston and Antonio Salieri, a muchBart van der Leck as well as An array of over 400 cards many fascinating artists little from the decades surrounding less talented and jealous rival. known outside of Holland.

1900 illustrate how big histori- New Repertory Theatre | newrep.org Museum of Fine Arts/Boston | www.mfa.org cal and cultural themes play In Conversation: out on a small canvas.

Modern African Museum of Fine Arts/Boston | www.mfa.org American Art from

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Rapture, Blister, Burn Michael Lin

Fri May 24 - Sat Jun 22

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Amadeus

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Salem, MA | Peabody Essex Museum

Lin has created a sprawling mural of original armorial and heraldic motifs inside the museum as well as a large-scale installation animating the history of trade between China and the West.

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Meditations on art, identity, and the rights of the individual are presented in this collection of 43 prominent African American artists.

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Edie’s Triumphant Return!

From P’town to Vegas and back again, Cirque du Soleil star to be Grand Marshall in Carnival Parade Currently headlining Cirque du Soleil’s Zumanity as the show’s Mistress of Sensuality, Edie, one of Provincetown’s most legendary performers, sat down with Boston Spirit Magazine after the show one evening in January. With breathy excitement she confided, “I’ve been asked by the Provincetown Business Guild to be the Grand Marshall in this year’s Carnival Parade!

It’ll be so perfect if a few more Cirque du Soleil performers can come because Cirque de Soleil is SO Las Vegas!” Edie will also kick off the week’s festivities as the hostess of the Boatslip’s masquerade ball.

The tall, leggy star — “7’1” from heels to hair!” — is exactly how she appears on-stage: warm, gracious, and welcoming. Edie got her start appearing at the Universal Grill, a tiny little restaurant in New York City’s West Village.

Her current role asks her to appear “in a tiny little cabaret

tucked in a dark corner of Greenwich Village” within Las Vegas’s New York, New York resort. “You come in and you see all the characters in this sexual circus. It’s like a little brothel,” says Edie, “and the performer’s are [my] best friends, the people that I find the most interesting and the most talented. There’s nothing that I love more than sharing these people with the audience.”

Ria Martens, Zumanity’s Artistic Director, describes the show as “a sensual and sexual acrobatic show where all kinds of love are portrayed.” All types of sexuality are addressed and it’s Edie’s job to keep the show moving and the audience comfortable. Explains Martens, “One of the main messages of the show is to not take yourself, or sex, too seriously. Making the audience laugh is one of the best ways to draw them in on the Zumanity journey.”

Decked out in gorgeous Thierry Mugler costumes, Edie’s charm disarms the audience right from the opening. “It’s really important to me that I reach out the LGBT community. I ask, ‘Where are my gays?’ I’ll find a couple and ask them how long they’ve been together. I make a big deal out of it. And you always hear a big cheer. It feels good to me that

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Edie with costume design by Thierry Mugler photo Guilano Bekor the cheer is about acceptance,” says Edie. “And if there are people, and there are, who do not want to know about gay people, when they hear that cheer they might have a moment and think, ‘Maybe I’m not in the majority anymore.’”

Appearing with an enormous cocktail — “In my opinion it’s an Edie-tini, which is a character in my solo show. In Zumanity’s opinion it’s a Zumanitini.

Which you can purchase at the bar. It depends on who you’re asking.” — engages the audience in some very frank

discussions, including if they’ve ever been involved in a three-way or an orgy. “There was a guy last night who said that yes, he had been to an orgy.

When I asked him how many people, five or twenty five? He said twenty five.”

“I was like, ‘Oh. That’s a really big orgy … But that’s an odd number. That leaves somebody masturbating in the corner alone. Was that you?’”

“And he goes, ‘Usually.’ People are so funny when they’re raw and honest.” [x]