BOLD Favor Magazine - December 2015

December 2015

The Future Favors The Bold

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Sharon Ferguson-Quick bold spotlight domestic violence Love the Skin You’re in from the Inside Out Success 360 CHROME Spotlight: Jordan Fayson “ A Super Kid” and more

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LETTER FROM THE

EDITOR

Editor-in-chief

LYNITA MITCHELLBLACKWELL

Lynita Mitchell-Blackwell

creative director

stacey bowerS photographer

Joshe Martin makeup artist

ELIZABETH ST. JOHN-HALL

The future favors the BOLD. Be fearless!

Happy holidays! I am overjoyed by the growth of our magazine due to YOUR continued support and contributions. This is our largest issue yet, and it is the best (but I am biased!). I know you will enjoy these wonderful articles and spotlights, great advice and recommendations, and shop with our advertisers. I also know that you will embrace our new advertising manager Tara Youngblood as she contacts you to “bring in the bacon”. (smile) Every issue of BOLD Favor Magazine has its own unique personality. This one is no different. The theme this month is Leadership - and that is fitting as we are the Leadership Lifestyle Magazine! Our cover Sharon Ferguson-Quick was introduced to us through business woman and phenomenal leader Sonji Willingham; our domestic violence month spotlights are all courageous survivors who turned their darkest moments into outstanding outreach programs; our entrepreneur spotlights are inspiring people who have turned their passions into profit; and we celebrate all that makes us fabulous - culture, fashion, and beauty with a resounding WOW for the season!

As you embrace your families and embark on the madness of the holiday crush, take a moment to remember the victims of the terrorist attacks around the world and the refugees who so bravely embrace life in new lands in spite of their heartbreak.

We are so blessed to have one another

Lynita

Lynita Mitchell-Blackwell, Esq., CPA, CCLC Founder and Editor-in-Chief

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Imaginary Change

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CHROME Spotlight: Jordan Fayson “ A Super Kid”

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Flavore Event

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Path to Happy Holidays

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Our Bold Cover: Sharon Ferguson-Quick

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Love the Skin You’re In from the Inside Out

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Bold Spotlight: Domestic Violence

Breast Cancer Survivor’s Son is Raising Awareness to New Heights

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Book Review: Bad Science

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Progress or Penitentiary

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Success 360

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Makeup - It’s that time

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One to Watch: Erica Collins

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Bold Books We Like

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Spotlight: Chere Hemphill

100 Shona Does Funny

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Spotlight on Health: Advocate Sherrell Moore-Tucker

102 Restaurant Review

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Tinzley Bradford

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So, Who is Stephanie D. Sanders?

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Artist Spotlight: AugustPride

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l Am Movement

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Things we Think are BOLD

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Guard the Mighty Sword

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Blesd Event

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You’re Pretty For a Big Girl

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How Words Can Shape Our Reality

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Holiday Gift Ideas

How Health, Wellness and Faith Come Together

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Serenity Glow

LETTER FROM THE

Managing EDITOR

I am a Leading Lady of Bold Favor who is Leading Through Living Today as a Certified 3PA Building My Empire the right way.

David Good DECEMBER2015 MAGAZINE CONTRIBUTORS Keelia Asbury Tamra Asbury Tinzley Bradford William Cook Lynda Dell Faye Fields Connie Franklin David Good Paul S. Grieve Deborah Hightower Dionne Holley Dionne M. Lackey Brianna Screen Elizabeth St. John-Hall Shana Thornton Necole F. Turner

Television & Radio Show Producer Growing up in a college town outside of Houston, Texas, you would think education was the number one lesson I learned. Don’t get me wrong, education is important, but it does not make you who you are, it’s something you have attained.

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My father was a genius mathematician and professor at the Historically Black University, Prairie View A&M University. You would think that genius level would have rubbed off on a four eyed kid with that pedigree...Nope. Of all the things and wisdom he passed down to me, there is one that I take with me no matter what. He told me, “Son, no matter what you do in this life, make sure it’s positive and you do it with Excellance! If you take a job and you hate it, behave like you love it and be the best at it, cause you took that job. Now stand up for yourself, but don’t let them see you lazy or slacking.”

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I look now at the crazy things that plague this world and I see misguided kids who turned into misguided adults terrorizing our schools, communities, nations and sadly our homes. They turn into corrupt politicians, unholy church leaders, journalists with no moral compass and the bad cops we read about and I think back to what my father told me.

I can imagine in a child’s formative years to be taught love and respect self by someone in their community no matter the condition of the community, that a lot of the negativity we see in the media would not be there. Look at the next generation this way and each one of us reach one of them.

I would like to thank Lynita for this opportunity to be a part of such a great magazine that will reach millions.

Leadership starts with you making that first move to serve and knowing that you have a contribution to make to society.

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being comfortable and confident in your skin Hello everyone, I’m Tinzley, the Love Mama! I’m the Author of “The Settle-Free Dating Method for Women”. This is my very first article for BOLD Favor Magazine and I am super excited. Today’s column focuses on how to get that confidence back and strut your stuff while you’re single without being down and out settling for less than you deserve just to say you have somebody. I received an email from a single woman who seems to be feeling down about being single for so long. Here we go: I’ve been a single woman for a very long time now, wow I can’t believe it’s been that long. I’ve noticed over the years that the men I was meeting weren’t looking to grow with me, instead they were “growing” while looking at me if ya know what I mean! I started to feel like someone men only wanted around when they wanted to be pleased sexually. They want the benefits of having a relationship, but they do NOT want the commitment that comes along with it. To top it all off, men these days judge my outter appearance and use it to make their decision on whether they are even interested in me or not. How can he find a good woman if he’s too busy judging the size of her stomach instead of the size of her heart? I’m starting to struggle with self-esteem issues and it’s making me feel like I’m just not good enough for men these days and that I’ll never find true love. I feel like I’m running out of time to be married. How do I keep on staying positive despite feeing like men aren’t really interested in committing to me? It’s breaking me down and lately, I lack the confidence I once had. There’s this one guy who shows me lots of attention but has made it clear he’s not interested in settling down he only wants companionship. I mean he shows me Signed Single and Beautiful attention but not the kind that I really need and it seems he only comes around when it’s convenient for him. Some Dear Single and Beautiful Queen, attention is better than none right? Should I let him stick I totally understand you are lonely and at this point, you’d take a around? Maybe it will turn into something more…. donkey if it showed you some attention right? Let me say something very important to you and this is for anyone who may be going through something similar. You do NOT deserve anyone who is telling you they do Tinzley Bradford was born in Atlanta, Georgia. She’s a single mom who not want to settle down with you and they only want to come around for knows all about single parenting while dating. For years through her dating “companionship.” What kind of companionship is my next question? blog, “And You Wanna See My Feet” and her tell-it-like-it-is YouTube Sounds like the men you mentioned, who seem to only want one thing to videos, she has helped single moms and single women get their love lives together. The advice maven and relationship coach has also been me and you don’t even need to entertain that. I say thank God for blocking seen giving single mom dating advice on “Dr. Drew’s On Call” TV show on all the bad ones and for showing you the ones who aren’t even trying to HLN, The Single in Stilettos Show with Match Maker and Dating Coach be the guy in your life. (His Loss!)

Suzanne Oshima and her local media 11 Alive News in Atlanta. She also has been featured in a slew of articles such as Mommy Noire interviewed

by Top Relationship Coach Abiola Abrams, Single in Atl.com, Thoughtful Minds United and a ton of other blog post appearances. Tinzley is known for her no nonsense advice for single women and strongly believes refusing to settle for any old treatment is the key to living a settle-free life and not tolerating any behavior that is not healthy for you.

Tinzley Bradford: the Love Mama!

Visit Tinzley at www.menwomendatingfromtinzley.com • Book Signing and Seminar Video vimeo.com/126914019 FaceBook@MenWomenAndDating • Twitter @tinzleyb • IG @tinzleyb • Periscope @tinzley boldfavormagazine.com 8

Confident women are NOT easily broken or influenced. They are okay with setbacks and disappointments and know how to still rock their single lives without giving in to jerks. Let me recommend something for you. You have got to remember you have a greater purpose and the fact that you are single shouldn’t make you feel worthless. Take all your energy you’re using worrying about being single and place it on something you’re passionate about and would love to pursue. As you begin to see how gifted you are, you won’t have time to worry about guys who clearly don’t want you. You’ll be too busy working on your greater purpose. Look at Oprah, do you think she’s worried about being married??

Signed Tinzley, the Love Mama

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Let’s Talk America “I Am Who I AM” - New theme song for national radio show Let’s Talk America With Host Shana Thornton.

Just a little over a month ago Stephanie’s song, ‘I Am Who I Am’ was featured on this national radio show. Ms. Sanders was honored to have her music played on the program. Shortly after that, host Shana Thornton contacted Stephanie to let her know that Let’s Talk America was in the process of changing their theme song and they wanted to know if she would be open to having her single be the new theme song. Needless to say she jumped at the opportunity to have here music played on the show again but this time on a consistent basis. After further discussion with her show producer, Ms. Thornton confirmed that ‘I Am Who I Am’ (sung and written by Ms. Stephanie D. Sanders and produced by Chris Hern) would be the new theme song. Ill2Def comes together for The Cypher Song 2015 & Video Ms. Sanders has continued to work with Ill2Def Entertainment in the development of her contemporary gospel CD (for 2015) that’s in the making and her 2016 Message Music Project. In the midst of working on this project she took a moment to vibe with the Ill2Def Team Members, Redstryke, Professor, Mr. 813 and Ybless to complete a group song entitled ‘The Cypher Song

2015’. In this song she seamlessly blends her lyrics of empowerment while representing the most high in all of the endeavors she embarks upon. Stephanie honestly admits she is not perfect but she is a conscious artist who strives to never compromise her relationship with the Lord in all that she does “…singing, acting, making movies, films and TV shows.”

Take a moment to check out ‘The Cypher Song 2015’ on her YouTube Channel (Sing Stephanie Sanders or Stephanie D. Sanders) and artist Facebook page (Sing Stephanie Sanders).

On The Air Stephanie D. Sanders has been in rotation on WKND with DJ Mackee Cee and on WWAB with Apostle Hollis Rhodes for several weeks now. Since spinning on WKND she has been featured on the Donnie McClurkin Show with her smash hit single ‘I Am Who I Am’. She states, “I am grateful for another opportunity to be heard on a larger scale and touch more lives. I look forward to being used to the fullest capacity and with God’s help and guidance I will enlarge my territory and use my gifts here, there and everywhere.” This alone is enough to intrigue any listener to want to hear and see more of our very own, Ms. Stephanie D. Sanders.

“I do my best to always go into a project with the Lord on my mind”

Let’s hear from you. Tell us what you would like to know about this budding entertainer Ms. Stephanie D. Sanders.

What’s on your mind? Go ahead, ask and we’ll see just what she has to say.

So, who is

Stephanie D. SANDERS? I’m a Christian who’s an entertainer. Though I have found myself in a couple different areas of the entertainment industry, I do my best to always go into a project with the Lord on my mind. I work to always represent Him no matter what I do.

My ministry will never solely be found sitting in the pews and I am ok with that. I always like to say to myself before I present my gifts: Use Me Lord. Use me. So, wherever I am and whatever I do I want the Lord to use me and bless the people as well. Meet them where they are, NOT where you want them to be.

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Reach out to her via Twitter: @SingStephSand • FB: Sing Stephanie Sanders • LinkedIn: Sing Stephanie Sanders

I want to help people and not be closed off from the ones I love I want to see wondrous things without needing to know why it is there I want to look to the stars and know we are not alone I want to know what is happening in the world because I we are all connected I want to see every color imaginable without color dictating who and what I should be DON’T TELL ME I can’t do something Because I KNOW can do anything

Artist Spotlight

providing quality design at fair prices AugustPride, LLC is a design company focused on encouraging, educating, and promoting the importance of community service through art and design. We strive to create a unique environment where anyone can let their creative juices flow.

Owner and creator, Stacey Renee Bowers has served as a designer for almost 30 years. She has mastered innovative and stimulating visual concepts for campaigns that set a high standard of excellence. Her specialties include corporate identity, web and graphic design, and illustration.

She has taught web and graphic design on the elementary and collegiate level and continues to be a leader in the Southern region.

AugustPride’s recent accomplishments have been collaborating on the Grand Openings for the Harvey B. Gantt Center, Mint Museum Uptown, the relaunching of Miss Ebony’s Angels, Women in the Spotlight Goinglobal, partnering with Access Educational Management, WWRNDB Radio, women’s groups and many more.

AugustPride offers a wide range of services and we partner with other companies (when needed) to give you a complete design and marketing package. Including: Web Design • Graphic Design • Magazine/Newsletter/Newspaper Layout Advertising Design • Brochure Design • Logo Design • Flyer/Poster/Invitation Design CD/DVD Design • Book Layout Design • Custom Word and Powerpoint Design Custom Illustration Design • and More....

I am an Artist and I AM who I was born to be

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There are some things in this world that always seem consistent. Our mouths will have us eventually backsliding, justifying, double-talking or simply lying at some point if we are determined to be the loudest and most noticeable individual in the room. Yes, if someone is absolutely bent on being the trending topic of the day, any and every absurd statement is likely to be uttered to hold the cherished spot.

At any given point in the landscape of media coverage, there will always be at least one who will hold the attention of spectators with dramatic rhetoric.

I believe for some people observing any part of this, there is the notion that being different, unconventional and unscripted is intriguing and sensational. There are many observing this current societal scene with laughter and shock. Some kind and genuine people see no harm with enjoying the hyped rhetoric of certain individuals.

Without question, there are times when extreme and socalled radical statements that break the standard mold can present the “huh” moment. Yet there is a very thin line between attempting to be heard and being irresponsible.

All words have power. The words that have the most power are ones being said when the stage is lit and the microphone has the green light. It’s quite clear to me that not everyone is truly focused on doing the right thing. My intuition often tells me new books are just waiting to be written by many who end up throwing out words willing and able to grab our attention.

Book deal or not, I have a sincere request. Please cease the negative rhetoric. Here is why-our words, real or fictitious, can and have hurt real life people. Careless and dramatic rhetoric can feed ignorance, hatred and instability. These types of outlandish statements may just be a joke to some individuals or it may actually echo how some onlookers feel, yet being a guiding force for the vehicle of rude and mean talk that fuels separation is just wrong. Addressing issues doesn’t have to involve name-calling or memorable phrases that have no substance to them.

Eventually, as we all know, those in the spotlight often go on to be even more financially lucrative by writing books and conducting speaking tours with high price tags attached to them. A working citizen might just buy that over-dramatized book and someone will even sit intensely as that speech is being delivered in front of curious crowds brandishing cheers and applause. I am not pointing fingers one bit. I just want more. I was once told one can never control the actions of others. The statement is more than true. People can throw out careless lies to trigger emotions. It can be quite challenging to cut it off.

There are those among us who feed off of abrasive and volatile words without considering the notion that it is all about maintaining the spotlight. Some would rather refer to it as entertainment. I just know that there can be real damage done to vulnerable individuals taking it all in. The tongue is the mightiest sword of all. Let’s talk about the issues with civility and human kindness. I don’t think it’s too much to remind everyone in the spotlight to guard the mighty sword. ■ Shana Thornton

Guard the Mighty Sword

Shana Thornton is a journalist, blogger and radio show host. Her award-winning online radio talk show Let’s Talk America with Host Shana Thornton can be heard by visiting www.letstalkamericawithshanathornton.com.

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“Book deal or not, I have a sincere request.

Please cease the negative rhetoric.”

The year 2015 marks the seventh graduating class of the Jewell Jackson McCabe Emerging Leaders Institute (ELI), and we are delighted to celebrate this wonderful achievement with seven BOLD women leaders - our Precious JEWELLS: women who are Joining Emerging Leaders Everywhere to Learn Lead and Succeed!

ELI was founded in 2007 and incorporated 2008. It was in that year we graduated our first class of 12 in Stone Mountain, Georgia in collaboration with the National Coalition of 100 Black Women, Stone Mountain-Lithonia Chapter. Since then, ELI has graduated over 350 women and girls ages 11 to 62 in seven states and three countries around the world!

Named in honor of women’s advocate, business woman, Presidential Appointee, and National Founder of the 100 Black Women Jewell Jackson McCabe; we are delighted to have as the graduation keynote speaker this month’s cover women’s advocate Sharon Ferguson-Quick of Hawaii!

For more information about ELI, visit www.EmergingLeadersNow.com.

For now, meet the seven amazing women who have joined the ranks of outstanding leaders - our precious JEWELLS!

7 for 7: The Precious

J.E.W.E.L.L.S. Gabrielle Arrington

is a nonprofit management specialist, artist, and social justice advocate. A native Georgia Peach, she is passionate about building strategic alliances to advance education, health equity, economic empowerment, and environmental justice.

Gabrielle is a Strategic Planning Committee member with SustainUS, an environmental NGO empowering young people to engage in domestic and international advocacy.Gabrielle has also performed as a singer and violinist for over 10 years with different music collectives. Gabrielle earned her National Certificate in Nonprofit Management, Bachelor of Science in Public Management and Governance, and Bachelors of Arts in Sociology.

Nadine C. Duncan

is an educator passionate about Urban Education. She has taught general education, special education, and ESOL in Washington, DC, Georgia, and Abu Dhabi; and in the latter role, served as the Head of English Faculty at one of the largest girls’ school in the region. In 2014, Nadine founded PrOOF (Products of Our Future) Project, Inc. – a nonprofit that provides career mentorship and educator support to children, families, and educators to ensure enduring success.

An avid traveler, Nadine has visited 35 countries and brought those experiences together in her travel guide Diary of a Traveling Black Woman: A Guide to International Travel. boldfavormagazine.com

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Mechelle Brown

is the CEO of KMB Communications that works with a diverse client base, including elected officials, non-profit organizations and private businesses to build social media and visibility.

She is also a contractor with the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) focusing on health communications for the worldwide Ebola response. Mechelle earned an MS in Health Communication from Boston University and a BA from the University of West Georgia in Mass Communications.

Mechelle has served as the Board Chair for Scholars Academy Charter School, is a member of the United Way of Greater Atlanta’s Clayton County Advisory Board, a graduate of Leadership Clayton.

Mekeva Miller is a

seasoned business woman who has leveraged her experience to found two companies: World Wide Hustle and International Boss Lady. Mekeva’s experience in cosmetology, retail, education, and administration has led to her success in hosting social and networking events that facilitate business growth. A globalminded entrepreneur, Mekeva channels her passion for jewelry and cosmetics into financial ventures - as an independent beauty consultant with Mary Kay and her own jewelry line. Her favorite saying is, “It doesn’t work to have a business and be a fool. If you can succeed on mostly your own then you’ll do just fine in the end.”

Stephanie D. Sanders

is a little lady with a big voice!

The petite beauty hails from Central Florida, and uses her drive, passion and charisma to create a unique blend of R&B, Soul, Inspirational, Dance and Pop to bring audiences her unique sound.

A singer, songwriter, actress, and red carpet host, Stephanie is “an A-lister in the making”. Her most recent song “I Am Who I Am” has been making the rotation on radio stations in several major cities throughout the South. Stephanie loves mentoring, motivating, and driving others to recognize their gifts and lean on God to know how, when and where to use them.

Andrenette Moore

was born and raised in Niagra Falls, NY. She obtained her Associates degree in Information Systems from Bryant & Stratton Institute in Buffalo. She is currently a Configuration Analyst with United Healthcare in Jacksonville, Florida, but her passion is helping women. As an independent beauty consultant with Mary Kay, Andrenette enjoys empowering women to be beautiful both inside and out. A sought after business motivator and speaker, Andrenette shares beauty and business tips for rising entrepreneurs. This vivacious “glammother” also enjoys serving in her community and her church.

Benecia Ponder is a top-selling author, speaker, and life coach dedicated to helping

women of faith activate their power to live passionate, purposeful, and prosperous lives!

As the founder of the Unstoppable You Revolution, Benecia teaches women worldwide how to maximize their fullest potential and achieve the authentic success they truly desire. Benecia’s books, speaking engagements, and coaching programs have inspired and empowered women to enjoy total life prosperity without sacrificing their faith, family, or themselves. Benecia’s experience and expertise help women discover their true Godgiven purpose and pursue a vision for their lives that is in alignment with who they were created to be.

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I never quite understood why anyone would think this is a compliment. In my opinion, it’s clearly an insult!!! This statement can be looked at in two ways. First, why is it necessary to even mention that I am a big girl? Like I don’t look at myself in the mirror on a daily basis and recognize that fact that I am a far cry from being skinny and I’m okay with that…so sorry you don’t feel the same. I find that to be straight up rude!!! Secondly, why must I be an exception to the rule...pretty…for a big girl??? So a woman’s beauty is determined by her size now…if she’s larger than society’s standards, she can no longer be considered beautiful???

How shallow can you be???

I had an aunt who would tell me every chance she got that “I was pretty and dressed well for a big girl”. She never knew how much this bothered me because I never expressed it. I was raised to respect my elders and I held my tongue with everything in me not to come off rude. So not only am I an exception to the rule to be pretty/beautiful…but then I can also dress myself well. As if all plus size women can’t dress well either!!! I was taught that I had to work harder to prove myself because I was a woman…they failed to mention that there will be times where my weight will be an added stipulation that would add another level of negativity to fight against. Thank God I was raised to have confidence…because those words could have done some serious damage to my self-esteem. Where beauty is in the eye of the beholder…by no uncertain standards is weight a determining factor of one’s beauty!!! ■

Any questions can be sent to askbriatboldfavormagazine@gmail.com I have been plus size most of my life and - believe it or not - I’ve never been the type to struggle with low self-esteem. It didn’t matter if I couldn’t run the field like the other students in my physical education classes…or I didn’t wear name brand trendy clothes when I was in school; I still had my own sense of style and I loved myself and the skin I was in.

You’re Pretty FORABIGGIRL

No I’m not pretty for a big girl…I AM PRETTY PERIOD!!! boldfavormagazine.com

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Picture this;

take a moment and imagine that when someone speaks, a cloud of smoke comes from their mouth. For conversation sake, let’s give it the color blue. This will mean that every time this person opens his mouth to speak, a puff of blue cloud will release in the air, appear on his face and the area surrounding his head.

What he says will be everything he experiences, in terms of sight and feel, it will all be blue. The reality of life is quite the same.

When you replace the blue cloud with our words, this situation illustrates the power of our words.

Our words can impact

the mind, body, spirit and social aspects of our journey. They can determine how we feel, the mood we are in, how we deal with others and where our energy level is focused. The body believes everything we say to it; therefore we should be intentional with our words and how we deliver them.

When a person changes what he says, he causes a certain response in his mind that is tied to what he is experiencing or expecting. Usually, people who say negative things about themselves, or those around them, do so without the intention of harm. They also aren’t thinking of the physical effects that negative words or thoughts can bring, such as increased blood pressure and stress on the body. Our words shape our reality. Therefore, if you want to achieve a balance life of health and wellness, you must act and speak as if you have already achieved it.

Now, it’s not as simple as saying, “I have a hundred thousand dollars” and out of nowhere the money appears. In this situation, an individual can tell herself that she is rich and money does not define her wealth. The approach is to be grateful for what is yours, do not be jealous of others, believe in how things flow, and be smart with the money that you have. Even in chaos, or difficult situations, it is possible to be mindful of how we use our words and where our thoughts travel. We can explore words that guide us to an inner peace and provide the strength needed to endure the circumstance.

It is said that by thinking or saying something, the law of attraction brings it back to our world where it can manifest itself. Therefore, always be mindful of the words you speak, not only to yourself, but also to your friends, family and anyone you come in contact with.

Speak with love and positivity, while keeping negative words and bad thoughts silent. Remember that we are all human and have numerous conditions we face daily and are expected to fulfill them so in the event that you slip, love yourself and press forward. ■ Dionne M. Lackey, CHLC

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It may seem a little early, but by this time every store you go in already has holiday items displayed. So, why not start planning your holiday gifts now? We all have the friend that we love so dearly, but they lack a little style in the fashion department. She is usually clueless of the current trends and has no idea of how to incorporate a little glam in her wardrobe. The holiday time is a great time to give your style challenged friend a fashion boost. We’ve listed five gift ideas that will easily add a bit of style to any wardrobe.

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• The cuff- this piece is one size fits all and can be found in several different metals, materials and colors. It is very easy to style and can be worn with a chic shift dress to a holiday party.

• The wrap or poncho is a great gift and a way to keep the ones you love warm. The wrap or poncho can be worn with a dress, pants or a skirt. This gift is timeless.

• The clutch is a great gift that will save your friends when wearing that same ole black dress to the company holiday party. They can add a punch of style by toting a cute and dainty bag instead of their everyday bulky bag that holds everything but the kitchen sink.

• The statement necklace is a simple gift that can be found at any price point. A statement necklace is a great piece that enhances the wardrobe of those who may not even have the basics. It is a piece that can be worn with anything and bring interest to a boring outfit. It is an easy way to be fashionable without much effort.

• The French beret is the perfect gift for those who aren’t fashion forward. It keeps the head warm and adds a bit of flavor to your everyday style. Your fashionless friend can add this great accessory and still feel comfortable while wearing this trend ■ Tamra Asbury AKA Filthy Chic boldfavormagazine.com

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Imaginary Change

Let’s face it, when we meet someone for the first time, usually each person is presenting the very best of themselves possible. Most relationships don’t begin with it providing the unique opportunity of knowing someone first, past their physical appearance. More often than not, it takes time before we find out who that new person in our life really is. Until then we have to depend on what we are told by them or what we observe. In those instances when we observe more than what we are told and do nothing with the information, except minimize or dismiss it, we set ourselves up to make bad relationship decision and that’s the real underlining problem when it comes to what we think versus what the reality is.

A man telling you he doesn’t want a serious relationship, and is only willing to let whatever happens, between the two of you, happens, isn’t the man you should be dating or hoping for a serious relationship with. Whatever happens and serious relationships simple don’t go together. His actions may feel like he’s serious about you, but you can’t dispel what he said just because he’s doing some right things. Up front you were told he doesn’t want anything serious. That should be your queue to find out exactly what he does want before going any further; you’re not into the casual thing and leave him where you met him.

The imaginary change comes into play when the woman

decides the right things he’s doing is because of her and has nothing to do with that fact that he’s just a promiscuous man, that happens to be a gentleman, who hasn’t decided to commit to one woman. Don’t fool yourself into thinking only the men who are messy are the ones you need be worried about. Take what he says over what he does every day of the week and twice on Sundays.

When a woman or man initially becomes involved with someone and adopts the belief that they can exclusively be the reason the other changes, is one of the biggest missteps made when beginning any type of relationship.

You will never be successful in changing someone into the person you desire. That change comes from within an individual. You will be better served being the best you possible. The rest will follow if it’s meant to be.

What we all have to realize, is that people usually only change the way they function in relationships, on a lasting basis, when they decide to change for themselves. If for any other reason, it won’t be permanent an in my opinion, I’d venture to say, any woman or man for that matter, adopting the belief they can exclusively be the reason the other changes, would have a better chance of seeing a unicorn walk across their backyard. Unless of course it’s an imaginary change you’re choosing to believe in. ■ William R. Cook boldfavormagazine.com

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Jordan Fayson

During my 8th grade year of middle school we were given the task of researching and applying to high schools. We were told to select up to three. Two instantly came to my mind.

I had no doubt that one of them if not both would accept me for the upcoming year. St. Joseph’s Collegiate Institute and Canisius High School were among the best in my area.

I knew they would want a kid like me. There was no need for me to have any other schools in mind. I applied, but didn’t receive a response. My first thought was maybe my grades weren’t good enough. Why wouldn’t they accept me? Some of my friends applied and received their responses right away. I began to worry. Honestly, my feelings were a little hurt. Public school isn’t for me.

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In January of 2015 my friend invited me to a sports work out at a suburban school in Tonawanda, New York, 30 minutes from my home. Being the athlete that I am I couldn’t turn it down. Cardinal O’Hara was also a great school in the area and didn’t cost as much as my first and second choices.

The education there definitely ranked among the top. I hadn’t applied or even registered for the sports camp, but I knew I needed to attend the workout sessions to show them what I could do. At the workout, we played football, basketball and did some running. I worked very hard to show my athleticism.

I felt like this was my only opportunity to show my skills and ability. Since about the 5th grade, I had a plan for my life, I was going to attend one of the best high schools, attend college and become an engineer. This opportunity could be the open door that I needed.

“A Super Kid”

“Although I love sports, my mother is extremely big on academics. She doesn’t share the same passion as I do concerning this subject. I wanted her to understand that I can do both.”

My mom had no idea what I was doing. Since we hadn’t heard back from the schools that I had initially applied to, she had already registered me at a local charter school. Apparently, I was expected to start school the following Wednesday. My name had come up on their waiting list. My mother was preparing to withdraw me from my current school to start mid-year at the charter school. They only had one open slot for an eighth grader who would ultimately transition on to their high school program. According to my mom it was a very good school. Her decision posed a problem for me. They didn’t have a sports program. Although I love sports, my mother is extremely big on academics. She doesn’t share the same passion as I do concerning this subject. I wanted her to understand that I can do both. I can maintain good grades and be a stellar athlete.

When I found out about the sports workout, I immediately called my grandmother. I told her that I had an appointment at a school regarding a scholarship. I knew my grandmother would take me where I needed to go. I went in to the school while my grandmother waited for me in the car. My mom was at work. She had no idea that I had devised a plan to attend the tryouts. Nor did she know that I was actively looking to apply to other high schools on my own.

I walked into Cardinal O’Hara High School searching for the gym. While walking through the hall I bumped into the Admissions Director, Mr. Doug Busczak. He and I talked for a while about me coming to the school, my grades and my favorite sports. I told him that I like football, basketball, track and crew. He seemed to be very interested. I guess Mr. Busczak was impressed with me because he asked boldfavormagazine.com

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me to have my mother fill out the school’s application and schedule a shadow day to visit the school as a guest and follow a current student to their classes for the day. I visited the school the following Monday and met the principal. She was a nice lady, full of energy just like me. At the end of the day I walked out of there with an acceptance letter, a school t-shirt, and a smile on my face. My day there was excellent. The students were polite and respectful. The environment was great. The teachers were funny. I knew this was the place I wanted to be.

I went back to my school’s guidance counselor and told her about my experience at Cardinal O’Hara and about the sports workout. I told her that I loved the school and how I envisioned myself as a student there. She was excited that I was interested in attending a private school and began talking to me about scholarships. I really enjoyed O’Hara. I knew I had to do everything in my power to be a student at that school. Within two days I had gotten the school acceptance as well as a full four-year scholarship. In doing all of that, how could my mother say no? I am in the 9th grade, a member of the class of 2019 at Cardinal O’Hara High School.

I’d like to tell everyone reading this that you can do anything you put your mind to. I experienced this personally. Although I didn’t get into the schools that I initially wanted to, I am where I am supposed to be. I always had a back-up plan.

From my mother: I am extremely proud of my son. He has always been a strong willed individual. When I asked him why he took it upon himself to attempt such a huge undertaking, he responded, “My faith isn’t big enough sometimes.”

He felt that I would have talked him out of this pursuit because two days seemed unrealistic for what he was trying to do. I’ve learned a huge lesson about my own faith. Age and experience may have jaded me a bit. Childlike faith is necessary when we want miracles to happen. ■

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On Friday, October 23rd, Keesha Rivers, CEO of FlaVore Entertainment Inc, brought together an incredible line up of talent from Florida and Georgia aptly entitled “Florida Meets Georgia - A Night Out with the Stars�.

The event was held at the C-Room in south Atlanta, and featured singers, rappers, dancers, and comedians who

were consistent in their message positive vibes for the Lord. The venue was packed with supporters for this first time endeavor that was so well received, plans are already underway for Florida Meets Georgia 2016.

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H.A.P.P.Y. Holidays The Path To

Encouragement for the Mind and Spirit All rights reserved “Reflections of The Butterfly�, Innovative Butterfly, LLC 2015.

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right? Well, not so much. There are moments where we feel that the support of our family is paramount to our success. We are all things to the people in our lives.

We are wife, mother, cook, chauffeur, daughter, sister, friend to many. We are a regular Jill of all Trades! But WE ARE EXHAUSTED! So when the holidays come around we feel all the pressure of “being perfect”. Having the perfect tree, gifts and party can be overwhelming. Facing the uncertainty in our emotions, we close our mind and continue to function in our world. But is it really good to do so? I would offer that it is definitely not. From my own experience, this is not the best thing to do. Moving through life as if you have it all together is the worst thing that you can do. This is masking. Hiding behind the mask does more harm than good. It can lead to your disappearance.

Feeling that breaking point, we run to that place, that solitude called loneliness.

My Story

I recently lost my grandfather, the one who raised me. He was born on Christmas Day and the sadness of missing him will only be magnified. I found comfort in loneliness. I did not have to talk to anyone. I was dealing with questions about my purpose and direction. I felt completely lost without that guiding force in my life.

The holidays can be a very busy time and filled with the sights and sounds of excitement. If you are like my husband, you live for the crowds and the competition of getting the last space at the mall parking lot. The holidays have a way of bringing people together but it can also be a time of loneliness for others. I know this all too well and the feeling of loneliness can be crippling. It can take hold of the mind, heart and spirit. There have been times where I have been in a room full of people and I have felt lonely. The noise buzzes like electricity all around and all I felt was oblivion. Life is supposed to feel joyous when you have a family, job and friends but even that is not enough sometimes. We need more…from others, from ourselves, we are left wanting and waiting.

As a result we take cover and hide our disappointment and emotions from those closest to us. We are ashamed in the first place that we feel this way so we dare not share with anyone. Leaving others asking “what is wrong with her” and thinking “she should be happy, I know I would be.” But they could not be more wrong.

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However I needed to move on. I started keeping a “focus journal”. I observed, wrote and focused on the good in my life. I repeated this process until there was a certain amount of peace that came over me. The journey to finding encouragement and peace in the midst of sadness is not easy. It is an ebb and flow of emotion. It is constant and fluid. Those emotions can increase and decrease within a breath of a conversation or in the space of time. It can be painful. But in the end, joy can abound and I have resolved to be HAPPY during this time. In my focus journal I vowed to redirect my thoughts and get back on the path to “happy”. I want to encourage you to apply the following acronym in the process:

H-Heal the hurt of the past.

A-Adjust your attitude.

P-Be present in life.

P-Purpose your path.

Y-Yield to your inner spirit.

It may be difficult to do at first but I promise it can lead you back to a place of peace and clarity. Do the work, dig deep and be encouraged in your journey. Go GET IT! ■ Necole F. Turner

Eat clean, train dirty…We’ve all heard the phrase, seen the motto displayed on t-shirts, etc. Yes we should all follow this rule to be the best version of ourselves; however, working out at a gym isn’t for everyone. This is where Lancia “LaLa” Woods’ company, La’ Movement Fitness, comes to the rescue!

Woods, as the owner and founder, decided to take her personal journey of weight loss, the struggles and triumphs, and create programs for others to take charge of their bodies and make a change. Born and raised in Buffalo, New York; a city known only for its variety of amazing foods, she created bad eating habits for herself.

She developed a balance of healthy eating and daily activity that worked for her and now she is helping others one class at a time. “The goal is to get up and get active or G.U.G.A, you don’t need to always sweat it out at the gym to be healthy and active, our different dance inspired workouts are designed to get your heart rate up” says Woods. G.U.G.A is a trademark phrase for the company, they use it to motivate, whether you’re attending one of her classes or not she wants to make sure you G.UG.A for your life!

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La’Movement Fitness established in 2013 currently offers a variety of classes, including the infamous La’Zumba, which is her own spin on the dance fitness craze Zumba, mixing different genres of music and all original routines.

Its high intensity, high energy and most importantly…fun!

A total body workout disguised as a dance party, hence the popular hashtag #shakethatcake derived from her classes. Other classes offered are La’X, La’Abs, La’Cardio and La’Praise just to name a few. The company prides itself on being able to offer something for every demographic.

The ultimate goal is to inspire and motivate the community to live a healthier lifestyle.

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Breast Cancer Survivor’s Son

Is Soaring to New Heights to Raise Awareness

Former Lyndhurst, New Jersey fire fighter, Luis Andres Perez is gearing up for his 2,000 foot ascent up the unforgiving cliffs of Mt. Yonah in Cleveland, Georgia. So, why at age 48 does he subject himself to four hours of daily endurance training-- scaling inverted rock walls at the gym to develop upper body strength, practice proper positioning of his feet, and grip?

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The Art of Raising

“When I conquer Mt. Yonah, I’ll be doing it for a worthy cause. I love sports, outdoors and rock climbing. People climb for the fun and for the thrill,” explained Perez, “but this is not about me.”

When Perez reaches the top wearing spandex pants bearing his mother’s name, Olga Perez, with a Go-Pro camera strapped to his forehead documenting his ascent, he will plant a banner to spread the message to every mother, daughter, sister and aunt: “Breast cancer can be beaten!” He wants women to know how important it is to get regular gynecologic exams and mammograms. He speaks from first-hand knowledge. His 79-year-old mom won the battle.

“Breast cancer can be beaten!”

Breast Cancer Awareness

After Perez’s mom’s diagnosis his whole world collapsed.

“When my sister told me, I couldn’t even speak.” Because his mom’s cancer was caught early, she didn’t need chemotherapy. However, after her mastectomy, she did need hyperbaric oxygen therapy (HBC), a therapy that now promotes healing incisions and fighting infections.

For one month he accompanied her to HBC therapy. “She was a little afraid,” recalled Perez. “They put this clear plastic thing over her head like an astronaut and hooked hoses to her left side to breathe in pure oxygen for one hour stretches.” He grew accustom to her disturbing appearance. Inside the chamber were 6-7 other patients nonchalantly reading magazines and books, and there were two paramedics on standby. After two weeks of HBC weekly therapy, amazingly her incisions were already beginning to heal.

His support goes well beyond participating in Breast Cancer Awareness Month—which he does. Perez would like to meet with the Breast Cancer Association of America and form a partnership and generate sponsors to donate money from his climb to help find a cure for breast cancer.

“I never thought this would strike my family. When it finally hits home you have a real awakening,” said Perez. He wants those women who are battling cancer to know: “You can’t ever give up the fight!” ■ Lynda Dell

Perez’s Google search to find breast cancer awareness leggings for his climb led him to Loridiamondart’s website. He was moved by Lori Felt’s inspiring words and mission to use her art to raise awareness about breast cancer. So he shared his mom’s plight and mission to climb.

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Success. Ask ten people the definition and you will likely get ten different answers. As such, here is my working definition: success is the continual expansion of happiness, fulfillment and progression to the next goal. In other words, if the goal is to reach Point B and I arrive at that destination, Point B should become the new Point A and serve as a launch pad to the new Point B further out on the continuum. The process repeats over the journey of life.

Apply these processes to your life and see if the taste of success doesn’t find you.

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Deborah Hightower writes for lifestyle blogs and magazines and has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, Boston Globe, Forbes, Chicago Tribune, The Charlotte Observer, Miami Herald, Dow Jones Market Watch, Morningstar, CNBC, NBC, CBS, FOX, ABC, CNBC, Yahoo Finance! and other news outlets. She was featured in INC. Magazine as a Trendsetter in Health and Wealth. Her first book, The Secret to Winning BIG: Top Strategies for Winning BIG in Life and Business, is a best-seller. Watch for her next book, Poised, Prepared and in HOT Pursuit, to be released later this year. Find out more at www.deborahhightower.com. Follow Deborah on twitter @ pennedbydeborah

Be encouraged for the journey.

Why is it important to keep striving for the new Point B? Thomas Merton, the great author, said “the biggest human temptation is to settle for too little.”

How many times have you ‘settled for too little’? Perhaps frustrated, aggravated and tired – you throw in the towel at the first roadblock. Or at the first Point B, you think the climax is over and everything else will be the proverbial downhill slide. Success is the ability to continually expand while moving to the next goal with purpose. It is also about taking all those moments when things didn’t work out the way you anticipated and using it as a learning mechanism to more efficiently attack your purpose and goals next go around.

I believe everyone has a purpose and it continues to exist until there is no longer breathe in the body. Of course, over the span of life, the micro of the purpose may adjust but the macro stays basically the same. Purpose is found deep in our hearts and is usually tied to the things we love and at which we are good.

Success, true success is 360 degrees. It is a full rotation around our lives and encompasses the personal, professional and spiritual.

With whimsy, I often say during Success presentations, “If you cussing folks out at the office, you probably

cussing folks out at home.” I believe it to be true. The continual and complete expansion of happiness and fulfillment is hard to find when our lives are compartmentalized and discord exists within the compartments. When we act one way at work, another way at home, another way at church, another way with friends, and on and on and on, it is an exhausting feat to keep all those situational personalities going.

The 360 degree circle of success defines a happy, fulfilled individual on all fronts while journeying to the next Point B. Three sixty success requires a foundation of good poise and good preparation from which good expectations for the pursuit abound.

Often, we set out on the pursuit without the poise or preparation elements in place. When the pursuit is prematurely started and the expected result is not delivered, it can produce the thought that success is not within reach.

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Determine your level of poise. Poise can be defined as dignified, composed, confident, self-possession, and mature in ways of handling personal and professional business. For example, if ‘showing up late’ is your middle name, it can denigrate your level of poise and lessen your ability to achieve your expected level of success. On the other hand, if your day is pre-planned and you are in a position to exceed your goals and obligations, then the expected result can be the same. A state of poise requires you to know your unique value proposition and be able to briefly communicate it to others. What makes you different than the next person striving to do the same thing? Knowing the answer and why someone should want you on their team is an integral part of building success.

Are you prepared? Equipped is a vital component to the state of being prepared and readied for the pursuit. Have you obtained the necessary skills, education, and other developmental attributes necessary to accomplish your goal?

Have you strategized and maximized the planning process, capitalizing on opportunities presented and counted the costs of execution (monetary, emotionally, physically and spiritually)?

Your dream and passion may be to start an afterschool program but without knowing the state requirements, startup costs, physical demands, emotional stress and other details, it is unlikely that it will produce the dreamed results.

The pursuit process should begin only after the poise and prepared steps have been laid. Its formulaic application crosses the segments of personal, professional and spiritual. It is the process of gaining and attaining the goals set forth. Many may associate poised and prepared with business pursuits alone.

Think about it for a moment. It can be applied to completing a college degree, getting ready for marriage, setting up a budget, planning for a child and other life events. For example, one cannot obtain a college degree without the prerequisite of lower education, a set number of classes, and other requirements that need to be met before the degree is given. One should not haphazardly show up on the first day and expect that’s all there is to it. No more than one should set out in pursuit of a goal without poise and preparation for the journey.

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erica collins Upcoming Projects: Erica Collins is an author, motivational/inspirational speaker, women’s activist, advocate, educator, media host/personality, plus model, actress, the first Miss New York Plus America, and former Miss Plus America.

Erica Collins is Executive Producer and Host for “America’s Enterprise” a TV cable and streaming show and “Blog Talk Radio’s Enterprise” an internet radio show serving approximately 14 million growing listeners and viewers on cable and online based from New York City. Twitter@EnterpriseECAA.

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-Erica Collins will speak and empower at the Young Women’s Empowerment Conference in Birmingham, AL March 2016 -Erica Collins will speak in Toronto Canada about “Sexy At Any Size” and “Embracing Your Curves” at the Diva Girl Conference for women in April 2016 -Erica Collins will continue her book signing tour empowering children for healthier lifestyles this spring with Barnes and Noble book stores look for upcoming dates and locations

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Chere’ Hemphill When taking a break from the big screen you can catch this fresh face on the red carpet getting the latest interviews from Atlanta’s most prominent celebrities and socialites. However, she does not stop there. Chere’ is a well-known host in the Atlanta area and makes frequent radio appearances to some of the most distinguished stations in Atlanta. Some of Chere’s upcoming projects includes; hosting various fundraiser events and many speaking engagements throughout Atlanta.

Actress and TV Host, Chere’ is no stranger when it comes to the entertainment industry. This Toledo, Ohio native comes from an extensive background in Film, Acting, Public Speaking, Radio, and Hosting. Thus far her accomplishments come with classes taken at The Company Acting Studio, Actor’s Breakthrough, and Premier Actors Network and with Stellar Actress Tasha Smith.

She has played supporting roles in several Gospel Stage Play’s, Television Appearances, Independent Films/Web Series and Talk Show Co-Host taped in the Atlanta, GA area.

Chere’ has been working harder than ever to make her next move her best move, with a burning passion and desire to become a great actress. While her journey has not been easy, Chere’ has sustained through Christ and continues to press forward trusting and believing in everything that God has for her.

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Spotlight on Health

Advocate Sherrell Moore-Tucker

How Health, Wellness and Faith Come Together

Sherrell is a Registered Yoga Teacher

Sherrell Moore-Tucker

is an aspiring author, transformational speaker, health advocate and mindbody wellness instructor. Sherrell has been teaching faith-based yoga for over five years. She started her own yoga journey in March 2008 while searching for ways to alleviate arthritis in her lower back after separating from the U.S. Army. She quickly discovered that yoga not only alleviated her arthritis pain but was also a great stress reliever. In October 2013, Sherrell started her own business where the mission is to help women reconnect with God on a daily basis through Christian meditation, focused breathing and movement. Faith & Flow Yoga seeks to provide a safe space for body, breath, and worship to flow freely as an offering to God and total wellness for our body, soul and spirit.

Sherrell provides wellness classes and workshops to various women’s groups and community based health initiatives, such as breast cancer awareness, to educate everyone about body and breath and spiritual and health benefits. She has worked with businesses, non-profit organizations and churches, such as Kaiser Permanente, The Arc, First Baptist Church of Glenarden’s Women’s Retreat: “Relationships Matter” and Dr. Celeste Owens’ “Surrender & Healing” Retreat.

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Sherrell is a Registered Yoga Teacher (RYT) with the National Yoga Alliance, Holy Yoga Ministries and a Certified Group Fitness Instructor through the Aerobics & Fitness Association of America (AFAA). Sherrell’s background consists of studies in Christian mediation, Pilates, yoga and modern dance. Holy Yoga is a ministry that offers a certification that focuses on balancing the mind, soul and body as an offering to God. She routinely writes fitness articles for various faith-based publications such as Faith & Fitness magazine, Sacrifice Fitness magazine and other mainstream publications such as Do You Yoga, GaiamTV and AFIYA magazine. She also produces Yoga podcasts for Radio One’s DC Praise 104.1. Sherrell has been featured in Elite magazine by Y.H.A., YOGAudacious, and Mantra: Yoga + Health magazine. ■

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The passion that I have for creating candles can best be described as “addictive,” because I honestly feel as though I could never live without them.

SERENITY GLOW Luxury candle company Fine candles. Fine fragrances. Fine company.

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For as long as I can remember, I have been “in love” with aromatherapy and the impact it can have on the temperament and lifestyle of individuals. I honestly believe that candles have “special” powers to calm and neutralize emotions in a way that many other remedies do not. Because of this, I invested in many different types of candles over the years but I began creating my own candles because I could never find the “perfect,” but affordable candle. I wanted candles that reflected the true essence of aromatherapy and had “presence” in their looks and scents. Throughout my search, I realized that these types of candles just were not available on the current market. As a result, I decided to create my own brand of scented candles.

My candles are unique because they are luxury soy candles that create powerful scent throws. Each candle is hand poured, ecofriendly and made with raw ingredients.

In addition, they are clean burning, long lasting, nonirritating, toxin-free, organic and safe for children and pets. They are also made with 100% certified, organic

soy bean wax and created to last. These are the key elements that allow my candles to be viewed as symbols of calmness, celebration and in some instances, can assist in balancing and maintaining a healthy mind, body and spirit.

The passion that I have for creating candles can best be described as “addictive,” because I honestly feel as though I could never live without them. They serve as destressors for me and uplift my spirit and my sense of being. I feel so positive when my world is engulfed with the aroma of my candles, and I create all of them with that same energy and purpose – to make others feel the serenity and peace of mind. My candles will bring life to any living space with the captivating fragrances of the candle scents, and that is what makes them unique.

Creating candles is not just what I do; it is a part of who I am and this is what I love sharing with the world. My love, my passion, and my legacy can all be found within the aroma of my candles…Serenity Glow. ■ Christine Camm

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Sharon Ferguson-Quick is a woman of conviction and a leader of substance. She is Bold and fearless, never afraid to speak her mind. This powerful woman of God is an international speaker who has traveled all over and is a strong advocate for women. She was the Executive Director of the Hawaii State Commission on the Status of Women from 2005 – 2011. Now she runs her own Company called SF Quick Star, where she is an Employee Transition Specialist. She knows how to balance work, family and life where faith in God is her Guiding principle.

Upon interviewing Sharon, I learned that she is more than being about women’s rights; she is about empowering women to succeed and enabling them to exhale - a true advocate for women. I should not call it an interview; it was more like two friends who had not seen each other in 20 years catching up. That is the warmth, freedom and attention she gives, and how she makes the people around her feel.

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James was re-assigned to Maryland.

Sharon obtained another Bachelor’s degree in Business Management, specifically the Asian Division at the University of Maryland. She also holds a master’s degree from Chapman University, study abroad program in Human resources and Organization Systems Management.

Sharon and James handled military life, graduate school, and parenting pretty well: they are very proud of their adult son Jared.

Seeds of Advocacy Sharon Ferguson-Quick was born in Miami, Florida and moved to West Philadelphia when she was five years old. It was during her childhood where the seed of women’s advocacy and leadership was planted. It was at the church where she saw young people getting involved, but not only in the church but also in the community.

Sharon remembers her grandmother telling her, “God blessing you obligates you” and “When you are blessed more, you give more.”

Sharon recounts that her dad said she has been a woman’s advocate since she was nine years old: it was

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about that time that she realized the inequity between men boys and girls. It struck her as wrong when she would hear “girls could not do this” and “girls were not allowed to do that”. She felt that, “Hey! I’m a girl and I can do anything!”

Sharon received her Bachelor’s degree in Psychology from the University of Pittsburg. She met her husband James, of almost 29 years, in San Diego where he was stationed in the U.S. Navy. They married and

Sharon is a person who believes anyone can do anything - with the right resources and support.

James’ military career took the family all over the world. It was during Sharon’s time in Japan that took her want of empowering women to new heights. She started working with the Navy Marine Corps Relief Society Japan as the executive director.

This non-profit society would supply assistance to Navy spouses while their spouses were deployed. She saw a void, especially in women, when the sailors were deployed and would leave their spouses back home. She was able to speak to these people and meet them on their level because she was also a spouse who dealt with her husband being deployed. In the case of the female spouse she felt called to embrace them, particularly those who stayed off-base. These new insights lit a fire in Sharon’s belly that stayed with her through the next move, which was Hawaii where she still resides.

Sharon is a person who believes anyone can do anything - with the right resources and support. And she is quite resourceful. Sharon took advantage of every opportunity to hone her skills so that she could be a champion and warrior for all. This included learning how to speak and train in front of large groups, sharing her passion and commitment for women’s equality. Sharon believes that she was “born in the right time” to do what she is doing, and that she was placed in Hawaii to accomplish great things to help others. She was VP & Managing Director for the YWCA, an organization dedicated to empowering women and eliminating racism, values Sharon shared.

Research shows that girls develop faster than boys, and when given the right resources and support, are positioned for greatness. But between the ages of 11 and 13 years, society starts sending negative signals to our young people, devaluing our girls. This affects them well into adulthood. Sharon saw the results during her time at the YWCA in Oahu and as the executive director of

Research shows that girls develop faster than boys, and when given the right resources and support, are positioned for greatness. the Hawaii State Commission on the Status of Women. She went in front of the State Legislative body during session and spoke on the inequality towards women. Sharon made “no bones about it” not being about the politics or politician but for women.

In such high profile positions, Sharon saw herself as both an advocate and a resource.

She constantly challenged herself with the question, “What can I do to impact change?”

She did not wait on opportunity, she just let God guide her and she became that resource to be used.

After retiring from the Commission, she saw another void and it was with our veterans getting acclimated with civilian life. Sharon tells a story of a friend whose husband retired from the military and wanted to get back into the workplace, but felt his resume was not strong. She said she would meet with him, and told him to bring his resume. The vet brought a one-page resume and instantly she knew where the help was needed: helping veterans translate their military experiences into relatable civilian careers… and her company was born. And it all started with a desire to help others. Utilizing the right resources, giving support where needed, directing her energy and obtaining the right information allows Sharon to help others get jobs.

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Turning life into Leadership into Entrepreneurship It really struck a cord in Sharon’s heart that the one person who had difficulty getting a job was the veteran… and it was even harder for female veterans. The military offers an incredible transition program that includes resume preparation and skill-set orientation. However, Sharon saw a place where she could really make a difference as a resource who had worked in the public, private, and government sectors, and sought to utilize her particular expertise by forming SF Quick Star. Sharon is the Employee Transition Specialist, and this business is her investment in the community. SF Quick Star does resume writing, job coaching and seminars to assist veterans, particularly women, who are transitioning to civilian life.

In addition to SF Quick Star, Sharon is also a Program Specialist for the Mediation Program for the Hawaii Civil Rights Commission, which mediates complaints before the investigation phase.

Sharon’s life is a balance of work, family and love. Raising her son while working helped her to become not only a better person but a better mother and leader by “not sweating the small stuff.” She particularly recalled one day working in one room working while her son was in the next room playing. It was a beautiful day, so Sharon stopped and let her son play outside. She made a decision: what she was working on was going to get done when it got done. Sharon learned to manage things in order of importance, and stopped trying to do everything at once. She cautions, “Don’t be overly concerned with the small stuff, don’t lose track of what’s important.”

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Sharon had these wonderful gems of wisdom to share with up and coming women advocates and leaders: • There are not a lot of woman running for leadership positions, though two are running for the highest position in the country. That is not enough.

• Acknowledge that you cannot do it all by yourself. Although you are a resource, use other resources to get to a common goal.

• You must win the challenge of balance.

Though it is a struggle, women must master this balancing act.

• Can you have it all? The answer is yes, you just have to define what your “all” is.

• Keep enough of yourself for you.

• Make advocacy work.

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So what is next for this BOLD and FEARLESS leader? Sharon wants to do a Women’s Warrior Network for women who are ex-military. She is calling it the Sister Women’s Project.

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Getting invested and opening one’s self to being used as a resource allows for surprising results. Sometimes it is getting invested in new projects, sometimes it is realizing one needs support for self. And sometimes it is being honored to lead large groups of people. At all times, that is advocacy, that is leadership.

Being & Living Bold Sharon Ferguson-Quick is living and being BOLD to the fullest. She is a leader, not because she aspired to be one but because - in the words of Civil Rights Icon and Leader Martin Luther King, Jr. - “Everyone can be a leader, because everyone can serve.” Sharon is a leader because she opens herself up to be used for the betterment of her fellow man, her sisters. ■ David Good

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Body organs aren’t all internal like the brain or the heart. There’s one we wear on the outside. Skin is our largest organ—adults carry some 8 pounds (3.6 kilograms) and 22 square feet (2 square meters) of it. Here are my lifestyle practices of loving your skin from the inside out.

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DETOX The body has a natural process of ridding toxins from the system and keeping things running smooth and regular. What we consume and apply to our skin has an effect on this process. To assist the skin and body with this process, detoxing is a lifestyle practice that will keep all systems running smoothly and enhance your overall health. Daily, weekly, monthly and seasonal detoxing is the best way to ensure consistency.

Daily detoxing is quick and easy. In the morning, as soon as you wake, have your Food Grade Diatomaceous Earth. This is a white mineral mixture of fossilized diatoms (algae) and water plants. Food Grade Diatomaceous Earth is a hard mineral, on a scale with diamonds being the hardest mineral at 9, Diatomaceous Earth is a 7 on the scale. When magnified 7000 times, Diatomaceous Earth looks like cylinders full of holes. These cylinders acts like millions of tiny sharp brushes that move throughout the digestive track and stomach, absorbing fungi, parasites, viruses, endotoxins (bacteria), pesticides, E-coil, drug residue and heavy metals. The cylinders trap all the toxins and pass them out of the body.

The benefits of this scrubbing and brushing will improve your overall health. Food Grade Diatomaceous Earth can be consumed daily; 1 tablespoon in 4 to 6 oz of any liquid is what I personally take per day. If

You have probably noticed when you don’t get enough sleep it shows on your face, such as gags under the eyes and dull skin. The whole body, not just your skin, needs a good night’s rest. When you are sleeping, your skin renews and grows to replace older cells; this is your body self-healing. All the healing happens when we sleep. 7 to 9 hours of sleep is essential for your memory and critical thinking, hormonal and metabolism changes.

Drinking water is essential to your health.

Your body is composed of about 60% water. Water is a nutrient your body needs and comes in the forms of liquids, plain water and foods. All of these are essential daily to replace the large amounts of water lost each day do to daily natural activity. The fluid losses occur continuously and these losses must be replaced daily for good health.

When your water intake does not equal your output, you can become dehydrated. Fluid losses are accentuated in warmer climates, during strenuous exercise and in high altitudes.

Drinking water helps maintain the balance of body fluids. The functions of bodily fluids include digestion, absorption, circulation, creation of saliva, transportation of nutrients and maintenance of body temperature.

Through the posterior pituitary gland, your brain communicates with your kidneys and tells it how much water to excrete as urine or hold onto for reserves. Due to this natural process, having low fluids, the brain triggers the body’s thirst mechanism. When you feel thirsty, you are very low on fluids.

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you have any questions about any interactions with medication that you are currently taking, consult your doctor or pharmacist. You can purchase Food Grade Diatomaceous Earth at your local health food store, or online at earthworkshealth.com.

Weekly Detoxing is achieved by sweating. Sweating is a great way to release toxins from the body. Taking herbal baths, Yoga, exercise, walking or running, and sex keep your skin and body free of stress. 2 or 3 times per week of any combination is a great way to stay consistent.

Fasting or 3 to 7-day detoxing is best done monthly. Giving the body a rest from processing all it consumes is a great way to ensure all systems are functioning properly. If you are new to fasting or long term detoxing (3 to 7 days), drinking a detox tea 3 times a day for 3 to 7 days, or fasting from sunrise to sundown is a good place to start. Also see your Esthetician and Massage Therapist once per Water helps energize muscles. Cells that don’t maintain their balance of fluids and electrolytes shrivel, which can result in muscle fatigue. When muscle cells don’t have adequate fluids, they don’t work as well and performance can suffer.

Drinking enough fluids is important

Remove parabens from your beauty products month for best results. Your monthly treatments release toxins from your mind, body, and skin.

We have 4 seasons per year where the environment changes. Our bodies adapt to these seasons. Preparing the body and skin for the climate changes are essential. You should take a weekend or 3 to 4 days off every season to refresh and rejuvenate your body and mind. During your seasonal transition, set personal and business goals, spend time with your loved ones and take time out for yourself.

Practice self-care.

Parabens are synthetic ingredients that are used as preservatives by cosmetic and pharmaceutical companies. The parabens’ sole purpose is to stop or reduce bactericidal and fungicidal properties when exercising. If you follow the American College of Sports Medicine guidelines, the guidelines for fluid intake before and during physical activity recommend that people drink about 17 ounces of fluid about two hours before exercising. During exercise, they recommend that people start drinking fluids early and drink them at regular intervals to replace fluids lost by sweating.

Water helps keep skin looking good.

Your skin contains plenty of water and functions as a protective barrier

of store bought products (maintain shelf-life). Ultimately, parabens have no nutritional benefit to your body and its health. The most common parabens include methylparaben, ethylparaben, propylparben and butylparaben. Parabens are found in products such as shampoo, moisturizer, underarm deodorants, toothpaste and cosmetics. Continued use of parabens over long periods of times can be harmful to your skin and body. Parabens have a tendency to mimic the hormone estrogen. Estrogen is known to contribute to the development of breast cancer, and many other diseases. Read the label of every product you use. There is a healthy alternative to every single product we use. Natural organic products like skincare, hair and body products are available at your local health food store and your Esthetician. Herbals and essential oils act as natural preservatives and are great replacements to parabens. to prevent excessive fluid loss.

Dehydration makes your skin appear more dry and wrinkled. Proper hydration improves the skin’s health.

Water helps your kidneys. Body fluids transport waste products in and out of cells. The main toxin in the body is blood urea nitrogen, (a watersoluble waste that is able to pass through the kidneys to be excreted in the urine). Stress is the number one cause of damage to the skin and body. Learning how to de-stress our minds leads to healthy skin and body.

Sleep & Water The kidneys do an amazing job of cleansing and ridding your body of toxins as long as your intake of fluids is adequate.

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Meditation can wipe away the day’s stress, bringing with it inner peace.

You can easily learn to practice meditation whenever you need it most.

Spending a few minutes in meditation can restore your calm and inner peace. Anyone can practice meditation. It’s simple and inexpensive, and it doesn’t require any special equipment. You can practice meditation wherever you are, whether you are out for a walk, riding the bus, waiting at the doctor’s office or even in the middle of a difficult business meeting.

Meditation is considered a type of mind-body complementary medicine.

Meditation produces a deep state of relaxation and tranquil mind. During meditation, you focus your attention and eliminate the stream of jumbled thoughts that may be crowding your mind and causing stress. This process results in enhanced physical and emotional well-being.

Meditation

Meditation exercises increase oxygen intake and hence increases energy levels. There are several ways a person can meditate. The easiest way would be to sit comfortably in your chair, close your eyes and begin concentrating on your breathing. Make sure to breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth, in order to maximize oxygen intake and carbon dioxide expenditure. Meditation also aids in improving digestion, when properly performed, expanding and contracting your diaphragm will ultimately contribute to the overall health of your digestive tract.

Breathing is the key to meditation. Give yourself time to learn to breathe and you will see how Meditation can improve your skin, mind and body. Love the skin you’re in. It will love you back. For more information or questions, please email me directly. ■ Elizabeth St. John Hall

References: WebMD.com • Mayo Clinic • Mindbody.com

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The PURSE domestic violence charity event (Partnering Under Real Situations Everyday)

was held Saturday, October 17, 2015

at the Smyrna Community Village Center The annual event drew over 150 people, far exceeding the space. Hosted by K.D. Bowe of 102.5 Gospel Praise, PURSE Founder Erica Lee brought together a beautiful event to benefit the survivors of domestic violence and raise awareness among young adults.

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Warning Signs of Domestic Violence

1. He puts you down.

2. He loses his temper, strikes or breaks objects.

3. He is extremely jealous.

4. She is quiet when he is around and seems afraid to make him angry.

5. She stops seeing her friends and family.

6. She has unexplained injuries.

7. She has casually mentioned his violent behavior, but dismissed what happened as “not a big deal.”

8. She cancels plans at the last minute.

9. He controls her finances, her behavior, what she wears, and her social life.

10. Her child is frequently upset, very quiet or withdrawn and won’t say why.

From the Genesis Women’s Shelter of Dallas • www.genesisshelter.org/document.doc?id=3

October is national domestic violence awareness month.

Domestic violence is ”a pattern of behavior used to establish power and control over another person through fear and intimidation, often including the threat or use of violence. Other terms for domestic violence include intimate partner violence, battering, relationship abuse, spousal abuse, or family violence.” safehorizon.org/page/domestic-violence-statistics--facts-52.html

The prevalence of partner abuse is shocking. In the United States, over 38 million women have been abused by a current or past partner; three women are murdered everyday by a male abuser; one in four women and one in seven men will be abused by their partner during their lifetimes. between 40 and 45% of women are sexually assaulted by their abuser; and domestic violence is the third leading cause of homeless among families. Around the world, 70% of women will experience physical and/or sexual abuse by a male partner during their lifetimes. huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/23/domestic-violence-statistics_n_5959776.html

The above statistics are disheartening, but the survivors of these brutal attacks give us hope that together we can

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turn back the tide of violence. Hundreds of organizations and groups celebrated the survivors of domestic violence during October with fundraisers, awareness events, and galas. We are fortunate to spotlight three in the Atlanta area who shared their stories with us.

The Still Standing Foundation would like to thank Bold Favor Magazine for being a sponsor of “The Purple Affair 2015”. On October 3rd 2015, a diverse and philanthropic group of Atlanta media, business professionals, celebrities, advocates and social gatherers assembled to pledge their generosity and ongoing support to a worthy cause at the 2015 “Still Standing & Steppin’ Out, The Purple Affair” – a benefit event that honors survivors of Domestic Violence.

The mission of P.U.R.S.E. is to Educate, Encourage & Empower teens and community members to take a stand against violence

This year’s event was yet another night to remember.

Guests indulged in a 3 course dinner while enjoying a collage of entertainment that included poetry, live entertainment, celebrity guest appearances, a deejay, live auction, and an unprecedented fashion show in which survivors of abuse ripped the runway.

Proceeds from this year’s event were donated to children

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The Still Standing Foundation would like to thank Bold Favor

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who have lost a parent to abuse and The Still Standing Foundation’s “Survivor Empowerment Program.” Rose of Sharon Transitional Living for Women Inc. is grateful for Bold Magazine attendance at the 2015 Living Behind the Mask was held on October 24, 2015, from 6 pm to 11 pm at Georgia Piedmont Technical College Conference Center, 495 North Indian Creek Drive Clarkston, GA. CEO/Founder Rhonda A. Thompson, and Mr. Roderick Cunningham, CEO/Founder of Beverly Cunningham Outreach Program hosted a Masquerade Ball for domestic violence.

This year the honored guest was First Lady Sarah Reed City of Atlanta, along with seven women who received the Overcomer award honorees were domestic survivor Celebrity Andrea Kelly, Boss Chix of Atlanta Janet Jackson, Sharon Willingham, Carlett Martin, Kendra Turner, Kristel Shanell and the dynamic Key Note Speaker, Jodine Basterash of Chicago, IL. Heidi B. Fuller, the TV Host of The Fuller View and On-Air Personality at IBNX Radio and Jasmine Crowe of Black Celebrity Giving, were the Fashion Show Hosts. Michelle Moore sales director of Mary Kay and also a spokesperson for Rose of Sharon was the Auction Host while GlenNeta Griffin hosted the Purple Carpet interviews.

The evening was graced with a phenomenal fashion show

by Celebrity Designer Colin Turner Couture and Yadiyda Clothing for your Soul From England by way of African descent she also design Rhonda Thompson’s gorgeous, purple dress.

Live canvas painting was completed by Will Henry; guest enjoyed hearing the story’s of these amazing overcomer’s during dinner. The evening ended with dancing and networking. Thank you to the Ft. Stewart National Youth Challenge for serving everyone dinner with excellence!

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The PURSE (Partnering Under Real Situations Everyday) Foundation charity and awareness celebration was held Saturday, October 17, 2015 at the Smyrna Community Village Center. The annual event drew over 150 people, far exceeding the space. Hosted by KD Bowe of 102.5 Gospel Praise, PURSE Founder Erika Lee brought together a beautiful event to benefit the survivors of domestic violence and raise awareness among young adults.

The program began with a powerful prayer by Dr. Melissa Jones and inspiring praise dance by the diPA dance studio that set a tone of excellence. KD Bowe’s charismatic spirit made the time fly by as all enjoyed the packed agenda that included songs by Little Miss Chloe Mitchell (who belted out “Let It Snow” from the Disney’s Frozen soundtrack) and Ms. Sonya Williams; a thought-provoking skit by Charity Green on domestic violence in the workplace; excellent vendors and a delicious catered meal.

In addition to the talented people who entertained the audience were powerful speakers: special guests Dr. Angela Griffin who shared “The 7 Strategies for Achieving Purpose Bigger Than Your Pain”; and Dr. Yamma Brown, daughter of legendary singer James Brown, who read an excerpt of her latest book detailing her childhood watching her father abuse her mother. The keynote speaker Ms. Yolan Henry Carter captivated the audience as she shared the devastating loss of her daughter and grandchild to domestic violence and her journey of healing.

Organizer and PURSE founder Erika Lee took the stage to share her gratefulness to all who attended, her calling to found PURSE, and present a Love Message in concert with Madison Hill to all - a scarf for each attendee, unique and beautiful just as every person in the room. ■

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all little girls are princesses whether they are tall, thin, fat, short, poor, rich, even if they dress in rags or designer clothes even if they think they aren't pretty, or smart, or young

38,028,000 3 women are murdered every day by a current or former male partner in the u.s.

the number of women who have experienced physical intimate partner violence in their lifetimes.

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8,000,000 the number of days of paid work women lose every year because of the abuse perpetrated against them by current or former male partners. this loss is equivalent to over 32,000 full-time jobs.

1 in 4 women will be victims of severe violence by an intimate partner in their lifetimes

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Book Review The headline on the front page of a major national newspaper paper blazes: “Study proves that taking popular pain killer increases risk of heart attack by 50 percent!” Other papers run similar stories, and all of a sudden, people across the country stop buying products containing the identified ingredient, flush the contents of their half empty bottles down the toilet and switch to another brand. Unfortunately, one little detail the journalists left out was that the scary-sounding “50 percent increase,” though mathematically correct, was based on the finding that three in 1,000 men over 50 suffered from heart attacks while taking the drug, compared to two in every 1,000 men not on the drug. Worse, the heart-attack rate of the painkiller you switched to is 12 in 1,000. But the reporters never told you that either.

This kind of misleading reporting is one of the many abuses of science at which Ben Goldacre takes aim in his book titled Bad Science, a “pull-no-punches” account of how grandstanding politicians, profiteering corporations and overzealous activists misuse or outright fabricate the results of scientific (and pseudo-scientific) experiments in order to sway public opinion. According to Goldacre, the abuse of science is everywhere. Nowadays, it’s almost impossible to engage with the popular media without encountering a headline beginning with the words “Science says.” Unfortunately, most of what follows these two words is about as scientific as divining your fortune by reading tea leaves at the bottom of an almost empty mug.

Given how easily and how deeply misinformation can become entrenched in our collective worldview, your best defence against the predatory corporations and lazy (or complicit) reporters which “run our culture and riddle it with bullsh*t” is to read articles in the popular media with great skepticism and to educate yourself about how statistical analysis can be twisted to produce conclusions not supported by that data. Most importantly, you need to learn how to ask tough questions about what’s really behind the headlines.

Understanding what scientific data is telling you can be challenging, but the alternative is to blindly trust intermediaries who either don’t understand the science or have motives that may not align with your own. To me, the choice is clear.

■ Paul Sean Grieve

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Progress or Penitentiary

or Reading, writing and incivility. Students don’t always leave school on the school bus, some leave in squad cars. Some students’ days don’t end with homework, they end with suspension papers. School administrators know how to handle students who break the rules. It is only when these student’s behaviors escalate beyond school administrative intervention that law enforcement assistance becomes necessary. In the wake of numerous publicized police shootings of unarmed African-Americans around the country, it has become more incumbent upon parents of African-American students to have candid conversations not only about law enforcement interaction, but also about respect for authority and following directives.

Educators in urban schools, as well as many suburban schools, encounter countless incidents of refusal to follow instructions and levels of disrespect towards teachers and school administrators that can be utterly alarming.

Schools are places of growth and development; however when the instructional environment is peppered with insolence, belligerence, or acts of affray, offenders are met with consequences. These consequences are issued in an effort to provide lessons, and unfortunately sometimes those lessons are adorned with ‘silver bracelets’. Upon asking a simple question, redirecting, or any other routine communication, a student’s behavior can dictate arrest.

However, they are returned to school, not delivered to the morgue.

Although students committing disciplinary infractions are only roughly 10-15% of most school populations, that small number often requires a significant amount of attention from school personnel. When students, particularly African-American students, are rude and disrespectful towards school security, they may lose days of class attendance, when the same offense occurs in the community they may risk losing their lives. While parents are teaching their children the appropriate way to respond to police, they must also instill the lesson that respect for authority is not restricted to the confines of law enforcement interaction. Respect and appropriate behavior must be shown towards school staff as well. Although school is a microcosm of society, the consequences for the offenses committed in school do not replicate the consequences doled out in society.

Unfortunately, a bad attitude can cost them their lives.

Working as a high school administrator, I can recall meeting with a set of parents whose son was verbally abusive to a school security officer. The parents’ response was that the officer should have been more polite. That is not the real world. They literally defended their son’s rude and disrespectful behavior towards a person in authority. At that time I took the personal privilege to share with them the potential ramifications of that type of child rearing.

It starts at home and must be demonstrated at school.

Children, not just African-American, but all children must

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be taught the importance of respecting authority. Sadly, media reports continue to reveal African-Americans are dying over disrespectful behavior and hostile exchanges.

The same student, who causes a disruption or displays rude and disrespectful behavior, returns to school and is met with an opportunity to start anew. Educators come to know and love these children, our children. We know that “little Bobby” is angry because his upbringing hasn’t been stellar or he feels alone and occasionally he verbally lashes out because he’s hurting. We also know that his flippant tongue does not paint a portrait of a criminal. The patrol officer on the block does not know these things.

However, should disrespectful behavior coupled with aggression or assault on school personnel be handled like a skipping class offense? Absolutely not. Abuse of students OR staff is never okay. School staff is in place to educate and support students, but their jobs do not entail some of the behaviors many are subjected to routinely. For some offenses in school, law enforcement intervention is essential to protecting the learning environment. There have been situations publicized in the media due to the use of excessive force by school officers; these incidents are not the norm, nor are they condoned. A good educator is mindful of emotional baggage and will be supportive of those students, however emotional baggage is not a pass to punch or assault school staff. Schools are suppose to educate students for the world they are graduating into.

School discipline problems are getting out of hand in this country. If we as a nation are serious about improving schools and student achievement, we better first get a handle on the serious discipline problems plaguing many of our classrooms. If this does not happen, not only will we continue to lose our children to incarceration and death, we will continue to lose great teachers. Education is not a shade of gray, it’s black and white. Either we prepare children for progress or we prepare them for the penitentiary. Do we want our children adorned with books or adorned with silver bracelets? You decide. ■ Dr. Connie Franklin

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For some of you that maybe a little hesitant about wearing a bold look and you want to make sure you stay on the safe side, try doing a naked eye with a winged eye liner (or forget the wing and just line those eyes up) and a bold lip! This way, you’re not doing too much in the eye area and drawing all the attention to that sultry, bold lip! Make sure you find a lip liner the same color or close to the lipstick to give those lips

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a nice, defined look since all eyes will be on it! Also, for an extra POP, don’t be afraid to try a lip liner a few shades darker than your lipstick to give those lips a bold, ombré lip for the season!

If you are one of those who prefer a bolder eye and a nude lip (colored bold lips just may not be your thing) no problem there’s a look for you as well! Try a smokey eye, or smoke those lovely lids out in the outer corner and fade to a softer color that compliments your look.

No matter what eye choice you wear, a nude pout will go great with it! Remember there are no rules to makeup as long as the outcome turns out fashionable! ■

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When you meet Shona, you will first notice her smile, which is always present. You would think she’s lived the easy life, filled with complete and total joy, no bumps, no bruises, and you would be wrong.

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Her smile is a smile in spite of a troubled past and that’s what makes her so unique, she has been through the fire and prevailed. Shona is an overcomer, she has overcome all forms of abuse, eating disorders, low self-esteem, stage fright, and most importantly, she has overcome herself. She is a miracle, put on this earth to constantly remind others that it’s going to be ok. No matter what, we are bigger.

Shona constantly lifts others with kind words, affirmations or sharing where she has come from. For such a young woman, she is wise beyond her years.

In addition to being an overcomer, Shona is an actress and comedian who recently moved to Atlanta. She has starred in “Twisted Love” an indie film shot in Greensboro, NC and numerous plays. Shona is currently working on many sketches and parody videos with local comedians and actors. You can find her gracing the stage all around Atlanta and surrounding areas, with her quirky, upbeat comedy.

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Resturant Review

wintzell’s oyster house

I had the pleasure of visiting Mobile, Alabama and the Gulf Shores and it was a great trip. Mobile reminded me of Savannah, Georgia with the historic charm and great restaurants. One of the great restaurants that I frequented was Wintzell’s Oyster House. Wintzell’s is located at 605 Dauphin Street, Mobile, AL 36602. Of course, you can guess from the name of the restaurant, that one of the specialties is the oysters. Honestly, I was not an oyster fan until I ate the chargrilled oysters. Those oysters were delicious!!! The oysters are chargrilled over an open flame and smothered with peppery butter, parmesan and romano cheese. Another great dish at Wintzell’s was the Redfish Bienville. The redfish Bienville is a blackened redfish topped with Bienville sauce and blackened jumbo shrimp. The fish was perfectly seasoned and filling. Of course, there were other great restaurants in Mobile and one of them was The Royal Scam.

The Royal Scam was one of my favorite restaurants in Mobile. The Royal Scam is located at 72 South Royal Street, Mobile, AL 36602. The service was great and the atmosphere was quaint and cozy. I loved this place so much that I actually ate there every day of my vacation.

The roasted duck panini with asian slaw was the meal I ordered every single day. I know I should have been more adventurous, but the duck panini was divine. I also partook of their lemon drop and pomegranate martinis (don’t judge, I was on vacation) and the drinks were perfect.

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Mobile is a city that is rich in culture, history and of course great cuisine. Wintzell’s and the Royal Scam are two of the many restaurants that are worth your patronage. So, give Alabama a try on your next vacation…trust me you will enjoy yourself. ■ Faye Fields 102

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Wintzell’s Oyster House is open Sunday – Thursday 11:00am – 10:00pm Friday – Saturday 11:00am – 11:00pm

Visit them online at wintzellsoysterhouse.com

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