BodyMind Living Magazine :: Radical Self-Care, Redefined :: September/October 2020

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PREMIERE ISSUE radical self care (it’s not what you think)

The self help revolution... redefined.

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WELCOME..........................................3 RADICAL SELF-CARE.......................4 CARLY CLARK ZIMMER

YOU CAN’T HAVE IT ALL.............12 MICHELLE ROCKWOOD

RADICAL SELF-CARE REDEFINED......................................18 FIDEL FORDE

WHAT IS IT LIKE TO BECOME A BODYMIND COACH..................25 SELF-CARE IS AN INSIDE JOB.....26 MELISSA KELLEY

FILLING YOUR OWN CUP...........32 HEIDI METRO

BODYMIND INVITATION............39 SELF-CARE REDEFINED................40 LAURA WIECK

AMBASSADOR DIRECTORY........46 ASSOCIATE COACH DIRECTORY......................................48 NAVIGATING THIS ISSUE .......................................BACK COVER

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Welcome to BodyMind Living! It is truly an honor to have you here in this sacred space to explore and learn what it means to LIVE BodyMind.

I’ve been in the personal growth & wellness space for nearly two decades. I’ve read hundreds of books, listened to countless podcasts, ventured half way around the world to attend retreats, invested tens of thousands of dollars in coaching, filled up dozens of journals with affirmations… and still felt like there was ‘something else’ out there that I needed to uncover to finally feel whole.

Along the way, I had these moments… moments where everything clicked. Moments where I experienced what it meant to live the paradox of life — you know — those moments where you literally feel what it means to be, as Rumi says, ‘the ocean in a drop’.

I started to get curious and what I realized was that the moments I felt like I could finally stop chasing and start living were the moments I felt fully EMBODIED. And that is why we are here.

From a young age, we are conditioned in our culture to disconnect from the body and give allegiance to the mind.

Instead of the body being a source of deep connection and wisdom, it becomes something we need to control, shape, perfect, and quiet. And we hit our thirties and wonder why we never feel good enough and step into this world of ‘personal development’ and ‘self help’.

But that same root cause of separation has permeated the personal growth world as well. I believe the biggest challenge in this industry is this belief that we can ‘think’ our way forward. That somehow, knowledge will save us and if we can ‘figure it out’ and ‘think positive’ enough, that the pieces will finally fall together.

Oh… and… at some point when your intuition kicks in, you should listen to that too.

My experience has been the total opposite. As soon as I got out of my head and into my body… my life finally started to make sense.

The thing is… I know you KNOW this. The real work is consistently LIVING BodyMind.

But what does that look like… what does that feel like… in your day-to-day life?

I created this magazine and invited some of my dear friends and BodyMind Coaches to explore what BodyMind Living means in actual practice. We believe that Living BodyMind is a revolution because the systems and structures set up in our lives are rooted in disconnection.

Living BodyMind is about coming back home into ourselves and fully living connected.

Are you ready to stop chasing and start living? —Laura

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Carly Clark Zimmer :: RADICAL SELF-CARE

I’d been a massage therapist at the hotel spa for six years. This job was considered la crème de la crème of massage therapy jobs.

I was making nearly six-figures, I had paid vacation and sick time, a retirement plan, and it was a union so technically I had a job for life. My family and friends were so proud of me that I finally had a decent paying and secure job. I’d found my box that fit nicely into what society expected of me.

And, I was terribly unfulfilled and unhappy.

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n the 21st floor of a five star hotel spa in the heart of Manhattan, I rushed into my treatment room and quickly closed the door behind me. My breathing was intense, my heart beat racing, and my organs were doing cartwheels. My body was screaming “today is the day.

You cannot wait any longer.”

I was wearing a pair of golden handcuffs. They were heavy and tight. The side effect was physical, emotional and spiritual exhaustion.

In the midst of just trying to get through each day, there was an internal whisper that kept sharing that I had something else to do here on the planet. On my days off I would spend my time learning about personal development and online business. I had this vision of working virtually so that I could spend big chunks of time visiting friends and family around the globe, and still be doing something I loved for work. I’d started a small private practice on the side and kept saying to myself: “After the holiday rush will be a good time to let them know I’m leaving.”

“That other therapist is out on medical leave. When they get back, I’ll give notice.”

“When they find a replacement for the therapist who just left, then I’ll tell them so they won’t be struggling for coverage.”

I was waiting until it was

convenient for

everyone else to

go all in on my dream.

That day, my body decided it was time to take over my decision making process! I had a visceral reaction and together, we declared that it was time to leave.

I mustered up my courage, and asked the manager to come talk with me privately.

As soon as the dreaded 3-minute conversation that I had been waiting to have for years was over, all of those anxious feelings turned into excitement!

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If you’re a recovering peoplepleaser like myself, shaking up the status quo and disappointing others does not come easily. I’d been thinking about leaving for years! But every time I worked up the courage to go talk to my manager, something came up and I chickened out.

I felt freedom!

For months, I’d been experiencing all the signs of burnout. I’d come into work and see my schedule booked-out and feel the pit of dread in my stomach. I was starting to resent my clients because I was in so much pain. I was resenting the company because of corporate protocol and limitations. I was icing my forearms after every shift, self-medicating with anti-inflammatories and too much wine in the evening. When I did have free time to work on my business, I was too tired.

A few days before I gave notice, I’d experienced a panic attack on the train ride home to Long Island.

My hubby had never seen me so anxious and upset. That night we agreed I’d stay six more months while I continued to build my

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Carly Clark Zimmer :: RADICAL SELF-CARE

What I’ve come to understand through BodyMind is that most conflicts, both internal and external, can be solved by an uncomfortable conversation. I’ve also learned that the majority of us do not know how to have those uncomfortable conversations with themselves first, so having them with other people becomes increasingly difficult and confusing.

Over the past 13 years as a healer, I’ve seen and felt what happens when we put these conversations off. There comes a moment where our body steps in and takes over.

I feel like I got off easy with a panic attack. I’ve seen this play out

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private practice on the side. When I arrived back at work, my body said “That plan actually starts today, honey. Not six months from now!” The decision was clear.

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Carly Clark Zimmer :: RADICAL SELF-CARE

When you can get honest with yourself about your current circumstances and then cultivate the courage to follow your heart, this is the true definition of radical self-care. It’s treating yourself well at the deepest level — the level of the heart and soul. It’s connected with the whisper that tells you, you have a job to do here on this planet. It’s finding your inner alignment, and moving through the resistance and rationalizations of the mind to follow that alignment.

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as heart attacks, cancer, idiopathic illness, divorce, accidents, anxiety and depression, the list goes on.

If we do not listen, our body will tolerate our denial for a while.

The longer we suppress its voice, the more dramatic it’s actions are when it is finally allowed to speak.

It starts with getting quiet, quiet enough to listen to that little whisper inside that says “what if?”

What if I started to put some time and energy into believing that I could follow that dream, instead of immediately dismissing it and rationalizing all of the reasons why I can’t?

I believe that radical self-care is taking a chance on yourself, instead of letting others tell you what your life should look like, and when it will be the good time to make a change. How can others possibly know what’s best for you?

You are the one living inside your body. You get to feel what you’re feeling. No one else gets that chance. No one else has the same desires and life experiences and ideas that you do!

The thing that amazes me about humans is we have the capability to DREAM, imagine, and connect with the Universe, God, Spirit, Nature — whatever that bigger Source is for you — we get to connect with that and feel it in our bodies!

Yet what happens for most of us after we open our hearts and deeply connect with that vision, we have a voice that says “well that’s a nice dream but here’s all the reasons why I can’t” follow the divine dream that was just given to us.

Most of us accept that critical voice as truth. In reality, this is

When you begin to live BodyMind connected, you have the tools to hear that voice, and connect with the deeper pull of the vision underneath it. You learn that true self care is hearing that critical voice and choosing to follow your alignment instead. It’s like having the feeling of a net beneath you at all times — even when life is difficult, and taking the leap.

Leaving that job was the moment I started to feel what alignment meant. From that moment on the feeling was unmistakable in my body. If something felt off, my body was right there to tell me. It was as if my senses were heightened, and I could no longer convince or rationalize myself into making unaligned decisions.

My body now had a voice. It was strong, calm and unwavering.

It took some time to fully

trust that voice.

A few more similar situations caused me to reflect and say ”I knew that wasn’t a good idea. My body was telling me to do something else and I didn’t listen. This is a chance to deepen my intuitive knowing and trust it.”

It is a reconnection to wholeness that we get to experience. And

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the voice of fear, judgement, and scarcity.

“Don’t ignore the signals your body is sending you.”

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when we live BodyMind connected, the magic of life gets to come forward.

This process has now become a part of my life. It’s how I make decisions. I’ve followed the feeling, and the vision that was put in my heart, and it just keeps getting stronger.

The life I’m living today feels like a reflection of living BodyMind connected. I went from a 90-minute commute to a job that burned me out to having a virtual coaching practice, and living in Ireland with my husband. As I write this, I’m looking out over the sea watching the dramatic purple clouds roll across the rocky terrain of the Burren and reflect in the water of Galway Bay. I look at my calendar each day and feel excitement for the clients I get to work with and the big projects I get to contribute to! I feel like I’m helping people in the best way I can every day. That is a feeling I hope you get to feel too.

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Carly Clark Zimmer :: RADICAL SELF-CARE

It’s feeling that sense of belonging within yourself and trusting your internal compass to guide you. It’s feeling and thinking in wholeness.

And it’s trusting that when you follow the feeling, what lies on the otherside are the dreams and possibilities that become realities when we take a chance on them.

Isn’t that

what we are all longing for?

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When you can access the truth in your heart and start to have that very real, and sometimes difficult conversation with yourself, and the courage to follow the feeling from that grounded and connected space, you have the ability to make that vision come to life. It’s the inner knowing and acknowledgement of the desire in your heart for something different, and going all-in on yourself to make that vision come to life.

Carly Clark Zimmer is a Certified BodyMind Coach & Consultant for heart-centered business owners. Through her own BodyMind coaching journey, Carly uncovered her knack for helping coaches simplify and streamline their business while bringing their vision and desire to make an impact to life!

Carly transitioned to coaching after spending 12 years as a healer and holistic massage therapist. She saw how stress and pain affected the quality of life of her clients and found BodyMind coaching to be THE TOOL to release stored energy and emotions.

She quickly realized it also meant she needed to learn how to be a CEO... and she had the tools from BodyMind to do it on her terms.

Now she loves to help other coaches and creatives build profitable, aligned businesses by combining smart business tactics with the body-mind connection.

Carly is also the Embodied Tech Expert for the BodyMind Coaching Certification Program, and loves helping the members simplify their business systems so they can focus on the powerful work of serving their clients!

When she’s not wearing her coaching hat, she’s hiking the emerald green countryside and enjoying the salty sea air of Galway Ireland, where she lives with her husband Devin.

CarlyClarkZimmer.com IG: @carlyclarkzimmer FB: Carly Clark Zimmer BodyMind Coaching and Consulting

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Michelle Rockwood :: YOU CAN’T HAVE IT ALL

It began in the hospital when they laid my baby on my chest; I was so exhausted that the nurse had to help me lift my head to see him bob and climb his way to my breast. It was in that moment I began to disappear.

The years that followed were at the same time glorious, painful, confusing, wonderful, and maddening. Two more children came, the years ticked by, and I changed from a brilliant woman to just another fixture in the room; a lamp whose string was pulled when the light was needed, but eventually even I forgot was there.

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he girl inside of me who had hopped on a plane, taught herself French and joined the Peace Corps was fading fast. I loved that girl, and I was sad to see her go.

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Michelle Rockwood :: YOU CAN’T HAVE IT ALL

They say your home is a reflection of how you’re feeling inside, and this couldn’t have been more true.

My house was neat and tidy but with shit piled up in the corners everywhere, out of view. If you opened one of my closets, you would have been buried in an avalanche of junk. Like this, my self-care routine was just a window-dressing, a facade that hid what was really happening inside.

This was all because I wanted to be a brilliant mom and to raise amazing, loving, glorious children.

I still do. I assumed that raising brilliant humans surely requires 100% of my focus and that means giving something up. Someone had to sacrifice and I chose me.

I raised my hand and bravely stepped forward. I quit my job, I quit graduate school. Eventually, I began dreaming about travel less and less.

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As an exhausted mom, I worked my way down the “checklist” of self-care. Through each pregnancy, I’d backbend my way through the third trimester, eat kale nonstop, and get monthly mani/pedis. Check! I’d lose the baby weight, get the kids into the best school, teach them to read before kindergarten. Done, done, done. I did yoga feverishly, trying to somehow not lose myself, my body, the ability to feel. I just recently found out that most people don’t cry through a mid-morning yoga class.

I ignored my inner knowing.

That voice inside, tapping me on the shoulder and saying… “Hun, what about you? Your dreams matter.” That brilliant badass woman, the globetrotter who traveled Thailand alone and interned in the US Senate, was still inside and damn was she yearning to be set free.

It took me almost ten years to realize that when my children were born, it didn’t mean the death of me.

I’m not sure where the narrative came from, that I had to give up my dreams for my children to thrive. Whose truth is that? And why are we fed this lie?

When you don’t listen to your intuition, to that voice whispering in your ear saying, “there’s more,” you begin to die. You get sick, first emotionally then physically. I see it so often with my coaching clients. One day your body says “hell no, not one single minute more.”

Then the truth comes spilling out in so many horrible ways — alcohol, divorce, illness — you name it. What’s worse is that it’s often avoidable.

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I will let you in on a secret that took me a decade to discover — it’s avoidable if you choose you.

If you want to live an amazing, happy, and fulfilled life, that’s what it comes down to. I’ll repeat it. If you are struggling to “have it all,” then start by choosing you.

Your children will grow up and leave, dogs live only 15 years, and your spouse may even die. I invite you to stand in front of the mirror

naked with your stretch marks shining and your nipples pointing in opposite directions and say

“Yes. Hell yes.

I choose her.”

But “choosing you” doesn’t mean going down the self-care checklist

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Michelle Rockwood :: YOU CAN’T HAVE IT ALL

I now know that my dreams are more important than ever — I matter more than ever. I have three boys watching my every move, and I’m setting an example for their own lives, for their relationships. I’m teaching them to follow their inner knowing, their truth. We can co-exist, their lives and my dreams. It’s okay if they’re not one and the same. In fact, let’s celebrate it.

Fifteen years ago, before kids, a husband or a mortgage, I took off on a plane to West Africa, where I would live and work for several years in the US Peace Corps. I sat in the airplane seat, terrified. I put my head on the back of the seat, held back nausea, and let the tears flow as the plane took off. But I was not terrified of the terrain, the poverty, or the people I would meet — I was afraid of the silence. I was scared to be alone with my own thoughts, to truly get to know myself.

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of bubble baths, chardonnay, and yoga. It means nurturing your independent self and who you were before that chaotic life crept up around you like vines in a garden. It means finding your own ways to be brilliant, to be powerful, to make money, to be educated, to contribute in fulfilling ways outside the house.

For me, it was through BodyMind Coaching that I learned how to choose myself. I came to realize you don’t need to dim your light for any man, child, in-law or moms’ group. In fact, the brighter you shine, the more it illuminates those around you.

And today...

I’m still often afraid.

I’m scared of each new revelation I’ll find when I look deep within myself. I also fear never stepping into my full potential, never showing my kids what’s possible. I fear I’ll revert to my old ways, the way I was before BodyMind Coaching became such a huge part of my life, when self-care was just a glass of wine, a girls’ weekend away, or a pint of Ben & Jerry’s. All lovely but all just a band-aid.

I want to deliver a new message to moms as that first baby comes screaming out into the world. I want you to write your dreams in black ink and submit them to the universe. Hell, write them on the whiteboard in the delivery room. Tell your spouse about them, share them with your kids, and create a life that puts these dreams front and center. Choose you, it’s the only way.

Today, I teach women entrepreneurs how to listen to themselves and rediscover their gifts, to rekindle the light that may have grown dim. I urge them not to give up what they love but instead better understand why they love it. When you work from this space, from a space of authenticity and joy, success is inevitable and money flows.

They often say, “I wish I’d found you sooner...” and I always agree.

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Michelle Rockwood BodyMind Enrollment Coach Michelle Rockwood is a yoga teacher with a background in sales and non-profit development. She lives in Denver, Colorado and (of course) loves to ski. When Michelle isn’t working, she’s chasing her three wild boys or playing with her dog, Tigo. Michelle loves the strong and lasting connections she makes with clients and loves being a part of the BodyMind community. As an enrollment coach, Michelle will help you get clear on where you are in your business and help you articulate what you truly desire.

Together you will determine if BodyMind Coaching is right for you. Michelle’s favorite part of her work is reflecting with clients on their first enrollment call, as so often that call offers a pivotal moment to create a huge wave of change.

TwoArrowCoaching.com Michelle@TwoArrowCoaching.com

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Fidel Forde :: RADICAL SELF-CARE REDEFINED

It was never taught to me.

Growing up there was no man and no father to sit me down and talk about my feelings — what to do with them, how not to burn out, or the importance of self-care. For sure it was never modeled to me.

It’s not their fault, they were never taught either.

I was taught man-care.

Man-care is doing whatever it takes to be successful to provide and take care of your family. It’s every man for himself, so you suck it up and get the job done.

While perhaps seen as “noble,” the nature of that mindset and hustle results in lacking presence at home, in relationships, and in our bodies.

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elf-care never did me any good, in fact it never seemed to last — it created more work, more stress on my relationships, it constantly left me feeling guilty, and made it seem impossible to create any form of consistency. That is up until I learned that I was doing self-care wrong.

I was raised in Jamaican culture.

The men are gone all day “providing” and their form of self-care was doing nothing after a long day which in most cases meant disconnecting. When most people disconnect they disconnect from the world around them, as well as their body, their feelings, and the world within them. True self-care is about reconnecting, and we’ll get to that in a moment.

My situation was a little different.

There wasn’t a man to model or demonstrate what it meant to provide or be a man. My mom raised four of us, worked third shifts as a nurse so she could work while we were sleeping, and worked other jobs over the years while we were in school.

She not only took care of me and my siblings, but she took care of all our family in Jamaica. As a boy, I would come downstairs in the morning to a hot meal, usually oatmeal to fill my tummy for the day. Every night we had a good Jamaican dinner, said prayers before bed and joked around.

She did whatever it took, always had a smile on her face, and is my hero to this day. But I watched her self-sacrifice her needs so that she could take care of everyone ese.

I learned early on as a kid that hustle and sacrifice were how you get ahead. That you take care of your-self only after you “got the job done.” So I got my first job at age 11 where I worked long hours during the summer with my uncle.

In high school I had three jobs, and explored several business opportunities on the side. At the age of

I was really on the fast track to burn out, but I didn’t know it until my world turned upside down. It wasn’t until after multiple military locations and multiple children when I realized I had no idea how to de-stress. Just having a positive attitude and trying not to focus on the negative was no longer a solution. Who knew that my body was storing up all the unprocessed thoughts, feelings, and experiences.

I was miserable, I felt this burden of responsibility for not being able to provide, my shoulders and back started to ache like never before.

I wouldn’t

admit how bad I was feeling, I didn’t have the words.

Instead I’d say, ‘“It’s okay, I just had a hard day, I need time.”

No, it wasn’t okay and I didn’t need more time. What I needed was to get real about how I was feeling. I was so disappointed.

The life I thought I was going to live was no longer in my grasp, and pain in my body was this reminder that I couldn’t have it.

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20 I was managing a restaurant. By 24 I was married and was on the corporate America fast-track.

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Fidel Forde :: RADICAL SELF-CARE REDEFINED

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The reality is that I wasn’t living in alignment. I can only speak to this now because in the first part of creating a new career I went on to become a massage therapist, a yoga instructor, and BodyMind Coach. Through this journey of self-care I learned to come into alignment internally and externally more each day.

There are huge misconceptions about self-care.

One of them that keeps good people feeling guilty is a limiting belief that taking time for yourself equates to taking time away from others.

And when you are heart-centered you don’t want to take time away from anyone.

Self-care is rarely convenient and generally messy. As a man, I have to allow myself to feel the guilt of hurting someone’s feelings, honoring a boundary, disappointing someone, but not letting that guilt stop me from doing what I know in my heart I need to do. This process is what makes it loving.

I love you enough to tell you the truth. I love me enough to live my truth and be truthful with myself.

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Fidel Forde :: RADICAL SELF-CARE REDEFINED

In this video story, Fidel shares feeling frustrated when “I wasn’t where I needed to be.” How those feelings led him to deeper satisfaction and joy is his journey every day now. He realized he needed to acknowledge his desires and allow himself to receive. He asks, “If you were limitless, what would you do?”

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Self-care is usually talked about as if it’s something you do, but what I’ve learned is that it goes way beyond something that you “do” for yourself, and has everything to do with who you get to “be” for yourself. It’s true that you are better able to take care of others when you are taking care 22

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Self-care is taking a stand for yourself and to yourself. It’s treating yourself the way you want others to treat you, taking actions that are in alignment with your heart and desires, and honoring your feelings without judgment.

I’ve had so many conversations when I’ve said, “but this is how I feel, right, wrong or different, I feel this way.” Honoring this truth is self-care.

of yourself, but self-care is about who you get to be. Doing what makes you come alive ignites your spark.

Make sure you are nurturing that spark of

yours because

when you ignite

you light up the world!

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Fidel Forde :: RADICAL SELF-CARE REDEFINED

Fidel Forde is a BodyMind & Empowerment Coach, Motivational Speaker, Business Mentor, Retreat Leader, Massage Therapist, and International Yoga Instructor — aka a renaissance man and entrepreneur. He is a proud military spouse to a Navy psychologist and a father to three daughters and one son.

He is on a mission to ignite the spark in others — empowering them to live the life they are capable of living and create more time, more impact, more joy, more energy and sustainable success without burnout.

He is passionate about this work because in 2011 his world was turned upside down. He lost his corporate executive position, struggled to adapt to the multiple relocation and lifestyle of a military family, and realized that he had no idea how to manage his stress. That is what drove him to the path of becoming a holistic practitioner. He uncovered the power of body-mind connection which allowed him to embody his true purpose and gifts of healing, encouraging and empowering others.

Today Fidel teaches heart-centered and impact-driven men, women, entrepreneurs and leaders how to come back home to their bodies, create balance, movement, and hustle with grace. His location-independent business model allows him to travel and work with clients around the world, in person and virtually. Fidel creates one of a kind embodiment retreats for groups and individuals to kick stress to the curb and tap in to their personal power.

What Fidel is most proud about is redefining what it means to dad, to be present, and to let it be messy.

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What is it like to become a BodyMind Coach?

How? Because I transformed my heart-centered, hands-on business myself.

Not so many years ago, I was where you might be right now: overworked, exhausted and on the brink of burnout.

At the time I was working as a successful massage therapist. I had great retention rates, clients regularly referred their friends, and consequently, I was always booked solid.

When clients came in and lay on my table, I found many opened up and shared their stories.

They’d talk about their stresses and frustrations, as well as their hopes and desires. Even when they weren’t actually talking, their bodies would also share stories of what they were ready to release and the dreams they were ready to fulfill. And when their hour was up, I’d spent around 30–45 minutes talking through the self-care steps they should take themselves at home before our next session.

Is this you?

I knew my clients wouldn’t get lasting results unless I challenged them to address the habits, behavioral patterns, and limiting beliefs that created their stress in the first place and kept them coming back, session after session.

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As a master coach and Licensed Massage Therapist with over 12 years experience, I know there’s a better way to work.

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It’s my mission to give heart-centered therapists like you the tools to serve your clients and help them achieve lasting results, without you burning yourself out in the process.

The realization that massage could only really treat the symptoms of my clients’ stress and not the cause, led me to incorporate coaching conversations into my sessions.

Once my clients realized the connection between their emotional wellbeing and their physical pain, everything changed. Instead of showing up for sessions having ignored all the aftercare advice I gave them the previous week, they actually began to implement it — willingly!

I’ve since coached hundreds of clients using BodyMind Coaching, and now I want to show you how you can use this powerful coaching conversation strategy to transform your business and accelerate your clients’ results, too.

Interested?

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Melissa Kelley :: SELF-CARE IS AN INSIDE JOB

Mainstream conversations have spun self-care into a commodity that many people have come to equate with opulence and luxury.

This positions self-care as something outside of ourselves, as something we need to ‘get’ or something we must ‘consume’.

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t’s time to get real about self-care. I am exhausted and disheartened with all the ways our culture has grossly distorted the concept of self-care and how we are “supposed” to practice it. One does not have to look far or dig deep to encounter a deluge of noise all touting the overused #selfcare.

It. Has. To. Stop. We are inadvertently cutting ourselves off from the very core of what sustains us.

Externalizing an interior process keeps people cycling on the hamster wheel of stress, pain and dysfunction. This deepens the cultural disconnect between body and mind, fosters comparison to others, perpetuates feelings of shame for not “getting it right” or not having access to resources, and fuels the search for magic pills and quick fix solutions.

It’s time for a re-frame.

How about we all just take a sacred pause and stop to contemplate for a moment.

What if we actually got to know the “self” we are caring for?

What if we started to source our self-care from the inside out?

If we approach self-care from this angle, it doesn’t take long to begin to see that you cannot “hack” your way to wellbeing. Yes, there are certainly some simple things we can implement for ourselves to make life easier and more enjoyable, but as a rule I don’t believe in a fast track to wellness.

Self-care is about the long game.

I know because I’ve been walking this path my entire life.

I have memories of beginning to observe and track my own stress response through my teenage years. Anxiety and dysfunction were prevalent energetic

As an adolescent making my way towards adulthood, a single truth was crystal clear:

Living your life from a constant state of depletion will make you sick, one way or another.

This was apparent in my own physiology and deeply woven through the threads of my lineage.

At an instinctual level, I understood that if I did not learn how to manage my stress, it would most definitely end up managing me.

I also knew that if I wanted to live a different experience, I would have to be the one to create it.

And so I set out to study stress, the stress response and wellness.

I discovered classes at my college focused on the BodyMind Connection, Creative Visualization and Nourishing the Mind, Body and Spirit. I found Deepak Chopra, Herbert Benson and Shakti Gowen.

It was here that I sourced my roots in self-care. I began to view self-care as an antidote for stress and a way to stay proactive in my own wellbeing. I graduated from college and enrolled in massage

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components in my environment and I distinctly remember recognizing how these energies began to manifest in my body.

school. I learned how to truly be present in my body and guide clients to do the same.

For me, self-care is soul care. It is about understanding and engaging my own BodyMind connection so that I may know what my body and my being require in order to be healthy. It’s about making those things nonnegotiable in my day to day life.

I believe that self-care is a

deeply personal practice.

Something individualized that you get to curate for yourself with the same reverence and compassion you commit to your family, your clients, and all of the people in your world whom you consistently nurture and support.

Self-care is about prioritizing your basic needs, taking the time to explore what those needs are and why they are important.

Self-care is self-awareness and self-love. It is a decision to create nourishing practices for yourself and honor the commitment you make to your well being.

Self-care is the culmination of daily habits, practices and the rituals that sustain you.

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Self-care says: I listen to my body.

I listen to my soul.

I listen to my intuition.

My boundaries are non-negotiable.

In all the years of developing my own personal practice for selfcare and in supporting my clients to do the same, I have come to understand that self-care is an inside job. Any messaging that says otherwise is attempting to lead you away from one of your most powerful resources — your inner wisdom.

A commitment to self-care keeps you connected to the truth that you have innate value as a human being. You are worthy of sacred care. This knowing

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It requires learning to shift gears internally so that you may be still within yourself and really listen.

supports you in cultivating the courage to trust yourself, no matter what.

Trusting yourself fuels the courage to break unhealthy cycles.

Self-care guides you to the tools and the means to interrupt patterns of stress and disconnection.

Self-care supports you in developing resilience and exercising autonomy. Practiced consistently over time, you begin to trust that everything you need is within you.

You get to define your value,

your purpose and your direction in the world.

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Melissa Kelley is the creator and founder of Sacred She™. She also serves as the Associate Coach Coordinator for the BodyMind Coaching Community.

Melissa has been devoted to the study of the healing arts and exploring the nuances of personal growth and transformation through the BodyMind Connection for over 20 years. She believes that the greatest path to fulfillment comes from within, and that when you discover who you really are and what you came here to do, everything changes. She is dedicated to helping conscious, creative women bring their vision to life. Melissa’s coaching style is rooted in deep inner work, integrative practices and feminine wisdom traditions.

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Heidi Metro :: FILLING YOUR OWN CUP

Now, hold on a second. I understand what is being said: You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of others.

The messaging of “fill your cup” shows up right alongside the “helpful” reminder that self-care is important. And I used to happily encourage women to do the very same thing.

But it’s dangerous.

Dangerous because this message is almost exclusively for the ladies.

You know it is. My partner Mike has NEVER been told “you can’t fill from an empty cup.” The first time he ever actually heard that phrase was when I asked him if anyone had ever said that to him. To which he responded, “Um...no?”

Dangerous because it implies that once we fill our own cups first, we are then supposed to go around and fill everyone else’s cup. Fill it up. Pour it out. Repeat for life.

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ill your own cup first” is utter BS. Absolute garbage.

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for our cups to be filled outside of us, we are constantly chasing.

Hustling. Disconnecting.

No. No. And no.

As women, leaders, coaches, caregivers, we are taught and rewarded to be out of balance with our wellness. Over-giving, over-delivering, over-functioning is woven into the fabric of our culture. We hear, “Oh she’s so selfless,” and “She’s always putting others first,” and “I just don’t know how she does it all!”

This is code for “out of alignment.”

Legit. Stop it. This is not the way forward. It will keep you chasing the next high of someone giving you positive feedback for going against yourself.

What if we get to evolve? What if now that we know we have a cup, we realize/REMEMBER we have a whole well as our Source?

Well-being. Well-ness. A wellspring of God! Ditch the cup and connect to the Source! We get to be connected to our wellspring through intention, values, daily rituals, support, adventure, and badassery.

What if, here’s an idea...the people in your life have their own SOURCE too? And from now on, it ain’t you.

What is about you, is your self-care.

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Let’s look at what REAL AND LASTING self-care requires: Sacred-Rebellion and Boundaries.

Sacred, by definition, is “to make holy.” We must reclaim our selfcare by making it holy. Whole.

Integrated. Connected to ourselves through our Source/God/ Energy/The Force. And we have to REBEL! Rebel against a status quo that burns us out, pisses us off, and disconnects us from ourselves and our Source, and thereby each other.

How? Boundaries.

We say no.

We say enough.

We say I love you so much that I will be your witness but not your keeper.

We say this is how you do laundry.

It’s yours to do now.

We say this is as far as I go.

We say, the line is here and I won’t cross it.

We say I don’t work weekends.

We say, YES! to a life of alignment and values and boundaries and purpose, oh my!

Boundaries are your best friend.

If you desire patience, you need boundaries. If you are creative but feeling stifled, yep, boundaries. If you’re resentful and pissed off all the time...you guessed it..boundaries! If you say, “If I don’t do it, 34

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serve the world with a smile.. “Fill your cup” nonsense. No thank you. Do you want to ACTUALLY put yourself first?

it won’t get done,” you are so far passed your boundaries that you may not know where they are.

Deep breath.

Let’s reframe boundaries: Boundaries are more for you than anyone else. They tell you when you’ve gone too far and are disconnecting from yourself and Source, which paradoxically can leave you feeling like you’re not doing enough. Cue the burnout cycle of filling your cup with “selfcare” and pouring it out again.

Chronically being irritated and overwhelmed by taking care of everyone else at the expense of yourself is not okay. It’s not sustainable. Or healthy. Or kind for that matter. What is kind, is telling the truth. First to yourself and then to the people in your life that need to hear it.

But Heidi, I have kids. I have to fill their cups.

Status quo says, “Be a good mom and do it all.”

When they are new and dependent, of course our resources are allocated in a different way.

(And we need to do a better job of holding space and supporting mothers and caregivers so they can tend to the babies!) And as they grow and naturally become more independent, the greatest gift we can give them is the knowing that they ARE Source and they have their own wellspring that they get to connect to and cultivate.

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CUE THE BUTS.

Sacred rebellion and boundaries say: “As a leader in my family, I teach connection and values.”

In our house contribution is a core value. And so, my kiddos (11,10,7) do not do chores. They contribute. They do their own laundry. Contribute to meal prep and clean up. Tidy their spaces to make room for creativity. (Also a core value.)

My definition of parenting is “the transfer of responsibility.” Being able to respond to life and create with it is a gift. I won’t deny them that gift by over-doing and being their sole Source. Their unique well-being and wellness and wellspring is THEIRS. To discover and care for. You go first. Discover and care for yours.

“Take a breath. And let the body lead. I hope you feel connected and safe here.”

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Heidi Metro :: FILLING YOUR OWN CUP needs me.

Status quo says, “Be a good partner and do it all.”

You’re right. Your partner does need you. They need you to connect to yourself so you can get the hell out of their way. GET. OUT. OF THE WAY. You actually don’t have to fix your partner. It’s not your job to make sure they do it the right way. (Meaning your way.)

Being critical and micromanaging how our partners contribute to our families is a sign of fear and disconnection.

Sacred rebellion and boundaries says: “As I connect fully with myself, I remember that my partner is a whole self too.”

My relationship with my partner Mike was in trouble because I was so used to doing it all that I ended up resentful, pissed, and ready to throw in the towel. It wasn’t until I STEPPED BACK and connected with myself first that I was able to show up in a partnership rooted in collaboration and true connection.

Want a better relationship with your spouse? You go first. Connect to you.

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But my partner

But my clients are used to me offering Saturday sessions.

Status quo says, “My clients need me and I have to fit them in, even if I’m overbooked. Or hurting.”

How many of these clients are women who are also over-giving?

How many of these women are coming back month after month and NOT getting lasting results?

How many are complaining of chronic stress without real solutions?

Sacred rebellion and boundaries says: “The more connected I am to myself, the clearer I am with what I want and how I work best.”

When I made the shift from massage therapist to BodyMind coach, I had many clients who were so upset. They were used to me doing the work for them. They were used to me caring for their bodies.They’d grown accustomed to me giving them all sorts of articles and resources and time that I wasn’t being compensated for. And they still didn’t do the work between sessions.

When I owned my coaching role and started charging for it, the clients that transitioned with me have had life-changing results.

They show up because they chose themselves! Self-care! And I get to witness and support and guide.

for your clients?

You go first.

Demonstrate what it looks like to truly take care of yourself by listening to your body’s inner wisdom that says, “That’s too much and I need to change.”

It’s true, change is difficult. Your kids may whine. Your partner may be pissed. Your clients may find another practitioner who will work on weekends at 7pm.

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Want real change

So. Be. It.

You can handle the temporary discomfort of change. You can.

As you tend to yourself, you will find ways to be okay even when others aren’t. You will be guided and reminded and held in the knowing that you are here for your unfolding.

And just so we’re clear, I do believe that for many of us, our unfolding DOES include caring for others, as an EXPRESSION of our connection.

It’s through our connection and expression that we create the space for others to step into their fullest expressions of themselves too.

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Heidi Metro :: FILLING YOUR OWN CUP

After 12 years in a successful massage practice, Heidi now combines her degrees in philosophy and massage therapy, along with her BodyMind Coaching training to coach full time within her company, The New Next Level — BodyMind Coaching. The New Next Level is about empowering womxn to Lead From Within by aligning their purpose, values, and boundaries. When women lead, we change the world.

When Heidi isn’t collaborating with clients, you’ll find her with her hubby, three kiddos, and two pooches in their sweet Midwestern town. She loves to hike, build bonfires, and get lost in books.

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Heidi Metro is a total hybrid: Obsessed with practical systems and totally woo. You’ll find her creating in her coaching studio, saging her crystals, and designing Systems with Soul for her incredible clients.

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Laura Wieck :: SELF-CARE, REDEFINED

What is it exactly? How do you practice it? What does it actually mean?

Truth be told, I don’t have a self-care ‘routine’. I know, I know… this whole magazine… my whole business... is about redefining self-care! How can I not have a self-care ‘routine’?!

Honestly, that is exactly why I want to have this conversation.

From what I see on social media and what I hear from my clients, self-care has become another buzzword. It’s become another thing to check off your ‘to do list’.

It’s become pictures of perfectly manicured nails, sitting on the beach or on a yoga mat, with a green smoothie, and a self-help book in hand. It’s another item to check off a ‘to do’ list that, for some people, causes more stress than relief.

And if we’re really honest about it… ‘self-care,’ as we see it on social media, has become a luxury for primarily upper-middle class, white women that we’re all supposed to compare ourselves to.

Yes… I love to drink my bulletproof coffee while journaling about my vision. I enjoy moments of solitude where I feel into my breath and connect to the world around me. I take long walks with my dogs to ground myself. I create spaciousness in my calendar so

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elf-care.

It’s been on my mind lately.

I don’t fall into the trap of being ‘busy’. My work is filled with purpose and my mission drives to make an impact in the world. I cook healthy foods and enjoy how they energize my body.

The thing is… this isn’t my ‘selfcare routine’. This is my LIFE. Personally, I believe people struggle so much with ‘self-care’ because it is used as a band-aid to cover the true issue that is happening... disconnection.

Think about that for a minute.

If you need ‘self-care’ to ‘reconnect to yourself/your life,’ then that means your life itself is rooted in disconnection.

Is that really the life you want to be living?

As we have discussed throughout this issue, true self-care is a radical rebellion. It is having difficult conversations. It is setting boundaries. It is honoring your body and living in tune with nature.

True self-care is living a life rooted in connection. And in order to be connected to others — family, friends, colleagues, your community, and the world — you must first live in a state of deep connection within yourself.

That means putting yourself at the center of your life, fully honoring your natural gifts, receiving abundantly for who you are, and intentionally creating a lifestyle that supports you.

And if I just hit a nerve... good.

If you just got a little uncomfortable... good.

If the voice in your head just chimed in and said, “that would be selfish”... good.

That feeling and those beliefs are the very thing you get to address to practice true self-care. Because if you are living in a way where you have to ‘disconnect’ from your life to find yourself again, that means the life you are living is disconnected from its most magical gift — YOU!

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Practicing TRUE self care isn’t easy. I get it. I’m a wife, mother, and business owner. No matter what I am doing, there is a part of me that always feels like I am letting someone else down. And in a culture that teaches women to sacrifice themselves and be responsible for everyone else… living connected within myself takes intention and focus (i.e. ‘self-care’). As soon as I disconnect from myself to please others is when I start letting others down.

And I’ll let you in on a little secret…

What I have learned most in my BodyMind journey is that when I live embodied, connected, and in tune with my wholeness, everyone around me benefits.

It’s a paradox.

If you want to give abundantly to others it starts with honoring and nurturing your brilliance.

In order to live in a state of true self-care, there are so many habits, patterns, beliefs, systems, structures-- both individual and collective-- that need to be broken down. That is why true self-care is a rebellion. It is literally the process by which we break down toxic systems that have been plaguing our culture for centuries.

But where do you start?

I am a firm believer that, instead of seeking answers, seek better questions. Better questions will expand your world and reveal a deeper layer of what is possible.

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Laura Wieck :: SELF-CARE, REDEFINED

What do I get to receive in order to honor myself in this moment?

“There is a difference between being selfish and being self-ish.

Selfishness is being just focused on you — totally narcissistic. Being self-ish on the other hand, is being able to set good boundaries, focusing on your self-care and yet not making your life a selfish life.

A self-ish person fills themself up so they can serve others in greater and greater ways. It means being in your power — being fully yourself.” — Mastin Kipp If we are going to shift our perspective on self-care, we first have to shift the belief that ‘receiving’ is selfish. You were born with a unique set of gifts, talents, and abilities that, when actualized, serve the entire world. When you practice radical self care, and allow yourself to receive for what comes natural to you, this amazing thing happens… others around you receive more and the good in your heart that wants to help others is amplified.

And that leads me to the second question...

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That is why I want to leave you with two questions I hope will help you feel your way forward in this journey.

What do others get to receive as I receive?

This question changed my life because when I started to live this work for myself, I noticed that my clients started enforcing healthier boundaries… not because I bended my boundaries to help them… but because I enforced my boundaries to honor myself.

My relationships started to improve... not because I put on a fake smile and acted polite… but because I was honest and asked for what I needed… which inspired them to do the same.

I watched people around me value their natural gifts and talents, raise their rates, ask for the raises… not because I lowered my standards… but because I chose to value myself, my time, and my brilliance.

You are a gift to this world and what the world needs most is to you to honor and value yourself.

And THAT is the truest form of self-care you will ever practice.

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Laura Wieck Certified Master Coach and Mentor, Licensed Massage Therapist Laura is the creator and founder of BodyMind Living© as well as the BodyMind Coaching Certification Program with Laura Wieck™ which teaches holistic practitioners how to incorporate a coaching structure with their healing work.

After years of working with clients in her own massage practice, she noticed that her clients’ mental stress impacted them physically… and their physical stress impacted them mentally. She got curious and started to explore all things BodyMind which led her down a path of personal and professional discovery. Through it, she curated the BodyMind Method©, a proprietary coaching process that gives voice to the body and allows for deeper healing in your life.

Laura holds a degree in Biology from The College of Wooster, she is also a Licensed Massage Therapist, Leadership Coach, and Cognitive Coach.

She lives in Ohio with her husband, son, and two well-l oved pups.

LauraWieck.com TheNewBodyMind.com FB: LauraWieck IG: @LauraWieck

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BODYMIND LIVING AMBASSADORS SEPT/OCT 2020

FidelForde.com Fidel@FidelForde.com IG: @fidelforde

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MELISSA KELLEY BodyMind Coach Massage Therapist BodyMind Coaching Associate Coach Coordinator Melissa is the creator and founder of Sacred She™. She also serves as the Associate Coach Coordinator for the BodyMind Coaching Community.

Melissa has been devoted to the study of the healing arts and exploring the nuances of personal growth and transformation through the BodyMind Connection for over 20 years. She believes that the greatest path to fulfillment comes from within, and that when you discover who you really are and what you came here to do, everything changes. She is dedicated to helping conscious, creative women bring their vision to life. Melissa’s coaching style is rooted in deep inner work, integrative practices and feminine wisdom traditions.

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Fidel is a renaissance man and entrepreneur. He is a proud military spouse to a Navy psychologist and a father of four. He is on a mission to ignite the spark in others — empowering them to live the life they are capable of living and create more time, more impact, more joy, more energy and sustainable success without burnout.

Today Fidel teaches heart-centered and impact-driven men, women, entrepreneurs and leaders how to come back home to their bodies, create balance, movement, hustle with grace and and tap in to their personal power.

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FIDEL FORDE BodyMind Coach Motivational Speaker Massage Therapist Yoga Instructor Retreat Leader

HEIDI METRO BodyMind Coach Massage Therapist Heidi Metro is a total hybrid: Obsessed with practical systems and totally woo. You’ll find her creating in her coaching studio, saging her crystals, and designing Systems with Soul for her incredible clients.

After 12 years in a successful massage practice, Heidi now combines her degrees in philosophy and massage therapy, along with her BodyMind Coaching training to coach full time within her company, The New Next Level — BodyMind Coaching. The New Next Level is about empowering womxn to Lead From Within by aligning their purpose, values, and boundaries. When women lead, we change the world. www.heidimetro.com Heidi@TheNewNextLevel.com IG: @heidimetro FB: Heidi Metro FB: The New Next Level TheNewNextLevel.com

Michelle Rockwood is a yoga teacher with a background in sales and non-profit development.

She lives in Denver, Colorado and (of course) loves to ski.

When Michelle isn’t working, she’s chasing her three wild boys or playing with her dog, Tigo.

Michelle loves the strong and lasting connections she makes with clients and loves being a part of the BodyMind community. As an enrollment coach, Michelle will help you get clear on where you are in your business and help you articulate what you truly desire.

Together you will determine if BodyMind Coaching is right for you. Michelle’s favorite part of her work is reflecting with clients on their first enrollment call, as so often that call offers a pivotal moment to create a huge wave of change.

TwoArrowCoaching.com Michelle@TwoArrowCoaching.com

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MICHELLE ROCKWOOD BodyMind Enrollment Coach

CARLY CLARK ZIMMER BodyMind Coach BodyMind Embodied Tech Expert Through her own BodyMind coaching journey, Carly uncovered her knack for helping coaches simplify and streamline their business while bringing their vision and desire to make an impact to life!

She helps other coaches and creatives build profitable, aligned businesses by combining smart business tactics with the bodymind connection.

When she’s not wearing her coaching hat, she’s hiking the emerald green countryside and enjoying salty sea air of Galway Ireland, where she lives with her husband Devin.

CarlyClarkZimmer.com Carly@CarlyClarkZimmer.com IG: @carlyclarkzimmer FB: Carly Clark Zimmer BodyMind Coaching and Consulting

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BODYMIND LIVING ASSOCIATE COACHES SEPT/OCT 2020

tbodsford@gmail.com IG: @tanyabodsford

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I help heart centered, multitasking women, quiet the noise in their busy lives and become more in tune and grounded with their life’s purpose. I enable them to enjoy a life that is fulfilling and rewarding, without the stress, fear or guilt that they are not doing enough.

BodyMind Coaching shined a light on habit patterns that no longer served me. I was able to clearly see how I would become challenged.

The most amazing part is that I’m no longer taking baby steps, but amazing, giant steps that still honor my values of integrity, freedom, authenticity, connection, abundance and playfulness.

VictoriaCarrierLMT.org Lewiston, NY

Liz Hargreaves BodyMind Coach I work with driven, passionate individuals who are ready to unleash their full potential to calibrate their body and soul to their highest level of living.

BodyMind has guided me back to myself and to my authentic life path; it has become my way of living, teaching and coaching.

LizHargreaves.ca movement@ lizhargreaves.ca Victoria, BC, Canada

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Tanya works with soul-searching women that have a stack of self-help books by their bed but feel like they’re living their lives on autopilot. Her clients know they’re here for a greater purpose… but feel like everyone else’s priorities seem to always get in the way of making that dream happen.

Victoria Carrier BodyMind Coach

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If you’ve ever felt like you’re navigating life completely alone and you wish you had a wise, trusted support system to help guide you, advise you, and show you the easiest way forward, Tanya is here to show you how to find that person… within YOURSELF!

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Tanya Bodsford BodyMind Coach

Lorine Dolby Hoffer BodyMind Associate Coach Big Change Facilitator Massage Therapist I help frustrated, confused parents awaken to your power to ditch outside rules & traditions that don’t work for you and parent from your heart.

If you crave strong, loving family relationships, I can help you trust yourself and forge a path that empowers you & your kids through communication and connection.

BodyMind Coaching gave me the permission to be me, to love me, to own my gifts, and truly see the beauty and value I bring to myself and everyone else.

LorineHoffer.com Virtual appointments Arlington, VA

HarmonyBalanceFlow.com Buffalo, New York

I help badass creative womxn who own their own business go from overwhelmed and trapped in the cycle of meeting everyone else’s needs first (including your business!) to feeling grounded, clear, calm, and spacious. Together we create simple systems for success that tap into the rhythms, energies, and cycles of nature.

BodyMind Coaching has completely changed my life! In this community, I felt truly heard, supported, and held for the first time in my life.

I’ve learned to deeply listen to myself and as a result, I’ve gained trust and confidence in myself and I’ve learned that doing it scared is the way forward.

LaurenPiroMassage.com Washington, DC

Dena Ramirez-Halle LMT, ATC/L, FST, SRT BodyMind Coach (2017) Massage Therapist B.S. in Sports Medicine Certified NATA Athletic Trainer Fascial Stretch Therapist Level 3 Medical Structural Relief Therapist I work with dedicated wellness professionals and body workers who feel overwhelmed , burned out, exhausted, unorganized, stuck, and chained to the demands and antiquated systems of doing business design and create freedom, fun and finances that support a life they love and a business that inspires them to show up their best way!

BodyMind with Laura Wieck helped me to find the balance in my work and home life with out feeling guilty about it!

DenaHalle.com

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BodyMind Coaching has supported my personal journey by teaching me the tools and the skills that guided me to TRUST MYSELF!! I have learned to say no to things that don’t light me up and inspire me AND that when I say no to the things that don’t light me up and inspire me I am actually CREATING SPACE for what does.

Lauren Piro

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I help high achieving women step out of “the hustle” and the “I should’s” and guide them to reclaim their power and tune into their intuition so that they can lead a life of financial independence and freedom!!!

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Laurie Juszkiewicz Lead Associate Coach BodyMind Community Manager

Jennifer Taylor LMT, CRM I work with heart-centered women who love doing for others, but the constant overgiving has left them feeling lost. My clients know they have a bigger purpose, and I help them learn how to listen to their bodies and discover their intuition so they can start making confident decisions.

BodyMind coaching has supported me in so many ways. It has completely transformed every aspect of my life: my relationships, my career, my health, how I view myself, how I move through life everyday.

I live authentically and have learned my worth. I have completely transformed my business and I’m in awe of the “work” I get to do.

JenniferTaylor.blog Red Lion, PA

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As well, throughout this issue are gorgeous photographs supplied to us by our Ambassadors.

Fidel Forde

Melissa Kelley

—Maddie Kelley

—April Cacciatori

Heidi Metro

—Debra O. Photography

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the redefining self-care issue...what’s next?

Now, what’s shifted for you?

One of our core beliefs in living BodyMind is what a mentor of mine, Philip Shepherd, often says…

Feel your way forward.

My hope is that through reading these articles and watching these videos, something shifted inside you. Maybe you had an insight, awareness, or breakthrough. Maybe you felt something align within you and you’re still finding the words to match it.

Whatever the case, insight is nothing without action.

Taking action is about breathing life into this new energy and making it real. It is about creating movement and literally taking what is inside of you and expanding it in your life.

THIS is the moment where you begin to LIVE BodyMind for yourself.

And here is how we want to support you…

We have created an amazing community for those of you committed to BodyMind Living.

This is a space to explore, ask questions, and put one foot in front of the other.

Simply click here and request to join the community. Then make sure to introduce yourself when you are in.

We look forward to seeing you there!

With Love, Laura

MEET YOUR BODYMIND LIVING AMBASSADORS SEPT/OCT 2020 :: RE-DEFINING SELF-CARE

CARLY CLARK ZIMMER PAGE 4

Self-care means I no longer rationalize unaligned decisions.

HEIDI METRO PAGE 32

Self-care requires sacred rebellion and boundaries.

LAURA WIECK PAGE 40

Self-care. What is it, exactly?

How do you practice it?

navigatingSELFCARE What does it actually mean?

FIDEL FORDE PAGE 18

It’s not about feeling better, t’s about being better at feelng.

MELISSA KELLEY PAGE 26

MICHELLE ROCKWOOD

Self-care is cultivating

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A glass of wine,

the courage to trust yourself, no matter what.

a weekend away or a pint of ice cream are just band-aids.

BODYMIND