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Reconnect during wedding planning.........2 Wedding planning apps..........................3 Required documents list..........................3 Engagement announcement form............4 Outside wedding tips..............................5 Spearfish weather at a glance.................5 Selecting the wedding party....................6 The perfect wedding band.......................7 The Four C’s: Selecting a diamond...........7 Wedding invitation tips...........................8 Choosing wedding colors........................9 Choosing the dress...............................10 Flower tips.........................................12 Are you registered?.............................13 Emergency wedding day kit..................13 Wedding budget worksheet & notes...16-17 Choosing a photographer......................18 Personal touches.................................20 Picking the music.................................21 Wedding information form....................22 Wedding menu ideas...........................23 Changing your name............................24 Honeymoon planning...........................25 100 Tips: Planning your wedding......26-31

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edding planning can be intense and often requires dedication and many hours of work. Coordinating a wedding often requires that couples make many different decisions and spend a considerable amount of time in the wedding-planning trenches.

Couples expend so much energy planning their weddings that it can be easy to lose sight of the bigger picture — namely the relationship that is the basis for the marriage in the first place.

But as easy as it can be to get lost in wedding planning, couples can use this time together to connect on a deeper level and learn to work cooperatively.

• Divide and conquer. Separate wedding planning duties so that both of you feel you are contributing equally and no one person gets overly stressed out. Stress can lead to short tempers and arguments.

• Establish a mutual budget.

Even the healthiest couple argues over finances from time to time, but budgetary debates should not set a negative tone for wedding planning.

Couples should discuss their potential budget before they even begin to

plan their weddings, and both partners should do their best to compromise while also understanding where the other person is coming from.

• Schedule time for fun. Do not let wedding planning be all-consuming.

Schedule days that allow you to enjoy yourselves together without having to think about or discuss your pending nuptials. This may include date nights that may have fallen by the wayside since getting engaged or periodic day trips to get away from it all.

Explore your mutual hobbies or try something new.

• Learn to laugh at the little things. Not every detail will go off without a hitch.

How you react as a couple may influence how much you enjoy your wedding.

Recognize that certain things will not go your way, but that unforeseen circumstances will not ruin your wedding day, no matter how unpleasant they may seem. Laugh at what cannot be changed and recognize that, in the long run, the details you think are major today may actually prove trivial when you look back on your wedding day in the years to come. n

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Planning wedding

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nsuring an event goes on with minimal hiccups takes patience and thorough planning. This is especially true for weddings, when many elements must merge together for a memorable day. Today’s couples have a bevy of new resources at their disposal to facilitate wedding planning.

The internet makes vetting vendors and reading reviews that much easier, but wedding-related apps also can simplify wedding planning. The following are some top picks as culled by Wedding Shoppe, Inc., The Knot and Lifehacker.

Wedding Spot: Couples can search for their ideal wedding venue based on location, budget, styles, and capacity.

The website enables users to plan their ideal weddings and get cost estimates based on guest list and options. Users also can access discounts and exclusive deals.

Wedding LookBook: This app enables couples to browse through thousands of dresses, accessories, jewelry, and much more. The app will help customers find products in their area.

Shutterfly: This photo, invitation and image-sharing tool can be an

inexpensive place to create save-thedate stationery, invitations, and photo memory books.

Appy Couple: This app and website helps couples manage their budgets, timelines, wedding parties, and seating charts, while also allowing them to share photos. There is a free version and basic packages that allow access to more features. iWedding Deluxe: In addition to managing timelines, to-do lists and vendors, this app offers inspiration ideas for gowns, manages and tracks gifts, and offers first dance suggestions from iTunes. However, it is only available to iPhone users.

AllSeated: This tool can help couples figure out seating arrangements by creating 3D floor plans of the event, and couples can pull contacts from email and social networks to establish a guest list. If floor plans are unavailable in their database, they can be drawn.

The Knot’s Marketplace: With the click of a button, couples can search for wedding vendors in all different categories, read reviews, and directly connect with those businesses.

HitchSwitch: Brides or grooms who may be changing their names can do so in one convenient place. Three different packages cater to various name-changing needs.

Vistaprint: These stationery specialists offer an array of services, from cards to invitations to personalized envelopes. Once a design is chosen, Vistaprint will offer add-on suggestions for coordinating items, helping to create a cohesive look for the festivities.

Explore Black Hills: This app will help customers reach local vendors in the Black Hills.

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I’m getting married!

What documents are required?

Marriage licenses may be obtained at your county’s Register of Deeds office.

To receive the license: • Both parties must be present.

• A valid photo ID, such as a driver’s license, state ID or passport is required.

• The fee is $40, and can be paid by cash and usually credit cards.

Checks are not accepted.

• There is no blood test or waiting period required.

• The license may be used the same day, and it must be used within 20 days from issue.

• The license may be used anywhere within the State of South Dakota.

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Love is about humility. Humility being defined as not arrogant; reflecting, expressing, or offered in a spirit of deference or submission.

Both partners must be willing to participate in this form of behavior.

Trust and security develops in the union that brings longevity and growth of commitment. This brings about “A LASTING LOVE.”

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- Jean O’Keefe Entry #4

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Engagement Announcements run free of charge in our Black Hills Pioneer Saturday edition or as space allows.

NOTE: Submissions may be edited according to available space.

Engagement Information Bride’s Name and Hometown: ___________________________________________________________________________ Bride’s Parents’ Names and Residence(s): __________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________ Groom’s Name and Hometown: _________________________________________________________________________ Groom’s Parents’ Names and Residence(s): ________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________ Date and Place of Wedding: _____________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________ Bride’s Education: _____________________________________________________________________________________ Employment: _________________________________________________________________________________________ Groom’s Education: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Employment: _________________________________________________________________________________________ PHOTO ENCLOSED:

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If photo needs to be returned, please enclose self-addressed, stamped envelope.

We strongly urge you to type this form or print neatly. Handwriting can be misinterpreted and if we can’t read your handwriting, mistakes can happen.

We cannot re-run engagement news printed incorrectly if the mistake is caused by misinterpreted handwriting.

Phone number and contact person if there are futher questions:_____________________________________________________________________________ Please Return Completed Form To: Black Hills Pioneer, 315 Seaton Circle, Spearfish, SD 57783 • (605) 642-2761 – OR –

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Outside

Spearfish weather at a glance Listed below are average temperature highs, lows and preciptation for the city of Spearfish throughout the year.

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Jan. 36˚ 15˚ 0.6”

Feb. 39˚ 18˚ 0.7” Mar. 47˚ 25˚ 1.3”

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all’s cooler — but not too cold — weather begs us to be outside and enjoy it. Given the glorious color in the trees, taking your vows outside may be the way to go.

Here are some things to consider when planning an outdoor ceremony in the fall.

COVER IT UP

to keep everything in its place. Also consider the effect the sun will have on delicate flower arrangements and on your guests. Don’t leave either hanging around under the rays for too long.

BEWARE OF FALLING OR RISING TEMPS

Fall is gorgeous, but it can Holding the Most popular month also mean sudden drops or rises ceremony outside to get married: in temperature that make it is beautiful, but it feel more like winter or sumalso subjects you mer. Ask an event company to and your guests to also supply outdoor heaters the vagaries of the for chilly days or fans if its too weather. Plan for warm. In either case, offer warm or a covered area nearby, whether it be cool drinks pre-ceremony to help a structure or a tent, that can hold keep your guests comfortable. everyone. If you’re going the tent route, carefully consider the space BE MINDFUL OF YOUR and determine whether you need a VENDORS large pole tent, which also comes Let your florist, caterer and all with a dramatic roofline, or a smaller other vendors know upfront you’re frame tent. Also ask for tent walls in doing an outdoor ceremony and case of rain. where. If possible, have them visit the site so they can be sure to offer THINK OF THE you their best service there. Try to WIND AND SUN think of things like where the staff A cooling breeze can be just the can change and rest, where the kitchthing, unless it sweeps your guest en facilities are, any electrical needs books, escort cards and any other and if there are enough restrooms on paper across the grounds. Make hand for all your guests plus vendor sure to use paperweights or ribbons employees. n

October

Apr. 57˚ 34˚ 2.4” May 67˚ 43˚ 3.6” June 77˚ 52˚ 3.9” July 86˚ 59˚ 2.0” Aug. 85˚ 57˚ 1.9” Sept.

75˚ 48˚ 1.5” Oct. 60˚ 37˚ 1.8” Nov. 47˚ 26˚ 0.9” Dec. 38˚ 17˚ 0.8”

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the larger the wedding party, the more aking the important decision people couples have to coordinate and to get married can fill couples the more personalities they must manage. with joy and excitement as they While large wedding parties are in imagine spending the rest of their lives style, there isn’t any one-size-fits-all together. Naturally, brides- and groomsformula to decide which size to-be are anxious to party is right for a particular share the good news situation. Trends vary based on with others and include In ancient Rome, geography and culture. These family and friends in the the law required tips can help couples decide on festivities. One way cou10 witnesses to be part of the wedding the size of their wedding parties. ples exemplify inclusion ceremony.

• Match it to scope and style. is by asking their closest Wedding planners may use a acquaintances to be part standard ratio for a proportion of their wedding parties. of guests to wedding party members.

Being asked to serve as a bridesmaid That ratio is one pair of wedding attenor groomsman is an honor. Some couples dants for every 50 guests. This creates a may be tempted to ask every friend, balanced feel where the more people in sibling or cousin they have to be in their attendance, the larger the wedding party wedding parties, and some do. However,

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• Consider your expenses. Wedding party members may be asked to spend considerable amounts of money to be in the wedding, but the couple will have certain expenses tied to the wedding party as well. These can include limousines to ferry people between the ceremony and reception, photography costs to arrange and photograph large wedding parties, the cost of boutonnieres and bouquets, attendants’ gifts, as well as extra mouths to feed at the rehearsal dinner.

Small wedding parties can be easier on couples’ budgets.

• Know your expectations. Couples should discuss what they expect from their wedding parties. Do couples want their loved ones to be very hands-on or waiting in the wings? For those who want a lot of input from their wedding parties, asking distant friends or family to be included may be impractical.

• Select reliable, easygoing people.

Wedding party members should be people couples can rely on, and it only helps if wedding party members are not prone to overreacting. n

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the perfect

Wedding band

The Four C’s Carat, Color, Clarity and Cut

Buying a diamond ring can be intimidating. Demystify the process by learning about the four C’s. This system of grading diamonds was developed 60 years ago by the Gemological Institute of America.

• Carat is a weight measurement. A 1-carat diamond weighs 200 milligrams. But there’s no ideal size for a diamond. It depends on your budget and taste.

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ow that you have your engagement ring and settled on your venue, it’s time to pick out the perfect band to accompany your lefthand sparkler.

There are many factors to consider.

Cost, comfort and overall style are a few of the most important ones.

SET YOUR BUDGET

Ironically, wedding bands are one of the most overlooked costs of planning a wedding — and they can be expensive. However, you can find beautiful rings in every budget. It is important to balance what you can afford with what you want to see on your hand for the rest of your life. Be sure to account for bands for both you and your significant other. Materials (gold, platinum or titanium) and gemstones will factor into the final price.

MATCHING YOUR RING VERSUS MATCHING YOUR PARTNER’S

Answering this question will help you narrow down your choices a lot.

If you want your wedding bands to match, then you need to discuss elements that both of you do (and perhaps more importantly don’t)

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want. Or perhaps there is a wedding band that matches your engagement ring. Be sure to discuss your options with your partner before hitting up a jewelry store.

TRY ‘EM ON

Nothing will help you make a decision faster than seeing potential bands sitting next to your engagement ring. After you’ve set your budget and discussed your options with your significant other, it’s time to try on some rings.

If you have the opportunity and the time, visit as many local jewelry stores as possible. You never know where you are going to find a deal and a truly breathtaking band. Plus, there is not much that beats spending a casual hour in a jewelry shop while associates bring you band after band to slip on your finger.

THROW OUT RULE BOOK

There are no hard-and-fast rules to what type of wedding band you should choose, including choosing none at all. Stay true to your own style and budget and you will end up with a ring you are eternally happy with. n

• Color is graded by letter, starting with D for rare, colorless diamonds. E and F are considered excellent, but G or H diamonds will look just as good to the naked eye.

Farther down the scale, you’ll notice differences. “If you put a K color beside a G color, you’ll notice more yellow in the K,” said Russell Shor, senior industry analyst for the Gemological Institute.

• Clarity measures diamond flaws, called inclusions, which might appear as tiny spots, clouds or cavities in the stone.

The clarity grade SI stands for “slightly included.” VS is a better grade, “very slightly included.”

VVS is even higher, “very, very slightly included.” Most inclusions in the VVS-SI range cannot be seen by the untrained eye “unless someone tells you where it is,” Shor said.

• Cut measures workmanship, rather than a diamond’s inherent qualities. The way a stone is cut enhances sparkle and luminosity and can hide flaws.

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nvitations are a vital component of wedding planning. In addition to informing guests about the details of the ceremony and reception, wedding invitations convey the tone and style of the day.

While there are no rules governing wedding invitations, there are some ways for couples to ensure they stay on schedule when mailing invitations.

ORDER INVITATIONS EARLY

to take a couple of weeks from start to finish. Plan for this time so you will have the invitations ready for mailing roughly three months before your wedding day. Always remember to order extra invitations so you have spares in case you make a mistake or make last-minute additions to your guest list.

GET ORGANIZED BEFORE MAILING

Start preparing invitations about a Couples can start to consider month before you plan to ship them, their invitation options as this gives you ample once the wedding date time to write envelopes and venue have been According to the so you do not have to chosen. The wedding wedding industry survey write them all on the stationery industry has site TheWeddingReport, same day. Keep the changed a lot over the the average price for 150 guest list handy and years. Couples can now invitations and response double-check the spellorder invitations from cards is $245. ing of names and the local retailers, use online addresses. Traditionprinters, or design and al etiquette suggests print their own invitations from addresses should be handwritten, but home. Invitations should be worded computer-produced calligraphy on carefully and proofed several times envelopes is now just as acceptable. before printing, so expect the process

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Be sure to have the complete invitation weighed at the post office so you will know exactly how much postage is required. Purchase stamps for both the invitation and the response cards.

COORDINATE MAILING TIME AND RSVP DEADLINES

Mail invitations roughly eight weeks before the wedding. This gives guests time to make room in their schedules and arrange for travel, if necessary. Set the response date for three weeks before the wedding date so guests will have the time to make a decision and mail back the response. Many caterers require a final head count one week before the wedding, so make sure your RSVP date is at least two weeks before the big day so you can account for late responders.

DON’T LET RESPONSES LINGER

Check off who is coming and who cannot make it as you receive each response. This way you’ll know just how many responses are still outstanding and you can follow up if necessary. n

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After loosing my husband in an unexpected motorcycle accident, I have learned that life really is too short. So, “Love Long, Love Hard.” It’s the only advice I say to the Bride & Groom.

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choosing your

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ome brides may feel beholden to the color white on their wedding days, at least in regard to their gowns. Those who do often embrace the opportunity to showcase their personal styles and set the mood for their nuptials by embracing various colors throughout their ceremonies and receptions.

Color can be a critical component when establishing the ambiance for a wedding. Color can evoke certain moods and set the tone for the day. Some colors work better together than others, so while choosing a color scheme may seem like an easy undertaking, some couples may find it requires more careful consideration than they first imagined.

Wedding colors can give couples a starting-off point for all of the other details of their weddings. This ensures the wedding ultimately has a cohesive look. Colors need not necessarily match, but borrowing on similar hues can make it easier to plan wedding party wardrobes, flowers, table linens, and much more.

Colors can come from anywhere, but many couples try to coordinate their color schemes with the season in which the wedding takes place. In

Brides magazine suggests that couples avoid choosing too many colors.

A maximum of three with one metallic can ensure that things look cohesive without being over-the-top.

Also, brides and grooms needn’t feel pressured by the “hot” colors of the moment. As with clothing and hairstyles, trends change. It is better to select colors that will stand the test of time and look good for years to come.

Couples may have to incorporate colors already at their wedding venues into their style. Fortunately many reception sites are outfitted in neutral tones to enable customization.

The wedding resource The Knot also says having a basic knowledge of the color wheel can help. Typically, colors that pair well together are those that are opposites on the color wheel. Also, colors that share proximity on the color wheel will have similar tones and play well together.

Examples of opposite colors include purples and yellows, reds and greens, and oranges and blues. n

fact, couples who are finding it difficult to decide on a palette can look to seasonal colors for inspiration.

For example, pastels and blooming flowers can set the scene for spring weddings, while jewel tones and rich reds and greens may be fitting for winter The happiest day of your life deserves your brightest, ceremonies. most beautiful smile. Contact us today for a consultation, Some couples and get that picture-perfect opt for more smile you’ve always loosely defined wanted in time for your color palettes, such as neutral and natural colors. Country and COSMETIC DENTISTRY garden weddings • Veneers can borrow ideas • Tooth Colored from the landFillings scape, with natu• Tooth Colored ral linens paired Crowns with wildflowers.

• Whitening Using whites, • Implants grays and beiges enables couples to add a pop of color without overwhelming the setting.

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they want to downplay others. Try on gowns that play up your best features.

If you have shapely legs, consider a dramatic gown with a slit to show them off. Certain gowns can enhance the decollete or show off an hourglass shape. Remember, many gowns can be modified so that you feel secure and confident. Sleeves can be added or fabric placed to cover up any perceived flaws.

Confidence and pride are important parts of the comfort factor.

GET SIZED CORRECTLY

Bridal gown sizes do not coincide with street sizes. Depending on the manufacturer, brides may have to select gowns that are several sizes larger than they would normally wear. This should not be a cause for alarm. Brides should go by their measurements. Attempting to squeeze into a dress that is too small will only lead to discomfort on the wedding day.

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any brides-to-be visit bridal shops with specific goals in mind regarding the style of their wedding gowns. Some women come equipped with magazine tear-outs or pull up ideas on their mobile phones. Others may have an entire scrapbook filled with various ideas they’ve been compiling for years.

Much consideration is given to wedding gowns. The cost and silhouette of the dress may garner the bulk of that consideration, but brides might want to spend more time considering comfort.

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Depending on the time of day their weddings take place, brides can spend 12 hours or more in their wedding gowns on their wedding day. However, when shopping for their gowns, brides may prioritize beauty over comfort, even though it’s entirely possible to find a gown that’s both stunning and comfortable. When friends or family who have come along to offer advice start to blush over wedding gowns, brides-to-be may feel pressured to downplay any discomfort they feel.

To make sure brides look flawless and elegant but are still comfortable in their wedding gowns, consider the following tips.

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KNOW WHAT TO HIGHLIGHT AND WHAT TO COVER UP

No two body types are the same, and many women feel certain parts of their bodies are their best assets while

Improperly fitting bras, shapewear and other undergarments can lead to discomfort as well. Some seamstresses can sew in supportive cups to remove the need for separate bras. Brides can explore various options to reduce the visibility of certain accoutrements.

MOVE AROUND

Brides should not just stand in front of the mirror and smile when trying on gowns. Put them through their paces.

Try sitting, bending and even a little dancing. Make sure the dress is comfortable to move around in.

TRY DIFFERENT OPTIONS

The gown brides have in mind may not be the one they ultimately go home with. Explore different styles and materials. Choose cooler, breezier fabrics and lightweight gowns, like crêpe, georgette or organza, for summer weddings. Heavier fabrics, such as brocade, may be more comfortable in the winter.

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hen planning their weddings, couples may find themselves becoming experts on subjects they previously never gave much thought. Thanks to the cost of weddings, today’s couples must make each decision carefully, and that may result in hours of research and discussion.

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One of the big decisions couples must make when planning their weddings concerns their floral arrangements. The right floral arrangements won’t break the bank but will add substantial aesthetic appeal to ceremonies and receptions. The following are a few helpful hints for couples when choosing their wedding day floral arrangements.

WORK WITH A FLORIST YOU TRUST AND LIKE

All florists are not the same, so finding one you can trust and will enjoy working with can make all the difference. Many couples have little or no experience with floral arrangements prior to planning their weddings, so it can calm couples’ nerves to work with someone they trust in such situations. Florists with significant wedding experience will no doubt make a host of recommendations based on couples’ budgets and preferences, so couples might be more inclined to listen to that advice if they are working with someone they trust. Ask relatives, friends or coworkers if they can recommend any florists whose wedding work they are familiar with.

CHOOSE IN-SEASON OR NATIVE FLOWERS

Couples working with tight budgets may want to choose in-season flowers or those native to the area where they will be tying the knot.

In-season and native flowers won’t need to be ordered or shipped in from afar, which can be costly.

In-season and native flowers tend to be more abundant as well, and the greater their availability the less couples are likely to pay for them.

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GO BIG

Some flowers simply bloom larger than others, and choosing such flowers may help you save money since you won’t need to buy as many flowers as you would if you were to go with smaller blooms.

Once you find a florist to work with, discuss your options with regard to doing more with less.

Many florists embrace the challenge to be creative within a budget, so you might just be surprised and impressed by what they come up with.

Floral arrangements can set the mood for a wedding ceremony and reception, and even couples with little or no experience choosing arrangements can end up with stunning displays. n

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egistries are a wedding tradition, not unlike a couple’s first dance or the best man/maid of honor toast.

The following tips can help engaged couples build a registry to relish and utilize for years to come.

• needle and thread in white, black and the color of bridesmaid gowns

ESTABLISH AN ONLINE REGISTRY

Whereas guests once had to visit a couple’s favorite retailer(s) and ask what remained on their registry, online registries now allow well-meaning family members and friends to peruse potential gifts from the comforts of home and ship gifts directly to the couple. Online registries even indicate which items have already been purchased, saving couples the trouble of returning duplicates while reassuring buyers that their gifts are fulfilling a need or want.

SHARE YOUR REGISTRY

Guests need to know where you are registered, so share that information on your wedding website and include it on your save-the-date cards and invitations.

MULTIPLE RETAILERS

By registering with more than one retailer, couples can give their guests more options to choose from. Try to include one brick-and-mortar store, ideally one with a national presence, so guests who prefer to shop in-person won’t be forced to buy online.

DON’T BE AFRAID TO LIST EXPENSIVE ITEMS

While few guests will break the bank to buy wedding gifts, that does not mean couples should avoid including expensive items on their registries. Some couples might feel it’s inappropriate, but it can actually prove practical. Many stores offer couples steep discounts on

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Pack an emergency wedding day kit • extra pairs of pantyhose • pain reliever pills/antacid • quick-clean detergent stick • bandages

items they listed on their registries that ultimately were not purchased. If you have your eye on an especially expensive item, include it on your list without worrying about how it may look to your guests, as they will understand when you explain the post-wedding discount you’re eligible for.

DON’T LIMIT YOUR REGISTRY TO EXPENSIVE ITEMS

While it’s perfectly acceptable to include expensive items on your registry, remember that variety is the spice of life when adding items to your registry. Include items at a range of price points for guests working with various budgets.

Don’t hesitate to include low-cost items, as some guests may enjoy building a wedding gift basket with various items from your registry.

NO GIFT IS TOO OBSCURE

Thanks to the Internet, just about any item can now be tracked down by ambitious gift givers. If you want to include items that might not be available at run-of-the-mill retailers, choose an online retailer such as Amazon to host one of your registries.

Such sites are great places to find specialty items or more obscure offerings that might be out of stock at more traditional retailers. n

• powder • deodorant • double-sided tape • black buttons • sanitary pads • mints/gum • makeup for touch-ups • extra cash • slippers or a change of shoes • umbrellas • hairspray • hair pins • names and phone numbers of all wedding vendors • static cling spray • hair dryer • contact lens solution/ eye drops • nail file/clipper • straws (to sip drinks without ruining lipstick) • safety pins • black socks • earring backs

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budget Ceremony

Use this list to help you develop a budget and keep track of spending as you plan for your wedding.

BUDGETED:

Venue Fee....................................... _____________ Officiant Fee/Donation............. _____________ Ceremony Décor......................... _____________

ACTUAL COST:

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Reception Venue Fee....................................... _____________ Rentals............................................ _____________ Food & Service............................ _____________ Beverages & Bartenders........... _____________ Cake & Cutting Fee................... _____________ Reception Decor.......................... _____________

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Attire & Beauty Gown & Alterations.................. _____________ Veil................................................... _____________ Jewelry............................................ _____________ Bride’s Accessories...................... _____________ Hair & Makeup.......................... _____________ Pre-wedding Pampering........... _____________ Groom’s Tux or Suit.................. _____________ Groom’s Accessories.................. _____________ Shoes................................................ _____________ Undergarments............................ _____________

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Photo + Video Photographer................................ _____________ Videographer................................ _____________ Prints & Videos........................... _____________

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Flowers Bride’s Bouquet............................ _____________ Bridesmaid Bouquets................. _____________ Groom & Groomsmen Boutonnieres................................. _____________ Flower Girl Flowers................... _____________ Additional Boutonnieres & Corsages................................... _____________ Ceremony...................................... _____________ Reception ...................................... _____________ Centerpieces.................................. _____________

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Music Ceremony Musicians................. _____________ Cocktail Hour Musicians......... _____________ Reception Music......................... _____________

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Transportation + Lodging Limo or Car Rental.................... _____________ Guest Shuttle or Parking.......... _____________ Bride/Groom Hotel Room(s)............................. _____________

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Gifts Attendant Gifts............................ _____________ Favors.............................................. _____________ Parent Gifts................................... _____________ Flower Girl & Ring Bearer Gifts................... _____________

Event Planner............................... _____________ Marriage License......................... _____________ Dance Lessons.............................. _____________ Rehearsal Dinner ....................... _____________ Rentals & Lighting.................... _____________ Tip Money for Vendors............ _____________

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Travel.............................................. _____________ Lodging.......................................... _____________ Entertainment.............................. _____________ Souvenirs........................................ _____________

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Honeymoon

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Stationary Save-the-Dates ............................ _____________ Invitations & Reply Cards...... _____________

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Rehearsal Dinner Invites.......... _____________ Ceremony Programs.................. _____________ Thank You Cards....................... _____________ Postage............................................ _____________ Guest Book.................................... _____________

Miscellaneous

Wedding Rings Her Ring........................................ _____________ His Ring......................................... _____________

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s p i t 5 on choosing and working with a wedding photographer (AP) — Your wedding is fast approaching and you have an un-blissfully long to-do list, from finalizing your flower selection to choosing your menu to deciding on your dress.

Near the top of that list you might want to put “select photographer.”

That way, one of the most important parts of your wedding — the memories — will be preserved.

Think about booking your photographer soon after you have selected your venue, and make sure he or she is a good fit with your personality.

Look at potential photographers’ electronic portfolios, pricing and availability, and plan to meet several candidates to gauge their sensibility.

Below are five tips on choosing and working with a wedding photographer: • Look for depth. Ask to see a complete portfolio from beginning to end for at least one or two weddings.

You don’t want to see only a few “best” photos.

“It’s easy to show a bunch of terrific single images taken at many wed-

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dings,” says Radhika Chalasani, “but a great wedding photographer has to capture an entire wedding beautifully from start to finish.” The New Yorkbased Chalasani has been photographing weddings since 2004.

Looking at portfolios will ensure that the photographer wasn’t just an assistant or a guest with a camera.

You can see how the photographer handles all parts of the wedding, including the preparations, ceremony, cocktails, portraits, speeches, dancing and cake-cutting.

• Get a contract. A wedding photographer without a contract (and without liability insurance) is likely not a professional.

The contract should spell out what the photographer will provide, and whether the pictures will be on DVDs, an online gallery, a finished album, etc.

It will include the hours worked, and what happens if you ask the photographer to work longer.

In addition, you want to know how things will be handled if the photographer becomes unable to work on the wedding day due to illness or injury. He or she should have a back-up.

The contract also should spell out the cost, the amount of any deposit and when the balance must be paid.

Small, casual weddings might not seem to require a contract, but having one will protect both you and the photographer.

• Don’t be shy about what you want. “There’s no harm in being specific,” says Chicago wedding photographer Candice C. Cusic, a photojournalist for 15 years and a teacher at Northwestern University.

Tell the photographer what the most important aspects of the day are to you, whether it’s exchanging rings or walking down the aisle.

“Brides should be realistic about their day and make every possible effort to help their photographer capture great imagery,” Cusic said. A bride or groom getting ready inside a messy hotel room, for instance, will not make for strong pictures, she noted.

• Make sure your personalities jibe. Other than your significant other, the person with whom you’ll

spend the most time on your wedding day might well be your photographer.

He or she will be with you as you get ready and as you go through the emotional highs of the day. The photographer might guide you and your family through a portrait session, walk backward as you process up the aisle, and hang close by during your first dance.

So this person’s personality — sense of humor, demeanor, even appearance — should be a good fit with both of you.

Craig Warga, a New York-based wedding photographer, said “good photography happens when you can get close to your subjects, and they feel completely comfortable being natural and themselves in front of your lens.

If you don’t like some one, you’re not going to have that level of comfort in front of them, and it will affect the pictures.”

If you like a sassy personality who will add some color to your day, then by all means hire a vibrant, outgoing photographer who exudes energy. On the other hand, if you want a subtle documentary photographer who will capture important moments without being intrusive, go for someone who won’t talk loudly over you when you first meet, and who seems cool and composed.

The right photographer, said Warga, is someone who leaves you thinking, “it’d be nice to have that person as a guest at my wedding.”

• Sweat some details. Ask if the photographer has a full set of equipment: multiple bodies and lenses with back-ups.

Will he or she be working with an assistant or second photographer? If so, what is the additional cost and does that person need to be there all day?

If your venue will be dark, can the photographer handle it?

Is the photographer able to work in adverse conditions such as rain at an outdoor ceremony?

• Finally, make provisions for your photographer to eat; it’s hard to be “on” for eight to 10 hours straight. A 15-minute meal break might just be the best thing you do for the photographer. n

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Fancy dinners, jewelry, vacations... while these grand gestures are lovely, they do not guarantee love. Rather it is the small gestures and daily actions that pave the way for lasting love. Say “thank you” for everything, big or small, your partner does - it feels good to give and receive appreciation. Listen like you were on a first date - it feels good to be understood and to be your partner’s trusted confidante. Pay each other compliments - it feels good to say and hear something positive. This mutual respect, admiration, and enjoyment of one another is the true foundation of lasting love!

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- Christy Lennon Entry #7

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For a deep lasting love, tailor the sage marital advice, “What’s mine is yours, and what’s yours is mine,” to a more altruistic sentiment. Deploy a more sacrificial sharing attitude.

When thinking and interracting with your mate, in all aspects of life, drive that judicious insight ahead to, “What’s mine is yours and what’s yours is mine.” While challenging, this mindset makes the second component of a lasting love easier. Most married couples have little hesitation discussing the superficial things and people.

Push past those and begin sharing feelings and emotions, the true core of your being, with your spouse.

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teeped in tradition, weddings have featured many of the same components for centuries. Those about to tie the knot may feel somewhat limited in their ability to shape their weddings into unique celebrations of their relationships and love for one another.

Although it may not seem like there are many opportunities to put your own stamp on the wedding, there are plenty of ways to do just that.

When looking to personalize your wedding ceremony, determine if there might be anything blocking you from doing so. For example, if yours will be a religious ceremony, there may be certain rites that need to be followed. Secular ceremonies may offer more opportunities to customize.

VOWS

Vows are one of the easiest ways to put a personal touch on your wedding.

You can select the words you want to exchange during the ceremony as well as any readings during the service. Work with your officiant to narrow down particular phrasing or sentiments that fit with your vision of the wedding and relationship.

PARTICIPANTS

Wedding party members fulfill certain roles during the ceremony, but they are not limited to those tasks alone. Con-

sider asking wedding party members or other friends or family members to take on specialized roles in the wedding.

They may be able to do certain readings, escort guests to their seats, light candles, or sing and participate in other ways.

MUSICAL INTERLUDES

Choose music that connects with your personalities as a couple rather than selecting standard songs merely because they are the easier route. Work with the organist or other musicians and request that they perform or play musical pieces that you enjoy.

CANDLE LIGHTING

Many couples like to incorporate candle-lighting components to their ceremonies. Lighting unity candles blends two families together into one in a symbolic way. Other couples choose different traditions, such as mixing two different-colored sands in a new vessel, to represent the joining of two lives together. You can consider these types of additions for your wedding ceremony or come up with your own unique tradition.

Impart a special touch to a wedding ceremony in any number of ways. Doing so will help set this special day apart in the minds of guests and make it even more memorable to look back on as a couple. n

- Pete Linde Entry #5

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ew things set the tone for a wedding ceremony and reception better than music. Music establishes ambience and serves to transition guests through the various components of the day.

Music is played in various ways throughout a wedding. For example, the wedding ceremony may be accompanied by a pianist or violinist, while music during the reception is usually provided by a band or deejay.

The decision of whether to hire a band or deejay often comes down to personal preference and budget. The following are some things couples should consider as they make their decision to go with a band or deejay.

BAND

A live band can bring with it a sense of sophistication. Performers can tone

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the music to the crowd and improvise if necessary to meet the needs of the room.

Many wedding bands can competently play songs from various genres of music, while some are especially skilled at recreating the sound of a particular group.

Bands tend to be more expensive than deejays, and that’s something couples must factor into their budgets if they prefer a band to a deejay.

DEEJAY

The deejay is one of the first vendors people think of when they envision a wedding reception.

Deejays are advantageous for various reasons. Thanks to the accessibility of digital music, deejays can often procure just about any song a couple desires for the reception. That’s a significant benefit

for couples who want to hear the original versions of their favorite songs, and not a band’s take on those songs.

Deejays also can read the crowd and make adjustments to the music at any time. If a particular genre is not working, deejays can easily transition to another type of music. That’s not always possible for bands whose repertoire is exclusive to a particular genre.

Many deejays also blend songs seamlessly and may incorporate lights and other effects into their performances, which can encourage guests to loosen up and hit the dance floor.

Deejays also tend to travel with less equipment than bands, so they will take up less space in a party room.

No matter which road a couple chooses to travel, it’s a good idea to listen to a deejay or band perform in a live situation before making a final decision.

Couples should provide a list of songs they want to hear well in advance of their wedding day. This affords a deejay ample time to find each song or bands to learn the songs before the big day arrives. n

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Menu

Ideas

HIGH-END OPTIONS

Couples may want to give guests a taste of the lavish with olive oil and vinegar tasting stations, whiskey bars, French hors d’oeuvres, Kobe beef sliders, lobster tails, risotto stations, and more.

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raditionally, one of the more memorable aspects of wedding receptions is the food. Whether it was fun, tasty or something entirely new for guests, food tends to leave a lasting impression.

More than ever before, couples are seeking menu ideas that reflect their personalities as a couple as they seek to make a statement at their events. Celebrating with delicious, unique foods can make receptions that much more amazing.

BITE-SIZED BURSTS

Tapas and a movement toward small bites has started to take hold at wedding receptions. Such a choice allows guests to try many different flavors without filling up too quickly. From sliders to mini grilled cheese to soup shots to bite-

sized pizzas, many of these small bites feature flavors borrowed from familiar comfort foods — just presented on a miniature scale.

COMFORT STATIONS AND BARS

Couples who love comfort food can put it on display with a crostini station, a mashed potato bar, a chicken and waffles station, a gourmet popcorn snack station, or a ramen noodle bar.

FOOD TRUCKS/CARTS

Outdoor weddings can be enhanced with the addition of trendy food trucks. These restaurants on wheels can inject burgers, sandwiches, international delights, crêpes, noodles, and so many more flavors into a wedding.

When it comes time for dessert, some couples opt to avoid or downplay wedding cakes in favor of something simpler. A cookie-andmilk bar, doughnut holes, soft pretzel stations, pie pops, or dessert shot jars push creativity and sweetness to new levels. Do-it-yourself dessert stations, such as s’more-making and ice cream sundae stations, also can be big hits.

Couples are increasingly feeling less beholden to traditional wedding reception menus as they look to infuse their personal tastes into the foods they plan to serve their guests.

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Realistically, married love is not all romance. Rather it is deepening trust and acceptance of one another’s likes and dislikes that provides another meaning in life.

God’s command is one man and one women together for life. And each must be careful and committed to being a safe and trustworthy partner for their spouse.

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- Ronald Weaver

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Name

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fter months of planning your wedding and all the details that go along with making your special day one to remember, you’re finally able to relax and enjoy spending time with your new spouse.

But if you or your spouse plan on changing your name, there is more work to be done. How does that work, exactly?

From changing your driver’s license, to bank account, Social Security card, and more, getting your name changed on all official documents can be a process, but it is important to ensure accuracy.

Don’t try to start the name change game before you say, “I do.” It’s a waste of time and you have plenty of other priorities to take care of. Instead, start after you say your vows.

First, stop by your county’s Register of Deeds office and get at least two certified copies of your marriage license.

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We #1 make our bed together everyday and #2 thank each other often. Married 62 ½ years after a blind date and 9 week courtship, we love and respect each other and show it.

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It is a good idea to make several more non-certified copies as well.

One of the first documents that should be changed is your Social Security card.

This should be on the top of your to-do list as some banks want your new name on your Social Security card before opening an account. Updating your card will also ensure your wages are posted correctly to your Social Security records.

Changing your Social Security card cannot be done online; however there is no charge to make the changes.

To change your name on your Social Security card you will need to complete Form SS-5. These forms can be obtained at http://www.socialsecurity.gov/forms/ss-5.pdf. Additionally, you will need proof of your identity.

Sometimes you also may need to prove your current U.S. citizenship or lawful noncitizen status. This can be done with a driver’s license, passport, or state-issued, non-driver ID card. Mail your application to your local Social Security office.

To change your driver’s license, stop by your local department of motor vehicles office. You will need to bring a certified copy of your marriage license.

If your license has a gold star in the upper right corner, you will also need to bring your current driver’s license or ID card, two documents proving your residential address such as a utility bill, bank stub, phone bill among other items.

If your license does not contain the star you will need to bring more items.

This includes a document that proves your date of birth, identity and citizenship. This can be a valid and unexpired U.S. Passport, a certified copy of your birth certificate as well as other items.

More Post-Wedding Tasks to Tackle • Thank you notes • Vendor reviews • Dress cleaning and/or preservation • Gift returns • Registry completion

You will also need to bring documents that prove your Social Security number. This can be your Social Security card, a W-2 form, pay stub with your name and full Social Security number. For more information on what documents are needed, visit http://dps. sd.gov.

Now that you have a new Social Security card and driver’s license, other documents can be updated.

If international travel is in your future, be sure to update or receive a passport. You may run into troubles if you have a passport in one name and a driver’s license in another. Find need to know info at http://travel.state.gov. It does take a while for your passport to be issued - four to six weeks, however expedited processing can be requested for a charge.

If you are honeymooning abroad and are using your maiden name and will later change your name, don’t worry about losing all your visas and stamps.

Your old, cancelled passport can be sent separately from your new passport.

Other documents should be changed such as bank accounts and mortgages, credit cards, investments, utilities, health insurance, voter registration, other legal documents and with your employer.

Each entity seems to have its own policy when it comes to the name change game, but relax, and enjoy your new spouse. n

- Gary and Joanne Goodrich Entry #6

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the Better Business Bureau for recommendations on finding the perfect travel agent for you. Your bridal shop or wedding planner may also be connected to pros that do great work for honeymoons.

nce you’ve got the big details of the ceremony down, it’s time to tackle the honeymoon. Just like in planning a destination wedding, traveling to a warm-weather destination in the off season may save you some money.

Or maybe you’ve got visions of a snow-covered getaway. Either way, you can still plan the perfect honeymoon for a winter wedding.

DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT

CONSIDER HIRING A PRO

You just planned and executed one of the biggest events of your life.

You are going to be zapped. So don’t plan to spend seven consecutive days traipsing around New York on foot or hiking in the mountains. Leave lots of time for relaxation and work in things like massages or spa days to get some of your energy back. n

With online booking sites galore, travel agents seem like a thing of the past. But they’re still around and can help you out tremendously, especially if you’re up to your eyebrows in wedding details. A travel agent can vet vendors, destinations and lay out the perfect, custom itinerary for you.

Work together to make this the perfect trip for both of you. It’s a special, so consider getting outside your travel box. If you usually go to the beach, hit the mountains. Or if you’re a city traveler, kick one off your bucket list.

And while you’re working together, try to work in some surprises, romantic or otherwise.

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3 Decide on the size and formality of your wedding.

4 Interview party planners or wedding consultants with a reputation for a job well done. If time is at a premium for you or distance is a problem, a professional planner is well worth the fee. With so many details to look after, their experience can help save you costly mistakes.

5 Consider unusual locations to hold the celebration. Contact your local parks department or historical society.

6 Select the place you’d like to hold the reception. Make reservations if it is in a club, hotel, catering hall or restaurant. If it is to be at home or at a place that does not provide food, check into catering services and book them. Ask to see a variety of possible menus; inquire if a wedding cake is This checklist is packed with all included or if one must be arranged the essential steps you need to know for separately. about during planning. The more time 7 Start shopping around for your you have, the more opportunity you’ll wedding dress, headpiece and veil. have to comparison shop. And you’ll 8 Make alternate plans for an also feel less pressured to commit to outdoor wedding in case the weather something that does not seem right is bad. The most logical options for you. However, if your timetable include a very sturdy tent and a is condensed, simply move the steps platform that withstands rain, or an up. For a much shorter schedule, a indoor, alternative location that is wonderful wedding can still be had indicated on the reception invitation. by making some 9 Invite relatives and/ logical compromises. or friends to be in For example, plan your wedding party. on a morning/noon Talk over finances wedding, with a of brides use Pinterest with them and be breakfast or brunch/ to communicate their considerate of their luncheon reception, wedding-day vision to limitations. or a Friday or Sunday planners and vendors.

10 Select two or evening ceremony and three possibilities reception. In some for your attendants’ areas of the country gowns and arrange there is also more flexibility for an appointment with the shop to hiring choice resources for a Saturday bring your attendants in to see their wedding on shorter notice during choices. Because they pay for their the months of January, February and own dresses, it’s thoughtful to do March. Happy planning! this, if possible. After a review of the styles, the final decision is yours.

12 to 24 MONTHS 11 Buy calendars for attendants BEFORE THE WEDDING and immediate families and mark important wedding-related dates for 1 Visit your clergy together and set them in red. As other dates are made the date for the ceremony. during the planning they can plug 2 Discuss expenses with all concerned them into their calendar. and establish a firm budget.

12 Draw up the guest list. Notify

hen was the last time you planned a party this big?

If you’re like most brides, this event is a first in size, details — and pressure! Because wedding planning is so time consuming, being well organized is the only way to keep things under control.

Most weddings, especially large ones, require lots of advance planning in order to book the best bridal resources, many of which are reserved one or two years before the event. Today’s long engagements ­— 14 months on average — allow couples time to pull the details together and save for the expenses they may be handling or sharing with parents.

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your fiancee’s family to do the same.

13 Interview photographers, videographers, musicians and florists.

Make a separate folder for each service you select. Keep contracts, notes, questions and all pertinent data in them for a handy and quick reference.

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14 Select and order your invitations. Include extra envelopes in case of mistakes, and a few extra invitations to have as mementos for you and your family. If you want calligraphy and find handwork too expensive, look into computer resources. Ask for envelopes to be delivered early so you can address them leisurely. At the same time, order personal stationery (an ample supply of both letter and notepaper) for writing thank-you notes.

15 Have mothers select their dresses. The bride’s mother has the

privilege of first choice so that she 4 MONTHS can have the color and style she BEFORE THE WEDDING prefers. The groom’s mother chooses a dress similar in formality and in a 19 Address invitations and complementary color. Both should announcements. All addressing, blend with your bridal-party color stuffing and stamping should be scheme. completed in time to mail the 16 Decide upon the men’s attire. invitations four to six weeks before Accompany your fiancée to a the wedding. If you have an “A” and formal-wear specialty shop in your a “B” list, you may mail “A” eight locale to select what the groom, best weeks in advance. When you receive man, ushers and regrets, you may invite fathers will wear. people on “B” four 17 Register with weeks (and no less than Besides the reception, the bridal gift three weeks) before the most expensive parts registry in your the wedding. Prepare of the wedding are favorite store. Meet engagement rings ($6,163), maps and directions to with the director photography and video include with invitations. ($3,378), music ($1,297), of the registry and 20 Check with the post & wedding rings ($1,727). her trained staff for office for the postage help choosing your needed to mail the china, crystal, linens invitation when all the and other household pieces are enclosed in the envelope. preferences. Indicate engagement Purchase pretty “Love” stamps for an and shower gift choices, as well as appropriate wedding touch. wedding presents.

21 Schedule professional dance lessons 18 Reserve the location for your to make your first dance memorable. rehearsal dinner.

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22 Meet with the caterer to firm up the menu and all the details.

If any guests require special food, arrange that now. Be sure all your expectations are clearly defined in a written contract, which should include taxes, any service charges, and additional fees to bartenders and waiters, if not included in the package. Also, you should make certain that the location — which should be a licensed catering establishment — carries basic liability insurance.

23 Engage a baker to create a special wedding cake, if you want something more elaborate than what your caterer offers. Inquire about a cakecutting charge if you bring in the wedding cake from elsewhere.

24 Investigate having airconditioning in a tent when the

a wedding weekend. In advance wedding is to be held in warm of mailing invitations, write to weather. your guests and enclose the hotel 25 Plan a rehearsal dinner. Members information so they can make of the wedding party, their spouses, their reservations directly. Once fiancee’s or significant others should they arrive, have waiting for them be invited, along with both your a complete information packet, immediate families. If possible, invite including city maps, transportation out-of town guests, too. schedules and prices, sights to see and 26 Arrange accommodations for restaurants. An additional courtesy, attendants who do not live in town. included with this information, might If neither you nor any of your family, friends or neighbors be a refreshing basket have the facilities to of fruit, snacks or house them, make other food that your hotel reservations. region is known for. of marrying Your fiancée does 28 Ask a friend or couples choose to the same for his relative to check on write their attendants. your out-of-town own vows.

27 Reserve a guests to be sure they are comfortable and block of rooms at answer any of their a hotel for out-ofquestions. Provide that town guests. Most person’s name and phone number hotels offer discounts to guests for in your letter because you will be so busy those last few days.

29 Visit your florist with dress-color swatches to help with the selection of flowers for your wedding and reception. Ask about providing the aisle runner for the ceremony. Again, be sure everything is clearly itemized in a contractual agreement.

30 Decide on your honeymoon destination. Consult a travel agent.

Traditionally, the groom makes these arrangements, but if you’re better at that, don’t hesitate to offer.

31 Hire limousines or other specialty cars for the wedding party members.

32 Investigate resources for designing and printing a program to distribute at the ceremony. Desktop publishing should make that possible at a reasonable cost to you.

33 Consult with your officiant about any restriction on photography and videography.

34 Discuss with helpful family or friends the possibility of their inviting out-of-town guests to dinner the night before the wedding, if you can’t include them at your rehearsal party.

Also, they might host a breakfast or lunch for travelers, if the wedding is late in the day.

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35 Compile a list of all the friends and family members you would like to have invited to showers.

36 Tell the hostess for parties in your honor where you are registered.

That store may be indicated right on the shower invitation, but not on the wedding invitation.

37 Now’s the time to put your wedding invitations into the mail.

38 Record your wedding gifts as they arrive. Note the giver’s name, address, type of gift, date received and date you acknowledge them.

39 Write thank-you notes promptly.

Within two months of returning from your honeymoon, you should acknowledge all wedding gifts.

40 Call to confirm the exact date plan the selections you and your and time of rehearsals with your fiancée want, from your song to the officiant. Notify attendants and dance tempo you expect them to family of the time and place. maintain. Plan a variety of songs so 41 Send out all invitations to the there’s something older guests will rehearsal dinner. enjoy as well as what’s hot among 42 Plan a get-together party for your your peers. Caution the musicians attendants. about excessive volume — it can 43 Select gifts for wedding ruin a reception. Tell them about attendants. Your fiancée does the any ethnic favorites you may want same for his. so they’ll be familiar with the music.

44 Begin trousseau shopping for Inquire about breaks, continuous lingerie, honeymoon music and overtime. clothes and other Get it all in writing. items you’ll need The reception 50 Speak with the depending on where accounts for caterer about the food you plan to live. you want to serve to 45 Purchase a pretty your photographer wedding guest book of wedding costs, and musicians. for friends and with an average price tag Something simple to family to sign at the of $12,343. eat, a beverage and reception. a place to sit that’s 46 Check with local away from your authorities to see guests are considered sufficient. whether a blood test is needed for a 51 Meet with the person handling marriage license. your reception and firm up every 47 Make an appointment with your detail. If rental equipment is required, doctor for a complete physical. See make arrangements for it. your dentist, too.

52 Select your wedding ring(s).

48 Meet with the organist and Arrange for engraving. anyone else you have asked to play 53 Set a date with your or sing at the service to determine the photographer for a formal bridal music. portrait to be made four weeks 49 Meet with the musicians or DJ before the wedding. engaged to play at the reception to

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54 Discuss having a portrait of both of you done for the newspaper announcement. This is an alternative to the traditional formal newspaper photo. Or you may submit a wedding photo of the two of you taken on your wedding.

55 Check with your local newspaper for the form and timing of your wedding-announcement submission.

56 Select party favors to present to your guests to thank them for sharing your happiness. For this purpose, a groom’s cake, in a traditional fruitcake or deep, rich chocolate, may be ordered from your baker. Guests take a piece home in little boxes.

57 Give thought to your cake top.

Porcelain figurines are beautiful and will be a lasting memento. A creative baker will most likely have other ideas to present to you.

58 Talk about ways to personalize your ceremony and then discuss your ideas with the officiant.

59 Check with the church sexton and manager of the reception location for accessibility to accommodate handicapped or elderly guests. Inform ushers of this.

60 Buy fake rings to sew on your ring bearer’s pillow. The best man carries the real ones.

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66 Make an appointment to have your hair styled just before your formal portrait is taken, and again the day 1 MONTH before or day of your wedding.

BEFORE THE WEDDING 67 Check apparel for the wedding party. Have bridesmaids’ gowns fitted.

61 Finalize plans with your Get swatches of material and have photographer and draw up a list of shoes dyed to match. If any attendants pictures you definitely want taken live out of town, send their dresses during the ceremony and reception. to them to be fitted. Check mothers’ 62 Ask a relative or friend who dresses and accessories. knows the family well to help the 68 Call the caterer and make a final photographer identify the people to decision on the reception menu. Be sure be included in your photos, especially that the cake has been ordered. if there is a divorce or remarriage, or 69 Give your caterer a reliable estimate any type of sticky situation among the of the number of parents of the couple. guests expected 63 Develop an orderly at the wedding system of tracking guests’ Recent trends in reception, so responses and any special wedding planning they can give information you need to indicate September and you a written remember.

October to be the confirmation of most popular 64 Discuss the bachelor months to get married. cost per person party with your fiancée. with an itemized Suggest the event be accounting - to the scheduled at least a week smallest detail - of before the wedding day so what they promise to provide. there’s plenty of time to recover from 70 Confer with the florist to be sure the revelry. everything is ordered.

Confirm the 65 Have a final fitting on your gown time that flowers will be delivered and and make certain it will be ready to decorations will be completed. take to your bridal-portrait sitting.

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71 Arrange a transportation schedule for those in the wedding party.

72 Select a special wedding gift to give each other.

73 Go over all procedures of the wedding ceremony and receiving line with each other.

74 Make seating plans for the rehearsal dinner, ceremony and reception.

75 Write out place cards, if you plan to have a bride’s table and a parent’s table.

Also complete table number cards for guests if you’re hosting a sit-down dinner.

76 Decide which members of the wedding will be included in the receiving line and plan their positions.

77 Keep gift checklist up to date, and write thank-you notes daily.

78 Consult professional movers for estimates to move your gifts and personal belongings to another town, if you’re relocating.

79 Make certain you are insured against damage or loss in transit.

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80 Set a date with your fiancée to get

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1. Say “I love you” at least daily. 2. Hold Hands. 3. Celebrate the little/big things 4. Be a couple not married singles. 5. Don’t worry - solve problems together 6. Tell your spouse how important she/he is to you. 7. Talk, but don’t smother your spouse. 8. Laugh/cry together.

9. Go to bed nightly with a prayer and kiss. 10. Give each other space, but share closeness. 11. Enjoy your friends and family. 12. Go out on dates and “get-away” together.

13. Make time for life - work will always be there 14. Compromise works 15. Trust each other.

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your marriage license.

81 Be sure that the clothing and accessories for all members of the bridal party are in order.

82 Check with the society editor of your local newspaper and your groom’s hometown paper to find out what form they wish you to follow to submit your wedding announcement and photograph. Mail the materials soon.

83 Change your name on your bank account, Social Security card, license, insurance and other important documents, if you are assuming your husband’s name.

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84 Finalize your rehearsal dinner arrangements.

85 Wrap gifts purchased for your attendants and groom.

Present them at the rehearsal party.

86 Make plans to transport any gifts brought to the reception to your parents’ home or other designated place.

87 Call guests who have not responded to their invitation to ask if they’ll be attending.

88 Add last-minute acceptances and phone your caterer with the final guest count.

89 Confirm ceremony vocalists and musicians, and recheck your musical selections.

90 Arrange your gift display. All cards should be removed.

Checks are not displayed, but a card stating “Check from Aunt Louise” may be substituted. Insure gifts.

91 Invite friends and relatives to drop by to see your gifts.

92 Present a small gift or note of appreciation to friends and relatives who did special favors that made planning run smoothly.

93 Do a final check on details with your florist, caterer, sexton, clergy, musicians and photographer.

94 Finalize your honeymoon plans and begin packing.

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95 Have a manicure, pedicure and even a massage to pamper yourself and help you feel relaxed.

96 Attend the rehearsal. Review all important duties with the principals in the wedding party.

97 Give ushers the list of guests to be seated in the reserved section.

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99 Allow plenty of time to dress - about two hours before the ceremony begins, if possible.

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