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CONTENT Unsung Heroes 08 Crusaders For A Cure

ASK Lisa

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Are You An “Only”?

On The Lighter Side

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The Value of Hard Times

Jesse & Carmen

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Caregivers Can Switch Places

26 The Enemy Within

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Sex Education In Excess

30 Community Heartbeat Heartline & Daily Living Centers

32 We The People

The Subversion of Patriotism

Living With Purpose 24 36 Better With Age A Time For Every Season

Use Gratitude To Overcome

38 Homemade Skin Care Make The Best For Less!

40 Learn Herbal Alternatives Rosemary For Remembrance

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44 Cannacian’s Corner Dementia Triple Threat

46 Remember When Autumn Meant Fun?

46 On the Cover:

This month CAREGIVER magazine wants to extend a special thank you to Eunice, Herb, Joan, and Jonathan. We honor them and thank them for their selfless hard work to shed light on dementia and Alzheimer’s Disease. They have helped so many families going through the difficulties of coping with this devastating illness. Each year countless dedicated volunteers work tirelessly to support the Oklahoma Alzheimer’s Association in their effort to bring awareness about the disease and raise funds for research to find a cure for the disease. The four exceptional people on the cover this month have dedicated their lives to being part of finding that cure. Their stories of triumph over tragedy are inspiring. CAREGIVER magazine supports them in their efforts and we’re proud to introduce them to our CAREGIVER family.

Meet them for yourself on Page 8.

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Dear Readers, As we round the corner into fall, we can take solace in the constancy of nature. The trees will show off their splendor all swept up in autumn’s glory and begin to shed their leaves. With each crisp morning, that does my soul good to see; knowing fall brings winter and winter brings forth a new year. I dare to express doubt that anyone will be sad to say “farewell” to 2020.

Life is a winding road that has many twists, turns, and potholes along the way, that truth has never felt more accurate. May you always remember where you’ve been and never lose sight of where you are going remembering along life’s highway to treat others with love and kindness.

In this issue, we are honoring families stricken by Dementia and Alzheimer’s Disease. What a mournful, crippling disease for all whose lives are ravaged by it.

The entire staff of CAREGIVER Magazine has a deep, intimate knowledge - and personal story of family taken too soon in a state of dwindling confusion, anxiety, and ultimate loss of self and life. We have all struggled with the cruelty, heartache, and the aftermath that follows, first hand in our own lives.

I want to thank all those involved in getting this magazine to press and to our readers (that we are grateful and honored to serve). This magazine would not be possible if not for our advertisers, mostly small business owners. They are part of the 2% of the population who took that scary leap of faith to become a business owner. These Oklahomans are individuals with the tenacity, character, and courage to pursue the American dream. It is a challenging time for the industry that serves and cares for the aging. Keep them in your prayers (and while you’re at it, give one of them a call and get a personal question answered, or just thank them for supporting the CAREGIVER mission).

We are in a fast-changing world that is filled with more questions than answers on most days.

The staff and I are mission focused on providing options and support to you in all the choices you face during these chaotic times. I am very thankful to everyone on the staff. They are some of the finest, most dedicated, insightful people I have ever had the privilege to know and work with. Each of them is filled with compassion and patriotism for this country in which we are blessed to live, serving a readership we love. Each issue, the writers bring forth what is on their consciousness to write about and you may have noticed that some of our content has taken a more serious tone. We strive to be genuine and relevant in the times we find ourselves. I hope you find CAREGIVER thought provoking, and helpful, in navigating this twisted road we find ourselves traveling.

May God bless you and your family. May you find peace, joy, and humor in the little things each day while living your life to it’s fullest. May we all be humble, grateful, and truly value everything we have been given - and try to be a blessing to others along our journey.

Sincerely,

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CRUSADERS FOR A CURE Meet four crusaders on a mission to find a cure for Alzheimer’s. All of the people featured here have personally felt the pain of this devastating disease, each losing loved ones in their lives who have had their whole being stolen from them by this silent killer. Each has felt helpless and alone, ultimately finding a way to comfort, cope, and heal emotionally by turning to the Alzheimer’s Association. Each has made a commitment to help in their own unique way to honor the memory of their loved ones, doing their part to make a difference, choosing to harness all their pain and frustration for good.

Still Deeply Devoted

By John Spivey

Herb became active with the Association shortly after Gail’s diagnosis. But after her death, he decided that he had a unique opportunity to help others with this cruel disease. He is a Board Member of the Alzheimer’s Association Oklahoma Chapter and he served on the committee to rewrite Oklahoma’s Alzheimer’s Plan.

He has been a dedicated volunteer for the OKC Walk to End Alzheimer’s and was Chair of the Walk for two years. Only nine individuals in the entire nation have raised more money for this cause than he has. In seven years, he has raised more than $450,000. All this from the self described “reluctant fundraiser”.

I first met Herb Magley at the Alzheimer’s Association. My sister, Mary, had been diagnosed with Younger Onset Alzheimer’s at the age of 52, and I was searching for something, anything, to help my family through this nightmare. This happens to be exactly what brought Herb there as well.

His wife, Gail, had been diagnosed with the same disease at the age of 54 and for eleven years, he served as her caregiver. In 2015, one month before their 45th wedding anniversary, his companion and best friend passed away.

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“Yes”, Herb laughed. “I had to be dragged into that duty. When I first got involved with the Association, I attended their support group. The lady who spearheaded our group said, you know, we keep saying that this has saved our lives. We should do something in return. Another member said, “They have a walk.”

So I said, “I’m willing to walk.” And then another said, “There’s one more part to this. Fundraising.”

“My immediate response was, no! I’m not doing that. We went round and round and after a few months, they said, well, you could at least raise enough money to buy your shirt so you can walk with us. And I thought; I’d like to find the guy who put the fun in fundraising. Finally, I called up my dad, my brother and sister and by the time they got done, we had achieved Champion status.

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Over time, I realized that the biggest draw for me in doing this was [in] all the mistakes I made, all the landmines I stepped on, trying to be a caregiver for a disease I knew nothing about. I’m a geologist and as a scientist, reason and logic answered every question in my world. But here, it answered no questions and caused all kinds of problems when I tried to use that in the world of Alzheimer’s.

I thought that there’s just no reason for someone else to make all the mistakes I made. So I created a list of all the things I learned and as I traveled the country, advocating for the Association, I began to pass it out to other caregivers. By now, I estimate that over 1000 people have seen this. It’s not an Alzheimer’s checklist, it’s specifically for caregivers. It’s called “The 25 Rules for Alzheimer’s Caregivers”.

People don’t know that one out of three caregivers die before the person they’re taking care of dies of the disease. And the older that caregiver is, the worse that statistic gets. So my focus, what I became passionate about, was taking care of caregivers - and the Alzheimer’s Association has created programs for this as well. We offer three things - free-counseling, free courses online and support groups. If we get caregivers to do these three things, we don’t lose them.

The support groups are especially helpful. Early on, I wasn’t sure about going to a support group. But a person told me that if you want to learn about this disease, you need to go to one because the people there probably know more about Alzheimer’s than the doctor treating your loved one.”

And the rest is history.

“As of now, I’ve started four support groups. I’m working on three more and they will each have a different emphasis. One will be for those who have the disease and are in the early stage. The problem is that for a lot of people in this stage, they are in denial and don’t want to be a part of a group.

Concerning research, six years ago, we were getting almost $500 million a year. Now, thanks to lobbying efforts, we are getting around $2.5 billion.

And what we’re really wanting to accomplish is early intervention. Right now, too many people will have had the disease for 10 or 15 years before they start to show symptoms. We are working on a blood test right now that will give us pre-clinical information to detect it early on.

As far as new medications, drugmakers Biogen and Eisai set the Alzheimer’s world on fire with news that their experimental drug - BAN2401 - has shown positive results in human patients. It clears the toxic beta amyloid proteins from the brain and significantly slows the rate of mental decline. Beta amyloid is a protein we all have - it is

the main component of the sticky plaques that build up in the brains of Alzheimer’s patients.”

When I was involved volunteering at the Alzheimer’s Association, I worked with some amazing, dedicated people.

One day, a man walked in with some outlandish clothes and a big, silly, floppy hat. I asked a secretary, “Who in the world is that?” She replied, “Oh, that’s Herb. He’s helping us prepare for the Walk.”

I interacted with him at committee meetings, and other functions. He is a soft-spoken man whose easygoing humor makes people laugh. I learned that he was caring for his wife but what I didn’t know was that his father-in-law died from the disease as well.

“In one of my support groups,” he said, “one of the members came up to me and said, you know, I finally figured out what you remind me of. It’s that song called “Tears Of A Clown”.

Here you are, trying to make us laugh.” And another said, “Yes, his job is to make sure that we never get too low.”

It’s one of his 25 Rules for Caregivers. Humor is an important survival tool. The following story is one of Herb’s favorites.

“Even after Gail was diagnosed, we would travel. And my daughter and I would put her between us. One day we were

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on a flight and the only seats I could get together was a middle seat for my daughter, an aisle seat for Gail and the other aisle seat for me. We took off and it was time to get some rest. Then I noticed a lady walking up from the back of the plane. She stopped at the row in front of ours.

And she just stood there, glaring at me. Soon, it became uncomfortable and so I looked up at her and I’ll tell you, she looked like she wanted to rip me out of my seat and throw me off the plane. Then she turned around and literally

stomped her way back to her seat.

I looked at my daughter and she was doubled over with laughter. And I said, when you get done laughing, could you tell me what just happened here? She said, yeah, when she walked by, Mom smacked her on the butt and she thought it was you!”

When writing for CAREGIVER, I try to find a quote that captures the essence of the story. In this case, I think the story speaks for itself.

“When he was diagnosed, obviously he was devastated. The hardest thing for him was not being able to drive anymore; they took his keys the day he found out. Megan moved in to help with the daily living and we kept him home for almost five years. The last six months he went to a nursing home when his doctors forced me to move him. I planned to keep him home forever, but that just wasn’t possible. I was a widow at 56.” As Joan shares how incredibly difficult the decision to trust daily care of her beloved husband to others was, the emotions heard in her voice just break your heart.

Alzheimer’s is a progressive disease, robbing the patient of their ability to function in many areas. Russ was a reader; held two Master’s degrees, history and English, and was a licensed pilot. He was a member of Mensa. Mensa is a social organization with one entrance requirement; you must score in the top 2% of the population on a standardized intelligence test. Reading was important in Russ’ life; he and those who loved him were devastated when Alzheimer’s took away his ability to read.

Crafting A Legacy

By Lisa Sydnor

Joan Clarke never considered the possibility she would be a widow at 56. Russ was her best friend, her confidant, and her husband for 35 years. Russ was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in January 2003, with a life expectancy prognosis of three to five years. That day, their world changed forever. Russ died in October 2007. Joan speaks of her time with Russ with joy and love, remarking on their friendship and how much she misses her friend. Her commitment to Alzheimer’s Association is an expression of that love.

“We originally thought Russ had a hearing problem. I would say things to him and he would forget to do them, we assumed he just didn’t hear us. His doctor told us it wasn’t his hearing and he needed to see a neurologist.”

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Megan Nye, one of their daughters, shared; “My twenties were spent baby proofing the house, preparing meals for a very picky eater, buckling seat belts, finding shoes with Velcro, keeping candy in my purse for meltdowns, and having the same TV show on repeat. You’d think I was describing my then two year old, but sadly no, I am describing my brilliant father who achieved two masters’ degrees before living with the horrifying disease of Alzheimer’s. I spend all year, every year, working on The Santa Market in hopes that one day it will only be our children needing this level of care.”

Russ taught middle and high school and gave private flying lessons. He and Joan became well established and well respected private investigators. They have four children and eight grandchildren from ages 3-24. Joan now lives with one of their daughters, Megan, and her two children, Colin (13 years) and Bridget (16 years).

Joan gives credit to a support group in Edmond and specifically to Ginger Walker, the Alzheimer’s Association, and Molly Nye (Megan’s mother-in-law) as the last two years of Russ’ life were extremely difficult while the family struggled with daily life. Ginger’s understanding and unconditional support gave Joan courage, helping her learn to face life one-day-at-a-time. Knowing you are not alone, that others understand your grief as you lose your loved one

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twice – once to the disease and then again in death – is so important.

Joan began looking for new ways to be productive and have a purpose. Her love of crafts brought her into contact with many others crafters. Joan, their daughter Megan, and long-time friend Molly Nye decided to host a crafts fair.

The first two years, The Santa Market, was held in Edmond Community Room and free to the public. In 2010, the third year of the fair, they decided to make it a fundraiser, choosing the Alzheimer’s Association to be the recipient of all proceeds. Much to their surprise they presented Alzheimer’s Association with $3,000! And, so the legacy grows, taking on a life of its own in this tale of loss, grief, love, purpose and success!

The Clarke and Nye families involve all of the children and grandchildren in this year-round venture. Since 2012, they have raised over $130,000 for the OKC Alzheimer’s Chapter. Attendance has grown from around 200 attendees to over 4,600 in 2019. As they plan for 2020, keeping social distancing in mind, no one really knows what to expect for attendance or donations. Based on the history and a loyal support base, I predict another successful event - topping last year’s numbers. The Santa Market is scheduled for November 21 & 22, 2020. With vendor registration already over 180, you can expect quality merchandise and great fun at The Santa Market this year.

Bridget and Colin Nye told me, “We are lucky enough to have grown up with The Santa Market. Every year, the weekend of The Santa Market brings together our entire family. It is something that all of our cousins, on both sides of the family, plan to continue long after our grandmothers have retired.” (Molly Nye is Megan’s mother-in-law and a grandmother to Bridget and Colin.)

The Santa Market is a 501(c) 3 non-profit staffed entirely by volunteers. It has grown from 30 vendors to over 180.

Because of the growth, Edmond Community Center could no longer hold the event. It moved to the State Fairgrounds in the Pavilion Building. In 2020, due to social distancing requirements, the event will be held in the Pavilion and the Centennial Buildings. The Santa Market has always been free to the public: no entry fee and free parking.

“I want to give back after everything the Oklahoma Alzheimer’s group did; for dad, for mom, for my siblings, and for me too. Dad would want to keep helping others with this terrible affliction.” ~ Adam Clarke

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“Dad always said, “live life to the fullest” and I can’t think of a better way to show that than with The Santa Market - and with all the friendships we have developed and support given to the families impacted by this disease.” ~ Tim Clarke

ways to create purpose in our lives. Joan will never “get over” losing the love of her life; but, she has moved onward, giving new purpose to her life; engaging family and friends, and is supporting the Association as it supports all Alzheimer’s affected families - while continuing the quest for the cure.

What a legacy Russ Clarke left this world - his family and friends - who then created The Santa Market. He has to be so proud of how they have come together to support their mom and by doing so found an important life lesson; the end of one life journey leads to exploring and employing new

The event has outgrown what Joan’s extended family of volunteers can cover. Maybe you want to help too? For information on The Santa Market or to volunteer, contact Joan at 405-314-1033 or email thesantamarket@gmail.com.

achieve for their family. His neurologist told him he could no longer work and should apply for Social Security Disability.

Susan went back to work as a full-time teacher. Friends and family stepped in to help. “My hope and prayer is that no other family has to deal with a diagnosis like this and that someday there will be a cure.”

Jonathan reflected back, “I remember when they sat us all down to explain to the siblings that my dad had been diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer’s, I had no idea what it meant or what it would be like for my dad. But I remember thinking that day that sometime, when I grew up, I was going to be a part of helping make sure that nobody else has to go through this.

As I was growing up, watching the disease progress in my dad, around the time that I was getting my driver’s license was about the same time my dad could no longer drive. That was kind of the first major intersection where I saw how his mental decline was [bringing him to a place] below that of mine, or like high school students. I saw that he was losing the ability to do other things, like get ready in the morning, fix himself food, get a shower, all that.

Throwing Discs at Dementia

By Michael Edward Browning Paul Foster was at the top of his game rounding the halfcentury mark, surrounded by all the typically desired blessings of a life lived successfully; a loving family, executive-level career, active in church, kid’s hobbies, and home life.

Helping him do all that, I just asked, ‘How can I be a part of something that helps other people going through this?’ Because you feel so alone. Even though we had so many friends and family helping us through the situation, you just feel alone - because I didn’t really know anybody else that was going through this.”

“He passed away March third, but for this last year and a half I don’t think he really recognized us. There was a couple times, he would smile, or like, his eyes would light up, but…It was just hard. Like each day, not knowing if that was going to be the day...” Paul’s middle child, Jonathan, chokes up at this memory of dreading the day his dad would forget who he was.

Jonathan Foster was in fifth grade when Paul was diagnosed at 50 with Early Onset Alzheimer’s Disease. The diagnosis rocked the well-knit world of the Foster family that included his older brother Nicholas and younger sister Victoria (in the ninth and third grades at the time). Mother Susan had been happily nurturing the family as a stay at home mom. Paul supported his family as VP of Finance at a large OKC hospital.

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The Foster family had enjoyed sunny days together on the treed disc golf course found at Edmond’s Mitch Park. Entering high school, at this formative life stage, Jonathan took it upon himself to help others who face life with Alzheimer’s by embracing a fundraising idea with elements of familiarity and challenge much like the 18 holes comprising a Disc Golf Course.

“I started playing disc golf in the eighth grade; then me, my dad and my brother and sister would go out and play semifrequently.”

Trying to figure out a way to get philanthropically involved, he reached out to OKC Disc Golf Association to help run a local event and get a look behind the scenes. The following year,

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Throwing For A Cure (an event to raise funds and awareness) was launched off the tee pad.

“I was 17 when I ran the event (in 2017) where we had about 30-something people raising $4,300, and I was just blown away by the support of the disc golf community - and all my friends and family that helped me run it. I was just blown away.

I had no idea it would be as successful as it was. Now, each year, pretty much from the day after it ends, I begin planning for the next year and finding ways how I can improve upon it. The first two years it wasn’t sanctioned, but the past two years it’s been sanctioned by the Pro Disc Golf Association as a C-tier event.

We’ve drawn a lot more local pros out. The sanctioned events are more prestigious and they have to follow more rules. With that, the pros get cash payouts, and amateurs get payouts and then each round gets a “player rating” which affects your overall player rating (on your player profile in the PDGA).

This past year (May 19, 2020) we had 56 players. That was the most we’ve had compete so far. I was pretty happy - especially since what all that’s going on with the Coronavirus and stuff.

Also, three of Oklahoma’s biggest disc golf events were the three weekends before.”

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“Just more awareness and fundraising to help Alzheimer’s Association to fulfill their mission. Seeing my dad go from a very successful, hardworking, loving father that was at all our

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soccer games and anything we did, cheering us on to...just…at first it was such a slow decline but it was just the little things you would notice like his not knowing where to put back dishes or, as he wasn’t able to properly dress himself in the morning - or even whenever he lost his ability to actually talk or hook coherent thoughts together. It was just hard seeing someone, in such a short time frame…when I’m in the years that I’m growing and developing the most and him doing the exact opposite. It taught me a lot about what’s important.

Especially at the beginning, I felt like I wish I had spent more time with him, asking him questions about his life. But even later, just holding his hand as we walked around. Just spending that time together.”

“I didn’t know Non-Profit Management was a major until my sophomore year [at OSU in Stillwater], but as soon as I found out I said, ‘Yes, I’m definitely going to do this!’ So I did an internship with Alzheimer’s Association this past summer, which increased my love for all that they do. I think going through this experience, I can’t imagine myself doing anything else other than just devoting my life to helping others who are in similar situations, and hopefully one day, nobody else will have to go through it.”

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Broyles but nothing about Alzheimer’s. She picked up the book and when she got home, read it cover-to-cover. With tears, she kept hearing herself saying, “Yes, that’s what Daddy had!”

She was so impressed with this small but impactful book she called the Coach’s office to ask if he would agree to an interview on her KTOK radio show, Well Preserved. Much to her surprise, Coach Broyles enthusiastically said he would be honored. Thus began a partnership, and a deep friendship, between the Broyles family and Eunice.

Call Eunice Khoury

By Lisa Sydnor This was the advice from the person I had contacted about how to get in touch with seniors in Oklahoma. Foolishly, I said, “Who is Eunice Khoury?”

“Her name is synonymous with serving seniors. How do you not know Eunice?”

The person on the phone asked me, incredulously. That was in 2012, when I had taken a new position serving seniors. I can’t tell you how many times I have called Eunice since then: sometimes to pick her brain, others to ask for help. Eunice is one of the most gracious and caring people you are ever likely to meet. She is committed to providing information and encouragement to seniors and caregivers.

Eunice founded Well Preserved Advisory Group (which specializes in Medicare, long-term care and retirement planning) in 1989. Her son joined the firm in 2009.

Together, they share their expertise, encouraging all to plan ahead – at every age.

For years no one knew the truth about Alzheimer’s.

As we aged, we were labeled as being cantankerous or ornery or mean-spirited, or just old. In the 1970’s, Eunice Khoury was a working mom raising two young children while caring for her aging father. When she asked the doctors what was going on with him – well – see the above.

All her concerns were brushed aside and she was told it was the normal aging process. Her father wrecked his truck and eventually couldn’t drive. It was an impossible situation.

The situation continued spiraling downward until her father’s death in 1998.

Fast forward to 2006, Eunice was in Arkansas and saw a book titled “Coach Broyles Playbook for Alzheimer’s Caregivers” written by Coach Frank Broyles. Being a die-hard football fan, an Arkansan, and loyal supporter of the Arkansas Razorbacks, Eunice knew all about Coach 14 CAREGIVER Magazine

The Alzheimer’s Association became a focus for Eunice as she shared with her radio audience the many resources available to them. She has worked tirelessly as a fundraiser for Alzheimer’s Association in Oklahoma. Her radio program has been on for 18 years, airing on KTOK, each Saturday at 9 a.m. That was when I learned of her passion for sharing and helping anyone facing Alzheimer’s disease. Just as the radio show has provided her an avenue for disseminating information, the free Oklahoma State Conference on Aging (held at Crossings Community Church for the past three years) has engaged and empowered Oklahoma’s over 55 population. Much like her radio show subject matter, this conference addresses all the important issues that senior adults face on a daily basis.

At the September 2020 virtual conference, presentations from Ray Walker, Medicare Assistance Program; Jose Olivera, Social Security; Elaine Dodd, Oklahoma Banking Association; Lisa Mussert and Jackie Whitten, Oklahoma Department of Veteran Affairs; Gary Mercer, Mercer Adams; and Blair Schoeb, Areawide Aging, contained up-to-the-minute information vital for seniors. Each year a nonprofit organization has been selected as the recipient of a donation from the conference; Alzheimer’s Association has been among those chosen.

During her journey in learning about Alzheimer’s, Eunice met Joan Clarke and heard about The Santa Market. Russ Clarke, Joan’s husband of 35 years, succumbed to Alzheimer’s in 2007.

Joan looked for a way to bring new purpose to her life and thus began The Santa Market. Since 2012, the proceeds from The Santa Market have supported Alzheimer’s Association. The amazing craft exhibition not only put new “purpose” in Joan’s life; it also brings attention to Alzheimer’s and the resources available to families rising to the challenge of caregiving for an Alzheimer’s patient. Eunice (as Well Preserved Advisory Group) is one of many core supporters of The Santa Market mission.

While Eunice sits on several boards, her commitment to the Broyles Foundation Board of Directors is a priority as she helps to continue fulfilling the goal of Coach Broyles, who on his deathbed in September 2017, asked,

“Are we making a difference in people’s lives?” For Coach Broyles,and for Eunice, the answer is a simple, “Yes.” For more information on Well Preserved, or upcoming conferences, contact 405-848-5790. For a copy of Coach Broyles Playbook for Alzheimer’s Caregivers go to: www.broylesfoundationplaybook.org.

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By Lisa Sydnor

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Are you an “ONLY”?

Have your loved ones gone to their heavenly home before you? Are you the “last leaf” on your limb of the family tree? Does anyone in your family live near - within 100 miles of - you?

I am not an ONLY; however, my friend, Kris, is an ONLY since the death of her husband 20 months ago. She lives alone and her closest relatives live out of state. As we were talking about the differences between us, she mentioned the need for an ONLY support group she’s proposing to start at her church.

“We’re not “Lonelies”, we “ONLY’s” are happy with different needs.

We simply have no family here in Oklahoma.”

During unsettling times - like we face today - weather challenges, even holidays – whenever the need, an ONLY support group checks in on each other as extended family members. I have other friends who are in the “ONLY” category. They wonder how to advise family and friends both in and out-of-state - in case of illness or death. If that is your circumstance, here are suggestions.

These options are good for everyone. Shared responsibility among several friends or family members alleviates stress. We are all familiar with prayer chains; this is a “friend well-being chain”. If you become ill, there are friends and distant family, who want to know. Who is the “go to” person you call FIRST when you are ill? That person should activate the “Friend Alert”.

They make one phone call or text to Friend #1 activating the system to alert many. Friend #1 calls/texts Friends #2, #3, and #4 with the relevant information; each of these friends alerts their designated list. The lists shouldn’t be more than ten people, a manageable number. As circumstances evolve, messages are sent and those who care are aware and updated.

In the event of an emergency, who will take care of your beloved pet? Identify at least two options for your pets care. Talk with them beforehand. Tell them where written instructions can be found. Keep these instructions updated. Where is the food? Is your pet taking any medications? Is there someone to walk your pet daily? Be proactive and put all arrangements in writing. Pets get stressed and need their routine. In the event of extended disability, or your death, what happens to your pet?

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If a storm comes through, devastating our community and putting phone service out of commission, how do you let family and friends know your status? Identify two contacts, preferably not in Oklahoma, that you would alert as to your well-being. Give their email and phone numbers to friends and family. Keep their email and phone numbers in your disaster “go bag” which enables you to provide that information to rescuers - or for your use - to assure those who love you of your status.

WHAT? You don’t have a disaster “go bag”?

We’ll have to fix that situation!

Have you written down the details for - including who, what, when, where and how - you want your farewell services to be handled? Talk to your friends and/or extended family; identify who is willing and able to follow through as primary contact for final arrangements. This is where the need for help lies and is available. Many funeral homes offer complimentary services in this area.

Pre-plan. This isn’t being morbid; it is being proactive and thoughtful of those who love you.

NOW, ABOUT YOUR DISASTER “GO BAG” For information on disaster preparedness go to: www.redcross.org/about-us/our-work/disaster-relief.html Click on: GET HELP. Your disaster “go bag” should be packed and ready at all times.

I keep a week’s supply of all medications in my go bag.

My disaster bag is a backpack. For great information on disaster survival, or preparedness, bags go to this Red Cross website: https://www.redcross.org/get-help/howto-prepare-for-emergencies/survival-kit-supplies.html Some items to include in a water proof bag: copies of homeowners/renters, auto, medical insurance policies or cards; your passport; copy of birth certificate & valid ID; contact information for family and friends; list of medications and your doctors; other important papers.

Other items to include: first aid kit; flashlight and extra batteries; phone charger; water; snacks; manual can opener; nonperishable foods; toothbrush, toothpaste; personal care items; trash bags; change of clothing that includes long sleeves and long pants; shoes/boots appropriate to walk in debris; rain gear; weatherproof jacket; and, items for sanitizing your personal surroundings (paper towels, bleach, etc.).

Be disaster ready! Be prepared! Take care of you!

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The Value of Hard Times

I’m not sure what good I would make of it. Maybe sit and look at the stars, visit with Jesus - without all the interruptions, maybe rest, or even write my thoughts down (so I could maybe see what I’m thinking)?

What else is there about time that fascinates me?

Oh, yes, there are the times you want to live over and over again; in the tiny fingers of your children, the things that made you laugh until tears rolled down your cheeks, the moment you found the love of your life, when each second with them was heaven and each second away was torture. The proud moments when you reached so far above what you believed you could do, you felt that there was nothing you could not do. Well, with a few exceptions. We can’t all be brain surgeons (but then, I never really wanted to).

The wonderful times, all the births: some you waited for with such anticipation, others that shook you to the core, but all were embraced and loved upon arrival. The memories made with great friends, those special kinds of friends that were always there for you. The ones you expected to grow old with. Some will do just that while others will drift away. And of course, that’s ok too. It’s all paint in the picture of Time, as it passes by our eyes.

“On the Lighter Side”

By Humorist and Novelist Robbie Lamberson

Where do we go to find “time” enough? Enough, as in, “just right”. Not too long, not too short, but just right.

I’m not really sure that’s possible any more. It was different when I grew up, then there was so much of it, we didn’t know how to fill it all up. I think now for my grandchildren (and great grandchildren) there is so little time - they have almost none.

In their hearts humans plan their course, but the LORD establishes their steps. ~ Proverbs 16:9 I thought when I got older, Time would come back again, you know? Like it would hang around and I would struggle to find things to fill it with again, but that didn’t happen. Today, when my pastor asked what he could do for me, I asked him to pray for me to have one more hour each day. Isn’t that a strange thing to think of? I truly do need that extra hour, although 18

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Each “time”, each era, in your lifetime will appear different when viewed again from another age, or stage. What’s unthinkable in youth, laughed at in the teens and early twenties, increasingly feared in the middle of our lives, and then seems terrifying to a senior, these terrors too will pass - as all things do.

The problem is; we often view loved ones as they go through what they must, and then fear these things for ourselves. Nonsense of course, since it’s seldom the things we dread that actually happen to us. Fear drains us of our courage and, heaven forbid, our faith.

The bible says that suffering is actually a good thing. It seems the more we suffer here on this earth - then the more our rewards are in heaven. Sounds like a great plan to me. We trade a few tough moments in time, like grains of sand on a long beach, for an eternity of reward.

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looking forward to enjoying rewards for eternity, sounds very promising to me. The only problem is; I didn’t learn about the huge benefits until I was a great grandmother. Shoot, if I had known that you can’t out-give, out-love, or out-do the Lord, I’da started way back.

And let’s not forget the “hard times”, although I think I could have done without most of those. You don’t have to remind me that without them, how would I have learned to be strong during storms, to persevere, to comprehend others’ misery, to love despite, to forgive, to find that in those “times” there is nowhere to go but to crawl up on the Heavenly Father’s lap and let Him take over, and find great comfort in that Holy presence.

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” ~ John 16:33

There is something about the “hard times”, that doesn’t apply to any other “time”, and that is…sometimes you don’t know they are hard times unless someone tells you they are - or you live long enough to look far enough back to see that it was so. Are we experiencing hard times today? Who am I to say? If so, maybe it’s to trade for eternity.

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Caregivers Can Change Roles

By Lisa Sydnor

Jesse and Carmen Jackson grew up as PKs (Preacher’s Kids), their grandfathers and Jesses’ great grandfather pastored congregations. Jesse knew he did not want to be a pastor. As an ordained minister his focus was on Christian education; ministering to young boys and teens, guiding them in the ways of a Christian man. Carmen always dated Christian men, even those in the ministry, but refused to date anyone who wanted to be a Pastor.

She knew without a doubt she did not want to be a pastors’ wife (and raise their children to be second to the congregation).

earned her undergraduate and Master’s degrees from the University of Oklahoma. She worked at the Oklahoma Department of Corrections for more than 30 years, retiring in 2017. She served in several capacities, including; case manager I, II, case manager supervisor, a certified mediation facilitator (providing offenders and their victims the opportunity to meet and process the crime together to gain closure), local administrator for community sentencing (prison diversion program) and assistant district supervisor at Clara Waters Oklahoma City Community Treatment Center.

When Jesse finally gave in to the calling to minister to a congregation, Carmen, knowing that life would be different, embraced his calling. Jesse is the shepherd and spiritual leader of the congregation of the East Sixth Street Christian Church. Jesse had received his undergraduate degree from Murray State University in 1990 and later his Master of Divinity from Phillips Theological Seminary in Tulsa. Carmen had been attending East Sixth Street Church since 1980-something. Jesse joined in 1992, becoming the pastor in 1996. As PKs you learn that the needs of the congregation come first; even so, Jesse and Carmen focused on keeping family first. Thirty years later, the Jacksons continue to make it work!

Carmen Jackson attributes many skills and life lessons to her mother, Dr. JessCelia Nunley, PHD, RN. Dr. Nunley was a registered nurse and a tenured professor at the College of Nursing at the University of Oklahoma Health Science campus. She was a mother, a PK, as well as a pastor’s wife. One of the greatest skills Carmen learned from her mom was how to listen. Most of us don’t listen. They have a term for it now when people do – active listening. In 2002, at age 75, Dr. Nunley was diagnosed with breast and lung cancer. She underwent chemotherapy and radiation. She ultimately developed leukemia due to the simultaneous double doses of chemotherapy for lung and breast cancer. All four of Carmen’s brothers lived out-of-state, leaving the care of their mom up to Carmen. Being a strong minded, independent person, JessCelia maintained her own home and only during the very worst treatments (or sideeffects) would she agree to live with the Jacksons. She

Jesse is a bi-vocational minister. He teaches full-time in the Oklahoma City Public Schools while serving as pastor. This makes for a full schedule every day. Carmen

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always went back to her home. Aging-in-place, in her home, was a priority for Carmen’s mother.

For five years, the Jacksons cared for JessCelia. During that time, Carmen utilized her active listening skill to learn about these diseases, as well as processes and treatments her mother was undergoing. She kept a journal of every doctor visit, change in medication, symptoms and changes in behavior.

She learned to be The Advocate. Every patient needs an advocate; someone who asks the hard questions, demands answers and is apprised of any health related change by medical personnel. Caregivers are often the patient advocate for their loved ones; interpreting and reporting changes to the medical team, enabling that team to respond as needed.

As we have heard in other stories; disease, illness, pain and grief are catalysts for changes in behavior, often resulting in difficult situations. We hear of the five stages of grief mostly related to the death of a loved one. The loss of your health, losing your independence and learning to live with pain are also reasons for grief.

Perception of grief differs in every situation. Some may experience changes in temperament, outbursts of rage, deep depression, and sudden occurrences of manic “joy”, which makes life difficult for everyone.

Learning how to handle those changes can make a huge difference in how successful treatments are and how (or how much) medication is dispensed. Developing these skills certainly affects and improves the quality of life for the caregiver, care receiver and family.

As a pastor caring for others, too often you lose sight

of your own needs. Health can suffer, which is exactly what happened to Jesse. He will be the first to tell you, “As a Pastor, you don’t consider your own health.

Carmen asked me to slow down. But that wasn’t what I did. My schedule was full, overflowing. I took on too many commitments.”

In 2017, Jesse knew something was wrong; several doctors and multiple tests later Jesse finally got his answer. Brain tumor.

Operable. Prognosis: Good.

In December 2017, Jesse had a twelve-hour surgery to remove the brain tumor. He was told the tumor had been removed. Now, begins the healing process. With multiple medical teams caring for him, it soon became apparent that the teams were not collaborating. This is where Carmen stepped in to literally fire one of the surgery residents - due to his unwillingness to listen and cooperate with other medical teams. Carmen said, “Caring for my mother prepared me and taught me how to care and advocate for Jesse. He was so sick; so very weak. There were two surgical teams and they were not communicating. They were duplicating medications.”

Carmen insisted on getting a primary care physician on the hospital team to evaluate and coordinate all medications, tests and procedures. Carman shared, “He discontinued all except the brain medication for two days to clear Jesse’s system; they re-evaluated Jesse’s vitals with blood work and adjusted his

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six months of rehabilitation, under the ever vigilant and watchful eye of Carmen, Jesse went back to his teaching job and pastoring his congregation at East Sixth.

Then in 2018, Jesse began experiencing memory loss, again. His balance was off and he experienced inability to follow thought processes, reasoning was inconsistent. At 53, he knew his memory loss and inability to “remember” stuff was not age related. Not feeling well, knowing something was wrong, Jesse was evaluated and tested. In November 2018, he was informed another brain surgery to remove tumorous tissue would be necessary. After the first surgery, the surgeons said, “We got the tumor.”

What they didn’t say was a small portion was left in an area of the brain stem where they couldn’t remove it.

medication accordingly. Jesse got much better.” Jesse stated, “I couldn’t do anything for myself. I realized a full schedule of “important things” wasn’t important.

I couldn’t swallow, didn’t want to eat, and was at high risk for falls from dizziness and lack of balance.” After

2018, an eight hour surgery, and again they heard, “We got the tumor.” This time the question was, “All of it?”

This time the answer was, “All but a small portion we cannot remove.” Jesse underwent radiation on that remaining small portion of tumor and every six months has an MRI to measure the growth. At this time the reports are stable with no growth.

Based on his experience of recovering after the first

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surgery, Jesse did not anticipate a more difficult recovery.

A loss of vision, difficulty learning to perform simple tasks again, loss of balance and slurring of speech all came as a bolt of lightning. He was “cranky”, according to Carmen. Jesse admits it could be described as worse than cranky.

Jesse has had to change his management style. Prior to the second surgery, Jesse transferred some of his salary to an associate minister who filled the pastoral role giving Jesse time to heal and rehabilitate. Learning to delegate and trust others to carry out assignments has been another hurdle. It has been 18 months since the second surgery. Things are going better. Life is settling into a different routine. Jesse is meeting new challenges and learning new coping skills. He admits that his physical abilities are different and adjusts his daily routine to accommodate his physical stamina for that day. Attitude is everything. And, boy, does he have an attitude some days! But with Carmen and his children there by his side and a loving congregation who step up and fill in, he is practicing, “Let go and let God.” It often isn’t easy.

Caregiving duties were reversed in April 2020 when Carmen had surgery and needed care for a couple of

weeks. Jesse admits Carmen was a better patient!

Reversal of the roles gave both Carmen and Jesse a different perception and an appreciation for the challenges each faces.

A caregiver fills multiple roles including transporter, patient advocate, medicine tracker, and everything in between, including intimate care. Caregivers are the central point for reporting patient status to family and friends, the clearing house for information. Many caregivers also handle finances, cook, clean, and do laundry, not just for the one who is ill or aging, but for the entire family. They do all this and most often neglect caring for themselves.

The caregiver role requires the patience of Job, the nursing skills of Florence Nightingale, a degree in psychology, and... the ability to see the humor in all situations. Whether you are the care receiver or the caregiver, each is a difficult role. Jesse and Carmen recognize the need for self-care, delegating and accepting help. It has been a rough stretch; both are steadfastly on the road to full recovery, looking forward to the end of the quarantine so they can spend more time with their three grandchildren!

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Living With Purpose

It was a hasty decision. I didn’t think it through; and I didn’t understand yet what love truly was. But that marriage was blessed with three wonderful boys (being a mother is one of the greatest joys of my life). But there was pain and heartache in that marriage, and it was not meant to last. As time passed, I saw it as a season in my life and it was time to move on.

In 1988, my brother died in a terrible car wreck. It was the first death my immediate family had ever experienced. It changed me, and the way I viewed life. I understood now that loss happens to us all, learning not to take life for granted. The season changed and again, so did I.

To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven.

Ecclesiastes 3:1

A Time for Every Season

By Denise Heath When I was young, I made decisions based on my desires of the moment, as the young tend to do. Consequences were rarely considered; all I thought about was enjoying life. Sometimes my decisions turned out good, sometimes not. One of my greatest desires growing up was to be married. All I ever wanted was to be a wife, have children and live happily ever after. And so, right out of high school, I got married.

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During this period of my life, serving God and raising three boys on my own was never easy, even in the best of circumstances.

There was no child support for the boys and I didn’t make a lot of money. It was the four of us against the world. Looking back, even amidst hard and distressing times, I have many fond memories, many moments of great joy and laughter.

As they do, the seasons continued to change. In 1994, I witnessed the Oklahoma City bombing up close and personal. As a hospice chaplain, I labored with many others to help those who lost loved ones. Sadness filled the air as our eyes were opened to a

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world of agony, fear and despair.

None of us could comprehend that a horror like this could occur in our hometown. This season was defined by tragedy, and it would never fully go away.

Then, just seven years later, it was 9/11.

After Oklahoma City, never in my wildest dreams did I think that something like this would happen again. I flew to Manhattan many times that season, training ministers and caregivers.

Trauma, anxiety and grief consumed us as we helped them find a new normal, for life at Ground Zero (and everywhere else) was forever changed. It was a season of fear, and it too has never left me.

In 2003, I went to my high school reunion where I met a wonderful man, a classmate from so long ago. Happiness and laughter filled the air. We married, marking the beginning of a new season - and by the grace of God - it became a season of hope.

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One day not long ago, upon waking (and for what seemed like the longest time) I just lay there and pondered how quickly time flies by. My 94 year-old father passed away in January. My husband and I will be turning 66 in two months. My oldest son just turned 46.

It was only yesterday that my sons were babies and I could tell them what to do. Now, they’re married. They have children of their own and (when they’re not telling me what to do) they get to tell their children what to do.

As I look at my life and wonder - could I have tried harder, done more, been wiser in my decisions?

Was I a good and faithful servant of God? Does God say, “this is my beloved child, in whom I am well pleased”, when looking upon my life?

We all fall short of God’s glory. The good news is that Christ died for our sins. We are forgiven!

Each day is a new beginning, a new day to glorify God. Will we use this day for good, or not? The choice is ours. The choice I make is trying not to look back on my life with regrets. I just want to say that I served my Lord and did my best.

So, for you too, start fresh today. Tell those around you how special they are, how much you love them and how proud you are of them. Help someone you encounter in need. Talk to God. Finally, learn to love yourself as God loves you. At least try! Then laugh, and then laugh some more. As Mark Twain instructed us, dance as if no one is watching. Live as if there is no tomorrow.

For today, this season, is all we really have!

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The Toughest of Topics

By John Spivey

Sex Education In Excess The world is a dangerous place to live: not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don’t do anything about it. ~ Albert Einstein In 1995, I wrote a column for The Daily Oklahoman titled Parenting Solo. Over the next five years, I publicly shared my experiences as a single parent. I had a lot of fun recounting the trials of a young father who, at least initially, was out of his element. Of the many stories I told, among my favorites were tales of going back to school after summer break.

For a kid, those three blissful months of freedom were the ultimate recess. Not so for the working parent. I remember commiserating with others - Lord, I can’t wait for my kids to go back to school! Today, in the age of COVID, I look back on those times and shake my head. How much simpler it was.

And how things have changed.

Now that we are well into the new school year, we see that COVID has transformed what used to be a simple, welcome and fun part of our children’s lives into a chaotic nightmare.

I’ve observed this with family members who have little ones and all I can say with my current perspective is; I’m glad I’m an empty nester.

As if COVID wasn’t challenge enough, lurking in the background is a threat to our children that I would not have believed possible had I not seen the evidence with my own eyes. I have learned that there is a new curriculum that many of our schools have adopted, (in fact, it is already well established in as many as 27 states). It’s called CSE, or Comprehensive Sex Education. But understand; it may be named something different, depending on where you live.

Radio Hall of Fame and TV personality, Glenn Beck, recently aired an expose of this on his network, The Blaze, and it is horrifying, unthinkable. You can see it on YouTube under the title, Brainwashed, The Radical Sex Agenda Corrupting Your Kid. The curriculum was developed from a United Nation’s program called International Technical Guidance on Sexuality Education. In the clip, Beck interviews two guests.

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- a non-profit organization dedicated to fighting global sex trafficking. Early in his life, his sister was kidnapped and made a sex slave. He has fought this scourge ever since.

He describes how cartoons in these new schoolbooks show naked men, women and children in pornographic poses, designed to educate children on human anatomy. This is being taught to children as young as four years old. Sex experimentation is supported. Children in third grade are encouraged to engage in mutual masturbation so as to provide an awakening as to what a healthy sexual partner would look like.

How is this getting into our schools?

Rebecca Friedrichs is President of For Kids & Country.

Her mission statement reads - Uniting, Engaging and Empowering Parents, Teachers, Students, and Citizens in the Fight for our Schools and Country. She is a former teacher from California who is fighting school boards and teacher’s unions across the nation, revealing them for the “dangerous frauds that they are”. She details this in her book Standing Up To Goliath.

The California Healthy Youth Act was the bill that brought CSE to the state. A fleet of progressive organizations supported it, such as the ACLU and Planned Parenthood, to name just a few. Incredibly, the following unions also stepped up - The California Teachers Association, the California State PTA and the California School Boards Association.

In 2013 - seven years ago - Rebecca received an email from an enraged parent. The subject line read - “The Latest Horror”. She was referring to a curriculum named, Making Proud Choices. This one was developed by Planned Parenthood. In it was a program called The Condom Relay Race.

Teachers instruct fifth grade students to line up in teams, mixed company of course - since they are no longer allowed to assume a student’s gender. The teacher then sets on the table, anatomically correct, fully erect penis models. These are eleven year olds, mind you. As the kids race to put the condom on, they must describe each step taken. If they make a mistake, they must start over. Child abuse, anyone?

At one point, Beck says in disbelief, “No sane person is going to believe this!”

Unfortunately, it’s all too real and it’s happening (been happening) - not just here in the America, but all over the world.

Since officials tend to sneak these programs through, you won’t know if this curriculum is approved until it’s too late. If it is approved and you question this decision, be prepared for ridicule, rebuke and pushback. They don’t like being exposed.

Another example of deviancy directed at children is the recently released movie called Cuties. It’s the coming of age story of an eleven-year-old Senegalese girl who, in an attempt to fit in, engages in all manner of sexual deviancy with other girls her age. That segment of our society in favor of sexualizing children describes Cuties as a sensitive portrait of a little girl’s growing pains while they predictably decry any criticism as fundamentalist propaganda. You decide.

The following are just some examples of scenes in the movie: • An eleven-year-old girl takes a photo of her vagina and posts it online.

• Five young girls take turns at acting out webcam porn.

• Another young girl takes a photo of a schoolboy’s penis.

• An eleven-year-old girl finds a condom and blows it up.

Furthermore, on September 3rd of this year, the California legislature overwhelmingly passed a bill that would reduce penalties for adults who have oral or anal sex with a “willing minor” if the sex offender is within ten years of the age of the victim. This means that a 25 year old can sexually molest a 16 year old and face no penalties, will not have to register as a sex offender, and won’t even go to court. There is also talk of “embracing pedophilia as an alternative sexual orientation and could be part of the acceptance of diverse sexual identities”.

Some very evil people are on a mission to normalize pedophilia.

Sadly, this is not a new development. Remember NAMBLA, the North American Man/Boy Love Association, founded in 1978? Child sexual exploitation is part of a coordinated effort by Marxists to dismantle the traditional family structure, to break down our moral fiber and ultimately, to destroy our great country.

In the movie, Scream, Drew Barrymore keeps getting terrorized by cryptic phone calls while she’s home alone. And then, to her horror, she discovers that the calls are coming from just outside her front door. Too late, she finds that the monster was there all along.

This seems to be exactly where our public school system is right now. The Beast has been on the doorstep for years, is it still just making prank calls? Maybe it’s time for us, as parents and grandparents, to get alarmed? Has the time come for us all to scream?

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Longterm Care Options in Oklahoma

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NURSING HOME A nursing facility that provides 24-hour skilled nursing care and related services for residents who require medical or nursing care.

Nursing Home Care Act - October 1, 1980. Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health. Nursing homes provide the highest level of care.

Options for Medicare/Medicaid

A home or establishment that may provide assistance with personal care, medications, ambulation, nursing supervision and intermittent or unscheduled nursing care. They cannot provide 24-hour skilled nursing care. Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health Mainly Private Pay, LTC Insurance may cover , VA Aid & Attendance, & Tribal Benefits Medicaid Option through DHS (Advantage Waiver)

ADULT DAY CARE Provides health, recreational, social and supportive services to impaired adults for more than four hours per day. Participants do not stay in the center overnight. Adult Day Care Act - November 1, 1989 Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health VA allows respite benefits Medicaid Option through DHS (Advantage Waiver)

VETERANS CARE Created in 2013, this program is for residents who are veterans living in the state veteran’s centers. They are licensed as a nursing facility and can provide 24-hour skilled nursing care and related services for residents who require medical or nursing care . Falls under Nursing Home Care Act - May 29, 2013. Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health

CONTINUUM OF CARE Combines the services of a nursing facility with an assisted living center or an adult day care center. It is licensed under the Continuum of Care and Assisted Living Act and must also meet requirements applicable to nursing facilities, assisted living centers and adult day care centers. Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health Currently inOklahoma, all Continuum of Care’s only have assisted livings.

Medicaid Option through DHS (Advantage Waiver) for Assisted Living and Adult Day Care.

RESIDENTIAL CARE HOMES Provide residential accommodations, food service, and supportive assistance. May also provide assistance with meals, dressing, bathing, other personal needs, and medication administration. Cannot provide medical care such as skilled nursing. Residential Care Act - November 1, 1984 Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health A typical residential care resident is younger than other long term care options and only requires assistant with medication administration.

NO Options for Medicare/Medicaid

INDEPENDENT SENIOR LIVING/HOME CARE Apartments, cottages, and single-family homes for seniors 55 & over who do not require assistance with daily activities or 24/7 skilled nursing but may benefit from convenient services, senior-friendly surround-ings, and increased social opportunities. NOT Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health. No oversight since they are not licensed. May have “High Acuity” that is receiving Home Health and or Hospice services.

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By Lisa Sydnor

DEBBY HAMPTON

Touching base with Debby Hampton, CEO of United Way of Central Oklahoma (UWCO) always yields a great story. Debby referred me to Melanie Anthony, vice president of community impact, to get an update on the COVID-19 impact numbers. UWCO covers Oklahoma, Logan and Canadian counties; partners with 72 agencies that provide 138 programs. United Way of Central Oklahoma works to address various social issues (identified through research) by convening stakeholders and collaborating on solutions. As trends emerge, new community initiatives are created to respond to community needs.

Melanie Anthony stated, “Our partner agency, HeartLine 2-1-1, shared that from March 1 to August 31, they had taken nearly 60,000 calls compared to just over 28,000 calls during the same time period last year. By call volume, the top six call needs are: Listening and Support, Health Care, Housing, Utility Assistance, Food/Meals and Mental Health/ Addiction services.”

MELANIE ANTHONY

2-1-1 Immediate Help If you are struggling with recent current events and feeling anxious, sad or fearful, 2-1-1 is a resource that is available 24 hours a day.

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2-1-1 Heartline Oklahoma is a United Way partner agency providing referral information to those in need. The services offered include (but are not limited to): food pantries; utility assistance; rental assistance; clothing; mental health; homeless shelters; child services; senior services; counseling; suicide prevention; parenting services. For this article the comparative parameters for the numbers provided by 2-1-1 are: March 1, 2019 – August 31, 2019; March 1, 2020 – August 31, 2020. The numbers may surprise you.

Listening and Support What a concept! This is exactly what 2-1-1 staff does - they LISTEN and support the caller. These callers do not necessarily NEED a service. They need someone to care enough to listen. In 2019, there were 3,499 calls.

For the same time frame in 2020, they took 20,295 calls - an increase of 480%. Perhaps you have friends or relatives who need you to listen. They do not expect nor want you to FIX anything, just be a sounding board.

Take the time to be a listener. I have a few friends and relatives that I have sometimes sent their calls to voice mail because I know the call could be an hour or more. After talking with Melanie, I now make a point of answering their calls and calling them at least once a week, and I listen.

BRIDGETTE JOHNSON

One of my great granddaughters (eleven years) was huddled in the corner of the sofa. When I asked (ok, prodded!) her as to why she was isolating herself from the family, she responded with tears running down her face.

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“I am so sad, Greatmommie, I don’t get to go to school. I don’t get to see my friends. This is my first year in middle school and I’m missing it.”

Not being in the classroom, no interaction with friends, feeling alone, depressed and sad. This is not how she envisioned her life. So I am actively listening and supporting her. I can’t “fix” it, but I can acknowledge her feelings.

Health Care calls are up 210% from 2,967 calls in 2019 to 9,204 calls in 2020. Mental Health & Addiction calls have risen 71%; Housing 50%; Food and Meals 36% and Utility Assistance is up 11%.

The United Way of Central Oklahoma’s annual fundraising campaign kicked off Aug 21, 2020. This campaign raises money to be invested in 56 partner agencies and 106 health and human services programs. Debby Hampton stated, “Lisa, you and I have seen Oklahomans come together during times of crisis – major natural disasters – a terrorist attack – economic crashes. I believe we will continue to see that same spirit of community, of caring for our neighbors, of standing strong and offering helping hands to all in need. I believe in Oklahoma. The 2020-2021 campaign motto says it all, Come Together, and we will.” Join me in supporting this incredible agency as they serve the greater good.

For more information, call Melanie Anthony at 405-5233522 or United Way’s main number 405-236-8441.

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Offer New Leadership In July, Daily Living Centers welcomed Jessica Clayton as president and chief executive officer. Jessica is a graduate of the University of Central Oklahoma. Her previous roles include executive positions at Mercy Health Foundation and First United Bank. She is currently serving her second term as honorary commander for the Tinker Air Force Base 552nd Air Control Wing.

Jessica believes that quality respite care provides family members peace of mind. She recognizes that DLC plays a critical role in assuring loved ones’ needs are addressed, which aligns perfectly with our mission. Her goal is to make organization growth possible through strategic planning, advocacy and development. She believes wellness of mind, body and spirit through socialization, nutrition and staying active are made possible through community partnerships.

Joining Jessica is Bridgette Johnson who serves as director of operations and human resources. She is committed and enthusiastic about providing leadership and development to the employees as well as overseeing the day-to-day operational functions for the DLC. Originally from Arizona, Bridgette graduated from Arizona State University.

Leadership, human resources and coaching encompass the majority of Bridgette’s career. Her previous roles include management and director level roles at CFS Brands and Hobby Lobby Corporate. She is an advocate for relationship building and driving performance while building a thriving culture.

Amanda Dirmeyer has been with DLC since February 2019 serving as the social services coordinator.

Graduating with a Master’s degree in Gerontology, she has been in the aging field for more than 20 years working as a CNA, program coordinator for Independent Living, marketing coordinator, and an Advantage case manager.

Congratulations to Amanda for the recent promotion to director of development and social services. She is excited to raise awareness for Adult Day services and continue to connect caregivers in the community with the resources that they need.

This team has their sights set on continuing the excellent service to the community, building new relationships and enhancing the lives of all involved with Daily Living Centers. Welcome! Go forth and do good!

A non-profit organization offering affordable, nonresidential facilities that support the health, nutritional and social needs of disabled or elderly adults in a professionally staffed group setting at four metro locations. For more information, please visit dailylivingcenters.org. Like DLC on Facebook: facebook.com/dailylivingcentersok

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By Abigail Q. Hill

As a patriotic American, I am more bewildered by what I see and read this month than last. I can’t help but ask you, my fellow Americans, what’s going on in our country?

Last month I encouraged all of us to proudly show our support for America and let our Stars and Stripes wave gloriously for the whole world to see.

So many Americans are showing their support for our country in this way - more now than I have seen in my lifetime, or at least since 9/11.

This visual display of American patriotism has enraged the anti-American radicalized thugs terrorizing our nation, sending the vast majority of the mainstream news media into a feeding frenzy. These vultures love nothing more than to brew up a batch of poisonous punch, serve it to the masses then jump on the 24-hour news cycle to spin the wheel of hate and division for our country. A headline in the New York Post states, “Protesters burn Bible, American flag as tensions rise in Portland”.

Interestingly, the Russian news crew, that was also there livestreaming the protest for four hours, was accused - by the New York Times - of reporting “Fake News”. If that’s not irony what is?

A couple’s home was being threatened to be burned down by a mob of approximately 200 protesters in a residential neighborhood in Kenton, Oregon. The mob turned their vitriol towards the home for displaying an American Flag. Their neighbor told them “We don’t go around terrorizing folks to try and force them to do something they don’t want to do,” he added. “I’m a veteran. I’m for these liberties.” The couple that displayed the American flag are fearful of retaliation but stated, “I will not take my flag down.”

Never Despair. That is a motto for you and me. All are not dead; and where there is a spark of patriotic fire, we will rekindle it. ~ Samuel Adams In Waco, Texas, a student group from Baylor University, on September, 11th each year, honor those lost in the tragedy that shook our nation to its core 19 years ago.

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Neidert explained that his group places 2,977 Americans flags in the grass at Baylor’s Fountain Mall each year on Sept. 11 to honor the victims and first responders who lost their lives in the Sept. 11, 2001, terror attacks. The display only includes flags, with no “no signage or political messaging” according to Neidert.

“Every year we do our best to ensure that this event is about America, not politics,” he said. “Upon our initial request to place the memorial this year, we made it clear to Baylor Student Activities that this was not a political event.

Less than 24 hours before the event, Baylor Student Activities informed us they would need to place “expression activity” signs near the flags. Baylor Student Activities placed a sign that read, “Please be advised: sensitive content.” These signs amount to nothing short of a trigger warning for an event that should unite all Americans.”

apologized after the widespread backlash, but too little, too late.

How insulting to all Americans who watched in horror as innocent Americans lost their lives. How incredibly insensitive to the loved ones that never saw their family member again.

When did being proud of America - and being proud to be an American - become nefarious? Why is feeling blessed to live in a country – which so many people have died trying to get to with their aspirations of the American dream - now viewed as evil? Why is America at this time in our history being ridiculed and mocked by an unhinged minority of our own fellow Americans?

Neidert posted on their twitter page, “Displaying the American Flag to memorialize those who tragically perished in the 9/11 attacks is now considered, “Sensitive Content”. Honoring those who died and first responders isn’t “Sensitive”, it’s “American”. The university later

When I see the flag being desecrated or burned on TV, it makes me think of all the men and women throughout our history who fought and died for our rights, those that ensured we would have our liberty and the ability to fly the American flag. Because of their bravery and sacrifice, we

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ability to care for their family, it seems too farcical to be true. It is utterly unimaginable that people who have their own private security team would weigh in on defunding the police for the rest of us.

are free, all of us.

You cannot undermine police authority and then complain about rising crime. ~ Thomas Paine The radically subversive yet vocal minority in our population are often referred to - by Communist Dictators and thinkers - as simpletons or useful idiots. They are primarily employed as tools in the demoralization of a culture, our culture.

Our American flag is a symbol of hope that each American, based solely on perseverance, can achieve a good and honorable life. We can change our own trajectory based solely on hard work and diligence. Our flag represents unity, our foundation, and the highest ideals of our American values.

The flag of the United States of America is a symbol of freedom and liberty. The flag’s 13 alternating red and white stripes represent the 13 original colonies. Its 50 white stars on a blue field represent the 50 states. The colors on the flag represent red for valor and bravery, white for purity and innocence, with blue for vigilance, perseverance, and justice.

Our choices in life have consequences that determine our destiny. Through honorable self-governance, we can maintain all of our liberties and achieve true freedom.

What sane American wants to be used to tear down and rip apart our own country by playing the extra role of a Marxist agitator in the Saul Alinsky’s “Rules for Radicals” movie adaptation? I’m not going to be used as a pawn of sedition. It saddens me that the angry mobs cannot see how they are being marginalized and taken advantage of by their handlers at the top. If we cherish our sovereignty and the American way of life, we all have to wake up to what is going on around us. Being a patriotic American is not subversive - but looting, rioting, terrorizing, acts of physical violence, murder, and arson are.

The terms Socialist, Marxist or Democratic Socialist have been thrown around interchangeably over the years but the hard truth is they all boil down to a loss of our constitutional rights as Americans. They are always for bigger government and less choice for you and me. If a federal institution could perform as well as free-market options we wouldn’t have Fed-ex and UPS. Ayn Rand’s statement about democratic socialism is telling: “There is no difference between communism and socialism, except in the means of achieving the same ultimate end: communism proposes to enslave men by force, socialism – by vote. It is merely the difference between murder and suicide.” We should all remember Hitler was voted into office by the German people and we see how that worked out. Modern-day Democratic Socialist politicians paint their vision for America as a Utopian government, a gentle Robin Hood story of taking from the evil rich and giving to the poor. Their vision for us is a deeply flawed but sugar-coated fairy-tale that they desire to feed to We The People; a treat to get us to swallow a communist nightmare willingly. Former KGB agent and propagandist, Yuri Bezmenov after he defected, commented on the Russian model used to destabilize a country and bring about communism.

“[T]he useful idiots, the leftists who are idealistically believing in the beauty of the Soviet socialist or Communist or whatever system, when they get disillusioned, they become the worst enemies. That’s why my KGB instructors It’s shocking how these self-righteous, pompous, nouveau specifically made the point: never bother with riche sports athletes, Hollywood actors, pop musicians, and media figureheads are bashing our traditions and leftists. Forget about these political prostitutes. being infuriated by the average American’s love of country Aim higher. [...] They serve a purpose only at - all with absolute disregard to the same American the stage of destabilization of a nation. For public who finance them. They find patriotic Americans example, your leftists in the United States: all deplorable. They are filled with contempt for anyone who doesn’t agree with everything they spew. They welcome these professors and all these beautiful civil rights and bolster an over-inflated opinion of their importance defenders. They are instrumental in the process of societally. When you combine that with their laughable awareness of anything relevant to the average American’s the subversion only to destabilize a nation. When 34

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their job is completed, they are not needed any more. They know too much. Some of them, when they get disillusioned, when they see that MarxistLeninists come to power—obviously they get offended—they think that they will come to power.

That will never happen, of course. They will be lined up against the wall and shot.” ~ Yuri Bezmenov Do you think Socialist countries have freedom of speech?

Do you think there are social justice warriors? Do you think they are allowed to conduct even peaceful protests?

You do remember Tienanmen Square, right? Do you think they care about your thoughts, feelings, and well being?

Dissidents in North Korea don’t live long. Vocal agitators in China don’t live long. Russian subversives get a one-way

ticket to a gulag or are shot. Venezuela is literally Hell on Earth, all but the very small minority at the top are starving to death, literally. The only minuscule upside is we haven’t heard from Michael Moore or Sean Penn in a while, but that doesn’t help the people of Venezuela who now find themselves killing one another for food. They no longer have a middle class, but they do have the highest murder rate in the world.

Our greatest enemies, the ones we must fight most often, are within. ~ Thomas Paine So I ask you, are we actually a self-loathing nation that hates our brothers and sisters - that are all made in the image of God? If that’s the case, do we also hate God for making us each unique and beautiful in his eyes? United we stand, divided we fall...but quite possibly, that’s the point.

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BETTER WITH AGE

The truth is none of us are immune to tragedy and life - in this current series of events - is taking a huge toll on our spirit, psyche and physical bodies; so we had better have some kind of plan or at least a superior, optimistic attitude.

It doesn’t take a PhD - or any type of advanced degree - to see that things are really out of whack!

So, what do we do? Well, first, what are we humanly capable of doing to shed light in this current darkness?

Sometimes the answers can be surprisingly simple. I’ll give you a few that work for me and if you can use them then we are both better off, and possibly happier.

“It is better to give than to receive”. Christian or not, you probably have heard these words before. The reason they have been around for the last few thousand years is; they are filled with truth. And it’s never been easier to fulfill than in these times when there is so much need all around us. Sure, we can gather up things we no longer want or use to have them sitting on the front porch for the next nonprofit organization that gives us a call or; we can find, and fill, a need on a more personal level.

Use Gratitude to Be An Overcomer

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Let’s face it; we all, at one time or another, have had insurmountable barriers in our path, calamities that struck out of nowhere, our hearts broken by unforeseeable tragedies.

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How long has it been since you talked to an old friend or relative? You may not be able to visit in person but with all this modern technology it couldn’t be easier to reach out.

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Thinking about others takes our minds off of ourselves. And truthfully, you, like myself, are probably not all that interesting.

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Peppermint Massage Truffles

Candy Cane Salt Scrub

INGREDIENTS: 0.7oz cocoa butter 0.7oz beeswax 0.35oz grapeseed oil 0.17oz peppermint essential oil 0.1oz menthol essential oil 0.28oz cassia oil

INGREDIENTS: 2 cups Epsom Salts 2 cups Sea Salt Red Food Coloring Peppermint Essential Oil

DIRECTIONS

1. Combine the Epsom salt and sea salt into one mixing bowl.

Whisk or stir to fully combine.

2. Scoop 2 cups of the salts into a second mixing bowl.

Add 5-10 drops of peppermint essential oil to the salts and whisk to combine.

3. Next add 5-10 drops of red coloring to the mixture for Candy Cane Bath Salts,and whisk vigorously to fully combine.

Additional coloring may be added if desired.

DIRECTIONS

1. Melt the cocoa butter, beeswax, and grapeseed oil over medium low heat in a small sauce-pan, keeping a close eye on it so it doesn’t smoke or burn. As soon as everything is melted, remove from heat.

2. Stir in the essential oils. Pour into little silicone chocolate molds, popping the pan back over the heat to re-warm as needed (these solidify quickly).

3. Let the truffles set for an hour or two before removing from the moulds. To use,massage into sore muscles and wait a couple minutes for the cooling to set in.

Pom Lip Gloss

Spiced Latte Hand Soap INGREDIENTS:

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2 tablespoon mix of cinnamon, nutmeg, cloves 1/4 teaspoon coffee grounds 1 lb shea butter melt and pour soap base DIRECTIONS

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3. Use a spatula to spoon into jars.

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2.When base is completely melted, add spices and coffee grounds.

3. Quickly pour soap into a silicon mold because the soap base cools fast!

4. Let soap cool completely before you pop them out of the mold!

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Rosemary is Rosememory

“Together, our findings suggest that linalool reverses the histopathological hallmarks of AD [Alzheimer’s Disease] and restores cognitive and emotional functions via an antiinflammatory effect. Thus, linalool may be an AD prevention candidate for preclinical studies. It also reduced the number of cellular tangles and brain plaques that are commonly part of the condition.”

By Michael Edward Browning

“There’s rosemary, that’s for remembrance; pray, love, remember; and there is pansies, that’s for thoughts...” ~ Ophelia, “Hamlet”, William Shakespeare

Inflammation is at the core, it seems, of all disease and physical irritation. Removing the irritation and blocking its ability to progress is key to returning the body to homeostasis (balance).

Always, if I can eat my bodily relief, let’s get cooking! The lavender, minty pine of rosemary is delicious in so very many dishes, and it’s also soothing to the stomach.

Here we’ll speak of Rosmarinus officianalis, leaving pansies for another springtime. Romemary’s role in both the culinary and medicinal worlds has been well documented for centuries.

In this last century we’ve added terpenes into the rosemary research mix.

In the case of one study where several minutes of rosemary aromatherapy dropped anxiety levels, increased alertness and sped up participant’s ability to complete math problems, we have a corroborating study showing one of the monoterpenes found in Rosemary reverses dementia related cognitive and behavioral impairments. For brain sharpness, it’s linalool that’s being looked at. In a 2016 study,

An older reference informs us that, “Rosemary leaves can be used as a tonic tea, to stimulate and strengthen the system after an illness or when one is exhausted.”

Sounds useful to me! “Rosemary leaves when added to wine are aid to strengthen the heart and prevent swelling of the ankles so common with certain heart conditions. Also, rosemary can act as a diuretic by releasing fluid from the system.” Sometimes, themes that get a label by the popular culture see unfair treatment in the name of “progress”.

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Throughout my life, I’ve witnessed increasing value in what some may call “old wives tales”. That is certainly true in the application and appreciation of medicinal herbs. Historically, rosemary has been used to stimulate menstruation, for headaches, nerves, nervous heart troubles, stomach diseases and even congestion of the liver. Currently, as rosemary leaves and oil contain antimicrobial and antioxidant properties, it is employed in cosmetics, medicines, muscle rubs, and hair loss prevention.

ROSEMARY IS BEING UTILIZED TODAY, WITH PROMISING RESULTS, FOR: • Alopecia • Alzheimer’s Disease • Anxiety • Aromatherapy • Arthritis • Cancer • Chronic Halitosis • Dementia • Depression • Hair Growth

• Irritable Bowel Syndrome • Skin Care • Ulcers WARNINGS ABOUT ROSEMARY “Germany’s version of the FDA, the German Commission E, approves the use of rosemary oil to treat joint pain and circulation problems as well as the use of rosemary leaves to help treat various digestive issues, noting that the herb should only be taken in small doses. Avoid rosemary if you’re pregnant or nursing, as it can be an abortifacient, a product that could stimulate an abortion. Patients with high blood pressure should also avoid taking rosemary as a supplement.”

Always consult with your doctor before trying any new supplements or treatments as rosemary oils may interfere with your diabetes or blood thinner meds. If they give you the “thumbs up”, get some into your life; from the seasoning aisle, from the yard, from the fresh produce cooler or as an essential oil from Health Patch, get the fresh scent of rosemary into your daily routine - to help stave off the effects of aging.

Herbal Medicine: The Natural Way to Get Well and Stay Well, Buchman, Dian Dincin, pgs 39-43, Gramercy Publishing Company, 1979 Complete Guide to Natural Home Remedies, National Geographic, pgs 111-113, National Geographic Society, 2012 Short-term study on the effects of rosemary on cognitive function in an elderly population; pubs.acs.org/doi/10.1021/mp060066m What Is Linalool? [Uses and Benefits You Must Know About]; cbdoilchronicle.com/what-is-linalool-uses-and-benefits-you-must-know-about/ Linalool reverses neuropathological and behavioral impairments in old triple transgenic Alzheimer’s mice; pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih. gov/26549854/ Linalool induces cell cycle arrest and apoptosis in HepG2 cells through oxidative stress generation and modulation of Ras/MAPK and Akt/ mTOR pathways; pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29510199/ Rosmarinus officinalis L. leaf extract improves memory impairment and affects acetylcholinesterase and butyrylcholinesterase activities in rat brain; pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24080468/ Effects of Inhaled Rosemary Oil on Subjective Feelings and Activities of the Nervous System; www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3700080/ Seven Reasons why you should include Rosemary in your diet; www.pinkvilla.com/lifestyle/health-fitness/7-reasons-why-you-shouldinclude-rosemary-your-diet-557049

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Neuroprotection, Neuroplasticity & Neurogenesis

annacian's o r n e r

Imagine slowly slipping away into confusion, anger and anxiety. Having no idea what is happening to you because you forgot that somebody already told you that you have Alzheimer’s Disease (and that your brain is slowly dying).

Go through that, day in and day out. Imagine starting every day not sure where you are and going through the anxiety of having no idea what is going on. Now think about how painful it would be to be told what is happening and going through all the emotions that come with this kind of information every single day. Everyday the people you meet are new, even though many seem to know you very well and some even tell you that they are your children.

By Michael Edward Browning

cannacian - [ka-nish-uh n] noun A phytocannabinoid caregiver having direct contact with - and responsibility for - medical patients; clinicians and counselors who are trained in the human endocannabinoid system and dispensing cannabis therapy.

Now that we’re “light-years” past the propaganda that taught us cannabis use kills brain cells, solid science is backing claims that cannabinoids actually benefit our brains in a trio of function extending tasks. Lends credence to the “Why?” behind vast volumes of seniors - seeking a finer retirement - frequenting all these little corner cannabis shops flying the green flags out front.

“This can’t possibly be my child, my child is only 20. This person in front of me is in their 50’s,” you think to yourself as you get angry or just downright confused. To make things worse there is a constant sound of unintelligible yammering that is distracting you, making it very difficult to focus. As many as five million people are currently having days similar to this, my grandmother being one of them.

“When people speak of the brain-healing properties of cannabidiol (CBD) oil, they refer to CBD’s ability to protect living neurons (neuroprotection), to help them form new connections (neuroplasticity), and even to trigger the formation of new neurons (neurogenesis).” ~ Genevieve R. Moore PhD

On the other side of this coin are the caregivers and families that are also living with the pain of watching loved ones in this awful condition. I have already lost one grandparent to this disease so watching another one suffer is supremely painful.

Combining cannabinoids with other healthy basics like exercise, restful sleep, nutritious diet (avoiding alcohol use) and social engagement provide the most to your mind. Mixing in meditation, (vitamin, mineral & herbal) supplementation and intermittent fasting can enhance even these excellent results. Appreciating our brains as we age is not just obvious, for me it’s getting personal!

When I assigned the story excerpted below for a New Mexico medical cannabis magazine half a dozen years back, I was only pushing 50. Now I see that milestone in the rear-view. Up ahead, I see my own mother’s (mercifully slow) slide into a decline of mental acuity.

For me in fact, it’s very hard not to get angry knowing that the treatments being used really don’t have much effect, but they sure do cost a lot. On the other hand, research done in 2006 at The Scripps Research Institute in La Jolla, California found that Tetrahydrocannabinol, or THC, not only helps with symptoms but even goes so far as to curb progression by inhibiting the formation of amyloid plaque, the primary pathological marker for Alzheimer’s disease. Which brings us back to the other therapeutic benefits, such as THC’s overall calming effect, appetite stimulation to deliver vital nutrients - and its ability to quell anxiety. ~ Daniel Hapner

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We’ve come a long way, both legislatively and scientifically, since 2014. The Medical Marijuana Research Act approved by The House Committee on Energy and Commerce should be a testament to each if it can pass completely through Congress. For the good of all, it should. Recent studies continue to pile up promising value in the various constituents of this plant working in collaboration towards the “Entourage Effect”, baring bodily benefits for every system and tissue, pate to sole, and right down to the depths of your gut.

A cannabinoid science lab led by Prakash Nagarkatti at the University of South Carolina is pioneering investigations into the ECS, the gut microbiome, and disease. Nagarkatti and colleagues demonstrated that administering THC to mice affected with a form of acute respiratory distress syndrome (ARDS) could stop the condition in its tracks.

“Suppressing inflammation in the colon as well as systemically is very critical for preventing any type of disease, because right now inflammation is considered to be the underlying cause of everything, not only autoimmune disease but cardiovascular and neurodegenerative diseases, PTSD, Alzheimer’s, obesity, cancers, COVID-19,” Nagarkatti says. “You name it and there is inflammation.”

Speaking of Alzheimer’s Disease (AD), many of us know that amyloid plaques are responsible for the degeneration of our neural pathways under this condition. “The plaques predominantly consist of aggregates of amyloid-beta (Abeta), a peptide of 39-42 amino acids generated in vivo by specific, proteolytic

cleavage of the amyloid precursor protein. There is a growing body of evidence that Abeta aggregates are ordered oligomers and the cause rather than a product of AD.” That sounds like Abeta plaque is much more than a marker! Since I had recently discussed Amyloid-beta aggregation with Jerry Al-Muflah over at SilverLeaf Senior Cannabis Solutions, I asked him to explain how cannabis, specifically cannabidiol, can influence this plaque-stacking environment.

“Just like how it attacks inflammation, CBD destroys the amyloid-beta plaque proteins. Going untreated, the plaque can build up structures, a “cytoplasmic tail”, which can break off and enter a healthy cell. When that happens, the cell then starts attacking the body, further progressing the disease. Cannabidiol, by attacking the plaque, also facilitates new neural pathways in the patient’s brain.”

A final scientific note to bolster hope for our brain’s future, getting by with a little help from a friend; namely the curative chemical entourage contained within cannabis. Personally, I know quite a few sharp seniors who seem to be helped by the expanses cannabis therapy (with or without THC) can open, for increased range of (the mind and) motion. As far as THC inclusion goes, again, from way back in 2006, in Molecular Pharmacuetics, “Compared to currently approved drugs prescribed for the treatment of Alzheimer’s disease, THC is a considerably superior inhibitor of Aβ aggregation, and

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this study provides a previously unrecognized molecular mechanism through which cannabinoid molecules may directly impact the progression of this debilitating disease.”

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Besides sunshine, two of the most important AD busting adjuncts are physical exercise and spending time in the company of others. Social distancing harms both our bodies and our brains. Exercise promotes neuron growth (by boosting brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF) levels, but living in social isolation produces less BDNF in our hippocampi, even negating some of the beneficial aspects of regular exercise. So get out there, and walk, and talk!

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Remember When?

Remember When Dad did all the fall cooking? His barbecue sauce was

so amazing!

Remember When for some years, the Thanksgiving dining table was lit with candles and set in sparkling China like the queen of England was coming? My dad made the best dressing ever - and he always made chicken or hamburgers for the ones that don’t care for the traditional trimmings.

Remember When Halloween fun meant everyone dressing up in costumes? Wherever you worked, people always dressed up and they were always passing candy.

Remember When that one lady that lived on our block made special treats like caramel apples for the kids that lived on the block?

Remember When the most fun was collecting all that candy?

~ Betty

Remember When we didn’t really celebrate Halloween? But I was

spoiled. Halloween meant my parents, who didn’t allow me to dress up or go trick-or-treating, bought me candy? I do.

Remember When Halloween fun meant watching the other kids dress up in their costumes?

Remember When Thanksgiving time was such a big deal? I just love being around family! The fun part means each person brought a dish and I remember setting the tables with the orange and burgundy.

Remember When all the siblings would come with their families and it being about 20 people in the house at Thanksgiving time?

~ Faye

Remember When as a child, on Halloween, you’d dress up to go door to door

for candy and when they open the door you’d scream out ‘trick-or-treat’?

Remember When your face would light up to receive a lot of candy?

Remember When at Thanksgiving time, when family comes to the house and the kids go outside playing while mothers were inside the kitchen cooking turkey and dressing?

Remember When we all got dressed up for dinner?

Remember When we displayed a lot of decorations, and sitting real pretty fine linen? The best part was seeing all the good food lined up and eating together as a big family

~ Bertha

Remember When we walked many miles to get to different houses just

for our Halloween candy? I was living on a farm with my twin sister. We didn’t have candy pails, we had to use pillowcases and by the end of the night the pillowcases would be halfway full!

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By The Residents of North Haven Place Senior Living

Remember When, at the end of the night, parents would check the

candy over to make sure the candy was safe to eat and they would separate the candy for us to eat over time?

Remember When Halloween fun meant celebrating with your children? I would organize costumes for them, my son was dressed as a little woman and I would put make up on him, which I thought it was hilarious, and the girls dressed as a hobo clown.

Remember When Halloween fun meant driving from house to house with the children?

Remember When Halloween fun meant watching them trick-ortreating, getting a lot of candy? And I enjoyed watching them being so excited.

Remember When we would enjoy the fall time, watching the leaves turning color as they fell from the tree? The fun moment was raking up all the leaves into a giant pile and jumping inside of the pile of leaves.

We just had so much fun, me and my sister living on the farm! And then we would burn the leaves and enjoy smelling the burnt leaves.

Remember When Thanksgiving was the most fun time? As a kid we would pack up to travel to my grandparents house. When we would open the door I could smell the good food cooking. In the dining room table was already set with fine China, pretty linens and crystal glasses.

Remember When just being at the beautiful table with grandparents and aunts and uncles and cousins, as a big family, was a treat?

I remember one fall fun minute Thanksgiving with my children so great I cook so much food and remembering games such as musical chair games Remember When just being with children and grandchildren made Thanksgiving so special?

~ Diane

Remember When we were young and we used to go to the Halloween parties watching kids trying to scare one another? I remember when my mother dressed as a witch, scaring me and my friends.

Remember When Halloween fun meant watching other kids dressed up in cool costumes? ~ Elias A very special thank you to the residents from North Haven Place Senior Living for sharing their wonderful summer memories. I would also like to thank the staff for their assistance. In troubled times a stroll North Haven Place down memory lane can lift your spirits, put a smile Senior Living on your face and add a little more joy to your day. If your community would like to participate in an upcoming Remember When?

Contact LaShanya Nash at l.nash@betterwithageok.com or 405.532.6057.

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