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CONTENT Bakers Make Life Sweet 08 Grandparents Raising Grandchildren

ASK Lisa 14 Oklahoma Healthy Aging Initiative

40 Norman Christmas

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The Tradition Continues

Patriotic Salute 18 42 In Loving Memory Honoring Raymond Norwood CAREGIVERS CORNER 22 Make This Christmas Memorable

Medicare Jet Setters Groovy Six Over 60

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44 Legal Matters

Securing Your Family’s Tomorrow

48 Senior Safety

48 - Winter Safety for Seniors 50 - Preventing Falls at Home

Movie Spotlight 29 52 Easy Holiday Recipes

Killers Of The Flower Moon

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Sweet Treats To Share

Community Heartbeat 30 56 Oklahoma Gardens Tax Credit For Family Caregivers

Quick Guide To Starting Seeds!

Safety Matters 35 60 Remember When…

Reframing How We See Fraud

Christmas Was Merry!

60 ON THE COVER: Meet the Baker Family. Their story is inspirational. Reminding us of all we have to be grateful for this Christmas Season. Their compassion and dedication to helping grandparents and families raising children and grandchildren in our state show how giving back to others provides purpose and meaning in life.

They are an amazing example of turning tragedy into a triumphant mission of service to others. Enjoy reading their encouraging story, Bakers Make Life Sweet, on page 8.

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Dear Friends, May this Holiday season provide the peace and joy all families deserve and long for.

Many of us will see family for the first time this year at Christmas. As we gather together may we remember what is truly important in life and be grateful for all we have. How blessed we are to live in America where we can gather and celebrate one of the most important aspects of America, the family, and the ties that bind us. Whether it is your faith, your traditions or both that you cherish, find meaningful ways to bring the goodness you want to see in the world into your home and community.

Many of us will feel the sting of grief for those we long to spend one more Christmas with. The smells, sounds, and sights of the season transport us back to a time that is sweet, innocent, and nostalgic. It is bittersweet. As the adult members of the family may we cherish our role as the guardians of our family legacy. Through the heartache, continue on, hold dear to, and pass down the traditions that make your family unique and precious. Dust off old family recipes, carols and traditions. Create memories for the young ones to carry forward to future generations.

Financial strains during the holidays are nothing new. Keeping the season simple helps everyone enjoy it and not feel pressured to over-extend personal budgets or go into debt over gift-giving. Extravagance, the vision of a colossal perfectly decorated Christmas Tree with gifts stacked to the ceiling was put in our heads by marketing firms. The acceptance of maxing out the credit cards for Christmas or taking a holiday loan at the bank for gift giving is also a creative marketing campaign. As a family, you can decide to shout a collective “NO” to the nonsense, The holidays aren’t about the gifts under the tree it is a celebration of God’s love, hope, family and friendship. It is a fresh start to make plans and look ahead into 2024, finding ways to live your best life full of meaning and purpose. I have spent a good deal of time reflecting on and counting my blessings this year and at 52 years old I can’t remember a year in which I have cherished my family and friendships any greater. Oklahoma is a wonderful place to live with some of the most genuine, good-hearted, kind, and caring people. Make a few new friends in 2024, they’re treasures you can collect that you’ll never have too many of. Enjoy your family and create cherished memories.

I wish you and your family a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! May the message, meaning, and magnitude of this joyous season when we celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ transform the hearts and minds of all people with peace, love, wisdom and goodwill.

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This is the second year the Baker family and Nana’s Closet have been featured on the cover of our Christmas Issue. The story of Nana’s Closet, a 501©3 non-profit serving grandparents raising grandchildren, is life-affirming and a witness to turning lives around, changing courses, changing careers, and changing family dynamics.

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THE BACK STORY When you are faced with extremely complicated circumstances you must set aside your feelings, your hopes, your dreams, your plans, and loss of relationships; to focus on the circumstance at hand. As the parent/ grandparent you suffer through the five stages of grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance.

You grieve for all you lose: your child, your freedom, your plans, and for many the possibility of retirement.

That is a part of the story of Lamont and Leela Baker, founders of Nana’s Closet; a “normal” family: mom, dad, and three lovely, active, productive daughters. That changed with a call from the high school saying one of their daughters had overdosed in the parking lot and was not expected to live. Panic, denial, hysteria, and terror all describe those first hours. Paralyzing fear gripped Leela Baker’s heart and mind. Making phone calls, leaving work, and driving to the hospital, all happened in the vacuum of a blurred, dark tunnel. This simply could not be happening to their beloved child.

The situation spiraled out of control, resulting in a pregnancy, marriage, and the birth of a lovely, perfect little girl who was addicted to drugs. Evelyn was in NICU for 17 days undergoing detoxification. This fragile little one suffered and survived withdrawal from drugs. She is a recovering addict who cannot take any narcotic medications. Leela and Lamont formally adopted Evelyn.

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Leela was pondering their situation, trying to come to terms with all that had transpired over the past year when she felt led by God to form an organization that would help grandparents as they faced so many difficult decisions.

Long conversations with Lamont left them undecided. Paul Cunningham, Head Pastor of Westmoore Community Church advised Leela to follow her heart, saying, “God makes your mess your ministry.” Since 2018, Nana’s Closet has been the ministry of the Baker family.

TODAY Their daughter is doing well with four years of recovery as testimony to her commitment. She has turned her life around. She and her husband have a son. With a job she loves and the support of her family, the dark days of addiction are behind her.

Nana’s Closet has grown from a spare bedroom to two bedrooms to a garage to a boutique-type store in Putnam City United Methodist Church where they moved to in 2022. The space is a store where families can shop for needed and wanted items. Recently, a grandmother shared with Leela that her 16-year-old granddaughter was so happy with the items she “bought” at the boutique she wanted to know when she could go back.

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Leela said, “We want the children to feel worthy and loved; to know that they are important and valued.”

The Bakers are passionate about kids.

Community partnerships such as; WellPreserved, Eunice Khoury; Operation Christmas Train Set Foundation; Citizens Caring for Children; and, Caregiver Magazine, LaShanya Nash are essential to continued growth and serving the needs of families.

The need is growing.

The monumental task of sorting, cleaning, separating, and labeling all the donations is labor intensive.

Volunteers are always needed and valued. These are tasks done with love. Watching the grandparents and children select clothing and seeing the tears of gratitude and joy makes it all worthwhile.

Lamont refers to his role as Leela’s supporter and greatest cheerleader and the guy who does the heavy lifting. While that is all true, he also staffs booths at events designed to reach their audience and works with the grandparents to get them signed up.

What makes this remarkable is his hesitance to speak in public and trying to fade into the background. It isn’t happening anymore! He is now recognized by many in the industry and is no longer the “invisible man”.

Together, this dynamic duo is changing lives, one child at a time.

In separate interviews, when asked how they were handling all the stress and emotion, Lamont said, “We are closer than ever. It seems to bring us together, not pull us apart. But we have to work at it and believe me it is a lot of work. I am very proud of Leela and what she is doing. I love her smile; for 33 years her smile has warmed my heart.”

Leela said, “We are closer now than we’ve ever been. In the early days, we struggled, but we were determined to make our relationship continue to work. We worked at it. As we work together, we are closer. Being together more brings us closer to each other.”

Evelyn is now six years old and in first grade. She has never met a stranger. She can, and will, talk to anyone. She asks the hard questions, like “Will you come to my birthday party in June? It will be fun and we can dance and eat cupcakes.” Now, who can say no to that promise?

If you are a grandparent or family raising family members go online for an application for assistance at www. nanasclosetokc.org. For volunteer opportunities, to make a donation, or for donation pickup, contact Leela: 405-735-7022 or email: nanasclosetokc@yahoo.com.

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The staff of CAREGIVER Magazine is committed to connecting those in need with services and programs. If you have a question or you are looking for services, call 405-314-7840 or email l.sydnor@betterwithageok.com; include your name and phone number in the message. We can help you find resources such as 211; NewView Oklahoma; Will Rogers Senior Center; a home health care agency; a place to live, fraud prevention, etc.

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Improving the health of aging Oklahomans is the core mission of Oklahoma Healthy Aging Initiatives (OHAI). OHAI is a statewide network focusing on improving the health of older adults through caregiver training and health promotion education. Courses offered enhance life skills, educate, and encourage socialization.

Healthier Choices, Healthier You addresses chronic health problems. Classes help individuals deal with issues such as pain, fatigue, and inability to sleep. Instructors share activities that will help improve strength, exercise, endurance, and safe use of medications. Learning techniques to communicate effectively with family, friends, and health professionals is a critical component.

Powerful Tools for Caregivers is a class series designed to help family caregivers take better care of themselves while caring for a family member or friend. Caregivers develop a wealth of self-care tools to reduce stressors, change negative self-talk, communicate their needs to family members and healthcare or service providers, effectively communicate in challenging situations, deal with difficult feelings, and make tough caregiving decisions. Class participants also receive a copy of The Caregiver Help book.

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Diabetes Self Management Program is a class for individuals and their caregivers who are dealing with Type 2 diabetes; teaching ways to cope with the symptoms of this type of diabetes.

The Eat Better, Move More Program is for older adults and their caregivers. Learn ways to improve your nutrition, as well as how to find simple, fun ways to introduce movement and exercise into everyday routines.

The movements of Tai Chi help older adults reduce their risk of falling, while also increasing balance and flexibility. Participants learn ways to improve their overall mind, body, and spirit through a series of slow, continuous movements.

The Walk with Ease Program is designed for people interested in walking in groups. Sessions begin with a short discussion important to successful walking or arthritis management.

Participants will develop an individual walking plan; and learn stretching techniques and tips to improve current mobility and endurance.

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communicate more effectively with healthcare professionals and enables participants to advocate on behalf of a friend or family member in their care.

Using Medications Safely is designed to empower older adults to be more active participants in decisions regarding their medications.

Staying Active and Independent for Life (SAIL) is a fitness program for older adults, which can be done sitting or standing. Performing exercise that improves strength, balance, and fitness is critical for staying active and reducing the risk of falls.

Eye Ball 101 is a one-hour comprehensive overview of eye health and the four main medical conditions that affect eyesight among older adults. The presentation is designed to benefit all older adults.

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making the risk of falling even worse. In A Matter of Balance individuals learn to view falls as controllable, set goals for increasing activity levels, make changes to reduce fall risk at home, and learn exercises to increase strength and balance The Diabetes and Beyond Education Program was created to provide the tools needed to better manage diabetes. Participants learn about the importance of a healthy diet, physical activity, and maintaining a positive outlook through this six-week class.

**Due to the COVID-19 pandemic, OHAI offers a mix of virtual and in-person educational programming. Follow OHAI’s Facebook Page. Tai Chi, SAIL, Powerful Tools for Caregivers, and Healthy Brain, Healthy Mind, are offered via the Zoom video conferencing platform. Contact the OHAI office in your region to register: 405-271-2290 or 855-227-528.

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PATRIOTIC SALUTE HONORING RAYMOND NORWOOD

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It was cold, so very cold, lifeless bodies were scattered everywhere in the mud. One young soldier lay in the mud and snow and wondered if he would ever be warm again. Everyone was gone. Everyone was dead – except Raymond. Slipping in and out of consciousness, he remembers hearing a medic pronounce him dead before realizing there was life in the young soldier covered in blood and mud.

In the confusion of the battlefield recovery process and emergency measures taken to save his life, his dog tags were misplaced. He had more than seven bullet wounds.

His mother received notification that Raymond was Missing In Action, and most likely Killed In Action. He was in a coma for two years and in more than five hospitals.

He lost his eyesight, his right leg was nearly blown off, sniper bullets shattered his jaw and several lodged in his torso. Raymond remembers a few short times of consciousness over the next two years.

The remaining years of his service were spent in rehabilitation hospitals learning to feed himself, walk, comb his hair, and dress, so many of the daily tasks we take for granted. Miraculously, his eyesight returned.

Raymond’s wounds were significant. He carries the scars of those wounds today.

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special training in a rescue unit and then on to Korea. His Platoon went into battle to extract soldiers trapped and under fire. They would lead them to safety, covering their extraction. They were the last to leave the battlefield.

Raymond Norwood was discharged in 1955.

Raymond’s mother was presented with a Purple Heart while he was presumed Missing In Action. Upon discharge, he tried to apply for VA benefits but no record of his service or injuries could be found. It wasn’t until June 2014, after years of applying and working in the system, that Senator James Lankford presented Raymond with his Purple Heart. It was a very humbling and proud moment for Raymond and his family.

Raymond Norwood was born in Newkirk, Oklahoma, on October 10, 1927. He had nine sisters and six brothers. Raymond and his wife Leaetta have been married for more than 40 years and have raised their five children. They have 12 grandchildren and nine greatgrandchildren.

Raymond worked at the Federal Reserve Bank for thirtyfive years. Since retiring nearly 30 years ago, he has spent time at the YMCA on Martin Luther King playing cards with several long-time friends. He teaches a Bible Study class every Tuesday at the YMCA, teaches Sunday School at St. John’s Missionary Baptist Church, and he cared for his wife during her recent illness.

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It was an honor for Caregiver Magazine to coordinate a celebration for his 96th birthday in October. Oklahoma Department of Veterans Affairs honored him with a medal presented by Rear Admiral Gregory Slavonic. Raymond Norwood has lived through devastating injuries and been near death; his positive attitude, winning smile, sense of humor, and gentle, charming manner are beacons of light in this world that needs more kindness and smiles. Thank you for your service, Raymond Norwood.

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CAREGIVERS O R N E R By Kathy Cocks, RN Make This Christmas Memorable

What older people want is to be able to sit down and tell their stories. They may think their stories are not worth telling, but with a little encouragement, they will open up.

Many are at a stage when they are reviewing their life and want to tell stories about how their life had meaning.

Sometimes older people don't know where to start with their stories or they may tell the same ones over and over again. It's helpful to have some questions ready to encourage storytelling. Take this time to write stories and memories down or record them to preserve for future generations.

To help them review their life accomplishments ask questions like what are some big milestones in your life?

What were some accomplishments that gave meaning to your life? What is something that happened you felt changed the trajectory of your life?

Here is an excerpt from my Dad’s memoirs. “My peaceful and perfect life was to take a dramatic new direction at 22 years old—I was drafted to serve in the Korean conflict. I first went to Southern Alabama for training where I learned that the white stuff on our tray was grits.

I also attended a local church where I met Priscilla, who later became my wife. While in Korea I knew I wanted to become a missionary. I thought that draft was going to ruin my life, but I found my wife and my calling.”

It's that time of year when families travel to spend time together at the holidays. As we visit our older loved ones this is a good time to take inventory of their health and overall well-being. It is also a great time to have some conversation starters in which you can begin to record or document a person's wishes and history.

What do older people want for Christmas? Very seldom do they want a new shiny item. You may want to get them a new iPhone but be prepared it might be difficult for them to learn how to use it. What they want is your time. They want their children, grandchildren, and other relatives to come over and spend quality time with them. It is easy in the busyness of our lives, raising children, working, and helping our parents to want to come over and discuss important subjects. It may seem a convenient opportunity to make sure the checkbook is balanced, the laundry is done, and the refrigerator is full of food. Resist the urge and have a relaxed and meaningful visit.

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Sometimes people want to review and talk about their childhood. Some questions to ask are what were some favorite holiday times that you experienced as a child?

Was there something memorable about the house that you grew up in? What were you good at, or what hobbies did you cultivate that helped you later in life?

“I don’t remember much about my early childhood. I was the third and last child of my parents. I remember receiving a set of Tom Mix Pistols for Christmas. I went outside and shot at everybody and everything.” Excerpt from my Dad’s memoir.

Relationships are always the foundation upon which people remember their lives. Some questions to ask could be, how did you meet your partner? What fun memories do you remember having with your children?

What are some memories you have of hanging out and doing things with your friends? What involvement in religious organizations or volunteer organizations brought meaning to your life? What advice would you give to the next generation about building strong relationships?

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people in the Bible, having many children.” Excerpt from my Dad’s memoir.

They may enjoy telling different perspectives that they have experienced. Questions to ask can be what historical events did you experience and how do you think they shaped your life and the life of your community? What are some interesting facts about some heirlooms or some objects that you own? What objects would you like for your family members to have and how would you like them to remember those objects?

“We hired a helper named Nancy to manage our house. She did not have many job skills. We sent her to sewing school and she had to learn to sew with a pedal machine as there was no electricity in her village. Nancy became an accomplished sewer and made many clothes for our granddaughters and also had a skill for when we retired from missionary work in her village.” Excerpts from my Dad’s memoirs As you can see the memories above I will always cherish because they fill out the history I know about my parents. This Christmas what your loved one wants is to know they left a legacy, and you can help them accomplish that by writing down or recording their memories.

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Writer & Director of Community Outreach CAREGIVER Magazine & Better with Age Events Why do I work? It’s simply groovy! It gives me a reason to get out of bed. Without a purpose, my life would be lame. I don’t have the cash flow for crazy vacations or buying new clothes each day, but I can work. Not just any job. It has to be meaningful. For over fifty years in the non-profit world, my goal was to make a difference.

I’m always excited to meet new people, learn, and share what knowledge I possess - it’s such a blast! Knowing that something I am a part of positively impacts someone else’s life fills me with joy. At 80, I am blessed to have this chance to work and remain productive. Now, if you’ll excuse me, it’s time to take my nap.

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Experienced individuals in the workforce have been overlooked for far too long.

Astonishingly enough, the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics shows that the number of workers age sixty-five and older has increased by a whopping 117 percent over two decades! CAREGIVER Magazine is so proud to recognize all those aged sixty and above who are making tremendous strides in our work environments - you all rock!

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The passion that has been laid upon her heart is to help educate, promote, and help families navigate the world of aging. She is the Host of the longest-running senior-focused radio show in 22 states.

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BECKY L. GRANTHAM Director of Business Development: ERTC Division: Travis Watkins Tax

Becky is a powerhouse of enthusiasm and motivation. Working brings her immense joy as she relishes the opportunity to help others and challenge herself. With every passing day, she gives thanks for her energy and zest for life; retirement is nowhere in sight for this go-getter! Becky radiates optimism, and her heart pulses with gratitude for her career, family, and friends.

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The morning sun rises on Ron Shimanek, already at work as a lifelong farmer who had inherited the passion from his ancestors. At 8, he was already operating tractors and combines. However, due to the high cost of farming equipment, repairs, fuel, fertilizers, and general upkeep, he decided to rent his farm to his cousin, who has a large operation farming thousands of acres. Ron continues to help his cousin with farming duties. Despite having knee and soon hip replacements, Ron is still happiest driving a tractor and pulling any implement to prepare the soil for the next crop. As long as he can manage it, Ron will continue to climb up into the machines, forever dedicated to the land that has always been in his blood.

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Chaplain Adrian Martin is thankful for his health and strength, allowing him to continue working past retirement age. He has served Hospice patients and families for 24 years and expects to serve 3-5 more. At a local Church ministry, Adrian also serves as Worship Pastor. His continued work helps pay off the mortgage so he and his wife can look forward to a comfortable retirement when that day comes. Chaplain Adrian believes we all need a purpose, and the Lord has summoned him to serve others.

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The powerful story of KILLERS OF THE FLOWER MOON leaves no stone unturned, delivering an unforgettable cinematic experience. It is a harrowing reminder of America’s dark past, where atrocities were committed in the relentless pursuit of power and money. The first point I want to make about this movie is I am grateful to live in America, where we have the freedom to read books and watch movies that show the ugly side of our history.

Leonardo Dicaprio, Robert De Niro, and Lily Gladstone deliver magnificent performances as they bring to life the tragic story of the Osage people and the wickedness perpetrated against them. This movie is a powerful condemnation of the dangers of greed, showcasing the lengths evil people will go to for money and power.

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C MMUNITY HEARTBEAT

By Lisa Sydnor

OKLAHOMA PASSES TAX CREDIT FOR FAMILY CAREGIVERS Oklahoma is the first state in the nation to adopt an expansive family caregiver tax credit. “Caring for a loved one is emotional and significant; critically important in everyday life. Caring for a loved one is 24/7/365. You have a life in your hands. That is a huge responsibility; whether it is your parent, grandparent, spouse, sibling, child, or other loved one, it is not the care that weighs on you, it is the responsibility. It is not a burden but a privilege. Our goal with House Bill 1029 is to begin helping with the financial responsibility: State Representative to give hope. Hope Tammy West is tangible. This bill is a start; a great start.” Stated Representative Tammy West. Representatives: Kevin Wallace, Ryan Martinez, Tammy West, and Max Wolfley; and, 30

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Senators: John Michael Montgomery, Roger Thompson, and Chuck Hall, comprised the committee that wrote and lobbied for the passage of the Caring for Caregivers Act. Sean Voskuhl, AARP Oklahoma State Director, explained, “This bill is the most comprehensive tax Sean Voskuhl, credit in the nation.

Oklahoma is the only AARP State Director state with a tax credit over $500 and includes all caregivers. Many tax credits are underutilized. The participation of the general public in accessing this tax credit will lay the foundation for the future. The need is there. We must demonstrate that need.”

Proving the viability and need for caregiving at home, aging in place, is critical to the continuation and expansion of the Caring for Caregivers Act. The average daily cost to age in place is $10; to live in assisted living is $200; long-term care cost is $224.64. The Oklahoma Tax Commission will decide the criteria for proving expenses and qualifying for reimbursement.

HOUSE BILL 1029X, titled, Caring for Caregivers Act, creates an act relating to revenue and taxation and a tax credit for multiple caregivers. The act sets aside $1,500,000 for all taxpayers annually.

This act allows a tax credit of up to $2,000 unless the eligible family member is a veteran or has a diagnosis of dementia in which case the maximum allowable credit is $3,000. If two or more family caregivers claim the tax credit authorized by this section for the same eligible family member, the maximum allowable credit will be allocated in equal amounts among the family caregivers.

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include the carrying out of general household maintenance activities. Eligible family member means an individual who: is 62 years of age or older, requires assistance with at least two activities of daily living (ADL) as certified by a licensed health care provider; qualifies as a dependent, spouse, parent, or other relation by blood or marriage to the family caregiver, and lives in a private residential home and not in an assisted living center, nursing facility, or residential care home; and family caregiver shall mean an individual: providing care and support for an eligible family member; who has a federal adjusted gross income of less than $50,000.00 for an individual and less than $100,000 for a couple filing jointly; and who has personally incurred uncompensated expenses directly related to the care of an eligible family member.

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lease of equipment, including but not limited to durable medical equipment, that is necessary to assist an eligible family member in carrying out one or more activities of daily living (ADL); and other paid or incurred expenses by the family caregiver that assist the family caregiver in providing care to an eligible family member. Activities of daily living (ADL) is defined as ambulating, which is moving and walking independently; feeding; dressing without aid; personal hygiene; continence; and, toileting.

With nearly 500,000 caregivers in the state of Oklahoma, the demonstrated need is there. It is up to the taxpayers to take advantage of this opportunity and prove the need by applying for the tax credit. Save your applicable receipts and file for the Caring for Caregiver Tax Credit in 2024.

If you have questions, contact AARP Oklahoma at 866-295-7277 toll-free or 405-757-8600. More information on House Bill 1029X is at: aarp.org/OKCaregiverTaxCredit.

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New financial help for Oklahoma family caregivers

For Oklahoma’s caregivers, and the parents, spouses, and other loved ones they care for, help is finally on the way. The Caring for Caregivers Act will give eligible Oklahoma family caregivers a tax credit of up to $2,000 a year or up to $3,000 a year for care given to a veteran or someone with dementia.

The credit is for out-of-pocket costs that unpaid caregivers incur for a limited set of services. The costs must be directly related to providing care for an eligible family member.

The Caring for Caregivers Act passed during the 2023 legislative session and will take effect January 1, 2024. The tax credit is first eligible in the 2024 tax year.

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REFRAMING HOW WE SEE FRAUD

By Deputy Tara Hardin Oklahoma County Sheriff’s Office When someone comments on how much the world has changed since Covid 19, crime is not usually the first thing one thinks of. However, crime changed tremendously along with the rest of the world. Older adults went online in increasing amounts and sometimes even for the first time. Doctor's visits became virtual, grocery shopping was done online, and even church went online…and so did the criminals.

Fraud, particularly fraud committed through various online modes, whether through email, social media, online shopping, phone calls, texts, or even through the online processing of our credit cards when we make an in-person purchase, the criminals have begun to exploit, in exponentially growing rates, our online presence. As I have shared in previous articles, the monetary losses from these frauds are estimated to be over $1 Trillion for 2023.

by well-meaning family and friends as we have a tendency in our culture to victim blame and shame when a scam or fraud has been committed. We tend to say things like, “You should have known better”, or “I tried to tell you not to…”, and even “It doesn’t surprise me because he/she talks to everyone that calls”. While these statements may have an element of truth to them the reality is that they are a victim of a criminal committing a criminal activity. We naturally empathize with our friend whose house has been broken into and their precious possessions stolen, recognizing the criminal action and placing

While the dollar losses are staggering and obvious, one area we don’t always consider is the other toll the victims of these crimes suffer. According to a study conducted earlier this year by AARP and FINRA, 2/3 of victims report negative physical and emotional symptoms such as anxiety, depression, sleep disorders, high blood pressure, weight loss/ gain, and even suicidality. The shame and guilt often felt by victims of these scams and frauds can be inadvertently exacerbated Claim your FREE digital subscription at CaregiverOklahoma.com

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appropriate blame. However, when it comes to a scam or fraud we somehow think the victim “fell for it” or “got duped” and forget to place the onus on the criminal.

So the next time a friend or loved one confides that they have been the victim of a scam or fraud, remember they are one of many many victims, and remember to approach the subject with empathy and without judgment. They have just been the victim of a horrendous and pervasive crime. Be a good friend and offer to walk through the recovery with them. Offer to help them with the necessary reporting.

To do so, the Department of Justice offers a fantastic resource with their National Elder Fraud Hotline.

You can call 1-833-372-8311 (833 FRAUD 11) and be connected with a case manager who will assist you in unpacking the potential depth of

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the fraud, help you decide who you need to notify, and what steps you need to take to prevent further loss.

With this hotline, reporting and recovery do not have to be overwhelming. Additionally, if your loved one is suffering emotionally from this victimization, 988 is a terrific resource. Not only do they offer referrals for counseling, but by calling or texting 988 you can just talk to someone, whether you are the victim of a crime, received a diagnosis, or just having a bad day, there is someone on the other end to just listen.

And lastly, if your loved one is suffering physical symptoms, make sure they see their doctor.

I hope you will join me in reframing how we view, address, and respond to victims of these insidious fraud crimes and place the blame on the criminal committing a criminal act. I also invite you to join me online for a free 1-hour class each month on scam and fraud prevention. We cover a new topic each month and you can participate in an interactive class on the 3rd Wednesday of every month at 2 pm or you can watch the recorded webinar at your convenience.

You can register or access the recordings by going to www.metrotech.edu/events and clicking on the Crime Prevention Series.

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A Norman Christmas Story EDITOR’S NOTE: The following story is an account of a Nativity play presented on Dec. 19, 1965, by children of the First Presbyterian Church in Norman, Oklahoma. It originally appeared in The Norman Transcript on Dec. 20, 1965, and was first reprinted on Dec. 16, 1966. It has since been reprinted in newspapers all across the country. As publisher of Caregiver Magazine, it is my true honor and privilege to rekindle this local favorite. Thank you, Robbie Lamberson, for bringing this warm literary tradition to these pages in December of 2019 our first Christmas issue, and thank you to the Norman Transcript for keeping it alive for so many years. We here at Caregiver Magazine are wishing you all a very, merry Christmas!

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A preschool version of the Christmas Story, complete with more than a few last minute improvisations, unfolded before a delighted audience at the First Presbyterian Church Sunday night.

The pageant of the Nativity, presented by members of the Cherub and Chapel choirs, in general had proceeded well at dress rehearsal.

Mary, Joseph, the shepherds, wise men and other 4 and 5-year-olds in the cast had run more or less smoothly through their assigned parts. The Chapel Choir and a narrator provided the background, and

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except for minor entanglements with flowing robes and headdresses, few problems were encountered.

Then the Big Night arrived.

The first hint of trouble came even before the formal action opened when one of the younger members of the Cherub Choir, a boy of about 2, took a fancy to the doll representing the infant Jesus lying in the manger. Clambering on stage he made a beeline for the crib and was diverted from his goal only by the action of an alert father.

The innkeeper, exhibiting a lively proprietary interest in the stable, practiced leaping about the freshly strewn hay until the arrival of Mary and Joseph, whom he escorted proudly to seats beside the crib.

The shepherds and white-robed angels arrived soon after. And it was then that the young Cherub, perhaps encouraged by his part as one of the children come to adore the Christ child, decided on another try for the object of his affections in the manger.

He squeezed his way through the crowd, grabbed the doll and lifted it from the crib. Mary, reacting like any mother, made a lunge for the swaddling clothes, and a tug of war ensued above the manger.

Joseph, stunned for a moment, gallantly came to Mary’s aid with a swing at the intruder. And the innkeeper, proving not a bad sort after all, picked up a handful of hay and threw it at the would be abductor.

The arrival of the harried father, towering some three feet above the rest of the cast, restored peace momentarily.

But it was the hay, omitted during dress rehearsal, that caused the eventual downfall. Piled liberally about the tiled floor, it proved a lumpy and slippery footing. One of the shepherds, head bowed above the manger, suddenly went down. He scrambled up and immediately plopped down again.

The third time he fell he grabbed the innkeeper; the innkeeper bumped an angel and half the cast toppled like a row of dominoes.

But the hay proved a soft cushion — fun to dive into, in fact. Soon the shepherd and innkeeper were competing in swan dives into the straw. A wise man scuffled with an angel whose gilded wings had slipped considerably below their proper place.

The Cherub, once more eluding his father, tried unsuccessfully to wrest a crook away from one of the shepherds.

The narrator and choir, unfazed by the commotion, continued like troupers to the end; the cast was enticed offstage and peace once more returned to the somewhat disarranged stable.

One spectator, his voice still trembling with laughter, was heard to remark as he left the church, “I’m glad I read the Book, ’cause they sure changed the plot!”

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IN LOVING Memory The Lord’s Prayer Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come. thy will be done, on earth, as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, the power, and the glory, for ever and ever.

Amen.

In honor of our dear friends who blessed us with their friendship, kindness, stories, and wisdom. You are gone but not forgotten.

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Securing Your Family’s Tomorrow: The Clever Person’s Guide to Estate Planning In our neck of the Great Plains, few things matter more to us than the well-being of our family. This is where a good Will or Trust comes into play, like a trusty compass guiding your family's future. Picture this: a Will is your personal roadmap, showing exactly who gets your prized fishing rod or the family homestead upon departing for your final adventure. It is also where you can name who will look after your minor children, if need be.

Instead of a Will, a Trust can be another smart way to handle your nest egg. It can potentially avoid some of those unpleasant estate taxes and sidestep the not-so-private chatter that sometimes comes with probate court.

Beware: without a Will or Trust, state law takes over and decides who gets what, and for sure, they won’t know that your Aunt Sally was supposed to get your secret pie recipe.

Think of a Will or Trust as having the right tool in your toolshed because either one can ensure your hard-earned money and property go just where you would want them to go. Plus, it provides peace of mind, knowing you likely won't be leaving your loved ones with a family feud.

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1. Identification Documents. Provide legal identification, such as a driver's license or passport, to verify your identity.

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6. Guardianship Decisions. If you have minor children, include information about the proposed guardian in the event of your untimely passing.

7. Healthcare Directives and Powers of Attorney.

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8. Marital Status and Family Information. Provide information about your current marital status, previous marriages, divorce decrees, prenuptial agreements, and details about your children and other family members.

9. Business Agreements. If you own a business, include business agreements, such as buy-sell agreements, which might affect how your business interest is handled.

10. Tax Documents. Recent tax returns can provide a clear picture of your financial situation.

11. Charitable Giving Intentions. If you intend to leave a portion of your estate to charity, include details about the organizations and the nature of your bequests.

12. Special Instructions. Any specific instructions regarding the distribution of personal items, funeral arrangements, or other personal wishes.

13. List of Advisors. Contact information for your financial advisor, accountant, and any other professionals who assist with your financial affairs.

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Legacy giving – let’s talk about giving back. It's a bit like planting a tree you will never get to sit under. A shining example from our own Oklahoma backyard is the "Lieutenant Colonel Victor V. Hakala Memorial Scholarship." This fine gentleman from the Oklahoma Air National Guard left a legacy that helps our brave Air National Guard folks get their undergraduate degrees.

This kind of giving is a powerful echo of your life, touching lives for generations. Whether it's a scholarship fund, your church, or a cause close to your heart, it's about leaving a mark that says you were here and you cared.

In conclusion, having a Will or Trust is not just about dividing up your worldly goods. It is about stitching together a beautiful quilt of care for your loved ones, leaving a pattern that will be admired for generations. It is about making sure that, long after you've left the party, your legacy keeps on dancing.

Joel G. Kintsel is an Oklahoma attorney practicing at Sinai Legal Solutions, PLLC. He can be reached at: (866) 747-4624; Joel@SinaiLegal.Solutions; PO Box 18972, Oklahoma City, OK 73154; and www.sinailegal.solutions.

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Winter Safety for Seniors Christian Worstell, MedicareAdvantage.com

Keep yourself and your older loved ones safe this winter by adhering to the following tips: 1. Limit how much you use space heaters The allure of a space heater can be hard to resist. But these devices are the cause of the majority of fatal house fires, and people age 65 and over are 2.5 times more likely to die in a home fire.

2. Wear safe shoes Broken hips are common among older adults and can lead to more serious health complications. Seniors should wear shoes with non-skid soles that offer the necessary amount of traction for winter conditions.

Avoid going outside until snow and ice have been cleared from walkways, and avoid going out after dark when refreezing is more likely to occur.

3. Keep your kitchen stocked A winter storm can make it hard to get to the grocery store, and it could even prevent meals from being delivered to your home.

It’s important to keep your kitchen stocked with at least one week’s worth of food and water. There should also be an abundance of non-perishable food that does not require any cooking or refrigeration, in case you lose power.

It’s also a good idea to keep your medicine cabinet full of cold medicine, and make sure you have an adequate supply of your prescriptions before a storm hits.

4. Keep an emergency kit It’s a good idea to keep a winter emergency kit on hand in case a power outage causes you to lose heat or lights.

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Some things to keep in your kit include: • Flashlight with extra batteries •Hand warmers •Pre-paid cell phone •Manual can opener •Battery-powered (or hand-cranked) weather radio •First-aid supplies •Whistle •Cash •Matches or lighter 5. Be aware of the warmth in your home You don’t have to venture outside in the winter time to catch hypothermia. This deadly condition can set in right in the safety of your own home, and older adults lose body heat at a much quicker rate than younger people.

What’s worse is that hypothermia sets in very gradually, and you can often be unaware that it’s setting in.

Some tips to avoid hypothermia at home include: • Keep the thermostat set to at least 68 degrees at all times • Dress in layers around the house • Wear thick socks and slippers • Drink alcohol in moderation, as alcohol consumption causes you to lose body heat • Sleep in pajamas or sweatpants • Place rolled up towels or blankets under doorways to prevent drafts and seal off windows with plastic 6. Eat a healthy winter time diet Older adults spend more time indoors during the winter months, which can lead to a Vitamin D deficiency.

Avoid this by eating a winter time diet rich with milk, orange juice, cheese, egg yolks, grains and seafood.

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7. Monitor your home’s carbon monoxide levels The risk of carbon monoxide poisoning increases in the winter because of an increased use of gas fireplaces, furnaces, generators and other heating devices.

Test carbon monoxide detectors once a month each winter. Understand the symptoms of carbon monoxide exposure, which include shortness of breath, nausea or dizziness, headaches and confusion.

8. Avoid the winter time blues Winter is a time for seasonal depression, thanks to fewer daylight hours and decreased social interaction. Depression can cause malnutrition and affect mental health.

Take advantage of caregiver services and adult day care, as social interaction can combat depression.

9. Prep your car Give your car a winter tune-up by having the brakes, tires and battery checked. Also check your windshield wipers to make sure they work smoothly and cleanly.

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If you have a AAA membership, make sure your policy information and payments are up to date.

You may consider storing your car for the winter and using ridesharing services instead.

10. Set up regular check-ins Many seniors live alone and far away from other family members. But that doesn’t mean you can’t stay connected to loved ones!

Set up a daily check-in time with a friend or family member, or even consider some senior-friendly video calling technology.

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Preventing 50 Years of Cheer

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Around the House

Falls are responsible for one-third of all home-related fatalities.

Although seniors are the group most affected by falls, these types of accidents can affect anyone.

A broken bone may be a minor inconvenience for young people, but fractures are more serious for the elderly. As a result, seniors must take measures to protect themselves against falls.

4. Store items within reach. Store items that

These steps can minimize risk at home.

are used frequently, such as dishes, in easily

1. Remove tripping hazards. Examine rooms and hallways for potential hazards, such as slippery throw rugs, floorboards that stick up, loose carpeting, or furniture that blocks walking paths.

Remedy these hazards as soon as possible.

Address loose floorboards and/or place nonslip materials beneath rugs.

in certain locations for extra stability or where someone may need leverage getting up from a seated position. They are particularly helpful near toilets and bathtubs and in stairways and

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contribute to falls. Lighting in hallways, stairways, bathrooms, and bedrooms - even if it is a small night light - can be enough to light

6. Reinforce your home's exterior. Falls do not only occur inside. Inspect the perimeter of a property for uneven turf, holes, or cracked or uneven patches of walkways. Make sure exterior handrails are secure.

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lighting is working at entryways, and check that

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feet, which are much more slippery.

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2. Install grab bars or railings. Install grab bars

walking around in slippers or even in stocking

accessible cabinets and other locations. This

Falls can cause serious injury or death, particularly for aging men and women. Simple fixes around the house can make things more secure and reduce the risk of falls.

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Easy Holiday

Homemade candy adds a fun touch to the holidays, but candy cookery can be pretty involved. We’ve gathered some easy recipes to help you be a treat star!

Two Ingredient Easy Fudge INGREDIENTS 3 cups chocolate chips 1 can sweetened condensed milk DIRECTIONS Pour both ingredients into a microwave safe bowl. Melt in 30-second increments. Stir after each 30 seconds.

When melted, pour into a greased 8”×8” inch pan. Let cool in the fridge and then cut into pieces.

VARIATIONS Cherry Mash: Use cherry chips to make to the fudge.

Then pour melted chocolate chips on top with peanuts.

Peanut Butter: Use peanut butter chips to make to the fudge. You can top it with chocolate for a Reese’s cup taste!

Dark Chocolate: Use dark chocolate chips Mint: Use mint chips, mint pieces, or 1 tsp. mint flavoring Recipe from livingonadime.com

Pretzel Peppermint Bark INGREDIENTS 1 (11.5-oz.) bag Hershey’s milk chocolate chips 2½ c. pretzels, broken into fairly big pieces ½ c. crushed candy canes DIRECTIONS Line a medium sheet tray with parchment paper. Melt the chocolate chips in microwave in 30-second intervals, then pour chocolate on sheet tray and spread into an even layer.

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Crockpot Candy INGREDIENTS 1 pound roasted salted peanuts 1 pound roasted unsalted peanuts 1 pound semisweet chocolate chips 2 pounds white almond bark broken into pieces, or can use white candy melts ½ cup holiday sprinkles DIRECTIONS Place the peanuts in a crock pot. Add the chocolate chips and almond bark on top. Cook on LOW for 1 hour. Remove lid and stir. Cover and cook for an additional 30 minutes. Stir until thoroughly combined.

Drop tablespoon-sized dollops of the candy onto parchment paper, top with sprinkles.

Cool until firm, then serve.

Note: To keep condensation under the lid from dripping into the candy as it cooks, lay a clean, dry kitchen towel over the crockpot and put the lid on top of that. www.dinneratthezoo.com

Aunt Rose’s Fantastic Butter Toffee INGREDIENTS 2 cups unblanched whole almonds 11 ounces milk chocolate, chopped 1 cup butter, cubed 1 cup sugar 3 tablespoons cold water DIRECTIONS Preheat oven to 350°. In a shallow baking pan, toast almonds until golden brown, 5-10 minutes, stirring occasionally. Cool.

Pulse chocolate in a food processor until finely ground (do not overprocess); transfer to a bowl. Pulse almonds in food processor until coarsely chopped. Sprinkle 1 cup of almonds over bottom of a greased 15x10x1-in. pan. Sprinkle with 1 cup of chocolate.

In a heavy saucepan, combine butter, sugar and water. Cook over medium heat until a candy thermometer reads 290° (soft-crack stage), stirring occasionally. Immediately pour mixture over almonds and chocolate in pan. Sprinkle with remaining chocolate and almonds. Refrigerate until set; break into pieces. www.tasteofhome.com

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Longterm Care Options in Oklahoma

ASSISTED LIVING

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ASSISTED LIVING A home or establishment that may provide assistance with personal care, medications, ambulation, nursing supervision and intermittent or unscheduled nursing care. They cannot provide 24-hour skilled nursing care. Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health Mainly Private Pay, LTC Insurance may cover , VA Aid & Attendance, & Tribal Benefits Medicaid Option through DHS (Advantage Waiver)

NURSING HOME A nursing facility that provides 24-hour skilled nursing care and related services for residents who require medical or nursing care.

Nursing Home Care Act - October 1, 1980. Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health. Nursing homes provide the highest level of care.

Options for Medicare/Medicaid

ADULT DAY CARE Provides health, recreational, social and supportive services to impaired adults for more than four hours per day. Participants do not stay in the center overnight. Adult Day Care Act - November 1, 1989 Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health VA allows respite benefits Medicaid Option through DHS (Advantage Waiver)

VETERANS CARE Created in 2013, this program is for residents who are veterans living in the state veteran’s centers. They are licensed as a nursing facility and can provide 24-hour skilled nursing care and related services for residents who require medical or nursing care . Falls under Nursing Home Care Act - May 29, 2013. Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health

CONTINUUM OF CARE Combines the services of a nursing facility with an assisted living center or an adult day care center. It is licensed under the Continuum of Care and Assisted Living Act and must also meet requirements applicable to nursing facilities, assisted living centers and adult day care centers. Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health Currently inOklahoma, all Continuum of Care’s only have assisted livings.

Medicaid Option through DHS (Advantage Waiver) for Assisted Living and Adult Day Care.

RESIDENTIAL CARE HOMES Provide residential accommodations, food service, and supportive assistance. May also provide assistance with meals, dressing, bathing, other personal needs, and medication administration. Cannot provide medical care such as skilled nursing. Residential Care Act - November 1, 1984 Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health A typical residential care resident is younger than other long term care options and only requires assistant with medication administration.

NO Options for Medicare/Medicaid

INDEPENDENT SENIOR LIVING/HOME CARE Apartments, cottages, and single-family homes for seniors 55 & over who do not require assistance with daily activities or 24/7 skilled nursing but may benefit from convenient services, senior-friendly surround-ings, and increased social opportunities. NOT Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health. No oversight since they are not licensed. May have “High Acuity” that is receiving Home Health and or Hospice services.

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By Danna Szymanski, Oklahoma County Master Gardener

Selecting Seeds and Supplies Before delving into the intricacies of indoor seed starting, it is vital to choose suitable seeds and gather the necessary supplies. Opt for high-quality vegetable seeds from reputable suppliers, considering the climate of your region and the specific vegetables you wish to grow outside later in the year. Purchase seedling trays, seed-starting mix, grow lights, and a warming pad. These can be found at your local garden center and online.

A QUICK GUIDE TO STARTING VEGETABLE SEEDS INDOORS There are many reasons to grow your own transplants during the end of winter here in Oklahoma. In this guide, we will explore the art of jump-starting our spring garden by planting vegetable seeds indoors and using essential tools like grow lights and warming pads, paving the way for a bountiful summer harvest.

Preparing the Seedling Trays Begin by filling the seedling trays with a well-balanced seed starting mix. This mix provides the necessary nutrients and aeration for the seeds to germinate successfully. Moisten the mix slightly until it achieves a crumbly texture, ensuring it is not overly saturated.

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Overly wet soil can lead to seed rot, so it is crucial to strike the right balance.

Planting the Seeds Follow the instructions on the seed packets regarding planting depth and spacing. Use a dibbler or your finger to create small indentations in the soil according to the recommended depth for each type of seed. Place the seeds gently into the indentations and cover them lightly with the seed starting mix.

Mist the surface with water to settle the seeds in place.

Implementing Grow Lights Proper lighting is paramount for healthy seedlings.

While natural sunlight is ideal, it may not be sufficient during the early stages of growth. Utilize high-quality, full-spectrum LED grow lights suspended above the seedling trays. Position the lights about 2-3 inches above the seedlings and adjust their height as the plants grow. Mimic natural daylight cycles by providing 12-14 hours of light daily, allowing the seedlings ample time to rest in darkness.

Using Warming Pads Maintaining consistent and optimal temperature is crucial for seed germination. Warming pads provide gentle heat from below, encouraging seeds to sprout faster and seedlings to grow robustly. Place the seedling trays on top of the warming pads, ensuring the temperature remains within the recommended range for the specific vegetables you are growing. A warm environment stimulates root development and overall seedling health. Most seeds will germinate well at a temperature of around 70 degrees Fahrenheit. You may choose to cover the seed tray with plastic wrap or little plastic domes to hold in the moisture and protect the little seedlings as they grow.

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ASSURE acts as the "eyes and ears" with each visit, advocating for the physical, social, emotional, and spiritual needs of the client. For example, assessing for dehydration, skin tears, wounds, cleanliness, level of pain, and nutritional status. Progress reports will be communicated to the family by methods of their choosing. We have specialized training working with clients and families dealing with Alzheimer's/Dementia.

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Monitoring and Watering Regular monitoring is essential during the germination and early growth stages. Keep a close eye on the moisture level of the seed starting mix.

Water the trays from below by placing them in a shallow tray filled with water. Capillary action will draw water upward, keeping the soil consistently moist without disturbing the delicate seeds. Avoid overwatering, as it can lead to various issues.

Hardening Off and Outdoor Planting Before transplanting the seedlings into the garden, it is essential to harden them off gradually.

Introduce them to outdoor conditions gradually, starting with a few hours of exposure to sunlight and mild weather. Increase the duration and intensity of outdoor exposure over the course of a week or two. Once the seedlings have acclimated, transplant them into the garden, ensuring they are properly spaced based on their mature size.

Conclusion Starting vegetable seeds indoors using grow lights and warming pads empowers gardeners to extend the growing season and cultivate healthy, robust plants. By providing the right environment, from suitable seeds and high-quality soil to proper lighting and consistent warmth, you can nurture your seeds into vigorous seedlings ready to flourish in the outdoor garden. With patience, care, and the right techniques, you can enjoy a plentiful harvest of homegrown vegetables, reaping the rewards of your indoor gardening endeavors.

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Remember When...

Remember When...

The gifts were stacked in an organized fashion so it would look perfectly inviting if any unexpected company stopped by?

Your mom made homemade gifts and treats for the neighbors and it was your job to deliver all of them?

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Window shopping was a major part of the Christmas magic?

Dreaming of what Santa might bring was a little easier after seeing everything firsthand through the clear glass.

Remember When...

The mailman was a very important person in the weeks leading up to Christmas? The cards would be taped to the wall and displayed throughout the season and every child had to write and mail a letter to Santa Clause.

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The presents were laid around the tree without any bows or wrapping paper? It was an awesome sight to find all of the surprises ready and waiting for you.

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It was time to put up the fake fireplace?

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