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The Legendary LOVE 08 26 Medicare Jet Setters of Dewey and Inez

Mystery Adventure Dates

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ASK Lisa 14 28 Breaking New Ground For Oklahoma Veterans

Romance Scams

Three “Fun” Days 16 32 Community Heartbeat Life is Calling. Pick Up.

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40 Aging Drivers And the Elephant in the Room

44 Valentine’s Day Details You Never Knew

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ON THE COVER: Meet Dewey and Inez Muirhead.

We are celebrating their life, love, and 79 years of marriage. A legacy that will be passed down to many generations. Their adventures and journey are an epic tale befitting the Silverscreen. Enjoy reading, The Legendary LOVE of Dewey and Inez, on page 8.

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We look forward to getting to know the readers and their families in Del City and the surrounding area and hearing how we can serve you better. Please join us.

We can hardly wait to see everyone again at the Shoppes at NorthPark for the 3rd Annual, 2022 BETTER WITH AGE Health & Safety Fun Days on May 12th and October 13th from 9am-1pm as we celebrate life, see old friends and make new ones, mingle with the vendors all while enjoying music, entertainment, door prizes, food and having some good old fashioned FUN together with plenty of easy access parking and seating areas if you need to take a break from all the excitement!

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I know from visiting with you the readers over the phone and in person, the resounding message that everyone has been sharing is that you want to be around people again and the isolation we faced ultimately is what you have expressed took too much of a toll on your wellbeing. We need each other, we enjoy visiting, laughing, and communicating. We understand there is more that unites us than divides us in the real world. We need camaraderie, friendship and love.

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Dewey looked at all the heavy machinery and tools and then thought about the manual labor involved and said, “I’m a cook.”

He had to learn to cook in a hurry. Talk about On the Job Training (OJT)! Apparently, that worked out okay, as he still likes to cook his breakfast every morning and he loves his bacon, eggs and waffles.

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ewey Muirhead was a young man just minding his own business in 1941 when he went to a Church pie supper and he saw the most beautiful girl selling her pineapple cake. He bought it. One year later, they married. And, as they say, the rest is history.

In July 1942, Dewey shipped out to serve in the Army Air Corps. He recalls his bride crying as she ran beside the tracks calling his name as the troop train took him from Ft Smith Arkansas to fight in World War II. Muirhead said, “We knew we were going to Europe and into combat.”

Dewey served as an (MP) in the Military Police Corps and loved his motorcycle. He served primarily in Germany

When I learned Inez’s father literally sold a cow to buy her a wedding dress, I envisioned a white lace gown. But back in 1942, farmers were struggling to keep a roof over their heads and food on the table. Inez got a wedding dress, but it was a sensible shirtwaist, multi-purpose blue and white dress. Definitely, not the “wedding gown” I envisioned. She was proud of that dress and told the story often, as she stood beside her husband, Dewey; he describes his bride of 79 years as the “sweetest, most beautiful woman I’ve ever known.”

Dewey worked for the Civilian Conservation Corps (CCC) from 1939-to 1941. The CCC was one of the New Deal programs that built infrastructure projects in Oklahoma and across the entire country. The program was designed to relieve the economic hardship caused by the Great Depression in 1929. They asked if anyone could cook.

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and Finland and was part of the Battle of the Bulge.

The soldiers were ferried from the ship to shore.

Dewey was responsible to see that all got off the ferry, They were taking fire. It became so heavy that everyone was trying to find cover and get away from the ferry. One thing he remembers about this time is the intense cold, remarking he thought he would never be warm again. While in Germany, Dewey met Clark Gable who was a co-pilot on a B-17 Flying Fortress and according to Dewey, “soft-spoken, kind, and a very nice man.”

Inez left Oklahoma and joined her sister in California where they roomed together. Her sister was a welder in a large shipyard. Inez sorted and distributed tools to assigned workstations. The sisters worked together in the shipyard for more than two years.

Dewey remarked, “My sweet Inez wasn’t Rosie the Riveter and I wasn’t Clark Gable. But we both served our country.”

During his service, he was on many ships, including aircraft carriers and the RMS Queen Elizabeth (QE),

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harbor or to dock. The soldiers shimmied down cargo and landing nets. When it was time to leave, the QE pulled out of New York harbor, and for five days the ship was winding through German U boats and four times torpedoes narrowly missed the lumbering ship. This was the only time he saw the Statue of Liberty.

which was the largest luxury liner ever built at that time. She first entered service in February 1940 as a troopship and it was not until October 1946 that she served in her intended role as an ocean liner. More than 12,000 personnel were aboard the QE with Dewey. Everything had to be done in shifts. They worked in shifts. They loaded onto and disembarked from, the QE by climbing cargo nets, dropping to the decks of ferries, in shifts.

They ate in shifts; cleaned the ship in shifts; and, slept in shifts on bunks ten (10) racks high.

When they returned to America they were to dock at the New York harbor. However, the QE was too large to sail into the

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Upon his return to the States, he was stationed in Sioux Falls, South Dakota, and began preparing to return to the front line in the Pacific. Then the atomic bombs were dropped on Japan, they surrendered to the Allies on August 15th, 1945. Dewey stated, “I didn’t want to go back. I also couldn’t imagine the destruction and devastation created by the bomb. I was happy it ended the war.” Dewey served three years and received several accommodations for his service.

For the next 45+ years, Dewey was an oilfield worker in Oklahoma, Kansas and Texas. Inez was a stay home mom, raising their son, Tommy, and daughter, Marilyn. As the children became more independent, Inez worked in Ell’s Jewelry Store in Wewoka, later she worked at Big Yank Manufacturing until retirement in the mid-1980s. Being an oilfield wife is much like being a military wife. You are keeping hearth and home together; raising the children; paying the bills; seeing to repairs. Dewey retired from the oilfield in the mid-80s. He and Inez spent a lot of time together. They loved flea markets, church activities, going to

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classic car shows, participating in patriotic events, bargaining for that special item, and any reason to “celebrate.” Dewey and Inez made it work.

Over the years, Dewey helped with caregiving for his mother, his sister, and sister-in-law. He was the go-to guy to see that financial obligations were met.

Dewey and Inez celebrated their 79th anniversary on July 15, 2021. They were known across the state as one of the oldest living married couples in Oklahoma at the time of her death.

It is amazing that 79 years later, they still made each other laugh, had private jokes, loved to snuggle and hold hands, and would “discuss/argue” the finer points of life with each other.

Inez lost her battle with dementia and age on December 10, 2021, at the age of 98. Dewey misses his love. As he talked about Inez, he reminisced how he loved her smile, how she loved a compliment (especially after having her hair done), her laughter, and how she enjoyed riding in his classic cars, he teared up and said, “ I just want her to reappear and lay her head on my shoulder one last time. I wouldn’t even care when my arm went numb, because she would be there, smiling up at me.” But at 99 years young, he knows his memories will have to sustain him. Tear-filled, sad eyes looked at me and my heart broke as it is abundantly clear Dewey loved and misses his sweet Inez. On July 29, 2022, Dewey will celebrate his 100th birthday and his family and friends plan a huge blowout celebration.

buff! Or should I say, enthusiast? He has owned a Model “A” Roadster, a Shelby Mustang, other Mustangs and Camaros.

He and Inez participated in the Classic Car Show Parades for many years. In October of 2020, the classic car club honored him with a plaque stating, “Dewey Muirhead 46 years of Sorghum Festival Service.” His daughter, Marilyn Moody, accepted for Dewey as he was recovering from medical issues. Until 2020, Dewey could be seen at every car show helping in any way possible, from parking cars to directing traffic. But his forte is visiting – yeah – I mean talking! He has never met a stranger; will talk to anyone who will pretend to listen, and is the life of the party. With a twinkle in his eyes and a big grin, Dewey Muirhead is still visiting and bringing joy to others.

Dewey and Inez Muirhead shared a legendary love, a bond that can only be created. A love that never happens merely by accident. Their marriage was a true partnership, one where a husband and wife fully commit to loving selflessly and tirelessly. An ethereal connection that only death could separate. They cherished and respected one another’s unique differences that made them stronger through all the trials and tribulations and the laughter and joy of life and marriage. They shared an unconditional epic love for one another, that has become so rare. Although Inez is no longer here on earth-

Dewey and Inez are grandparents to four grandsons, Tim, Terry, Jason, and Marty. These young men blessed them with ten great-grandchildren. The greats called Inez, “Inee” and Dewey is “Dewdee.”

Now these three remain: Faith, Hope and Love.

But the greatest of these is Love.

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Romance Scams: Where has all the love gone?

The FBI defines an elder as someone 60+ years of age.

According to the 2020 Elder Fraud Report by the FBI/Internet Crime Complaint Center, the “love” has gone to the scammers. There was a 30% increase in romantic scams reported from 2019 to 2020.

Preliminary estimates predict the increase of such cases from 2020 to 2021 will be from 43-48% with a monetary impact of over $1 BILLION. The report verifies and supports other findings over the past 15 years that isolation and loneliness are the most common complaints by seniors and shut-ins. The report speculates that being quarantined due to COVID has contributed to feelings of loneliness and depression leaving seniors more susceptible to scammers. Isolation and loneliness are pervasive across the nation in every age group and quarantines are a major contributor to these conditions.

Oklahoma Insurance Department (OID) had a virtual fraud conference in May of 2021. One of the speakers, Amy Nofzigler, focused on romance scams. Nofzigler provided information on how scammers get your information, how to protect yourself, and specific things that are red flags.

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Romance scammers don’t always start on dating sites.

Social media, including Facebook, Messenger, TikTok, & Instagram are especially popular, according to the Federal Trade Commission (FTC). The FTC warns people to be wary of any online relationship in which the person wants to leave the dating site immediately and use personal messaging, the person is fast to claim love or the person asks for money without meeting face-to-face. There are good people in the world. Don’t let a bad one ruin your life. Never give money, prepaid cards, transfer funds or provide financial information to anyone you don’t know. “Knowing” someone is much more than digital friends who say they need your help.

Grief increases our vulnerability. Scammers know your life, sometimes better than you do. Facebook, Instagram, and other social media are platforms for announcing the loss of a loved one. Scammers play the empathetic/sympathetic friend – the one who has traveled that road and ingratiate themselves to you. Seek counseling and support groups to assist you as you deal with grief. You must grieve! You must allow yourself time to heal. Do it wisely. Most support groups are free. Find the right support group and participate. Talk to a counselor.

If you cannot afford one, contact your church, call 211, and ask everyone you know for a referral. This is not the time to huddle in your home alone. Isolation is not your friend.

Some warning signs you are being targeted by a scammer: • They are under a military contract, or on an oil rig, and cannot make or take phone calls.

• They type in proper Queens English. They don’t understand American jokes.

• They don’t know landmarks where they say they live.

• They call you “my dear” or “dear” – not a common endearment.

• If they “are in love at first sight” – That is phony at best. They should be as apprehensive of you as you are of them. Please see this as a huge red flag!

• If they want you to download a different app or website.

• Send communication through Facebook Messenger.

• Contact you using any social media platform. Be wary.

• You get the same text message about their life from several people with different names and locations.

• Refusal to meet face-to-face.

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• If you are asked to “friend” someone who has no friends and/ or you have no friends in common, don’t friend them. It is most likely a scam.

• If it is a newly established account with only a few photos of them looking perfect in every Image.

• If the person you are corresponding with encourages you to not tell your friends and family about your relationship, it’s a scam.

This list goes on and on. Be honest with yourself. Does it feel wrong? Is anything out of sync? Is this a familiar scenario?

Look for red flags. No matter what – don’t send any financial information or money. Keep all correspondence, copies of receipts and report suspects to OID, OK City Police, FBI, Office of Attorney General, or, Oklahoma County Sheriff’s Department. Report them. Help destroy this multi-billion dollar criminal operation. Don’t let them take your love and faith in humanity away from you. We need all the love we can get. Don’t fall for their financial trap.

Remember, over-the-top compliments are not real. You are not the ”most beautiful;” the “most” anything. They are playing to your emotions and insecurities. As a young mother of 3, I worked two jobs for years. I was hired to tend bar at a small neighborhood club. The woman who hired me gave me the best advice. She said, “Remember, you are not the sexiest, most beautiful, best-looking person. You do not have the most beautiful smile, legs, hair – or the “Most” anything else. That is a customer looking for an edge: free drink – heavy shots – an advantage – an opportunity. Tomorrow they won’t recognize

you or remember your name. If you don’t listen to the lies and treat everyone the same, not only will you maintain your self-respect, but also, make more money.” That advice kept me on the right path. It is the same with romance scammers.

Don’t buy into the hogwash!

To learn more about how fraud works and preventative measures we can take to protect ourselves, check out the HOODWINKED conference from Oklahoma Insurance Department at: Hoodwinked | Oklahoma Insurance Department.

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I know there are times the loneliness and isolation are overwhelming. There are as many contributing factors as there are people; death, divorce, relocation – whether yours or a loved one, illness, quarantine, and lack of mobility. All of these circumstances and many more, seem paralyzing. Take charge. Take back your life. Keep your money. Keep your dignity. Block their numbers. Report them. We care about your physical, emotional and financial well-being.

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Three Days of “FUN” in 2022

By Lisa Sydnor

It is time for the 3rd Annual BETTER WITH AGE Health & Safety Fun Days at the Shoppes at NorthPark Mall, 12100 North May Avenue; Thursday, May 12, 2022, from 9am-1pm AND again, Thursday, October 13, 2022. Be sure to save the dates and times in your phone, mark your calendars and get ready for fun!

We have added a THIRD FUN DAY!!

Better With Age Fun Day – Del City City of Del City Community Center, 4505 SE 15th Thursday, March 24, 2022, from 9 a.m.-1 p.m.

Adding the third Fun Day allows us to better serve Northeast & Southeast Oklahoma City, Midwest City and Del City and other communities.

In 2021, the Better With Age Health & Safety Fun Days were incredible with over sixty vendors, performances by entertainers from the Oklahoma Senior Follies, dancing by the Not Just Your Country Line Dancers and musicians from Will Rogers Park Senior Center to entertain. There were amazing door prizes, food, fun and frolic! They were parties!!

The Fun Days are designed to celebrate life, see old friends and make new ones while mingling with the vendors as they share a wealth of information. Come to all three events for good old-fashioned FUN with plenty of easy access parking and seating areas where you may rest and visit with friends.

There is ample bus and van parking available. It’s a party for you, your friends and family.

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and better than last year! More than 90% of vendors are returning. You will find a variety of great entertainment, amazing door prizes and invaluable tips which enable us to be healthy and safe as we age.

In 2021, over 350 people attended the event in June and over 500 in October. We are expecting even greater attendance this year! Public safety measures will remain in place.

We extend a special thank you to our State and Federal agencies and community partners: Oklahoma Department of Veterans Affairs, Oklahoma Healthy Aging Initiative, Oklahoma Department of Rehabilitation Services, Oklahoma Library for the Blind and Physically Handicapped, VA Caregivers Program, Oklahoma Insurance Department, RSVP of Central Oklahoma, Sunbeam Family Services, NewView Oklahoma, CaptionCall, Area Wide Aging Services, Alzheimer’s Association, Pet Food Pantry of Oklahoma City, Oklahoma County Sheriff’s Department, Oklahoma City Police Department, Oklahoma City Fire Department, and Embark.

There are many large and small businesses represented at the event to provide information on Estate Planning, Health Care Options, Home Health and Private Duty Care, Funeral Planning, Senior Living Communities, Insurance, Financial Planning, Real Estate, Senior Focused Primary care and Urgent Care, Physical Therapy, Diagnostic and Imaging, Mobile Physician Services.

If you have any questions or would like to receive vendor registration information, contact Lisa Sydnor at 405-3147840 or email her at l.sydnor@betterwithageok.com. This will be a great day of information sharing and camaraderie.

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What is hospice?

Hospice is not a place but a concept. Its goal is to neither hasten nor postpone death, but to offer compassionate care to those patients for whom curative measures are no longer an option. Hospice provides terminally ill patients and their families with customized medical care and pain management, as well as emotional and spiritual support.

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Most hospice patients receive care in their own homes or in the homes of loved ones. Hospice care may also be delivered to patients in nursing homes, hospitals, assisted-living facilities and independent-living facilities.

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When is the right time to ask about hospice?

Now is the right time to learn more about hospice care. Although end-oflife care may be difficult to discuss, knowing our loved ones’ wishes now can greatly ease their transition into this stage of life.

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BRING BACK THE ENJOYMENT OF A GOOD BOOK

By Brian King, Oklahoma Library for the Blind and Physically Handicapped

How long has it been since someone you care for enjoyed a novel or learned something new from an interesting work of nonfiction? If it has been a while, is that because he or she struggles to see the words clearly?

Or maybe they have a physical condition that makes it uncomfortable or impossible to hold a traditional book for a significant length of time or turn the pages.

Caregivers across Oklahoma are taking advantage of a different way to enjoy reading again with audiobooks provided by the Oklahoma Library for the Blind and Physically Handicapped (OLBPH).

Before you move on to another article, thinking this is a sales pitch, let me assure you it’s not. OLBPH services are completely FREE for all users with no strings attached.

Also, please don’t jump to conclusions based on our name. The Oklahoma Library for the Blind and Physically Handicapped serves people with a wide variety of vision impairments and disabilities – from mild to severe and everything in between. A large percentage of our patrons are seniors who don’t consider themselves “blind” but can no longer use standard print. Many are battling eye problems such as macular degeneration, glaucoma, and cataracts, or physical conditions such as Parkinson’s and arthritis.

Most of our patrons get their audiobooks and magazines through the mail (with no postage due, either coming or going) in the form of digital cartridges. The cartridges are heard through a player that is provided by OLBPH and loaned at no cost to users. Patrons who use a computer, tablet, or smartphone have the option of downloading books and magazines and listening through their personal devices.

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If you think the number of books to choose from must be fairly small, think again! We have more than 100,000 titles available! The collection includes all kinds of fiction and nonfiction, such as westerns, religion and inspiration, histories, mysteries, biographies, bestsellers, science fiction, and many more.

It’s easy to get started… you can get an application right now through our website, www.olbph.org. Click on the Apply tab on the black bar near the top of the page.

Then scroll down a little to the “Download Applications” section and open the Individual application. Or you can call 1-800-523-0288 and we will send you a paper form in the mail. When the application is complete, just send it to us in the way that’s most convenient for you: fax, scan & email, or traditional mail. All of our contact information is at the top of the application’s first page. We look forward to helping the people you care for enjoy books and magazines again!

Editor’s note: If you or a loved one can benefit from this lifeenriching program, please apply! I would like to extend a personal thank you to Brian King with the Oklahoma Library for the Blind and Physically Handicapped for this editorial content and his unwavering devotion and compassion to those he serves. The Oklahoma Library for the Blind and Physically Handicapped was recently honored as Regional Library of the Year by the National Library Service for the Blind and Print Disabled, a division of the Library of Congress. At the state level, OLBPH is part of the Services for the Blind and Visually Impaired division of the Oklahoma Department of Rehabilitation Services. This is an extraordinary accomplishment and exemplifies the level of excellence this department sets as its standard. Congratulations!

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Longterm Care Options in Oklahoma

ASSISTED LIVING

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ASSISTED LIVING A home or establishment that may provide assistance with personal care, medications, ambulation, nursing supervision and intermittent or unscheduled nursing care. They cannot provide 24-hour skilled nursing care. Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health Mainly Private Pay, LTC Insurance may cover , VA Aid & Attendance, & Tribal Benefits Medicaid Option through DHS (Advantage Waiver)

NURSING HOME A nursing facility that provides 24-hour skilled nursing care and related services for residents who require medical or nursing care.

Nursing Home Care Act - October 1, 1980. Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health. Nursing homes provide the highest level of care.

Options for Medicare/Medicaid

ADULT DAY CARE Provides health, recreational, social and supportive services to impaired adults for more than four hours per day. Participants do not stay in the center overnight. Adult Day Care Act - November 1, 1989 Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health VA allows respite benefits Medicaid Option through DHS (Advantage Waiver)

VETERANS CARE Created in 2013, this program is for residents who are veterans living in the state veteran’s centers. They are licensed as a nursing facility and can provide 24-hour skilled nursing care and related services for residents who require medical or nursing care . Falls under Nursing Home Care Act - May 29, 2013. Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health

CONTINUUM OF CARE Combines the services of a nursing facility with an assisted living center or an adult day care center. It is licensed under the Continuum of Care and Assisted Living Act and must also meet requirements applicable to nursing facilities, assisted living centers and adult day care centers. Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health Currently inOklahoma, all Continuum of Care’s only have assisted livings.

Medicaid Option through DHS (Advantage Waiver) for Assisted Living and Adult Day Care.

RESIDENTIAL CARE HOMES Provide residential accommodations, food service, and supportive assistance. May also provide assistance with meals, dressing, bathing, other personal needs, and medication administration. Cannot provide medical care such as skilled nursing. Residential Care Act - November 1, 1984 Licensed by Oklahoma State Department of Health A typical residential care resident is younger than other long term care options and only requires assistant with medication administration.

NO Options for Medicare/Medicaid

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CAREGIVERS O R N E R By Kathy Cocks, RN Finding ways to Thrive in 2022 Spring and warm weather are coming. Pretty soon the trees will blossom, and children will be climbing the monkey bars. Yet if you are a caregiver days and seasons run together. The day can seem never-ending as you care for another person, try to take care of yourself, and make sure the house is livable. It is easy to get caught up in survival mode. Take a deep breath and re-evaluate how you can receive help which will also increase your loved one getting some socialization. Find chores your care recipient can participate in. Lastly, as the weather warms get outside and enjoy nature.

My dad is 90 years and up to the time before the pandemic, he was playing tennis and helping lay tile for habitat homes.

He stayed home until the COVID shots became available but now his knees are weak and he finds walking difficult.

We talked to him about moving to independent living but most older people want to stay in their own home. My dad especially wants to stay home with his two cats and his “man cave” he built after my mom passed. I could not get him to hire help.

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quit cooking and was getting a hamburger every day. I mailed him his senior center’s menu and now I know during the week he will get a hot nutritious meal and interact with other people. Socialization is so important to try to work into the day of our loved ones. Call your local Area-wide Aging Agency and they can tell you where the closest senior center is. If you or your loved one are home-bound, they will bring the meals to you, and at least it is someone to say hi to.

I interviewed Fred on my podcast, Knowledge for Caregivers and he said they were trying to manage all the challenges of caregiving on their own. But as a small family just couldn’t keep up, they knew they needed help. They reached out to their friends and asked them to come over and sit and talk with their Dad. This gives their Dad that extra socialization and gives his wife time to go into the kitchen to prepare healthy meals or a break to relax and read a book.

Friends many times want to help but they do not know how. My mother-in-law goes to a weekly Bible Study on Wednesday with some women from the church. She asks one of the male spouses to come and sit with her husband. She enjoys her day out and my father-in-law has a chance to socialize.

Resources are available to have sitters come into the home so a family caregiver can run errands or work in the garden. You can hire an agency for professional caregivers, apply for state assistance or look for community partners to provide these sitters. The federal government provides grants to many nonprofits to assist caregivers, do not be afraid to take advantage of them. Adult day centers are located in many neighborhoods where individuals can go to give family members some respite time.

Besides encouraging socialization in our care recipients, we need to encourage them to do activities with us.

Recently I interviewed an occupational therapist and a physical therapist for my podcast. They both said similar things. Have the care recipient assist with cooking, folding laundry or other household chores. Put on some of their favorite music and give them simple chores they can accomplish. Being able to be helpful will build their self-esteem and increase the bond between family members. The other benefit of doing chores together is it helps to maintain or build fine motor skills and strengthens the larger muscles slowing

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down mental and physical decline. As my physical therapist podcaster said, “Life is exercise.” What she means is that loading the dishwasher or pushing the Swiffer all help to maintain our muscles but does not feel boring like leg lifts. Therefore, find ways to include your loved one in daily tasks around the home.

Lastly, get outside on warm days. Even if your care recipient can only sit on the porch and watch you weed the garden. The sunshine will improve their mood. Many times, they can help outside by watering the garden, planting seeds, or repotting a house plant.

Vitamin-D is absorbed through the skin and can be a great benefit. Research has shown that individuals with normal Vitamin-D levels tended to get less sick with COVID-19. Buy a rocking chair and let them rock on the porch enjoying the sunshine and exercising their leg muscles without even knowing it.

It is important to stop the hectic pace that engulfs caregivers and make sure we re-evaluate the mental and physical health of both the caregiver and the care recipient. We need to find ways for both to thrive in 2022.

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Romance is not just for the young. Senior citizens also enjoy and desire romantic adventures. Why not plan a mystery adventure date this month?

Medicare Jet-Setter creator Neil Johnson and I have some groovy guidelines and suggestions for creating your mystery date.

Mystery dates are about putting some spark into your life.

Here are the guidelines to creating a mystery adventure date:

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Keep it a secret.

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3. Only tell them the day, the time, and what to wear.

The rest is a mystery.

4. This adventure is your treat to them, so they pay nothing.

5. Use your imagination regarding how to get to your destination; it can be anything from driving, walking, taking a bike, or hiring a limo.

6. Do not let the cat out of the bag until you arrive at the destination. Sit back a moment and enjoy the look of delight and surprise or shock on their face.

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One of the ways to figure out where to go is to listen to memories the person you want to take mentions in conversations. Neil had mentioned how he used to love the ice cream bars he would buy at Dairy Queen when he was young. Ah-ha, I thought, perfect mystery date. I called another couple and asked them to be there waiting for us. I was setting up an old-fashioned double date as our generation did back in the day. I asked him to meet me at my office. Then without him knowing what was going on, we turned into the Dairy Queen that was just two blocks from where I work.

When we went inside, a big smile crossed his face.

When he saw our friends waiting for us, he laughed out loud. Ice cream and giggles made up this very simple, inexpensive, and loads of fun mystery date.

Another suggestion that many people don’t know about is right in Hennessey, Oklahoma. Surprise your date or whomever you choose with a Hennessey Adventure to Vernost Wine Co. The winery has a massive fireplace to sit in front of and sip your wine or a rooftop patio for warmer weather. The building is full of history. The stories hang on the walls and are in the books scattered around. Vernost Wine Co. is in the oldest standing building in Hennessey. The Hardin family of Hennessey converted the building into the premier wine bar it is today. Since this is a mystery adventure, Vernost is the perfect destination.

Vernost Wine Co. has been the site of two paranormal investigations. Their motto is Loyal to Those that Matter. They have a fantastic array of different wines to taste. Their wines also boast unusual names such as American Gospel, Ghost of War, Foot to Throat, Big Sexy, Candied Sin, Throwdown, and Prophet of Doom, to name a few. When you sit at the bar, you can ask the bartender how each wine got its unique name. The bar is made of natural wood and is the perfect width,

so you don’t worry about your wine glass falling to the floor if you accidentally knock it over. Their wines have won various awards. If you don’t like wine, you can always get an icy cold beer or soft drink. Vernost Wine Co. is located at 110 N Main St, Hennessey, OK 73742.

Another fun mystery date is to head to Jimmy’s Egg for brunch. When you get there, you and your honey, or your friend, can grab a free copy of Caregiver Magazine from the rack. As you thumb through it together, you can read the stories, look at the ads, sip your coffee, and have something new to discuss.

Most romantic movies feature young people. In our senior years, let’s show the younger generation that retirement is a time for the rebirth of romance or adventures with our friends.

Go ahead and add some suspense and excitement to your life by planning your mystery date adventure.

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are cared for, is primary. The Oklahoma Department of Veterans Affairs is about the veteran and their family and honoring their service to our country.” Clearly, Joel Kintsel is a man who gets it and he cares.

As the Oklahoma Department of Veterans Affairs Executive Director, Joel Kintsel is responsible for providing leadership, strategic planning, organizing and directing all agency programs and daily operations, advising and updating the Oklahoma Veterans Commission on agency activities, executing special projects, and providing oversight of the seven Oklahoma Veterans Centers. He previously served as ODVA Deputy Director from 2018 to 2019 before being appointed Executive Director by Governor Stitt.

Prior to joining ODVA, he served as Parliamentarian for the Oklahoma House of Representatives for 14 years and is the author of House Rules and Procedural Manual, a book detailing legislative parliamentary procedure in the Oklahoma House of Representatives.

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Breaking New Ground for Oklahoma Veterans

By Lisa Sydnor When Joel Kintsel became the Executive Director of the Oklahoma Department of Veterans Affairs (ODVA), he had very clear goals he wanted to accomplish. One was effective customer service; service that put the veterans and their needs first. Second, it seems almost the same as number one, embracing the veteran and the veteran’s family, as one. As Kintsel explained, “Caring for a veteran isn’t about one person. Most veterans serve for love of country and family. You cannot separate the two – it is a package deal. Ensuring that every veteran receives the best care, has access to all benefit information, and assurance that their families 28

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A veteran of the Oklahoma Army National Guard from 2000 to 2009, Kintsel was recently appointed to Lt. Colonel for the Oklahoma Air National Guard while concurrently serving as the Deputy State Judge Advocate for Air, Joint Forces Headquarters. During his service with the Oklahoma National Guard, he served as Deputy Command Judge Advocate for the Joint Area Support Group – Central, Baghdad, Iraq, in support of Operation Iraqi Freedom in 2008. He was also one of the thousands of Oklahoma guard members deployed to New Orleans, Louisiana in the wake of Hurricane Katrina. Starting in 2020 after the declaration of the pandemic, Kintsel was called up to serve as the Oklahoma National Guard’s supporting Judge Advocate for the statewide COVID-19 task force.

Joel Kintsel holds a Bachelor of Arts in Journalism from Oklahoma State University and a Juris Doctor from the University of Oklahoma. He is also a member of the Oklahoma Bar Association.

Kintsel acknowledges, “More and more veterans are women. For many years, there were few benefits for women and many of the benefits were obscure and no one seemed to know the qualifications.” Now, empowering all veterans to know about all benefits and having clear guidelines for applying is making life much

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easier for everyone. In the past, it seemed difficult to qualify for benefits; simply because the process of applying could be a nightmare. First, you had to find out what benefits you qualified for and how to access the programs. Many changes have, and continue to be taking place in ODVA. Across the state, all ODVA staff are charged with providing exemplary customer service while fulfilling their primary responsibilities of helping and guiding veterans through the process of identifying and accessing benefits.

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As the first to hold the newly created position of Outreach Coordinator for Veterans Administration State Homes Program, Robert (Rob) Arrington is experiencing a significant change in duties. He is responsible for reaching out to Veterans, their families, and health care providers to teach them about Oklahoma’s State Veterans Home program and LEGEND help them take advantage of all the VA benefits they have earned.

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Did you know that a veteran with 70% disability may live in a VA Living Center free of charge? That means the veteran has long-term care and rehabilitation and pays nothing. There is no “buy-in” or “spend down.” All of their income and savings are available to be used to care for the family. These living centers have or are on schedule for updating to state-of-the-art equipment that rivals any hospital or long-term care community.

The centers have excellent medical professionals and well-trained and caring support staff.

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the story of the new 175-bed living center opening mid-year in Sallisaw and the renovations scheduled to start soon modernizing three other centers is great news for our State and our veterans. Arrington stated, “ I don’t want to lose the personal contact with the veterans and their families. They are the reason we are here. Taking our story to them is a labor of love. I feel no other living centers in the state can rival the state-of-the-art community nearing completion in Sallisaw.”

ADDITIONAL “LITTLE KNOWN” FACTS: Oklahoma City’s love and support for military service members and veterans was recently recognized by the Navy Federal Credit Union (NFCU). Oklahoma City, OK, ranked #11 on NFCU’s annual 2020 Best Cities After Service. Approximately 250,000 military members transition out of the service and into civilian life each year, according to the Navy Federal Credit Union. ODVA is proud to serve veterans transitioning from active duty into civilian life with resources and services in Oklahoma City and throughout the state.

Oklahoma City is home to a significant number of veteran-owned businesses.

Robert (Rob) Arrington

Arrington started with ODVA at the Sulphur Veterans Home in 2008 and most recently served as administrator of the Norman Veterans Home for over three years. He supervised 400 employees who cared for 300 veterans and associated families; now he travels across Oklahoma sharing information on available benefits, including the seven living centers.

Arrington stated, “My role is to promote not just the centers but also the “new” ODVA that is continuing to modernize and evolve as an agency. Sharing good news, identifying veteran needs and benefits, and promoting great programs are part of why I love my job! “ Arrington served in the Oklahoma Army National Guard from 1985 to 2007 as an air traffic controller.

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Oklahoma is number one of the 50 states in per capita federal veterans benefit dollars. These are not budgeted dollars coming through the Oklahoma government meaning it doesn’t show up as income so is often overlooked as an enormous benefit to the veterans of Oklahoma.

In Oklahoma, nearly 10% of our population is either a veteran or actively serving in the military; in Oklahoma, 30% of Native American citizens are also veterans.

Kintsel emphasized, “It is the goal of the Oklahoma Department of Veterans Affairs that all programs administered by this agency to Oklahoma veterans will always be first-rate in the nation for: Services, Benefits, Care, Facilities, Employees, and Relationships.”

ODVA VISION Empowering veterans and service members in their pursuit of quality of life and quality of opportunity in the great State of Oklahoma.

ODVA MISSION Our mission is to support, honor, and care for

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By Lisa Sydnor

LIFE IS CALLING Does it feel like you spend half of your time asking people to repeat themselves, specifically on the phone? I commiserate with you; sometimes it feels it isn’t worth it and I find myself withdrawing. You want to stop talking to people. But, those who know me know I love to meet new people, talk with friends, and be social! So, I won’t stop talking or trying to communicate any time soon!

Check out the CaptionCall phone to read and hear phone conversations. It works just like a regular landline phone with the advantage of real-time captions. Telephone captioning is an essential ADA service available at no cost. If you have trouble hearing on the phone, contact CaptionCall or your audiologist to find out if you qualify for this no-cost CaptionCall service.

Step 1: Are You Eligible?

This no-cost service is for people with hearing loss who need captions to effectively use the phone. Request our service to see if you qualify or talk to your audiologist.

Step 2: Request Service If you have hearing loss and need captions, fill out our simple online form. They’ll contact you to arrange a time for installation.

Step 3: Installation and Training Their professional team will confirm your qualifications, install the phone and authorize the app, and teach you how to use CaptionCall. There is no cost to you.

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CaptionCall really helps you connect! This telephone captioning service helps people with hearing loss understand phone calls better. It can and does make a difference. This service is federally funded so the phone and captioning services are no-cost to eligible users.

7 Ways You Can Help Someone with Hearing Loss 1. Annual Hearing Tests are Recommended for Everyone: Most people schedule yearly checkups with their doctors, and a trip to a hearing healthcare professional should be part of that routine. Even if someone doesn’t have a noticeable degree of hearing loss, it will at least help establish a baseline for where their (and your) hearing is right now. If the hearing loss is minor, then it can be tracked and hopefully helped before it gets too bad. If the hearing loss is at an advanced stage, then the hearing healthcare professional will be there to provide options.

2. There are many Risks of Putting Off Getting Your Hearing Checked: There are many reasons why it can be detrimental to put off a checkup, including depression, isolation, early-onset dementia, brain atrophy, and a greater risk of falling. When people with hearing loss find that they are missing out on conversations, they tend to withdraw

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from social situations and the isolation could lead to depression and potentially other ailments as well.

Don’t let that happen to your loved ones.

3. Prepare for Objections: When you have that difficult conversation with someone about their hearing loss, you will hear objections like, “people just mumble; I’m fine”, “my hearing isn’t bad enough that I need help”, “I just like to have the TV loud”, and a myriad of other objections. Know that there is a perceived social stigma that comes with hearing loss and that is likely the root cause for any pushback.

4. Let Them Know They are Not Alone: According to the Hearing Loss Association of America (HLAA), approximately 48 million Americans live with some degree of hearing loss. There are also many celebrities who have spoken out about their own hearing loss, so sharing their stories can help too.

5. Go with Them to Have Your Hearing Tested: Getting a hearing test is nothing to be scared about but doing it together can help ease their fears. Hearing tests are usually conducted in a sound-treated room and will consist of pure-tone audiometry, speech audiometry, speech in noise and words in noise test, tympanometry, and if need be, testing for hidden hearing loss.

6. Don’t Be the Only One Who Talks to Them: If you are talking to your parents, grandparents, or a friend, get others involved in the conversation. People are more likely to listen if they know many people care about them and their well-being.

7. Contact Your Local Hearing Healthcare Professional for Help: If your loved one is reluctant to get their hearing checked, you can contact a professional for further advice on things you can do to help them get treatment.

On average, it takes someone seven years to get their hearing loss taken care of, so don’t be discouraged if it takes you a couple of tries. Anything you can do to help your loved ones lower that average and is going to benefit them.

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Container Gardening For Senior Health

Gardening is great exercise, has been proven to relieve stress and improve healing, and rewards us with beautiful flowers, herbs, and vegetables. Seniors with limited space or a mobility challenge can plant flowers, herbs, and vegetables in containers and raised beds. It’s a great way to connect with nature when the weather in your area permits.

While gardening can be difficult, sweaty work, there are ways for seniors to reap all of the benefits – physical, mental, and emotional – without all of the heavy lifting. Container gardens are an easily accessible choice and can be kept on the balcony or terrace of a senior living apartment. You might be surprised by how much you can grow in container gardens – everything from azaleas to zucchini!

Containers, window boxes, and raised flower beds all lend themselves to senior-friendly gardens. You can make it even easier by choosing resin or plastic blend pots that are lighter to move than those made from concrete or terra-cotta.

A raised or elevated bed is another senior-friendly gardening solution, especially for those who struggle with balance or mobility. These kits can be purchased at a local lumber store or at online gardening sites.

Here are a few tips about growing herbs, vegetables, or flowers in containers: Planning a container garden can be a fun activity for families to do together, whether it’s researching which plants will do best in a particular spot, gathering supplies, or helping with the set up of containers, soil, and tables.

Engage The Senses

While younger and middle-aged adults tend to prefer gardens that are peaceful and still, older adults tend to look to gardens for stimulation. Choose plants that engage all the senses. Consider the bright colors and fragrance of flowers, herbs or vegetables that delight the palate, and a small fountain for soothing water sounds. (Water also attracts songbirds, but be sure that the water is continuously moving to avoid attracting mosquitoes, too.)

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Make It Accessible

Keep containers at the correct height for your loved one.

Containers and tools should be kept at an easily accessible height that can be reached while seated in a regular chair or wheelchair.

Choose The Right Tools

Some garden tools can be unwieldy for seniors with arthritis or other physical limitations. Tools modified specifically for those with arthritis can be found online at arthritissupplies.com, while ergonomically designed tools with large handles can be found on amazon.com, and at many other retailers.

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Eliminate the challenge of filling and carrying a large watering can by using a few small, empty soda bottles. These bottles can be filled and transported easily in a walker or wheelchair bag. Or, families can fill several during a visit and leave them closed within easy reach outside.

Reap The Benefits!

Studies have shows that time spent in a garden reduces stress, lowers blood pressure, and encourages healing. Plus, gardening is one of the few hobbies where you literally reap the benefits, whether those are beautiful flowers, tasty herbs, or juicy tomatoes!

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So, Who’s A Senior?

Good question. Technically speaking, senior adults are card­ carrying members of Medicare. In other words, anyone age 65+. However, if you enroll in an AARP or Association of Mature American Citizens (AMAC), which you’re entitled to do on your 50th birthday, you can start cashing in on senior discounts. For all other discounts, the minimum age requirements vary based on the company or location and can range from 50 to 65 years of age. So, if unsure if you qualify for a senior discount? Don’t hesitate to ask!

Shop Till You Drop While not all retail stores provide a dedicated senior discount, many offer impressive savings with a store rewards card. And lots of shops offer weekly senior discount days.

Drug Store Discounts Many companies offer free prescription drug cards that can save you up big bucks at the pharmacy. As your pharmacy if they participate in this type of program.

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There may be no such thing as a free lunch for seniors, but there is a free drink with purchase at fast food outlets like McDonald’s.

Many IHOPs offer a 50% off discount one night a week, which translates to one dinner freebie if you bring a companion.

The Art Of The Freebie Many museums and cultural attractions offer admission that’s free or discounted for seniors. Ask about a senior citizen discount at the box office. Also, look for free stuff at public events and festivals.

There Are Free Rides Most public transportation systems offer money-saving passes, but some are completely free for seniors. Find out if your state is on board.

Free Tax Help A number of agencies offer tax preparation help or counseling to seniors at no cost, as do some local accountants. The IRS offers free “Tax Counseling for the Elderly” (TCE). TCE provides tax help to individuals who are aged 60. The IRS with some private or nongovernmental public non­profit agencies or organizations, provides training and technical assistance to elderly individuals to prepare their income tax returns.

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Oklahoma drivers who are 70 years of age or older at the time their current driver license expires are generally required to renew their license in person at a local DPS office.

In addition to taking a vision test (see below), you may in certain situations be asked to take a written knowledge test as well.

In preparation for this, you can review the Oklahoma Drivers Handbook and take practice tests before going for your license renewal. For faster service at the DPS, you can make an appointment for your visit by calling your DMV office.

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THE DPS REEXAMINATION

A DPS reexamination is when a person’s driving skills must be reevaluated based on one or more factors, including the driver’s physical or mental condition, or driving record.

A DPS reexamination may be recommended by a family member, physical or emergency medical technician, or peace officer.

Other times, information in your license renewal application or on your driving record may prompt a reexamination. The reexamination involves the immediate evaluation of an individual by a DPS approved hearing officer. It consists of an interview, and may also involve a vision test, a written test, and/or a driving test.

To prepare for the test, many older drivers choose to enroll in a driver’s education program or driving school for seniors to brush up their skills. Following the reexamination, the hearing officer will decide whether any action should be taken regarding your driving privileges, such as restrictions, probation, suspension or revocation.

THE RESTRICTED DRIVERS LICENSE

Sometimes, a physical or mental condition can impair a driver’s ability to safely operate a motor vehicle. The most common of these conditions is poor vision, but others

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which may be age-related include cognitive skills like memory, coordination and flexibility.

In some circumstances, older drivers may have a restriction placed on their driver license. The types of restrictions vary, and are based on the results of your vision test, driving test, and the driving examiner’s assessment. A restricted driver license is intended to ensure that you are driving within your abilities. Some of the most common license restrictions are those that: • Require eyeglasses, corrective contact lenses, or bioptic telescopic lens to be worn at certain times.

• Permit driving from sunrise to sunset only, or prohibit driving during rush hour.

• Restrict the geographical area in which a person is permitted to drive, or prohibit freeway driving.

• Require special mechanical devices, or an additional side mirror on the vehicle.

• Require extra support in order to ensure a safe and correct driving position.

Mobility is essential to keeping seniors active and engaged in their communities. Together we can ensure our loved ones are both safe and mobile as they face the challanges of driving in today’s world.

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Valentine’s Day

It’s All in the Details...

Every February 14th, people around the world exchange gifts, chocolates, and romantic greetings for a day set aside for lovers.

Many traditions are followed, all in the name of St. Valentine. Still, people may not understand why such customs are upheld. Much of the history of Valentine’s Day and St. Valentine himself is shrouded in mystery and much of what’s widely accepted is inaccurate. To set the record straight, here are some facts about the holiday.

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• Valentine’s Day is believed to have originated from a celebration in Rome during the fifth century. This celebration paid tribute to St. Valentine, a Catholic priest. Other historians surmise it was a way to “Christianize” the pagan holiday of Lupercalia, which was a fertility festival. Included in the traditions were boys and girls drawing names from a box and exchanging gifts.

• The Catholic Church acknowledges at least three different saints named Valentine or Valentinus.

• All of the stories surrounding St. Valentine—whether they are disputed or not—paint him as a sympathetic and heroic individual.

• Valentine’s Day is celebrated in the United States, Canada, Mexico, the United Kingdom, France, and Australia.

• Valentine’s Day and Mother’s Day are the most popular holidays to give flowers.

• According to Hallmark, women purchase 85% of all valentines.

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• According to the Greeting Card Association, an estimated one billion Valentine’s Day cards are sent each year, making Valentine’s Day the second largest cardsending holiday of the year behind Christmas.

• Candy was among the earliest Valentine’s Day gifts and remains a popular gift today.

• Some tales suggest that the type of bird a girl watches on Valentine’s Day predicts her future husband. A bluebird indicates a happy man, while a sparrow indicates a poor man.

• In Medieval times, girls consumed unusual foods on Valentine’s Day in the belief it would make them dream of their future husbands.

• Valentine’s Day greetings have been popular from the Middle Ages onward, though they have been usually verbal in nature.

• The oldest known written valentine still in existence today was a poem written in 1415 by Charles, Duke of Orleans, to his wife while he was imprisoned in the Tower of London following his capture at the Battle of Agincourt.

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Remember when you made a “mail box” for your Valentine’s from classmates? Remember when we made our own Valentine’s?

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Remember when your heart pounded at the sight of your “Valentine”? You held your breath waiting to see if he dropped a Valentine in your “mail box”.

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Valentine’s Day! Remember when Valentine’s Day school dances were a sea of red and white formals? Even the guys got into the mood with red or white tuxedos, shirts, and shoes? You had matching red carnations!

Remember when you kept your Valentines in a padded heart box (after eating the candy, of course)?

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