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DearReaders, Readers, Dear May thisthis Holiday season provideprovide the peace and joy alland families May Holiday Season the peace tranquility deserve at this time.

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For Hannah Smith, the mission statement of NewView Oklahoma (NVO), “It’s not what you can see, it’s what you can be,” has proven to be prophetic.

In October 2019, 19-year-old Hannah Smith was enrolled at the University of Central Oklahoma (UCO) as a full-time student pursuing a degree in nursing and working full-time at the Fairfield Inn by Marriott in Edmond. She noticed her peripheral vision was blurred and she had bumps and sores in her mouth and throat. Hannah was diagnosed with Stage 4 Burkett’s Lymphoma and a tumor on the optic nerve of her left eye. For six months, Hannah received aggressive chemotherapy and radiation treatments which sapped her strength and made normal daily living virtually impossible.

Eventually, she had to drop her classes at UCO, resign from her job and focus on surviving the treatments.

In April 2020, Hannah and her family rejoiced at the news that she was cancer-free! Fairfield Inn held Hannah’s position in hopes she would be returning and in June, she went back to work and enrolled at Rose State intent on continuing her education. In August, she said “yes” to her sweetheart and best friend, Jordan Dangle, when he asked her to marry him. In the summer, she went to work at Oklahoma University (OU) Pharmacists Care Center. Life was good and always the optimist, Hannah was certain the cancer was behind her.

sleepily laughed and said, “Yes, it’s black. It’s the middle of the night!” Then, turning on a light, fully awake, Lisa Smith realized the significance of what Hannah was saying.

Hannah’s world was black. Her sweet baby, her daughter was blind. Mother and daughter sat on the bed holding each other and cried.

The first few weeks after losing her sight Hannah sat on the sofa, listened to TV and ate cookies; angry and having her own private pity party. But Hannah had choices to make. Would she sit on the sofa, eat cookies, do nothing and wallow in self-pity, or would she figure out how to deal with the curveball life had thrown her? Being a “Type A” personality has certainly been a driving factor in Hannah’s life. Now, it was THE driving factor. She contacted Dean McGee Institute and was referred to NewView Oklahoma.

Hannah credits NVO staff and its programs for literally saving her life. After her initial assessment, she began five months of outpatient therapy, learning to do daily tasks, how to utilize assistive technology, setting up their home for loss of vision, and how to use a white cane for mobility.

Hannah began experiencing a steady loss of vision. In September she returned to the doctor where she learned this was not unanticipated. The doctors had expected this loss of vision but had not shared that information with Hannah. From the initial diagnosis to the first symptom of vision loss, no one on the medical team had addressed the inevitable loss of sight. Hannah was in shock to learn the treatment to eradicate the cancer was robbing her of her vision. By December, her loss of vision led her to resign from OU Pharmacists Care Center. On December 17th, a week after turning 21, Hannah awoke in the night to stark blackness. She knew her eyes were wide open but there was only black. Terrified, stumbling down the hall, struggling to find her mother’s bedroom, Hannah kept saying, “It’s black. It’s black. There is no light.” Her mother 8 CAREGIVER CAREGIVER Magazine Magazine

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She joined the MOVE program. This program teaches participants with low or no vision how to use Microsoft Office programs, Outlook Email, how to navigate through web pages and basic computer skills.

Mastering new skills bolstered her self-confidence and with renewed determination, she is pursuing a full, productive life. One of her goals is to achieve her degree in Social Work; become a certified counselor who focuses on young people as they struggle with life choices. Hannah has enrolled and will return to college for the Spring 2022 semester in an online degree program at East Central University in Ada, OK. Hannah is staying busy planning her September 2022 wedding; volunteering at NVO; teaching Sunday School; speaking to groups about her journey; and, meeting weekly to mentor ten girls, ages 10-13 about basic life skills, self-confidence and self-esteem. They seem to like the baking lessons best and savoring the end product! She has applied for a guide dog and is anxiously awaiting a decision from the organization.

Hannah is the daughter of Lisa Smith of Oklahoma City and Bryan Smith of Stillwater. Her parents, her brother and best friend, Jake (17), fiancée, Jordan Dangle, and grandparents, Tom and Karen, are the rocks on which she leans. They have a deep faith in God and face challenges together, as a family. Lisa Smith shared, “We are nowhere without hope. That is our saving grace; hope for the future, a productive life.” With a smile and infectious laugh, she

John 8:12 Then Jesus again spoke to them, saying, “I am the Light of the world; he who follows Me will not walk in the darkness, but will have the Light of life.”

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continued, “Hannah has never been one to back off from a challenge or believed it when told she couldn’t do something.

One way to get my girl going is to tell her “you can’t.” I love that about her – most of the time!”

Hannah shared, “I was confused, didn’t know what to feel or what to do – I was mad and just plain scared. I was blindsided by the loss of my sight.” Her dad, Bryan Smith added, “Hannah has always been motivated and had a positive attitude. She is very spiritual and has purpose. I am proud of how she is handling this life-altering challenge, her optimistic attitude, and accomplishments during this journey.” Hannah readily admits she is a Daddy’s girl!

According to Hannah: “Losing your vision does not mean dropping out of life. You must re-learn to be independent; re-think how you can accomplish various tasks, and dedicate yourself to expanding your world.” This is a young woman intent on living her life with purpose. She is all about, “It’s not what you can see. It’s what you can be.”

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The staffofof CAREGIVER Magazine is committed to The staff CAREGIVER Magazine is committed to connecting those in need with services and programs.

If you have a question connecting those in need with services and programs. or you are looking for services, call 405-314-7840 or email

Ifl.sydnor@betterwithageok.com; you have a question, 405-314-7840 includecall your name and phone number in the message. We can help you find resources such as

or email l.sydnor@betterwithageok.com 211; NewView Oklahoma; Will Rogers Senior Center; aInclude home healthname care agency; a placenumber to live, fraud prevention, etc. your and phone in the message.

REQUESTS FOR HELP

The old adage “I don’t know everything but I know someone who does,” certainly has been proven true again and again in this past month. CAREGIVER Magazine’s, ASKLisa column, offers a place to start by sharing as much information as we have. Our mission is to provide options and support to families caring for loved ones with declining health, we are continually researching agencies and businesses who provide programs and services to help your specific caregiving situation.

QUESTION: Is there anyone who will accept donated household items and distribute them to individuals or to non-profits or agencies that can store and give to individuals as needs arise? We want to donate to an organization that does not sell the items, as many charities do.

ANSWER: There are several organizations/agencies/ companies that can help on various levels. Some will come in and sort, pack and dispose of the household items; other companies only remove furniture and appliances and deliver to specified locations; others will pick up and give to anyone with a verified need. Many organizations accept donations but they do not “give” to those in need. Items accepted are then sold.

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ANSWER: We can provide some referrals; however, you must do your research and make your own decision.

Companies are usually more expensive, but they are also fully insured. An independent contractor might be available immediately; however, we recommend you check references and insurance.

QUESTION: My friend was in the hospital, he asked me to sign a Power of Attorney (POA) giving me the responsibility to make medical and financial decisions for him. What do I need to do?

ANSWER: Be sure you understand what a POA is and your obligations and responsibilities. Does your friend have any relatives? Are you willing to make life decisions for your friend? Are you getting a medical power of attorney or financial power of attorney? Being a POA is a serious responsibility. As their friend, if their family surfaces along the way you may have a bumpier journey than when you first legally took on the task. As their friend being both the medical and financial POA could put you in a precarious situation. Also, know that a POA is only valid while your friend is alive. Talk to an attorney or Legal Aid of Oklahoma or the Office of the Oklahoma Attorney General to ensure you understand all the legal obligations you are assuming.

QUESTION: A distraught, discouraged husband was trying to find help as he dealt with his wife’s declining mental state. She is in her early 70s, suffering severe memory loss, heart-related issues and her personality is changing. Basically, a multiplicity of life-changing issues has left him at a total loss, feeling that he had no options or help. Until he reached out to ASKLisa he had no idea there was help on multiple levels; home health care; support groups; classes on dementia/Alzheimer’s; counseling for himself as he travels this long, lonely road; attorneys who specialize in elder law; respite care; and the list goes on. He felt alone and that no one could understand what they were going through. His wife knows things aren’t right and that she is not functioning at full capacity, but those moments are fewer and fewer. To complicate matters he must travel for his

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job for the foreseeable future. They have no children or family. How can he care for her, deal with her feelings of abandonment or his feelings of guilt and maintain his job?

ANSWER: This situation is very complex; the issue of his travel was time-sensitive and required immediate action. Other concerns, while just as important, did not require immediate decisions, allowing time for research and long-term plans.

The list of referrals for this husband is extensive; however, at the top of the list was identifying skilled in-home 24/7 care, learning the stages of memory loss and what to expect; support groups; housekeeping; and, review of all insurances.

Several times the conversation re-enforced; “It is not selfish to take care of you. Self-care is the opposite of selfish.”

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Oklahomans bring joy to Veterans at Christmas

By Lashanya Nash

“From a tiny spark may burst a mighty flame.” For Emerson Newell what began as a school project has grown beyond what anyone involved in the early days of this great cause could have ever imagined. It represents what a small group on a great mission can accomplish.

We have covered this heartfelt Veterans project since 2019 and an update is in order. What started in Shawnee, Oklahoma in the Newell family home has been embraced by OSU as a University project. The Newell family began the project but I feel one of the primary reasons it has grown and helped so many Veterans is because they have always maintained they were only its stewards. It is everyone who participates they credit to its success. The Newell family has given the opportunity to give back to our Veterans to anyone who wanted to be involved. Getting the youth of our State involved in honoring aging Veterans who have sacrificed so much is a life-changing endeavor for all involved.

I fondly remember first meeting Emerson Newell. She was a shy yet vivacious high school student always happy to work diligently in the background. As I listened to her speak recently, I realized the time that has passed and what a truly exceptional person and public speaker she is developing into. Knowing how proud her parents, Derek and Jessie Newell are to see the inspirational young woman their daughter is becoming. Emerson spoke to a patriotic and spirited crowd on the OSU campus in November and her heartfelt humble message explains the project best. “...I can’t begin to express how humbling it is as a freshman to have this University embrace the project that started in my home nearly 4 years ago. It started as an idea to create 10 bags for veterans during the 2018 holiday season. It instantly became a state project and the hub of it was in my house. It has been a blessing to see our home completely filled with hundreds of bags year after year in the first year...

received a Christmas bag, in the past 3 years over 5000 bags have been donated. Some of our veterans have family and some don’t but this project is a way to make sure that they’re all remembered. This project is a way to honor and respect the men and women that have sacrificed for our freedom.

With the help of Oklahoma State University and I believe this project will continue to grow and help thousands of veterans. I know that Oklahoma is the heart of the nation and I’m excited to see Oklahoma State Cowboys take it to the next level. Again, thank you to president Shrum and the University. Thank you to my sorority, Gamma Phi Beta and a very special thank you to Ashlyn Oliver and most of all I thank God. You have all made my freshmen year at OSU perfect and before I sit down I’d like to recognize my sorority sister, Savannah Baker, who will be deployed in the Spring and I’d like to recognize her and thank her for her service.“ Jessie Newell, Emerson’s mother, recognizes Ashlyn Oliver for her efforts that brought the project to the attention of OSU and credits the name change of this Veteran project to her. “Christmas Bags for Veterans” was officially changed to “COWBOYS FOR VETERANS”. Jessie added, “Bags will continue to be made by Oklahomans all over the state and in classrooms.

Oklahoma State University will be the first university in the state to participate. The bags will go to the University and be dispersed by the University. This will give this project room to grow! I hope this inspires other colleges to participate.” If you are a school, university, or organization that would like to participate contact Jessie Newell for more information at 405-214-8633

I learned so much in the 1st year of this project that we made an effort to get as many students of all ages involved as possible. As of right now hundreds of students across the state are participating in taking care of our veterans. In the last two years, we have covered all 7 centers in Oklahoma and 100% of veterans housed in these centers

OSU President, Dr. Kayse Shrum stated, “The cowboy family has an opportunity this year to make a difference in the lives of Oklahoma veterans in senior living communities and hospice care through “Cowboys for Veterans” we are collecting Christmas bags for veterans.

As a proud daughter of a Vietnam Veteran, I cannot adequately express what their example, dedication, and sacrifice mean to the country, the campus and to me. Join me in honoring veterans and bringing them joy this holiday season learn more about this effort at the link below.

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#10: Around the Corner: 11 S. Broadway, Edmond, Ok

For an authentic old-fashioned diner experience, visit Around the Corner. Our server even had the 1950’s attitude about customer service. She smiled at us, kept our coffee cups full, and suggested we try their dripping with butter and homemade goodness, cinnamon rolls. Around the Corner is a groovy breakfast destination.

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#9: Sparrow Modern Italian Restaurant: 507 North Blvd, Edmond, OK

By Shelley Malicote-Stutchman The top ten list of groovy restaurants for Senior Citizens is your guide for dining enjoyment.

This could possibly be the firstever list of its kind for us seniors. These restaurants received a groovy rating from Shelley MalicoteStutchman and Neil Johnson, the creators of Medicare Jet-Setters. Staying active and having new adventures helps keep dementia, depression, and poor health at bay.

Medicare Jet-Setters is Shelley and Neil’s way of giving back to our generation of seniors by providing reasons to continue to Get Up and Go. Pretty groovy, huh?

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When you get up and go to the Sparrow, you need to try the garlic knots. This gooey, cheesy, buttery, and bubbling bread comes in a cast-iron skillet. These garlic knots are pure naughtiness.

#8: PF Chang’s: 13700 N. Pennsylvania Ave, OKC, OK

The atmosphere at P.F. Chang’s is very relaxing and Zen-like. It is a great place to unwind and disconnect from your busy life. The Kung Pao Shrimp has just the right amount of spice to make it attention-grabbing, but not so much it overpowered the dish.

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Bellini’s has a groovy happy hour. They feature yummy appetizers and drinks. Best of all the servings are not skimpy. You get a generous size portion of whatever you order. Enjoy their happy hour, and you will leave with your tummy full, and your wallet will be happy too.

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#5 The Lounge: Kitchen + Cocktails: 3601 E. 2nd St. Edmond, OK

Are you looking for the grooviest of groovy and the coolest of cool places to eat and drink? The Lounge is an adult-only venue with the classic Hollywood style of a bygone era. Chef Josh’s Smoked Gouda Burger is habitforming. It consists of smoked gouda, thick-cut bacon, caramelized onions, tomato, arugula, and peppered garlic aioli. The adult-only venue makes it perfect when you want to go out for a memorable evening.

#4 Bistro 22: 1417 E Danforth Rd, Edmond, OK

“Oh là là,” slipped out of my mouth the moment I IMAGINE ALL YOUR RELOCATION PIECES stepped inside Bistro Twenty Two. Had we been COMING TOGETHER SEAMLESSLY transported to Paris? Not only is the service, drinks, and food outstanding, but their attitude toward humankind I am THINKING forever grateful to have had is also groovy. We ordered the best French Onion Soup ABOUT SELLING Connie to sell my home, and, also ever! That is when we learned their experienced chefs’ FAMILY HOME, helped me inYOUR purchasing my current layer the soup. The different characteristics and flavors home. She has a heart for her clients are highlighted depending on where the chef layers the RELOCATING and invaluable expertise in the OR entire DOWNSIZING? ingredients to prepare the soup. process!

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ComForCare, a franchised provider of inhome caregiving services, announced their Caregiver of the Year at the company’s annual conference held in Bloomfield Hills, Michigan in November. Nancy Bell, a ComForCare caregiver in Oklahoma City, OK, was awarded the 2021 Caregiver of the Year for her outstanding service and exemplary care.

“Nancy is highly skilled, extremely knowledgeable, and a team player who has consistently displayed and promoted the highest ethical standards,” said Khalid Bokhari, franchise owner of ComForCare in Oklahoma City. “She is willing to go above and beyond by volunteering to cover visits and take on some of the most difficult cases such as patients with Alzheimer’s and Dementia. Several patients have remarked that her kind nature and thorough work ethic have led them to recommend ComForCare to friends and family.”

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A Norman Christmas Story

From the Editor: The following story is an account of a Nativity play presented on Dec. 19, 1965, by children of the First Presbyterian Church in Norman. It originally appeared in The Norman Transcript on Dec. 20, 1965, and was first reprinted on Dec. 16, 1966. It has since been reprinted in newspapers all across the country. It is my honor and privilege to rekindle this local favorite. Thank you, Robbie Lamberson, for bringing this literary tradition to these pages and to the Norman Transcript for keeping it alive for so many years. Merry Christmas!

A preschool version of the Christmas Story, complete with more than a few last minute improvisations, unfolded before a delighted audience at the First Presbyterian Church Sunday night.

Joseph, stunned for a moment, gallantly came to Mary’s aid with a swing at the intruder. And the innkeeper, proving not a bad sort after all, picked up a handful of hay and threw it at the would be abductor.

The pageant of the Nativity, presented by members of the Cherub and Chapel choirs, in general had proceeded well at dress rehearsal. Mary, Joseph, the shepherds, wise men and other 4 and 5-year-olds in the cast had run more or less smoothly through their assigned parts. The Chapel Choir and a narrator provided the background, and except for minor entanglements with flowing robes and headdresses, few problems were encountered.

The arrival of the harried father, towering some three feet above the rest of the cast, restored peace momentarily.

Then the Big Night arrived.

The first hint of trouble came even before the formal action opened when one of the younger members of the Cherub Choir, a boy of about 2, took a fancy to the doll representing the infant Jesus lying in the manger.

Clambering on stage he made a beeline for the crib and was diverted from his goal only by the action of an alert father.

The innkeeper, exhibiting a lively proprietary interest in the stable, practiced leaping about the freshly strewn hay until the arrival of Mary and Joseph, whom he escorted proudly to seats beside the crib.

The shepherds and white-robed angels arrived soon after. And it was then that the young Cherub, perhaps encouraged by his part as one of the children come to adore the Christ child, decided on another try for the object of his affections in the manger.

He squeezed his way through the crowd, grabbed the doll and lifted it from the crib. Mary, reacting like any mother, made a lunge for the swaddling clothes, and a tug of war ensued above the manger.

But it was the hay, omitted during dress rehearsal, that caused the eventual downfall. Piled liberally about the tiled floor, it proved a lumpy and slippery footing. One of the shepherds, head bowed above the manger, suddenly went down. He scrambled up and immediately plopped down again.

The third time he fell he grabbed the innkeeper; the innkeeper bumped an angel and half the cast toppled like a row of dominoes.

But the hay proved a soft cushion — fun to dive into, in fact. Soon the shepherd and innkeeper were competing in swan dives into the straw. A wise man scuffled with an angel whose gilded wings had slipped considerably below their proper place.

The Cherub, once more eluding his father, tried unsuccessfully to wrest a crook away from one of the shepherds.

The narrator and choir, unfazed by the commotion, continued like troupers to the end; the cast was enticed offstage and peace once more returned to the somewhat disarranged stable.

One spectator, his voice still trembling with laughter, was heard to remark as he left the church, “I’m glad I read the Book, ’cause they sure changed the plot!”

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CAREGIVERS O R N E R By Kathy Cocks, RN Hobbies Provide Purpose.

My Dad has spent the last 20 years of his retired life building homes through Habitat for Humanity. Every time he helped finish a home, he would give away one of Mom’s hand-crafted decorations during the dedication ceremony.

He made sure that each home had quality construction.

When the pandemic hit that activity was put on hold and unfortunately it also caused him to decline physically and emotionally. Building those homes gave Dad a purpose.

My Father-in-law has dementia and very bad arthritis.

He goes to a day center, and they were struggling to find activities for him. He enjoys crocheting and the main thing he knew how to make was scarves. They are beautiful and warm. All of my closets and my children’s closets are full of scarves. We needed a new avenue for his scarves and a person from the day center took them to homeless shelters. After that my father-in-law enjoys making scarves knowing they are going to an important cause.

It does not matter a person’s age, they need love first, but they also need a sense of purpose. Many times, we think someone who has dementia is happy to just be safe and well taken care of. They do need that, but they also need a sense of purpose. Sometimes we can get busy making sure someone has a good diet and plenty of physical exercise without helping them find purpose in life.

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According to research, older people with a high rating of purpose in life have more social support, more resilience with adversity, and better health. This also leads to better mental and physical health. Older individuals though can experience difficulty physically or mentally engaging in activities that give them purpose. It is important to keep trying to find activities they can still do.

Find out what type of hobbies an older person enjoyed doing. I know my dad may not be able to go build houses anymore, but I have been looking at some woodshop classes where he can make smaller items at home and find a place to donate them. Also, do not look at hobbies that seem to favor one gender. Women may also enjoy woodworking. If they enjoy woodworking it would be good to bring the grandkids or greatgrandkids over and let your loved one help them make a derby car or birdhouse. The main thing they will be making is memories.

Another hobby is working on genealogy together.

Older people may not be as adept at the computer, but they probably know quite a bit about different people in the family. This gives grandchildren or nieces and nephews an opportunity to come over and explore their family tree and get their loved ones to tell stories that you want to be preserved. One thing I am thankful for is that my parents wrote their memoirs. Some of those stories I will always cherish. It can be daunting to have your loved one start at the beginning and write their story. Over the holidays ask them what their house was like growing up or what hobby they pursued or tell about their first car. Record it or write it down.

You can find all kinds of online programs for recording conversations that will give you a transcript. A video recorded on your cell phone and shared with the family will be a cherished keepsake Hobbies can also be utilized to help the community and that really helps an older person feel like they have meaning in life. I knew one lady who would buy flannel material, cut the blankets for what would fit a baby, and tie off the loose ends. She would donate these baby blankets to the local hospital. They did not cost much money and were easy to make for someone who was even confined to a wheelchair.

Other simple projects that people can do are make cards for veterans or nursing home residents, encourage them to get involved in simple gardening

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projects, or get a bird watching book. One client I knew had about 20 bird feeders in her yard and she watch the birds that flew by. It gave her something interesting to talk about when she could no longer go work in her garden.

Games are also a great activity that helps with fine motor skills and mental skills. My dad has always played a game called Rook so even though he cannot hear very well he still enjoys beating all his grandchildren at Rook. I knew a client who liked to play Rummy. Most of the time she did not understand the rules but she was excited to play. Books of games like word searches or Soduko keep their mind active.

Get out some of your loved one’s music and encourage listening to it. It will help them relax and maybe they will be motivated to move more. Music stirs the soul and activates memories. Take them for small walks in the neighborhood or get an exercise bike they can use in the home. Always keep safety in mind when picking out exercise equipment. Hobbies and giving back to the community keep older adults healthier longer. Handmade hobby items also make incredible Christmas gifts.

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2 1/2 cups all-purpose flour 2 teaspoons baking powder 1/2 teaspoon salt 1 1/4 cups granulated sugar 1/2 cup butter, softened 1/3 cup whole milk ricotta cheese 2 teaspoons grated lemon peel 2 eggs 1 teaspoon vanilla Frosting 2 1/4 cups powdered sugar 3 to 4 tablespoons lemon juice Crystalized sugar for decor

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1. Heat oven to 350°F. In small bowl, stir flour, baking powder, and salt.

2. In large bowl, beat granulated sugar, softened butter, ricotta cheese, and lemon peel with electric mixer on medium speed about 1 minute or until fluffy; scrape side of bowl. Beat in eggs, one at a time, just until smooth. Stir in vanilla. On low speed, beat flour mixture into sugar mixture until well blended. Cover and refrigerate 30 minutes.

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3. Using floured fingers, shape dough into 54 (1-inch) balls; place 2 inches apart on ungreased cookie sheets. Bake 9 to 11 minutes or until set but not brown. Cool 2 minutes; remove from cookie sheets to cooling rack. Cool completely, about 15 minutes.

Set the Date and Time.

You will want to have the party close enough to the holidays so the cookies will last but not so late that you get caught up in the last-minute rush.

Set the Rules.

Let your guests know how many cookies to bring, when they should RSVP, and when to send in their recipes. Warn them to be flexible - you may have to ask a friend to make something different if you are sent six variations on chocolate chip cookies.

Get Set. To prepare for the party, set your largest table with enough festive bowls and platters to hold each guest’s contributions.

Once you receive the name of each participant’s selected cookie, print or write it on place cards and set them in front of the platters for easy identification and selection Provide Snacks and Refreshments.

While the cookies at a cookie swap are mostly meant to be taken home, of course, there is bound to be plenty of sampling during the party. Be sure to offset all those sweet treats with savory foods like dips, cheeses, and olives.

4. In small bowl, beat powdered sugar and 3 tablespoons lemon juice with spoon until smooth and spreadable. If frosting is too stiff to spread, add additional lemon juice, 1 teaspoon at a time. Tint with food color. Using knife, spread 1/2 teaspoon frosting on each cooled cookie; immediately top with sprinkles. Let stand about 30 minutes or until frosting is set. Store covered in airtight container at room temperature.

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1 package cream cheese, softened (8-ounce) 70 vanilla wafers, finely crushed (about 2-1/3 cups) 3 tablespoons caramel ice cream topping 4 packages Baker’s SemiSweet Chocolate, broken into pieces, melted* (4-ounce) ¼ cup chopped pecans

1. Mix first 3 ingredients until blended.

2. Shape into 42 (1-inch) balls.

Freeze for 10 minutes.

3. Dip balls in melted chocolate.

Place in a single layer in a shallow, waxed paper-lined pan. Sprinkle immediately with pecans.

4. Refrigerate for 1 hour or until firm.

*Place broken chocolate pieces into a microwave-safe bowl. Microwave on high for 30 seconds and stir. Repeat and stir. Continue cooking and stirring in 10 second increments until completely melted and perfectly smooth.

Loaded Christmas Cowboy Cookies 1 cup flaked coconut 3/4 cup chopped pecans 1 cup butter, softened 1 1/2 cups packed brown sugar 1/2 cup sugar 2 eggs 1 1/2 teaspoons vanilla extract 2 cups flour 1 teaspoon baking soda 1/2 teaspoon salt 2 cups old-fashioned oats 1/4 cup dark chocolate chips 1/4 cup holiday red and green chocolate chips 1/4 cup white chocolate chips 1/4 cup dried cranberries

1. Preheat oven to 350º F. Place coconut and pecans on a 15-in. x 10-in. x 1-in. baking pan. Bake for 6 to 8 minutes or until toasted, watching very closely so they do not burn. Set aside to cool.

2. In a large mixing bowl, beat together butter and sugars until light and fluffy.

Add eggs and vanilla; beat well. Combine the flour, baking soda, and salt.

Add to creamed mixture; beat well. Stir in the oats, white, dark, and holiday chocolate chips, dried cranberries, and toasted coconut and pecans.

3. Drop by rounded teaspoonfuls onto parchment covered baking sheets.

Bake for about 10-12 minutes or until browned. Remove to wire racks to cool.

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Centric Solutions and its clinical partners offer “hospital at home” a type of service for patients recovering from surgery or managing a newly diagnosed medical condition. This program is designed for the insured, non-Medicare patient. This allows the post-surgical patient to recover at home; reducing hospital stays while improving their recovery time.

Palliative care is provided in conjunction with other types of care to relieve symptoms and stresses associated with life-limiting illnesses. Centric Cares is a transitional program designed for patients who are in the advanced stages of their disease. By connecting more often, introducing different skilled team members, and focusing on strategies to handle fear Centric Care brings comfort to the patient and families as they guide them into a better quality of life through a higher level of care.

Studies show patients who enter a structured, multi-disciplined in-home care program lower their risk of re-hospitalization. Home Health care focuses on curative and restorative care including a wide range of skilled nursing and social services delivered in your home to treat illness or injury. There are well-defined qualifying criteria that are used to determine if Home Health services are appropriate for you. Do you need help doing so; your need for skilled nursing services and skilled therapy care under the supervision of a licensed professional; and if your care need is intermittent, meaning care is needed for at least 30-60 days. Centric Care is focused on helping you manage a chronic condition or recover from an acute illness, surgery, accident, or a change in medication. These services are covered fully by traditional Medicare and based on policy specifications.

They are also covered by private or supplemental insurance.

CENTRIC Home Health, Hospice & Palliative Care Our purpose is to provide respectful and responsive patient-centered care to meet individual patient needs and preferences. Patient preferences guide all clinical decisions. Patients have the opportunity to improve their ability to function, live independently, promote their optimum level of well-being, and remain at home.

At the heart of all our services is the philosophy of patient and family care.

Families and caregivers are equal members of our team. Mutual respect, information sharing, participation, and collaboration among patients, family members, caregivers, and healthcare providers is key to maintaining health and achieving the best possible outcomes.

The Hospice care program focuses on comfort, dignity, respect in the end-of-life process Hospice end-of-life care provides pain management and comfort care for the terminally ill seeking quality of life, not curative care. Pain management and comfort care for those with a terminal illness are critical components to their care. Hospice care offers end-of-life palliative treatment, including support for physical and emotional needs as well as the needs of the family. It is important to remember that the goal of Hospice care is to help the patient live a life with comfort, dignity, and respect. Patients learn to manage their medical condition in the real-life daily setting of their home.

Centric Home Health & Hospice serves Plano, TX; Greenville TX; Ada, OK; Durant, OK; Lawton, OK; Shawnee, OK and Oklahoma City, OK. For more information, go to the website: https://www.centrichealth.com. We would love to hear from you!

Please Email Us: info@mycentrichealth.com Call Us: 1.855.942.3687

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