Best Holistic Life Magazine October 2024

WHO ARE THE EVERYDAY CHAMPIONS IN THE FIGHT AGAINST CANCER?

October 2024

EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW WITH

Patty OLIVER Wo r l d-L e a d i n g

A K A S H I C E N E RGY HEALER & KARMA C L E A R I N G E X P E RT

The Power of Thoughts: HOW

MY MOM

SURVIVED OVARIAN CANCER

Legacy of How

Families Keep Hope Alive

Cancer’s Unexpected Gift:

Clarity, Strength, & Purpose Finding

on a Journey of Resilience

Finding

Solace

Through Painting:

An Oasis for Cancer Caregiver

Light:

From HEAD to HEART:

A

Journey of Embodiment Through Dance

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Jana Short ABOUT THE EDITOR

Jana Short is a renowned global influencer & an award winningmindset coach. She is an NLP, RTT Practitioner, best selling author, public speaker, host of Oh, My Health… There is HOPE! Podcast, and Best Holistic Life magazine editor.

Jana currently works creating online global influencers, teaching her clients to remove blocks holding them back and how to start that love affair with their potential online clients.

She has recently been recognized and featured on the cover of San Francisco Soeleish Magazine 2022, Los Angeles Entrepreneur Magazine September 2021 issue as Los Angeles #1 Mindset Coach two years in a row. Monica Garg’s “Influential Women of the WorldGlobal Influencers” 2020, Las Vegas Entrepreneurs Magazine “Top 25 Entrepreneurs for 2020” issue, and the cover of December’s Best Holistic Life magazine.

Jana is getting the message of hope out into the world in a huge way, changing the world one inspiring story at a time.

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CONTENT Cover Storys 70 Exclusive Interview with Patty Oliver - World Leading Akashic Energy healer & Karma Clearing Expert 11

Legacy of Light: How Families Keep Hope Alive

16 Cancer's Unexpected Gift: Finding Clarity, Strength, and Purpose on a Journey of Resilience 20

From Head to Heart: A Journey of Embodiment Through Dance

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Finding Solace Through Painting: An Oasis for Cancer Caregivers

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The Power of Thoughts: How My Mom Survived Ovarian Cancer

Mindset 8 Cultivating Inner Harmony: Embracing Self-Compassion and SelfAcceptance 35

Emotional Architecture: Resilience and Hope in the Face of Cancer

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Expressing a cancer journeythrough art and creativity

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Six Useful Ways to Overcome Emotional Trauma

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Secrets of Self-Care for Caregivers: A Psychiatrist's Tips

100 Embrace Hope and Happiness Now: Your Journey Through Life's Challenges 108

The Mental Component of Wellness

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We Are All In This Together

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Lessons from Loss: Cherishing Connection and Family Legacy

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Empowering Transformation: Step 10 of the NLP-Powered Journey

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How To Start An Exercise Program You Can Stick To

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Embracing Grief:How Loss Can Lead to Growth

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Is Your Mindset Messing With You?

154 Navigating Divorce or Separation with Grace: Cultivating the Best Outcome for the Greater Good

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Ta b l e o f Co n t e n t

From The Team

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How much do we love Breathe?

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The Power Of Nutrition

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Monthly Energy Update

Inspiration 14

7 Ways To Stay Close With Friends

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Transform Grief, Loss And Change Into A Positive Outcome

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Beyond The Clouds Of Cancer

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No School Today: The Reality For Millions Of Kids Worldwide

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Dream Delays: When Your Manifestations Are Stuck In Traffic

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Entrepreneurs Guide To Sacred Mantras To Increase Productivity

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Creating Your Regret-Free Legacy

130

Breaking The Mouse Barrier

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Your Body’s Pattern Holds A Key To Your Success

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Losing My Grandmother And A Relationship In One Day

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Sacred Rebellion: 3 Lessons To Support A More Authentic Life

158 The Future of Business Growth: 3 AI-Powered Tools Every Entrepreneur Needs

Body And Health 6 5 Common Pregnany Myths Debunked How to Avoid Pregnancy Pitfalls and Birth on Your Own Terms 26

My Journey to Cancer-Free in 90 Days

40 The Power of Box Breathing: A Vital Tool for Clarity, Presence, and an Open Heart 53

Dying From or Living With: Cancer Reimagined

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REIKI, YOUR GREATEST DISCOVERY!

66 Watch Your Words:The Powerful Impact of Language on Healing Cancer

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Sleep: The Silent Healer

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Boost Your Metabolism: The Midlife Women's Guide

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What no one tells you about cancer…

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Nutrition and Cancer

132 Improving Cancer Treatment Outcomes through Effective Sleep Management

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Our CON T R I BUT ER S

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S C O T T G AT E S

MUNEEZA AHMED

@gateswellness NLP Trauma Coach

https://muneezaahmed.com/ Medical Intuitive

JENN DRUMMOND

ELIZABETH MARSHALL

@‌thejenndrummond World Record Holder

@elizabethmarshallfit Fitness Trainer

N AT H A L I E B O T R O S

P AT T Y O L I V E R

@thebon_vivantgirl The Bon Vivant Girl

@ pattyoliverenergyhealer Energy Healer

LAETITIA ANDRAC

D AW N A C A M P B E L L

@essential.shift Strategy & Energetic Coach

@dawnacampbellofficial The Mind Whisper

MARK ANTHONY

@psychiclawyermarkanthony Psychic Lawyer, Best Selling Author

LUNDEN SOUZA @Lifelikelunden Life Coach & Podcaster

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DR. DIXIE SHORT

@_parinazshams_

@AskDrDeeDNM Doctor of Natural Medicine

STEPHANIE WEEKS

THERESA BYRNE

@_therealstephanieweeks Wife. Mother. Avid Manifester

@ theresa_byrne1 Award-winning mindset coach

AL WYNANT

A N D R E A S C H WA R T Z

@ingomu.coaching

@andreaberlinschwartz Health Coach

JA M E S G R AY RO B I N S O N

DA N I E LLE M A RG GR A F

https://jamesgrayrobinson. com Spiritual & Relationship Expert, Best-Selling Author

@daniellemarggraf Coach

KAREN HANLON

TAY L O R S A P P I N G T O N

@kgrove11 Painting Your Soul

@tayloredwellbeing Muliti-modality Practitioner

A Z LY N N B E R RY

@e_motionalarchitecture Emotional Arcitecture

A M A N DA H A RT

@ amandaharthq Intuitive Consultant & Author

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5 COMMON PREGNANY MYTHS DEBUNKED HOW TO AVOID PREGNANCY PITFALLS AND BIRTH ON YOUR OWN TERMS

BY MUNEEZA AHMED Have you ever noticed that common pregnany myths rarely start with women

Alcohol in all forms and all amounts is hard on the liver, brain, and body.

who have given birth? It often feels like experts, rather than women, are

Sure, one glass of wine contains less alcohol than five bottles of beer or a

the definers or truth when it comes to fertility, pregnancy, and birth. From

martini. Does that make it healthy? Absolutely not!

proper nutrition to exercise habits, women don’t rely on traditional wisdom

Caffeine is no different whether consumed in a cup of coffee or as a handful

as much as they turn to books and medical websites for guidance on how to

of dark chocolate. Caffeine amps up and weakens the adrenal glands, making

get pregnant, carry a baby, and give birth.

the body acidic. The adrenal glands are the primary engine of birth - you want

What gives me pause is the conflicts of interest that many experts have

them as strong as possible when it’s time for birth to avoid prolonged birth

in today’s world of paid studies and backroom perks. If we can’t trust the

and medical intervention.

experts where does that leave us? Though there’s a long list of pregnancy

Myth 3: Sex during pregnancy is harmful for your baby

myths that I would love to see debunked, today I’ll examine five of the most

Sex during pregnancy can be some of the most pleasurable and fun you and

common myths that mislead women and create problems where they don’t

your partner have ever had. Increased estrogen levels and blood flow to your

need to be.

reproductive system and genitalia mean that you may be more sensitive than

Myth 1: “You’re eating for two!”

ever in ways that surprise and delight.

This myth gets me riled up. It feels manipulative to me - I’ll tell you why.

Penetration will not harm the baby. The uterus is a well-protected, self-con-

During pregnancy, a woman’s body is going through natural changes. These

tained unit during pregnancy, and the body has several measures of protec-

changes may affect a woman’s appetite, libido, energy levels, immune

tion to keep a fetus safe, including during intercourse.

system, etc. Women often have to establish new trust with their bodies amidst

One precaution for non-committed pregnany moms is to protect against any

these changes.

potential for sexually transmitted diseases during pregnancy, as these can

When someone tells a woman, “You’re eating for two! Don’t overthink what

cause serious birth complications. Don’t engage with any sexual partners

you’re eating or how much!” it encourages women to enter into a fraught

whose status is unknown.

relationship with food that almost inevitably follows them into postpartum.

Myth 4: Avoid exercise during pregnancy

When a pregnant woman feels drawn to eating a pint or more of ice cream,

I can’t help but wonder whose idea this myth was or how it became main-

is her body really signaling a need for this high-fat, sweetened food, or does

stream, because it feels like a theory an authoritative male expert would come

she indulge simply because she was encouraged to eat whatever whenever

up with to sound smart. Why would exercise be harmful to a normal, devel-

and worry about getting healthy again later?

oping baby? Exercise is phenomenally supportive for the health of mothers,

Pregnancy is not a free license to eat junk food or to overeat. The female body

and it only serves a baby’s health.

is perfectly capable of signaling hunger during pregnancy, just as it does

It’s important to avoid high-impact activities during pregnancy and anything

when a woman is not pregnant. You may increase your calorie intake slightly,

that creates a risk of falling or serious physical injury (no horseback riding or

but only by a little. A few extra healthy snacks per day will fill in the gap.

skiing, ladies!), but 20-30 minutes of moderate exercise daily is a wonderful

Myth 2: Coffee, chocolate, and alcohol are safe “in moderation”

routine to maintain during pregnancy. Yoga, light rebounding in the first and

If you ask me, we have allowed ourselves to be convinced that small amounts

second trimesters, walking, biking in safe open spaces, rowing, swimming,

of toxic substances are safe and even healthy. And pregnancy is no different.

and dancing are all beautiful ways to exercise your body during pregnancy.

I think I know how it happened. Corporate interests don’t want their prof-

I know women who worked full-time jobs on their feet for 40 hours a week

its to plummet every time a woman gets pregnant, so they pay for “studies”

up until days before giving birth to phenomenally healthy babies. Don’t let

that just so happen to show that their products are perfectly safe in moder-

this misguided pregnancy myth hold you back from moving your body in

ation while a woman is creating life. This is false.

ways that feel good for you.

5 C o m m o n P r e g n a n y M y t h s D e b u n k e d H o w t o A v o i d P r e g n a n c y P i t fa l l s a n d B i r t h o n Y o u r O w n T e r m s

Myth 5: Routine tests are necessary for peace of mind

to a growing fetus. Diagnostic tests should not be treated lightly just because

and healthy pregnancy

they are common. I don’t encourage anyone to rush into regular testing just

I don’t believe birth should be viewed as just another medical procedure

for the sake of it.

alongside outpatient surgery and emergency room visits. Pregnancy and

RECLAIMING OUR VOICE AS WOMEN

birth are natural processes that the female body is designed to carry out

I’d like to see more conversations among women and birthing practitioners

without medical intervention.

that acknowledge that the experts don’t always have the answers. Some of

While we are fortunate to have the tools of modern medicine available to

what we accept as true is often myths and theories.

us, we have been encouraged to see regular medical checkups and testing

As a woman determined to empower other women, I encourage you to look

as the only reliable way to gauge the health of our pregnancy and our devel-

to your greatest teachers: God, your intuition, your body, and the women you

oping babies. In many cases, doctors appear to downplay the risks in favor

trust. As you tap into eternal wisdom innate in your being, you will become

of getting ahead of potential congenital issues.

more attuned to what’s true and able to navigate around myths and miscon-

There are exposures like radiation that women should consider with proce-

ceptions. I’m honored to help you find your voice in any way I can.

dures like ultrasounds. Tests like an amniocentesis carry serious health risks

Connect with Muneeza: http://www.muneezaahmed.com/links

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CULTIVATING INNER HARMONY: EMBRACING SELF-COMPASSION AND SELF-ACCEPTANCE

BY DR. DEE

In the grand tapestry of personal growth, establishing and reinforcing

Embrace Imperfections: Embrace your flaws and quirks, for they are

healthy boundaries serve as threads that weave through your journey of

integral to your identity. By acknowledging and accepting them, you build

self-discovery. Amid this transformative journey, the development of

a stronger foundation of self-acceptance.

self-compassion and self-acceptance emerges as a crucial tapestry—an

Set Boundaries with Your Inner Critic: Counter your inner critic with

element resonating deeply with your sense of safety, holistic health, and

positive affirmations and self-love. Over time, you can lessen its power

overall happiness. In this segment, we'll explore methods to nurture self-

and foster a more nurturing self-dialogue.

compassion and self-acceptance and illuminate these qualities' profound

Cultivate Gratitude: Focus on what you're grateful for in your life. This

influence on your well-being. By mastering the art of embracing these

practice shifts your perspective and fosters a sense of contentment with

virtues, you forge the path to navigate the intricate web of pushback and

who you are.

step into a world illuminated by inner security.

When unable to cultivate self-compassion and self-acceptance amidst

Understanding Self-Compassion and Self-Acceptance:

resistance, the impact cascades across your life, affecting your sense of

The Pillars of Inner Security

safety, health, and overall happiness.

Self-compassion and self-acceptance are cornerstones of self-care and self-

Safety Through Self-Love

worth. They form the bedrock upon which you build your inner sanctuary—

Lack of self-compassion and self-acceptance can erode your sense of safety.

an environment of love and acceptance that transcends external judgments.

Past traumas or betrayals might fuel a constant need for external validation.

The Ripple Effect of Self-Compassion and Self-Acceptance

By nurturing these qualities, you build an inner haven rooted in self-love.

Self-compassion and self-acceptance send ripples through every facet

Health: A Mirror of Self-Love

of your existence, creating a transformative impact on your sense of

Your health mirrors your level of self-compassion. Self-doubt and harsh

safety, health, and overall happiness. When you struggle to embrace these

self-judgment pave the way for stress, anxiety, and their related health

qualities in the face of resistance, the consequences resonate throughout

issues—sleep disturbances, digestive problems, and more.

your well-being.

Elevating Your Overall Happiness

Cultivating Self-Compassion and Self-Acceptance

Nurturing self-compassion and self-acceptance uplifts your happiness.

Amidst Pushback

Embracing yourself, flaws, and all cultivate emotional well-being. Your

Practice Mindful Self-Kindness: Extend the same kindness to yourself

happiness thrives as you navigate challenges from a place of inner kindness

that you would offer to a friend. Be gentle in your self-talk, especially

and acceptance.

during challenging moments. Self-compassion involves acknowledging

Embrace the Foundation of Inner Security

your feelings without judgment.

The cultivation of self-compassion and self-acceptance amidst resistance

Release the Perfectionist Strain: Recognize that perfection is unattainable

is an act of inner strength. It's an affirmation of your worthiness and

and often unproductive. Embrace your imperfections as valuable aspects

growth—a testament to your choices mattering.

of your unique self.

Your Inner Sanctuary

Celebrate Your Growth: Value the journey you're on. Celebrate your

As you internalize the significance of embracing self-compassion and

achievements and milestones, no matter how small they may seem. Self-

self-acceptance, you set forth on a path of self-discovery, resilience,

acceptance stems from recognizing your progress.

and transformation. Amidst the storms of opinions and pushback, your

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L eg acy o f L i g h t: H o w Fa m i l i es K e e p H o p e A l i v e

LEGACY OF LIGHT: HOW FAMILIES KEEP HOPE ALIVE

BY JANA SHORT

As I sit quietly today, the world seems to hold a gentle hush, a

A year has passed since my niece lost her valiant fight against

soft space for reflection. It’s a moment that many might label

this disease. Out of respect for her and her story, I choose not

as a time of loss, but for me, it unfolds differently. There’s

to share the details of her battle, for it is not mine to tell.

no emptiness here, only a heart brimming with memories,

Instead, I focus on the promise, the unwavering hope she

echoing with laughter and whispers of love from days gone

instilled in us all—a hope to one day eradicate cancer for good.

by. In these quiet hours, I find joy in the faces of those gifted

Empowered by her memory, I choose to stand tall and

to us by those who departed too soon.

challenge this disease, stripping it of its power with every step

Cancer. Just typing out the word sends a chill down my spine.

I take. As an advocate for those navigating the aftermath of a

It’s a word I’ve grown to detest with every fiber of my being.

diagnosis, those enduring the ongoing journey, and those who

This merciless thief has snatched away cherished loved ones,

carry the weight of loss, I raise my voice. Through the pages of

looming like a shadow at every corner, ever ready to take.

this magazine, I aim to amplify our collective scream against

Yet, despite its relentless darkness, there are things it cannot

this formidable enemy. Together, we cry out for an end to the

reach, treasures it cannot steal.

suffering it causes.

Cancer cannot dampen my strength, nor can it dim the vibrant

The road to a cure may be long, perhaps extending beyond my

love of life that pulses through my veins. It cannot quell my

lifetime, but the fight must start somewhere. With courage

will to thrive amid the beauty that this world offers. Most

and persistence, my actions today lay the foundation for a

importantly, it cannot erase the rich tapestry of memories

legacy of change. It's a call to unite, to stand together against

that propels me forward, nor can it snatch away my hope—

this pervasive darkness.

my deeply rooted belief in a future free from the clutches of

In every community, there are stories of incredible resilience

cancer.

that shine brightly, guiding the way for others. Families,

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forever changed by cancer, transform their

In this journey, love is our compass, and hope

pain into purpose, crafting legacies from their

is our north star. Love teaches us that every

loss. They organize fundraisers, participate in

moment is precious, and hope assures us that

research studies, and offer a shoulder to lean on

our efforts are never in vain. Together, they

for newcomers to this unwanted journey. These

inspire us to fight, to believe, and to dream of a

acts of kindness and defiance light candles in the

world without cancer.

darkest rooms, each flame a symbol of hope and

To anyone touched by this disease, know that

resistance.

you are not alone. Your pain is shared, your

Consider the Smith family, who, after losing

struggles are recognized, and your resilience is

their matriarch, started a local support group

admired. Let us continue to weave this network

that has grown into a thriving community

of support, this fabric of communal courage.

resource. Or young Emma, who, at just ten

Let’s build our legacy of light together.

years old, has raised thousands through her

In the fight against cancer, every voice matters.

annual lemonade stand, honoring her mother's

Join us, raise your voice, and be a part of the

memory. Each story adds a stitch to the quilt

change. Let’s turn our collective hope into

of our shared human experience, coloring our

action, lighting the way for future generations,

collective fight with personal triumphs and

ensuring that the love and memories of those

communal aspirations.

we’ve lost propel us towards a brighter, cancer-

This is how we keep the legacy of our loved ones

free tomorrow.

alive. Not just in the echoes of their past, but in

As a mother, daughter, aunt, and editor-in-chief

the actions we take because of them. Our efforts

of this magazine, I dedicate this issue to my niece

may start small—a local fundraiser, a blog post,

Stephanie, who blessed us all with her beautiful

a community walk—but each step is a step

soul. Stephanie's life was like that of a shooting

towards monumental change. By channeling

star, shining hot and bright, blasting through all

our grief into action, we not only honor those

of our lives, leaving us with a beauty we could

we’ve lost but also forge a path for those who

never forget but leaving us too soon.

will follow.

L eg acy o f L i g h t: H o w Fa m i l i es K e e p H o p e A l i v e

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7 WAYS TO STAY CLOSE WITH FRIENDS

BY JENN DRUMMOND

Just like seasons of the calendar year, conditions change

it’s not always always practical to pick up the phone first

with our friendships as we move throughout the seasons

thing in the morning and chat with a friend while taking a

of our lives. When we’re young, it’s relatively easy to

walk around the neighborhood. Instead, what about sending

create and maintain friendships. Kids have no fear - they

voice memos using iMessage or WhatsApp? If your friend is

think nothing of going up to someone and saying, “Hi -

anti-voice memo, consider recording a short video of your

would you like to be my friend?!” Boom. Relationship

surroundings as you walk so your long distance friend can

solidified. The logistics are also relatively easy. Children

get a better understanding of your day. Being able to relate

and teens spend hours with their friends every single day,

to each other can be difficult without the benefit of shared

both throughout school and any extracurricular activities.

space, but there are ways to create that feeling of closeness.

The same is true in college - and even more intensified

3. Be mindful of not overcommitting. Have you ever had a

for residential campuses when friends suddenly find

friend who always seems to flake out on plans? Over time,

themselves living together!

you may have noticed that you’ve started to give these

But things are not so easy for adults. Sometimes that’s

people a wider berth - avoiding making concrete plans with

okay: there are friendships that naturally fade over time

them since you know they’ll likely cancel anyway. Even if

for any number of reasons. Others, though, start to fracture

it’s for a valid reason, consistently bailing on someone can

because of what we excuse as simply being too busy. I’d like

feel like a real slap in the face. Set yourself up for success

all of us to challenge our thinking on that. I believe that the

in not becoming that person in your own friend group by

joy of life comes at least in part from the people we get to

limiting the activities that you commit to up front. By not

spend it with. As autumn begins to drift toward us, consider

overwhelming yourself with places to be and people to see,

how you can prioritize friendships and show the people

you invite a focus on quality rather than quantity.

around you how much you care.

4. Try a daytime activity. As the daylight hours start to

1. Make the effort. We can’t always rely on other people

shorten, it can be harder to work up the willpower to get

to stay in touch: friendship is a two-way street. I’m not

out of the house to grab evening drinks or dinner with

saying that you need to speak with every single one of

friends. Depending on your schedule and other obligations,

your acquaintances on a regular basis, but it generally

think about the people in your network who might be up

only takes a few minutes to send a casual hello text or

for meeting at other times. Can you meet for coffee with

Instagram message. Challenge yourself, perhaps to reach

a friend whose office building is within walking distance

out to a different individual once per week. You can even

from yours? What about booking a morning workout class

write their name on your calendar if that helps you get

with someone who lives in your neighborhood but you don’t

organized. Sometimes - particularly in times of stress

see as much as you might like? Think outside the box and

of negative circumstances - people might have trouble

propose creative ideas for when to see your friends. They’ll

reaching out proactively. A simple message might open the

likely really appreciate the extra effort and possibility of

door and encourage them to connect with you, and that’s

freeing up more of their evenings.

pretty special.

5. Send a letter out of the blue. In our increasingly

2. Work around time zones. I live in Utah and have friends

digitized world, the default communication strategy is

and family spread out all over the world. This means that

often something that feels low effort… it’s easy for us to

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fire off a text message, share a TikTok video, or tap the heart on an Instagram post. But when was the last time you got something in the mail (to clarify: I mean something that wasn’t a bill or holiday card)?

Imagine how you would feel if you got a sweet handwritten note from a friend. You might hang it on your refrigerator or prop it up on your desk in the office, allowing you to think of them every time you pass by it. You can bring that same joy to others, and all it costs is the price of a simple card and a stamp.

6. Remember key dates. We’re all guilty of it… despite having the best of intentions, sometimes we’ll open Instagram to realize via reposted photos that a friend’s birthday has come and gone. As birthdays or special events happen, add a recurring annual series on whichever calendar app is your favorite. You may even want to consider setting an alarm a handful of days or even a week in advance. People get a ton of texts and phone calls on their actual birthdays, but knowing it’s upcoming can provide a nice opportunity for you to check in during a quieter moment.

7. Show up when it matters most. Think about the people in your life for whom you say you would do anything. If push came to shove, would you really drop all of your other plans to show up for them unconditionally? I want to be clear: not everyone in your life should have this privilege (unless they call you with an actual life or death emergency). But if someone who you consider a “top tier friend” can’t rely on you, you might want to rethink the way you’re prioritizing other things.

Connect with Jenn: https://linktr.ee/jenndrummond

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CANCER'S UNEXPECTED GIFT: FINDING CLARITY, STRENGTH, AND PURPOSE ON A JOURNEY OF RESILIENCE

BY JEN NEWMAN

"You have colon cancer." On March 9, 2022, these four

experience, I realized five strategies that not only helped

words altered my life forever: Initially, I found myself

me endure but thrive through this experience of adversity

overwhelmed by a flurry of emotions and questions: "Am

and every challenge I face going forward.

I going to die?" "What will treatment look like?" "How

One: Adaptation

will this impact the people I love?". As I started to think,

Adaptation was immediately put to the test when I had an

"Why is this happening to me?" I recentered and said

allergic reaction during my first chemotherapy session.

out loud, "Ok, what is this trying to teach me?" In that

No longer able to breathe, I was rushed to the emergency

moment – and with that mind-shift – I set myself up

room — a terrifying ordeal for me and my family. I was

to confront something that was happening that I had no

forced to abandon the initial treatment plan and adapt

control over. But I did have control over my thoughts and

quickly switching to a new form of chemotherapy and

my actions.

increasing the frequency and length of treatments. Each

The weeks following the diagnosis were a blur of fear and

round brought new side effects and challenges, forcing

planning, culminating in a surgery that presented three

continuous adaptation. I learned to improvise even now

potential outcomes: a terminal diagnosis, the removal of

as I manage long-term effects.

my entire colon and living with a colostomy bag, or the

Two: Change the Narrative

partial removal of my colon. Fortunately, I emerged with

I mentioned the transformative words that helped me

the latter, though over 60% of my colon was removed,

wrap my head around the cancer diagnosis: “Instead of

and I faced a rigorous chemotherapy regimen.

asking yourself - why is this happening to me? Ask - what

This journey through cancer taught me the true essence

is this trying to teach me?” These words kept me from

of resilience—our capacity to recover from difficulties

feeling sorry for myself and gave me a new perspective

and adapt to change. True strength is shown in our ability

that reshaped my experience. They allowed me to focus

to navigate when we face challenges – often out of our

on what I could control and find learning opportunities

control. From this intensely personal and challenging

in every challenge.

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Hours of chemotherapy provided concentrated time I could work.

missed. This spurred me to advocate for timely health screenings.

Days of exhaustion turned into much-needed rest. Sharing my

Sharing my journey inspired others to take preventive actions and

diagnosis resulted in deepening friendships. Giving over to God,

gave me a strong sense of purpose that motivated me throughout

deepened my faith. Witnessing my husband take amazing care of

my treatment and continues to drive my passion for helping others.

me made me fall even more in love with him. This narrative change

Purpose brings clarity, even when life seems chaotic.

wasn't just about coping; it was about growing—turning fear into

Five: Celebrate

courage, confusion into clarity, and hardship into wisdom.

Celebrating milestones, such as ringing the bell at the end of my

Three: Embrace Others

chemo treatments and organizing a dream trip to Africa with

Learning to accept help was not easy for me. But cancer doesn’t

22 friends, helped me maintain a positive outlook. Celebrations

just affect the individual; it touches everyone around them.

are not just for marking the end of something hard, but also for

My husband provided physical and emotional support at every

acknowledging the small victories along the way—each day of

turn. My business partner and team stepped up to handle more

strength, each moment of joy, and each step forward. Celebrating

responsibilities. Family and friends flew in to care for me. My church

these achievements has reinforced my resilience, reminding me

family provided emotional support. My friends, neighbors, and

and others of our progress and the joy that can be found, even in

strangers contributed with meals, gifts, and other kind gestures.

hardship.

This overwhelming support taught me the power of community and

As strange as it may sound, cancer was an unexpected gift. It has

the strength that comes from collective resilience.

taught me about adaptability, the power of a positive narrative,

Embracing help has taught me the profound value of vulnerability in

the strength found in community support, the clarity that comes

forging deeper connections and establishing vital support systems

from having a purpose, and the joy of celebration. These lessons

during challenging times. When we open ourselves to assistance, we

have not only helped me manage my cancer journey but have also

feel more supported while affording others the joy of being helpful.

enhanced my ability to face other challenges in life with resilience

When someone offers help, they not only share in our struggles

and optimism. Resilience is not about being unbreakable; it's about

but may also navigate their own emotions through the experience.

being flexible, learning from experiences, and emerging stronger.

Allowing others to assist us is as much a gift to them as it is to ourselves.

Jen’s Story of Hope and Resilience:

Four: Find Purpose

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=emFHKaENcPI

Initially reluctant to share my diagnosis, I realized the potential impact of my story after learning that the recommended age for colonoscopies had dropped from 50 to 45, a crucial detail I had

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taylored wellbeing

FROM HEAD TO HEART: A J O U R N E Y O F E M B O D I M E N T T H RO U G H DA N C E

BY TAY LO R S A P P I N GTO N

Out of your head and into your body…

another metaphorical classroom life was walking me into.

Sounds like a simple concept right?

Let me tell you what I love about hip-hop.

And I imagine for most of you it’s not that easy…

Aside from my completely embodied and utterly fearless 24 year old

Like most things in life, embodiment, or being in your body, is

instructor.

understood on a spectrum.

I love that it’s slowly yet effectively ironing the good girl out of me.

I imagine there are some of you that are starting to get the whole feel

For all the times in my life I was told:

I’m told on a weekly basis:

it to heal it thing while there are others that feel more like you’ve

• Smile

• Relax

heard this what feels like a million and one times and still have no

• Sit up straight

• Slouch

idea what it means

• Shoulders back

• Take up space

Just because we don’t fully understand something doesn’t mean it

• Make eye contact

• Pop your chest

isn’t important and I fully understand that works in reverse too.

• Stay within these lines

• Stop playing small

However, I am here to talk to you about getting in your body and the15

• Be inviting but not too inviting

• Show me how wide and deep

year journey it’s been to getting back into it for me.

your hips can roll

My hope is that as you read along you start to glean some insight and

It’s been such a workout for my mind.

even hope as to ways that you can take steps towards living life from

My body wants to go there, it’s my mind that stops me.

the crown down instead of the neck up.

The voice that says ew, stop, what are you doing, look at you, you’re

I have a LONG history with dance…

too old for this always arrives in the tone of all the people in my life

I have done ballet, tap, jazz, AND dabbled in modern.

that kept me small because my bigness triggered them.

I left my dance shoes on the metaphorical floor 15 years ago and this

Not because my bigness was wrong more so because it provoked theirs

year, in fact, just a month ago I decided it was time to pull my shoes

alive and that scared the shit out of them.

off the shelf, dust them off, and put them back on.

As a human, if all you’ve ever known is a small you’re inclined to stay

Only, instead of going back to what was familiar to me and my body I

small because change is scary, so much so that it provokes your brain

decided that I was going to try something new.

to start screaming “we’re going to die.”

I did a bit of digging in my local community Facebook groups and

And yet, have you noticed that change, the very thing that triggers

found a studio that offered private hip hop classes.

your brain into thinking you’re going to die, often provokes you to

A week later I took my first class.

tingle from head to toe… vibrating with life in the most orgasmic way.

Humbling is the word the comes to mind.

When’s the last time you felt that alive and in your body SOBER and

As do the words sore, stiff, and awkward.

outside of sex …you may not even get to this place during sex…

I knew I had spent many years living in my head but what I didn’t

The interesting thing is the support my instructor provides me mirrors

realize was how disconnected I was from my body.

and reflects back to me the support I provide to the women who bet on

All it took was an hour in the studio to SEE what the last 15 years of

themselves deciding to go ALL in when they choose to work with me.

striving to climb success ladders, impress people that didn’t matter,

I would provoke you the same way I would any of the women that walk

and survive had done to the once very strong connection that existed

into community in much the same way I am being provoked with the

between my head, heart, and body.

metaphoric and literal reminders to..

I walked out of the studio proud that I kept up, excited to go back, and

• Slouch

• Stop sucking it in

a bit sad I had let things go this far and get to this point.

• Breathe

• Relax your butt hole, pelvis,

Little did I know saying yes to this adventure was going to be yet

• Take up space

and jaw

F r o m H e a d t o H e a r t : A J o u r n e y o f E m b o d i m e n t Th r o u g h D a n c e

• Allow your process to get messy and discover the magic in it

If you’re done running test to figure out “what’s wrong” with you and

• Find that voice, the one that sounds like home to you, and listen to

instead using them as a means of understanding your greatest allies

it until it becomes second nature and without question • Put the sword down, you are no longer at war with your body, it’s your greatest ally, what’s your peace offering

cry’s for help If you’re done playing small and ready to step into your version of big.

It’s time to step into making magic with someone who see’s the

I welcome all the “misfit” “mislabeled” misrepresented parts of you…

brilliance that sits inside of you and will reflect it back to you.

It’s an honor to walk with them as they walk their way home..

You deserve that

Back to you.

Big love, T

If you’re done messing around with the fluff of protocols that haven’t

Connect with Taylor:

been developed with your uniqueness in mind.

https://beacons.ai/tayloredwellbeing

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FINDING SOLACE THROUGH PAINTING: AN OASIS FOR CANCER CAREGIVERS

BY KAREN HANLON

The fight against cancer is a journey not just for the

A Brushstroke of Relief

patient, but also for their loved ones – the caregivers.

Traditional therapy can be incredibly valuable, but

Statistics show a rising tide of cancer diagnoses and

sometimes, words can’t express the complex emotions

with it, a growing number of caregivers shouldering

a caregiver faces. Art therapy provides a safe space for

immense burdens. Caring for someone with cancer can

caregivers to bypass the limitations of language and

be emotionally draining, leading to stress, burnout, and

connect with their emotions through creative expression.

even compassion fatigue.

Picture a caregiver grappling with the emotional toll of

Cancer Caregivers: The Unsung Heroes

witnessing their loved one's battle with cancer. Through

These devoted individuals are the unsung heroes of

art therapy, they might pick up a brush and, without

our communities. They dedicate countless hours to

needing to articulate the pain, express those emotions

supporting loved ones facing cancer or other illness,

on a canvas. That act of creation becomes a release, a way

disability, or the challenges of aging.

to process and relieve the emotional burden they carry.

This unwavering dedication often comes at a personal

A Journey of Self-Discovery

cost. The emotional strain of caregiving can lead to stress,

Painting Your Soul's signature process, delivered through

burnout, and even compassion fatigue.

a take-home expressive arts kit, exemplifies this holistic

Imagine a Haven in the Storm

approach ideally suited for cancer caregivers. It's more

Imagine a safe haven amidst the relentless demands of

than just painting; it's a multi-sensory experience

this fight. A place for respite, renewal, and reconnection

incorporating

with yourself. This is precisely what expressive art

journaling, and positive affirmations alongside artistic

therapy offers cancer caregivers, providing them with

expression. This combination creates a space for self-

an oasis in the storm.

reflection, allowing caregivers to reconnect with

essential

oils,

guided

meditation,

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themselves and rediscover their inner strength.

Unveiling the Inner Strength

"Before I started painting, I had been very stressed out,

The beauty of this approach to art therapy lies in its

burned out, and exhausted from giving to everyone in

universality. It doesn't require artistic talent or prior

my life," shared Jaclyn, a caregiver. "The (Painting Your

experience. It's about harnessing the inherent creativity

Soul) experience was so healing and nurturing to me. It

within each of us, a wellspring of healing and self-

was such a relief to put the colors on the canvas. This

discovery.

experience has impacted my life in ways I never thought

Each cancer caregiver has a gift within, waiting to be

possible.”

unveiled. Through art therapy, this gift can take many

Beyond the Canvas: Invisible Heroes Find Solace

forms: releasing pent-up emotions, rediscovering the joy

The benefits of art therapy extend far beyond the

of self-expression, or simply finding a moment of peace

individual. Cancer caregivers often struggle to prioritize

amidst the relentless demands of caregiving.

their own well-being. Painting Your Soul offers a unique

Empowering Caregivers, One Brushstroke at a Time

opportunity for them to become the recipients of care,

As we strive to create a more supportive environment

nurturing their own emotional needs in a safe and

for cancer caregivers, incorporating holistic art therapy

supportive environment.

programs becomes crucial. It empowers caregivers to

Witnessing the toll caregiving takes can be incredibly

prioritize their well-being, build resilience, and ultimately

difficult. This is why I'm especially touched when

return to their vital roles with renewed strength and

overwhelmed cancer caregivers, often forgotten amidst

compassion.

the chaos surrounding their patients, reach out for

Let's invest in the emotional well-being of those who

Painting Your Soul kits. These individuals face a constant

dedicate their lives to caring for those battling cancer.

barrage of emotional strain, yet within weeks of using the

Let's empower them to find their own sanctuary within,

kits, I receive heartfelt emails expressing their gratitude.

one brushstroke at a time.

The emails consistently highlight how the kits provide

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Caregivers report feeling a significant reduction in stress

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and a renewed sense of emotional resilience to manage

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their vital roles.

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MY JOURNEY TO CANCER-FREE IN 90 DAYS

BY STEPHANIE WEEKS

In celebration of Breast Cancer Awareness Month, I

• Daily vitamin supplements

share what I hope, Inspires You!

• Juicing vegetables

The Diagnosis

• Wheatgrass enemas

January 19, 2021, at 43 years young, I received a

• Vegetable & Fruit smoothies

Diagnosis: Rare, Aggressive, Invasive Stage 3 Grade 3B

• Limited alcohol consumption

Triple Negative Breast Cancer, with several lymph nodes

• Exercising when I felt up to it, I honored what my

involved.

The Journey to Healing

body needed • Taking a nausea pill before leaving the treatment

I’d been preparing for this my whole life. I just didn't

center, and then every seven hours for the two

know it.

consecutive days following

Prior to the diagnosis, for many years, I had been

• Regularly checking my B12 & vitamin D levels

studying health, wellness, nutrition, orthomolecular

• ION foot detox twice a week

science, cancer, cancer causes, cancer cures, subscribed

• Clay baths twice a week

to Nature magazine reviewing the actual scientific

• Daily Consumption of Aloe vera water

papers, following amazing thought leaders, physicians,

• Digestive enzymes with meals

Authors, etc. because it called to me and I thrived for the

• One coconut water per day

information. I was called to it, now I know why.

• Drinking half my body weight in ounces of water,

The Protocol

daily

Protect My Space and my Mindset—no exceptions. I

• No more than two soft drinks a week

decided on more than one direction. I would not rely

• Maintaining positive attitude, choosing new

solely on the Standard of Care; I would complement it

uplifting thoughts when the negative tried to creep

with holistic healing, encompassing physical, emotional,

in

and spiritual well-being. I developed a plan based on my

• Dressing in crazy outfits on treatment days. Helping

20+ years of research, including nutrition, exercise, and

to keep me going and bringing smiles to others

stress management. Stress-free was a must.

• Immunotherapy & Chemo

• A 2-hour massage every other week • Using Dignicap for every infusion to try to keep my

• Saline IV drip after every Chemo/Immuno: 1000 mL

hair, washing it only twice a week, and avoiding

• Valtrex before and after every Chemo

brushing, styling, drying, or flat ironing

• Weekly colonics • Weekly acupuncture • Weekly IV vitamin drips

• Following the Daniel Fields step one and two protocol before putting on the Dignicap • Steam showers & Infrared Sauna

My J o u r n e y to C a n c e r- F r e e i n 90 Days

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This comprehensive plan helped me navigate my journey with

3. Gentle Exercise: Engage in light physical activities as

a blend of conventional, integrative & holistic approaches.

your energy allows, which can improve overall health

Everyone is different. I make no claims, I only share what

and mood.

aided me in my healing to help others. In In May, I made 3

4. Hydration: the Saline Drips (mentioned above) after

years Cancer FREE! I have no neuropathy. No heart Issues have

infusions is crucial. In addition, Keep hydrated with

manifested. I have no acute respiratory distress syndrome,

plenty of water, herbal teas, and nutrient-dense fluids

or lung failure. I have no tingling, numbness, pain, or loss of balance. I have no hearing loss. I have no Thyroid issues.

like vegetable juices and coconut water.

5. Community

Support:

Connect

with

others

who

Actually, the last 2 separate doctors at 2 separate times said,

understand your journey, whether through support

my “thyroid is beautiful”. During treatment, I had No ulcers

groups or social media communities.

or Fever Blisters. I lost a lot of hair but I did not lose all my

Remember, every journey is unique. Always consult with

hair and I had no bald spots. In addition, my hair grew back

your healthcare provider before making any changes to

very fast.

your regimen. Ask, “Can this hurt me if I do it?” I had

Cancer Free in 90 Days

an understanding with my Oncologist. I would ask about

Called an “Outlier” by my medical team. I received my No

something, she may take a few days to research and get back.

Evidence of Disease “NED” 90 days later per MRI, followed

Then she would tell me, Negative, Positive, or Neutral. That

by further confirmation when the Oncologists could not find

aided in my decision making.

any trace of disease! Here is the thing. I am not an outlier.

My Instagram page, Beyond The Diagnosis, was created to

I believe with all my fiber, there are so many more of us to

create a community for those touched by breast cancer.

come! You got this!

Beyond The Diagnosis

Offering Support and Guidance

Beyond The Diagnosis is a testament to resilience, a place

Throughout my journey, I've learned the importance of

where the collective wisdom of our experiences becomes our

holistic support alongside traditional treatments. For those

strongest guide. Whether you're navigating your own breast

navigating their own cancer path or supporting a loved one,

cancer journey, supporting a loved one with breast cancer, or

consider these integrative practices to complement medical

seeking to understand breast cancer more deeply, our content

care:

is designed to enlighten and empower this Page is for YOU!

1. Nutrient-Rich Diet: Focus on whole foods, rich in vitamins and minerals to support your body's healing

Until Next time, sending you love & Light

process.

Join Our Community! Instagram - @‌_BeyondTheDiagnosis

2. Mind-Body

Connection:

Incorporate

mindfulness

practices like meditation or yoga to reduce stress and promote emotional well-being.

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THE POWER OF THOUGHTS: HOW MY MOM SURVIVED OVARIAN CANCER B Y M A R I A B A LT A Z Z I

“You are not your thoughts.” This is true only if you choose

selves. Yet, part of the difficulty of viewing your thoughts, mean-

to believe them. While it can be challenging to wrap your head

ing yourself, comes from the way you phrase your self-talk.

around this concept initially, understanding it is valuable.

“I am mad.”

So, what does this statement actually suggest? It sounds good

“I am unlovable.”

and even hopeful in some instances. You mean I am not a sad

“I am not good enough.”

girl because another guy said he could not give me what I want?

Your subconscious considers it true when you say or think,

That would be fantastic. Yet, my reality does not feel this way,

“I am,” followed by a negative description of yourself. It is

and if I am not my thoughts, then who am I...really? The answer

important to always praise yourself and be kind and gentle.

is complicated because you feel so connected to your thoughts,

Knocking yourself locks into your brain a negative pattern

which create your emotions. The images in your head seem

that will not serve you. If you consciously separate yourself to

very real. Your thoughts create your perceived reality and felt

become the observer of this negative self-talk, you will prob-

senses in the body.

ably find that your statement is not valid. You understand that

However, thoughts and emotions are like passing clouds against

your ego is talking in the form of a limiting belief instead of

a blue sky. Your unhappy thoughts are like dark, foreboding

the real boundless you.

clouds that can block out the blue sky. On other days, you have

Negative messaging, when left unchecked, will cause you to

white puffy clouds that dot a blue sky—your happy thoughts.

start breaking down after a while, maybe even years of being in

Either way, there is always a blue sky behind the clouds. So,

a constant state of unconscious high alert. I believe that most

thoughts do not have to mean anything significant or defin-

diseases begin in your head, how you think, and your percep-

ing about you. What gets in the way is your natural tendency

tion of the world. It is critical to your wholebeing (mind, body,

toward a negative bias that holds your mind, intellect, and ego

and spirit) that you remove the mental and emotional energy

tightly to limiting thoughts, affecting how you feel and see

that prevents you from living vibrantly. Your mind and body

the world. Then, add that your negative thought patterns may

get tired of being battered around, sending out distress signals

be so habitual that you are not even conscious of how often,

that cause your fight, flight or freeze mode to be permanently

how automatically, you choose the negative over the positive.

switched on. Eventually, it can manifest into illness, from a

Pay attention to your thinking. Learn to reframe the thoughts

mild cold to the advanced stages of cancer.

that are not serving you well to those that do by being curious

Disease, dis–ease, is your mind not at ease, and a sickness like

about your reactions to thoughts versus the thoughts them-

cancer could stem from deeply held resentment, the pain eating

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away at the body. Some research findings suggest a link between suppressed

I know my mom applied positive thinking and prayer to beat cancer. I am

anger and breast cancer, in particular. You can help counter some diseases,

convinced that doing these two things was a significant part of what pulled her

ward them off, or even reverse them by observing your thoughts and refram-

through. Witnessing my mom’s recovery from cancer taught me a profound

ing the negative ones into constructive ones. Scores of doctors, health prac-

lesson about the power of observing your thoughts, faith (however you define

titioners, contemplatives, and first-hand witnesses endorse the power of the

it), and what goes on in the subconscious. The power of your subconscious to

mind’s ability to heal itself. Years ago, I watched my mother do this to over-

affect outcomes in life is proportional to your belief and your faith; the qual-

come ovarian cancer.

ity of your thoughts matters. You can change your limiting thoughts. When

When they put my mom on the operating table and opened her up, she was

you obsess about the past or worry about the future, shift your focus to what is

already at an advanced stage of cancer. The surgeon kept her for three hours,

going on now and what is right about it. Change your thoughts, heal your life.

losing a lot of blood. I arrived at the Cleveland Clinic from Los Angeles the day

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E mot i o n a l A rc h i t ect u r e: R es i l i e n c e a n d H o p e i n t h e Fac e o f C a n c e r

EMOTIONAL ARCHITECTURE: RESILIENCE AND HOPE IN THE FACE OF CANCER B Y A Z LY N N B E R R Y

This doesn’t belong to me: The Impact of Hearing “I Have

What I found there was acceptance for the things that would

Cancer” This story I never really felt belonged to me alone. I

not have been allowed to change lives. The sometimes difficult

was in the path of an incredible force that was about to change

but so easily accepted parts of life. Those small self betray-

everyone’s life. Instead of encouraging the mask of everything

als that fell into a holding pattern where life was acceptable

is okay, let me instead honor your being, struggle, resilience,

but not good.

and vigor for life.

Finding Hope Amidst the Struggle: A Journey

I was healthy when I heard the news, and the day was like any

of Acceptance

other until those words fell from his mouth. “I have cancer,”

The macro image of the situation and the gift of hindsight

he said. “Tomorrow I am going into surgery for a mastec-

showed me that every moment facing fear, alone, or together,

tomy and will start chemo right after. I’m doing an aggres-

was laced with hope. These moments call out everything in you.

sive treatment.”

They drive you to find peace within the divine, to seek solace

No matter how much I wanted to listen to his words as they

while bargaining with an unpredictable passenger. The finite

fell, the rest was a blur. He said something about not wanting

nature of this life becomes a beacon to transform. A wake-up

to burden me with worry, so he had kept silent. I felt robbed.

call to love and a complete reorganization of priorities.

His time, his life, his choice—I wanted to be angry, but noth-

The Role of Emotional Integration in Healing

ing felt like it was my own. He has breast cancer, I can’t wrap

As an Alignment and Embodiment guide, I see the world of

my head around it. I don’t get to break down now; I don’t

pain through a lens of emotional integration to create align-

get the opportunity to be angry at him with everything he is

ment with our actions and values, in how we interact with

carrying on his shoulders. My thoughts remained with him

our physical bodies and the world. I have been studying long-

and the realization of what tomorrow would bring escaped

term chronic pain patterns for almost 20 years. I have worked

my imagination.

with violent accidents, autoimmune issues, MS, the after-

The Emotional Toll: Coping with Anger and Fear

math of tuberculosis, HIV, and of course, cancer. I began as a

Hope is not the word I would use to describe cancer. Thief is

Neuromuscular retrainer working in rehabilitative medicine,

a better description; it’s bold and willing to claim anything

which gave me the foundation to see just how much the body

it desires as its own. It’s cliché to say that even cancer gives

holds and the extreme acts of service it provides even when

you a gift. It is a sentiment that is cruel to the person whose

it’s breaking. Life is a messy and beautiful process. I often tell

anger is leading their way through the darkness, carrying a

others that I am undeniably stubborn and can testify to the

torch to the other side of their internalized sorrow.

importance of learning from other people’s mistakes.

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Celebrating Resilience & The Call To Elevate

My friend left that night, packed and ready for surgery.

I am supposed to tell you a story of hope, but I have to tell

Our lives were in a holding pattern that would be shaken

you first that it is a story that comes from a falling away,

apart—not by cancer itself but by a love of life and the value

an enlightenment of life. The end to the idea that we need

of connections. The starvation of time made every sunrise

to be more than who we are and an inevitable acceptance

so magnificent and undeniably beautiful even as it led us

of what is and just how perfect we are even in our flaws.

apart. He is healthy today, and I hope the adventure that

Only the brave are truly transformed by being touched by

was sparked by that time held the capacity of his hunger

this strange companion.

for life, and more than anything I pray he is happy today.

Every person in its path will directly or indirectly have

This, my friends, is a wake-up call. If you are ready to

the opportunity to shift their perspective. May you see

change course, I am ready to meet you.

and experience the love you never knew was there. May

To celebrate the resilience and hope of cancer survivors,

your voice open and flow effortlessly without obstruction.

I invite you to join me for a special Elevation Session. In

May you be seen fully as the person you truly are. May

this 5-10 minute video, I will share more about the jour-

you be cared for in more ways than you could have imag-

ney described in this article. Click the link or scan the QR

ined. May your life be vibrant with the light of passion.

code to watch the video and join us in honoring these and

May you drink the fullness of the experience of life and

your incredible stories.

find comfort. May hindsight bless you with understand-

Connect with AzLynn:

ing, and may your heart be held safe within the divine.

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TRANSFORM GRIEF, LOSS AND CHANGE INTO A POSITIVE OUTCOME

BY K AT I E H E A RTS O N G

A few years ago, a friend of mine, Grace, shared her feelings of grief and loss

The article from Psychology Today, called The Transformational Effects of

with me, when she and her son’s relationship had become estranged. Grace

Bereavement, by Steve Taylor, Ph.D., shares great insights to some of the posi-

shared with me “I’m aware of how sad I am Kate! I want to have a healthy

tive outcomes that grief, loss and change can offer. The author shares that he

loving relationship with my son again. I ‘m going to send him love and prayers.

conducted a research study with 16 participants on their transformational

I’m also going to act as if our relationship is healed and be grateful for it.”

experiences from bereavement. Positive outcomes the participants reported

After two years of Grace consistently doing these actions, their relationship

included: a more positive attitude towards death, appreciating nature more,

healed! So much so, she moved from Colorado to California to be close to him!

positive personality changes (increased self-love, compassion, authenticity),

Grace’s experience demonstrates three (of many) tools and actions you can

more intuition and a heightened desire to serve others.

use to support yourself in successfully coping with grief, loss and change. Plus,

Two weeks after my mom passed away, I experienced a release of old stuck

you’ll discover in this article that there are positive outcomes which can occur

energies of painful emotions that were never previously processed and healed.

from grief, loss and change.

I experienced what I call a “big release”, for about two hours. I had several

Grace was aware of and also acknowledged her feelings about her son and

intense emotions (some I could not even identify!) and was sobbing hyster-

their relationship. By doing this, she honored her feelings instead of stuff-

ically for a while. Somehow, I knew that, as painful as that process was, it

ing them. Everything, including emotions such as grief, is energy. We bene-

was also the vehicle/modality of grieving that released old energetic emotions

fit from having emotions (energy) move through us—by acknowledging and

stuck in my physical body. Releasing stuck energies is always beneficial. The

processing them—instead of stuffing them.

next day after this big release, I felt lighter and happier! For me, the griev-

She also sent love and prayed for a healthy relationship. By doing so, she put

ing of my mom along with this “big release” process, supported a spiritual

herself into higher vibration, resulting in improved coping of her emotions of

awakening within me; I felt a deeper level of faith and connection to Spirit/

grief and loss. The book Power vs. Force, by Dr. David Hawkins, describes the

The Creator/God.

scale of emotions based on their vibration. We feel better and life flows easier

You can give yourself a gift by offering yourself compassion, kindness and

when we vibrate at higher frequencies of emotions such love, respect, kind-

patience with all the experiences you have. You can also benefit by look-

ness, gratitude and joy. Certainly, it’s important to acknowledge the griev-

ing at your previous times of grieving, loss and change. Quite likely you may

ing and loss-related emotions, and it’s good to then move into feel-good-

recognize and have experienced (in addition to the above-mentioned posi-

emotions.

tive outcomes) any of the following positive outcomes: realize that you are

Finally, by Grace acting as if her relationship was once again harmonious and

resilient and strong; become aware that you have new insights, lessons and

feeling grateful for this, she empowered herself to take action to create the

gifts; see that your cumulative experiences over your lifetime has led you to

reality she desired. Just like a radio signal, Grace was transmitting the signal

become the wiser, more compassionate, authentic you; know yourself better;

to the universe of her desire to reconcile with her son, through the universal

and feel empowered because you have successfully survived the grieving, loss

Law of Attraction, for the well-being of both of them.

and change! You likely have experienced a positive transformation

The article from the Mind Body Green website called “What is the Law of

Transformation as a result of grieving, loss and change is usually pain-

Attraction and How Does It Work”, reminds us that the basic premise behind

ful, however, the benefit of the transformation—and associated positive

The Law of Attraction is that what we put out comes back to us. Like attracts

outcomes—outweighs the pain. Transformation supports your personal

like. You can feel empowered to use this universal law to create what you

growth and journey on this planet, therefore do your very best to honor your

desire, and ask that it is for the highest and best for all concerned.

experiences, keep an open mind in knowing that from all challenges come

As challenging as it is to go through grief, loss and change, there are positive

positive outcomes.Connect with Katie at INGOMU: https://linktr.ee/ingomu

outcomes that result from these experiences! It’s helpful to be open-minded

7-day free trial. Unlimited access to dozens of life, wellness, career, and soul

in seeing what those positive outcomes are (or will be). For example, my friend

coaches. Start at https://ingomu.com/bhl.

Grace realized the power of love and gratitude as positive outcomes for her.

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THE POWER OF BOX BREATHING:

A VITAL TOOL FOR CLARITY, PRESENCE, AND AN OPEN HEART

BY LUNDEN SOUZA Without purpose and intention, finding moments of calm and clarity can seem

success to those few minutes of focused breathing (and remembering to do it!)

like an elusive dream. As a Master Life Coach, I have explored numerous tech-

The Benefits of Box Breathing

niques to help my clients navigate stress, anxiety, and the myriad of chal-

The benefits of box breathing extend far beyond stress reduction. Here are

lenges and pursuits they face daily. Among these, one practice stands out for

some key advantages that make it an essential tool for anyone seeking to

its simplicity, effectiveness, and accessibility: box breathing. This vital tool

enhance their well-being:

is one I teach all my one-on-one life coaching clients, and its transformative

1. Enhanced Focus and Concentration: By promoting oxygen flow to the

power never ceases to amaze me.

brain, box breathing can improve cognitive function, making it easier to

What is Box Breathing?

stay focused and attentive.

Box breathing, also known as square breathing, is a powerful yet straightfor-

2. Emotional Regulation: This technique helps regulate emotions by calming

ward breathing technique. It involves four steps, each lasting for four seconds:

the nervous system, making it easier to respond to situations with equa-

Do each step 1-4 for 4 seconds.

1. Inhale slowly through your nose, filling your lungs completely.

nimity rather than reacting impulsively.

3. Improved Sleep: Practicing box breathing before bedtime can help relax

2. Hold your breath, keeping your lungs full.

the mind and body, promoting better sleep quality. I love doing box

3. Exhale slowly and steadily through your mouth.

breathing in a nice warm epsom salt bath after a long day.

4. Hold your breath, keeping your lungs empty.

Inhale for 4, hold for 4, exhale for 4, hold at the bottom for 4. Remind yourself

4. Increased Resilience: Regular practice can build resilience, helping individuals handle stress and adversity more effectively.

to relax your face, relax your shoulders and fill up your lungs.

Integrating Box Breathing into Daily Life

This cycle is then repeated, creating a rhythmic pattern that helps synchronize

One of the greatest strengths of box breathing is its versatility. Here’s how you

your breath, mind, and body. The beauty of box breathing lies in its accessibil-

can incorporate it into your daily routine:

ity; you can practice it anywhere, at any time, without any special equipment.

The Science Behind Box Breathing This technique activates the parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for the body's rest-and-digest functions. By stimulating this system, box breathing can help reduce stress levels, lower blood pressure, and enhance mental clarity. It can also improve emotional regulation, making it easier to approach challenging situations with a calm and open mind.

Breathe Before Meetings (My Mom’s Story)

• Morning Routine: Start your day with a few minutes of box breathing to set a calm and focused tone for the day ahead.

• Work Breaks: Use this technique during breaks to recharge and refocus, enhancing productivity and reducing burnout.

• Before That Stressful, Situation: Whenever you feel overwhelmed, take a few moments to practice box breathing to regain composure and clarity.

• Bedtime Ritual: Incorporate box breathing into your nighttime routine to unwind and prepare for restful sleep.

I vividly remember the day my mom texted me before a particularly difficult

Wanna Breathe With Me?

meeting. She was anxious and overwhelmed, unsure of how she would handle

Let’s go on a breathwork journey together on Zoom. If you check out my website

the confrontation that awaited her. Knowing the power of box breathing, she

www.lifelikelunden.com you’ll find all the resources to get a customized one-on-

told me she parked her car down the street and took a few moments to prac-

one breathwork session with me. You can get one or a package of 5 sessions.

tice this technique before going into this meeting.

Finding and using effective tools to manage our mental and emotional health

Her racing heart slowed, her mind cleared, and she felt a sense of calm wash

is crucial. Box breathing stands out as a simple yet profoundly effective tech-

over her. She walked into the meeting with clarity, presence, and an open heart.

nique that anyone can use, anytime, anywhere. Whether you’re preparing for

The outcome was far better than she had anticipated, and she attributed her

a challenging meeting, seeking to enhance your focus, or simply looking to

Th e P o w e r o f B o x B r e a t h i n g : A V i t a l T o o l f o r C l a r i t y , P r e s e n c e , a n d a n Op e n H e a r t

find a moment of peace, box breathing offers a pathway to clarity, presence, and an open heart.

By integrating this practice into your daily routine, you can harness its power to transform your life, just as my mom did that fateful day. As a life coach, I am passionate about sharing this vital tool with my clients, empowering them to navigate life’s challenges with greater ease and grace.

Want a little taste of Box Breathing? Tune in to Episode 169 of Self Love & Sweat THE PODCAST. I explain this technique in even more detail and we go through a couple minutes as well. Self Love & Sweat THE PODCAST is available everywhere you listen to podcasts. Check it out and keep breathing!

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E x p r ess i n g a c a n c e r j o u r n ey t h ro u g h a rt a n d c r e at i v i t y

EXPRESSING A CANCER JOURNEY THROUGH ART AND CREATIVITY

BY JENNA BENN SHERSHER, TWIST OUT CANCER FOUNDER AND CEO

Cancer holds many lessons.

I humbly accepted my new platform and began brainstorming how I

Through my diagnosis and treatment, cancer taught me the power

could harness this feeling of connection and share it with others. I needed

human connection holds.

a name first. I decided on a simple and forward name, Twist Out Cancer,

I was 29 years old when I was diagnosed with Gray Zone Lymphoma, a

and created a website for people to connect and share their experiences

rare blood cancer. I quickly discovered how isolating the experience is for

with cancer.

anyone going through cancer. I had the best medical team and a loving

During this time, I met Anna Swarthout through my oncologist. Anna

family by my side, what more could I ask for?

put a call to action on Twist Out Cancer’s website. The challenge? Create

For myself, and many others in my position, a strong medical team and

a piece of art not using the color gray. The call to action mirrored that

support system are just two blocks on a cancer patient’s hierarchy of

of my video, reaching people far beyond my home and even state and

needs. I missed my friends, I missed experiencing Chicago’s exciting

country borders.

social scene and I missed moving my body.

I quickly made a connection. We need art. Even people who don’t consider

Being physically and socially active has always been a source of joy.

themselves artistic still need a way to nonverbally express themselves.

Suddenly, these joys were stripped from me for the unforeseen future.

I thought about how The Twist was my nonverbal expression and how I

Desperate for human connection outside my apartment walls, I settled

could give others a similar feeling.

for a virtual connection.

With creative expression now guiding the organization, I had a clearer

My body, tired from treatment, craved movement. I missed using my

vision. Already familiar with art’s therapeutic properties, I thought

body as an instrument and expressing myself through dance. While

of ways I could invite people of all artistic backgrounds to experience

limited in range, I could still move, just not as much as I used to. I set my

healing through art. The pieces began to fall into place.

camera to record, turned on Chubby Checker and started doing The Twist.

How Twist Out Cancer assists with healing

It was a small moment that created an impact beyond my wildest dreams.

Individuals engage with Twist Out Cancer by attending one of our

Healing through creative expression

Twistshops and/or serving as a Brushes with Cancer Artist or Inspiration.

Wanting to be anywhere but my apartment, I threw my digital self into

Each program offers a chance to share stories, connect with others and

the world, not thinking much of a potential response.

take steps toward healing.

Despite my non-expectations, what ensued blew me away. People started

All Twistshops are led by a licensed art therapist, who provides art

clicking, then sharing. Soon enough, there were people from miles away

therapy-based interventions intended to promote healing, relaxation

doing their version of The Twist online.

and emotional recovery. Held in person for the organization’s first

Did I just start a movement?

few years, we eventually pivoted to virtual and hybrid to serve larger

It was hard to come to terms with at first, that my DIY, 30-second video

populations.

would engage others the way it did. As I thought harder, it came to me:

Brushes with Cancer iairs artists with individuals touched by cancer, who

I am not alone. I am not the only one who needs connection. We all do-

we call Inspirations. Through an application process, Twist Out Cancer

because we are all human.

carefully reviews and connects these two strangers. Over four months,

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the pairs are tasked with getting together virtually or in person multiple times.

The program culminates with the artist creating an art piece based on their Inspiration’s story.

In recent years, we’ve expanded the Brushes with Cancer program to include licensed partners like General Motors, Wayne State University and Adrienne Arsht Performing Arts Center amongst others. By reworking our model

Image © Jenna "Charcoal Drawings"

and inviting partners to license our programs, we’ve increased healing opportunities for thousands of people around the world “Organizations like Twist Out Cancer remind me that I matter,” Brushes with Cancer Inspiration Michelle Lawrence told me. “You do too. Know you are not twisting alone;

people like Kenny and Kim. In April this year, we celebrated our 2024 Spring

many of us are twisting and turning, too.”

Brushes with Cancer program and have two programs currently running, with

Our impact

receptions scheduled for July and October.

In the 12 years since I launched Twist Out Cancer, the organization has reached

New this year is our annual gala, which is held this September. We are working

257,000 individuals across multiple countries. To date, Twist Out Cancer has

with Artist Sujata Gazder and Inspirations Mahwish Syed and Sonia Keshwani

welcomed more than 1,500 people into its community through the Brushes

to celebrate the organization's impact. All models featured in the show are

with Cancer program. As a result, there are now 711 unique pieces of art in the

current or past Brushes with Cancer Inspirations with their own unique cancer

world that represent 711 individual journeys with cancer.

journey.

Many Twistshop and Brushes with Cancer participants have stepped into

This isn’t Sujata and Sonia’s first time collaborating. In 2021, they were paired

other roles, too. Kenny Lapins, who came up with our tagline “Share. Connect.

as Artist and Inspiration. The two connected on fashion, as Sonia founded

Heal.,” has been an Artist and Inspiration with the Brushes with Cancer

StyleEsteem Wardrobe and founded her company while undergoing cancer

program and serves on our board.

treatment. For Sonia, Sujata created a beautiful purple dress that tells her

“The Brushes with Cancer program was a complete joy from beginning to

story.

end,” Kenny said. “From sharing my inspiration’s story to donating a piece

“You can either build yourself into a negative spiral or a positive one,”

of art to a worthy cause, I received great personal and artistic satisfaction

Sujata said. “At the end of the day, our essences are just looking for love and

from the experience.”

acceptance, and in Sonya’s case I think she had the chutzpah to fight this battle

Another Inspiration who stepped up is Kim Kass, who co-chaired our 2022

and get where she is today.”

Brushes with Cancer program in Austin.

As we go forward with our mission, the goal is to always look for ways to

“Doing Brushes With Cancer while going through active treatment for breast

engage more people who need access to creative expression and human

cancer was emotional and had such an impact on me,” Kim shared with us.

connection. I am proud of how far we’ve come and am excited to see the

“It gave me a purpose and something to focus on.”

opportunities to come.

Over the past two years, we’ve worked hard to expand our Brushes with Cancer and Twistshop program offerings, creating more healing opportunities for

Connect with Jenna: www.twistoutcancer.org

E x p r ess i n g a c a n c e r j o u r n ey t h ro u g h a rt a n d c r e at i v i t y

Image © Kirk Roda "Tough Nut to Crack"

Image © Mary VanDoren "Angel Warrior"

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BEYOND THE CLOUDS OF CANCER B Y M A R K A N T H O N Y, J D , P S Y C H I C E X P L O R E R

Life is like a journey in a boat traveling down a river. The

When I was in Hollywood during the promotional tour

journey begins with parents and family members. Along

for my first book “Never Letting Go,” my manager

the way other travelers join us on the boat. Then friends,

Rocky booked me as a guest on “The Wendi Cooper

spouses, children, and even adversaries become part of

Show.” We immediately clicked with Wendi. Her strik-

the journey. Each traveler, including ourself, enters and

ing beauty, sense of humor, youthful energy and posi-

leaves the boat at various points along the way.

tive mindset made it impossible not to like her.

Sometimes the river is clear and calm making it easy to

Refusing to be a victim, she taught herself how to

navigate. Other times misty clouds obscure our vision

write, direct and produce TV commercials. Despite

and murky waters conceal dangers beneath the river’s

door after Hollywood door being slammed in her face,

surface. Then there’s rapids and devastating waterfalls.

she persisted and emerged as a pioneer in infomercials,

No matter how much we try to avoid going over water-

became a HSN product expert and launched some of the

falls they’re inevitable.

most well-known consumer products. Wendi received

One of the most devasting waterfalls is cancer. I’ve lost

17 Telly Awards for her work in TV commercials. But

many fellow travelers in my life’s journey to cancer

for Wendi, her greatest accomplishment was her two

including my father. Whether it is your own battle with

beloved sons Wiatt and Chance.

cancer or that of a loved one, cancer invades every-

Wendi and I had a great on-air chemistry and I became

one’s life. Even after a century of research, medical

her repeat guest. After one show, Wendi, Rocky, and I

science can only treat some forms of cancer but not

visited a Hollywood cemetery to search for graves of

all of them. According to Worldwide Cancer Research

celebrities. That may sound macabre, but then again,

and NIH (National Institute of Health), there isn’t one

I’m a medium and paranormal investigator. Wendi

type of cancer, but multitudes and because cancer cells

joked, “It’s not every day I get to do a celebrity ghost

constantly mutate, they’re able to outmaneuver treat-

tour with the Psychic Lawyer!”

ments. This means every cancerous tumor has its own

It was a beautiful sunny day and while I was searching

unique genetic mutations so a drug which works for one

for Marilyn Monroe’s resting place, Wendi and Rocky

type of cancer won’t work for another. Too bad cancer

sat on a small grassy knoll. Creative people often see

doesn’t get cancer.

recognizable shapes in clouds. Wendi and Rocky shared

Beyond the Clouds of Cancer

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their impressions about the faces and images they saw in

Wendi had observed me conduct readings many times on

the clouds. They agreed it felt like they’d been friends for

her show and in person. She asked me if I would do a Zoom

years.

conference with her husband and sons to help them under-

Then Wendi said, “When I was a child, I used to look for

stand our souls live on after physical death. I was humbled

faces in the clouds like this with my mother Elizabeth—I

by and honored to accept her request.

really miss her.”

The Zoom session included Wendi, her husband, sons Wiatt

“I miss my mom too,” Rocky replied.

and Chance, Rocky and me. I’d never met Wendi’s family

As a beautiful pink cloud wafted above them Wendi revealed,

before and was impressed at how accomplished they were.

“I’ve battled ovarian cancer for years—supposedly it’s in

Her son Chance is an extremely gifted and renowned artist

remission. I watched my mom die slowly and painfully—it

who graciously provided the portrait he created of Wendi

was horrible—I’ll never let that happen to myself.”

for this article.

A few years later, I was honored to have Wendi as a guest on

I felt it best not to have a set agenda so I let the conversa-

my livestream show “The Psychic and The Doc.” She was

tion flow so everyone could express their feelings and ask

as positive and energetic as ever. However, after the show

questions. This intensely emotional meeting evolved into

Wendi told Rocky and I the cancer had returned. Her prog-

an interdimensional communication session as Wendi’s

nosis was terminal.

loved ones in spirit came forward.

Death is inevitable and the ultimate waterfall in every-

They each had messages for Wendi and her family particu-

one’s journey through the river of life. However, Wendi’s

larly the spirit of Wendi’s mother Elizabeth who communi-

judgment was not clouded and she believed death should

cated she would be there when Wendi transitioned. She had

be approached with clarity. Between my work as an attor-

a specific message for Chance about a “bunny rabbit.” At

ney and as a medium, I’ve helped many people cope with

the time Chance wasn’t sure what “bunny rabbit” meant,

death. I’ve never seen anyone approach death with such

but he made a note of it.

intelligence, grace, and dignity as Wendi Cooper. While her

A few days later Wendi emailed me, “There are no words for

physical health deteriorated, her strength of character did

the peace it has brought to my husband, Chance and Wiatt

not. Wendi refused to let cancer win and planned to leave

after meeting you and feeling they will have a connection

this material world on her own terms and at the time of

to me, even my husband was talking about ‘it’ with more

her choosing.

ease and comfort. Their peace is my peace.”

According to UCLA Health, “The California End of Life

Wendi chose her brother’s house in Laguna Beach to enter

Option Act (EOLOA) allows a terminally ill adult with a life

the Afterlife. It is a gorgeous location overlooking the ocean.

expectancy of six months or less to end their life with an

She was surrounded by her beloved family. As the drug took

aid-in-dying drug. The terminally ill person must be a

effect Wendi peacefully drifted into unconsciousness. Hours

California resident and must request the drug from their

slipped by yet Wendi had not yet transitioned.

physician.”

Waiting for the death of a loved one is exhausting. Chance

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told me he was so emotionally drained he went to a random room in his uncle’s house to lay down. On the bed he spotted a stuffed toy bunny. Chance somehow felt comforted by the stuffed toy bunny, cuddled with it and fell into a deep sleep. Not long after he snapped awake and realized the “bunny rabbit” message from the spirit of his grandmother Elizabeth meant her spirit would be there to greet his mother Wendi when she transitioned. At that precise moment, his aunt told him Wendi had just passed.

Life may be like traveling in a boat upon a river, but the journey doesn’t end at the waterfall. Nor do we ever lose our beloved fellow passengers. We will be reunited with our loved ones in spirit when it is our time to embark upon a new voyage which flows beyond the clouds into the eternal light of the afterlife.

******************************************************** **Mark Anthony, JD Psychic Explorer® (The Psychic Lawyer) is a fourthgeneration psychic medium and Oxford educated trial attorney and author of the multiple award-winning Pulitzer considered best seller THE AFTERLIFE FREQUENCY. His other bestsellers are EVIDENCE OF ETERNITY and NEVER LETTING GO. Mark was named a notable graduate by the Arthur Findlay College of Psychic Science; he is a Spiritual Awakenings International Circle of Honor Honoree and he received the OMMIE (OH-ME) Award for Best Psychic Medium in the OMMIE Awards sponsored by OMTimes and iSpirit Media. He co-hosts “The Psychic & The Doc” recently awarded Best Radio Show 2024

by BEST HOLISTIC LIFE MAGAZINE. For more information about Mark, his upcoming events and to schedule a reading with him, visit his website: www.AfterlifeFrequency.com

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Dying From or Living With: Cancer Reimagined

DYING FROM OR LIVING WITH: CANCER REIMAGINED

BY MEGAN EDGE

My first awareness of cancer as something to fear was

don’t do well with inevitabilities, however. The moment I

when I was eleven and visiting my mother’s parents in

am told there is only one way, I immediately start looking

New Zealand. We traveled from Montreal, Canada, to

for another.

spend the holidays with my mother’s parents. It rained a

I read an interesting article in my early twenties that

lot during that visit, and my younger brother had a cold.

followed members of a family from a small town in Nova

Because he had a cold and because my grandfather was

Scotia that was rife with cancer. It was also a mining town.

dying from cancer, my grandfather stayed in his room,

Since the founding of the town, generations of women

and we were not allowed to see him, “In case you get him

suffered and died from breast cancer. It was inevitable.

sick,” the adults told us.

Until some members of the family in question moved away

My grandfather was an engineer with Boeing Airlines,

to start their lives in the big city. These women did not

and he, along with the other engineers, was exposed to

develop breast cancer. Nature vs Nurture? Not inevitable?

various chemicals during the course of his work. This, we

From here, it was a short hop in my mind to what else

were told, was why he had cancer, leukemia, to be exact.

might be causing people to die from cancer, and, if not

“Your grandmother has died from cancer,” I was told

inevitable, perhaps it was possible to live with cancer

by my parents. My father’s mother had been a chronic

rather than die from it; maybe it was not only possible to

smoker. I was thirteen. When I was nineteen, it was my

cure cancer but to never have it in the first place.

uncle’s turn. His cancer had spread throughout his body.

As a layperson, I began studying cancer and its treatments,

He also was a smoker. I lit a candle for him at Chartres

both conventional and non-conventional. I read studies on

Cathedral in Paris. My boyfriend and I were backpacking

environmental, emotional, and spiritual factors. Research

across Europe that summer.

that looked at the effects of chronic stress and unresolved

At this time, it was commonly accepted by Western

grief on the development of certain cancers and what

medicine that cancer was genetic and inevitable if it ran

the underlying emotion was for areas in the body where

in your family. I suppose it did in mine, by all accounts. I

cancer can develop:

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• A broken and unhealed heart for breast cancer • Unresolved grief for lung cancer • Deep loneliness for colon cancer This was practical science and research; it wasn’t whoo-hoo. What I learned is that cancer is complex. It isn’t simply a bundle of cells gone haywire in the body. There are layers and aspects to cancer that paint a holistic picture of a person’s complete health, physical, mental, and spiritual.

I have worked with many clients in my healing practice who are living with cancer; at least they begin living with cancer rather than dying from it when we start working together on their cancer journey. I’m not an oncologist or a medical doctor. My approach is to help support my clients in whatever way they need me to do so. If they choose conventional Western medicine, I help them navigate the side effects of these treatments with food, herbs, and essential oils.

I listen to their fears and hopes and help them focus on the outcome they want.

If a client wants a complete lifestyle change—diet, exercise, perspective, spiritual practices—I’m their holistic life coach, helping them learn to live the healthiest life they can.

For one dear friend, when she received her first diagnosis of cancer, we worked together to support her as she went through rounds of chemo and radiation and the side effects. She was clear that she wanted support in living. She was cancer-clear for almost a year. When she received the second diagnosis of cancer, she asked me to help her to be comfortable as possible as she died, which I did with massage, evening on the porch watching the sunset and holding her hand on the day of her death.

Cancer has not been my journey, although there was a brush with it in my early twenties when I was told I had pre-cancerous cells on my cervix. A painful procedure followed. My personal choice now in my fifties is to focus on prevention from a place of honoring my body as opposed to fearing a possible outcome.

I use food, essential oils, plants, and botanicals—everything I’ve learned about supporting my health and wellness from years of study and exploration.

I don’t know what my emotional response would be to a diagnosis of cancer; maybe fear at first, but not for long. For me, it would be a wake-up call, an opportunity to take a deep look at how I’m living my life, what still needs healing, and how I could best live with it as I heal it.

Can cancer be a gift? I think so, and not only to the person who has it but to all the people along the way—friends, family, caregivers—an opportunity to tune in, check in, and examine our beliefs about living and dying. It is a gift, but not an inevitable one.

Connect with Megan: https://meganedge.ca/

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REIKI , YOUR GREATEST D ISCOVERY !

REIKI, YOUR GREATEST

DISCOVERY!

BY C AT H E R I N E C. BA ST E D O

Reiki can help improve your day-to-day as you face a cancer

improved sleep. Reiki helped women who had received

diagnosis, treatment, and follow-ups. While there is need

surgical implants feel that the implant was part of their body

for more scientific research on the benefits of Reiki for

instead of a foreign object someone had inserted. In one

cancer patients, and Reiki is not a substitute for traditional

case, Reiki removed phantom pain from an amputated limb.

medical care, this complementary, multi-faceted treatment

Treatments brought clients a sense of peace, decreasing the

promotes healing and well-being on all levels. Reiki is a

stress of trying to be “the strong one”, and improved their

non-invasive therapy used to assist people with stress

sense of autonomy. Relationships with family members

reduction and relaxation, the development of meditation

also sometimes improved. For caregivers, Reiki facilitated

practices, spiritual growth, and the manifestation of goals.

understanding, empathy, and the management of worry.

I have worked personally with many patients and caregivers.

The principles of Reiki are:

My clients sought Reiki to help with: phantom and

• Just for today, I will not anger.

chronic pain; fatigue; stress, and low energy; the effects

• Just for today I will not worry.

of chemotherapy and drugs; the impact of reconstructive

• I am grateful, I work hard, I am kind.

surgery; anxiety before surgery and for the future; as well

I often would recite these principles for my clients, as well as

as feelings of low self-worth, sadness, depression, guilt,

for myself, at the start of a session, and I believe it allowed

or unhappiness. My experience for close to 10 years as a

them to concentrate on the now—the present moment.

volunteer practitioner with clients at the Ottawa Cancer

This focus helps prevent worries about an unknown future,

Foundation’s Community Cancer Hub in Canada, showed

and it gives people some control. Additional benefits I

me how Reiki can help.

have seen in my clients include changes in eating habits,

I heard directly from clients how Reiki decreased the level

reduced pain, a tingling in previously numb fingers or toes,

of pain, reduced the side effects of cancer treatments, and

a more positive outlook, finding forgiveness, a stronger

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ability to make important decisions such as leaving an unfulfilling

session, and her life had turned around. She was still undergoing

job, and the development of trust in the Divine.

treatment, but her attitude was altered—she had started talking

After a Reiki session, one woman shared that a “load of self-hatred”

to her daughter and was far more prepared to face the future.

had been lifted. She was 82 and had lived with these feelings for

Other wondrous comments about Reiki treatments I received

years. Another who had a scar following reconstructive breast

include:

surgery told me that she now looked at her scar and found it to be

• “I feel like I’m in a cloud, floating, under great stress, but

“a reminder of how lucky I am” as opposed to thinking how foreign

yet Reiki helps me feel that everything will be fine. I know it

and uncomfortable it was. One client said, “I have been negative

works, physically and spiritually.”

all my life, now I want to be positive.” Cancer had brought these

• “I feel full of light when I walk out” (of the treatment room).

people to me, but in the end, Reiki had brought about changes that

• “I feel protected.”

were much bigger than the impact of cancer.

• “When I walk out, I feel safer.”

Another individual I was working with was clearly short of money,

• “My brain fog is now a light haze!”

sad, listless, and barely speaking to her husband. She had no interest

When a practitioner gives Reiki, they receive this beautiful energy

in food, and they ate apart. When she returned for another session,

back. My clients worried about me, asking: “Aren’t you tired after

I barely recognized her. She announced, “I made spaghetti.” I

giving Reiki to cancer patients?” I was able to answer honestly

thought she had opened a can of sauce and cooked some pasta,

that after each session, I myself felt at peace and in tune with the

and I was delighted she had made this effort. She read my mind

Universe. My volunteer work was a beautiful part of my week, and

and repeated, pointedly, “No, really, I made pasta for my husband

I looked forward to it.

and me, from scratch!” The Reiki session had lifted her mood and

Do you feel in need of a holistic treatment that works on the mental,

following my suggestion of a gratitude practice, she had begun

physical, emotional, and spiritual level as you decide what your

making changes in her life.

next steps are? You may wish to consider looking for an accredited

Another woman was discouraged, unhappy, didn’t communicate

Reiki practitioner near you. This wonderful energy is available not

with her daughter, and felt she had no friends. She had one

only in person but also from a distance.

session. When I saw her a couple of weeks later, she was joking

Reiki may be your greatest discovery!

with someone in the lobby as she waited for me. It turned out she had experienced an awakening, which she ascribed to her Reiki

Connect with Catherine: https://catherinecbastedo.com/

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SIX USEFUL WAYS TO OVERCOME EMOTIONAL TRAUMA

BY GERI MARONEY

“Strong women aren’t born. They are forged in the fires they have had to walk through. They are warriors with hearts of gold” When cancer came to my door, it brought many difficult emotions that

1. Write your cancer story. One of the reasons trauma memories get

I did not expect. Words like panic, anger, fear, and sadness were part

stuck is because we often cannot bear to think about what has happened

of my daily dialogue. Within a matter of moments my life had forever

and so we push our thoughts aside. One way to solve this problem of

changed.

fragmented thoughts is to write a complete story – take those frag-

I thought my cancer journey would be a “medical” process, and that

ments you keep pushing aside and write your whole story. Consider

once my tests, surgeries, and treatments were over, everything would

starting with the journal prompt “What cancer has taught me”. As the

be done. But this wasn’t the case. Through my own experience, I learned

memories start to flow, you’ll see that the hard feelings become easier

that a cancer diagnosis consists of two paths; one is the obvious medi-

to talk about. You don’t have to publish your story; you just need to get

cal path, and the other is the emotional path that is equally as import-

the words out of your head and onto the paper. Your story can be as

ant to heal.

private or public as you decide.

Unfortunately, emotional trauma after a cancer diagnosis is often over-

2. Grieve your past. Grieving the traumatic event is a great way to

looked. Many people believe that when you’re done with your specific

move forward and gain new strength. We must grieve our old lives,

cancer treatment, you are done with cancer. Not true. In addition to

bodies, thoughts, and expectations. To move forward in a healthy way,

what our bodies are going through medically, our minds are experi-

you must first grieve what you have lost. This takes time. For me, I

encing extreme trauma, and it does not magically end when the medi-

couldn’t look at my new body for months, it was just too sad. It brings

cal treatments do. It actually just begins.

tears to my eyes even today, so I suppose I haven’t completely recon-

The psychological cost of a cancer diagnosis has been shown to

ciled my grief just yet. But I have made friends with my body again. This

significantly increase anxiety and depression, psychological distress,

is an important step. Take your time and make your peace. Thank your

post-traumatic stress, and impair overall quality of life. According to

body for all it has done for you and create a new partnership for the

statistics, nearly 80% of women develop PTSD symptoms after a cancer

future. Your body feels your gratitude, so be kind. Negative self-talk is

diagnosis. Fear of recurrence, anxieties regarding mortality, altered

no longer allowed. Period.

body image following surgery, and fears regarding the impact of diag-

3. Turn your frown upside down. Grief and depression can look quite

noses on immediate families can impact our well-being.

similar and at times it can be difficult to tell them apart. Grief is asso-

Trauma is difficult to understand and even more difficult to heal. Most

ciated with loss, whereas depression colors how we see life. Small daily

people believe that because the event is now in their past, so too are the

doses of gratitude and joy can help tame these feelings. During my

effects of the trauma. This is not the case. If the difficult emotions are

recovery, I promised myself that I would start each day naming two

not identified and released in a wholistic and healthy way, the trauma

things I was grateful for. Sometimes I could only think of the two obvi-

stays “stuck”. When trauma is trapped, your body feels it and your brain

ous ones; 1) that I woke up and 2) that the sun was shining (assuming

tries to make sense of it. The brain doesn’t recognize the difference

it was). But that’s ok, be kind to yourself and celebrate each day. At this

between physical or emotional danger, it’s all the same to the brain.

stage, we are retraining our bodies and minds to find happiness again

Here are a few ways you can help release the trauma from your body.

and it takes time (and patience).

S i x Us e f u l W ays to O v e rcom e E mot i o n a l T r au m a

4. Dream a little dream. Do you have a bucket list? Don’t get worried about the name. A bucket list doesn’t mean we’re dying, it means we are living life to the fullest! When I was diagnosed with breast cancer, I made updating my bucket list a priority. It gave me great joy to dream about what was next “after cancer”. There were so many awesome things I had left to accomplish and writing them in my journal brought me happiness. Take some time to write down your dreams.

5.

Practice

mindfulness. Take 30

minutes each day to meditate or do whatever helps you relax and stop any negative thoughts. Give your mind a rest.

6. Find a purpose. Reach out and help others. Find purpose to your pain. Show others their strength. Cancer may have been a chapter in your life, but it is not the whole story. You are strong and you are brave, and I wish you all the best.

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N o S c h o o l T o d a y : Th e R e a l i t y f o r M i l l i o n s o f K i d s W o r l d w i d e

NO SCHOOL TODAY: THE REALITY FOR MILLIONS OF KIDS WORLDWIDE

BY TOBIE SPEARS Imagine waking up every morning knowing that your children

According to UNESCO, 244 million children and youth between

do not have the opportunity of attending school. For millions of

the ages of 6 and 18 worldwide are out of school as of 2023. Educa-

parents worldwide, this is a harsh reality that shapes their daily

tion is a powerful tool for social mobility. It opens doors to better

lives, aspirations, and the future of their children.

job opportunities and a brighter future. Without access to educa-

I have always thought that education would be able to change the

tion, children are more likely to fall into a cycle of poverty that

trajectory of someone's life. Either in the United States or in a

can persist for generations. This not only affects individual fami-

developing country, education opens doors.

lies but has broader societal implications. This means that a less

As a parent, the thought of not being able to send my kids to

educated populace can lead to a weakened economy. Skilled labor is

school is both heartbreaking and alarming. Education should be a

crucial for innovation and economic growth. Without a well-edu-

fundamental right, yet millions of children globally are deprived

cated workforce, a country's economic potential is stifled, leading

of it. Education opens doors where none would be open before.

to fewer opportunities for everyone. Moreover, without schools to

Throughout my adult life I've had the opportunity to substitute

provide a basic understanding of health, civics, and science, public

and to be a teaching assistant at local schools. I've had the oppor-

health and civic engagement can suffer, undermining the fabric

tunity to work with hundreds of children and have appreciated all

of society.

the options that we have in the US for education. I've always found

Undermining the importance of education, my husband and I took

it very strange that it isn't required that children attend school in

it upon ourselves to address the lack of education.

other countries. I think that we often take for granted the fact that

Over three years ago, we began a nutrition and preschool program

education is so widely accepted and required here in the US as I

in Guatemala for kiddos three years old and younger. It was a huge

know that education helps children in developing countries learn

success and because of Covid, we had the opportunity to get to

skills that they wouldn't otherwise have.

know older children as well.

What would life be like without schools?

Among those who joined were two older girls who had never had

Without schools, the structure and routine that form the bedrock of

the opportunity to attend school. They came to our preschool with

many families' lives would be missing. Schools are not just places

their mother and younger sister, and for the first time in their lives,

for academic learning; they are community centers where chil-

they had the chance to learn. Almost instantly, they fell in love with

dren learn social skills, build friendships, and receive emotional

learning. Now, because of sponsors who donate monthly both girls

support. In a world without schools, children would miss out on

are thriving in their private schools.

these crucial aspects of development.

Be Humanitarian has been able to sponsor their education and has

Parents, too, would face increased pressure. The responsibility of

been able to provide them with all needed items to ensure that

educating children would fall entirely on their shoulders, a task

they get the education and the chance of changing their lives. I

that many are not prepared for, especially in households where

have been able to witness firsthand the girls growing out of their

parents may have limited education themselves. The social inter-

shell and that I've seen their self-esteem soar. For young women

action that schools provide helps children grow into well-rounded

specifically, I believe that education is vital to keeping them

individuals. Without this, they might become isolated, lacking the

safe throughout their lifetime. I believe that domestic violence

confidence and skills needed to navigate the wider world.

and gender-based violence decreases when the young woman is

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educated. I believe that this is how we are changing the trajectory for all of

of adulthood. Also, education itself is crucial for emotional and psycholog-

the young girls in our program; by helping them create a healthy self-es-

ical development. Schools provide a safe space where children can express

teem and allowing them to dream big dreams.

themselves, develop resilience, and build a sense of self-worth. Without this,

And while these two girls had the opportunity to pursue learning, several

many children may struggle with low self-esteem and a lack of direction.

barriers still prevent others from accessing education. In many parts of the

As a person who was raised in a first world country, I do believe that our

world, poverty is a significant obstacle. Families struggling to make ends

communities should instill the importance of education to all children. I

meet often cannot afford school fees, uniforms, and school supplies.

would love to see a world where children can receive the education and the

After raising funds and collecting thousands of pounds of food and school

skills they need to pull themselves out of poverty.

supplies for a local school in Guatemala, I had the opportunity to meet with

At Be Humanitarian, our long-term goal is to support every child in our

the families as we distributed backpacks filled with essentials. I vividly recall

community with education and nutrition until they graduate from univer-

speaking to a mother of five girls who shared her struggles. In Guatemala,

sity. We aim to ensure that each child in our program has access to the oppor-

her daughters couldn't attend school if they didn't have a pencil, an item they

tunities and choices that were unavailable to their parents, grandparents,

often couldn't afford. This revelation was eye-opening. In the United States,

and great-grandparents. We believe that providing healthy nutrition helps

it's hard to imagine a simple pencil being a barrier to education. Yet, for many

their brains and bodies develop properly, enhancing their ability to learn and

children globally, the inability to afford basic school supplies prevents them

making education more impactful.

from attending school—a stark reminder of the economic challenges faced

Our Final Exam

by families worldwide.

Education can be a fundamental exercise that empowers individuals and

I am humbled and grateful for the ease that education is for so many. As we've

transforms societies. By working together—governments, organizations,

worked with families in our program, we have been able to support them by

communities, and individuals—we can ensure that every child has the oppor-

purchasing school supplies, uniforms, shoes, backpacks and PE clothing.

tunity to learn, grow, and reach their full potential. The future of our world

The long-term impact on children

depends on it.

The lack of education has profound and lasting effects on children. Education is not just about learning to read and write; it's about developing critical thinking, problem-solving skills, and the ability to make informed decisions. Without these skills, children are ill-equipped to face the challenges

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WATCH YOUR WORDS: THE POWERFUL IMPACT OF LANGUAGE ON HEALING CANCER

BY D R. K AT I E D E M I N G

Survivor. It’s a word we hear associated with those experiencing cancer

The Truth About the Word “Survivor”

all the time.

We weren’t the first study to ask patients how they felt about the term

As a former radiation oncologist and healthcare leader, it was a word

survivor. But when my colleagues and I gathered 1400 people with

that was a part of my own lexicon. That is, until a patient pointed out

breast cancer, we decided to dive deeper than most existing studies

how much she loathed it.

had by asking why they felt the way they felt about the term.

“I hate that word,” she’d said. “Survivor. How can you call me a survi-

Here’s why that’s so important:

vor when I have stage 4 cancer and I won’t survive?”

The average rating of the term survivor suggested ambivalence or

Her question hit me like a punch to the gut.

slight positivity. And yet the comments about why patients felt the

Before I go further, let me take a moment to introduce myself. I’m

way they did told a drastically different story.

Dr. Katie Deming, The Conscious Oncologist. I help those with cancer

The minority of the comments expressed neutrality toward the term

detoxify and nourish their full physical, mental, emotional, and spiri-

survivor. Twenty-nine percent were even positive. But the majority of

tual selves, so that they can activate their body’s innate ability to heal.

the comments — sixty percent — were negative.

With over two decades of experience in oncology, I can confidently say

It’s difficult to fully grasp the impact of what we’d uncovered when

that cancer isn’t caused by just one thing. And because of that, healing

all you see is the statistic. But the fact is, these were heartbreaking

cancer isn’t a matter of just changing one thing in your life.

perspectives from real individuals who were suffering unnecessarily

Which brings me back to the word “survivor.”

because of our naive use of this word.

Here was a word that I had used probably hundreds of times, and it was

Our study participants shared things like:

causing intense emotional suffering. And it wasn’t just me using this

“It feels like I’m tempting fate when I say I’ve survived.”

word on an ongoing basis. In fact, the National Cancer Institute uses

“It also confers a kind of achievement that has nothing to do with an

“survivor” to define a person with cancer from the time of diagnosis

individual and it erases the experience of those who have or will die

to the end of their life, regardless of whether their cancer is terminal.

of the disease — what are they, ‘diers’? Are they not worthy of our

It had me wondering… did others feel this way? How big of a problem

respect? Have they ‘failed’? I understand why survivor rose to popular-

was this? My colleagues and I set out to find out.

ity — it’s better than ‘victim’ — but it’s become nearly as damaging.”

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W a t c h Y o u r W o r d s : Th e P o w e r f u l I m p a c t o f L a n g u a g e o n H e a l i n g C a n c e r

“I’m considered cured, but using this word takes me to a dark and

a single word to describe such a large, diverse group of people as

negative place. My year from hell.”

those with cancer. Additionally, language that might be empowering

The study confirmed one of my greatest fears: the language that had

for one person might be upsetting or deflating for another. Some-

been normalized to describe people with cancer was actually harm-

times, we have to improve our language together — both as those

ing them. And perhaps unsurprisingly, that harm wasn’t limited to

doing the healing and those helping the healers.

the term survivor.

Instead of getting fixated on “the right words,” get curious. If

The Battle with Battle Language

you’re supporting someone with cancer, ask them how they would

After this discovery, I noticed a whole set of words that seemed to

best receive your support. What words are empowering for them?

trap my patients in a cycle of fear.

Beyond your language, think about how they want to feel: calm, at

Many of my patients who died of their cancer struggled with battle

peace, comforted. Ask yourself, “Is my communication achieving

language, and the idea of giving up or losing the fight. And speaking

this goal?” Better yet, ask them!

about cancer as an enemy they were fighting seemed to put them

And if you’re someone currently healing from cancer, get curious

at war with themselves. Yet battle language is everywhere, from

with your own language. How are you talking to yourself? How are

politics to sports to marketing to sales. This kind of language can

you communicating with others? Are there words you are using that

be effective in settings where the goal is to capture attention and

are making you feel fear instead of peace? Are there words your

motivate people into action. But it doesn’t work that way in healing.

family, friends, and even healthcare professionals are using that

A study published in Health Communications by Hauser and

you’d rather them not use?

Schwartz showed that war metaphors in cancer don’t increase vigi-

What works for someone else might not work for you, and that’s

lance or motivation… they actually do the opposite. They incite fear

okay. Healing is personal, and taking control of the language we use

and fatalism. Science has already shown us that fear activates the

is a way we can continue to personalize and fuel our healing journey.

sympathetic nervous system, causing our bodies to pump out stress

Healing Beyond Cancer

hormones like epinephrine, norepinephrine, and cortisol.

The importance of our language applies to so much more than heal-

Well-established bodies of research have shown that sustained acti-

ing from cancer. Our language impacts our emotional well-being,

vation of a sympathetic nervous system actually lowers immune

and therefore our overall well-being, on a daily basis.

function, which is entirely counterproductive in one’s healing jour-

Whether we’re healing from cancer, or working through trauma, or

ney. Which can lead us to see that battle language is unhelpful for

simply wanting to improve our health, the way we speak over our

someone with cancer at best, and detrimental at worst.

journey makes a difference in how we feel about it. It impacts our

And when we factor in that it’s so common among patients, and

body’s ability to do what it was designed to do: heal.

healthcare professionals, and caretakers, and family, and friends…

So no matter where you are in your healing journey, whether you’re

it begs the question, what do we do?

healing yourself or you're supporting someone else, remember to

Improving Our Language for Healing Do we rid

watch your words.

ourselves of battle language entirely?

They truly do matter.

Do we replace survivor with another, more empowering word?

Surprisingly, no! Our survivor study demonstrated the risk of using

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EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW WITH

Patty OLIVER

EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW WITH PATTY OLIVER Wo r l d-L e a d i n g - WORLD A K A S HLEAI C E N E RGY DING H AKASHIC EALER & KARMA C L E A RHEAI N G E X P E RT ENERGY LER & KARMA CLEARING EXPERT

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Can you share with our readers the pivotal moment that led you to pursue transformational energy healing and become a spiritual advisor?

It was my diagnosis of breast cancer in 2007 that prompted me to make new conscious choices to lead a happier, more fulfilling life. After healing from surgery and chemotherapy, I decided to become an entrepreneur and open a business, but it was in the skincare industry. I was intro-

Your work with the Akashic Records is fascinating. For those unfa-

duced to energy healing about a month after I opened my business in a

miliar, could you explain what the Akashic Records are and how they

rather synchronistic way!

can impact an individual's life?

I met an energy healer at a last-minute networking event that I almost

The Akashic Records is like an energetic database; it holds all the infor-

didn’t attend. I had no idea what energy healing was, but I felt like it was

mation about the universe and its past, present and future. Every soul

divine timing because I was quickly redirected to do energy work after

has its own Akashic Record, which holds all the information about that

that meeting, and it all fell into place so easily. I started offering energy

soul from its moment of origination from Source, including soul gifts, attri-

healing in the form of Reiki to my skincare clients, and within a few years,

butes, chosen life experiences and karma.

I decided to move full-time into energy healing work. It was then that my

Karma is the energy of choices you’ve made in past lives that did not

energy work shifted to past lives and Akashic Records.

align with your soul growth and evolution and will keep you in negative

Apparently, the universe knew I had latent intuitive skills and abilities and

repeating patterns in this and future lifetimes until you empower your-

was just waiting for me to choose a more empowered trajectory before

self over it. Your karma will dictate the family and circumstances you are

opening me up to it! After doing hundreds of Akashic readings and heal-

born into, the situations you will face and the types of relationships you

ing sessions, I can confidently say that this is exactly how we attract new

will have. Unresolved karma will only expand into other areas of your

aligned opportunities into our space: by changing our choices, which puts

life; what might start as a negative family dynamic can begin to affect

us on a new timeline. This then raises our vibration, which changes what

your friendships, your romantic relationships and then eventually your

can flow to us through the Law of Attraction.

career, your money and even your health! This is why it is so important to address any negative pattern in your life by making new choices; avoidance or hoping it will go away will only make karma more pervasive.

You have the power to change the direction of your life at any time, and your Akashic Record is your guidebook on how to make that change. It will show you exactly why things are happening in your life and new actions you can take to resolve it once and for all. Your Akashic Record will also identify your soul gifts, so you can live your life with more ease and authenticity.

We all have the ability to intuitively access our own Akashic Record for healing, insight and manifestation, we just need to learn how! I often refer to the Akashic Records as the single most potent source of information about yourself and how to live your highest joy and potential. When you learn how to work with your Akashic Record, you can make amazing leaps in your transformation and what can flow to you as a result.

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How has your personal journey through cancer influenced your approach to energy healing and spirituality?

When you receive a cancer diagnosis, you are reminded of just how short a physical life can be. And while we’ve all heard that you could have anything you want in life, very few actually believe it or follow through on making their dreams a reality. But with Akashic Records, you can absolutely live an abun-

Many of our readers are curious about how to begin their healing journeys. What first steps

dant and joyful life - even better than your dreams!

do you recommend for someone interested in exploring their Akashic Records for healing?

It’s like what happened to me; I originally set out to

Working with your Akashic Record requires that you connect with your higher conscious-

have a career in skincare. I had no idea it would

ness. It involves setting aside the ego and trusting what you receive as true and accurate for

involve energy healing! But I released the need

you and your soul growth. Therefore, the very first thing I recommend to anyone who wants

to know what my life would look like or the path

to work with their Akashic Record is to first practice quieting the mind so you can hear your

I would take to get there, I just kept following my

inner wisdom. This could involve meditation or deep breathing, and you could do this while

intention to be happy and abundant while taking

listening to binaural beats to encourage relaxation and activate the pineal gland. In my online

inspired action. This is another secret to manifest-

course, I purposefully created several guided mediations with music for this exact reason.

ing, which is to release outcomes while continuing to

You could also try other energy healing techniques such as Reiki to release energy blocks and

move forward with your passions and inspirations.

clear your energy field.

It doesn’t mean you will never encounter negativ-

Another technique to tap into your higher mind is to do free writing, which is putting pen to

ity or setbacks. When you learn that everything is

paper and just write without stopping. Let yourself be guided by your higher self and simply

energy and everything happens for your highest

write whatever wants to flow. This bypasses the ego and allows the soul to express itself

good – which is either to clear karma or put you on

more easily. Also working with tarot and oracle cards is another way to connect and gain

a new path – you can overcome obstacles much

access to your spiritual wisdom.

more easily. I teach my clients to persevere through

Once you’ve practiced receiving information through these types of methods and trusting that

their fears and challenges because the abundance

it is accurate for you without judgement, then you can really begin tapping into your Akashic

they seek is on the other side of that. Hundreds of

Record. You can do this by simply setting the intention to access your Akashic Record, and

Akashic readings and healings have taught me this,

asking just one question that you’d like insight for. Wait to receive some type of intuitive answer,

along with my own personal transformational expe-

and then leave the Records with a prayer of gratitude. There are proper ways to phrase ques-

riences in the Records.

tions and also how to interpret what you receive, which I teach in my online course.

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The concept of clearing karma within the Akashic Records is intriguing. Could you explain how this process works and its benefits?

Karma is simply the energy of a choice you made in a past life that didn’t align to your soul’s design for abundance and is considered negative for that reason. It's not like you must have done something terrible in a past life to create karma! It’s simply energy that does not serve your soul growth and evolution. For example, negative karma can be a limiting belief that you hold, such as lack of self-worth. Since we only take action on what we believe to be true, you will continue to make choices based on lack of self-worth until you change it.

It may have been a conscious choice you made in a past life, or you may have been forced into a decision for any number of reasons. Either way, the energy of those misaligned choices will stay with you and cause you to attract similar circumstances until balanced out by an empowered choice, regardless of how long – or how many lifetimes – that might take.

I mentioned earlier that unresolved karma will dictate all of your future circumstances. Just like we benefit from positive karma that moves you forward in life, negative karma will hold you back. Many of us are blind to our karma. We don’t understand why we’re stuck; we just In your experience, how can understanding and

know we are unhappy and unsure of how to change it.

aligning with one’s soul blueprint aid in the healing

By learning to access your Akashic Record, you can

process, especially for cancer survivors?

unveil every obstacle in your path. You can understand

Aligning with your soul blueprint helps you be your true,

exactly how and why the karmic pattern started, how it

authentic, divine self. This often means unwinding every-

brought you to your current life circumstances, and how

thing that is not in alignment with your true self, which

to change it to create the life you desire. This is huge for

is usually your repeating karmic patterns. Over time,

understanding your manifesting process, because you

alignment will help you release negative thoughts, limit-

can only attract what you are vibrationally aligned to.

ing beliefs, and see people and situations for who and

Universal law tells us this! But you will always attract

what they truly are, and not how you want them to be.

the energy of your karma first, giving you an opportu-

This helps you to heal emotional triggers and release

nity to balance it out. Once you do, you raise your vibra-

old traumas that you might still be clinging to and offer

tion and what can flow to you as a result.

forgiveness to yourself and others.

Once you understand this, and realize that you need

Everything is energy, and when you heal negative

to address everything in your life that does not align to

patterns and release negative energy, it brings calm to

your desired outcome, it gives you more of a reason to

the nervous system and allows positive energy to flow

persevere through making the necessary changes in

in. This helps stimulate the physical body’s natural heal-

your life in order to reach your goals. Clearing karma in

ing mechanisms, which can support overall health and

your Akashic Record is the easiest, fastest, most power-

wellbeing especially for cancer survivors.

ful way to do this.

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Could you share a memorable story where accessing the

way in her present-life relationships, both family and roman-

Akashic Records led to significant healing or transforma-

tic, which was depleting her of vital force energy and was

tion for one of your clients?

misaligned to her soul gifts.

I have so many stories I could share, as I’ve done hundreds

As I cleared her of these tendencies, she would tell me that

of readings for clients all around the world! People come to

the few guys she dated suddenly left her space. This is due

me when they feel absolutely stuck in their lives and can’t

to vibrational inequity; once I cleared her karma it raised her

seem to make anything happen for them in any life area. And

vibration, and those men were no longer a vibrational match.

I’m talking about successful people as well, not just those

This meant that, vibrationally, they would eventually have to

who might be completely down and out. But this is what

leave her space in some way due to the Law of Attraction

can happen when karma remains unresolved long enough;

(we can only attract what we are vibrationally aligned to).

it will stop the flow of abundance in all life areas until you

To support the clearing, she started taking a more empow-

choose to rise above it.

ered approach to the men in her life and also upheld higher

One of my clients - I’ll call her Miriam - was a doctor and

standards for herself when it came to dating, and even-

a therapist. She was divorced with two teenage children

tually found a guy that she really liked. She also started

still at home. While she was successful in her business,

saying no to family members who were taking advantage

she really wanted to shift her line of work to another disci-

of her giving nature.

pline, but wasn’t sure how to go about it and still maintain a

She also had clients who were misaligned to her energy

good income. And, she really wanted to have a new roman-

and, once the karma was cleared, she was able to release

tic partner, but all she seemed to attract were unsuccessful

those clients and uphold better boundaries with new clients.

men or those with serious commitment fears or other types

Over time, she discovered that she had more energy and felt

of emotional baggage. To top it off, she had bouts of unex-

more joyful. This gave her time and energy to start doing

plained chronic fatigue and illness.

more writing as well as take some courses in the area she

I worked with her for about a year. During our sessions, I

wanted to move her business to. She connected with me

discovered in her Akashic Record a number of past lives as

about a year later and let me know that she had shifted her

a female in which she had given her power away to a male

line of work and was actually earning more money than she

spouse – a very common theme for women, especially in

thought she could. She had also recently bought a house

past lives when women truly had no choice but to submit to

with her new boyfriend, and she was just so much happier

their spouse. She also had past lives with family members

and more settled overall. And her health improved; she no

in which she always ended up being the caretaker. I helped

longer had bouts of chronic fatigue since our last session.

her see how she was still giving her power away in a similar

This is a pretty typical client success story!

You’ve also emphasized the importance of balancing chakras and managing energy fields. Can you share some practical ti08ps for our readers to maintain an energetic balance?

I think the best way to bring balance to your energy field is by developing self-awareness. Understand WHY you do things, and why you are feeling negative emotions in particular, and know that you have the power to overcome negativity by making a new choice. You can change your thoughts, your beliefs, and your state of being at any time.

Give yourself permission to live authentically and do the things you love in a way that supports the lifestyle you desire. This creates natural peace and joy, and there’s nothing more beneficial for supporting your energy body, including balanced chakras. This is another reason why I love the Akashic Records so much; if you are really struggling with understanding why you are feeling a certain way or have a certain belief, you can ask and receive the insight you need.

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Your online course offers a pathway for individuals to access their

and Personal/Spiritual Growth. There are also 47 cards describing the

own Akashic Record. What can participants expect to learn and expe-

energy of actions you could take. One sample reading is to ask what

rience through this course?

your current energy is in each life area and then what to change if you

I titled the course “Live a Soul-Powered Life,” because I teach you from

want a specific outcome.

the very first module exactly what energy and karma are, and how you

This can be incredibly valuable for someone who is feeling stuck and unsure

are a soul having a temporary human experience. You are here because

of why or what to change. It can also help confirm a direction you might

your soul wants to express itself through your physical body, through

be thinking of taking. I’ve had so many customers thank me for giving

your passions, desires and natural talents. Anything not in alignment

them the confirmation and insight they were missing by using the deck!

with that is in your power to change.

I give you energetic attunements so you can become accustomed to work-

In the realm of holistic healing, how do you see the role of tradi-

ing in the higher vibrational field of the Akash, and to work with your

tional medicine intersecting with energy healing, especially for those

Akashic Guides. I teach you an easy method for accessing your Akashic

battling illnesses like cancer?

Record and how to phrase questions, which is very important for extract-

I believe it will continue to come together, combining the two for more

ing only the information you want to receive. I also teach you how to

tailored treatments including those dealing with diseases like cancer.

interpret your answers, including how to use a pendulum and charts for

Energy medicine can have a profound healing effect, both direct and indi-

deeper understanding. You will learn how to clear karmic soul contracts

rect. It can support traditional medicine by opening the body’s natural

and vows, repair soul fragmentation, release energy cords, and much

energy pathways as well as relaxing the mind and the nervous system

more. I also give you exercises for creating an empowered mindset and

so that medical treatment can be received more readily. Energy heal-

releasing emotional triggers to support your clearing and rise in vibra-

ing can also assist with recovery time, whether it is in between medical

tion as you clear karma.

treatments or after.

I also created a section on how to read the Akashic Record of others,

The same goes for mental health and wellness. Energy medicine can

so you can read for family and friends, or even start a business if you

help shed new light on difficult situations for patients, which can then be

choose. I’m available any time for student questions either through email

dealt with more effectively during their counseling or therapy sessions.

or through an online community.

Your contribution to “Intuitive: Speaking her Truth” and your own Writing as a featured columnist, what message do you most want to

works reflect a deep commitment to sharing healing stories. You’ve

convey about energy healing and spiritual empowerment?

recently written a book, “Heal, Transform & Manifest with Akashic

Everyone has the ability to overcome their negative circumstances and

Records, Your Path to Living a Soul-Powered Life.” What has writ-

create an abundant life! It’s truly about changing your energy and align-

ing taught you about the healing journey?

ing with your authentic self. It might take several years to see it all come

One of my biggest karmic blocks has always been the fear of being in the

together because changing negative patterns is never easy. But if you’re

spotlight. I’ve struggled with it my entire professional life. I knew I would

willing to do the work, there are spiritual tools available at your fingertips

eventually need to take my own advice and stop avoiding it, as it only

to help you move through those changes with more grace and ease. As

causes karma to go deeper and block abundance. My work in my own

you begin to balance karma and raise your vibration, you get to witness

Akashic Record taught me the steps I needed to take based on my own

new results that will flow to you because of your new empowered state.

soul blueprint to work my way up to the point where I felt I was ready to tackle something like writing a book.

The “Akashic Truth Oracle” is a unique tool you’ve created. How can

It’s about taking one step at a time to embody a new energy and vibration

this oracle deck enhance one’s connection to one's Akashic Record

– just like I teach my clients! I needed to address issues in my personal life

and overall intuition?

first by finding my voice and standing up for myself and what I believed

I love oracle cards! I started using them early on in my spiritual awaken-

in. Then I took new action in my business and tried new things by taking

ing to help me think beyond my own mindset and experiences. It helped

on more visible projects, gaining confidence along the way.

me see the bigger picture of why things were taking place in my life and

Each project that I completed helped me see my own empowerment. I

opportunities I might miss if I weren’t paying attention.

became much more confident in my ability to accomplish anything I set

When I decided to create The Akashic Truth Oracle card deck, I wanted it

my mind to, while successfully opening new revenue streams for my busi-

to mirror the Akashic readings that I would give. So, the deck includes six

ness. Writing about my transformation has helped me see that, while the

life areas that you can get focused insight on: Career/Business, Money/

healing process is messy and uncomfortable, the peace and fulfillment

Investments, Romance/Partnership, Family/Friends, Health & Wellness,

on the other side are priceless.

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For someone just beginning their path to spiritual awareness and healing, it can feel overwhelming. What advice do you have for staying grounded and centered through the process?

Yes, choosing to overcome your karma and empower yourself is never an easy process. It’s full of ups and downs and will require a lot of difficult choices you’ll need to make. It can indeed be scary and overwhelming and feel like things are falling apart – the literal dark night of the soul.

I’d say that you need to welcome those scary moments and choose to move through those dark nights (or months!) of uncertainty with as much grace as possible. Remind yourself of all that you have accomplished and how far you’ve come and give yourself all the self-love and self-care you need to get you through. This will be different for everyone, but for me I indulged in salt baths, massages, saunas, and spiritual retreats to help me realize the deep healing that I was offering myself was the most important soul work I could do. I cried, I screamed, I journaled, I meditated and did yoga. I gave myself permission to take the time I needed, and my goodness it was so worth it! I know I would not have been able to accomplish all the things I’ve done so far if I hadn’t.

Lastly, as we honor Cancer Survivor Month, what message of hope and empowerment would you like to share with survivors and those currently on their cancer journey?

Cancer may have affected you physically. For myself, I opted for a double mastectomy. But your soul is always whole and powerful. Honor your physical experience by letting go of what no longer serves you mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Release resentments, offer forgiveness and give yourself permission to live your highest joy in every little moment.

Honestly, none of us knows how long we are going to live, whether we are dealing with cancer or not. Being mindful of spending every minute doing what you love and being who you want to be is the best gift you can give yourself during and after your healing journey.

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DREAM DELAYS: WHEN YOU R MA N I F E STAT IONS A R E ST UC K IN TR A FF IC

BY DAWNA CAMPBELL

Ever found yourself waiting for something you’ve been manifesting, wonder-

materialize. However, these pauses in manifestation are opportunities for us

ing if it got lost in the universal mail? We’ve all been there—anticipating,

to acknowledge our role in the process—to refine our aspirations, release rigid

visualizing, and maybe even a little impatient for our dreams to materialize.

attachments to specific outcomes, and allow the universe to realign circum-

Manifesting, they say, is all about divine timing. But what happens when that

stances in ways that better serve our evolving path.

timing feels more like a test in divine patience?

The Trap of Similar Manifestations

You've got this dream—a crystal-clear vision of what you want your life to

Believing our manifestation has finally arrived, only to discover it hasn't, often

look like. Manifesting begins with this dream, sure, but it's way more than just

stems from focusing on similar manifestations. This can lead to delays and

idle daydreaming. It's about rolling up your sleeves and getting hands-on with

setbacks when we repeatedly aim for outcomes that mimic past desires or

your desires. You're not just wishing anymore; you're actively molding your

experiences. It's like chasing after a mirage that promises fulfillment but ulti-

reality by syncing up your thoughts, feelings, and actions with what you crave.

mately evaporates upon closer inspection. This repetitive cycle not only stalls

But here’s the kicker: despite your best efforts and all that alignment, some-

our progress but also prevents us from embracing new possibilities aligned

times those dreams take their sweet time showing up at your door. So why

with our evolving aspirations.

the delay? Let’s dive into the top 8 reasons why your dreams might be linger-

Transitioning to Abundance

ing just out of reach.

Delayed manifestations often hint at a transitional phase towards greater

Timing is Everything

abundance. When our desires seem to take their time, it's like the universe is

Divine timing operates like the universe's master schedule—a cosmic harmony

fine-tuning the string instruments before the grand performance. This period

timed where everything unfolds in its perfect rhythm. With manifesting,

isn't just about waiting; it's a time for shedding old beliefs, shaking off limit-

divine timing is pivotal. Our desires may not manifest immediately because

ing circumstances, and gearing up for a wave of prosperity.

the universe knows the opportune moment for their arrival—one that syncs

Strong Desire and Resistance

with our soul’s evolution, current circumstances, or the interplay of other

Strong desire and resistance can throw a curveball into our manifesting jour-

intertwined destinies. It’s akin to waiting for the ideal wave to catch, trusting

ney. It's like flooring the gas pedal with one hand while slamming the brakes

that when it arrives, it will effortlessly carry us toward our desired destination.

with the other. When we passionately yearn for something, our energy and

Trusting the Process

attention zoom in on its achievement. But when doubts, fears, or conflicting

Trusting the process isn’t just a mantra or slogan in manifesting—it’s an

beliefs sneak in—questioning our worthiness or the feasibility of our dreams—

essential attitude. It's about finding real joy in each step toward your goals,

it's like hitting a sudden stop on our manifestations. This tug-of-war creates

rather than obsessing over the end result. When we doubt the process, we

a dynamic tension, putting the brakes on the natural flow of our intentions.

disrupt our flow with the natural rhythm of our desires. This hesitation intro-

Fixation on a Single Topic

duces resistance, turning potential growth moments into perceived setbacks.

Fixating on a single outcome can halt the entire process on manifestation.

When we trust the process, we cultivate resilience, knowing every experience

You're laser-focused on one specific result—seeing it clearly, obsessing over

contributes to the manifestation of our dreams.

it, and expecting it to materialize exactly as you envision. While clarity is

Anticipating Something Better

crucial, being too fixated can narrow your view, potentially blocking out better

Anticipating something better, or "this or something better," often causes

possibilities that the universe might have in store for you. This hyper-focus

delays in manifestations. It's important to recognize that these delays are not

creates resistance, slowing down the natural flow of manifestation. It's like

solely due to external factors but are influenced by our anticipation. Initially,

gripping too tightly onto something, preventing the universe from deliver-

this anticipation might evoke disappointment as we wait for our desires to

ing in its own creative and often surprising ways.

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Letting Go to Move Forward

Manifestation Mastery

Ever tried catching a butterfly? The more you chase it, the more it eludes your

Each delay, though admittedly frustrating at times, holds within it the poten-

grasp. Manifesting is a bit like that delicate dance—sometimes, holding on too

tial for growth, refinement, and we will dive deeper into the mechanics of

tightly keeps what we desire just out of reach. When we release our grip on the

manifesting itself. In Part Two of this three-part series, we'll unravel what

need for control and outcomes, we create space for the universe to work its

manifesting truly entails—how it works, why it works, and most importantly,

magic. It's about trusting that what's meant for us will find its way, even if it

how you can harness its power to create the life you envision.

takes a bit longer than expected.

If you want more manifesting magic, connect with me now at www.bettercalldawna.com.

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SLEEP: THE SILENT HEALER

BY VIRGINIA OMAN

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Most everyone has heard that sleep is important, but do you really know all the reasons

not just glance at it casually. When you read each paragraph, inter-

why? Do you know what specific areas of your being are affected by the amount of sleep

nally experience what the words are saying to you. And after each

you get?

item, ask yourself “is this information something I value for myself?”

The majority of people do not. Let’s look at the answer to this last question; “what areas

Tip 2: Decreasing your time on a computer or tv before bed

of our being and our life are most affected by the amount of sleep we get.? “ The answer is

If you haven’t heard about the importance of decreasing your time

ALL areas!. Every single aspect of your being and your life is 100% affected by the amount

on a computer or tv before bed, here's a good one to know about. Our

of sleep you get.

bodies wake up by a chemical release of serotonin in the mornings

Take a second to think about that. A rate as high as100% should perk up your interest. I’m

due to light, and go to sleep by the chemical release of Melatonin that

going to target this topic of sleep from the 2 specific areas of my expertise. One; being a

happens when it’s dark. The operative word here is “dark”. We need

Licensed Clinical Mental Health Therapist of over 30 years, and secondly, I am a Nationally

darkness for this chemical process to be initiated so that we get sleepy

Certified Personal Trainer and Wellness Coach. Having substantial experience and knowl-

and fall asleep. So if you are jazzing yourself up with computer light,

edge in both of these areas enables me to speak as an expert on this topic (which I frequently

or the backlight of tv, it may not give you the best chance of feeling

do at different venues.) all with the goal of getting this information out to as many people

sleepy enough to actually fall asleep.

as possible so they can live better lives.

Tip 3: Have some peace and quiet before bed

Since the length requirement of this article limits the amount of info to share, I have

Many of my clients have found that doing gentle stretches on a yoga

narrowed it down to 6 areas that all of us need to keep in mind when we think about the

mat, under dim light (perhaps candle light) is very effective for induc-

importance of sleep.

ing sleepiness. Others like to add in listening to relaxing music or

Sleep is critical. Here’s the tip of the iceberg as to why:

nature sounds during this time.

1. Restoration and Healing: During sleep, the body undergoes processes that repair tissues,

Tip 4 and 5 go together.

restore energy, and support immune function. This is essential for overall physical health

Tip 4 is to go for a leisurely walk OUTSIDE an hour or 2 before bed

and recovery from daily wear and tear.

Breathing fresh air and releasing the energy of the day through move-

2. Cognitive Function: Sleep is vital for brain function. It helps consolidate memories,

ment is a wonderful prescription.

process information, and enhance learning. Lack of sleep can impair attention, deci-

Tip 5 Get enough movement and cardio exercise is THE most

sion-making, and reaction times.

powerful of all. The number one way to be sleepy enough to fall

3. Mental Health: Adequate sleep is linked to better mood regulation and emotional

asleep each night is to get enough movement and cardio exer-

well-being. Chronic sleep deprivation is associated with an increased risk of depression,

cise during the day. Our bodies were designed to move. We were

anxiety, and other mental health issues.

designed to push, carry, bend, pull, lift, get up and down off the

4. Physical Health: Poor sleep has been linked to an increased risk of various health prob-

ground repeatedly during the day. I stand by the statement; if the

lems, including heart disease, diabetes, obesity, and compromised immune function.

human body is substantially exhausted with movement and exer-

5. Sleep helps regulate hormones that control appetite and metabolism. Performance

cise, it is impossible for it not to fall asleep.

and Productivity: Quality sleep is essential for optimal performance at work, school, and

In current times we have modernized our environments to such an

in daily activities. It improves concentration, problem-solving abilities, and productivity.

extent that the majority of what we do each day is…SIT. We may walk

6. Overall Quality of Life: Getting enough restful sleep contributes to an overall higher

to and from our cars, or walk in the grocery store, but for the major-

quality of life. It allows us to function at our best, maintain relationships, and enjoy life

ity of the week, most of us are sitting. It’s no wonder insomnia has

to the fullest.

become an increasing problem. If you have trouble falling asleep, try

As you can see, good sleep is vital for every aspect of our physical, emotional and psycho-

ramping up your daily movement and exercise. It’s the number one

logical health. That is everything!

most natural, holistic and free treatment for insomnia on the planet.

The majority of Americans fall short on getting a substantial amount of sleep each night.

In summary, sleep is not merely a period of rest. It is a physiologi-

If you’re one of these individuals, I want to include tried and true tips for how you can

cal process that is critical for both physical and mental health. Estab-

change this for the better.

lishing good sleep habits has profound benefits for overall well-being

Tip 1: RE-READ the above list

and longevity. Therefore, prioritizing good sleep habits is definitely

Simply put, if we don’t have a big enough WHY in our life to change (i.e. improve) some-

worth the effort.

thing, we won’t take action to change it. So when you re-read the list, I encourage you to

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ENTREPRENEURS GUIDE TO SACRED MANTRAS TO INCREASE PRODUCTIVITY

BY D I PA L S H A H If you are an Entrepreneur like me, it is a journey filled with challenges,

might be to achieve mental clarity and insight.

uncertainties, and high-stress situations. In the quest for success, we often

Find a quiet and comfortable space where you can practice without

face immense pressure, long hours, and the constant demand to innovate.

interruptions. This could be a corner of your office or a quiet room at home.

In such a demanding environment, maintaining mental clarity, emotional

Ensure the space is conducive to relaxation and focus. Begin with a few deep

stability, and overall well-being becomes crucial.

breaths to relax your body and mind. Inhale deeply through your nose, hold

One powerful tool that can help entrepreneurs like yourself to navigate these

for a moment, and exhale slowly through your mouth. This breathing exercise

challenges is the use of mantras. I find that mantras can be an invaluable tool

helps prepare your mind for the mantra practice.

to manage stress, enhance focus, and foster resilience. Most of the time I am

Start repeating your chosen mantra. You can say it aloud, whisper it, or repeat

often juggling multiple tasks and responsibilities. Mantras have helped me

it silently in your mind. Focus on the sound and vibration of the words, letting

anchor my mind, preventing it from wandering and promoting sustained

them resonate within you. If your mind starts to wander, gently bring your

concentration. I realized that this enhanced focus is crucial for making

focus back to the mantra. It's natural for thoughts to arise, but the practice lies

strategic decisions and driving business growth.

in returning to your mantra each time you get distracted. Consistency is key.

Unfortunately, our environment is filled with great amounts of uncertainty,

Set aside a few minutes each day for your mantra practice. Over time, you'll

therefore, repeating a mantra can have a calming effect on the nervous

notice the benefits accumulating.

system, reducing the production of stress hormones like cortisol. This

The regular use of mantras can lead to profound changes in your life. You will

relaxation response can help anyone who uses a mantra to manage stress

notice a mind clear of distractions, leading to improved focus, clarity, and

more effectively. Additionally, mantras can promote emotional stability and

better decision-making. This mental clarity can enhance strategic thinking

resilience. By repeating mantras, you can counteract negative thoughts and

and business planning.

emotions, fostering a mindset of perseverance and optimism.

Imagine managing the demands of your work more effectively which will help

I believe that a clear and focused mind is more creative and better at solving

you prevent burnout and improve your overall well-being. Using a Mantra will

problems. If you are ever dealing with mental clutter like I do at times, mantras

help you promote emotional stability, allowing you to respond to challenges

can help clear that mental clutter, allowing you to think more creatively and

with greater emotional intelligence. This heightened emotional awareness can

find innovative solutions to challenges.

improve leadership skills and team dynamics.

For many entrepreneurs, business is not just about profit but also about

If you want to be more creative and innovative you need a relaxed and focused

personal growth and fulfillment. I find that mantras can deepen the connection

mind. When you do come up against set backs and challenges you have built

with oneself and foster a sense of purpose and meaning, aligning personal

emotional resilience. This resilience will help you navigate these setbacks and

values with business goals.

challenges with greater ease and determination.

Incorporating mantras into daily life doesn't require

By using Mantras in your everyday routine you can ensure that business goals

extensive knowledge or a significant time commitment.

are in harmony with personal values and aspirations.

Here are some practical steps for entrepreneurs to get started:

In the demanding world maintaining mental clarity, emotional stability, and

Select a mantra that resonates with your personal and business goals. It could

overall well-being is crucial for success. It is time to unlock the potential for

be a traditional mantra like "Om" (the sound of the universe) or a custom

a more balanced, creative, and fulfilling journey. Take the Ultimate 8 Ultimate

affirmation like "I am confident and capable" or "I am a successful and

Senses Quiz and find out what your 2 strongest Intuitive abilities are to see

visionary leader." Before starting your mantra practice, set a clear intention.

how much your intuition plays a key role in your business.

This intention will guide your focus and enhance the effectiveness of the mantra. For example, if you seek clarity in decision-making, your intention

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BOOST YOUR METABOLISM: THE MIDLIFE WOMEN'S GUIDE

BY ANDREA SCHWARTZ

Entering our 40s and 50s, many women start noticing a frustrating change:

Incorporating fiber-rich foods like whole grains, vegetables, and fruits

our once reliable metabolism begins to slow down. This can lead to unwanted

improves digestion and satiety, which helps in managing weight. Incorporating

weight gain and a significant drop in energy levels. However, I'm here to tell

anti-inflammatory foods like turmeric, fatty fish, and walnuts into your diet

you that this isn't an inevitable part of aging. As a Certified Integrative Health

can combat inflammation associated with hormonal changes and aid metabolic

Coach with over three decades in health and wellness and who has personally

function. I love a turmeric latte before bedtime, which supports digestion and

navigated these midlife changes, boosting your metabolism is entirely possible

relaxation in the evening.

through a holistic approach.

Increasing Protein Intake

Understanding Metabolic Changes

High-quality protein sources such as lean meats, fish, legumes, and dairy are

During midlife, women experience critical physiological changes that can

crucial for maintaining muscle mass and thus supporting a healthy metabolic

impact metabolic health significantly. The slowdown in metabolic rate is

rate. Proteins have a higher thermic effect than fats or carbohydrates, meaning

primarily due to reduced muscle mass and significant hormonal changes,

the body uses more energy to digest them, which can boost metabolic rate

including the decline in estrogen. The decrease in estrogen levels associated

temporarily. Increasing my protein intake has had a profound impact on my

with menopause contributes to a lower basal metabolic rate (B.M.R.), which

metabolism. Proteins are more complex for the body to break down and digest,

means the body burns fewer calories at rest. This hormonal adjustment

leading to increased calorie burn during digestion. They also help to build and

increases fat storage, especially around the abdomen, increasing dangerous

maintain muscle mass, which is crucial for a healthy metabolic rate.

visceral fat.

A breakfast consisting of Greek yogurt, nuts, fresh fruits, or scrambled eggs

Additionally, age-related sarcopenia, or loss of muscle mass, exacerbates this

with spinach provides a protein-rich start to the day that kickstarts the

slowdown because muscle is more metabolically active than fat. Understanding

metabolism and stabilizes blood sugar levels. A chicken salad with various

these physiological changes allows us to more effectively customize our

greens, nuts, and seeds for lunch can keep you full and energized. Dinner could

dietary, exercise, and lifestyle strategies, thus reducing their adverse effects.

include grilled fish with steamed vegetables, ensuring each meal is balanced

I have found that revitalizing your metabolism during midlife is possible

and metabolism-boosting.

through a well-rounded, holistic approach encompassing nutritional

Targeted Exercise Routines

adjustments, tailored exercise programs, and thoughtful lifestyle changes.

Exercise is a cornerstone of metabolic health, particularly strength training

Dietary Modifications

and high-intensity interval training (HIIT), which are crucial for countering

Nutrition is a cornerstone of metabolic management. A balanced diet, rich

muscle loss associated with aging. It helps build muscle mass, vital as muscle

in nutrients, supports metabolic functions and can counteract some of the

burns more calories than fat, even at rest. Muscles are metabolically active

age-related metabolic decline. Nutrition is critical in how effectively our

tissue, so the more muscle you have, the higher your resting metabolic rate will

bodies can maintain and even enhance metabolic rates. Opting for a diet

be. Incorporating regular strength training sessions into your routine doesn't

rich in nutrients and balanced in macronutrients helps sustain energy levels

just rev up your metabolism; it also strengthens your bones, which is incredibly

and supports metabolic processes. Adjusting what you eat is foundational in

important as we age. Integrating strength training two to three times, focusing

enhancing your metabolism. A diet rich in whole foods like vegetables, fruits,

on major muscle groups through exercises like squats, deadlifts, and bench

lean proteins, and healthy fats can significantly impact your metabolic rate

presses, transformed my body and mental health. The empowerment that

and energy levels.

comes from feeling stronger and more capable is profoundly uplifting.

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Whether lifting weights, using resistance bands, or practicing

hours of sleep per night has helped me maintain a better

yoga poses that build strength, each exercise contributes to a

metabolic rate. Implementing a consistent bedtime routine

healthier metabolism. I also incorporated kettlebell workouts

that includes winding down without electronic devices and

into my routine, which are excellent for building muscle and

possibly incorporating a meditation or relaxation practice

improving cardiovascular health. The dynamic movements

can significantly improve sleep quality.

help to burn more calories and increase muscle mass.

Staying hydrated is essential for optimal metabolic function.

Cardiovascular exercises, such as brisk walking or cycling,

I recommend starting the day with a glass of warm lemon

support heart health and improve oxygen consumption,

water to stimulate digestion and continue drinking water

enhancing metabolic efficiency. Adding high-intensity

throughout the day to keep the metabolism humming. I keep

interval training (HIIT) can elevate your metabolic rate

a water bottle at hand throughout the day, especially when

even after the workout. Even 20 minutes of HIIT three times

teaching fitness classes or working with clients through

a week can make a significant difference.

my wellness app. To combat dehydration, flavor water with

Lifestyle Adjustments

slices of cucumber or strawberry to make it more appealing.

Lifestyle adjustments play a crucial role in maintaining a

Proper hydration not only aids metabolism but also supports

healthy metabolism. Chronic stress and sleep deprivation can

overall health and skin vitality. Adopt a hydration strategy

wreak havoc on your metabolism, leading to weight gain and

that includes drinking water before each meal. This not only

decreased energy. Ensuring adequate sleep, managing stress,

aids in hydration but also helps in moderating food intake.

and staying hydrated are all factors that significantly impact

Revamping

metabolic rate. As someone who balances professional life

a

with being a wife and mother of three, I understand how

Understanding the changes your body is going through

challenging this can be. However, prioritizing these areas

and implementing dietary, exercise, and lifestyle strategies

has helped stabilize my weight and improved my overall

can enhance your metabolism and improve your health.

well-being.

Remember, each small step you take moves towards a

I've made it a priority to manage stress through daily

healthier, more vibrant you.

meditation and regular yoga practice. These practices help

If you want more personalized guidance and a supportive

calm the mind and aid physical health by improving hormonal

community, I invite you to join the A.B.S. Wellness App.

balance and metabolic rate. Stress can be managed through

Together, we can create a plan that fits your unique needs

regular mindfulness practices, which help regulate cortisol

and helps you thrive during this transitional period. Let's

levels and reduce stress-related metabolic impacts. Deep

embark on this journey together, embracing the changes

breathing exercises can significantly reduce stress levels,

and celebrating every success.

your

multifaceted

metabolism

approach,

but

in

midlife

it's

still

positively affecting metabolic health. A simple five-minute breathing exercise before meals can improve digestion and

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WHAT NO ONE TELLS YOU ABOUT CANCER…

BY C AT H Y MC K I N N O N

August 29, 2008 time stood still as I sat staring at the words “posi-

more”. For months, I looked at the care team and repeated the

tive for malignancy” on the biopsy report. It was during one of

same thing; over and over again until I finally received my final

the lowest points of my life, three years into my infertility jour-

scan which resulted in an all clear.

ney, struggling to find answers; I received something I never saw

The all clear felt like a giant exhale however I was not going to

coming: a cancer diagnosis.

take this second chance at life lightly. When I became pregnant

Positive for Papillary cancer, those words, literally brought me to

with my miracle child I was determined; I owed it to him to give

my knees in the hallway of the doctor’s office holding the biopsy

him the best life I could and that meant overhauling everything

report in my hands.

from our lifestyle to our environment.

A cancer diagnosis felt like the last straw, a battle I didn’t feel

What the doctors never told me was that this battle would bring

prepared for. I honestly didn’t know how much more fight I had

something completely unexpected, something I never imagined.

in me. I spent hours questioning how much more I could endure;

The beauty and the life on the other side of that cancer diagnosis

physically and mentally. It felt like my body was giving out from

evolved into something I never could have fathomed.

the repeated surgeries and procedures.

The diagnosis taught me one very important lesson and that was

The layers of trauma and limited time for healing was taking a toll.

how key being intentional and taking time to allow for healing

I was going through the motions on autopilot; survival mode

was key to overall health.

became my way of life. It was no way to live yet it is a reality for

I stepped back and reset every area of my life given I was blessed

so many that journey down this path. I robotically went through

to have a second chance.

what seemed like daily appointments and tests.

I prioritized my health and peace establishing and enforcing

My thyroidectomy was scheduled for three weeks after my diag-

boundaries, spending valuable moments being present with my

nosis date, radiation treatments followed shortly thereafter.

miracle child.

It felt like every appointment brought more bad news. The doctors

I overhauled our lifestyle, our environment, and our experiences-

informed me that the radiation treatments would reduce my

setting us up to be on a trajectory to experience life at a completely

chance of having a child. After everything I had been through to

different level. The people, the experiences, the relationships-

this point being told the odds were stacked against me; was not

never did I imagine being at this place and as such I extend my

what I wanted to hear.

hand back to help others on their journey.

My message to the doctors at every appointment was clear, “I’m

After years of healing and hope I began sharing my story for aware-

not done yet”. “I’m not done living; I know I was put here for

ness; becoming one of many voices for the millions impacted by

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a cancer diagnosis and the many aspects that are often

The incredibly therapeutic process of sharing my journey

unspoken.

with the artist through weeks of one-on-one conversation

The many conversations, articles, and interviews shar-

sharing not only my journey but the thoughts and feelings

ing my journey began to highlight the awareness of what

that swirled through my mind transpired into a painting

I describe as the wake of the trauma.

that spoke volumes of my journey without any words.

The family, the coworkers, the neighbors, the friends all

In May 2023; I traveled to Detroit to view the artist’s rendi-

impacted in various ways that are often overlooked as

tion of my journey on display at Wayne State University.

they are not the one with the diagnosis.

The painting titled “Warrior” was not just a depiction of

The unexpected came from using my voice.

a battle fought but also protecting and watching over the

The joy, the peace, the opportunities, and the laughter on

one that I fought so hard to bring into this world.

the other side, were something I couldn’t have predicted.

For those on their journey or impacted by a loved one’s

Through my healing journey and my newly expanded

journey; know that there is healing and hope and there are

network; I found a wonderful organization that facil-

resources and programs out there to facilitate your journey.

itates hope and healing for those impacted by cancer,

I see you, I hear you, you are not alone.

Twist Out Cancer!

There truly is hope and healing on the other side of a

I was honored to be selected to participate in their Spring

diagnosis.

2023 program and was paired with an artist to create a

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Wh a t n o o n e t e l l s y o u a b o u t c a n c e r …

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S ec r e ts o f S e l f-C a r e fo r C a r eg i v e rs: A Psyc h i at r i st 's T i ps

SECRETS OF SELF-CARE FOR CAREGIVERS:

A PSYCHIATRIST'S TIPS B Y D R . C A R LY S N Y D E R

What if we viewed health differently, focusing on tracking our

Nourishment goes beyond just food; it includes caring for your-

moods and achieving balance through three simple concepts?

self emotionally and physically. Make meals enjoyable by setting

• Nourish yourself

a visually appealing table, presenting food attractively, and

• Soothe your mind

allowing time for mindful eating. Sharing meals with others and

• Awaken to your best potential

engaging in conversation can enhance the dining experience.

As a psychiatrist and caregiver, I've found these principles

When time is limited, avoid fast food and choose a healthy,

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The Problem: Caregiving is Overwhelming and Stressful

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one is. Therefore, I make it a point to focus on my diet, exer-

on your face can calm the body, slow heart rate, and normal-

cise, social interactions, and time outdoors.

ize blood pressure.

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Low glucose levels can also trigger anxiety. High-sugar, low-nutri-

picnicking in nature enhance alertness and mood. Spending time

ent foods cause blood sugar spikes and crashes, leading to anxiety.

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EMBRACE HOPE AND HAPPINESS NOW: YOUR JOURNEY THROUGH LIFE'S CHALLENGES

BY N AT H A L I E B OT RO S

Happiness and hope are universal pursuits, and we all

Mindfulness is also a powerful tool that you can incorpo-

seek them in our unique ways. Whether you're facing

rate into your daily routine. Meditation and mindfulness

personal struggles or supporting a loved one through

are integral to many Asian traditions. Practices like Vipas-

difficult times, it's essential to find strategies that uplift

sana meditation in Buddhism focus on understanding and

your spirit. This special issue is dedicated to bringing hope

controlling your mind to achieve inner peace and help you

to all survivors and supporters alike. I want to take the

manage stress and stay present. By dedicating even just

opportunity to give you some practical tips to infuse your

a few minutes each day to these practices, you can create

life with happiness and hope.

a space of calm and clarity in your mind and also create

Start with gratitude. This practice, inspired by the Japa-

a foundation of inner peace and strength. These prac-

nese concept of Kansha, shifts your focus from what you

tices don’t require much time but can have a profound

lack to what you have. Every morning, take a moment to

impact on your mental and emotional well-being, help-

reflect on three things you're grateful for. They don't have

ing you navigate life’s challenges with greater compo-

to be grand gestures; it could be the warmth of the sun

sure and hope.

on your face, the smile of your kid, or the comfort of your

Acts of kindness not only benefit others but also boost

favorite chair. Over time, it can transform your mindset,

your own happiness. Helping someone else, whether

and you'll find that your days are filled with more positiv-

through volunteering or a simple gesture of kind-

ity and hope and can help you navigate through life chal-

ness, releases endorphins that make you feel good. It's

lenges.

a win-win situation. Make it a habit to perform random

Community is another powerful source of hope. We can

acts of kindness, and you'll see how it lifts your spirits and

learn a lot from the African philosophy of Ubuntu, which

creates a ripple effect of positivity. Volunteering oppor-

means "I am because we are." Similarly, in the Middle

tunities are abundant in the U.S., from local food banks to

East, community bonds and extended family networks

national organizations. Find a cause that resonates with

play a crucial role in providing support and a sense of

you and make giving back a part of your routine.

belonging. During tough times, reach out to friends and

Sharing your story is a great way to find hope and inspire

family, join support groups, or participate in community

others. Whether you write, speak, or create art, expressing

activities. Sharing your journey with others fosters mutual

your journey can be incredibly therapeutic. It helps you

support and connection. Remember, you are not alone.

process your experiences and connect with others who

There are countless people who are willing to share their

might be going through similar struggles. Don't be afraid

strength and hope with you.

to share your story. Remember, your story is unique and

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valuable. It doesn't have to be dramatic or extraordinary to make an

ity to overcome them. It’s about sending positive energy to the universe,

impact. The honesty and authenticity of your experience are what make

knowing that there is always hope, even in the darkest times. When you

it powerful. By sharing your story, you contribute to a collective narra-

face challenges, like illnesses or personal setbacks, a positive mind-

tive of hope and resilience, inspiring others to find their own strength

set can help you navigate through them with resilience and strength.

and courage. So, embrace your journey and share it with the world.

Start by focusing on what you can control and taking proactive steps

When life throws challenges your way, breaking down your larger ambi-

to improve your situation. Ultimately, maintaining optimism is about

tions into manageable and achievable steps, and celebrating your wins

believing in the possibility of a better future. It’s about trusting that,

can play a crucial role in maintaining a sense of progress and hope and

no matter how difficult the present may seem, there is always a path

fostering a resilient mindset. It helps you stay focused on the present,

forward. By embracing this hopeful mindset, you equip yourself with

appreciate your progress, and build the confidence needed to face larger

the resilience and determination needed to face any challenge.

challenges. This approach, often seen in Scandinavian cultures through

So, hold on to hope, stay optimistic, and keep moving forward. If you

the concept of Lagom - “not too much, not too little, just right”-

need help with grief or face life challenges that you are not equipped

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Finally, don’t forget to be optimistic. Optimism isn't about ignoring

Remember, the journey toward happiness and hope is one we all share,

difficulties; it's about acknowledging them while believing in your abil-

let’s support each other.

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HOW MUCH DO WE LOVE BREATHE? Get ready to find out why you should be stocking up on this amazing oil!

When it comes to essential oils, blending is an art form. In fact, depending on which oils you pair together, you can either strengthen their abilities or negate their properties entirely. Breathe is a perfect example of what happens when you combine suitable essential oils. This unique blend is a combination of bay leaves, peppermint, eucalyptus, melaleuca, lemon, ravintsara, ravensara, and cardamom. Each of these oils helps to support and improve the respiratory system.

Anti-Inflammatory While inflammation is our body's initial response to any unknown invader, prolonged inflammation can have damaging effects. When inflammation occurs in the lungs, it can prevent our body's ability to perform gas exchange, which is how we breathe. This impaired gas exchange is also present in cases where mucus is present. Inflammation in our lungs can lead to long-term or high-risk illnesses such as asthma, bronchitis, and pneumonia. All of which can compromise our overall health and dramatically reduce our quality of life.

Antiviral With the now constant threat of COVID and other airborne illnesses becoming the new normal, any and all preventative measures are advisable. For those of us who cannot avoid getting sick, we must have as many restorative options as possible.

One of the advantages of this oil blend is its natural antiviral and anti-inflammatory properties. This means it has the ability to work on two fronts, reducing inflammation, which creates pain and irritation while creates pain and irritation while also eliminating the infection as it works.

Distressing There is nothing more stressful than not being able to breathe. Oddly enough, when we are under stress, our respiration increases in speed but decreases the depth of respiration. This action decreases the oxygen we take in, forcing our bodies into a panic and perpetuating the cycle. This blend of oils helps to open up your airways and let in more oxygen while simultaneously providing a soothing and cooling effect on your lungs. No matter how you look at it, the ability to take stock.adobe.com | fizkes

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Breathe Sinus Clearing Shower Gel

1/4 cup shea butter

Optional: Peppermint essential oil

1/2 cup unscented liquid castile soap

1/4 cup coconut oil

Optional: Eucalyptus essential oil

1/4 cup fractionated coconut oil

Optional: Peppermint essential oil

15 drops Breathe essential oil blend

15 drops Breathe essential oil blend

Optional: Eucalyptus essential oil

Directions:

Directions:

In a small bowl, combine the shea butter and coconut oil. Mix gently to create a

In a mixing bowl, combine the unscented liquid castile soap and fractionated coco-

smooth mixture. Add 15 drops of Breathe essential oil blend to the shea butter

nut oil. Mix gently to combine. Add 15 drops of Breathe essential oil blend to the

and coconut oil mixture. Breathe blend contains oils that can support respira-

soap and coconut oil mixture. Breathe blend contains oils that can support respira-

tory health and clear the airways. For an added cooling effect and enhanced

tory health and clear the airways. For an added cooling effect and enhanced respi-

respiratory support, you can add a few drops of peppermint and eucalyptus

ratory support, you can add a few drops of peppermint and eucalyptus essential

essential oils. Use around 5 drops of each, if desired.

oils. Use around 5 drops of each, if desired. Stir the mixture thoroughly to ensure

Stir the mixture thoroughly to ensure the essential oils are evenly distrib-

the essential oils are evenly distributed.

uted. Carefully transfer the respiratory relief chest cream mixture into a clean,

Carefully pour the sinus clearing shower gel mixture into a clean, empty squeeze

airtight container. Small glass containers work well for this purpose. Apply a

or pump bottle. During your shower, squeeze a small amount of the Breathe Sinus

small amount of the Breathe Respiratory Relief Chest Cream onto your chest

Clearing Shower Gel onto a loofah or sponge. Gently lather the gel and apply it to

and upper back area. Gently massage it into your skin using circular motions.

your skin, particularly on your chest and upper back area. As you use the shower

Note: Store the chest cream in a cool, dark place. As this recipe contains natu-

gel, take deep breaths to inhale the aroma of the Breathe essential oil blend, allow-

ral ingredients, it's advisable to use the cream within a few months to ensure

ing its respiratory-supportive properties to enhance your shower experience.

freshness.

Note: Store the shower gel in a cool, dark place. As this recipe contains natural ingredients, it's advisable to use the gel within a few weeks to ensure freshness.

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NUTRITION AND CANCER

BY S I R J A M ES G R AY RO B I N S O N , ES Q

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Nutrition is incredibly important for everyone who

Legumes

seeds, peas, avocado, oranges and brussels sprouts.

wants to live a healthy and long life. Nutrition is

Lentils are filled with phyto-chemicals, vitamins,

Insoluble fiber helps food pass more quickly

one of the pillars of longevity, along with exercise,

folate, minerals and dietary fiber. Research has

through the stomach and intestines. Foods high

sleep and mindset. It is also even more important

shown that lentils protect against cancer, diabe-

in Insoluble fiber include apples, whole grains and

for people dealing with cancer and cancer treat-

tes and metabolic syndrome (obesity, high blood

wheat bran. These should come from whole food

ment. Many of the current treatments for cancer

pressure, insulin resistance, elevated triglycerides

sources. Foods with at least 2.5 grams of fiber per

directly affects appetite, absorption and immunity.

and lowered HDL cholesterol). Lentils have been

serving are considered good sources of fiber. And

Furthermore, food choices can have a direct effect

shown to help repair damaged DNA which is one

foods with at least 5 grams or more per serving of

on avoiding cancer, but this article will focus on

of the main causes of cancer.

fiber are considered excellent sources of fiber.

nutrition during cancer treatment.

Fruits (especially berries)

Vitamin D

Cancer can cause malnutrition as well as weight

Berries are high in anthocyanins, which are plant

Vitamin D is a proto-hormone that blocks cancer

gain because cancer, as well as the treatment, can

pigments with antioxidant properties that may be

growth. Many studies on humans have shown vita-

change the way the body uses proteins, carbo-

associated with a reduced risk of cancer. Fruits are

min D is instrumental in reducing the risk of colon

hydrates, glucose and fat depending on where

high in fiber, vitamins and minerals, all crucial

and breast cancer and improving the survival rates

the cancer is located. If it causes malnutrition,

for health. Apples are high in polysaccharides and

of lung cancer. The best way to get it is through

it compromises the body’s ability to fight infec-

quercetin. Both may help fighting cancer. Bananas

sunlight or supplements. It can be consumed

tion and cancer. It is critical that the body receive

are a good source of vitamin B6, manganese, and

through fatty fish (salmon, mackerel, sardines and

adequate nutrition to keep it as strong and healthy

vitamin C. Blueberries have plenty of fiber, anti-

cod live oil). Fatty fish has its own set of problems

as possible.

oxidants, vitamin C, and manganese into and have

and you should do your research before consum-

There are a lot of opinions about what foods to eat

been well studied for their cancer-fighting effects.

ing high levels of fatty fish.

to avoid cancer or heal cancer, as well as a lot of

Grapefruit contains vitamin C, provitamin A, and

Spices

quackery. Anyone facing a cancer diagnosis needs

potassium and lycopene. Lycopene is a carotenoid

Turmeric is a spice well known for its health-pro-

to consult with a nutritional or medical profes-

with potent anticancer properties. Some research

moting properties. Curcumin, its active ingredient,

sional to determine what is best for them. There

suggests that it may reduce certain negative side

is a chemical that has anti-inflammatory, antioxi-

are some foods which have been shown to support

effects of cancer treatments, such as chemother-

dant, and even anticancer effects.

your immune system and heal cancer. Because both

apy and radiation. Mulberries are high in vita-

Cayenne pepper contains capsaicin, a powerful

cancer and its cures place a terrible strain on the

min C and iron, which can help reduce the risk

antioxidant that helps with weight loss and is an

body, simply eating the same foods that got you

of anemia. They also contain lignins, which may

anti-inflammatory food. Cayenne also contains

here will not be adequate.

increase immune function and possess antican-

beta-carotene. It is known to be toxic to cancer

The micronutrients which need to be consumed

cer properties.

cells and helps prevent growth of cancer cells.

include proteins, fat, carbohydrates, fiber, vita-

A medium orange can meet and exceed your daily

Garlic is part of the cancer-fighting allium group

mins and minerals (especially trace minerals).

needs for vitamin C as well as all while supplying

(onions, shallots, scallions, leeks, chives). Garlic

High protein and high calorie foods may be neces-

other important nutrients like thiamine, folate,

helps boost the immune system to help fight

sary to maintain the energy necessary to cope with

and potassium. Vitamin C plays a key role in immu-

diseases, as well as colds and flu. It also decreases

the challenges cancer and its treatments present.

nity and can help strengthen your immune system

the growth of cancer cells. Oregano slows cancer

These foods include:

during and after cancer treatment. Research

growth and promotes apoptosis (cell death). It

Cruciferous vegetables

suggests that vitamin C may reduce the growth

carries antibacterial properties and is a natural

Broccoli contains sulforaphane, a compound that

and spread of cancer cells and act as a therapeu-

disinfectant.

has been shown to cause tumor cell death and

tic against certain types of cancer. Strawberries are

Saffron may be the most expensive, but it packs

reduce tumor size in test-tube and animal stud-

rich in antioxidants and may help decrease cancer

a good punch. It contains crocins (water-soluble

ies. Broccoli, Cabbage, Collard greens, Kale, Cauli-

cell growth. Ripe berries are also soft, making them

carotenoids) that may inhibit tumor growth and

flower and Brussels sprouts are all cruciferous

suitable for patients who have difficulty swallow-

progression of cancer.

vegetables. This vegetable family contains power-

ing.

Any nutrition plan needs to be reviewed by your

ful phytochemicals, including carotenoids, indoles

High fiber foods

physical health professional. It is important to be

and glucosinolates and isothiocyanates, which

There are two types of fiber: soluble and insoluble.

aware that whatever you consume after your cancer

have been studied and shown to slow the growth

Both are a part of a healthy diet that can help lower

diagnosis will influence your chances of recovery.

of many cancers. They also are loaded with mira-

your cancer risk.

Connect with Sir James Gray Robinson:

cle compounds diindolylmethane, sulforaphane

Soluble fiber attracts water and turns to gel during

www.jamesgrayrobinson.com

and the element selenium, all helpful in prevent-

digestion, slowing the digestive process. Foods

ing and healing cancer.

high in soluble fiber include oats, barley, nuts and

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THE MENTAL COMPONENT OF WELLNESS

BY ELIZABETH MARSHALL Most of us approach the health and wellness space for the first

with as well, I would encourage you to reach out to a trauma

time with a general understanding of what we need to do to get

informed therapist and learn about EMDR therapy, which can

healthy- we need to clean up our diet, start working out more,

help you reprocess triggers and subsequently leads to a dramatic

and figure out a way to stay consistent with this new lifestyle for

increase in your ability to emotionally regulate. It’s absolutely life

a long period of time.

changing and I cannot recommend it enough.

However, your physical body is not the only component of full

Healthy Relationships: Cultivating positive, supportive relationships

spectrum wellness. Mental and emotional health are crucial parts

can significantly impact mental and emotional health. This involves

of getting and staying healthy as well, and many people neglect

communication skills, empathy, and setting boundaries. We live

these areas until they’re wildly stressed, burned out, or plateauing

in one of the loneliest generations in human history, and I believe

and no longer seeing results.

that this lack of connection is one of the main drivers of problems

Achieving full spectrum wellness involves addressing your mental

in our world today. Relationships are important. You cannot do

and emotional health in addition to your physical body. You will

life alone. Take time to foster, nurture and maintain vulnerable,

never look, feel or perform at your best without making sure that

emotionally intimate relationships in your adult life. Your emotional

these areas are addressed just as carefully as the components of

health is garbage without quality, consistent human connection.

your physical training are, and neglecting to address them at all will

Self-Esteem and Self-Compassion: Building a positive self-

almost certainly lead to a collapse or a crisis at some point in your

image and practicing self-compassion are vital for mental well-

journey. Your brain and body are not machines! You’re a human

being. This includes challenging self-criticism and nurturing

being with needs and limits, and taking this into account from

self-acceptance. Many people have an inner voice that tends to

the beginning of your fitness journey will make all the difference

be a harsh critic when we fail, make a mistake or do something

in the world with how successful you ultimately turn out to be.

less than perfectly. A great starting point for self compassion is

So, what are the emotional and mental health

to remember that your thoughts are like clouds passing in the

components that need to be considered?

wind. They aren’t who you are- they’re just thoughts. You can

Stress Management: Learning to manage stress effectively is

let the negative ones sail away while you nurture and cultivate

crucial. Chronic stress can impact physical health negatively due

the kind, positive ones. Always talk to yourself the same way you

to chronically elevated cortisol levels in the body, so learn about

would talk to a friend who was coming to you for advice about

and practice techniques like mindfulness, meditation, and focused

whatever situation you find yourself in. You deserve the same

breathing in order to manage it as effectively as you can. Stress

level of kindness and compassion that you would give to them.

management can be challenging in the modern world with our

Purpose and Meaning: Having a sense of purpose and engaging in

busy schedules and lifestyles, but learning to manage your cortisol

activities that align with personal values contribute to emotional

levels is one of the most important things you can do for your long

fulfillment and overall wellness. Figure out what your values are and

term health and mental well-being.

what’s important to you, and then find hobbies, groups or outlets

Emotional Regulation: Developing skills to recognize, understand,

that allow you to express and engage in the world in a way that

and manage emotions is essential. This includes fostering emotional

supports these values. We need purpose to give our lives meaning

resilience and the ability to cope with life's challenges. One of

and to support our emotional and mental health.

the things that I had to do in my own personal wellness journey

Sleep and Rest: Prioritizing adequate sleep and rest is crucial for

was seek treatment for childhood trauma that I endured and that

cognitive function, mood regulation, and overall health. In fact,

caused cPTSD, which severely damaged by ability to regulate my

along with stress management, this is one of the most crucial

emotions and deal with triggers. If this is something you struggle

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of people in western countries do NOT get enough sleep. Everyone should be aiming for 7-9 hours a night. Period. The difference between the well rested life and the chronically sleep deprived life is incalculable. Start prioritizing sleep.

Nutrition and Exercise: Physical health is closely linked to mental and emotional health. A balanced diet and regular exercise promote well-being by boosting mood and energy levels. You can only get out of your body what you put into it, so make sure you’re keeping it hydrated, well supplemented, and fed with real, nutrient dense food that either swims, flies, walks or grows out of the ground. The importance of what you put (or don’t put) into your body on a long term basis cannot be overstated. You are what you eat- in every sense of the word.

Seeking Support: Knowing when to seek professional help from therapists, counselors, or support groups is important for addressing mental health challenges effectively. As I mentioned before, coming to terms with, seeking help for, and ultimately healing a ton of trauma and PTSD that had been keeping me stuck for years completely changed my life. I got my life BACK after many years of living with trauma symptoms. There’s no shame in admitting that you need help or need to heal something. The greatest, most gentle and most amazing warriors in this world are all covered in scars that healed because they didn’t give up, and that ultimately turned them into wiser, better and more integrated human beings.

Connect with Elizabeth: www.thighsoverthirty.com

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CREATING YOUR REGRET-FREE LEGACY

BY N ATA L I E MCQ U E E N

John sat staring blankly at the empty kitchen. The silence was

immediately felt a sense of regret about being unprepared for an

deafening, a stark contrast to the vibrant laughter and music

unexpected event. This realization was impactful regardless of

that once filled the rooms. Three months ago, he lost his beloved

what caused the trauma. Cancer, accidents, COVID-19, and other

wife, Janet, to breast cancer. The pain of her absence is constant,

life events can take us in undesirable directions. Instead, we can

a gnawing ache in his chest. Overwhelmed by the everyday tasks

choose legacy as a life-choice. Over the last seven years, I've

that had once been Janet’s, he realized he didn’t know her favor-

shared my message and helped people see how minimal effort

ite song, the one she would have wanted played at her funeral. He

can go a long way in leaving their eternal legacy.

wished he had asked her these things, appreciated her routines,

Legacy isn't about material possessions; it's about stories,

and prepared for his loss. Regret settled heavily on his shoulders,

wisdom, and experiences. After my near-death experience, I

a reminder of all the questions left unanswered.

dedicated my life to helping others preserve their legacies. I've

Emily stood in her kitchen, feeling an emptiness in her heart,

empowered individuals to document stories, share messages, and

dreaming of her grandmother’s cookies; the smell infusing the

ensure their voices are heard long after they are gone. This is more

house and the smile on her grandmother’s face as she served

than a professional mission; it's a personal calling inspired by my

warm cookies from a beautiful China plate. Emily felt regret

experience and the realization that legacies are the most precious

and asked herself, “Why didn’t I ask grandma for her recipe?”

gifts we can leave.

The recipes were lost when her grandmother passed away. She

Sadly, like so many others, cancer has deeply affected my family.

thought about how she could have recorded her grandmother

I’ve had four close family members impacted, with three having

baking the cookies, how she could have saved the recipe. The

passed away. These experiences have underscored the importance

regrets of what was not done will live with you forever.

of preserving memories and sharing personal stories. My mother,

When most people think of legacy, they often imagine affluence,

a three-time cancer survivor, has started recording messages

assets, birthdays, special events, and family recipes. However,

about her life. These recordings are more than just words; they

when life happens, it reveals what truly matters and amplifies

are pieces of her legacy that will comfort and inspire us for gener-

the impact we have on others. This is especially touching when

ations to come.

we consider those impacted by cancer. Legacy takes on a new,

Reflecting on Your Journey: To Leave or Not to

profound meaning in these contexts. Could we do more, engage

Leave a Legacy

more, or even prevent regrets about what could have been?

Take a moment to consider what your journey looks like right

My name is Natalie McQueen. I am known as the Legacy Expert.

now. What would it look like if you did or did not leave a legacy?

My journey with legacy began after a near-death experience. I

Reflect on the stories, wisdom, and experiences you can share.

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Imagine the impact your legacy could have on your loved

Practical Steps to Keep Your Legacy Intact

ones. Would they have the answers to their questions,

for Your Family:

the comfort of your memories, and the guidance of your

1. Important Documents: Create a comprehensive docu-

wisdom? We can all create a meaningful legacy. It starts

ment including essential details like household routines

with recognizing the importance of the stories we hold

and favorite recipes.

about our everyday lives.

2. Communicate Openly: Have open conversations with

If people want to leave a bigger impact through inspiring

your family about your final wishes.

others, with their life experiences, wisdom, and stories,

3. Create a Legacy Box: Assemble a box with cherished

they choose to be a part of the most innovative journal

items, letters, and mementos that hold sentimental value.

called ‘My Talking Journal.’ This unique 3-month topic

4. Personal Stories: Record your stories, experiences, and

specific journal allows users to leave their inspirational

wisdom, leaving a priceless gift for future generations.

video messages that will touch many lives through daily

5. Plan Ahead: Pre-arrange important aspects like your

inspirations, as well as encouraging daily journaling.

funeral preferences, legal documents, and financial plans.

Ninety daily messages from Masters and Mavens share

By taking these steps, you can leave behind a legacy of

moments of inspiration and connection. Then, this

love, guidance, and meaningful memories for your family

prompts listeners to think about their lives and then

while removing burdens, leaving them with a sense of

journal. “My Talking Journal” guides and inspires users

comfort and connection. Legacy is not about what we leave

to journal daily, helping them gain the many benefits of

behind; it’s how we live our daily lives. It's about impact-

journaling while being connected to people all over the

ing others with the memories we create. By sharing our

globe. This unique product allows individuals to record

stories, recording our wisdom, and documenting our lives,

messages on subjects like gratitude, resilience, and faith,

we can ensure that our legacy lives on, providing comfort,

creating an inspirational impact.

guidance, and inspiration to those we love.

Connect with Natalie: https://legacy.atomconnects.com

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Vegan

Dairy-Free

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CHOCOLATE CREAM CHEESE BLUEBERRY TARTLETS Se rves 1 2 For the crust:

Directions:

1 cup almond flour

Preheat your oven to 350°F (175°C). Grease a 12-cup mini muffin tin with

1/4 cup coconut oil, melted

coconut oil or line with mini muffin liners. In a mixing bowl, combine the

2 tablespoons maple syrup

almond flour, melted coconut oil, maple syrup, and a pinch of salt. Mix until

Pinch of salt

well combined and the mixture resembles wet sand. Divide the crust mixture

For the chocolate cream cheese filling:

evenly among the 12 muffin cups. Press the mixture firmly into the bottom and

1 cup raw cashews, soaked for 1 hour

up the sides of each cup to form tartlet shells. Bake the crusts in the preheated

1/4 cup coconut cream

oven for 10-12 minutes, or until lightly golden brown. Remove from the oven

2 tablespoons coconut oil, melted

and let cool completely. While the crusts are cooling, prepare the chocolate

2 tablespoons cocoa powder

cream cheese filling. Drain the soaked cashews and add them to a blender

3 tablespoons maple syrup

along with the coconut cream, melted coconut oil, cocoa powder, maple syrup,

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

vanilla extract, and a pinch of salt. Blend until smooth and creamy. Once the

Pinch of salt

crusts are completely cooled, spoon the chocolate cream cheese filling into

For the topping:

each tartlet shell, filling them almost to the top. Place the filled tartlets in the

1 cup fresh blueberries

refrigerator to set for at least 1 hour, or until the filling is firm. Before serving, top each tartlet with fresh blueberries.

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VEGAN PUMPKIN SUSHI Glute n - Fre e , Ve g a n, Ser ves 6 For the sushi rice:

1 teaspoon ground ginger

using a spatula. Allow the rice to cool to room temperature. Preheat the oven

2 cups sushi rice

1/2 teaspoon garlic powder

to 400°F (200°C). Place the diced pumpkin or butternut squash on a baking

2 1/2 cups water

Salt and pepper to taste

sheet lined with parchment paper. Drizzle with olive oil, coconut amino, maple

1/4 cup rice vinegar

For assembling:

syrup, ground ginger, garlic powder, salt, and pepper. Toss to coat the pump-

2 tablespoons sugar

6 nori sheets

kin evenly. Roast in the preheated oven for 20-25 minutes, or until the pump-

1 teaspoon salt

1 avocado, sliced

kin is tender and slightly caramelized. Remove from the oven and let it cool

For the pumpkin filling:

1 cucumber, julienned

slightly. To assemble the sushi rolls, place a nori sheet on a bamboo sushi mat

1 small pumpkin or butternut squash, Pickled ginger, for serving

or a clean kitchen towel. Spread a thin layer of sushi rice evenly over the nori

peeled, diced

Coconut amino, for serving

sheet, leaving a 1-inch border at the top edge. Arrange a few slices of avocado,

1 tablespoon olive oil

Wasabi, for serving

julienned cucumber, and roasted pumpkin along the bottom edge of the nori

1 tablespoon coconut amino

Sesame seeds, for garnish

sheet. Starting from the bottom edge, tightly roll the nori sheet over the fill-

1 tablespoon maple syrup

ing, using the sushi mat or towel to help you. Continue rolling until you reach the top edge. Wet the top edge with a little water to seal the sushi roll. Using

Directions:

a sharp knife, slice the sushi roll into 6-8 pieces. Repeat with the remaining

Cook the sushi rice according to the package instructions. Once cooked, trans-

nori sheets and filling ingredients. Serve the vegan pumpkin sushi with pick-

fer the rice to a large bowl and let it cool slightly. In a small saucepan, combine

led ginger, coconut amino, and wasabi on the side. Sprinkle with sesame seeds

the rice vinegar, sugar, and salt. Heat over low heat until the sugar and salt

for garnish, if desired.

dissolve. Pour the vinegar mixture over the cooked rice and gently fold it in

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BAKED RAVIOLI LASAGNA Ser ves 6 1 (25 oz) package vegan gluten-free 1 cup baby spinach leaves ravioli 2 cups marinara sauce

1/4 cup chopped fresh basil Salt and pepper, to taste

1 cup vegan shredded mozzarella Olive oil, for greasing cheese

Directions: Preheat your oven to 375°F (190°C). Grease a 9x13-inch baking dish with olive oil and set aside. Cook the vegan gluten-free ravioli according to the package instructions. Drain and set aside. In a large mixing bowl, combine the cooked ravioli, marinara sauce, baby spinach leaves, chopped basil, salt, and pepper. Toss until the ravioli are evenly coated with the sauce and the spinach leaves are well distributed. Transfer half of the ravioli mixture to the prepared baking dish, spreading it out evenly.

Sprinkle half of the vegan shredded mozzarella cheese over the ravioli layer. Repeat with the remaining ravioli mixture and vegan shredded mozzarella cheese, creating another layer. Cover the baking dish with aluminum foil and bake in the preheated oven for 20 minutes. Remove the foil and bake for an additional 10-15 minutes, or until the cheese is melted and bubbly. Once baked, remove the baking dish from the oven and let it cool for a few minutes before serving.

GET THINGS MOVING MANGO OVERNIGHT OATS Se rves 4 1 cup gluten-free rolled oats

1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon

1 ripe mango, diced

Pinch of salt

1 cup unsweetened almond milk

Optional toppings: sliced banana,

2 tablespoons chia seeds

shredded coconut, chopped nuts,

2 tablespoons maple syrup

additional diced mango

1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract

Directions: In a mixing bowl or airtight container, combine the rolled oats, diced mango, chia seeds, almond milk, maple syrup, vanilla extract, cinnamon, and a pinch of salt. Stir well to combine. Cover the bowl or container and place it in the refrigerator overnight, or for at least 4 hours, to allow the oats to soak and soften. In the morning, give the overnight oats a good stir. If the consistency is too thick, you can add a splash of almond milk to reach your desired consistency. Divide the mango overnight oats into serving bowls. Top with your favorite toppings such as sliced banana, shredded coconut, chopped nuts, and additional diced mango.

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FULLY LOADED NACHOS Serve s 4 For the ground lentil "beef":

1/2 teaspoon onion powder

Add the chopped onion and garlic, and sauté until softened, about 5 minutes.

1 cup cooked lentils

Salt and pepper to taste

Add the cooked lentils, ground cumin, smoked paprika, chili powder, salt, and

1 tablespoon olive oil

For the sour cream sauce:

pepper to the skillet. Cook for another 5-7 minutes, stirring occasionally, until

1 small onion, finely chopped

1/2 cup raw cashews, soaked over-

the lentils are heated through and well coated with the spices. Remove from

2 cloves garlic, minced

night

heat and set aside. To make the nacho cheese sauce, drain and rinse the soaked

1 teaspoon ground cumin

2 tablespoons lemon juice

cashews. In a blender, combine the soaked cashews, almond milk, nutritional

1 teaspoon smoked paprika

2 tablespoons water

yeast, lemon juice, garlic powder, onion powder, salt, and pepper. Blend until

1/2 teaspoon chili powder

Salt to taste

smooth and creamy. Adjust seasoning to taste if needed. To make the sour

Salt and pepper to taste

For assembling:

cream sauce, drain and rinse the soaked cashews. In a blender, combine the

For the nacho cheese sauce:

1 bag gluten-free tortilla chips

soaked cashews, lemon juice, water, and salt. Blend until smooth and creamy.

1 cup raw cashews, soaked overnight 1 cup refried beans

Adjust seasoning to taste if needed. Preheat the oven to 350°F (175°C).

1 cup unsweetened almond milk

Sliced jalapenos, diced tomatoes,

Arrange the gluten-free tortilla chips in a single layer on a large baking sheet.

1/4 cup nutritional yeast

sliced black olives, chopped green

Spoon the refried beans over the tortilla chips, followed by the ground lentil

1 tablespoon lemon juice

onions, chopped cilantro, for topping

"beef". Drizzle the nacho cheese sauce and sour cream sauce over the nachos.

1 teaspoon garlic powder

Sprinkle sliced jalapenos, diced tomatoes, sliced black olives, chopped green onions, and chopped cilantro over the top. Bake in the preheated oven for

Directions:

10-15 minutes, or until the nachos are heated through and the toppings are

To make the ground lentil "beef", heat olive oil in a skillet over medium heat.

slightly crispy. Remove from the oven and serve immediately.

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CHILI CON CARNE WITH CHICKEN Ser ves 6 1 tablespoon olive oil 1 onion, diced 3 cloves garlic, minced 1 bell pepper, diced 1 pound boneless, skinless chicken breasts, diced 2 teaspoons chili powder 1 teaspoon ground cumin 1 teaspoon paprika 1/2 teaspoon dried oregano Salt and pepper to taste 1 (15-ounce) can black beans, drained, rinsed 1 (15-ounce) can kidney beans, drained, rinsed 1 (15-ounce) can diced tomatoes 1 cup frozen corn kernels 2 cups vegetable broth Chopped fresh cilantro, for garnish Sliced avocado, for serving

Directions: Heat the olive oil in a large pot over medium heat. Add the diced onion and cook until softened, about 5 minutes. Add the minced garlic and diced bell pepper, and cook for an additional 2 minutes.

Add the diced chicken breasts to the pot, and cook until browned on all sides, about 5 minutes. Stir in the chili powder, ground cumin, paprika, dried oregano, salt, and pepper. Cook for 1-2 minutes, until fragrant. Add the black beans, kidney beans, diced tomatoes, frozen corn kernels, and vegetable broth to the pot. Stir to combine. Bring the chili to a simmer, then reduce the heat to low and let it cook for about 20-25 minutes, stirring occasionally, until the flavors have melded together and the chicken is cooked through. Taste and adjust the seasoning, if needed. If the chili is too thick, you can add more vegetable broth to reach your desired consistency. Serve the chili hot, garnished with chopped fresh cilantro and sliced avocado, if desired.

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SPICY CRISPY FISH TACOS Se rves 4 For the spicy crispy fish:

For the cole slaw:

Directions:

1 lb white fish fillets, cut into strips

2 cups shredded cabbage

In a shallow dish, combine the gluten-free cornmeal, smoked paprika, garlic

1/2 cup gluten-free cornmeal

1 carrot, grated

powder, onion powder, cayenne pepper, salt, and pepper. Pat the fish fillets dry

1 teaspoon smoked paprika

2 tablespoons vegan mayonnaise

with paper towels. Dip each fillet into the cornmeal mixture, pressing gently to

1/2 teaspoon garlic powder

1 tablespoon apple cider vinegar

coat both sides evenly. Heat olive oil in a large skillet over medium-high heat.

1/2 teaspoon onion powder

1 teaspoon agave syrup

Once hot, add the coated fish fillets to the skillet. Cook for about 3-4 minutes

1/4 teaspoon cayenne pepper

Salt and pepper to taste

on each side, or until golden brown and crispy. Remove from the skillet and

Salt and pepper to taste

For assembling:

place on a plate lined with paper towels to drain any excess oil. In a large mixing

2 tablespoons olive oil

8 small gluten-free corn tortillas

bowl, combine the shredded cabbage and grated carrot. In a small bowl, whisk

Lime wedges, for serving

together the vegan mayonnaise, apple cider vinegar, agave syrup, salt, and

Fresh cilantro leaves, for garnish

pepper to make the cole slaw dressing. Pour the dressing over the cabbage and carrot mixture, and toss until well combined. Warm the gluten-free corn tortillas in a dry skillet or microwave. To assemble the tacos, place a few pieces of crispy fish on each tortilla. Top with a generous amount of cole slaw. Serve the spicy crispy fish tacos with lime wedges on the side for squeezing over the tacos. Garnish with fresh cilantro leaves if desired.

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BALANCING BLACKBERRY SMOOTHIE Serve s 2 1 ripe banana, frozen 1 cup fresh or frozen blackberries 1 tablespoon chia seeds 1 tablespoon almond butter 1/2 cup unsweetened almond milk 1 teaspoon maca powder 1 teaspoon agave nectar Ice cubes

Directions: Place all the ingredients into a blender. Blend on high speed until smooth and creamy. If the smoothie is too thick, add more almond milk, a little at a time, until you reach your desired consistency. Taste the smoothie and adjust the sweetness if necessary by adding more agave nectar. Pour the smoothie into glasses and serve immediately. Optionally, you can garnish the smoothie with a few fresh blackberries or a sprinkle of chia seeds before serving.

BALANCING COCO PUFF CEREAL Se rve s 6 3 cups gluten-free rolled oats 1 cup unsweetened shredded coconut 1/4 cup raw cacao powder 1/4 cup maple syrup 1/4 cup coconut oil, melted 1 teaspoon vanilla extract 1/4 teaspoon sea salt

Directions: Preheat your oven to 325°F (160°C). Line a baking sheet with parchment paper or a silicone baking mat. In a large mixing bowl, combine the rolled oats and shredded coconut. In a separate bowl, whisk together the raw cacao powder, maple syrup, melted coconut oil, vanilla extract, and sea salt until well combined. Pour the wet ingredients over the dry ingredients and stir until everything is evenly coated. Spread the mixture evenly onto the prepared baking sheet. Bake in the preheated oven for 20-25 minutes, stirring halfway through, until the cereal is crispy and lightly toasted. Remove from the oven and let cool completely on the baking sheet. Once cooled, transfer the cereal to an airtight container for storage.

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RAW COFFEE FUDGE BARS Se rves 1 2 For the base:

For the fudge layer:

the mixture evenly into the bottom of the prepared baking dish to form the

1 cup almonds

1 cup raw cashews, soaked overnight

base layer. Place it in the freezer while you prepare the fudge layer. Drain the

1 cup pitted dates

1/4 cup coconut oil, melted

soaked cashews and rinse them under cold water. Place them in a blender

2 tablespoons cocoa powder

1/4 cup agave syrup

along with the melted coconut oil, agave syrup, cocoa powder, instant coffee

1 tablespoon instant coffee powder

2 tablespoons cocoa powder

powder, vanilla extract, and a pinch of salt. Blend until smooth and creamy,

Pinch of salt

1 tablespoon instant coffee powder

scraping down the sides as needed. Remove the baking dish from the freezer

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

and pour the fudge mixture over the base layer. Use a spatula to spread it out

Pinch of salt

evenly. Return the baking dish to the freezer and chill for at least 2 hours, or until the fudge layer is set. Once set, remove the Raw Coffee Fudge Bars from

Directions:

the freezer and use the parchment paper to lift them out of the dish. Place

Line a 9x9-inch square baking dish with parchment paper, leaving some over-

them on a cutting board and cut into bars or squares. Serve immediately, or

hang on the sides for easy removal later. In a food processor, combine the

store the bars in an airtight container in the refrigerator for up to a week, or

almonds, pitted dates, cocoa powder, instant coffee powder, and a pinch of

in the freezer for longer storage.

salt. Pulse until the mixture comes together and forms a sticky dough. Press

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WARM PUMPKIN QUINOA SALAD Ser ves 6 For the salad: 1 cup quinoa, rinsed 2 cups vegetable broth or water 1 small pumpkin or butternut squash, peeled, seeded, and diced 1 tablespoon olive oil 1 teaspoon ground cumin 1 teaspoon smoked paprika Salt and pepper to taste 4 cups baby spinach leaves 1/4 cup pumpkin seeds, toasted Fresh parsley or cilantro for garnish

For the tangy tahini dressing: 1/4 cup tahini 2 tablespoons lemon juice 2 tablespoons water 1 tablespoon maple syrup 1 clove garlic, minced Salt and pepper to taste

Directions: In a medium saucepan, combine the quinoa and vegetable broth or water. Bring to a boil, then reduce the heat to low, cover, and simmer for about 15 minutes, or until the quinoa is cooked and the liquid is absorbed. Remove from heat and let it sit, covered, for 5 minutes. Fluff the quinoa with a fork. Preheat the oven to 400°F (200°C).

Place the diced pumpkin or butternut squash on a baking sheet lined with parchment paper. Drizzle with olive oil and sprinkle with ground cumin, smoked paprika, salt, and pepper. Toss to coat evenly. Roast in the preheated oven for 20-25 minutes, or until the pumpkin is tender and lightly browned. While the pumpkin is roasting, prepare the tangy tahini dressing. In a small bowl, whisk together the tahini, lemon juice, water, maple syrup, minced garlic, salt, and pepper until smooth and creamy. Adjust the consistency with more water if needed. In a large mixing bowl, combine the cooked quinoa, roasted pumpkin, baby spinach leaves, and toasted pepitas. Drizzle the tangy tahini dressing over the salad and toss gently to coat everything evenly. Transfer the warm pumpkin quinoa salad to a serving platter or individual bowls. Garnish with fresh parsley or cilantro, if desired.

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GREEN MACHINE SALAD Ser ves 6 For the salad: 6 cups arugula 1 large avocado, diced 1 cucumber, thinly sliced 1/4 cup sliced almonds Salt and pepper to taste

For the creamy dressing: 1/2 cup unsweetened vegan yogurt 2 tablespoons fresh lemon juice 1 tablespoon extra-virgin olive oil 1 tablespoon chopped fresh dill 1 clove garlic, minced Salt and pepper to taste

Directions: In a large salad bowl, combine the arugula, diced avocado, and sliced cucumber. Toss gently to combine. In a small bowl, whisk together the vegan yogurt, fresh lemon juice, extra-virgin olive oil, chopped fresh dill, minced garlic, salt, and pepper until smooth and creamy. Pour the creamy dressing over the arugula, avocado, and cucumber mixture. Toss gently to coat the salad evenly with the dressing. Taste and adjust seasoning with additional salt and pepper if needed. If desired, sprinkle sliced almonds over the salad for added crunch and garnish. Serve the arugula avocado cucumber salad immediately as a side dish or as a light and refreshing main course.

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AUTUMN VEGETABLE SOUP Se rve s 6 1 tablespoon olive oil

Directions:

1 onion, diced

In a large pot, heat the olive oil over medium heat. Add the diced onion and

2 cloves garlic, minced

cook until softened, about 5 minutes. Add the minced garlic to the pot and

2 carrots, peeled and diced

cook for an additional minute, until fragrant. Add the diced carrots, celery,

2 celery stalks, diced

sweet potato, and pumpkin to the pot. Cook for 5-7 minutes, stirring occasion-

1 sweet potato, peeled and diced

ally, until the vegetables begin to soften. Pour the vegetable broth into the pot

1 small pumpkin, peeled, seeded, and diced

and bring to a simmer. Cover and cook for 15-20 minutes, or until all the vege-

4 cups vegetable broth

tables are tender. Once the vegetables are cooked, remove the pot from the

1 teaspoon ground cumin

heat. Using an immersion blender or a regular blender, puree the soup until

1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon

smooth. Stir in the ground cumin, ground cinnamon, ground nutmeg, salt, and

1/4 teaspoon ground nutmeg

pepper. Taste and adjust seasoning as needed. Stir in the coconut milk until

Salt and pepper, to taste

well combined. If the soup is too thick, you can add more vegetable broth or

1/2 cup coconut milk (from a can, full-fat)

coconut milk to reach your desired consistency. Return the pot to the heat

Fresh parsley or cilantro, chopped, for garnish

and simmer for an additional 5 minutes to heat through. Serve the autumn vegetable pumpkin soup hot, garnished with chopped fresh parsley or cilantro.

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ALMOND BISCOTTI COOKIES Ser ves 1 2 2 cups almond flour

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

1/4 cup coconut sugar

1/3 cup chopped almonds

1/4 teaspoon baking soda

Optional: 1/4 cup dairy-free chocolate

Pinch of salt

chips

1/4 cup almond milk

Directions: Preheat your oven to 350°F (175°C). Line a baking sheet with parchment paper.

In a large mixing bowl, whisk together the almond flour, coconut sugar, baking soda, and salt until well combined. Add the almond milk and vanilla extract to the dry ingredients and mix until a dough forms. If the dough is too dry, you can add a little more almond milk, 1 tablespoon at a time, until it comes together. Fold in the chopped almonds and dairy-free chocolate chips, if using. Transfer the dough to the prepared baking sheet and shape it into a ball. Bake in the preheated oven for 25-30 minutes, or until the biscotti cookie is firm and lightly golden brown.

Remove the biscotti cookie from the oven and let it cool for about 10 minutes.

Reduce the oven temperature to 325°F (160°C). Place the slices cut side down on the baking sheet. Return the biscotti cookies to the oven and bake for an additional 10-15 minutes, or until the edges are golden brown and the cookies are crispy. Remove from the oven and let the biscotti cookies cool completely on the baking sheet before serving.

ADRENAL COCONUT MOJITO Se rves 6 1 can (13.5 oz) coconut milk Juice of 2 lemons Juice of 2 limes 1/4 cup fresh mint leaves, plus extra for garnish 2 tablespoons agave nectar 2 cups coconut water Ice cubes, for serving Lemon and lime slices, for garnish

Directions: In a blender, combine the coconut milk, lemon juice, lime juice, mint leaves, and agave. Blend until smooth. Pour the mixture into a pitcher or large bowl.

Add the coconut water to the pitcher and stir gently to combine. Place a few ice cubes into each serving glass. Pour the adrenal coconut lemon lime mint mojito into the glasses. Garnish each glass with a slice of lemon, a slice of lime, and a sprig of mint. Serve immediately and enjoy your refreshing adrenal coconut lemon lime mint mojito!

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HORMONE BALANCING CHOCOLATE ICE CREAM Ser ves 6 2 ripe bananas, sliced and frozen 1 ripe avocado, peeled and pitted 1/4 cup unsweetened cocoa powder 2 tablespoons agave syrup 1 teaspoon vanilla extract Pinch of salt Optional toppings: chopped nuts, cacao nibs, sliced strawberries

Directions: Place the frozen banana slices, avocado, cocoa powder, agave syrup, vanilla extract, and a pinch of salt in a food processor or high-speed blender. Blend on high until the mixture is smooth and creamy, scraping down the sides as needed. If the mixture is too thick, you can add a splash coconut milk to help it blend. Once the mixture is smooth and creamy, taste and adjust the sweetness if necessary by adding more agave syrup. Transfer the mixture to a shallow dish or loaf pan and smooth it out with a spatula. If desired, sprinkle your favorite toppings over the top of the ice cream mixture. Cover the dish or pan with plastic wrap or a lid, and place it in the freezer for at least 4 hours, or until the ice cream is firm. Once the ice cream is firm, remove it from the freezer and let it sit at room temperature for a few minutes to soften slightly before serving.

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BREAKING THE MOUSE BARRIER

BY DOUGLAS MULHALL

A mouse isn't a human, but most human therapies are tested in rodents. This

Machine learning algorithms can analyze vast amounts of biological data to

helps to explain why more than 90% of new cancer and other drugs fail. Why

identify promising drug candidates and predict how well and safely they work.

is this happening and what’s being done about it?

This computational approach helps researchers prioritize the most promising

The high failure rate of new drugs is driving astronomical drug costs. Drug

candidates before moving to animal or human studies. The use of AI extends to

companies have to charge outrageous prices for the few drugs that do succeed

clinical trials, where it can improve patient recruitment, data collection, and

in order to make up costs for the many that don’t.

analysis. AI-based technologies can quickly analyze vast databases of chemical

Researchers have known for years why rodent testing doesn’t translate well

compounds, predict toxicity and side effects, and provide real-time insights

to humans.

during trials. This leads to better-designed and safer clinical trials, improved

• Lab rodents are raised in more sterile environments. They’re not normally

patient outcomes, and lower costs.

exposed to the thousands of factors than humans encounter in their daily

Accounting for multiple disease conditions in older patients is another crucial

lives. So when a drug is tested on lab mice, it’s not in a real-life environ-

aspect. Researchers are developing more sophisticated preclinical models and

ment.

clinical trial designs that account for those. AI is being leveraged to analyze

• Rodents are highly resistant to many toxins and human diseases, so

real-world data and electronic health records to identify patterns in patient

researchers often have to artificially provoke a disease through genetic

populations with multiple conditions, helping researchers design more

manipulation or injuring the mouse to create the condition. It’s not real

targeted clinical trials and drugs that are effective across a broader range of

life and it’s not pleasant for the mouse.

patient profiles.

• It’s expensive to raise rodents into old age i.e. a few years, so most exper-

Advanced in vitro models (i.e. experiments outside humans or other animals)

iments are done on animals that are a few weeks or months old. For many

like organoids (mini-organs) and organs-on-chips are being combined with

cancers that develop over years, and for diseases of aging such as cardio-

AI-driven analysis to create more predictive systems for drug testing. These

vascular disease, this doesn’t translate well.

models can be customized to represent specific patient populations or disease

• Older human patients often have multiple medical conditions. Inducing

states, more accurately representing human physiology than rodent models.

multiple conditions in lab animals is too expensive and time-consuming

There has been a rapid increase in clinical trials using nutraceuticals instead of

and usually isn’t done, so doesn’t reflect the real world.

synthetic drugs. This shift reflects a growing interest in natural, food-derived

• Lab rats aren’t given the chance to live holistic lifestyles to prevent these diseases in the first place.

compounds that may have therapeutic benefits with potentially fewer side effects than traditional pharmaceuticals. AI is also being applied to nutraceu-

Due to all of that, many drugs fail after they reach the expensive clinical trial

tical research, helping to identify promising compounds from natural sources

stage, where doctors discover that the drug doesn’t behave in the same way it

and predict their potential health benefits.

did in a mouse. At this point, investors have usually spent hundreds of millions

Companion animals are emerging as valuable models in drug development.

of dollars or more.

Dogs naturally develop many of the same diseases as humans and share simi-

Despite the high failure rate and costs, regulatory agencies insist on using

lar genetic and physiological characteristics. Studying naturally occurring

rodent models. The rationale is that a bad system is better than no system

diseases in companion animals can provide more relevant data than induced

at all. But the costs for many patients and the system have become so great

conditions in lab rats, offering a more human-relevant and humane context

that unaffordable drugs are often just as bad as no drugs at all. Worse yet, less

for drug development. (Hint - the first longevity therapy was recently given

expensive generic drugs that often work just as well, are sometimes shoved

conditional FDA approval for dogs before humans).

aside in the interests of higher revenues from new drugs.

The integration of AI, companion animals, in vitro models, and nutraceuti-

What’s the solution?

cals is creating a more holistic and predictive drug development pipeline. This

The answer is a more holistic approach - no surprise for readers of Best Holis-

multifaceted strategy aims to improve translation of preclinical findings to

tic Life magazine. Artificial intelligence and nutraceuticals are leading the way.

human outcomes.To learn more, just ask any AI chatbot to give you the lead-

AI is revolutionizing the pharmaceutical development industry, and it’s

ing websites on AI in cancer therapy.

accompanied by a growing emphasis on nutraceuticals as alternatives to synthetic drugs.

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IMPROVING CANCER TREATMENT OUTCOMES THROUGH EFFECTIVE SLEEP MANAGEMENT

BY D R. TA W N I E

I m p rov i n g C a n c e r T r e atm e n t O u tcom es t h ro u g h E f f ect i v e S l e e p M a n ag e m e n t

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Adequate sleep plays a crucial role in the recovery and treatment response

continuous low-grade inflammation, which can contribute to a state of immu-

of cancer patients. Research indicates that poor sleep quality is associated

nodeficiency. This chronic inflammation and weakened immune function have

with several adverse outcomes, including increased levels of pain, prolonged

far-reaching detrimental effects on overall health, increasing the risk of vari-

hospital stays, and a heightened risk of complications. These complications

ous diseases and conditions. Therefore, maintaining healthy sleep patterns is

can range from delayed wound healing to increased susceptibility to infec-

essential for preserving a strong and effective immune system, highlighting

tions, ultimately impacting the overall prognosis and quality of life of cancer

the critical role of sleep in overall health.

patients. Therefore, addressing sleep issues is essential for optimizing the

When you feel that you are not getting the sleep you need, there are several

recovery process and improving treatment efficacy in cancer care.

strategies you can employ to improve your sleep. One of the most important

Long-term sleep disruptions may elevate the risk of developing certain types

steps is to prioritize your sleep. Often, lifestyle choices, leisure activities, and

of cancers. However, the relationship between sleep and cancer is intricate

other obligations take precedence over sleep, leading to insufficient rest. It's

and multifaceted. The challenges of obtaining quality sleep often begin during

crucial to set consistent bed and wake times, even on weekends, to ensure you

cancer treatment, where physical discomfort, anxiety, and the side effects

get enough sleep each night. This consistency helps maintain a healthy circa-

of therapies can severely disrupt sleep patterns. Unfortunately, these sleep

dian rhythm, the biological clock that governs various processes in the body,

difficulties do not always resolve after treatment ends. Many cancer survi-

including alertness and sleepiness.

vors continue to struggle with sleep issues long after they have been declared

Allow yourself enough time each night to obtain the full amount of sleep you

cancer-free, facing a lifelong challenge in achieving restful, restorative sleep.

need. Establishing a quiet, steady bedtime routine can also help prepare your

This ongoing sleep disruption can further impact their overall health and qual-

mind and body for sleep. Creating a comfortable bedroom environment is

ity of life, underscoring the critical need for effective sleep management strat-

essential; ensure your bedding and pillows are comfortable, and try to keep

egies throughout the cancer journey.

the room as cool, quiet, and dark as possible. Regular exposure to sunlight

On the other hand, cancer-related fatigue (CRF) is a common issue among

during the day supports a healthy circadian rhythm, helping you stay alert

cancer patients. However, little is known about its relationship with mental

during the day and sleepy at night.

health, pain, and sleep in these patients. The majority of cancer patients expe-

Engaging in regular physical activity can improve your sleep quality and

rience moderate to severe CRF during primary treatments, and this fatigue can

contribute to a normal sleep schedule. Caffeine consumption before bedtime

persist for months or even years after treatment. CRF significantly impacts

can also interfere with your ability to fall and stay asleep. High doses of

the quality of life. A study by Porro et al. demonstrated that quality of life

caffeine can remain in your system for hours, making it harder to achieve rest-

and fatigue are key predictors of return to work in women with breast cancer.

ful sleep. Some individuals may need to avoid caffeine consumption after lunch

Sleep and the immune system share a profound and intricate connection.

to improve their sleep. Additionally, the use of electronic devices at night,

During sleep, the body experiences an increase in the production of vital

such as TVs, smartphones, tablets, and computers, can interfere with mela-

proteins involved in immune function and inflammation, such as cytokines.

tonin levels due to the blue light they emit. Melatonin is a hormone essential

These proteins play a crucial role in immune regulation, assisting with the

for regulating sleep patterns, and disruption of its levels can make it harder

recovery and repair of tissues and the body's ability to combat infections. When

to fall asleep.

sleep is consistent and restorative, it enhances the immune response, support-

By implementing these healthy sleep recommendations, you can improve your

ing a well-balanced and robust immune defense system. This means that good

sleep quality and overall well-being.

sleep not only aids in the efficient functioning of the immune system but also

To conconclude, healthcare professionals should incorporate the evaluation of

improves the body's response to vaccines and reduces the severity of aller-

sleep disorders into standard care practices. Policymakers and program devel-

gic reactions.

opers should explore implementing practical strategies to screen and address

Long-term sleep deprivation can have severe negative impacts on the immune

sleep issues within existing cancer treatment and palliative care frameworks.

system. Chronic lack of sleep diminishes the body's ability to respond to infec-

Moreover, expanding specialized centers with adequate resources should be

tions, making individuals more susceptible to illnesses. Additionally, sleep

considered.

deprivation is linked to a reduced immune response to vaccinations, render-

If you or someone you know is struggling with their sleep, please contact your

ing them less effective. Persistent sleep deprivation is also thought to cause

local Sleep Provider or reach out to soundsleepconsultants.com

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YOUR BODY’S PATTERN HOLDS A KEY TO YOUR SUCCESS

BY DANIELLE MARGGRAF

Over the last 25 years I have worked with thousands of women all over

outside world to do anything that takes you out of your safety zone.

the world - from South Africa to London to New York guiding them

You are not ruled by money and yet you have so many creative ideas

to align to the truth of who they are and build body-led businesses.

that can be used to create wealth and make a positive difference in the

Through the years I have noticed distinctive patterns that show up

world. You are likely a natural healer and an old soul.

with the help of money as their teacher. These women have endured

Pattern 2 The SuperProducer

trauma that they are committed to transforming. They have forged a

You are the epitome of a leader and visionary. You are a CEO, a Fear-

path where they will not tolerate anything less than prosperity, liber-

less Entrepreneur creating a global brand. You are creating an empire

ation, and a sense of deep fulfillment on a soul level.

and nothing will stand in your way. You are outwardly successful and

Here are four of the most common recurring patterns:

inspiring and your passion for your work is contagious. You tend to

Pattern 1 The Mystic You tend to live in the upper chakras.

measure and receive your value from your success and accomplish-

You are a big-picture thinker. You love to commune with the cosmos

ments. Money measures your level of achievement and impact. You

and are more comfortable in the ethers of spirituality and the invisible

are never satisfied and believe that all of your sacrifices now will bring

world. You are idealistic, believe in magic, are a champion for others'

happiness in the future. You are an overthinker and that’s an under-

ideas, and want to see others win. You crave freedom and don’t want

statement. You tend to perseverate and worry. You are not afraid of

anything holding you down and while you appreciate the finer things

hard work and were taught that hard work was the secret to success.

in life you know that you need to make some earthly changes because

The thing is... you’ve done everything you “ should '' do and you still

your habits, behavior, and sense of belonging are threatened in our

feel unfulfilled and you don’t feel FREE. You feel you are bogged down

modern world. You rarely notice what's happening in your body because

by systems and structures that just don’t work for you anymore. You

you aren't in it very often. Detached and disconnected has served you

wonder “Am I good enough?” When will I get there? You tend to have

well and kept you safe. You use money as a way to enjoy life.

a moving money target and you find yourself working A LOT.

You deserve to have what you desire! You want to be free to indulge

Whether you love your work or not you find that you are so focused on

yourself and the people you love so nothing is off limits. Under all

hinting that next goal you are missing out on Everyday moments. You

of the spending may be a subconscious desire to fill up because you

overwork and you do so out of fear of losing your money, power, and

feel empty or lack love or feeling valued. You likely have experienced

identity - who are you if you aren't working like a maniac? You may

a trauma that was so painful you found safety in being ‘out of body’

struggle with feeling confident deep down but eradicate that feeling

and you are comfortable here as long as there is no pressure from the

with overachieving. You do not know what it feels to be truly EMBOD-

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IED and ultimate freedom would be doing your soul work as the source of

Pattern 4 The Director

your self-worth which would create emotional freedom and fulfill your

Your environment is well maintained and often you are directing where

vision while embracing your unique significance, soul-enriching business

everything goes. Actually, you are the director of most things and even when

and life of your dreams.

you are just lending a hand you find yourself taking over. While looking and

Pattern 3 The Empathic Lover

feeling your best is a priority you haven’t experienced EMBODIMENT and

You think and feel deeply. You are a romantic and are highly empathic. You

are uncomfortable to look at aspects of yourself that may not be shed in the

want to change the world and you just don’t get why everyone can't get along.

best light. You are stubborn and some may even say difficult or controlling.

You believe that love makes the world go round and you are hypersensi-

You may over-give out of feeling insecure and your self-worth comes from

tive to people and their needs. You tend to abandon yourself to make others

being a nurturer and being there for others. You create emotional entangle-

comfortable on a very subtle level. It may start as saying yes when you mean

ments and can be codependent which threatens your sense of identity and self.

no. When it comes to money and wealth you are the ultimate philanthro-

The rigidity and contraction in your body is expressed in your lifestyle and

pist. Sensitive, emotional, and wear your heart on your sleeve. You tend to

you find that the idea of lightening up feels unsafe and insecure. You find that

rebel against goals, habits, and structures no matter how powerful because

asking for what you need requires every bit of courage you can muster and

anything practical feels out of alignment. You can fall into victim conscious-

most times it's just easier to suck it up and take care of things yourself. You

ness unknowingly feeling a lack of control, vulnerable and insecure. You find

tend to abandon yourself and many times don’t even realize you're doing it.

it much easier to empower others than yourself and find yourself in a high-

You can become resentful and find your worth is tied to how much and what

low cycle of energy, emotions, and money. You love transformation and one

you can do for people. It would serve you to learn to receive on a deep level and

of your gifts is seeing the possibilities in others and creating ideas that cata-

allow more flow instead of fight and flight in your life, body, and business.

pult others into superstardom - if only you could do more of that for your-

Do you want to learn what you can start doing to create more wealth,

self! Grounding your ideas and transforming them into powerful and prac-

prosperity, and abundance within your money body wiring? Head over to

tical action steps can elevate and liberate you in unimaginable ways. You

daniellemarggraf.com for tips for each pattern!

have the ability, when you apply focus to be able to monetize, manifest, and

Head over to daniellemarggraf.com for tips for each archetype!

magnetically attract while making an impact.

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WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER

BY GRETCHEN HOLMES, PHD

When you are diagnosed with cancer, or any serious disease, everyone who

our pets. The coworkers and bosses who covered our work responsibilities

cares about you is impacted. For sure, you are the one who goes through

and neighbors who organized meals and took care of our lawn so we could

the treatments, the waiting, the uncertainty, the side effects, and manages

focus on treatments and healing. We need to celebrate those who don’t just

the plethora of emotions that goes with a cancer diagnosis. However, those

ask, “What can I do?” but see what needs to be done and just do it. We need

who care about us experience many of the same fears, uncertainties, and

to celebrate those who prayed for us (and still do), and those who quietly

emotions, and even if they don’t say it aloud, you can see it in their faces,

removed barriers that we didn’t even know existed. Finally, we need to

hear it in their voices, and feel it in their touch. A

celebrate those who made us laugh, who let us cry, and who held us when

DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE

we were too weak to stand on our own.

I am a three-time cancer survivor, and one of the hardest parts of having cancer

I have had cancer three times, which means my family and friends have had

was watching it through the eyes of my loved ones, friends, and coworkers. I

more than their fair share of opportunities to walk with me on this journey.

saw their fear and their tears even though they tried to hide them. At times,

Because of this, I learned some things along the way that you may find helpful.

when it became too much, I had to withdraw so I could attend to what I was

• Be mindful of expectations. People don’t always respond the way you think

feeling, thinking, and experiencing. I realized if I didn’t, I would become

they will. Be direct in what you need from them. If they can’t do it, find

too focused on how everyone else felt and I would get overwhelmed. That is

someone who can. Try not to dwell on those who disappoint you but focus

a big burden to carry, especially when you are sick.

on those who are willing to and can support you.

I also found, when you are diagnosed with cancer, people respond in all

• Talk about what is going on. It’s important to hear how cancer affects

sorts of ways. Some will surprise you while others will disappoint you. The

others, too. It’s not an easy conversation to have and everyone has a different

people you were sure would always be by your side and be your rock, become

comfort level, but not talking about it doesn’t make it go away. However, it

uncomfortable and distant. Others that you were sure would run, lean in, and

can’t become all about them, either. You can’t take on their burdens, too,

help in ways you never imagined. It’s hard to predict and that’s ok. Some

so maintain boundaries. A cancer journey can be a powerful opportunity to

people can manage the intense emotions and demands of cancer, and some

grow together and become closer.

cannot. It’s hard to know until the opportunity presents itself. Those of us

• Express your needs. It’s amazing how wrong we can be about what we think

diagnosed with cancer don’t really know how we’re going to respond, either,

others need or want from us when they’re sick. Most of us think people want

until we’re faced with it.

what we want and that can be completely wrong. Do you want twice daily

A cancer diagnosis impacts everyone who cares about you. Survivorship does,

check-ins or is once a week all you can handle? Do you want people around

too. When you successfully navigate cancer and become a survivor, you aren’t

to distract you or do you need solitude? Maybe it’s a little of both. The only

the only one who has changed. Families and friends change, too. They often

way to know is for you to let your team know what you need and understand

grapple with the same questions around mortality, their faith, and how to

that it will change. There is no right or wrong but being explicit helps people

move forward. There can be a lot of uncertainty. Cancer often forces us to

know what to do. Don’t make them guess. Don’t wait for someone to ask you

reprioritize and reimagine our lives; it does the same for our loved ones. For

how best to support you, let them know what you need when you need it.

some families, it brings them closer, for others, it causes distance and pain.

It’s not selfish, it’s healthy.

Either way, everyone’s lives are forever changed.

Having cancer is hard. Loving someone who has cancer is hard, but it can

MOVING FORWARD

also be a powerful opportunity to reflect and grow together and figure out

As we celebrate cancer survivorship, it’s important to pause and celebrate

how to help others who find themselves in the same place.

those who walked with us and beside us. The ones who sat with us at the

Wishing you good health and peace.

hospitals and clinics, and those who stepped up to take care of the kids or

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LOSING MY GRANDMOTHER AND A RELATIONSHIP IN ONE DAY

BY CHELSEA LEIGH TRESCOTT

Please get here were my mom’s first three words on the day that changed me.

me anymore, and I don’t want to be a burden to my girls. It’s time.

She’s not conscious. In other words, your grandmother, as we know her, has

I, on the other hand, always struggled accepting that it was time to say good-

already passed away.

bye. In fact, I had a history of holding on to people rather than holding onto

It was early in the morning and the city was being pounded by rain, yet it felt

myself.

like the brightest stroke of light peeled back my eyelids, blinding me to the

The last conversation I had with my grandmother revealed just as much. Her

naivety of life I had once lived by. There I was a deer in headlights trembling

and my twin sister always spoke on the phone, and that evening when my

in the rain, my grandmother barely holding on.

phone rung she thought she was calling her. So, what came next was an acci-

By the time I reached the curb with my suitcase, my under eyes were already

dental conversation. Though, as Paula would remind me, there are zero coin-

hallowed out with grief. I was scared for my mother, and I was scared for

cidences. For the first time in, what felt like, years, I got to update her on her

myself. One day, I, too, would lose the person who brought me into the world

favorite topic—love, of course. I had just been visiting my boyfriend in Cali-

and that day felt like it was getting closer all the time.

fornia for my birthday and, especially in the midst of her impending death, she

Where are you off to? Paula from the Post Office asked as my Uber was pulling

wanted nothing more than to hear about anything that felt like her number

up. I couldn’t feign a brave face. My grandmother’s dying and I have to get to

one reason for being alive.

her, and my boyfriend is about to breakup with me. I can tell.

Are you serious about him? She asked with a precision that resembled concern.

I’ll never forget standing outside my apartment, in a blurry panic, my pain

At this point in my life, I told her, I can’t imagine dating anyone I’m not seri-

breaking me and how Paula, a relative stranger, was right there, right on time,

ous about. I see. Well, he wouldn’t be right for Grammy, she joked. Don’t you

in my most fragile of hours when I felt like all the love in my world was aban-

want someone who’s going to care about you and care for you more?

doning me.

That had actually come up on our first date. I told him the motto I’ve always

Listen to me, she said. Timing is never random. There are zero coincidences.

lived by is, above all, one must care. Which both puzzled and intrigued him

You will heal from this. But you cannot be with men who make you cry. They

since his belief is, one should strive to care less. Obviously, my grandmother

will make you ugly.

was onto something.

She was right. I had seen myself in the mirror as I was leaving to the airport,

So much so that, I like to imagine, in some perverse way, when my boyfriend

and was terrified by how quickly heartbreak could render me lifeless. But I also

broke up with me as my grandmother was lying in the bedroom next door on

couldn’t help but feel that it was me who was making myself ugly. After all, I

her last day on earth, she overheard the magnitude of my tears and went out

always felt like I had a haunting awareness of what my partners were incapa-

celebrating that this wasn’t the man I’d be spending a lifetime dancing with.

ble of, and therefore capable of. Which is to say, I was the one choosing men

As for me, it took much longer to start celebrating. For weeks, I sat comatose

who had no problem giving up on me in my most human moments.

unable to reconcile how people die naturally and how people die to you inten-

My grandmother, however, was loyal to love. And even though I never saw

tionally. Or, why seeing my grandmother’s lifeless body haunted me as much

this for myself, I always had a vision of her dancing with a man, a giddy devil-

as seeing my boyfriend’s loveless face. It made me acutely aware of time, that

ish smile louder than any music that could ever be playing. When she told me

there will come a day when you can’t get anyone back. But, that as long as I

her cancer had come back and this was it for her, I was the only one to cry in

had me, I needed to care more about holding myself up, dancing with loyal

front of her. Don’t cry, she insisted, as she cried with me like she never had.

partners, and crying with the people you love rather than because of them.

I’m ready. Everyone around me is alive because they’ve got someone. They can balance themselves as they walk because they’ve got someone to lean on. Not

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LESSONS FROM LOSS:

CHERISHING CONNECTION AND FAMILY LEGACY

BY AL WYNANT

Lessons learned from loss—lessons of valuing relationships, appreciating

As I went to bed, thoughts of driving by the graveyard and the

fleeting moments of connection, and honoring the enduring legacy of love that

timing of Dad's passing filled my mind. Was this a coincidence?

continues to shape my life.

Years ago, my family and I had a bit of a divorce. I moved away

It was a drizzly day, that last Wednesday afternoon of March 2022. We had

abruptly, and it took years for our relationship to heal. Over

an appointment for our COVID-19 vaccine—I don’t remember which dose. As

the past twenty-five plus years since I left, I haven't seen my

we drove to the vaccination center, we passed a massive graveyard. A strange

parents in person.

but vivid thought crossed my mind: "Dad would really enjoy a walk here." My

About fifteen years ago, we began connecting via Skype. Our

father has always cherished the solitude of the old graveyards in his hometown

calls increased in frequency until we spoke almost every Sunday

in Belgium. They are lush foggy spaces, with towering oak trees, dotted with

for an hour or more. We reconnected, and that felt incredibly

graves and memorial chapels, hundreds of years old.

fulfilling.

That thought of Dad stuck with me all afternoon. It brought back special memo-

Earlier in the month of Dad’s passing I had made a resolution

ries of our times visiting the graves of family members who had passed on, espe-

to open up to my parents even more. I wanted to create a space

cially on All Saints' Day. These visits were a tradition, filled with reflection and

where they felt comfortable asking me anything they wanted or

a sense of connection to our heritage. The serenity and history of those Belgian

needed to know. Our relationship had evolved to a point where

graveyards always resonated deeply with my father, and seeing this massive

it felt natural and necessary to open up.

graveyard made me nostalgic for those peaceful moments we shared.

On the final Sunday of March 2022, I attempted to connect with

Later that afternoon, the clouds had lifted, the temperatures had risen a bit. We

them, looking forward to starting a conversation and inviting

drove home with the convertible top down, even though it was still only about

them in. Unfortunately, the call went unanswered. The last

40 degrees. Any excuse to drive under the open sky is good enough for us. Walk-

communication I had with my father was a brief email: "Missed

ing through our front door, we were in a pretty good mood.

you for our call, let's chat next week."

After greeting our dog, I sat down at my desk, powered up my computer, and

Later, I found out that Mom and Dad had spent that afternoon

began checking my messages.

on their beloved horse property, one of their favorite places. The

The first one hit me like a ton of bricks: “Dad has passed away.”

time had been magical for them, and they lost track of it, miss-

I had to read the message numerous times to have it sink in. I broke down crying.

ing our call. I'm grateful that their afternoon was so meaning-

Because of the time difference - Mom and Dad live in Europe - I had to wait

ful. Little did we know, it would be their last Sunday together.

until midnight to call home. When Mom picked up the phone she let out a cry

Mom asked for me to not come to the funeral. She found it too

that to this day pains my heart. It was the most heart-wrenching sound I have

hard to briefly see me and then have me leave again. I honored

ever heard.

that wish.

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Now, about two-and-a-half years later I still miss my Sunday

APPRECIATE MOMENTS OF CONNECTIONS

conversations with Mom and Dad. I have gained calls with

The sudden loss of my father reminded me of life's unpre-

Mom a few times a week. I am grateful for that. I am grate-

dictability and the importance of treasuring every opportu-

ful for the stories she has shared, and the love she still holds

nity for connection. Missing that final call highlighted the

for my Dad.

significance of making the most of each moment and ensur-

Despite our strained relationship over time, whenever asked

ing meaningful conversations whenever possible.

whom I admired, my answer was always resolute: "My

REFLECTION OF LEGACY AND LOVE

parents." I've never encountered a couple who exempli-

Reflecting on my parents' enduring love and 57 years

fied such a profound love and respect for each other. I strive

together, despite their challenges, has deeply influenced my

to emulate their example in my own marriage, though fill-

values and aspirations. Their example of love and commit-

ing their shoes proves challenging. Their 57 years together

ment continues to guide me in nurturing my own relation-

weren't without challenges, but the love they shared and the

ships and appreciating the legacy of family bonds.

family they built defined their lives.

I can never go back and fix the past or have the conversa-

I can never go back and fix the past, or have the conversa-

tion I wanted to have with both parents. This experience has

tion I wanted to have with both parents. This experience has

taught me a lot. I don’t take life, family, friends, and health

taught me a lot. I don’t take life, family, friends, and health

for granted anymore. The biggest lessons for me in this jour-

for granted anymore.

ney are clear: cherishing and nurturing relationships with

The biggest lessons for me in this experience

loved ones is paramount, no matter the obstacles we face;

are:

appreciating every moment of connection is vital, as life can

VALUE AND CHERISH RELATIONSHIPS

change in an instant; and reflecting on the legacy of love my

This experience taught me the importance of cherishing and

parents shared inspires me to honor their memory and strive

nurturing relationships with loved ones, even when distance

for meaningful connections in my own life. Their example

or past difficulties create challenges. Despite our strained

continues to guide me, reminding me of the profound impact

history, reconnecting with my parents and maintaining regu-

of family bonds and the importance of living each day with

lar communication became incredibly fulfilling.

love and gratitude.

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EMPOWERING TRANSFORMATION: STEP 10 OF THE NLP-POWERED JOURNEY

BY S COT T G AT ES

Greetings, fellow travelers on the path of personal growth and self-discovery.

ficial for those dealing with PTSD, as it helps reframe traumatic experiences

As we venture deeper into our 12-step program, we arrive at Step 10: "Empow-

and promote healing.

ering Transformation." This stage is a pivotal point in our journey, where we

Step into Your Shoes: Begin by vividly recalling a traumatic experience. Fully

harness the profound capabilities of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) to

immerse yourself in the memory, feeling its emotions and sensations.

foster meaningful and lasting change. We are all human beings. We all expe-

Step into the Shoes of Another: Next, mentally step into the perspective of

rience PTSD in our unique ways. It's not just ex-military and first respond-

someone present during the traumatic event. Try to see the situation through

ers. We all have to grapple with the invisible scars of post-traumatic stress

their eyes, understanding their emotions, motivations, and reactions.

and get ourselves to grow from it. Having been scientifically studied, it is true

Step into the Observer's Shoes: Finally, step into the shoes of an impartial

that what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. In this step, let me share some

observer watching the event unfold. From this detached viewpoint, analyze

powerful tools to support you through your journey to transcend past trau-

the situation without emotional involvement. Notice how different perspec-

mas and embrace a future brimming with possibilities.

tives can alter the interpretation of the event.

In this article, we will explore two unique NLP techniques specifically designed

Integrate Insights: Return to your own perspective, bringing with you the

to facilitate transformation and empower individuals to reclaim their lives

insights gained from the other viewpoints. Reflect on how these new perspec-

from the grips of PTSD. These strategies are built on empathy and understand-

tives can help reframe your understanding of the traumatic experience.

ing. We acknowledge our emotions while offering healing and growth path-

By utilizing the Meta-Mirror Technique, individuals can cultivate empathy

ways to take us past them and into the future selves we want to be.

for themselves and others, transform their relationships with past traumas,

Understanding the Pain Points of PTSD

foster emotional resilience, and grow from this experience. We grow and get

Before diving into the NLP techniques, it's crucial to recognize the profound

stronger.

impact Post Traumatic Stress can have on all of us. Especially the lives of

2. The Circle of Excellence: Anchoring Positive States

ex-military and first responders and their families.

The Circle of Excellence is an NLP technique that empowers individuals to

These brave individuals often face the following:

anchor positive emotional states, providing a powerful resource for navigat-

Intrusive Memories: Whether they come on in a flash or are persistent,

ing challenging situations. This technique is beneficial for those with PTSD,

distressing memories of traumatic events can intrude upon daily life and the

as it helps build a reservoir of inner strength and calm.

special moments the families share.

Create a Physical Anchor: Begin by choosing a physical location where you

Hypervigilance: An ongoing state of heightened alertness, making it chal-

feel safe and comfortable. This spot will become your "Circle of Excellence."

lenging to relax and feel safe.

Recall Positive States: Think of a time when you felt exceptionally strong,

Emotional Isolation: Feeling detached from loved ones and struggling to

confident, and at peace. Fully immerse yourself in the memory, recalling the

connect emotionally due to past traumas.

sights, sounds, and feelings associated with it.

Avoidance Behaviors: They avoid situations or places that trigger traumatic

Step into the Circle: Physically step into your Circle of Excellence, bring-

memories, leading to social withdrawal.

ing the positive memory with you. As you stand in the circle, let the positive

Sleep Disturbances: Difficulty falling or staying asleep due to nightmares or

emotions and sensations wash over you, filling you with strength and calm.

heightened arousal.

Reinforce the Anchor: Repeat the process several times, associating the phys-

Understanding these are vital to offering compassionate

ical location with the positive emotional state. Over time, simply stepping into

and practical support.

the Circle of Excellence will trigger these empowering feelings.

1. The Meta-Mirror Technique: Shifting Perspectives

By anchoring positive states through the Circle of Excellence, individuals can

The Meta-Mirror Technique is an advanced NLP strategy that enables indi-

tap into their inner resources and navigate life's challenges with greater resil-

viduals to gain new perspectives on their experiences, fostering empathy and

ience and confidence.

understanding for themselves and others. This technique is particularly bene-

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Conclusion

paving the way for more profound healing and self-acceptance.

Here in Step 10: "Empowering Transformation" has provided us with power-

Invitation to Step 11

ful NLP techniques to foster meaningful change and growth. Through the

Are you ready to continue your journey of self-discovery and empowerment?

Meta-Mirror Technique and the Circle of Excellence, we can reframe trau-

Next month, join me and the sensational experts and authors here at Best

matic experiences, cultivate empathy, and anchor positive emotional states,

Holistic Life. I will coach you through a journey into the transformative power

empowering ourselves to transcend the limitations of Post Traumatic Stress.

of self-compassion. Together, you will unlock new dimensions of growth and

We're almost there. Please join me next month for

healing on your journey. Join us here, and bring someone along in your world

Step 11: "Cultivating Self-Compassion." In this step, we will explore how

who you want to support and share with.

NLP techniques can help nurture a compassionate relationship with ourselves,

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HOW TO START AN EXERCISE PROGRAM YOU CAN STICK TO

BY BECCA TEBON

H o w To Sta rt A n E x e rc i s e P ro g r a m Yo u C a n St i c k To

Beginning an exercise program is often a daunting task, filled with

5. Track Your Progress Keeping track of your progress can be

good intentions but frequently hampered by poor planning, expecta-

incredibly motivating. Whether it’s through a fitness app, journal, or

tions and fear that you will fail (again). The key to a successful fitness

simple notes on your calendar, documenting your achievements and

journey that truly spans a lifetime of health and wellbeing, lies in

improvements can provide a sense of accomplishment and encour-

creating a sustainable, enjoyable routine that fits seamlessly into your

age you to keep going. Celebrating small victories, like running a mile

lifestyle. Most people go hog wild when they start and burnout within

without stopping or being consistent for 3-5 days, can boost your

3 weeks to 3 months or get busy and feel like a failure and stop dead

motivation and confidence.

in the tracks. Here are some practical tips to help you start an exer-

6. Seek Support and Accountability Having a workout

cise program you can stick to. z

buddy or joining a fitness community can provide the support and

1. Set Realistic Goals Setting achievable goals is the founda-

accountability needed to stay on track. Exercising with others can

tion of any successful exercise program. Unrealistic goals can lead

make the experience more enjoyable and less daunting. Addition-

to frustration and burnout. Instead, focus on small, incremental

ally, speaking your goals outloud provides a sense of timeliness and

improvements. For example, if you’re new to running, aim to jog for

progress with friends or family can provide encouragement and moti-

10 minutes three times a week rather than committing to a marathon

vation. “Working out with the members of 17MinuteWorkouts.com

within a few months. As fitness expert Becca Tebon notes, “Small,

keeps me accountable and makes the experience much more fun,”

consistent steps are more effective in the long run than sporadic,

says ex-marathon runner Janet B. Of New York.

intense efforts.” Remember the childhood story the tortoise and the

7. Be Flexible and Patient Life can be unpredictable, and

hare? The steady tortoise wins the race — every time!

it’s important to be flexible with your exercise routine. If you miss

2. Find Activities You Enjoy One of the main reasons people

a workout, don’t be too hard on yourself. Adjust your schedule and

abandon their exercise programs is because they find the activities

get back on track the next day, even if it’s a 4 minute glute routine,

boring or unenjoyable. It’s crucial to choose exercises that you look

push-ups or jog on your JumpSport Trampoline. Patience is crucial,

forward to. Whether it’s dancing, swimming, hiking, or yoga, the best

as significant changes in fitness and health take time. “It’s a mara-

workout is one that doesn’t feel like a chore. Tebon client Sandra Sauls

thon, not a sprint,” reminds coach Becca. “Being patient and consis-

shares, “I used to struggle with sticking to the gym until I discovered

tent will yield long-term benefits.”

the 17 Minute Workout Method. Now, I can’t wait for my daily work-

Starting an exercise program you can stick to is about making fitness

outs — they transformed my 62 year old body.”

a sustainable and enjoyable part of your life. The 17MinuteWorkouts.

3. Make a Schedule Consistency is key to developing a lasting

com program, utilizing powHERbands, offers an accessible and effec-

exercise habit. Treat your workouts like important appointments that

tive solution for individuals at any fitness level to stay consistent and

can’t be missed. Plan them into your daily or weekly schedule and stick

achieve noticeable results in as little as two weeks. Designed to fit into

to it as you would with any other commitment. Setting a specific time

even the busiest of schedules, these short, functional workouts maxi-

for exercise helps build a routine and helps integrate them into your

mize efficiency by targeting multiple muscle groups simultaneously,

life, making them a natural part of your day.

ensuring a comprehensive fitness routine without the need for exten-

4. Start Slowly and Progress Gradually Jumping into an

sive time commitments.

intense exercise routine can lead to injury and burnout. Start with

The use of powHERbands adds resistance to each exercise, enhancing

low-intensity exercises and gradually increase the intensity as your

muscle engagement and promoting faster strength gains and toning.

fitness improves. This approach not only helps prevent injuries but

The program’s flexibility allows beginners to ease into their fitness

also makes the exercise more enjoyable and manageable. “I love how

journey while offering advanced modifications for seasoned athletes.

Becca simplified my journey and guarded my progress showing me

With guided routines both live and on-demand to fit around your

how to listen to my body and pace myself. The results in 90 were the

schedule, progress tracking, and a supportive community, 17Minute-

best ever,” says Melanie Guy, one of Tebon’s 90 Day Transforma-

Workouts.com empowers users to stay motivated and committed,

tions. “Gradual progress is more sustainable and reduces the risk of

making fitness a sustainable and rewarding part of their daily lives.

setbacks,” emphasizes Tebon.

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EMBRACING GRIEF: H OW L O S S C A N L E A D TO G ROW T H

BY CHRIS WEALS

My personal experience with loss, grief, recovery, and transformation.

Here are a few that have worked for me:

I was 16 and had been licensed for only three months when I rolled my dad’s

1. Ask for help, and keep asking until you get the help that you need.

pickup off a cliff. That was my first conscious experience of loss and grief,

2. Use the RAIN technique. This is something I learned from my therapist and

as my best friend was in the truck with me and did not survive the accident.

can be useful for processing any number of painful emotions.

It was 1994, and I was in a lower-middle-class family. We didn’t have the

a. Recognize the feeling and name it .

understanding, the tools, or the means to get me the help I needed to process

b. Allow it to be there. Accept that it is.

the cocktail of painful emotions I experienced after that heartbreaking event.

c. Investigate why it’s there and what you need to nurture yourself.

I suffered for a couple of decades after that. I didn’t know how to feel the grief,

d. Nurture yourself. Whatever you decide you need, do it.

to allow it, or how to process it, so it grew stronger and transmuted into self-

3. Dedicate time each day to allow yourself to feel the grief. This is very useful

loathing, depression, and anxiety.

if you have responsibilities that cannot be ignored for extended periods.

Fast forward to 2015, and I made a major life change. I moved to the beach,

Schedule 30 minutes to an hour each day, to allow yourself to feel and

leaving behind the area I had called home for over 30 years. I didn’t think

process the pain.

moving to the beach would be a problem, but the change was more challenging than I anticipated, and I slid deeper into depression and anxiety. I strongly

4. Focus on the feelings you are experiencing, and not on your thoughts. This can help prevent negative spiraling.

considered ending my life, because I figured if I couldn’t be happy at the beach,

TRANSFORMING THE PAIN

there was no hope for me.

Just like we can unintentionally spiral in a negative direction, we can intentionally

It turns out there was hope for me and help available. I started seeing a therapist

spiral upward and learn to feel good about ourselves and our lives, regardless

near my new office, and she helped me shift my understanding and perspective,

of how challenging the circumstances.

and implement new tools that forever changed how I process loss and grief.

It requires shifting the stories we tell ourselves, and the meaning we assign

Since then, I’ve been on a wonderful journey of recovery, growth, and

to events in our lives. We must become aware of the unintentional stories

transformation. I’d love to share some of what I’ve learned, because it’s helped

that lead us to spiral downward and choose to replace them with beneficial

me tremendously over the last nine years, and I hope it can do the same for you.

thoughts and beliefs.

UNDERSTANDING GRIEF AND PAIN

To serve as a guide myself and my clients, I developed the I AM method for

To properly process grief, we need to first understand it. We grieve, because

personal transformation:

we love. When we lose something/someone we care about, it hurts.

Intentions – set intentions for what you want to experience and for how you

Pain is a normal and natural part of the human experience. Pain is unavoidable.

want to show up for yourself and others. Affirm those intentions throughout

The only problem with pain is we think it’s bad or wrong, so we try to resist it,

each day.

avoid it, and numb ourselves to it. When we do this, we don’t allow ourselves

Awareness – pay attention to your thoughts, and become aware of the unhelpful

to process and heal. The pain persists and grows stronger, so we resist,

thoughts, so you can release them and switch back to your intentions.

avoid, and numb harder, and now we’re in a downward spiral that can keep

Meditation – to strengthen and grow your awareness and focus muscles,

us suffering for years.

meditate daily.

Pain signals that something needs our attention and care. In the case of grief,

Conclusion Loss and grief are among the most challenging experiences in

the pain is signaling to us that we need to process the loss of what we loved.

life, and they hold the potential for profound personal growth. By allowing

ACCEPTING AND PROCESSING THE PAIN

and processing our emotions, seeking support, and finding new, intentional,

If we understand this about grief, then it becomes easier to accept, and acceptance

ways to move forward, we can transform our pain into a source of strength

begins the healing process. There are many tools, practices, methods, and

and purpose. As you reflect on your own experiences with loss, consider how

people available to help us process difficult emotions.

these moments might serve as catalysts toward a richer, more meaningful life.

Embrace the grief, and let it guide you on your path to growth and transformation.

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IS YOUR MINDSET MESSING WITH YOU?

BY THERESA BYRNE

Is Your Mindset Messing With You?

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The Pitfalls of “I’ll Be Happy When …” Thinking

promotion/success, the perfect weight, or that ever

While having goals and aspirations is important,

Oh boy was this me!!!

elusive soulmate. In my 2013 book, InPower©, I

relying solely on future achievements for your

Most of my life I thought I’d feel better, be happier

call this the “IF/THEN or X then Y Cycle” and

happiness can have several detrimental effects on

and life would be a grand old time if I could only …

it’s a setup for a huge disappointment. We base

your well-being.

what? For me, it’s often about accomplishments.

our ENTIRE goal-getting cycle on the idea NOW

4. Overlooking the Journey: The journey towards

What I get done or what I achieve.

isn’t good enough but by accomplishing the goal

your goals can be just as fulfilling as the destina-

• If only I could get my black belt. Check. Then my

or having what we dream then we’ll FINALLY be

tion. By focusing solely on the end result, you miss

happy.

out on the growth, learning, and experiences along

You make a plan, you take action steps, you get

the way. We become more of who we are meant to

accountable, and you do what it takes and find a

be every time we grow, and each of our paths are

way to get your “happily after” thing.

full of opportunities/experiences to learn.

What happens after we get the goal?

What Can You Do Instead?

Our happiness doesn’t match what we THOUGHT

H - Halt! Stop the spiral the second you notice

weight, then hit the goal again. Check. (And

it was supposed to feel like.

you’re putting your happiness OUT THERE due to

more checks because that happened over and

(We’ve all heard of lottery winners who are back

some external circumstance.

over).

4th, and 5th degree black belts. Check, check.

• If only I could hit the financial goals for my martial arts and fitness studio. Check.

• If only I got married. Check. If only we got divorced. Check.

• If only I hit my goal weight. Check. Gained

where they started within a few years of winning

A - Allow! Notice the feeling and allow it to inform

The real irony is none of those things ever made

millions of dollars? Maybe the money didn’t bring

you.

my life grand(er). Sure the accomplishment was

them what they were expecting either).

P- Presence! Get present, breathe, release into this

cool and I’d feel good for a bit, but overall I wasn’t

The Issues:

moment.

necessarily happier. Not like I expected.

1. Happiness Becomes Conditional: Tying happi-

P- Peace! Ask yourself, “What am I grateful for

What about you?

ness to future events, you overlook the good avail-

right now?” Find whatever peace you can in this

Have you ever caught yourself saying, “I’ll be

able in the present. It means your mindset right

moment, even for a little bit.

happy when I …” Or “things will be easier when …”

now is that what you have is not good enough

Y- Yes! Say yes to the journey toward the goals

• I get that promotion/make that money.

and everything will be better when you get your

knowing that who you are will change, and you

• I lose those extra pounds.

Y (whatever Y is for you). Life is always happen-

can find happiness along the way. Not just later.

• When I find my soulmate.

ing right now, in this moment, and waiting for a

What else?

• When the kids are older.

specific milestone to be happy WHEN means miss-

Create goals that inspire and excite you. Celebrate

• My boss leaves/retires.

ing out on the small, everyday moments that can

the wins, appreciate the lessons, and remember

The Problem:

bring joy.

happiness is a journey, not a destination.

What if this is the basis of most of our goal-set-

2. The Goalposts Keep Moving: Making happi-

Our brains are like target-seeking missiles.

ting? Why? Because we want what we don’t have.

ness a moving target means getting one goal often

Anytime we set out on the path of a goal we will

Basing our ideas of happiness/success/fulfillment

leads to setting another, and another to get fixed.

naturally shift and change.

on the belief of WHEN we get the thing, we’ll feel

You may find yourself constantly chasing the next

Challenges will arise, and recognizing WHO you are

better. I’m here to tell you it’s a HUGE trap.

“when” without ever feeling truly satisfied. The

in the face of them is growth. Think about who you

Yet it’s such a common mindset we don’t see the

“fix” of NEXT!

want to be along the way NOT just at the end of the

pitfalls of it.

3. Pressure and Stress: Placing happiness on

accomplishment.

How?

future outcomes or achievements can create

If I can support you in finding a way around the IF/

You think “I’ll be happy/my life will be complete/

unnecessary stress and pressure. This mindset

THEN cycle, reach out! You've got this!

the stars will align” when you get what you want.

stems from the belief that you need to achieve

Connect with Theresa:

Then you set a goal to achieve those things: the

certain milestones or goals to be happy or fulfilled.

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NAVIGATING DIVORCE OR SEPARATION WITH GRACE: CULT IVAT I NG THE BEST OU TCOME FOR TH E GRE ATE R GO OD

BY AMANDA HART

Going through a divorce or separation is undeniably one of life's most chal-

According to recent statistics:

lenging experiences. Emotions run high, fear and uncertainty loom large, and

Divorce Rates: Nearly 50% of marriages in the United States end in divorce,

the future can feel frighteningly unclear. Yet, amidst the turmoil, there lies

and similar trends are seen globally. This high rate underscores the impor-

an opportunity for profound personal growth and transformation. By aligning

tance of managing separation with grace to mitigate its impact.

ourselves with grace and surrendering to the process, we can not only weather

Emotional Impact: Children from divorced families are 50% more likely to

the storm but emerge stronger and more resilient. This article will explore how

develop mental health issues than those from intact families. This highlights

being in the right alignment can attract the support and resources needed to

the necessity of maintaining a stable and supportive environment during the

thrive, how to let go of fear, and how to navigate this difficult time with self-

separation process.

love, patience, and resilience.

Financial Strain: Nearly 70% of divorced individuals experience a decline in

My Personal Journey of Surrendering to the Process In my past, I approached

their standard of living post-divorce, with women often facing more signif-

leaving relationships with a combative attitude, battling to ‘get it done’

icant financial hardships. Proper alignment and support can help alleviate

quickly. This approach only added pain and prolonged suffering. However,

some of these financial stresses.

with the tools I’ve gained over the years, during a recent separation, I chose to

Workplace Productivity: Divorce can reduce workplace productivity by up to

surrender completely to the process. Despite the bleak outlook others antici-

40%, affecting not just the individuals but also their colleagues and overall

pated, I trusted the universe and remained open to its guidance. The result was

organizational efficiency.

astounding. Resources, opportunities, and support seemed to appear effort-

These statistics illustrate the profound ripple effects of divorce and separa-

lessly, guiding me through the darkest moments. This experience reinforced

tion, emphasising the need for a mindful and aligned approach to navigate

the power of alignment, surrender, and faith.

these transitions effectively.

The Power of Alignment and Surrender

Attracting Support and Resources

Embracing Alignment

The Magnetism of Alignment

Understanding Alignment: When we talk about alignment, we mean living in

Drawing in Help and Support: When we are aligned and grounded, we natu-

harmony with our true selves and values. This alignment allows us to approach

rally attract the help, advice, and resources needed. This could be in the form of

life's challenges from a place of inner strength and clarity.

supportive friends and family, financial assistance, or professional guidance.

Surrendering to the Process: Surrendering doesn't mean giving up; it means

Cultivating an Attitude of Gratitude: Being grateful for small wins and posi-

trusting that the universe has a plan and allowing it to unfold naturally. This

tive moments can amplify positive energy, drawing more good into our lives.

attitude can reduce resistance and open up pathways to unexpected support

Tips and Guidance for Navigating Divorce with Grace

and opportunities.

Self-Love and Self-Care

Letting Go of Fear

Prioritizing Self-Care: Make time for activities that nurture your mind, body,

Recognising the Fight or Flight Response: Divorce or separation triggers a

and soul. Whether it’s yoga, meditation, reading, or simply taking a walk in

natural fight or flight response, making it crucial to recognise and manage

nature, self-care is essential.

this instinct. Techniques such as mindfulness and deep breathing can help

Practicing Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. Acknowledge your feelings

calm the nervous system.

without judgment and give yourself permission to grieve and heal.

Transforming Fear into Faith: Shifting from a fear-based mindset to one of

Maintaining Resilience

faith can be transformative. Faith in ourselves, our journey, and the support

Building Emotional Resilience: Resilience is about bouncing back from adver-

available to us can help navigate through the darkest moments.

sity. This can be strengthened by maintaining a positive outlook, setting real-

Statistics on Relationship Separation and Its Impact

istic goals, and seeking support when needed.

Divorce and separation are widespread issues with significant impacts on indi-

Staying Connected: Don’t isolate yourself. Lean on friends, family, or support

viduals and their loved ones.

groups. Sharing your journey can provide comfort and insights.

N a v i g a t i n g D i v o r c e o r S e p a r a t i o n w i t h G r a c e : C u lt i v a t i n g t h e B e s t O u t c o m e f o r t h e G r e a t e r G o o d

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Patience, Faith, and Timing

ble outcomes for the greater good.

Embracing Patience: Understand that healing takes time. Allow yourself to

My 12-month separation journey started as a complete surprise when the rug

move through the process at your own pace without rushing.

was pulled from underneath my life, but once the initial shock had passed, I

Cultivating Faith: Believe that there is a bigger plan at work, even if it’s not

got stable and aligned with my practices. I then started to see how the Universe

immediately visible. Trust in the timing of your life.

had my back and was orchestrating everything to support me. Finally, when

Understanding Right Timing: Recognize that everything happens at the right

I came through the other side, it was not only the best outcome for me, but

time. This can help reduce frustration and increase acceptance of the process.

also for all concerned which I could never have created by will and hope alone.

Divorce or separation, though painful, can be a catalyst for profound growth

By embracing these practices, you can transform a challenging separation into

and transformation. By aligning ourselves with our true values, surrender-

a journey of personal empowerment and growth for the greater good which

ing to the process, and letting go of fear, we can navigate this challeng-

will have a far more positive impact on communities and generations to come

ing time with grace. Cultivating self-love, resilience, and patience not only

and create life changes that are aligned with your values and true nature.

helps us but also positively impacts those around us. Remember, the universe always supports us when we are in alignment, bringing forth the best possi-

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S a c r e d R e b e l l i o n : 3 l e s s o n s t o s u pp o r t a m o r e a u t h e n t i c l i f e

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SACRED REBELLION: 3 LESSONS TO SUPPORT A MORE AUTHENTIC LIFE

BY PA R I N A Z S H A M S I remember booking a one-way ticket to Hawaii and thinking, “This is it.

Rejecting your true self, as I did for years, leads to an inauthentic life. It

Things are finally coming together.” I had just landed a new job that seemed

prevents personal growth and traps you in the same patterns, generation after

perfect. It came with a pay raise, and I could return to the Hawaiian Islands

generation. This is why daughters, mothers, and grandmothers can struggle

where I had previously lived. On top of all this, I was in a new relationship. It

with the same issues and feel bound by them.

seemed so much better than the last—he was emotionally open and much

“It takes courage to grow up and be who you really are.” — e.e. cummings

more supportive of my goals...at least that’s how it started.

Lesson #2: Trust Yourself More

By the looks of it, the darkness of my past had subsided, and I could finally

Losing your voice means losing contact with your essence, your soul. We often

be happy. Fast forward four months. I was in paradise, everything around me

let this happen to avoid painful rejection from those we care about. Staying

was beautiful, and everything within me was on the verge of breaking down.

ordinary and living predictably according to the rules satisfies a primal need

Working over 60 hours a week, filling the gaps for a co-worker who unexpect-

for community and safety.

edly quit, I quickly realized that the workplace was dysfunctional and lacked

However, a "safe" life prevents you from creating true emotional security

coherent leadership. My stress level was through the roof, making it hard to

through an authentic identity filled with meaningful connections and joy.

sleep, and causing horrible acne and terrible headaches.

Instead of trying to silence the fear of rejection, invite courage to trust your-

The days would bleed into each other, churning greater anxiety and dissat-

self more. This journey is called Sacred Rebellion.

isfaction within me. A dull ache marched on in my heart and mind with every

Contrary to what we’ve been taught, rebellion is not only appropriate at times

day that passed. To make matters worse, the new boyfriend I was so hopeful

but essential for our growth. Women, in particular, have been conditioned to

about cheated on me and then blamed me for it. “You’re too ambitious,” he

believe that being rebellious doesn't fit the archetype of a “good” woman. So,

said coldly through the phone as he broke the news to me. “You chose your

when dissatisfaction arises, we try to erase it rather than navigate through it.

career over me,” he continued, justifying his infidelity.

But what if rebellion were a useful guide to understanding yourself more fully

To say I was angry is an understatement. I was deeply hurt and confused. “How

and creating authentic joy? When you rebel against expectations, they no

did I get here?” I pled to the sky at that moment. “Why me?! I’ve done every-

longer control your decisions. You might find yourself quitting a job or leav-

thing right!” That was it. That, unbeknownst to me at the time, was the source

ing a relationship you’ve always known wasn't right because you’re listening

of my problems—the unfaithful boyfriend and job disappointment. They were

to what is right for you, rather than what looks right to others.

a product of the same underlying issue: I had always followed the rules.

While the freedom to choose for yourself can be scary, it is the path to building

I had always done the right thing: Go to a reputable school. Get good grades.

a truly fulfilling and free life. It’s worth following above all else.

Get an impressive job. Get a master’s degree. Get a better job. Find a man. And

Lesson #3: The Answers Live Within You We often search externally for

never let people see you struggle in the process. Check. Check. Check. Check.

answers to our biggest life questions: Should I marry him? Should I take this

Check. However, at no point did I ever do what was right for me.

job? But all the while, our inner voice speaks loud and clear. There’s a path-

Lesson #1: Your Job Isn’t to Please Your Parents, It’s to Evolve

way to connect with that voice, one where you go inward and rediscover the

The unraveling of my meticulously planned life, filled with high achievements

clarity that’s been lost.

and perfect behavior, was a turning point. Over several years, I came to realize

Here are a few questions to help you start listening to your inner voice:

that in my quest to become “somebody,” I had lost myself.

• What makes me feel alive?

Always striving to meet my parents’ expectations and conform to societal

• If I were completely free, what would I do?

norms, I erased essential parts of myself and silenced my inner voice.

• When was a time that I trusted my inner voice, and it worked out well?

When you lose your inner voice, you lose your ability to create, love, and be

Dive deeper into these lessons and more inside Parinaz’s podcast episode,

courageous.

Sacred Rebellion. Take the first step toward reconnecting with your inner voice and living a life that’s truly yours.

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THE FU T U RE OF BUSI N E SS GROWT H : 3 A I-P OWE RED TOOLS EV E RY E NT R E PR E NEUR NE E DS B Y L .Y. M A R L O W

Seventeen years ago, when I took my first steps into the world of

budgets, solves one of the biggest struggles entrepreneurs face—

entrepreneurship to pursue my lifelong dream of writing books, the

the lack of time and resources.

landscape was entirely different. After facing countless rejections

Here are three ways entrepreneurs can leverage AI to help grow their

from major publishing firms, I decided to take matters into my own

business, reach, and impact:

hands. Undeterred and armed with nothing but the internet and my

1. Content Repurposing and Optimization: AI tools like Vidyo.ai can

own ingenuity, I launched a publishing company to publish my first

repurpose long-form content into multiple formats, maximizing its

book, Color Me Butterfly. This venture eventually led to securing a

reach and engagement across various platforms. By transforming a

three-book deal with one of the top publishing houses in the world.

single webinar into blog posts, social media snippets, and podcast

Building my publishing company prepared me for my next venture,

episodes, entrepreneurs can maintain a consistent online presence

Saving Promise, a national nonprofit organization. Despite moments

with minimal effort.

of doubt about leaving a stable corporate job, I persevered through

2. Predictive Analytics for Marketing: AI-powered analytics can

faith, resourcefulness, and determination. Back then, aside from

predict which content segments are most likely to go viral, allow-

social media, which was just starting to take off, the absence of

ing entrepreneurs to focus their marketing efforts on high-potential

advanced technology made growing my new business a slow and

areas. This targeted approach ensures higher engagement rates and

arduous process.

a better return on investment for marketing campaigns.

Fast forward to today…

3. Automated Customer Interactions: AI-driven chatbots and virtual

The advent of progressive technology, particularly artificial intel-

assistants can handle customer inquiries, provide personalized

ligence (AI), has revolutionized how entrepreneurs can scale their

recommendations, and gather feedback. This not only improves

businesses. Tools like Vidyo.ai exemplify the incredible advance-

customer satisfaction but also frees up time for entrepreneurs to

ments in AI that can drastically reduce the time and effort required

focus on strategic growth initiatives.

to market and grow a business. For example, Vidyo.ai can transform

The benefits of integrating AI into marketing and sales processes

a single piece of long-form content into 100 separate opportunities,

enable entrepreneurs to maximize their reach, engagement, and

from short clips optimized for various platforms to comprehensive

conversions more efficiently than ever before. Tools like Vidyo.ai

chapters for an online course.

not only level the playing field for entrepreneurs but also under-

Imagine taking a one-hour webinar video and repurposing it into

score a future brimming with opportunities for growth and impact.

a multi-part course, social media promos, infographics, podcast

The transformative potential of AI in entrepreneurship is truly excit-

episodes, blog posts, LinkedIn articles, visual quote graphics,

ing. As we stand on the cusp of this new era, the future is here and

animated GIFs, and more—all created from the same source mate-

it’s waiting for audacious entrepreneurs like you to step into your

rial. Vidyo.ai even scores content segments based on predicted viral-

next level of impact.

ity, helping focus promotional efforts on the pieces most likely to

Are you ready to take the leap and explore what AI has in store for

perform well. This scalability in content repurposing, once a priv-

your business?

ilege limited to large corporations with significant marketing

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MONTHLY ENERGY UPDATE

BY LAETITIA ANDRAC Welcome to this space of the magazine. The one you connect with each month. The moon, the sun. Your spiritual being.

This is an invitation for you to set intentions and reflect throughout the month of October at key moments that punctuate the solar and lunar cycles – a form of soul nourishment.

Have courage, dear heart... This is a month for the Sun and the Moon. Grab a cup of tea (or coffee), your journal and an open mind.

Let us get started.

SUN in Libra and Scorpio

September 23rd - October 22nd:

JOURNAL PROMPTS: What is relevant to who you are today? What

is transforming right now, subtle or deeply?

Libra: tconnect with balance. Your own energetic scales. Co-create harmony

It is a time to use your skills of diplomacy in order to hear both sides of a story.

MOON WITH NEW MOON IN LIBRA + FULL MOON IN ARIES

You may feel called to embrace both in your artistry of life, the light and the

Create a ritual to connect with the moon. Let me share more about the moon

shadow. Create contrast. Libra energy ruled by Venus gives you a time to honor

phases and how to honor these.

with those around you. Elegance, diplomacy and fairness.

the need for harmony, peace, love and collaboration.

The shadow of Libra is about indecisiveness and lost to the sense of self.

NEW MOON: SET INTENTION. New Moon + Solar Eclipse at 10° in Libra (Wednesday 2.10 at 1.49 PM CDT, 7.49

JOURNAL PROMPTS: How do I balance my own needs with the

reality of my life? What co-creation am I feeling called to birth in harmony with others?

PM BST and Thursday 3.10 at 4.49 AM AEST).

In the darkness. Connect with the seeds to be planted

Libra Sun + Libra Moon = Air + Air element connection.

Libra is the yang. The doing. It connects to the element of air. It is about

October 23rd – November 21st:

bringing together the balance. To co-create harmony with those around you.

Scorpio: connection to intuition, emotion, taboo and sex. Death and rebirth.

The energy of Libra is inviting you to move towards connection with fairness

Power and renewing

and respect. To collaborate across different cultures and social categories. To

A time to reflect on the principle of death and rebirth. The intention of facing

bring justice. To bring truth and reconciliation to all.

your fears and knowing and stepping into your own power. Death to us means

Plus we have a solar eclipse! This is a perfect time for rebirth and all aligned

clarifying your values and being deeply aligned to your vision.

with a New Moon in Libra.

Scorpio is inviting you to embrace the playfulness and sexual part of yourself.

Scorpio is ruled by Pluto, which is all about taboo The shadow of Scorpio is about being defensive, secretive and vengeful. Take a journal and a pen.

JOURNAL PROMPTS: What is arising, what is my New Moon

intention? How can I bring more beauty into my life, my intentions, my being?

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F I R S T Q U A R T E R M O O N : C O M M I T M E N T.

forward and share your unique voice. What is your unique voice? Share

FQ Moon at 17° in Capricorn (Thursday 10.10 at 1.55 AM CDT, 7.55 AM BST

your message and do it all with playfulness! Leo is connecting to our inner

and Friday 11.10 at 5.55 PM AEDT).

fire and heart! It is time to create with creativity as well whether that be

This is the time to take action. The time to grow. In the first Quarter Moon,

drawing, painting, dancing, cooking - sharing the lightness around our

you take inspired action towards the plans you have created.

passions!

Libra Intention + Capricorn Moon = Air + Earth element connection.

Capricorn is the yin. The being. It connects to the element of Earth. Capricorn has a powerful energy to make sense of what is complex. What might have felt

JOURNAL PROMPTS: How can I connect to my creativity right now?

^^If I were the heroine in a book, what ideals would I stand for?

otherwise hard to understand.

Capricorn is ruled by Saturn, which is putting an emphasis on what is earned

What’s next?

over time such as achievements, recognitions or authority.

Let's drop into meditation in order to access more clarity. Choose your favorite type or if you need, head to Insight Timer and search ‘Laetitia Andrac’ for

JOURNAL PROMPTS: How can I show my authority right now? What

achievements make me the authority in my space?

some guided meditations!

Let's feel the ocean of possibility… and allow life to pleasantly surprise us as Source co-creates our dreams with us

F U L L M O O N : I L L U M I N AT E .

To stay connected always with the moon. Download my free Moon Calendar

Full Moon at 24° in Aries (Thursday 17.10 at 6.26 AM CDT, 12.26 PM BST,

from my article link. Let’s stay connected always. Until next time.

10.26 PM AEDT)..

With love. Laetitia.

Expression of the need to embody passion. Under the Full Moon, all is illuminated. The seeds and intentions planted in the August New Moon are revealed.

Libra Intention + Aries Moon = Air + Fire element connection.

Aries is a yang, cardinal and Fire sign. It is about this need to be free. Having the courage to follow your path. To be revolutionary. To embrace your true self. It is the principle of activity, this force and this drive. The Warrior or Warrioress. To embrace change and take risks.

We are in flow when we step into the change, this leader energy, this warrior energy. Aries is the Ram which is associated with force.

The Full Moon invites you to act with force. Force is positive, it doesn’t have to be negative. So is conscious activism, this is very positive. The Warrior, also positive if we evaluate the risk, consciously. Aries is about caring and daring greatly. With this brings self-awareness, confidence and looking after each other.

JOURNAL PROMPTS: Where do I want to focus my fiery energy?

What is illuminated in this Full Moon with my New Moon intention?

L A S T Q U A R T E R M O O N : R E - E VA L U AT E .

Last Quarter Moon at 1° in Leo (Thursday 24.10 at 3.03 AM CDT, 9.03 AM BST and 7.03 PM AEDT).

The time to surrender.

Libra Intention + Leo Moon = Air + Fire element connection.

Leo is a yang sign, fixed and a fire sign. Yang is about doing and creating.

A place created from a passionate heart space. Leo is about expression, it represents passion.

It is all about fun, taking up space, being on stage and shining from this place. It is about embodying our passion and being seen for it. It is a time to create from abundance.

Leo is about charisma. Reflect on what is blocking you in your life to move

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