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Bwrdd lechyd Prifysgol Betsi Cadwaladr University Health Board

Here to Help With Your Bereavement

On behalf of Betsi Cadwaladr University Health Board, please accept our very deepest sympathy on your bereavement. There are many things that you will need to do over the next few days and this booklet is intended to help you during this difficult time. Staff in both hospital and community services are there to give further information, any advice and assistance you need. The Multi-Faith Chaplaincy Team can advise on contacting leaders of the faith communities and offer help with cultural and spiritual needs. We live today in a multicultural society where the spirituality, faith and culture of our local community reflect more and more that of the wider world. Spirituality, faith and culture are especially important during end of life and bereavement care. The Hospital Chaplaincy service is a useful point of information and guidance during this difficult time. The service is available 24/7 via the hospital switchboard. This booklet contains practical information for relatives following bereavement as well as some guidance about the feelings and reactions of grief that you might have.

If you require a copy of this booklet in Welsh, please contact staff in the hospital or community services

Following the death of a loved one, in one of the following hospitals you will need to contact: Bereavement Services Ysbyty Glan Clwyd Bodwlwyddan LL18 5UJ Tel: 03000 844123 Monday to Friday after 10am - 4pm (excluding bank holidays) Bereavement Services Ysbyty Maelor Wrexham LL13 7TD Tel: 03000 847570 Monday to Friday after 10am - 4pm (excluding bank holidays) Bereavement Services Ysbyty Gwynedd Bangor LL57 2PW Tel: 03000 850865 Monday to Friday after 10am - 4pm (excluding bank holidays) Bereavement Services will advise you what happens next following the death of your loved one.

Contents Page Number Medical Examiner..............................................................................................................1 The Role of Senior Coroner...............................................................................2 Registrar, Births & Deaths.....................................................................................3 Tell Us Once.................................................................................................................................7 Contacting a Funeral Director......................................................................8 Viewing Your Loved One In Hospital................................................8 Tissue & Organ Donation......................................................................................8 Do You Have a Query?..............................................................................................9 Do You Wish To Raise a Concern?..........................................................10 Grief And Bereavement..........................................................................................11 Support Groups.....................................................................................................................16

Medical Examiner All deaths are reviewed by an independent doctor known as a Medical Examiner. The Medical Examiner is not an employee of BUHB – they are totally independent. (The process could take from start to finish anything up to 10 working days.) The Medical Examiner will scrutinise the patient’s medical notes, the information is then passed to a medical examiner’s officer. The medical examiner’s officer will speak to the doctor who last treated the patient. If the cause of death is agreed, the medical examiner’s officer will contact the relative, they will tell them what has been agreed as the cause of death and also ask if there were any concerns about the patient’s treatment or care before they died. Providing there are no concerns the medical examiner’s officer will send the completed medical certificate to the Registrars Office in the District were the death occurred. The Registrar will call the relative to make an appointment to go to the office to register the death. Tel: 02921 500699 Email: northwales.medicalexaminersoffice@wales.nhs.uk

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The Role of Senior Coroner Occasionally it will be necessary for the doctor to inform the Senior Coroner about the patient’s death. It is the Coroner who will decide one of the following: 1 - Agrees with the cause of death and will issue Part A to the registrar. 2 - Will order a post mortem to establish a cause of death. 3 - Will open and adjourn inquest without post mortem. If - 1 The Registrar will ring the relative with an appointment. If - 2 or 3 a Coroner’s Officer will contact the relative. Senior Coroner - North East / Central Wales County Building, Wynnstay Road, Ruthin, Denbighshire LL15 1YN Tel: 01824 708047 Email: coroner@denbighshire.gov.uk Senior Coroner - North West Wales Shirehall Street, Caernarfon, Gwynedd LL55 1SH Tel: 01286 672804 Coroner’s Officers Tel: 01745 588816 -2-

Registrar, Births & Deaths - (see pages 5 & 6 for list of offices The registrar of births & deaths will ring the relative with an appointment to visit the registrars office. The registrar will ask the following information: 1

Deceased patient’s full name.

Full postal address.

Date and place of birth.

Occupation.

Maiden name (if married).

NHS number (if known).

If patient is to be buried / cremated.

Name of Funeral Director or Direct / Pure / Simplicity cremations.

Who can register the death? 1

A relative of the patient, present at death.

A relative, in attendance during last illness.

A relative, residing or being in the sub-district where the death occurred.

A person present at the death.

“The Occupier” if they knew of the happening of the death.

Any inmate if they knew of the death occurring.

The person / executor / authority causing the body to be disposed of.

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The registrar will give you: Green Disposal Certificate - this is to be given to the funeral director. You will need to ask the registrar for copies of the death certificate (there is a charge for this - payment can be by cash or card). Copies of the death certificate are required for Bank / Building Societies, Wills, Private / Works Pensions, Investments etc. Registration by declaration Occasionally if the person registering the death does not live in the district where the death occurred, arrangements can be made to register the death by declaration. This means the Register Office where the death happened can email the certificate to a registrar local to the informant. Copies of the certificate, however, will be posted to the informant by the register office where the death happened.

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Register Offices Denbighshire South The Register Office, Town Hall, Wynnstay Road, Ruthin, Denbighshire, LL15 1YN 01824 708100

Please telephone to arrange an appointment, as attendance is strictly by appointment. Anglesey Anglesey Business Centre, Bryn, Cefni Business Park, Llangefni LL77 7XA 01248 751925

Flintshire The Register Office Llwynegrin Hall, Mold, CH7 6NR 01352 703333

Chester The Register Office Merchants House, Crook Street, Chester, CH1 2BE 0300 123 7037 Conwy The Register Office, Town Hall, Lloyd Street, Llandudno, Conwy, LL30 2UP 01492 576525 Denbighshire North The Register Office, Town Hall, Wellington Road, Rhyl, LL18 1BA 01824 708100

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Gwynedd Gwynedd is now one registration district. A death occurring within the county can be registered at any of the offices listed below by prior arrangement only. To arrange an appointment to register a death anywhere in Gwynedd please call: 01766 771000 Gwynedd Registration Service Head Office Gwynedd Council, Castle Street, Caernarfon, LL55 1SE

Shropshire The Guildhall, Frankwell Quay, Shrewsbury, Shropshire, SY3 8HQ 0345 678 9016

The Register Office, Council Offices, Cae Penarlag, Dolgellau, LL40 2YB

Wrexham The Register Office Guildhall, Wrexham, LL11 1AY 01978 298997

Llangollen The Register Office Y Capel, (Library) Castle Street, Llangollen, LL20 8NU 01824 706187 Rhyl See Denbighshire north Ruthin See Denbighshire south

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Tell Us Once “Tell Us Once” is a free service supported by the Register Office that offers families assistance in informing local and central government departments of your loved one’s death at a difficult time. With your permission relevant Local Council Services and Central Government Departments will be informed of the bereavement including: Department for Work and Pensions, Passport Office, Driving Licence and War Pensions. You will need to provide the deceased’s National Insurance number (if known) and relevant documents (Passport, Driving Licence, Library Pass, Blue Badge for example). If all the information is not available at the time of your appointment with the Registrar, they will explain how to access the service from home using a reference number and freephone telephone contact service with the Department for Work and Pensions. This service is available up to 28 days following the registration of a death. Please tell the Register Office you would like to use the “Tell Us Once” service when you telephone to make your appointment with them or alternatively visit www.gov.uk to find out more information.

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Contacting a Funeral Director It is important to contact a funeral director as soon as possible so that they can start making arrangements on your behalf. You do not need to wait until the Medical Certificate of Cause of Death has been issued. Your funeral director will be able to advise and support you and your family during this time.

Viewing Your Loved One In Hospital It may not always be possible to view your loved one in hospital. Arrangements may need to be made through your funeral director.

Tissue & Organ Donation Not everyone who dies can give the gift of life through organ and tissue donation, for many reasons. If organ and/or tissue donation is a possibility a member of staff will contact you to discuss your loved one’s last known decision. You may also contact Tissue Services for more information directly on 0800 432 0559. For any advice you can call the 24 hour Organ Donor Referral line on 03000 20 30 40 or Tissue Services on 0800 432 0599.

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Do You Have a Query? Losing someone so quickly and unexpectedly can be a shock and may leave you feeling angry and/or helpless. It is normal when you have lost someone important to you, to find yourself asking questions, or wanting to understand more about the situation. If you have a query please contact our Patient Advice and Liaison Service (PALS). If you: • Have a problem but don’t know who to ask. • Want to talk to someone not directly involved in your care. • Want to compliment services or individual members of staff. • Have a suggestion on how we can make improvements. We will: • Listen to your comments, suggestions, compliments and queries and make every effort to resolve issues as quickly as possible. • Offer impartial advice and support to patients, families, carers and friends. • Make contact with our staff and, if appropriate, other organisations to assist you. • Provide information on other organisations that can provide information or advice. • Assist service improvement by reporting on themes and trends raised by our service users. • Keep your information confidential unless there is an exceptional reason – for example to protect children, yourself or another person. -9-

Resolving your inquiries: The PALS Officer will do their best to resolve issues and problems quickly and directly with the staff concerned. They have access to senior managers in the Health Board for assistance in resolving matters should that be necessary. BCU.PALS@wales.nhs.uk Phone: 03000 851 234

Do You Wish To Raise a Concern? If you feel able to do so, the best place to start is by talking to a member of our Concerns Team. You can contact the team on: 03000 851 234. They can try to sort out your concern immediately. If this doesn’t help or if you do not want to speak to staff who provided the service, then you can contact a member of the Health Board’s Concerns Team. Phone: 03000 851 234 E-mail: bcu.complaintsteam@wales.nhs.uk Letter: The Complaints Team, Ysbyty Gwynedd, Bangor, Gwynedd LL57 2PW. If you need more help you can contact the Community Health Council who are an independent body set up to represent the interests and concerns of patients and their families. Conwy/Gwynedd/Denbighshire/Flintshire/Wrexham: 01978 356178

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Grief And Bereavement Grieving is our emotional response to loss and may be distressing and confusing. You may feel alone as it may seem that no one really understands how you feel. This is because everyone’s individual experience of grieving is unique and personal to them. We publicly express our grief through mourning, which may include cards, flowers, candles, wearing specific clothing, religious ceremonies and celebrations of life. The funeral is only part of the grieving process. You need to allow yourself as much time as necessary to come to terms with your loss. In our society, grieving tends not to be fully acknowledged and may be even avoided as people can be fearful of what they don’t understand. However, active acknowledgment of the feelings that you may have, by yourself and others, is very important for your wellbeing. How Might I Feel? There are no rules about the natural process of grieving; it’s a very different experience for everyone and reactions will vary. How you feel may depend on your previous relationship with the person who has died and how you felt about them, as well as your own personal experiences and present circumstances. You may experience a wide range of feelings that it is difficult to make sense of. Grief can be an untidy and unpredictable experience which comes and goes in waves. At first, you may be too shocked to feel anything. Many bereaved people feel only a sense of numbness and disbelief; as you get over the shock and you grasp the - 11 -

reality of what has happened, you may experience some of the most powerful feelings you have ever had. You may feel: • Sad, low in mood, intensely distressed, unable to enjoy life, and even depressed. • Worried, frightened, anxious and unable to relax. • Angry towards others, such as family, friends, health care workers, God, or even, the person who has died. • Guilty and blame yourself. • Lonely, even when in the company of others. • A sense of relief after the death, perhaps following a period of distress in the time leading up to the death. • A sense of longing and searching for the person who has died.

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How Might Grief Affect Me Physically? You may experience: • Being tired and exhausted with no energy to perform simple tasks. • Being unable to sleep normally. • ‘Aches and pains’, such as headaches, back pain, and muscular aches. • Changes in your appetite, such as not feeling hungry, unable to enjoy eating, or wanting to overeat, which could lead to weight loss or gain. • Feeling nauseous, have an unsettled stomach, and possible changes in your bowel habit. • A low resistance and you may pick up minor infections such as colds more easily. How Might Grief Affect My Thoughts? You may find yourself: • Unable to concentrate and remember clearly. • Preoccupied and have repetitive thoughts about the person who has died and the events that led up to their death. • Helpless and without hope about the future. • A sense of unreality and detachment from everyday events.

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How Might This Affect My Behaviour? You may be: • Irritable, angry and distrusting of others. • Restless and unable to settle and relax. • Tearful or unable to cry. • Preferring your own company, rejecting others, such as friends, family, and social situations. Realising that some of these feelings, thoughts and behaviours are normal may help you to feel less isolated and that you are not losing your mind. No one can say how long you will feel this way – just as your relationship with the person before they died was unique, then your feelings of grief and their intensity and duration are also unique. Grieving is necessary to help people find a way of living their lives while still feeling able to remember the person who has died and holding on to the bonds that you shared. What Can I Do To Help Myself? It is important not to forget about your own health. If you feel able to, try to eat regular meals rather than snacks and try to get adequate rest, even if you cannot sleep. At times of stress it may be tempting to feel like life would be easier if you moved house or made decisions about your loved one’s possessions but in fact this is not a good time to make major changes in your life – what seems right now may not seem right in several months’ time. If you cannot avoid having to make important decisions try to talk them over with someone you can trust and someone who can help you consider the various options.

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What Can Others Do To Help Me? Bereavement affects families in many different ways. Each family member will cope differently following bereavement. There may be a recurring need to talk to people about the person who has died, their illness and death, the good and the bad times. Families and friends can help listen to and share these memories, although they might find this difficult or uncomfortable at times, as many people do not know what to say. It is important to reach out to them when you need them because it may be difficult for others to know how you feel and what they can do to help. If you feel unable to share your feelings with family and friends, or don’t have anyone close, or if you are experiencing persistent problems coping with day to day life, then it may be worth considering other forms of support. General Practitioner (GP) Your GP may be able to help you but if you need additional support, he/she can recommend a counsellor or local support groups.

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Support Groups Joining a support group can be a chance to meet up with other people who are in a similar situation. Because contact details for local groups change frequently, we have included a list of national organisations who can give up to date local information. Many of these organisations offer emotional support and advice on practical matters, such as DWP benefits or housing. Age UK Practical advice for the over 50s following a bereavement. Information Line: 0800 678 1602 www.ageuk.org.uk Cruse Bereavement Care Offers support, help and advice to the bereaved. Helpline: 0808 808 1677 www.cruse.org.uk Switchboard LGBT Offers a listening ear to lesbians and gay men, their families, friends and carers facing bereavement. Helpline: 0800 0119 100 www.switchboard.lgbt

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SAD Supporting those affected by Sudden Cardiac Death. Helpline: 01277 811215 www.sadsuk.org.uk Samaritans of Rhyl and North East Wales Giving confidential emotional support 24 hours a day. Helpline: 116 123 or 0330 094 5717 www.samaritans.org Support after Murder and Manslaughter Offers support and information to anyone affected by murder or manslaughter. Helpline: 0121 472 2912 www.samm.org.uk Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide Exists to meet the needs and break the isolation of anyone bereaved by the suicide of a relative or friend. Helpline: 0300 111 5065 www.uksobs.com WAY Widowed & Young Offers support, help and understanding to those widowed before the age of 50. www.widowedandyoung.org.uk

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For children who are bereaved Grief Encounter A London based charity helping children through bereavement. Helpline: 0808 802 0111 www.griefencounter.org.uk Cruse for children and young people Helpline: 0808 808 1677 www.hopeagain.org.uk Healthboard - Mental Health Helpline: 111 + 2 St Kentigern Hospice Gives telephone support and information for bereaved children and their families in the Hospice catchment area. Helpline: 01745 585221 www.stkentigernhospice.org.uk Nightingale House Hospice Release Open to all bereaved children and their families in the Hospice catchment area. Helpline: 01978 316 800 www.nightingalehouse.co.uk Winston’s Wish Help for grieving children and their families. Helpline: 08088 020 021 www.winstonswish.org On the web: Coping with grief Offers practical advice and emotional support for anyone facing bereavement with good links to further information www.bbc.co.uk

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On behalf of the Betsi Cadwaladr University Health Board we offer our sincere condolences to you and your family at this difficult time.

Reference: Bereavement Book (WXB) Publication date: March 2026 Review date: March 2028

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The Hospital would like to thank RNS Publications for publishing this information and the following pages contain some features from services offering their help at this time. Whilst the Hospital is grateful of their support it does not endorse or recommend any of the services that they provide. Please note, whilst information is correct at the time of publication, this may be subject to future change.

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