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the art of sustaining passion in your relationship Our top resources for building passion in your relationship.

Philanthropic Matchmaking An exclusive look into philanthropic matchmaking with Lindsey Parry Carzo.

chic date night outfits

A curated guide of chic date night outfits for your valentines day.

Melanie Ann Layer & Kevin Scott

The evidence that true love, respect, abundance and fulfillment is available within our relationship as we build iconic lives and businesses.

EDITOR’S NOTE WRITTEN BY JEN SZPIGIEL EDITOR IN CHIEF AND FOUNDER OF BECOMING ICONIC

A month to sink deeply into loving yourself first and foremost so that it ripples out into your relationships,

career

and

the

world

around you. I remember hearing an interview where a woman was sharing how she brought herself to a mirror, looked in it and realized she had never responded to the reflection staring back at her with loving eyes. The lens a mother uses to look at her child. She went on a journey to provide the love that she desired to receive from others to herself. It created a deep appreciation for the reflection looking back at her and love affair with herself that became the catalyst for a life soaked in pleasure. When was the last time you looked in the mirror and said “I love you! I really really love you” like you genuinely mean it? What would it feel like to do this for yourself? Uncomfortable at first? Perhaps. Soul giving? I would think so. Life changing? Absolutely! The love we provide to ourselves is the greatest love of all. It’s what will amplify everything for yourself, those you love and the world around you. I am hopeful that this issue sparks you into

personal

adoration

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celebration for how breathtaking you are. ~Jen xo

Happy Love Month

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EDITORS NOTE A Month To Have You Sink Into Deeply Loving Yourself First And Foremost.

JOURNAL PROMPTS Prompts To Help You Drop Into The Divine Feminine And Celebrate You.

JENUINE CONNECTION Holding The Passion And Love For Your Business Overtime.

CELEBRATING DIVERSITY A Guide To Mindful and Inclusive Fashion.

THE ART OF SUSTAINING PASSION IN RELATIONSHIPS Our Top Resources For Building Passion In Your Relationship.

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CHIC DATE NIGHT OUTFITS Exploring Fabulous Date Night Outfit Ideas That Are Sure To Make You Feel Good.

COVER FEATURE: MELANIE & KEVIN The Evidence That True Love, Respect, Abundance And Fulfillment Is Available Within Our Relationship.

PHILANTHROPIC MATCHMAKING WITH LINDSEY PARRY CARZO An Exclusive Look Into Philanthropic Matchmaking for Your Business.

ICONIC THOUGHT Allow Gratitude To Spark Celebration For All Of Your Successes.

FOSTERING UNDERSTANDING A Curated List Of Book Recommendations To Spark Thoughtful Discussions During Black History Month.

ON THE COVER

Melanie Ann Layer @MELANIEANNLAYER

Melanie Ann Layer is the founder of the Alpha Femme brand, a global coaching and mentoring company that launched in the online space in 2017. Her unconventional approach attracts women all around the world to lock arms and revolutionize what is possible for female entrepreneurs everywhere. Her unique vision, which she has coined “Business Artistry”, has taken the world by storm and has brought an essence of feminine power to the marketplace. She models the effectiveness of her teachings in her own company that has demonstrated record growth since its inception just a few years ago, and in the company culture that celebrates all women, their dreams, their well-being, their joy, their purpose, their sisterhood. The buzz around Alpha Femme has created a whirlwind of change across a diverse range of industries world-wide. Melanie walks alongside her clients who grow heart-centred companies of all sizes. In her words, “Success is a by-product of the woman we become.

ON THE COVER Kevin Scott @EFFORTLESSALPHA

When Kevin Bruce Scott speaks, his messages connect people to their hearts as well as the minds. He has lived many different lives – as an artist, businessman, salesman, even a farmer! - and that helps him relate to all kinds of people. Kevin strives to give his dedicated clients a feeling of potential possibility in their life, something one tends to forget they have hidden all along. He is a leader of leaders, a leader of men, and works hard to be an example for men of all walks of life. The motto for the Effortless Alpha brotherhood he created is “Honouring Individual Masculinity.” His life-transforming work with men in groups and oneon-one has sparked the Masculine Expansion, an effort to encourage men to lead themselves and their communities with power, honour, discipline, and respect.

OUR GUESTS

Paige Hulse PAIGEHULSE.COM INSTAGRAM: @PAIGE.L.HULSE AND @CREATIVELAWSHOP

Paige Hulse received her Juris Doctorate from The University of Tulsa, and is the owner and lead attorney of Paige Hulse Law, the founder of The Creative Law Shop®, Co-Founder of the Special Forces Support Fund™ and the owner of Fairway Stables®. As a passionate serial entrepreneur, her work enables her to provide smart and strategic entrepreneurs with legal strategy to create enduring businesses. After working as an energy litigator while building her own businesses on the side, she formed her law firm in 2017, and serves clients with intellectual property counsel worldwide. As a Trademark, Business, and Equine Law practitioner and trusted speaker, she’s been immersed in the creative business field for a decade, and is able to impart her immense knowledge with each client. When she’s not providing intellectual property counsel or negotiating for her clients, she’s spending time in the barn with her husband, riding horses, and building Fairway Stables.

PHILANTHROPICMATCHMAKER.COM INSTAGRAM: @PHILANTHROPICMATCHMAKER

I'm Lindsey Parry Carzo, a wife, daughter, sister, aunt, friend, and the creator of Philanthropic Matchmaker™. My business was created for all of us…it’s about thriving on life's beauty, connecting people, creating an impact, and leaving a legacy. In hindsight, God has been orchestrating my steps all along to create Philanthropic Matchmaker. My story began early on with a heart attuned to human potential with a shared passion to empower and connect those I met. After a transformative year in Guatemala volunteering on educational projects, I redirected my career towards creating impact. Establishing an educational nonprofit and a fair-trade company in Panama, I spent six years amplifying my impact. Returning to the United States, I harnessed my expertise to weave together philanthropic consulting, marketing, and brand community cultivation. Through experiences like building The Garden (a service we offer) I realized my years of brand collaboration could be a valuable service. Philanthropic Matchmaker weaves together my experiences and passion, offering transformative value to businesses and causes.

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INVOCATION WRITTEN BY JEN SZPIGIEL

I pray for your eyes so that I can view myself the way you see me. As a perfect and beautiful creation. I will allow this to melt away my self criticism. I pray for your spirit to wash over me so that I feel the grace you hold for me. I will entrust the unconditional love you provide so that I no longer seek it elsewhere. I pray for my heart to swell with the love you hold so that forgive quickly. I will be a person who deeply impacts others for how much compassion I give. I pray for your wisdom to soak my mind so that I walk with steadiness and trust each day. I will live in utter abundance and pay little attention to lack that holds me back. I pray for your hands to hold it all so that I start to see my infinite capacity for more. I will honor that I have been created to do, be and have a breathtaking journey. I desire this month be one where I am deeply rooted into your pure and fierce love. I am willing to become more of you and less of me to experience what I am praying for.

Amen

PMPTS WRITTEN BY JEN SZPIGIEL EDITOR IN CHIEF AND FOUNDER OF BECOMING ICONIC

I would love you to fully commit to three practices that anchor you into more love and appreciation for yourself. If not now, then when? This month oozes with love and affection if you allow it.

I have these three practices T H A T I S T A R T E D F O R M Y S E L F A N D H A V E R E A L L Y S U P P O R T E D M E T O L O O K I N T H E M I R R O R W I T H L O V E , D R O P I N T O M Y D I V I N E F E M I N I N E A N D C E L E B R A T E M Y S E L F R E G U L A R L Y .

I wear a silk robe so the first thing I feel in the

I send myself flowers with a love letter two

morning is Japanese silk kissing my skin. I

times a month. I love that I choose the

glide to the kitchen for my coffee in such pure

arrangement that attracts me and the words

feminine energy. I sip my coffee differently

for the letters. They are great reminders of

and light a candle to romanticize myself. It

how much I have celebrated independently

carries forward throughout my day.

without need for outward validation.

3. Solitude with gratitude. I will book myself into my favorite hotel and do whatever my heart desires. Sometimes it’s walking and exploring and other times it’s a plush bathrobe and room service. At least once a quarter I get away to be in solitude and stillness with myself. I’m a better mom, wife and CEO as a result.

I challenge you to discover what three practices you can implement to receive what you desire from others but instead give to yourself. The secret is to ask “what are possible self sabotaging habits that could stand in the way of doing this” and “what do I know to be true if I do this for myself”? The reason I ask you to extend your practices with more thought and consideration is to acknowledge the habits and patterns that could stand in the way if you allow them, so that they don’t. I also believe in deepening your desire to follow through because you realize how good it will feel and who you will become on the other side of practicing it. This will be your greatest accountability for following through.

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WHAT POTENTIAL HABITS OR PATTERNS COULD POTENTIALLY STAND IN YOUR WAY AND HOW WILL YOU OVERCOME THAT?

WHO WILL YOU BECOME AND WHAT WILL IT FEEL LIKE ON THE OTHER SIDE OF PRACTICING THIS FOR YOURSELF? WHAT ARE THE REWARDS?

mine I AM BEFORE I AM ANYONE else’s

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A monthly heart-centered article written by the Editor in Chief and Founder of Becoming Iconic, Jen Szpigiel. Jen has a reputation for being profoundly impactful for how she is able to blend vision, transparency and passion while leading and guiding others. Enjoy her personal journal entries through the Jenuine Connection that host perspectives, insights and realizations that are only shared here within the Becoming Iconic Magazine.

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Holding the passion and love for your business over time, is very similar to a romantic relationship. The initial butterflies of excitement and anticipation when you first start building a business become replaced with the feeling of responsibility for what it takes to have it last a lifetime. Just like a relationship, we can start focusing on what isn’t working versus what is, which shadows our passion. Similarly, we can begin to taint the love for what we are doing by comparing it to others and making it not good enough. Many have asked me how I continue to be so passionate about entrepreneurship after eighteen years. There is a curiosity around how I have managed to never quit and how I have remained inspired for so long. I get it. There are many points in the journey where we wonder if it’s all worth it. There are moments when we start to fantasize about doing a job that is simple and collecting a paycheck with the same amount of money on the same day every time. The seduction of complacency and certainty is real. The exhaustion of entrepreneurship happens.

The important piece is who are we when these moments hit?

Over eighteen years there are certain decisions I have made that I believe have led me to the point of nearly two decades in entrepreneurship. These choices were pivotal in my longstanding success and have given me tremendous trust in myself which in turn has given my community trust in me as well. They know I’m a leader they can follow. I can narrow it down to three things that I have practiced to support my great love affair with entrepreneurship and the life long commitment to the relationship I have with my business. When I started my journey, I sat in my makeshift office and said a prayer. I asked that I would never forget the moment I decided to go all-in and where I came from. I committed to anchoring in the emotions and feelings of saying yes to myself, of standing up to the nah-sayers and having blind belief in something that I wasn’t sure would even work. It wasn’t to perpetuate it. It was to remember. I believe that my compassion and understanding as a leader to thousands has benefited from this promise. When someone is in the midst of a pivot or starting something new, I can drop into the feelings I have also had to navigate. I don’t separate myself and instead I hold the space for it. It sparks excitement and has ignited my passion over and over again for entrepreneurship. When I have moments of wavering belief, I remember that I can trust myself. I acknowledge that there was a time when I had no evidence that this would work and now I have a rear view mirror of stacked successes. I fall back in love with the nostalgia of how far I’ve come.

Don’t get too far away from the remembrance. Stay connected to why you started in the first place and celebrate the journey this far. It’s a beautiful way to stay in love. I often picture my husband and I much older reminiscing about our life together. I also want to do this with my business. The second anchor to remaining passionate is my commitment to innovation and creation. The one thing I am never short of is ideas. I love to innovate and refine. Whether it be in my home, my appearance or in my business, I get bored of the same old same old and so the spark to create has built a gorgeous masterpiece over time. I live my days like I am painting a beautiful work of art. I love living with intentionality and raising standards of excellence. This is the story behind my company name Becoming Iconic. It stems from my dedication to become a better version of myself every day. While so many entrepreneurs stay stuck on what once worked, forcing it to sustain, I am the one who turns things on its head and constantly invites play and curiosity into my business. I find it removes the attachment to outcomes and instead focuses the attention onto building and creating with a childlike mindfulness. I am more interested in the response and feeling around the things I do than the actual outcome. I believe that the community, the wealth, the visibility will always be the side effect to my leadership, innovation and creation. So far, it has proven to be true. Lastly, I revel in the fact that I am a visionary. Entrepreneurship rests on your ability to dream and then dream bigger. I can’t tell you how many clients I have had to revive because they met their initial goal and stayed there. They didn’t think bigger.

They didn’t expand their vision with their growth. They got to a summit and couldn’t see past it. Passion and the love of their business was suffocated by their lack of clarity and progression. My personal promise has been to have a vision and dream so big that others around me can’t grasp it. I realized that if everyone around me can see my vision, it’s not big enough. I hold myself highly accountable to casting a wider net and dancing with potentiality. I don’t want to live a life of just enough. I desire to relish in every aspect I possibly can for myself, my family and for those who I am fortunate enough to inspire. To stay in love with the journey is to be able to look forward to the carrot dangling in front of you that gives you the energy to rise up again and again. It makes every bump, bruise and pain worth it because you know it’s one step closer to the vision you have for yourself. Like a relationship, keeping the spark alive is a daily commitment to remembering how far you’ve come and allowing that to build the trust that you can overcome again, finding ways to create and innovate to keep the spirit alive and having a vision so big and beautiful that you pay more attention to where you are going so that the bumps don’t take you down. It’s been vital to my longevity as an entrepreneur and I gift this to you so that you remain utterly in love with your business and purpose.

Xo, Jen

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YOUR BUSINESS, OUR EXPERTISE:

A Case study of OBMS in your Business

WRITTEN BY WHIT RADACINA COO OF BECOMING ICONIC

In the dynamic landscape of online entrepreneurship, the role of an Online Business Manager transcends mere management; it's about infusing strategic brilliance and operational finesse into the DNA of a business. Join us on a journey through a real-life case study where our expertise as Online Business Managers became the catalyst for transformative change. In the world of online business, managing operations effectively is crucial as entrepreneurs pursue their ambitious goals. The role of an Online Business Manager (OBM) is similar to a Chief Operating Officer (but virtual), equipped with expertise and a commitment to transforming entrepreneurial visions into tangible success.

LET’S SET THE STAGE, SHALL WE? Introducing Client X, a determined entrepreneur deeply entrenched in the challenges of the business world. Juggling numerous responsibilities, from client acquisition to project management, she found herself wrestling with the chaos of uncoordinated operations that hindered her growth aspirations. Client X’s ambition was palpable, yet the lack of streamlined processes posed a significant obstacle to realizing her business's full potential. In the initial stages, Client X grappled with the typical struggles of entrepreneurship, particularly pertinent to her role as a business coach. Despite having Virtual Assistants diligently handling assigned tasks, the inherent limitations became increasingly apparent. VAs, while proficient in executing specific duties, often lacked the strategic insights necessary for a business coach navigating the intricacies of client relationships and dynamic market demands. The compartmentalized efforts of the virtual team created a disjointed approach, where the absence of a cohesive strategy hindered the overall effectiveness of Client X’s coaching practice.

The client acquisition process, a crucial aspect for a business coach, highlighted the need for a more strategic approach. While VAs responded promptly to inquiries and managed administrative tasks, there was a noticeable gap in the proactive initiatives required to convert leads into long-term clients. Client X craved a team that woke up each day eager to contribute to the growth of her business, embodying a holistic vibe where the client experience was not just satisfactory but exceptional. The reactive nature of the virtual team limited the ability to anticipate client needs, seize opportunities, and address challenges strategically. Project management, essential for overseeing coaching clients, presented its own set of hurdles. Despite dedicated VAs handling specific tasks, the absence of a unified project management system resulted in inefficiencies. Team coordination was reactive, with each VA focused on their assigned duties without a holistic understanding of the overarching goals of coaching programs.

Beyond the tangible struggles, what weighed heavily on Client X’s mind was the yearning for someone that was not just task-oriented but was genuinely invested in the success of her business.

She envisioned a proactive approach where a team member woke up driven to contribute ideas, enhance the client experience, and actively seek opportunities for growth. The craving for a committed, all-in team that shared her passion for business growth became a driving force behind Client X’s quest for transformative solutions. After years of grappling with business challenges, Client X discovered the pivotal role of an Online Business Manager. Recognizing that a strategic, proactive leader was the missing link to elevate her operations, Client X knew it was time to bring in an OBM of her own to usher her into a new era of growth and efficiency in her business.

HERE'S WHERE Step1:StrategicInsightsUnleashed THE MAGIC OF AN ONLINE BUSINESS MANAGER TRULY UNFOLDS:

The inaugural step in our journey with Client X involved an immersive exploration into her business ecosystem. This strategy session is a meticulous analysis undertaken with precision and intention. It’s where we dive into the nuances of client acquisition, project management, operational workflows and so much more to identify the bottlenecks and build a roadmap for sustainable growth. Here is what we identified:

A) Communication Gaps in Client Acquisition:

One notable bottleneck lay in the communication process during client acquisition. While VAs were handling inquiries and administrative tasks, there was a lack of a cohesive strategy for engaging potential clients. This gap hindered the conversion of leads into long-term clients, signaling a need for a more proactive and strategic approach in the client acquisition phase.

B) Fragmented Project Management Processes

The project management workflows within the business revealed fragmentation. Despite dedicated VAs managing specific tasks, the absence of a unified project management system led to inefficiencies. The decentralized approach resulted in a lack of holistic understanding among team members regarding the overarching goals of coaching programs, indicating a need for a more streamlined and collaborative project management strategy.

C) Reactive Approach to Operational Workflows We uncovered a reactive rather than proactive approach in operational workflows. The virtual team was proficient in executing assigned tasks but lacked the foresight to anticipate challenges and opportunities. This reactive stance posed a potential obstacle to the business's adaptability and strategic decision-making, emphasizing the importance of instilling a proactive mindset within the operational processes.

These identified bottlenecks served as focal points for our strategic planning, guiding the development of solutions to address these challenges and pave the way for sustainable growth within Client X's business.

Step 2: Operational Finesse in Action With the strategic foundation laid, it was time for operational finesse. Implementing systems, refining processes, and introducing automation became the cornerstone of the transformation.

These tangible initiatives, rooted in operational finesse, directly addressed the identified bottlenecks in communication, project management, and operational workflows.

Step Three: The Elevating Impact

A) Addressing Communication Gaps in Client Acquisition -Established a centralized communication hub: Implemented a unified platform for client interactions, ensuring that all inquiries and communication were streamlined in one accessible space. -Implemented a proactive engagement strategy: Introduced a systematic approach to client acquisition, incorporating proactive initiatives such as targeted follow-ups, personalized outreach, and strategic communication plans.

As the strategic vision materialized into action, the impact was palpable. Client X witnessed a surge in productivity, client satisfaction, and overall business performance. We had not only streamlined operations but had become a trusted collaborator, unlocking new heights for the entrepreneurial venture.

B) STREAMLINING FRAGMENTED PROJECT MANAGEMENT PROCESSES -Introduced a centralized project management system: Implemented a robust project management platform that consolidated all tasks, timelines, and milestones in one accessible space. -Conducted team training sessions: Recognizing the importance of cohesive project management, organized training sessions to ensure that all team members, including Virtual Assistants, were well-versed in the new system.

C) Transforming a Reactive Approach to Operational Workflows -Implemented proactive task management tools: Introduced task management tools that emphasized proactive task planning and scheduling. -Established regular strategy sessions: Instituted routine strategy sessions where team members, including Virtual Assistants, actively contributed ideas, insights, and feedback.

This case study stands as a testament to the profound impact an Online Business Manager can have on transforming and elevating an entrepreneurial venture. As the collaborative efforts unfolded and the business ascended to new heights, it became abundantly clear that in the digital era, having a seasoned guide isn't just advantageous—it's a necessity. The journey with Client X underscores the pivotal role an Online Business Manager plays in navigating the complexities of modern business, where proactive collaboration and transformative solutions are indispensable ingredients for sustained success and unparalleled growth.

CELEBRATING DIVERSITY

IN STYLE A GUIDE TO MINDFUL AND INCLUSIVE FASHION

WRITTEN BY MORGAN ONDREE CREATIVE DIRECTOR BECOMING ICONIC THE AGENCY IMAGED SOURCED FROM: CFDA

Fashion is a powerful form of self-expression that transcends boundaries and speaks volumes about our individuality. In recent years, there has been a growing recognition of the importance of diversity and inclusivity within the fashion industry. Black fashion designers, in particular, have played a crucial role in reshaping the narrative and pushing the boundaries of creativity. This article celebrates the contributions of some incredible designers, such as Dapper Dan, Telfar, Brandon Blackwood, Good American, and Coco and Breezy Eyewear, while also providing tips on how to be more mindful and inclusive in your fashion choices.

DAPPER DAN

THE HARLEM COUTURIER

Dapper Dan, a pioneer in the world of streetwear, has been a trailblazer since the 1980s. Known for his innovative use of logos and luxury materials, he has redefined urban fashion. Today, his collaborations with major brands like Gucci are emblematic of the industry's shift towards inclusivity.

TELFAR FASHION FOR EVERYONE

Telfar Clemens, the force behind Telfar, has revolutionized the fashion landscape with the brand's motto, "Not for You, for Everyone." The iconic Telfar Shopping Bag has become a symbol of accessibility and inclusivity in fashion. By embracing gender-neutral designs and diverse models, Telfar challenges traditional norms and fosters a sense of unity through style.

BRANDON BLACKWOOD

REDEFINING LUXURY

Brandon Blackwood is making waves in the luxury handbag scene with his eponymous brand. Known for its stylish yet affordable designs, Blackwood's commitment to diversity and representation is evident in his campaigns featuring a range of models. By combining fashion with a social message, he encourages consumers to think about the impact of their purchases.

COCO AND BREEZY EYEWEAR

VISIONARIES IN STYLE

Sisters Corianna and Brianna Dotson, the dynamic duo behind Coco and Breezy Eyewear, have created a brand that not only protects your eyes but also makes a bold fashion statement. Their eyewear designs, worn by celebrities and fashion enthusiasts alike, break down barriers and celebrate individuality. Their commitment to empowering self-expression through unique eyewear resonates with a diverse audience.

TIPS FOR MINDFUL AND INCLUSIVE FASHION PURCHASES: Research and Support Diverse Brands: - Explore and support brands founded by designers from underrepresented communities. - Look for brands that prioritize inclusivity in their marketing, campaigns, and sizing options. Diversify Your Wardrobe: - Experiment with styles that reflect various cultures, traditions, and influences. - Be open to trying pieces from designers who may have different backgrounds and perspectives. Educate Yourself: - Learn about the history and contributions of diverse designers in the fashion industry. - Stay informed about cultural appropriation and be mindful of the impact of your fashion choices. Support Sustainable and Ethical Practices: - Choose brands that prioritize sustainability and ethical production. - Consider the environmental and social impact of your purchases. Celebrate Individuality: - Embrace your unique style and encourage others to do the same. - Support brands that celebrate diversity and showcase a range of models in their campaigns.

Fashion is a powerful platform for expressing individuality, and by supporting diverse designers, we contribute to a more inclusive industry. The designers mentioned, from Dapper Dan to Coco and Breezy Eyewear, have not only shaped the fashion landscape but have also paved the way for a more inclusive future. By being mindful of our fashion choices, embracing diversity, and supporting brands with a social conscience, we can all play a part in making the fashion world a more inclusive and vibrant space for everyone. So, let's celebrate diversity and wear our values with pride!

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ESSENSE The way to invite an opulent lifestyle into your world is through the intentionality of elevating all of your senses. Luxury is found within the details. esSENSE is here to inspire you to create experiences that turn moments into gorgeous memories. Learn about the most iconic places, products, sounds, tastes and sights to immediately raise your standards of excellence within your life and business.

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n the bustling life of an entrepreneur, where ambition and drive are constants, the subtle art of nurturing a deep, emotional bond with your partner can easily be overshadowed. Yet, the essence of a thriving relationship lies in its ability to balance the flames of passion with the rhythm of everyday life. Let's explore why keeping this passionate flame alive is not just beneficial, but essential for a relationship that complements and enriches our ambitious lifestyles. For those of us steering the ship of business ventures, the resilience, adaptability, and unyielding spirit we apply in our professional lives mirror the qualities needed to foster a deep and enduring romantic connection. A relationship brimming with passion becomes a sanctuary of support, understanding, and mutual growth. It's where victories are sweeter, and challenges become shared adventures. Passion, intriguingly, acts as a catalyst for growth – both individual and collective. It invites exploration and self-discovery, encouraging both partners to evolve together.

It’s akin to a dance, where each step, twist, and turn leads to a new rhythm, a new perspective, enhancing the bond and enriching each partner's personal journey. Effective communication, too, finds its roots in a passionate relationship. It encourages honest, open dialogues, creating a space where dreams, fears, and aspirations can be shared freely. Much like a successful business partnership, it’s this foundation of understanding and empathy that fortifies a relationship, making it resilient and robust.

And let’s not overlook the sheer joy that passion brings. It infuses everyday life with an undercurrent of excitement and happiness, turning routine moments into cherished memories. This joy adds a layer of fulfillment and satisfaction to our lives, similar to the gratification we derive from our professional achievements. In essence, building and sustaining passion in a relationship is akin to cultivating a rare and exquisite garden. It requires attention, care, and a deep understanding of each other's needs and desires. Just as we strive for recognition and respect in our professional lives, these elements are vital in our personal relationships. As we embrace the month of love, let's rekindle and nurture the flames of passion in our relationships. Remember, a fulfilling personal life is a cornerstone of our overall success. In the pursuit of becoming iconic, let's not forget the power and beauty of a passionate relationship – a vital source of strength, support, and joy in our journey. This February, let's celebrate love, not just as an emotion, but as an essential ingredient in the art of living a truly iconic life.

TOP RESOURCES FOR BUILDING PASSION IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP:

Couples Programs With Alexa + Jordan Bowditch This program is designed for couples seeking to deepen their relationship and enhance their sexual connection. It offers a mix of education, communication exercises, and exploration of sexual desires and practices, aiming to bring novelty and deeper understanding into relationships.

Couples Counseling and Therapy Seeking professional guidance can be a game-changer in understanding and resolving deeper issues that might be affecting your relationship. Couples therapy provides a safe space to explore, heal, and strengthen your bond.

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman This book is a cornerstone in understanding how we express and experience love differently. By identifying and learning to speak your partner’s love language, you can significantly deepen your connection.

Regular Date Nights Never underestimate the power of a dedicated date night to keep the romance alive. Whether it’s a fancy dinner out or a cozy night in, regular dates can keep the spark alive.

Real Conversations About Sex That Sex Chick Podcast is a resource for sexual education, offering a variety of content to help individuals enhance their understanding and experience of sexuality. N CL I CK

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Sustaining passion in a relationship is a beautiful, ongoing journey that benefits greatly from the right resources and practices. By tapping into these tools, you can not only keep the flame of love burning but also ensure that it grows stronger and more vibrant with each passing year. This February, and beyond, let these resources guide you in nurturing a relationship that’s as fulfilling as it is passionate.

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We understand the excitement and dilemma that comes with choosing the perfect outfit for Valentine’s Day. This special day calls for a look that's not just stylish, but also resonates with the essence of romance and personal flair. Whether you're planning a glamorous night out, a cozy dinner at home, or something adventurous, the right outfit can set the tone for an unforgettable evening. Let's explore some fabulous date night outfit ideas that are sure to make you feel confident and radiant this Valentine's Day.

Dinner Date For a traditional dinner date, you can never go wrong with the elegance of a little black dress. Elevate this classic with a modern twist – think off-shoulder cuts or a daring slit. Pair it with strappy heels, statement jewelry, and a bold red lip for a timeless yet contemporary look.

Fenty Beauty by Rihanna Stunna Lip Paint Longwear Fluid Lip Color $28

Revolve, Raye Zula Heel $198

Fashion Nova Tequila Nights Bandage Mini Dress Black $49

Oh Polly , EMELINE Corset Tulle Mini Dress in Jet Black $111

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Opt for a chic yet comfortable outfit like a pair of high-waisted jeans teamed with a silky blouse. Add a pop of color with a scarf or a stylish handbag, and complete the look with ankle boots or sleek sneakers. This ensemble is perfect for a relaxed, casual setting while still looking put-together.

Good American Good '90s high-rise Straight-Leg Jeans $190

MAKEUP BY MARIO MOISTUREGLOW™ PLUMPING LIP SERUM $48

Kate Spade New York Heart Leather Crossbody Bag $428

Lulus Sophisticate Cream Satin Ruched Long Sleeve Top $49

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Night Out Cult Gaia ANNIKA CLUTCH $358

Maison Francis Kurkdjian Baccarat Rouge 540 Extrait de Parfum $465

am:pm Isla Metallic Lace-Up Heeled Sandals $93

Oh Polly GINEVRA Velvet Long Sleeve Maxi Dress in Chocolate Brown $117

If your Valentine's Day plans are more on the glamorous side, embrace the spirit with a stunning evening gown. Choose a dress with luxurious fabrics like satin or velvet, and in rich colors like deep red or emerald green. Accessorize with elegant jewelry, a clutch, and high heels to complete this show-stopping look.

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For a more active date, such as a dance class or a night at the carnival, go for something fun and flirty. A skater dress or a jumpsuit paired with comfortable yet stylish footwear like wedges or ballet flats is ideal. These outfits offer both comfort and style, allowing you to move freely while looking fabulous.

Telfar Small Jelly Shopper $150

Uncommon James Luxe Necklace $78

Free People We The Free Jayde Flare Jumpsuit $158

Dolce Vita Bobby Heels $150

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If you’re spending the evening at home, comfort is key, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be fashionable. A cashmere sweater paired with satin pants offers the perfect balance of comfort and sophistication. Soft, luxurious fabrics will make you feel pampered and special, even in a more relaxed setting.

Skims KNIT V NECK MINI DRESS $84

Mejuri Sculptural Hoops $198

UGG Women's Classic Ultra Mini $150

Alo CASHMERE JET SET CREW $298

TOP ROMANTIC GIFT IDEAS FOR HIM AND HER

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As February ushers in with its air of romance and love, finding the perfect gift for that special someone becomes a delightful yet daunting task. Whether it’s a budding romance or a love story that has stood the test of time, Valentine’s Day is the perfect occasion to express your affection with a thoughtful gift. This guide is curated with a selection of romantic gift ideas designed to delight both him and her, ensuring your gesture of love becomes a cherished memory.

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A piece of jewelry with a personal touch, like an engraved message or a locket with a cherished photo, adds a layer of sentimentality to an already romantic gift.

Give the gift of relaxation with a spa day voucher. A day of pampering is a wonderful way to show your appreciation and love.

For the fashion-conscious woman, a handbag or accessory from her favorite designer can be the perfect blend of luxury and thoughtfulness.

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ARTISANAL CHOCOLATES AND WINE PAIRING

Elevate the classic gift of chocolates by pairing them with a fine wine that complements their flavors, creating a gourmet tasting experience at home.

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ROMANTIC GETAWAY

Plan a surprise weekend getaway to a cozy bed and breakfast or a scenic location. The effort and thought put into planning such a trip make it an incredibly romantic gesture.

HIGH-QUALITY TECH GADGETS If he’s a tech enthusiast, the latest gadget or accessory can be both a practical and thoughtful gift.

PERSONALIZED WATCH

EXPERIENCE DAY

A classic watch, especially one engraved with a special date or message, combines functionality with personal sentiment.

Whether it’s race car driving, a brewing workshop, or a cooking class, an experience day tailored to his interests is both a fun and thoughtful gift.

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GOURMET FOOD HAMPER

BOOK COLLECTION OR FIRST EDITION

A hamper filled with his favorite gourmet snacks, cheeses, and charcuterie is a delicious way to show your love.

For the man who loves to read, a collection of books from his favorite author, or a rare first edition, can be a deeply personal and thoughtful gift.

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“The closer together we can experience moments of joy and sadness, heartache, and bliss, the more full our life can be”.

PHOTOGRAPHER CREDIT: KEVIN SCOTT @EFFORTLESSALPHA

Melanie and Kevin I am so excited to be spending time highlighting your incredible partnership and the evolution you must have gone through over the last few years. What was it like in the early days of your relationship?

The feeling of excitement and growth was unlike anything I’d ever experienced before. Melanie came into my life with new perspectives, new energies, and just the way she experienced life kept me on my toes and wanting more at all times. Her desire for a meaningful life, and the way she made me feel like anything was possible was so different, so refreshing, so vibrant. I couldn’t wait for the next moment, the next day...because I knew I was going to learn something or experience something new.

In the early stages of our relationship, we lived on minimum wage and romance. Kevin came from a small farm town and was content with very little, and I was just finding my footing as I rebuilt my life. Life was simple, yet felt so complex. Our favourite activity was contemplating a better life in the hammock on our back porch, looking up at a net of twinkling lights we pretended were stars.

What is your most treasured memory of your relationship prior to your world becoming what it is today?

I’m going to lump a whole bunch together into one category of memories and that is: Road Trips. We traveled so much early on. We would just drive and talk, and drive and connect, and drive and create. I still get excited every time we get into the car to go on a trip because of the foundation we built. A 12-14 hour drive became nothing because we were constantly feeling inspired!

One of my favourite memories was the first time I ever visited Kevin’s family on the farm. It was Thanksgiving, we had only been “official” for a few weeks, and he showed me the property his greatgrandfather bought and told me tales of how generations of his lineage lived off the land. We played hide and seek in the corn field with his nieces and nephews, walked through the apple orchard at sunset, and star-gazed on the old wooden swing set still standing strong by the pond. I remember all of it so vividly.

Kevin, did you always know that Melanie would become the woman she is today? Did you have that foresight or was this an expansion that you witnessed in real time with her? Honestly, I didn’t think much about what she would become, because everything that was happening was just so unreal, so fascinating, so...wild that I was always in the magic of the present moment. The things that would happen to us when she was there had never happened to me before, and it all just sort of became our lives. Every step of the way she’s been perfect for me. Had she stayed exactly the same as day one, that would have been perfect. It’s her values, morals, and heart that make her who she is. Those things have never changed, and those are what make her perfect.

Melanie, I know in my experience with self led clients and I am sure you have had this with your clients as well, there is a fear of outgrowing our partners because of the amount of personal growth we are exposed to. Did you ever worry about outgrowing your relationship and if so, how did you overcome that? If not, how did you ground that?

One of the greatest pearls of wisdom the pain from my past life taught me is that the focused fear on a certain outcome is one of the surest ways to call in the very experience we fear. I choose to live my life with the belief that everything could absolutely work out exactly the way I wish it could. And I do everything in my power to imagine that outcome and every detail about it as often as possible. After having lived some of the heartaches and pains I have lived in my life, I know for certain that if my idealistic dreams are to fall or crumble, I will be okay. I do not need to protect myself from the possibility of failure. If I believed that Kevin was incapable of growing with me, I would have to reevaluate my relationship entirely. But fear isn’t based on what we believe in, it’s based on the possibility that what we believe in that is beautiful may not come true.

I am so curious to know from the both of you what your personal challenges have been as Alpha Femme has taken off? Would you allow us to learn through your experiences?

The most challenging thing for me has been embracing the “behind the scenes” work. I had always been the face, the “frontman”, the talent, never venturing much into being the support-system. But when Melanie’s business took off, I felt the need for my role to become much more on the business side of things, the finances, the websites, the background work. It has been a massive learning curve for me to wear so many of these different hats, I’ve made many mistakes along the way, but the breadth of what I’ve learned in the last few years, taking on this challenge, has been life-changing.

My biggest challenge has been processing the dehumanization that has come from strangers on the internet. In the beginning stages, when a person I didn’t

know would find me online, more often than not, they would see me as they would see anyone else - just a person doing their best, hoping to succeed. For some, it was difficult to believe that I could ever make it. For others, they rooted for me as an underdog. I can’t say my encounters with new humans on the internet were always pleasant, but they were always human. As the success became unrealistic, it’s almost as though I became unreal. It felt as though I had transcended my humanity into an ideal or concept to be idolized or vilified. Being able to process this without letting it into my heart, my nervous system, my thoughts, or my fears has been the greatest challenge thus far.

I personally have a question that I have been aching to ask. This comes from my own experience of being the woman of my home, the partner to my husband and also the one who is the primary income earner and the shift in traditional dynamics. How have you navigated this in your life? I would love to know from both of you, has there ever been a time where this challenged you as the “man” and as the “woman” within your relationship?

Melanie and I have such a balanced dynamic in the masculine/feminine energies. We really flow well together. When one is in masculine, the other flows to the feminine, and vice versa. But I will say that I have had to adapt my “old school” way of thinking as Melanie has become so successful. My beliefs about a masculine foundation had to expand from what I can give, from just money to things like time, attention, orderliness, space, support, sustenance, compassion, and understanding. I truly feel this has expanded my capacity as a man and as a human.

I have never been in a relationship that fully aligned with the gender role concept. Ever since I was a little girl, I have taken on roles that “shouldn’t have been mine.”

I have contemplated these dynamics greatly since my “new beginning” in 2013. What I most desire in a relationship is to be the person I’ve always dreamed of being, loved and supported by a person who is also who they’ve always dreamed of being. If the reality of those dreams come true are compatible, that’s the dream relationship in my books. There are outside pressures and societal expectations that will probably always be there to poke their noses in, but I’ve broken just about every rule I’ve ever been given so it isn’t shocking to anyone who knows me when I defy societal constructs of this nature.

The way I see the two of you love, respect and support each other is nothing short of pure inspiration. Thank you for being such a gorgeous example of what this gets to be like for us! Kevin, what are some things you do for Melanie that allow you to care for her, have her drop into her feminine and have you rise into your masculine?

Truthfully, it is far less about the things I do and far more about the energy in which I do them. The moment Melanie has finished leading a call or a training is the moment I allow my masculine, giving energy to kick in because I know she’s just given her all for others and it’s time for her to be replenished. I like to be the structure-keeper in our relationship because she loves to break the rules. It actually creates quite a fun dynamic for us. (Well, me. Lol!) And I really try to focus on the little things she enjoys that inspire her: a coffee with a beautiful design on it, the way the food is displayed on the plate, a flower arrangement, or really just any creative display I can come up with. As in nature, the male prepares the nest and puts on a display so that the female will be smitten by him…that’s how I rise.

What is your greatest memory together?

There’s only one greatest memory for me and that is the moment Melanie said, “Yes!”. It was the most alive I’ve ever felt, and the happiest I’ve ever been in my life. I had just gotten the ring, the one she would never expect to get, and I just could not wait. As soon as I had that ring in my hand, I just had to ask her. She was coming back from a trip overseas and I was meeting her at the airport, but she didn’t know. I met her with a bouquet of flowers - 6 red for the 6 years we’d been together and 6 white for the 6 more decades I wanted to spend with her. As soon as I had her alone I popped the question…in the parking lot of the airport. Even just recalling it brings back so much happiness and excitement! That was the moment my dreams came true.

There are so many memories, it seems unfair to all the others to pick just one. (Plus I don’t like rules!) But…what I’ll share is a moment in which I felt like every reality I’ve ever lived converged into one dream come true. It was October 2022, and for our engagement anniversary, we decided to escape without anyone knowing whatsoever. Not our families, not our team, not our clients…nobody, as to not have to share this precious moment with anyone, to not be recognized at the airport, to not have our location leaked, or somehow bump into clients or followers on the street or at a cafe. Even though I rescheduled calls with my clients for a week, I kept them on my work calendar as a decoy. We rented a private jet, everything through text message, no email trail. And in the middle of the night we were picked up by a black SUV and driven directly onto the tarmac in Toronto and escorted onto the most beautiful jet. Just the two of us, destination…Paris.

Kevin, I have watched you rebrand and relaunch your incredible Effortless Alpha platform. The fact that you are leading men to be, do and have the type of fulfillment that you have led for yourself and your relationship is so necessary. Thank you for that. What are you most passionate about when you think of your vision? Thank you so much! What I am most passionate about is helping men get out of their own way, get free from the societal pressures of what men are “supposed” to be, and into what each man desires for himself. As we grow up, most of us lose the passions we had in order to fulfill the script that society, and the men before us, have written for us. And so many of us end up unhappy, living a life for someone else, but we do it because it’s what we believe is expected. It’s time to change that narrative. It’s time to honour individual masculinity and let men be who they want to be. Every man deserves to be happy in his own way…and I want to be the catalyst for that.

Melanie, you always surprise and delight us. I have been a student, a peer and a woman of gratitude for you for many years. Thank you for all you have done and continue to do. You are a blessing! Can we have a little sneak peak into what is in store for us within the future of Alpha Femme? In the Alpha Femme world...the sky isn’t even the limit. I have just pre-launched the NEXT level of my flagship offer! It will be launching to the public, officially, at the beginning of February. Although I enjoy mystery, it’s not always on purpose that I keep things a secret. Inspiration comes in a moment for me. What I can say is lean in, stay close, there’s never a dull moment! N CL I CK ER

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If there were one piece of advice you could leave us with to have a life, relationship and business that takes our breath away daily and soaks us in pleasure and fulfillment, what would that be?

Whatever you’re experiencing right now is not IT. There’s more. Each moment has the possibility to change. There’s more to come, something different is on the horizon. Now is not here forever. Something better is on the way if you truly believe it is.

Most of us run after our dreams with a childlike belief that we can have everything...we cannot have everything. But we can have anything. The difference between anything and everything is astronomical, and the understanding brings us to a very heightened acceptance and emotional and spiritual maturity. Anything can happen on any day. This means we must feel capable and prepared to experience highs and lows, good and bad, hard and easy, all on the same day. The closer together we can experience moments of joy and sadness, heartache and bliss, the more full our life can be. Let joy ruin your sadness, and don’t dismiss a joy that is interrupted by a moment of sadness either. All means all. This is how you truly have it...all.

Thank you to the both of you for raising the bar and standard that we get to hold for ourselves, our relationships and the way we lead our businesses. You really are the epitome of love, respect and generosity to your partnership and also in the way you share that with the world. I want to personally thank you for the influence and impact you have made on my life and my home. You have shown us that we get to be all of who we are destined to be while still holding connected partnerships and lives. This is really the north star for us all. I am truly grateful.

How to Build a Unicorn

WRITTEN BY PAIGE HULSE PAIGEHULSE.COM INSTAGRAM: @PAIGE.L.HULSE AND @CREATIVELAWSHOP

I was 10 when I asked my parents how to answer the question about “what they did”. As entrepreneurs, they laughed when I asked “who gave them that job”. My dad started his company with nothing but gumption. One investor recognized it, bet on him, and the rest is history. Gumption, and grit were my standard of normalcy. I learned firsthand the unpredictability of entrepreneurship in my family of entrepreneurs, as I watched my parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles (and later, my in-laws) start, build, sell, rinse and repeat. My dad’s industry is one of the most historically litigious, but I cannot remember a single time that my parents were worried or distracted about the legal side of business. Just as I was taught that entrepreneurship requires faith, I watched my dad always invest in the best attorneys, so that he had advocates in his corner. My first job as a lawyer was anything but glamorous, or comfortable. It was gritty. Think less “Suits”, and instead, picture oil stains on the floor from our clients’ boots. They were literally the boots on the ground in their industries. I was in the courtroom by week 1. It was the deep end. When there is no option other than to learn how to sink or swim, you learn to do the latter-fast. Little did I know how valuable that lesson would soon become. When I was finally finding my stride, the diagnosis of a lifethreatening illness burned my world down.

On paper, I was “on track” in this industry I had longed to be a part of for so many years. Privately, I was offered disability, and asked how I wanted to spend my “good” days. Until that question, I couldn’t hear, much less define that persistent voice of intuition I’d quietly pushed down. In the hospital bed, it became undeniably loud. It was time to turn away from the pride of “what was expected” in my industry, and chart a new course. The fullest form of realizing my passion for advocacy for entrepreneurs was by operating as the same. So I jumped, with no parachute. In one of the most traditional industries in the world, it looked crazy from the outside. I was a newlywed, had a high stack of medical bills, and had no choice but to learn how to build a“unicorn business” that could support both. And by doing so, I discovered an even deeper calling to help my clients do the same: build a business that opens the door to a freedom of lifestyle and charts a new course. Success on your own terms?

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How do you build a “unicorn”? Then do it again? I recently spoke with a colleague who has done this 18 times. Each of these were “unicorns” in that they stood out in a saturated market, or were a diamond in the rough in an overlooked market. The only constant to entrepreneurship is the inevitable ebb and flow. The dynamic entrepreneur knows that the truly strategic business model has a protected and strong foundation, is equipped to be flexible in shifting markets, is capable of zigging when everyone else is zagging, and can be sold. (Right now, you may think you never want to sell your business, but at some point, you will exit it. Best to do so in a way that creates generational wealth for your family). So, how did my colleague, and so many like them, create an iconic, sellable business again and again? With this replicable model: 1. Build a business that can be acquired 2. Become an expert in leveraging and monetizing your intellectual property 3. Keep an eye on overlooked, tried and true industries

01 Build a business that can be acquired We’ve all heard that “every business should be built to be sellable”, but what does that actually mean?

The most astounding display of entrepreneurial ingenuity I see is found in those who start with an exit strategy. This expansive view of entrepreneurship allows for the true intersection of life and business. Many hear “exit strategy” and jump to complex, abstract financial questions. Start simple: Do you (literally) have an entity that can be sold? For example, do you have a service-based side of the business, as well as a product or course? Take advantage of your win-win opportunity. My law firm, and The Creative Law Shop® are examples of this. Once I knew they could exist, and grow on their own, I separated the entities (and liability), then capitalized on tax opportunities, which raised the value of the entities. The entities own their respective intellectual property, and one could be sold without harming the other.

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Focus on what attracts purchasers. A purchasing party wants to know that if they acquired your company today, it wouldn’t need you tomorrow. Particularly in the world of online business, the bulk of negotiations revolve around placing a value on the intangibles - the value of the email list, the social following, and the intellectual property owned by the company. The latter is where the magic can be made.

02 Become an expert in leveraging and monetizing your intellectual property

When tasked with differentiating the business from its crowded field, he didn’t engage in the same competition as his peers (this was in the midst of the Dot Com boom of the early 2000’s, when the industry was fixated on the newest inventions). Instead, he looked at the untapped potential of assets the company already had. Namely, the untapped potential of the company’s intellectual property, and business opportunities (licensing deals and assignments) that had been overlooked in corporate strategy, “collecting dust”. He recognized that as business in the digital age shifted from a competition of control of markets or materials, the rights to “new ideas and innovations” was the new frontier. And he capitalized on that opportunity. By registering, and then licensing the company’s already existing intellectual

property, this CEO managed to create a recurring net revenue increase of 3,300% in (largely) free cash flow. A concept brilliant in its simplicity, it's a strategy that can (and should) be replicated by small businesses. This opportunity exists today in a way not seen since the digitization boom of the 2000’s, thanks to the rise of AI. Entrepreneurs, take note: Right now, the law is uncertain about what intellectual property can be registered if the work is even partially created by AI. Many are creating assets of value that can't even be owned. As more businesses utilize AI to create their IP, founders who create assets they can actually own are creating gold mines for themselves. How valuable can your company be when you’re one of the few who can actually own what you’re creating? Leverage and monetize intellectual property opportunities The beautiful thing about intellectual property is that it’s an asset inherently created just by doing business. You own your IP once you register it. Registration automatically increases the bottom line of a business’ value- you’ve cut down your business’ liability, and created an asset that can be sold (more true than ever, as the US is running out of trademarks). Even easier? Find licensing opportunities for your registrations- if someone wants to use a variation of that trademark, copyright, etc, license out those rights for a fee.

Stay (professionally) focused on what your competitors are focused on. Instead of worrying about being copied, flip the script, and leverage it- negotiating licensing deals with competitors is one of the easiest ways to land licensing deals, and open the door to a merger or acquisition.

One of my clients gets invited to conferences globally, to tell the story of the hugely successful business she built. Audiences are (rightfully) fascinated with her scalable business model. The real story happened behind the scenes. She monetized and leveraged every piece of intellectual property she created, and actually created licensing deals from her IP that generate more income than the product she’s known for. With that income, she invested in a car wash. And then a landscaping company. Nothing exciting, but after 7 similar moves, she is now a passive investor, focusing her time on her family. Investing in and building businesses when she chooses, but it's just that- a choice. When a recession or pandemic hits, she still has a security net. She’s doing exactly what I watched growing upshe’s diversifying, so that she can ride out the waves of entrepreneurship. A new era of entrepreneurship is here- at the same time that AI is changing the landscape of intellectual property strategy, a generation of entrepreneurs are retiring. The truly iconic entrepreneur is positioning their business behind the scenes to not just endure, but to capitalize on these opportunities.

Think outside the box: how can you diversify?

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Traditionally, when we think of Matchmaking, we think of uniting people for romantic relationships. Singles meeting singles, friends introducing friends, coworkers with a single friend that would "be perfect for you", and more. However, we are matchmakers for a new paradigm, which sets a benchmark for partnerships crafted to leave a lasting imprint. Enter the world of Philanthropic Matchmaking…

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Our mission is to align brands with distinctive nonprofits to catalyze change and maximize impact for all. Our matchmaking process is as rare and unique as you and your company. Heart-led businesses create their companies to bring change to the world and leave a legacy. With us as your Philanthropic Matchmaker, we engage alongside you to expand that legacy beyond the brand itself. We are dedicated to understanding your vision and possess the passion and expertise to bring it to life. Our approach is a symphony of research, networking, and strategy that intertwines seamlessly to realize daring goals. In a world where magic happens when people with big dreams come together, Philanthropic Matchmaker is the embodiment of the power of two or more individuals collaborating for the betterment of the world! I dare you to explore creating the change you want to see. We challenge you to shift your perspective from making blind donations to nonprofits to being educated and empowered on where your resources are going. There are endless ways to create contributions, and together, we'll help you tailor these efforts to reflect your unique impact and vision.

“PHILANTHROPIC MATCHMAKER” IS A NEW TERM, BUT WE’VE BEEN PUTTING IT INTO ACTION FOR YEARS. As our brand becomes more recognized, I've collected some frequently asked questions that I'd love to answer and share below. SO, WHAT EXACTLY PHILANTHROPIC MATCHMAKING?

It's the art of aligning companies, visionaries, and family offices with distinctive nonprofits to create change and amplify impacts they want to see in the world. Our process ensures that clients authentically join forces with non-profits where they witness and relish in the tangible impact of their partnership. DOES A COMPANY OR FAMILY OFFICE NEED TO BE A CERTAIN SIZE TO WORK WITH A PHILANTHROPIC MATCHMAKER? Absolutely not. No one is ever too small if your goal is to make a meaningful impact! You just need to start. Some of our best clients are small businesses that want to strategically plant their seed with giveback initiatives early on in their growth strategy so they can scale together.

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WHEN COMPANIES ALIGN WITH THE RIGHT PHILANTHROPIC PARTNER, WHAT BENEFITS HAVE YOU SEEN? WE HAVE SEEN COUNTLESS BENEFITS FOR OUR CLIENTS AND NON-PROFITS. A FEW OF MY FAVORITES INCLUDE: Increased community engagement, amplifying brand awareness.

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Establishing a culture that is charged with excitement as founders and team members discover a new level of joy in their work; they show up not just for their “everyday job” but as contributors giving back and making a tangible impact. Fulfillment of creative ideas as they come to fruition, creating a visible impact. Clients find purpose in selecting to spend their money with your company/brand. Clarity on where your contributions go and the initiatives you support is a powerful tool. Sharing this knowledge with the community adds a new depth to creating a better world. Generating a legacy that extend beyond your brand.

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Jen has built multi seven figure businesses globally as well as supporting her clients to create over thirty million dollars in sales through her wisdom, experience and leadership. Her strategic and energetic approach matched with her leadership expertise is unmatched within the marketplace. Acquire business advice, new insights and contemplations through Jen’s monthly Iconic Thought that will support your next level growth within business.

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THOUGHT WRITTEN BY JEN SZPIGIEL EDITOR IN CHIEF AND FOUNDER OF BECOMING ICONIC

I have big goals and most are not centered around my personal revenue or KPIs or all the things that we normally quantify. My personal goal is to help as many entrepreneurs as I possibly can to break their glass ceiling and seize their greatest fulfillment. To have the audacity to do it for themselves, their families, their communities and the world at large. From the depths of my soul, I desire for more good, loving and visionary leaders to stand in wealth and fulfillment so we actually change the world for the better. The ingredients of who you will become, the clients you will transform and the impact you share through acts of generosity, will leave an imprint and legacy.

I am so passionate about this topic because many of the successful entrepreneurs I work with become comfortable in gratitude and so they flatline at multi six figure years. Believe it or not, but gratitude used in the incorrect way can become your greatest excuse and hindrance to growth. It stems from shame, guilt and a fear of holding more success. Isn't that an interesting concept to consider? I personally had this realization four years ago when I was pivoting. I had stayed in a business for far too long because I felt I should be more grateful for what I had. I was making more money than anyone I knew and so I decided that being grateful for what I had was the antidote for the ache in my soul for something more. I was making consistent twenty-thirty thousand dollars a month but my spirit was unfulfilled and I was out of alignment. I couldn’t understand why I wouldn’t be happy and grateful for what I had when it was what most people dream of and so I excused my desire for more by using gratitude. I forced it in a way.

It is important that you know I teach and stand for obsessive gratitude. I believe gratitude is imperative to fulfillment and soaking in the beauty of life. Gratitude has taught me presence and has given me celebration and personal acknowledgement within my journey that has been some of my best memories. The tricky part is we can also use it to hold ourselves back or excuse ourselves from next level growth. With my own personal realization of how I was using gratitude to stay safe, I started to notice the gaps within my leadership and relationship with wealth. Revealing these blocks shattered my glass ceiling in real time and I leapt into my million dollar era.

Similarly to toxic positivity, we can misuse gratitude. I witness clients often restricting themselves through statements such as “I am so blessed” or “this is what I once dreamt of” while simultaneously desiring more from their life and business. The recognition of this type of limiting behavior can be one of the greatest breakthroughs someone can have. Taking ownership and responsibility for the big vision I had for my life and realizing how I had boxed myself in “this should be enough” was suffocating and depleting. I own it. My hope is that you start to see it for yourself and break free into abundance, expansion and exhausting all your potential within this lifetime. Gratitude, like anything, can be twisted. A deep appreciation for what is and what has been does not need to hold you back from what is possible. You were born worthy, capable and available to all the greatness you see for yourself. You won’t hurt anyone by becoming the fullest version of yourself but you may hurt yourself by staying the same. Allow gratitude to spark celebration for all of your successes and yet hold yourself accountable to the tugs upon your heart and spirit for more.

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n a delightful quest to uncover the magic of first encounters, we asked our readers to share their most memorable first date stories. The response was a heartwarming collection of tales that remind us of the beauty and excitement that a first date can hold. From serendipitous meetings to shared passions igniting a spark, these stories, shared by our very own readers, celebrate the joy, connection, and sometimes unexpected turns that pave the way to romance.

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Instead of the quick coffee we had planned, he suggested we take a walk around the city, and I found myself eagerly agreeing. As we wandered, our conversation flowed effortlessly. We explored charming bookshops, laughing and sharing our favorite stories, feeling like we were uncovering hidden treasures with each step. Then, as if by fate, we stumbled upon a vibrant street fair. The music was infectious, and soon we found ourselves dancing in the street, lost in the moment and in each other. It was spontaneous and magical, like something out of a movie.

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I remember walking into the coffee shop to meet Jack, expecting nothing more than the usual first date pleasantries. But from the moment we said hello, there was this undeniable spark between us, a connection that felt both exciting and comfortably familiar.

As evening fell, we ended up at this quaint bistro. Over a candlelit dinner, our chat deepened, and I felt a connection I hadn’t experienced in a long time. It was in those moments, sharing stories and dreams under the warm glow of the candles, that I realized this was the start of something truly special.

A Flavorful First Encounter WRITTEN BY LARA S.

Walking into that cooking class, I had no idea I was about to meet Marissa and whip up more than just a gourmet meal. I was nervous, fidgeting with my apron, but then she walked in, and suddenly the room felt like the right place to be. We paired up almost by accident, starting off with shy smiles and cautious "hellos." But as we got into the rhythm of the class, chopping and stirring, something just clicked between us. We found ourselves laughing over our clumsy chopping skills and bonding over our love for Italian cuisine. Marissa had this easy way of making conversation, a natural warmth that turned our cooking tasks into moments of genuine connection. We tasted our creations, playfully arguing over who added too much salt, and with each shared laugh, I felt a pull towards her that went beyond our shared love of food. By the end of the class, we had not only prepared a delicious meal but also laid the foundation for something special. It wasn't just the joy of cooking together; it was the realization that we were better together, like two perfect ingredients in a favorite recipe. That evening marked the beginning of 'us.' It started in a cooking class but grew into something far more fulfilling. Looking back, I realize that the best recipes are the ones that come unexpectedly, just like the surprise of finding love when you least expect it.

And They Lived Happily Ever After These enchanting first date stories are reminders of the limitless potential each first encounter holds. Whether it’s an impromptu adventure, a shared passion, a culinary escapade, or a fortunate twist of fate, the best first dates are those where the connection is natural, the laughter is easy, and the possibilities seem endless. In the unpredictable world of dating, sometimes all it takes is one date, one moment, for two paths to converge into one love story.

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We reached out to our readers to share their most unforgettable dating disasters, and the responses were as cringe-worthy as they were eye-opening. From the awkward to the outright bizarre, these first date stories are just a snippet of what we received. Get ready to laugh, sympathize, and maybe even learn a thing or two from these real-life romantic misadventures.

Sarah's anticipation for her dinner date with Mike was like the buildup to a gourmet meal, but what unfolded was more akin to a recipe for disaster. The evening started on a peculiar note when Mike, assuming the role of a culinary dictator, ordered for both of them. He didn't just pick the dishes; he embarked on a gastronomic journey of the most expensive items, all without consulting Sarah's tastes or preferences. As the courses arrived, so did tales of Mike's financial escapades and professional conquests. Each anecdote was served with a side of arrogance, leaving a bitter taste that no fine wine could mask. Sarah, who expected a dialogue, found herself an unwilling audience to a one-man show of self-adulation. The final course of this ill-fated culinary experience came with the bill. Mike, who had orchestrated the evening's lavish menu, casually suggested they split the cost. It was the cherry on top of a rather unpalatable evening. Sarah, feeling more like she'd been audited than courted, decided that this was one menu she wouldn't be revisiting. The evening was less 'fine dining' and more a lesson in dining finesse that Mike had yet to learn.

Lilly's coffee date with Melissa started as a picture of potential – two lattes, a cozy café corner, and a spark of mutual interest. However, it didn't take long for the date to take a turn into what felt like an episode of a daytime TV therapy show. Melissa, seemingly a graduate of the school of oversharing, began to sprinkle casual mentions of her ex into the conversation. These mentions quickly snowballed into a full-blown monologue, transforming their light-hearted chat into a deep dive into Melissa's romantic history. As Melissa dissected her previous relationship, chapter by chapter, Lilly found herself cast in the unlikely role of a therapist. She navigated her way through Melissa's emotional baggage, complete with detailed flashbacks and heartfelt monologues about lost love. Lilly, who had signed up for a date, not a therapy session, couldn't help but wonder if she should start charging for her time. The more Melissa shared, the more Lilly's role as a potential partner faded into the background, replaced by the ghost of Melissa's past relationship. By the end of the date, Lilly had learned more about Melissa's ex than about Melissa herself. It was an unexpected journey – one that left Lilly with a newfound appreciation for the art of tactful conversation and the importance of leaving exes where they belong: in the past.

Dana's dinner date with Alex had all the makings of a modern romantic comedy, except the comedy was unintentional and the romance was, well, absent. As they sat down for what Dana hoped would be an evening of engaging conversation, Alex unveiled the true love of his life – his cellphone. Throughout dinner, Alex's devotion to his digital companion was unyielding. His fingers danced across the screen with the grace of a pianist, swiping through social media with the focus of a surgeon. Dana, meanwhile, found herself in an unwelcome competition with an array of pixels for Alex's fleeting attention. To add insult to injury, Alex wasn't just perusing social media – he was actively scrolling through dating apps! Dana watched, a mix of amusement and disbelief, as Alex 'liked' and 'noped' his way through potential matches, seemingly forgetting that he was currently on a real-life date. Dana couldn't help but wonder if she should take a selfie just to capture Alex’s attention. The evening quickly turned into a masterclass on how not to behave on a date. As she sipped her wine and watched Alex continue his digital escapades, Dana mused that maybe next time she'd just bring her own phone for company – or better yet, a date who knew the art of conversation didn't involve a touchscreen.

David’s coffee date with Mark had all the potential of a charming get-to-know-you session, until it morphed into a live broadcast of Mark’s personal diary. From the moment they settled in with their cappuccinos, Mark took the stage as the solo performer in a one-man show titled "Too Much Information."

As Mark delved into the nitty-gritty of his life, sparing no detail, David found himself navigating through an emotional minefield. The tales ranged from Mark’s digestive troubles last summer to his existential crises at work, complete with a dramatic reenactment of his last breakup – tears and all. It was like a soap opera, but with less glamour and more discomfort. David, who had come prepared with polite questions about hobbies and favorite movies, found himself unwittingly cast as the lead audience member in the saga of Mark’s life. Each story left David wondering if there was a hidden camera somewhere or if he'd accidentally signed up for a therapy session instead of a date. As the stories grew more personal and the details more vivid, David's coffee grew cold, much like his interest in a second date. By the end of the hour, he knew more about Mark’s life than he did about some of his closest friends. David left the coffee shop feeling like he had just binge-watched an entire season of Mark’s life story, and all he’d wanted was a nice chat and perhaps a little flirtation. Next time, he mused, he’d just bring a book – at least that way, the drama would be contained to the pages.

--While these first date stories might make us cringe, they remind us of the unpredictable nature of dating. Each story holds lessons about respect, communication, and the importance of mutual interest and consideration. Remember, a first date might not always lead to a romantic story, but it can certainly offer insights and sometimes, a good laugh about the complexities of finding love.

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February is a period of reflection and education during Black History Month. It's a pivotal opportunity for parents to engage in meaningful conversations with their children about race, diversity, and inclusion. Literature can be a powerful tool in this journey, providing age-appropriate ways for young minds to understand and appreciate the richness of diversity. In this article, we present a curated list of book recommendations, perfect for sparking thoughtful discussions between parents and children about these important topics.

The Colors of Us by Karen Katz This book is an excellent introduction to the concept of race and diversity for younger children. It celebrates the different skin tones people have, comparing them to various shades of foods and natural elements, in a simple, relatable manner.

Let's Talk About Race by Julius Lester Lester's book is a straightforward, engaging conversation starter about race. It emphasizes that while everyone is unique, many things bring us together. It’s a great pick for parents who want to introduce the concept of race and its role in society in an accessible way.

Sulwe by Lupita Nyong'o This beautifully illustrated book tells the story of a young girl who learns to appreciate her dark skin. It is a powerful story about colorism and self-esteem.

All Are Welcome by Alexandra Penfold and Suzanne Kaufman This book is a celebration of diversity, showcasing a school where children of all races, religions, and backgrounds are welcome. It’s an excellent resource for teaching children about inclusiveness and acceptance.

Hair Love by Matthew A. Cherry by Julius Lester This charming book tells the story of a father trying to do his daughter's hair for the first time. It’s a heartwarming story that celebrates natural hair and the relationship between fathers and daughters.

These books offer a range of perspectives on race and diversity, providing a valuable resource for parents to initiate and navigate conversations with their children about these vital issues. By introducing young minds to these themes through literature, we can foster understanding, respect, and appreciation for diversity from an early age. This February, let's take the opportunity to educate and inspire the next generation to build a more inclusive and empathetic world.

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FROM REHAB TO SPEAKING ON STAGES WITH VASAVI KUMAR Jen welcomes Vasavi Kumar, the author of "Say It Out Loud," who emphasizes the power of using one's voice. The discussion delves into the courage needed to express opinions boldly and the importance of being seen and heard. Vasavi shares her extraordinary journey, from childhood challenges in an all-white town to overcoming addiction and bipolar disorder to rediscovering her superpower—her voice. The conversation touches on authenticity, the struggle with imposter syndrome, and the ongoing practice of self-trust.

HAPPY NEW YEAR VISION + INTENTION Ignite the year with a quest for trust and self-awareness as we delve into the journey of setting goals for the coming months. Embrace a call to action, aligning personal aspirations with emotions. Grant yourself the grace to navigate the new year without a rigid January 1st vision, fostering openness to expansion and embracing opportunities as they unfold. Explore the synergy between lifestyle and business, and nurture the energy of each moment for continual growth.

HOW TO RAISE YOUR STANDARDS FOR YOU AND YOUR CLIENTS In this episode, we discuss how to raise your standards for you and your clients. The conversation revolves around the importance of holding the standard of excellence, finding power and confidence in conversations, and navigating the intricate balance of time, energy, and trust in business. The episode shares a personal story of the biggest betrayal in business and the invaluable lesson learned. Emphasizing that the heart can't always lead in business, it encourages listeners to maintain a standard of excellence, providing examples of what to avoid. The episode concludes with insights on empowering sales calls and the notion that there's no need to lower the bar; instead, rise to the occasion of the potential within.

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