How to Tackle Back to School Blues

While some may be excited to come back to school after being gone for two months, many students and staff are facing the back-to-school blues, as they struggle to get back into the early morning, all day, everyday schedules. Back to school is a time of transition and can bring on fears for many students. They must now contend with the stark reality that life is not a long vacation. The ones who had friendship troubles at the end of the school year may find themselves endlessly pondering how to manage now that they will see them again, wondering if they will be in the same class as those with whom they had conflict or will they be in the same class with their besties. Some are already worrying about teachers, making friends, and about homework even before the first lesson is taught.

You may not know what your child is going through without communication and paying attention to behaviour. In the early weeks after students start getting back into the routine of coming to school, keep the lines of communication open so you will know how they are coping. If students are worried about school, help calm their fears by listening, show them you are interested, as you try to understand and validate their concerns/feelings. An adult sharing a past experience when they experienced fear about something new can help to normalize these feelings and provide a good opportunity to strengthen connection and communication skills between adult and child. Parents should not forget to talk about how things are going socially, not just academically. Always encourage a positive mindset.

Anxiety about school can manifest in multiple ways. Look out for signs such as constant tears, uncharacteristically avoidance about school or school activities, especially when they are usually excited. Empower students by reminding them they are strong and can push through their fears by challenging their anxious thoughts. Remind them of a time when they showed courage and were able to overcome their fears. Remind them they are brave. Always address the emotion they shared so they feel heard. It is through communication that you will be able to ascertain between normal worry versus severe anxiety.

Creating a routine adds structure to the day, helps children feel safe and increases productivity. It also helps our mental health and well-being as it leads to a reduction in stress levels. Consider engaging your child when you create a routine and set expectations, so they know what to expect in their day, when to prep for school, do homework, relax, sleep, etc. If you meet resistance, encourage your child to accept and embrace change. Let them know they are not alone and be flexible to change things up, as required.

Antoinette Morgan, MA, MSW, BSW, RSW

Director of Student Well-Being

Mental Health Supports:

Kids Help Phone: Kidshelpphone.ca or 1(800)668-6868 for 24/7 support for children and youth

Find a therapist: Psychologytoday.com

Book Recommendation:

“Drop the Worry Ball: How to Parent in the age of entitlement” by Alex Russell with Tim Falconer

“What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Anxiety” by Dawn Huebner, PhD, Illustrated by Bonnie Matthews