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Raised in Dayton, Larry Roberts hopes The Faces of Israel provides an understanding of Israeli diversity between 1982 and 2015.

By Marshall Weiss, The Observer Over Larry Roberts' 50-year career in photojournalism, he's worked for United Press International, Agence France-Presse, The Blade in Toledo, and the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette, from which he retired in 2018.

And he shot thousands of phoPhotojournalist Larry Roberts tos of daily life in Israel. Raised

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Larry Roberts

'A mother speaks to her fallen son in 1998 at a military cemetery in Tel Aviv during the 50th anniversary commemoration of the creation of the State of Israel.'

Larry Roberts

Continued from Page Three PLO Chairman Yasser Arafat at the signing of the Oslo Accords.

It was in 1996 — a year after Rabin's assassination — when Roberts was back in Israel to photograph that anniversary that he first conceived of a book of his Israel photos.

Hebrew Union College Press in Cincinnati published that book, The Faces of Israel: a Conversation by Larry Roberts, in October. HUC Press selected 100 of his black-and-white Israel photos from 1982 to 2015 for the volume.

The Faces of Israel, he tells The Observer, is not about the conflict.

"I'm about the people living together, which they were back in the '80s when I lived there and for most of the time thereafter," he says via phone from Pittsburgh.

"I had very good access to an Arab village (Deir al-Asad), because we had very good friends there. There's a good selection of the ultra-Orthodox life, people on the street, from elections, the election of Rabin, back to when Yitzhak Shamir was campaigning in the '80s."

For each photo in the book, Roberts, 72, wrote a caption about the subjects' lives.

He hopes The Faces of Israel will give Americans an understanding of the Israeli people, "be they Arabs, Jewish, Christians, that they get an understanding of how people lived a daily life during that time period, prior to what we're seeing now."

He calls the book a historical document. "People don't live this way anymore. This was roughly when they signed the peace treaty, Rabin and Arafat. There was great hope at the time. I hope it gives an understanding of what Israelis are supposed to be: not Jews, not Arabs, not Christians — but Israelis."

Born in Queens, N.Y., Roberts' family moved to Dayton when he was a boy. His father went to work for Arthur Beerman and then owned pharmacies on Dayton's West Side.

Roberts' parents, the late Francine and Irwin Roberts, joined Beth Abraham Synagogue. Larry's brother and sister-in-law, Jeff and Connie Roberts, are active members there.

"One of the things that brought me more or less into religion was going to Saturday morning (children's) services, which were always led by Dr. Lenny Spialter," he says. "His son is one of my oldest friends."

Roberts says his upbringing didn't emphasize Zionism.

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'Come with me and rejoice in the Sabbath, the Chasid said on a Friday evening in 1998 to the two men who had plunked themselves down on an Allenby Street bench. They chose to pass on his offer.'

particularly Israeli."

What got him hooked on Israel, he says, was his first taste of hummus, from a Sunday school teacher who brought in a can for her class to try. "I loved that. And then right about that time, we had Shlomo Carlebach come (to Beth Abraham and the Jewish Center campus). He was just great."

When Roberts graduated from Meadowdale High School in 1970, he began college at Kent State a few months after the shootings.

"We were always worried what was going to happen," he says. "We had a lot of demonstrations. But some of that is what got me into photojournalism rather than photo illustration, which was what I went there for. I just got more motivated by photographing news than photographing objects."

He learned about the outbreak of the Yom Kippur War in October 1973 when he was at Kent State's Hillel for services.

"Somebody was operating a shortwave set on the third floor of the Hillel building and came down and announced there was a war in Israel," he recalls.

At that point, Roberts was a staffer for the Daily Kent Stater and a photographer for the university's yearbook. "Even though it was Yom Kippur, we left. We walked over to the journalism build-

ing and I flipped on the United Press International wire and we started to get information." He helped raise money for Israel on campus and in Kent.

"Then we celebrated the end of the war, and I had a much better feeling for Israel."

Roberts also had friends who went to Israel; some made aliyah. He and Sherri took their first trip there in 1979.

"By the second day, I told my wife, 'We're going to move here.'"

They made aliyah in 1982. Roberts found work as a photographer and coordinator for foreign communications with the University of Haifa. His wife was an educator with the Health Ministry in Nazareth.

"And we said more and more, we're staying. The only reason we came back was medical."

This summer will mark 50 years since his brother Jeff donated a kidney for his transplant.

"The nephrologist (in Israel) told us to go back to the United States because they couldn't offer me any dialysis I needed. More and more I wanted to go back. And unfortunately, I could only go back on basic trips.

"We couldn't get medical insurance there. This is my indictment of the Israeli medical system. It was very dis-

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'In the Galilee village of Deir al-Asad in 1984, a young boy displays his disappointment when all the older children ran down the road to play, telling him he was too slow to keep up with them.'

Photos by Larry Roberts

appointing, but I accepted that, and just kept going back and shooting pictures."

Roberts' most recent trip was in 2015 for a project funded by the Pulitzer Center on the 20th anniversary of Yitzhak Rabin's assassination. His assignment was to conduct follow-up interviews with Israelis he and another reporter

had interviewed in 1998 for the 50th anniversary of the birth of the state.

"There weren't that many of those people left," he says. "So we were tweaking the project at that time because Israel was under the knife attacks, where they were stabbing people, and it had become a little more complicated to live there."

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Above: Rabbi Tina Sobo of Temple Israel read books about Chanukah to children with United Rehabilitation Services Youth Services Group and taught them about Chanukah menorahs and dreidels.

Above: Leora Sherman, daughter of Mike and Marcie Sherman, takes in Chabad's menorah lighting at The Greene.

Members of Temple Anshe Emeth in Piqua kindle the lights at their annual latke party.

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Left: Beth Abraham Synagogue congregants light their Chanukah menorahs after a kosher Chinese dinner.

Ethan (L) and Eric Zied pack lunches for St. Vincent De Paul's shelters as part of Jewish Family Services' Mitzvah Mission, Dec. 25.

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While supporters praise it, some parents say their kids have been bullied for not participating, and point to school day disruption.

Based in Hilliard, LifeWise Academy is a religious instruction Gov. Mike DeWine program that started in 2019 and now enrolls 50,000 students signed House Bill 8 into across 29 states, including about 160 Ohio school districts. law Jan. 8, a bill that mandates Ohio school districts to have bill was specifically passed for Lifea religious release time policy. The law Wise,” said Zachary Parrish, a parent takes effect in April. The state’s current who had LifeWise file a lawsuit against law permits such a policy, but this will him. “LifeWise is the one lobbying for now require one. this bill.”

LifeWise Academy, a Hilliard-based LifeWise Founder and CEO Joel religious instruction program, enrolls Penton testified in support of the 50,000 students across 29 states — inreligious release time legislation at the cluding about 160 Ohio school districts.

Ohio Statehouse and celebrated the bill “LifeWise is just going to explode in signing.

Ohio,” said Rachel Snell, a former Life“We will continue to get the word Wise volunteer. out about LifeWise, encourage famiThe organization already has seen lies to learn more about the benefits of an enormous financial windfall. The enrolling their children in our program Columbus Dispatch reported Jan. 14 that and work with communities who want LifeWise netted a profit of over $17.2 LifeWise to ensure the program is sucmillion in its most recent IRS filing, up cessfully implemented,” Penton said in from $4.3 million the year before. an email.

While religious organizations like the A main critique of LifeWise that was Center for Christian Virtue praise Lifebrought up during opponent testimony Wise, some parents criticize it — sayat the Statehouse was why can’t they ofing their children have been ostracized fer programming before or after school? and bullied for not taking part in it and “Holding LifeWise during school their education has suffered due to the hours makes it easier for them to indisruption during the school day. corporate faith into their child’s day,” “They’re going to take over (Ohio Penton said. “Further, kids benefit from Continued on Page Eight school districts), for sure, because this

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Continued from Page Seven the Bible’s character lessons, which encourages good behavior during the school day.”

The United States Supreme Court upheld release time laws in the 1952 Zorach v. Clauson case, which allowed a school district to have students leave school for part of the day to receive religious instruction.

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“She was told she was going to hell,” he said.

Penton, however, said students who attend LifeWise are “more cooperative, engaged and better behaved.”

Parrish now lives in Fort Wayne, Ind. His daughter was a second-grader in Defiance City Schools in 2021.

Coming off the heels of remote learning due to the COVID pandemic, his daughter was struggling to read and he opted not to send his daughter to LifeWise.

“I knew immediately my daughter wasn’t going to that because we’re not Christian,” he said.

“I’m not going to send her to a program with people I don’t know during school. That’s crazy to me.”

Parrish’s daughter, along with the other students who didn’t attend LifeWise, were called “LifeWise leftovers.”

When her classmates would go to their weekly LifeWise classes, she went to a study hall in the gym to work independently.

“Why is my daughter being deprived of her educational time for this program?” Parrish said.

LifeWise filed a lawsuit against Parrish over the summer for copyright infringement, claiming he uploaded and shared LifeWise’s instructional materials.

“They were worried people were going to start their own program with their material,” Parrish said.

He filled out LifeWise’s application to be a volunteer which gave him access to their internal documents and curriculum, so he shared them online.

The lawsuit was recently settled.

“We dropped the lawsuit because Parrish has agreed to remove full versions of LifeWise curriculum from Facebook and elsewhere and will not distribute full copies,” Penton said.

LifeWise must now give access to its complete and current curriculum to anyone who requests it. However, LifeWise will only make the curriculum available for 48 hours at a time, but there is no limit on how many times the curriculum can be requested.

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Parrish said the settlement was a good win.

“The main thing was always that we wanted parents to be able to read the curriculum,” he said. “Before I posted it, they weren’t letting anybody see it.”

Eaton Schools

Eaton Community Schools in Preble County had an afterschool LifeWise program for three years, Rachel Snell said.

“It was very hush-hush,” Snell said, recalling how people would cringe when she said she volunteered at Eaton. “I felt like the illegitimate child that we actually don’t talk about at all.”

She volunteered with the LifeWise program in Eaton Schools for a year and a half and one of her children attended their LifeWise program.

LifeWise tried to transition to during the school day last spring, but the district’s school board did not want it during the day so the district’s program ended in the spring, she said.

“Eaton was an experimental program which helped us develop the model we have today,” Penton said. “We do not

have any before or after school programs.”

Even though Snell supports religious release time, she wrote a letter to DeWine asking him to veto H.B. 8.

“I don’t think we need a new law,” she said. “I don’t think that LifeWise is the program that I want doing all of them.”

Ashland Schools

Ashland City Schools has had LifeWise in their district for about three and a half years and about 300 elementary and middle school students attend LifeWise classes. The district doesn’t offer it at the high school level.

“The piece that is missing in public school is we don’t offer a class that you can have those conversations that you’re loved by a higher power, and those real kind of spiritual conversations that you have to kind of shy away from,” said Ashland City School Superintendent Steve Paramore. “Religious release time, I believe, can fill that void.”

Kindergarten through fifth grade students typically attend LifeWise during their library and STEMM special class and the middle school students attend LifeWise during their lunch time, he said.

LifeWise has positively impacted Ashland Schools, Paramore claimed.

“I do believe that the students that have attended do come back relatively excited

'These girls are pressured to try to get other kids to join, so now my kids are asked to proselytize'

about the time that they spent there,” he said. “We’ve not seen any adverse situations.

To me, it’s a win-win situation, and they’ve been nothing but a benefit to our district.”

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Two of Dawne Knoch Anthony’s daughters attend LifeWise classes, but neither of them want to go. Knoch Anthony doesn’t even want her daughters to go, but her exhusband gave his permission for the girls to go to LifeWise, so they attend LifeWise’s weekly class at a nearby church.

“If they want to go, that would be one thing,” Knoch Anthony said.

LifeWise said they accept permission slips from either the custodial parent or the legal guardian of the student.

“In the case of a split custody arrangement, LifeWise accepts the permission slip from either parent,” Penton said.

“Just like any other extracurricular activity, LifeWise leaves it to the parents to decide if their child will attend.”

Knoch Anthony has a sixth grader and a fourth grader in Fredericktown Local Schools in Knox County. The sixth grader goes to LifeWise during her study hall and the fourth grader goes during one of her recesses.

“We don’t want (LifeWise) to disrupt our children’s school day, and that’s what (LifeWise is) doing,” Knoch Anthony said. “These girls are pressured to try to get other kids to join, so now my kids are asked to proselytize, and that’s not part of the school day.”

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The Friends of Zion Museum in Jerusalem — a Christian Zionist organization — hosted an event Jan. 20 to mark Donald Trump's inauguration as U.S. president.

By Deborah Danan, JTA JERUSALEM — With an evangelical pastor’s arm around his shoulders, Yehudah Glick recited the Jewish priestly blessing on Jan. 20 to a crowd in Jerusalem.

“The one thing we want to see Trump bring into (the presidency) is the concept of God,” said Glick, a rabbi who served in Israel’s parliament as part of the conservative Likud Party. He called on the new president to ensure that “the friendship between Israel and the evangelical community be strengthened, and stronger than ever before.”

Then, to a smattering of applause, he delivered another quote from the Bible: “Zion will be a house of prayer for all nations.”

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Polls show that a large majority of Israelis welcome Trump’s return to office, and some of his most enthusiastic fans in the country were on hand for this event. It was held at the Friends of Zion Museum in Jerusalem’s downtown, an institution Evans founded to highlight the contributions of Christian Zionists, and held jointly by the museum and ILTV, an Israeli English-language television station.

Organizers said a thousand people turned up for the event, which was titled Congratulations Donald Trump, Israel loves you. American fare, including donuts, was served, and attendees received MAGA-inspired merchandise, including red baseball caps adorned with U.S. and Israeli flags and the phrase, “God Bless President Trump.”

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ISRAEL evangelical community, it’s very clear when he brings God into every single conversation and even his policies,” said Fleur Hassan-Nahoum, an Israeli government envoy, during a panel at the event. “And that gives me a lot of hope that it’s going to be way better for the Jewish people and the state of Israel.”

The event gathered both newer and longtime fans of the president. Vicky Cohn, a native of Germany who recently moved back to Israel after spending a long time in Europe, said she changed her mind about Trump after Hamas’ Oct. 7, 2023, attack.

“I was always a left-winger and was very influenced by all the talk that he could be a full-scale dictator,” she said.

“But then the 7th of October happened and everything changed for me.”

Now, she said, she admires the qualities that give many of Trump’s critics pause, including his “strong-man attitude, his unapologetic way, but also his brashness.”

American-Israeli Yehiel Shekhtman, meanwhile, said he has “rooted for Trump since day one in 2016,” and said he has “a lot of love for President Trump and for everything he stands for and does and tries to do.”

But even among Trump’s most fervent fans, an undercurrent of unease could be detected Jan. 20. Lately, Trump has focused his energies, when it comes to the region, on securing a ceasefire in

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understand or even research the terms of this deal, and I found that to be a bit ignorant,” he said.

Another attendee, Lauren Adilev, said she was fearful about what Trump would push for next. “I’m very excited about Trump 2 but concerned about a peace deal with Saudi Arabia being forced on Israel in exchange for destroying every Jewish community in Yehuda and Shomron,” using the Hebrew words for the Israeli right’s term for the West Bank.

Pastor Mike Evans (L) and Rabbi Yehuda Glick Hassan-Nahoum expressed disappray together at an event celebrating Donald pointment that Trump didn’t mention Trump’s inauguration as president, Jan. 20. antisemitism or campus protests against the Israel-Hamas war. That effort has Israel in his inaugural address, which consternated some on the Israeli right, was not live-streamed at the event. Still, including many of the Trump admirshe said, “Actions speak louder than ers who showed up. Multiple attendees words.” said they felt he rushed into the deal, in In response, Evans said he was unconwhich Israel is exchanging hundreds of cerned. “I have the pen that he signed Palestinian security prisoners for hosthe antisemitism campus bill with. He tages held by Hamas. gave it to me.” He may have been refer“I felt a bit like he didn’t really care ring to Trump’s 2019 executive order on too much,” Cohn said. “What would antisemitism. have happened if he would have waited Others in the crowd said they had another week or two weeks? I want no fears about Trump’s second term. “I Hamas to be totally defeated and now think Trump is good for us,” said Yisrael it seems like they have the upper hand, Cohen, who happened on the event by and can unleash thousands of terrorists chance. “He will help bring peace to the on Israel.” area. I’m not worried about the hostage Shekhtman felt similarly, expressing deal. I believe Trump will show Hamas skepticism that the deal would actuwho is in control here.” ally liberate all 94 hostages still held by And in his own remarks Jan. 20, Hamas. “It feels like he didn’t properly Evans said, “Trump has absolutely

zero tolerance for Hamas.” He added, referencing reports of a day-after plan for the war, “The Saudis, the Emiratis, Egyptians will help drain the swamp in Gaza.”

Evans also praised fellow Christian Zionist former Arkansas Gov. Mike Huckabee, whom Trump has tapped to be ambassador to Israel.

“Mike Huckabee supports sovereignty over Judea and Samaria,” Evans said, using the Israeli right’s term for the West Bank. “And don’t think for a second that Donald Trump didn’t know that when he chose him.”

Huckabee sent a video message to the gathering, saying he was “looking forward to urgently getting on the mission and to bring(ing) peace, security and great opportunity.”

Many at the event were diehard Trump fans. But even those who said they were still acclimating themselves to the second-term president said Jan. 20 was a time to celebrate.

“He’s delivered more than anybody else has delivered,” said Joseph Berman, who said he didn’t appreciate Trump’s “personal foibles.”

“Under him, America’s first priority is Israel,” Berman said. “It’s been a major change from the previous administration, which has been trying to play both sides in the Israel-Gaza conflict. He’s really been very forceful that there’s going to be no other options.”

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From hell to safety in As a new Trump administration a few frenzied seconds begins, I’m looking to this Soviet This deal with Hamas will be a long, national rollercoaster ordeal — joy to dread, relief to horror.

All the more reason to celebrate the release of Romi Gonen, Emily Damari and Doron Steinbrecher.

By David Horovitz Four hundred and seventy-one days.

Four hundred and seventy-one days after they were dragged away into the dark underworld of Hamas captivity, where nobody knows what hell they endured, Romi Gonen, 24, Emily Damari, 28, and Doron Steinbrecher, 31, emerged into the light on the afternoon of Jan. 19.

And they were not merely standing and walking but also, incredibly, in some of the very first clips and pictures, smiling.

Emily’s beaming face as she and her mother phoned their family, her bandaged left hand waving — two fingers missing from where she was shot on that worst of all days, Oct. 7, 2023 — took the national breath away. (Hamas gunmen who burst into her home at Kibbutz Kfar Aza shot her dog, she has reportedly told her family and friends in her first conversations with them, and she was hit, too, as she tried to comfort her dying pet.)

And then, minutes later, the pictures of all three of these young women embracing their mothers surely moved many Israelis, and others all over the world who love this country and its people, to tears of joy and relief.

Romi cradled by her mother Meirav, a gracious, noble presence in innumerable television interviews through the many awful months.

Emily and her mother, Mandy, during that first phone call with the rest of the family.

And Doron, her face not visible, hand covering her eyes, her cheek against her mother Simona’s, hugging each other like they’ll never let go.

Fourteen months since the last deal with Hamas, fears have mounted inexorably for the almost 100 hostages still captive in Gaza.

The nation waited, month after month after month — blaming Hamas, blaming Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, blaming both — for the agreement that never came.

It held its breath, after this new deal was finally reached, signed, approved, and supposed to take effect, when Hamas delayed the release of the names of these first three to be freed.

And it watched with no little dread Jan. 19 when dozens of Hamas gunmen, hailed by a large cheering crowd, commandeered Gaza City’s Saraya Square for a wild, self-aggrandizing daylight ceremony before a vast global audience.

But in a few frenzied seconds, it was done: Doron, Emily and Romi scrambled the five or so paces from one vehicle to another, one reality to another — from Hamas to the International Committee of the Red Cross, and thence to merciful Israeli safety.

The joy and relief are heartfelt and deep, but no, not overwhelming.

Because nobody can forget for a second that this first, six-week phase of the deal has only just begun. And given that not all of the 33 women, children and men to be freed in this so-called humanitarian phase are alive, there will be much that is terrible before it is over.

Because nobody can forget that the agreement comes at the price of the release of hundreds of the most dangerous terrorists, many, likely most, of whom have every intention of killing again.

Because nobody can forget that Hamas aims to use this deal, as it has always intended to use the hostages it seized, to enable its revival.

Because nobody can forget that 94 hostages are, unthinkably, still held captive in Gaza.

David Horovitz is the founding editor of The Times of Israel.

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Jewish dissident for guidance

By Emily Tamkin, The Forward As I listened to President Donald Trump’s inauguration speech Jan. 20, I thought about Alexander Esenin-Volpin.

It had been a morning of Trump updates that weren’t just upsetting, but also befuddling. It began with news that the president plans to try to end birthright citizenship via executive order, despite birthright citizenship being enshrined in the 14th Amendment — meaning a president does not have the power to single-handedly retract it. In his inaugural address, Trump talked about ending efforts to “socially engineer race and gender into every aspect of public and private life,” a clear prelude to executive orders, also announced Jan. 20, that will aim to end protections for trans and gender-nonconforming people and quash diversity, equity and inclusion programs — as though it is these protections that discriminate against Americans, when it is their elimination that will do so.

As we enter another four years of government under Trump, moments like these — in which what the president says seems to blatantly contradict the law of the land or even reality — examples like that of Esenin-Volpin, a dissident mathematician and poet in the Soviet Union, will be a crucial reminder of how we ought to react.

Esenin-Volpin, born in 1924, was the illegitimate son of Sergei Esenin, a famous poet, and Nadezhda Volpina, a Jewish translator. He became a pioneer in what’s known as the rights-based dissident movement, which was engaged in what the historian Benjamin Nathans, in his book To the Success of Our Hopeless Cause: The Many Lives of the Soviet Dissident Movement, called “civil obedience.”

Their core idea was not that theirs was a lawless society, devoid of rights. They did have rights. The problem was that those with power didn’t recognize those rights — or the laws, or the constitution — and the people let them get away

with it.

So the rights-based dissidents — many of whom had at least one Jewish parent, and consequently were discriminated against for being Jewish, even if they resented being seen or thought of as such — decided to stop letting them.

Esenin-Volpin was “the first person in our life who spoke seriously about Soviet laws,” the writer and activist Vladimir Bukovsky once recalled.

“We laughed at him: ‘What kind of laws can there be in this country? Who cares?’” To which Esenin-Volpin replied, per Bukovsky’s remembrance: “Nobody cares. We ourselves are to blame for not demanding fulfillment of the laws.”

Esenin-Volpin learned what the Soviet Code of Criminal Procedure said, and the rights that it afforded him.

For instance, that it banned leading questions in interrogations, and gave those under interrogation the right to write their responses down themselves, rather than have them taken down — perhaps inaccurately — by a state representative. He taught others. And went on from there.

Ahead of the 1966 trial of the writers Andrei Sinyavsky and Yuri Daniel, the rightsbased dissidents protested for an open trial, demanding that the Soviet constitution, which guaranteed one, be respected.

(They held a protest on Dec. 5, 1965: Soviet Constitution Day.) Esenin-Volpin was similarly among those who demanded transparency in the 1968 Galanskov-Ginzburg trial, in which four people — Yuri Galanskov, Alexander Ginzburg, Alexey Dobrovolsky and Vera Lahkova — were convicted of disseminating anti-Soviet slander.

Long before Mikhail Gorbachev was touting the principle of glasnost, or openness, in the lead-up to the dissolution of the Soviet Union, the rightsbased dissidents were demanding openness and transparency from their government, making the case that it was the government’s responsibility to demonstrate commitment to its own laws.

They argued that they were entitled to such adherence by right, under the law of the land — and that that law mattered, even if their government acted every day as though it did not.

“We are all citizens of the USSR by virtue of having been born on its territory,” EseninVolpin wrote in an essay called What Is Soviet? but “the citizens of the USSR are obliged to observe the written laws, not ideological directives.”

The lesson I take from Esenin-Volpin is not that if we just follow this one neat trick, everything will work out — that Trump’s most frightening policies won’t become law, that people won’t suffer under them, or that our new president’s very rhetoric won’t make us question the facts of the world we live in.

That is not how it worked out for Esenin-Volpin’s movement. Soviet dissidents underwent arrest, imprisonment, psychiatric torture, and exile.

Whatever gains they did win, it is not as though, looking at Russia today, their legacy is one of overwhelming success. Per a 2022 State Department report, in 2020, Russian courts acquitted just 0.34% of all defendants — a suggestion that the courts Esenin-Volpin fought to hold to account still fundamentally operate as tools of the state.

More recently, Amnesty International warned that Russia was using anti-terrorism laws to curb dissent, a reminder both of the limits of civil obedience and of the limitless potential for unjust interpretation of laws under authoritarian governments.

Instead, the lesson I take is that there is an inherent value to insisting on our right to a government that follows its own rules — and that the earlier and more intensely we begin that insistence, the less likely we will be to succumb to the same inertia Bukovsky chronicled Esenin-Volpin speaking out against.

As Vladimir Dremlyuga, who protested the Soviet invasion of Czechoslovakia in Continued on Page 26

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Help us feed guests at St. Vincent de Paul’s shelters with frozen casseroles and provide high-need items for People and Paws of Greater Dayton, a local pet-food pantry that helps those in need care for their pets. JFS will take your donations and provide you with a sweet treat in return. If you have questions, please contact Jacquelyn Archie, JFS administrative assistant, at jarchie@jfgd.net or at 937-610-1555.

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High-Need Items for People and Paws dry puppy food, dry kitten food, dog treats, cat treats, black permanent markers Frozen Macaroni & Cheese Casserole Recipe • 1-1/2 lbs (24 oz) elbow macaroni • 2 lbs cheese, melted • 1 can (10.5 oz) cream of celery soup • 2-1/2 cups milk Cook macaroni and drain. Melt cheese separately and add to macaroni. Add milk and soup. Mix well. Pour into sprayed pan. Cover loosely and place in refrigerator until completely cooled. Then cover tightly with sturdy foil lid and freeze. Casserole should be frozen for 36 hours.

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This year the Women’s Seder Committee is supporting children’s literacy in our community. We will be collecting NEW books for children from Pre-K through middle school for the Brunner Literacy Center. Please bring your book.

Alternatively, if you would rather give a monetary donation you may do so either by check or online at brunnerliteracy.org. We thank you for your support.

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5275 Marshall Rd., Wash. Twp. Temple Israel Ryterband Lecture Series: Sundays, 9:45 a.m. $7. Feb. 2, HUC's David Aaron, Rethinking Pirke Avot.

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Beth Abraham Rick Pinsky Brunch Speaker Series: Sundays, 10 a.m. $9. Feb. 9, Neal Gittleman, Dayton Philharmonic Orchestra, The Difference Between Orchestral, Opera & Ballet Conducting. Feb. 23, Jonathan McNeal, The Neon, My Personal Film Journey & the Upcoming Oscars. RSVP to 937-293-9520. 305 Sugar Camp Cir., Oakwood.

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JCC Boomers Bowling: Sun., Mar. 2, 2 p.m. $12 incl. shoe rental & drink. RSVP by Feb. 24 at jewishdayton.org/events.

For info. contact Stacy Emoff, semoff@jfgd.net. Poelking Woodman Lanes, 3200 Woodman Dr., Kettering. 937-6101555.

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Kettering Health Washington Men Township in 1980. She's served Courtney Chabad Bagels, Lox & Tefilas chair of the Osteopathic Ma- Cummings, lin: Sun., Feb. 2, 9:30 a.m. 13+ nipulative founder and welcome. chabaddayton.com.

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Beth Abraham Synagogue

Redemption of captives: a supreme Jewish value

Conservative Rabbi Aubrey L. Glazer Fridays, 5 p.m.

Saturdays, 9:30 a.m.

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Beth Jacob Congregation

Modern Orthodox Rabbi Leibel Agar Saturdays, 9:30 a.m. Evening minyans upon request.

7020 N. Main St., Dayton.

937-274-2149. bethjacobcong.org

Temple Anshe Emeth

Reform Rabbinic Intern Jonathan Benzion Sat., Feb. 15, 10 a.m.

320 Caldwell St., Piqua.

Contact Steve Shuchat, 937-7262116, ansheemeth@gmail.com. ansheemeth.org

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5275 Marshall Rd., Wash. Twp. 937-435-3400. templebethor.com

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Reform Rabbi Haviva Horvitz 610 Gladys Dr., Middletown.

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Fridays, Feb. 21 & 28, 6:30 p.m.

Sat., Feb. 15, 10:30 a.m.

130 Riverside Dr., Dayton.

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Rabbi Nochum Mangel Associate Rabbi Shmuel Klatzkin Youth & Prog. Dir. Rabbi Levi Simon. Beginner educational service Saturdays, 9:30 a.m. 2001 Far Hills Ave. 937-643-0770. chabaddayton.com

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Independent Antioch College Rockford Chapel.

1st & 3rd Saturday each month.

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By Rabbi Judy Chessin David's early home base of Temple Beth Or Ziklag. They carried off all the It has now been a year women and children, including since Israel executed OperaDavid's wives — Ahinoam of tion Golden Hand, Mivtza Yad Jezreel and Abigail, the widow Zahav, Feb. 12, 2024 in Rafah, of Nabal of Carmel — Gaza, successfully as captives. rescuing Fernando Upon returning to Simon Marman and Ziklag, David and his Luis Har, Israeli men, overcome with Argentinian hostages grief, wept ceaselesskidnapped during ly. Despite David's the Oct. 7, 2023 atrenown for military tack on Kibbutz Nir prowess, he yet conYitzhak. sulted the Divine, and Hamas terrorists hand over Doron Steinbrecher to the International ComThe rescue was mittee of the Red Cross during the hostage-prisoner exchange operation only with God's asaptly named, for in Gaza City, Jan. 19. surance did the king Judaism has a long Rabbi Judy Chessin mount a successful history of paying for One Jewish luminary, Meir the Maharam’s death that a military campaign to liberate hostages with both blood and of Rothenburg, the Maharam, wealthy Jew, Alexander Zishis people and family. treasure. exemplified this concern. Born kind Wimpen, paid an exorbiDue to our history as a Jewish tradition places imin Germany in 1220, the Matant sum and buried the rabbi nation once redeemed from mense value in the redemption haram was the main rabbinic next to his own burial plot in captivity and slavery in Egypt, authority of Ashkenazic Jewry.

Worms. freeing captives from captors The law at that time forbade Such impossible choices was considered a supreme Jews from leaving German bor- have been operative since the moral value in the developof captives, viewing pidyon ders. Yet Rabbi Meir believed Oct. 7 pogrom, during which ment of Judaism. shvuyim as one of the greatest that every Jew must try to Hamas kidnapped 251 innoHostage-taking was such a mitzvot (commandments). reach the holy land. Setting out cent Israelis — men, women, grievous sin that one of the Ten on a difficult journey to reach Our biblical patriarch and children.

Commandments, "Thou shalt Abraham faced a hostage situIsrael, he was caught in Italy By now, that number has not steal," was interpreted by ation when four kings carried and handed over to German dwindled to 94, some by death, our rabbis to refer to kidnapoff his nephew Lot. Abraham authorities. a few by release or rescue, but ping. Stealing responded militarily, gatherThe Maharam the ancient dilemmas around Conflicting opinions of Rothenburg people and ing his household to chase rescue and redemption arise selling them was as to what fulfilling and defeat the four kings and was imprisoned, yet again. considered a rescue Lot. the German Conflicting opinions as to the Jewish mitzvah and capital crime.

Thus, Gen. 14 reports the rulers demanded what fulfilling the Jewish mitzAnd yet, the pidyon shvuyim first time captives were freed an exorbitant vah pidyon shvuyim means in same rabbis of in the recorded history of the sum for his remodern society have strongly means in modern the Talmud exJewish nation. lease. The great divided both Israel and world pressed reserva- society have strongly rabbi command- Jewry.

Redeeming the captive is a tions about the divided both Israel recurring theme in the Torah. ed the commuConcerns about incentivcost of redeemWhen members of the desert nity not to pay izing future hostage-taking are and world Jewry. ing captives. generation were taken captive the ransom. He not financial in nature; they are With no by the king of Arad, the nation preferred to die matters of security and military Divine assurances, the rabbis quickly mobilized to return in prison — as he did seven deterrence. Well do we rememof the Mishnah warned Jewish them. years later — rather than put ber Israel's controversial deal A later rabbinic commentary communities not to ransom others at risk, impoverishing with Hamas that secured the derived from Hebrew grammar hostages for "more than their his community, and encouragrelease of hostage Gilad Shalit, worth" to discourage further states that it was merely one ing future kidnappings. an Israeli soldier captured by hostage-taking. maidservant who was taken After his death, having left Palestinian militants in 2006.

This dilemma, balancing the hostage, yet even for a single behind brilliant commentarIn exchange for releasing the burning emotional desire for marginalized slave, the entire ies that he wrote in prison, single soldier, Israel released hostage return against the cost community's resources were the German authorities would 1,027 Palestinian prisoners. to future communal safety, was still not release his body to be expended.

That exchange, in fact, returned and is still a conundrum.

In the Book of Kings, the buried. It was 14 years after to the street Yahya Sinwar, the mastermind of the Oct. 7 massacres, as well as 280 terrorists who were serving life sentences for implementing terror Torah attacks posing a direct threat to Portions Israel's security.

It incentivizes future Shabbat February 1: Bo hostage-taking and threatens (Ex. 10:1-13:16) national security, and makes Candle concessions to Hamas, the very Lightings February 8: Beshalach terror organization that Israel Tu B’Shevat (Ex. 13:17-17:16) February 7: 5:46 p.m. has vowed to eliminate after New Year for Trees February 15: Yitro the Oct. 7 massacre.

February 14: 5:54 p.m.

February 13/15 Shevat (Ex. 18:1-20:23) Yet weekly, demonstrators Marks springtime in Israel.

February 21: 6:02 p.m. and families of hostages gather Celebrated with picnics, February 22: Mishpatim Continued on Page 19 fruit, and planting trees.

(Ex. 21:1-24:18) February 28: 6:10 p.m.

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By Andrew Silow-Carroll, JTA In Jami Attenberg’s 2013 novel The Middlesteins, there’s a chapter about a joint bar and bat mitzvah told entirely from the perspective of the parents’ friends. So indistinguishable are these Cohns, Grodsteins, Weinmans and Frankens that the chapter is narrated in the first-person plural.

“We were at the age where we had almost been forgotten but were not quite old enough to be heralded for still being alive after all these years,” they explain. “Of course we were seated together at the reception, the eight of us.”

When I first read The Middlesteins, I was close to the age of the parents, and I thought it was the most depressing description of the disappearing act of encroaching age that I had ever read. And it only gets worse. During the reception, the couples limit themselves to one quick dance. Otherwise: "(W)e checked our watches, and thought about the errands we needed to run the next day, the walk we would take in the sunshine, the phone calls we would make to our children, some of whom lived in other states, with grandchildren we missed terribly. We had only been there for two hours, but it was already starting to feel late."

I’d like to say that after reading the book I vowed never to become “those people.” Or that I promised myself I’d be, if not the “bride at every wedding” (as Alice Roosevelt Longworth

once described her narcissistic over the din of Mr. Brightside, I father, Teddy), then the kind of pulled my wife onto the dance guest my hosts wouldn’t regret floor. And stayed there. I have inviting. maybe three moves, and I used Instead, for perhaps a them all, again and again. This decade I was exactly those time I did make a vow: that I’d people. I treated weddings stay on my two left feet until and b’nai mitzvah as the band packed up chores. I complained The Talmud their instruments. that the music was I’ve stuck with it. too loud. I spent way says rejoicing You might credit too much time in the with the bride my transformation hallways. I calculated to the pandemic, and and groom how soon I could probably should. leave without seem- is a mitzvah After two-plus years ing rude. in lockdown, I joined And then, over the past two others in “letting life out of the years, more and more of my box,” as the poet Tony Hoafriends’ kids started marrying, gland puts it. and I decided I wasn’t ready to I also had Jewish guilt — fade into the not-so-good night even law! — as a goad. The of the “parents’ friends table.”

Talmud, in Brachot 6b, says At the next wedding, instead rejoicing with the bride and of trying to make myself heard groom — simchat chatan v’kallah

Continued from Page 18 for rallies all throughout Israel, tearfully demanding swift action for their loved ones' release and protesting the government for perceived delays and hesitations in negotiation.

They argue that Israel is refusing to end the torture of its citizens and the heartbreak of the surviving family members in a cynical power play.

Moreover, the modern state needs to maintain the motivation of its troops and citizens with the assurance that the Jewish state will do everything possible to ensure their release if they are ever captured.

Finally, the Jewish state must emphasize the sanctity of every Jewish life when our enemy's goal is to end Jewish life. That, indeed, is the very mission of the Jewish state.

When a Talmudic debate could not be definitively resolved, the phrase "Eilu v'eilu divrei Elokim chayim" was employed: "These and those are the words of the living God

(Eruvin 13b)," meaning both sides are valid expressions of the Divine truth.

We yearn for the days when we could receive assurances from the Divine or could depend upon Solomonic wisdom to see our way through.

The verse in Malachi 3:3 states that "God will sit as a refiner of silver. The Levites will be refined like gold and silver."

To derive meaning from this verse, a rabbi once went to a goldsmith and watched the refining process.

The goldsmith held a golden nugget over the fire and placed it where the flames were the hottest to burn away impurities. The technician explained that he had to hold the material in the fire and watch it carefully lest it be in the flame too long and become destroyed.

The rabbi then asked when you know when the gold is fully refined, and the master answered, "When I can see my face in it."

Our hostages, our politi-

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cians, our soldiers, and our diplomats have all been tried by fire since Oct. 7, 2023, as they seek the balance of redeeming and rescuing our hostages while not jeopardizing the safety of the Jewish state and the Jewish people.

And now, a fragile hostage deal has been reached. It has been greeted in Israel and abroad with a mix of joy, anger, relief, and disappointment.

Israelis remain committed to two mutually exclusive truths: "We must bring our hostages home," and "We must defeat Hamas."

We pray if not for another Operation Golden Hand, at least the golden opportunity to bring back our remaining 94 hostages in a not too costly way for our people.

May the crucible of this war define us as a people and refine us to see, and to address the needs of every suffering soul.

May we merit the honor of fulfilling the mitzvah of pidyon shvuyim soon and in our time.

– is a mitzvah, meaning a commandment, and no mere good deed.

And 2,000 years ago, the rabbis anticipated the selfconsciousness of graceless middle-aged men. If you are worried about making a fool of yourself on the dance floor, remember the story of the great scholar Rabbi Shmuel son of Rabbi Isaac, who would juggle myrtle twigs before the bride (Ketubot 17a). When Shmuel’s colleague Rabbi Zeira said such antics were beneath him, Shmuel squirted him with a seltzer bottle. (OK, not really, but the same passage goes on immediately to explain that not only did Shmuel not demean himself or Torah, but that when he died he was blessed with an extremely rare send-off of divine fire.)

And ultimately, I have Jewish history as inspiration. In her classic guide, The Jewish Wedding, Anita Diamant quotes a saying she attributes to Holocaust survivors: “To dance at a Jewish wedding is to dance on

Hitler’s grave.” She continues: “For every generation, weddings are a glimpse into the future, a repudiation of past griefs, and a celebration of the here and now.”

I’ve also learned a secret over these past few years. As dumb as you might feel clomping around in a circle while holding hands with a sweaty neighbor (Jews call this “dancing”), others find it admirable.

I’ve had a few people, including brides and grooms, come up to us at the end of weddings and compliment us for having closed down the dance floor.

I mean no disrespect to people who either can’t or don’t wanna dance with somebody. Shake it off, shut up, and dance or celebrate good times, "come on." Your hosts really don’t mind. And I’ll tell you how I know this: Last Sunday we celebrated the wedding of my middle child to a brilliant, kind, and beautiful woman whose smile is as radiant as his. The music was loud. The dance floor was packed. I was where I needed to be. And my pounding heart grew big enough to cherish everyone in the room, whether they were getting down or sitting it out.

Because when it comes to celebrating a young couple’s love amid a cloudy here and now, I’m Mr. Brightside.

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and early 1900s, commentators added that the circles symbolize the three camps that surrounded the Ark of the Covenant in the wilderness: those of the Priests, Levites, and Israelites, or the layers of darkness, cloud, and fog that surrounded the Divine Presence amid that arduous journey.

The 20th century has brought its own theories.

Joshua Trachtenberg, in his classic Jewish Magic and Superstition, noted that the Talmud records “Three people require Erin Sullivan/Getty Images guarding: A sick person, A bride and groom marry under a chupah, a wedding canopy. a groom, and a bride.”

Rashi explains that the man.”

By Rabbi Stuart Halpern protection is needed from evil Uncommon at the time and Jewish Journal (Los Angeles) spirits. Trachtenberg therefore unmentioned in the major It’s one of the most recbooks of customs from that era, suggests the circling “was ognized rituals of a Jewish probably originally intended to the custom seems to have subwedding — and it’s long been keep off the demons” thought stoked with controversy. Under sequently spread from Austria. to attack in vulnerable moSupplemental understandings the wedding canopy, the bride ments, by constructing a proof its symbolism swiftly folcircles the groom seven times. tective barrier. lowed.

Why seven — and why even The shift from three to seven Since the context in Jeremido this at all? seems to have emerged as a ah’s prophecy was of the mesAs Rabbi Zvi Ron notes in folk custom in the late 19th sianic era, weddings in which his fascinating new book, Jewit is invoked came to be seen as century. ish Customs: Exploring Common Whether it’s your dream wedding, Even then it was not immeauspiciously associated with and Uncommon Minhagim, the a gala, or a corporate event, our CW Events diately prevalent. Ron quotes the hastening of the ultimate earliest source to mention this Yitzhak Zvi Levovitch, who team will work with you to create an amazing event. redemption. practice is the Torah commenreported that in 1930s Hungary Other scholars noted a tary by Dosa the Greek comChoose from the Rotunda that seats up to 700 guests the custom was still to circle textual allusion that precedes posed in 1430. three times. or the more intimate Tank Theater and Galleria—nothing Dosa recounts that in Austria Jeremiah. The Torah uses the Once seven became the preis impossible at the Dayton Arcade! expression “When a man marhe had been at a wedding at dominant number, the circles ries a woman” three times in which the bride circled the came to represent the seven Deuteronomy: 22:13, 24:1, and groom three times (not seven).

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Yona Metzger, in his book In the Circles of Life, offers a psychological take. He explains that the bride circles the groom seven times in order to break down the barriers between them, as with the walls of Jericho that came down in the Book of Joshua after seven circles were made around them by the Israelites entering the From intimate ceremonies to large receptions, Promised Land.

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I don’t like my friend’s boyfriend.

Must I invite him to my wedding?

By Mira Fox, The Forward The advice column, A Bintel Brief, Yiddish for A Bundle of Letters, has solved Forward readers' dilemmas since 1906.

Dear Bintel, My partner and I are planning our upcoming nuptials and that, of course, means a guest list. Our plan is to have a rather intimate wedding with those who mean the most to us, as we think this will be more fun and a way to save money.

On the list is one of my good friends, who is in a semi-rocky relationship with a guy we’d rather not invite.

I’m not a fan of how he treats her (or her dog). In the two years they’ve been together, while I’ve seen her, I have only interacted with him a handful of times, the last of which was over a year ago. So they don’t always socialize together. My fiancé has also never met him — or her, for that matter.

Not inviting her is not an option. But we’d like to give his seat to someone we really want to be there rather than this person we hardly know and do not like.

I know that according to Continued from Page 20 gogues, following the Temple’s destruction, as a remembrance of the past.

Saadia Gaon reported a custom to circle the bima three times on each of Sukkot’s middle days, and seven on Hoshana Rabba.

Although this would universally shift to once a day during the middle days, there was, already in this context, three

social norms, if someone is in a long-term relationship, you’re supposed to invite them as a couple. Do we have to?

Signed, Baffled Bride

Dear Baffled, Wedding guest lists are famously a source of stress: Kids or no kids? Who merits a plus-one? What manner of misbehavior results in being axed?

So know you’re not alone.

Social norms, as you put it, are always evolving, and generally vary by community, so I don’t think there’s a clear etiquette answer for you.

And it’s your wedding; you can choose to invite who you want.

But remember: You also aren’t operating in a vacuum, and your decision will have an impact on your relationship with your friend.

The Torah includes a prohibition on onaat devarim, or wronging others through words. While the text focuses on monetary abuse, the sages of the Talmud expand it into a wide-ranging examination of interpersonal obligation: what we owe those with whom we associated with seven.

The practice of circling seven times was carried over into Simchat Torah by Isaac Luria.

“It is not unusual that the circles made by the bride would shift from three to seven over time,” Ron concludes, “especially considering that seven was already a significant number in connection to weddings, with the seven blessings and seven days of celebration.”

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are in community.

And one of the biggest prohibitions is on publicly embarrassing others. The Talmud says it is worse than committing adultery and even compares it to murder.

Regardless of whether you have a good excuse, the rabbis warn, it’s still forbidden to hurt or embarrass someone.

The Talmud uses a wide variety of examples, but I think the most relevant to your dilemma is not reminding someone about past transgressions, even if you think by doing so you will help them; besides, highlighting the boyfriend’s mistakes is probably not going to help your friend.

It would be one thing if you were not inviting anyone’s partners to keep numbers down.

But cutting out only this friend’s boyfriend will feel personal to her. And, let’s be honest — it is personal.

You may not like your friend’s choice, but it’s her choice. She’s an adult, and even if you disapprove of the relationship, it’s disrespectful to pass judgment on it in such a public way.

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Other guests would likely notice his absence, putting her in the awkward situation of having to explain your decision.

Or she might be hurt enough to choose not to attend, which could damage or destroy a longtime friendship.

So, instead of leaving him out, why not try to turn things around? Try to interact with him more before your wedding.

Maybe have the two of them over for Shabbat or ask for a double date. Bonus: Your fiancé will finally get to meet your friend. (You cite barely seeing the boyfriend as proof he’s unimportant, but your good friend has never met your

soon-to-be husband!)

And ask your friend more about what makes their relationship good. Maybe if you can understand his good side, you’ll feel better about having him at your wedding.

Jewish tradition also places a high value on the couple’s joy at their wedding, so you can make whatever decisions you want. You just can’t expect them to be consequence-free.

Might your guilt over insulting your friend — or the possibility of her skipping your happy day — be just as distracting as this man’s presence?

I’m not so sure that axing him from your guest list will bring you joy in the end.

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“Words spoken can never be taken back,” mused blogger Lilah Peck. “‘You have a huge nose!’ someone shouted at me in the first grade. I never noticed my nose before, but

Candace R. Kwiatek suddenly every time I looked in the mirror, it was all 7-yearold me could see. Those five words manifested into a painful insecurity that took me years to shake. You never know how your words will impact

someone, or for how long.”

Peck’s story underscores recent discoveries in modern psychology and other fields indicating innate connections between words and emotions and how people view the world, including themselves.

While the studies are new, these connections were addressed more than 3,000 years ago by a pair of commandments in the Holiness Code of Leviticus.

The text reads, “When you sell property to your neighbor, or buy from your neighbor, you shall not wrong (onaah) one another.”

This caution is echoed three verses later: “Do not wrong

(onaah) one another, but fear your God, for I am the Lord your God.” Every word in the Torah is intentional and purposeful, and the use of onaah is a prime example.

According to biblical commentator Rabbi Samson R. Hirsch, the Hebrew root of onaah conveys a sense of “the exploitation of human weakness in order to victimize.”

In the first verse, exploitation occurs during commercial activity, by overcharging or underpaying, for example.

Exploitation in the second verse is described as taking place between people, but not in any particular setting.

The ancient sages of the Talmud concluded this wrongful behavior is onaat devarim, unrighteous speech, broadly defined as verbal harassment or mistreatment that causes emotional pain or distress.

Since the malicious intent of words is often hidden, a warning that implies God sees and knows everything is included in the text.

Comparing the two biblical verses highlights the greater severity of onaat devarim.

Wrongful speech alone is followed by “fear your God.” Verbal exploitation injures a person’s self-worth and even their soul, not just money or property. And verbal damage to one’s being cannot easily be remedied, while money or property can be restored.

Still, for reasons that include greed, a desire for power, and self-interest over empathy, many people deliberately engage in onaat devarim.

Furthermore, its invisible nature allows for plausible deniability, notes Rabbi Dena Weiss. She imagines likely internal monologues: “How will someone know if I’m in-

tentionally giving bad advice?”

“Maybe I’m trying to be complimentary when I (mention how much weight someone lost) — I’m letting everyone know how far this person has come!”

Or, Weiss continues, there’s the "no offense" defense: “If a comment isn’t designed to be hurtful or isn’t obviously harmful, then it must be OK.” It’s likely we’ve all heard the following justifications: “I didn’t mean anything by my comment!” “I meant it to be funny!”

It’s even possible to be unaware of committing onaat devarim. However, it’s the impact on the victim that counts, even if malicious intent was unintended, Weiss concludes.

With this in mind, it would be wise to follow the adage, “Think before you speak,” considering both one’s intentions and one’s choice of words so as not to intentionally or unintentionally cause negative emotions in someone.

A biblical family affair.

Widowed twice but bound by the law of levirate marriage to Judah’s youngest son, Tamar was deliberately prevented from marrying by Judah himself. When Tamar became pregnant years later, she was accused of adultery.

As she awaited execution, Tamar privately sent Judah the personal items he had left with her during an unwitting tryst.

To avoid embarrassing him publicly, her accompanying message was cryptic, “By the man whose these are, I am with child.”

Anyone who verbally humiliates another in public, it is as if that person shed blood.

Verbal damage to one's being cannot easily be remidied

Literature to share

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by Mimi Zieman. This improbable but oh-so-true memoir recounts the author’s audacious attempt to summit Mt. Everest by way of a new route on its formidable East Face, with no supplemental oxygen, sherpas, or possibility for rescue.

Woven throughout are fascinating Jewish connections and personal insights.

Violin of Hope by Ella Schwartz. Inspired by true stories, this beautifully crafted picture book for elementary ages tells of a beloved violin stolen by the Nazis, discarded for decades, then rescued by a luthier — a person who makes stringed musical instruments — who repaired and restored it. He sold it to Isaac, a young boy who eventually became an accomplished violinist playing concerts all around the world.

Author’s notes about Jews and violins, Nazi looting, luthiers, and the Violins of Hope project add even more depth to an already splendid story.

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Bean there, done that. Ari was looking forward to buying the espresso machine just discounted online but wanted to check it out before spending the hefty price. So he went to a nearby kitchenware retail store and spent time with a salesperson asking about its various features, comparing its cost to other models, and requesting a demonstration.

Satisfied, Ari thanked the salesperson and returned home, where he made his online purchase.

One may not deceive a merchant by asking the price of an item when one has no intention of buying or has no money.

Tormenting teasing. “Nice haircut—did you lose a bet?”

“Remember when you tripped in front of everyone at the party?

Classic you!”

“I've lost your passport. Only joking!”

Dictionary. com defines the word tease as, "to make fun of or attempt to provoke in a playful or good-natured way.” However, searches for synonyms reveal negative ones — annoy, mock, ridicule, provoke, goad, and put down — vastly outnumbering positive ones.

There is a fine line between playful teasing and tormenting, clarified by Rashi: It is forbidden to yaknit — tease a person, making them feel anguish by saying something that will distress them.

Nicknames. Growing up in a neighborhood filled with kids around my age, it was inevitable that we’d all acquire nicknames. George was dubbed Georgie-porgie, a dubious but memorable moniker.

He seemed unaffected by the title, but who knows?

Based on my surname, I was tagged with the seemingly innocuous “Kibbel-kid.” But every time I heard it, I cringed, visualizing the dry pellets of dog food known as kibble.

You may not use a derogatory nickname or any other embarrassing name, even if the person is used to it.

To protect it from misuse, God designed the tongue with two gates to guard it: teeth and lips, explains Rebbetzin Esther Jungreis.

“Before we use our tongues, we should…carefully consider whether we should allow our tongues to speak or whether it would be wiser to remain silent and keep the gates closed.”

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This Libyan stew is so good my family fights over it.

By Brad Mahlof, The Nosher If you’re looking for the ultimate stew, then you must try t’becha. This traditional Libyan Jewish stew means “cooked” in Arabic. T'becha is traditionally served for Shabbat dinners and the Jewish holidays.

When I was growing up, my three siblings and I would literally fight over who got to be the first one to serve ourselves t’becha — yes it’s really that good.

As the oldest sibling, I always got first dibs (except on their birthdays, when they had the once-a-year honor of being served first).

Being first meant finding the best marrow bone (the one with the most marrow meat inside) and getting to the pot before everyone else made chop suey of it.

There are countless versions of t’bechot, but all are generally savory, spicy, and packed with flavor, and often include meat, potatoes, and legumes.

Seasonings for t’becha can vary but often include baharat, a savory and fragrant Middle Eastern spice blend.

Baharat blends do vary from region to region, but always include earthy spices such as cumin, coriander, nutmeg, cardamom, cloves, paprika, and cinnamon.

I’m excited to share the recipe for my favorite version of t’becha, which is tomatobased with flanken-style short-ribs, peas, string beans, and potatoes. The short ribs are melt-in-your-mouth tender and seriously addictive.

As with most Libyan foods, make sure to enjoy with fresh couscous for the most authentic experience.

still be delicious.

Total Time: 3 hours 45 minutes Yield: Serves 8 4–5 lbs. bone-in flanken stew meat, at room temperature neutral oil 1 large yellow onion, chopped 3 sweet potatoes, uniformly sized and shaped, peeled and cut into roughly 2-inch slices 3–4 Yukon Gold potatoes, peeled, halved and sliced into roughly 2½-inch slices frozen peas (13 oz. bag), defrosted fresh string beans (as many as you like) 1 (6 oz.) can tomato paste kosher salt 2 Tbsp. baharat + a generous pinch 2 Tbsp. spicy paprika 2 Tbsp. sweet paprika 1 Tbsp. chicken consomme powder (optional) 1 tsp. cinnamon ground black pepper 6–8 marrow bones rounds (optional) 6½ cups water, divided

The short ribs are melt-inPat room-temperature beef dry and your-mouth salt on all sides.

Heat a large stock tender pot or Dutch oven

Notes: You need primegrade/well-marbled pieces of meat. I ask my butcher to cut it into 1½-inch-thick cubes. You can also sub out some of the beef for lamb stew meat.

If you do not have baharat, you can easily find a recipe online to create your own spice blend or, in a pinch can substitute ras al hanout. This will alter the taste profile but will

and, working in batches, as needed, add a neutral oil and brown meat well on all sides (about three minutes per side). Transfer the beef to a plate.

Add the onion to the pot and sauté until soft and translucent (about three minutes). Add a half teaspoon of kosher salt.

Return beef to the pot in a uniform layer, and add just enough water to completely cover your meat (about 5 cups).

Bring to a boil and then reduce to a simmer, uncovered for 40 minutes.

While the meat is simmering, prepare your sauce mixture. In a mixing bowl, add a can of tomato paste, baharat, spicy paprika, sweet paprika, 1½ tablespoons salt, cinnamon and chicken consommé. Mix the spice mixture with 1½ cups water to create a watery paste.

Add the sauce into the pot. Let it cook for about 10 minutes.

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Add potatoes, sweet potatoes, marrow bones (optional) and the peas. There should be enough liquid in the stew to almost cover all the ingredients, but it’s OK if the tops of the potatoes are not fully covered.

Bring the mixture to a boil and then reduce heat and simmer the stew for about one hour. I use the lid to half cover the pot.

Add string beans to the top of the stew. Sprinkle a generous pinch of salt and baharat on top of the string beans and let the stew simmer for about another hour to 90 minutes.

Serve over fresh couscous and enjoy.

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Sara Glass, author of Kissing Girls on Shabbat, doesn't feel torn about her decision.

In her memoir, Sara Glass explains how she broke away to find her true self

By Charlotte Henry Jewish News (United Kingdom) Speaking to Dr. Sara Glass now, it is hard to believe she is the same person as the one at the start of her memoir, Kissing Girls on Shabbat.

That Chasidic girl — and she was only a girl — endured her wedding night with a strictly Orthodox man she barely knew.

She was young, frightened, and seemingly broken. Today, Sara is engaged and open, with long, sweeping blonde hair and tattoos.

The way she got to this point is a difficult read, a tale of deep love and profound loss, but Sara “wanted to tell this story because I know that this is still happening.”

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By “this,” she means arranged marriages and young people hiding their sexuality and abuse.

Indeed, even the now out and proud qualified psychotherapist confesses to still having nerves about sharing her story detailing how a Chasidic woman came to terms with being gay and left her community and her family.

“For my entire life, any time I tried to be a version of myself that was more true, I lost people. I lost relationships,” she explains. “Now, I’m out of the closet, I live in Manhattan. Everyone knows I’m a lesbian.

But the fear is still in my bones. And a part of me still thinks that when I say this extra detail, that’s when everything will come crashing down.”

Losing her relationship with her sisters seems to be what she finds most upsetting. The book reveals that “those were the people who raised me,” but they “live in a world where it’s not safe for them to have a queer sibling.”

Sara confides: “I really do miss them.

A part of me still hopes they’ll read the book and that maybe they’ll call me or something and just say ‘we support

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you.’” Despite this loss, Sara confirms she doesn’t feel torn about her decision.

“I feel sad, I feel mournful, but I wouldn’t do it any differently.” It’s a striking sentiment and clearly it's taken a long time to get to this stage.

Most tragic of all, one of her sisters, Shani, suffered from bipolar disorder and took her own life. It was this experience, alongside her mother’s struggles with mental health, that inspired her future career even while she was still in her old life.

She had to negotiate continuing her studies with her husband, who says he may not have married her had she told him her plans.

Sara is still in touch with her brother-in-law and his children, but says she struggled to read the section of her book dealing with Shani’s death when recording her audiobook. She checks in periodically to see if anyone has been born or died and does have some contact with her father.

There will always be holdouts in the most stringent of Jewish religious communities, but is there any hope for the future that more gay girls and boys growing up in some Orthodox communities will not have to go through what

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Sara Glass on her wedding day.

she did?

“I do see some movement in the Orthodox community, especially in Modern Orthodoxy,” says the self-described optimist. She also outlines that the Conservative and Reform branches of Judaism are “already inviting me to lecture at their temples” about her book and says: “They’re so queer-friendly and inclusive.”

She rejects the idea that progress and acceptance is simply people going "woke."

“Sometimes when people are afraid of change, they’ll throw change under a label like 'woke' and call that label bad.

And that’s just a manifestation of fear.”

Sara tries to put her experience to practical use. She serves as the clinical supervisor for Jewish Queer Youth, an organization that has drop-in centers where those going through some of the issues she did can come to enjoy kosher pizza with others like them. Technology is changing things, too.

Sara herself did not watch television until she was 24, but believes the greater access to the Internet that is possible today can help those in even the most closed-off communities.

“The world can be underneath their mattress on a tiny, tiny screen connected to the neighbor’s Wi-Fi.” Jewish religious teachings on homosexuality have not changed, though, and Sara believes that even if this pushes some out of the community, the strictly Orthodox “can survive because they procreate at such an astonishing rate.” However, she hopes “they will be compelled to shift their views.”

Despite her traumatic younger experiences, Sara has not renounced her Judaism. Her children go to what she describes as a pluralistic Jewish school and she still has Shabbat dinner in her home.

Speaking to the current version of Dr. Sara Glass, it's hard not to be moved by both what she's lost and what she's gained. Most of all, though, you can’t help but worry how many versions of the girl in the opening chapter are still out there.

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South of Sepharad is the story of a Jewish physician who lives in Granada in 1492 and his family's attempt to flee Spain at the beginning of the Inquisition.

Weintraub will talk about South of Sepharad via Zoom as part of the JCC's Cultural Arts & Book Series at 7 p.m., Sunday, Feb. 16. The free program is presented in partnership with the JCC Book Club. Register for the program at jewishdayton.org/events. — Marshall Weiss

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She worked as an audiologist for Dayton Children's Hospital for many years and continued to work in private ENT practices until she retired at 80. While

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in college, her brother introduced her to and then she later married the love of her life, Shep, and started her family.

Later, for business reasons and following her parents, Phyllis and Shep relocated to Dayton, where they raised their children and became fixtures in the local Beth Abraham Synagogue community. Phyllis and Shep enjoyed matrimonial bliss for over 50 years until Shep passed in 2018.

Phyllis continued to reside in Dayton following the loss of Shep, until she was diagnosed with cancer, again. This time was different as she was advised by her doctors that she had six months to live. Phyllis then moved to Houston to reside with and have the support of Lori and Stephan Rubin. Those doctors were wrong — despite the odds.

Phyllis’ boundless and intense love of life and people allowed her to not just live, but thrive, for more than three years following that seemingly fateful

diagnosis. Phyllis’ warm and infectious smile and demeanor brought her many new friends and opportunities in Houston that greatly enriched and extended her life. For example, Phyllis, together with her newly acquired best friend, Lori Jacobs, taught mah-jongg and canasta to hundreds of students at the local Jewish Community Center. She thoroughly, and without reservation, enjoyed theater, dining out, and parties. As she put it, she was "living her best life.”

Phyllis’ indomitable and seemingly undefeatable will to live enabled her to survive numerous health challenges during her lifetime including seven cancers, until she was confronted with the most recent reemergence of three new cancers.

The family is grateful for the love and contributions by Phyllis’ caregivers at Seven Acres and Focused Care Westwood in Houston, as well as those caregivers who were there for her in Dayton. Interment was at Beth Abraham Cemetery.

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have inalienable rights.

Maybe our government wants to wish those away, but we shouldn’t let it.

After all, if Alexander Esenin-Volpin could remember that they mattered in the 1950s in the Soviet Union, then maybe we can remember it today — and tomorrow, and for the next four years — too.

Perhaps, for more than 10 minutes, we too can be citizens.

Continued from Page 12 Moscow’s Red Square in 1968, said of his decision to do so: “All my conscious life I have wanted to be a citizen — that is, a person who proudly and calmly speaks his mind. For 10 minutes, I was a citizen.”

It is tempting, in the face of reports that Trump aspires to end birthright citizenship with the flick of a pen, to throw up one’s hands and pronounce that nothing matters.

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His wife, on the other hand, believes they should convert to Catholicism. To add to the chaotic situation, their daughter, who is married to a Catholic, is a converso who stays in Spain subject to the inquisition. Vidal is conflicted and feels it is his duty to care for the sick on the journey into exile, while at the same time he wishes to mend relationships with his family.

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