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Relay for Life

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who’s out and about

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Jana Niemand’s photographic quest

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the lowdown on brazilians

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all about apps

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chick flick review

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when online dating works

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not a lady

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recipes: Small delights

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what’s hot in fashion

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keep winter skin at bay

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are you iron deficient?

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gardening: autumn clean-up and giveaway worth $85

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who’s out and about

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Editor’s note Welcome to what feels like a winter edition of YOU magazine.

I take my hat off to photographer Jana Neimand’s brave photograph in this month’s YOU. It was not put on the cover to shock, it was put there to show women should never be afraid or disgusted with their bodies.

That stretch marks are just the badges of honour that show you’ve brought someone special into the world! That beauty is not photoshopped perfect skin, or stick-thin model legs ... that beauty is real – survivors, mothers, grandmothers, sacrifice, love!

Thank you Jana ... we know how you have struggled with this and the YOU team hopes you are proud of what and who you have produced.

Cheers, Lisa Fenwick, YOU editor

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PHOTOGRAPHER WANTS TO SHOW WOMEN

Stretchmarks, cellulite, blemishes, scars and saggy skin can be beautiful for the stories they tell of life, love and survival, says Ashburton glamour photographer Jana Niemand. She talks to YOU’s Susan Sandys.

Mum-of-two Jana Niemand knows what it is like to have low self-esteem.

She has suffered with it, something she relates to a mildly dysfunctional childhood and not receiving enough motivation and encouragement as a child.

Becoming a mother brought a new joy to her life, however she suffered from post-natal depression, as well as a lack of confidence as she struggled to accept the changes in her body, particularly following two caesarean births.

Jana lives in Ashburton with husband Pierre and their children Amelia, 5, and Ruben, 3. She established a photography business after the birth of Ruben when she could not find a newborn photographer locally. Her business, Anais Photography, also does birth photography, as well as glamour and boudoir photographs.

Her creative work had to go on the backburner last year when she was involved in a serious car accident on the way home from Christchurch.

She thought she had had enough rest after waiting for a friend to give birth, but fell asleep at the wheel and hit a tree.

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months and she had to rely on others to help look after her children and herself.

Having time out from the day-to-day tasks of motherhood led to her thinking further about what she wanted to achieve with her photography business, and she decided to launch a new branch, which she has named RAW (Real Amazing Women)

photography. It is through this branch that Jana hopes to photograph women in all their raw beauty, literally, and perhaps even help change society’s perceptions along the way.

While so-called imperfections, such as stretchmarks, blemishes, saggy skin and surgery scars were hidden with clothing

and edited out of photos, these things could be beautiful and generally told a story of a special journey, she said.

“Women who define RAW Beauty are women of any age, size and culture. Those who put into motion the essence of life and do not let challenges deter them; they are creative, strong, confident and content.

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Left – Becoming a mother brought a new joy for Jana Niemand and helped inspire her photography business.

Above left – Glamour and boudoir photography clients can be nervous to start with, but soon relax under the lens of Jana’s camera.

Above right – Kara Hall is among Jana Niemand’s Real Amazing Women clients.

“My aim is to help build self-esteem in current and future generations of women and girls through providing natural, truthful and beautiful photos.

“I love helping women celebrate where they are in life and give them a reminder that they are deserving and beautiful.”

Even glamour photography has a place in

Jana’s studio. “All women deserve to have beautiful and graceful photos of them at least once in a lifetime.”

Jana said many women who came to see her at her home studio for their glamour and boudoir photos, were nervous to start with.

“Most women come in very insecure.

They come in probably so nervous that they just want to burst,” Jana said.

Each bedroom in Jana’s house has been renovated to have backdrops suitable for the variety of photos she takes and she generally uses her sunroom for newborn photos to make the most of natural light.

Jana’s new line of work comes as there

has been a social media movement towards women worldwide proudly posting photos of themselves in bikinis with their stretchmarks, receiving hundreds of thousands of Facebook likes.

“I have always cringed at the sight and thought of my stretchmarks,” Jana said. continued over page

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Above – Birth photography captures the beauty and emotion of childbirth.

Right – Special moments are captured forever under the lens of Jana’s camera.

from P5 She has taken a photo of her own stretchmarks as part of launching RAW. “After taking this photo and seeing the true beauty of it, they are no longer my shameful scars. Each one represents significant growth and moments to treasure while carrying my babies.

“I can now say that I am slowly learning to accept my body for what it is. I am blessed with two wonderful, beautiful children and have my silver lines to show for it.”

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So if you have a deserving friend or family member that you think should be nominated, please

email lisa.f@theguardian.co.nz (with RAW Photography in the subject line) or send your letter to YOU editor, RAW Photography, PO Box 77, Ashburton.

Make sure your phone number is included!

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All entries must be received by Friday, May 1, and will be drawn Monday, May 4.

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THE LOWDOWN

To do or not to do, and why? That is the question.

Why do women, and some men, get the hair on their sexual organs ripped out by hot wax?

From a feminist perspective, some would say it’s based (in the Western world) on porn originally. Many men consider it tidier, cleaner and more visually pleasing and many women just want to please their men. Is this the truth?

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Deirdre Moses, who owns her own beauty therapy business of the same name, says no, “I don’t believe that is the truth”.

At her busiest Deirdre was doing about five brazilians a day. She said there are many reasons why women get them done, but from her experience women were doing it for themselves.

“It’s a hygiene thing, it’s so much cleaner and healthier. And it’s a ‘being tidy and well-groomed’ thing.”

It’s accepted now. As much a part of your grooming as shaving your legs and, Deirdre says, it’s not just young people doing it. She has clients that range in age from 18 to 60, and the number of people getting it done has steadily grown since the turn of the century.

“But like anything to do with hair growth, it’s a trend.

“A while ago it was a trend for men to have full-body waxing, but that’s not as popular as it was,” Deirdre said.

“At the end of the day, I believe it’s a woman’s choice. Without getting into too much detail, I know a lot of women have it done before giving birth … it certainly makes them feel a lot better post-birth.

“And yes, most men prefer it. But it can also heighten sensation for women, actually make them more sensitive.”

What age is not okay? “Definitely a pre-pubescent girl. They’ve got to be old enough to make that choice for themselves. Otherwise you are teaching young girls that anyone can do things to their

Brazilian waxes are a relatively new “norm” for Western women.

Many women in their 40s and older are bemused by the whole naked, erm, girls’ bits thing, so YOU editor Lisa Fenwick decided to get the low-down on Brazilians and why they now seem to be as essential as shaving under your armpits.

bits. They have to at least be a teenager, capable of making a mature decision about something like this.

“Any parent that takes a pre-pubescent girl to be waxed should be shot.

“The youngest I’ve ever done is 16.”

Di Thomas of Body ‘n’ Beauty Worx has been a beauty therapist for 10 years and has been performing brazilians the whole time.

She believes brazilians are just part of a growing trend of women taking more care of themselves and wanting to be well groomed.

“I think women just don’t want hair.

“We do a lot … over 20 a week.”

And while she’s always done them, they definitely continue to grow in popularity.

“Women are doing more for themselves these days; wanting to look good and feel

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good.”

She gets women requesting brazilians from the ages of 17 to 60-ish, but does say she probably does get more younger people.

Health expert Waxing and shaving down below may be an expected part of young people’s beauty treatments now, but Christine Roke, a specialist doctor in Family Planning reproductive health and national medical adviser at Family Planning, says there is no health benefit to it.

“It’s definitely not dirty or unhealthy to have hair down under, unless your hygiene is not up to scratch.

“Wash it, just like you’d wash hair elsewhere,” she said.

Dr Roke believes there’s a lot of pressure for young women to shave or wax “down there and that’s a shame”.

Often it’s because the boyfriend wants no hair down there, she said, and no-one should be pressured.

There’s a bigger problem here than just looks or trend.

Dr Roke said it’s reasonably common for girls to come into Family Planning with an infection due to waxing or shaving.

“It disrupts the hair follicles and infections can occur. Some can get quite bad, causing boils.

“Many will come in thinking they have a sexually transmitted infection and it’s not, which is good. But in the meantime girls come in very anxious.”

While shaving or waxing doesn’t have any advantage in cleanliness or health, it’s down side is fairly significant when you consider that that ‘beauty treatment’ gives bugs an entry point.

If not treated the boils could even abcess, and in a worst-case scenario – very rare – it could spread to the bloodstream and cause blood poisoning (septicaemia).

So while there is no health or hygiene benefit to waxing/shaving down below, there can certainly be a down side.-

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Word on the street Woman in her 60s A very active, vivacious woman in her 60s had plenty to say about the waxing-of-your-private-bits “trend”. When her and her friends get together they have a good laugh about it.

“It’s a bit kinky in my opinion. Why would you want a fanny like a five-yearold’s? It’s just sick.

“And why would you want a woman to be like a girl? What is that saying about our society?”

She believes that it’s natural and healthy to have hair there and disputes that full waxing is cleaner. “We’ve had hairy fannies for centuries, what’s wrong with a shower?”

She said she’s not adverse to a bit of a trim up or bikini line, but whipping the lot off? “No. It feels a bit kinky and deviant.

“None of it washes with me. Keep it tidy, for sure, have a landing strip even. But whipping the lot off? I don’t get it.”

Woman in her early 20s Ruby (not her real name), 22, is a Brazilian convert, but is certainly doing it less frequently than when she was 18.

She reckons that among her 20-25-yearold friends 85 per cent of them would get Brazilians and if you add in the girls doing DIY it would take that number up to 95 per cent.

Ruby says she’s not doing for boys, but for convenience. Ruby is Maori and she and her family “have a lot of hair”.

“Of my friends, just under half would do it for men, and those ones are mostly single.

“For me, I get it done more frequently in summer, with swimming etc, and when I can afford it.

“If you are going in to get your eyebrows done, it’s just convenient to get the whole lot done. It’s certainly not a cleanliness thing. I can be clean without whipping the

hair off,” she said.

Does she see it as a young person thing to do? Hell yes.

But in Ashburton, three beauticians say no, there’s an awful lot of older women getting it done too, so sorry Ruby, but young people do not own Brazilians.

One thing that does not sit so well with Ruby is how Brazilians became “normalised”, and that, she believes, is from porn movies.

“Porn shouldn’t influence our daily lives, but it’s had a huge effect on men and how they perceive women’s private parts.”

Men’s view YOU editor Lisa Fenwick took to the streets of Ashburton to ask the men of the town what they think about Brazilians.

There were lots of red faces, but that was mostly just the interviewer. The reactions she got varied, but there was a common theme.

Men’s perception was that waxed pubic areas are cleaner and tidier and, while most prefer it, they were not going to insist on it.

A 45-year-old, who is in management, said he wouldn’t go back twice if a woman wasn’t waxed. But to be fair, he said, he also waxes himself to make things more pleasant for his partner.

A 36-year-old engineer told me that while it’s nice for women to be neat down there, it’s not the B-all and end-all. For him it’s a case of housekeeping, about personal grooming.

A 46-year-old Ashburton man said he’s not bothered. While he likes there to be some work done down there, as he finds it visually more attractive, he’s not really bothered.

One very cheeky 30-year-old believes it’s much better so he doesn’t get hair between his teeth … for him, it’s more a convenience thing.

So that’s the word on the street from guys above 30.

And as for the younger ones, this interviewer was not prepared to go around town asking post-teens what they think.

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ALL ABOUT

Makeup Genius (free)

apps

I desperately wanted to love this app. Makeup Genius was created by L’Oreal, and it allows users to snap a selfie and try on different L’Oreal products from the comfort of their own home. That’s right, no more awkwardly testing lipstick shades on your hand. You can experiment with different colours and looks, and if you find one you love, you can buy it through the app or share the look with friends. Sounds pretty perfect, right? Well, unfortunately this app has one major flawthe “makeup” looks ridiculous. The colours look cartoonish, and the way the makeup is applied on to your picture is weird and appears to subscribe to a “one-size fits all” policy. The app is super easy to navigate and in theory it sounds like an amazing and innovative way to experiment with your look. Sadly, in practice, this is one app that falls flat.

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Thankfully, I’m no longer studying under the NCEA system. All of those years of stressing about trigonometry and essays about Alexander the Great are far, far behind me. However, if I was still doing NCEA, I would download this app in a heartbeat. The NCEA app allows users to enter the subjects they are taking, add the particular standards they are sitting, and then keep up to date with their results as they are entered. Students no longer have to spend a ridiculous amount of time navigating the arduous log-in process on the NCEA website, or phoning the helpline because they’ve forgotten their log-in number for the fifth time this term. The app allows students to track their progress quickly and easily, so they can stay on top of their work without the added stress.

This is one for all of you organising gurus and list lovers.

Todoist is a great app that allows you to keep up to date with everything in your life. Never again will you forget that big work deadline, parent/teacher meeting, or dentist appointment – Todoist has got you covered. The app allows you to make to-do lists, work with others on projects, and track your progress though ‘karma’ points.

You can also manage your tasks from anywhere, as the app works offline, and you can sync it across all of your devices. I’m a big fan of making lists and keeping a detailed diary, so this app has definitely made my life easier.

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CHICK FLICK MOVIE REVIEW

The Best of Me

Written by romantic drama king Nicholas Sparks (The Notebook, Safe Haven, Message in a Bottle) The Best of Me is a bitter-sweet chick flick in true Sparks’ style.

Directed by Michael Hoffman and starring James Marsden and Michelle Monaghan, with Luke Bracey and Liana Liberato, The Best of Me has the ‘awww’ factor alongside tear-jerking drama.

The plot: Dawson Cole, the classic nice-boy-born-on-the-really-wrong-sideof-the-tracks meets class act Amanda Collier and the couple fall in love.

Eventually, due to his violent, criminal family, the couple split, only to be reunited again many years later after both having gone on and lead their own lives.

Corny plot, you may say, but it’s not. A) I have simplified it majorly and B), while it may be a romantic drama, it certainly has its sharp corners – have the tissues handy. It is heart-warming, it is first love, it is tragedy and it is a fantastic chick flick.

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WHEN

Harry met Sarah:

THE POSITIVES OF ONLINE

Terms like catfishing or deception can sometimes spring to mind when the notion of online dating is mentioned, and people are constantly urged to be careful when delving into the world of internet romance. However, for two Ashburton couples, online dating proved to be exactly what they were looking for.

They chatted to YOU contributors Caitlin Porter and Daisy Hudson, about their experiences.

by Caitlin Porter

After meeting on the FindSomeone dating site, Sarah and Harry will this year be celebrating not only their fifth wedding anniversary but also, the birth of their second child together.

A few years ago, after hearing about how successful her friends had in meeting their boyfriends, and even husbands, on FindSomeone, Sarah thought that dating online might be the way to go.

“I got to the age of 30 and I’d had enough of there not being decent guys in my immediate vicinity.

“So my friends really encouraged me to try it out,” Sarah said.

“I thought, stuff this, what can I lose?”

Three years came and went, and she still hadn’t found her Prince Charming, but she encountered “a lot of frogs”.

Sarah had all but given up, and was about to delete her online dating profile when a message popped up, from Harry.

“I thought I’d give it one more go,” she

said. The pair messaged back and forth for a day or two, then the weekend rolled around and Harry said he thought they should meet face-to-face.

Based in Ashburton at the time, Harry travelled to Christchurch to see Sarah.

The pair met in a safe place, at a mall, and Sarah had organised for her sister to call to check in on her.

“We spent like nine hours together on that first meeting, we had lunch together, then we pottered round the mall for a wee while, then we had coffee, we went to the

gardens and had a wee walk and then we went out for tea,” Sarah said.

It got late and Harry drove back to Ashburton, and the pair left it there, not stipulating whether they would talk again.

The following day though, Sarah received a message from Harry, saying how much he enjoyed the date and her company.

However, before pursing their relationship further, he said he wanted to meet her parents, and tell them a bit about himself.

“I think deep down I really wanted that,”

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Left – Sarah and Harry are as happy as can be.

Above – This July will mark the pair’s fifth wedding anniversary.

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Sarah said.

The couple began dating mid-January and by February they both knew that this was it.

March rolled around, and Harry proposed, Sarah, ecstatic, said yes.

A wedding date had to be worked out to fit both their schedules and they narrowed it down to July 17, only a few short months later.

Everything went off without a hitch and before Sarah knew it, she was living down in Ashburton with Harry and his two

young boys. Work commitments meant Harry and the family moved back to Rolleston for a few years, but the pair settled back in Ashburton in October of last year.

Not long after moving back, Sarah found out she was pregnant with their second child, due in July.

Sarah said she would definitely recommend online dating to others, but it was important to be cautious, and keep safe – but you never know, you might just find the one you’ve been looking for.

Sarah’s advice – – – –

Be wary, some sites are just “meat markets” Be safe, meet somewhere in public and have a friend ready to bail you out if necessary Be upfront with friends and family, so it’s not a secretive thing And, most importantly, don’t go in expecting to find “the one” continued over page

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Tetiana

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Artem

by Daisy Hudson

When Tetiana Lebiedieva and Artem Kononyuk connected on Facebook in September 2010, neither thought much of it.

After all, Tetiana was thousands of kilometres away in the Ukraine, while Artem was living and working in Ashburton.

Now, more than five years later, they are happily married and parents to a toddler.

The couple first met on Facebook and soon found out they were from the same city in Ukraine. Artem had moved to New Zealand seven years before, to work on a dairy farm.

Initially the pair thought they would chat for a while and neither thought anything serious would come from it. However, it wasn’t long before they realised there was something special between them.

The Facebook chats soon turned into lengthy Skype conversations – sometimes for up to four hours at a time.

Both Artem and Tetiana praised Skype, saying being able to see each other and interact face-to-face was very important to their relationship.

However, the time difference did make finding time to chat difficult.

New Zealand is nine hours ahead of

Online dating led to true love for Artem and Tetiana, who are now married and parents to son Brian.

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Ukraine, so Tetiana would just be starting her day as Artem got home from work.

Despite the challenges, the couple managed to make it work.

When Artem returned to the Ukraine for a visit in May 2011, it had already been decided – the couple were getting married.

Meeting for the first time at the airport in Kiev was “unusual”, Artem said.

“We felt so close to each other, but when you see each other for the first time, you have to start again,” he said.

Their whirlwind romance picked up speed during Artem’s two months there and they lived together for the duration of

the trip, met each other’s parents, and in June 2011, got married.

However Artem returned to New Zealand alone, as passport issues meant Tetiana had to wait until September to join her husband in her new homeland.

By October the couple were expecting their son, Brian.

While adjusting to life in Ashburton after coming from a city of over half a million people was a challenge, Tetiana said she didn’t have anything bad to say about the town.

“It’s very different, but in terms of safety it’s better,” she said.

For Tetiana and Artem, being able to connect online made all the difference.

Artem says he knows more and more people who are turning to the internet to find love and believes online dating is becoming more normal.

“Before Facebook and Skype, it was something strange,” he said.

“Now, it’s more comfortable.”

While Tetiana would recommend online dating, there are some precautions people should take.

“Don’t date anyone who is asking for money or anything else,” she said.

“Also, make sure it’s possible to meet if you’re looking for a serious relationship.”

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PLEASE, DON’T EVER CALL ME

a lady

I like to think of myself as someone who believes in the rights of every living thing, as long as they are not hurting other living things – not sure what label you’d give that.

So I don’t call myself a feminist, a greenie or someone who advocates for gay or transgender people, because I believe it goes without saying that every living thing, no matter what station in life, what colour, what sexual orientation, what age or even what breed of animal you are, has a right to be treated with equality, respect and dignity.

But, every time I see the words ‘ladies bring a plate’, it makes me want to cook up dog meat in the shape of mini meatballs and serve it up with a sauce of undisclosed origins in a feminist rage.

I can’t believe people still say it. What?

The blokes can’t bake or hand an Eftpos card over at a bakery?

And furthermore, calling me a lady brings to mind women who did as they were told, were always polite and didn’t have emotions (or indeed any personality at all), was owned by a man and wasn’t allowed to fart.

I don’t know how many times a family member or work colleague have shaken their heads at me and called me “such a

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lady”. Yes, I know that the word “lady” has many definitions which have changed with time – a superior class, a woman of refinement and gentle manners, titled and many others – but acting like a lady is, to me, something I wouldn’t thank you for.

I can be polite, I can have gentle manners, I can even make polite conversation – which I hate – but best of all I can put my posh voice on (learned from my privately-educated mum from a family of “good standing”).

Polite conversation actually makes me shudder with trepidation.

I don’t have time to waste talking about stuff that means nothing.

I’m interested in people and their lives, but not the weather or general conversation about how bad the traffic is on West Street today.

On the other hand, I can be vile (but the difference is I know I’m being vile).

Take when my favourite wee advertising rep left the Guardian recently. Full of personality, Eden Kirk-Williams has left a huge hole in our daily work lives.

So on her last day, as a going-away present I pretended to give her a hug, but with swift precision and smooth Ninja moves, I twisted around and farted on her leg.

Now to put that in context, Eden delighted in farting in the lift any opportunity she got (and blocking me from exiting), she let off tremendous belches near me followed by her favourite justification “It’s a compliment in some cultures!”

She seriously did anything she could to gross me out, with a cheeky grin and devilish merriment in her eyes.

She drove past me the other day as I walked the dog down Racecourse Road, and tortured me for days over the fact that I was out in public early in the morning with wild, red hair sticking up on end (with the odd dreadlock in the tangled back) and nightie on under my clothes.

I guess I deserved that one ... but early mornings and I just don’t get on.

But again, it all comes down to perception does it not? From an early age my concept of a ‘lady’ was about being

inhibited, being owned, being mentally stunted by society and having something very stiff shoved somewhere to keep your back ramrod straight.

It always struck me as an awful fate.

Maybe I read too much historical fiction in the past, but give me a woman with spirit, intelligence and personality any day.

No wonder the upper crust males tripped off gayly to women of ill repute for a night of fun and frivolity. Funny though, even modern men seem to want a woman that’s a wee “lady” but they want their girl children to have spunk, personality and intelligence; hmm, them old double standards again.

I don’t want my girl growing up thinking she has to shut her mouth, live on polite conversation and smile sweetly when insulted.

I want her to explore life, love wholeheartedly, tell people when they’re annoying her and go climb Mt Kilamanjaro if that’s what she wants to do.

I want her to live life to the full, with energy, passion and have lots of fun, the same philosophies I would want for anyone I love.

So, call me anything you want, and people frequently do, but please, don’t ever call me a lady.

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SMALL

delights

Marg Brownlie

FOR FOODIES

Nothing gives me more pleasure than producing the wow factor when creating a dinner menu for a special occasion.

It can be a little time consuming, but it’s so worth the effort, and let’s face it, winter is almost upon us so you might feel a little more inclined to stay indoors and make the time.

The first small delight I want to share with you, prawn wontons with a ginger and vinegar dressing, I have made a billion times and it never fails to impress. It may seem a little daunting to make, but give it a go and the next time will be easier.

It can actually be a lot of fun to make.

Get the kids to join in and all of a sudden it’s a messy, fun, family affair!

Prawn wontons with a ginger and vinegar dressing Serves 4 as a starter

200g raw prawn meat 1T chopped coriander leaves 1T thinly sliced spring onions 1t finely chopped fresh ginger 1t Chinese rice wine (shaohshing) 1T light soy sauce 1t oyster sauce 1/4 t sugar 1/4 t sesame oil 16 square wonton wrappers

Dressing 2 1/2 T light soy sauce 2T thinly sliced coriander stems 1T finely chopped fresh ginger 2T thinly sliced spring onions 2T Chinese black vinegar (or malt vinegar) 2T kecap manis 1/4 t chilli oil Dash of sesame oil

– To make the dressing, combine all the ingredients together and set aside until ready to serve.

– Wonton filling: Chop the prawn meat and combine with remaining ingredients except for the wonton wrappers.

Cover and refrigerate for 30 mins to firm up the mixture.

– Lay a wonton wrapper on a work bench. Place a teaspoon of filling in the centre of the wrapper. Moisten 1 edge of the wrapper with a little water then fold it over the filling, leaving a 1cm border of wrapper exposed. Press lightly along the moistened edges to seal and be sure to remove any air. Fold the long edge of the wrapper back to form a flap.

– Hold one end of the wonton in each hand with the flap-side facing away from you. Lightly moisten one of the inner corners of the wonton with water, then bring the two ends towards you, overlap the edges and press gently to seal. Repeat with remaining filling and wrappers, placing them spaced apart on a plate as you go. Put a little cornflour

on the plate so the wontons lift off easily.

– Bring a large pan or wok of water to the boil. Drop the wontons into the water and cook for two minutes. They will rise to the top when they are cooked.

Remove wontons with a slotted spoon and drain.

– Cook the remaining wontons then

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Thai salmon cakes These are so easy to make and a real crowd pleaser.

400g salmon fillet, skin and pin bones removed, then roughly chop 2T red curry paste 1 egg

1 1/2 T fish sauce 1 1/2 T cornflour 2T chopped coriander, extra for garnish 2T sunflower oil

– Place the salmon, red curry paste, egg,

fish sauce and cornflour in a food processor and pulse until just combined.

Add coriander and pulse a little more so the coriander is still quite chunky.

– Shape into 12 small patties and chill for 15 mins or so to firm up the mixture.

– Heat the oil in a large frying pan over a medium to high heat and cook the patties for about two minutes on either side.

– Garnish with the leftover coriander and serve with a good quality sweet chilli sauce.

Pumpkin and feta ravioli

For those of you maybe don’t like to make your own pasta or don’t have time, you can buy fresh lasagne sheets and roll them out a little thinner just with a rolling pin.

Ravioli filling 1/2 pumpkin 1 garlic clove 1 red onion 100g feta 2 egg yolks Olive oil Salt and pepper – Roast pumpkin, onion and garlic at 200°C until soft. Scoop out the flesh of the pumpkin into a mixing bowl.

Squeeze out the garlic and onion, removing any crispy skins and chop till very fine then mix with pumpkin and feta. Season. Add the yolks and mix well. Let cool.

– Take your rolled pasta sheet, which will be a long thin sheet. Start placing tablespoon-sized balls of the mix 2cm

divide evenly before topping with the dressing and ganishing with some extra chopped spring onions.

– Once you master this technique you have lots of other options you can have as fillings: – Pork mince instead of prawns.

– A vegetarian option with sauteed shiitake mushrooms, garlic chives, ginger,

Above – Prawn wontons with a ginger and vinegar dressing.

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apart down the middle of the sheet then with a little water lightly brush the pasta and fold the sides over to meet the parallel edge evenly. Press in the gaps between the pumpkin mix to form little pockets, then cut the ravioli with a knife, which will now form squareish shapes.

– Bring a large pot of water to the boil with 1t salt and cook the ravioli for 2-3 mins.

– I have always served these with a burnt sage butter, a match made in heaven.

You will need: 100 gr unsalted butter 15-20 small fresh sage leaves – Place chopped butter into a large frying pan over medium heat. Cook until melted then add sage leaves to pan.

– Cook butter and sage leaves, swirling pan often, for 4-5 minutes or until sage leaves are crisp and butter has turned a deep nut-brown colour.

– Season to taste with salt and pepper.

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Arancini

1T olive oil 1 small onion, finely chopped 1 clove garlic, crushed 1C uncooked arborio rice 1/2 C dry white wine 2 1/2 C boiling chicken stock 1 1/2 C roughly chopped raw prawns (optional) 1/2 C finely grated parmesan cheese juice of 1 lemon 1/4 C chopped flat leaf parsley 1 egg, lightly beaten 1 egg 1T milk 1/2 C flour Vegetable oil for frying Aioli

– Heat the olive oil in a large saucepan over a medium heat. Add the onion and garlic, and cook, stirring until the onion is soft but not browned.

Pour in the rice, and cook stirring for 2 mins or until the grains of rice are well coated with the oil, then stir in the wine, and continue cooking and stirring until the wine has evapourated. Add hot chicken stock to the rice a ladleful at a time, stirring until the liquid has disappeared before you add more.

– When the stock has all been added and the liquid has evapourated, stir in the prawns if you are using them.

Take of the heat and stir in parmesan, lemon juice, parsley and season with salt and pepper.

– Transfer risotto to a bowl and allow to cool slightly.

Above – Arancini.

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– Stir the beaten egg into the risotto, and with the remaining egg whisk in a small bowl with the milk.

– For each ball, roll two tablespoons of the risotto into a ball. Lightly coat with flour, dip into the milk mixture

and roll in panko crumbs to coat the balls.

– Heat the oil for frying in a deep saucepan or deep-fryer to 175°C. Fry the balls in small batches until evenly golden, turning as required.

– Drain on paper towels. Keep warm in a low oven while the rest are frying.

– Really important not to overcrowd the pot when cooking the balls.

– I serve these with an aoili and they are yum!

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Facial ageing is associated with the loss of soft tissue fullness in certain areas of the face such as around the mouth, the forehead, the jaw line, around the eye area and particularly the cheeks.

In the early stages of ageing light skin peels, skin care products, IPL, lasers including Fraxel™ laser can help

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It sounds like the plot for an action-packed Hollywood blockbuster, but for Sue Prendergast, it was a terrifying reality which very few people would face in their lifetime.

by Amanda Wright

A mother of six children, Sue vividly remembers travelling to Christchurch in an ambulance with her daughter, Megan.

“She was very sick with Guillan Barre Syndrome, and needed to be put on life support. During the drive to Christchurch, a wheel came off a truck on the highway and smashed into the ambulance, injuring the driver. The nurse had to grab the wheel and then drive us to hospital.

“The driver ended up in the emergency department on our arrival while they put

Megan on life support. My husband Pat had been following in the car behind with our 10 week old baby, Chelsea and in the panic had accidentally locked her in the car with the keys.

“It was a very scary day all round.

“Megan spent four months in hospital and then a year of rehabilitation to learn how to walk again, to make a full recovery.

It is what inspired her to now become a nurse and work in ICU,” Sue said.

Before having six children of her own, Sue was no stranger to being part of a large family, being the youngest of five children. She grew up on a sheep cropping

farm, Drayton, not far from Methven. Her parents also bred race horses, so much of her childhood was spend travelling the countryside to race tracks.

After her father semi-retired, the family moved to a lifestyle block in Ashburton.

Sue’s father, Dudley Harrison, had gone to war for New Zealand and had been injured by a bullet, which took its toll on his health.

Sue’s three older sisters had left home by this stage, so she and her older brother were the only children raised on the Company Road block.

Sue became a mum at 18 and her family

quickly grew. Her first two children were under four and a half years old when her third and fourth children arrived, twin boys.

She looked after her children when they were young and then fitted a career in around school hours.

In 2004, Sue won the Ashburton Business Award for customer service while working at New World, and juggling a busy family.

“Being there for your children is the most important thing any mum can do, and then it’s never too late to start a new career.

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You may feel a little out of practice when you re-enter the workforce, but the skills you acquire as a parent will help you to become organised and focused at work,” Sue said.

Sue and Pat then ran the Tinwald Domain Holiday Park for six years.

“We only had our two youngest girls at home then, so it worked perfectly with family life.”

Some of Sue and Pat’s children now have children of their own, blessing them with many grandchildren.

“Our daughter, Anna, owns Tanglez Hair Studio and is a busy mum with four children, Aliiyah, Cullen, Jett, Rhylan.

“Megan is an ICU nurse at Christchurch Hospital and has a daughter, Cleo.

“Chelsea works at Postie and has a three-year-old son, Jaxon, who was born with a rare condition called Cerebellar Hypoplasia.

“Our youngest, Jaimee, is a hairdresser

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“Being there for your children is the most important thing any mum can do, and then it’s never too late to start a new career.

You may feel a little out of practice when you re-enter the workforce, but the skills you acquire as a parent will help you to become organised and focused at work”

at Clippers Hair Studio, in her third year of her apprenticeship.

“Our son Dylan manages on a dairy farm near Waimate, and has four children, Mykailah, Harrison, Hazel and Archie.

“Dylan’s twin brother, Michael, passed away at 18 years of age.

The day I lost my son, my world changed forever. My poor boy took his life and our family changed forever,” Sue said.

With her children grown, Sue started a new career in Real Estate. She began in

property management with McGregor real estate which gave her an insight into what makes an excellent investment property.

She then moved into sales, where her ability to assist clients in growing a successful investment portfolio has reaped reward.

McGregor Real Estate now trades under Trevor Hurley Real Estate Limited, and is branded as Real Estate New Zealand – Ashburton.

This strategic branding is beneficial to both buyers and sellers, looking to be led in the right direction with their initial real estate enquiry.

“With the ever increasing usage of Internet enquiries, Real Estate New Zealand – Ashburton enables us to be in the top half of all Internet searches on Google, placing our properties above many larger national real estate brands.

This automatically gives our sellers a competitive advantage.

“We look after all aspects of residential, investment, sections and lifestyle property sales.

“This coupled with having the largest property management business in Ashburton and our recent alignment with the mortgage company, New Zealand Home Loans, creates a great one-stop local real estate company that can cater for all your needs whether you are a first homebuyer, investor or established homeowner,” Sue said.

Sue is passionate about strategic marketing for her vendors, and believes their independent agency has the ability to offer more to sellers.

“We have no restrictions put on where and how we choose to market our properties, which allows us to cater to individual listings.

We utilise the best industry websites, but we also support local business by advertising in local paper mediums and include prestige options such as premium signage, professional photography and even drone aerial photography.

“This combined with our no-obligation, free appraisal makes Trevor Hurley Real Estate Limited a smart choice when selling or buying real estate here in Ashburton,” Sue said. Not only does Trevor Hurley Real Estate Limited support local businesses, it also supports the local community.

The real estate business has made a name for itself supporting community events, including Christmas in the Park, Teddy Bear’s Picnic, Ashburton Hospital Children’s Play Packs, Zonta Youth Art Awards, Easter Hop and Doggy Day Out, as well as many local organisations including Mayfield Golf Club, Tinwald and Netherby School and the Heart Foundation of New Zealand.

With open homes on most weekends, Sue doesn’t get a lot of time to relax, but when she can skip away for a holiday she loves to explore rural New Zealand, finding new cafes, pubs and quirky retail shops.

To experience the Real Estate New Zealand difference, give Sue a call for an obligation-free appraisal.

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WAYS TO TRANSITION YOUR WARDROBE FROM

summer to winter

Ann Furlong

IN STYLE

Not all of your summer clothes will be able to make the transition into winter, so when packing away your warm weather gear, only keep the styles that will easily cross the line into winter.

There are plenty of ways to make the most of your wardrobe, no matter what the season.

Get crafty and let your summer clothes work double time this winter!

The following are some tips on how to wear summer clothes in winter.

2. Bright pants aren’t solely for sunshine-filled days

1. Tights

Simply by adding some opaque or cable knit tights to your summer dresses, skirts and shorts, along with a chunky sweater and some flats - Voilà - super cute, affordable and comfy.

Wearing a long sleeved shirt under a dress is another way to stretch out your existing wardrobe through the seasons.

Make them cold weatherfriendly with the addition of black and white separates, add a boyfriend blazer, some bangles and a statement necklace – boom.

5. Most importantly

3. Cardigans rule

A simple cardigan can take a simple summer dress or top to winter fashion in one easy step. Every girl needs at least three different solid colour high quality cardigans to pair with your transition favourites for years to come. Cardigans are also a great way to bring a pop of colour to pull a whole outfit together.

4. Going denim

Denim shirts are great for both summer and fall, during the summer they make easy cover ups and cute additions to summer outfits. During autumn they go great with coloured skinny jeans, riding boots, and your favourite scarf.

Remember how our mothers would always insist we bring a jacket out with us? Well, she was right! Weather can be unpredictable, so get used to grabbing your coat again, and a scarf. Oh scarves, how I love thee. Bright, bold, beautiful, vibrant, silk, satin, wool all of these things embody the perfect winter scarf. Autumn winter clothes can tend to be a bit monochromatic and dark, scarves give you the ability to sprinkle a little colour on an otherwise drab outfit.

One more thing, you can’t go wrong with leopard in the autumn, the different hues of browns and ambers are perfect for pairing with traditional autumn colours like hunter green and black. Happy dressing everyone.

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YOUR SKIN

Winter throws up a whole new set of needs as cold weather, home heating, and dry weather beat your skin.

So it was the perfect opportunity to review Antipodes Nourishing Night Cream.

This is a beautiful cream especially for the colder months, it definitely made a difference to my skin.

Within days my skin felt very smooth.

This cream absorbs readily but doesn’t feel heavy and delivers just the right amount of moisture.

And the fact that it is produced in New Zealand including wonderful fragrances (Ylang ylang, patchouli and sandalwood) and has pure NZ avocado is a great added bonus.

Other benefits include: • anti-ageing night cream • the cream is made of 100% pure avocado oil which has superior restorative qualities • Scientifically shown to stimulate Type 1 Collagen by 92% This facial night cream also features calendula oil from marigold petals, highly regarded throughout history for its healing and repairing properties.

Active manuka honey soothes and moistens your skin, while potent

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THIS WINTER Skin changes with the seasons and it is important women adjust their daily skincare routine throughout the year. During autumn and winter, low temperatures, low humidity and brisk winds deplete skin of its natural nutrients, which can lead to a dry, lacklustre appearance.

It is much easier to prevent dryness and irritation than it is to alleviate it, so now is the best time to start changing the routine before the weather becomes even colder.

AVOID LONG, HOT SHOWERS As wonderful as a leisurely bath or shower can feel in the winter, too much water can break down the elements that keep your healthy outer layers intact. Soaking for as little as 20 minutes can damage the skin’s barrier, which puts out a welcome mat for dryness.

Keep showers or baths short and at a moderate temperature.

EXFOLIATE AND RENEW Apply at night, beautiful by day

As the colder months approach and the humidity drops, your skin may feel dry and flaky.

Once or twice a week, use a gentle scrub on a soft wash cloth to clean the skin and buff away dead cells, product build-up or excess oil and grit. Immediately massage a rich moisturiser on the skin to renew your skin barrier.

You will feel the difference immediately,

but remember to stay the course and repeat throughout the season.

TAKE CARE WHEN SHAVING It is particularly important to care for shaven areas of your body, including your underarms where shaving irritation can cause the skin to lose up to 50 per cent more moisture and lead to dryness and sensitivity.

An easy solution is to use a multi-tasking anti-perspirant or deodorant such as Dove Advanced Care with NutriumMoisture.

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Apply sunscreen every day, as well as a lip balm rich in emollients and SPF protection.

Following these tips from Dr Marmur will help people keep their skin moisturised and refreshed throughout the autumn and winter.

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of all trades

by Amanda Wright

While a Jack of all trades is a handy person to have around, after meeting Laser Electrical’s estimator, Alan East, we reckon an Alan of all trades is a definite trade-up.

Alan’s varied work experience means that he’s the go-to guy in the office whenever there’s hands-on work that needs to be done.

After leaving school, Alan’s first job was at a salmon farm and hatchery, before moving into the electrical field as a technician on a manual telephone exchange.

He was in charge of fixing cords and panels that were damaged by the operators at the time, while also helping to install the new electronic phone exchange.

He spent nine years at a weigh and scale company where he progressed to service manager, before becoming a stay-athome dad.

In-between school runs and coaching junior rugby, Alan also designed and

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managed building projects.

Moving into the hospitality field was a big step, but Alan and his family owned the Ranfurly Holiday Park for six years, where his building and electrical experience was exceptionally handy.

“The holiday park catered to campers, fishermen, hunters and tourists who rode the Central Otago Rail Trail, so it

was a very busy place that always had a diverse bunch of characters staying with us,” Alan said.

Always willing to help others, Alan has been a volunteer firefighter with the New Zealand Fire Service for more than nine years. He started as a volunteer firefighter in Brooklands, Christchurch, before transferring to Ranfurly, with the

purchase of the holiday park and has now joined the Rural Fire Force in Ashburton.

As a firefighter, Alan has seen the consequences of poorly planned heating sources too many times, with the devastating loss of property as a result.

“The thanks we receive from people who need our services in an emergency is humbling to receive, but we would all rather be able to prevent fires from occurring in the first place.

A well-designed source of heating is the best place to start, especially with winter on the way.”

As an estimator for Laser Electrical, Alan assists people who are looking at installing heating solutions, whether it’s upgrading a current fireplace or designing a heating solution for a new home build.

“Not all solutions come in a box and as an estimator I can help people make informed decisions to suit them and their home,” Alan said.

Building, renovating or if you simply need advice on the best heating source for your home, call Alan at Laser Electrical for professional and experienced advice.

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IS IRON DEFICIENCY

It was World Iron Deficiency Awareness Week this week and it’s important to be aware of all ages and both sexes getting their daily dietary requirement of iron.

It has been concluded in a recent nutrition survey that low iron levels are occurring across a range of age groups throughout the population and they need to increase their daily iron consumption.

Everyone has different daily requirements, the average being around 10mg of iron per day throughout the various age groups, double this amount for women aged 19-50, and over double for pregnant women.

For example, a 250g steak contains 10mg of iron and adult women need 11mg, while adult men need 8mg of iron per day. A baked potato or a chicken leg contains up to 2mg of iron; not all the iron will be absorbed and is important to eat a variety of the food groups on a daily basis.

Iron is a mineral that is obtained through the diet.

Its role is to transport oxygen from our lungs to our muscles and brain and it plays a role in energy production, supporting the immune system, and helps keep us physically and mentally well. All the cells in the body rely on iron to function efficiently and therefore iron is considered critical to human life.

The signs and symptoms of iron deficiency depend on its severity, with mild to moderate anaemia having no signs and symptoms.

Symptoms of iron deficiency are varied, but are generally related to low energy output with the classic sign being tiredness, which is often difficult to detect and often confused with living a busy life that involves tiredness as a consequence.

For example – lethargy, paleness, shortness of breath, heart irregularities, restless legs syndrome, headaches, anxiety for no reason, difficulty concentrating, deterioration in physical and mental performance, higher frequency of illness, loss of appetite, notice the cold more easily (hands and feet), often feeling grumpy and irritable, are just some of the signs of iron deficiency.

Iron deficiency is seen in people such as

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vegetarians (especially vegans), pregnant and breastfeeding women, people on weight reduction diets, teenage girls and women with monthly menstrual cycles, children, infants and teenagers during growth spurts and very active people and sportspeople.

There are two types of iron – haem iron and non-haem iron. Haem iron is found in animal products and the most easily absorbed. Food examples of haem iron are beef, lamb, pork, poultry and seafood, with higher amounts in beef and lamb, not to mention liver and kidneys.

Non-haem iron is in plant foods and is poorly absorbed. Food examples of nonhaem iron are – vegetables, fruits, eggs, nuts, beans, cereals and bread.

The best way to find out if you have an iron deficiency is to get a blood test, especially if you may be suffering from one or more of the symptoms mentioned above, you could be low in iron.

Ways to ensure that you are consuming adequate iron in your diet is to make sure that you eat at least three to four red meat meals per week to maintain a good iron intake.

It is also important to include vitamin C rich foods to help absorb the iron. Vitamin C rich foods include fruits and vegetables.

A classic example of an iron-rich meal is a mince dish that is accompanied with pasta or a potato dish and a salad or side of vegetables.

It is also wise to keep coffee and tea consumption away from your meals, due to the tannin content in these beverages having the ability to reduce the amount of iron absorbed from your food.

So make sure you and your family are getting adequate iron in your daily/weekly diet this winter.

With the compliments of Jane Logie, a medicinal herbalist, clinical nutritionist and chef from Methven

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Easy paprika and garlic mince.

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6T olive oil 1 onion, chopped finely 6-8 cloves of garlic, chopped finely 500g mince 2t white pepper 6-8 grinds black pepper 1 1/2 t salt 1 1/2 t paprika 1 1/2 t dried sweet basil 1/2 130g tin tomato paste 2x400g tins of tomatoes (whole or chopped) 2 tins full of water (rinsing out the leftover juice of tomato tins) 6-8 medium-sized spinach leaves washed, de-stalked and chopped Parmesan cheese, grated (add the amount to your taste) Wheat or rice noodles – follow cooking directions on packet.

– Place olive oil in a large pot and gently fry the onion and garlic cloves until cooked.

– Massage the salt and white pepper into mince then add to pan and brown.

– Add the paprika and the basil and stir through, cook for 5-10 minutes.

– Add the tomatoes and mash in pot if whole, then rinse the tins out with water and add to mince – Now add the tomato paste. Leave the mince to cook away for 45 minutes to 1 hour, on the stove on a low heat.

– Once cooked, add the chopped and diced spinach. Season with salt and pepper to your taste if required.

– Cook another 5-10 minutes then serve.

– Serve with a salad on the side and wheat or rice noodles under mince with grated parmesan cheese on top. recipe by Jane Logie

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FROM AUTHOR COLLEEN OAKLEY

Before I Go Eden KirkWilliams

BOOK REVIEW

Have you ever heard of a “Cancerversay”?

Well I hadn’t either until I read Before I go written by debut novelist Colleen Oakley.

She has taken on the big three with this novel - Life, death and love - from these she has delivered a breathtaking story.

I adored the indisputable honesty that main character Daisy speaks with as she struggles with her battle of mortality.

The day before celebrating her four year “Cancerversary” with Husband Jack, Daisy suffers a devastating blow. It’s back and it’s a stage four aggressive diagnosis this time.

“I want fifty years, and all I get is a few extra months? It’s like asking your boss for a five-thousand-dollar raise and he nods and says, “I can give you ten cents.”

We follow Daisy from here as she struggles with not her fear of death but with her fear of what will be left behind.

She is the kind of person who sees a problem and fixes it, but how could she fix this? So she sets a goal. Her charmingly helpless Jack will need someone to take care of him when she isn’t there anymore.

“And I realise that even though I was searching for a wife for Jack, that I wanted him to have somebody, to not be alone

when I was gone, I never really believed he would love another woman. That he could love another woman. Not the way he loved me.”

I found this to be a heartbreaking story with an honest voice that sung to my inner fears. We have all know someone who has had the big C and we wonder how they feel, how does it feel to know that your time here has an early expiry date? To know that the life you have built will be left without you to hold it together.

“I cannot die.

I will not die.

Then I look over at Jack in the darkness.

The comforter rises and falls in time with his slow breathing. And as much as I try to keep the thought at bay, push it out of my head as I stare at my sleeping husband, like a seasoned thief, it sneaks in anyway.

But what if I do?”

Death is hard to talk about, it is hard to write about and it is hard to read about but Oakley has made it a little easier with the small pieces of everyday humor that you will find in the poignant pages of this novel. I really thought I would cry throughout this book but the tears didn’t come right until the end. Not because of

her lost battle but because the way this novel is written made me feel what Daisy felt, it put this horrific situation into real time and into a voice that I could identify with.

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AUTUMN CLEAN-UP

Michelle Nelson

GARDENING NOTES

Autumn is my favourite time in the garden.

There’s something special about working outdoors on crisp, clear autumn days – even if most of the jobs involve tidying up.

It is the season to plant trees and shrubs, sow threadbare patches in the lawn – and of course to put the winter vegetable patch in order.

I often leave a healthy vege plant to run to seed, and now is the time to harvest.

Make sure the seeds are completely dry, before storing in a clean container. Include the date and contents on the label and store in a cool, dark place.

Be sure to replace nutrients sucked up by summer crops by applying a generous layer of compost, blood and bone and animal manure.

Plant green crops in areas due to be spelled over the winter months – these

Gooseberries love a light maintenance prune at this time of year.

include blue lupins, mustard and should be dug in before they form woody stems or seed heads.

Harvest potatoes, pumpkins and squash. Store in a cool, dry, dark place.

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Prepare seed beds for autumn planting in sunny areas. There’s no point in planting anything in cold, damp corners of the garden.

April is an ideal time to plant brassicas, in fact I plant all my broccoli, cabbage, cauliflower and kale in the autumn, for use in the spring when vegetables are traditionally much dearer to buy. The other advantage is the plants have a better chance of beating the white butterfly and will require less insect control.

Carrot, beets, spinach, silverbeet and turnip seed can also be planted at this time.

Autumn is also a prime time to plant trees and shrubs. Apply a good dollop of compost and mulch generously after planting.

Raspberry and other soft fruit canes can be tidied up now, prior to the real pruning in late winter.

Raspberries can be prone to disease and maintenance pruning can prevent it speading, by allowing light and air to circulate. Remove any broken or scarred canes and any suckers which have popped up outside the footprint of the designated raspberry patch.

Likewise currants and gooseberries will benefit from a light maintenance prune at this time of year.

I’ve grown a bumper crop of chillies in containers this summer, and plan to winter over a handful of the best-producing plants.

Contrary to popular belief, chilli plants are in fact perennials, which in the right conditions can live for several years.

Plants which have been wintered over will produce fruit much earlier in the year.

They will require a vigorous pruning as soon as the last fruit has been picked – don’t leave any chillies on the plant, so it gets the message to produce more in the future.

Prune the plants right back, leaving only a short stem. This will remove the majority of the leaves, but it will assist the plant to concentrate energy during the colder months.

Place the containers in a sheltered spot, ideally in a greenhouse or near a sunny window.

As the plants will be hibernating, they will require far less water than during their active growth period – fortnightly watering should suffice.

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Judith Hughes is this month’s prizewinner with the following question:

Could you please give me some information and recommended treatment for silver leaf? I noticed it on a rose Sally Holmen, normally disease resistant. I dug it out, binned it and watered the area with Trichoderma powder. I have also had the disease in Viburnum davidii and Elaeagnus. I would appreciate your advice. With thanks.

From the information provided we suspect that thrips may actually be the cause of the problem you describe, not silver leaf.

Silver leaf normally attacks peach trees.

Thrips are actually tiny insects and can only be recognised with a magnifying glass; however, its symptoms are very obvious with silvering on the upper side of the

Viburnum davidii

leaf and a brown sticky colouration on the underside.

Normally thrips appear during hot dry summer months when plants become stressed.

This particularly applies to your Viburnum. The thrips-affected leaves will fall off at the end of the growing season. They should be collected and removed from your property to prevent re-infection the following spring.

It is best to try and prevent outbreaks of thrips by keeping your plants well fertilised and adequately watered throughout the summer months.

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FIRST DUATHLON FOR

Debbie

by Amanda Wright

Variety is the spice of life, and a fitness regime is no different.

After six years of struggle with little result to show for it, Debbie Wilson needed a change.

“I had been at my old gym for six years, and was struggling to get the weight off.

Menopause wasn’t helping, but also I was getting bored which had stopped me from challenging myself,” Debbie said.

She decided to change her routine and signed up with Finesse Fitness in August 2013.

“I enjoy the variety and encouragement.

I’ve found that the group classes and PT sessions are best for me, as the staff are very motivational and encourage me to be my best when they know I’m not quite giving it my all,” she said.

Debbie was keen to challenge herself further, and became inspired with the Finesse Women’s Duathlon mini series.

“I had a feeling I wouldn’t push myself to enter on my own, so I asked a friend if she would be keen to keep me motivated.

“We went out for our first training walk around Lake Hood in mid-January, but then moved our training in to town so we could run and walk, in-between

power poles.

“Neither of us were runners, so we found it very challenging, but we never gave up. Our training got interrupted when I injured my heel and required physio, but instead we used that time to train on the bikes, and the gym on wet days.

“It was my first duathlon, so when I finished 27th out of a field of 62 I felt pretty elated. Carol and John from Finesse were encouraging us along the way, and I’m actually looking forward to the next one,” Debbie said.

Debbie’s husband, Roger, had also been an inspiration for her, having entered the NBS Duathlon series over the winter months for the past two years.

“I would like to try my hand at the longer distances this year,” Debbie said.

She is also training toward walking the Heaphy Track over four days this month, and despite not enjoying the stair training that has been part of her workouts, admits it has been great for her preparation.

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East to Burnett Street, Ashburton Phone (03) 308 5269 www.redmonds.co.nz

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ON FURNITURE OVER $999

EASYPAY OPTION MEANS ALL YOU PAY IS THE ADVERTISED PRICE PLUS INSURANCE AND CREDIT FEES. EASY CONDITIONS APPLY. SEE BELOW FOR DETAILS Get the things you want, when you want them with Smiths City Finance

Pl u s Massive Trade-in Deals!

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15.6”

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Designed for lasting performance and featuring the renowned Sleepyhead Torquezone spring unit. Plush layers of Dreamfoam and luxurious pillowtop ensure superb comfort.

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2 SEATER WITH 2 CUSHIONS $1099.99 3 SEATER WITH 3 CUSHIONS $1299.99 ACCENT CHAIR $699.99 ACCENT OTTOMAN $449.99 TOTAL $3549.96

FURNITURE INDUSTRIES, INC

LUCIA 3+2+1+ OTTOMAN LOUNGE SUITE Classic style with coordinated colour and design.

The Lucia provides great comfort and style.

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$1200

40”

• 1080p Resolution • HDMI x 2 • ConnectShare USB 2.0 SKU: 8749798

$479

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15-G205AU LAPTOP • AMD E1 1.35 GHz Dual Core Processor • 4 GB RAM • DVD Writer • 500 GB Hard Drive • 15.6” HD LCD Screen • Windows 8.1 SKU: 8817710

less than $7 per week

SMS40M18AU STAINLESS STEEL DISHWASHER

$1150

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ASHY 3+2 BLACK LOUNGE SUITE

UA40H5003 40” FULL HD SLIM DIRECT LED/LCD TV

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CAPRICCIO MEDIUM QUEENSIZE MATTRESS & BASE

GNEV032X - 614 L STAINLESS STEEL FRIDGE/FREEZER

• 14 international place settings • 4 wash programmes • Vario basket system • Anti-fingerprint stainless steel finish • Variospeed™ express option • Quiet operation 44 db

• Frost Free SKU:8538191 99 OR $1849

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SKU: 8721797

$1699

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38 Kermode St, ASHBURTON Ph: 307 9110 EASYPAY® OPTION MEANS ALL YOU PAY IS THE ADVERTISED PRICE PLUS INSURANCE & CREDIT FEES. EASYPAY® IS A REGISTERED TRADEMARK OF SMITHS CITY (SOUTHERN) LIMITED. MINIMUM PRODUCT VALUE FOR EASYPAY® OPTION IS $499 (OTHER PAYMENT OPTIONS ARE AVAILABLE FOR PURCHASE LESS THAN $499). ALL FINANCE OFFERS ARE SUBJECT TO NORMAL CREDIT GRANTING PROCEDURES. AN INSURANCE CHARGE AND CREDIT FEES ARE REQUIRED. A DEPOSIT MAY BE REQUIRED ON COMPUTERS, MOBILE PHONES, CAR AUDIO PRODUCTS AND NEW ACCOUNTS. INTEREST IS CHARGED FROM THE DATE OF PURCHASE, HOWEVER IF YOU COMPLETE THE ACCOUNT IN FULL WITHIN THE EASYPAY® OPTION PERIOD ALL YOU PAY IS THE ADVERTISED PRICE PLUS THE CREDIT FEES AND INSURANCE CHARGE. WEEKLY PAYMENTS IF STATED ARE BASED ON A 50 MONTH TERM ON FURNITURE OVER $999 OR 36 MONTHS ON APPLIANCES OVER $499 AND INCLUDE BOOKING AND CREDIT FEES, INSURANCE & INTEREST CHARGE. APPLE PRODUCTS, SELECTED COMPUTERS, GAME CONSOLES & SOME PROMOTIONAL ITEMS ARE NOT AVAILABLE IN CONJUNCTION WITH DISCOUNT OR EASYPAY® OPTIONS OFFERS. UNLESS OTHERWISE STATED, DISPLAY ACCESSORIES ARE NOT INCLUDED. DEPENDING ON COLOUR AND COMBINATION, SOME LOUNGE FURNITURE MAY HAVE TO BE ORDERED TO CUSTOMER REQUIREMENTS. ALL OFFERS AND PRICES IN THIS ADVERTISEMENT ARE VALID FOR A MAXIMUM OF SEVEN DAYS FROM THE DATE OF PUBLICATION OR WHILE STOCKS LAST. SOME PRODUCTS MAY NOT BE AVAILABLE IN SOME STORES. CARPET & INSTALLED HEATING AVAILABLE ON A MAXIMUM OF 18 MONTHS EASYPAY®.

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$400 WITH -IN* E TRAD

$450 WITH -IN* E TRAD

*Trade-in is for your old fridge/freezer, under 10 years old, and in good working order

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$1299 99

*Trade-in is for your old dishwasher, under 10 years old, and in good working order

less than $14 per week

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