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GAINING CLARITY FROM CHAOS
By Shane Shelly
It was 5:30am on a Friday morning and I' m driving down the freeway approaching the exit that I need to take to start my weekend rostered work in the mines. As I was coming to my exit to turn off for work, it felt like an incredible weight was falling upon my chest and my head kept screaming to bypass the exit and just keep driving. It didn 't even matter where the drive would take me, just as long as it wasn 't work. And two questions kept reverberating throughout my mind… Is this what my life is? Is there nothing more that I have to offer? My head was a mess, and I couldn 't see a way out. What was more confusing, was that I also had no idea why I was feeling this way. It wasn’t like I had not achieved anything in my life. I had found success in many areas of my life whether it was school, work or sports related, and I had even built an investment portfolio (along with my wife of course), that provides us with a certain level of comfort financially. I also had my amazing wife and two boys to come home to each day and spend time with. But my emotional state outside of the home was certainly crossing over into my homelife. It was becoming easier and easier to become irritable, frustrated, angry and even depressed at home for no real apparent reason whatsoever. he only thing I was sure about with absolute certainty in my life at that point in time, was that I wanted something more. I just had to figure out what that might mean. And this is where my true journey began! The first realisation that I came to on this journey, was that my employment in the mines was killing me inside. My job role in the underground coal mine environment was so mind numbingly boring and repetitive, that it took the term ‘going through the motions’ to a whole new level. I came to the conclusion that I had two options. The first was to simply redefine how I approached work and what it meant to me, or I could plot a pathway to get the hell out. I believed my only option, was to move on. But move where? In what direction? And how? It' s easy to tell ourselves that we want to move on to the next phase of our lives whatever that may mean, but it' s certainly not as easy within our own reality, to navigate a pathway that does not yet exist. I believe it took the better part of two years (or maybe even a little bit longer) of trying to hack out new pathways to follow before coming to dead ends. But it was not all bad. Throughout this period of my life, I found I loved to be creative, I enjoyed learning new skills and realised that what resonated with me the most, was teaching others.
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And then suddenly… And I honestly can’t remember the exact details of how I came across it, but something popped up in my web browser about becoming a coach. It all started to click into place. The ad was from a company called The Coaching Institute. This was a pathway that I had to follow. I could learn, teach, guide and inspire others on their own journeys. It just felt like this was a pathway I needed to explore. This was also the place where I first came across Joe Pane as an instructor and found him to be a true inspiration and someone I wanted to learn from above all others. So, when Joe started the Emotional Fitness Formula, I knew this was exactly where I belonged and where I needed to be. The EFF program has given me so much clarity, understanding and validation around a period of my life, that was in no uncertain terms, emotionally chaotic to say the least. I' ve been granted the gift of language to describe my life as one driven by ambition, to a life that is now transitioning into one of meaning. A journey that most of us will take at some point in our lives. And although my transition period into the meaning driven world has not yet run its course entirely, my destination is well and truly within my sights, and my anticipation and excitement grow for what the future holds. My work and homelife is coming into harmony with one another as I become more balanced emotionally, and I am at complete ease with where I want to go, and who I need to be in this world. What an amazing feeling this is, and one that is well within the grasps of anyone that wants it. Dare to be yourself! Wishing everyone all the best on your own journeys. www.joepane.com.au | page 18
SHANE SHELLY
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Hi, I’m Shane Founder of Metatune. Personal Development, Professional Development, Emotional Fitness Practitioner. Success comes in many forms, and I have achieved great results in study, sport and vocationally as well in both direct employment and operating successful businesses. But success, does not always lead to a life of fulfilment and meaning. For me, this would come in more recent years as I took a journey of self-discovery into what lays at the core of me. Values around knowledge, teaching and growth, led me on a pathway of exploration into human psychology and behaviour that has flourished into a life of wanting to serve others and watch them grow. In this space, I explore an individual’s values and passions that will empower them on their own journey to a life of meaning and fulfilment. I help individuals, teams and organisations improve their relationship with the inevitability of uncertainty and challenges in life, by bringing into their awareness of who they are and how they are contributing within the world. This is where my passion for life exists and provides me with enormous gratification and purpose.
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