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A Lasting Love...

F E AT U R E S 68

W h e n Yo u K n o w , Yo u K n o w

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Looking Back...Local Couples M a r r i e d 1 0 - 2 0 Ye a r s

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Wanda and Carl Evans work together to make sure their marriage lasts...and is has.

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Marie Atkinson to Pete Ellison

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Krista and Jason Hamlin

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Ta r a M o n r o e t o L e e B u o n o

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Heather Ainsley to Seth Carter

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Courtney Cruce to Bradley Hickey

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Alicia Brown to Michael Holdridge

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Natalie Hampton to Malachi Reeves

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Robert and Alyssa Haley

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Cathy Aikin to Roger Coker

Publisher and Editor / Debbie Brower

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Sarah Barlow to Nathan White

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R a v e n H u n t t o C a l e b Ta y l o r

Associate Editors / Jaclyn Gooding, Miranda Johnson

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Sydney Waren to Justin Cross

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Allison Oswald to Jeffery Copelin

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Fred and Crissy Searcy

HELPFUL INFO 72

Resource Guide

Photography / Image Forward Photography, Debbie Brower, Jaclyn Gooding, Miranda Johnson, Rozana Page Sales & Marketing Manager / Charlie McMurphy Feature Writers / Jane Bouterse, Anne Fruge

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Alicia & Michael

Alicia Marie Brown to Michael Benton Holdridge

How They Met...

June 16, 2012 Highland Park Baptist Church Texarkana, TX

Alicia and Michael met at Baylor during the summer of 2008. Alicia was starting her sophomore year, and Michael was starting his senior year.

The two students lived in the same apartment complex, and Michael noticed Alicia drawing on her porch over a few weeks and developed an interest in this cute girl! Alicia, absorbed in her art, had no idea Michael even existed. One day, Michael simply walked up to Alicia, while she was on her front porch reading, and struck up a conversation. Alicia asked him if he was the “bike guy” she had seen around, and told him she was interested in learning to ride a road bike and would love to be on the cycling team. Michael invited her to dinner with his friends the next day, and she accepted. “If you know him or me at all, you would realize how unlike us this was. We are both introverts and never just go up to strangers and start talking,” Alicia explains. The two started dating, and their feelings just took off from there. Alicia says, “People often ask us why bikes are so important to us. It was a common theme throughout our wedding festivities. All I can say is, that this was one of the first things that got me interested in Michael, and four years later, we still enjoy going on rides together.”

The Proposal...

Alicia believes she had the perfect proposal! “Michael and I spent the day doing my favorite activities. We went to Cameron Park and picnicked and hiked for the day. Then, we went swimming. After that, I headed home to get ready for our date to Outback. Little did I know that Michael had different plans. After I got ready, he took me on a mini scavenger hunt that led me to the porch swing at my old apartment where we first met. He joined me up there and he asked me to marry him. My apartment was set up facing the pool. We had an audience watching us as he popped the question. As soon as we were done, they all cheered for us! It was very exciting!”

Wedding Party...

Maid of Honor: Emily Brown Bridesmaids: Julia Brown Meredith Mann Kim Duerksen Angela Holdridge Best Man: Ben Branstetter Groomsmen: Josh Koviak Adam Brown Matthew Brown Jamie Duerksen Flower Girl: Erin Duerksen Greeters: Hannah Fries Virginia Brown Photography: Image Forward Photography www.imageforwardweddings.com Wedding Coordinator: Heather Kiser Cakes: Silver Spoon Florist: H & N Flowers Musicians: Andrea Finley MariAlison Murry & Weldon Murry Reception and Catering: Texarkana Country Club

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Natalie & Malachi

Natalie Nicole Hampton to Malachi Andrew Reeves

June 9, 2012 First Baptist Church Texarkana- Moores Ln How They Met...

Malachi and Natalie were both students at the University of Arkansas when they literally ran into each other in the stairwell of Razorback Stadium. Natalie and a friend were headed out of the stadium when they ran into Malachi and a mutual friend of the two. Natalie’s first thoughts were, “He is so tall and so handsome.�

Within a month of their initial meeting on September 20, 2008, they were inseparable. Their love began to grow as they spent more and more time together. Natalie even took Malachi home to meet her parents in the month of October. By Christmas of 2008, they knew they had found true love.

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Proposal...

After two years of dating Malachi popped the question on December 21, 2010, although the proposal was planned to happen on New Year’s Eve. The two originally had plans to head to Dallas for New Years Eve, then they decided to go to Memphis. Plans kept changing, and they ultimately ended up going to Little Rock. Since there was not a definite plan by the week before Christmas, Malachi decided to pop the question early. The two had dinner at Timothy’s in Texarkana, which was a very quiet meal and not much to talk about. Malachi asked Natalie to marry him.

Before Natalie even had a chance to say “yes,” Malachi had placed the ring on her finger. Of course, she did say “yes!”

Wedding Party...

Maid of Honor: Cameron Lively Bridesmaids: Kathryn Bell Jana Alston Sarah Hicks Samantha Reeves Lacey Cobb Junior Bridesmaids: Audrey Murphy Taylor Hampton Brailey Hampton Best Man: Jacob Reeves Groomsmen: Bennett Ponder Nick Wilson Kyle Race Yance Warren Taylor Overturf Junior Groomsmen: Connor Damron Evan Damron Flower Girl: Kathryn Murphy Ushers: Matt Brown Josh Brown Programs: Jessica Jenkins Photography: Image Forward Photography www.imageforwardweddings.com Florist: Twisted Vines Cakes: Reception Arts Reception & Catering: Texarkana Country Club DJ: Wes Spicer Wedding Attire: Bridal Castle 44

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Cathy & Roger

Cathy Calvert Aikin to Roger Coker

May 12, 2012 Circle J Cowboy Church, Texarkana, AR

How They Met...

Cathy and Roger, already aware of each other from Genoa High School and a shared love of country dancing, began dating in December of 2009. After failed marriages, they were quite leery of any new relationship, yet, they seemed perfectly compatible.

The Proposal...

One year later, on December 3, 2010, Roger arranged a romantic carriage ride for he and Cathy, including Cathy’s daughters, and during the ride, he asked Cathy to marry him. Cathy’s answer was, “Someday.” Both daughters and best friends of the bride, Christy and Britney welcomed this cowboy, after finally seeing their Mama’s long awaited smile! Chase Coker, son of the groom, gave his approval by saying, “She‘s already family.” Having GOD as the leader in this relationship is why it works. As members of Circle J Cowboy Church, they know GOD is what brought them together, and GOD holds the reins of their life. So two and a half years later, they made a promise to GOD and each other on May 12, 2012. As a married couple living in Genoa, Arkansas, they thank GOD every day for this blessing!

Wedding Party...

Father of the Bride: Joe Hensley Pastor: Bro. Todd Hervey Groomsman: Chase Coker Marc Higgs Chris Power Bridesmaid: McKenzie Wooten Christy Harvin Britney Redfearn

Story Narrator: Suni Hensley Spokesman: Wesley Harvin, Grandson of the Bride

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Photography: Debbie Vanover & Marla Stuehrenberg Florist: Sylvia Harris -A Pleasant  Grove Florist Hostesses: Angie Buckley, Sharon Kelly, Shelia Griffith, Kathy Boyd 48

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Sarah & Nathan Sarah Barlow to Nathan White

March 26th, 2011 Ben & Jane Collins’ Home

How They Met...

Sarah and Nathan met in late fall of 2010. However, it turned out that the two had gone to high school together and had grown up within a few miles of each other, never officially meeting. Sarah says, “Nathan did remember me from school and decided to try to get in touch with me through Facebook. I actually knew his sister in school, so I decided to give him a chance. That was the best decision I could have ever made.”

“Our first date was memorable in a way that only first dates can be.

We were both extremely nervous and ended up having an overzealous waitress who tried to convince us of everything we were doing wrong.

In the end, it was still enjoyable enough to agree to a second date.

For me, that second date was the perfect date. I grew up an outdoorsy girl and still prefer being outside to this day. Nathan took me through Sonic for milkshakes and then to see some family land, where I met his donkeys and we walked to a pond, chatting the whole time. The donkeys and pond are still there, along with my horse that we’ve added, and the memories of the times we’ve spent outside are still going strong.”

The Proposal...

Sarah continues, “That December, I flew to spend time with a close friend, who I had grown up with, while she had her first child. When I arrived back in Dallas, Nathan picked me up for a special weekend in Fort Worth. He took me to dinner and then to The Nutcracker, my favorite ballet, with no eye rolling or complaining. We also enjoyed a carriage ride downtown and then strolled along, looking at the lights and enjoying each other’s company. During this time, I did not know that he was keeping a secret. He had spoken with my father and his family and had been carrying a ring around in his pocket the entire night. He had nervously waited for that perfect moment to ask me to marry him, and when he got down on one knee and asked, it was a definite “Yes!” from me.”

“Time flew by quickly to March and the date of our wedding. Our whirlwind romance and wedding was encouraged by our wonderful friends and family. It was a beautiful time, and it continued to be the best year for both of us. We are each other’s best friend and confidant, and we have supported each other through a few stressful times. I look forward to many more years with Nathan. I’ve always heard the first few years are the hardest, but it doesn’t seem like this first one has been so hard with him here beside me,” Sarah reflects.

Wedding Party...

Maid of Honor: Joey Dixon

Photography: Hayley Hall Photography, Tyler, TX

Rings: Zales

Bestman: Whit White

Groomsman: Caleb Brockman

Florist: Sticks & Stones

Bride’s Dress and Tuxes: Bridal Castle

Parents of the Bride: Bill & Becky Barlow

Wedding Cake: Julie’s Deli

Bridesmaid Dresses: Dillard’s

Bridesmaid: Megan Ross

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Raven & Caleb Raven Hunt to Caleb Taylor

May 26, 2012 The Wedding Chapel- Hot Springs, AR

How They Met...

Caleb and Raven met in January of 2009.

They were introduced by one of Raven’s former coworkers and Caleb’s best friend, Kenneth Hooten. Raven says, “I will never forget our first date; he surprised me with a dozen red roses. We are both shy so we decided to stay at home and watch movies.”

The Proposal...

Raven tells us, “We were together for three years before we got engaged. He proposed the same week of my birthday; he could not wait because I kept pestering him about my gift. One afternoon I got home from work and he had a candle lit dinner with my gift on the other end of the table. He had a small box inside a larger wrapped box. The smaller box was full of rose pedals that covered the ring box. When I opened the ring box I found it was empty, you can guess the look on my face. I turned around and he was on one knee with the ring. I always said I wanted a year engagement, but three and a half months later, we were married, and we couldn’t be happier with our decision. We are delighted that we started a new chapter in our lives and can not wait for all the new memories and adventures that are in store for us.”

Wedding Party...

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Sydney & Justin

Sydney Carlisle Waren to Justin Wayne Cross

May 12th, 2012 Little River Country Club Winthrop, Arkansas How They Met...

Sydney says, “We have known each other since we were kids and have been friends since we were about 14. We lost touch and hadn’t seen each other in at least 6 years when, one day, I got a text that said, ‘Hey beautiful.’ I asked who had sent it, and when Justin told me it was him, I replied, ‘Ah, dang.’ After a few days of texting, I finally told him, in the nicest way that I could, that he didn’t have a chance. Not that I thought I was any better than Justin, but I really was not looking for anyone. His reply wasn’t rude at all, and that is what caught my interest.” Two days later, on Dec. 31st, 2011, they went on their first date!

Justin says, “I almost gave up, but I am so glad I didn’t because I have always wanted you.” “I won’t ever forget getting ready for that date, and when I walked to the truck and saw him, I felt like my chest got really warm.

It was a weird feeling, but a great one, and I told myself, ‘I am going to marry that man!””

They sat across the table that night with the biggest grins on their faces. Both of them kept blushing and laughing!

Justin says, “Sydney has always had my heart. I never thought she would ever give me a chance, and I couldn’t believe she let me take her on a date, but I am so thankful!

Now I have not one, but two beautiful women! Sydney and Lecsi both have my heart, and I am so blessed.”

Wedding Party...

Maid of honor: Christian Beasley Bridesmaids: Courtney Carnahan Brandi Vickers Best Man: Sam Cross, Father of the groom Groomsmen: Kevin Cross Shane Southerland Preacher: Brother Danny Bell Photography: Jeannie Stevens Cakes: Becky Risinger- Reception Arts DJ: Lynn Roberts 54

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Allison & Jeffery Allison Oswald to Jeffery Copelin

How They Met...

Allison and Jeffery met when they were babies, and they we grew up together until they were about ten. Allison says, “Our mothers say we fell in love when we had our first kiss at age three, but we really fell in love when we actually got to know each other again, years down the road. Due to circumstances, Allison and Jeffery did not see each other for eight years, but they began dating during their senior years of high school. The two got to know each other all over again, and they realized that no one had ever been so good to either of them as they were to each other.

The Proposal...

Allison remembers, “I was shocked by the proposal! We were with Jeffery’s grandparents and sister at his grandmother’s cabin, close to Umpire, AR. The cabin is Jeffery’s favorite place to go. On September 18th, 2011, a Sunday, Jeffery woke me up and told me that he caught a big fish and wanted me to go look at it. I really did not want to go look at a fish right then because it was still early, and it was my last day off from work and school! After he begged me to go look at this “huge fish,” I got up, put on my shoes and Jeffery, his sister, Brittaney and I walked over to the swimming hole to see what Jeffery had caught. When we finally arrived, I saw that the water was reflecting different colors. I looked up to see what the reflection was from, and written on a huge rock, across the water, were the words Will You Marry Me. Jeffery got down on his knee and asked me if I would marry him. I said ‘Yes,’ without hesitation!”

Allison says, “Our wedding would not have been the way we wanted if Tonya, of Unique Beginnings, and her wedding design team had not helped us. She made sure my wedding day was just as I have always dreamed, and I am so thankful for her!”

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Photography: Image Forward Photography www.imageforwardweddings.com Cakes: Bakerman Texarkana, AR Wedding Dress: Azarues Shreveport, LA Tuxes: Reeds Bridal Texarkana, TX Wedding Design/Coordinator: Unique Beginnings -Tonya Bell

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Heather & Seth Heather Ainsley to Seth Carter

June 2, 2012 Northridge Country Club- Texarkana, TX How They Met...

Seth and Heather met while they were both living in Little Rock, Arkansas; Heather attending pharmacy school and Seth working as a tax accountant. They were introduced one night while out with friends and realized that they both knew a lot of the same people. They joke that Heather “picked Seth up” and told him to take her on a date. Seth did as Heather asked and called her the day after they met to see if they could hang out. They ended up meeting each other out the next night and making plans for the night after that. From their first night of hanging out together, Seth and Heather were practically inseparable. They instantly enjoyed each other’s company and spent a lot of time getting to know one another.

Several months later, Heather’s family spent a week in Mexico on vacation. It was during this time that Seth says he realized how much he actually cared for Heather and missed her during the time she was gone. Heather thought Seth was the most wonderful guy, and she couldn’t wait to see him when she returned. Heather was graduating from pharmacy school the following May, and they knew that she may have to move if a job opportunity arose. It was at that point that they both knew they would want to get married and be together no matter where a future job may take them.

The Proposal...

Around Christmas time, Seth and Heather started making plans for their first Christmas together. Heather had a break from school so she headed home to spend time with her family. Unbeknownst to Heather, Seth had a surprise planned and told her that she needed to come back to Little Rock one evening because he had tickets to a show. The night before Heather came in town, Seth left work early to drive to his hometown to pick up the ring. When Heather arrived at Seth’s house the night of the show, Seth had a Christmas tree put up and decorated with presents under the tree and a fire going in the fire place. He had known how much Heather wanted a Christmas tree that year and wanted to surprise her. Seth told Heather that they should open their presents before they had to leave to go to dinner then the show. Seth opened his presents from Heather first, then Heather was told to open her’s from Seth. Each of Heather’s presents had a clue attached to it for Heather to guess what was inside.

The last present was a wrapped box nestled in the tree. As soon a Heather saw it she became very nervous and wondered if it would be a ring. The clue for the last present read, “This present will make your heart sing, nothing says I love you like a little bling.” Heather opened the box to find a pair of diamond earrings inside! When she looked at Seth, he asked her if she liked them. She of course said yes, and then Seth asked her if she wanted something better. At this point he got done on one knee, got out the ring, and asked Heather to marry him. After Heather said “YES!,” Seth told her it was time to go to dinner so they would make the show. When they arrived at dinner, Heather’s mom, dad and two younger sisters were waiting to greet the newly engaged couple. They had driven in from Texarkana to celebrate with Heather and Seth. It turns out that there was no show and Seth had just told Heather that there was one to make sure that she came in town. Heather and Seth, along with their families, were so excited about the new engagement and started wedding planning almost right away!

Wedding Party...

Maids of honor: Kristen Ainsley and Lauren Ainsley Bridesmaid: Sarah Liz Carter House Party: Laurie Anderson, Ashley Barr, Christine Browning, Charity Grisham, Kelsey Hensely, Amanda Starr, Allison Ward-Seidel Best Man: Jake Carter Groomsmen: Rusty Cranford, Evan Secrest August 2012

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Photography: Image Forward Photography www.imageforwardweddings.com Reverend: Doctor Danny Wayman Florist: Twisted Vines Cake, Groomscake, favors: Reception Arts by Becky Risanger Caterer: Northridge Country Club String Quartet: Tyler Strings Piano: Russell Bowlin Invitations: Sincerely Lacey Programs: Kwik Kopy Hair: Park Salon Make up: Bailey Idom Getaway Car: Coleman Chevrolet August 2012

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Courtney & Bradley Courtney Cruce to Bradley Hickey

April 28, 2012 Home of James & Stephanie Wyly

How They Met...

Courtney and Bradley met during their last semester, the last two weeks to be exact, at the University of Arkansas. They were both on the way to the infamous Dickson Street to celebrate graduation, when Bradley ran right into Courtney’s car. Thankfully, no one got hurt, and it was categorized as a fender bender. The two students exchanged insurance, only to find out that they were both from Texarkana – Bradley from the Arkansas side (Arkansas High) and Courtney from the Texas Side (Texas High). Courtney and Bradley also learned that they had the same major in school and even a class together that very semester, but they had never met one another! Courtney says, “God sure works in mysterious ways and we have been inseparable ever since!”

The Proposal...

On March 10, 2011, two years after the “fateful fender bender,” Bradley got on one knee and proposed to Courtney at the Madison Hotel in Memphis,TN.

Wedding Party...

Officient: Jimmy Hickey - Justice of the Peace Maids of honor: Rachel VanOrden Martha Wasp Bridesmaids: Jenna Dresser Molly McBride Susan Montgomery Carolyn Peterman Best Man: Jared Stover Groomsmen: Tyler Arnold Austin Crain Cole Meador Graydon Rochelle Casey Weir 66

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by Anne Fruge

you know...

When you know,

Carl and Wanda Evans have spent over half a century together and in love, a feat nearly unmatched in today’s society.

Even though they only dated one summer before getting married at the small church across from Wanda’s house on Reading Street, when Carl looks at Wanda, you know that his simple claim of “when you know, you know,” is still true today. Their love that began in 1960 has affected the three generations after it, producing a family of four children, seven grandchildren and nine great grandchildren.

“Sometimes you hear people say, ‘marriage is 50%/50%,’ and they’re wrong,” Carl says. “Marriage is 100%/100%. If you don’t put all you have into it, you’re never going to make it.”

Carl first met Wanda in January of 1960 when he was taking industrial supervision at Texarkana College. After growing up in Redwater, Texas, all his life, Carl often told girls that he was married so that they wouldn’t think he was on the market. However, when Wanda Coffman Wallace stood up and introduced herself during class, Carl asked from across the room, “That isn’t ‘Mrs.’ is it?” Wanda, who wasn’t looking for a relationship at the time, pulled the same move Carl had used before and replied, “Well, yes it is.” Upon hearing the answer, Carl “wrote Wanda off his list.”

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something to drink. She said yes, and their lifelong story began.

“I just loved being with Carl,” Wanda says. “I still do. You have to love each other, no matter what.”

Carl and Wanda were inseparable after their meeting at the Student Union.

They spent the whole summer going on dates. They went dancing, saw movies at the Paramount (now Perot Theatre), drove the drag on Broad Street and went out to Wright Patman Lake.

“We would go pick up steaks and grill them out by the lake and swim,” Carl says.

“It was a marvelous summer,”

Wanda says, “even when Carl and his friend tried to ski off the dock at Daisy! Then, I remember a time at Speros Restaurant on 82 when we were at the drive-in and a certain car rammed us in the back!”

“It was my ex-girlfriend,” Carl explains.

“The ex-girlfriend yelled, ‘Don’t you think you owe me something Carl Evans?’ and Carl says, ‘If I do, put it on my bill!’”

Wanda recalls with a laugh.

One of Wanda’s friends asked her if she and Carl were “going steady,” and Wanda replied, “Well I guess so…we are going every night!”

One night at the end of the summer, Carl took Wanda to Ann’s Drive-In on State Line. He looked at her and said, “I know I only make $65 a week working at Dickey Clay Pipe Co., but will you marry me?”

“Do you remember what I said, Carl?” Wanda asks. “I said, ‘Money doesn’t matter. All that matters is that we love each other.’”

The couple picked out simple gold rings at Kay’s Jewelers that they paid off through a lay-away program. “That was the best gift Wanda ever gave me,” Carl says, looking at his ring. “I never take it off.”

The rings were picked up by Wanda’s sister-in-law the Friday afternoon before their church wedding Labor Day weekend of 1960.

“What do I remember about the wedding? Well, they turned the air conditioner off and there was

sweat running down my nose,” Carl says.

“I’m pretty sure you can see him sweating in all our wedding pictures,” Wanda says. “People probably thought he was nervous.”

But Carl and Wanda were anything but nervous. Eager to begin their lives together, the couple honeymooned at Anthony Island Hotel in Hot Springs, where they didn’t even have a reservation. This was one of the first trips the couple took together and their love of travel is one of the interests that helped keep their relationship adventurous.

“Every time we traveled because of Carl’s work, it was like a honeymoon,” Wanda says. “We just looked at it like an adventure and a way to see the USA.” When Carl was promoted from president of the local chapter of the National Management Association to National Director, as a perk, he was sent on two trips a year to places all across the United States. The first trip was to attend a seminar in Los Angeles, CA, and when he ran home to tell Wanda, she looked out the window at their single cow and said, “There’s my ticket!”

“We didn’t have to sell the cow,” Carl says with a laugh, “but I think she might have really done it!

We got to stay in some of the best hotels across the country, not places like a boy from Redwater and a girl from Smackover, AR, could afford.”

Carl and Wanda traveled together to destinations like Orlando, Tucson, Dayton, Louisville, San Diego, San Franciso, Disney World and Atlanta. Carl had a brother who lived outside of San Francisco, so they would stay longer with him and his wife and go on side trips to Napa and Sacramento.

Their time together helped them create many fond and hilarious memories, like the time Carl insisted that Wanda go to the see the San Diego Zoo. “He kept saying, ‘It’s the best zoo in the country!’ Wanda says, “But I just didn’t like to see animals caged up like that. So, I

got on the bus with the other ladies from the hotel, rode to the Zoo, walked straight to a payphone and called for a cab to take me back. I didn’t tell him until years later!”

“Or how about that time we almost got left in Tijuana, Mexico?” Carl asks. “We like to never got her out of there she was having so much fun! We nearly missed the last bus back to San Diego!”

“Or how about that horrible time in San Francisco when we were so cold walking down the pier and you didn’t have the correct change for the bus?” Wanda says with a smile. “The wind nearly blew us away and it was about midnight. I just thought you

were the meanest man in the world because you didn’t have that correct change!”

“So what did I do?” Carl says. “I got a taxi!”

All of the stories are said with a smile between two people whose obvious comfort with each other and respect for each other shines through even their funny stories about the trials of dealing with one another for a half a century.

“When I know I’m wrong about something that we are arguing about, I will say, ‘But I forgive you,’” Carl says. “And it always makes her laugh. You’ve got to find

something to help break the ice and get past the small conflicts that you are going to have being married.”

“How did our relationship change as we were married? Well, it just got better,” Wanda says. “We made big changes when we were having the kids, and when we got involved in church, but also we just learned to forgive each other. As strange as this may seem, the forgiver becomes the one most blessed.”

Carl served in the National Guard and the U.S. Army and eventually retired from Day and Zimmerman after working there for 43 years. Wanda worked at Red River Army Depot and also had a jewelry business. The happy couple is living now on the same land in Redwater where Carl grew up. They are attending Highland Park Baptist Church in Texarkana where Carl is a deacon and where they both taught Sunday School for many years.

“You know, I would tell any young couple to build a relationship with the church,” Carl says. “Make sure you know Jesus and that He is the way to Heaven, and that you are going there together. Pray together.

I firmly believe that God knows what it takes to make a marriage work, and He’s going to help you.”

In fact, one day during church, a presentation was being given about a couple’s course called “Love and Respect” and Wanda whispered, ‘Carl, we need that!” So the couple of more than 50 years decided to go and better their marriage. After the first class, Wanda turned to Carl and said, “Well honey, I’m glad we have a better marriage than I thought we did!”

“But the course was a great one because it really showed how a marriage is built with two different people and they need to be treated as two different people,” Carl says. “There are all avenues of love and respect, and we need to find those ways to communicate with our spouse.”

Carl and Wanda believe that communication is key to a marriage, and yet one of the most difficult aspects of it.

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are spent together, but they insist that a Wanda does not hear as well as she used to are a serious thing.” good balance is the right thing for any couple Their vows to love each other in and Carl admits, “I should be more patient to have. Wanda goes to a dinner party every “sickness and health” came to a test when at times. Marriage is not a perfect thing. week where they play the card game, “hand Wanda was diagnosed with cancer.

You are going to have your knock down, and foot.”

“I made it through because of my drag outs, but don’t spend a single night “I love the fun and fellowship, but faith in Jesus,” Wanda says, “and Carl was away mad. You’ve got to build that love and when I pull up to the house, Carl has the respect. When I have to travel and Wanda is the best caregiver ever.” garage door open and the light on,” Wanda Another secret to a happy marriage at home, I always check in, but we never go says. according to the laughing couple is to to bed angry.”

Then Carl is President of the Maud schedule time apart. This seems surprising Through all the changes and Gun Club, an avid trap shooter, hunter and coming from a couple whose best memories moves, the life-long partners have created fisher. He loves to go to a language of love and deer camp and relax and communication between hunt. He also used to love them. Wanda used to go quail hunting in west Texas with Carl to eat breakfast and tournament fishing. at CJ’s every morning While some wives resent before work, simply hunters for their frequent because she “loved to be times away from home, with him.” They began Wanda simply replies, “I’m leaving notes for each thrilled because I know he other under the coffee pot will come home happy.” in the kitchen, and Carl In just a short knows that he better find time from now, Carl will Wanda and kiss her before let Wanda pick where she he leaves to go anywhere!

Carl and Wanda say that they will pray together, wants to go eat for her 52nd “We’ve faced spend time together and most of all, “love each hardships together, but anniversary. She says she that’s the key…we’ve will probably pick Texas other, no matter what.” handled them together!”

Roadhouse, a favorite, Carl says. “Do your but until then, Carl and finances together, agree Wanda say that they will on a budget, never catch pray together, spend time your spouse off guard or together and most of all, embarrass them in front “love each other, no matter of a friend, and remember what.” that those marriage vows

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Ark-La-Tex Resource Guide Air and Heating Central Air 450 S. Kings Highway Texarkana, TX 75501 903.832.1212

Attire Abby Gayle’s 4012 Summerhill Square Texarkana, TX 903.792.0088

Krause Service Company, Inc. 200 Industrial Blvd.

Nash, TX 903.831.3912

Gayle’s 4059 Summerhill Square Texarkana, TX 903.792.0056

Wells Fargo Bank 3615 E. 9th St. Texarkana, TX 903.838.1187 1301 Arkansas Blvd.

Texarkana, AR 903.223.1545 2900 St. Michael Dr. Texarkana, TX 903.223.3516

Apartments Arista Apartments 3515 Arista Blvd.

Texarkana, TX 903.255.7869

Banks Peoples State Bank 5600 Richmond Rd. Texarkana, TX 903.838.2300

Cakes Coldstone Creamery 4228 St. Michael Dr. Texarkana, TX 903.838.2653

Legacy at Pleasant Grove 5911 Richmond Rd. Texarkana, TX 888.763.2676

Red River Federal Credit Union 2700A University Ave. Texarkana, TX 75503 903-735-3000 800-822-3317

Julie’s Deli 4055 Summerhill Sq. Texarkana, TX 903.792.3354

Twisted Vines Florist and Cafe 218 W. Broad St. Texarkana, TX 903-792-2700

Reception Arts Becky Risinger Ashdown, AR 870.898.5273

Wendy’s 4201 Stateline Avenue Texarkana, TX 2902 Richmond Road Texarkana, TX 3737 New Boston Road Texarkana, TX 1615 N. Hervey Hope, AR 124 N. Loop Highway 59 Atlanta, TX

Richmond Oaks Apartments 2815 Richmond Rd. Texarkana, TX 903.832.6150 Summerhill Woods Apartments 4501 Summerhill Rd. Texarkana, TX 903.793.7888 Westwood Apartments 101 Redwater Rd. Wake Village, TX 903.832.8446

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Texar Federal Credit Union Richmond Rd. Texarkana, TX 903.223.5626 Texarkana First Bank 3601 East 9th St. Texarkana, AR 870.772.0222 615 Sam Houston Dr. New Boston, TX 3625 Richmond Rd. Texarkana, TX 903.793.6955

Caterers/Private Chef Big Jake’s BBQ 2610 New Boston Rd. Texarkana, TX 903-793-1169 1521 Arkansas Blvd.

Texarkana, AR 870-774-0099 603 W. Commerce Hope, AR 870-777-1000

170 N. Constitution Ave. Ashdown, AR 870-898-2227 Culinary Creations Pam Elliott 903.831.4674 Julie’s Deli 4055 Summerhill Sq. Texarkana, TX 903.792.3354 Sugar & Spice Catering Shari Frachiseur 903.276.4389

Wingstop 2700 Richmond Road, Suite 14A1 Texarkana, TX 903.255.0090

4501 N. State Line, No. 106 Texarkana, TX 903.792.9464 Church Highland Park Baptist Church 2401 Hazel St. Texarkana, TX 903.792.6996 Clothing Abby Gayle’s 4012 Summerhill Square Texarkana, TX 903.792.0088 Gayle’s 4059 Summerhill Square Texarkana, TX 903.792.0056 OMG Lulu 3211 Kennedy Lane Texarkana, TX 903.223.8135 116 Polk St. Jefferson, TX 903.665.8855 Dental/Endodontics Texarkana Endodontics, PA Jason Michel, DDS 1826 Galleria Oaks Dr. Texarkana, TX 903.793.7411 Dry Cleaning Holiday Cleaners Locations throughout Texarkana Area 870.773.4072 Electrical Services Mr. Electric 903.838.0161 Entertainment CableOne 855-692-4121 Legendary Shooting Sports 925 Brower Lane Texarkana, TX 903.334.9605

Texarkana Symphony Orchestra 903.792-4992 Tickets 870.773.3401 TRAHC 321 W. 4th Texarkana, Texas 903.792.4992 Event Locations Garrison Gardens Texarkana, AR 71854 870.773.0275 Regional Arts Center Cabe Hall 321 W. 4th Street Texarkana, TX 75501 903.792.8681 Silvermoon on Broad West Broad at Texas Blvd.

Texarkana, TX Texarkana Convention Center Crossroads Busines Park Texarkana, AR 870.216.2000 Estate and Garage Sales Somewhere in Time 903.277.3392 903.278.2259 Financial Planner Dustin Stringer Stringer Wealth Management 1620 N. Kings Highway Nash, TX 903.223.0011 Fitness Centers Anytime Fitness Richmond Road 3415 Richmond Road Texarkana, TX 75503 903.794.5348 Lyfe Fitness 819 N. Kings Highway Wake Village, TX 903.832.0133

Florists Ruth’s Flowers 3501 Texas Bllvd.

Texarkana, TX 903.793.6711 www.ruthsflowers.net Twisted Vines Florist and Cafe 218 W. Broad St. Texarkana, TX 903-792-2700 Unique Flowers 4801 Loop 245 Texarkana, AR 870-774.1300 Funeral Home Texarkana Funeral Home 4801 Loop 245 Texarkana, AR 870.774.1200 3515 Texas Blvd.

Texarkana, TX 903.794.1200 Chapelwood Funeral Home 1015 N. Kings Highway Nash, TX 903.838.5300 Furniture Oak Creek Furniture 8024 West 7th St. Texarkana, TX 903.832.0793 Gifts Dot’s Ace Hardware 3411 Richmond Rd. Texarkana, TX 903.838.0059 Hair Care A Total Change 930 N. McCoy Blvd., Suite 6 New Boston, Texas 75570 903-628-6135 Serendipity Salon of Texarkana 4308 Texas Boulevard Texarkana, TX 903.255.0554

Style Studio Lisa Harris 3201 Kennedy Lane Texarkana, TX 903.223.1719 Hospitals Christus St. Michael Health System 2600 St. Michael Dr. Texarkana, TX 903.614.1000 Health South Rehabilitation 515 West 12th St. Texarkana, TX 903.793.0088

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Wadley Regional Medical Center 1000 Pine St. Texarkana, TX 903.798.8000

Hotels Best Western Texarkana Inn & Suites 5219 Crossroads Parkway Texarkana, AR 870.774.1534

Clarion Lacross Hotel 5100 N. Stateline Ave. Texarkana, AR 870.774.3521 www.lacrosse-hotel.com Courtyard by Marriott 5001 North Cowhorn Creek Texarkana, TX 903.334.7400 Fairfield Inn and Suites by Marriott 4209 Mall Dr. Texarkana, TX 903.838.1000 Hilton Garden Inn and Texarkana Convention Center 2910 S. Cowhorn Creek Loop Texarkana, Texas 903.792.1065 Holiday Inn Express & Suites 4545 Cowhorn Creek Road Texarkana, TX 903.223.0008 TownePlace Suites

by Marriott 5020 North Cowhorn Creek Texarkana, TX 903.334.8800

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Insurance Farm Bureau Insurance 4413 Morris Lane Texarkana, TX 903.838.8707 911 W. US Highway 82 New Boston, TX 903.628.3451 Greg Cockerell State Farm Insurance 4807 Texas Blvd.

Texarkana, TX 75503 903.793.7502 Ron Morrow State Farm Insurance 3306 Richmond Rd. Texarkana, TX 75503 903.832.5505 Invitations I Do Wedding Favors Debra Jones 903.826.9879 Jewelers Alexander’s Jewelers 3701 Mall Drive Texarkana, TX 903.832.3557 Micah’s Jewelers 2812 Richmond Road Texarkana, TX 903.735.2336

Make-up Gayle’s 4059 Summerhill Square Texarkana, TX 903.792.0056 Salon Visage Esthetique Mary Ann Robbins 4506 Summerhill Rd. Texarkana, TX 903.794.4007 Methadone Treatment Arkansas Treatment Services 408 Hazel St. Texarkana, AR 870.774.0421 Photographer Image Forward Photography 200 Heather Dr. Texarkana, TX 75501 903.334.9605 Sage Duke Photography 870.571.0868 Pet Grooming Georgia’s Pet Salon & Boutique 101 Slaton Nash, Texas 903.223.8223 Physicians Advanced Bariatrics 1939 Morres Lane Texarkana, TX 75503

Carmony Oral, Facial and Implant Center 5305 Cowhorn Creek Road Texarkana, TX 75503 903.791.8405 Express Care 5483 Summerhill Road Texarkana, TX 75503 903.223.5931 Northfield Accupunture 619 E. 6th St. Texarkana, AR 870.772.8622 Vision Source 4401 Morris Lane Texarkana, TX 903.838.9063 Plumbing Central Air/Roto Rooter 450 S. Kings Highway Texarkana, TX 75501 903.832.1212 Real Estate Crown Leasing 6500 Summerhill Road Texarkana, TX 903.792.6000 Gerald Haire Realty Kaci Bennett 3725 Mall Dr. Texarkana, TX 870.903.3049

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Gerald Haire Realty Janet Willis 3725 Mall Dr. Texarkana, TX 903.748.5385 Impact Realty Bill and Tracy Spradlin 1200 N. Kings Hwy., Ste 104 Nash, TX 903.748.3186 903.748.2477 Impact Realty Cody Sandone 1200 N. Kings Hwy., Ste 104 Nash, TX 903.276.7565 Teresa Liepman Remax 5120 Summerhill Rd. Texarkana, TX 75503 903.276.9464 Refreshments Bolls Distributing 700 E. Broad St. Texarkana, AR 870.774.9283 Vincent’s Fine Wines 6900 N. Stateline Texarkana, AR 870.774.7217

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Rentals Dot’s Rentals 814 N. Robison Road Texarkana, TX 75501 903.792.7011 3413 Richmond Rd. Texarkana, TX 903.838.0551 Restaurants Big Jake’s BBQ 2610 New Boston Rd. Texarkana, TX 903-793-1169 1521 Arkansas Blvd.

Texarkana, AR 870-774-0099 603 W. Commerce Hope, AR 870-777-1000 170 N. Constitution Ave. Ashdown, AR 870-898-2227 Coldstone Creamery 4228 St. Michael Dr. Texarkana, TX 903.838.2653 Daddy Dougaloo’s 905 New Boston Road Texarkana, TX 75503 903.791.0172 Dairy Queen Locations throughout Ark-LaTex

Fish Creek 1514 Arkansas Blvd.

Texarkana, AR 870.223.0595 Gusano’s Chicago Style Pizzeria 2820 Richmond Road, Texarkana, Texas 903.792.8646 Hopkins Icehouse Downtown Texarkana, AR Corner of 3rd and Wood 870.774.3333 Ironwood Grill 4312 Morris Lane Texarkana, TX 903.223.4644 Julie’s Deli 4055 Summerhill Sq. Texarkana, TX 903.792.3354 Shorty’s Donuts 2729 New Boston Road Texarkana, TX 75501 903.832.6686 Tasty Donuts 1443 N. Kings Highway Nash, TX 903.838.0422 Twisted Vines Cafe 218 W. Broad St. Texarkana, TX 903.792.2700

Wendy’s 4201 Stateline Avenue Texarkana, TX 2902 Richmond Road Texarkana, TX 3737 New Boston Road Texarkana, TX 1615 N. Hervey Hope, AR 124 N. Loop Highway 59 Atlanta, TX Wingstop 2700 Richmond Road, Suite 14A1 Texarkana, TX 903.255.0090 4501 N. State Line, No. 106 Texarkana, TX 903.792.9464 Retirement/Assisted Living Home Edgewood Manor 4925 Elizabeth St. Texarkana, TX 903.793.4645 Heritage Plaza 600 W. 52nd St. Texarkana, TX 75501 903.792.6700 The Magnolia 4205 Richmond Meadows Texarkana, TX 75503 903.838.7319

Roofing Aqua Roofing Anthony Jewell 3523 Locust Texarkana, AR 903.244.5706 Spas/Salons All About You 4100 Summerhill Road Texarkana, TX 903.803.2050 Salon Visage Esthetique Mary Ann Robbins 4506 Summerhill Rd. Texarkana, TX 903.794.4007 Ultrasound Services Peanut Gallery Texarkana, AR 870.779.7688 Wedding Attire Bridal Castle 3209 Kennedy Lane Texarkana, TX 903.838.3886 Wedding Coordinators Abracadabra Wedding and Event Planning Debra Mason, Event Coordinator 903.748.4838 damason@cableone.net Heather Kiser Wedding Coordinator 903.314.1582

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Wedding Favors Pop Pop Shoppe 2011 Mall Drive, Suite B Texarkana, TX 903.793.0209 Wedding Planners Abracadabra Wedding and Event Planning Debra Mason, Event Coordinator 903.748.4838 damason@cableone.net Wedding Rehearsal Dinner Locations Ironwood Grill 4312 Morris Lane Texarkana, TX 903.223.4644 Julie’s Deli 4055 Summerhill Sq. Texarkana, TX 903.792.3354 Silvermoon on Broad West Broad at Texas Blvd.

Texarkana, TX Weight Loss All About You 4100 Summerhill Road Texarkana, TX 903.803.2050 Jenny Craig Texarkana, TX 903.831.5366

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