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If you’re part of the 55-and-over crowd, retirement is going to be a topic of conversation — when to retire, where to retire, and what you want your post-retirement life to look like. Retirement is personal, and it can be complicated. I find it interesting as I talk to people of “retirement age” how each is choosing to do it their own way, often reinventing the traditional path we typically imagine when someone says they’re retiring.

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or many couples, moving from a steady flow of dual paychecks to no paychecks at all can feel like stepping into the abyss — especially if the two partners are not on the same page when it comes to planning, saving, and priorities.

Couples who have a history of talking openly and honestly about finances from the get-go may find the transition to retirement a bit easier. Unfortunately, that is not the norm: the 2021 Couples and Money Fact Sheet issued by Fidelity Investments indicates that one in five couples say money is their

greatest relationship challenge, with 44 percent of couples saying they argue about money at least occasionally. When it comes to retirement, Fidelity found that 48 percent of couples disagree about what age they plan to retire, 51 percent disagree about how much savings they need to reach retirement, and 34 percent disagree as to whether they’re savers or spenders.

But even if you and your partner have never been terrific at talking about money, you can still take steps to help make conversations around finances more comfortable, less scary, and healthier all around.

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SHIFTING ROLES

Bill Selig is a financial advisor with CP Capital Management LLC in Clifton Park. During the seven years he has shepherded couples through their retirements, he’s seen a number of patterns. For starters, Selig says, couples seeking his expertise typically follow some basic scenarios. “There’s the couple that comes in that’s been conservative and have saved, and they’re on the same page about saving and future spending. They’re already in good shape.”

Other couples, though, are not on the same page at all when it comes to saving, spending, or future plans; they’re the ones who are going to have to work hard to get in good financial shape, Selig says. “The most difficult cases are those involving mixed families, couples who have been together for 20 years but have different ideas about, say, paying for a kid’s wedding. One partner may feel strongly that he or she should pay for the wedding, and the other may say, ‘No, that’s not how it works.’”

Other couples may have relationships where one person typically took the financial lead. Perhaps that person was the breadwinner, while the other partner oversaw the family and homefront. Retirement can change that dynamic, which can be tricky, Selig says.

TALKING THE TALK

The good news is that couples can and do overcome the hurdles of learning to talk productively about retirement finances — and those that do may find their relationships enriched by the process.

As Adina Saperstein, MMHC, a therapist and couples counselor at Families Together Counseling Services in

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Catskill, puts it, “There always is the possibility to heal at any stage.” Saperstein, who works with many couples as they navigate the many issues that surround retirement, says things often get very bad before they get better.

“Overwhelmingly, most couples don’t come in for counseling until they’re on the brink of splitting up,” Saperstein says.

“Any time they come in sooner than that happens, they’re already ahead of the game.”

“When it comes to planning for retirement, there’s often a disconnect between the partners,” Saperstein explains. “One partner may want to retire sooner and enjoy life, while the other may want to continue working, either because they truly enjoy [their work] or perhaps it’s a new relationship, one that’s not fully established in terms of financial security.”

“Financial issues are often just one piece of a lifetime of unresolved issues,” Saperstein says. A key point of contention that can come to a head as retirement approaches involves the couple’s reckoning with each partner’s relative contribution to the union in terms of employment.

A common dynamic involves a breadwinner (often a man) and a partner (often a woman) who hasn’t worked outside the home but has been caring for the household, for her partner, for their offspring, and perhaps for a parent. That partner “finds herself in a position of not having the bandwidth to work outside the home,” Saperstein says. “When one partner’s been contributing such invisible labor for decades and the other has a sense of entitlement, saying, ‘Sorry, I’ve been the one working,’ resentment can creep in. That resentment can peak when retirement grows closer, and it creates an unhealthy dynamic on multiple levels.”

“In the many cases where there are financial constraints

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is that couples can and do overcome the hurdles of learning to talk productively about retirement finances — and those that do may find their relationships enriched by the process.

that make it necessary to adjust, scale back, or delay hopes and dreams for retirement that may be impossible, it’s important for both partners to make space to feel and acknowledge grief about that,” Saperstein continues. “Practicing what we call ‘radical acceptance’ involves acknowledging experiences of distress and disappointment without letting them fester into resentment and suffering.”

TIPS FOR TALKING ABOUT MONEY AROUND RETIREMENT

So just how does a couple address these sensitive issues in a loving, productive manner?

Saperstein says she often advises that couples “adopt basic relationship and couples-counseling approaches that have applications beyond retirement.” Taking that approach can enhance the relationship generally. “The process can really lead to second acts of relationships as couples shift gears on finances,” she says. “Even when people have been stuck in patterns for decades, they can reset at any stage.”

Here are the five steps Saperstein encourages couples to take: l “Each partner should get clear for themselves about their hopes, needs, desires, and requirements” for retirement. “From there, the partners should communicate in a straightforward manner using ‘I’ statements such as ‘I hope to spend more time with the grandkids,’ or ‘I want to travel more.’ … In and of itself, that approach may be new to the couple,” Saperstein adds.

“The ability to claim and express hopes and desires can be really revolutionary, especially for the generation of women now retiring.”

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l “Be prepared to listen, reflect, and validate what the other person has said. In practice, I’ll guide the first person to express their needs and desires, then ask the other partner to reflect and summarize what the first person said. Often they’ll jump in with an emotional, triggered reaction. But instead they can say something like, ‘I heard you say …,’” which is more respectful and productive, Saperstein says. l “Express any reaction calmly with an ‘I’ statement: ‘I hear you say you want to travel extensively, but I’m afraid we can’t afford it.’” l “Explore compromises required to create a viable plan and budget. Reframe the conversation away from defensive, reactive, and contentious to collaboration and compromise.” l “Prioritize allocating a budget for activities that keep both partners healthier, more active, and more fulfilled.

Hobbies, classes, learning something new that involves mind/body connection, such as learning a new style of dance, or reading — specifically, reading fiction novels, which, because you have to keep track of characters and plot in a way you don’t need for reading nonfiction, is super powerful for memory and cognitive function. Instead of saying, ‘This is a waste of money,’ get creative about finding free or inexpensive options.”

As couples proceed through retirement, these communication skills can help them address and manage all kinds of matters, including those involving their children, real estate, and pretty much anything that comes up along the way. “The common denominator,” Saperstein says, “is that the sooner these questions are broached and discussed, the better.”

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Each partner should get clear for themselves about their hopes, needs, desires, and requirements” for retirement.

— ­Adina Saperstein, MMHC Families Together Counseling Services

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Admittedly, Kim and Mike McMann of Stephentown are not a textbook retired couple. As Kim readily relates in a phone conversation, their situation differs from that of many other couples. They have been communicative about finances since the start of their 20-year marriage, they’ve retired a bit younger than the norm (Kim’s about to turn 60, and Mike turns 58 in December), and, with no children or other direct heirs, their planning didn’t entail leaving inheritances or other legacies.

Having said all that, Kim and Mike were thrust unexpectedly into retirement when Mike, a professional musician, was offered an early-retirement package during the COVID pandemic, at a time when demand for gig players like him dried up. Lucky for the McManns, Mike worked for a company that offered a buyout package that allowed for him to receive his hard-earned pension, though he was a year away from retirement.

At the same time, Kim, who was helping run a program that provided free meals to those who needed them, found demand increase even as staffing shrunk; the program let all of its volunteers go during the pandemic, leaving just Kim and her kitchen manager — and their spouses — to continue

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providing this much-needed service.

“I was exhausted,” Kim says, “and nobody knew what was going to happen next. I loved the job, so I just kept my head down and kept going.”

Kim had crafted a plan for keeping the program running should she get COVID; when eventually that did happen, she was gratified to see that nobody missed a meal during her absence. That drove home the fact that the organization could survive without her. So she decided to find work that was more fun and less demanding — and that offered health insurance.

Kim now works part-time in visitor services at an art museum, and the McManns are living on her paychecks and benefits and his pension. “We decided we can live — frugally — but live, so long as I provide health insurance.”

“Some people thought we were crazy, cutting out 10-12 years of prime earning time. But if we’d kept working the way we were, we’d be cutting out 10-12 years of healthy life,” Kim says.

“The best advice I would give to others is to know what’s important to you and stick with it, even when people tell you you’re crazy.” n

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etirement brings couples face to face with a new reality. As partners step away from their careers and settle into a phase of life characterized by more leisure time, they may be surprised to find their joy tempered by uncertainty.

“You can be really excited about retiring or working in a different way, but there’s still some loss and grief,” says Dorian Mintzer, Ph.D., a professional retirement coach, speaker, and co-author of The Couple’s Retirement Puzzle: 10 Must-Have Conversations for Creating an Amazing New Life Together.

Complicating an already challenging transition is the growing number of ways to retire. The days of retiring directly and completely from a full-time job seem to be numbered.

In fact, a 2018 research brief by the RAND Corporation asserted that fewer than four in 10 American workers followed that pattern. Instead, many pursue new career paths, take on part-time work, or even start small businesses.

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as a prelude to full retirement, and 17 percent left the workforce only to reenter it later.

“Retirement isn’t so much a destination anymore; it’s a transition, it’s a journey,” Mintzer says.

But regardless of what your path looks like, it’s important to approach retirement intentionally with your partner, because this phase of your life is likely to be a long one. Over the past 50 years, the number of years people spend in retirement has risen dramatically.

In 1970, men in the U.S. could expect 12.8 years of retirement and women could expect 16.6 years, according to the Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development.

By 2020, those numbers had risen to 18.6 years for men and 21.3 years for women.

START WITH COMMUNICATION

Mintzer, whose book takes a lighthearted approach (Chapter One is “Twice the Husband, Half the Income”), has helped many couples reevaluate their dynamics, goals, and individual pursuits. Success starts, she says, with conversation.

But don’t feel bad if you and your partner find yourselves unexpectedly struggling with communication. Learning to not only express yourself clearly, but also listen attentively, are skills that develop with practice. Keep in mind that it’s easy to misunderstand our closest companions during times of change if we mistakenly believe we already know what they want, need, and feel.

Planning for retirement requires a deliberate approach to communication, especially because of the sensitive and emotionally charged nature of the topics that arise. From living arrangements and finances to health, obligations, and spirituality, it helps to have somewhere to start.

Mintzer says couples should try to have a BLAST during tough conversations by remembering the following acronym: B: Blaming gets in the way L: Listen without interrupting A: Agree to disagree, and don’t assume S: Set a safe space for discussion T: Take time to talk without distractions This template can help you allocate your newfound free

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It’s almost like there’s no map. You know, there’s a map for going to college, and there’s a map for getting a job, and there’s a map for raising your kids, but there’s no map for what happens next.”

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— ­ Dorian Mintzer, Ph.D. Co-author, The Couple’s Retirement Puzzle

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time, whether you choose to pursue new hobbies, volunteer, travel, or simply relax. Some couples may have plenty of expectations in common, while others will have more to negotiate. The important thing is to patiently put everything out in the open so you can work together.

“The frame I’ve used with my co-author is the concept of a puzzle,” Mintzer says. “I like it because it’s a noun and a verb.”

LOOKING TO THE PAST TO DIRECT THE FUTURE

If you’re approaching retirement, you’ve likely worked toward and hoped for it for decades. So, after all the congratulation and celebration, you may be surprised to find yourself occasionally feeling down. While some people may feel this way immediately, others enjoy a “honeymoon period,” only to find themselves unexpectedly sad a few months into their new normal.

“It’s almost like there’s no map. You know, there’s a map for going to college, and there’s a map for getting a job, and there’s a map for raising your kids, but there’s no map for what happens next,” Mintzer says.

It’s hard to know what a change will feel like before it arrives, but Mintzer suggests reflecting on previous transitions for insight. For example, if you have grown children, what emotions came up when they left home? If you’ve weathered a big move as a couple, what were each of your strengths? And if COVID-19 lockdowns meant you spent more time at home, how did it suit you?

Each of these changes, and many others, disrupt established routines and redefine daily purpose — just like retirement. “Have you had more trouble with the ending, with the period of unknown, or with the new beginning?”

Mintzer says. “All transitions have those components.”

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abundance of time can lead to feelings of purposelessness‌, creating relationship strain.

One key aspect that both Mintzer and Marks emphasized was the idea of, as Mintzer puts it, a healthy mix of “time together and time apart.” Marks and Hester, for example, have shared interests such as hiking, biking, cooking, and playing music. But when Hester proposed a trip to Paris, Marks, who doesn’t enjoy crowded cities, declined. She went with her sister instead.

“I think the important thing is to have interests that you can share with your partner or friends, but also interests that you can just do on your own,” says Marks, who ran a specialty food business out of his kitchen from 2011 until his wife retired in 2015.

“You have to have interests to fill the hours in the day,” he says. “You have to have things you can do alone and be comfortable with yourself.”

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prepared to face retirement after decades of negotiating courageous new beginnings. The pair met in graduate school and married almost 40 years ago. They have frequently moved and changed careers, often working in different fields. Their professions have taken them all over the United States and around the world.

Like most modern professionals, the couple’s transition to retirement was gradual. Jim made the first move, shifting from genetics research to consulting and eventually starting a specialty food business in their home. Liz transitioned from a career in banking to becoming a speech pathologist before finally retiring.

Throughout their many moves, whether to Kansas or Saudi Arabia, Marks says the pair always kept their own identities and interests, which have continued to sustain them.

In particular, Mintzer and Marks agreed, it’s important to nurture your mental and physical well-being and the state of your finances.

When making time for those important conversations — having a BLAST — remember to include focused discussions about balancing expenses and income. Marks says he has noticed that a lot of people worry about having enough money in retirement, but he has good news. “You don’t really need as much money as you might think you need when you retire,” he says. “If you keep busy and don’t overspend, you end up saving a significant amount of money.”

Plus, limited resources can help focus your priorities. “I think you have to think about what really gives you pleasure,” he says.

Major changes like retirement can also disrupt your health by interrupting your eating habits, fitness schedule, and mental health. Talk openly with your partner about how you’ll stay active, prioritize self-care, and maintain a healthy lifestyle. The more you support each other’s well-being and proactively address potential health-care concerns, the better.

“The longer we live, the more likely one or another is going to be a caregiver,” Mintzer says. “It really is important to take care of our health.”

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Remember that solo trip to Paris that Hester took? While she was away, Marks worked on some overdue home maintenance projects — and they just kept coming.

“At some point during that time when she was gone, it’s like, ‘I don’t know how much longer I want to keep doing this,’” he recalls. When Hester returned, they began to consider downsizing.

Today, they’re part of The Spinney at Van Dyke, a 55+ community in the Capital Region. The change meant less housework and more freedom to travel and socialize. “​​We have a number of friends around here, mostly people that we know through music, old school friends around here, and some relatives,” Marks says.

Mintzer recommends that, like Marks and Hester, every couple make time to evaluate their living situation as they transition into retirement. Take into account financial goals, realistic expectations of health and wellness, and your personal values and preferences.

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Bottom line, retirement is not the end of an era but a bold new chapter. “There can be a shift from working and doing so much to really thinking about being, getting more in touch with what’s going on inside,” Mintzer says.

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To Pay or

Not to Pay More young adults need assistance than in the past, but how much should you assist?

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Help your adult kids with their cellphone bill? In THIS economy?

Yes, exactly. This economy, as we’re all painfully aware, is stacked against younger people in more and more challenging ways as the wealth gap widens, rent prices soar and wages stagnate. Not to mention a little economic blip called COVID-19, which destabilized younger and older people alike, something many are still struggling to recover from.

For millennials, the homeownership rate is about five percentage points lower than it was for Gen X when they were in

their 30s. And it’s about seven percentage points lower than for baby boomers when they were in their 30s, according to U.S. Census data. And, according to the news site The Hill, nearly half of American parents with adult children continue to support them financially — spending $1,442 a month on average.

Citing a Savings.com survey, The Hill notes that parents who pay bills for an adult child are most likely to cover relatively modest expenses such as groceries and cellphone plans.

Yet, they add, more than half help pay a child’s mortgage or

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rent, a monthly expense that averages more than $800.

So, in the realm of adulthood, where independence collides with the enduring bonds of family, a new paradigm is emerging — managing adult children and their finances.

A task fraught with emotional complexities and financial considerations, this chapter of parental guidance is one that requires empathy, clear communication, and a strategic outlook.

Meet Jared Paul, a seasoned certified financial planner and the managing director of Capable Wealth in Albany. With over 15 years of experience, Paul has encountered scenarios where families grapple with the desire to provide for individual members while also maintaining financial stability overall. As he affirms, understanding the full scope of the situation is crucial before embarking on this journey.

“Understanding the full situation — is this a one-off thing that you need cash for the month instead of a multiyear perpetual thing? — that’s very key to understanding how to give advice,” Paul says. It’s not just about the financial aspect but also about the long-term implications and the underlying dynamics of the parent-child relationship.

The balance between assisting and enabling is delicate.

Parents might feel compelled to always help their children, but this should align with their financial capacity. Financial Consultant Gretchen Meyer, owner and president at Gretchen Meyer Financial in Latham, agrees that communication is important in navigating finances with your kids. But, she says, she’s also seen rising interest among Gen Z young adults to learn more about financial health and hygiene. “We can help them invest in themselves for what they want for their own next stage,” Meyer says.

In fact, to meet this rising demand, Meyer has launched Core Planning, an affordable ($75 per month) service for young people just getting on their financial feet. “The new offering provides financial coaching, career advice, cash flow guidance, debt analysis, and more,” she says. “It’s designed to bridge the gap for young individuals who may not meet the asset criteria of traditional advisors. This program addresses their financial needs and helps them make informed decisions.”

That financial literacy will help in conversations about how much you’re helping them, and for how long. But many families shy away from discussing financial matters, because it can be awkward, vulnerable, and uncomfortable. We’re taught that money matters are private.

Parents might not realize, though, that their adult children are under significant and substantial financial pressure and, conversely, adult children might not recognize the constraints of their parents. “Kids might not know what the financial situation is,” Paul notes, emphasizing the importance of open dialogue.

If both parents and adult children have evaluated their cir-

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cumstances for what they have and what they need, however, the numbers can essentially do the talking. When you have your comprehensive financial plan, both Paul and Meyer say, then you see clearly what you’re able to spend while still making progress toward your goals of retirement, buying a first or second home, or anything else you’re planning for.

So gradual transition is key, especially when it comes to support that has been ongoing. Paul and Meyer advise against abruptly cutting off assistance, especially when it involves emotional support. Finding a middle ground and developing a game plan together can make the transition smoother and maintain the integrity of the parent-child relationship.

Strategies may vary based on circumstance. If you’re covering a rent payment, for example, and your adult child isn’t able to make the payment on their own or with roommates, are you willing to help them find a new place? Or even allow them to move back home and save some cash? These decisions should be rooted in a clear assessment of financial capacity and the potential strain it might place on your family.

Empathy is a vital thread that weaves through this narrative. “People don’t always come to a situation with empathy,” Paul says. People’s financial situations are complex and unique and can even be quite stressful; assuming motives without understanding the full context can lead to misinter-

pretations. Suggesting or accusing your adult child of being lazy, entitled, or codependent won’t be productive. Remember: It’s hard out there, for everyone.

Still, the ultimate goal is self-sufficiency, no matter what generation you’re a member of. “I think people, no matter what the generation, want that ability to stand on their own two feet,” Paul says.

For parents and adult children alike, education is a potential bridge to understanding. Meyer notes that budgeting and tracking spending in a mostly cashless society is much more challenging than it was during the checkbook-balancing years. Knowing that money and finance is ever-evolving and assuming good intentions are keys to keeping harmony. That’s why she recommends working on a plan together, with clear deadlines and outcomes, so that there’s no misunderstanding about what your child can count on and what they need to figure out.

With a clear roadmap and communication, managing adult children and finances doesn’t have to be a fight. The journey involves balancing present support with future independence, and embracing empathy as a guiding principle. As Paul sums up, “Navigating this terrain requires thoughtful planning, a willingness to adapt, and above all, understanding.” n

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MAKEOVER? Yes, you do need to rethink your makeup as you age

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ake a peek inside your cosmetic bag. If you see products you’ve worn for 10 years — or more — it’s time to give your makeup a makeover.

Your personal history of wearing makeup is likely a long one. Most women remember the life-changing year that they were officially allowed to wear it.

This milestone does not include junior high years when you snuck lip gloss and some peachy blush in your backpack, and applied it using the mirror inside your locker. All evidence of these amateurish attempts at cosmetics had to be scrubbed off before you got home, of course.

The ’70s were a time when Bonne Bell soda-flavored

lip balms and Love’s Baby Soft perfume were all the rage.

With role models from Cher and Charlie’s Angels to Wonder Woman and the Pink Ladies in Grease, teenage girls had plenty of inspiration to draw from.

Disco makeup, meanwhile, featured techno-colored eye shadow and butterfly false eyelashes. The popular lipstick was (and still is) classic cherry red. Hair spray was a huge hit that launched a Broadway show, but that’s another story for another time.

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out the front door.

In your 40s and early 50s, you likely had a stash of reliable skin care, eye shadow, lipstick and blush products. Fast forward to current days, when we have time and energy to finetune our signature look — and yet most of us don’t, instead relying on what we’ve done for years.

Why do so many of us avoid switching up our cosmetics?

“Women get comfortable in their routine,” says Rachel Duncan, owner of Color Me Gorgeous in Altamont. “They want something quick and easy and fall into a habit. As time passes, your skin isn’t the same, so your goals can’t be the same decade after decade.”

Alayne Curtiss, owner of Make Me Fab in Saratoga Springs, likens this to falling into a proverbial rut. “What is it about makeup and changing our look that’s scary?” she

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says. “We want to look like a version of ourselves from 20 years ago. It’s an identity we’ve had for so long. Listen, you don’t have to make huge changes. You can take small steps to update your look.”

The question is where to start. Local makeup experts have plenty of advice for updating and enhancing your cosmetic efforts, whether you want a subtle flush of color or something suitable for a dinner party.

First, consider the lighting in the room where you’re putting on cosmetics. “You want to mimic daylight, which is a white, not yellow cast,” says Tayla Janowicz, owner of The Makeup Studio Saratoga.

Since most of us don’t apply our makeup on our front porch, Janowicz says the best lighting is a 6400 Kelvin bulb, which you can find at most home stores. This bulb creates a

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pure light, with a slight bluish-white tint.

Next question: What kind of mirror are you using to apply your makeup? If you answer “magnifying,” it’s time for a change.

“Using a magnifying mirror will only show more problems than you really have,” Janowicz says. “You will have no self-control. You will over pluck your eyebrows and pick at blemishes.”

A good beauty routine starts with hydration. Sure, you want to drink plenty of water for myriad health reasons, but it also boosts the appearance of a fresh, glowing complexion.

After cleansing, dab on a complexion serum, which is a liquid enhanced with a variety of ingredients ranging from vitamins and minerals to elements based in nature, such as kelp and floral or plant extracts. “Serums are something

many women aren’t using because they think they will cause breakouts,” says Duncan. “Just use a drop or two, then gently press the product into the skin. Rubbing can irritate skin.”

Save that heavy hand for moisturizers that are designed for the face, i.e., not Jergens hand lotion or whatever’s on your nightstand. “Put on a good layer of moisturizer,” says Janowicz. “Spread it evenly across the face and let it sink in.”

Once your skin is hydrated and ready to glow, reach for foundation, available in creams, sticks, powders and liquids.

“Older women should stick with a water-based foundation,” says Autumn Wright, owner of Seraphina Divine Beauty in Ballston Spa. “Foundation with oil is great for 22-year-olds, but for a more mature skin, you don’t want shimmer because it accentuates wrinkles. Stick to water-based.”

Think layers, not gobs of foundation. Then blend, blend,

WHEN IN DOUBT, TOSS IT OUT Yes, cosmetics have an expiration date! If it looks old or changes texture, get rid of it. Most foundations, concealers, liquid eyeliners and face creams need to be replaced anywhere from 3 to 12 months out. Check the Period After Opening (PAO) symbol on most cosmetic product labels for a guideline.

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blend. Makeup sponges and brushes are available in all sizes, but there’s nothing wrong with using your fingertips. (Always wash hands first).

On to mascara, which comes in many shades, from black to brown to blue (skip the latter). Choose the brand you like, but make sure it isn’t labeled “waterproof.”

“Waterproof mascara will make lashes dry and brittle,” Janowicz says. “If this happens, try a lash serum to rehydrate.”

If your current eyeliner strategy is reminiscent of the singer Joan Jett, who used a thick stroke of black, it’s time to switch it up. “That’s a 1980s trend to trace eyes with dark pencil lin-

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hydration. er,” says Lari Manz, owner of Lari Manz Hair and Makeup in Chatham. “Instead, use a soft eye shadow like a soft gray or smudged brown that won’t create harsh lines.”

When it comes to eyebrows, it’s time to toss the tweezers.

“As we get older, our brow lashes thin out,” says Duncan.

“Avoid plucking them, even if they’re gray, because that damages the root, and they won’t grow back in.”

Instead, reach for a brow pencil, powder or tinted gel, and gently fill in sparse brows with a color one or two shades lighter than your hair. “Pencils with wax in them will be easier to apply,” says Janowicz. “Eyebrows sculpt the face. Pay attention to them.”

Let’s move from your face to your nails. Whether you wear yours long or short, acrylic or natural, there are a couple of ways to make sure you, um, nail your look as a mature woman. “The main rule with nails and a youthful appearance is to go lighter,” says Janowicz. “Stay away from anything loud, like fluorescent pink or even black or dark shades.”

Nail polishes these days come in a dizzying array of colors, even when you choose a neutral. “Pick something close to your skin color with some warmth to it,” Janowicz says. “It will make you look well-groomed and healthier.”

Ultimately, the motto “less is more” is the best approach when applying cosmetics. “As we mature, stay away from bright and shiny and go for a more natural look,” says Manz.

The potential exception is lipstick. “The only bright color you should have on your face is lipstick,” says Manz. “Stay away from harsh dark berries. I love the classic red.”

Last of all, cast your worries to the wind! “Be willing to try new things,” says Duncan. “Makeup is something to play with, to reconnect with that youthful side of ourselves.”

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AND FOR THE MEN… Who says women are the only ones who should update their appearance as they mature? Switching up the out-of-style hair cut and considering a rethink on the facial hair can help men step into the 2000s.

“Mustaches used to be a way for men to try and look younger, but now it’s more about facial hair and beards,” says Dominic Figliomeni, owner of Dominic’s Classico Barber Shop, with locations in Loudonville and Clifton Park.

You don’t have to be George Clooney to rock a scruffy salt-and-pepper look. “The five o’clock shadow is a great look for all men,” Figliomeni says.

If you are follicly challenged, please resist the urge to fall back on the comb over! That’s a dated style where men grow hair longer on one side and comb it over their bald spots. “No comb over, no way,” Figliomeni says. “It will take men from 60 to 90.”

The good news is that men are paying more attention to their hair, and it shows. “Older men over the last 10 years look so much better,” says Figliomeni.

“You get smarter with age.”

Men can also take advantage of new styling tricks to thicken and hold hair in place, no matter how windy

it gets this autumn. Figliomeni just released his own brand of pomade, fiber and clay products designed to leave hair with a dry appearance rather than a shiny gel.

“You want to be able to run your fingers through your hair,” he says. “Trying too hard is not the best idea. Listen to your stylist.”

Women aren’t the only ones that can treat themselves to spa services that make them feel like a million bucks. The Medbury Spa in Ballston Spa, for instance, offers a “Gentlemen’s Facial” that includes cleansing, exfoliation and hydration.

Many men have already jumped on this self-improvement trend. “It used to be that women had to drag their partners in for spa treatments,” says Carolyn Barter, spa manager. “Now men come in on their own and look much better groomed when they leave.

It can be an ongoing part of looking their best.”

Barter advises men to skip shaving a day or two before their facial, because freshly shaven skin can be irritated by the exfoliating product. Other services for men include mineral bath soaks, acne treatments, and chest or back waxing. n

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ging is an inexorable process, but what can often make a person feel truly old is inflexibility of the mind. After so many years we can get set in our ways, so comfortable in what we know that we often forget how much we don’t know. Curiosity, then, can be what prevents us from feeling truly old.

Finding ways to stay curious as we age, however, can be a challenge. Left to our own devices, we often seek information that fits our preconceived notions. This tendency is called confirmation bias: when we almost accidentally search for or interpret information in a way that confirms or supports our prior beliefs. Therefore, to stay intellectually flexible it is important to seek knowledge from expert sources that takes us beyond our preconceived notions.

Under that logic, the fountain of youth does exist — and the secret lies in MOOCs, or massive online open courses.

These classes are offered from institutions of higher learning like Harvard, Columbia, and Yale … for free. Anyone can enroll and benefit from the collective wisdom of top collegiate professors, purely for the sake of learning. If you want to earn a certification, you can do that too — for a lot less than if you tried to enroll the traditional way. We spoke with Professor Trudi E. Jacobson, distinguished librarian emeritus at the University of Albany, to learn more about MOOCs and how to get the most out of these programs.

What are MOOCs? Massive open online courses are exactly what they sound like: college courses offered via the internet aimed at un-

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limited participation and open access. When MOOCs first started to become popular around 2012, Jacobson and her colleagues wanted to explore how MOOCs could allow students to build their own interactive learning experiences.

Unfortunately, they found that this open format of learning was difficult for the typical college student to embrace. “[Students] are used to being told what they need to do,” she says.

Since then, MOOCs have evolved to become more like the massive lecture courses we’re familiar with from our college days. They consist of a combination of traditional course materials such as filmed lectures, readings, and posted problem sets, blended with interactive opportunities like user forums and social media tools.

This format of higher education has been criticized by some for setting unrealistic time-commitment expectations for the typical student, and for the assumption that the student can self-regulate and set their own goals. But while those issues may be problematic for your typical 20-year-old seeking a degree, retirees or even empty nesters still working have more free time — and often the self-motivation — to learn simply for learning’s sake.

The MOOCs that Jacobson has taught have been taken by people from all age groups all over the world. But she particularly encourages people from a more mature demographic to take advantage of them: “I think for those who are older, who are coming to this with their own motivation — doing it because they want to do it — it probably works better than [for] those who are doing it because they have to,” she says.

Take, for example, the course Jacobson offered through

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Coursera called Metaliteracy: Empowering Yourself in a Connected World. Being metaliterate means being able to evaluate information for bias, reliability, and credibility and then understanding how to apply that information in context. Jacobson says that when students take the course, they are often surprised to find that metaliteracy can change your whole point of view. “This is a way of thinking — both about the assessment of the information they’re using and consuming, but also their responsibilities as creators of information,” she says.

In the past, you needed to write a book or be some kind of credentialed expert to disseminate information or knowledge.

Thanks to the internet, all you need is access and the ability to hit “share.” So Jacobson’s course discusses the responsibility we all share when we participate in social media to assess the truth of what we are seeing as well as what we pass along.

Jacobson is also excited about the unique way that MOOCs can help people expand their horizons beyond what is included in the lectures and readings. “Depending on the platform and how it is structured, [MOOCs] can be very interesting if there are discussions going on with people all over the world because it gives you a new perspective and a chance to share your knowledge,” she says.

How to get started MOOCs are available through a variety of online platforms.

The most well known are probably Coursera and edX, which collaborate with leading universities and companies to provide free courses, professional certificates, and even degrees.

Before you enroll, however, consider what you want to get

out of the experience. Are you looking for a more passive role, where you can simply absorb the information at your own pace? Or are you looking to be a more engaged learner, which requires interaction between yourself and other students and professors around the world? Jacobson, as you can probably guess, enthusiastically encourages people to opt for the latter. “If there is the opportunity to engage with others and do peer review or assessments, think about doing it,” she says. “We see a lot of people who go through MOOCs doing the minimum, but those who go that extra step say how enriching it was to do that.” Either way, before you select a course read through the syllabus and make sure it offers the experience you prefer. The structure of the classes can vary quite a bit from platform to platform and are dependent upon the area of study, so shop around.

While perusing your options, keep your end goal in mind.

Partially taking a course is totally fine, for instance. “There might only be a few modules that you want to learn from; you might not need everything the MOOC offers, but don’t feel guilty for not doing the whole thing,” she says. “It is all self-directed; you know what it is you want to get out of the course. Don’t let [the specter of failure] deter you.”

Ultimately, there’s nothing to lose by enrolling in a MOOC. In the end you won’t be saddled with hefty student loans, and no one is going to hound you about your grades. You could seek certifications that might further your career, or merely broaden your horizons in the pursuit of eternal youth. “Give it a try. You may not decide to do it all the way through,” Jacobson says, “but you might be very surprised at how fulfilling it is.” n FALL 2023 | 55PLUSLIFEMAG.COM 39

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To enroll in Original Medicare, you may be required to reach out to your local Social Security office in some circumstances.

Will I automatically be enrolled in Medicare when I turn 65?

You will automatically be enrolled in Medicare at age 65 if you are receiving Social Security benefits or railroad retirement board benefits at least four months before you enroll in Medicare.

However, suppose you are not receiving Social Security benefits or railroad retirement board benefits. In that case, you will need to contact your local Social Security office to enroll in Medicare up to three months before your 65th birth month.

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If you must contact your local Social Security office, you can sign up for Part A and Part B at the same time. Once you complete the application and provide the required documentation, you will begin receiving benefits on the first day of your 65th birth month.

Do I need to enroll in Medicare if I work past 65?

While it is not mandatory, we recommend you enroll in Medicare Part A coverage as soon as you become eligible if you qualify for premium-free Part A coverage. However, if you delay Medicare Part A, you will be able to enroll later during the General Enrollment Period or a Special Enrollment Period if you qualify. But, if you delay enrollment to the General Enrollment period, you will be required to pay late enrollment penalties.

If your employer offers creditable health coverage, you do not need to enroll in Medicare Part B if you are working past age 65. Creditable coverage is health care coverage that provides at least equal benefits to Original Medicare. Suppose you do not have creditable coverage and do not enroll in Medicare Part B when you first become eligible. In that case, you may have to pay the Medicare Part B late enrollment penalty as long as you have Medicare Part B. Remember that even if you have creditable coverage, it is essential to compare your current plan to Original Medicare with a Medigap plan and Part D. Often, combining these Medicare plans will provide you with the most comprehensive coverage possible.

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Are Medicare Supplement and Medicare Advantage the same thing?

Medicare Supplement plans and Medicare Advantage plans are not the same things. While both Medicare Supplement and Medicare Advantage plans bring additional benefits to Original Medicare, they work very differently. Medicare Supplement plans, also known as Medigap plans, work as a secondary to Original Medicare (Medicare Part A and Part B). The plan will only pay after Original Medicare has paid its portion. These plans have no networks, no restrictions, and no referrals to see specialists.

Medicare Advantage plans, also known as Medicare Part C, on the other hand, become your primary coverage over Original Medicare. They often require you to follow a strict network of doctors and have higher out-of-pocket costs. However, they often provide additional benefits.

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These additional benefits provided by Medicare Advantage plans often include dental, vision, hearing, and prescription drug coverage, as well as transportation assistance and gym memberships. However, not every plan or every carrier is required to offer these additional benefits.

How much does Medicare cost?

For most, the Medicare Part A premium is $0 per month. However, if you do not qualify for zero-premium Part A, the premium can be as high as $506. To qualify for zero premium, you must have worked at least 40 quarters or ten years paying Medicare taxes. If you did not meet this qualification, you would be required to pay the Medicare part A premium.

The standard Medicare Part B premium in 2023 is $164.90. This can increase based on income. This difference in premium reflects your Income Related Monthly Adjustment Amount (IRMAA).

For example, if you and your spouse make $230,000 combined, you will each pay $230.80 monthly for Medicare Part B. If you are subject to IRMAA, you will receive a determination letter with your new monthly premium.

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What Doesn’t Medicare Cover?

BY DAVID A. KUBIKIAN, ESQ. | HERZOG LAW FIRM

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f you are reading this article — that is, if you got past the title — it probably means you are already somewhat knowledgeable about all the things Medicare can provide for you when it comes to health insurance and all the complexities that go with it: The enrollment periods. The advantage plans.

The TV commercials. The seemingly constant inclusion of Medicare in political ads. Medicare is everywhere.

As well it should be. Our country’s over-65 population is at its largest number ever and with advancements in health care, that number will only go up in the future. It is important to know what Medicare covers — but with the average lifespan increasing (absent worldwide pandemics), it may well be more important to understand what Medicare doesn’t cover.

Unfortunately, dozens of my clients end up in the hospital each year because of both figurative and literal bad breaks from falls in their home. It’s a very familiar pattern, and it is also a good example of the limits of Medicare at the place where the worlds of health care and long-term care meet. These falls often lead to surgery and stays of a week or more in the hospital. Sometimes a debilitating condition or an infection can land a client in the hospital for more than a few days. As we saw during the last few years, potent strains of communicable diseases can have the same power.

Regardless of the reason, spending three-plus days in a hospital bed may very well require a week of rehabilitation to strengthen those muscles and bones before returning home. Medicare can provide coverage for the hospitalization and the rehab in this example. Following

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a three-day inpatient hospitalization, Medicare can provide up to 20 days of 100% coverage for rehabilitation in a skilled nursing facility.

If the length of rehabilitation extends beyond 20 days, Medicare can cover a portion of costs up to the next 80 days (days 21-100) — leaving the patient responsible for a daily co-pay that can add up to thousands of dollars per month. Some Medicare recipients have additional gap coverage that can cover this co-pay, but most people do not. That means that if a loved one has a lengthy rehab stay — say, 80 days total — the final two months (60 days) may cost in excess of $11,000 out of pocket. Still, Medicare’s coverage is quite substantial.

So what’s the problem? Well, the devil is in the details. You may have noticed that Medicare’s coverage levels vary at stages “up to” the first 20 days and “up to” the next 80 days. If your loved one initially refuses rehab or plateaus in their recovery, Medicare can refuse to

cover any additional rehab — whether that is on day 3 or day 93. If your loved one is not ready to go home despite Medicare’s assessment, they may have to pay out-of-pocket for skilled nursing facility treatment going forward. That means daily rates in excess of $575 per day, or $17,000 per month. In addition, Medicare’s rehab coverage kicks in only after the requisite three-day inpatient stay at the hospital. Being placed on observation status, regardless of length of stay, doesn’t count toward the threshold needed to trigger Medicare benefits.

It is a confusing part of life, and the simple way to remember where the line is drawn is that Medicare covers events from which you can recover.

Break a leg? Medicare can cover the hospital visit, the surgery, and the rehab (as long as you are getting better). But if you’re left with a bad leg and your 100% is no longer a “full tank,” so to speak?

Medicare will not help with your longterm care realities and needs.

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here’s a reason ovarian cancer is known as “The Silent Killer.” Unlike many other cancers, its symptoms are often ignored — by both women and doctors alike — until the cancer has progressed so far that it is often too late to successfully treat it.

The Mayo Clinic reports that only about 20 percent of ovarian cancers are found at an early, more treatable stage. If the cancer is discovered early, about 94 percent of patients live more than five years after diagnosis.

Dr. Heidi Godoy, who practices at New York Oncology Hematology cancer center, says that about 75 percent of patients are diagnosed at an advanced stage. “It’s the silent killer,” she says, “because the

most common stage [of diagnosis] is stage 3. It’s a lethal diagnosis to have.”

While about 75 percent can go into remission with chemotherapy, Godoy says, there is a 75 percent chance of recurrence. “There is a high recurrence rate with this type of cancer,” she says. “It’s treatable, but that’s different from curable. The average survival rate is five to six years.”

Paying attention to symptoms that many women and doctors can easily attribute to something else — often something seemingly more benign — is critical to successful treatment, Godoy says. This is especially true because unlike many other cancers, ovarian cancer does not have any screening tools as effective, say, as a colonoscopy or mammogram.

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SYMPTOMS THAT MAY SUGGEST A list of the symptoms that may is the tumor is … made up of different OVARIAN CANCER INCLUDE: suggest ovarian cancer (see box) tumor clones so it’s hard to pinpoint proves how easy it is to dismiss until one screening test. There’s no good • abdominal bloating or swelling it’s too late. imaging or blood test.”

• quickly feeling full when eating What woman hasn’t felt fatigue, had So what’s a woman with some of • weight loss abdominal bloating or felt the need these symptoms to do?

• discomfort in the pelvic area to frequently urinate? “For bloating, Even post-menopause, women • fatigue we often write it off as we ate someshould still see their OB-GYN an• back pain thing wrong,” Godoy says. “We often nually, Godoy says. “Have a pelvic • changes in bowel habits, such as condon’t put all the symptoms together. exam yearly. You still need this even stipation As women, we tend to be caregivers if you no longer get a Pap smear.”

• a frequent need to urinate for everyone else. We put down these (See our story on page 49 about why annoyances every day and don’t link you still need to see your gynecolothem together until it’s an advanced disease.” gist later in life.)

Godoy is direct about why creating ovarian cancer screenIf you have symptoms, see your primary doctor. “Don’t let ing tests is not on the top of the medical research list. Only them blow you off,” says Godoy. “Ask for a specialist. Conabout 100,000 women get ovarian cancer annually. In consider your health as important as the people you care for. Be trast, while prostate cancer is the most common cancer the squeaky wheel.” among men — with 288,300 men in the U.S. likely to be diFamily history is an important part of this story too, agnosed in 2023 — the death rate from the disease continues Godoy says. “Be sure your family history is taken seriously. to drop because of screening guidelines and prostate-specific Family history is something we think is static, but it’s not. antigen testing, according to cancer.net.

And your children should know it too.

“There’s no money put into (ovarian cancer) because it’s “The big thing,” she concludes, “is an annual exam with an considered rare,” she says. “The problem with ovarian cancer internal exam. Listen to your body.” n

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BY TRACI NEAL

ot unlike a lot of women, for whatever reason — busy schedule, working full time, raising then-teenagers, no longer having babies and no major issues “down there” — I stopped going to my OB-GYN for my annual exams once I hit my 40s.

“Unfortunately, that’s very common,” says Dr. Emmekunla Nylander of Buffalo OB/GYN. “As soon as they’re done having children, many women forget about themselves. It shouldn’t be that way. A lot of times I’ll see an older new patient who hasn’t seen their gynecologist since their last child was born.”

It’s fairly typical for women to put off gynecological vis-

its, agrees Dr. Benjamin Margolis, assistant professor of gynecologic oncology at Albany Medical Health System. “But as a specialty, OB-GYNs also perform a lot of primary care functions,” he says, ticking off screenings for bone density, breast cancer, cervical cancer, sexual health, weight and diet as examples. “Clearly there’s a lot of overlap with a primary care doctor, but there are a lot of things we do that a primary care provider may not.”

As the baby boom generation ages, gynecologists are increasingly urging older women to get back into the habit of an annual visit. Here’s why.

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Cancer Screening The risk of gynecological cancers — cervical, uterine, ovarian, vaginal, and vulvar — increases with age. Your gynecologist can spot any changes during your annual exam. “Cancers can still develop after age 55,” says Nylander. “So you want to screen to try to prevent these things from happening or catch it early.”

Human papillomavirus, or HPV, can lead to cervical and other cancers, but can lay dormant and go undetected for decades until menopause, according to doctors. “People get exposed to HPV early in life, or when they become sexually active without using any protection,” says Nylander. “Most people don’t have signs or symptoms until something causes something to affect the immune system. I’ve seen patients in their 50s and 60s who suddenly have HPV,” which if untreated can lead to cancer.

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Menopause By age 55, most women have already gone through “the change” and may be experiencing the symptoms — hot flashes, mood swings, memory issues, problems sleeping, loss of libido, weight gain, painful sex, and other issues that accompany the loss of estrogen and other hormones brought on by menopause.

“Menopause is not just ‘having a bad day,’” says Woods, who specializes in treating menopause. “We’re talking (symptoms lasting) 20 years of a woman’s life.”

While menopause symptoms were brushed off in the past as part of aging and something women just had to live with, Woods says health complications related to menopause are “enormous.” Hot flashes, for instance, can increase a woman’s cardiovascular risk, he says, and osteoporosis can cause falls and fractures that lead to premature death.

Woods, whose practice is certified by the North American Menopause Society, recommends that women see their providers simply to stay up to date on treatments, such as estrogen creams and patches, that can significantly reduce symptoms. “I spend so much time unraveling the misin-

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The North American Menopause Society urges: “Baby boomer women, and all women who have had multiple partners, should not stray too far from their Pap smear or HPV test at menopause until we know more about the increased risk of HPV flareup at menopause.”

Most women, says Margolis, “don’t think about the vulva and things that can impact the vulva.” But abnormalities on the external part of the vagina, such as precancerous lesions or melanomas, are more common with age, he says, “and something we can really only screen for by looking.”

Treatment of lesions early on may be fairly noninvasive, says Dr. James Woods, a professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the University of Rochester. However, left untreated, the lesions can develop into cancer — and invasive, potentially disfiguring surgery may be necessary.

Nylander agrees. “We don’t want to have to deal with issues after they become active problems,” she says.

formation” that women get from their friends or remember from a widely reported Women’s Health Initiative hormone replacement therapy study in the early 2000s, says Woods, who also writes monthly online essays addressing specific symptoms of menopause.

The 2002 study, Margolis adds, gave hormone therapy “a bad rap” when it reported higher incidences of breast cancer among women taking hormones. Since then, he says, “the data has been combed through and refined and it’s found there’s a subset of people for whom estrogen does seem to be very safe and effective and widely prescribed.”

Speaking with their gynecologist can help women sort through the information they get from what Margolis calls “Dr. Google and Dr. Facebook.” “Otherwise it can be really tricky for people in terms of knowing what information they can trust,” he says.

Woods agrees the panic created by the study in the early 2000s persists today. He notes there are safe low-dose hormone replacement therapies that can “reverse most symptoms of menopause” and leave women “very happy in their menopause years.”

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Sexual / Intimacy Issues Sometimes, menopausal changes can impact a woman’s sexual function, says Margolis, noting that vaginal dryness, painful sex and decreased libido — or hypoactive sexual desire disorder — are common. “That, in and of itself around their 50s and 60s is an important time for people to be talking to their OB-GYNs about their sexual function, their anatomy, and interventions that can help,” he says.

Medications and other non-medication-based therapies can help maintain vaginal elasticity and moisture, increase sexual satisfaction and function, and boost libido, he says.

“Honestly, even kind of normalizing sexual issues, putting a name to something, and acknowledging that something is a problem can provide a lot of reassurance and relief to someone who is struggling,” Margolis adds.

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Pelvic Disorders Prolapse, or protrusion of the uterus from the vagina, back and pelvic pain, and urinary and fecal incontinence are all pelvic disorders that become more common as women grow older. “Age is definitely a big risk factor,” says Margolis.

Prolapse is more common in women who have had vaginal deliveries, says Margolis, and there are surgical and nonsurgical treatments. Incontinence has “many treatment options,” he says.

“When it comes to urinary incontinence it’s all about quality of life,” he adds. “There are surgeries, medications and lifestyle changes that can all be employed to help people.” n

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Nurtures Getting outside is good for the mind, body & soul

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he first time Sandie Lee Butler went mudlarking on Glass Bottle Beach in Dead Horse Bay in Brooklyn 10 years ago, she filled her two Trader Joe’s bags so full of finds she had to stop every 10 steps or so to put them down and rest.

An avid beachcomber, Butler, 72, a mixed-media artist and self-described “longtime collector of stuff,” hadn’t known what to expect on that first trip to the debris-strewn beach, a National Park Service-managed site on the Atlantic along Jamaica Bay. She’d heard stories of treasure-hunting along the shoreline there, where thousands of vintage glass bottles, along with leather shoes, porcelain doll heads, broken pottery — and bones, lots of old horse bones from a 19th-century rendering plant — emerge from the sand and muck, litter from long-ago landfills washed up or uncovered at low tide.

(The beach was recently closed to the public after potentially

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hazardous material was found among the debris.)

“At first you just see bottles, broken glass everywhere,” says Butler, a former photography and art teacher, “and then you look past that and you go, ‘Oh, look! There’s a plate that’s intact!’ I found a beautiful little pink Depression-glass vase that was perfect. Not everything is broken. When I find a treasure I say, ‘It was meant just for me.’”

Being out in nature, hunting for sea glass or old children’s toys or shards of vintage dinner plates while imagining how her finds will be repurposed for her artwork is a meditative process, Butler says. “I always feel so happy and relaxed when I’m out looking for stuff — and I’m always looking for stuff,” she says. “I used to tell the kids I taught, I want to teach you how to see, how to really look at things and not just walk through life with your head at one angle. That’s what it is for me, the art of seeing, the excitement of finding, and then it’s ‘What am I going to make with it?’ This stuff, it’s abandoned

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and I’m giving it a life again.”

The time Butler spends outdoors is not only good for her imagination, but it may be good for her mental and physical health, according to several studies on the benefits of exposure to the outdoors. The American Psychological Association says time in nature can improve our mental health and sharpen our minds.

The New York State Department of Environmental Conservation, citing several studies, says exposure to forests and trees boosts the immune system, lowers blood pressure, reduces stress, improves mood, increases ability to focus, accelerates recovery from surgery or illness, increases energy level, and improves sleep.

“I see spending time in nature as something that’s tremendously helpful for folks,” says Jeremy Asgari, founder of the Outsiders, a New York adventure and social club that sponsors daylong activities locally, ranging from surfing and a

beach party to canyoneering and waterfall hiking to an afternoon sunflower farm visit, or an outdoor picnic at a New York art installation.

“People who spend time outdoors have better mindsets, are happier and more present, and it helps combat anxiety and depression,” says Asgari, who founded the Outsiders in 2016.

Still, screen time hogs our attention. According to the Pew Research Center, people aged 60 and older spend more than half of their daily leisure time, four hours and 16 minutes, in front of screens, while time spent on other recreational activities has ticked down slightly.

Getting outdoors can help balance those numbers. From hiking to birding to snowshoeing and more, a number of New York clubs organize trips, provide equipment and transportation, and serve as community hubs to bring people together outdoors.

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Asgari, who left a job in the entertainment industry to found the Outsiders, says he has recently started chapters in Los Angeles, Chicago and Stockholm, Sweden. In addition to their local outings, the Outsiders also hosts nature-inspired trips.

“We provide transportation,” he says, “so when we bring people out to an activity — I’ll use hiking as an example — by the time they’re 30 minutes into the hike, their energy feels lighter as though they’re more present. There’s less weight on them from everyday living, the stressors of the city, and all the stimuli we’re constantly exposed to. I think the community makes a huge difference. It’s easy to feel alone, even in the city. Our goal is to make people feel like they have a community for themselves.”

Researchers are increasingly confirming the benefits of spending time in nature. One recent study found that spending 120 minutes outdoors per week, either all at once or broken up into several outdoor activities, is associated with better health and well-being, including among older adults and those with long-term health issues.

Alfredo Viegas says he sees the results firsthand. The president of New York’s Amateur Astronomers Association notes that when people are looking at the night sky, either with their naked eye or through a telescope the club provides during outings, “they’re amazed by what they can see and they get that kind of feeling that they’re a real part of the universe.”

In today’s internet age, he says, “a lot of people make the argument, ‘Why go to the Grand Canyon when they can just see pictures on the internet?’ People say that about astronomy, too: ‘Why look at the moon or Jupiter or the rings of Saturn when you can type it into a Google search and get amazing pictures?’”

But, says Viegas, the physical act of looking through a telescope often fills participants with a sense of awe and wonder about the universe and their place in it. “When you’re looking at a galaxy through a telescope, you’re looking at photons of light that have traveled millions of light-years to get to you,” he says. “You think about what that means … how we’re integrated into the universe.”

It feels, he says, “like you’re floating in space.” It’s a “one-toone” exchange, he adds, between the viewer and the night sky.

Viegas’ all-volunteer organization, which offers yearround weekly events, free lectures, field trips and classes, is currently building New York City’s first public observatory in the Bronx as the club nears its 100th anniversary in 2027.

In October, it hosts what he calls “our signature event” — an annual large-scale astronomy festival in Central Park.

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Be Your Best

Believin’

You’re never too old to make your dreams come true

BY BENITA ZAHN

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n the musical South Pacific, the that ilk. As an actor, observation is character Blood Mary sings a demy stock-in-trade and, hey, I’ve spent lightful song called “Happy Talk.” time at the Saratoga Race Course.

The key to the message of the song As March was about to roll into comes in the first lyric: April, I landed the role of Mrs. “Happy talk, keep talkin’ happy Shubert. It was quite simply a dream talk/Talk about things you’d like to come true. I rearranged my health do/You got to have a dream, if you coaching schedule and signed on the don’t have a dream/How you gonna dotted line. have a dream come true?”

For four weeks I drove to rehearsDo you have a dream? Have you als in Glens Falls under the tutelage stopped dreaming because you’re a of the play’s co-creator, Bruce Jorcertain age? Stuff and nonsense is dan. Jordan now directs this show in what I say about letting age get in various cities and since this producthe way. As long as we’re breathing, tion marked the 45th anniversary of we need to have dreams. Why? PsyShear Madness, he was going to be chologists tell us that dreams and at the helm. It was a lesson in comic goals bring zest to our lives. They acting that was challenging, exhilhelp combat negativity. arating and sometimes downright  The author plays one of her dream So what’s your dream? frustrating, but it was all part of the roles in Lake George Dinner Theatre’s I recently realized a dream I’d had dream come true. After all, once we 2023 production of Shear Madness. for ages. About 20 years ago, my stop learning or decide we can no — Photo by Jim McLaughlin | mclaughlinphoto.com husband and I saw the show Shear longer learn, we may as well be put Madness in Boston. It’s a bit of a out to pasture. As existential philosmadcap whodunit set in a beauty salon. We loved it and I ophy suggests, “the moment of our death is the moment we said to my husband, “I have to do this play.” Little did I know stop becoming.” that 20 years would go by and that I would age out of the role So, I became Mrs. Shubert, donning the requisite pearls, I envisioned for myself before I got my chance. But I never fake diamond ring and polished highfalutin accent. With let go of that dream. In 2020 Lake George Dinner Theatre each rehearsal I took one more step in 2-inch-high pumps announced auditions for the play. We all know what haptoward my dream. pened that year so my dream was put on hold — again.

When opening night arrived, my dream came true times Before I go on, let me share a bit of history about Shear two. Not only was I in a show I’d wanted to be part of for more Madness. The show was created at the Lake George Dinner than two decades directed by the man himself, but I was also Theatre 45 years ago. Two actors at the Lake George Dinner on stage at the Lake George Dinner Theatre, another personal dream. Dreams are funny like that: They often have offshoots Theatre, Bruce Jordan and Marilyn Abrams, both from the that only bloom when we realize one aspect of them.

Capital Region, came across a German play, saw the potenWhere does this lead me? Who tial for humor in it, had a dream, reworked the show and knows. But I’m still dreaming. After turned it into Shear Madness. Through determination, they all, “If you don’t have a dream, how found a producer in Boston to share their dream. Shear Madness went on to become one of the longest-running nonmuyou gonna have a dream come true.” sical plays in the world.

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ummer is a time for fresh — fresh veggies from the garden and fresh fully ripened fruit right off the tree or bush. Fall evokes other flavors and feelings as we prepare to hunker down for cooler weather and more time

indoors. With the holidays arriving soon, autumn is also a time for desserts as we gather together to celebrate family and home. Here are a few mouthwatering treats to kick off your fall cooking in style.

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NANTUCKET CRANBERRY PIE FROM JENN SEGAL OF ONCE UPON A CHEF | ADAPTED FROM GOURMET MAGAZINE AND KING ARTHUR BAKING COMPANY SERVINGS: 8 TO 10

Adapted from an old Gourmet magazine recipe by the late food writer and novelist Laurie Colwin, Nantucket cranberry pie is not actually a pie but rather a cross between a pie, a cobbler, and a cake. It is the easiest dessert you can imagine—and, yet, astonishingly delicious. Whole fresh (or frozen) cranberries and pecans are scattered into a pie dish, covered in sugar, and then topped with a simple one-bowl cake batter. As the dessert bakes, the cranberries burst, mingling with the cake batter and pecans to create a dessert that is buttery, tart, sweet, and crunchy.

INGREDIENTS FOR THE CRANBERRY-PECAN BASE • 2 tablespoons unsalted butter, melted • 2 cups cranberries, fresh or frozen • ⅔ cup pecans, coarsely chopped • ½ cup granulated sugar

INSTRUCTIONS 1 Heat the oven to 350°F and set an oven rack in the middle position.

2 Make the cranberry-pecan base: Add the melted butter to a 9-inch deep-dish pan and swirl it around to grease the sides (or use a pastry brush to brush the butter on the sides). Spread the cranberries and pecans evenly in the pan and sprinkle with the sugar. Set aside.

3 Make the topping: In the bowl of an electric mixer, beat the butter and sugar on low speed until combined. Add the eggs, vanilla

extract, and almond extract and beat until smooth. Beat in the flour and salt until evenly combined.

4 Pour the batter over the cranberries and pecans in the pan, using a spatula to spread it evenly. Sprinkle the top evenly with the sparkling/turbinado sugar. Bake for 40 to 45 minutes, until a cake tester inserted into the center comes out clean. (Keep in mind that the bottom of the dessert will remain gooey, so just check the cakey top.)

5 Remove the cake from the oven and let cool on a rack. Serve warm or at room temperature, plain or topped with unsweetened or very lightly sweetened whipped cream (the dessert is plenty sweet as is, and unsweetened cream is a nice foil; ice cream is a bit too sweet for this dessert).

Make-ahead instructions: The dessert can be made up to one day ahead of time. Cover loosely with foil and store on the counter at room temperature.

Photos courtesy Once Upon a Chef.

FOR THE TOPPING • 12 tablespoons (¾ cup) unsalted butter, melted and cooled slightly

• ¾ cup granulated sugar • 2 large eggs • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract • ¼ teaspoon almond extract • 1 cup all-purpose flour, spooned into measuring cup and leveled off • ½ teaspoon salt • 1 tablespoon coarse sparkling or turbinado sugar, for topping

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STICKY TOFFEE BANANA CAKE FROM JENN SEGAL OF ONCE UPON A CHEF SERVINGS: 9-12

This warm, comforting banana cake is a twist on the classic English dessert sticky toffee pudding — which is not really pudding at all but rather a moist cake made with finely chopped dates covered in a sticky toffee sauce. Though it looks impressive, it’s easy to make, and it’s one of the most loved desserts on my website.

INGREDIENTS FOR THE CAKE • 1¾ cups all purpose flour, spooned into measuring cup and leveled off with a knife • 1 teaspoon baking powder • 1 teaspoon baking soda • ¼ teaspoon salt • 1 stick (½ cup) unsalted butter, melted and slightly cooled • ¾ cup sugar • 2 large eggs • 1 cup very ripe mashed bananas, from 2-3 spotty bananas • 2 tablespoons fresh lemon juice • 1½ teaspoons vanilla extract FOR THE TOFFEE SAUCE • 1¼ cups heavy whipping cream • ½ cup dark brown sugar • ½ cup light corn syrup • 4 tablespoons unsalted butter • Pinch salt

FOR SERVING • Sliced perfectly ripe bananas • Chopped pecans INSTRUCTIONS 1 Heat the oven to 350°F. Butter and flour an 8-by-8-inch baking dish.

2 In a medium bowl, whisk together the flour, baking soda, baking powder, and salt.

3 In the bowl of an electric mixer, mix the melted butter and sugar until blended. Add the eggs, mashed bananas, lemon juice, and vanilla extract and mix well.

4 On low speed, stir in the flour mixture until just incorporated. Do not overmix. Pour the batter into the prepared pan and bake until golden and a tester inserted into the center comes out clean, about 35 minutes.

5 Meanwhile, make the sauce. Bring the heavy cream, brown sugar, corn syrup, butter, and salt to a boil in a heavy small saucepan over high heat, whisking until the sugar dissolves. Reduce the heat to medium-low and cook at a gentle boil, whisking occasionally, until the sauce is slightly thickened, about 15 minutes. It should be the consistency of maple syrup — it will continue

to thicken as it cools. Remove the sauce from the heat and cool.

6 Spoon ⅓ cup of the toffee sauce over top of the baked banana cake.

Return the cake to the oven and bake until the sauce is bubbling vigorously, about 6 minutes. Cool the cake in the pan on a rack for at least 30 minutes.

Cut the cake into 9 squares or 12 rectangles. Serve the cake slightly warm or at room temperature with warm toffee sauce and top with sliced bananas and pecans, if desired.

Note: Sauce can be made two days ahead. Cover and chill, then rewarm slightly before using. If it seems too thick, add more heavy cream to thin it to desired consistency.

Freezer-friendly Instructions: The cake can be frozen (without the toffee sauce) for up to 3 months. Bake the cake for 35 minutes, let it cool completely, doublewrap it securely with aluminum foil or plastic freezer wrap. Thaw on the countertop the night before you plan to eat it. Before serving, place the cake back in the oven with the toffee sauce and proceed with the recipe from there.

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MAPLE CHEESECAKE FROM AMERICA’S TEST KITCHEN SERVES 12 TO 16

We wanted to use maple syrup to sweeten cheesecake for an autumnal twist. Adding pecans to our tried-andtrue graham cracker crust provided a nutty accent to a maple-y filling. For maximum maple impact, we needed to use a lot of maple syrup: 1¼ cups for 2 pounds of cream cheese. Do not substitute pancake syrup — which is corn syrup — based and cloying — for the maple syrup. Reduce the oven temperature as soon as the crust is finished baking, and use an oven thermometer to check that it has dropped to 225 degrees before you bake the cheesecake. Thoroughly scrape the processor bowl as you make the filling to eliminate lumps.

INGREDIENTS FOR THE CRUST • 4 whole graham crackers, broken into pieces • ¼ cup pecans • ½ cup (2½ ounces) all-purpose flour • ⅓ cup (2⅓ ounces) sugar • ¼ teaspoon table salt • 4 tablespoons unsalted butter, melted

INSTRUCTIONS 1 For the crust: Adjust oven rack to middle position and heat oven to 325 degrees. Grease bottom and sides of 9-inch springform pan. Process cracker pieces and pecans in a food processor until finely ground, about 30 seconds.

Add flour, sugar, and salt and pulse to combine, about 2 pulses. Add melted butter and pulse until crumbs are evenly moistened, about 5 pulses.

2 Using your hands, press crumbs into an even layer on the prepared pan bottom. Using the bottom of a dry measuring cup, firmly pack crumbs into the pan. Bake until the crust smells toasty and is browned around edges, about 18 minutes. Reduce oven temperature to 225 degrees.

Let the crust cool completely.

3 For the cheesecake: In a clean, dry processor bowl, process cream cheese and maple syrup until smooth, about 2 minutes, scraping down sides of bowl as needed. With the processor running, add eggs, one at a time, until just incorporated, about 30 seconds total. Pour batter onto cooled crust.

4 Firmly tap pan on counter and set

aside for 10 minutes to allow air bubbles to rise to top. Gently draw tines of fork across the surface of the batter to pop air bubbles that have risen to the surface.

5 Once the oven has reached 225 degrees, bake cheesecake on an aluminum foil-lined rimmed baking sheet until the edges are set and the center jiggles slightly when shaken and registers 165 degrees ½ inch below surface, about 3 hours.

6 Transfer pan to wire rack and let cool completely, about 2 hours. Refrigerate cheesecake, uncovered, until cold, about 6 hours. (Once fully chilled, cheesecake can be covered with plastic wrap and refrigerated for up to 4 days.)

7 To unmold cheesecake, run the tip of a paring knife between the cake and the side of the pan; remove side of pan. Slide thin metal spatula between crust and pan bottom to loosen, then slide cheesecake onto serving platter. Let cheesecake stand at room temperature for 30 minutes.

8 For the topping: Sprinkle granola around the top edge of the cheesecake.

Drizzle maple syrup inside the ring of granola. Spread with the back of a spoon, as needed, to fill the area inside the granola ring.

9 Cut cheesecake into wedges and serve.

Photo by Steve Klise/America’s Test Kitchen LLC.

FOR THE CHEESECAKE • 2 pounds cream cheese, softened • 1¼ cups maple syrup • 4 large eggs

FOR THE TOPPING • ⅓ cup granola • ½ cup maple syrup

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FIG BARS FROM AMERICA’S TEST KITCHEN MAKES 16 BARS

Fig Newtons are one of the few packaged cookies we can get behind. Even so, anything homemade is bound to be better (and include fewer ingredients). Making a bar cookie version of the classic sounded like a great way to maximize the figgy filling of these cookies. While any type of leavener is an unusual addition to bar cookies, we found that ½ teaspoon of baking powder gave the crust a bit of the soft cakeyness we love in the original cookie. For a more complex flavor, we used whole-wheat flour in addition to all-purpose flour for the dough. We needed a liquid to rehydrate the dried figs before pureeing them for the filling. Water worked, but apple juice was better; it lent a fruity sweetness. A pinch of salt and a squeeze of lemon juice enhanced the fruit’s unique flavor. We may still have a soft spot for the store-bought cookies, but they’re no match for our rich homemade fig bars. Be sure to grease the parchment when smoothing the bottom crust and when forming the top crust; otherwise, it will stick and be difficult to work with.

INGREDIENTS

Photo by Daniel J. van Ackere/America’s Test Kitchen LLC.

FOR THE FILLING • 8 ounces dried Turkish or Calimyrna figs, stemmed and quartered • 2 cups apple juice • Pinch salt • 2 teaspoons lemon juice

FOR THE CRUST • ¾ cup (3¾ ounces) all-purpose flour • ½ cup (2¾ ounces) whole-wheat flour • ½ teaspoon baking powder • ¼ teaspoon salt • 6 tablespoons unsalted butter, softened • ¾ cup packed (5¼ ounces) light brown sugar • 1 large egg • 2 teaspoons vanilla extract INSTRUCTIONS 1 For the filling: Simmer figs, apple juice, and salt in a medium saucepan over medium heat, stirring occasionally, until figs are very soft and juice is syrupy, 15 to 20 minutes; let mixture cool slightly. Puree figs in a food processor with lemon juice until mixture has a thick, jam-like consistency, about 8 seconds.

2 For the crust: Adjust the oven rack to the middle position and heat the oven to 350 degrees. Make a foil sling for an 8-inch square baking pan by folding 2 long sheets of aluminum foil so each is 8 inches wide. Lay sheets of foil in the pan perpendicular to each other, with extra foil hanging over the edges. Push foil into corners and up sides of pan, smoothing foil flush to pan. Grease foil.

3 Whisk all-purpose flour, whole-wheat flour, baking powder, and salt together

in a bowl. Using a stand mixer fitted with a paddle, beat butter and sugar on medium speed until pale and fluffy, 3 to 6 minutes. Add egg and vanilla and beat until combined. Add flour mixture and mix until just incorporated. Set aside ¾ cup of dough for topping.

4 Transfer remaining dough to the prepared pan and firmly press into an even layer with a greased spatula.

Top dough with a piece of greased parchment paper and smooth into an even layer. Remove parchment and bake until just beginning to turn golden, about 20 minutes.

5 Meanwhile, roll reserved dough between 2 sheets of greased parchment into an 8-inch square; trim edges of dough as needed to measure exactly 8 inches. Transfer dough, still between parchment, to the baking sheet and place in the freezer until needed.

6 Spread fig mixture evenly over crust. Lay top crust over filling, pressing lightly to adhere. Bake until the top crust is golden brown, 25 to 30 minutes, rotating pan halfway through baking.

7 Let bars cool completely in a pan on a wire rack, about 2 hours. Using foil overhang, remove bars from the pan.

Cut into 16 pieces before serving.

Get the recipe for the fig-walnut tart pictured on page 59 and more fall dessert recipes online at 55pluslifemag.com.

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Company

s we enter the season of family and friend gatherings, coming up with recipes that can feed a crowd and also enable us to enjoy the event ourselves can seem like a tall order. Enter Amy Thielen, a two-time James Beard award-winning writer and chef who has a new cookbook called Company: The Radically Casual Art of Cooking for Others.

After completing culinary school and working as a chef in New York City, Thielen returned to her Minnesota roots.

Her cooking show, Heartland Table, aired from 2013-15 on the Food Network. She is a former contributing editor at Saveur, and has written for or been featured in The New York Times and The Wall Street Journal, among many others. And now, with her latest book, Thielen is writing for you: the home cook who wants to create special foods and memories with friends but also doesn’t want to be tied to the stove.

Company is organized by whole menus, but by no means does Thielen suggest that making everything on them is required. She wants to celebrate the gatherings rather than the foods themselves. As she notes in her introduction, “A meal with friends or family is nothing more, and nothing less, than a fleeting event that fills a momentary spiritual need. If you think about it that way, nearly every inconsequential occasion calls for one. The sweet corn’s hit peak ripeness? Let’s get together and eat it. It’s the shortest day of the year? Let’s roast a chicken and talk about the spooky velvety depths of the 4 o’clock darkness.”

To that end, Thielen admits she’s a buffet fan. Make it

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ahead, put it out and then enjoy your own food with your friends. Who wants to spend an evening with their favorite people stuck in the kitchen while the fun happens elsewhere? Thielen also suggests ways home cooks can imitate restaurant chefs by cooking ahead IRL. Need rice for a pilaf ?

Double what you cook and use the leftovers later in the week for fried rice. Her Thanksgiving menu helpfully begins tasks five days out.

She is also a fan of cooks amending the menus and the recipes as they see fit. While her recipes are precise, Thielen encourages experimentation and amendment. “[I] give you permission to tamper with these recipes to fit your own needs, tastes, resources, and moods,” she writes. “I organized them as menus, with main courses, a starch, and a couple of flanking vegetable sides, to reflect the way we actually eat; but they’re just a guide.” Those who want to build their own menus can check out the individual recipe index at the back of the book. It sorts recipes into more traditional cookbook categories such as dips and spreads, meat, fish, vegetables, and dessert.

Thielen also has your back as a longtime frugal cook. As she notes, “In the grand tradition of cooking and giving it away, the rules remain the same: serve the best you can afford, with plenty of cheap starches and simple seasonal vegetable sides to pad it out, and always err on the side of too much food. You want to hide your thrift behind a multicolored facade of surplus.”

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Confit is the French term for vegetables cooked in a long, slow, luxurious fat bath.

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Chapters are divided into categories of potential gatherings.

The Saturday Night section, for instance, includes menus for 6-8 with titles like “a creative more-time-than-money sort of menu,” “pent up winter grilling” and “all-you-can-eat fish

fry.” The Holidays section assumes larger gatherings, so the recipes serve 8-12.

Below is one of the many enticing recipes from Company to help you celebrate family and friends. Happy eating! n

CAST-​IRON GARLIC SHRIMP WITH CHORIZO AND GREEN OLIVES SERVES 10 AS AN APPETIZER

Thielen offers these insights about this dish: This rustic baked shrimp dish is almost prefab: so easy. Marinate the shrimp the night before, with garlic and smoked paprika and tangerine peels, and then an hour or two before dinner, when people are starting to look hungry, pour the shrimp into a cast-​iron skillet with some green olives, sliced chorizo, and a boatload of extra-​virgin olive oil, and pop it in the oven. Five minutes later, the pan of sizzling smoky shrimp and warm olives seems to just materialize, the way it does when you’re sitting at the counter of a dim, garlic-​scented Spanish tapas bar. Serve with plenty of bread for dipping, because this dish hinges on that pool of smoky olive oil.

INGREDIENTS • 1 Valencia orange or tangerine • 1 pound large shrimp (about 20), shells removed but tails left on • 7 garlic cloves, minced • 6 bay leaves, preferably fresh • 1 teaspoon minced fresh rosemary • ½ teaspoon fine sea salt, plus more to taste

• ¼ teaspoon freshly ground black pepper • ¾ teaspoon sweet paprika • ¼ teaspoon smoked paprika • 2⁄3 cup extra-​virgin olive oil • 2 ounces hard chorizo, thinly sliced (or substitute 10 dried red chiles) • 16 large green olives, such as Cerignola or Castelvetrano

INSTRUCTIONS 1 Remove three wide strips of zest from the orange and set aside.

Halve the orange and squeeze the juice into a small bowl; reserve.

2 Combine the shrimp, garlic, orange zest, bay leaves, rosemary, salt, pepper, and both kinds of paprika in a mixing bowl and drizzle the orange juice over all. Toss to combine.

Cover and marinate the shrimp in the refrigerator for at least 2 hours, and as long as 24.

3 When you’re ready to cook the shrimp, heat the oven to 350ºF. 4 Bake the shrimp in two batches because they need to cook in a single layer, but feel free to cook them all at

once in one enormous pan.

5 Heat a heavy ovenproof sauté pan over medium-​low heat and add 1⁄3 cup of the olive oil. When it feels warm to the touch, add half of the shrimp, including half of the orange peels and bay leaves. Add half of the chorizo and olives and toss to coat.

6 Pop the skillet into the hot oven and bake for 5 minutes; then flip the shrimp. Continue to bake until the garlic sizzles and the shrimp have curled into loose C shapes, another 3 to 5 minutes, depending on their size. Keep a close watch on the oven to keep from overcooking them; when you think you can smell the garlic hitting the smoky olive oil, they’re pretty close.

7 Set the pan on a trivet and serve with plenty of bread for dipping into the rusty, garlicky oil. When the shrimp have disappeared, add the remaining 1⁄3 cup olive oil and then the rest of the shrimp and aromatics to the same pan, building on the compounded flavor, and cook the second batch.

Recipe excerpted from Company: The Radically Casual Art of Cooking for Others, Copyright © 2023 by Amy Thielen. Used with permission of the publisher, W.W. Norton & Company, Inc. All rights reserved.

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Putting Your Garden to Bed The time to prepare your yard for next spring is now

BY CAITLIN MANNER

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time of year, and answered a few of our questions as well.

Clean Things Out When conducting the presentation for curious home gardeners, Teumim is careful to lead with the fact that gardening trends are thankfully moving from a clean and bare aesthetic to one that is lush and more wildlife-friendly. We are more aware than ever that it is important to leave some plants to overwinter — even if they may not be pretty — to provide homes and refuge for our beloved pollinators in winter weather.

“If you can, leave some of the leaves on the ground, because bumblebees and caterpillars will overwinter in the leaf litter,” Henry advises. “If you clean them all up, you’re taking away the eggs or whatever that’s there, and removing their winter habitat.”

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y this time of the year, it might feel hard to summon the motivation to work in your garden. The heady spring days when you itched to get your hands in the soil quickly transitioned into hot summer afternoons spent contemplating “Didn’t I just weed that bed last week?”

Now that cooler weather is here it’s tempting to just sit back and enjoy the fruits of your labor. We’re not here to say you shouldn’t do that, but you’ll find that if you do a few things to prepare for harsh winter weather, you’ll be able to enjoy a healthier garden in the spring.

We reached out to the Albany County Cornell Cooperative Extension and spoke with their master gardeners, who were more than happy to share their expertise on the matter. Master Gardener Carole Henry shared her presentation “Putting Your Garden to Bed,” which is usually given by Master Gardener Martie Teumim as a free informational program this

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To clean your garden beds in the fall, pull any weeds and be sure to remove and destroy any plants that show signs of disease. (Do not compost any “sick” plants — many diseases can overwinter and then contaminate the crops where the compost is spread.) Leave the stems of perennials for bees and other insects to use for overwintering. Cut down any plants that get mushy, such as peonies, irises, phlox, and daylilies. Leave the rest to break down and provide nutrients to the soil, as well as to prevent any winter erosion.

Care for Your Soil Fall is the perfect time to do a soil assessment and add any amendments that might be needed. If you take a small sample to the Cornell Cooperative Extension (CCE) at 24 Martin Road in Voorheesville and fill out a form, they will measure your soil pH and give you the results by phone, email or mail.

You can work organic matter like leaves, compost, manure, or dry grass clippings into the soil. Depending on the results of your pH test, you also might want to add lime or aluminum sulfate. Adding nutrients this time of year allows organic matter to start breaking down and become biologically active, so your garden bed will be beautifully enriched by springtime.

It’s also a good idea to cover your soil, particularly in vegetable gardens which can get bare over the winter. Use a layer of cardboard or black garden plastic to kill existing weeds and subdue sprouting seeds. Another option is to plant a cover crop. Rye, vetch, or clover are great for preventing soil erosion, breaking up compacted areas, and increasing levels of essential organic matter. It’s best to plant any cover crop about a month before the first killing frost, so it can get established before it will naturally compost beneath winter snow. Henry warns, though, that planting a cover crop can get tricky.

“Cover crops are helpful to put nutrients back into the soil — especially in a bed that is used over and over again — but you have to know your cover crops and when to till them in,” she says. “We have information on different cover crops if somebody wants to contact us, but you have to know when to plant it, when it should be tilled in, and not to leave it too long, as then they’re hard to get out.”

For ornamental garden beds, mulch is key. Adding a layer of mulch will reduce water loss, prevent erosion, inhibit weeds, and most importantly act as a temperature regulator. All the churning and heaving of soil caused by repeated frosts and thaws can be rough on delicate root systems. Be careful, though, not to mulch as heavily as was recommend-

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“We’ve kinda moved away a little bit from heavy mulching.

If they’re new plantings you want to mulch them well to keep them warm in the winter,” she says, “but we don’t recommend heavy, thick mulch because the pollinators struggle to get through that to hibernate. It’s better to leave some leaf litter and a light layer of mulch.”

She is also quick to warn people not to make those “mulch volcanoes” that you often see, where people pile mulch around the trunk of a tree or shrub to protect it. Doing this is actually detrimental to the tree, as it can cause rot and attract critters that feed on bark — like voles — which could kill the tree over the course of a single winter.

Store Tender Bulbs and Corms Carefully dig up bulbs for storage. Their location might be a bit of a guessing game if the green bits have died off, so go slowly.

Hose them off (except for gladiolas, which like a bit of dirt) and dry for two to three weeks. Then it’s a good idea to give them a dusting of insecticide-fungicide before placing them in paper bags with vermiculite or peat. Avoid airtight containers, which could trap moisture and cause rot or fungus, and keep them somewhere dry that will stay above freezing.

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spring bulbs. You could let nature take its course and hope the local fauna leave some to bloom in the spring, or you could do a few things to protect them. One method is to line the hole with mesh — like a bulb cage — that allows roots to grow but prevents rogue nibbles. You can also lay a protective cover over the soil to stop digging animals such as squirrels and chipmunks from getting at them. Teumim adds that in our area it’s a good idea to choose bulbs containing lycorine to repel deer, like daffodils, snowflakes, snowdrops, or allium.

Play Mother Nature Believe it or not, now is the perfect time to make your plants multiply. You can divide perennials like hostas, irises, and lilies, or add new native plants for variety. Planting in the fall allows the plant to direct its energy towards growing healthy roots rather than blooming, so watering regularly is essential even in cooler weather.

As for annuals, no need to give up on them quite yet. If you want to be thrifty, take cuttings about 3 or 4 inches long and remove the lower leaves. Dip the end in rooting hormone and plant in peat moss or perlite, and then transfer to a small pot once roots have grown. This works particularly well with coleus, geraniums, begonias, and impatiens.

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Prune Carefully While some plants benefit from a fall trim, for others it can be disastrous. Evergreens, for example, can be pruned once they’ve gone dormant for the season. Roses usually want to be pruned, but you need to encourage dormancy and stop fertilizing six weeks before the first frost. (New growth is particularly susceptible to damage

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and disease.) To protect delicate species of roses, surround them with chicken wire or a mesh cylinder and fill the enclosure with chopped leaves, compost, mulch, dry wood chips, or pine needles as protection against the cold.

Raspberries and blueberries should be left until spring, because the spent canes nourish the plant’s crown through the winter and safeguard against disease and stress. And if you can, leave perennial flowering plants alone — especially those with seed heads — as they provide much-needed food for overwintering birds.

“If you have native plants that have more of a hollow stem — things like joe-pye weed — you need to leave at least 18-20 inches of that stem, because some native pollinators overwinter in those,” Henry says. “I also tend to leave things like echinacea and rudbeckias that have seed heads on them, because that is good food for the birds, which will feed on them in the winter. I leave them, and prune them back in the spring.”

Once you’re done pruning, it’s a good idea to perform maintenance on all of your garden tools before you put them away for the season. Clean, sharpen, and oil all of them so they’re shiny and sharp when you reach for them next spring. n

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before you decide if this kind of vacation option might work for you.

Vacation clubs vs. timeshares While every company is different, generally vacation clubs offer a membership or points-based system with access to multiple resorts within the club’s network, flexibility to choose when and where to vacation, the option to exchange points for stays at affiliated resorts or external networks, and additional perks such as discounts on flights, car rentals and exclusive events. Membership requires an upfront purchase price, and annual dues or maintenance fees based on usage or membership level.

Essentially, a vacation club is a variation on the timeshare concept. With a timeshare you typically purchase partial ownership in a specific property and purchase access at that location for a specific week or weeks each year. They typically require an upfront purchase price, annual maintenance fees as well as potential additional fees. Flexibility is limited in terms of dates and locations.

In contrast a vacation club membership offers flexibility on travel dates and opportunities to travel to various locations

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ou probably remember those American Express commercials with the slogan “Membership has its privileges.” In the travel world, that can mean joining a vacation club.

It’s easy to see the appeal. What’s not to like about staying at a place that offers a resort experience and a vacation rental setting?

I glimpsed this world when I stayed at Marriott’s Maui Ocean Club — Molokai, Maui & Lanai Towers and The Westin Ka‘anapali Ocean Resort Villas before the tragic fires.

(Note: As of this writing, reservations at these particular resorts were temporarily on hold as the situation evolved.)

Both are beach-side properties with ooh-and-ahh scenery and the bluest of water. The villas are spacious and modern, and include separate living areas with full kitchens. Unlike a standard vacation rental, amenities like a spa, pools with waterfalls, restaurants, and bars are included. For cultural immersion visitors can take flower lei making, hula dancing, Hawaiian language, and ukulele classes. Then there are sunrise yoga classes on the lawn, private beachfront dinners, water sports, snorkeling, paddleboarding and surfing.

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of interest. “Owners get the benefits of owner incentives including special programming, amenities and on-property offers, as well as locking in a price for future vacations to come at today’s purchase prices, acting as a hedge against inflation,” says Jason Gamel, president and CEO of the American Resort Development Association. People also have everything they need, such as washers, dryers, full kitchens and living rooms, and anywhere from one to four bedrooms, depending on the property.

Owners can keep visiting a property they love or choose among many properties and experiences in the company’s portfolio. For example, Marriott Vacation Clubs members have access to over 90 vacation club resorts in the Marriott Vacation Club, Sheraton Vacation Club and Westin Vacation Club network, as well as access to more than 8,000 Marriott Bonvoy hotels, 2,000 vacation homes, and 2,000 unique experiences like cruises, guided and culinary tours, premier events, and outdoor adventures. Vacation-share owners also can exchange ownership to stay at properties outside of the branded portfolio through Interval International. Locations are not limited to the U.S. and include exotic locales like Bali and Thailand.

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Vacation clubs offer one way to travel the world your way, when you want.

Is this the right time of life for me?

“For seniors, joining a vacation club can provide a sense of community and socialization, which is crucial for maintaining mental health and overall well-being in the golden years.

There are vacation clubs specifically designed for seniors, which not only offer travel opportunities but also foster friendships among its members,” says Tyler Seeger, managing director of Retirement Being, a free resource for seniors looking for senior living communities.

When contemplating whether to join, Seeger advises looking through a club’s portfolio of destinations to see if they offer amenities tailored to your needs, such as accessible rooms, medical facilities, and activities that align with your interests and mobility. Flexibility in booking and cancellation policies can also be essential, as plans may change due to health or family considerations.

Pay attention to how flexible the club is for booking dates, locations, and accommodations. “Call [for] reservations and inquire about availability at your top destinations, time of year and accommodations,” says Andy LaPointe, a senior advisor and author of Retirement Travel After Work: Unveiling the Ultimate Travel Guide.

Also ask about the activities and amenities at club locations

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you are considering visiting. Ensure they offer activities not only of interest to you, but for those who might accompany you, such as kid-friendly activities for the grandchildren. If you have ongoing health concerns, ask about the proximity to medical facilities.

Also be realistic about how often you will use the membership. If you only travel every few years, it may not be worth the investment. Vacation clubs are best for the frequent traveler.

Considering your financial situation is important, too. It’s not just a matter of coming up with the initial costs. “Ask for a complete outline of all costs associated with joining a particular vacation club,” says LaPointe.

Read the fine print A vacation club may be great today, but what if your health declines or any other life change occurs, and you no longer want your membership? Be sure you understand cancellation policies. Are there penalties? What are the policies if you want to bring guests? How do you earn points and redeem them, and what’s the expiration policy? Are there restrictions on when you can use your points? Ask lots of questions.

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Shop around Research the various benefits and features of different clubs to determine what best suits you. The industry has some big-name players, including Wyndham Destinations, Hilton Grand Vacations, Westgate Resorts, Disney Vacation Club, and RCI. Don’t think of your vacation club membership as a conventional investment. Vacation clubs don’t offer a tangible asset that you can sell off in the future, so their value is the use you get from them rather than a future resale. This is a lifestyle investment.

“We don’t ever recommend considering a vacation club ownership as a financial investment. The main investment lies in a future of quality vacation ownership, enjoyment and meaningful time for the owner and their family and friends for years to come,” says Gamel.

Know, too, that many of the properties will be in popular tourist destinations. If you’re someone who prefers the road less traveled and aren’t interested in staying primarily in 5-star resorts, vacation clubs may not be the best option for you.

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eak travel season translates to peak crowds. Long lines, scarce rental cars, sold-out museums and events, and frazzled service workers: There’s no breathing room in elbow-to-elbow travel.

Traditionally, the shoulder and off-seasons have been sweet spots for retired travelers, who typically have the flexibility to go where and when the crowds aren’t. After all, most retired people are not tethered to school and work schedules, which enables them both to plan to make the most of off-season visits, as well as seize last-minute deals as hotels and operators try to fill vacancies.

About 15% of travelers “deliberately avoid traveling during the peak season,” says Carol Turowska, community manager with the online travel services firm ePassportPhoto. And, 60% of U.S. travelers regret traveling in the peak season, whether because it was too hot or too cold, the firm’s research finds.

But the off-season isn’t what it used to be. Remote work and year-round school schedules have blurred the traditional traffic patterns. Memorial Day might signal the start of summer for out-of-towners but remote workers might establish themselves in

short-term rentals by mid-May. The upside to softening official “seasons” is better service and capacity, as operators plan to accommodate the change. But this new travel calendar also requires different planning and modes of flexibility.

The extra planning can keep your vacation on track: This year, travel has been crowded and expensive and is likely to get only more so. A survey conducted annually by insurer Allianz Partners USA found that travel volume has rebounded past 2019 levels, with 62% of Americans taking vacations this year, compared to 48% immediately before the pandemic. And the Global Travel Business Association reports that hotel rates rose 29.8% in the last year and are likely to edge forward 3.6% next year.

Some of the chaos is due to post-pandemic pent-up demand. But even as that ebbs, remote and hybrid work is now permanent for many. Still, there’s plenty of elbow room for seasoned travelers who know how to turn what remains of the travel seasons to their advantage. Here’s how to find your own sweet spot in the new travel calendar.

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Spring can be a great time for getting the jump on places typically busy in the summer. One strategy is taking a look at states that host festivals.

Big happenings don’t get put together overnight. Localities staff up in advance, and that’s when you can slip in for the full experience without the crush.

April Murray, marketing lead with the city of Stratford, Ontario, famed for its annual Stratford Festival that runs July through October, says that the area is in dress rehearsal mode in spring. Restaurants and center-city accommodations usually have room for last-minute visitors, and shorter-run performances take center stage. Tracking calendar changes and last-minute special offers by following Stratford on social media and by signing up for its events newsletter will, she says, give you enough lead time to stitch together an itinerary that delivers the kind of cultural experience the city is famous for, at a sane pace.

summer The reversal of seasons means that summer actually is the off-season in the Southern Hemisphere — at least in terms of the weather. But that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the best time to visit: Northern schedules typically dictate the busy season, says Fernando Diaz, marketing director with Quasar Expeditions, which runs tours and cruises in Patagonia and the Galapagos islands. Just because it’s winter in July doesn’t mean that cool-seeking Northerners will get a bargain to boot.

Instead, it’s spring and fall that offer great deals with just as much to see, says Diez. The best way to get on the short list of first-to-know about last-minute discounts is to actually call and talk with the tour operators, says Diez. Signing up for the operator’s newsletter is great, but potential customers are marked highest priority when they talk with a customer service rep who can add in details about the customer’s hopes for the trip and flag them in the system for certain seasons, conditions or price points.

And, destinations on or adjacent to the equator — such as the Galapagos Islands — have so little seasonal variation that there’s no material difference in experience, though a big difference in price, he says.

“None of the animals migrate. The weather doesn’t change. The only difference is that the currents are stronger and it’s the most amazing snorkeling,” he says of the islands in fall and spring.

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fall Here in the Northeast, the fall is a time for leaf peeping and enjoying the last vestiges of summer. Rather than join the hordes trying to do this now, you can find some real deals by looking at places not usually on the autumnal travel list.

Florida, for instance, can have some great autumn options. Some major destinations in Florida were unusually quiet this past summer — not exactly empty but much less jammed than usual. Hayley Condon, director of communications for the U.S. Travel Association, says that this past summer’s record-high temperatures thwarted the usual crowds — and likely will prompt summer-centric destinations to stay open this fall, making Florida a likely place to find some autumn deals.

Activities that depend on warm or cold weather, like ocean swimming or mountain skiing, are becoming less reliable as climate change upends long-standing weather patterns. This has two implications, say travel advisors. Tourists are now gravitating toward activities that are less climate-dependent, such as biking and hiking, which can be pursued most of the year round. And, visitors are simply heading for favored destinations and picking up activities currently available, regardless of seasonal expectations. For instance, the Lake Tahoe area saw a 14% rise in tourism this year in spring and summer, a trend that Condon predicts will continue this fall.

Businesses are responding accordingly with longer hours and fuller staffing close to year-round.

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winter For winter vacations, people are often thinking about cold weather activities like skiing or, for those who hate the cold, warm southern climes and beaches. Finding winter deals is a case of thinking outside that box.

To find the best winter deals, Daniel D. Velez, spokesman for the New England region of the Transportation Security Administration (TSA), recommends researching your destination to scope out the patterns unique to its permanent and college populations. “The school season is having an effect,” he says. “College students travel by themselves,” showing up in droves according to their schools’ unique event and exam calendars.

Those short, sharp spikes leave short, sharp valleys that flexible older travelers can make the most of. Look up the major events held by schools in areas you’re interested in visiting and then contact accommodations and destinations for the weeks before and after. That way you can visit when businesses are staffing up for crowds that aren’t yet expected to arrive. If college students aren’t scheduled to start classes until mid-January, the days after the New Year’s fizz has flattened are likely to be beautiful, quiet and inexpensive. Research the timing of spring break — which can start as early as mid-March — and plan your trip for the days when the kids are in Florida and the adults have lovely college towns all to themselves.

TOP TIPS l Flag yourself as a hot prospect in the sales systems of cruise and tour operators by calling their sales reps and requesting first notification of last-minute deals that fit your needs and price point. l Identify annual events (homecoming weekends at college towns, festivals at beach towns, and so on) and book accommodation and dining reservations for the week before or week after, when operations are fully staffed but crowds have ebbed. l Traditional K-12 school years dictate demand especially around the holidays, say travel advisors. Capture great rates by heading out when kids are locked into school calendars.

Two reliable, if short, off-seasons are the first two weeks of December and the first three weeks of January. l If multigenerational family travel is on your bucket list, see what scheduling leeway schools can offer, especially for cultural and nature travel that potentially complements children’s curricula. l TSA patterns indicate that air travel is less crowded on Tuesdays and Wednesdays, as working travelers try to extend their weekends by traveling on Fridays and Mondays.

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The Vine

BY ROD MICHAEL

hen I was a child, my mother insisted on us behaving when we went to other people’s homes. “I want to hear ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ coming out of your mouths and no bad behavior,” she would say to us. “I want my kids to shine!” If we did not do what she said, we needed to watch out when we got home! I cannot blame her; we should all strive to do our best.

Our journey in life is our real destination. We all were born with gifts; we just need to learn how to use them. We need to realize that life is about helping and lifting up others. It can be through our careers, daily deeds, words, and actions.

Today’s world seems to be more demanding than it used to be. We are challenged to do the right thing. Other people seem to feel a need to blow out our candle of light for no good reason, but it is our job to make it shine brighter. We need to rise above fear and show others how to liberate themselves.

The journey will take us through dark days. We will go through personal strife, loss and confused moments. I have friends who have lost two children. When I asked how they go on, they said, “We choose not to crawl into a hole and hide, but to continue living and loving those we still have in our lives.” I admire these people so much! They choose

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to shine after all the sorrow they have been through. In the words of Martin Luther King Jr., “Only in darkness can you see the stars.”

Opening our heart up to others is easier for some than others. It takes practice. It is a gift; it is you shining into someone else’s darkness and making their day just a little bit brighter.

Pick up the phone and call someone you haven’t talked to in a long while, or send a card and show them they mean something to you. The other night I texted my sister and told her I loved her. I felt so damn good when she texted me back and told me she loved me!

My mother and I were always close. A few months before she passed, however, we were riding in the car together and she said to me, “Long after I am gone … It will become perfectly clear that I left my heart behind.” She not only left her heart, but she also left the brightest candle I have ever seen.

It will shine in my heart forever.

We all must do what we think is right in the moment.

We need to help each other more, use kinder words, show strength in the face of fear and be the best friend anyone ever had. We must shine and push the darkness out, one small step at a time. n

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