San Diego Veterans Magazine January 2024

VETERANS Vol. 7 • Number 1• January 2024

SAN DIEGO

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DOD IN ACTION PHOTOS IN 2023 2024

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RESOLUTION SOLUTIONS What’s next IN TRANSITION

San Diego Veteran Organizations

PTSD

Available at San Diego VA

CAREER RESOURCES

Transition Strategies - Columns

MENTAL HEALTH

Events, Support & Resources

Maternity Care Services

The Watch That Won The War

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EDITOR’S LETTER

Publisher Editor-In-Chief Mike Miller

Monthly Columns

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Welcome to San Diego Veterans Magazine!

SDVM is a veteran-focused magazine throughout ALL San Diego & Southern California. It serves to assist all veterans, active military as well as their spouses and families.

It is the leading veteran magazine emphasizing resources & support and focusing on topics and issues facing today’s veteran community. SDVM focuses on resources, support, community, transition, mental health, inspiration and more...

The content is the driving force behind our magazine and the connection it makes with our veterans, service members, military families, and civilians.

The magazine is supported by the city of San Diego and a distinguishing list of veteran organizations & members, resource centers, coalitions, veteran advocates, and more. We are honored to share the work of so many committed and thoughtful people.

Despite all the challenges, our team has upheld their focus and let not one opportunity go to provide resources and support to our veterans & military personnel.

On behalf of our team, we wanted to take this moment to say THANK YOU to the readers and our military-veteran community for supporting our magazine. With that support we aim to make a difference and continuing to make a profound impact on the quality of life for our veterans, military personnel and their families.

If you want to catch up on the current and past issues, please visit: www.sandiegoveteransmagazine.com/archives

Mike Miller Editor-In-Chief

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What’s Next Transition Eve Nasby • Kristin Hennessy Veterans in Business Barbara Eldridge Successful Transitioning Stories Dr. Julie Ducharme Risky Business Hadley Wood Franchise Frontline Rhonda Sanderson Real Talk: Mental Health Hope Phifer PTSD: Reclaiming Control Robert ‘Bob’ Cuyler, PhD TLC Caregiving Kie Copenhaver Art & Healing Amber Robinson Legal Eagle Kelly Bagla, Esq. Family Law Tana Landau, Esq. Midway Magic David Koontz Veterans Chamber Commerce Joe Molina Contributing Writers Wounded Warrior Project Disabled American Veterans (In-House) Correspondents Holly Shaffner CJ Machado San Diego Veterans Magazine 9528 Miramar Road, #41 San Diego, CA 92126

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Photo By: Marine Corps Lance Cpl. Jacob Hutchinson

JANUARY 2024

INSIDE THE ISSUE 8 Midway Magic: Relaunch 10 Tour of Wings - POW/MIA Wings 16 The Watch that Won the War 20 DOD In Action

Photos 2023 - This collection showcases the work of military photographers in 2023, when U.S. service members continued to conduct around-the-clock training and operations worldwide to ensure the nation’s security.

31 Imagination (2024) 32 2024 Resolution Solutions 34 The Risk of Resolutions 38 Real Talk: Mental Health: Goodbye 2023 40 PTSD: Reclaiming Control 43 Maternity Care Services (SD VA) 44 Coming Out of the Dark 46 Solara Mental Health 47 San Diego Veterans Coalition 48 Embracing Change (2024) 51 Veterans Association of North County 52 What’s Next: New Year, New Mission 54 Off-Base Transition Training 58 Business for Vets: Play the Game 60 Successful Transition: Michael Sipe 62 Franchise Frontline: Ron Sanders 64 VCCSD: New Year, New Path 68 Celebrating Kelly Bagla 72 Legally Speaking: Hiring an Attorney 74 Careers in Law Enforcement 76 SDPD Ride Along - A Story of Two Marines 80 From Navy Sailor to SFPD Cover - Motivated Marines Marine recruits jog in formation during a motivational run at Marine Corps Recruit Depot San Diego, Oct.12, 2023. Photo By: Marine Corps Cpl. Alexander Devereux

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COMMITTED TO

VETERANS

As a partner of the We Honor Veterans Program, Hospice of the North Coast is dedicated to providing optimal end-of-life care to the honored men and women who have fought for the freedom and security of our nation.

Veterans Program Call 760.431.4100

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MIRAMAR NATIONAL CEMETERY SUPPORT FOUNDATION Supporting Miramar National Cemetery (MNC) by giving a final tribute to the Veterans of our Armed Forces who gave their all.

DID YOU KNOW? The 30-foot Veterans Tribute Tower and Carillon is dedicated to soldiers of the U.S. 3rd Infantry Division who fought in the Battle of Outpost Harry during the Korean War, and plays patriotic music on the hour and “Taps” at sunset.

300+

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American Flags on the Avenue of Flags

For more information about the Miramar National Cemetery Support Foundation Scan the QR code or visit our website at www.miramarcemetery.org www.miramarcemetery.

To say informed about our events, visit our Facebook page @miramarcemetery

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USS Midway Museum Relaunches San Diego Veterans Day Parade

As in previous parades, several military heroes, past and present, were honored. This included the grand marshals who served as representatives of last year’s major military anniversaries.

“It’s critical that we pay tribute to our veterans,” said Craig Fischer, Midway’s partnership marketing director and member of the parade committee. “I’m thrilled to have been part of the team that helped bring back the parade.”

Twin brothers and retired Marine Corps gunnery sergeants, Gary and Larry Soper, represented all Vietnam War veterans as the grand marshals for the 50th anniversary of the end of the Vietnam War. Both received Purple Hearts for their courageous actions and wounds suffered in combat during the war.

After a three-year hiatus due to the pandemic, the San Diego Veterans Day Parade returned to the Embarcadero in 2023, and the USS Midway Museum was at the helm. More than 90 entrants participated in the parade, ranging from marching bands, floats, ceremonial vehicles and marching units from veterans organizations, military commands, local businesses, and community service and civic groups.

Midway formed a coalition of representatives from the city and county, active-duty military commands, and veteran support organizations to continue the tradition of holding this tribute parade in America’s Finest City.

“It’s just important to take the opportunity to step back and honor the legacy that lies before us because it hasn’t always been that way,” said Chief Warrant Officer Randel Matzinger, who led Marine Corps Band San Diego’s participation in the parade. “We’re taking the opportunity to express our gratitude for the service.

It’s important.”

San Diego County boasts one of the largest veteran populations in the United States, with more than 200,000 former and retired military members living and working in the county. While this year’s parade honored all those who have worn the uniform of the nation, it placed a special emphasis on several important military milestone anniversaries that date back 100 years.

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Larry and Gary Soper

“When we got back, nobody cared about us at all,” said Gary, who served 22 years in the Marine Corps. "We were honored to be the grand marshal for all Vietnam veterans. Larry and I will never forget it. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts.”

Jack Ensch, a Navy F-4 Phantom naval aviator flying from the USS Midway (CV-41), was shot down on his 285th combat mission over Vietnam in August 1972.

He remained a prisoner of war (POW) until his release from Hanoi on March 29, 1973. Jack served as the grand marshal representing the 50th anniversary of the return of the Vietnam War POWs.

www.midway.org

“I felt honored when asked to represent my fellow Vietnam War POWs in the Veterans Day Parade,” said Jack, a retired Navy captain who served in the Navy for 30 years. “As a group, we POWs feel privileged to have served our country and are proud to have returned with honor after performing our duty under very arduous conditions. The Veterans Day Parade came back better than ever and the USS Midway Museum deserves to be commended for re-establishing this important San Diego tradition.”

More than 6,000 American servicemembers died in combat during the battles for Heartbreak Ridge and Bloody Ridge on the Korean peninsula in late 1951.

George Sousa, an Army corporal, was the only member of his unit to survive, although he was seriously wounded. The Purple Heart recipient represented all Korean War veterans on the 70th anniversary of the end of the Korean War. “I have received many honors over the years, but this has got to be the greatest honor of my life,” said George, who graduated from Pt. Loma High School in 1948. “I feel very privileged to have represented my comrades of all military branches. It was an incredible event and I’m grateful to have been a part of it.”

The San Diego Veterans Day Parade, which was proudly sponsored by Verizon, began in 1987 and continues to be the largest parade on the West Coast that salutes military veterans. For military veterans living in San Diego, a staunch Navy and Marine Corps town, remembering the service and sacrifice of those who have worn the uniform of the nation is important.

“The parade was marvelous,” said Ray Flores, a Marine Corps veteran who participated in the parade. “I’m just so thankful that everybody could come out and enjoy the day, and thank all those who have served.”

www.midway.org/give-join/volunteers volunteers@midway.org www.midway.org

For those interested in becoming a USS Midway Museum volunteer, more information along with the volunteer application can be found at: https://www.midway.org/give-join/volunteers.

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TOUR OF WINGS - POW/MIA WINGS Superhero steel wings to bring awareness of MIA from the Vietnam War

By CJ Machado Veteran Advocate Homeland Magazine Photojournalist

May we remember all those serving our country who could not return home during the holiday season.

May God bring peace to the families awaiting their safe return and those often forgotten, especially the families of the Missing In Action (MIA) who may never have the opportunity to reunite with their loved ones.

The lead characters are complex, resilient females, and the screenplay highlights their inspiring attributes, strength, beauty and many talents women naturally possess. The story includes animation, anime and clever robot characters to ignite the curiosity within our youth and encourage them to want to learn more about our military history involving Prisoners of War and Missing In Action.

“It’s been a long time in the making, and I’m grateful to share its magnificence with the world as I believe it to be an expression of God’s Divine love and hope for humanity,” stated CJ Machado, creator of the Purple Foxes United story.

The POW/MIA Wings were created to raise awareness of Prisoners of War (POW) and Missing in Action (MIA). The impressive steel wings are comprised of dog tag “feathers” that represent the 1578 still MIA (at present) from the Vietnam War. Each dog tag is embossed with the name of the MIA veteran, branch of service, location last seen and date of disappearance-similar to the POW/MIA memorial bracelets concerned citizens wore during the Vietnam War in hopes of their return home.

The POW/MIA Wings belong to the super heroine character LT Williams in the Purple Foxes United screenplay. The historical fiction story was inspired by the Son Tay Raid, the most daring mission executed to save Prisoners of War. Many of the characters in the story are based on legends of carrier aviation and Honor Flight San Diego alumni veterans.

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It took years to complete the POW/MIA Wings part of the project and it was a collaborative effort involving many talented artists and sponsors. Jay Stargaard with Stargaard Art welded the steel wings, John Campbell with VetArt.org constructed the display stand and thanks to the generous support of Logo Tags, the exclusive dog tag supplier of our military, the wings are now on tour for public display.

The West Coast Tour of Wings officially kicked off on September 15, 2023, with the National POW/MIA Awareness Day and the closing of the Coronado Historical Association’s Open Doors: Vietnam POWs Fifty Years of Freedom exhibit.

The wings were also displayed at Liberty Station’s Centennial Celebration in San Diego and the Coronado Island Fourth of July Parade receiving the highest honors the Admiral Stockdale Award and Military Heroes Award.

Lisa Thompson, the daughter of MIA US Navy Vietnam veteran, William Joseph Thompson expressed her sentiments about her experience. “I was only 4 months old when my father went Missing In Action. I grew up with more questions than answers and more wonderings than reality. My kindergarten playground fence was also the fence for the North Island Navy Base, and my countless dreams of him appearing there are still vividly recalled. My mother’s heart was broken, he was her one true love. They were high school sweethearts, and I didn’t realize until I was old enough to understand, that his passing set the rest of her life stage under a veil of depression. She was my best friend and know she was with us the day CJ generously gifted us those priceless moments. CJ Machado, the talented creator and artist of the Tour of Wings, gave my son, Ryan Joseph (middle name after my father) and me the absolute honor of placing his dog tags onto her amazing piece, I was finally given an opportunity to be part of him and his legacy.”

The stories shared are documented and the goal is to spread awareness through various publications and websites including Homeland Magazine and Operation www.Call-To-Service.com

Photo Courtesy RFTW Allan Steiner

The West Coast Tour of Wings ended on Veteran’s Day with the Coronado Island Film Festival Salute to Veterans program. Next year, the Tour of Wings will continue as the “Wings Across America,” May 2024 in collaboration with The Run for The Wall (RFTW) annual motorcycle ride from California to Washington DC to visit the Vietnam Veterans Memorial (The Wall).

A free digital download of the Purple Foxes United story is available online at www.Force-Con.com, a gift in remembrance of the POW/MIAs from the Vietnam War. A version of the screenplay is also available to support the Run for The Wall mission.

The wings will travel with the RFTW in a clear trailer through the heartland of America called the central route in hopes of people witnessing the significance of the dog tag feathers representing the Missing In Action.

You don’t have to ride to support the cause. Please visit www.rftw.us to register or donate. The RFTW mission is to promote healing among ALL veterans and their families and friends, to call for an accounting of all Prisoners of War and those Missing in Action (POW/MIA), to honor the memory of those Killed in Action (KIA) from all wars, and to support our military personnel all over the world.

The most meaningful part of the project is including MIA family members to affix their loved one’s replica dog tag to the wings and share their story. It helps with the healing process and is a reminder to the world that they are not forgotten.

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“Veterans know better than anyone else the

price of freedom, for they’ve suffered the scars of war. We can offer them no better tribute than to protect what they have won for us. ” - President Ronald Reagan 14 WWW.SanDiegoVeteransMagazine.com / January 2024

MOWW San Diego Chapter

A strong America dedicated to preserving and advancing American Ideals and Founding Principles.

The Military Order of the World Wars serves our nation and local communities by providing and supporting activities that promote and encourage responsible citizenship, patriotism, youth leadership, military and public service, veteran support, and strong national security.

The Military Order of the World Wars (MOWW), founded in 1919, is a non-political, patriotic Veterans Service Organization (VSO).

We are a group of patriotic commissioned officers from all uniformed services, our spouses, and descendants.

We believe in America and live our motto, “It is nobler to serve than to be served.”. Our tag line is “Serving Youth, Community, and Nation”. We love and continue to serve our nation and all of its peoples.

We do this through our outreach programs including Patriotic Education, Veteran Affairs, Scouting, JROTC/ROTC, Public Safety/Law and Order, Homeland Security, and National Security.

“It is nobler to serve than to be served.”

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We have been serving the San Diego area since 1926.

Our chapter has sponsored many events that have become constant in community life in San Diego. The San Diego chapter has also been quite active on the MOWW national stage. We are quite proud that the first female MOWW Commander-in-Chief, Capt. Debbie Kash, USAF (Ret), is a member of our chapter. We have also provided MOWW with two other Commanders-in-Chief.

Outreach events and activities • Annual free Youth Leadership Conferences for high school students. Student teams and Staff interactively explore, learn, and practice leadership, patriotism, American government, American history, and free enterprise.

• Massing of the Colors and Service of Remembrance.

Recognizing our youth, community, and nation through honoring our country, flag, active military and veterans, their families, and community patriotism.

• Wreaths Across America. Honoring our deceased veterans through co-sponsoring an annual patriotic ceremony.

• Recognizing youth leadership and sponsoring JROTC, ROTC, and Scouting events.

• Partnering with many community veteran groups.

For more information please visit our website at: https://moww.org/ Facebook: The Military Order of the World WarsMOWW-San Diego Chapter Please feel free to contact us: Debbie Kash debbie.kash@gmail.com Kathleen Winchester kathleen.a.winchester@gmail.com WWW.SanDiegoVeteransMagazine.com / January 2024

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Pin-Up Girl - CJ Machado Pilot - CAPT Stephen Rose CAF Aircraft - D-Day Doll Photo Courtesy Greg Siller Active7media

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The Watch That Won The War

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The Watch That Won The War

By Mike Miller San Diego Veterans Magazine Award winning documentarian teams up with the creators of “The Lost Watch of D-Day” and the Screaming Eagles Foundation to keep her promise to Coronado, California hometown hero WWII paratrooper Tom Rice.

It was shortly before Tom’s passing on November 17, 2022 that Libertas (Normandy Jump 2019) Producer, CJ Machado, promised her dear friend and confidant she would continue efforts to install a memorial in the town he liberated of Carentan, Normandy, France. The 4 Colonels of Carentan Memorial will serve as a tribute to the leaders of the WWII US Army 101st Airborne Division, the famed “Screaming Eagles” as depicted in the HBO series Band of Brothers.

US Army Staff Sergeant Rice recalls his D-Day jump as “turbulent.” Rice was first at the door, leading his paratrooper stick into the flak ridden Normandy skies.

D-Day- It was the early morning of June 6, 1944, when “ScreamingEagle” Tom Rice jumped in Normandy with “Operation Overlord,” the largest allied invasion in military history made by land, air and sea against Adolf Hitler and his German Forces. D-Day is well known as the turning point of the war against Nazi Germany.

Green light! Go! A young Rice about to exit his C-47 aircraft was interrupted by intense enemy fire which caused the 1800 pounds of para pack bundles to prematurely drop and the aircraft to elevate about fifty feet. “The centrifugal force of the plane, and accelerated speed caused me to become wedged in the lower left corner of the door upon exit,” recalls Rice. After several desperate attempts, he was able to break free. His arm up to his wrist was torn by the metal of the door and his favorite wristwatch (a brand-new A-11) that he had spent months saving up for was ripped off, lost into the Normandy night.

Tom often joked that he hoped a good Frenchman found it, and that its fate never made it into the belly of a grazing cow. It wasn’t until seventy-five years later when Tom returned to Normandy for the commemoration ceremonies that the fate of his prized wristwatch and Tom would re-connect.

At ninety-seven years old, Tom impressed the world and jumped into Carentan, Normandy, France on the same drop zone as he did on D-Day. That jump generated over 20 million views internationally.

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His monumental jump with the Round Canopy Parachuting Team and “The Lost Watch of D-Day” story was documented in the film Libertas (Normandy Jump 2019).

It was during the 75th Anniversary commemoration ceremonies when many came to know “The Lost Watch of D-Day” story, as Tom would often share his D-Day experience and gift a watch from his own collection as a reminder that many did not return home from that fateful day.

The founder of Praesidus Watch Company, Remi Chabrat heard of Rice’s story through his good friend and photojournalist, Thomas Goisque. The grateful French watchmaker took such an interest in Tom’s lost watch of D-Day experience, he decided to recreate a WWII A-11 replica wristwatch and share his story.

Fast forward to today, Tom is now gone but never forgotten. This upcoming year will mark the 80th anniversary of D-Day and members of “Team Tom,” a group of avid Tom Rice supporters and friends, have come together to ensure his legacy will endure for generations to follow.

“Tom in many ways is the meaning of my existence.

I want to dedicate my life in his honor and live each day in his memory; fearless, courageous, and with good cause. He taught me and many how to overcome life’s adversity in a creative way, to embrace challenges as an opportunity and tackle each day with enthusiasm and purpose. He gave every part of his being to his country, students, friends, and family…always living to inspire! We had a bond like no other, and I cannot wait to be with him again in the afterlife. Until then, I will take all that I have from within me to remember Tom and his legacy while I live the remainder of my time on this earth,” expressed CJ Machado.

If you’d like to wear a part of history and honor Tom Rice and support the legacy of the US Army 101st Airborne Division “Screaming Eagles,” you can purchase your A-11 wristwatch at: www.Praesidus.com Praesidus will donate a part of the purchase to help build the 4 Colonels of Carentan monument.

If you would like to donate directly to the monument, please visit the Screaming Eagles Foundation website:

Check donations may be made to the Guardians of the project: Screaming Eagle Foundation PO Box 929, Fort Campbell, KY 42223 (Please note: 4 Colonels. You will receive a confirmation letter and receipt of your donation that may be used for Tax purposes).

“As we approach the 80th anniversary of D-Day (June 6, 2024), please consider supporting the 4 Colonels of Carentan Memorial, a tribute to recognize our Screaming Eagle Heritage and the eternal bond between the Screaming Eagles and the people of Normandy” conveyed Randal Underhill, Executive Director 101st Airborne Division Association and Screaming Eagles Foundation.

www.screamingeaglefoundation.org/4-colonels-monument

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DOD IN ACTION PHOTOS IN 2023

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Wintry Walk

Cadets participate in a physical training exercise at the U.S. Air Force Academy in Colorado Springs, Colo., April 22, 2023.

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Military Medics Soldiers compete in the European Best Medic Competition at Grafenwoehr Training Area, Germany, Dec. 7, 2023.Photo By: Army Spc. William Kuang 22 WWW.SanDiegoVeteransMagazine.com / January 2024

Airdrop Ready

Soldiers wait to conduct an airdrop from a C-17 Globemaster III during training at Pohakuloa Training Area, Hawaii, Oct. 31, 2023.

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Hold On!

On!Corps recruit navigates a log obstacle during a confidence AHold Marine A Marine Corps recruit navigates a log obstacle a confidence course at Marine Corps Recruit Depot course at Marine Corps Recruit Depot San Diego,during Sept. 18, 2023.

San Diego, Sept.

18, 2023.

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Corps Crucible Marine Corps recruits hike the Reaper during the Crucible at Marine Corps Base Camp Pendleton, Calif., Nov. 21, 2023. The Crucible is the final test in the recruits' training. Photo By: Marine Corps Cpl. Alexander Devereux

Conditioning Carry Marines participate in a conditioning workout as part of a Martial Arts Instructor course at Camp Lejeune, N.C., July 19, 2023. Photo By: Marine Corps Lance Cpl. Osmar Gutierrez WWW.SanDiegoVeteransMagazine.com / January 2024

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Honored Guest Medal of Honor recipient Melvin Morris attends the opening ceremony for the “Welcome Home! A Nation Honors our Vietnam Veterans and their Families,” event on the National Mall in Washington, May 11, 2023. Photo By: Henry Villarama

Brothers in Arms

Army veteran Dennis Phelps hugs Navy veteran Norman L. Floyd during an Armed Forces Day Parade in Torrance, Calif., May 20, 2023. Photo By: Army Reserve Spc. Mebea Demelash

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Cabbage Patch Ceremony U.S. and allied forces, World War II veterans and guests participate in the Cabbage Patch Memorial Ceremony in Carentan, France, June 2, 2023. Photo By: Army Staff Sgt. Malcolm Cohens-Ashley

Always Faithful Retired Marine Corps Cpl. Dorothee Irwin, a World War II veteran, sits with her family during the 26th annual Palm Springs Veterans Day Parade in Palm Springs, Calif., Nov. 11, 2023. Photo By: Marine Corps Cpl. Breanna Eason

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Patrolling Gunner

Navy Petty Officer 2nd Class Mayra Cortes operates a machine gun aboard a patrol boat during an exercise in San Diego, Feb. 14, 2023.

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What Can Your Imagination Do for You in 2024?

Arts & Healing

Arts for Military Veterans

By Amber Robinson

Albert Einstein once said, “Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited.

Imagination encircles the world.” Have you ever thought about the power of imagination and what makes it so important to us all?

Stop to think about the things you’ve used your imagination for in your life. They are probably some of the proudest moments. They were most likely times you created something new and exciting, problems solved something big at work or stepped into a new home or work space you had envisioned first.

It’s your creativity and imagination that writes those awesome college papers your teachers love, the ones where you are not only showing you understand the content you are learning, but also visualizing where you could use it or talking about where you have used it. For me, as a 44-year old college student, I’m usually writing about the latter.

“Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world.”

- Albert Einstein

In the same ways our world’s great “imaginers’ will help us move from crisis phase to a new way of thriving postpandemic, you can create a brighter future for yourself.

In an article by Forbes magazine (https://tinyurl.com/ Globokar-forbes) writer Lidija Globokar shares the way athletes have always used visualization as an example of how it can be used to reach any life goal. Famous athletes like Muhammed Ali, Kobe Bryant and Arnold Schwarzenegger all used visualization and imagination to achieve the things they are now famous for.

But the article says it has also been used successfully in police training and with new medical surgeons. Those who went through visualization training prior to their first times under job stress not only executed better on the job, but did so with reduced anxiety.

So, in 2024, I challenge us all to be mindful of our imaginations. I posit we give our imagination the credit it deserves and become conscious of its use.

With that said, what will you visualize for yourself this year? In what ways will your imagination lead the way to a life that thrives?

We use our imaginations daily when we think about how we’d like our day to go, how we are going to time out our day. It’s used constantly by us, but not usually given the credit it deserves. I mean, what do you think happens when scientists imagine possibilities outside of the box, what happens when inventors do that? The world advances!

According to an article in the Harvard Business Review (https://tinyurl.com/imaginationHBR) we need imagination more now than ever. As we deal with an ongoing pandemic with rapid mutations happening constantly, it’s hard not to get down. But when the days get dark, we need our imaginations to create light in the midst of them, to create a safer, brighter future.

The Harvard article states, “renewal and adaptive strategies [will] give way to classical planning-based strategies and then to visionary and shaping strategies, which require imagination.”

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RESOLUTION SOLUTIONS SOLUTIONS

The holidays are over, but the New Year’s resolutions have just begun, and San Diego Veterans Magazine is here to help you keep yours.

If you’ve chosen to change your life this year, you’re not alone. Nearly half the United States – a stunning 150 million people – did the same.

Many of these aren’t plastic or paper decisions either but life-affirming, soul-quenching, I’m-the-captain-ofmy-destiny-and-I’m-finally-going-do-this variety.

If this sounds familiar, good for you! Recognition that change is necessary is the first step. Desire makes all things possible. Work well begun is half done.

High on most lists, losing weight or getting fit with many deciding the time to act is now.

You’re off and running, maybe literally.

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Now the bad news.

Statistically speaking, most of you are doomed. Nearly 90 percent who make New Year’s resolutions fail. That’s a crazy high bust rate. Who would ever bet those odds?

You would and you do.

Let me explain.

At the start of every year -- without fail -- people flock to gyms. They’re recognizable by their new sneakers, stylish water bottles and eager looks. You can practically see their new gym bodies in the bubble dreams above their heads.

Memberships are bought. Trainers hired.

Classes enrolled.

And so begins the brief lifecycle of the Resolution Set, a specimen of gym member whose chief function is giving money away for no apparent reason.

All gym vets know their ways well.

They start January like shooting stars, their resolution glow bright and vibe positive and contagious. February finds them making strides.

Cracks start showing in March as they realize that working out can be, well, work, and that maybe the miraculous transformations they envisioned might’ve been a skosh unrealistic.

Then the wheels fly completely off.

This typically happens by May, exactly when the neophytes should be prepping for the big beach season reveal.

They were so close to getting somewhere and then puff. Gone. Another statistic.

But you can break this cycle of boom and bust, and here are some tips to do just that.

1. Set realistic goals. Losing a pound or two a month – and keeping it off -- is a reasonable. Anything more is, hmm, gravy.

2. Start slow. Take it easy as you learn what your body can do. Hurting yourself or being too sore to workout defeats the purpose.

3. Then, ramp it up. You’re at the gym to work, so work. Push weights around, stretch, walk, peddle or paddle. Sweat a little so you can live a lot.

4. Just go. Just as possession is nine-tenths of the law, so too is getting to the gym is nine-tenths of the battle. Get there and you’ll figure out the rest.

5. No excuses. If you have five free minutes a day, you have time to workout. How? Do all the pushups and sit ups you can in one-minute increments. Follow that up with running as far you can for another minute – it will take you two minutes to walk back.

Done.

6. Find what works for you. Yoga, pilates, kettle ball, boxing, surfing, mixed martial arts, weights, running, kendo, fencing, cross-fit, judo, swimming, biking, walking, whatever. There are a lot of choices. Find one or three that work for you.

7. Remember the big picture. Attaining your fitness goals takes effort and means pushing through adversity.

8. Find your motivation. Whether you’re doing this for yourself, your family or some other reason, keep that reason in mind when you feel like quitting.

9. Have fun. It’s hard to succeed at anything unless you enjoy it and make it part of your life.

10. Forgive yourself. No one is 100 percent all the time. The best baseball hitters fail 70 percent of the time. The greatest quarterbacks throw interceptions. The most powerful tycoons make bad deals. When you backslide, pick yourself up and keep going.

“Nearly 90 percent who make New Year’s resolutions fail.”

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The Risk of Resolutions

of paperwork or cleaning up a few files on the computer each day. Even if it takes 6 months to truly get organized, it will be a success!

2) Create a realistic timeline with an end date.

Map out how long you think the change should take and break the timeline into small parts that can fit into your schedule. If your goal is to increase your Marketing, think about what you want the end result to be, work backwards and map out how each step of the process looks and how much time to allow for it.

3) Have an accountability partner.

If you are like most people, January is a month when we look back at the past year and decide to make some changes – a mental or physical reset button we can push, start fresh and wipe the slate clean as they say.

5 most common New Years’ resolutions are noted as being:

Share your resolution with a trusted person that can help you achieve your goal and encourage you when you need it. Many business owners hire a life/ business coach to help them in business like we would hire a trainer at the gym. It keeps us on track, focused and makes it harder to break the commitment.

4) Set daily time breaks.

• Get Organized • Outsource Tasks to Others/Hire Employees • Focus more on Marketing/More Clients • Learn Something New/Expand Business • Spend More Time Away from Work/With Family Making a resolution is a great way to identify a change that you want to make. The problem is that most people make a resolution without making a plan to execute, track and monitor it. This often leads to breaking the resolution within the first 3 months of the year and feeling a sense of failure. Which is NOT how we want to start the new year!

“A goal without a plan is just a wish” - Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

If your goal is to spend more time with family, friends or simply away from work, you mayneed to get up an hour earlier, take a break in the afternoon or leave the office an hour earlier. You will likely get the same amount of work done but creating intentional space for loved ones will be a win-win.

5) Congratulate yourself on small wins.

Everyone needs a pat on the back or a high-five for making progress. Gift yourself something you want with each step of progress. If your goal is to learn something new or expand the business, track your progress and reward yourself!

And if all else fails, June 1st is unofficially known as Resolution Recommitment Day - if you need to push the reset button again in 2024, don’t feel bad – think progress not perfection.

So, what can we do to make sure our resolutions are given a fair chance to take hold? Experts agree on a few things:

Wishing everyone a Happy, Healthy and Successful 2024! www.evangel.edu

1) Start with small changes that you perform daily.

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Our community has collectively purchased over 1,000 rental properties worth over $2 Billion. Many of our members are completely financially free and are already living the lives of their dreams. Our process is simple, and it has worked over and over again. Erin, an Army Veteran, wife, and mom of two, has purchased 97 rental units and achieved financial freedom in less than four years.

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We do more than real estate and are committed to meeting you where you are! Our education and online community will help you build your financial literacy foundation.

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A Journey Through Time: The Grand Canyon Railway Experience

Nestled in the heart of Northern Arizona, Grand Canyon Railway stands as a testament to the timeless allure of train travel. Connecting the historic town of Williams to the awe-inspiring Grand Canyon, this iconic railway offers passengers a nostalgic journey through the rugged landscapes of the American Southwest.

Established in 1901, Grand Canyon Railway has a rich history that mirrors the growth of the American West.

Originally built to transport ore from the Anita mines to Williams, the railway soon became a lifeline for the burgeoning communities it served. Today, the railway not only transports visitors to the Grand Canyon but also provides a step back in time. Passengers board vintage trains, lovingly restored to capture the essence of a bygone era, complete with the rhythmic clicketyclack of the tracks and the haunting whistle echoing through the air.

The journey begins in Williams, “The Gateway to the Grand Canyon”, a town frozen in time with its wellpreserved Route 66 charm. As the train chugs along

the 65-mile route, the landscape transforms from Ponderosa pine forests to vast expanses of desert, offering breathtaking views of the changing terrain. The journey culminates at the South Rim’s Grand Canyon Village, where passengers disembark just steps away from the rim of the majestic canyon.

Beyond the spectacular scenery, the Grand Canyon Railway experience is enriched by onboard entertainment, including musicians, cowboy characters, and historical reenactors who transport passengers to the Wild West era. Families, history enthusiasts, and nature lovers alike revel in this immersive journey that blends the past with the present.

A voyage aboard Grand Canyon Railway is a journey through time. With a wide variety of car choices to choose from, including luxury dome/ parlor cars and open-air Pullman cars, there’s an experience onboard for everyone. Regardless of how you travel, all passengers will experience the enduring romance of train travel in the heart of the American West.

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Real Talk: Mental Health

By Kelly Williams, LMFT, Clinic Director, and Giselle Vallejo, LPCC, Lead Clinician The Steven A. Cohen Military Family Clinic at VVSD, San Diego www.vvsd.net/cohenclinics

How Do You Create Lasting Change Beyond What’s Determined on New Year’s Eve? How About, Don’t.

As we approach the new year, it can be quite common for us to reflect on how we navigated our responsibilities over the last 12 months. Beyond reflection, we might also take some time to think about how we want to approach the upcoming year in new or different ways.

That can become overwhelming for some people and there can be added pressure to create new year’s resolutions.

But we recommend taking a different spin on it and, instead, taking time to recognize what has been accomplished.

Often, people tend to focus on what they should be doing, what they could have done, and less attention is placed on what you have achieved.

Here are some things to consider: • Stigma related to continual improvement can be a method of growth, but it can also limit us from reflecting on our strengths or resiliency that we have formed. Instead of focusing on what you want to change, try focusing on what you want to maintain.

For example, maybe you were successful at eating more consistent meals. Something you can tell yourself is, “I did a great job of taking care of myself and that made me feel really good!” It is important to remind yourself of your successes and abilities.

you can set a goal for a period of time and allow yourself the chance to check in before getting upset that you didn’t make it a full 365 days.

• Try replacing the word “improve” with “strengthen.”

The word “improve” can often feel like you are taking away from the strengths and abilities you already possess. Instead of saying “I want to improve my physical fitness” try, “I want to strengthen my physical abilities.”

• You can also create a mantra for yourself that will help you focus on what you want to strengthen or achieve, “I control my anger, it does not control me” or “I will have control of my thoughts” or “Feelings aren’t facts” and “Don’t forget to breathe.”

Also, try taking some time to identify what you are looking forward to in the new year. This does not have to be the typical things you think of with new year’s resolutions.

• Try creating a list of things you would like to do for the upcoming year. You may have spent some time making travel plans for the new year. Maybe you have plans for a family event, and you are really looking forward to that. Tracking time by activities is another valuable form of measure.

• Wondering how to create lasting change that is more than a goal determined on New Year’s Eve? How about, don’t. We humans are meant to change, evolve, and grow. Something that seemed important to master in January might not be as important in June. Try conceptualizing how relavent these goals will be 7 days from now, 7 weeks and 7 months. Perhaps, 38 WWW.SanDiegoVeteransMagazine.com / January 2024

• Identify a word for the year. A great way to reflect on the year is to find a word that can wrap up the way you approached successes or challenges. Maybe there was more “intention” behind your actions. And for the upcoming year you may want to focus on speaking kindly to yourself, “self-compassion” can be your new year word.

Increasing healthy habits is often a common new year’s resolution, which is why we see gyms extremely busy at the beginning of the year. However, health is more than just physical health. Mental health is just as important to maintain, and we don’t mean just attending your therapy appointments. Here are some ways to focus on strengthening mental health.

• Take 1-3 minutes to do a mental health check-in.

Ask yourself, how am I feeling? What might be making me feel this way right now? Where do I feel it in my body? What do I need? Have I given myself credit for what I did today? What is something that went well for me today? Remaining conscious of what feels good or bad both physically and emotionally is an important part of our health routine.

• Take time to reach out to your support system.

When was the last time you talked to your best friend?

How about your old roommate? You can schedule time to talk to those who you are not able to see regularly. It can be an easy mental health booster. If you’re having a hard time scheduling a time, a simple text message saying, “Thinking of you” can yield positive endorphins to get you through a difficult day.

• Set time to do something you enjoy for yourself.

Examples of that can be making yourself a tea or coffee in the morning, taking in intentional breaths to get your day started or to wind down after a long day, or treating yourself to something you don’t get to do like getting a pastry at your favorite bakery.

Lastly, find ways to cope with stress. Cohen Veterans Network’s (CVN) Tools for Managing Stress & Worry is one way to tackle the ways you deal with stress during this time of year. This free, self-paced course was specifically created for military family members to help manage stress and worry through a series of brief and flexible educational modules. Brought to you by CVN and Blue Star Families, Tools for Managing Stress and Worry provides research-based strategies, tools and techniques to help manage stress and worry. The course was designed by mental health experts with input from military family members themselves.

Most importantly it is the intentions behind what you do that ultimately determine how you start your year.

If you have positive and compassionate intentions towards yourself, your methods of achieving or maintaining change will eventually catch up. At the very least, you also have the power to determine when the new year starts for you. While the commercialization of New Year’s Eve might end after January, no one ever said that you can’t have your own new year on February 1st. All it takes is a mindset and your own personal buyin to what you are doing.

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PTSD: Reclaiming Control By: Robert ‘Bob’ Cuyler, PhD Psychologist and Trauma Expert

Delving into Prolonged Exposure Therapy (PE) for PTSD: Effectiveness, Accessibility, and Challenges Welcome back to SD Veterans Magazine’s exploration of therapeutic approaches for post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Last month, we initiated our journey into talk therapies for PTSD, and this edition, we’re delving deeper into Prolonged Exposure therapy (PE), a frontline treatment recommended by the National Center for PTSD. PE operates on an understanding of trauma's (Part 2 enduring of 2) effects, where traumatic memories linger, remaining distressingly vivid and detrimental to one's well-being and daily functioning. The therapy's objective is to gradually weaken the link between triggers and ensuing behavior and emotions.

Think of the Iraq veteran driving past an overturned garbage can on the side of the road, triggering intense reaction to memories of an IED encountered years ago in theater.

Understandably, distress and associated avoidance result, so our veteran may restrict driving or may drive only with exhausting hyper-vigilance, scanning civilian roads for combat dangers.

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In PE, individuals collaborate with therapists through various methods. Under a therapist's guidance, they progressively revisit and imagine the traumatic experiences in a supportive environment. Moreover, in vivo exposure involves systematically confronting feared situations, gradually starting from less distressing scenarios to more challenging ones.

As a sense of control and security strengthens, the potency of trauma-induced reminders diminishes, along with the reliance on avoidance tactics. This gradual desensitization process renders traumatic memories more manageable, reducing their impact on daily life.

Participants are also encouraged to expand their activities, reengaging in once-avoided situations and integrating enjoyable and purposeful pursuits into their lives. The therapy typically spans three months, encompassing 8 to 15 sessions As a seasoned ‘talk therapist’ with four decades of experience, I’ve cultivated my perspective on PE. It stands as a therapy supported by substantial scientific evidence, rightly earning its place atop the list of recommended PTSD treatments. However, challenges loom on two fronts: accessibility and tolerability.

Regrettably, mental health professionals trained in PE are insufficiently available. Many therapists lack this specialized training, and those equipped with it are often concentrated in urban areas with limited availability or acceptance of insurance.

Fortunately, the VA has made strides in ensuring evidence-based therapies like PE are accessible to veterans. Telemedicine programs have extended

services beyond in-person limitations, catering to individuals living far from VA facilities.

Yet, a largely underestimated hurdle remains— tolerability. Confronting triggers and reliving trauma, even with professional guidance, presents a significant barrier. Studies suggest that up to 50% of participants in clinical trials discontinue PE prematurely, a figure that excludes those unwilling to embark on this therapeutic journey.

It’s a predicament my field hasn’t sufficiently addressed.

While PE is a valuable therapy under competent guidance for informed and willing patients, we must acknowledge and provide alternatives for those averse to or unable to endure this approach. These alternatives should be evidence-based, accessible, and tolerable.

The search for such solutions continues. Stay tuned for more insights into PTSD therapies that bridge the effectiveness-accessibility-tolerability gap.

Cuyler is chief clinical officer of Freespira, an FDA-cleared non-medication treatment that helps people with panic and PTSD manage their symptoms by learning how to regulate their breathing. - www.freespira.com

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“I’m happier with myself. Having been in therapy, period, has helped me be in a better place now.”

Rogelio “Roger” Rodriguez, Jr US Navy (1987 – 1993) US Air Force (1993 – 2013)

PTSD treatment can turn your life around.

For more information visit: www.ptsd.va.gov/aboutface

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Maternity Care Services Available at the San Diego VA The VA now provides maternity care by referral to local community obstetric (OB) providers. Women Veterans are the fastest-growing cohort of Veterans who use VA, and VA currently provides health care to approximately 600,000 women Veterans half of whom are of childbearing age. Pregnancies in women Veterans using VA care have increased by more than 80% since 2014, from 6,950 pregnancies in 2014 to 12,524 in 2022.

Everyone’s situation is unique and so is their eligibility.

To find out if you are eligible to enroll, visit www.va.gov/health-care/eligibility Apply Online or By Mail Go to www.va.gov/health-care/how-to-apply Apply in Person Visit the nearest VA medical center or clinic. You can locate your nearest VA health facility at www.va.gov/find-locations Apply by Phone (877) 222-8387 Monday–Friday, 8 a.m.–8 p.m. ET. Veterans Benefits Administration (800) 827-1000 - www.vba.va.gov

Maternity Care Coordinators help Veterans navigate health care inside and outside of the VA. They connect Veterans with OB care during prenatal, perinatal and postnatal stages.

Women’s Veteran Call Center (855) 829-6636 / (855) VA.Women

VA covers maternity care from the time of the first positive pregnancy test through the postpartum period.

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Benefits include, but are not limited to: • Full physical exams and labs • Obstetrical ultrasounds • Prenatal vitamins • Genetic tests and specialty consultations • Prescription drugs through VA dispensary • Women’s VA Pharmacist services • Labor and delivery • Newborn care on the date of birth plus 7 days immediately after birth (to include circumcision) • Support and services in case of miscarriage or stillbirth • Social work, Nutrition, and Perinatal mental health services

Maternity Care Coordinator (858) 344-6999

“I couldn’t believe the VA was assigning someone to me and to make sure my care went smoothly in town, and that I could get all of my questions answered with just a quick call.”

“From the moment I found out I was pregnant until now I have been treated so well by the VA. I really feel like the VA cares for me.” “literally the day I arrived in San Diego, the VA helped me out, not only did they assist me in getting enrolled in the VA healthcare system, they connectied me with the right people. They also answered the million questions I had, and helped me understand what my coverage through the VA would look like. They have been a saving grace between my coordination with UCSD and all of the medications/appts I have.”

• One year of post-partum support • Free breast pump • Maternity bra’s • Maternity belt • Maternity Sleep Pillow • Nursing Pads • Milk Storage Bags • Lanolin Cream

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CAREGIVING TLC

By Kie Copenhaver CSA, RHIA, SHSS, RCFE www.agingwellpartners.com

Coming Out of the Dark On December 21, 2023 we celebrated Winter Solstice, a day of the year when the Earth’s axis is tilted the farthest from the sun, resulting in the shortest day of sunlight and longest night in the northern hemisphere.

From here on out, we will experience longer days and shorter nights as the Earth’s axis tilts back towards the sun. And I don’t know about you but that’s a good thing in my book.

When I lived and worked in San Diego, I felt the change in season and often dreaded the longer days of darkness as we moved towards the winter months.

Now that I reside in Montana, I really feel the change in light and darkness. I wake up and head to work in the dark and I get off work and drive home in the dark.

The daylight hours for me are spent in an office in a building where I rarely get outside and enjoy what little Vitamin D I can soak up. I can feel the lack of sunlight in my bones, and I anxiously await the longer days and sunny weather.

No matter where you live or what you do for a living – or for fun – sunlight is essential to health, well-being, and vitality. Our bodies need Vitamin D to function properly,

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and we cannot get enough of it through the foods we eat. Therefore, we either get it through vitamin supplementation or by heading outside for a mere 1520 minutes per day. Midday is the best time to get your daily dose of sunlight because the sun is at its highest point in the sky, UVB rays are most intense (those are the rays we need for Vitamin D), and studies have shown that our bodies are most efficient at utilizing the sun’s rays around noon. Everything in moderation, of course. Too much sun can lead to health hazards like sun burn and skin cancer.

Now that the days will start getting longer, be sure to go outside and get some sun on your face. Research has shown that sun exposure is linked to serotonin production, the hormone responsible for boosting and enhancing mood. Better mood can lead to feeling better emotionally; and feeling better emotionally may just lend itself to feeling better physically. And we can all use some of that “mojo”, especially around the holidays.

So, head outside and feel the warmth of the sun on your face, drink in the longer days, and fill up your energy tank with some glorious SUNSHINE. Cheers to aging well!

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THE SAN DIEGO VETERANS COALITION IS A COALITION OF OVER 150 UNIQUE NON-PROFITS, BUSINESSES, GOVERNMENT AGENCIES AND EDUCATIONAL ENTITIES ALL UNITED BY THE GOAL OF SUPPORTING MEMBERS OF OUR COMMUNITY WHO SERVED OUR COUNTRY IN THE ARMED FORCES, THEIR FAMILIES, AND THEIR CARETAKERS.

SAN DIEGO VETERANS COALITION COMMUNITY • COLLABORATION • COOPERATION The San Diego Veterans Coalition was organized in 2009 and incorporated as a non-profit on May 24, 2011. Using the Collective Impact Model, SDVC is a premier San Diego County-wide monthly convener of over 150 unique member and participating organizations, businesses, and agencies, as well as convening many of that body in our four action groups, and other activities and events. The Collective Impact Model is based on leveraging relationships with other veteran and family serving organizations so that we may provide veterans and their families with a complete array of services and other opportunities.

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Embracing Change and Growth in 2024 A Community-Centric Approach with Regional and National Nonprofits Uniting Veterans Through Regional Powerhouses Like Veterans Bridge Home, National Organizations Like America’s Warrior Partnership, and Local Clubs Like VETLANTA

By Lori Noonan, CEO, Capacity Builders

As 2024 approaches, it’s a time for veterans to

embrace change and growth, supported by a network of community-centric organizations. The combination of regionally focused nonprofits like Veterans Bridge Home, national entities such as America’s Warrior Partnership, and local clubs like VETLANTA, creates a comprehensive support system that caters to the diverse needs of our veterans.

Veterans Bridge Home: A Regional Beacon of Support: Veterans Bridge Home exemplifies the power of regional support, offering tailored assistance and resources specific to community needs. This organization’s deep understanding of local dynamics ensures that veterans receive personalized and effective aid, making it a cornerstone of regional veteran support.

America’s Warrior Partnership: National Reach, Personal Touch: America’s Warrior Partnership provides a national framework of support, focusing on empowering communities to effectively serve their veterans. This organization’s commitment to collaborative and holistic approaches allows for a wide range of services and resources, ensuring veterans across the nation have access to the support they need, regardless of their location.

VETLANTA: Strengthening Local Veteran Communities: Local clubs like VETLANTA are vital for creating a sense of belonging and personal connection among veterans.

These clubs offer a platform for veterans to engage, network, and support each other, playing a crucial role in fostering a strong, interconnected veteran community at a local level.

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Synergizing Regional, National, and Local Support:

Call to Action:

The synergy between regionally based organizations like Veterans Bridge Home, national entities like America’s Warrior Partnership, and local clubs like VETLANTA, creates a multi-layered support network.

Engage with regional organizations like Veterans Bridge Home, connect with national initiatives like America’s Warrior Partnership, or become part of a local club such as VETLANTA. Your involvement, be it in seeking support or offering it, is instrumental in enhancing the lives of our veterans. Together, let’s make 2024 a year of unity, support, and progress for the veteran community.

This collaborative approach ensures comprehensive assistance that understands both the broader national landscape and the specifics of local community needs.

As we move into 2024, it is important for veterans to be aware of the valuable resources available through regional nonprofits, national organizations, and local clubs dedicated to their support.

Veterans can find a wealth of assistance and community through the efforts of groups like Veterans Bridge Home, America’s Warrior Partnership, and VETLANTA. These organizations collectively offer a diverse and inclusive network that encourages personal growth, adaptation to change, and a sense of belonging within the veteran community.

Understanding and accessing these resources can be a key step in a veteran’s journey towards a supportive and fulfilling year ahead.

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Whether it’s seeking support for challenges faced or offering your own experiences to aid others, your involvement is crucial in enhancing the lives of our veterans and their families. By actively reaching out and participating in these supportive networks, we can collectively ensure that 2024 is a year marked by unity, support, and progress within the veteran community. www.NonProfitPros.org

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Programs and services vary, and include additional information for each. We have two Veteran Services Representatives (VSR) here at VANC, read all about them below in Addtional Services at: (www.vanc.me/services-programs) OUR MISSION VANC is a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization created and operated by Veterans as a one-stop resource center for all active-duty military, Veterans, and their families. We centralize services from diverse agencies to assist with jobs, education, finances, health, and wellness.

OUR VISION We seek to honor and support those who have served our country, bridging the past, present, and future. VANC is a vibrant gathering place in North San Diego County, where all Veterans, active-duty military, and their loved ones can reach out for help and community. VANC engages and informs local Veterans organizations, service providers, and individuals, helping them work together.

VANC seeks to be a model for other organizations that serve the military community.

JOIN US FOR AMAZING UPCOMING EVENTS There’s always engaging things happening at VANC and with our partners. Check our calendar here for regularly scheduled events, meetings and opportunities here at VANC (www.vanc.me/events#calendar) WE LOVE OUR ASSOCIATION MEMBERS AND THEY’RE HERE FOR YOU TOO. VANC is open to all military, veterans and friends of the military. If you would like to become a Veterans Association member, Contact Lori at lori@vanc.me to learn more.

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WHAT’S NEXT Transition to Civilian Life

By Eve Nasby & Kristin Hennessy

New Year, New Mission: Transitioning to Civilian Life with PTSD My girlfriend looked into my eyes and said, “I love you.” And all I could think of to say was, “Thank you.” It was then that I realized that I did love her but couldn’t communicate it. I also realized that in many cases I didn’t love myself, let alone have the ability to love someone else,” recalls Rob Palandino.

When Staff Sergeant Rob Paladino left the U.S. Army in 2011 after multiple combat tours, he thought transitioning to civilian life would be easy. He was used to going 100 MPH in the Army, so transitioning out and finding a job didn’t seem all that challenging. After all Rob had done in the service, how hard could it be? He was sure of one thing - what lay ahead of him had to be better than what was behind him.

But behind his cocksure bravado lurked the shadows of PTSD. He states,“I didn’t think the sustained visuals of combat would affect me. As ridiculous as it seems now in retrospect, I didn’t believe that living with death day after day, whether seeing dead Iraquis or losing a fellow soldier, would affect my ability to acclimate post-military.”

He recalls, “I did not think that I'd feel hopeless getting out, nor did I think that losing friends as close as brothers on the battlefield, or neutralizing the enemy would affect my ability to acclimate to the civilian work world. I was wrong.”

were taught in the military and carrying them into civilian work life. We have a saying that, “If you look like crap then you are crap.” Reflect on the key elements you were taught. Civilians don't want to see you wrinkled and ‘out of it’. Use the same elements of honor, integrity, attention to detail in the civilian world and you will find yourself head and shoulders above your peers.

3. Acknowledge and deal with your issues.

Eventually, through veteran mentors and support groups, Rob found a renewed sense of purpose. He said, “It was a challenge and I do have a bit of advice for my brothers and sisters who are transitioning out of the military.”

Don’t be ashamed of challenges you have, seek help.

Getting on the other side of PTSD is easier when you first accept that you have a problem. I read a lot of books, talked to other veterans and went to therapy twice a week. I was in a dark cave mentally and it has taken me years to get out. I’d also highly recommend getting a dog and working out! I got a rescue dog which serves great emotional support as they don’t talk back and just listen.

Rob shares his 5 tips for a successful transition:

4. Use your resources.

1. Find a mentor.

I was a staff sergeant in the Army and then found myself stocking shelves as a produce clerk. I honestly did not understand my value. My mentor did. He helped me understand what my skills were and pointed me into a career in Project Management, a role I didn't even know existed. I am today a successful project manager, but only because I found veteran mentors that guided me in that direction. Reach out to your network.

2. Find a “New Cause.”

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I have not stopped exercising since I got out. I use exercise to deal with stress and it can help you too.

Also, use your GI bill. I see a lot of people transitioning wanting to make money right away. That is good, but I’d encourage you to consider increasing your education through the GI bill. The US Bureau of Labor Statistics shows that degrees are beneficial. Their 2020 study indicated that people with a Bachelor’s degree earneda median income of $1,248/week vs. those with only a high school degree earned $746/week.

Everyone’s situation is different but if you are able to, I strongly recommend you get additional education using the GI bill.

5. Take your challenges seriously.

Men tend to not take mental health seriously. I used to play this over and over in my head, “I’m fine.” It is not a reasonable thought that you are ‘fine’ after living with death and all of the elements of combat for years. There is an effect on you when you are tasked with shooting people. I did not know the elements of PTSD and yet, I had a “ton” of symptoms, like being an ‘emotional stone’.

I didn’t really want to deal with any potential mental health issues as the discovery of any may inhibit my ability to get a job in law enforcement, which was my ultimate goal back then.

Finally, I would say that my relationship with Jesus Christ as my Saviour, my focus on volunteering and exercise and the acknowledgement that I wasn’t perfect and that I needed help has helped me continue in my success in the post military working world.

The end of Rob’s story? Today, he works passionately to support the US warfighter full time and is a full-time doctoral student. He also volunteers at the Mt. Soledad Association and Warrior Foundation. He invested years in personal therapy for his PTSD, and is in a great place mentally, physically, socially and professionally. However, it took work!

Rob urges, “Hear me out. Transitioning doesn’t need to be impossible when you have PTSD. You just need to deal with it face to face. I’m happy to have a conversation with anyone who has questions or comments about my transition. Please reach out to me, I’m happy to listen.” robert_paladino2@yahoo.com

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Employment Focused Workshops to Help You Reach Your Goals Author: Tim Winter, Director, Transition Assistance Program, Department of Labor Veterans’ Employment and Training Service Perhaps you’re trudging back and forth to the same office or signing on for a day of work in a job that shows no sign of changing or improving: the long hours, the ongoing meetings, the lack of fulfillment.

The job itself is mind-numbing; your talents forgotten and the potential you had in abundance when you first transitioned out of the military feels like it has been sucked out of you.

If you’re reading this and thinking, yeah, that is me, then the Department of Labor Veterans’ Employment and Training Service (DOL VETS) has just the thing for you.

DOL VETS has a new pilot program to help veterans, veterans currently serving in the National Guard and Reserve, and their spouses to take control of their careers.

The Off-Base Transition Training (OBTT) pilot program consists of ten two-hour workshops designed to help you to prepare to meet your employment goals.

These no-cost workshops, both in-person and virtual offerings, will fit any schedule and can give you an advantage over your civilian counterparts.

The Workshops Your Next Move: Your Next Move is designed to help anyone unsure of what they want to do next with their career. This workshop explores interest profiling, skills matching and general labor market information.

It is designed to introduce the basic tools needed for career exploration and identification of high-demand occupations.

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Marketing Yourself and Other Job Search Tactics: Marketing Yourself and Other Job Search Tactics explains how essential it is to present skills, knowledge and abilities that meet the employer’s needs. This workshop provides proven tactics to help job seekers get noticed and hired.

Understanding Resume Essentials: Understanding Resume Essentials explains the importance of a wellstructured resume that highlights relevant skills and experience to potential employers. This workshop covers the elements of a resume and provides job seekers with techniques to create an effective document that employers will notice.

Creating Your Resume – Writing Workshop: Creating Your Resume – Writing Workshop builds on the Understanding Resume Essentials. During this workshop attendees will have time to craft an initial resume or revise a current one.

Interview Skills (virtual only): Interview Skills aims to provide attendees with the tools and confidence they need to ace a job interview. Learning how to prepare for an interview and practice answering questions will give attendees an advantage in landing a job. During this workshop, interview basics, potential questions and interview techniques are presented.

Federal Hiring (virtual only): Federal Hiring covers the basics of gaining federal employment. Veterans have a distinct advantage when applying for federal positions with veterans’ preference.

During this workshop, the basics of civil service, USAJobs, special hiring authorities and other resources for attendees’ federal job search are discussed.

LinkedIn Profiles (virtual only): This workshop walks attendees through how to create a compelling LinkedIn profile that can be used to build a professional brand and highlight experience.

Employment Rights (virtual only): Employment Rights cover basic employment protections as well as those protections specific to veterans. It provides essential information on the American Disabilities Act, the Uniformed Services Employment and Reemployment Rights Act, the Fair Labor Standards Act, and the Vietnam Era Veterans’ Readjustment Assistance Act. Information on reasonable accommodations and selfadvocacy will also be presented.

LinkedIn Job Search (virtual only): This workshop explains how to proactively use LinkedIn for job searches and pulls back the curtain to show how recruiters use LinkedIn to find potential employees, which you can use in your employment opportunities.

Thinking about changing careers? It’s time to find your passion and make that your priority.

Salary Negotiations (virtual only): Salary Negotiations explores the tools and techniques to handle salary negotiations. This workshop is designed to take the mystery out of salary negotiation and walks attendees through how to conduct salary research to position yourself effectively during negotiation.

OBTT will help you reach your employment and career goals. You served, you earned it; find your next victory with OBTT. Explore and register for OBTT in-person or virtual workshops online at: www.dol.gov/obttworkshops

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BUSINESS FOR VETERANS

By Barbara Eldridge www.mindmasters.com

Play the Game 2024 A New Year, new goals, new opportunities! Now that you have things sorted out and put together, put last year behind you, scrap the old plans and get ready for a new start. New things require new strategies, new tactics and new plans. There’s an old saying – if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got. Einstein may have put it better when he defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over, while expecting different results.

It is time to start breaking through that comfort zone – You and I know that that’s uncomfortable, it always is. The starting point is your businesses purpose and vision, which helps establish a set of measurable goals. When you have expressed a clear, compelling vision and purpose, you can start to become aware of opportunities in your marketplace that were previously invisible.

Do you want to Play in this Game???

Today I want you to challenge yourself to the highest levels of performance. Would that require your “BEST”?

Would that push you beyond your boundaries? Would you dare to attempt your most audacious goals? Would you be willing to be, have and do the UNREASONABLE? Paul Lemberg in his book “BE Unreasonable: The Unconventional Way to Extraordinary Business Results”, wrote “being reasonable kills potential…”

Being reasonable is about getting by. It may keep you in business, but at the same time it keeps the business from soaring.

Be unreasonable, it’s the call to embrace your vision, your passion, your true desires. It is a state of mind, it is a call to action. Today is about accelerating your business by having faith in your ability to make the future real. To let go of all the cliché-ridden, time worn, tired old ideas that keep you small, to pick your spot then step out onto the edge; to be courageous – and find out you can really fly.

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Then you must think what’s possible as opposed to what is likely. Goals that draw you to them, is a Game worth playing. But they don’t just exist, they are not lying around for you to collect, like shells on a beach.

You have to make up WORTHY goals. Sometimes you have to invent them out of the air.

I challenge you to get really clear about the commitment to the Goals you have set for 2024 and clearly identify what you are committed to in fulfilling them.

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Successful Transitioning Stories

By Dr. Julie Ducharme www.synergylearninginstitute.org

Michael Sipe Michael Sipe is a 20-year retired Naval Aviator and airline pilot with a degree in Systems Engineering from The US Naval Academy. Michael is a Former Naval Aviator who trained Navy Pilots to land on aircraft carriers during the day and night, and an instructor for advanced weapons schools. Michael was also the Director Headquarters US Pacific Military. He’s also a former Airline Pilot Certified as an airline transportation pilot and holds several business certifications from UC Irvine.

What was it like when you transitioned out of the Navy?

I got out the Navy and interviewed with an airline the week before 9/11 happened. When 9/11 happened, we realized quite quickly the airline industry would be turned upside down, and shortly after 9/11 happened we were furloughed, and I was out of job. Suddenly, what I thought was a clear transition path was suddenly gone and I felt like the rug was pulled out from under me.

I did eventually get picked up by an airline and flew for about 2 ½ years. And I quickly realized I couldn’t raise a family off of $17,000 a year as a pilot. So basically, I then moved into being an investment advisor with a firm. And in 2000 many people were getting called back into active duty and I was one of those people who was called back into active duty. So, I had a second career in the Navy. Then I had to transition out of the Navy again for the second time and I ended up working for defense contractors as I knew I could do that, and I wasn’t planning to go back to the airline industry as that industry was still a mess.

How did you end up in entrepreneurship?

I was working on a very large project with the government, and it was tough working with all the different agencies. When I finally got all these agencies to work together, as happy as I was on this project, I realized one day walking to my car that I didn’t really want to do this anymore and I wanted to focus more on what I was good at, which was working with people. And that is when I realized I was not really working the job I wanted and that I needed to change my trajectory and 60 WWW.SanDiegoVeteransMagazine.com / January 2024

move into my current company which is coaching people in helping to restore relationships. I help overextended entrepreneurs save their marriage & family while improving life satisfaction.

What barriers did you face when starting your own company?

The biggest barriers I faced came from a military background, we want to be prepared for and know all the details. And I was ready to go, I had a plan and then covid happened and that really affected my business start up and I had to pivot like many others to make it work. But from all this an important lesson I learned is your network is your most important asset. Don’t be afraid to ask for help by getting a mentor, or reaching out to people who can support you.

What are some tips for Veterans who are transitioning out?

The tip I wish I had known years ago comes with decision making and what I learned is there are three lenses to look through when making a choice. The first one is the logic analytical reasoning mind. Then there are the emotional aspects, what is the emotion around that decision making. The third one is intuition, which comes in two forms, the gut instinct, and the non-local. But all three of these together are very important to making decisions when transitioning out. And I tell a lot of Veterans that they all have this, they just need to learn how to use it when they are looking to transition.

Final Word Don’t underestimate the value of your relationships outside of work.

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Transitioning out of the Military into the Civilian Workforce?

Finding a job in the civilian world may seem easy at first. After all, you have learned skills, practiced leadership and demonstrated initiative that will make you successful wherever you go.

The reality, though, is that it can be difficult.

In fact, it can be downright depressing, demotivating and you may feel totally disillusioned.

Veterans In Transition is dedicated to you and helping you succeed in your transition.

For editorial & monthly columns regarding transitioning to civilian life, career advice, tips, workshops, transition to education, entrepreneurship, straight-forward legal tips for military and veteran business owners visit www.tinyurl.com/SDVM-Transition

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Franchise Frontline

Success Stories & Resources

By Rhonda Sanderson

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Retired Air Force Colonel Finds a New Path With Food Business Retired Colonel Ron Sanders, a command pilot with over 3400 hours of experience, has dedicated his life to serving his country. But after 27 years of military service, Sanders is serving his country and community in a completely different way. Since 2021, Ron and his wife, Christen, have opened two Capriotti’s Sandwich Shop franchise locations in Colorado Springs with more on the way.

instrumental role in planning the first 120 days of Operation ENDURING FREEDOM after 9/11. Ron retired from active duty in 2012 and continues to serve the Department of Defense as a senior mentor, strategist, and planner.

His time in the military helped him develop essential skills such as scheduling, organization, and problem-solving that have helped him run a successful business.

“The military develops leaders, and I really have enjoyed this new opportunity Capriotti’s gave me to lead, coach and train a new generation of people in the sandwich shop, just like I did in the military. It’s great to bring in new people and help themgrow.” said Sanders.

“We moved to Colorado Springs and soon thereafter, I wanted to open up a business,” said Ron Sanders. “With the military bases in the area and a great community surrounding us, this was a perfect opportunity to give back and continue to serve.”

“The Capriotti’s team has made it really easy for us,” continued Sanders. “They know what they’re doing and have everything you need as a business owner to get started on the right foot.

There’s a lot you have to bring to the table to be a successful business owner, but I know I have a great supporting cast behind me with the Capriotti’s team.”

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Ron’s passion for serving his community is evident in his desire to open five Capriotti’s franchise stores. Despite facing challenges due to the pandemic, Ron and Christen opened their first store in December 2021 and are currently in the development stage of their third shop in Colorado Springs. Ron credits Capriotti’s team for providing the necessary support for them to start their business on the right foot.

Ron and his wife are grateful for the opportunity to own a business and be a staple within their community. Whether they stop at five stores or continue beyond, Ron, Christen, and their employees will continue to do it the only way they know how: stronger together.

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Veterans Chamber of Commerce

By Joseph Molina www.vccsd.org

New Year New Path 2024

New years are mostly famous because of the new year resolutions.

January 1st gives us a feeling of new beginnings and most everyone makes decisions and choices either mentally or by writing notes about changes or goals to be achieved in this new chapter. However, for most people it doesn’t take long before the enthusiasm dies down and people revert silently to their old selves.

1. Clearly define your Goal.

Before you set a goal for the new year, characterise that goal by deciding what aspect of your life the set goal will help improve. This will help avoid complications and help you to measure your progress easily.

TIP: To avoid being overwhelmed, it helps to focus on one area. Prioritize and breakdown the main Goal into small segments and try to just focus on one at a time. Habits take time to form and are lodged in our subconscious, meaning that we do not think about some of the miniactions we take.

2. Manage your time wisely.

It is critical to have realistic and attainable goals.

Transforming your life completely doesn’t sound like a bad idea, but you must set goals that you can attain within 12 months and in a way that it can be easily monitor for outcomes, for example you can say: I will schedule a Monthly .15 minute meeting with each of my employees to discuss professional development opportunities. This goal makes sense, it is short term and can be easily measured.

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3. Prioritise your goals.

Not all goals are important. You must prioritise your goals to avoid any clashes. Goals set ordinarily without arranging them in order of priority are likely to fail. This may lead you to get carried with less effective goals while rejecting the goals with the big payoffs.

Tips: 1) Write down all your goals (make a list).

2) Assign each goal a “priority number (1 – 10) based on what aspect of your life they help.

3) Arrange them in order of importance and select Only 3.

4) Repeat the process with the 3 goals and select the one you feel will provide you with the highest satisfaction once completed.

4. Keep yourself accountable Incorporate a system of accountability that checks your progress and rewards you when you succeed, but also corrects you when you don’t. This will help keep you in line and decrease your chances of failing.

Tip: Ask someone to be your accountability partner. Having an accountability partner is a very effective way.

Generally, people are more motivated to do things when they feel supported. A partner can also help you keep you in line and motivate you when you start to slip back to your old routine.

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Celebrating Kelly Bagla We at San Diego Veterans Magazine would like to congratulate and acknowledge the tremendous success of Kelly Bagla. We are so grateful to have someone like Kelly on our team who dedicates her time and experience with our military/veteran community.

Kelly's monthly column "Legal Eagle” offers straight-forward legal tips for Military and Veteran Entrepeneur's and Business Owners.

We would like to share a recent article about Kelly Bagla written by CanvasREBEL In this featured story, we learn some surprising revelations about Kelly Bagla and the defining experiences in her story that have made her the caring, powerhouse lawyer that she is today.

Meet Kelly Bagla

By CanvasREBEL We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Kelly Bagla. We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Kelly below.

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Kelly, thanks for taking the time to share your stories with us today. Parents play a huge role in our development as youngsters and sometimes that impact follows us into adulthood and into our lives and careers.

Looking back, what’s something you think your parents did right?

On Mission Helping Business Owners Succeed Coming from a family of seven successful, motivated siblings, people often ask what my parents did right. My mother and father instilled in each of us the importance of getting an education, whatever discipline we would choose.

My dad taught us as much by example as he did with words. As a young man who was well off in India, he wanted more for himself and his family. He left everything behind with his wife and first three children to move to England where he believed there would be more opportunity. Dad started on the ground floor, working at a factory to learn the business. He worked his way through the ranks to eventually purchase the factory! Through his tireless work ethic, love for his fellow workers, ambition, and intelligence, he not only accomplished his dreams but made the business a much better place for his employees, who loved him.

I could say so much more about my father, but it is important to emphasize that the heart of his passion and care for others and all his success stemmed from his heritage as a Sikh. I remember as a young girl (the baby of the family born in England), my father carefully instructing us on the history of Sikhs as powerful warrior defenders of those who needed protection. That is the blood that ran through his veins: Powerful warriors with reverence of God who practiced the ideals of honesty, compassion, humility, and generosity in everyday life.

And that is the heritage that has been foundational to everything I have ever achieved.

I then had the coveted opportunity to work for the world’s largest law firm.

Working for a mega law firm, I learned from the best, practicing law with both domestic and international clients. I also gleaned wisdom and skills of advanced problem solving, professionalism, dealing with people, overcoming obstacles, and serving clients. It was a great foundation for everything I have accomplished since.

Through this on-the-job learning process, it became clear that I could better serve entrepreneurs with the personal attention and transparent fee structure a boutique law firm could offer. I’ve always had a heart for entrepreneurs, (like my own father), and decided to make it my mission to help business owners reach their own success. So, I left the mega firm to form my own boutique firm, Bagla Law Firm, APC. I am very proud that my award-winning firm has served our loyal clients for more than 14 years. We help clients with business formation, asset protection, mergers, acquisitions, and a full boutique of legal services to fulfill the needs of entrepreneurs, business owners, corporations, and international businesses.

My mother was no less a warrior and teacher. She was a stay-at-home mom, fiercely devoted to raising seven children and instilling in us an unshakeable belief in our self-worth. She taught us to stand up for ourselves and never allow anyone to treat us with disrespect. She encouraged us to follow our passion and to help people along the way.

I have been blessed to have my parents’ unconditional support and love every step of my journey. What did my parents do right? Just about everything!

Great, appreciate you sharing that with us. Before we ask you to share more of your insights, can you take a moment to introduce yourself and how you got to where you are today to our readers.

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My American Dream is expanding globally, as I am now in the position to help foreign business owners tap into the Land of Opportunity as I did. I believe that it takes someone who has successfully entered the U.S. market to fully understand the needs of someone who wants to do the same. My latest book, Doing Business in the United States, is an overview of the legal guidance I provide my own foreign-based clients who plan to enter the U.S. market. The book provides a great starting point for any business entering this market.

My team will tell you that I am continually generating ideas and brainstorming with them about improving and expanding my enterprises. Admittedly, I make it a challenge for them to keep up with all the ventures I dream up. But together we stay on track as we always come back to our purpose to help entrepreneurs reach their own success.

Bagla Law Firm has become both the culmination of my dreams and the launching point for ongoing growth, enhancement, and expansion of my American Dream. I have gone on to establish multiple businesses and have written five books while never losing sight of my primary mission. Each of my enterprises has been developed to inform, equip, and inspire entrepreneurs to live their own American Dreams.

Go Legal Yourself® is a case in point. My online Do-It-Yourself legal document company empowers entrepreneurs to handle their own formation and growth with the right legal documents. Some would question the advisability of a lawyer forming a company that circumvents the need to use a lawyer!

But I see this as a logical extension of my mission.

There are clients who will always want to use our “hands-on” legal services, where we handle every aspect of the process from consultation to filing.

Go Legal Yourself® online services are for other entrepreneurs who would rather do as much of this themselves at a fraction of what a law firm would charge. I see no conflict in providing both options.

Either way, entrepreneurs are served based on their individual needs.

The five books that I’ve written align with my mission as well. For instance, the best-seller, Go Legal Yourself® has helped countless business owners to assess and readjust their legal positioning. My franchise also includes the award-winning Go Legal Yourself! ® Podcast, where I interview experts to hear their success stories and glean advice for the audience.

And my newest company, Pitbulls ‘n Pearls, is a 360° coaching program for entrepreneurs and professionals who want a thriving business and a healthy life.

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We’d love to hear a story of resilience from your journey.

Resilience is foundational to growth and success.

Without it we would easily get derailed and quit at the first obstacle in our path. The best example in my journey happened while I was going through college in preparation for law school. I was taking a business law class and was not doing that well. When I saw the school counselor he told me, “Maybe law isn’t for you.”

I felt my “warrior blood” rush through my veins in defiance and strength, immediately responding, “I don’t think you are the counselor for me.”

If I had listened to him, I wouldn’t be the person I am today! I wouldn’t be where I am today – coming up on twenty years of practicing law. I’m crushing it with my own law firm, multiple businesses, and a mission to help others. That’s the last time I ever went to a counselor.

Don’t believe the naysayers. Don’t allow criticism or disappointment to slow you down. With resilience you can shake off each setback, regroup and refocus on your mission.

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Are there any books, videos or other content that you feel have meaningfully impacted your thinking?

I am an avid reader, devouring between 60 and 75 books a year. I make it my practice to study media and publications on business and leadership, strategy, and mindset. But when I think about THE media experience that literally shaped my life, I must go back to when I was a young girl in England. I became fascinated with a television show called, “The Queen’s Council.

The series featured a nonchalant barrister who had a heart for helping people. As the hero, he always managed to save the day, making life better for those in need.

From the instant I began watching the series I was drawn to this field. I told my dad, “I’d love to do that!”

He somehow realized this was a defining moment and from that day on, my dad supported me all the way to follow my dream. I never wavered from this career goal since.

Contact Info: Website: www.baglalaw.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/baglalaw Facebook: www.facebook.com/baglalaw LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/bagla-law-firm We would like to thank CanvasREBEL for featuring Kelly in their online magazine and would highly recommend our readers to visit the CanvasREBEL website and online magazine at https://canvasrebel.com "Meet Kelly Bagla" original article can be found at: https://canvasrebel.com/meet-kelly-bagla/

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Legally Speaking Military Focused Family Law Facts

By Tana Landau, Esq.

“Let’s Get Started” Questions to Ask Before Hiring an Attorney

2024 It’s a new year, and for many that means it’s time for new beginnings. You may be one of those people. Have you decided to file for divorce and move on in your life? If so, you will likely find yourself in need of an experienced attorney to help you through the process and assist in custody and visitation, support, or division of marital property issues. But how do you choose the right attorney for you? At your initial consultation, there are several important questions to ask.

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Does the firm specialize in family law?

It is important to hire an attorney who is experienced in family law. There are several firms that practice in many areas of law versus firms that focus only on one area.

A firm that only handles family law matters may not only have more experienced attorneys to handle your divorce, but they may also have a better reputation within the family law community. As such, they may have relationships established with other family law attorneys which could aid in settling any disputed issues in your case.

How many years has the attorney been practicing?

It is important to know how long an attorney you are considering hiring has been practicing family law.

Knowing which attorney has more experience can be very important for your case, especially if your divorce involves high conflict issues or if you have a high asset case, both of which require more expertise.

What is the retainer and how does billing work?

You will want to know what the initial retainer is and what it covers. Make sure that you ask what the billable rates are for the attorneys working on your matter as well as any paralegal or support staff. Different staff often bill at different rates based on position or experience. Another question to consider is whether or at what point the firm would require a replenishment of that retainer. You also want to consider how a firm bills.

Some attorneys bill in 6-minute increments while others bill in quarter hour increments. Additionally, some attorneys or firms bill for each phone call, email or letter with a minimum charge.

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Who will be working on my case and how involved will the attorney be?

Most family law attorneys have a team of people to assist on a matter which can include various paralegals and other associate attorneys. If you are seeking to hire a specific attorney based on reputation or referral, you will want to ask how involved they will be and who else will be assisting on your case. Also ask about the experience of other attorneys that may work on your matter.

How familiar is the attorney with local judges?

If you cannot settle your matter out of court and your divorce is litigated, you want an attorney that is not only comfortable taking your case to trial but who is also familiar with the local judges. This type of experience can help provide insight as to what issues you are likely to succeed on in court and possible outcomes should an issue be litigated at a hearing. It can also help decide those matters that you should seek to settle.

No matter what, keep in mind that a consultation is not just for an attorney to get to know you, but for you to get to know them. Keep this list of questions (and any others you may have) handy and try to remember that divorce can be a new beginning even when it feels hard.

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Opportunities in Law Enforcement You’ve served your country, now serve your community!

Military and law enforcement have had a longstanding relationship with overlaps in training exercises, equipment, and, most important, personnel.

It is not uncommon for a service member to make the jump from the military to law enforcement as both professions look for the same characteristics; leadership, fidelity, chain of command, and teamwork are all common themes in both professions.

Quite understandably, many American military veterans often gravitate to a career in law enforcement when the time comes to rejoin the civilian workforce.

The two professions have many fundamental similarities; from the uniforms they wear with pride, to the firm command structure they serve under, to great personal risk they endure while protecting those who cannot protect themselves.

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SDPD Ride Along: A Story of Two Marines

By Amber Robinbson San Diego Veterans Magazine When I asked to go on a ride along with the San Diego Police Department, making a special request for any veterans-turned-cops, I expected a really serious, possibly dangerous, afternoon of shadowing our city’s toughest crime fighters.

What I got was an afternoon of heartfelt service to our San Diego community, honorable humility and a lot of respect.

When I asked whether former Marine Sergeant Major, Mark Wright, and his partner, former Marine Staff Sergeant, Sean Bunch, had rank or titles he said their titles were just San Diego police officers. They are relatively new partners, but act like they’ve known each other for years, which is usually the case when you get Marines together.

Most of our particular day was cruising around beautiful Balboa Park running car tags to see if they were current, from cars not displaying proper plates and placards to those double parked. Bunch says they often catch parole violators or even stolen cars doing just this.

I was struck as I watched both officers go out of their way to look in and around vehicles to find plates or disability placards not displayed correctly so as to avoid issuing superfluous tickets.

“We try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt,” said Wright. “We’re not out to get anybody.”

Wright is a newer addition to the force, coming on board two years ago, with Bunch only having two years left.

Although, both officers confirm that enforcing even the most basic of park rules can yield large payoffs. During a recent patrol Bunch spotted an individual smoking in the park, which is illegal. As he circled back round, the individual turned and rapidly tried to walk away, which activated immediate suspicion. He was detained and came back with a warrant for numerous kidnapping and child molestation charges.

Officer Mark Wright

Officer Sean Bunch

Currently, these brothers-in-arms spend their days patrolling the entirety of Balboa Park.

Although neither men are taking fire or kicking in the enemy’s door on this beat, like during their time in Iraq or Afghanistan, they still work hard to serve their local community. Service which can range from tracking down criminals to answering questions from lost pedestrians, to giving out stickers to kids and never backing down from a chance to turn on those flashing red and blues just to make one of them smile.

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Both men say a lot of what they do is talk with museum owners and those living in the neighborhoods surrounding the park about their concerns. A shared concern by all is the park’s homeless population.

Bunch says their posture towards the homeless is mostly that of assistance, adding there are many resources available for those who would take them.

The city spends a lot of money on resources,” said Bunch. “The biggest problem we run into is whether or not the [homeless] people want them, and a lot of them don’t.”

Thus, the men tend to run into the same issues with the same people pretty often. Although frustrating, they have learned that respect goes a long way when challenged with these repeat offenders. Bunch recalls spotting one such offender in the park, who was in violation of his parole and wanted on warrant. He was unable to get to the offender immediately, but still apprehended him with a verbal request. The parolee waited patiently to be hand-cuffed and arrested, simply out of the respect he held for the law man.

Bunch, for instance, did not come to the force straight from the Marines, but from Hollywood. Surprisingly, he is a member of the Screen Actors Guild, working as a military advisor on various productions, like Lonestar 911, and appearing in some as well, such as one of the most recent Men in Black movies.

“I grew up outside of LA,” said Bunch. “So, I’ve always just kind of been around the business and found a place for myself there with all my military experience.”

Bunch hopes to return to work in Hollywood after he leaves the force, bringing with him a new level of experience and respect.

Both men say a huge part of their work is being able to connect and communicate with the myriad of people they meet daily.

Wright, who retired from the Marines as a Sergeant Major never worked in Hollywood, but he does have plenty of stories about being a proud grandfather, father and new amputee. When I entered the Central Division Station and met him, he said he was just getting back to work after some time off after losing his leg.

Bunch says he feels he and Wright are lucky to come to the force later in life, given it means they have a wider frame of reference for those they meet and serve daily.

“We deal with people who are going through all kinds of things in life,” said Bunch. “And it’s helpful to be able to say, ‘hey I know what you are going through, I’ve been there.”

Wright remained unscathed during his over-20-years in service, overseas deployments and endless combat train ups. It wasn’t until after service that he lost his leg in a motorcycle accident late one foggy night a little over a year ago. Wright says it had been an eventful second watch and he was leaving the station about 2 AM on his motorcycle when it happened.

As the day progressed, I realized that both gentlemen definitely had a long list of tough and unique life experiences to pull from. Both proudly served the United States Marines for years, traveling to war and all over the world, experiences that yield much wisdom as well as many a story.

“It was only about two minutes from work,” said Wright. “I was coming around a curve and entered into what I thought was fog, and as I’m entering, I see a headlight and side mirror in my lane.”

“Being respectful of everyone despite their lot in life goes a long way in this job,” said Wright.

That headlight and mirror became an entire car that was blocking Wright’s entire side of the road.

“I was a heuy crew chief in the Marines and reverted to my training from that, grabbed my shoulders, braced for impact and went flying like a human lawn dart over my handlebars,” said Wright.

Wright landed in the ditch on the side of the road. He says he realized immediately that he had a back and leg issue. He learned that a bystander had called 911, but he requested they call back and state that the injured motorcycle rider was a policeman with the San Diego Police Department and expedite services.

This one request would become pivotal in saving Wright’s life.

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“What I didn’t know at that time was that I had severed two arteries in my leg, and I was bleeding out,” said Wright.

What Wright would learn later is his heel had also been torn off on the wrecked car as he sailed past it into the ditch. After much pain and many surgeries, Wright would finally lose his leg from the knee down. says he doesn’t let it get him down, though. He’s proud to continue to serve as one of our city’s finest.

Both he and Bunch take much pride in their time as Marines and as San Diego Police Officers. Each officer comes from strong military stock, with Wright’s grandfather being a World War II veteran and Prisoner of War and Bunch’s father a decorated veteran of Vietnam.

All in all, this Army vet’s afternoon with two Marines was an impressive one. Both seasoned public servants, these honorable men have discovered you must give respect to get it, that violence is often not the answer and the most important thing to keep in mind along the way, is a good, human dose of empathy.

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From Navy Sailor to San Francisco Police Officer

By Holly Shaffner

“Being able to talk to people, figure out what they are going through, and what they need is a huge portion of the job. I enjoy interacting with the public, and engaging in what I call verbal judo.”

- Officer Cindy Ovares

Changing careers can be exciting, exhilarating, and filled with trepidation. Meet Officer Cindy Ovares who has made the transition numerous times – from active-duty service member, to student, massage therapist, teacher, and now police officer.

The life experience she gained in those previous longterm jobs set her up to be successful today. She is doing what she’s always wanted to do – have a career that is challenging and rewarding.

Cindy was like many seniors in high school as she contemplated what she would do after graduation.

When the Navy recruiter called the house looking for her brother, the recruiter instead got an eager, independent 17-year-old woman who wanted to find adventure. Just a few months later, she was off to “see the world” and start her first career.

As an Aviation Machinist’s Mate, Petty Officer Ovares was a jet engine mechanic. It was a male-dominated job, and she wanted to prove that anything a man could do, she could do better. She attended military schools in Florida and Virginia to learn her trade, and was later stationed in Lemoore, California. She was attached to VFA-22, an F/A-18 Super Hornet squadron, that deployed on ships. After serving four years on active duty, she earned Post 9/11 GI Bill education benefits, and chose to leave the Navy to attend college.

After completing her bachelor’s degree in Secondary Education and being a fluent Spanish speaker, she was hired to be a high school Spanish teacher. The job was gratifying; but also, under resourced, understaffed, and had little room to grow professionally. She wanted something new and challenging, was drawn to the community where she grew up, so, in her late 30s she applied to be a police officer.

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Officer Ovares was accepted to the San Francisco Police Academy and has been an officer for the last three years. She is a foot patrol officer working in the Tenderloin District – a 50-block area that has a storied history, and has been known for homelessness, drugs, and crime.

“Being able to talk to people, figure out what they are going through, and what they need is a huge portion of the job. I enjoy interacting with the public, and engaging in what I call verbal judo,” said Officer Ovares.

As a Latina giving back to her community, she admits that the job comes with highs and lows. Officer Ovares recommends a career in law enforcement for those military members looking to make a smooth transition to a new chapter.

To learn more about the San Francisco Police Department, or to connect with recruiter, go to: www.sanfranciscopolice.org/your-sfpd/careers

For Officer Ovares, the parallels between serving in the military and serving in law enforcement made the transition go smoothly: • Routine – You know what to expect before your shift begins (what time to report, what uniform to wear, the structure of the day).

• Camaraderie – The bond between fellow officers is like the bond between your fellow military brothers and sisters.

• Variety – Every day is different with different assignments and duties, so the job is never boring.

• Benefits – Include a competitive salary, paid vacation days, floating holidays, and sick days, healthcare, retirement, and special pay for certain assignments and being bilingual.

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