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Toledo’s Award-Winning Parent Newspaper Volume 27 • Issue 11 November 2019

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Letter from the EDITOR Special Is Unique

The key to parenting success? Community.

It takes a village to raise a child, and when your child is diagnosed with a special need, you quickly learn the need for support.

My oldest was a colicky baby who turned into an exhausting toddler. By 2.5 years old, when he still could only use a handful of intelligible words, his inability to communicate led to tantrums on a daily basis. Thanks to the guidance and testing of Help Me Grow -- a free resource for Lucas County residents with children under the age of 3 -- Dexter was diagnosed with speech apraxia and sensory needs.

After a whirlwind of speech therapy, occupational therapy, and IEP meetings, Dexter was enrolled in Sylvania School’s preschool program that mixes typically

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developing kids with preschoolers on IEPs (another free local resource).

Thanks to an amazing team of educators, Dexter progressed quickly. By the end of preschool, he had reached all of his milestones and was taken off an IEP. He is now in first-grade, and while language skills still don’t come easily to him, he is working hard and loving school. Those difficult first few years now seem like a hazy dream (nightmare?), but if it hadn’t been for the support of local resources, our

school district, and supportive, accepting parents, none of us would be where we are today.

We recently learned that our 4-yearold has the same genetic hearing loss that I have, so we are beginning the IEP process all over again. I can’t communicate the pain it causes me to know that she will have the same struggles I’ve faced over the years. We will be trying hearing aides, but due to our unusual hearing loss, they may not help. They didn’t for me.

But I keep returning to one thought: she will have the same wonderful educational team that Dexter had, and this gives me peace and hope.

We each have different struggles, and our children have distinct needs, but we have one thing in common: we all benefit from the support of our community.

It really does “take a village,” and this issue of Toledo Parent contains a guide to special needs resources that can assist you and your little one.

Happy reading and best of luck in this parenting thing, Erin Marsh, Assignment Editor

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Imagination Station’s KIDSPACE upgraded and new programs available Little learners and their caregivers now have new ways to engage with science as they observe, wonder and play together. Thanks to support from a National Leadership Grant from the Institute of Museum and Library Services (IMLS), in addition to the Clement O. Miniger Memorial Foundation and Landman Goldman Foundation, Imagination Station’s Little KIDSPACE recently received several updates and upgrades with enhanced learning opportunities in mind. Join Science Story Time, Mini Explorers Club, or Little Scientist workshops. More info and registration at imaginationstationtoledo.org.

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Family Life with a Child with Disabilities Child-Rearing with Spina Bifida

By Lindsey Melden

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Three years ago, I walked into a maternal fetal medicine appointment prepared for a routine ultrasound. What I didn’t expect was for the doctor to walk into the room and announce, “Your child has spina bifida.” No warning or preamble, just a combination of words that immediately jumbled themselves incoherently in my brain. Those words, along with phrases like “low quality of life” and “neural tube defect,” remain seared into my memory.

Jumble of emotions The next few weks were a jumble of emotions, conversations, and doctor’s appointments. We had to decide if we would choose a new procedure where doctors perform surgery on the spine in utero. We had one week to do preliminary tests and make that decision. We decided against the surgery, but continued the process of transferring our care to Motts Children’s Hospital in Ann Arbor so they could repair her spine immediately after birth.

We reached out to friends and acquaintances in an effort to mentally prepare for this unexpected hurdle.

We knew life would be challenging, particularly right after birth when she would require multiple surgeries.

We would have been lost without the kindness of parents of spina bifida (SB) kids, the support of our dear friends, and our wonderful family.

Our daughter Joanna was born by c-section on a cold morning in January and, after a brief snuggle and moment to nurse, she was taken to PICU to prepare for surgery. Her spine was repaired within 24 hours, and 10 days later she underwent brain surgery to place a shunt to drain excess fluid that was putting pressure on her brain.

These experiences are now distant memories. When I look at our daughter today, I see a silly kid playing with her sisters, helping me set the table for dinner, and rolling into preschool in her bright blue wheelchair like she owns the place.

Snowflake condition Spina Bifida is sometimes called a “snowflake” condition, which means that even though it starts as a defect to the spine, it manifests in each person uniquely. For our daughter, SB has affected sensation in her legs, which means she uses a wheelchair, and most likely will for the rest of her life.

She also sees weekly therapists for help with speech, motor skills, and strength building. Her biggest challenges often have less to do with her actual disability and more to do with how accessible the world is around her.

Even though our lives have changed in the last 3 years, I could never have imagined how sweet and ordinary life would be. If you come to our home for dinner, you hear music playing and see toys on the floor. You’d see three loud, crazy kids trying to get their homework done, dad keeping the peace or setting the table, and one tired mom attempting to make dinner and laughing with her kids.

Becoming a parent When you become a parent, you are surrendering yourself to the creative force of the universe. You become a conduit for a biological process that has been occurring for millions of years.

You have no idea who your child will grow to be. This is the magical and terrifying truth. But what makes it truly exceptional, what makes my family exceptional, is not the fact that my kid uses a wheelchair or that my kid has different challenges than yours. It is our love. Our love is exceptional. And every single person who endeavors to walk this journey of making and growing humans has the ability deep within themselves to live in this love. Disabled or nondisabled, our children call out the best in us, and the best we can give them is our love.

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Libraries: King & Mott branches Sam and Lindsey with their children (clockwise from top left) Joanna (3), Aliyah (7) and Norah (9). Joanna was born with spina bifida, a birth defect that occurs when the spine and spinal cord don’t form properly.

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By Lindsey Melden One of the things I absolutely love about reading with children is getting to walk in someone else’s shoes together.

It’s the reason I make sure to read books with characters who look and live differently than our family.

Our kids can unintentionally become insulated by our family, and sometimes even our wider community, but in a story they can see what life is like for someone from a different country, culture, religion or background. They can see how a child who uses a wheelchair gets to school or how a child with a cochlear implant enjoys music.

Reading stories about disabled people helps to take away the stigma of visible disabilities and allows a child to see similarities with all kinds of people. Appreciating our differences and understanding our similarities are the foundations of an inclusive world.

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Experience Susan’s whole day, the good and the bad, and how her disability is just one part of who she is.

If your child happens to have a different body or way of navigating the world, these books offer that unique comfort that comes from knowing that you are not alone in the world. Here are some of our favorite books that include characters with disabilities.

When Charley Met Emma

by Amy Webb This book is a treasure. Written by a mother of a child with limb differences, it goes right to the heart. When Charley visits the playground, he meets Emma, a girl with limb differences who gets around in a wheelchair.

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The Five of Us by Quenton Blake

7 Things to Know About Parents of Children with Special Needs

Different challenges = different needs

By Rachael Moshman

My husband and I adopted our daughter when she was nine years old. She has a long list of mental health diagnoses. We quickly discovered that parenting a child with special needs results in the whole family experiencing a challenging set of special needs. As I’ve interacted with other parents of children with special needs, I’ve noticed that there are some factors that most of us have in common.

These characteristics are typically present if the child has any of the following diagnoses, ADHD, autism, physical disabilities, Down syndrome, emotional issues or any other special needs.

We’re tired. Really, really tired. Exhausted, actually.

This isn’t an occasional thing for us. We don’t miss out on a full night of sleep once in a while. It’s all of the time. My daughter suffers with insomnia and nocturnal panic attacks. It is not uncommon for her to be awake for most of the night. Even if we do get enough sleep, we’re still run down from all of the energy it takes to manage our child’s condition. Our schedules are packed with doctor, therapy and psychiatric appointments, IEP meetings and trips to the pharmacy.

On top of it all, we still have to go to work and keep up with general household duties.

Our brains our constantly busy.

We’re always considering possible triggers in every situation, wondering how to explain our child’s unique needs to others and worrying about the future. My daughter suffers from PTSD and seemingly innocent encounters can send her into a meltdown.

I spend hours analyzing every one, looking for the trigger and making plans to help her process it and get through it better next time.

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We know more about our child’s condition than most doctors.

I’ve read piles of books on mental health and my daughter’s specific diagnosis. I keep up with the latest research online. I had to become the expert for my child. I’ve found this is true with most parents of children with special needs. I know a few parents who went back to school to get degrees to become teachers, therapists, social workers and researchers to help other families like their own.

We’re lonely. Our friends and family often have stepped away because our child’s needs make them uncomfortable. Or perhaps we had to step away from them because they refuse to respect our boundaries and parenting decisions. Most special needs children don’t respond well to traditional parenting methods, and our brains may explode if we hear one more time that all our child needs is more discipline.

Discipline isn’t the issue--our child’s condition is. My husband’s mother even cut off contact because she found our situation too stressful to be a part of.

We’re fragile. We feel judged all the time. We want what’s best for our child like any other parent and worry if we’re doing enough for them. We often don’t have enough time or energy left to take care of ourselves.

We’ve tried everything.We know you want to help, but if there is a possible solution we’ve tried it. I’ve been asked countless times if I’ve tried “warm milk” for my daughter’s insomnia. We’ve tried everything on a quest to make life easier for our children and families, both conventional and unconventional. We need friends to listen to us and to support us, but we don’t need you to offer solutions.

We’re desperate for normalcy.

Yes, we’re overwhelmed and exhausted. Our children have quirks and challenges that often make navigating life challenging, but don’t leave us out. Invite us to your birthday parties, playdates and mom’s night outs. Our participation depends on many factors, but we still want to be included and will do our best to be there and have fun.

Vent to us about your problems and share the latest celebrity gossip. Much of our lives are spent inside a small bubble trying to manage our child’s needs. We welcome the chance for some fresh air.

Rachael Moshman is a mother, freelance writer, educator and family advocate.

Find her on Twitter @rachaelmoshman.

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Managing Motherhood Parenting through chronic illness

By Kimberly Feldkamp

Parenthood isn’t easy. It’s hectic juggling kids, schedules, spouse, job. Imagine managing all of that...plus dealing with a chronic illness.

That’s the reality for Molly Klima, a 33-year-old energetic mom to three boys, ages 8, 7 and 7. Molly is a hospice social worker and is actively involved with her church. Molly also has ankylosing spondylitis (AS), a form of arthritis that primarily affects the spine, although other joints can become involved. The disease causes inflammation of vertebrae that can lead to severe, chronic pain. She also has psoriatic arthritis, an inflammatory arthritis that occurs in some patients with psoriasis. Swelling in the knees, hips and hands is common for Molly, and she experiences stiffness daily.

“When it’s bad, I’m afraid to put my feet on the floor in the morning because I wonder, ‘Will my legs hold me up?’”

Molly explains.

The diagnosis Molly was diagnosed with juvenile rheumatoid arthritis (RA) at age 11 but relates that it didn’t impact her much

then. “I could get my joints drained and I didn’t care because I could still do what I wanted.” Molly’s arthritis went into remission around age 18, and for 5 years she lived pain-free.

When the swelling and pain returned in her 20s, Molly was devastated. “It’s daunting...is this really the rest of my life? It’s come back with a vengeance as an adult and it’s been a long journey of acceptance.”

Right now, there is no cure. With this autoimmune disease, Molly’s immune system is in overdrive; it can’t tell the difference between good and bad antibodies, and she is at an increased risk for other illnesses and infections.

Learning to ask for help has been something Molly has come to accept.

“Being a parent with a chronic illness means you have to do things differently.

If I push myself too much, I make myself sicker. I have to know my limits and I have to know it’s okay to ask for help.

It’s also important to figure out how to take care of yourself — and I’m talking about all parents — amidst the chaos of parenting.”

Molly Kimla, pictured with her husband Kerry, explains, “I still have options... but that could change tomorrow, so I know I just need to do it and not wait.”

For Molly, taking care of herself includes a combination of things good for her body and for her soul. She manages her pain with medication and knows when to limit activities. She also watches her diet, following an auto-immune protocol that’s similar to the paleo diet: meat, fruits, veggies and no grains.

Q&A

What’s your favorite activity to do with your family/kids? Playing soccer and baseball together.

What’s your go-to activity when you finally have a few minutes to yourself?

Reading.

Name one thing you swore you’d never do as a mom/dad/parent, but totally do. Show my temper!

Describe your life in five words.

Faith, chaos, community, love, adventure.

What’s your favorite Toledo hangout?

Barnes and Noble.

Describe Toledo in a sentence.

A city in revival.

Strong support Thankfully, Molly isn’t alone in fighting this. “My husband has been so loving, supportive and incredibly patient,” Molly said. “When we first got married, nothing was going on and I was fine, so it’s definitely been an eye opener for him. But he’s extremely helpful and if I ask, he’ll do anything. He’s such a great dad and he’s doing a great job taking care of all of us.”

Molly said her boys are quite independent for their ages and very helpful. “My boys sometimes ask, ‘Can I sit on your lap, mommy? Is today a good day or a bad day?’”

Molly admits that it can be hard to be forced to sit on the sidelines when she wants to be in the middle of the action with her young family. “It’s really painful when you don’t have the choice and want to be active with them,” Molly confesses.

On the dark days, her faith helps her through. “I don’t think God wastes anything...illness, trauma, hurt. He gave this to me...but He can use it.”

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Local Resources for Families Gateway Pediatric Therapy

Toledo Clinic coming soon 248-221-2945 gatewaypediatrictherapy.com/ toledo

Gateway Pediatric Therapy is the premier center for ABA therapy and the treatment of autism spectrum disorder. Gateway offers first-class treatment from the comfort of home and with a schedule that works for you and your child. Gateway’s expert team of Board Certified Behavior Analysts and ABA technicians is solely committed to showing each client the highest level of compassion, respect, and quality of care.

At Gateway, caregivers and children are more than just familiar faces — they’re family.

Green Options for Autism of Lucas County

1660 Amesbury Rd., Toledo 419-720-4350 goal4autism.com

Green Options for Autism of Lucas County (G.O.A.L) believes all students deserve a high-quality education that supports them in developing the academic, social, and emotional skills they need to thrive. GOAL is an autism organization that serves young people and families throughout Lucas

County and the surrounding region, running a school for students with autism and a day program that allows adults with autism to go out into the community and work.

This organization aims to empower participants by teaching them functional life and job skills. Highly trained instructors use technology, visual aids, and project-based learning to teach independence and communication skills.

Mercy Health Children’s Hospital

3521 Briarfield Blvd., Maumee 419-794-7259 mercy.com

A diagnosis of autism spectrum disorder can be an overwhelming experience for parents. To meet the growing needs of our community, Mercy Health Children’s Hospital Autism Services has grown in size and scope, providing Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA), Speech Therapy, Occupational Therapy, and Mental Health Counseling for children from the age of earliest diagnosis through 6 years. ABA is a scientifically proven treatment of autism and is most effective when it is implemented intensively at an early age. Mercy offers ABA therapy in a clinic setting, which includes development of behavior and skill acquisition plans, one-onone therapy, parent training, and small group instruction that targets critical school readiness skills.

Help Me Grow at Bright Beginnings

6393 Oak Tree Blvd., Independence, OH 419-665-3322 ohioearlyintervention.org

Early Intervention supports families of young children, from birth to age 3, with developmental delays and disabilities.

If eligible, your service coordinator and team will work with your family to learn more about your family’s priorities and your child’s needs to develop a service plan. The team will provide support and resources to assist you in enhancing your child’s learning and development through everyday routines within your family’s home and the community. Early intervention is grounded in the philosophy that young children learn best from familiar people in comfortable settings.

YWCA Child Care Resource & Referral

1018 Jefferson Ave., Toledo 800-632-3052 | YWCAnwo.org admintoledo2@ywcanwo.org

The YWCA Child Care Resource and Referral (CCR&R) provides services to parents and family members seeking child care services, early education, and child care professionals. YWCA provides a wide range of services for families and education professionals, including referrals for child care, information about indicators of quality, assistance with various parenting topics, PD for educators, technical assistance for child care programs, and other useful services.

Harbor Behavior Health

7140 Port Sylvania Drive, Toledo, OH 43617 419-475-4449 harbor.org Harbor’s Developmental & Behavioral Pediatric Team provides a comprehensive approach to the diagnosis of children (ages 0-18) with a variety of developmental and behavioral concerns. The team works with families and children to identify, develop, and implement the best treatment options considering individual concerns and goals for treatment. Harbor’s team of professionals collaborate with other specialists in the area to ensure the most effective and beneficial treatment for each individual.

The Ability Center

5605 Monroe St., Sylvania 419-885-5733 abilitycenter.org

The Ability Center is a local nonprofit serving people with disabilities since 1920. Programming is aimed at fostering greater independence and a stronger connection to the community.

The Ability Center advocates for the rights of people with disabilities, trains and places service and therapy dogs, gifts durable medical equipment, builds home modifications (ramps, stairlifts and grab bars) for greater independence, provides information and referrals, and implements interactive Life Skills classes for youths.

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yourself on these great OPEN HOUSE Educate local schooling options.

GUIDE Part Two

Sleek Academy

519 Ordway Ave., Bowling Green. 419-353-3898. sleekacademy.us Sleek Academy provides a creative and engaging learning environment by combining real-world situations with STEAM curriculum and project-based learning. Sleek believes that learning is a personal and individualized process that requires a varied teaching approach so that students are able to learn at their own natural pace. Call for open house details.

West Side Montessori

Perrysburg: 13587 Roachton Rd., 419-874-9385 Toledo: 7115 W. Bancroft St., 419-866-1931. montessoritoledo.org Open House: 9:00-10:30am Tuesday, Nov. 5 on both campuses West Side Montessori (WSM) uses the Montessori method to create independent and self-motivated learners who are committed to their own education. Lessons that are geared toward each student’s learning style, allowing children to work at their own pace and to choose work based on their own interests and abilities. The world language curriculum, which begins with students aged three, is unique to WSM.

Maumee Valley Country Day School

1715 S. Reynolds Rd., Toledo. 419-381-1313. mvcds.org Discover the hands-on and play-based Preschool Program, as well as the Parent & Child Preschool Playtime program, during an upcoming open house sessions. Select from three sessions in Oct.-Nov., Jan.-Feb. or AprilMay. For more information, visit mvcds.org/playtime.

Learn about MV’s unique Middle School experience from the Head of Middle School, teachers, and current families during Middle School Information Night from 6:30-8:30pm on Thursday, November 14.

Learn all about the academic and social experiences of MV’s 9th-12th grades, and meet current students and staff, during Upper School Information Night from 6:30-8:30pm on Tuesday, November 5.

K-12TH GRADE S.T.E.A.M SCHOOL

419-378-3044

www.sleekacademy.us 519 Ordway Ave. Bowling Green, Ohio 43402

The Sleek Academy is a private school with a curriculum based on Science, Technology, Engineering, Arts, & Mathematics (STEAM)

The STEAM curriculum will offer a more diverse, project-based learning environment to enhance children’s individuality & exploration.

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great cooks in the making, thanks to these Toledo area chefs!

Each chef developed an interest in cooking as a child by

watching their own relatives cook with love. Now, as parents

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in the kitchen Toledo area chefs inspire the next generation

themselves, these culinary types share how their love of food and cooking has become a family affair.

Chefs share common knowledge about the restaurant indus-

try. Even more valuable than the recipes they share with their kids, are the lessons on hard work, sacrifice, passion and grit that are required to own and run their restaurants.

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Chef Seongho Cho Kyoto Ka

Chef Jose Carlos Mendez, Carlos Restaurants

Jose Carlos Mendez became a chef “by accident.” While Jose’s father was a butcher and an excellent cook, Jose went to college for management and, over time, he discovered his love for cooking. He is now the owner and operator of all three Carlos Restaurants: Cocina de Carlos (Perrrysburg), Carlos Que Pasa (Cricket West off Central), and Carlos Poco Loco (Adams St, Downtown Toledo).

How do you make cooking a family matter?

We hardly cook as a family anymore because of the work that we do in the business. But during special occasions and family reunions, food is a way to bring everyone together. We love making huge meals at any birthday, anniversary, or celebration.

What is something you want your daughter to know about your work as a chef?

It’s not easy and it’s extremely competitive, but worth the fight. As long as you follow your dreams, anything is possible.

Do you have a Thanksgiving tradition?

We don’t celebrate Thanksgiving, but because we close down all the restaurants, we have made it our own tradition to get together as a restaurant family and enjoy our own traditional Mexican cuisine.

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Following in the footsteps of his father, Joe, Seongho (Sung) is sushi chef/owner of Kyoto Ka. Before turning to the restaurant business, Sung’s father Joe, who was born in South Korea, was an international law student in Kyoto, Japan. While in Japan, he started helping out at the sushi restaurant in the building where he lived. When Joe moved to Toledo years later, he brought his love of sushi with him, opening Kyoto Ka (Ka means “family” in Korean).

Sung was in the U.S army (11 years total) when his dad called him and asked him to help open the second Kyoto Ka location, this one in downtown Toledo. Sung was thrilled to return and be part of the family business, explaining “we love what we do.”

How does running a restaurant work as a parent?

Having a restaurant is a plus on our kids’ birthday. We invite the kids’ friends to our restaurant for their birthday to share our food. The challenge is working when it’s typically time for everyone to relax and enjoy time together -- evenings, holidays, etcetera. Our kids, Aiden (12) and Irene (10), miss out on dinner with their dad.

Do you see your children incorporating cooking into their own lives?

They like to cook small things at home, but have not yet been too involved in learning the details of sushi-making. One thing that I can say is that they try to appreciate different kinds of food.

Do you have a Thanksgiving tradition?

We cook three different cultural foods for our Thanksgiving: Korean, Japanese and American food.

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Chef Elias Hajjar,

Poco Piatti and Beirut Street Kitchen Food Truck

Growing up watching his parents dedicate their love, time and energy to the Beirut restaurant, Elias naturally developed a desire to continue in the family business. After graduating from The Ohio State University in Hospitality Management, Elias returned home to run the first Poco Piatti on Monroe Street. With his entrepreneurial drive, he then opened Poco Piatti at Levis Commons, and years later, Poco Piatti Central Ave (at McCord) and now Poco Piatti Downtown (Huron St.). And, as of just a few months ago, he is the owner of the Beirut Street Kitchen Food Truck.

How does running multiple restaurants work as a parent?

It works because it’s an industry that demands you to be social and part of a community. It hurts because of the time commitment away from home.

With the food truck now, they can actually come to work with me and help out by taking orders.

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Do you see your children incorporating cooking into their own lives?

Absolutely. Rose (12), Jasmine (11), and Dahlia (8) take it upon themselves to read recipe books, to ask for ingredients so that they can experiment with new things. Cooking is as important a skill as anything they will learn in school.

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Executive Diner and Executive on the Main

At age 13, Hasan was hired as a “back of the house” dishwasher at a local family business. He watched and learned closely what was going on in the kitchen. Thanks to a brother-in-law who took notice, he was taught how to cook and shown the ropes of running a kitchen. He learned quickly that cooking was his passion, eventually leading to the opening of Executive Diner (Monroe near Douglas) and more recently, Executive On the Main (Main St., Sylvania).

How do you make cooking a family matter?

The kids--Lillian (13), Zackariah (11), Sophia (10)--have always loved coming into the restaurants to help out. Although they enjoy helping more with customer service, I’ve taught them how to flip eggs in a pan and do different types of prep work because they take pride in being able to help out.

How does running multiple restaurants work as a parent?

I am very lucky to have most evenings free, being in the breakfast and lunch business, so we can do family dinners, and I can be involved in helping get them to and from extracurricular activities.

The hardest part is being almost completely unavailable on weekends. Our kids are very involved in multiple sports, so my wife is the one who has to manage their heavy schedules on the weekends. I’m glad they are understanding that I can’t be there, but it is still hard for me some days to know I’m missing it all.

Do you have a Thanksgiving tradition?

It is one of the two days a year that the diners are closed, so we sleep in, do a family brunch that we all cook together, and then take a dip in our hot tub together. It’s probably my favorite morning of the year!

Then we go to both of our family’s houses where someone else has done the cooking, which is great!

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KNUCKLEHEAD’S KAFE

24208 Front St. Grand Rapids 43522 Tue-Wed: 11a.m.-9p.m.

Thur-Sat: 11a.m.-10p.m.

Sun: 11a.m.-9p.m.

Closed Monday Facebook.com/knuckleheadskafe

HEY, KNUCKLEHEAD!

Small town eatery is a local favorite

By Karen Zickes

When was the last time you’ve meandered over the river and through the woods to Grand Rapids, Ohio? Or perhaps I should ask not when, but rather, have you ever been there? It had been a while since we had paid the quaint town a visit, so we decided to take a trip back.

There’s just something about the smalltown charm that we love.

A bustling place We headed to Grand Rapids, Ohio on a Sunday evening, expecting to find a sleepy downtown, but instead discovered many other families out and enjoying the river, towpath, playground, and restaurants. “It’s a bustling little town nowadays,” said Knuckleheads’ owner Dylan Bass.

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Daily Specials on Facebook! @SmokeysBBQroadhouse

A family ‘term of endearment’ The owner of Knucklehead’s, Dylan Bass, was born and raised in Toledo. He served our country overseas and lived in Philadelphia for many years where he owned a franchise restaurant. “I like the pace of working in the food industry,” Bass explains. And, after being away from family for years, he returned to his roots. I asked how his restaurant’s name was chosen. Bass chuckled and said that it was a name everyone in his family called one another. Yes, ‘knucklehead’ is a term of endearment in the Bass family.

The historical building that Knucklehead’s calls home is on the west end of downtown. Mr. Bass said they spent two years renovating the building before the eatery opened in April, 2015. The décor has a southwestern flair, as do a few menu items. Bass relates that his family traveled a lot to the Southwest when he was young, so the theme seemed fitting.

The added touch of partially plastered walls with exposed brick, and a ceiling with exposed wood, complete the comfortable décor.

“Simple American food with a twist” That is how Dylan describes Knucklehead’s menu. Originally, they had 12 items on the menu, but as the staff continues experimenting in the kitchen, new items continue to appear on the menu.

They have a great selection of burgers, sandwiches, salads and appetizers.

Their homemade mac-n-cheese comes in several variations, and my son really

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enjoyed it. A couple of us opted for fries on the side, which Bass refers to as “fair fries”, fresh cut and served with vinegar for a tasty touch. A spicy burger and a tequila lime chicken sandwich were also selected at our table. The black bean burger was a surprise. With the consistency of black bean mashed potatoes, there was really no burger shape or conformity. The flavor was good, but my daughter ate the interesting presentation with a fork.

Knucklehead’s is a family-friendly restaurant, and they offer options for little ones such as grilled cheese, sliders, or mac n cheese along with fries, broccoli or fruit as a side. Drinks, including milk, are included...all for just five bucks. According to Bass, their BBQ beef is very popular, as is their pork chop dinner with apple bourbon glaze. Another huge draw is their Wednesday night ½ slab of ribs with two sides for $15.

Karen Zickes is a mom of three active kids and a freelance writer who resides in Holland.

The Short Course

Kid friendly: Yes. To avoid wait: Arriving before 6pm or after 7:30pm may be best.

Noise level: Moderate.

Bathroom amenities: Changing station.

High chairs? Yes. Kids’ menu: Yes. Allergies? The staff is trained in the kitchen and all fryers are gluten free. Soy oil is used. Always alert your server in advance.

Grand Rapids, Ohio is just a hop and a skip from T-town. Your family will enjoy the quaint downtown while spending time along the Maumee River and the canal. Enjoy a bite at Knucklehead’s where you’ll find a variety of flavorful options as well as a friendly wait staff.

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All calendar events are subject to change, cancellation and limited size. Calling ahead for confirmation is recommended.

1 FRIDAY Fall Family Night & Spirit Stories Visit the museum grounds at Spiegel Grove for an evening of fall fun. From 3-6pm, enjoy apples and cider, pumpkin decorating, face painting, and a campfire with s’mores, plus $3 trolley rides, during Fall Family Night. Then, for $15 from 7:3010pm, join for Spirit Stories at Spiegel, which features spooks, historical drama, and a tour guide that will take you through the grounds by lantern light. Hayes Museum, Spiegel Grove, Fremont.

419-332-2081. rbhayes.org Garrison Ghost Walk - Take a guided tour after dark for a spooky hike around the Fort. Visitors from the past are sure to put a smile on your face. Boo! $10.

7-8pm. Fort Meigs, 29100 W. River Rd., Perrysburg. 419--874-4121. fortmeigs.org

2 SATURDAY School Day in 1893 - Visit the Oak Grove School House at Wildwood for a look back into our nation’s historic education system with an open house tour and conversation. No registration required. 10am-1pm. Wildwood, 5100 Central Ave. 419-270-7500. metroparkstoledo.com Free Walleye Opening Day - Bring the family to the Walleye Hockey home opening game at the Huntington Center. $20. 7pm. Huntington Center, 500 Jefferson Ave. 419-321-5007. toledowalleye.com Mommy & Me Fitness - Spend the morning with your young child at West Side Montessori for a free workout hosted on the natural playground. Bring a yoga matt. 9:30am. West Side Montessori, 13587 Roachton Rd., Perrysburg.

419-874-9385. montessoritoledo.org Free

3 SUNDAY Purse Bingo - Show your support for The Victory Center with a fun afternoon of purse bingo! Play ten rounds to win fabulous prizes. $30-$45. Funny Bone, 6140 Levis Commons Blvd., Perrysburg.

419-531-7600. thevictorycenter.org

5 TUESDAY Pizza & Pages - Middle Schoolers can choose from four biographies to read before the event, then talk about their findings over pizza and friendship. Book list online. 2:30-3:30pm. Wood County Library, 251 N. Main St., Bowling Green.

419-352-5104. wcdpl.org Free Rock Painting Workshop - Kids 5-10 years will work with artist Trudy Fails to create colorful rock art. 3-4pm. Maumee Library, 501 River Rd., Maumee.

419-259-5360. toledolibrary.org Free

6 WEDNESDAY Bot Bolt Robot Race - Ages 10-13 years will create Ozobots robots and have fun racing them against each other.

Who’s robot will be the fastest?

3:30-4:30pm. Sylvania Library, 6749 Monroe St. 419-882-2089. events.toledolibrary.org Free

Toddler Trails - Take an outdoor stroll with your young child through the trails at Wildwood. Register in advance. $2 per child. 10-11am. Wildwood, 5100 Central Ave. 419-270-7500. metroparkstoledo.com Free

Maker’s Mart

Nov. 16, 10AM - 7PM Handmade Toledo 1717 Adams St., Toledo

Enjoy a day of supporting local, shopping small, and celebrating Toledo’s makers! Maker’s Mart, celebrating its 5th year, is a one day, pop-up craft fair. Shop 80+ handmade vendors for the upcoming holiday season as you sip local coffee, enjoy craft cocktails and beer, nosh on some of Toledo’s food truck delicacies, and peruse the Handmade Toledo Maker Shop.

Baby/Toddler & Me Yoga

Nov. 7, 17 and 31, 10AM - 10:45AM The Olander Park System, Gorman Nature Education Center 6930 Sylvania Ave., Sylvania

8 FRIDAY Baby Tour - Take a guided tour of the TMA galleries with your youngster. The tour aims to engage visual literacy sensory responses at an early age while making families comfortable in the museum. 6-7pm. Toledo Museum of Art, 2445 Monroe St. 419-255-8000. toledomuseum.org Free

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Willy Wonka’s Escape Room The famous candy maker has opened up an Inventing Room at the Main Library, filled with puzzles to solve. Ages 10-13 years will work together to crack the code to escape the Inventing Room, but it’s all in good fun. 10-10:45am. Offered additional times Saturday. Main Library, 325 Michigan St. 419-259-5200. toledolibrary.org Free What Owls Eat - A Metropark Interpreter will give a presentation on owls at the Sylvania Library. Ages 5-10 years will construct an arts & crafts owl wing and learn about this nocturnal creatures.

2-3pm. Sylvania Library, 6749 Monroe St., Sylvania. 419-882-2089. events.toledolibrary.org Free

Play and practice yoga with your little one while singing songs, exploring movement, and connecting with other caregivers and children. This interactive yoga class is geared for children ages 6 months to 3 years. Register online at olander.recdesk.com, by email to programs@olanderpark.com. or call 419.882.8313, ext. 1004.

12 TUESDAY Improv for Teens - Members of the Glass City Improv troupe will lead a class for teens at the Maumee Library. Students will learn about short-form improvisational comedy, play role-playing games, and work together to create original jokes.

6-8pm. Maumee Library, 501 River Rd., Maumee. 419-259-5360. events.toledolibrary.org Free First Thanksgiving - Celebrate the holiday with traditional snacks, and learn more about the hardships the first settlers faced in the late 1600s. Register. $3 non-residents. 10-11am. Olander Park, 6930 Sylvania Ave., Sylvania.

419-882-8313. olanderpark.com

13 WEDNESDAY Taking the Sting Out of Behavior Caregivers are invited to this informational lecture designed to answer tough questions about children with autism and their behavioral challenges. Learn how to disarm conflicts and how to stay positive.

6-8pm. Lake Erie West Educational Center, 2275 Collingwood Blvd. 419-214-3066. esclakeeriewest.org Free

14 THURSDAY Blowing in the Wind - This Pre-K educational program will explore wind and the power of this invisible force. Register. $3 for non-residents. 10-11am. Olander Park, 6930 Sylvania Ave., Sylvania.

419-882-8313. olanderpark.com

Family Concert - Musicians Vester Frey, Peter Kharchencko and Larry Meyer will perform in the GlasSalon for families and their children, but is open to all ages. $5-$15. 10am-noon. TMA Glass Pavilion, 2445 Monroe St. 419-255-8000. toledomuseum.org Free

10 SUNDAY Authors, Animals and Art - This series will feature children’s book illustrator Stephen Savage of the book “Polar Bear Morning.” The author will be discussing the book and signing copies. Free with admission. 1-3pm. Toledo Zoo, 2 Hippo Way. 419-385-5721. toledozoo.org Perrysburg Chorale Concert The choir presents the program “Songs of Slavery, Survival and Freedom.”

2:30-4pm. St. Timothy’s, 871 E. Boundary St., Perrysburg. 419- 874-5704. perrysburgchorale.com Free

11 MONDAY Helping Boys Thrive Summit The symposium will feature guest speakers, delivering a variety of topics including “Helping Boys Thrive in School” and “Parenting in the Digital Age” and seeks to address contemporary issues students and their caregivers face in both academics and social settings. $25. 9am-3pm.

St. John’s Jesuit Academy, helpingboysthrive.org

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Student Information Night at MVCDS - Maumee Valley will host an information night regarding middle school enrollment. 6:30pm. Maumee Valley Country Day School, 1715 S. Reynolds Rd. 419-381-1313. mvcds.org Free Disenchanted Music Comedy The Perrysburg Musical Theatre presents “Disenchanted” a hilarious take on fairy tales. $15. 7-9pm. Additional performances through Sunday, 11.17. Knight Preserve, 29530 White Rd., Perrysburg. perrysburgmusicaltheatre.org

15 FRIDAY Your Night - Calling all teens! Students will receive special treatment all evening, play games, tour the galleries and have fun socializing at the museum. 6:30pm.

Toledo Museum of Art, 2445 Monroe St. 419-255-8000. toledomuseum.org Free

Mammal Mythbusters - Families are invited to learn more about wildlife habits and habitats while eliminating common misconceptions about bats, possums and other misunderstood creatures of the night. 7-8pm. Secor Metropark, 10001 Central Ave., 419-360-9179. metroparkstoledo.com Free

16 SATURDAY Maker’s Mart - Enjoy a day of supporting local, shopping small, and celebrating Toledo’s makers! Shop 80+ handmade vendors for the upcoming holiday season. $1. 10am-7pm. Handmade Toledo, 1717 Adams St. handmadetoledo.com Family Hike - Take an afternoon hike through Secor Metropark to view Bluebirds and other wildlife with thefamily.

1-2:30pm. Secor Metropark, 10001 Central Ave. 419-360-9179. metroparkstoledo.com Free

We’re ready for SNOW! Are you?

Christmas candy is in stock now!

Mon-Thurs: 11am-7pm | Fri: 11am-8pm | Sat: 10am-8pm | Closed Sunday

954 PHILLIPS AVE., TOLEDO OH | 419-720-7387 | WWW.BOYDSRETROCANDY.COM

Blade Holiday Parade - The annual Holiday Parade in downtown Toledo will feature marching bands, parade floats and a special visit from Santa and his reindeer. Don’t forget to bundle up and prepare for the weather. 10am. Summit & Jefferson Ave. bladeparade. toledoblade.com Free

18 MONDAY Homeschoolers - Register your homeschooler for the educational workshop “Native American Lifeways and Games,” hosted by Wood County Parks. Students will learn about NWO American Indian traditions and culture through demonstration and lecture. Register. 10-11:30am.

Otsego Park, 20000 W. River Rd., Bowling Green. 419-353-1897. wcparks.org Free

21 THURSDAY Teen Art Club - Teens are invited to work on art projects with all materials provided. A different art project will be featured monthly. 6-7pm. Oregon Library, 3340 Dustin Rd., Oregon.

419-259-5250. toledolibrary.org Free Art Loop: Jazz Loop - Multiple performances will take place at venues throughout downtown in honor of “the greatest piano player of all time.” Join the family friendly activities at the Imagination Station and other locales. 5:30-9pm., Downtown Toledo. theartscommission.org Turkey Tomfoolery - Families are invited to learn more about wild turkeys found in NWO with a Naturalist presentation, games and activities. 6-7:30pm. Knight Preserve, 29530 White Rd., Perrysburg.

419-353-1897. wcparks.org Free

Homeschooler Pottery Class Ages 8-14 years will create handmade ceramics using glazes to decorate. Register. $20. 10am-noon. 577 Foundation, 577 E. Front St., Perrysburg.

419-874-7174. 577foundation.org

22 FRIDAY First Day of Lights Before Christmas The Toledo Zoo’s annual display of over one million Christmas lights begins bringing joy and warmth to all visitors!

4:30pm. $19 for adults, $16 for kids and seniors. 2 Hippo Way. 419-385-5721 toledozoo.org

23 SATURDAY Levis Commons Tree Lighting Ceremony - The gigantic tree at the center of Levis Commons shopping center will be illuminated for the first time in 2019 at this special event.

6-7pm. 419-931-8888. shopleviscommons.com Free Hensville Lights Begin - Two-hundred thousand twinkling lights bring to life the buildings along St. Clair., and a 45 feet tall Christmas Tree in Hensville Park only adds to the festive atmosphere.

Entertainment and activities begin at 4pm, and the tree’s lights turn on at 6pm. The lights shine through Sunday, January 5.

Hensvilletoledo.com Free “The Call of the Wild” - The novel by Jack London comes alive on stage in this production following Buck the dog and is adventures in the Klondike. $15. 2-5pm.

Valentine Theatre, 410 N. Superior St. 419-242-2787. valentinetheatre.com Holiday Craft and Gift Marketplace Shop from over 100 local artists and vendors at the Holiday Craft and Gift Marketplace. Find unique holiday gifts for friends, family, teachers, and co-workers while supporting small businesses and buying local. 10am-5pm, Saturday.

11am-4pm, Sunday. Lucas County Rec Center, 2901 Key St., Maumee.

Bowling Green Holiday Parade Visit downtown BG for the annual parade down Main Street from 10am-noon. Don’t forget to grab lunch at one of BG’s restaurants and coffee shops. 10am-noon. Main & Wooster St., Bowling Green.

419-353-3693. bgchamber.net Free

26 TUESDAY The Native American Experience Learn from educator Taylor Moyer about the rich culture of NWO American Indian tribes. Space is limited so register in advance.7-8pm. Otsego Park, 20000 W. River Rd., Bowling Green.

419-353-1897. wcparks.org Free

27 WEDNESDAY “A Charlie Brown Thanksgiving” This classic cartoon feature film will be shown at the Wood County Main Library’s Children’s Place all day. 9:30am-4pm.

Wood County Library, 251 N. Main St., Bowling Green. 419-352-5104. wcdpl.org Free

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29 FRIDAY Fused Glass Ornaments Create a colorful and original ornament for the holiday season using decorative cut glass. Open to ages 7-10 with an adult and ages 12+. $38. Art Supply Depo, 29 S. Saint Clair St. 419-720-6462. artsupplydepo.com

Mondays

Free Admission Mondays The Toledo Zoo & Aquarium has an admission special on Mondays. Bring your identification to gain free admission. Free admission is valid for all Lucas County residents from 10am-noon. Parking rates apply. (Non-residents tickets are $16-$19 and free for kids under 2.) Zoo hours are 10am-4pm. Toledo Zoo, 2 Hippo Way. 419-385-5721. toledozoo.org

30 SATURDAY Magic Show with Andrew Martin The magician brings his light-hearted sleight-of-hand and illusions to the Main Library’s children’s space Saturday. 2-3pm.

Main Library, 325 Michigan St. 419-259-5200. toledolibrary.org Free

Tuesdays

Family Center Open - The Family Center to Toledo Museum is open to kids and their guardians to create crafts, read story books and play games in the community play room. Stop by and see what art project is going on. Parking rates apply.

Open Tuesdays & Thursdays, 10am-3pm.

Fridays, 3:30-8pm. Saturdays & Sundays, Noon-5pm. Toledo Museum of Art, 2445 Monroe St. 419-255-8000. toledomuseum.org

marketplace EVENTS BRISTOL DOLL & TEDDY BEAR SHOW November 16th 9am-5pm at Historical Fort Meigs 29100 W. River Road, Perrysburg, OH

Gathering Volumes Storytime This ongoing storytime is hosted every Tuesday. 10-10:30am. Gathering Volumes, 196 E. South Boundary, Perrysburg. 567-336-6188. gatheringvolumes.com Free

Thursdays

Morning Storytime This weekly storytime for families with toddlers and babies runs about 30 minutes and features picture book stories, songs and movement. 10am. Wood County Library, 251 N. Main St., Bowling Green.

419-352-5104. wcdpl.org Free

Little Scientist Workshops This weekly workshop open to ages 3-6 years engage children to explore the world around them using simple scientific skills.

Themes in October include Noisy Boxes, Delicious Digestion and Them Bones. $5-$7 plus admission. 11:30am-12:15pm.

Imagination Station, 1 Discovery Way. 419-244-2674. imaginationstationtoledo.org

Saturdays Think Tank Workshop - Students will learn basic sewing techniques to create outrageous holiday fashion. Offered all Saturdays Saturdays in November.

Additional admission charge. $6-$8.

2pm. Imagination Station, 1 Discovery Way. 419-244-2674. imaginationstationtoledo.org Skate Lessons These weekly lessons are open to kids 2- 13 years and includes skate rental and small drink. $5. 10:30-11am.

Ohio Skate, 1370 Conant St., Maumee. 419-893-4031. maumee.ohioskate.com

Sippy Cup Storytime Reading Barefoot with Lindsey hosts a weekly Saturday story hour. Children wilplay, sing songs and listen to a story while the adults enjoy a hot beverage of their choice. Please support the shop.

9:30-10:30am. SIP Coffee, 3160 Markway Rd. 419-407-5038. facebook.com/barefootlindsey Free Storytime at Plate One Meet other families with young children at this weekly storytime hour. Parking is free at any meter. 11:30am. Plate One, 420 Madison Ave. 419-385-2121. facebook.com/plateone Free

ADVERTORIAL

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE = EQ

Fact:

Montessori classrooms have big feelings and even bigger outcomes!

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is like IQ in the way that we are all born with an innate starting point, and it can be strengthened or diminished with nourishment or neglect. EQ is often described as the ability to recognize, understand, cope with, and express our emotions in appropriate ways.

Our society has high pressure for academic advancement but often overlooks EQ. While Montessori classrooms will always strive, as we should, to support our students’ academic toledoparent.com success, we particularly owe it to our students to listen to their hearts, to make sure they have the vocabulary to express their feelings and the absolute confidence that they will be heard with understanding.

Increasing EQ and IQ

teachers, students gain strong skill sets developing their own emotional intelligence.

Montessori students learn to have an enhanced awareness of their own emotional process and their ability to build EQ. It is this pivotal moment that they become better problem solvers, gain more self-control, and root themselves with empathy for others.

Montessori teachers undergo high levels of child-centered training, equipping them with the tools necessary to foster high EQ and IQ. Montessori teachers strive to develop and model their own skills in listening, speaking, and relating.

Through this ongoing level of high EQ from the

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Feeling big emotions

To all parents: When you allow yourself to feel big emotions and demonstrate managing your emotions appropriately, your child will gain confidence in managing his own feelings. Allow your child to FEEL big emotions. Every single time you override your child’s feelings (telling him he is “ok or fine” before he articulates his feelings) you are sending

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a message that his feelings do not matter. Not only does this chip away at his ability to acknowledge his own feelings, but it stifles emotional intelligence.

Start by finding a balance during an emotional breakdown by connecting emotions (right brain) with language (left brain). Doing this regularly not only strengthens the capacity to find balance after an upset, but it also creates a more integrated brain. It is crucial to remember that our children are not trying to give us a hard time when they are HAVING a hard time. When we take the time to skillfully respond to children who are upset, we help them integrate their brains, develop their emotional intelligence, and practice skills that will last a lifetime.

Written by Brandi Parcell, Perrysburg Campus Director.

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