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3 VBD MAGAZINE About Us 6 LETTER FROM THE EDITOR-IN-CHIEF Ann Marie Bryan

24 TABITHA BOULDIN Contemporary Christian romance of adventure with heart 25 SEAN D. YOUNG Sweet and spicy romantic fiction

7 MEET OUR CONTRIBUTING WRITERS VBD PIONEERS’ PARADISE 10 BISHOP JOHN & ELDER ANNMARIE BAKER Leading with distinction and excellence 13 PASTOR MICHAEL & DR. BARBARA NELSON Anchored in Him and serving with love

26 ERIN ELISE KIU Trusting God with your love story VBD BEYOND THE PAGES 30 ENTREPRENEURIAL GAME CHANGER Tamika Newhouse, CEO of AAMBC, Inc. VBD COVER STORY

VBD LITERARY DEN 18 DR. TERESA A. SMITH Transformational leader and visionary 21 WHAT’S LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT? 22 A BELIEF IN BEAUTIFUL TOMORROWS Bestselling author Josie Riviera

34 ERIC & DR. SAKEISHA HYLICK The secrets of successful marriages

VBD Magazine VBD STAR POWER LIST 40 10 POWER COUPLES ON THE MOVE Successfully balancing life, family, and work

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80 COACH JUAN CARLOS ROTJES Helping others develop their tennis game 82 ANGELA CUNNINGHAM My Story is for God’s Glory

EDITOR-IN-CHIEF Ann Marie Bryan MANAGING EDITOR Kerry-Ann McPherson FEATURES EDITOR Dr. Henritta Stewart CONTRIBUTING EDITOR Icylin Morgan STYLE EDITOR Beverlyn Johnson Wilks COPY EDITOR Paula Hamilton STAFF WRITER Shanita Rowsey

VBD LOVE ZONE 68 ATTORNEY MARK C.A. JENNINGS Creating a powerful legacy 71 HOW CAN WE BE INTIMATE LIKE JESUS CHRIST AND THE CHURCH? 72 DAMARIS NIGHTINGALE Snore No More

86 ALEX & EVANGELIST LISA MARIE MORTON Loving with intention and living well 90 LOVING A GOOD, EXPENSIVE, TREASURE - YOU

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Dr. Velma Bagby Waletta Dunn Ramona Powell Pastor Danyelle Scroggins

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ove is everywhere in this issue as we sail under the theme “love and relationships.” We dedicate this issue to you who understand the transformative power of love, who love unconditionally, who understand that love is a more excellent way, and who are not afraid to shake things up in your relationships or ask ‘why,’ for clarity.

Inside this issue, you’ll find a wide range of literary, business, empowerment, and relationship related articles. Get ready to read encounters of the heart tales—first love, love that called softly, unexpected connection, second chance at love, divorced and remarried, and finding love during retirement— that are bound to warm your heart. These couples are fierce, fabulous, and embracing happily-ever-after. On top of that, they dug into their archives to bring you photos that are as captivating today as when they were taken. Our cover story highlights dynamic Relationship Experts Eric and Dr. Sakeisha Hylick, founders of the Marriage Can Win platform and Producers of the Becoming a Millionaire Power Couple TV Show. Look out for our Star Power List of couples who are successfully balancing life, family, and work. You’ll be glad we featured Tamika Newhouse, bestselling and award-winning author and host of the AAMBC Literary Awards. Thank you for helping us to establish VBD Magazine as a leading literary and empowerment haven for aspiring and established authors, writers, entrepreneurs, ministry leaders, purpose-driven influencers, and other phenomenal individuals in the faith-based community. Enjoy this issue. Stay safe, stay connected, and as always, stay victorious.

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DR. VELMA BAGBY

RAMONA POWELL

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Author, Teacher & Inspirational Speaker

Dr. Velma Bagby is the CEO of Adoni Publishing LLC, an Award-Winning Author of Christian Fiction/Creative Nonfiction, and co-author with her granddaughter on her children’s books. She is also a Christian Dating-Relationship Coach, ordained Minister (Th.D.), and Speaker. God is at the forefront of everything she does in ministry, writing and in serving others.

Ramona Powell is an author, teacher, and inspirational speaker. She has used her upbringing in a Christian home to help channel her love for Christ and her desire to be an inspiration to all. "Sometimes we go through things to strengthen our faith and to be a testament to others." She loves sharing her life experiences to show that no matter what life throws at you, you can overcome and prevail.

WALETTA MASON DUNN

DANYELLE SCROGGINS

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Waletta Mason Dunn is the author of five Christian fiction novels. She was born in Bossier City, Louisiana, received her undergraduate degree from Texas College in Business Administration, and earned a graduate degree in Public Administration from the University of Oklahoma. She and her husband have been married for 36 years and have two adult children. They reside in Tallahassee, Florida.

Danyelle Scroggins is the Senior Pastor of New Vessels Ministries North in Shreveport, Louisiana, and Chaplain at Ochsner LSU Health Center, Louisiana’s trauma one health center. She owns Divinely Sown Publishing LLC and is an author of both Christian fiction and non-fiction books.

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ave you been wondering how to make a marriage work? We have an amazing couple who is not only building the next generation of powerful leaders but is also teaching couples how to keep the spark in their relationship.

Bishop John E. Baker and his wife Elder Ann-Marie Baker are leaders of New Hope International Outreach Ministries (NHIOM) in Tallahassee, Florida. “NHIOM is a Pentecostal, Bible-believing church with a message of salvation, reconciliation, and hope through faith in our Lord Jesus

BE MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY READY TO HELP EACH OTHER GROW. THE PERSON YOU ARE WHEN YOU JUST GOT MARRIED IS NOT THE PERSON YOU'LL BE IN THE YEARS TO COME. YOU HAVE TO HELP EACH OTHER GROW AND MATURE.

Christ,” says Bishop Baker. “Our mission is to reach the lost with the Gospel of Jesus Christ, to develop mature believers by teaching them the principles of the Word of God, and to release men and women into Christian ministry through the empowerment of the Word of God and the Holy Spirit.” The couple has been in ministry for the past 41 years, and throughout the years have hosted many conferences, leadership seminars, coaching workshops, and community events. Kingdom builders, Bishop and Elder Baker have developed

VBD Magazine several top-producing leaders and have helped countless people find God’s plan and purpose for their lives. The couple has preached in many states here in the USA, and they have also spread their wings and have taken the gospel and their teaching on families/marriages and leadership development to other countries, including England, Canada, India, Jamaica, Haiti, Trinidad, Barbados, and Ghana. In Tallahassee, the Bakers are known for holding the NHIOM Family Life Conference in the summer of each year. “Families are experiencing many challenges due to changes in family structure and other societal and spiritual pressures,” Elder Baker tells us. “Our life changing conferences seek to equip and empower people to overcome these challenges and to lead healthy and productive Christian lives.” The Bakers are passionate about seeing people break through the bondages in their lives and invite success into every area. During February of this year, Bishop and Elder Baker hosted a virtual prayer conRESPECT EACH OTHER'S ference, along with 5 other purpose-driven SPACE. ESTABLISH ministry leaders—Pastor Ricky Williams, HEALTHY HOBBIES TO Sr., Overseer Bernard Salmon, Bishop PROVIDE A SENSE OF Designate Overseer Keith Linton, Pastor Rendell Smith, and Elder Paulette McFarINDEPENDENCE, YET lane. Under the theme, “God is in Control: TOGETHERNESS. On Time, On Track, Declaring the Sovereignty of God,” the time of intercession was a blessing to the attendees. Following THE ROLES OF HUSBAND & WIFE the prayer conference, the Bakers will “Do you think what it means to be a good host NHIOM’s Prayer Summit on July wife or husband has changed over the time 16, Family Enrichment Seminar on July you’ve been together?” That was one of 30, and Believers’ Conference September our questions to Bishop and Elder Baker. 15th thru 19th. Participants will be able to attend in-person and virtually. “Both the husband and wife are evolving,” Elder Baker remarks. “Even so, the founTHE MINISTRY OF MARRIAGE dation principles such as love, honor, and Bishop and Elder Baker got married on respect remain the same. How you perform March 7,1981 in Mandeville, Jamaica. such acts may change.” After 41 years of marriage, they are still committed to God, loving each other, “I agree,” Bishop Baker declares. “Love, and teaching others to do the same. The honor, respect, devotion to each other, havcouple first met during their college days ing each other’s best interest at heart, and in Jamaica and began courting soon after making provisions for the family, remain they realized they were interested in the same. The way and the opportunities each other. The Bakers made it clear that we get to carry them out may change marriage should be seen as a ministry and over time because as my wife indicated not be neglected to pursue other activities. we are evolving.

PIONEERS’ PARADISE We believe it is important to have a prayer life and allow God to lead concerning your roles among other things. It is so important to pray for your mate out loud. It lets your spouse know what you are praying about concerning them and it makes a difference when they know what you are praying concerning them.” PRACTICAL THINGS TO PREPARE FOR IN MARRIAGE Marriage is a momentous occasion in life, but it is also a life-changing experience. From Bishop and Elder Baker, here are a list of practical things to look out for: • Be prepared for a period of transition and adjustment. • Prepare to help each other grow mentally and physically. The person you are when you just got married is not the person you’ll be in the years to come. You have to help each other grow and mature. • Encourage your spouse. • Pray for wisdom so you’ll know when to step back and allow each other to grow. • Get a Godly mentor for your marriage. Being able to have wise counsel along your journey is important. BUILDING A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE Bishop and Elder Baker have successfully maintained a healthy marriage and are mentoring other couples. They share the keys to keep the fire burning in your marriage: • Always put God first. • Listen to each other and forgive each other. • Listen to those who love you and offer sound advice. • Be open to learn, change, and grow. • Understand that what works for others may not work for you. • Don’t try to pattern everything that was done in your parent’s home. Find the flow for your marriage. • Rely on each other's strengths. For example, one person may be good at finances so allow that person to handle the finances. • Discuss your roles in the marriage. • Set clear boundaries to protect your marriage. • Agree that divorce is not an option.

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eggshells. We can express ourselves in a respectful way. I understand that I have to answer to God. I don’t want to live a charade because I want to live the life that I preach. At the same time, I don’t only want to preach what I have mastered. So, I challenge myself to reach my next level as a husband. When counseling other couples, I encourage them to do the same. Keep the slate clean. Ephesians 4:26 says ‘Be angry, and do not sin, do not let the sun go down on your wrath.’” Elder Baker reveals, “I’m a vocal person and usually make my opinions known; however, I have matured over the years. I am more conscious of how my words may affect my husband and family and make a greater effort to choose the right words. I’ve also learned to compromise and forgive, and my husband does the same.”

THE INFLUENCE OF RELIGION ON A MARRIAGE The individuals’ religious views can have a negative or positive impact on their marriage. “Religious beliefs are important,” Bishop Baker states. “That’s why the Bible talks about being unequally yoked. For how can two walk together unless they agree? Religious views can affect every area of a couple’s life. If you are a Christian, then you have to line up with someone who is going in the same direction.”

WE BELIEVE IN KEEPING THE “SLATE CLEAN.” IT IS IMPORTANT TO US TO RESOLVE CONFLICT QUICKLY, NO MATTER HOW DIFFICULT IT IS. THE LONGER YOU ALLOW IT TO LINGER, THE HARDER IT WILL BE TO CONFRONT.

CREATING BOUNDARIES IN A MARRIAGE To maintain a healthy marriage, bound- HANDLING CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE aries are important. Here are the couple’s Conflict in a marriage can make or break the relationship. suggestions: • Respect each other’s space by establishing healthy hobbies to provide a “We believe in keeping the slate clean,” sense of independence yet togetherness. Elder Baker states. “It is important for us • Create space for your spouse by includ- to resolve conflict quickly, no matter how difficult it is. The longer you allow it to ing them in outside friendships such as linger, the harder it will be to confront.” the opposite sex. • Ensure your spouse feels secure in you Bishop Baker adds, “As a husband, I and the marriage. set the ‘temperature’ in my home. I am • Listen to the needs of your spouse and strongly committed to not let my words honor them. deflate my wife. We do not create an • Prioritize and divide your space, focus, environment where we have to walk on and time.

ADAPTING TO THE NEW NORMAL Over the past two years of the COVID-19 pandemic, many people have struggled to adapt to the change in a positive way. One of the things Bishop and Elder Baker miss most is the ability to travel. However, they found a way to turn a negative situation into a positive one. Since the COVID-19 outbreak, they have created a new normal for their family—every Monday night, the Bakers host “Family Prayer Night” with their children. “It’s a time to check in with our children and pray together. This has been really special to me,” says Bishop Baker.

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astor Michael and Dr. Barbara Nelson are the founders of Standing In Faith Restoration & Re-entry (SIFRR), Inc. and pastors of Soldiers Outwardly Restoring Discipleship (SORD) Church in Houston, Texas.

“We answered the call to the ministry 30 years ago, and never looked back,” Pastor Michael states. “The Lord called us to pastoral ministry, and we said, ‘yes’ to the call.” VBD Magazine sat down with Pastor Michael and Dr. Barbara to discuss the work being done by their ministries, the keys to a successful marriage, and how to resolve coanflict in a marriage. It was wonderful to get golden nuggets from this dynamic couple who are a blessing to so many.

WE GOT TO WHERE WE ARE TODAY BY TRUSTING IN THE LORD, APPLYING THE WORD OF GOD IN OUR LIVES, AND JUST BEING INSTRUMENTS OF THE LORD.

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PARTNERING IN MINISTRY In many congregations, husbands and wives work together in ministry, and this holds true for Pastor Michael and Dr. Barbara. “We love working together and one of the activities that we really enjoy doing is ministry,” Dr. Barbara tells us. “We have several ministries—prison, marriage, and restoration, to name some.” The couple serves people from all walks of life, but are passionate about those who are homeless, incarcerated, hospitalized, and survivors of domestic violence. “They have a special place in our hearts,” Pastor Michael mentions. Pastor Michael and Dr. Barbara’s calling has become a way of life, so they have been laboring to bring their mission to fruition.

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PIONEERS’ PARADISE SIFRR sails under the banner, “What you make happen for others is a benefit for us all!” The mission of SIFRR is to serve the community through mentorship programs, job training, job referrals, and assistance with food, clothing, and housing. SIFRR was presented with the Religious Service award during the Texas Governor’s 2017 Criminal Justice Volunteer Service Award program. “We got to where we are today by trusting in the Lord, applying the Word of God in our lives, and just being instruments of the Lord,” Dr. Barbara states. “This has led many individuals to accept the Lord as their personal Savior. The Word says, He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek him. God will keep His Word. He has truly rewarded us to get to where we are today.”

WE LOVE WORKING TOGETHER AND ONE OF THE ACTIVITIES THAT WE REALLY ENJOY DOING IS MINISTRY. The Lord entrusted Pastor Michael and Dr. Barbara with the SORD Church to make disciples by equipping them with Word of God and aligning them with an accountability plan for the Glory of God. Also, the SORD Church provides marriage seminars for couples via Zoom and now in-person. In addition, they operate Standing In Faith - Restoration & Re-entry which is dedicated to helping lost and struggling people find their path. This non-profit is a resource for in-house computer and resume training, connecting for job and life skills training, halfway houses, transitional housing, pantries, work source solutions, and assistance with clothing. Throughout the pandemic, the couple have had to modify the way they operate their ministries by using online meetings and limiting in-person interactions. However, under their strong leadership and guidance, their ministries have continued to contribute to the well-being of the underserved.

strong foundation. To get off on the right foot, discuss your religious beliefs on marriage and the role that religion will play in your marriage.

KEYS TO A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE Pastor Michael and Dr. Barbara have been married for 32+ years. Their number one piece of advice for a successful marriage is for couples to “communicate with each other.” They were also willing to give helpful and practical pointers for couples preparing for marriage: • Have conversations about household responsibilities like cooking, house cleaning, washing laundry, taking out the trash, and so on. • Talk about your work schedule and see how best you can manage your time. • Decide who is the best person to handle your finances.

WE BELIEVE MARRIAGE IS AN INSTITUTION DESIGNED BY GOD. WE BELIEVE THE BIBLE TEACHES THAT THE COVENANT OF MARRIAGE IS SACRED AND LIFELONG. GOD’S DESIGN FOR MARRIAGE Religion qualifies as one of the important topics to discuss before marriage. As Christians, we know that applying biblical principles to marriage will give us a

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Here is Pastor Michael and Dr. Barbara’s biblical view of marriage: “We believe marriage is an institution designed by God. We believe the Bible teaches that the covenant of marriage is sacred and lifelong. The Bible makes it clear that marriage is a legally binding public declaration of commitment between one man and one woman, never between the same sex. We believe God established a wife to a husband and a husband to a wife, and they are to receive one another as God’s unique and personal provision to help meet their mutual needs. We believe God has charged each husband to fulfill the responsibility of being the ‘head’ (servant leader) of his wife. We believe a husband is to seek after and highly regard his wife’s opinion and counsel and treat her as the equal partner she is in Christ.” CONFLICT IN RELATIONSHIPS To deal with conflict in a relationship, here are the couple’s suggestions: • Pray about the conflict. • Set a specific time to discuss the conflict. • Go into the discussion with a positive attitude and an open mind, to seek a solution. • If the conflict cannot be resolved between the two of you, then seek a God-fearing mediator. INSPIRATION TO BECOME AN AUTHOR The anthology project, Blessed Not Broken; The Power of Transformation, created the avenue for Dr. Barbara to become an author. “I was inspired by the Word of God on forgiveness. I was carrying a load for years. With my husband’s help, directing me to the Word of God on forgiveness, that allowed me to tell my story in the anthology. I have never been the same since. To God be the glory for all that He has done.”

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ABOUT THE NELSONS DR. BARBARA NELSON is a wife, mother, grandmother, God-mother, and spiritual mother. She is the Founder of Standing In Faith – Restoration & Re-Entry. She also Co-Pastors The SORD Church alongside her husband, Pastor Michael. She has been serving in ministry and community outreach for over 30 years. With her ongoing quest to give, she has been able to promote significant, positive change in communities and individuals through advocacy, empowered by compassion. She takes pride in engaging in a civically based approach to community building as she is committed to a life-long service based on personal and professional experiences. In addition to her educational achievements, Dr. Barbara is a licensed and ordained pastor. She has been honored on several platforms for her corporate leadership and her leadership in Standing in Faith – Restoration & Re-Entry. She was honored at the National and Independent Gospel Music Association ‘Ladies of Virtue Tea’ with the collaboration with The Rhythm of Gospel Music Awards for outstanding work in communities, churches, and social organizations. Dr. Nelson has also been featured as a contributor for the monthly prayer for Epitome Magazine. She has made Television Community Announcement appearances on the Great Day Houston Program, Houston Community College HTV Networks and made Radio Community Announcement Appearances on Houston KKHT FM 100.7 Radio, Tuesday’s CALLED TO INSPIRE with Dr. Sylvia and Houston Media Source and GOT V.O.I.C.E - Victorious Outcomes in Christ Empowerment Broadcast. Dr. Nelson has also been selected as one of the Top Most Inspiring Women which will be featured in the upcoming CALLED 2 INSPIRE International Magazine’s Inaugural Edition. Following her chapter, “From Rape to Restoration,’ in the anthology project, Blessed Not Broken; The Power of Transformation, Dr. Nelson will be releasing a new book soon. Stay Tuned!

PASTOR MICHAEL NELSON is an honored graduate of Commonwealth College of Funeral Services. He has served in the funeral industry for over 30 years. He is married to his lovely wife Dr. Barbara Nelson for 32 years. They have 2 children, 2 grandchildren, and are Godparents of 5. Pastor Michael has a heart of compassion for those whose loved ones have gone on before us, the homeless and those who have been incarcerated. He has formed an Overcomer’s Coalition for men released from prison. Current members of the Overcomer’s Coalition have the skills necessary to help those who have been incarcerated. Only those who have walked in their shoes can comfortably give the Godly and sound advice needed. The Overcomer’s Coalition support group is truly a blessing for the men to come

together and see each other online. Just to see the men's eyes light up when they can now see someone that they have spent time within the prison system. To God Be the Glory for ALL that He has done! The Coalition serves those nationwide. Pastor Michael is a Co-Founder of Standing In Faith Ministries, Inc. along with his wife. This is a ministry of restoration with a mission to restore individuals back to God, the community, and ultimately to the nation. In addition, he and his wife Co-Pastors The Soldiers Outwardly Restoring Discipleship (SORD) Church.

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VBD: What was the hardest part about writing the story? Dr. TAS: Because Transformation is not a novel and is non-fiction, it was hard to identify the 10 crucial foundational transformational steps. The next difficulty I faced was determining how to convey the life messages from a coaching stance instead of a directive to model honoring the reader's self-development process.

r. Teresa A. Smith (Dr. TAS) is an author, coach, prophetess, speaker, talk show host, and radio contributor. Her first book, Stronger: How Overcoming Life's Adversities Can Push You Into Your Purpose, was listed number two on the list of 20 books Oprah should read in 2019. As an incest and trauma overcomer, she lives life with the mantra, "I own who I am." This mindset motivates her to appreciate and accept life circumstances in her quest to reach her fullest potential and help others achieve theirs. VBD Magazine had an opportunity to speak with Dr. TAS about Transformation, her amazing book. “Transformation is a guide to assisting others in developing an unapologetically spiritual life for themselves and in service to God,” says Dr. TAS. In our interview, the trailblazer discussed the inspiration behind her latest release, what she hopes readers will take away, and something readers would be surprised to know about her. VBD: What inspires you to write? Dr. TAS: As a child, I was a voracious reader and observer of people, and I wanted to write about the connection between self-esteem and goal attainment. This grew into a desire to help people understand the spiritual and life lessons born from pain. I write self-help books that may sample "real life" to help the reader connect to the message. I have written four books, Stronger: How Overcoming Life's Adversities Can Push You Into Your Purpose, Back in the Day Anthology, From Bravery To Victory, and Transformation. I write to help people understand that they have a significant role in this world and be open to self-development, shifting their perspective, and appreciating the here and right now moments. My writing reflects who I am and how I live my life. You will always find references to God, real-life spirituality, and honesty. VBD: What inspired your latest book? Dr. TAS: After reading my first book Stronger: How Overcoming Life's Adversities Can Push You Into Your Purpose, my readers wanted to know how a person be-

MY WRITING REFLECTS WHO I AM AND HOW I LIVE MY LIFE. YOU WILL ALWAYS FIND REFERENCES TO GOD, REAL-LIFE SPIRITUALITY, AND HONESTY. comes stronger. For me, the transformation process was intuitive. But to answer their question, I journaled daily about how I managed my experiences. My journal entries were the inspiration for my new book Transformation. Transformation provides ten thought-provoking messages to guide the reader in their process of becoming stronger. VBD: What did you learn from writing this book? Dr. TAS: Transformation is ongoing, and I have to remain open to discovering how my individuality, environment, relationships, and legacy events influence my perspective. And that it is normal for my viewpoint to shift because I'm in a constant learning, reflective, transformative mindset. Also, it is unrealistic and unfair to expect my loved ones and friends to immediately grasp the significance of my transformation when I am still growing. Change is challenging and it's more challenging for those closest to me because they have to adapt to who I am becoming. Patience with myself and others has become critical to my transformative journey.

VBD: What would be the Scripture verse that fits this story and why? Dr. TAS: St. Matthew 6:34 provides knowledge and hope in living life. The Scripture reads, "Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don't get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes." (MSG) Each of us has experiences that propel us either forward or backward. When we fixate on the event and what may happen next, we fail to see the opportunities in front of us. When we appreciate that God is a transformer, we realize that unpredictable life events are part of our evolution. VBD: What message do you hope readers will take away after reading this book? Dr. TAS: To own their future because it is personal, and they do not owe anyone an explanation about their path to self-discovery. Don't become discouraged, for the route will be hard and full of emotional highs and lows. Keep going, keep putting the work in, and they will discover their response to life's experiences has transformed.

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I PUT THE WORK IN DAILY TO BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF MYSELF AND HAVE SETBACKS LIKE EVERYONE ELSE. This North Carolina native holds a doctorate in Education Leadership from Liberty University, an MBA from Elon University, an MA in education counseling from North Carolina Central University, and a BS in criminal justice and psychology from UNC-Chapel Hill. She is a licensed school counselor, national certified counselor, national certified school counselor, and life coach.

VBD: What is something readers would be surprised to know about you? Dr. TAS: I don't have all the answers. I put the work in daily to become the best version of myself and have setbacks like everyone else. However, I allow myself to fully experience emotions, but I don't put up a tent. I must keep moving forward! What's next for you? Dr. TAS: 2022 has brought new opportunities with the launch of my new show, Transform With TAS. Transform With TAS combines my love of cooking and coaching. The show has cooking segments and interviews with individuals who share their transformative rebirth. You can watch the Transform With TAS Show on my YouTube Channel I am also writing my first children's book. It is fiction, and I am thoroughly enjoying writing from a creative posture. This book will be released in the fall.

TRANSFORMATION IS ONGOING, AND I HAVE TO REMAIN OPEN TO DISCOVERING HOW MY INDIVIDUALITY, ENVIRONMENT, RELATIONSHIPS, AND LEGACY EVENTS INFLUENCE MY PERSPECTIVE.

ABOUT DR. TAS Dr. Teresa A. Smith is a true visionary who genuinely wants everyone to succeed. You don't have a conversation with Dr. TAS without her attempting to push you into your purpose; this has been her MO her entire life.

Dr. Smith has over 27 years in the education field as a school counselor and vocational rehabilitation counselor, State Education Agency special projects coordinator, early college high school consultant and student support services program manager, cultural and linguistic competence coordinator, and 21st century community learning center afterschool program grant writer and program director. In Capella University School of Social and Behavioral Sciences, Dr. Smith serves as faculty director, responsible for management oversight and mentorship for approximately 120 part-time and adjunct faculty. Her talk show Transform with TAS shares healthy cooking tips that strengthen God's vessel and spotlights individuals who have learned to thrive regardless of their circumstances. You can watch the Transform with TAS Talk Show on YouTube. Dr. TAS, Talk with TAS segment airs on ConversationsLive on ABC NEWS Radio KMET 1490AM. Dr. TAS works with both small and large audiences as if she is working with each audience member individually. Her warmth, wacky sense of humor, and telling it like it is delivery is what people remember.

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s a Christian author, my goal is to present Christ’s love to my readers, even if they are non-believers. We have been saved by the blood of Jesus and enjoy all the blessings that come along with His sacrifices. But God desires that none should perish. So how do I foster a relationship with my readers and present Christ? And what’s love got to do with it? Here are a few things to remember: Keep Going Writing can be difficult; it’s more than just putting words on a piece of paper. Things like anticipating immediate success, negative reviews, and rejection can wreak havoc on our emotions. Since our purpose is to share the love of God, it is a labor of love. The Bible says that the thief comes to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10, KJV). That includes creative ideas and concepts. Recognize the wiles of the enemy, deal with it with the Word of God, and keep writing.

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Get to know your readers We are called to minister to the lost. If we separate ourselves from them, how can we be used to meet their needs? Jonah was sent to Nineveh, and he went the other direction (Jonah 1:3, KJV), rendering himself ineffective. Let’s get to know our readers. Connect with them, show them how God brought us through, and how He can do the same thing for them. Get involved Your book is written, the reviews are in, and the sales are coming. Now you can become a part of the solution. Does your book address the homeless situation? If so, join an advocacy group, donate clothing to a local shelter, or provide a meal to someone sleeping on the street. Love is an action word. What’s love got to do with it? Everything. It’s all about love—Christ’s love for us and our readers. Readers may pick our novels to learn more about social issues, but they should walk away knowing that God loves them and cares about them and their issues. Someone needs to hear from you. Keep writing, get to know your readers, and get involved.

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A BELIEF IN BEAUTIFUL TOMORROWS

Josie Riviera USA TODAY Bestselling Author by Shanita Rowsey

“Have you ever tried something you were afraid to try because it mattered so much to you? I did when I started writing. Take the chance everyone and just do something you love.”

osie Riviera is a USA TODAY bestselling author of contemporary, inspirational, and historical sweet romances that read like Hallmark movies. She lives in the Charlotte, NC, area with her wonderfully supportive husband. They share their home with an adorable shih tzu who constantly needs grooming, and live in an old house forever needing renovations.

VBD: Why do you write? JOSIE: I am inspired to write because I want to provide joyful romance books that are inspirational, light, and positive, with a guaranteed happily ever after. Books are meant to be delightful, and transport us to another place. While I touch on serious topics such as opioid abuse, international adoption, and spousal issues, I hope my books are lighthearted, sweet, and wholesome. My goal is to deliver a well-written book to my readers and leave them with a happy sigh. VBD: What genre do you write? JOSIE: I write sweet and inspirational

Christian contemporary and historical romances and have written over 40 books. These books are available in ebook, paperback, large print paperback, hardcover, and audiobook. VBD: Tell us about some of your writing accomplishments. JOSIE: I am a USA TODAY bestselling author. In addition, I have been awarded the Golden Pen award by RWA for Seeking Fortune, my historical inspirational romance about the Romany Gypsies, as well as being a two-time finalist for InD’tale magazine for 1-800-Summer and Seeking Rachel. Both my Christian contemporary romance, Seeking Rachel, and inspirational historical romance, A Homecoming To Cherish, have been reviewed by Publishers Weekly. VBD: What are three elements that are always present in your writing? JOSIE: Three elements that are always present in my writing are ethics, positivity, and representing Christian values.

VBD: What inspired your latest book? JOSIE: The inspiration for my latest book, A Summer To Cherish, came from a real-life experience. The book centers on a renowned painter, the hero, who is going blind. He is bitter and struggling with his faith. VBD: What did you learn from writing this book? JOSIE: From this book, I learned that perseverance pays off. The heroine is encouraging and upbeat, and her faith never wavers. The hardest part of writing this story was writing the hero. I loved him from the beginning of the book, and his struggles became my struggles. VBD: What would be the Scripture verse that fits this story and why? JOSIE: There are many Scripture verses that fit this story. The one I always kept in mind is, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7, NIV VBD: What message do you hope readers will take away after reading this book? JOSIE: I hope readers will understand that people matter, not what they do for a living. God will call you at any age and in difficult seasons. You just need to listen for His voice.

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Six sweet small-town inspirational romances to warm your heart! A LOVE SONG TO CHERISH It’s easy to recognize another’s pain. The tough part is facing your own.

A CHRISTMAS PUPPY TO CHERISH You don’t need ears to hear God’s plan. All you need is an open heart…

A CHRISTMAS TO CHERISH There’s nothing a Christmas kiss won’t cure. Except perhaps a shattered heart…

A HOMECOMING TO CHERISH All relationships require a commitment but is she ready to sacrifice her heart again?

A VALENTINE TO CHERISH Valentine’s Day is all about love. And God has a special plan for a small-town woman and a road-weary singer.

A SUMMER TO CHERISH Faith is fragile. Faith takes time. And the best solutions are always painted with love.

The complete Cherish Series is exclusively in one large collection. An amazing value at the pre-order price of only $2.99 These sweet and wholesome stories, where God is at the center, brim with love and laughter.

Find out why readers are falling in love with Cherished Hearts series & staying up all night reading. Cozy up with your favorite beverage and lose yourself in the joyful seasons of love.

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Tabitha Bouldin CONTEMPORARY CHRISTIAN ROMANCE OF ADVENTURE WITH HEART

If you’re an aspiring author, be patient. There will be times when it seems like you're never going to reach the next milestone. Don't let it overwhelm you or make you quit.” MADNESS IN WONDERLAND Check out Tabitha’s Madness in Wonderland (Beyond Wonderland Book 1) which is a hit with readers.

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Click & Get Online THE BLURB Wonderland is in trouble. Under the rule of the Red Queen, Wonderland is under constant threat. In fear for her throne, children are taken into the queen’s army and only the strongest survive. Alice is nothing but a pirate, but with the help of Hatter, they hatch a plan to sneak into the Red Queen’s palace to free Hatter’s sister. After all, Alice has always wanted to fly an airship.

abitha Bouldin has a bache- Faith is part of everything I write. With lor's degree in creative writ- each story, I ask, ‘What do You want me ing/English from Southern to accomplish with this book?’ I always New Hampshire University. learn something about myself with each She is a member of American novel. God always shows up in the writChristian Fiction Writers (ACFW) and ing, usually in subtle ways I don’t even has been writing since 2015. When she's notice until I’m going through the second not homeschooling her kids, you'll find or third edit, but also in big ways that say, her curled up with a book or adventuring with her camera. ’Here He is!’ “

“I never knew I wanted to be a writer. In 2015, through God’s wonderful blessing, I became a stay-at-home mom. After writing in every spare moment for three years, I created a series I thought deserved to be published. Seeing all those pages, I felt a nudge from God that it was time to set the books free.

WRITING ADVICE “Find your writing people. Writing is often a solitary venture, but it is better with friends. Writing friends are a tremendous asset. They'll be there to help you talk through problems and encourage you when you want to quit.

Dr. Frank N. Stein has created an army of automatons to serve their queen. Of particular note: a prototype soldier. Part man. Part machine. The best of both worlds. Doc’s monster is a threat to everything they know, but Alice sees something in the man that begs she look beyond what he’s done and search out the heart of the beast for the better of the realm. He’s their only hope of survival, but how can a monster learn to love when all he’s known is hate?

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LITERARY DEN enjoys working in her church and lives in Northwest Indiana with her family. SECRETS FROM THE HEART If you’re looking for sweet small town love stories and spicy contemporary romance, check out Sean’s latest release, Secrets from the Heart (Clover Creek Book 2). THE BLURB Taking over her family’s charming and historic Red Rose Inn is a dream for Kira Davis—even if it means the extra stress of knowing the entire Davis clan is watching her every move. But ignoring her family’s wishes and hiring too-handsome Franklin Bennett as her temporary new manager might be a huge mistake… given their families’ decades-long feud. Yet attraction still sparks between them, proving to ex–army engineer Franklin there’s something real beneath the surface. Something hopeful. Something unmistakable. But pursuing Kira could prove dangerous for a man with an uncertain future.

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Now Kira and Franklin are caught between an ancient family feud and their feelings for each other. The only way they can love each other is by unraveling the terrible truth about what happened back then… and hope that love is strong enough to mend the break from so long ago.

SWEET & SPICY ROMANTIC FICTION by Beverlyn Johnson Wilks

“Even when you want to quit, keep writing. Believe in yourself so much that when you want to quit, you can’t.”

ontemporary Romance Author Sean D. Young, a native of Gary, Indiana, uses her vivid imagination to craft heartwarming and passionate love stories that deal with family, forgiveness, promise, romance, and redemption.

everything she could get her hands on. She joined her first book club “Sweet Pickles” at the age of 7. Writing would come later, when she wrote short stories for her own enjoyment, and then she wrote the Easter play for the youth at her church at the age of 12.

Her debut novel Total Bliss was published in 2005. At an early age, Sean found that she loved words and tried to read

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WITH YOUR LOVE STORY by Erin Elise Kiu

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few tears fell down my cheeks as I gazed out over the ocean. I had been praying that God would bring me a husband, but I was frustrated that I wasn’t seeing God move. I had been fully committed to walking in God’s ways for a few months now, including waiting until marriage to have sex again, but God wasn’t confirming the desires I had for this guy at church.

When I first surrendered my love life to God, I doubted whether I would find a guy who loved God. But a few months after I started going to a new church, I noticed this cute Asian guy, Jeff, on my volunteer team. When Jeff prayed over the team, it was the most beautiful and sexiest thing I had ever seen, and I could see Jeff’s heart for God and people from his interactions with others at church. As I started to like Jeff more, I prayed that he would ask me out. Some weeks Jeff engaged me in conversation when I saw him at church, but other weeks he barely said a word to me. I left church some days in tears, crushed that he may not like me back. A few months went by, but Jeff still hadn’t asked me out. I debated asking him out for coffee to get to know him better, but the Holy Spirit told me not to ask him out. I knew Jeff was supposed to be the leader and pursuer in the relationship, so I trusted that if he was the guy that God had for me, then God would tell him to make a move. I waited, prayed, and waited some more. As my desires for Jeff grew, my impatience and frustrations also grew as time went on. I cried out to God, “God, why do I like this guy when he doesn’t even seem interested in me?” As I prayed, I asked God to take away my desires if Jeff wasn’t my future husband. I also declared that if Jeff was the one, that he would know I was the one that God had for him, and that he would have the confidence to pursue me and ask me out. After nine months of liking Jeff, I fully surrendered my heartbreak and doubt to

God, and convinced myself that Jeff wasn't the one. Deep down, I still liked Jeff, but I told myself it was time to move on. I was sick of liking someone for so long who didn’t like me back. Even though it felt like my heart was broken, I felt this unexplainable peace from God. I was done trying to make things happen, and God was the one in control. I kept my distance from Jeff at church to protect my heart, but a few months later things started to shift, and the miracle I had been praying for unfolded at the Christmas party for our volunteer team.

Jeff made an effort to talk to me all night and seemed interested in getting to know me as more than just a friend. When I started pulling out of my parking spot after Jeff walked me to my car, I almost hit the truck parked next to me because I was so flustered. “God, is this finally happening? Is Jeff pursuing me?” A few weeks later, Jeff sat next to me during our church’s New Year’s Eve service. He started texting me, and a few days later, he finally asked me out. Nine months after our first date, we said “I do” in front of God, our family, and closest friends.

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LITERARY DEN God’s ways and timing don’t always make sense, but we must trust that his timing is better than we could ever imagine. If you are praying and waiting on God for a spouse, here are 3 things to focus on as you trust God with your own love story: DECLARE GOD’S WORD As you pray for God to bring you a spouse, memorize and declare God’s Word to renew your faith. If you’re not sure which Scriptures to pray, these are the Bible verses I prayed the most when I needed hope: “Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you your heart’s desires.” - Psalm 37:4 NLT “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” - Matthew 6:33 NLT “Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.’” - Genesis 2:18 NLT REMEMBER YOUR ANSWERED PRAYERS When you start to doubt whether God will bring you a spouse, take time to consider all that God has done in your life. Remembering how God has moved in the past renews your faith. The God that performed miracles in your life before is the same God who is capable of bringing you a spouse.

ABOUT ERIN Erin Elise Kiu equips women to live set apart for Jesus while navigating singleness and dating in a way that honors God. Erin encourages single women with God’s truth on her Fun & Holy blog and in her free, 14-day future husband prayer challenge. Click & Get Online BE FAITHFUL WHERE GOD HAS YOU When you’re single, it’s tempting to think that this season of waiting for a spouse is wasted, but God has a purpose and plan for your life right now. As you pray for a spouse, ask God to show you what he wants you to focus on in this season. Your single life matters, and God is using this season to make a difference to others, and to prepare you for what’s to come.

After experiencing her own transformation with God, Erin published her first book, One Transforming Love, as a Christian Fiction novel to inspire other young women to discover the love of Jesus and to break free from living in the party and hookup culture.

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rom teen mom to the author of 18 books and the winner of 8 African American Literary Awards, Tamika Newhouse is a literary icon in her own right. A quick glance into her journey reveals her boundless creativity as she uses her platform and literary prowess to provide opportunities for Black creatives worldwide.

This visionary is the CEO of African Americans on the Move Book Club (AAMBC) Inc., which aims “to develop interactive literacy-based programs centered around African American books and those who write them.” Further, Tamika created Delphine Publications by the age of twenty and has successfully released over three hundred titles as a producer and writer. She is the powerhouse behind the groundbreaking AAMBC Literary Awards, the only entertainment literary awards show for Black creatives. “Never be intimidated by those who share the same dream… there’s room for all of us to be successful.” Tamika’s openness has endeared her to her clients and supporters. Through her literary knowledge, influence, and relentless drive, she has launched the careers of many in the publishing industry, helping them to fulfill their dreams. There is no stopping this trailblazer. Tamika created Traces of Mika, a podcast “designed for Black girls who dare to dream.” In Season 1, Tamika shared her “journey to success as a Black woman and single mother, along with her ups and downs in the publishing industry and relationships.” The highly anticipated Season 2 chronicled Tamika’s “experiences through unfiltered and candid conversations.” Traces of Mika is available for viewing on YouTube and Amazon Prime. Today, Tamika is still on her entrepreneurial pursuits, producing her first film and documentary called Traces of Mika, an adaptation of her podcast. VBD Magazine is honored to inspire you with Tamika’s story, words of encouragement, and advice. VBD: Tell us about you and your journey. TAMIKA: I was born to tell stories and to

BEYOND THE PAGES gather and influence people, almost like a prophet in a sense. I help to elevate a lot of writers, creating events and experiences that inspire people. This all started when I began living in San Antonio. I was new and did not have any friends, so I went on MySpace and began talking about the books I was reading. I discovered authors this way, who just wanted me to read their books. I was so accustomed to seeing the same black writers being honored that I couldn’t believe that there were hundreds and hundreds of other black writers, just like me. I began to host a podcast called AAMBC radio and a book club. I promoted black books and hosted interviews because I was simply discovering their stories and sharing it with the world. From there, my organization grew into something bigger than I would have ever imagined. VBD: Why did you start the AAMBC Literary Awards? TAMIKA: AAMBC stands for African Americans on the Move Book Club, because the awards were birthed from the book club. I wanted writers like me to have the opportunity to be honored, but I did not want to do it like a ceremony or graduation. I’ve always had that innovative approach to books, to make it fun, inviting and engaging. So from the very beginning, I wanted AAMBC to be entertaining and decided to model it from the music industry. It would be as grand as the Grammys or Oscars, with the red carpet, formal attire, celebrity hosts, and performances. I wanted us to walk the red carpet like we were stars as well. My dream was to have a literary award show as a star-studded event, and that’s what it is today.

and editing industries. Some of them include author activist, best book club, best male writer, best female writer, best screenwriter, best independent publisher, best audiobook – you name it. My desire is to honor all of them. VBD: What are three major keys to building a successful literary business? TAMIKA: From my experience, I have learned three things. First, you must know your voice, niche, and audience. Second, you must have a game plan and consistently put that plan into action. Third, you have to build relationships. When you have all those things flowing, you’re destined to be successful and grow. VBD: What other services do you offer authors? TAMIKA: I offer a wide range of services, including interviews, virtual conversations, book tours, and media tours. I own a management company called Delphine Legacy Media that helps writers to develop their brand, discover their brand voices, and generate marketing ideas and campaigns. VBD: What advice do you have for authors? TAMIKA: Always remember that you’re an artist first. When you’re settled on this, and you understand your audience, you’ll know how to market to them. For example, everyone is not going to be interested in your book, so don't say your book is for everybody because your book is not for everybody. Find an artist you admire, observe how they market to their audience, and learn from them.

VBD: How has your vision for the AAMBC Literary Awards evolved? TAMIKA: The awards event has caught the eye of major studios and streaming services, so I feel like it’s only a matter of time before it is seen by millions and billions of people.

VBD: How do you successfully practice work-life balance? TAMIKA: It’s all about prioritizing and organizing your day, especially if you have multiple projects and activities. You have to be really disciplined. You can't work on everything every day. Also, you can't work on every idea all at the same time either.

VBD: What are the categories for the AAMBC Literary Awards? TAMIKA: Wow, we span so many categories that expose and celebrate creatives in the podcasting, filmmaking, publishing,

VBD: What helps you to keep going when things are tough? TAMIKA: Honestly, myself. I am definitely my biggest cheerleader, but I’m also my biggest critic. Then I would have to say

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ABOUT TAMIKA Tamika Newhouse is a self-made bestselling author and the CEO of AAMBC INC., a creative agency for Black Writers. She overcame the projected stigma that teen moms can’t have it all, by working in the radio and literary industries to soon create Delphine Publications by the age of twenty. She has created a publishing empire that has housed more than thirty writers at a single time. Releasing nearly three hundred titles as a producer and writer, she assists others in chasing their literary dreams as well, producing films, curating large events and festivals, and publishing books. Believing authors deserve more recognition, she created the AAMBC Literary Awards, the only entertainment literary awards show, with a healthy lifespan of 13 years running. Her festival, Black Writer’s Weekend, is a meet-n-greet celebration merging Black writers with fans from across the country. A motivational speaker and advocate for mental health, Tamika encourages others to take pride in taking care of their well-being. She gives motivational speeches at events throughout the country, inspiring others to fearlessly achieve their lifelong aspirations.

my network—I lean on my relationships and the value they create. Best of all, sometimes when I’m not able to go on and keep moving forward, my name continues to speak for itself. It continues to flow through walls and rooms even when I’m not in them. VBD: What’s next for you? TAMIKA: I’m excited to share that I’m

producing my first film and documentary called Traces of Mika, which is an adaptation of my podcast. Also, I’ll be releasing my 18th book and the third season of my podcast. Further, I’ll be hosting my literary arts festival called ‘Black Writers’ Weekend’ and opening a bookstore called Lit Diaries. And of course, I’ll be producing my awards show.

In Tamika’s short 14 years, she has released 18 books of her own, many of which have appeared on several bestseller lists, earning her much recognition and multiple awards. As an inductee of San Antonio’s Who’s Who and a three-time winner for Best Self-Published Author, she has gained more honors, awards, and notoriety over the years, recently adding an Adcolor nomination for Innovator of the Year. Adweek once called her “The Shonda Rhimes of Black Publishing” in their 2020 Summer issue. In 2021, she won an Urban MediaMakers Film Festival award for Best Podcast. Tamika Newhouse is proving to be a trailblazer who’s creating a lane for Black creatives to be heard and respected with no signs of slowing down.

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• LOVE STORIES YOU WILL NEVER FORGET. • INTENSELY EMOTIONAL YET BEAUTIFULLY ROMANTIC. • LOVE GUIDED THEM TO PRECISELY WHAT THEY NEEDED —EACH OTHER.

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Eric & Dr. Sakeisha Hylick The Secrets of Successful Marriages by Ann Marie Bryan

“While marriage is a sacred, lifelong commitment, it is not always easy to stay true to the vows. Couples struggle through the daily stresses of life that can chip away at the health of a relationship.” – the Hylicks 34

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elationship experts Eric and Dr. Sakeisha Hylick have made it their mission to help couples build strong marriages, balance marriage and business, and create generational wealth. Married for 23 years, the Hylicks tackle “The Great Divide in Marriages”—challenges with communication, finances, and sex— with ease. The visionaries are probably best known for their Marriage Can Win books, seminars, radio show, and podcast. There were no shortcuts in their journey, as Eric and Dr. Sakeisha have had to overcome the odds, both personally and professionally. They were reared in single parent homes and decided at the initial phase of their marriage that divorce was not an option. Determined to make their marriage a success, the power couple strives to be transparent in their marriage, while working tirelessly to provide the tools and techniques to help other marriages thrive. Today, the Hylicks are witnessing the manifestation of their dream. They are the founders of Ultimately Y.O.U., along with wearing the titles of Marriage and Relationship Success Strategists, TV Producers, John Maxwell Certified Coaches, Speakers, and Trainers, Generational Wealth Builders, Bestselling Authors, and Podcast Hosts. Eric is an ordained minister and founder of Covenant Kingdom Builders Ministries. He is a graduate of Florida A&M University (FAMU) with a bachelor’s degree in Computer Information Systems and an MBA in Project Management. Dr. Sakeisha is also a FAMU graduate with a bachelor’s degree in Chemistry and a doctorate in Pharmacy. She is a retired registered pharmacist that has served in a leadership capacity for 18+ years. Dr. Sakeisha has co-authored books such as Girl Get Up and Win, Wife Material, and the newly released Money TALK$: Uncut Convos With Power Couples About Love, Money & Entrepreneurship (Volume 2). Together, Eric and Dr. Sakeisha published 2 books, Marriage Can Win and Struggling To Keep The Vows. The Hylicks are

MARRIAGE IS A CONSTANT LEARNING PROCESS. THE PERSON YOU ARE AT YEAR 1 IN YOUR MARRIAGE IS DIFFERENT FROM WHO YOU ARE AT YEAR 5, YEAR 10 AND SO ON.

CONVERSATIONS THAT COUNT From meeting on social media, to blind dating, to a series of unusual or touching events, there’s always a good story about how a couple meet and establish a romantic relationship. So what circumstances were put into motion for Eric and Dr. Sakeisha to create their happily-ever-after?

“We met in a parking lot at FAMU in Tallahassee,” Eric reveals. “As our friendship grew, we would visit Lake Ella in Tallahassee and talk for hours. Constantly being sought-after guest speakers and conference in touch with each other no doubt formed hosts throughout the US’s Southeast Rethe foundation of our special relationship.” gion, the West Coast, and Hawaii. “Yes, it was very important to establish a friendship before moving on to a relaIn a candid conversation with VBD Magtionship,” says Dr. Sakeisha. “Particularly azine, the Hylicks share their love story, a because we both came from divorced surprise that they learned about marriage, parents and did not wish to repeat this and tips for running a business with your situation.” spouse. Whether you’re at the beginning of your marital bliss or you’ve been on CELEBRATING LOVE the road for a while, their journey is a “We had wedding days, but that’s a long reminder to love passionately and pursue story,” Dr. Sakeisha volunteers, laughing your goals relentlessly. Dive in and find a little. “Eric and I got married the first out the secrets of great marriages. time in the Bahamas, while we were in college. We knew that living together was not what God wanted for us. We did not YOU HAVE TO tell our fathers but took our mothers and went to the Bahamas and made it official. CONSTANTLY CHECK

IN AND SEE HOW YOUR SPOUSE IS GROWING AND EVOLVING.

We were scheduled to have our ceremony on the beach, and it was a rainy day. I cried a bit, because we thought we would have

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to cancel our wedding, but God showed up! It stopped raining minutes before the time for the ceremony. I cried, but this time, it was tears of joy. Three years later, we had another wedding, this time with our friends and family. It was a blessing because my dad’s cancer returned months later, and he passed away the following year. He was able to walk his little girl down the aisle as he had always dreamed.” THE SURPRISE ABOUT MARRIAGE After the wedding day, a couple will embark on the biggest adventure of their lives. The first year of every marriage is a time of change and adjustment that lays the foundation for the marriage. We pose this question to the Hylicks— what is a surprise that you learned about marriage? “That is a good question, because marriage is a constant learning process,” Dr. Sakeisha states. “The person you are at year 1 in your marriage is different from who you are at year 5, year 10 and so on.” “You have to constantly check in and see how your spouse is growing and evolving,” Eric adds. “Just like you do a regular check up on your vehicle, you have to do the same in your marriage. We like to call it preventative maintenance for your marriage.” BUILDING A LEGACY Being the pioneers of the Marriage Can Win platform is a great achievement but equally important to Eric and Dr. Sakeisha is the legacy they are leaving in terms of the wisdom and principles that their business embodies.

Sakeisha adds. “Also, we want couples to take away principles that can help them grow when it comes to communication, finances, and intimacy.”

BUILDING AN EMERGENCY FUND AND PAYING OFF DEBT WILL HELP COUPLES AVOID LIVING FROM PAYCHECK TO PAYCHECK.

“Many couples must learn how to transition from the business mindset to the personal mindset when they get home,” Eric claims. “Whatever you feed will grow, so you constantly have to nurture and prioritize your marriage, just like you do your business.” BECOMING A MILLIONAIRE POWER COUPLE TV SHOW The Hylicks have an inexhaustible foundation of creativity. They have become the host and TV producers of Becoming A Millionaire Power Couple TV Show.

“This is a movement to demonstrate how to build strong marriages, establish successful businesses, and create generational RUNNING A BUSINESS WITH YOUR wealth for families worldwide,” says Dr. SPOUSE Sakeisha. “We are working on the second “The legacy that we want to leave is The Hylicks are building a legacy, cre- season of our TV show, and we are super one that encourages couples to fight for atively advocating for marriages, and excited. We always like to step outside of their marriage, to show couples how to strengthening their tools and strategies with our comfort zone, so this season is going complement one another and not compete, their own experiences. Together, they are to be completely different from our last and how to grow together in their marriage providing the blueprint for entrepreneurs season.” without losing their own individual iden- to become industry experts. tities,” says Eric. FINANCIAL ADVICE 101 “Couples must establish boundaries,” Dr. Arguments over finances top the other “While we do encourage couples to leave Sakeisha tells us. “What happens in the issues that cause stress and disagreements a legacy financially, it is the wisdom and business stays in the business. Do not bring in relationships. If it is left unaddressed, principles that we aspire to share with those challenges home. Also, they must this will have a negative impact on the them to help them prosper financially,” Dr. separate the bedroom and the boardroom.” relationship.

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position that he/she holds. Therapy can help couples see challenges in their marriage from an unbiased perspective KEYS TO A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE There are many ways to keep your marital bliss. Here are tips from the relationship experts to keep the depth, richness, and spark in your relationship: • Prioritize your spouse and marriage. • Communicate openly and honestly about everything. Be mindful that communication is a two-way street that requires you both to talk to one another instead of at one another and listen as well. • Spend quality time together to nurture your relationship. • Learn to appreciate and forgive each other. • Recognize that it is okay to disagree. • Work out your roles and maintain meaningful emotional connections. • Pray together and support each other. • Keep your physical connection alive. WEATHERING A STORM At points during a marriage, dark clouds will roll in and couples will be caught up in a conflict. These storms can come in many shapes and sizes, but fear not, there are ways to get around, through, or over these trying times.

WE WHOLEHEARTEDLY BELIEVE IN MARRIAGE THERAPY; IT SAVED OUR MARRIAGE. To strengthen financial accountability, Eric recommends that couples, “Develop a financial plan. This is going to require transparency and vulnerability. No secrets, which will eradicate the trust in the relationship. A budget is necessary not, optional; aka live within your means. Building an emergency fund and paying off debt will help couples avoid living from paycheck to paycheck. Multiple streams of income are necessary.” MARRIAGE THERAPY “We wholeheartedly believe in marriage therapy; it saved our marriage,” Dr. Sakeisha discloses. “Often couples tend to shy away from therapy because of fear of how they will be perceived or because of the

“Couples can endure a marriage storm by being committed to working on the relationship and walking in forgiveness,” Eric remarks. “It is important to recognize that each person has imperfections, but it is key to focus on each other’s strengths instead of weaknesses.” Click & Get Online

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OVERCOMING THE GREAT DIVIDE “Our books, Marriage Can Win and Struggling To Keep The Vows, will edify and be of value to couples, especially if one or both are entrepreneurs,” Dr. Sakeisha informs us. “The books will also help couples who are committed to overcoming the great divide in relationships, such as issues with communication, finances, and sex.”

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10 POWER COUPLES ON THE MOVE Successfully balancing life, family, and work

VBD Magazine is honored to present 10 power couples who are successfully balancing work, life, and family. The amazing duos open up about their love stories, the secrets to keep the spark in a marriage, and keys to work-life balance. They will have you falling in love all over again.

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Michel & Johane Filemon DESTINED TO BE TOGETHER

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he way this power couple came together is a story made for a romance novel. Michel and Johane Filemon were born in Port-au-Prince, Haiti and raised in Orlando, Florida. They were born 6 days apart. Their parents were friends, and their moms even went shoe shopping together while they were pregnant with them.

Amazing, right? With that said, Michel and Johane did not become friends and start dating until college. Eventually, they tied the knot in a dreamy wedding, and now have five wonderful children. “We got married young; we were 24 years old then, and we have learned plenty along the way,” Michel mentions. Today, Michel and Johane have been together for almost 20 years but married for 15 years. “Our favorite thing to do is to be with each other,” says Johane. “We have yet to get tired of seeing each other daily and being in each other’s presence is always a thrill. We’re not only in love with each other, but we love and respect the individual we each are.” STRENGTHENING A RELATIONSHIP Talking with Michel and Johane about ways to strengthen a marital relationship, they agreed that listening to each other is very important. “Everyone says to communicate,” Michel remarks, “but I would recommend focusing on the listening part the most so that when you respond, it’s based on what was actually said and not what you thought you heard.” Johane adds, “Learn each other’s love languages and learn to love your partner in that love language. Showing love without understanding your partner’s love language can lead to a lot of disappointment. Trust us, we’ve been there.” WORK-LIFE BALANCE The Filemons smile when we mention work-life balance. “With five kids, careers, and businesses, finding the right balance all the time is almost impossible,” Johane tells us. “What we’ve learned over time

is that the traditional version of worklife balance doesn’t exist. Instead, we’ve come to realize that priorities can change depending on the time or situation.” Michel states, “Sometimes work and business require more focus, while other times we make more of an effort to do things with the kids, and other times we recognize that we need to spend more time with each other. “ TIPS FOR COUPLES CONSIDERING MARRIAGE “It’s simple - you create the rules for your marriage,” Johane reveals. “We realized early on that some of the advice we received, while well-intentioned, would not work for us. No marriage will ever be identical to another. So, talk with each other, find out what works for you, and be willing to listen, learn, and correct course.”

ABOUT THE FILEMONS Johane Filemon holds bachelor’s degrees in Exercise Science from Florida State

University and Dietetics from the University of Georgia, and a master’s degree in Food and Nutrition Science from the University of Georgia. She’s a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist and the owner of Wonderfully Nutritious Solutions, a virtual nutrition consulting practice where she helps clients nationwide overcome chronic pain and inflammation by transforming their gut health. Michel Filemon has a bachelor’s degree in Information Studies from Florida State University and an MBA from Florida A&M University. He currently works as a risk management professional within the financial services industry after 9 years as a healthcare business consultant with a multi-national consulting firm.

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Auguiste & Patricia George Open up about their romance, the importance of having a Christ-centered relationship & becoming empty nesters

uguiste and Patricia met in the Fall of 1983 during their first semester at the College (now University) of the Virgin Islands, in St. Thomas, U.S. Virgin Islands. They were first introduced by a mutual friend and over the course of the next several months they ran into each other quite a bit. Auguiste worked as a library aide through the College Work Study program and had the opportunity to see Patricia every time she came to the library... and no surprise she too got a job at the library. They got to know each

other very well and developed a lasting bond that quickly blossomed, which led to them being known as the “love birds”. They both continued their studies at Florida A&M University (FAMU) and got married shortly after in Tallahassee, Florida. Their union was blessed with four wonderful and talented children: Veronique, Dominick, Dietrich, and Ayanna. Tallahassee, a family-oriented city, was the perfect place to raise their family – fostering a safe, fun-filled, and academic hub that was ideal for this young family. Over the

years they have connected with wonderful, supportive friends who have helped them settle in a place where they originally had no family. Their family has expanded to now include daughter-in-law Jazmine George (Dominick's wife), and son-in-law Benjamin Fox (Ayanna's husband) and 3 adorable grandchildren, Jayce and Carter George and “Benji” Fox. The Georges’ reputation as a nurturing, caring family has been under girded by their faith in Jesus Christ and being active members of their church. They served

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VBD Magazine STRENGTHENING A RELATIONSHIP “One sure way is to have a very strong relationship with Jesus Christ, making Him the center of your relationship,” says Auguiste. “If He is the source, the closer you get to Him is the closer you get to each other. With that in mind, the next best thing you can always do is to forgive, apologize, and always be willing to do so.” EMBRACING LIFE AS EMPTY NESTERS At this stage in life, with all kids grown and gone from the nest, Auguiste and Patricia have more time to focus on each other. With both working from home, it makes the work-life balance easier knowing that they are just a floor apart. “I have always kept just one job with no travel, since it is important to have an impactful presence in our family life,” Auguiste reveals. Smiling, Patricia tells us, “I love taking ‘mental health' days to relax and I also enjoy mini vacations with Auguiste.” They also enjoy having lots of fun with their furball Koda, an 8-year old Yorkshire terrier. This couple’s central guiding principle has been God first, family second, and everything else afterwards, including church and work.

cheerfully while attending New Hope International Outreach Ministries under the leadership of Bishop John E. and Elder Ann-Marie Baker. They currently attend Restoration Place in Tallahassee, where Pastor Richard Ledford is Senior Pastor. At church, they love being active in ministry rather than just attending and have been involved in various church ministries. Their lives have been guided by biblical principles and purposeful living – ministering to many whom they come in contact with. Auguiste and Patricia take great delight in the fact that their children have

TIPS FOR COUPLES CONSIDERING MARRIAGE “Remember that the covenant you are making is with God. Having the same core beliefs and values is a good foundation. Honor God and He will honor, bless, and all obtained college degrees, are gainfully prosper your marriage,” Patricia states. employed (two are self-employed), and “Courtship should be a time of exploring are productive, responsible young people. and finding out some of the quirks, likes, and dislikes of the person you're preparing to spend the rest of your life with. During Although the COVID-19 epidemic has this time, you may discover and appreimpacted the social landscape, they remain ciate that your differences may actually connected to their church and are able to be complementary and lead to a stronger, do some traveling, especially short trips healthier and more vibrant relationship.” to the beach and other getaways. Patricia and Auguiste have been married for 36 years, and hope their relationship can Auguiste adds, “Ask all the tough questions now so that you can hedge off any provide inspiration, encouragement, and surprises later. Talk about finances, sex, mentoring to those who are married as children, family, friends, music, church, well as those who are thinking of getting retirement, work, and social, political, and married. They look forward to many more economic issues. The trials, tribulations, happy, healthy, and blessed years together.

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temptations, and hardships will come but once you have that basic understanding and know whom you are marrying, you can weather the most turbulent storms.”

ABOUT THE GEORGES Originally from Dominica, Auguiste attended the St. Mary's Academy, a Catholic high school. He was raised by his grandmother in his early years and migrated to St. Thomas in 1980 to be with his parents. Graduating from Eudora Kean High School in 1983, he majored in Data Processing at the College of the Virgin Islands. After graduating from Florida A&M University in 1985, Auguiste enjoyed much success in the IT industry – as a business owner, software engineer, manager and now an IT Director for an IT healthcare firm. His hobbies include photography, beach outings, home improvement projects and technology. Patricia was born in Virgin Gorda, British Virgin Islands and was raised in St. Thomas, USVI by her beloved aunt and uncle. She attended All Saints Cathedral School as well as the College of the Virgin Islands. In 1985, Patricia continued her education at Florida A&M University in Tallahassee, majoring in psychology. Patricia worked for many years in library science at FAMU's Coleman Library. For over two decades, she has worked for the Florida's Department of Children and Families. Patricia enjoys volunteering in community outreach, prayer, and couples ministries. Her other interests include home decor, real estate, traveling, reading, and singing. Patricia's friendly and helpful personality leads her to meeting new and interesting people. She firmly believes that we connect with others by being intentional in cultivating new relationships.

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35 YEARS & STILL BETTER TOGETHER

ichael “Mike” and Jenny engaged couple at the encounter. One Crowley were married at question asked by the group leaders was, Good Shepherd Catholic “What quality attracted you to your partner?” Church in Tallahassee, The younger participants gave answers Florida in 1987. They describing appearances. Mike’s answer first met in January 1985 on a blind date was “Jenny’s independence.” Jenny agreed set up by good friends who thought they it was true for Mike as well. would like each other – and they were right. Mike and Jenny also shared respect for COMING TOGETHER each other, commitment to their marriage During an “Engaged Encounter Weekend,” vows, their faith, and their love of family. During the weekend, they developed a life required by the Catholic Church and led plan and have followed it throughout their by several married couples, Mike, 40 at the time, and Jenny, 37, were the oldest lives together. They have supported one

another especially when providing care for their aging parents until their deaths, job challenges, and staying true to their vows “in sickness and in health.” SPENDING TIME TOGETHER Since their retirement in 2007, they have cruised to Alaska, through the Panama Canal, to Iceland, the Mediterranean, the Pacific, and Northern Europe. They have visited Australia and New Zealand, and countries in North America, Central America, South America, Europe, and Asia but have not made it to the Arctic,

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Antarctic, or Africa - yet. Their vacation trips are active with hiking, kayaking, viewing gardens and museums, exploring national parks, and, of course, visiting their families. Their next trip, a cruise on the Great Lakes, will be to celebrate their 35th wedding anniversary. At home they enjoy walking, reading, cooking, OLLI at FSU, attending FSU Women’s Basketball games, and spending time together and with Kerry and Molly, their beautiful Brittany dogs. FUN FACTS Cool things and happy surprises about the Crowleys: Mike – uncle, brother, dog parent, Auburn fan, retiree, gardener, wood carver, world traveler. Jenny – aunt, sister, dog parent, FSU fan, retiree, nurse, computer nerd, world traveler. TIPS FOR FOREVER TOGETHER To keep a marital relationship going and the flames of passion alive, we ask the Crowleys about tips for couples considering marriage. “Marriage is all about compromising. Both partners should feel they are the one giving the most. This only applies if you share the same values, such as work ethic, managing money and commitment to the relationship,” says Jenny. Mike adds, “How do you know what your partner thinks? Discuss these topics before marriage.”

ABOUT THE CROWLEYS Michael Anthony Crowley, born in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, moved from Ohio to Panama City, Florida with his family when he was in high school. They had lived in several mid-Western states because of his dad’s job as manager of various G.C. Murphy stores. Mike is a Bay High graduate, a US Navy veteran (corpsman), and an Auburn University graduate with a degree in accounting. In 1973, the State of Florida Department of Transportation hired Mike as an accountant. He retired from the Florida Department of Financial Services as a Financial Administrator after

completing 32 years of service with the State. Mike is an enthusiastic wood carver. He has won several awards for his carved spoons, ornaments, and animal figures. He enjoys the challenge of taking a block of wood and creating an artwork with carving tools. Mike’s short story “Rudy: My First Bird Dog” appears in Life Lessons: Writings from the Osher Lifelong Learning Institute at FSU. It is a story he wrote to help his wife when she was an editor compiling the OLLI book project. An avid gardener, Mike’s favorites are roses, camelias, and perennials. Outdoor activities he enjoys are fishing, hunting, bird watching, bike riding, and taking their dogs to the local dog park. He is the President of the Capital City Carvers. From Gwinnett County, Georgia, Jenny Huston Crowley graduated from Emory University with degrees in English and nursing. In 1974 Jenny went to work at Tallahassee Memorial Hospital as an OR nurse. There she met and worked with Tallahassee’s first neurosurgeons, Dr. Frank Davis and Dr. James Geissinger. They hired her to be their private scrub nurse. That began her 30-year career with the Tallahassee Neurological Clinic, and she retired as the Practice Administrator.

One of Jenny’s ambitions in retirement is to write her memoir. It is a work-inprogress. Her published memoir stories have received awards and appear in Life Lessons: Writing from the Osher Lifelong Learning Institute (OLLI) at FSU and the TWA Seven Hills Review. Her book reviews have appeared in the Tallahassee Democrat and Southern Literary Review. Jenny loves OLLI at FSU - attending classes, lectures, and volunteering. During the pandemic, learning how to use Zoom and helping OLLI students and instructors use Zoom kept her busy. Planning vacation trips is also her “job” and hobby. She stays active with water aerobics, Zumba, cooking and walking with Mike. Jenny is a member of Sigma Theta Tau International Honor Society of Nursing. She is a past President and Secretary of TWA, a past OLLI Volunteer of the Year, a 2017 KCCI Community Catalyst, and a Board Member of the Bryan Robinson Endowment of the Tallahassee Memorial HealthCare Foundation.

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Dr.Ethan &Mrs.Sheena-Hope Dixon CONFIDENT, FABULOUS & EMBRACING HAPPILY EVER AFTER

wo people in love can radiate attractiveness, power, and joy. In celebration of love and passion, VBD Magazine is delighted to feature Dr. Ethan Dixon and Mrs. Sheena-Hope Watson Dixon. This young power couple is supporting each other as they push their limits and stand in purpose to positively impact lives.

In 2015, Ethan and Sheena-Hope met but did not start communicating on a regular basis until 2016 when they connected again at a Caribbean Premier League cricket match. Soon after, the duo decided to build a solid friendship and learn about each other. “On January 1, 2017, Ethan asked me to be his girlfriend, and I said yes,” Sheena-Hope reveals. “What a lot of people didn’t know is that on March 7, 2017, Ethan had asked me to marry him. I said yes then too. From the day he proposed, we vowed that our wedding date would be March 7th. We got married on March 7, 2019, however despite being married from 2019, we did not have our wedding and reception until March 7, 2021.” MEMORABLE WEDDING MOMENTS Favorite wedding day moments will be different for every bride and groom. With that in mind, we asked this couple to share their favorite moments from their own nuptials. For Sheena-Hope, it was her wedding vows and the moment she sang to her beloved. “In January 2019, I sang happy birthday for my best-friend, and Ethan jokingly asked why I’ve never sang for him. So, on our wedding day, I sang to him ‘I Choose You’ by Sara Bareilles. Our first dance was exciting, too. We danced to ‘This is Why I Love You’ by Jamal Moore.” “I have two memorable moments,” Ethan asserts. “The first time was when I saw Sheena in her dress as she made her way towards me. The second was when she sang to me.” SPENDING TIME TOGETHER “It is the simple pleasures that I enjoy,”

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says Ethan. “My work schedule is often hectic, and I spend several nights a week away from home so when we are able to enjoy a night in each other’s company, it is refreshing.” Whether you are dating or married, building a strong relationship takes effort. To improve a couple’s bond, Sheena recommends, “travel together so you get to experience new foods, adventures, and cultures together. I love doing all of that with Ethan.” STRENGTHENING A RELATIONSHIP While every relationship is unique, the Dixons suggest the following to strengthen the marital relationship: • No matter how long you’ve been together, never stop dating each other. • The same effort exerted to get your spouse is the same effort needed to keep him or her. • Always exercise open and honest communication. WORK-LIFE BALANCE Achieving work-life balance in today’s fast paced world can be challenging. “At 5 pm weekly, I switch from work mode to wife and mother mode,” Sheena-Hope tells us. For a physician, work-life balance can sound like a foreign idea. However, Ethan is determined to spend time with his family. “Given my work schedule, I carve out quality family time and couple-time with Sheena. The balance, though sometimes challenging, exists in my ability to stay in-the-moment when we are together.” TIPS FOR COUPLES CONSIDERING MARRIAGE If you are considering marriage, how do you prepare for a happy married life? As you contemplate, here are tips from the Dixons: • Every day you wake up and choose your partner. • Love is a choice not just a feeling, choose to stay in your marriage. • Eliminate or limit outside influences in your relationship.

ABOUT THE DIXONS Mrs. Sheena-Hope Watson Dixon is a wife, mother, daughter, sister, and friend. She is an Attorney-at-Law who has been practicing for over 7 years. Born and raised in Kingston, Jamaica, Sheena-Hope is a proud past student of St. Andrew High School for Girls. Sheena-Hope enjoys singing, dancing, curling up with a good book, and watching her favorite guilty pleasure television shows, Basketball Wives or Love and Hip Hop. A proud mother to a 2-year-old, she is learning to navigate the challenges of not only balancing being a wife and full-time attorney, but also motherhood. Though difficult, the rewards are ten-fold.

Ethan Dixon, MD is a husband, father, doctor, son, brother, and friend. Currently, he is a post graduate candidate in the Obstetrics and Gynecology program at the University of the West Indies. He is a proud graduate of the St. George’s College where the morals and values instilled have played a significant role in the man he is today. An avid football fan and a staunch supporter of Manchester United, Ethan enjoys playing video games and watching comedy series and movies. He enjoys hanging out with friends and loves spending time with his amazing toddler who brings him joy every day.

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his year Bennie and Paula Hamilton will be celebrating their third wedding anniversary. The power couple shares about discovering each other, their romance, and their memorable wedding day at the Grand Bahia Principe, Runaway Bay, Jamaica.

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forward so he would not catch a glimpse of me before the wedding march began,” Paula discloses. “His neck was craned trying to see me. It made me giggle. The minute I turned the corner and began to walk up the aisle, his eyes never left mine. His face lit up with the most beautiful grin. He looked very handsome in his white suit.”

When the man came by, I had all the words set to reprimand him, but when I saw him, I couldn’t. He had a calm demeanor and he kept bowing and repeating, “I’m so sorry, please forgive me.” I wanted to give him a piece of my mind, but suddenly my mind went in a different direction, admiring Bennie enjoyed their big moment, too. THE SPECIAL MOMENT how tall and handsome he looked. I was “The thing that is etched in my mind is the A chance meeting of strangers turned into something more as the fire kept burning. flabbergasted when I realize where my way my beautiful bride was gazing at me mind went. All I could say was, ’hmmm. while saying her vows. She was smiling Such is the fascinating love story of the as usual but that day she was also glowing. Hmmm.’ “ Hamiltons. Every time I looked over at her, she looked so happy and relaxed, and I was excited Bennie and Paula’s connection was instant “I had just moved to a new state and found a great townhouse to rent,” Paula reveals. and soon after they started dating. Six that she wanted to be with me.” “One evening after work, as I parked my months after their first date, Bennie asked STRENGTHENING A RELATIONSHIP car and then approached my home, I Paula to marry him. Being intentional about spending time noticed the door was slightly ajar and a together and creating rituals can help to most unusual key in it. WEDDING DAY MEMORIES strengthen a marriage. For this duo, their wedding day memories My heart skipped several beats before were delightful because they knew their “Bennie and I enjoy shopping together and search for love was finally over. my brain unfroze. I quickly called the trying new restaurants,” Paula reveals. leasing office to report the matter. The leasing agent told me that a maintenance “On our wedding day, the coordinator had “He is such a good sport when shopping. He will patiently help me to choose my a hard time ensuring that Bennie faced technician had visited my home to fix an

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clothing and accessories. I love to help choose his clothing, as well. After shopping, we usually try a new restaurant. Keep God at the center of your life and before making decisions. Discuss everything no matter how simple. Though it seems cliché, we never go to bed angry, and we try to resolve our issues before bed. I must admit though that Bennie is the calming force in our relationship, so we balance each other well.” WORK-LIFE BALANCE To keep the spark in a marriage, a good work-life balance is necessary. “We always try to spend time together, at least one day a week,” Paula tells us. “Also, we plan several short getaways yearly.” TIPS FOR COUPLES CONSIDERING MARRIAGE “It is very important to do marital counseling, and discuss political views, finances, and faith as research has shown that these

are some of the major reasons marriages break,” Bennie states. While there are many layers to maintain a blissful bond, Paula encourages, “Talk to each other and do a lot of compromising, within reason. If something annoys me, I usually think, how important will it be if he is gone tomorrow?”

ABOUT THE HAMILTONS Paula Hamilton, SHRM-CP, PHR, is a Human Resources Professional with over 20 years of expertise in Benefits and Compensation Administration. She is also Administrator and Contributing Writer for Victorious by Design, copy editor, woman of God, wife, and mother. Paula is enthusiastic about the work she does. She has a passion for excellence and is happiest when she is budgeting or organizing something. In her spare time, she enjoys voice acting, writing, reading, travelling,

and spending time with her family. She believes her mission in life is to use her God-given talents and life experiences to help abused and disadvantaged women. Bennie Hamilton is an experienced HVAC and Maintenance Supervisor, Dog Trainer, man of God, husband, and father. His dream is to expand his dog training business, Well Mannered Kennel LLC, into a first-class dog training and boarding facility. Bennie is a man of many trades. He is most enthusiastic when he is learning new things, travelling, spending time with his family, and working with dogs. He has loved dogs since he was 12 years old and has a special bond with all the dogs he encounters. He believes that his mission in life is to help owners have a well-mannered dog.

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ast month, Kevin and Unoma Nwankwor celebrated their 15th wedding anniversary. A Nigerian-American couple, the Nwankwors had a Nigerian wedding full of fanfare, family, matching clothes, Jollof rice, and Afrobeats. “It was a busy day,” says Unoma. “One memory that stands out was dancing to ‘So Amazing’ by Luther Vandross for our first dance.” Kevin and Unoma are the owners of KevStel Productions & Publications, a Christian entertainment company specializing in movie productions, book publications, and hosting events. The company’s goal is to entertain, edify, and uplift their audience through intriguing and life-changing movies, engaging and inspirational books, event hosting, seminars for talent and skills development, and public speaking engagements that inspire and edify. STRENGTHENING A RELATIONSHIP After the excitement of a wedding, the reality of married life sets in for many couples. Strengthening a marital relationship will take intentional efforts. “Everyone says communication,” Unoma tell us. “And I totally agree, but this shouldn’t only be centered on talking but also knowing when to be quiet.” “Spending quality time together will help to improve your relationship,” says Kevin. “Although we don’t necessarily like the same type of movies, we love watching movies together. We enjoy fleshing out, passionately I might add, our creative ideas.”

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WORK-LIFE BALANCE “Achieving work-life balance is a difficult task, primarily because we are both creators,” Unoma discloses. “Kevin is a film director while I’m an author. Our company, KevStel Production & Publications, has been in existence for several years now, and in the beginning that balance was non-existent. Now, the kids are older, and our conversations does not only center around business but also trying to enjoy life’s moments.”

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ABOUT THE NWANKWORS Unoma Nwankwor writes Christian and Sweet Contemporary romances that span Africa and the Black Diaspora. She weaves romantic tales for readers who enjoy stories centered on faith, family, and the rich culture of Africa. Through the pages, she promises you humor, tight hugs, forehead kisses, and, above all else, redemptive, sacrificial love. A first generation Nigerian-American, Unoma spent her childhood and early adulthood years in Port-Harcourt, Nigeria. Holding two degrees in Finance and Management, she is the recipient of the

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Nigerian Writers’ Award 2015 Best Faith Based Fiction Writer. And in 2017, she was shortlisted for the Diaspora Writer of the Year. She was also recently named as one of the “100 Most Influential Nigerian Writers Under 40.” Unoma wears numerous hats but the one she’s most proud of is mother of two kids and wife to her film director husband. She juggles this with co-running their entertainment company KevStel Productions & Publications, hosting her podcast Pressed Not Crushed, and speaking to Christian Entrepreneurs through her Expectant Living platform. Her readers are in love with her unique way of telling stories that capture the essence of her present home base in the USA and her Nigerian culture. You can catch her writing from the comfort of her bedroom nook with a pack of pepperoni slices and a cup of java. Kevin Nwankwor is the CEO of KevStel Productions & Publications. Kevin Nwankwor is an Award-Winning Director and Producer known for films like A

Mother’s Love, Enemy Within, 30 Days in Atlanta, A Trip To Jamaica, Tempting Fate, and Muna, which is his most recent feature film. Kevin has worked with actors like Vivica A. Fox, Lynn Whitfield, Eric Roberts, Paul Campbell, Ramsey Nouah, Funke Akindele Bello, Adesua Etomi, Falz, Onyeka Onwenu, Robert Miano, Adam Huss of Power, and many other Nollywood and Hollywood actors. He holds a master’s degree in filmmaking (MFA) from New York Film Academy (NYFA), a master’s degree in business administration with concentration in marketing (MBA) from University of Phoenix, and a bachelor’s degree in Project Management from Federal University of Technology Owerri. Kevin’s latest project is Muna, a human trafficking “Action-Drama” shot in Nigeria and the USA.

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n our ever-changing world, nothing quite energizes us like a good story. Get lost in the memorable love story of Robert and Jacqueline Meredith who will celebrate their ninth wedding anniversary next month. Congratulations are in order for this power couple who recently became parents of twin daughters. The duo is still on fire and staying resilient as they work on their dreams. Dive into their love story!

“Our entire wedding day was wonderful,” Jacqueline remarks. “But the most special part was after it was over, and we went to our hotel room down the street from where our reception was held. It was such a special feeling because after months of planning and sometimes crying, everything turned out beautifully. The next morning, we flew to Hawaii, our honeymoon destination, as a married couple.” FACING THE INEVITABLE When it comes to love, Jacqueline faced a challenging situation—one that would push her in ways she didn’t expect. That experience became a guiding light for her new relationship. In February 2010, just days before Valentine’s Day weekend, Jacqueline was still hoping to resume her relationship with a man who she had broken up with two months prior. Even so, she had accepted a date with Robert for the weekend although she wasn’t excited about the date.

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“Looking back, it makes perfect sense that being lovesick likely led to me feeling physically sick,” says Jacqueline. “Particularly since the uncharacteristically cold, dreary weather of that Georgia winter was complicit. A runny nose, a hot forehead, and overall weakness were my symptoms, I told the second man, Robert, who had called me that night. And it didn’t help that I was hungry but had no strength to cook in my townhouse. Within an hour or so, he showed up at my door with medicine and pizza. They were just what I needed although I wasn’t sure about the man who delivered them, but his attentiveness to my needs made me begin to pay real attention to him when I

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read a couple’s devotional book, share our concerns about our relationship, jobs, health, extended family… basically anything that comes up.” Robert adds. “We still do that today. We write our concerns down in a journal and then we pray about them. It’s amazing to look back at what we’ve written and see how God has worked out, in one way or another, everything that we’ve been concerned about over the years.” STRENGTHENING A RELATIONSHIP To keep the spark in your relationship Robert and Jacqueline recommend: • Pray together. • Seek wise counsel when needed. • Encourage each other as you pursue your dreams and interests. • Laugh a lot. • Be kind in your interactions. You can disagree and still be kind. • Talk about the conflict but do not allow the conflict to affect the entire marriage. TIP FOR COUPLES CONSIDERING MARRIAGE “Every engaged couple should meet with a reputable marriage counselor for premarital counseling,” Jacqueline states. “The counselor can help the couple determine what they should be prepared for in their marriage.”

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Author Jacqueline J. Holness had ignored him at my church for years. I was feeling so sick I broke two rules for myself: I allowed him into my bedroom, and we ate on my bed. I say this because we hadn’t gone on a proper date yet. But I was strong enough to assure him that eating on my bed would be the only activity there. He didn’t try anything anyway.

Two days later, Robert left my house. Four days later, we went out on our first real date. Three years later, we got married. That’s a short version of our love story!” PUTTING GOD FIRST It is important to make God the focal point in your relationship so that your foundation will always be solid.

Hours later, we were surprised that the cold, dreary weather had culminated in “To navigate the highs and lows of our snow and that it was rapidly covering lives and our love, we depend on and go metro Atlanta in a rare snowstorm. Me- to God on a regular basis,” Jacqueline teorologists practically mandated that admits. “Before we were married, we established the habit of having a Sunday metro Atlantans shelter in place until the night devotional time in which we would snowstorm was over.

Jacqueline J. Holness is a seasoned and sassy journalist with more than 20 years of professional experience. Currently a correspondent for Courthouse News Service, her articles have also appeared in Upscale, Christianity Today, and Atlanta Tribune magazines as well as The Atlanta Journal-Constitution and Atlanta Business Chronicle newspapers. Additionally, she was a columnist for The Lookout magazine and a contributor to Urbanfaith.com. She blogs at afterthealtarcall.com. A proud Jamerican, Jacqueline represents metro Atlanta as her home where she lives with her handsome husband.

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STAR POWER LIST But as the deadline ticks closer, the women wonder if they can withstand another year of looking for love in the media-proclaimed no-man's land of Atlanta. Senalda wrests a marriage proposal from the male version of herself, but the proposal comes simultaneously with a devastating secret. Jarena unleashes hell when her call to ministry coincides with dating her married college sweetheart. Mimi faces losing her career and jail time chasing her boyfriend and marries another man in the process. Whitney’s power couple profile plummets when her husband, a pornography addict, announces he would rather pursue photography than be an MD.

Are you a book lover who is planning for a binge-reading session? Look no further! Read on to learn more about Jacqueline and her latest release, Destination Wedding. You’ll love getting to know this author! DESTINATION WEDDING “Writing Destination Wedding was my response to an ABC News Nightline report that I saw in December 2009. In the report, it was revealed that 42% of black women have never been married. While that statistic was startling enough by its lonesome, Linsey Davis, the reporter for the segment, interviewed successful, single, black women living in Atlanta to illustrate this point. As a successful, single, black woman living in metro Atlanta at the time, to say I was insulted by this report was an understatement. However, as insulted and defeated as I felt at the time, thankfully a blessing from God was right around the corner. As we said before, my husband and I went on our first date during Valentine’s Day weekend in 2010. And, although it seemed that my days as a single woman were coming to a close at a very fast pace, I could not forget the 42%. At the time, I was looking for self-help books, particularly those that focused on relationships. And as a writer, I considered writing a self-help book for the 42%. I felt that all of the lessons that I had learned over the 10 years it took for me to prepare myself for my husband could be compiled in a wonderful self-help relationship book.

Inspired by an actual Nightline report, Destination Wedding charts four women’s journeys as they discover that love is not an experiment easily confined to a timetable.

Click & Get Online The official synopsis: Three successful best friends in Atlanta believe they are thriving in the Black Mecca. Bossy bank executive Senalda breaks down men from business to bed no holds barred. Hip hop PR guru Jarena praises the Lord and pursues married men with equal persistence. Famous and infamous radio personality Mimi fights with her fans and for the love of her onand-off-again boyfriend.

Lessons Learned “Writing a novel is hard! As a journalist, I had no experience whatsoever in writing fiction. I started writing in 2013, and I wasn’t finished until years later! I had to learn characterization, plotting, showing not telling, and so on. It was hard, but worth it in the end. I want single black women to know that if you want to fall in love and get married to the man that God has for you, it can be done despite negative statistics swirling around them and even internal barriers that impede the process. Also, I want Destination Wedding to be a fun, hilarious, and wild ride of a book. I believe I am accomplishing both of those goals based on the feedback I have received so far.”

But then, four women, Jarena, Senalda, Mimi and Whitney, my main characters, But when an ABC News Nightline report, began showing up in my imagination. And "Single, Black, Female -- and Plenty of Fun Fact then I started thinking about how I felt Company," asks why can't a successful “One of the craziest moments in Destination about self-help relationship books at the black woman find a man? The friends are Wedding was based on a real-life event time. By the time I started dating my hus- suddenly hyper-aware of their inclusion in my life. Since there are so many crazy band, I had sworn off self-help relationship in the sad statistic: 42% of black women moments in the book, I will leave it up to books because I was sick of reading them who have never been married. Like the readers to figure out which one is crazy without getting results. And at the same women in the report, they are career-driven, enough to be real.” time, I felt I had something valuable to beautiful black women living in Atlanta share. What was the solution? A novel in who have everything -- but a mate. They which I folded in many of the lessons that I resolve to defy the statistic by marrying in learned about purposeful dating, choosing a year and have it all by tackling their goal the wrong men, being the right person and as a project with a vision board, monthly Click & Visit self-love, the most valuable love of all meetings, and more. Project Destination aside from the adoration we express for Wedding is born. A “happily married” best AftertheAltarCall.com God… a fun read with lessons folded in.” friend Whitney is a project consultant.

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INEVITABLE DESTINY

Anthony &Beverlyn Wilks It's never too late for love

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hen it comes to love, we cannot predict when it will happen. Fear can creep in as we get older, and we think it’s never going to happen. Fret not! Love can happen at any age. For such is the heart-stirring and captivating love story of Anthony and Beverlyn Wilks. Their happily-ever-after is a beautiful modern-day story about finding love in God’s timing.

UNDENIABLY YOURS “Every love story is beautiful but ours is our favorite,” Beverlyn tells us.

Anthony and Beverlyn were born and raised in a little town called Kellits near the famous Bull Head Mountain in the parish of Clarendon, Jamaica. Growing up, they knew each other and in early adulthood had a momentary connection but love never bloomed.

“This was our love at first sight moment,” Beverlyn says. “Two people looking at each other for a lifetime and then miraculously falling in love without knowing how.”

This couple’s adventure started in their early retirement years, when Anthony placed a call to Beverlyn in January 2021, while she was convalescing from an illness. The more time he spent in conversation with her, the more he longed to tackle the distance that separated them to see if what he felt was real.

Their connection was undeniable, and they could no longer deny the depth of

STRENGTHENING A RELATIONSHIP Here are tips from the Wilks to keep your marriage happy and satisfying: • Spend quality time with each other. • Communicate openly and honestly. • Forgive and celebrate each other. • Create bonding opportunities. • Keep physical intimacy alive. • Give each other room to grow. • Keep God at the center of your relationship. TIPS FOR COUPLES CONSIDERING MARRIAGE Here are Anthony and Beverlyn’s suggestions: • Make your spouse your best friend. • Always strive to give your spouse the very best of yourself. • Have knowledge of your spouse’s comfort and communication level. • Be transparent with your spouse because a painful truth is always better than a hidden lie. • Love your spouse unconditionally with trust and respect.

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PASSION & PURITY

Garth & Kerryann Davis

A WEDDING DAY FILLED WITH UNFORGETTABLE MOMENTS

arth and Kerryann Davis have been married over 15 years. “We got married at a resort in St. Mary on July 8, 2006, before a lovely set of people, most of whom are still a part of our journey,” Garth tells us. “Kerryann’s father died in 1999; hence her older brother was slated to be the giveaway father but circumstances beyond his control prevented him from attending the wedding. Her Uncle Derrick effortlessly stood in the gap and that was one of her most treasured gifts.”

MEMORABLE WEDDING MOMENTS The wedding day is one of the most important days in a couple’s life and should provide fond memories for the bride and groom. “Our first dance to ‘When a Man Loves a Woman,’ by Percy Sledge was unforgettable,” says Kerryann. “I believed we were locked into each other’s love and warmth and at that point it felt as if time had stood still. Nothing or no one else mattered. Prior to this at the church, our parents did a “Candlelight Ceremony,” a symbolic act of uniting two families.” “As a part of our honeymoon celebrations, we visited a church in close proximity to our hotel,” Garth reveals. “We both started out our life together with Christ at the center and that has been euphoria for us to date.” While the flame of love had burned brightly, this power couple remained celibate until their honeymoon. “Our honeymoon night was scary beautiful,” says Kerryann. “Two inexperienced people coming together in passion and purity to discover each other’s untrodden territories.” “Rafting on the Rio Grande was epic and exhilarating,” Garth adds. “The tour guide,

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Steve, made the 2.5 hours romantic tour memorable. It was a symbolic encounter of mutual desire to a lifelong discovery of each other and places together.” STRENGTHENING A RELATIONSHIP Garth and Kerryann suggest the following ways to keep the bliss in your relationship: • Put God in the center of your relationship. • Speak and listen to each other in love; that is the best foundation to establish. • Be each other’s best friend. • Surround yourself with people who respect you and your spouse and not persons who feel they have a vote in your relationship whether it’s living or dying. • Pray without ceasing for your spouse. • Avoid secrecy-the number one killer of passion and love in a relationship. WORK-LIFE BALANCE With children in the mix, this couple is still trying to attain work-life balance. “I discipline myself to meet targets for work during times set for working,” says Garth. “In doing that, weekends and other times designated for family time can be done without interference from work except for emergencies.” “I struggled to find balance especially during the peak of the COVID-19 pandemic when the family status quo changed,” Kerryann admits. “However, as a goal-oriented family we sat down and worked out boundaries that made life a little better for our family. Essentially, prioritizing family needs first is crucial and we endeavor to complete work tasks at work. Additionally, as a family we enjoy each other’s company and activities were planned accordingly to meet each person’s needs. Finally, prayer is a staple in our home.” TIPS FOR COUPLES CONSIDERING MARRIAGE Before you save the date, here are Garth and Kerryann’s recommendations: • Learn to esteem each other. • Ensure that God is the center of your relationship. • Do premarital counselling with a trained family therapist before setting a date for your wedding.

ABOUT THE GARTH & KERRYANN Garth Davis is a fervent Christian, dedicated husband to an excellent wife, and father of four beautiful and great children all of whom remind him daily of God’s grace. In his professional capacity, he currently serves as the Group Software Development Manager for the JMMB Group Limited that operates in three countries in the Caribbean. To his credit he has contributed to the Jamaican technological landscape with cutting edge software applications that have inspired the further evolution of technology in Jamaica – a privilege he humbly celebrates. Kerryann Davis has contributed over a decade of quality service in Community Corrections, Jamaica. She currently serves a Principal Probation Aftercare Officer in the Department of Correctional Services and her strong leadership attribute coupled with her unquenchable desire to see others accomplish their full potential, has propelled her to become the President of the Probation Officers' Staff Association, a post she has held since 2014. Under her

stewardship, the reclassification of the Probation Services in Jamaica, became an undeniable reality in 2015. Additionally, she has established her presence on social media with the aim of helping people to forestall solutions to common societal problems and arm them with better alternatives through education and advocacy. Her greatest accomplishments are being a Christian, an excellent wife, and mother of four terrific children. Currently, she is completing her Post graduate Degree in Counselling Psychology at the Caribbean Graduate School of Theology. Her Christian worldview has made her resilient, strong, and resolute to help others who cross her path to become their best selves.

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STAYING IN LOVE

Matthew & Cathy Jackson

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alling in love can happen slowly WORK-LIFE BALANCE over time, or in a matter of “We prioritize God first, one another secmoments. Staying in love is a ond, and family third,” Cathy informs us. different story. Great relation- “We listen to one another and empathize ships do not happen by accident. on every occasion.” Thankfully, there are ways to strengthen relationships to keep the fire burning. TIPS FOR COUPLES CONSIDERING MARRIAGE VBD Magazine is pleased to feature Mat- Do happy and lasting marriages have thew and Cathy Jackson who have been certain elements in common or is it just married for 26 years and counting. “We a matter of choosing and being the right weren’t Christians before we were married,” spouse? Here are Matthew and Cathy’s sugsays Cathy, “but we accepted Jesus Christ gestions if you are considering marriage: as our personal Lord and Savior five years • Pray and seek God’s face before any after we were married.” decision. • Trust God. He already knows what He Smiling, Cathy tells us, “Our wedding day has in store for your life and wants the was unforgettable, and we loved every best for you. minute of it. A memory that stands out • Follow God’s directions as He leads from our wedding day is of my momma you where to go and what to do. and a stapler. My wedding dress had come undone in a few places, and she stapled the areas.”

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STRENGTHENING A RELATIONSHIP If your relationship is losing its spark, here are tips from this power couple to keep your relationship thriving, year after year. “Spend time together,” says Cathy. “We enjoy serving together at our church. We also enjoy watching TV cooking shows and trying to incorporate what we’ve seen into our everyday meals.” Matthew states, “I read from the Bible every morning, and we pray together every morning and night.”

Cathy Jackson is a child of God, wife, daughter, mother, writer, and friend. She loves Matthew, her husband, who is God’s gift to her. She is blessed to be a stay-athome mother to their four children. Cathy is an award-winning and bestselling author who is passionate about writing and creating new worlds for readers to explore. Some of the most amazing people have assisted her in publishing seventeen books. Her church and church family are

precious to her, and she loves serving the Lord. God is her everything and she awakes every morning, ready to do His will. Her favorite musician is Michael W. Smith. Cathy has an eclectic taste in film and quirky television shows are a great escape. Recently, she discovered her love for cooking. Matthew Jackson is married to Cathy, his best friend, and he is a father to four brilliant and beautiful children. A US Air Force veteran, Matthew currently serves as a merchandising manager for a large box store and a freelance graphic artist. He was saved in the summer of 2001 and has since sought to understand his place and purpose in God’s plan. He is a work in progress. In addition, Matthew is a member of his church’s media ministry, as well as the church’s community service programs. He is a sci-fi and fantasy nerd who enjoys making costumes and props and watching way too much Food Network with his wife.

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CREATING A POWERFUL LEGACY

Attorney Mark C.A. Jennings ON DOING WHAT HE LOVES, BUILDING STRATEGIC ALLIANCES, AND ACHIEVING WORK-LIFE BALANCE by Ann Marie Bryan

ttorney Mark C. A. Jennings has established himself as an influential leader with a proven track record of success and an impactful voice. Even with over 20 years of experience practicing law, Attorney Jennings is still on the move starting a law practice and looking to build more strategic alliances. His areas of concentration include sports and entertainment law, corporate finance and securities law, conveyance, probate, and estate matters.

I BELIEVE IN COLLABORATING ON INITIATIVES AND HELPING TO TACKLE ISSUES THAT WILL ULTIMATELY EMPOWER INDIVIDUALS, ORGANIZATIONS, AND COMMUNITIES. I AM COMMITTED TO MAKING A DIFFERENCE.

“Usually, I have a good idea if I can help a client and what needs to be done,” says Attorney Jennings. “There are exceptions of course, but after so many years of practicing law, I have encountered many versions of the same problem. One of the most rewarding aspects of my job is seeing the relief on a client’s face when we finally achieve the objective he or she wants.” VBD Magazine is proud to share insights from our exclusive interview with Attorney Jennings. We discussed his inspiration to pursue a career in law, his plans now that

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he has established a practice, and how he successfully balances work, life, and family. INSPIRATION TO PURSUE LAW Attorney Jennings hails from the parish of Clarendon in Jamaica. He attended Frankfield Primary School, Calabar High School, and then graduated from the University of the West Indies (Mona) with a Bachelor of Arts in Literature and a minor in Philosophy. He earned his Juris Doctor from Howard University School of Law. Interest in the law has been a part of Attorney Jennings’s life from an early age. “When I was a little boy, I was fascinated with the police. My mother told me that if I wanted to work with the police, I should become a lawyer. I asked her what that was, so she asked my father to take me to the court. That day, I watched the attorneys arguing with each other in court and I loved it. After that, my mother started to call me barrister Mark and she never stopped until the day she died. I have been practicing law since 1995, and I find a career in law challenging intellectually, along with being personally fulfilling and financially rewarding.” ENTREPRENEURIALLY DRIVEN There is no greater time than now for a purpose-driven action and Attorney Jennings was ready to take the leap. “During the COVID-19 pandemic, I decided to start my own firm. I wanted the freedom to work from wherever I wanted to and the freedom to do the type of work that I wanted to do.” Attorney Jennings operates out of two offices, Mark C. A. Jennings & Associates, Miami, Florida and Mark C.A. Jennings & Co-Partners, Kingston, Jamaica. “I want to expand my firm by hiring more lawyers. Also, I would like to establish larger offices in Jamaica and the State of Florida. In doing so, we can help more clients.” As anticipated, Attorney Jennings will continue to build strategic alliances to exchange ideas and share resources. “I believe in collaborating on initiatives and helping to tackle issues that will ultimately

empower individuals, organizations, and communities. I am committed to making a difference.” ADVICE TO ASPIRING LAWYERS “Go for it, it’s a great profession, you will never regret it. With the complexities of our ever-changing legal system, there are diverse legal career options so choose wisely. Remember that at the heart of the legal profession is the service we provide to clients to help them resolve their legal challenges.”

A CHALLENGING MOMENT “In my first two weeks as a lawyer, I went to watch a trial with my then boss who I was supposed to be assisting. He got up and announced to the judge that I would be the one conducting the trial. I was shocked and terrified. I got up, pretended that I knew what I was doing, and by the mercy of the Lord, I actually won the case.” WORK-LIFE BALANCE When he is not practicing law, Attorney Jennings is busy pursuing his passion for

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writing plays, short stories, and working on his first novel. Despite that, he tells us, “His love for God is first and next his family.” Attorney Jennings is married to the love of his life Sardia and they have two sons, Chase and Stephan. Sardia was born in the parish of Clarendon in Jamaica. She attended St. Thomas More Preparatory School and Glenmuir High School. She then attended Auburn University in Alabama, where she graduated with a Bachelor of Science in Nursing. After working for many years as a Cardiac Nurse, she then transitioned to Application Analyst in the healthcare industry. Sardia loves nature, watersports, hiking, dancing, tennis, gardening, the theater, and fine arts. She is a firm believer in natural remedies and the body’s ability to heal itself. “We were married on July 12, 1997, and will be celebrating our 25th anniversary this year,” Attorney Jennings reveals. Smiling, Sardia adds, “Where did the years go? Our wedding day was beautiful, filled with friends and family. I remember that we were a bit worried because we had invited

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300 guests, but more people showed up. Thankfully, the food and the space were more than enough.” With their children now older, this power couple is better at practicing work-life balance. “We try to support each other, when either of us has a difficult or stressful work assignment,” Attorney Jennings states. “So, our work challenges become part of our relationship and an opportunity to communicate with each other.” STRENGTHENING A RELATIONSHIP All relationships go through good and challenging times, so take action to keep your love alive. Mark and Sardia recommend:

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• Spend time together. • Learn to forgive each other. • Listen to each other and be kind and gentle no matter what. • Talk about your dreams, goals, and the vision of the life you would like. • Be brutally honest with each other. It will pay off. • Celebrate each other

LEARN MORE: Mark C. A. Jennings & Associates 1351 NW 174th St, Miami, FL 33169-5230 Office: 561-425-6535 Cell: 954-477-8410 Mark C.A. Jennings & Co-Partners 1 Norwood Avenue, Kingston 5 Email: mcajlaw6@gmail.com Phone: 876-294-1163

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PERSONAL & PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT HAVEN I want to share three ways that our intimacy as husbands and wives can be deepened by following the pattern in our relationship with Christ. Daily reminders of God’s love for us. Sometimes these prompts are as simple as the sound of a bird chirping by the window to remind us that He will take care of us. Unexpected, thoughtful, and delightful gestures come our way in our walk with the Lord. God is the master of the little things – because He knows exactly what we need at any given moment. Similarly, we can be intimate with the little things, especially when it is just what we appreciate most: a small note of affection, a bouquet of flowers, a back massage, a walk around the neighborhood or a rest day from regular activities.

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HOW CAN WE BE INTIMATE LIKE JESUS CHRIST AND THE CHURCH? by Kerry-Ann McPherson

f intimacy could speak audibly, it would say these words: “I want to know you and be known by you.” How beautiful. It’s lovely to know that husbands and wives are privileged to potentially know each other deeply and learn to love each other deeply too. This is like the relationship between Jesus Christ and the church.

But we have a small problem. When we sit down to examine what this looks like for us in our own marriages, we might think back to Jesus’ time on earth or the early church. Our ideas might be wrapped up in a previous time zone. Why is this a problem? It could make the connection to Christ and the church seem outdated and irrelevant. Thankfully, it is neither.

Memory lane of thankfulness. Gratitude is so gratifying. Whereas in the first point, God is pouring out on us, in this case, we are pouring out on the Lord. When we begin to list all the ways God has helped us, rescued us, and turned our lives around, we find ourselves falling in love with the Lord all over again. In the same way, sit and go down memory lane with your spouse for all the ways they’ve done some amazing things. Let him/her know how grateful you are. You’ll be reminded of why you fell in love, and laughter will rekindle with your precious memories. Undisturbed quality time. Whenever we’re feeling empty, there is something completely refreshing about spending undisturbed quality time in the Lord’s presence. We receive the energy, spiritual encouragement, and strength to keep going. Likewise, true quality time with your spouse is a recipe for deepening intimacy. A road trip or a weekend retreat where you can both unplug from external distractions, focus on each other, and have soul searching conversations builds rich connection. When our marriages reflect Christ and the church, we will continually grow in intimacy with each other, showing others that God’s love is not stagnant or short-lived.

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ou love the smell of the one you love. In fact, you loved their scent before you realized you were in love. This explains why you love cuddling up and breathing in the scent of your beloved. Sleeping together and breathing in the natural scent of your partner is intoxicating and often comforting. These aroma chemicals released by our bodies are called pheromones. To you, your partner has the best scent in the world. Their personal scent, behind all the perfumes, lotions, and the like, is what attracted you in the first place, and it is what contributes to that intimate and sexual connection.

Sleeping together strengthens a couple’s bond which has a positive influence on your willingness to overlook little annoying things about your partner. It brings a feeling of deeper closeness. Sleeping is also needed for the body, mind, and soul. You know the feeling and effect on your mood after a restful cozy sleep. You are much more cheerful and less grumpy. You also know how you can be miserable and impatient after a restless night. Let’s shift gears to loud and rhythmless snoring. You know, the kind of snoring that does not follow a pattern. It goes up, then down, then a pause, then it trebles; it is one of those things that can keep you from enjoying the delight of sleeping together and can prevent you from getting the rest you need and deserve. The sound of snoring can lead one of you to leave the bedroom in the middle of the night or opt for separate sleeping quarters. This can have an effect on that intimate connection needed for a happy relationship.

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This is a complaint I heard often from family, friends, and clients. So, I decided to help by creating a functional aroma that would relax the breathing airways to eliminate or reduce snoring. Functional aromas combine the science of aromatherapy with the art of perfumery to create scents that are pleasant to your senses while having a specific therapeutic effect. Studies show that some essential oils can help sufferers of sleep apnea to get a more restful sleep. By combining essential oils that relax breathing airways and those that relax

VBD Magazine the body for entering deep sleep, I developed a formula to bring snoring relief to you and your partner. Made from therapeutic essential oils, Snore No More is an all-natural fragrance that can free blocked nasal airways and free you from the tension of insomnia. Just a few drops on your cheekbones and under your nose, and you’ll be drifting off to sleep in no time and, very importantly, in silence. It does not stain, nor is it greasy, and you’ll wake up with renewed energy and higher spirits next to the delightful warm body of your loved one. LET ME TELL YOU A LITTLE ABOUT THE INGREDIENTS: Hyssop – An ancient ingredient you can even find in the Bible! Hyssop helps to relieve respiratory issues, from colds and coughs. It even helps with ageing related skin problems, like sagging or wrinkles, so a few drops on your cheeks could make you glow with youth.

PERSONAL & PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT HAVEN in many remedies for respiration issues. That’s why it’s in here too. Not only does it open your nasal passages, but it will also ensure relief for any sinus related problems.

Rose – Another classic ingredient in perfumes, used to decrease anxiety and stress and ease pain. So, you can bet that a good night sleep isn’t too far off.

Patchouli – A musky sweet scent that also helps with relieving anxiety and depression, patchouli is also great for relieving pain, easing symptoms of coughs and colds and is a great ingredient for treating skin conditions like acne and dry skin.

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Pastor Scott LaPierre TIMELESS RELATIONSHIP ADVICE by Kerry-Ann McPherson “God is the author of marriage. A marriage with Christ at the center is a winning combination.”

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eet Pastor Scott LaPierre, who is an advocate for promoting healthy marriages and counseling those in crisis. Pastor LaPierre is the teaching pastor at Woodland Christian Church, an author, conference speaker, and former schoolteacher and Army officer. He holds a Master of Arts degree in Biblical Studies from Liberty University. Pastor LaPierre and his wife, Katie, live in Washington State. When they’re not serving the members of their church or raising their 9 children, the couple enjoy speaking at conferences. In his book, Your Marriage God’s Way, Pastor LaPierre examines the principles for building a biblical marriage. “I am passionate about this area of Scripture and life. God designed the family as the primary unit for every other segment in society, including the church. Marriage is the heart of the family. God knows what couples need so they can experience healthy, joyful, Christ-centered relationships, and He provided the principles in the Bible.” In an introspective interview with VBD Magazine, Pastor LaPierre shares his love story, the keys to building a successful marriage, the kinds of boundaries that will protect a marriage, and practical things that couples should do to prepare for marriage. We know you’ll enjoy our discussion as much as we did. VBD: Tell us a bit about your love story. PASTOR LAPIERRE: Katie is my best friend. We grew up together in McArthur, California, and went to high school together. Neither of us were Christians at the time. Ten years after graduation, Katie and I reconnected. We both found out the other had become a Christian, and soon we started talking regularly. At the time Katie was in our hometown while I was teaching in Lemoore, California. Katie moved to be near me, living with our premarital counselors, Pat and Kathy Mundy, until we got married in 2005. I couldn’t ask for a better wife to serve alongside me in ministry.

VBD: How does religious views impact a marriage? PASTOR LAPIERRE: Our religious views strongly impact our marriage. This is why the Bible forbids us to be unequally yoked. In other words, a couple must be spiritually and doctrinally compatible, because of the considerable impact on their marriage. VBD: What was the best piece of relationship advice you were given? PASTOR LAPIERRE: Read books about marriage and attend marriage conferences. My advice to couples would be the same, especially if the couple is thinking about getting married. Also, seek counsel from their parents and other mature believers who they trust. VBD: What practical things should couples be prepared for in marriage? PASTOR LAPIERRE: They should be prepared for the trials and struggles that will come. Challenges come in different

forms—conflict between the husband and wife, difficulties with children, financial issues, or health problems. A strong marriage allows two people to weather these storms. VBD: What are some ways to strengthen a marriage? PASTOR LAPIERRE: Here are some surefire ways: • Focus on Christ and living for Him. • Spend time together engaging in activities. • Share your hearts and dreams with each other. • Strive to serve each other and put your spouse ahead of yourself. • Pray and read the Bible together. • Set boundaries that protect your marriage. • Pursue physical intimacy. • Remember what Christ has done for you so that you are more likely to forgive and be gracious toward your spouse. Bitterness and resentment can ruin marriages.

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VBD: What is the best way to deal with conflict in a relationship? PASTOR LAPIERRE: Strive to focus on your own weaknesses and shortcomings versus your spouse’s. Keep a short account. Try to listen to what the other person is saying versus just waiting for an opportunity to talk. Most importantly, when you recognize you have done something wrong say, “I am sorry for…will you please forgive me?” Do not include the word “but” as it destroys apologies. VBD: How do you successfully practice work-life balance? PASTOR LAPIERRE: Honestly, I struggle in this area and the way I am trying to improve is by letting my wife tell me when I am working too much, and I need to make more time for her and the children. If I don’t do this, I could work from the time I get up to the time I go to bed and neglect my family. I am ashamed to say that, but it is true. I appreciate my wife for being honest with me and helping me grow in this area.

VBD: What kinds of boundaries protect a marriage? PASTOR LAPIERRE: There must be boundaries in time and relationships. With time, husbands and wives must make time for each other. Remove other things from your lives, whether work or hobbies, that would prevent you from spending quality time together. With relationships, husbands can be friends with other women, and wives can be friends with other men, but they shouldn’t be alone together, engage in intimate conversations, or spend too much time together. VBD: How important is physical connection in a marriage? PASTOR LAPIERRE: It is very important. God has an entire book of the Bible, the Song of Solomon, committed to the physical side of the relationship. In 1 Corinthians 7, God commands husbands and wives to recognize their bodies belong to their spouse and they should strive to please each other.

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VBD: The COVID-19 pandemic changed the way we live and work. What steps have you had to take to adjust to our new normal? PASTOR LAPIERRE: It has been an adjustment, because so many people were upset by the situation. It was impossible to please everyone, because to please one side was to upset the other. I have had to adjust by accepting that being a pastor means doing what’s right even when it’s not popular or causes people to leave the church. VBD: What’s next for you? PASTOR LAPIERRE: Next for me is launching my finance book and workbook, Your Finances God’s Way. This is the follow-up to my previous book and workbook, Your Marriage God’s Way.

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It’s not hard TO LOVE YOU by Ramona Powell Dennis

You make it very easy to love you. You are no-nonsense and I like that. Your transparency with your feelings is inspiring. I know that we both are holding back on saying something because we both feel that it’s too soon, but you make it easy to love you. Our connection is like no other. We get each other. You complete my thoughts and say my words. It seems that I do the same to you. Because of this, I seem to know what you are going to say before you say it. I have only read of a love like this and to have it so early on, let’s me know that this is unique. What we have is unique. I crave conversations with you. I need to hear from you every morning and hear your voice before I close my eyes at night. There is a power that is drawing us together. No matter how I’ve tried to fight it, I can’t.

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The gravitational pull is too strong. So, I yield. I yield to this special connection that we share. You are a part of my spirit. I think of you every vacant moment. I smile at the very thought of you. You ooze out of my pores. I love our chats about God and His wonderful works. Our discussions go deep. We value each other’s opinion and respect our disagreements. We are good together. We click. We snap into place like two puzzle pieces, meant to be connected. I guess that’s why it’s not hard to love you.

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VBD Magazine They taught me to be an athlete, to develop persistence, to be diligent, and to be a good sport on and off the tennis court. My parents instilled a love of the game within me that has never gone away,” states Coach Juan Carlos. “Although all my siblings played tennis, after a time, each of us dedicated ourselves to different endeavors. I have always had the support of my relatives and the special love of my maternal grandmother (a great woman) who has taught me good things.” DEVELOPING A PASSION FOR TENNIS “I began playing tennis in my native country of Venezuela at five years old. One day, while we were on a family vacation, my father, Carlos Rotjes, said, ‘you didn't go to tennis class.’ I wondered what he meant. The next day, my father took me to a tennis class, and there I fell in love with the sport.

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“I began to practice the game more often, and I became extremely competitive. During my formal secondary education in Venezuela, I began to play state, regional, and national tournaments, which resulted in my classification as the twenty-seventh ranked junior player in my country. I started teaching tennis at the age of 16, serving as an assistant to my coach in summer camps in La Guaira, Venezuela. After completing my university education, I played in fewer tennis tournaments and gave more time to teaching the sport.”

INSPIRATION TO COACH TENNIS “In 2019, I decided to emigrate to the United States, looking for new opportunities and a better quality of life for my family. ennis enhances both your which has enabled him to coach others Fleeing from the crises--socioeconomic physical and mental health. It to a positive mindset for successful living. and political--in my country, I wanted is a fantastic way to exercise, to grow personally and professionally,” to raise your heart rate, and “In this age of a global pandemic, more than Coach Rotjes said. feel good when you play. If ever, we need ways to improve our health, medical concerns do not limit a player’s decrease our stress and anxiety, interact activity, tennis is truly a sport for everyone. with others in a safe and socially distant “I wanted to teach this sport in the country The sport improves one’s overall health way, and simply enjoy life. The sport of where there have been countless talented players, to share my knowledge of the game and provides socially distant fun. tennis is a wonderful way to achieve all with others, and to learn more about this these goals,” says Coach Rotjes. culture. I am enthusiastic about teaching During our interview, Coach Juan Carlos tennis because I like to see others progress shared what inspires him to help others BACKGROUND towards achieving their goals. I enjoy seebecome the best tennis players possible, “I was born in Caracas, Venezuela, as the ing the expressions of satisfaction on their his personal fitness regimen for staying fourth of seven siblings. I was fortunate in shape, and his passion for the sport to have both of my parents play the sport. faces as they play this beautiful sport and

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gain all the benefits that it brings. It is a great feeling to see my coaching reflected in the games of those I teach.” COACHING STRATEGIES “I provide coaching to tennis players of all ages, from five years old. Players are different. One of the first things I do is conduct an assessment of their goals. Are they trying to lose weight? Are they trying to start or get back into tennis? Are they interested in playing in a league or tournament? What is their background in tennis? Based on my background in the sport, it is easy for me to detect players who have natural ability and/or have played tennis. Once I have an idea of the players’ goals, then I can start the process of mapping out an action plan to help them reach those goals.

THE LIFE-CHANGING IMPACT OF PERSONAL FITNESS REGIMEN “I train at least three times a week to stay TENNIS “I have a simple mantra that I share with my in shape. In my personal training regimen, “I met my wife through mutual friends 14 students: grateful, thankful, blessed. I use I include these activities to strengthen my years ago. Our greatest treasure—Anastathis phrase to remind my students--whether muscles, enhance my on-court stamina, sia—was born, and I began teaching her and maintain fitness: CrossFit, cycling, how to play at age three. Currently, I coach young or old--that if they are on the tennis court and able to play, they are blessed. playing scored matches against my ad- my daughter in individual lessons three times a week. She has fallen in love with It may be due to my cultural background vanced students, and playing competitive tennis, and I love our shared quality time tennis in official tournaments, running, or the fact that I totally appreciate this while we enhance her skills, discipline, and and swimming.” opportunity to experience the American emotional control. The idea has certainly dream, but I want everyone with whom occurred that she could become a profesI interact to enjoy the beauty all around ADVICE FOR NEWBIES WHO WANT sional tennis player by taking advantage us – a beautiful sunny day, two squirrels TO PLAY TENNIS of my knowledge of the sport.” chasing each other courtside, or a hawk Tennis is truly a sport for all ages and all flying over the court as we are playing. I player levels. For those who are new to know that may sound cheesy, as Americans the sport, and who want to start playing, WHAT’S NEXT “It is important to have mental toughness say, but the simple blessings in life mean here are Coach Rotjes’ tips: on the tennis court. In my first book, so much to me and my family. Helping Tennis Tips: Simple Strategies for Playing students achieve a growth mindset is • Always watch the ball. Your Best Tennis, I offer basic tips, advice, fundamental to successful living.” • Assume your opponent will return the and strategies from my knowledge and ball no matter how good your shot is. experience on how to start and develop TENNIS PROGRAMS • Avoid heavy meals before play. general tennis skills. “Usually, I give morning private tennis • Play competitively, if you like, but lessons. These typically span one hour always have fun. “Over the next few years, I would like to see and can involve my providing instruction • Rest on alternate days after play. more of my students playing great tennis: to individuals, groups, and league teams. • Start slowly. Do not try to become Rain junior tournaments, at the collegiate In the afternoons, I provide coaching serfael Nadal or Serena Williams overnight. level, and/or, depending on age, in senior vices for Seminole County in the different • Stay hydrated. tournaments. Of course, I would like to programs/classes offered by the public • Stretch before and after you play. see my daughter winning tournaments and park. In one-to-one classes, the individual • Use sunscreen to protect your skin, achieving incredible things. Additionally, benefits more because I can focus my especially if you live in a state like I would like to author a second book to attention on that person’s game. In group Florida. help players develop strategies for playing classes, I have an overarching goal to seek • You are never a spectator on the court. their best tennis.” improvement of the entire group. Ideally, I encourage players to train with me at least twice a week to reinforce learning Click & Visit instagram.com/jcrtennis and skill development.”

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Angela Cunningham -Simms MY STORY IS FOR GOD’S GLORY by Kerry-Ann McPherson

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e are inspired by the story of Angela Tanita Cunningham-Simms, author of My Story is for God’s Glory. She decided to write a personal account of her life because she believed it was time for the church to be open and honest. When God impressed upon her that He chose her to survive because He knew she would boldly give Him the honor, glory and praise, this mother of four and grandmother of nine could not remain silent. Angela asserts that if we have an unfamiliar mask, the world cannot find their way to Jesus.

As we sat down with Angela, she delightedly sang the words of a well-known hymn Amazing Grace: ‘through many dangers, toils and snares, I have already come,’ to signal her gratitude amidst her painful experiences. She is a survivor! In her own words, “I've had some shipwrecks, some fiery furnace experiences, some dark days, and some weary nights. But I stand before you today to declare it is good just to be alive.” VBD Magazine is happy to share a sneak peek of Angela’s story and her words of wisdom. She hopes that others will see that their story is also for God’s glory. MIRACULOUS TESTIMONY In September 2017, Angela developed blood clots in her lungs, fainted in the shower, and was rushed to the hospital. When she fell, she lost some of her front teeth. Without knowing the severity of the damage to her teeth, she was discharged from the hospital. However, a few days later, her mouth became infected and green matter started to come from her eyes. She was taken to the hospital once more, placed on blood thinners, assigned a walker for balance issues, and then sent home. One month later, a severe pain affected her left arm and despite her attempts to reduce the pain, nothing worked. Her daughter called 911 and thankfully, the medics treated her situation like a heart attack. In the emergency room, the doctors informed her that they could not treat her because she had no insurance. But by the grace of God, a young doctor decided to

out. Her message is clear: If you’re breathing, you have a story to tell, and someone needs to know that they too can make it! BOOK DESCRIPTION I am a survivor! God has forgiven my sins, so I dare not be too cute or overly concerned with peoples’ opinions of me. I will no longer allow other opinions of me to imprison my body, my mind, or my soul!

place her on observation for five days. During this time, they discovered that she had four blockages and did a quadruple bypass heart surgery. Although Angela admits that her illnesses were due to poor food choices and inactivity, mistreating her body, being overweight, and simply being unwilling to change, she acknowledges that she is alive today only because of God’s grace and mercy. WORDS OF WISDOM In light of her story, here are words of wisdom from Angela: • Love yourself enough to leave an abusive relationship. • Advocate for yourself at the doctor. • Know your heart health. • Do your part to be the change that humanity needs.

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Why did it take 56 years and so many missteps, mistakes, bad choices, near misses, sickness, and riotous living? Why did God choose me to survive it? I was created to bring God Glory. God chose me to survive it so He would get the Glory! My every breath is a witness to the world. Jesus died that we can be free. He is on His way back. He is warning us. He is giving us chance after chance to get it right. You see, as a survivor, I’ve courted shame, homelessness, embarrassment, self-hatred, imprisonment, abuse (physical, verbal, and emotional), abandonment, hurt, and confusion. Look what it got me. The devil was laughing at me. But somebody let it slip that I am a Royal Priesthood, a Peculiar People. Now I have straightened My Crown and I reign. The devil knows I will serve God with zeal and enthusiasm. God needs me to be honest and forthcoming because other people who are in those same situations need a Sojourner Truth. Somebody who’s not afraid to say “yes.” I was lost but Jesus found me. Yes, I was down but God’s love has lifted me. I’ve put all the ugly pieces of the messes I’ve created on the table at the Potter’s House. I choose to believe it was all for His Glory! He thought enough of the disaster that is my life to keep me here on this Earth. Why me? Why not me? I believe God has been orchestrating these challenges all of these 56 years because he knew someday, I would come to myself like the prodigal son. I am sharing my story because I want you to see yourself as victorious. I want you to know that God also chose you to survive! Your story is for God’s glory too!

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any couples get married with the hope of spending their entire lives together. But will every day of your marriage be a walk in the park with perfect weather? Absolutely not! We have heard time and time again that marriage is hard work. We should get it by now—happily-ever-after is possible but not without putting in the effort to nurture the relationship.

Alex and Evangelist Lisa Marie Morton, founders of Let There Be Light Worldwide Ministries, fully understand that even the best marriages go through ups and downs. The high school sweethearts have an impactful testimony about rebuilding their marriage. As a result, they have made it their mission to provide tools and strategies to help other couples maintain and strengthen their bonds. “We carry a deep passion when it comes to teaching on the importance of having an intimate relationship with Jesus Christ and partnering with Him in forgiveness, self-deliverance, and soul healing,” says Evangelist Lisa Marie. “We are committed to guiding people to total and complete restoration.” In an interview with VBD Magazine, the amazing couple talks about partnering with God to restore their marriage after divorce, rebuilding trust, effects of divorce on children, and ways to reestablish love in a marriage. ENDURING LOVE Alex and Evangelist Lisa Marie’s love story started when they were in high school when they fell deeply in love. “We had our first child when I was 16 years old, and by the time I was 25, I was a mother to 3 beautiful children,” Evangelist Lisa Marie tells us. “Our focus became success in business so we could provide a wonderful life for our children. We lost ourselves in the pursuit to build wealth and our priorities fell out of order. Our marriage suffered greatly. My husband's repeated infidelity was too much for me to bear. I couldn't see how our marriage

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could make it through the heartbreak of betrayal. Life became real once the issues and pain settled in. We felt like we were in over our heads and couldn't find a life saving device to pull us out of danger. We were drowning in marriage problems and lacked the tools and understanding needed to repair our marriage to make it work.” FACING DIVORCE “After 14 years together, Alex and I, along with our 3 young children, faced the devastation of divorce in 2015. That signaled the death of together forever and the stress and uncertainty that came with it was hard to endure. After suffering the effects of a broken home, I made the decision to partner with God and go after total and complete restoration for myself, my husband, our marriage, and our family. Daily, I submitted my life to the plan and purpose of God. It was then that I discovered who was the true enemy in my life. My focus shifted from my husband and everyone around me, to the master of lies and deception, Satan himself. I began to wage war and fight for what belonged to me. I went into the camp of the enemy and took what was mine!” REMARRYING EACH OTHER In some cases, remarriage between divorced couples happens and that was the

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case for Alex and Evangelist Lisa Marie. In 2016, the couple remarried.

truly recovers, they learn how to live with a broken heart and a broken situation.”

Building their new foundation took time “Often, after suffering a divorce, hindsight and effort, but they confronted past is- is 20/20,” Alex remarks. “You’re able to see where you could’ve made an improvesues and as time went by, they had a ment, you see where pride crept in, and clearer understanding of each other and what they desired in their marriage. “Our you see where the devil got in. We’re left marriage was restored into a more solid, mourning the situation and often regret tenacious, culpable, and mature union,” our decision. The truth is, divorce doesn’t bring happiness. It’s better to try and work Alex discloses. through the difficulties and get counseling than to divorce.” Evangelist Lisa Marie adds, “This was made possible through having crazy faith, partnering with God, forgiveness, attending EFFECTS OF DIVORCE ON CHILDREN marriage and individual counseling regu- Divorce can be difficult for kids, and larly, building trust, and being completely co-parenting after the separation is not committed to each other and our family, all easy. “Try your best to be a family although the while making God our new foundation. you've suffered divorce,” Evangelist Lisa Now we are committed to equipping peo- Marie encourages. “The dynamics of the ple with the tools necessary to obtain full family may have changed, but it is still an opportunity to pivot into something that restoration in their lives after defeat. We could still benefit everyone.” believe there is a palace, a place of reward and authority, after every pitfall. In fact, we are made better through the process.” “The parents should try their best to remain on the same page when raising their children,” Alex asserts. “Children need THE TRUTH ABOUT DIVORCE stability and love. Both homes should offer “I would say the biggest lie I discovered about divorce is, divorce is the only way to love, stability, and consistency. This will provide the children a stable environment achieve happiness when your marriage is difficult and depressing,” Evangelist Lisa versus an environment where the children are traumatized by a broken family while Marie states. “I've learned that divorce is like a death in a family. A family never the two parents are healing.”

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Evangelist Lisa Marie also recommends, “Doing activities as a family occasionally, even if it’s just catching a family dinner. When Alex and I were divorced, we made it a point to remain on the same page when it comes to the upbringing of our children. Although our children spent time between both homes, we both tried our best to see our children every day. Even if that meant just picking them up from school and dropping them off. Those couple of minutes in the car were valuable for me, Alex, and our children. Also, we spent time as a family at the children's sports events, birthday parties, holidays, and an occasional meal out.” REBUILDING TRUST Can a husband and wife rebuild trust? Alex and Evangelist Lisa Marie agree that rebuilding trust is possible and recommend the following: • Both of you must make the decision to be committed to each other and the marriage. • Trust is not established overnight. Be prepared for a long journey and have patience with each other in the process. • Have open communication and good boundaries. Let your spouse know where you're going and what you're those areas. For instance, if your spouse and families to wholeness so they can doing before you do it. Doing this deals with infidelity, kick the enemy out thrive and reach their full potential in will help your spouse to feel well- of that area and pray for your spouse to every sphere of life. informed so that he/she does not become resist temptations. Continue to cover your suspicious. spouse in prayer, being sure to address “This ministry was established after we • Come clean with all secrets and lies their weaknesses and petition for their realized our marriage and restoration and keep yourselves from creating any growth in those areas.” journey could help so many people going new secrets. through similar situations,” Evangelist • Remove passwords and anything that “Marriage is a ministry,” Alex states, “Treat Lisa Marie states. “We developed a heart may cause suspicion. it as such. Fasting for the stability and for marriages and restoration. We started • Make the decision to be honest in the health of your marriage should be a reg- with providing free counseling just to get relationship. ular thing both spouses should participate couples back on track. Our counseling in. Fasting will cause you both to humble program became very successful, and we RESTORING LOVE IN A MARRIAGE yourselves more, bring you both into launched into more avenues so we could Good marriages can be made better. How- alignment with God, and strengthen weak help not only marriages, but individuals ever, if your marriage has hit a difficult points the enemy may try to enter through.” and families. I realized in order for my hurdle, here are recommendations from marriage to be restored and stay restored the Mortons: LET THERE BE LIGHT WORLDWIDE I needed to commit to a lifelong vision MINISTRIES and plan.” “Pray, not just routine prayers but pray for Let There Be Light Worldwide Ministries the restoration of your marriage,” says was established by Alex and Evangelist Evangelist Lisa Marie. “Marriage needs Lisa Marie in 2019. Through outreach, Click & Visit strategic targeted spiritual warfare prayers. personal development programs, and complimentary counseling services, the belightworldwide.com Find where the weak points are within nonprofit organization restores individuals your marriage and kick the enemy out of

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ometimes, as women, we can use a little motivation to love ourselves. Loving you is an important part of the three main love tiers in a relationship: loving God, loving yourself, then loving your mate. Scripture shows us two things about this: Psalms 139 reminds us how God detailed every feature about you when He made you; and Ephesians 5:29 NLT, states “No one hates his own body but feeds it and cares for it.” This means that every woman is intricately designed and an original, who should care for and love herself.

Well, here are a few truths about you, which says you are a good, expensive treasure: • You are a treasure (wealth, prize). People who own expensive treasures will secure them under lock and key, in a bank vault, or use a security alarm to ensure the treasures are hidden from thieves who cannot see or get to them. Ladies, as a treasure, you are the prize to any man! When your mate finds you, his only response is how fortunate and blessed he is to find someone as valuable as you. Scripture

says in Proverbs 18:22 NLT “When a man finds a treasure (wife)…” The word “finds” in the original language means “meets”—therefore when a man meets his treasure—it is YOU. • You are good (quality, virtuous). Proverbs 18:22 KJV continues with, “… he finds a good thing.” So far, we know you are the prize, you are a treasure, and you are a good thing. In the very first book of the scripture, at creation, God referred to the woman as necessary to rectify a problem He

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called “not good.” God identified the problem and His answer to the dilemma was the woman. He built the woman to fix the “not good” problem; therefore, she is called good. • You are expensive (valuable, high worth). God not only says you are a virtuous woman—a woman of worth, upright, moral, and honest; but also describes your worth as very expensive — “far above rubies,” according to Proverbs 31:10. The ruby is considered the King of the Gems and among royalty,

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rubies are the preferred gem. According to the Ruby Gemstone Guide, the ruby “is the most easily recognizable gemstone in the world. The name comes from the word ruber, the Latin word for red. The ruby is some of the highestpriced colored gemstones. One carat is valued at up to $15,000 depending on size and color.” (https://www.bluenile. com/education/gemstone/ruby?) Ladies, we encourage you to accept who you are as a cherished gift God created.

Each time you look in the mirror and see the person looking back at you, affirm your love for her—she is a good, expensive, treasure. Now, that’s the truth.

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A Pleasing Plot by Pastor Danyelle Scroggins

hose of us who are romance readers always wish our spouses would just do half of what the author has written in their lines of their romantic scene. After years of marriage, it’s almost as if neither spouse understands the power of romance. Whether you are the giver or the receiver, romance is always and still right. So, I decided, there was no better way to help my couples than to help them write their own romances. To get them started, I give them what I call ‘a pleasing plot.’ Each spouse will use the pleasing plot template to write their own story, their fantasy, desires, and what’s in the corners of their mind. After the plot is completed, they will give it to their spouse to read aloud.

You’d be surprised by how much excitement is created between the two of you and how much you can re-ignite some flames that have seemingly been smothered by work, bills, children, honey do lists, and life. So, here’s what you will need: • The Pleasing Plot Template • A Pen or Pencil • A Willing Heart After your plot is finished, read it to each other. You can add more to your story to customize the plot according to your wishes, but have fun, make memories, and create new adventures.

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The Pleasing Plot Template I walked into my dimly lit __________________________ (name the space or room), and saw my spouse _______________________________ (write his/ her name) laying or sitting (pick one) on the ___________________ (place or thing), wearing ______________________________. It immediately caused ______________________________ _________________ (reaction), so I slowly walked towards _____________________________(the space or to him or her) with my mind set on _______________________________ __________________ (what will you do). I could hear __________________________________(sound), as _________________________________(write his/her name) ____________________________________ (write an action). It caused me to feel ________________________________ (an emotion), but I was sure that if I ___________________ _____________________(did what) the response would send us both ___________________________________(describe a euphoric description). So, I ________________________ (write what you did) to _____________________________ (write his or her name), and it __________________________ (write the reaction), and we _________________________________________. Until….

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