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The Muse

Rusted Root and Secret Sound at The Pony

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The Reality of Recruiting ...and much more!

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The Muse Rusted Root | Secret Sound | The Stone Pony | April 28th, 2017

by Steve DeJacimo

This may be the most biased music story you have ever read, but at least I am telling you in advance. I’m a huge fan of Rusted Root since the early nineties when I saw them in a small bar called JB’s Down in Kent, Ohio. They are from Pittsburgh. I won’t hold that against them.

So, as any fan would, after the opening band, Secret Sound, who was excellent, I weaseled my way up front and dead center to see one of my favorite folk/rock/ funk/world music bands. To the left, the beautiful sounds of a Patrick Norman 5-string funky bass. To the right, Liz Berlin with her washboard, pennywhistle and her beautiful vocals. Up front and center and leading the musical montage with his one of a kind tone and laser focused guitar playing, is Rusted Root founder, singer/songwriter, Mike Glabicki.

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They wove their hits in and out of the set list like a musical tapestry. “Ecstasy”, “Send me on my Way”, “Martyr” and many more…(see set list photo). Yes. When you stand all the way up front, the roadies give you set lists. Bonus!

So fast forward 27 years, Rusted Root proves that if you love your craft, you can sell 3 million records, tour relentlessly and seem just as cool and fresh as you were back in the day. They seem to keep that quality intact. And the Rusted Root music keeps rolling on down the road to the next venue. Check them out when you can.

What was most surprising was the opening band, Secret Sound, led by local bearded muse and great guit box player, Kevin Hildebrand. From the first note to the very last, he and his very talented band, including a very pointed flutist, absolutely tore the roof off The Stone Pony. Some people call them “jam bands”.

I like to say that bands like Secret Sound just know how to write music that is interesting for more than 3 minutes. A true beginning, middle and end…kind of like your favorite novel, done to music. With obvious classic rock and folk genre influences, Secret Sound is a musical force to be enjoyed by music fans from all over the spectrum.

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Back to Earth

It’s always Sunny

by Natalie Berko

Most people know sunscreen is a summer essential, but how many folks know what to look for. According to a research study at Northwestern University Feinerg School of Medicine, only 43% of people know the definition of SPF. SPF stands for “Sun-Protection-Factor’. “People think that SPF equals everything,” says Dr. Roopal Kindu a dermatologist at Northwestern. It does count for a lot, the “sun-protection-factor” measures a sunscreen’s ability to filter UVB rays which are related to sunburn and skin cancer. SPF however only measures UVB rays which don’t tell you anything about protection from UVA rays. Perhaps the most misunderstood factor in sunscreen is UVA. UVA is around every day and can even penetrate through window glass! UVA rays like UVB is also related to an increased risk of skin cancer, unlike UVB it is not filtered by the ozone at all. UVA doesn’t cause sunburn, but it can lead to skin darkening and aging, because it penetrates deeper into the skin it has more influence on collagen. When shopping for a sunscreen it is important to look for a bottle that says “broad spectrum” because there is no other metric on the bottle for UVA coverage.

Zinc Oxide is a natural sunscreen alternative that physically instead of chemically blocks rays, and is gaining popularity as consumers seek more natural beauty products. Zinc oxide protects against both UVA and UVB rays. Dr. Andrew Weil for Origin’s makes a great natural sunscreen “Mega Defense SPF 45” formulated with Opuntia Ficus-Indica a desert cactus that helps shield against harmful UVA/UVB rays. It is one of the first 100% non-chemical sunscreens introduced to the market.

30 times longer before you get sunburned than you would be able to if you went out without any protection. SPF 30 filters approximately 97% of UVB rays and SPF 50 filters about 98% of UVB rays.

Meaning despite the jump in SPF number the UVB filtering improvement is only a 1% improvement. Sunscreen and proper care Natalie Berko is important when having fun in the sun, recent stats show one in five Americans will develop skin cancer in their lifetime.

Knowing what to look for and when to apply will help your skin stay happy and healthy! For sunscreen to work as advertised, you should use about a shot glass worth for exposed areas. Typical adults should look got a water resistant, broad spectrum SPF 30 or higher sunscreen, and reapply every two hours for the best protection. In addition to sunscreen use dermatologist also recommend taking these skin saving tips: • Seek shade: The sun’s rays are strongest between 10 am and 2 pm.

If your shadow is shorter than you, it’s time to seek some shade!

• Wear protective clothing: Cover-ups, beach pants, widebrimmed hats and sunglasses will keep you fashionable and provide some cover from the sun.

• Use extra caution: When near water, snow and sand as they reflect the damaging rays of the sun, which can increase your chance of sunburn, so remember to reapply often.

SPF numbers are another confusing factor when it comes to picking out the right sunscreen. Contrary to popular belief SPF 15 is not half as effective as an SPF 30. An SPF of 30 means that technically you could be out in the sun

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Shore Recipes Parental Guidance I’m amazed that there was a time I didn’t think I liked peaches, but come summertime, I love them them. White peaches are my favorite for eating out of the hand but the yellow peaches give a nice sweet-tart flavor for cooked recipes. This take on the wedge salad uses grilled peaches and romaine. I happen to have the romaine pictured in my garden but typically use the larger store bought heads and it pairs well with grilled chicken or seafood. Poached peaches are so easy and an excellent topping for bowl of ice cream on hot summer nights. My favorite are jersey white peaches from local orchards (unfortunately not available at time of print). But check out Eastmont Orchards in Colts Neck if you want to pick your own. Enjoy!!

Grilled Peach and Romaine Salad

2 small romaine head 2 Fresh peaches, sliced and stone removed Blue Cheese crumbles 4 slices of crispy bacon White Balsamic vinaigrette Olive oil Honey Remove loose leaves and leave stem end intact. Slice romaine in half lengthwise. Soak upside down in a large pot of water and lift romaine out of the pot before draining the water to remove all the sand. Allow to drain well upside down. Slice peaches and remove stone. Brush romaine and peaches with honey-olive oil mixture. Place on grill n high for approx. 1 minute, just until seared, turn and cook for 1 minute more.

Remove from grill and drizzle with white balsamic vinaigrette. Top with blue cheese and bacon crumbles and grilled peaches.

Poached Peaches

6 large peaches, halved and stone removed.

3 cups or water 1 ½ cups of sugar 1 TBSP vanilla extract 3-4 slices shaved fresh ginger Place water, sugar vanilla and peaches in a medium pot. Bring to bold stirring to dissolve sugar. Add peach halves and cook 8 minutes until peaches are tender. Allow peaches to cool in liquid.

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Students of 08742 The Reality of Recruiting

by Jacqueline Goss

Diversity, character, and academic achievement. These are the top qualities college coaches seek in the young athletes they recruit – that’s according to Rutgers University’s Head Wrestling Coach Scott Goodale and Associate Head Track & Field Coach Robert Farrell and Fred Hill, Assistant Basketball Coach at Seton Hall University, who shared these and other insights into what it’s like to recruit, play and coach Division 1 level college sports at the Point Pleasant Borough School District’s recent forum, The Reality of Recruiting.

On May 4, the three Division 1 coaches joined Supervisor of Point Pleasant Borough Schools’ Athletics Chris Ferrone at Point Pleasant Borough High School’s Loren Donley Auditorium to take part in a panel discussion where they provided student athletes and their parents with a realistic look at the college athletic recruitment process.

Superintendent of Point Pleasant Borough Schools Vincent S. Smith served as moderator.

“There seems to be a lot of myths and misconceptions surrounding Members of the panel answer questions about the myths and misconceptions of college recruitment and collegiate athletics in general,” said Superincollege recruiting and college athletics. tendent Smith. “Coach Ferrone and I felt it was important to host this forum and bring together a panel of experts who could clarify some of “Personally, I went Division 3 because I wanted to play in college and because it those false impressions and shed some light on the process to ensure that the was the best fit,” he said citing his experience attending Montclair State. expectations of our parents and their children match the practical and financial Coaches Farrell and Goodale both emphasized the value of diversity in athletes, realities of college athletics.” encouraging students to play multiple sports.

The prospect of continuing their athletic careers at the college level is “I want athletes I can develop,” said Coach Farrell. “An athlete that plays on something that most student-athletes dream about but - depending on the multiple teams for multiple coaches shows flexibility and a willingness to sport - only between two and four percent will ever experience. And college be taught.” coaches must consider a great many factors when deciding to recruit an athlete - the least of which is playing ability.

The coaches also discussed the reality of athletic scholarships, clarifying some common misconceptions.

“The first thing I do when looking at an athlete, after checking their grades, is follow them on Instagram and Twitter,” said Robert Farrell, who’s currently in “With college costs spiraling out of control and parents looking for relief from his fifth season as coach of the Scarlett Knights Men’s Track & Field Team and the exorbitant tuition prices, more and more families are looking to athletic first as the program’s associate head coach. “Talent is easy. Talent I can see by scholarships to partially or completely offset tuition costs, which is, unfortuwatching an athlete compete but I want to know who they are off the track.” nately, statistically unlikely,” said Coach Ferrone. “Full scholarships are only offered in the sports football, basketball and volleyball and even then, they’re Thirty-year coaching veteran Fred Hill said he looks for the player that’s going to not guaranteed. Coaches are allocated a certain number of scholarships, which contribute to the winning culture he’s helped establish with Seton Hall’s Pirates they then split up and distribute among players at their discretion.”

Basketball Team, he said, “When we won the Big East Championship in 2016, it wasn’t because we had the best team but because we had the best attitude.

As a basketball coach, Coach Hill is able to offer full scholarships to every Character is number one after academics.” player he signs to his program; however, Coach Goodale divvies up the equivalent of 10 total scholarships among his 30-person roster while Coach Goodale, currently in his tenth year of coaching Rutgers Wrestling Team, Coach Farrell gets 12.6 to split among 50 total team members. also ranks character as a critical factor in his decision-making process, taking it a step further than his colleagues, saying “I go on home visits. I want to see “Every kid gets a different number with each earning the amount they get,” how a prospective recruit talks to his parents and siblings and I want to see the said Coach Goodale. players room, to check if it reflects his character and attitude.”

“Part of the reason it’s so important to diversify – especially in Track & Field – All three coaches stressed the importance of academics, stating that was their is that an athlete that can compete in multiple events can contribute more to the first and foremost concern due to college admissions becoming more and team and can therefore earn a more generous scholarship,” added more selective.

Coach Farrell.

“I look at it as though we’re making an investment in the players we recruit,” According to recent NCAA statistics, the average athletic scholarship for the said Coach Hill, who said every player he recruits receives a full scholarship.

2016-2017 school year is about $10,400, which against the average cost of “I can’t make that investment on a student who’s going to be deemed college tuition and fees for the current school year - $33,480 for private and academically ineligible to compete.” $24,930 for state – falls far short.

According to Coaches Farrell, Rutgers requires a minimum SAT score of 1250 “To put it in perspective, consider that there roughly 1 million high school and a GPA of 3.5 and above for admission. football players in this country who are competing for about 19,500 scholarships,” Mr. Ferrone said. “Just over two percent of those students will commit “Though Rutgers is definitely selective, I’ve found that academic and athletic to Division I schools and the amount of any scholarship they receive could achievement often go hand-in-hand and athletes at this elite level tend to have be negligible. There are no guarantees and even if a student does receive an a strong work ethic in everything they do,” he said. athletic scholarship, there is always the possibility it may not be renewed after Once an athlete is determined to possess the talent, grades and character to the first year.” warrant further attention, then the focus turns to fit whether the player is the The coaches concluded the presentation with some advice for current and right fit for the team and the college or university is the right fit for the student prospective student athletes, encouraging them to be proactive and to market and whether the roster can accommodate each athlete’s unique skillset. themselves to coaches with personalized letters of introduction. They stressed “Fit is incredibly important,” said Coach Hill. “I see a lot of athletes trying to the importance of making as many unofficial college visits as possible to go to the biggest, most well-known school and that’s a mistake. They need to determine if the relationships with the coaches, teammates and school are the consider whether they’re going to get the best education because there are no right fit and cautioned against using fee-based recruiting services and camps guarantees. Last year, 800 kids transferred out of Division 1 colleges; I look at or academies that make exaggerated claims and promises in exchange for that as 800 mistakes. You need to consider what’s the best fit and where you’re high retainers. going to have the best experience. And that’s not always going to be Division 1.

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Point Boro’s Fifth Annual Spring Prom is a Night to Remember

by Jacqueline Goss

of both high school and district administration, got to work, pounding the pavement in search of donations and planning fundraisers, all to make their students’ dreams of attending a prom, a reality.

As one of high school’s final major events before graduation, prom represents the culmination of students’ high school experience and has become one of pre-college life’s significant milestones. For most high school students, attending the prom is a tradition and a rite of passage that allows for simultaneous reflection and anticipation as prom-goers’ budding sentimentality about their childhoods blends with excitement about their future beyond high school. Prom can serve as the bridge between students’ past and future selves that provides a glimpse into the diverging paths they and their peers will soon take.

And their combined efforts paid off, raising enough money for the First Annual Spring Prom in 2013.

“All six students from the Life Skills Program along with 23 student volunteers attended the inaugural Spring Prom,” said Mrs. Thomson.

“Our students had a wonderful time at their first ever prom, and it was awesome to be able to experience it with them. We knew that, going forward, we wanted to make the prom bigger and better.”

But for students with special needs, attending the prom can seem unattainable, an activity made exceedingly difficult, if not impossible, because of these students’ unique needs. Whether a student’s disability requires the assistance of a nurse or aide, who would typically be unable to work an evening event, or for those who require assisted mobility devices that certain venues cannot accommodate, or those for whom loud noises and strobe lights provoke sensory issues, attending the prom can pose insurmountable challenges.

A feat they achieved with the Second Annual Spring Prom held at the Spring Lake Manor in 2014 and with every Prom since then. Now, the Spring Prom attracts double the number of special needs students and double the amount of student volunteers!

“Based on the success of that first event, we decided to invite some additional students, who, although they are not in the Life Skills class, do have special needs,” said Mrs. Thomson, explaining that they expanded the guest list to include special education students from the high school’s resource centers.

Plus, considering the fact that many special education programs for students with multiple disabilities typically retain their students until they reach age 21, thereby negating traditional grade level assignments, additional questions arise regarding which prom – junior or senior – would be appropriate for students to attend.

And as for the student volunteers? Mrs. Thomson and Ms. Gearing had to begin turning volunteers away as their numbers swelled to nearly 50, a mix of students from the high school’s student ambassador program and the key club as well as a number of students from Technology Teacher Nick Gattuso’s Software Engineering class, the same students who work with the Life Skills students to develop the Panther Assisted Learning Software or PALS applications.

Though they receive almost double the applications, student volunteers are now capped at 45.

This was the question that plagued the teachers of Point Pleasant Borough High School’s Life Skills Program for Students with Multiple Disabilities, who, for years, struggled with how they could bring the prom experience to the students in their program.

“The prom is such an important experience in the life of a high school student,” said Ms. Anne Gearing, who along with Phyllis Thomson serves as the Life Skills Program’s teachers.

“Mrs. Thomson and I wanted our students to have that experience, so we began having discussions about which prom event might be best for them to attend.

We knew that, although our students have every opportunity to attend either the junior prom or the senior ball, they might not be as comfortable in a larger, and potentially unfamiliar crowd.”

On May 5, the group of students – the special needs students with their non-disabled peers – joined together at Spring Lake Manor to dance the night away at the Cinco de Mayo-themed Fifth Annual Spring Prom.

The guests danced for approximately three hours straight to tunes courtesy of DJ Alex Bromley as the evening’s paparazzo, high school math teacher and part-time photographer Gerard Marrone, who volunteered his photography services, snapped their photos.

After reluctantly taking a break from the dance floor, the students, seated side-by-side at fancy clothed tables decorated with festive piñatas and colorful balloons, dined on a catered buffet that included everything from chicken nuggets and French fries to tacos and nachos while the other guests, including the teachers and paraprofessionals who work with the special needs students each day, members of the district’s Child Study Team and Superintendent of Schools Vincent S. Smith looked on at an unforgettable evening that would not have been possible if not for the hard work and dedication of Mrs. Thomson and Ms. Gearing.

But the seed was planted, and while both teachers agreed that although the existing prom events might not be the best fit for their students, there was no reason that they couldn’t create a new event. And thus, the concept for the Spring Prom, a prom designed specifically for students with special needs, was born.

Deciding to have the prom was the easy part - where to host it, what to do about volunteers and how to pay for it – proved somewhat more challenging.

For a traditional prom, students from the respective grade level, typically purchase prom bids or tickets at a pre-determined price, to spread the event’s cost among a large pool of attendees. With an anticipated guest list consisting of six students, funding the prom through traditional means would have been impossible. Never ones to back down from a challenge, however, Mrs. Thomson and Ms. Gearing, with the full, enthusiastic support

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And work hard they did! Amid the ever-growing interest in the Spring Prom, Mrs. Thomson and Ms. Gearing have had to begin planning the event earlier and earlier in the school year.

“To fund the prom, Phyllis [Thomson] and I hold a massive gift auction each winter that’s sponsored by the Point Pleasant Elks,” said Ms. Gearing.

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Parental Guidance Home Safe Home

By Maureen Whelan

Many parents believe that what their own children watch on TV, and play on gaming systems are strictly a parents’ preferential choice. While I agree with that in theory, I have also come to understand that what a child watches, how much they watch, and how they process what is seen is felt not only by the child, but by peers, teachers and acquaintances. I’m not sure where the breakdown is, as this seems like information that is readily available, but somewhere along the line we are failing our children if we do not only “monitor” but restrict what young, impressionable and developing brains see.

It is a general belief in human developmental fields, *children begin to understand fact vs. fiction at the age of 3.

Most of these studies include children observing cartoon like scenarios with make believe characters, such as fairies and trolls. However, there has been tremendous development in the field of animation, making many pretend characters appear real, interact with humans, and perform realistic activities. Suddenly the line is blurred. *There are studies that reveal children start demonstrating empathy and compassion as early as 12 months, such as, when they reach out in attempt to share their food. Around the age of 7 they gain a clearer understanding between right and wrong, and this continues to develop in a greater capacity through the age of 25. But when children are exposed to images of of violence, trauma, destruction and deception, and the perpetrator is rewarded for his deeds, the line is blurred yet again.

Recently I was working with a 4 year old boy who was acting out of his norm. Clingy, defiant and destructive behavior overtook this playful little boy. Clearly, something had changed. In conversation he told me he saw something scary. When I prodded a little further he told me that he “watched The Walking Dead with Daddy”.

Another student that I work with began having panic attacks and episodes of irrational fears at the age of 10.

He reports his favorite thing to do is watch YouTube videos. His peers share that they do this too, a popular one called “Five Nights of Freddie”. He also plays games such as Plants vs Zombies. I had to look these up to really understand what they were seeing, and my responses were gut wrenching. My heart was racing, my stomach in knots and my breathing changed. The images were nothing less than disturbing and I found myself needing time to reset. Thankfully, I have the foundation of skills to know that I needed to turn these images off. They were not making my body, my mind or my heart feel good.

I was able to remind myself that I was safe, that the images were not real, and I was able to return to believing that most people in this world are good. But children with repeated exposure to these images begin to identify with the characters. Children do not have secure coping skills to deal with these images, so their responses vary greatly.

They long to make connections with the what they are seeing. If they identify with the victim, they begin to share the trauma, pain and fear that the video victim experiences. If they identify with the aggressor they begin to feel as though people deserve harm, pain, revenge and suffering. Both have tremendous consequences on our society.

And as parents, when we allow our children to watch and respond to these images, we are sending a clear message that this is OK. The world we are raising our kids in is a difficult one. Adults should understand the dangers of being outside the home, the influences of strangers, and unsupervised activities. But when we allow our children to have unrestricted time and access to all that is online and in games, we are doing more harm.

We have just introduced the dangers of strangers, the influence of poor judgment and the intrigue of the unknown into our homes.

The person your child is playing online games with IS a stranger. The videos of people performing risky and stupid behavior has just been enticingly glamorized as your child sees how many others “like” this. The safety of the home is lost to the fear that your parents might actually be zombies in disguise. Trust is obscured and the message to make the moral choice is diminished.

Take back your homes. Make them havens of safety, nourishment and good. Use media wisely. If your 10 year old wants to watch “13 Reasons Why”, start with a conversation. What do they know about it? Have they ever discussed suicide with their friends? How would they feel if someone they know committed suicide? Have they ever felt hopeless? And by all means let them know that many people would be saddened and feel a tremendous loss if someone they knew committed suicide. If you are going to subject your child to graphic images, images they can’t “unsee”, view it first, alone. Take notice of your own responses, your head, your heart and your body, and know your child will feel all that and more.

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There are plenty of good resources, a favorite of mine being “Common Sense Media” (www.commonsensemedia.org ) Look at both the parent ratings and the children’s ratings. Many times the child rates it appropriate for an older age than the parents. Teach your children that if that they view something that makes them feel uneasy or confused, that they should talk to you. Children are curious beings, and will explore subject matters without understanding the impact or potential harm it will cause.

Teach them how to regulate their time, provide alternate tech-free activities, and positive experiences of human interaction to provide their developing brains, bodies and hearts what is needed.

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Maureen Whelan is a pediatric Occupational Therapist and mother of 4 children ages 16,14, 12 and 8.

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“It is knowing the good, loving the good and doing the good. And that requires both cognitive and emotional components.”

Newsweek, March 13, 2000. “Learning Right From Wrong: The fragile steps toward a child’s understanding that lying, stealing, cheating and hurting are out of bounds.”

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Globe Trotting Southern Rhode Island Boasts Historic Mansions, Gardens and Small-Town New England Charm

By Denise DiStephan

Historic mansions, oysters fresh from salt ponds and everything coming up azaleas are just a few of southern Rhode Island’s draws.

Another seafood gem on the waterfront in South Kingstown is Two Ten Oyster Bar and Grill. But this place gets extremely crowded on holidays, weekends, and any time URI is having any special event.

So try to visit at a non-peak time or plan on possibly waiting for a table.

Some of the most unique and spectacular attractions in the southern half of the Ocean State are the fabled mansions overlooking Easton Bay in Newport.

Nearby in Kingstown, a short hop from URI, is Kinney Azalea Gardens, 1381 Kingstown Rd., where visitors can stroll amid gorgeous bursts of multi-colored azaleas and rhododendrons. But to find this garden, you have to look for what appears to be a typical home with only a small sign announcing its name, making it easy to miss. Here is what the front looks like on Google maps http://bit.ly/2sdEhej

So far, I’ve visited only one: Marble House, built in the late 1800s for Mr. and Mrs. William K. Vanderbilt, the latter of whom retained the home after their divorce. She fancied herself a trailblazer for filing for divorce when it was hardly the thing to do among ladies of a certain stature back in the day. I learned that little tidbit, and many others, from the educational audio tour. Do not tour any of the mansions without either the audio or a guided tour (whichever is offered at the property you visit).

If you want to feel like a college kid going out for burgers and brews, look no further than Mew’s Tavern, a URI hangout in Wakefield that doesn’t skimp on good cooking and friendly service. If you love Frankie’s in Point Pleasant Beach, you’ll love Mews. My husband won’t go to RI without a visit to Mew’s to sample local craft beers and daily specials.

Around every turn in Marble House is another work of art, in frescos, moldings, paintings, sculptures, carved pieces of period furniture and draperies.

Just a little word to the wise: no matter how much you love the intricate, stunning lace of the curtains, don’t touch them or one of the docents will tell you not to (ask me how I know!).

For those who are, like me, not professional photographers, try to pick up a few tips before your road trip to RI about shooting in low light since the mansions are dimly lit.

Try to plan your Newport trip with a second, consecutive day to visit mansions: if you save your ticket and receipt, you’ll get a discount on Day Two. If your idea of getting to know a new place is strolling and shopping, then Newport’s Bowen’s Wharf, brimming with shops and art galleries, will be your idea of heaven. Finish the day with dinner at 22 Bowen’s Wine Bar and Grille. My daughter, a 20-year-old University of Rhode Island (URI) college student, rated Bowen’s as superior to the nearby Mooring where she had once dined with her aunt and uncle.

If you’d rather stay away from the bustling tourist areas, try dining at Matunuck Oyster Bar in South Kingstown. The menu has “farm to table” offerings and they’re not just talking veggies.

Oysters raised in a nearby pond are also served daily, in addition to produce grown in their own garden. You can taste the freshness in this expansive, comfortable restaurant overlooking the water.

Top Photo: One of the many blooming azalea bushes at the Kinney Azalea Gardens in Kingstown, RI Center Photo: Marble House in Newport and its “backyard,” overlooking Easton Bay. Lower Photo: Bedroom of Mrs. Alva Vanderbilt at Marble House in Newport

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by Katherine Kehoe

The other day, my girlfriends and I were making plans to hang out, and the question of what we should do inevitably arose.

We needed something affordable, but also wanted something a little better than just hanging around at one of our houses. We wanted quality time together, but away from our families and the stresses that nag us at home. In the end, we probably wound up spending about an hour in a group text message dismissing any ideas as too expensive, too far away, or too boring and routine.

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Katherine Kehoe When not writing for 08742, Katherine is a Librarian and Drexel Graduate Student

Especially as we get older, planning what to do becomes a problem, because we tack on more and more responsibilities, and money can get really tight. I’ve written about how important I think it is to spend time with your girlfriends and be silly and have a little fun. With summer here, we can spend time outside and we have some great options. So, after this debate, we came up with some ideas that are easy, simple, and cheap – or free! – ways to get that time with your best ladies.

1. Walk the boardwalk. We are blessed to live close to the beach, but badges are expensive. However, you don’t have to pay to hang out on the boards! Take advantage of the scenery and head to any of the local boardwalks to get some exercise and catch up at the same time.

2. Ride your bikes. This goes along with walking, but you can cover a lot more ground when you’re on bikes. My girls and I rode from one house in Spring Lake all the way up to Asbury, and it felt awesome!

(THE REALITY OF RECRUITING, continued)

3. Kayak or canoe. We have several places around here where you can rent a kayak for a few hours, and when you split the cost between two or more of you, it really isn’t much to think about. This is another fantastic way to get exercise that will really get you out of your comfort zone.

“I receive between 50-75 emails from recruiting services a day,” said Coach Hill. “I delete every single one without opening.”

“I never look at them,” Coach Goodale said of recruiting emails. “Work on making connections with coaches on your own. You don’t need to pay a service or go to an expensive academy, in fact, I think it’s more impressive to succeed in your home school than one of those specialized academies, it shows more initiative and drive.”

4. Plant a garden. Going out to eat can be expensive, but if you grow your own veggies in the backyard, you can snack on them together later. Or you can stick to flowers, herbs, whatever you like! Don’t know anything about gardening? Well, there are plenty of web sites or books out there that can teach you!

Coach Farrell urged students to keep a constant dialogue with their coaches and the guidance department, he said, “Your coaches and guidance counselors are key. Your counselors can make sure you’re where you need to be academically and that you’ve taken the right classes to be on target; and your coaches are one of the most valuable resources. They can communicate things I can’t learn from a profile.”

5. Have a fire. Get a group of you together and sit around the fire pit.

Bring some beers if you want, or maybe some s’mores or hot dogs.

You’ll have plenty of quiet down time to talk and hang out with simple snacks rather than anything exorbitant or expensive.

“The Point Pleasant Borough School District’s Athletic Program has historically been very successful in garnering the attention of leading college athletic programs,” said Superintendent Vincent S. Smith. “Among this year’s group of students to sign National Letters of Intent are an impressive eight members of Point Pleasant Borough High School’s Class of 2017! This is an incredible achievement that demonstrates the integral role sports can play in a student’s life; however, these achievements have only been possible due to the combination of our students’ passion, dedication and hard work along with the support of their coaches, teachers and parents.

These are only a few ideas, but you get the idea: Summer fun doesn’t have to mean going out for dinner or drinks and spending lots of money.

You can be smart and creative and you have plenty of opportunities to hang out with your friends and relax – that’s what summer is for!

Though we encourage our students to pursue every post-secondary opportunity, including college sports, we as a district must ensure they have the most relevant and accurate information,” he said. “We hope this forum helped shed some light on the process and, going forward, it will help our families make the most informed decisions for themselves and their children.”

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The Book Report “All the Light We Cannot See” by Anthony Doerr A book review by Brian Favretto

Marie-Laure is a timid young girl who lives with her widowed father in Paris in the 1930’s. When she loses her eyesight at age 6, her father, the master locksmith at The Museum of Natural History in Paris, spends his time building a wooden scale replica of their neighborhood so that Marie-Laure can be independent. Apprehensive at first, she learns to navigate her way around the streets of Paris by memorizing, through her sense of touch, the replica that her father built for her. She passes her days at the museum with her father, and spends her evenings mastering braille to help fuel her love of books. When the Nazi’s occupy Paris, Marie-Laure, now 12, and her father flee to the safety of relatives in the protected city of St. Malo. Unbeknownst to Marie-Laure, they have been tasked by the museum to take with them a coveted blue diamond called the Sea of Flames, and to keep it out of the hands of the Nazis at all costs. The Sea of Flames is said to have the power of eternal life for its keeper, yet the promise of disaster for those close to his heart. Compelled to build a new model for Marie-Laure, her father wanders the streets of St. Malo making notes and taking measurements. This earns him being imprisoned for espionage, leaving Marie-Laure to care not only for herself, but also for her eccentric uncle who suffers from post traumatic stress caused by The Great War. Miles away, in a German mining town, Werner Pfennig and his sister Jutta are being raised in an orphanage when they stumble upon a broken radio.

To the benefit of the entire orphanage, Werner is able to fix the machine, providing countless hours of much needed entertainment, especially from a narrated program about science.

He develops a skill for fixing all types of radios, and is soon in high demand for his abilities, which land him an offer to attend an elite Nazi training school. Aware of the uprising the Nazis have spawned, Jutta tries to talk him out of accepting entry. “Is it right to do something only because everyone else is doing it?” she asks. Determined not to spend his days in a coalmine, he endures the horrors of the training school, and finds himself in an elite Wermacht unit that tracks down unapproved radio transmissions. Slowly he comes to realize the foresight of his younger sister.

In “All the Light We Cannot See”, Anthony Doerr keeps the reader focused and entranced by jumping back and forth in time, and alternating chapters between these two main characters. He uses science, good fortune, and inherent human goodness to cross the paths of Marie-Laure and Werner in a most unconventional way. In the midst of one of history’s darkest times, Doerr shows that if we listen to our conscience just a bit more, taking even the smallest stand against something immoral can have dramatic effects. He highlights the damaging effects of our hunger for power. If possessing the Sea of Flames represents power, we can be immortal once we have it, but in our quest for power we hurt those around us. Doerr also creates two characters who show the reader what it means to suffer patiently through our troubles.

Marie-Laure and Werner patiently persevere through blindness, cruelty and loss, and they are able to endure the horror of a conflict that they had nothing to do with. This story left me grateful that I wasn’t one of the thousands of children who had to deal with this as a reality.

“All the Light We Cannot See” is a wonderfully written, heart-wrenching tale. Thank you to Anthony Doerr for the multitude of brief chapters, but as the story neared its end, it became fastpaced and increasingly difficult to put the book down. As several races are being run at the same time, I found myself cheering for more than one winner. Be sure not to gloss over the amazing chapter called “The Simultaneity of Instants”, which was one of the most thought-provoking passages I’ve read in quite some time. “All the Light We Cannot See” is available in all our local libraries, so reserve your copy and be ready to cheer for Anthony Doerr.

“All the Light We Cannot See”, 2014, Scribner Books.

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Featured Business of the Month Alternative to Pain

By Katherine Kehoe

Many of us wake up with pain. All sorts of different ailments and symptoms rise up in people of all ages, and our first instinct is usually to turn to bottles of pills to dull the pain. But that isn’t the only option. Jeºrsey Shore Wellness Center is a chiropractic office in Point Pleasant, New Jersey, owned by Dr. Tony Garrow and Dr. Susan Nemiroff. Their mission is to help as many people as they can to get healthier, feel better, feel younger, and avoid invasive drugs and surgery.

Dr. Tony has been practicing since 2000 at Garrow Family Chiropractic. He grew up and went to high school in Wall Township, so it seemed a natural fit to him to return there to open up a practice. He, Dr. Susan, and her husband, Dr. Lance Nemiroff, all went to school together at Life University in Georgia. Ultimately, they shared the same goal of pursuing a career that would afford them the opportunity to help a lot of people, and to offer a more natural route to wellness. About five years ago, they were reunited by chance and joined his practice. Not long after, Dr. Susan and Dr. Tony teamed up to open Jersey Shore Wellness Center and it has been thriving for the past two and a half years.

Chiropractic has been around for over one hundred years, but recently has been gathering increasing support. We have seen a rise in problems with the abuse of prescription drugs, and there has been a push for alternatives to medication.

Not only does Jersey Shore Wellness Center provide chiropractic services as an alternative, but they also have staff to offer acupuncture, massage therapy, physical therapy, nutrition and supplements.

The staff at Jersey Shore Wellness Center works with people of all ages, from infants to seniors. There has actually been a rise in the number of younger patients, because the increase in the use of electronics has led to more sedentary lives, which creates back and neck problems in children and teenagers. Initially, chiropractors find that patients come to them with some kind of symptoms or discomfort. Usually within a few visits, or just a few weeks, they will see notable improvement.

On top of that, often patients begin to recognize many of the other health benefits of chiropractic in addition to simply relieving one point of pain.

Dr. Tony Garrow & Dr. Susan Nemiroff

In addition to services in the office, the doctors are actively involved in the community.

Dr. Susan is a past president of the Point Pleasant Beach Rotary, and currently on the board for the Point Pleasant Beach Chamber of Commerce. Dr. Tony is on the board of the Point Pleasant Boro Chamber of Commerce, as well as the Jersey Shore Chamber of Commerce.

Dr. Lance is also the president of the Jersey Shore Triathlon Club. They run fund raisers for organizations such as St. Gregory’s Pantry and offer community service to give back, such as chair massage for teachers. They also have a strong focus on athletes and have been chiropractors for the Lakewood Blue Claws, and are currently working with Sky Blue FC, New Jersey’s professional soccer team. The practice has been awarded the Business Excellence Award by the Point Pleasant Chamber of Commerce and the Osprey Award for Outstanding Community Service by the Jersey Shore Chamber of Commerce.

Currently, Dr. Tony and Dr. Susan are focused on growing both the Jersey Shore Wellness Center in Point Pleasant and Garrow Family Chiropractic practice in Sea Girt. They hope to serve both Ocean and Monmouth County and help as many people as they can to learn about better and more natural health care options.

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The Power of Positive Thinking Do You Feel Like You Are Constantly Being Tested?

by Allison Feehan, N.D., D.Psc, CRMT

You catch every red light while trying to race to an appointment that you are already late for. Your child can’t find his homework while you’re racing to get him out the door to catch the bus. Why is it that we always feel tested? And why is it we always feel like it never ends and it is always happening to us?

How come you feel as if no one else can possibly feel as tested as you do?

They seem to have it so easy.

These types of tests are a test of patience while other tests in our life test our will power. A reoccurrence of situations may take place having you wonder is it them or is it me? Friends or family may be treating you poorly and now you’ve had it. You’re done and you can’t take it anymore. You’ve been tested for the last time. You might even be looking for a match to burn that relationship bridge down to the ground. But before you turn to the matches try and take a step back and view the situation in a different light. The light isn’t who is right and who is wrong. The light is how are you responding?

When others continuously make us feel put-out or put-down we want to put them in their place. An argument may ensue or a relationship bruised for life.

If it’s the same person testing you over and over again there may be a deeper-rooted issue that may have nothing to even do with you. This individual may treat others the same way they treat you you just aren’t seeing it. Assess the situation and how you normally respond to this person.

Do you react, shout, yell, or shutdown completely. Does the situation get you wound up for days? If you are responding the same way you always respond you will continue to receive the same situation presenting itself to you. Try a new approach on how you respond. You may need to set healthy boundaries with this person moving forward.

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If you are continuously presented with similar situations of multiple people treating poorly then you may need to assess inwards.

What are you doing to others that are triggering them to treat you this way?

Are they truly treating you poorly or are you super sensitive to being tested?

Sometimes it has nothing to do with you but how they are living their lives and not being as mindful to others feelings.

Similar advice applies. If you continue to respond the same to similar situations you will continuously be presented with a test of how you will respond. You cannot control others actions but you are responsible for your own actions and reactions.

Allison Feehan N.D., D.Psc, CRMT Owner of Integrative Healing and Wellness 732.202.6797 523 Main Avenue Bay Head, NJ

By changing your response to others you also change the frequency at which you vibrate. Emotions have a measured frequency and if you change the frequency at which you vibrate you will attract the changes you wish to see.

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Rover Rescue Desensitization vs. Flooding

by Lauren Kehoe

The world can be a scary place at times. Dogs, like people, have different fears. There are a variety of ideas floating around to help ease these fears.

One particularly important distinction to make is between flooding and desensitization.

Desensitization is a method that involves very low levels of exposure to the fear object or stimulus.

Flooding on the other hand exposes the dog to the object all at once. For example, if a dog was afraid of a vacuum cleaner, desensitization may involve someone vacuuming upstairs while another person distracts the dog downstairs or outside with treats or play. Flooding may mean sticking the dog in a room with the vacuum until it calms down.

Brock’s Story

Lauren Kehoe is an avid animal lover and dog owner.

Flooding can be extremely traumatic to a dog. Imagine you were deathly terrified of spiders and someone threw you in a room with a hundred daddy long legs. The idea is that dogs, like humans, can only continue producing adrenaline for so long. Eventually it will stop and the body will calm down. Unfortunately, dog owners have used this method unaware of the backlash that can come with it.

Flooding often makes a dog more anxious. It can lead to shutting down, aggression, or increased fear. If you lock your dog in the room and begin vacuuming around him, in addition to being terrified of the machine, he may begin to associate you with fear. It could even cause a normally nonaggressive dog to redirect out of panic, putting you at risk of getting bit.

Dogs cannot understand that somewhere down the road this event could help them; all they know is the intense fear in the moment.

This gorgeous purebred English Labrador is Brock. He may be 7 years old but sure does not act like it!! Brock lacks in obedience training. He is one strong boy who pulls hard on the leash, his owner really did not walk him, they just let him out in the fenced in yard. This dog is not for the feeble! He is super sweet and loving though....a little confused why he is here right now with us. Sadly, his owner went through a divorce and their home was being foreclosed on and they were no longer able to keep this sweet boy. He has lived with kids and is great with them. He will be able to go home after he is neutered. He does not have any experience with cats or dogs potential adopters that have either would have wait til he was tested with them. Please consider giving Brock a new home, he will be so grateful.

Denny’s Story

Desensitization is a much safer and gentler approach. It involves time and patience, but is worth the wait. Sessions should be kept short and positive.

It is important to keep your dog focused on you. A large majority of dogs are food motivated, so doing some basic obedience such as sit, down, stay, while delivering praise and treats is a great option. Over time, as the scary noise or object gets closer or louder, you may need to graduate to higher value treats such as deli meat or cheese rather than plain biscuits. If your dog isn’t food motivated, you can try engaging new toys, lots of belly rubs, or walks.

Going too fast with desensitization can make your dog more reactive. Paying attention to your dog and its body language can help determine whether to continue or end the session. Some examples of stress include lip licking, darting eyes, lowered tail, yawning, a tense body, head turning, or yawning.

If your dog begins exhibiting these behaviors, it is a good time to call off the training session and resume at a later time.

Fear is very real, but luckily so is overcoming it. Exposure to all kinds of stimulus paired with treats from an early age can help prevent dogs from developing negative associations. Pre-existing fears do not have to be debilitating. Whether it is vacuum cleaners, bicycles, fireworks, people with hats, other dogs, progress can be made. Here’s to lower stress levels for you and your best friend!

This dog is part of our shelter outreach program where we take dogs from overcrowded shelters in hopes of finding them a forever home here! We generally do not have much background info on them and cannot guarantee they are housebroken. They are all up to date on vaccines, spayed/neutered and microchipped.

Denny is all puppy! He is a lab/pit mix, 6 months old and full of energy. Potential adopters should be very active and have the time and patience to properly raise and train a puppy. We highly recommend obedience classes to teach him basis manners and how to be a good canine citizen.

Denny is super sweet and will do well in any home that can give him the attention he needs.

Birdie’s Story

This dog is part of our shelter outreach program where we take dogs from overcrowded shelters in hopes of finding them a forever home here! We generally do not have much background info on them and cannot guarantee they are housebroken. They are all up to date on vaccines, spayed/neutered and microchipped.

Birdie is a 3 year old hound mix transferred from an overcrowded shelter in NC. He is a big vocal boy who cannot wait to get out of the shelter and find a family to call his own.

He is very fun and loves to run and play. He would make a great jogging partner! Please hurry in to see him today!

Gee Gee’s Story

Ready… set… play! That’s the motto of this energetic 2 ½ year old kitty who recently came to us from the Humane Society in Newark. A very pretty black and white girl with an adorably chubby belly, Gee Gee enjoys some good scratches on the head, ears and chin, but not until she’s finished her playtime, please! She adores chasing the mouse on a wire and makes the cutest little “brrrr” noise as she runs relentlessly after her prey until she catches it. She’s sure to make you laugh out loud as you watch her race around the room in pursuit of her favorite toy. Come meet this little athlete today. She could be the new love of your life!

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(SPRING PROM, continued)

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“Throughout the year, we’re going door-to-door and making calls to solicit donations of products and services from local businesses.”

Though the Spring Prom may be smaller than traditional high school proms, it’s not lacking in any authentic prom detail. The funds raised during the gift auction fundraiser cover the cost of the venue rental, catering, and favors. Local professionals donate DJ, photography and other services.

The Life Skills students also lend a hand to help coordinate elements of the prom putting the vocational skills they’ve learned to use to create decorative elements and other special touches for the prom, like custom napkins emblazoned with the event name and date that they made with their classroom embossing machine.

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A photo booth, complete with Cinco de Mayo-themed props including giant sombreros and Dia de Muertos masks, was donated by the owner of Point Pleasant’s Compass Chiropractic on Bridge Avenue, Dr. Brian O’Mullan and his wife Claudia.

After donating a gift basket to the 2016 Spring Prom Gift Auction, Dr. and Mrs. O’Mullan, who attended this year’s prom, wanted to provide something special for the students, opting to donate the photo booth rental.

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“We had recently attended a number of weddings that had photo booths set up at the reception,” said Mrs. O’Mullan, an Occupational Therapist for the Matawan-Aberdeen Regional School District. “They’re such a fun addition to any party and help make the night more memorable. We thought it would be a great way to contribute to the prom and the kids.”

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“It’s just a small token but it really feels great to see the kids using and enjoying it,” said Dr. O’Mullan. “We’re so happy to support this event and thrilled to have been invited to share this night with the students. It’s truly a special event.”

From the local businesses and organizations that donate in-kind goods and services to the general education student volunteers, adult volunteers and school and district administration and staff, the support the Spring Prom receives is an extraordinary example of the community-based educational approach that is the foundation of the Like Skills program.

“From the ball gowns to the music, to the excellent food and good times with friends, this, by all accounts, looked like the typical prom,” said Mrs. Thomson. “But nothing could have been further from the truth, while I’m sure those proms are great, this event was just extraordinary and demonstrated the spirit of inclusion and acceptance that permeates Point Pleasant Borough High School. I’m so grateful to everyone who helped make this evening possible and for giving our students an unforgettable experience.”

For the general education student volunteers, the experience was as, if not more, meaningful. Year-after-year the volunteers state that they enjoyed the Spring Prom more than their own proms, citing the opportunity to help their fellow students, coupled with the general fun and stress-free atmosphere as the primary reasons.

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Supervisor of Pupil Personnel Services Rita Miller said the credit for the students’ universal enjoyment of the Spring Prom is reserved largely for Mrs. Thomson and Ms. Gearing, explaining, “This event has truly been a labor of love for Phyllis Thomson and Anne Gearing. They were determined to give their students the opportunity to experience a prom, in a safe and caring environment, and they did everything in their power to accomplish that and I applaud their efforts.”

“Although, I know I speak for both Mrs. Thomson and Ms. Gearing as well as for anyone who attended the Spring Prom, that the best, and most rewarding thanks was the smiles and laughter of the special needs students,” added Ms. Miller. “To watch our special needs students, some of whom have physical disabilities, dance in the middle of a circle, bordered by their non-disabled peers, who were cheering them on every step of the way and who were there for them, lending a hand or two whenever the need arose, made this experience, for me, one of the most profoundly gratifying moments of my professional life.”

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Grow Your Own Learning the Ropes: First Crop Leaf Lettuce, Romaine, Spinach and Kale

by Steve DeJacimo

My Midwest (North Canton, Ohio) roots come out in many ways.

Gardening is definitely one of them. It’s in my blood. My Grandfather and my Father both planted large gardens, every year. We canned veggies. We shared with neighbors. They had cucumbers, but, we had extra tomatoes. And so forth.

compost mixed in, those plants grew like no one around us…..or, so it seemed. Compost. It is the difference maker. Little did I know how hip we were….and, we were organic before organic was cool.

Now, I do follow my Dad’s footsteps. Grandpa D, too! Oh, Happy Father’s Day, Dad! He reads every issue.

The tale of two dudes.

My current tip of the month — ­ Garden boxes. I use garden boxes to keep down weeds and keep the rodents out. They seem to do the trick.

I also thrown in an aluminum pie pan on a stick to rattle around to keep the birds away. All these little things lead to better looking and healthier crops.

My Grandpa would just stick plants everywhere. If it struck him to put in 7 tomato plants in the middle of three Hydrangeas, he did it. No one knew why. It’s just what he did. It was like a mixed bag. I found stuff all over his property. My Dad, on the other hand, we’ll call him the “Great Organizer”. He viewed gardening like a science and it had its specific spot and purpose. This wasn’t for looks. This was to feed the family.

No tomatoes by the Lilacs, or in between Hostas, oh no. He broke those chains. There would be none of that. His garden was a grand strand of beautifully laid out rows of veggie perfection. Corn, tomatoes, beans, peas, beets, carrots, squash, and much more. He was also a composter.

My first recollection was somewhere around 11 years old, when we dug our own compost pit, if you will. This was a 4ft. X 4ft. hole about 5 feet deep.

We put everything in there but the Cutlass Supreme. If it grew and we cut it down, it was going in! The bottom of that compost pile looked like hot tar on an August afternoon. And it stunk to high Heaven. But, with that

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Tip #2 — Use zero pesticides. You don’t need them. Bugs will find any plant. But they can’t (usually) get to all of them. Plant more of what you like…right? Harvest the good stuff and compost the bad. It’s going to happen anyway. As you can see in the photos, the plants are healthy and vibrant. Not to mention, this Spring has been superb for rain vs. sun.

Almost a perfect mix for growing. I started everything from seed which were sown in on St. Patrick’s Day. I have done minimal weeding because of the garden boxes, and have had minimal bug and rodent problems.

Happy gardening. Now, go grow your own!

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