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20. FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 29, 2013. THE VINCENTIAN
Advice
A two-faced husband looking for work. I came home one time and met him looking at porn with YOU HAVE no idea what I am going my neighbor, a 31-year-old single through at home with my so called female. I went totally crazy and, on loving husband. I am fed up with top of that, he said I had no right to keeping his secret now! My embarrass him in front other husband is not working at the moment and he claims he is actively people. I asked him if he can be at
Dear George,
home looking at porn with her, what else is he doing with her. I said I do not want her back into my house, but he is saying that is his decision to make. We have been married 2 years. What I did not tell you is that my husband is one of those so called preachers in the church. He shows one image in public, but at home his life is a mess. I cannot keep his secret any longer and I am tired of catching his STDs, his lies and his infidelity. I have moved out from him, and I do not want to go to any counselling because we should not have been married in the first place, but that is another story.
Decided Dear Decided, It would be difficult to live with someone who is living a double life. You do not deserve to be disrespected like that, and your moving out is fully justified, if that is what you wanted, and especially when no remorse was shown. Your husband was not showing the kind of commitment he needs to show to the marriage, and with what you have described, plus what you still have hidden, maybe it is better to reset the button to your life and give yourself another chance to make a wiser decision as to whom you want to share the rest of your life with.
George
A sudden change of mind Dear George, MY GIRLFRIEND changed her mind 3 days before the date we set for our wedding. She said she was having second thoughts after seeing a certain movie. I am disgusted that she would change her mind from being with the man she loves and who loves her, because of one stupid movie! How can I get her to change her mind?
Puzzled Dear Puzzled, It is always best to have all the information before entering into something as serious as a marriage. If your girlfriend expressed that she is having second thoughts, then you need to listen to her and entertain a discussion as to what those thoughts are. It can be the perfect time to extend the counselling session or begin one if there was none. Let her take as much time as she needs to sort herself out. If you think you do not have that amount of time, then you are free to move on with- out her. It is always better to measure twice and cut once! That’s the golden rule of the carpenter, and it applies in your girlfriend’s case.
George
Five mouths to feed Dear George, I AM A MOTHER of five children and I am not working. I have been feeding my children by prostituting myself. I do not want to live like this. I am not feeling good about what I have brought myself to, but I have five mouths to feed. My girlfriend knows my secret and she wants me to get out of it, but there is nothing else for me to do. Times are hard and my children need to eat and attend school. The fathers of these children are not supporting them, and I do not like the idea of going to the court.
Surviving Dear Surviving, Every man should be made to support his child or children! It is your responsibility to these children to go after these men for child support. You are not doing it for you, but you owe it to your children. The family court is set up to facilitate this process. In addition to that, you can make a petition to the Social Welfare Department and explore what available help is there for you. It will be also useful if you see someone from say, Marion House and get some counsel as to how you can identify and use what skill you might have to earn you some money otherwise. It is good that you have a friend who can be there for you and advise you correctly. Ask your friend to accompany you to one or all of the above places I have mentioned. Good luck to you, and keep your chin up!
George