A N U N S P O K E N R E S I S TA N C E The implicit world is extremely powerful in driving our behaviors because it is the first point of contact with the external world. What happens thereon is a series of automatic events that are purely orchestrated for our survival. Feedback that we receive from the external world (success, failure, praise, criticism, connection, rejection, etc.), lands on the first of two components of the implicit world: visceral and cognitive. The visceral is the many unprocessed memories that are housed in the body, either because they’re too painful to process or because they happened before a child develops a cognitive system capable of putting them into words. From there, the information is channeled through the cognitive component, also called “core beliefs.” Most of our core beliefs are formed in the very early years of life, and accessing them is not easy. In fact, trying too hard can cause more harm than good, because the brain is quite good at putting two and two together to create a faulty story. Core beliefs are rigid and childlike in nature because they form before we develop a more robust, conscious cognitive system capable of making sense of our experiences or seeing the world in shades of gray. They do not hold space for exceptions, nor are they open to the nuances in a situation. The implicit world has one key job: to use past experiences to predict what’s about to happen next and generate an emotion
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