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Connecting with your partner
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Chester Wilcox poses for a photo in his studio. Mr. Wilcox’s fascination with woodcarving began at the age of 8 after winning his first pocket knife in a Boy Scout competition.
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Continued from Page B1 of American Art and Fresno Art Museum, among others. His art work has also been widely published and reviewed in The New Yorker, The New York Times, Harper’s, Art LTD, Threepenny Review and The San Francisco Chronicle, among others. Ms. Warnick is an artist and naturalist whose multidisciplinary study combines scientific subjects such as ornithology and botany with printmaking and painting. In addition to the time she spends in her studio, Ms. Warnick is dedicated to natural history, which has led her to work with museums and research institutions across the country, including the Academy of Sciences in San Francisco, Punta Cana Foundation Group in the Dominican Republic and the Lloyd Library and Museum in Cincinnati. Her recent work examines the increasingly decorative and
For more information, call the Wildling Museum of Art and Nature at 805-8315, email info@ wildlingmuseum.org or visit www.wildlingmuseum.org/ news/birds-eye-view.
curated role that nature plays in our lives and the importance of balancing science with sentiment, fiction and folklore. Mr. Wilcox’s fascination with woodcarving began at the age of 8 after winning his first pocket knife in a Boy Scout competition. He quickly took up carving small animals and boats out of any wood he could find, and by 1982, he began focusing his work on carving duck decoys. Today, Mr. Wilcox’s detailed life-like carving includes every kind of bird species, ranging from songbirds, shorebirds, waterfowl, raptors and more. He is a member of the Pacific Flyway Decoy Association and teaches private decoy and bird carving classes. Mr. Wilcox’s ultra-realistic bird
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carvings can take up to several years to create, using a range of tools that include chisels and X-Acto knives, wood-burning instruments and even dental drills. He earned his master’s degree in outdoor education with an emphasis in field research and is an avid lifelong outdoorsman and conservationist. Sponsors for the Wildling Museum exhibition are the Robert and Mercedes Eichholz Foundation, Pete and Becky Adams, Kevin and Terrie Patterson, George and Denise Rose, Santa Ynez Band of Chumash Indians and donors to the Patti Jacquemain Exhibition Fund. “We are excited to share these four artists with our community, and we hope that the exhibition will encourage our guests to better appreciate birds,” said Ms. Otte-Demangate. “They are crucial to ecosystems everywhere and are a constant reminder of the joys and importance of nature wherever you live.”
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your time and allow yourselves to feel the love that is coming to you. Think of it as a spoken love letter. (You can write one as well.) I recommend that couples do this exercise every day for a few weeks to ensure the connection and deepen their love for one another. Couples who have a strong connection can handle most of what life throws at them because they know they are facing their problems together, and this is deeply affirming. A strong connection will give you greater strength, and your ability to deal with any issue will also increase. The behavior of connection is something that, once you create it and get used to it, will come naturally. It also becomes something you look forward to and will miss if it stops, so once you get the process started, it’s important to continue the pattern. Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D., is an award-winning psychotherapist and humanitarian. He is also a columnist, the author of eight books and a blogger for PsychologyToday.com with more than 34 million readers. He is available for video consults worldwide. Reach him at barton@bartongoldsmith.com. His column appears Saturdays and Mondays in the News-Press.
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touch knees. Hold hands and look into each other’s eyes. Breathe together to increase your connection. Now look at each other deeply and just remember what it is that you love about this person. This is beneficial because it will help you be more appreciative of and take in the little things your partner does and how your partner makes you feel. Step 2: Take your time to absorb what you are feeling, and don’t be surprised if a few tears come to your eyes or if you feel a little anxious. It’s all part of the process. You may experience feeling several different emotions simultaneously. This is perfectly normal and will let you know the areas you need to talk about. Give yourselves a moment or two to absorb your thoughts and feelings. Step 3: Share what you love about your partner and have him or her share what it is that he or she loves about you. Just that little moment and those few words can make the two of you feel reconnected and make your relationship feel whole again. Again, this isn’t a race. Take
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onnection isn’t about sex or taking long walks on the beach. It is about knowing that you have your partner’s undivided attention when you are speaking with one another. It also means that you feel each other’s moods and are able to help the person you love move from a negative place to a positive one, just by reminding him or her that you two have a deep heart connection. Creating this behavior is easier than you might think, but it does require that you make time to build and maintain the connection you both desire. With our busy lives and the world spinning at speeds above infinity, remembering to put some time aside to cherish the one you love can be a bit of a challenge. But it is totally worth it. There is a wonderful exercise that can help you both develop a deeper connection. I have used this with hundreds of couples, and though at first it can make you feel a little squirmy, it is very heartwarming and inspirational. Step 1: Begin by sitting where you can face each other and
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Before coming to Westmont College, Kimberly Battle-Walters Denu worked as vice president for educational programs for the Council for Christian Colleges and Universities.
Westmont College to install new dean of faculty on March 31 By SCOTT CRAIG WESTMONT COLLEGE
Kimberly Battle-Walters Denu will be officially installed as provost and dean of the faculty at Westmont College on March 31 from 10:30-11:20 a.m. in Murchison Gym. The event at the Montecito college, 955 La Paz Road, is free and open to the public. Please RSVP at westmont.tfaforms. net/4652639. “We look forward to coming together as a community to thank God for his faithfulness and celebrate Kim on this special occasion,” said President Gayle D. Beebe. The ceremony, featuring faculty in full regalia, will include comments by Albert Tate, founder and lead pastor of Fellowship Church in Los Angeles County and the author of the book “How We Love Matters: A Call to Practice Relentless Racial Reconciliation.” Dr. Denu, who grew up in South Los Angeles, became the college’s new provost in August after 25
years of executive leadership experience in Christian higher education. An ordained minister, she previously served as interim director at the District Church in Washington, D.C. Previously, Dr. Denu worked as vice president for educational programs for the Council for Christian Colleges and Universities (2019–2021), overseeing study abroad, programming, interfaith work, leadership development, planning for academic conferences, specific grants, budgets and support services for chief academic officers. She spent much of her career, 1997–2018, at Azusa Pacific University, most recently as vice president and chief diversity officer. She served as special adviser to the president and provost, vice provost for undergraduate programs/special assistant to the president, vice provost for faculty support and special assistant to the president, associate provost, faculty moderator and director of the
senate and a faculty member in the sociology department (1997– 2008), advancing to the rank of full professor. A two-time Fulbright scholar, she has conducted research projects in South Africa (2002) and Ethiopia, (2018–2019; her husband’s native country). She has published on topics such as African-American issues, women and family matters, leadership, welfare reform and international relations. She speaks on these subjects at various national and international forums and conferences. In addition to serving on local and national committees and boards, Dr. Denu has taught undergraduate and graduate students on five continents. As a professor and a scholar, she seeks to model a life of service outside the academy. Denu earned a doctor of philosophy in sociology at the University of Florida, a master’s in social work from Temple University and a bachelor’s in sociology at Vanguard University.
Shelters seek homes for pets
Local animal shelters and their nonprofit partners are looking for homes for pets. For more information, go to these websites: • Animal Services-Lompoc, countyofsb.org/phd/animal/home. sbc. • Animal Shelter Assistance Program in Goleta, asapcats.org. ASAP is kitty corner to Santa Barbara County Animal Services. • Bunnies Urgently Needing Shelter in Goleta, bunssb.org. BUNS is based at Santa Barbara County Animal Services. • Companion Animal Placement
Assistance, lompoccapa.org and facebook.com/capaoflompoc. CAPA works regularly with Animal Services-Lompoc. • K-9 Placement & Assistance League, k-9pals.org. K-9 PALS works regularly with Santa Barbara County Animal Services. • Santa Barbara County Animal Care Foundation, sbcanimalcare. org. (The foundation works regularly with the Santa Maria Animal Center.) • Santa Barbara County Animal Services in Goleta: countyofsb.org/ phd/animal/home.sbc. • Santa Barbara Humane (with
campuses in Goleta and Santa Maria), sbhumane.org. • Santa Maria Animal Center, countyofsb.org/phd/animal/home. sbc. The center is part of Santa Barbara County Animal Services. • Santa Ynez Valley Humane Society/DAWG in Buellton, syvhumane.org. • Shadow’s Fund (a pet sanctuary in Lompoc), shadowsfund.org. • Volunteers for Inter-Valley Animals in Lompoc: vivashelter. org. — Dave Mason