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OMG! It’s Valentine’s Day… again
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or some, it is better than New Year’s Eve. For others, it’s more like Groundhog Day. For those who are alone, Valentine’s Day, which is Tuesday, just reminds you of your relationship status, which may be the result of a wise choice but not what you’d prefer. Remember, a “sense of belonging” is an important foundation on Abraham Maslow’s “Hierarchy of Needs.” There’s “Quirky Alone Day,” created with the help of Sasha Cagen and her great book “Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics.” It’s not against relationships. It’s about wanting what’s right for you. The celebration gets bigger every year. Now I expect it to be even more diverse and inclusive. All those times when I wasn’t in a relationship, this would have been a good alternative to the things I remember doing. When you feel like the rest of the world has the one thing that you want most of all, and you can’t seem to find it, that makes you feel bad. No research needed — it’s a human thing, and I am sure you understand it. So honor your relationship by all means, if you have one, and if you have single friends, know that no matter what they say, they
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FEB. 17 4 to 6 p.m. Flying Goat Cellars will host a reception for mosaic artist Kathleen McCabe-Martin at the cellars’ tasting room, 1520 E. Chestnut Court, Lompoc. 8 p.m. Ensemble Theatre Company will perform “Selling Kabul” at the New Vic Theatre, 33 W. Victoria St., Santa Barbara, Tickets cost $40 to $84. To purchase, go to etcsb.org or call 805-965-5400. FEB. 18 7 to 9 p.m. The Nicole Lvoff Jazz Trio will perform at Crush Bar & Tap, 1129 A State St., Santa Barbara. There’s no cover. For more information, go to crushbarsb.com. 8 p.m. Ensemble Theatre
are feeling a little uncomfortable about the whole Cupid thing. So don’t show off your presents or brag about the great time you had, but save that stuff for your coupled friends or your parents. For those fortunate people who are in loving relationships, this can be seen as another year of overpriced flowers, pre-set menus, long waits and chocolate. Most storebought cards don’t really express true feelings. I recommend writing one yourself, because that’s the best way to say what is really in your heart. It also means a lot more. At the very least, if you buy a card, write something meaningful in it. When you are in a relationship, the most important thing about the day is that you agree on how to celebrate it. My wife knows I don’t like going out on national holidays. (Birthdays and anniversaries are an exception). In any case, we have compromised and agreed to stay in, send out for dinner, watch a RomCom, and share some champagne. After that, we will both probably pass out on the couch holding hands with the animals on top of us. That’s our idea of romance. As long as you both get what you need from the day, it becomes a celebration. If you
can’t agree on how to spend the day, and it becomes a point of contention, you need to talk about it. Things like this can turn into resentments, and too many of those can damage your relationship. In fact, one of the best Valentine’s Day gifts you could give to the one you love is to drop some of those resentments you’ve been holding on to. It may be hard to wrap, but think about the comfort it will bring you both. Then there’s the extra love you will feel when you drop the emotional burden of something that was done or said that hurt your feelings. That’s the real truth about what happened — you got hurt, and now it would be a very healing thing if you could let it go. Maybe a better name for Valentine’s Day would be Dropa-Resentment Day. It would be a lot healthier for relationships, and it might even put me out of business as a marriage counselor. I’m good with that.
Company will perform “Selling Kabul” at the New Vic Theatre, 33 W. Victoria St., Santa Barbara, Tickets cost $40 to $84. To purchase, go to etcsb.org or call 805-965-5400.
smitv.org. 7 p.m. Singers Ken Stacy and Claire Khodara will perform at SOhO Restaurant and Music Club, 1221 State St., Suite 205, Santa Barbara. General admission costs $25 in advance and $30 cash on the day of the show. To purchase or get a dinner reservation, go to www. sohosb.com.
Dr. Barton Goldsmith is a psychotherapist in Westlake. He’s the author, most recently, of “100 Ways to Boost Your SelfConfidence — Believe in Yourself and Others Will Too.” Email him at Barton@BartonGoldsmith.com. Follow his daily insights at www. twitter.com/BartonGoldsmith. Reach him at barton@ bartongoldsmith.com. His column appears Saturdays and Mondays in the News-Press.
Feb. 19 2 p.m. Ensemble Theatre Company will perform “Selling Kabul” at the New Vic Theatre, 33 W. Victoria St., Santa Barbara, Tickets cost $40 to $84. To purchase, go to etcsb.org or call 805-965-5400. 4 p.m. The Takács Quartet will perform an all-Beethoven concert at St. Mark’s-in-the-Valley Episocpal Church, 2901 Nojoqui Ave., Los Olivos. Tickets cost $20 for general admission. To purchase, go to smitv. org/syv-concert-series. Tickets for students are free. For more information, contact Linda Burrows at 805-705-0938 or syvconcerts@
March 9 7 p.m. Pianist Jerome Lowenthal, who served as a Music Academy of the West teaching artist for half a century, will perform a concert, “Lowenthal’s Legend,” at the academy’s Hahn Hall, 1070 Fairway Road, Montecito. Tickets are $55 for general admission and free for ages 7-17. To purchase, go to musicacademy.org to call the academy’s box office at 805-9698787. — Dave Mason
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MONDAY, FEBRUARY 13, 2023
Lompoc Parks and Recreation offers lifeguard training course
By MARILYN MCMAHON NEWS-PRESS STAFF WRITER
Lompoc Parks and Recreation is again offering training that will enable participants to become American Red Cross-certified lifeguards. The Lompoc Aquatic Center’s comprehensive and intensive lifeguard-training course covers accident prevention, lifeguarding techniques, emergency systems, water-rescue skills, Basic Life Support and first aid. Upon successful completion of the course, participants receive American Red Cross certification
in lifeguarding, CPR, and first aid. The deadline to register is Feb. 27. Since the class is presented in a blended-learning format, a valid email address is required at registration. Participants will receive an email with information on how to access the online component of the course. Training for those 15 and older will take place at the Lompoc Aquatic Center, 207 West College Ave. A pre-course will meet from 5 to 8 p.m. March 3, and instruction will be offered from 8:30 a.m. to 5 p.m. March 4, 5 and 12.
The course fee is $200, which will be refunded for Lompoc Valley residents/participants who apply to become a lifeguard at the Lompoc Aquatic Center and are hired within 30 days of successfully completing the course. Pre-registration is required and can be done by calling the Lompoc Recreation Division at 805-875-8100, or registration can be completed at apm.activecommunities.com/ lompocrecreation. email: mmcmahon@newspress. com
Affordable health screenings coming to Santa Barbara SANTA BARBARA — Residents living in and around Santa Barbara can learn about their risk for cardiovascular disease, osteoporosis, diabetes and other chronic, serious conditions with affordable screenings by Life Line Screening. Veterans Memorial Building, 112 W.Cabrillo Blvd., will host this
event from 9 a.m to 3 p.m. Feb. 28. Free parking is available. Screenings can check for the level of plaque buildup in the arteries, related to risk for cardiovascular disease, stroke and overall vascular health; HDL and LDL cholesterol levels; diabetes risk; kidney and thyroid function and more. Special package pricing starts
at $159, but consultants will work with individuals to create a package that is right for them based on their age and risk factors. For more information, call 877-237-1287 or visit www. lifelinescreening.com. Preregistration is required. —Marilyn McMahon
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Continued from Page B1 he continued exhibiting but also got a job as art teacher for middle and high school students in L.A. Unified School District. In addition to showing with Sullivan Goss, Mr. Greer has recently exhibited with Bill Arning Exhibitions in Houston and Bendix Gallery in L.A. Ms. Weisman was an early pioneer in computer and web graphics in the early 1980s and enjoyed a varied career as a college professor, author of numerous how-to books and as an entrepreneur. She and her husband Bruce Heavin cofounded lynda.com in 1995, one of the first online educational enterprises to teach digital tools and skills. After selling the company to LinkedIn in 2015, Ms. Weinman chose to pursue a long dormant
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Lynman Weinman set off on a course to innovate and master 3D printed ceramics just three years ago after a career in teaching computer-aided design and art.
interest in ceramics. In 2020, she discovered 3D clay printing. Today, she is one of its foremost pioneers. Using 2D Adobe software and 3D tools like Rhino 3D, Grasshopper and Potterware
in conjunction with multiple 3D printers, she works fluently with geometric and parametric forms. For more information, visit www.sullivangoss.com. email:mmcmahon@newspress.com
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Under Mr. Garland and his team, Buttonwood’s farm area has grown to include 11 fruitful acres planted with a variety of seasonal fruits and vegetables, prompting the team to open a dedicated market for the bounty coming from the group’s two organic farms, Buttonwood Farm and Roblar Farm, the latter located in Santa Ynez. The new Buttonwood Marketplace is slated to open Feb. 25, bringing with it a yearround offering of fresh produce and Buttonwood food items such as jams, pies and seasonal sorbets plus farm-inspired merchandise and other wares from local crafters. The culinary platforms at Buttonwood and Roblar play heavily into the farm planning, with Chef Cham and Mr. Garland working hand-in-hand to plant what might be on a seasonal “chef wish list.” Just steps from both the Buttonwood and the Roblar kitchens, Chefs Cham and Gottheimer pick fresh produce destined for the properties’ food menus and dishes. Beehives also dot both Roblar Farm and Buttonwood Farm. The powerful pollinators serve as an integral part of the Gleason Family Vineyards farming system and supply honey’s natural sweetness to the group’s varied menus. Like Chef Cham, Chef Gottheimer participates in Chefs Cycle for No Kid Hungry to raise money for the organization aimed at ending child hunger. Chef Gottheimer also works with local nonprofits with missions of alleviating hunger, including Santa Barbara County’s Veggie Rescue and Santa Ynez Valley Community Outreach. email: mmcmahon@newspress.com
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At top, Jalapeño corn bread with whipped honey butter is among the starters at Buttonwood. Above, Buttonwood Farm Winery & Vineyard is a 106-acre property located at 1500 Alamo Pintado Road in Solvang.
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Buttonwood Farm Winery and Vineyard, located at 1500 Alamo Pintado Road in Solvang, is currently open from 11 a.m. to 5 p.m. daily for wine tasting experiences and bottle purchases. Advance tasting reservations are recommended. Buttonwood’s new food menu is available from 11 a.m. to 5 p.m. Friday through Sunday. More information will be available soon about the Buttonwood Marketplace, opening this month. Roblar Winery and Vineyards, located at 3010 Roblar Ave. (at the intersection of Roblar Avenue and State Route 154) in Santa Ynez is open from 11 a.m. daily for wine tasting experiences and bottle purchases. Advance tasting reservations are requested. Chef Cham’s weekly lunch menus are offered Monday through Thursday, and full farm menus are offered for Thursday Supper, and all day Friday and Saturday, with a brunch menu served on Sunday. For more information, visit www.buttonwoodwinery.con.