3. Looking After Yourself Ideas that have helped other men • • • •
Be clear that separation is not like repairing a car. It may not be able to be fixed quickly. Be honest with yourself and take responsibility for your life. Be clear about where you have choices and where you don’t. Be aware of what is happening within and around you.
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Listen to your self-talk. Be alert to signs of self-pity, hopelessness or revenge. Avoid the language of blame. Think about the consequences of what you decide to do. Commit to looking after yourself – continue to do the things you enjoy.
Actions that have worked for other men • •
Talk to people about how things are for you. Continue with normal activities and routines (work, sport, hobbies etc.).
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Experiment — find out what works for you.
“I went and did the things I really enjoy like ballroom dancing and bushwalking.” - Daniel, 56, three years after separation
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