Post-pandemic
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e’re hurtling toward the end of this challenging year that I’m optimistically looking forward to farewelling. I’m taking a moment to evaluate postpandemic parenting. In a world that has previously lauded a hectic, action-packed lifestyle, I’m proposing busyness should not be a badge of honour. For those who have had the pause, I’m wondering if you’re like me and keen to make lasting changes to continue parenting in the slow lane instead? Not only does too much, too often too soon have a detrimental impact on our wellbeing, but that of any children in the house. It is well documented that overloading and pushing ourselves and our children is harmful. Did you know there’s a noticeable shift in our generation of children that are gradually moving away from an internal toward external locus of control? That is, they’re focussing more on external methods to find happiness instead of within. They’re so overstimulated, entertained and surrounded by screens and toys, they’re losing the ability to self-regulate, self-soothe and find contentment for themselves. No wonder the rise in anxiousness, depression and narcissism. 2020 sure has given us all a shaken-not-stirred approach to what is important such as health, certainty for the future and the safety of close relationships. Many of my counselling clients report it has forced decisions for positive changes previously contemplated for “one day”. Here’s our chance to intentionally step back, evaluate and choose a cruiser, joyful path moving forward that features emotional attentiveness and a firm foundation of love that launches children to success . Ask yourself these questions about life before the pandemic: How was your pre-pandemic schedule? Could you spontaneously fit in a drink and a play with the neighbours or did they need to wait three weeks? Did you allow time in your weekday either with children after school with nil commitments? I mean, nothing.
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Peninsula Kids – Summer 2020/21