On Life and Love after 50
Tom Blake
June 10, 2016 Aug. 25, 2016 9 a.m. – 2 p.m.
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The 14 G’s of Dating for Mature Adults
Men and women over age 50 often ask me for dating tips. What can they do as they grow older to meet a prospective mate? Here are my 14 G’s for 50-plus dating. 1. Get off the couch and out of the house. This advice is always the first I mention. It’s so simple and yet so important. 2. Get involved in activities you enjoy where you will meet new people. Unsure of where to go? Check out Meetup (www.meetup. com) for a list of clubs and activities in your area. There are thousands of activities across the U.S. Granted, some are for the younger set; simply weed out those choices. And the site is free! 3. Go alone to these activities if you have to, if you can’t find a friend or group of friends. Granted, this isn’t the easiest thing in the world to do, but it still beats sitting home alone wishing you were somewhere else. 4. Get organized. Don’t wait to plan for upcoming holidays. If you have nowhere to go for July 4, for example, consider volunteering. Try an activity that makes you feel good; nothing is better than helping others. Plan ahead for other holidays as well. Invite others who have nothing planned to your home for a small potluck dinner party. Start rounding up your single friends now. 5. Go out to enrich your life, but not with the sole purpose of seeking a mate. If the only reason you go out is to find someone, you will become discouraged and frustrated because
meeting someone may not happen right away. It might not happen at all. But if you go out to broaden your horizons and enjoy new experiences, just getting out is a great accomplishment. 6. Get it in gear. Meeting new people, making new friends, and finding a mate at this stage in our lives require energy and making a concerted effort. It’s like seeking a job in the current economy, which is difficult. The people who are successful work the hardest at networking and putting resumes out there. The same goes for meeting a mate: Make the process as important as you would if you were seeking a job. 7. Get assertive. Note: I am not saying aggressive, but assertive. There is a big difference. Start conversations with strangers— on a plane, standing in line at the post office or at the bank, waiting for your car to be washed, in line at Starbucks—anywhere there are people waiting and biding time. If you see someone who looks kind, warm, or friendly, don’t hesitate to make a simple comment or ask him (or her) a question: how he likes the book he’s reading or the car he’s driving. This tip applies especially to women. 8. Gain flexibility. Open your mind to new avenues, new cultures, and new thinking. 9. Gain efficiency. Don’t waste time by playing games. Either people are interested in a relationship or they aren’t. If you meet someone you think might be a potential partner, and the excuses start flowing, or the games begin, move on. www.50plusLifePA.com