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WHAT THE GUIDEBOOKS DON’T TELL YOU Perinatal service family therapist Karen Seal wants guidance for parents to include emotional as well as practical support.
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DAD PAD Karen Seal
“Often the focus is on practical things with less time spent on the emotional aspects. “There isn’t the space to think about the impact that having a baby will have on you as a couple – how you will maintain closeness, dividing tasks, whether you agree on parenting decisions.
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“Parents then face these difficult dilemmas when they’re sleep deprived and capacity for conversation is low. There is often conflicted advice so they can go against their instincts and become overwhelmed thinking their baby isn’t doing what they ‘should’ do.”
The team supported the launch of Dad Pad, a free app with advice and resources for dads living in Cheshire and Merseyside. The Co-Parent Pad, to be launched in 2023, will provide key resources and an online community forum for transgender and LGBTQi parents.
WHAT IS THE DAD PAD? A free to download app with advice and resources for dads or dads to be. Put in your postcode to access local services or find top tips on how to care for your new baby as well as looking after yourself and your family. Topics include understanding antenatal care, mental health and getting to know your baby.
TOP TIPS
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Put your phones down and don’t let technology get in the way of your time together
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Remember what you enjoyed together before baby arrived and try to find time to enjoy it again
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Ask for help if you need it
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Take time to notice the joy you get from your baby.
Download the Dad Pad app free from your usual app store or scan the QR code. You can also find details at merseycare.nhs.uk