February 2016 Island Parent

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February 2016

The Start of a New Social Life

Eating Lower On the Food Chain

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Contents: February 2016 Articles Eating Lower On the Food Chain................................................................. 10 Social Media Mom ....................................................................................... 12 Restoring the Parent-Child Relationship....................................................... 14 Schools & Educational Services .................................................................... 16 The Start of a New Social Life ...................................................................... 26 Breaking the Rules for Superheroes .............................................................. 34 Moving More ............................................................................................... 36 Energy-boosting Muffins .............................................................................. 37

Columns Editor’s Note .................................................................................................. 3 Healthy Families, Happy Families ................................................................ 38 Dadspeak ..................................................................................................... 40 Book Nook .................................................................................................. 42 Is There an App for This? ............................................................................. 44 New Parent Pages ......................................................................................... 48 Maternity & Beyond .................................................................................... 52 Nature Notes ............................................................................................... 54 Cut It Out .................................................................................................... 56

Departments IPM Notes...................................................................................................... 4 Party Directory............................................................................................. 25 Family Calendar ........................................................................................... 28 Around the Island ........................................................................................ 33 Family Services Directory ....................................................................... 46, 47 Preschool & Child Care Directory.......................................................... 50, 51 Business & Professional Directory ................................................................ 53 Island Parent Magazine, produced by Island Parent Group Enterprises Ltd., is a monthly publication that honours and supports parents by providing information on resources and businesses for families, and a forum for the exchange of ideas and opinions. Views expressed are not necessarily those of the publisher. Letters (max 250 words) should be emailed to the Editor at editor@islandparent.ca. No material herein may be reproduced without the permission of the Editor. Unsolicited manuscripts are welcome and should be emailed to editor@islandparent.ca.

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Passion & Desire Oh, okay…Netflix and chill

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ntimacy. Ha. Who has time? And if you’re lucky enough to have a few free minutes, what about energy? Or a partner? Or even the inclination?

In her book, Mating in Captivity, relationship therapist and author, Esther Perel, discusses the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire and suggests ways for parents to keep—or get—their sex lives back on track after having kids.

In an interview for The Telegraph, Perel says one of the first steps toward reclaiming passion and desire is to abandon what she calls “Management Inc.” and start seeing each other through a different lens.

“Understand that if all the Lego pieces are not put in the box tonight, [you] are not going to be judged for it. It isn’t the kids that extinguish the fires, it is the adults who fail to keep the spark alive.”

Stay playful, she recommends. And don’t do everything together; space and closeness can—and should—coexist within a relationship. In fact, she

says, relationships will be stronger for it.

“Remain endlessly curious about one another…To think that you know your partner completely is the grand illusion of love.”

Talking with Bruce Feiler, author of The Secrets of Happy Families, Perel said that when it comes to sex, what turns us off is just as important as what turns us on. To illustrate her point, she asked Feiler to complete the sentence “I turn myself off when…”

Perel went first. “I turn myself off when I look at my email before going to bed.”

Then Feiler. “I turn myself off when I take forever to brush my teeth, take my medicine, and get ready for bed.”

Then Perel. “I turn myself off when I haven’t had time to go to the gym.”

Finally, Feiler. “I turn myself off when I have to take 20 pillows off the bed.”

“As you can see,” she said, “90 per cent of the answers have nothing to do with sex per se…The point is, each of us is responsible for our own desire. For being shut down or being turned on.”

While researching her book, Perel asked people in 22 countries the question, “What draws you to your partner?”

Their answers, she says, are universal.

“First, when he’s away, when she comes back, when we are separate and reunite.

Editor’s Note Sue Fast Second, when I see the other at work, on the stage, surfing, singing; when I see my partner doing something he’s passionate about. And third, when he makes me laugh, when he surprises me, when she dresses differently, when she introduces an element of the unknown.”

The unknown. And the familiar. The key is to celebrate and appreciate both.

“The erotic is fueled by curiosity—one of the most important erotic ingredients.

It is openness to the unknown, to mystery, to surprise.”

Good advice. For intimacy. And for life in general. Happy Valentine’s Day.

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IPM Notes National Sweater Day On February 4, the World Wildlife Fund (WWF) wants you to lower your heat and put on your favourite sweater to take action against climate change and work towards a sustainable future. Join Canadians across the country fighting climate change by conserving energy and reducing greenhouse gas emissions. Heating accounts for 80 per cent of residential energy use in Canada, and is a significant source of emissions. If every Canadian lowered the heat by just 2ºC this winter, greenhouse gas emissions would be reduced by 4 megatons—equivalent to shutting down a 600 mega watt coal-fired power station.

So lower the heat, wear that sweater, and make the world a better place for your grandchildren. For more information, visit sweaterday.com.

Get Lit Up by Ideas: The Illumination Event On Friday, February 5, the Victoria Yoga Conference will host The Illumination Event at the Victoria Conference Centre from 7–9:30pm. As the opening night event for

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the annual conference, seven speakers will take the stage to share stories and ideas about what inspires them. The Victoria Yoga Conference, in partnership with the Kelty Patrick Dennehy Foundation, will also present the 2016 Breathe Fore Life Scholarship to the 2016 recipient. The Breathe Fore Life scholarship, in memory of Riley Rae Dennehy, will be presented to a yoga teacher who wishes to further their education and training in the practice of yoga. The event is open to the community.

The Illumination Event is designed to ignite a spark in the audience. The seven speakers include Alice Bracegirdle, CEO and co-founder of Bellyfit Enterprises Inc. Bracegirdle leads Bellyfit instructors and students in a global movement towards women’s empowerment, holistic fitness, and a love for the human body. Rumon Carter, Victoria local and founder of Route 2 Projects, will return to the stage after speaking at the 2015 Illumination Event.

The audience will get to enjoy some theatrical talent, as up-and-coming spoken word artist Carly Greene Hill will share her talents of bringing words to life. Owner and director of Whistler’s Loka Yoga, Tina James, is among the event’s seven speakers, and will also be leading two workshops over

the course of the weekend. The audience will also expect to hear from Victoria-based yoga teacher Ryan Leir. Leir is a global ambassador for Lululemon Athletica, and founder of a non-profit organization Vinyasa Yoga for Youth. Ayurveda practitioner, author, teacher, and Academy Aromatica founder Glynnis Osher will share her own healing experiences. The seventh speaker is the Chairwoman of Yoga Outreach Laura Track, a lawyer, yoga enthusiast, and social justice advocate.

The Illumination Event was created by local event producer Carolyne Taylor, who has also hosted the event through her organization yoUnlimited. As the founder of the Victoria Yoga Conference, Taylor once again brings together a group of local thought leaders to share what inspires them.

For tickets and more information, visit victoriayogaconference.com/tickets/

Bigleaf Maple Syrup Festival The sap will soon be flowing from Bigleaf Maple trees on the West Coast, and syrup makers from the area are sharpening their drill bits in anticipation. At the BC Forest Discovery Centre’s annual Bigleaf Maple Syrup Festival in Duncan on February 6 and 7, from 10am-4pm, visitors are invited to

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participate in mini-workshops facilitated by experienced maple syrup producers, including tapping demonstrations, presentations, and displays. This year’s event features cooking with local maple syrup, and maple foods will be available. The festival features a maple syrup competition with judging by celebrity chefs from Vancouver Island. The evaporator will be running all day so visitors can savour the warm maple aroma of sap and see how syrup is made. The train will be running every half hour.For more information, visit bcforestdiscoverycentre.com.

Fun Family Films Remember waking up at the crack of dawn to sneak downstairs for Saturday morning cartoons in your pjs and munching on your favourite cereal? For one day only, the Victoria Film Festival presents Fun Family Films, Saturday morning cartoons on Family Day, Monday February 8 at 11am at the Vic Theatre. Perfect for kids of any age. From a popular Dutch book comes “The Amazing Wipala,” a charming family tale that’s part “The Borrowers” and part “Honey, I Shrunk the Kids.” Nine-year-old Johannes’s older sister and widowed father just don’t seem to pay attention anymore.

One night, Johannes meets the impish Wipala hiding in the family kitchen. His new friend might be kind-hearted but hasn’t quite mastered his magic powers yet. Johannes’ whole family is caught up in Wipala’s spell—his shrinking spell. The imp must return everyone to the right size, but first he must believe in himself. For those who prefer seeing a movie in the afternoon, 2pm to be exact, there’s “Oddball,” also at the Vic Theatre. This is a true story about an eccentric chicken farmer who, with the help of his granddaughter, trains his mischievous dog Oddball to protect a wild penguin sanctuary against fox attacks in an attempt to reunite his family, keep his daughter close by, and save their seaside town.

Tickets $7. For more information and tickets, phone 250-389-0444, email boxoffice@victoriafilmfestival.com, or visit victoriafilmfestival.com.

Yoga for Labour & Birth—with Partners Join yoga instructor and birth doula, Renée Ahmadi to practice yoga posture and movements, useful at all stages of labour, as well as for delivery.

The class, offered one Friday every other month, will focus on relaxation and breathing techniques, visualization, affirmations and mantras. Self-healing methods to allow IslandParent.ca

mothers to explore the mind-body-breath connection will also be explored.

This class aims to help partners to connect through yoga, providing a unified approach to the upcoming labour. Paricipants will be moving around, so dress comfortably. The next class is on Friday February 19 from 6:45-8:15pm. $35/couple. For more information and to register, visit motheringtouch.ca.

I AM ELEVEN Screening at Cinecenta The Victoria chapter of CISV International (formerly Children’s International Summer Villages) has obtained the screening rights to I AM ELEVEN, a documentary portrait of childhood. Australian filmmaker Genevieve Bailey travelled the world for six years talking with 11-year-olds to compose this moving documentary that weaves together deeply personal and at times hilarious portraits of what it means to sit at this transitional age. From an orphanage in India, to a single-parent household in inner-city Melbourne, to bathing with elephants in Thailand, I AM ELEVEN explores the lives and thoughts of children from 15 countries, some subtitles).

The CISV screening will take place at UVic’s Cinecenta on Saturday, February 20 at 3pm, 5pm, and 7pm. I AM ELEVEN (rated G) has received international acclaim and this will be Victoria’s premiere screening. Attendees will have a chance to create a keepsake with a memory of when they were eleven. For more information, visit iameleven.com.

Think Pink for Anti-bullying Day Pink Shirt Day, or Anti-Bullying Day, is on the fourth Wednesday in February every year. This year, that will be on February 24.

Now in its ninth year, Pink Shirt Day, a public awareness campaign about bullying spearheaded by CKNW, has grown into a national movement. Last year, over 2,500 official pink shirts were sold on Vancouver Island alone, and thousands more people wore pink clothing to show their solidarity for the campaign.

Pink Shirt Day is aimed at uniting people in a movement to change people’s attitudes towards bullying. It teaches young people that we need to be more accepting of differences and that we cannot stand by and watch as bullying occurs around us. Schools, police departments, businesses, politicians and youth groups across Vancouver Island are using this day to raise awareness of the negative effects of bullying and show that February 2016 5

any form of bullying will not be tolerated in their organization.

Take this opportunity to address the issue of bullying with your children or teens, by wearing pink, planning an event or activity, or just having an intentional conversation.

You can order your shirts through pinkshirtday.ca. All proceeds from the shirt sales will support programs that support children’s healthy self-esteem, both with their peers and themselves.

The 15th Annual Maple Sugar Festival du Sucre d’Érable

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The largest bilingual festival on Vancouver Island runs February 26-28 at the Beban Auditorium located at 2300 Bowen Road in Nanaimo.

In February of every year, Nanaimo pulsates with the rhythm of the Maple Sugar Festival du Sucre d’Érable. This bilingual festival is a one-of-a-kind event inspired by eastern Canada’s sugar shack traditions.

Over the course of three days, festivities will include educational presentations, performances by a diverse range of entertainers, and authentic traditional French Canadian food fare, notably the decadently sweet sugar toffy on snow. Come to Nanaimo and discover the Festival’s truly special ambiance, the joie de vivre, and the warm hospitality.

The Festival runs Friday, February 26 from 6-8pm, Saturday, February 27 from 10am-8pm with the official opening ceremony at 1pm, and Sunday, February 28 from 9am-4pm. Admission: adult $5, member free (with membership card), student $3, children 0-12 are free. For information, including an event schedule, visit francophonenanaimo.org.

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‘Conversations to Create Change’

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“I want to have a say in my education.

I want to work with my teachers to figure out how to learn in ways that work for me.

I want to spend more classroom time with everyone talking about the things we are learning so I can better understand why something works or why it’s important.”

These are the thoughts of a local Grade 10 student.

School culture, learning strategies and educational resources need to reflect and support the outcomes we are seeking. All over our province there are incredible examples of innovation in our schools. However, these pockets of change have been insufficient to move the whole system forward.

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with a little luck and a lot of effort, parents, educators and students will make it happen.

This year’s Vancouver Island Parent Conference on February 27 will start with four renowned speakers whose task it will be to fire up those in attendance. They will present their ideas on why we need change in our schools and how these changes might be accomplished. The attendees will then participate in round table discussions to brainstorm ideas and initiatives that will help spearhead with this important transition.

Keynote speaker, Yong Zhao, will tell discuss the need to “empower our children by liberating their potential, capitalizing on their passion and supporting their pursuits.”

Education reform is no longer about improving our schools. Indeed, it is about re-tasking them to prepare our children for the world they will create.

Spend Saturday February 27 from 8:30am-4:30pm honing your parenting skills at the conference “Launching the Framework: Changing Our View of Education.” The conference will take place at Royal Bay Secondary School, 3500 Ryder Hesjedal Way in Colwood. The $110 fee includes lunch and refreshments. Early bird rate: $80 if registered by February 10. Registrations will be accepted on a first-come, first-served basis. For more information, visit vipc.ca.

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PARENT CONFERENCE PARENTS AND EDUCATORS LEARNING TOGETHER

Launching the Framework: Changing Our View of Education Saturday February 27, 2016 8:30 am to 4:30 pm

NEW LOCATION! Royal Bay Secondary School 3500 Ryder Hesjedal Way in Colwood

OUR FEATURED SPEAKERS Yong Zhao | Rod Allen | Jeff Hopkins | Shelley Moore Advances in the science of learning have shown us that we need to see every child as an individual to be served, encouraged and supported. Technology and globalization have driven us to redesign the education system.

Our conference speakers will challenge our traditional view of education and propose a new paradigm aimed at cultivating creative and successful learners.

Our afternoon will feature interactive discussions designed to generate an action plan for a successful launch.

In-School Mentoring Programs Big Brothers Big Sisters of Victoria needs volunteers. Do you have a busy schedule and are you trying to juggle a million things at once? Do you want to volunteer? Do you like kids and having fun? Are you responsible and caring? Does this describe you? If so, In-School Mentoring is for you.

Volunteers spend one hour a week playing games and sports, doing arts and crafts, baking, reading, talking or hanging out on the playground with a boy or girl at a nearby elementary school. Weekly visits take place on school grounds during school hours (normally between 8:30am-3pm Monday to Friday) for the duration of the school year. You do not meet with your mentee over the summer break or during other school holidays.

Start your application process now so that you’re ready to have fun with your Little in September.

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Registration: $110 includes lunch and refreshments Early bird rate: $80 if registered by February 10 th

For info updates or to register visit www.vipc.ca or email: info@vipc.ca Presented by District Parents’ Advisory Councils of Greater Victoria, Sooke & Cowichan Valley

St. Joseph’s Catholic School Daycare/Preschool to Grade Seven

Please join us for our Open House on Monday, Feb 15, 4–6pm We are accepting Kindergarten and Grades 1–7 registration for the 2016/2017 school year A Catholic, respectful learning environment where children learn to love and love to learn! Outstanding academic preparation.

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Support for Those with Learning Disabilities The Learning Disabilities Association of BC South Vancouver Island (LDA-SVI) works with students with learning disabilities to assist their learning and help them reach their potential. LDA-SVI currently offers support through academic skills programs, reading and writing programs, and social skills programs.

Some of the skills that can positively impact the lives of those with LD are: • Self-awareness. An understanding of their strengths and weaknesses. Helping people with LD to recognize their strengths and providing accommodations for their challenges is important for their learning, self-worth and overall well-being.

• The ability to compartmentalize their disability so they see it as just one aspect of themselves. Think about your own strengths and weaknesses. Now imagine if your identity was largely based on what you can’t do.

• The ability to make mistakes. Successful learners are willing to try new things and problem solve. It is crucial that children are taught by example that mistakes are an opportunity to learn, not a sign of failure.

• Tolerance for frustration. The ability to set goals and stick to it despite setbacks.

Learning can be fun but it can also be challenging at times.

• Presence of a support network. Never assume a child knows who they can talk to if they need help. Talk with your child about who they can go to for help in their care facilities and schools.

• Emotional coping strategies. As with anyone who is experiencing difficulty, children with LD require knowledge and skills to cope with anxiety and frustration and reduce the impact of stress.

For more information visit ldasvi.bc.ca.

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toward children of all ages. From ensuring your baby has the best possible start, to breastfeeding resources and strategies for coping with challenging behaviours, HealthyFamilies BC offers up-to-date information and practical tips for protecting your family’s health and well being. Online tools include: Breastfeeding Buddy, an easy and educational tool designed to help you and give your baby the very best start in life; Shopping Sense, a fun, interactive tool that provides you with access to useful information, tips and videos on how to make healthy, budget-wise shopping choices at the grocery store; Sodium Sense, a tool that illustrates which food items are higher or lower in sodium to help you make healthier eating choices in real life; and Sugary Drink Sense to help you determine the amount of sugar you might be drinking. For information, visit healthyfamiliesbc.ca or email healthyfamiliesbc@gov.bc.ca.

Victoria Kids Consignment Spring Sale Turn the items your children no longer need into money in your pocket. The Victoria Kids Consignment Spring Sale is on April 8-10 and organizers are looking for sellers with kids clothing, toys, books, games, baby gear, sports equipment and more. Every consignor with Victoria Kids Consignment (VKC) earns 60 per cent of the sale price of their items. Consignors who volunteer during the sale can earn as much as 70 per cent. You set your prices and VKC staff sell your items for you.

Participating in a VKC sale is easy. Simply register online, enter your items into the online inventory and tagging system, prepare your items and drop them off during your prearranged check-in time. Organizers and volunteers sell your items over the weekend while you relax. You can choose to collect your unsold items at the end of the sale or let VKC donate them to a local charity for you. Seller payments are processed within three days after the sale.

Seller registration is now open and will remain open until 11pm on April 5.

Register and find all the details at VictoriaKidsConsignment.ca.

If you own a family-friendly local business, having a vendor table at the next Victoria Kids Consignment sale is a great opportunity to get your products or services in front of moms, dads, grandparents and kids. Visit VictoriaKidsConsignment.ca/ Vendor-Info to reserve your space today. All sales are held at Eagle Ridge Community Centre located at 1089 Langford Parkway.• IslandParent.ca

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Discover our parent-operated cooperative preschools where children (and their parents) learn through play.

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ix years ago, and with varying degrees of enthusiasm, my husband, three teenage daughters, two toddlers and I agreed to go meat-free for 30 days as a way to shrink our carbon footprint. We didn’t quite last the month, but we did manage to reduce our meat consumption dramatically. Fast forward to 2016. I wish I could report that we’ve been living on a plant-based diet ever since, but the truth is that animal foods have climbed high on the menu since our oldest daughters moved out. I could give all kinds of reasons why and how this happened, but the bottom line is this: we’re overdue for another vegetarian challenge!

There are many environmental and ethical reasons to eat lower on the food chain, but my primary concern these days is climate change. Families who eat meat on a regular basis have a significantly larger carbon footprint than vegetarian (no meat) or vegan families (no meat, dairy, eggs, or other animal products). In fact some studies claim that you could reduce greenhouse gas emissions more by giving up red meat than by giving up your car. There are variables of course, but in general lamb, beef, cheese and pork are responsible for the most greenhouse gases (GHGs), while lentils, beans, fruits and vegetables are responsible for the least.

The difference between foods at the top and bottom of the list is striking. According to the Environmental Working Group, a kilogram of beef will result in 25kg of GHGs from production through consumption, while a kilogram of cooked lentils is responsible for less that 1kg. Foods at the top of the list also require significantly more resources in the form of feed, fuel, chemical fertilizers and pesticides, and water.

Recognizing the value of a plant-based diet is one thing; translating that recognition into action is another. If

you’re feeling motivated to steer your family towards a more climate-friendly diet, here are some ideas to make the path smoother: Define your goal. I’d face mutiny if I made a unilateral decision to take meat off the menu indefinitely. My family is willing to go vegetarian temporarily, however, and to eat more meatless meals in the future. With their input in mind, my immediate goal as head chef is to kick start our dietary shift with a week-long vegan challenge, and to significantly expand our repertoire of tasty vegetarian meals. Your goal will depend on where you’re starting from, and the enthusiasm of the other stakeholders in your house.

New to plant-based eating? Try giving up meat one day a week. Already a vegetarian?

Go vegan for part of each month.

Get outside help. For motivation and assistance with my menu plan, I’ve turned to two websites: veggiechallenge.com, a website sponsored by the Toronto Vegetarian Association, and meatlessmonday.com.

Both websites offer links to helpful tips, recipes, videos and other resources. For a more in depth look at the environmental consequences of our dietary choices, go to ewg.org/meateatersguide/.

Customize your approach. Is cooking a creative act that feeds your spirit, or is convenience more your thing? Does your family thrive on variety, or prefer to cycle through the same tried-and-true recipes week after week? Do your kids have adventurous palates, or prefer simple flavours? Is your food budget tight, or is there room for a few luxuries on your shopping list? The more you plan a plant-based menu around these considerations, the more successful you’re likely to be.

Have fun exploring vegetarian cookbooks at the library (see section ANF 641.5636), or scrolling through the countless inspiring vegetar-

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ian and vegan blogs on the web. With a little effort, you’re sure to find resources that match your family’s needs.

Cover your nutritional bases. Meat is a high-quality source of protein, which is important for growth, tissue repair, and hormone regulation. It’s also an important source of iron and zinc, as well as vitamins A, D, and all the B vitamins. If you remove meat and/or eggs and dairy products from your family’s diet, you’ll need to find substitute sources for these essential nutrients.

Legumes (dried beans) are an excellent source of protein and fibre, and a staple in our house. Chick peas (aka garbanzo beans) become hummus, black beans are transformed into refried beans or chili, and lentils become the base ingredient for all kinds of tasty soups. Whole soy products like tofu, tempeh, and edamame are also high in protein and other nutrients, as are whole grains and pseudograins like quinoa and buckwheat. Chia and/or hemp seeds can be added to almost anything for an instant protein boost.

A varied vegetarian diet rich in plantbased protein should meet all your nutritional needs, but if you do choose to eliminate all animal products, make sure you take a B12 supplement.

Convert finicky eaters. Are your children suspicious of new foods? I use a few strategies to expand my seven- and nine-yearolds’ comfort zones. First, I invite them into the kitchen. The more familiar they are with an ingredient or dish and how it was prepared, the less threatening it seems to be. If an ingredient can be eaten raw, I let them nibble a bit, or taste and/or eat individual items before combining them.

We don’t force our kids to try new foods, but we do put a very small amount on their plates at mealtime, and encourage them to look, touch, smell and taste. If that small amount doesn’t get eaten, it goes into the compost without fuss. Repetition, patience and a lack of pressure seem to be the keys to success. (My kids watched my husband and I eat kale for months before deciding it was edible!) If a new main course intimidates my kids, they’re welcome to put together their own sandwiches. But as their palates get more adventurous, this is increasingly rare.

Have fun exploring the world of climatefriendly eating.

Rachel Dunstan Muller is the mother of five, and a children’s author. Her previous articles can be found at islandparent.ca.

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y name is Ashley.

I am a mom.

And I am a social media addict.

I wouldn’t be surprised if one day there were support groups for moms who’d like to kick their Facebook habits.

We all see the spikes in posts from moms who’ve just had babies. As a frequent Facebook user and, well, Instagram now, too, I know how it works and why moms get hooked.

We post daily photos of our kids. We share articles that mean something to us that day.

Maybe it’s a mommy blogger’s latest post on how she got through sleep training. Or maybe it’s a rant against sleep training and letting babies cry it out that we either agree or disagree with.

We buy and sell second-hand clothes from swap sites, relate to other mom’s struggles on mommy groups and forums and sometimes get into some nasty debates on touchy subjects.

A piece of advice: don’t comment on a vaccination or circumcision thread unless you’re wearing full body armour because it will get ugly.

Social media sites like Facebook and Instagram are major outlets for moms, especially on days when they might not get a chance to speak to any other adult in person or even leave the house. And when they finally do, they talk to other moms who say things like, “I loved that post you shared. I’m going through the exact same issues with my son.” Or, “Omigod that photo of your daughter. She’s the cutest thing I ever did see.”

That encouragement pushes aside any thoughts of deactivating accounts.

I’ve deactivated before and I wasn’t able to go very long. And I don’t mind admitting it. Instead now I’ve just set a few rules for myself.

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It sounds rather silly, but it works.

I often turn off my phone during certain times of the day so I won’t be distracted by the notifications. Better yet, you can entirely disable notifications on your phone depending on how far you’d like to go. I do this during the dinner time chaos. I don’t need my phone lighting up every time I get some loving on Instagram. I purposely leave my phone inside when I take the kids outside to play or for a short walk.

And I now try to remind myself not every cute moment with the kids is an “Instagram” moment. I don’t need to post every time I go for a run, my son hugs my daughter, or they look cute, because hey, that would be

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With that said, it’s easy to see how moms get wrapped up in the social media world.

It’s just part of the way our generation lives.

Instead of fretting about it, I think we should either learn to embrace it, know its ups and particularly its downs and do our best to stay away from its ugly aspects.

And what one mom might see as an ugly part to it, might be completely different to another mom. Set some ground rules and if you need a break, deactivate. Talk to other moms about how they limit themselves and also how they embrace social media. You might just learn some great tips.

A support group for social media moms might not be that far off, but it might just be a great excuse to grab a coffee and talk to another human being in person.

Ashley Degraaf is a freelance writer based out of the Cowichan Valley. She enjoys channeling her inner momma while chronicling her daily adventures with her children.

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Restoring the ParentChild Relationship It’s never too late

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lease don’t yell,” my son implored, looking up at me as my voice began to rise in irritation over the issue at hand. I stopped, grateful for his reminder. I took a breath and re-centered myself, now better able to step back from the situation and speak calmly with him without reacting.

It’s taken a long time to get here.

Months ago, I might have felt bad, even guilty or ashamed of having raised my voice. And back then, my son wouldn’t have reminded me because I was still not as consciously aware of what triggered me to react, nor was I as capable of stopping myself. He would have silently and fearfully curtailed his behaviour so that I would become calm. Or he might have silently

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resisted, becoming sullen, non-interactive, and then pulling away.

The fact that he feels safe and confident enough in his relationship with me to remind me not to raise my voice is tremendous growth for me and for us.

It’s been a long journey. For several years I would lose my centre so quickly and was unaware of the triggers and reasons, that I wasn’t really capable of noticing or stopping myself until it was too late and he had already pulled away into a protective shell. Our relationship was more fractured, and my son would have never felt safe trying to stop my frustrated outbursts. I was sleep deprived and struggling with health issues—but the reasons don’t really matter.

As parents in the Western world, many of

us face a variety of stressful challenges, or have past beliefs and experiences, all of which trigger us to be unconsciously reactive and create breakdowns in our relationships with loved ones.

So I feel grateful that I have grown enough that my son feels safe to ask me not to yell when he senses that’s what I’m about to do. He’s sensitive, and he notices when I’m starting to lose control.

We tend to think that our children are here to learn from us, but they are also here to teach us. We teach them many things about living in the physical world and the human experience, especially some aspects of how to stay safe. However, at a deeper more soulful level, their presence in our lives illuminates those areas where we need to grow and learn—break free of our old beliefs and patterns that no longer serve them or us.

In the past, when I have parented in a way that I regretted, I would repeat the same self-defeating cycle over and over. I would feel remorse and guilt or shame, then criticize myself harshly, and then vow not to do it again—but eventually I always did.

What I needed to do instead was to look inward, at my own unmet needs and learn to meet those needs with deep compassion

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for myself. Once I got better at doing that, I was much more able to look at my child’s needs and stay centered, calm, and lovingly responsive during difficult parenting situations.

It’s important for each of us as parents to know that there’s always a way back to having a closer relationship. There’s always a way to get back ‘home,’ to the place inside of ourselves where we feel centered, safe, calm, and capable of responding thoughtfully and mindfully. We can take action to uncover and heal those old patterns. And

It’s important for each of us as parents to know that there’s always a way back to having a closer relationship. There’s always a way to get back ‘home,’ to the place inside of ourselves where we feel centered, safe, calm, and capable of responding thoughtfully and mindfully. our children are beckoning to us to do so, sometimes through their anger or resistant behaviour, or their tears, or their lack of motivation or depression. They are calling us back to ourselves. When we heed the call and get the support we need to bring our unconscious patterns into conscious awareness, we grow and expand our capacity to bring patience and compassion to our parenting. Ultimately, we come back to our own true natures and our children feel safe enough with us to tell us honestly when we’re coming off centre again.

It’s never too late. Even the most sullen, angry teenager truly doesn’t want to be alone. In our hearts, we all want to connect and be loved unconditionally and without judgment—to belong.

My goal is to increasingly remember not to raise my voice without being reminded, but for now, I celebrate the growth and accomplishments my son and I have made in our relationship thus far. I am truly grateful for the blessing of having my son in my life, and for the ‘perfect storm’ of people and circumstances that have supported me on my journey to re-connect with him in a powerful and meaningful way.

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Arbutus Grove Children’s Centre (formerly known as Goosey Gander Kindergarten) has a long history of providing outstanding Early Learning programs to the Victoria community. Our centre is a bright and engaging purpose-built preschool with a large, natural playground surrounded by urban forest. We offer half- and full-day programs for 3 and 4 year olds and a small after school program for kindergarten children attending Frank Hobbs School. Children’s curiosity, sense of wonder and innate desire to learn is nurtured and supported through exploration, play, discovery and creative expression.

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ArtsCalibre Academy. There’s a reason why the first years of a child’s life are considered “formative”—they truly form the person, and profoundly influence the path and quality of the rest of their life. We believe that Fine Arts are the perfect vehicle for this formative process. Through our structured but fun program of music, dance, theatre and visual arts, children not only absorb these and all academic subjects with enthusiasm and ease, but they also develop the creativity, confidence and social skills to successfully apply them throughout their future. It’s this philosophy and comprehensive program that sets us apart from every other preschool.

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Emmanuel Preschool is a welcoming and inclusive Christian preschool, where students with special needs have the support of two additional teachers. Our morning classes are offered either two or three days per week.

Both programs are for 3 and 4 year olds and include stories, games, singing, arts and crafts, science activities, free play (indoors and outdoors) and some field trips. Each class is licensed for a maximum of 20 children and has two licensed and experienced Early Childhood Educators. Our staff strive to teach and model Christian attitudes and values, and to maintain a warm, caring and safe environment. For more information, visit emmanuelpreschool.ca. 250-598-0573 or preschool@emmanuelvictoria.ca.

Nightingale Preschool and Junior Kindergarten. We are passionate about quality in Early Years Care and Education and aim to provide this in a stimulating atmosphere with a creative curriculum. We pride ourselves on our ability to encourage each child’s individual development through play, interaction, living, example and teaching.

These principles shape our philosophy towards childcare and are brought to life in a fun, exciting, healthy and educating way by our team of quality childcare professionals.

Our commitment to families is to provide a learning environment which promotes the highest quality childcare, nurture each child’s individual qualities, needs, potential and growth. Above all, we aim to make learning fun! Visit our website for a virtual tour and view a slide show into our magical world! nightingalepreschool.com. E-mail or phone to book a tour: Tel: 250-595-7544.

Oak and Orca Pre-primary School is a licensed facility offering bioregional programming for 3 to 5 year olds. Founded on twelve years of experience in quality instruction for children, the pre-primary offers an early learning curriculum based on child-directed learning, individual awareness and choice.

Natural learning is supported through investigation, experience and play. Relationships take priority for teaching time, where a focus on needs helps create harmony and self awareness. Regular out trips connect youngsters with the natural world, while at the school they enjoy experiences in science, math, language and more. Located in the Hillside area, the program is run by an ECE and certified teachers. Info: oakandorca.ca; 250-383-6609.

Vancouver Island Co-operative Preschool Association (VICPA). Co-operative preschools are special and unique. Early childhood educators and parents work together on education programs that emphasize “Learning Through Play”. Visit one of our 14 co-operative preschools located on Vancouver Island and the surrounding Islands to discover how these schools strengthen families and communities. Co-operative preschools provide educational and creative play activities in half-day programs to children aged 3–5 plus orientation and education programs to parents/caregivers. Classes are small, warm, and nurturing, providing children with considerable individual attention and time to “Learn Through Play.” Members of VICPA are listed at vicpa.org.

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ArtsCalibre Academy. Imagine a school… where music, dance, theatre and visual arts are infused into all aspects of an outstanding curriculum. The result is a learning process in which students experience, explore, exercise, and express themselves in order to truly understand and remember. Our structured but dynamic program consistently exceeds the B.C. Ministry of Education’s Curricula for Kindergarten to Grade 5. Dedicated, highly qualified educators, excellent facilities and central Oak Bay location, which is also home to our Junior Kindergarten. We also offer Preschool for 3 and 4 year olds within the Cedar Hill Recreation Centre’s beautiful new Fine Arts wing. ArtsCalibre. ca. 250-382-3533.

Christ Church Cathedral School (CCCS) is Victoria’s Anglican JK, Elementary and Middle School, welcoming students from all backgrounds. CCCS offers before and after school care, a wide range of extra-curricular programs, small class sizes, high calibre learning in math, science and technology, a strong focus on fine arts and progressive athletics programs. Weekly chapel service and seasonal performances are held in beautiful Christ Church Cathedral just a few steps away. Through focused encouragement of personal responsibility, self-discipline, community service and engaging learning opportunities with dedicated teachers, CCCS helps children realize their true potential. cathedralschool.ca. 250-383-5125.

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The Conseil scolair francophone de la Colombie-Britannique (CSF), also known as BC’s Francophone School District (SD No 93) was created in 1995 to serve Francophones across the province. Since its creation in 1995, the CSF offers educational programs and services geared towards the growth and cultural promotion of the province’s Francophone learners. An active partner in the development of British Columbia’s francophone community, the Conseil has presently in its system, and distributed across 78 communities in the province, over 4,350 students and 38 schools, which includes 21 homogeneous schools. For more information visit csf.bc.ca (604)-214-2600 or 1-888-715-2200, info@csf.bc.ca.

Is your child struggling in school? Does your child require an individual program with adaptations/modifications, and deserve it to be presented by a trained, qualified teacher in a low student ratio classroom? Are you looking for a school with a quiet, nurturing, Christian atmosphere that encourages academic development, perseverance, responsibility, and organizational skills? Look no further! For thirty-seven years Discovery School has been providing these services for struggling students. The school offers grades 1-12, follows B.C. curriculum, is Ministry inspected, and is the only school on the island providing this special education. Find more information at discoveryschool.ca or call 250-595-7765.

Island Montessori Preschool and Kindergarten through Grade Two. Our non-profit, child-centered program offers Preschool, Kindergarten through Grade Two as well as Before and After School Care, promoting a sense of well-being, confidence and independence. The staff of Island Montessori are committed to providing a rich, safe, developmentally appropriate and caring environment, and establishing a rapport with each and every child. Individual and group activities with a connection to nature in our rural location foster growth in all areas of development. We are proud to have children from a variety of economic, religious and ethnic backgrounds, as well as a host of abilities and needs. Our rural location at 5575 West Saanich Road is beautiful. Reach us at info@islandmontessori .com or 250-592-4411.

Lighthouse Christian Academy is a faith-based independent school from Grades K-12. What makes Lighthouse unique is that the teachers, students and parents work together to create a safe and inclusive environment for all. Lighthouse offers small class sizes with individualized instruction, all nestled in the woods of the Western Communities. If you would like to see your child thrive in a school where teachers help students reach their full potential, then we encourage you to call us at (250) 474-5311 or visit us at lighthousechristianacademy.com.

Oak and Orca Bioregional School is an affordable option for Kindergarten to grade 11 in the Hillside area. The BC curriculum is offered in an individualized format through practical, engaging, child-directed learning.

The ungraded program uses independent learning logs, conferences and workshop choices to provide children with the structure they need to learn at their own pace.

Regular field trips encourage connections with the natural and cultural heritage of our home place. As part of a community of learners, children are able to communicate effectively, think and act creatively, and develop into responsible ecological citizens. Join a unique learning community!

Call if you are curious about child-directed learning and bioregional education. Info: oakandorca.ca; 250-383-6609 or 1-888383-6619 outside of Victoria.

Pacific Christian School: Educational Excellence to the Glory of God. PCS nurtures students in Christ-like living, critical thinking and joyful service to be faithful citizens in God’s world.

PCS is committed to a Christian program of instruction helping children gain a true Biblical perspective of who they are, and prepares them for a life of dedication and service to God. By developing a sense of goal-directedness, coupled with skills of selfdiscipline and self-evaluation, children will be equipped to develop their talents and gifts to their fullest God-given potential. Quality academics, athletics and more. Accepting registrations for pre-school to grade 12.

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Royal Oak Middle School (ROMS) is a dynamic and vibrant learning community that meets the needs of students throughout the city.

Royal Oak is a 21st century school that provides students in grades 6, 7, and 8 unique opportunities to engage in their learning and promotes the development of each student’s potential. Academics, Athletics, Fine Arts and Applied Skills, French and extra curricular activities are the foundation curriculum that builds confidence and promotes personal and global responsibility. We value all parents/guardians and the larger school community and the role they play in the lives of our students as lifelong learners. royaloak.sd63.bc.ca.

St. Joseph’s Elementary School is a Catholic school where children learn to love, and love to learn!

We build strong foundations for a bright future, with a rigorous academic program integrated into a Catholic atmosphere that permeates all we do. Our newly seismically upgraded school, with a new Primary wing, Library Learning Commons, and two new Kindergarten rooms, provides bright, dynamic learning environments for students. We offer a challenging education program including Fine Arts, Music, Band, French K-7, and Athletics. Religious education is central to the school, where children learn in a Catholic Christian atmosphere where the teachings of Christ are paramount. Come learn with us—we are accepting registration for Preschool, Day Care, Kindergarten, as well as grades one through seven.

At St. Margaret’s School, we seek to empower each girl to set her own course and shape her own dreams. Tucked away on 22-acres in the Blenkinsop Valley in Victoria, SMS is

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an all-girls school where your daughter can be herself, build confidence, and experience being a leader. SMS teachers and our unique environment offer rich resources and challenges to support each girl’s development as a student, an individual and a global-minded citizen. Our rigorous academic program emphasizes STEM learning and leadership at all levels from Junior Kindergarten to Grade 12, and is supported by experiential programs designed to engage students in learning beyond the classroom. Enjoy the benefits of a small school from high participation in athletics, to extensive extracurricular opportunities, to our tight-knit community where each girl is known and driven to achieve. stmarg.ca or 250-479-7171.

Spring Break Programs at St. Michaels University School. A wide range of full and half-day programs for all kids in Victoria ages 5-15, including: Passion Sports Spring Break Elite Camp: Five days of intensive basketball skill development; Fashion Design & Illustration: Develop a seasonal collection of fashion designs to start your collection; Spring time Chefs: Use fresh, local ingredients to make a range of nutritious and delicious recipes. Visit our website for information on these and other programs: smus.ca/spring, or call the Education Extension office at 250-370-6120.

Victoria School for Ideal Education. If you’ve felt that something was missing from your child’s education, you were probably right.

This one-of-a-kind little school offers holistic education from Kindergarten to Grade 8 in a nurturing, stress-free environment. The twice daily children’s meditation, coupled with the study of nature and the laws that

keep us in tune with the natural world, have attracted families from all over the Victoria area. Within this framework we cover the BC curriculum and all our teachers are BC certified. The Oct. 2013 Ministry of Education inspection report states, “The depth of care for each student, the level of personal support provided, and the degree of empathy displayed, all contribute to a family-like atmosphere and encouraging school setting for students.” Phone 250-383-6654 to arrange a tour. Website: vsie.ca.

West-Mont Montessori School offers innovative, personalized Montessori instruction in a beautiful natural environment for students in Preschool to Grade 8. The Montessori program adapts to students from Preschool to Middle School, providing a balanced approach to incorporating Nature, French, Music, and Art into a highly enriched curriculum. For details about our programs visit west-mont.ca, or stop by our campus in Metchosin and feel what it is like to be part of a community devoted to the development of the whole child. Open House every Thursday 9-11 am. West-Mont is located at 4075 Metchosin Road, Victoria, BC. 250-474-2626.

Distributed Learning Hands-On Home-Learning For a Sustainable World, offered by Oak and Orca School, provides K-9 distributed learning opportunities, and is beginning the first phase of offering choice-based high-school in Sept. 2015. This certified program weaves local and global perspectives into a supportive foundation to help a student discover her/his own learning path while satisfying the BC curriculum.

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Through regular communication, certified teachers are accessible to support families in creating their own educational programming. Hands-on, youth-centered activities are available to supplement and enrich what you naturally offer and to cover the basics.

Parents are provided with the guidance they need, without pressure. The program is free and includes an expense budget to help meet educational needs. Info: oakandorca.ca; 250-383-6619 or 1-888-383-6619.

The Individual Learning Centre (ILC) is a high school of choice for students who find the neighbourhood school is not the right fit.

Our greatest strength is the flexibility we can offer including continual entry, continuous progress, flexibility and duel credit college level programs. The Individual Learning Centre is: a small and quiet environment; where students and families take an active role in building the educational plan; where students are valued for their differences; where there is one on one time with teachers; not chaotic and stressful; where anxiety might not interfere with education. For more information, please see our website: ilc.sd63.bc.ca.

SelfDesign, a distributed learning school, offers programs and special education services with personalized education and support for every child/youth and family.

From K-12, certified teachers are paired with each student to guide the creation of personalized learning plans and to tailor an approach unique to the aspirations, needs, and learning style of the child/youth. SelfDesign provides online, and some in-person, student-centered programs and highly customizable courses with weekly guidance to nurture a lifelong love of learning and to honour the unique motivation and interests of every learner. selfdesign.org

LIFE Seminars presents

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Mid-Island Schools/ Education Services Evergreen. Thirty-one years ago, a small group of parents in Cobble Hill were looking for an alternative learning environment for their children. Ideas were shared, plans were made, and Evergreen Independent School was established. This small community school currently enrolls 108 students.

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Kindergarten to Grade 7, as well as for the Evergreen Explorers, a new and tremendously popular Friday morning program for 3 year olds. There are many unique aspects of Evergreen that attract families. Small class sizes, innovative teaching, and multi-grade classrooms enhance individual learning and create positive socialization across the grade levels. The parents and teachers of Evergreen Independent School are committed to a philosophy that develops the full potential of each child. Visit evergreenbc. net for more info.

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Nestled in a wooded landscape, St. Joseph’s Catholic Elementary in Chemainus offers faith-enriched education to children from preschool through grade 7. Skilled educators provide a safe and caring environment, and nourish each student academically, physically, spiritually and artistically. St. Joseph’s offers music and band programming, specialist teachers for PE, and K-7 French instruction. On-site preschool and before and after school care is available. St. Joseph’s is an inclusive school, welcoming students of all backgrounds and abilities.

Affordable and Extraordinary bursary program. Please call 250-246-3191 for more information, or to arrange for a tour of St. Joseph’s school.

At Queen Margaret’s School we create accomplished life-long learners who make positive impacts on the world. We offer a co-ed Early Childhood Education Program, co-ed Junior School (Kindergarten-Grade 7) and an all girls Senior School (8-12, boarding and day). Our picturesque 27-acre campus in the Cowichan Valley is home to Canada’s only optional on-campus equestrian English riding program. QMS’ equestrian centre provides training opportunities for recreational riders and elite equestrian athletes alike. As a globally-minded community, QMS provides enriched educational experiences and unique programs that prepare students for university, for higher education, for life. Discover at QMS. Visit qms.bc.ca Sunrise Waldorf School (SWS) teaches the BC curriculum in the inspired, holistic, Waldorf way enhanced by Handwork, Woodwork, Music, Strings, Movement, French, Plays, Gardening and Seasonal

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Festivals. Students learn and grow on our beautiful, rural seven acre campus. SWS is located south of Duncan in the Cowichan Valley and attracts families from all over the globe, who have relocated to enroll their children at our Waldorf school. Founded in 1980, SWS offers programs from early childhood through class eight. SWS is the only full member school of the Association of Waldorf Schools of North America (AWSNA) on Vancouver Island. 250-7437253, sunrisewaldorfschool.org.

Vancouver Island University Master of Education in Educational Leadership. The M.Ed. in Educational Leadership provides a program of preparation for aspiring formal and informal school leaders. Grounded in the rich educational leadership literature supplemented by extensive faculty expertise and experience, the program provides a balance of research, policy and practice.

Graduates of our program will have demonstrated the knowledge, skills and attitudes of successful leaders. All programs are offered as cohorts with strong Faculty support. Graduates are fully qualified to pursue doctoral studies.

Vancouver Island University (VIU) Master of Education in Special Education. VIU’s M.Ed. in Special Education embodies an innovative approach to the field of Special Education. Grounded in current research and evidence–based practices, our program challenges each educator to critically examine historical and contemporary Special Education policies and approaches to formulate a best practice specific to her/his own context. Faculty bring their expert knowledge and extensive experiences to guide, support and maximize student learning in each part of the program. All programs are offered as cohorts with strong Faculty support. Graduates are fully qualified to pursue doctoral studies.

Parent Education Courses covering a range of personal and parenting topics at 1Up Single Parent Resource Centre. Courses include The Lighthouse Parent, Managing the Difficult Conversation, Anatomy of Anger, Taming the Tiger: Mindfulness for Everyday, and the father’s support group Dads with Dads. Our courses are open to all in the community.

Visit www.1-up.ca or call 250-385-1114.

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Lifeseminars.com will give you the details you need to view the selection of courses including the very popular Wednesday night programs. Dr. Allison Rees also works with individual parents and groups to facilitate these courses. Their books, Sidestepping the Power Struggle and The Parent Child Connection are available for purchase through the site, Bolen’s Books and Russell Books or online.

Educational Services & Programs Mad Science® Vancouver Island offers exciting science programs for schools, communities and individuals. Our after-school program this year, Spy Academy, explores the science in the work of detectives and spies. In a series of six weekly lessons we immerse children in a hands-on environment of exploration, fun and learning. Children experiment, question, and build a take-home toy to share what they learned with others.

Our programs include Birthday Parties & Camps. Check madscience.org/vancouverisland and Book on-line any time. Available in the Victoria area, Duncan, Nanaimo and Comox-Courtenay. Call 1-888-954-6237 for information.

Serving all of Vancouver Island, School is Easy Vancouver Island provides high quality individualized educational programs that address the levels and learning styles of its learners. Selecting from a roster of certified (carefully screened) specialist teachers, students of all ages receive the expertise they need to address their learning goals in an array of subjects. Teachers are easy to work with, reliable and can be scheduled to come to your home at your convenience. In addition, autism government funding and the tutoring tax credit make School is Easy Vancouver Island services more accessible.

Call today at 1.877.ITS. EASY (487-3279) schooliseasy.com/vancouver-island.

Sylvan, learning should be personal. As the leading provider of supplemental education services in North America we have been serving the Island for 28 years. Our exciting new system Sylvan Sync combines 21st Century technology with our established individualized learning programs and the expertise and professionalism of our certified staff to provide each student with a unique personalized learning program to meet his or her specific needs. When your IslandParent.ca

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89 Pacific squadron Royal Canadian Air Cadets. More than meets the skies: Are you 12-18 years old and looking for a challenge to bring out the best in you? Ever consider Air Cadets? You’ll make lifelong friends, learn valuable skills and increase self esteem.

The program at 89 Pacific squadron Royal Canadian Air Cadets focuses on social development, decision making and leadership.

Every cadet has opportunities to participate in flight activities, band, marksmanship, effective speaking, drill team and more.

89 Pacific Squadron is based in the Bay St. Armoury ( 715 Bay St). Training is Monday night from 6:00-9:30pm. Come for a visit.

Artistic Statement Gallery & School of Fine Art offers classes in drawing, painting, sculpture and cartooning. We design portfolios for students ages 14 and up to prepare them for entrance into degree and diploma programs in a variety of disciplines. Younger children also benefit from our unique approach, learning specific techniques to further their skill and creativity. Our annual student art exhibit showcases the students’ mastery of art at a level far above that produced by their peers. Call Joan at 250-383-0566, artisticstatementgalleryandschool.com.

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hether you’re new to the Island or new to parenting, it’s likely you want to broaden or change your social circle. Don’t feel bad about this!

You may have had tons of friends with kids in Germany, Ontario, Fort McMurray or wherever you came from. Maybe you’ve been here for ages and have friends inviting you to the latest throwback Kiss concert or some swank new bistro that just opened up. But nowadays, you could really use some good, old-fashioned, neighbour-type friends. The kind your parents had, back when you’d go along to adult dinner parties and make your own fun with everyone else’s kids.

One common refrain that I hear in Victoria is how hard it is to make new friends, but this needn’t be the case. If you’re motivated, you can take advantage of the constant influx of newcomers lured to the phenomenal lifestyle that the Island offers. And the best part is that many of them come with young children in tow!

So how do busy parents meet new people, schedule activities and build friendships while balancing family life and responsibilities? By accessing a few simple resources, you could be having adult conversations with interesting parents while your children do the work of entertaining each other. Thanks to these resources, it’s easier than ever to turn online connections into real live friendships.

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One excellent way to meet new people with common interests is through the online service Meetup. At Meetup.com, you’ll find hundreds of local groups based upon specific interests or identities, and many of them cater to parents and families. From groups that organize mom’s nights out and playground get-togethers (Victoria Moms) to rugged yet child-friendly hikes (Raincoast Rascals), you could be meeting new parents in a non-threatening environment before the end of the week.

It is free to browse, sign up and join groups. Once you’re in a group, you’ll receive emails inviting you to upcoming events, so you’ll never miss out. If you want to go, you RSVP and secure a spot. You can peruse the list of attendees and see if anyone sounds interesting. For inspiration, you can also see what other groups people belong to.

Can’t find a Meetup group devoted to mothers running businesses in the Capital Region? Oh wait, that group already exists—Victoria Business Moms! But maybe you have some other activity that you enjoy and want to find other like-minded families to enjoy it with. No interest is too obscure, in minutes you can create your own group and start organizing your own get-togethers.

Once your group has members, you can designate members to help with planning and give the group a life of its own. Or you can maintain full control, it’s up to you!

Creating your own group on Meetup costs money. Depending on your payment plan, it costs at least $60 for a year, and that can be an obstacle for would-be organizers.

Most groups ask members to contribute a membership fee of $5 or so, payable at the first or second meetup new members attend.

Facebook Groups Facebook groups offer an alternative to the cost and structure of Meetup. Interestbased groups transform Facebook from a simple friendship connection to a place where you can meet new people based on commonalities.

There are several Victoria-based Facebook groups that cater to parents and their widely varied interests. For example, Victoria Cloth Diaper Chat or Victoria Babywearers offer conversation and information. Families with older children can find playgroups with opportunities to meet in parks (such as Victoria Chat ‘n Play or Greater Victoria Weekly Play Date). Expectant or new parents can usually find a few groups for people with babies due in their time frame (like 2016 Moms Victoria BC) IslandParent.ca

An advantage with going the Facebook route is that most parents are already signed up and can try a search for parent groups any time. Finding one will invariably lead to others!

Most of these will be closed groups, so the parent must request to join the group.

Group administrators will generally take a look at your Facebook profile, to make sure you’ll be an appropriate member. Once inside a closed group, parents feel comfortable to post freely on the area of parenting it addresses.

While it depends on the group’s rules, usually anyone can use the Event feature to invite other members to meet. Of course if you want to maintain control of your Junior Tide Poolers of Chemainus group, that’s up to you! But I encourage open event planning: as more people get involved, the group can only grow stronger and more active.

Facebook events have the same convenience of contacting members with event invites and allowing RSVPs. And it does so without any payment commitment.

Craigslist A final online resource for parents seeking new friends is the platonic section on Craigslist. I can’t say I’ve had much success

with it, although I did find a tennis partner there, but it certainly has brought enough laughs to make it worth sharing!

I have seen listings by parents of young children on Craigslist, either new to town and looking to meet people, or new to parenting and needing some non-singleton friends. Be forewarned, these listings are few and far between!

You may find it entertaining to weed through the obscure platonic listings on the site, or you may be turned off by the variety of postings listed. But this could be a good way to make friends if you prefer a one-on-one and correspondence-based beginning to meeting new people.

One theme that is common throughout all of these sites is that people find it hard to make new friends on the Island. It doesn’t have to be so hard. Whether through a Meetup group, a Facebook group, or online platonic personals, you can be out at a playground, park or coffee shop talking to real live adults and parents in no time. The rest, exchanging numbers, getting together, becoming lifelong friends, that is up to you!

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Family Calendar For calendar updates throughout the month visit IslandParent.ca MON 1 Baby Chat at Juan de Fuca Branch Library.

Stay after drop-in Baby Time to learn about baby care and other child development topics from Island Health practitioners. Drop in, space permitting. For babies 0-15 months and parent or caregiver. 11-11:30am. 250-940GVPL (4875). gvpl.ca.

FRI 5 Lego Stories at Sidney/North Saanich Branch Library. Use the library’s Lego to build your own creation while you listen to stories. Put your creation on display until the next meeting.

Ages 5 and up. 3:30-4:30pm. Please register by email at sidney@virl.bc.ca or phone 250656-0944.

SAT 6 What’s That Evergreen? at Francis/King Regional Park. Come take a closer look at the survival strategies of our local plants. With a CRD Regional Parks naturalist, you’ll learn about common evergreen species, what keeps these plants green year round, and sip some forest tea. Meet at the Francis/King Nature Centre off Munn Rd at 1pm. 8+ years. 250478-3344. crd.bc.ca/parks.

SUN 7 Devonian Delight at Devonian Regional Park. You get it all on this guided walk—forest, stream, wetland, and ocean. Join CRD Regional Parks naturalists to discover, or

rediscover, this regional gem. Meet at the information kiosk in the parking lot off William Head Rd at 1pm. 6+ years. BC Transit #54 or #55. 250-478-3344. crd.bc.ca/parks.

Family Faith Fair at Cadboro Bay United Church. Multicultural dance performances, and colourful exhibits by a wide variety of religions. Keynote speech by educator Dan Vaillancourt on The Soul of Education, and talented storytellers with tales from different world faiths on generosity and compassion.

Free. Nominal fee for treats at the World Café.

1:30-4:30pm. For more info email victoriamultifaith@gmail.com. 2625 Arbutus Rd.

MON 8 Free Family Day Admission at the Royal BC Museum. Spend Family Day exploring the Royal BC Museum. Participate in special nature-themed activities while spending quality time together with your family. Guided activities from 1-3pm. These activities all allow visitors to re-connect and discover new ideas about nature, family and history. 10am-5pm.

675 Belleville St. 250-356-7226.

Family Arts Festival at Cedar Hill Recreation Centre. Fun-filled family event celebrates imagination, creativity and discovery. Kids of all ages will enjoy a wide variety of activities hosted by The Arts Centre and guests from Greater Victoria’s arts community. Explore the world of visual arts, dance, music and theatre through hands-on stations and performances.

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Family Day at Panorama Recreation. Celebrate Family Day with $2 admission to swimming, skating, and the weight room. Family skate from 1-2:20pm, Family swim from 1:30-4pm (relay races from 2-3pm). Draw prizes.

THURS 11 DigiLab at Oak Bay Branch Library. Have fun while learning a new craft or building skills.

Meet new people who are interested in art and technology, just like yourself! The library will provide the art supplies, technology and instructions, and you provide the inspiration.

For ages 13-18. 4:30-6pm. Register at gvpl. ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information.

FRI 12 Lego at the Library at Bruce Hutchison Branch Library. Listen to stories and have fun with the library’s Lego. Bring your own Lego for a takehome project. For ages 7-10. 3:30-4:30pm.

Register at gvpl.ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information.

SAT 13 Kids Mega Sale at Pearkes Arena. Gently used baby and children’s clothing, toys, equipment and maternity. 9:30am-12:30pm. kidsmegasale@gmail.com. Facebook.com/KidsMegaSale.

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Horth Hill Highlights at Horth Hill Regional Park. Join a CRD Regional Parks naturalist and stroll through this delightful park at the tip of the Saanich Peninsula. Discover the plants at your feet, the birds over your head, and great views from the top. Wear sturdy hiking shoes.

Meet at the information kiosk in the parking lot off Tatlow Rd at 1pm. 8+ years. BC Transit #70 or #72. crd.bc.ca/parks. 250-478-3344.

School’s Out Skate at Panorama Recreation.

Come out for some frozen fun during this year’s non-instructional day. 1-2:20pm. $2.

1885 Forest Park Drive. 250-656-7271.

MON 15 Victoria Children’s Literature Roundtable at Saanich Centennial Branch Library. Join us for a creative writing workshop From Journey to Story: Using Life Experience to Write YA Fiction with author Robin Stevenson.

Participants will explore the use of personal memory, experience, questions and curiosity to create convincing characters and compelling stories for teen readers. VCLR is open to the public. Doors open at 7pm. Workshop begins at 7:30pm. Members free; $5/dropin, $4/students. For more information, call 250-884-1346.

Stories on Fern Street. The Victoria Storytellers Guild welcomes you to hear and tell stories.

For people who love to tell stories, for people who love to listen, for people of all ages. Tea and goodies. Doors open at 7:15pm, stories start at 7:30pm. 1831 Fern St (park on Begbie). $5; $3/students. 250-477-7044. victoriastorytellers.org.

WED 17 Emergency Preparedness Workshop at James Bay New Horizons. Make emergency preparedness your family’s New Year resolution.

Learn about the hazards that can affect Victoria, what to include in your home emergency kit, what you can do to minimize injury and protect your home from an earthquake, and how to reunite with loved ones after a disaster.

An emergency kit will also come in handy in the event of a power outage or winter storm.

7-9pm. To register, email vema@victoria.ca or call 250-920-3373. PrepareVictoria.ca.

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Open House at St. Margaret’s School. Now’s the time to register for Fall 2016, so come see the campus in action. Interested families are invited to drop in from 9-11am and 1-3pm to take a student-led tour, meet with faculty and staff, try on the red blazer, and find out why girls thrive here. 1080 Lucas Ave. Full details and RSVP online at stmarg.ca. 250-479-7171. admissions@stmarg.ca.

Going Batty! at Francis/King Regional Park.

Drop into the Nature Centre between 11am and 2pm and discover the world of bats. Enjoy a “bat walk” through the park at 11:15am and 1pm with CRD Regional Parks naturalists.

Meet at the Francis/King Nature Centre off Munn Rd. 11am-2pm. All ages. 250-4783344. crd.bc.ca/parks.

French Storytime for Kids at Oak Bay Branch Library. Enjoy a French language storytime with the Victoria Chapter of Canadian Parents for French (CPF) and learn about French resources GVPL has to support emergent readers.

Perfect for French Immersion families. Coffee and cookies will be served. For ages 5-8 and parents or caregivers. 11:30am-12:15pm.

Register at gvpl.ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information.

Black History Month: Stories with Wanda Jemly at Juan de Fuca Branch Library. Join children’s author Wanda Jemly for storytelling, readings from her book, and insights into the book-writing experience. This program is in English with some French words introduced.

For ages 5-8. 1:30-2:30pm. Register at gvpl. ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information.

Musical Storytime for School-Aged Kids at Bruce Hutchison Branch Library. Join Brenda from the Victoria Conservatory of Music to explore the fun of music-making and storytelling in an action-packed session. For ages 6-8;

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parents and caregivers welcome. 2:30-3:15pm.

Register at gvpl.ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information.

Fables, Fools and Fantasy at Esquimalt Branch Library. Join Story Theatre for fabl e-ous stories and fun word games. Part performance, part interactive, and fun for all. For ages 5-12.

2:30-3:30pm. Register at gvpl.ca or call 250940-GVPL (4875) for more information.

Story Club: It’s a Book at Central Branch Library. Listen to stories, talk about your favourite books, and enjoy fun activities. Snacks included. For ages 5-8. 3:30-4:30pm. Register at gvpl.ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information.

Lego at the Library at Saanich Centennial Branch Library. See FRI 12 for details. For ages 7-10. 3:30-4:30pm. Register at gvpl.ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information.

Lego Stories at Sidney/North Saanich Branch Library. See FRI 5 for details. Ages 5 and up. 3:30-4:30pm. Please register by email at sidney@virl.bc.ca or phone 250-656-0944.

3, 2, 1… DigiLab Launch Party at Esquimalt Branch Library. Celebrate all things creative at a super fun DigiLab Launch Party. The library will provide food and entertainment, and you’ll provide the creativity. Check out the green screen, cameras, colouring books, perler beads and much more. For ages 13-18.

7-8:30pm. Register at gvpl.ca or call 250-940GVPL (4875) for more information.

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Early Signs of Spring at Witty’s Lagoon Regional Park. Join a CRD Regional Parks naturalist on a walk down to the beach. Look for birds, plants and other early signs of spring along the way. Meet at the Nature Centre off Metchosin Rd at 1pm. 5+ years. BC Transit #54 or #55. 250-478-3344. crd.bc.ca/parks.

Baby Chat at Saanich Centennial Branch Library. See MON 1 for details. Drop in, space permitting. For babies 0-15 months and parent or caregiver. Noon-12:30pm. 250-940-GVPL (4875). gvpl.ca.

Dora & Friends Skate at Panorama Recreation. Hola amigos. Come join Dora & her friends at this everyone welcome skate.

Characters brought to you by Victoria Costumes. 1-2:20pm. 1885 Forest Park Dr. 250-656-7271.

Be a Tourist in Your Own Hometown. Buy a Be a Tourist VIP Card for access to over 30 of the cities best attractions, including museums, tours, outdoor advetnure, food and hotels.

Check out BeATourist.ca for a complete list of all offers. VIP Cards available at Thrifty Foods, Tourism Victoria, The Bay Centre, Uptown, or online. $15, or buy 4 and get one free.

TUES 23 Love is All You Need at Emily Carr Branch Library. Feel the love, share the warmth. Wear red or pink to show you care! This program will occur before regular opening hours. For young children and accompanying adult.

9:30-10am. Register online at gvpl.ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information.

WED 24 Emergency Preparedness Workshop at Victoria City Hall. See WED 17 for details. 10amnoon. To register, email vema@victoria.ca or call 250-920-3373. PrepareVictoria.ca.

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FRI 26 Little Lego at the Library at Bruce Hutchison Branch Library. Listen to stories and have fun with the library’s Lego. Bring your own Lego for a take-home project. For ages 4-6. Parents are encouraged to attend. 3:30-4:30pm. Register at gvpl.ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information.

SAT 27 Owl Prowl at Mill Hill Regional Park. Owls are amazing birds. Join CRD Regional Parks

guest naturalist David Allinson for this exciting adventure into the dark woods to look for and call owls. $10/family + GST. Pre-registration required by February 25. Call 250-478-3344.

8+ years. BC Transit #53. crd.bc.ca/parks.

SUN 28 Raccoons are Wild at Swan Lake Nature House. Discover the world of this masked bandit. Are they really bandits, or just wonderfully adapted for living in our urban environment? This event will feature the “Way Cool Raccoon School” puppet show, crafts and hands-on exploration. Admission by donation. Noon-3pm. 3873 Swan Lake Rd. For more information call 250-479-0211 or visit swanlake.bc.ca.

Lego Movie Night in the Pool at Panorama Recreation. Come for a movie night swim and spend an evening with all your favourite Lego characters. There will be popcorn and hot chocolate, too. 7:30-9:30pm. 1885 Forest Park Dr. 250-656-7271.

MON 29 Baby Chat at Central Branch Library. See MON 1 for details. Drop in, space permitting. For babies 0-15 months and parent or caregiver. 11-11:30am. 250-940-GVPL (4875). gvpl.ca.

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ONGOING BABIES, TODDLERS & PRESCHOOL Drop-in Storytimes at the Greater Victoria Public Library. Caregivers are welcome and encouraged to participate. Storytimes are free and drop-in. Please come early to find a space.

For a complete schedule of drop-in programs, visit gvpl.ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information.

Good Morning Storytime at Sidney/North Saanich Branch Library. Bring your littlest ones to the library for stories, songs, rhymes and lots of movement. For 0-5. Thursdays January 14-March 3, 10:15-11am drop-in.

CHILDREN Baseball and Softball Registration on the Saanich Peninsula. Fees include 8 indoor clinics at Panorama Recreation starting January 16th, Spring Ball from April through June, uniforms, team picture, and trophy. Visit pbsa. ca for details.

Toddler Art Drop-in at Burnside Gorge Community Centre. Explore your creative side.

Each week features a different craft designed with the preschooler in mind. Smocks and soap provided. Creative activities can be messy, so please dress children appropriately. Parent participation required. 9:30-10:30am. $1/child.

Lego Scavenger Hunt at Sidney Museum. Pick up your Lego treasure map at event locations or participating retailer and explore Sidney checking out the Lego exhibits displayed at various locations around town. Bring your completed map back to the Museum and be entered to win great prizes. February 6-March 31.

gift certificate for the store of your choice, up to $100 for first prize! For Grades 7-12 and home learners of equivalent age. For details, contest rules, and online entry form, see gvpl. ca/teenwritingcontest. For more information, email teens@gvpl.ca. Contest runs online from January 29-March 29.

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Volunteer Opportunities for Teens at the Greater Victoria Public Library. The GVPL has great volunteer opportunities for teens.

For more information, visit gvpl.ca/about-us/ work-with-us/teen-volunteers.

Young Parent Drop-in at the YM/YWCA. The Y Young Moms Program hosts a free breakfast and drop-in for young parents in the community. Come enjoy a hot meal, socialize with other young parents, enjoy a kids’ craft, let your little one explore the fully equipped playroom, or have a look in the ‘free store’ for gently used children’s items and household supplies. 10am-noon. Call 250-382-1004 for more information.

GVPL Teen Slam Poetry Team at Central Branch Public Library. Interested in spoken word poetry? Come for regular coaching with past City of Victoria Youth Poet Laureate Zoe Duhaime and experiment with words and rhythm, then watch or participate in the Victorious Voices High School Slam Championships. For ages 13-18. Wednesdays, 4:30-5:30pm, February 10-March 30. Register at gvpl.ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information.

Teen Writing Contest at the Greater Victoria Public Library. Enter your original poem, short story, or something in the “random” category.

Create something new, or polish up something written for a school assignment. If your entry is selected by the judging panel, you will win a

Recyclistas Bicycle Repair Classes at Recyclistas Bike Shop. Affordable classes twice weekly. Learn how to safely and effectively fix, maintain and rebuild bicycles. Thursdays 4-7pm, and Saturdays 1-4pm. $25/adults; $13/ youth 10-18. Pre-register by calling 250-4188867. recyclistas.ca.

Guided Birdwalks at Swan Lake Christmas Hill Nature Sanctuary. Bring your binoculars and walking shoes and meet in the parking lot for this informal and informative walk around the lake area. 9am. By donation. 3873 Swan Lake Rd. swanlake.bc.ca•

Transforming disability into ability.

At Discovery School, learning disabilities are transformed into valuable skills and abilities. Students work at their own pace in small classes, with focused, individualized instruction.

• Experienced, highly-qualified teachers • Ongoing assessment, evaluation & feedback • Improves organizational & study skills • Boost confidence, independence & responsibility • Nurturing environment based on Christian values • For students aged 7 – 18 in grades 1 – 12 • Individual Education Plans • Low student/teacher ratio

Enrolment is limited. For more information or to arrange a tour, visit www.discoveryschool.ca, call Sherri Ko at 250-595-7765 or email principal@discoveryschool.ca IslandParent.ca

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Little League Baseball (Ages 4 – 13 Years)

Challenger Baseball (Ages 4 – Adulthood)

A recreational program including 6 different divisions.

Players are placed on teams of their skill level. We also offer more competitive summer Baseball and Softball programs for those aged 9 years and over. Players earn their spot on summer teams.

“Where everyone is a winner” The Challenger program for boys and girls with special needs, who can enjoy the game of baseball along with the millions of other children who participate in this baseball.

Blastball (Ages 1 – 3 Years) “Baseball for the underage Little Leaguers!” Entry level for team sport. Bring friends, make your own team.

Softball (Girls 7 – 18 Years) “Girls in Sport!” The girls’ softball program offers recreational and competitive programs for all girls. Goals include skill development, team work and having fun!

Hampton Little League

is proud to host several events this season including: Big League Experience Super Clinic – (ages 7 thru 13 Mar 25 &26) 60th Anniversary Celebration – May 28 & 29 (includes funday) BC Provincial Challenger Jamboree – June 5 9-10 District Baseball Championships – end of June – early July

Dates & Times

at the Hampton Clubhouse on Tillicum Road across from Burnside Plaza.

• On-line www.hamptonlittleleague.org anytime even now!

• Saturday-Sunday Jan 30 & 31, Feb 6 & 7, Feb 13 & 14: 1-4 PM • Wednesday Feb 10: 6:30-9 PM Kidsport & payment options available - NO PLAYER TURNED AWAY BECAUSE OF FINANCES!

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Around the Island

Visit IslandParent.ca for these and other events and resources for families from Cowichan Valley north to Campbell River and west to Tofino TUES 2 Glow in the Dark Skate at Frank Crane Arena.

Skate in an atmosphere of dimmed lighting and special effects. Regular admission. Glow necklaces available for $2. 250-756-5200.

FRI 5 Nanaimo Community Home Learners (NCHL) Monthly Meet-up at Oliver Woods Community Centre. Resource library, gym time, and parent support. $5 drop-in fee/family or $20 year-long membership. nanaimocommunityhomelearners.org.

Family Day Swim at Nanaimo Aquatic Centre.

Noon-4pm. 250-756-5200.

Family Day Swim at Frank Jameson Community Centre, Ladysmith. Come celebrate BC Family Day with a free swim. Noon-3:30pm.

250-245-6424.

TUES 9 Dad’s Night Out: Free Skate Night at Oceanside Place Arena. Dads, bring the kids and enjoy a free skate together on the pond. Sponsored

by Building Learning Together. 6:30-7:30pm.

250-248-3252. rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

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SUN 14

Family Play Day at Oliver Woods Community Centre. Dress up like your favourite superhero and come for superhero games and activities, including the superhero training centre, games and challenges in the gym, lego time, crafts, puppets, story time, facepainting, balloon animals, bouncy castle and much more. $12/ family of 5, or $3/person (children 2 years and younger free). 9:30am-12:30pm 256-5203.

6000 Oliver Rd.

Valentine’s Skate at Oceanside Place Arena.

Bring your valentine and compete for sweet prizes. Admission is 2 for 1 if you wear red. 2-3:30pm. 250-248-3252. rdn.bc.ca/ recreation.

MON 8 Coombs Fair Family Day at Coombs Fair.

Heritage demos, crafts and games for kids of all ages. Free hot dogs, popcorn, and coffee or tea (while supplies last). Activities and displays include: Children’s Garden Railway, Hamilton Hobby Farm, sheep treasure hunt, butter churning, 4H demoes, family photo booth and more. All activities are indoors.

Free. coombsfair.com.

BC Provincial Family Day Swim and Skate at Ravensong Aquatic Centre and Oceanside Place Arena. Free admission for both centres courtesy Quality Foods. Free Family Swim from 10am-2pm. Free Family Skate from 1-5pm. Phone 250-752-5014 or 250-2483252. rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

Family Day Skates at Nanaimo Ice Centre. 121:30 pm: Everyone Welcome Skate; 1:45-3:15 pm: Everyone Welcome Skate; 12:15-1:50pm: Family/Child Stick ‘n’ Puck; 1:30-2:30pm: Parent & Tot Skate; 2:45-3:45 pm: Family/ Child Stick ‘n Puck. 250-756-5200.

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TUES 16 Glow in the Dark Skate at Frank Crane Arena.

Skate in an atmosphere of dimmed lighting and special effects. Regular admission. Glow necklaces available for $2. 250-756-5200.

FRI 19 Dive in Cinema at Frank Jameson Community Centre. Enjoy a movie while you get your feet wet. 6:30-9pm. $5/person. 250-245-6424.

MON 22 School’s Out Everyone Welcome Skate at Oceanside Place Arena. School is out, but skating is in from 1:30-3pm. Regular admission.

250-248-3252. rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

Pro D Day Swim at Ravensong Aquatic Centre.

School is out for the day, so stay active from 1:30-2:30pm. Reduced admission rate. 250752-5014. rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

WED 24 Parent & Tot Swim at Frank Jameson Community Centre. A special time in the therapy leisure pool just for parents and children. Enjoy a quieter time with tots in this wonderful water playground. Free. 9-10am. 250-248-6424.

Lego Skate at Oceanside Place Arena. This skate is all about Lego. You will create and build both on and off the ice. Everyone welcome. 2-3:30pm. Regular admission. 250-2483252. rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

SUN 21 Wacky Olympics at Beban Pool, Nanaimo.

Go for the gold while challenging yourself in the wacky races and activities. 1:30-4pm.

250-756-5200.

ONGOING PRESCHOOL Mornings with LaFF at the Aggie. Staff and participants create play-based learning stations to explore and enjoy. Bring food to share & make a healthy snack together while making new friends. Monday to Friday, 9:30am-noon. $2 suggested donation per family. familyandfriends.ca.

Family Storytime at Cowichan Library, Duncan. Bring the whole family for stories, songs, rhymes and fun. For ages 0-5. Tuesdays 10:3011:30am. 2687 James St. krumohr@virl.bc.ca.

FAMILY Bird Walks at Parksville/Qualicum Beach.

Explore a different location in and around the Oceanside area. Walks leave from Parksville Beach Community Park at 9am every Tuesday. visitparksvillequalicumbeach.com.

Drop-in Science Studio at Departure Bay Eco School. At Nanaimo Science and Sustainability Society’s Science studio, kids are encouraged to explore the many interactive displays and activities. Activities include: 8 foot marble wall, 2,000 KEVA blocks, kid-friendly microscopes, wind tunnels, a high-powered air field, math puzzles, sign-out activities, and more. For safety purposes, children under 16 must be accompanied by an adult. $4/child; adults free.

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-noon; Thursdays 3-5pm; Saturdays 9am-noon. Schedule subject to change, so please check nanaimoscience.org for most current schedule.

Parksville Lion’s and Save-On-Foods Free Family Skate at Oceanside Arena, Parksville.

Free family skating Sundays. Free admission and skate rentals. Children must be accompanied by an adult 19 years or older. Sundays 12:15-1:45pm. 250-248-3252. rdn.bc.ca/ recreation.

Lions Free Skate at Frank Crane Arena. Every Sunday noon-1:30pm. 250-756-5200.•

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Greg Pratt

Breaking the Rules for Superheroes In Home Tutoring Certified Teachers Grades 1–12 (all subjects)

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t’s 7:02 a.m. on a Tuesday morning; I’m the first person awake in my house, or so I think. I’m in the kitchen, clumsily knocking over dishes and cursing the cold floor as it ravages my feet when suddenly, I see a movement behind me. I spin around, half expecting, for some reason, to find an intruder.

Instead, it is Batman.

Or, at least, it was my four-and-a-half-

play video games, and they’ve never seen a superhero movie.

Obviously, that last one is a problem.

Not only is the boy obsessed with Thor, Iron Man, Captain America, Spider Man, Batman, and the rest of them (except for the Hulk: he is only now coming to an understanding of the complex nature of the Hulk being a good guy…just a kinda bad good guy), but our daughter, who is now seven, is

year-old son dressed as Batman, ready to get the day started with a sneak attack on his arch enemy, Loki.

I am Loki.

Now, apart from the obvious problem with multi-storyline crossover here, there’s another big problem we’ve been grappling with in our family. Our son has very, very strong feelings towards superheroes: they’re pretty much the best thing ever. He has lots of dress-up clothes, some very G-rated books, and a few of the more tame comics. We keep a pretty tight rein on the kids seeing anything too violent or generally inappropriate in this house; my Slayer and Cannibal Corpse CDs are hidden in a closet (sigh), the kids don’t

obsessed with Black Widow. So, we’ve got some superhero love going on in the family right now. Needless to say, my wife and I keep talking about superhero movies and how fun it would be to watch them with the kids. But our rule around here is that we follow the movie ratings system, and the age we prescribed to PG movies is six.

None of those superhero movies are below a PG. So, we’d have to wait.

And honestly, the kids didn’t seem too tortured over having to wait. But we were.

Late at night, after the kids were in bed dreaming about Thor and Black Widow and before I was in bed dreaming about Scarlett Johansson playing Black Widow

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(mental note: edit that out), my wife and I would watch clips of The Avengers to see if it was too violent.

We were on the fence at first. We didn’t know if our kids would be horrified, if it would turn them off superheroes forever, if we were trying to force ourselves to make the decision to watch it because we thought it would be fun for them.

Then we made the decision to watch it because we thought it would be fun for them.

Rest assured, this came after consulting websites designed for worrying parents like us, where every potentially troubling aspect of movies is described in detail. It came after watching many segments of the movie online, and after consulting friends on the matter. In the end, it seemed like the movie wasn’t that scary so we figured it was a risk worth taking.

So we surprised the kiddos with it: told them we were watching some other movie, plugged it in and watched them slowly piece it together.

“That looks like Nick Fury.”

“That looks like Loki.”

And then two-plus hours of fun began.

When it was over, no one was traumatized.

My boy was taking flying leaps off the couch imitating Thor (and battling the evil Loki/ me), and my girl was more impressed than ever with Black Widow, the tough bad-ass that she is in the movie. The kids were beside themselves with joy, and we parents had a great time seeing it, too.

We worried, though, about how the kids perceived the inconsistency of us breaking our PG movie rule. But we sometimes forget as adults that kids don’t always think like we do. At first, my girl asked why we were watching a PG movie with her little brother there, and we told her we thought it would be okay. Case closed. Then she had her mind blown by Black Widow for two hours and that was that. They’ll remember this night for a long time, and that makes me happy.

We firmly believe in household rules, and we definitely believe the parents are in charge, not the kids. They get told “no” daily; we’re no pushovers. They weren’t even asking to see this movie. We just realized that sometimes childhood is best when there’s an incredible night of fun to be had, and sometimes that requires breaking a rule.

Heck, we made the rules, we can break ’em.

Greg Pratt is the father of two children and a local journalist and editor. His writing has appeared in, among other places, Today’s Parent, Wired, Revolver, and Douglas.

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First Annual

Pregnancy to Pre-K Expo Saturday & Sunday, March 19 & 20 at Beban Park

40+ Local and National Vendors Baby Crawling Contest Two Appearances by BOBS AND LOLO The incomparable music of “The BIG MESS” Supervised Gymnastics Corner and much, much, more!

In support of Nanaimo’s Child Development Center! Support their cause, and have some fun at this one of a kind, one stop shopping experience!

Tickets: $10/day or $12/weekend, kids under 12 FREE!

Info: prairiecoastproductions.com or pregnancytoprekexpo.com

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Emmanuel Preschool over 35 years of nurturing children in our community

Open House!

Saturday, Feb. 27, 9:30-11:00am or contact us for a visit Sept-June Learning through creative play Two licensed, experienced Early Childhood Educators Warm, fun, non-denominational Christian learning environment.

2121 Cedar Hill Cross Road 250.598.0573

www.emmanuelpreschool.ca preschool@emmanuelvictoria.ca

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or health benefits, children aged 5-11 years should accumulate at least 60 minutes of moderate- to vigorous-intensity physical activity daily. This should include: Vigorous-intensity activities at least three days per week.

Activities that strengthen muscle and bone at least three days per week.

More daily physical activity provides greater health benefits.

What does this mean?

Children aged 5-11 years are encouraged to participate in a variety of physical activities that are enjoyable and safe. Aerobic activities are those that involve large muscle groups for long periods of time. Aerobic activity is also sometimes called “endurance activity” and will help to improve cardio-respiratory fitness. Some examples are brisk walking, running, swimming and bicycling. Children should accumulate this activity over and above the activities of daily living, such as getting ready for school and doing the dishes. These guidelines may be appropriate for children with a disability or medical condition; however, parents should consult a health professional to understand the types and amounts of physical activity appropriate for these children.

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Moderate-intensity physical activities will cause children to sweat a little and to breathe harder. On a scale of 0 to 10 (with 10 being an absolute maximum effort and 0 being completely at rest), moderate activities are about a 5 or 6. While doing moderateintensity activity children should still be able to talk, but not sing along to their favourite song. Vigorous-intensity physical activities will cause children to sweat and be out of breath. Vigorous activities are about a 7 or 8. While doing vigorous activity children shouldn’t be able to say more than a few words without pausing for a breath. Children aged 5-11 years should participate in vigorous activity at least three days per week.

Moving muscles and building bones Children need activities that help to increase their muscular and bone strength.

Parents and caregivers should plan to have their child participate in resistance or impact activities at least three days a week to get their muscles and bones working. Musclestrengthening activities are those that increase skeletal muscle strength, power, endurance and mass. Examples of activities that make muscles stronger include games such as tug of war, modified push-ups (with knees on the floor), resistance exercises using body weight or resistance bands, rope or tree climbing and swinging on playground equipment/bars. Bone-strengthening activities produce an impact or tension force on the bones that promotes bone growth and strength. Hopping, skipping, jumping rope, running and sports such as gymnastics, basketball, volleyball and tennis are examples of bone-strengthening activities.

The benefits of moving more are astounding Increasing physical activity has many benefits. Science has shown that when children increase their daily physical activity, they decrease their chances of developing many diseases such as heart disease and type 2 diabetes and are generally healthier and happier.

What activities can my child do to meet the Guidelines?

Children are encouraged to take part in a wide variety of activities that are fun and get their bodies moving and their hearts pumping. Try to mix it up with plenty of different activities that your children enjoy.

Getting active together sets a great example for your children and places a high value on the benefits of physical activity that accumulate through life.

View the Physical Activity Guidelines, visit participaction.com/resources-partners/ toolkit.

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Energyboosting Muffins cup (60 mL) canola oil cup (150 mL) packed brown sugar 1 egg 1 very ripe banana, mashed 1 zucchini, grated (about 1 cup/250 mL) 1tsp (5 mL) ground cinnamon 1⁄2 cup (125 mL) 0% fat plain Greek yogurt 1 tsp (5 mL) vanilla extract 1 cup (250 mL) all-purpose flour with added bran or all-purpose flour 3⁄4 cup (175 mL) wheat bran 1⁄4 cup (60 mL) wheat germ 1 tsp (5 mL) baking powder 1⁄2 tsp (2 mL) baking soda 1⁄2 cup (125 mL) raisins or dried cranberries or dried blueberries

Lighthouse Christian Academy

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Directions In a large bowl, whisk together oil, sugar and egg. Add banana, zucchini and cinnamon; stir in yogurt and vanilla.

In another bowl, whisk together flour, wheat bran and germ, baking powder and soda. Add flour mixture to banana mixture and stir until just moistened. Stir in raisins.

Divide among lightly sprayed or paper -lined muffin tins. Bake in preheated 400°F (200°C) oven for about 18 minutes or until light golden and firm to the touch. Let cool slightly before enjoying.

What kid doesn’t like making muffins?

Little chefs can mash the banana, while older kids can grate the zucchini and scoop batter into the muffin cups.

Add a little crunch. Stir in 1⁄4 cup (60 mL) chopped, toasted walnuts into the batter.

Keep a stash of these muffins in the freezer for a perfect handy snack when you’re on the go. Allow muffins to cool completely.

Wrap each muffin separately or place in a plastic freezer bag for up to two weeks.

Warm in a microwave to enjoy another day.

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St. Joseph’s Early Learning Centre 785 W. Burnside Rd. 250 479 1237 www.stjosephschool.ca

St. Joseph’s Early Learning Centre offers half-day and full day Preschool a Licensed Group Day Care for children three and four years old.

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© All rights reserved. Health Canada and self-esteem through creative play. Applications are available on-line Heart & Stroke Foundation of Canada, or at the Early Learning Centre office.

2014. We Reproduced with permission from are pleased to announce that our Early Learning Centre is now Hours of operation are 7:30am–5:00pm. For additional the Minister of Health, 2016. Recipe was open! We are offering full time daycare for children who are 3 Hall andat4 250-479-1237. information please contact Mrs. Maureen developed by Emily Richards, P.H. Ec.

years of age. Applications are available on-line or from the Early Learning Centre office. St. Josephʼs offers an excellent program in a IslandParent.ca Catholic Christian atmosphere.

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Coping with Anxiety Healthy Families, Happy Families

‘Same Day’ Infant & Children’s Immunization Clinics Esquimalt Health Unit 530 Fraser St 250-519-5311 Call-in Time for Booking a Same Day Appointment

Friday, 9:00 – 11:00 am Clinic Day & Time

Friday, 1:00 – 4:00 pm

Peninsula Health Unit 2170 Mt. Newton Cross Rd 250-544-2400 Call-in Time for Booking a Same Day Appointment

Monday, 9:00 – 11:00 am Clinic Day & Time

Monday, 1:00 – 4:00 pm

Saanich Health Unit 3995 Quadra St, 2nd Floor 250-519-5100 Call-in Time for Booking a Same Day Appointment

Tuesday, 9:00 – 11:00 am Clinic Day & Time

Tuesday, 2:00 – 6:00 pm

Victoria Health Unit 1947 Cook St 250-388-2200 Call-in Time for Booking a Same Day Appointment

Friday, 9:00 – 11:00 am Clinic Day & Time

Friday, 1:00 – 4:00 pm

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nxiety is common among teenagers.

Sometimes normally happy teenagers will become anxious or fearful about something for a day or two, and then they will be back to normal without any need for parents to take any action. However, some teenagers seem to suffer from more intense and frequent feelings of anxiety that prevent them from doing things. Pressures of school work, problems with peers, conflict at home with parents, or problems achieving a desired goal can all be sources of anxiety.

The human body reacts naturally when something unpleasant happens or seems about to happen and these reactions prepare the body to deal with the unpleasant situation. They can include increased heart rate, rapid breathing, sweaty palms, light-headedness, feeling dizzy or stomachtightening. These reactions do not usually last for long, especially when the threat is not really there. After a few minutes, things begin to return to normal but the problem for some people in an unpleasant situation is that they do not wait long enough for this natural slowdown to happen so they rush to escape.

Encourage your teenager to face their fears. They may feel ashamed or embarrassed about their anxiety and may not be willing to admit it at first. Explain to them that they are reacting in a very normal way, but to a situation that is not really a threat.

To overcome their anxiety, your teenager must stay in the feared situation as long as possible so that their natural body reactions have time to calm down. Here are two skills that Triple P—the Positive Parenting Program suggests can help your teenager manage anxiety: 1. Encourage your teenager to reverse the unpleasant sensations by learning to slow down their breathing when they start to feel anxious. Slower breathing signals the body that it was a false alarm and there is no threat. The other bodily changes will then

also begin to slow down. Follow these steps: • Get them to monitor their breathing 4 or 5 times a day. The goal for your teenager is to slow their breathing so it is closer to a normal rate. If they sit comfortably and count their breaths when they are not feeling anxious they will be aware of what that

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feels like. One way to understand what this feels like is to get them to do a brief physical exercise to increase their breathing rate and then get them to follow these steps: hold their breath and count to 10; after 10, breathe out through the nose, and say the word ‘relax’ to themselves in a calm, soothing way; breathe in and out through their nose once in 6-second cycles. So breathing in while slowly counting 1-2-3, then breathing out again while counting 1-2-3. Repeat these steps for five minutes and when the feared situation is next experienced, your teenager should repeat these steps until the anxiety sensations have gone.

2. Encourage your teenager to tell themselves that they can cope. Telling yourself that everything is fine, you are under control, and nothing terrible is going to happen will turn off the body’s threat response. For this skill, follow these steps: • Ask them to write down the thoughts they have when they start getting anxious.

These thoughts will usually be about their lack of control, such as I can’t cope with this. This is awful. I’m really stupid/scared.

I’m out of control. Now get them to write down a different positive though that they can use to replace each of the negative ones.

I can handle this. It will be okay. I’ll do my

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best. I’m in control. Get your teen to practice saying these statements out loud at first, and then to themselves. Encourage them with enthusiasm and confidence. If they write these thoughts on a card they can carry it around with them.

Practicing these skills should help your teenager to learn to calm themselves and to avoid the spiral into a full panic attack.

If possible, arrange for someone to be with your teenager when they are likely to experience their next problem situation and

Resources: Anxiety BC, anxietybc.com BC Mental Health & Substance Use Services, bcmhsus.ca Kelty Mental Health Resource Centre, keltymentalhealth.ca Kids Help Phone, kidshelpphone.ca Teen Mental Health, teenmentalhealth. org Vancouver Island Crisis Line, 1-888494-3888; vicrisis.ca Youth in BC, youthinbc.com Youthtalk, (email address for counseling services) youthtalk1@pcfsa.org Youth Space, youthspace.ca (online chat for youth/young adults up to age 30, 6-11pm every day and texting support: 778-783-8565) For more ‘Triple P’ tips and ideas for all ages and stages of development or to find ‘Triple P’ services in your community, visit triplepvip.ca or Facebook at facebook.com/TriplepVIP have them prompt your teen to use their new coping skills and help them resist the urge to escape.

Remember, daily disappointment and fears are part of life and teenagers need to be able to cope with the regular stress of daily living. If your child is experiencing long periods when excessive worry and fears appear to take over their lives, parents should take action and consider seeking professional help.

Cindy Knott has worked for 25 years supporting children and families in Manitoba and British Columbia. She is currently the Vancouver Island Triple P Coordinator.

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ith the dawn of each new year, I feel I should pause and reflect on how to be a better parent. But mostly I just want to talk about Star Wars—because isn’t that how we all spent the last days of 2015?

If you were trapped in a snow cave on Planet Hoth this holiday season, you might have missed the triumphant return of the epic space opera. For weeks, The Force Awakens, the latest installment, tractorbeamed families into multiplexes across the country and around the world.

I tried to play it cool when Episode VII hit theatres. Our family wasn’t the first to get tickets. I didn’t dress like a Wookiee when we did. In fact, I’ve mostly avoided being Nostalgia Dad and force-feeding our kids with my own youthful obsessions. But it’s hard when it comes to the long legacy of Luke Skywalker.

When the first Star Wars movie came out in 1977, I was nine—the prime age for cinema’s modern myths to populate my imagination.

At 12, I knew The Empire Strikes Back was the greatest movie ever made. By 15, I could feel the tug of adulthood as I refused to be charmed by the cuddly Ewoks in Return of the Jedi.

Years later, impatient to share my passion, I watched the original trilogy with my daughter and son well before the movies were “age appropriate.” I did my parental duty instead by protecting them from Jar Jar Binks and the three awful prequels. Last year, for my son’s ninth birthday, I helped to organize a Star Wars sleepover and spent weeks designing a Death Star piñata with matching TIE Fighters to be water-ballooned into oblivion before we all re-watched A New Hope. My wife wondered whose party it really was.

I’m not naïve. I know the Hollywood Dream Factory is designed to guilt parents into buying carloads of plastic crap for admaddened little consumers. (I’m looking at you, Minions!) But some franchises, like Star Wars and Harry Potter, create vast worlds and memorable characters with complex and troubled family histories that allow

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young minds the freedom to create their own storylines—dressing up and making believe, bringing to life action figures and dioramas, and even writing new episodes as “fan fiction.” I nurtured my own early ambitions of becoming a writer by inventing Star Wars plots while awaiting the next movie.

So when my wife picked up tickets to a post-Christmas matinee, I felt a little anxious. This would be the first new episode

Dadspeak DAVID LEACH we saw as a family. The theatre was packed with other parents and kids. We all fell silent at the opening chords of the famous soundtrack and the scrolling title sequence.

For the first half-hour, I kept glancing at my son to see if he was enjoying it—which must have been annoying. I worried that the retro plot of The Force Awakens, with its old characters and in-jokes, was pitched to middle-aged geeks like myself and would leave my kids cold. But then the magic took hold again.

We left the theatre awe-struck and anticipating the sequels to come. Who was our favourite new character? Was it Finn, the stormtrooper with a conscience? Or was it Rey, the smart and nimble and fearless and mysterious young female scavenger? For the first time in 30 years, I felt the awakening urge to perform my favourite holiday ritual—turning cardboard wrapping-paper tubes into lightsabers to duel with my little brother.

Of course, when I was a nine-year-old boy, I would have needed a Jedi mind trick to imagine a girl wielding a lightsaber. Today, thanks to the amazing Rey, it’s now the pop-culture inheritance of my eight-year-old daughter and her friends to see themselves as tough-talking, tech-savvy, Force-filled heroines ready to save the universe from the dark side. I think that’s a gift worth celebrating for years to come.

David Leach is the former City Life Editor of Monday Magazine, the Chair of the Writing Department at UVic, and the assistant coach of the Carnarvon Orange Crush.

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Stray Valentine

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n the 14th of this month our children will prepare Valentine’s cards for every one of their classmates—these days teachers email the roll call so no one is left out.

I hate to imagine a child with one Valentine only while her classmate has a fistful. Yet, as I’ve been reminded by this month’s reading, a single Valentine can change the world.

I thought children’s books about friendship would be sappy or moralistic, sermons about sharing or cautions against bullies. Mercifully, the Greater Victoria Public Library’s children’s librarians are discerning curators.

The books on the library shelves plumb the mystery of friendship, how one stranger beguiles another, and how serendipity brings people—and non-people—together.

Yes, non-people. A common storyline presents a person, or animal, who is adrift, an outsider, lonely, even destitute. Then the arrival of, or discovery of, a friend saves them. Kids can see in these books that periods of loneliness are natural; we all have them.

And that, yes, as if by magic, a friend will arrive out of nowhere—you don’t have to be an expert sharer, or even “use your words.”

Meeting a friend for the first time is dislocating and locating; we feel profoundly like ourselves, as never before, while the new friend is somehow known, yet unknown. New friends feel as if they’ve appeared out of nowhere because they are so wholly, suddenly, present.

But we don’t always know why we like them. Mark Sperring and Sarah Warburton touch on this mystery in Mabel and Me, Best of Friends. It’s worth forging through the book’s hectic font changes, a la Geronimo Stilton, and its unnecessary noise, for its insights into friendship. At the start of the book, young Mabel asks her best friend, who happens to be a rat, why he likes her. He, refreshingly realistically, can’t immediately think of an answer. It’s a bit nebulous, isn’t it, what we love about our friends? We can rattle off a list of qualities, but the sum more than the parts.

The rat is a big personality, but not selfaware. When people mention his “scrawny rodent legs” and “furry ears,” he thinks they are talking about Mabel and leaps to defend her. Finally, Mabel tells him the truth. “You’re a rat,” she says. He stares, amazed, at his reflection in a fountain. Then he bursts into laughter. He has figured out what he loves about Mabel: “You say the silliest things!”

And it’s true. Our closest friends, the ones who know us through and through, are, ironically, the people who allow us to escape who we are, who let us change, shed our skins, or at least be a little deluded.

A Year With Marmalade, by Alison Reynolds, is a deceptively cute picture book about one’s friend’s friends, and how our friendship with those friends can be slow to kindle, even grudging—we want to be with the primary friend, after all, not with each other. In A Year With Marmalade, Maddy tells her best friend Ella that she’s moving away for year and if Ella will look after the family cat until she’s back. The illustrations show the slow blossoming through the seasons of this secondary friendship between girl and best friend’s cat, that, like a successful arranged marriage, evolves into a witchy closeness.

Mrs. Crump’s Cat, by the late Lynda Smith, also charts a reluctant friendship, with winning humour and crisp, nostalgic illustrations. Orderly Mrs. Crump does not want to admit that the yellow cat that appeared on her doorstep, and is now in her house—only until the rain passes—has a hold on her heart. She doesn’t exactly decide, at the shop, to buy a pint of cream, and then, to her surprise, she adds a pet dish to her order! “It was the strangest thing,” Mrs. Crump reflects after getting home (where the dear cat waits), “but somehow the way back home seemed far shorter than the way there.”

Nobody’s Dog, by Charlotte Graeber, is similar, only in this story Miss Pepper engages in a small war with her peristent stray before accepting that, as all the neighbours

have long recognized, the sweet dog is hers.

Fate is a graceful subject of the book, and the accidental constellation that neighbours compose.

Book Nook SaRa CASSIDY In the picture book for very young readers, Ginger Finds a Home, by the always wonderful Charlotte Voake, another lone cat, his ears “black with dirt” and his tail “like a piece of STRING!” lives in the weeds at the back of a house and scrounges for food in garbage cans. But one day things change: in his patch of weeds he finds a plate of cat food! It takes a while before the cat follows the kind little girl home, but she keeps hoping; her hope is a lot like love.

Scrawny Cat, by Phyllis Root, features another cat of yellow hues, down on his luck, rejected by everyone in town. “But the scrawny cat knew ‘get out of here’ wasn’t his name.” He had once belonged to someone.

Perhaps this loving past blesses his future, in which he becomes the hero of an accidental love story. As he slumbers in a dinghy, the boat comes untied, and he ends up on a (quite Gulfy) island, where a woman (quite Gulfy, too) lives on her own—like Mrs. Crump and Miss Pepper. Scrawny Cat takes narrative leaps and the language is poetic and precise: “He lapped the rainwater in the bottom of the dinghy and wished his stomach didn’t chew so on his ribs.”

Hilary McKay is one of my favourite children’s writers. Her chapter book Lulu and the Dog from the Sea is as good as all of her work—nimble, wry, funny, expertly crafted.

I was halfway in before I’d even realized I had started reading. Part of the “Lulu Loves Animals” series, Lulu and the Dog from the Sea is about two friendships, one between Lulu and her best friend Mellie, and Lulu’s

slow befriending of a rangy dog, with ears “like brown paper bags” that lives alone on the beach near the summer cottage Lulu’s family has rented. “He had never been called a good dog before. He liked it.”

Harry and Hopper, by Margaret Wild, can break your heart. Be warned. The first half gorgeously shows the close relationship between a boy and his dog. The book is so well written, and paced, it is truly a shock to turn a page and find that Hopper has died. This book, about mourning and saying good-bye in one’s own time, could comfort a child who has lost a pet.

Quickly, two (plus a cheat) books about unlikely friendships. Ian Wallace is one of Canada’s best children’s writers—funny, inventive, irreverent. Mavis and Merna is about the long friendship between a young girl and a widow, kindred spirits who play double solitaire and snort about everyone else’s boring lives. “Mrs. Gully didn’t like mowing in straight lines. ‘They’re too rigid.’

So they walked in wavy lines, circles and zigzags. ‘Don’t you think the grass looks more jazzy this way?’”

Me and Mr. Mah, by Andrea Spalding, is a tender book about a boy who has moved to Victoria’s Chinatown with his mother, uprooting from the prairies and where his father still lives. Lost and confused, he befriends an older man, Mr. Mah, an avid gardener who opens a new world to him.

And finally, a sneak, since it’s about family.

Gus & Me is Keith Richards’s sweet memoir—yes, that Keith Richards—of his close relationship with his grandfather and the guitar his grandfather gave him—Keith’s first.

Anybody who read Keith’s autobiography, Life, will remember Richards’s storytelling charms.

Sara Cassidy’s six books for children and teens have all been included in Canadian Children’s Book Centre’s “Best Books for Children and Teens.” Sara lives in Victoria with her three kids, and at saracassidywriter.com.

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15 Minutes of Frost

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e awake to a yard full of fresh snow— the ultimate novelty, for an Island family. For my three children—let’s call them Four, Seven, and Nine—there is no greater thrill; even I hardly mind being woken up at 5 a.m. to hear of this good fortune, nor the necessary excavation to the dusty crawl space in search of the snow gear bin.

After dumping the contents of said bin on the dining room floor, it quickly becomes obvious that this will not be easy. Seven is first to announce that his snow pants have problems; it seems that a certain energetic young man shredded the knees during the previous winter’s solitary snow day. I hand him Nine’s last year pants, which should fit quite well, except they are the ones that have a heart-shaped patch on the bum and apparently this renders them unwearable.

Seven prefers the size 12 grey ones with stripes, which is fine except the grey ones with stripes were meant to fit Nine this year.

Nine chimes in to state that snow pants are now an embarrassment to which she has no desire to subject herself, which leads to a heated discussion about humiliation versus frostbite and which is a sorrier fate.

As this argument progresses, Four is busy pulling out every mitten and hat we own and re-distributing them around the house in a highly creative fashion. Seven is now sliding around the house on the too-long legs of the size 12 pants. I abandon the snow pant point and move on to debating a suitable coat for Nine, proposing the warm one with fleece lining, but of course she prefers the impractical one with leopard print. Finally we negotiate an arrangement involving the leopard print coat with a

sweater underneath, only it can’t be the orange sweater Nine usually wears because that one is in the wash, and the striped one she also likes was left in her cubby at school, which leaves only the fluffy purple one with the giant hood, which she refuses to wear based on the fact that it makes her feel “like a marshmallow and not in a good way,” at which point we arrive back at Square One of the coat debate.

By now, Four is struggling successfully to open the back door and fling herself into a snowbank, and so I turn my attention to clothing her. All we seem to have is a toddler snowsuit from two winters ago and it fits surprisingly well, if we ignore the fact that the legs only come down as far as her knees. This should be OK since the lower half of her legs will be covered by her boots anyway, but of course the boots that fit her this year have already survived several winters’ worth of wear by Nine and Seven, and consequently the boots refuse to stay closed. This fact is what leads me to ducttaping her boots to her snowsuit legs—an activity that should only ever be done after taking a child to go pee, as I later conclude.

Meanwhile Seven, who has donned his father’s ski jacket and resembles a dwarf, is fighting with Nine over my gloves, which Nine says she needs since apparently Four chose to relocate Nine’s gloves by way of the toilet bowl. Seven can only find one of his gloves, but reassures me that he saw the other one just yesterday in the lost-andfound at school. He decides to pair his one remaining glove with a pink mitten, which is great, except that the pink mittens are what Four was going to wear, but Four has decided she’d rather wear the orange mittens

with the fuzzy puppies on them, except none of us can locate the orange mittens with the fuzzy puppies on them. This results in profuse tears until at last Nine has the presence of mind to search the kitchen, where

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SARAH MILLIGAN we discover one mitten in the pantry and one in the cutlery drawer. Nine and Seven now have hats on and everyone—including me—is sweating profusely. We begin the shuffle towards the door. Four announces she needs to use the potty.

After a further 20 minutes of creative wardrobe engineering—re-duct-taping boots to the legs of snowsuits, applying safety pins to jacket zippers that otherwise refuse to stay zipped, layering socks strategically to ensure insulation without itching, and so on—at last, all three children tumble out into the snow. Glancing at the clock, I estimate that our motley assortment of winter gear might hold up for 15 minutes—16, if we’re lucky. But if experience serves me right, 15 minutes is the exact amount of time required for three children to enjoy the a winter day before someone has snow down their back, someone is starving, and someone else has to use the potty again. I put the kettle on and sit down to recover.

Our 15 minutes of winter have arrived, and we are going to enjoy them.

Sarah Milligan lives on Vancouver Island.

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1Up, Victoria Single Parent Resource Centre (www.1up.ca) provides support, education and resources for parents in the Greater Victoria area through free counselling, volunteer training for peer helper positions, a mentoring program for single moms and a support group for dads.

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Sooke-Westshore Early Years Centres provide information to families about children and family services, supports, child development and parenting. The Early Years Navigator will assist families with referral information for local early years programming, child care, public health, special needs intervention services, and social supports. The Sooke-Westshore Early Years Centres are hosted by Sooke Family Resource Society and located at the Child, Youth, and Family Centres in both Sooke and the Westshore and can be reached at 250-217-9243.

Additional information can be accessed at sfrs.ca/earlyyears-centre.

Victoria Immigrant and Refugee Centre Society (VIRCS) supports immigrants and refugees living in Greater Victoria. Services are free and include one-onone counselling, parent education workshops, youth life skills classes, a preschool program, art therapy, language classes and academic support, employment help, computer classes and fun community events like free yoga, tai chi, dance and cooking classes. Visit us online at vircs. bc.ca or phone 250-361-9433.

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Sleep Like a Baby

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lthough the birth of a child is a joyous event, many parents are taken aback by how exhausted they feel during those first weeks and months. The sheer fatigue of taking care of a newborn that doesn’t sleep more than two or three hours at best can be shocking. Most new parents begin to slowly understand why sleep deprivation IS a form of torture. And anyone who says they “slept like a baby” certainly has not spent time around newborns!

The following ideas are for those of you who, like I did, surrender to the fact that you will not be getting much sleep for a while.

Given the reality of a prolonged of lack of sleep, there are a few things to help you cope those first few months. We all know the advice “sleep when baby sleeps” but for some people it may be difficult to nap or rest on someone else’s schedule (ready, set, SLEEP!). When given a few minutes of quiet time, it can be hard to know what to do first.

Shower? Clean up? Rest? It helps to plan ahead and choose one thing (which means letting other things go) that will restore and reenergize you. Try to choose activities that

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are relaxing to you and something that you cannot do while you baby is up—maybe it’s a phone call to a friend, a bath, or a nap.

In the early days of parenting my first baby, I would try to do a few household chores first before doing something restful but it did not take me long before I figured out that my baby’s nap always ended just as I was about to take the break.

Whatever one thing that you choose, do not pick big jobs like cleaning the whole house or meal prep for the week unless you truly have the extra energy. Allow yourself to ask for and accept help in these areas while you are in the fog of sleep deprivation.

Once you have established a feeding relationship/routine with babe, it helps to figure out a system that works for your family and go into each night with a plan. You might have to try a few different strategies to find one that works for your household, each of your natural body clocks and work/ life schedules.

One strategy that works for our family is to split up the evening responsibility so that both my partner and I are maximizing

our sleep as much as possible. I aim to go to bed mid-evening and my night-owl partner stays with baby for a few hours, regardless of whether baby is asleep or awake. This

New Parent Pages Diana Hurschler, BScN allows me to fall asleep on my own and get a head start on some uninterrupted sleep, even if it’s only two or three hours. He will let me sleep as long as he can, either until baby is hungry or until he is really tired himself. Then I take the baby for the rest of the night, allowing my partner to sleep until early morning. If I have had a particularly rough night I might get him to take babe again so I can grab one more hour of sleep before the day begins.

Don’t be tempted to turn on any screens while you are up in the night with your baby.

According to sleep experts, the light from TV, computer and tablet screens can actually inhibit your brain’s ability to tell night from day and result in difficulty falling asleep,

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even when you’re exhausted. As tempting as it is to turn to a glowing screen when you are up anyway, it may be much more helpful to read an actual paperback instead of an eBook, and to avoid middle-of-thenight status updates. The sacrifice is worth it because there is nothing worse than insomnia when you are already short on sleep.

When we are exhausted one of the first things we often neglect is self-care, but one of the best ways to offset the effects of sleep deprivation is make it a priority.

Write yourself a little daily checklist if you must, but do not skip the basics. Make an effort to eat high-nutrient/low sugar foods for meals and snacks, 500 extra calories if you are breastfeeding. Drink enough water, minimum eight cups/day, more for breastfeeding mamas. Incorporate some kind of daily physical activity, even if it is a walk around the block. Maintain basic hygiene routines that make you feel good (I know that having a shower can seem like a luxury, but put it on the list and get out of that robe!) And attempt to have some alone time away from babe once a day to do something just for you, even if only for 15 minutes.

Understand that your natural energy highs and lows can help you get through those days that follow the really rough nights.

Pay attention to how you feel throughout a typical day and then you can plan your time in a way that makes the most out of your energy supply. Designate your most energetic time of day to take care of things like meal prep and other household tasks.

Plan to take five to 10 minutes of down time at your lowest energy point if possible. A word of caution: you only have a certain amount of energy so be aware of doing too much first thing in the morning and don’t stay up too late trying to finish everything.

New parents have the best of intentions when they push themselves to the limit without getting enough rest or receiving outside help, but this can be a recipe for disaster. Do the best thing for your family by remembering one of the fundamentals of good parenting: Take good care of yourself so that you can take good care of your baby.

Don’t forget to ask for and accept help if you need it. I promise you these sleepless nights will not last forever!

Diana Hurschler, RN BscN, childbirth educator, certified breastfeeding counselor, has been helping families in their childbearing years and beyond since 1998. Diana is the proud mama of four little ones. Email diana@hurschler.com.

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Preschool & Child Care Directory CENTRAL SAANICH Chrysalis Child Care................................ 250-652-0815 A nurturing and stimulating environment for a small group of 21⁄2–5 year old children. Qualified ECE promotes learning through play. chrysalischildcare.ca.

Countryside Preschool........................... 250-652-3424 Learn through play at our co-op preschool for 2.5–5 yr olds! Big classroom, beautiful playground, nurturing ECE:countrysidepreschool.org.

Colwood/LANGFORD Goldstream Co-op Preschool................. 250-474-3011 Learning Through Play for 3 and 4yr olds! For registration information go to our website: goldstreampreschool.com.

Jenn’s Little Bears................................... 250-478-8999 A safe nurturing environment for children from infancy to kindergarten. Our Infant and Toddler Program enriches each child’s development while our 3-5 Program prepares children for kindergarten. Two separate buildings allow each age group space to grow!

Leap Forward Childcare......................... 250-818-9225 2758 Peatt RD. Licenced group childcare for children ages 6 months to 5 years old. Offering fulltime and part-time care. Open 6:30am-5:30pm. For more information please contact Amber: info@leap forwardlangford.com, leapforwardlangford.com.

Miles of Smiles Nature Junior Kindergarten.................... 778-265-4374 Come See Why Learning In Nature Rocks! Reggio Influenced Philosophy ages 3-5. Have Your Child Become a Nature Detective Today! Email mosnjk@hotmail.com.

RIA Early Learning Centre...................... 250-590-0781 3307 Wishart Rd. The REGGIO WAY – A New Approach to Children’s Learning – Designed for Ages 3 to 5.

CORDOVA BAY Carrot Seed Preschool............................ 250-658-2331 Where children can discover, imagine, construct and learn through play. Wondrous natural playground. carrotseedpreschool.com.

ESQUIMALT Ciara Early Childhood Centre................. 250-386-7369 Education and Fun Hand in Hand! Exceptional care for ages 1-5yrs. Inclusive nature inspired kindergarten readiness program with Christian values. Facebook.com/ CiaraEarlyChildhoodCentre.

Island Kids Academy Esquimalt............. 250-381-2929 High quality child care (ages 1-5). Preschool curriculum offered within a warm, caring all-day program. Character development using the Virtues Project. Access to community programs including swimming, skating, Victoria Conservatory of Music. Part-time spaces available. islandkids.ca.

La Pre-Maternelle Appletree Preschool.. 250-479-0292 A French Immersion Program. 30 months to school age.

Licensed Christian centre. prematernelleappletree.com.

Highlands Lexie’s Little Bears Child Care Inc......... 250-590-3603 Only seconds past Luxurious Bear Mountain our HIGHLY reputable Nature Program will not disappoint! Our NATURAL outdoor environment provides an experience like no

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All the furniture, shelving and some toys have been hand crafted using the trees on our own property! Programs for 3 to 5’s and for Infant/Toddlers. Spaces avail. NOW! Visit our Facebook blog, and website at lexieslittlebears.com.

Call for more info. Cub House: 778-432-3600.

Bee Happy Montessori House................ 250-516-6191 Childcare and pre-school based on Montessori approach which meets each child’s need, according to individual development and learning styles.

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Camosun College Child Care Services......250-370-4880 Quality licensed facilities on both campuses providing children, newborn to 5 years, with rich early learning experiences in a learn through play environment. camosun. ca/childcare.

A Growing Place...................................... 250-391-1133 Half day program (AM or PM) for 2.5-5 yrs. ECE educator, small class size. Our own petting farm. Summer program for July.

Carrot Seed Preschool............................ 250-658-2331 Where children can discover, imagine, construct and learn through play. Wondrous natural playground. carrotseedpreschool.com.

Metchosin Co-op Preschool................... 250-478-9241 Come visit our stunning natural outdoor playspace, and see how our inclusive, play-based program allows parents to grow and learn alongside their children. Exceptional ECE staff provide a warm and enriching experience for 2.5–5 yr. olds. Come Grow With Us! EST. 1960. Reg. begins March 1 @ 9am. metchosinpreschool@gmail.com.

Cloverdale Child Care.................................250-995-1766 Full time daycare 3-5 year olds. Preschool–register now for September 2015. 3 year olds Tue/Thur 9:00-1:00. 4 year olds Mon/Wed/Fri 9:00-1:00. cloverdalechildcare@ shawbiz.ca. cloverdalechildcare.com.

West-Mont Montessori School............... 250-474-2626 Preschool Montessori instruction in a beautiful natural environment in Metchosin. Ages 30 months and up. Providing a balanced approach to incorporating Nature, French, Music and Art into a complete educational program. Be a part of a community devoted to the development of the whole child. Open House: Thursdays 9-11 am. west-mont.ca.

North SAANICH In The Garden Childcare Centre............. 250-654-0306 A GREAT PLACE TO GROW. Offering preschool, full day care, before and after school care for children aged 2.5 to 12 years old. Open all year.

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Forest House Childcare Academy............. 250-881-1975 ECE Licensed, Full Day in home Childcare Program for children 30 months – 5 years. An enriched, unique environment to inspire and nurture child directed learning and critical thinking skills, through in-depth and on-going study of nature and the power of play. foresthouseca.com.

Full o’ Beans Preschool.............................. 250-360-1148 We offer ‘learn through play’ programming designed to foster your child’s natural curiosity and imagination. Flexible scheduling, 2.5 and 4 hour programs, qualified staff.

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Hoof Beats Preschool & Childcare............ 250-588-2583 Licensed HighScope program fostering learning through nature, farm life, and horses! 3-6 yrs. Year round. hoof-beats.ca.

Emmanuel Preschool.............................. 250-598-0573 Children learn through play in our non-denominational Christian preschool near UVic. Bright attractive setting. emmanuelpreschool.ca.

Island Montessori House........................ 250-592-4411 Inclusive, integrated and nurturing Preschool and Kindergarten programs. Located in a lovely rural setting with a focus on nature and outdoor environmental activities such as gardening and composting. islandmontessori.com.

Gonzales Co-op Preschool..................... 250-727-1003 Children use imaginations in a Learning through Play classroom and natural playground. Reggio-Emilia inspired, focus is on art, nature and music. Nurturing, highly qualified ECE and ECE assistant. Parent participation options. Allergy aware. gonzalescooppreschool.com.

Lakehill Co-op Preschool....................... 250-477-4141 Where children’s development is nurtured through a child centered inclusive, play based program. Come visit our natural outdoor playground and meet our loving qualified ECE team. Multiple Levels of participation available, please enquire. lakehillpreschool.org.

Recreation Oak Bay................................ 250-370-7200 Fully licensed, ECE Daycare, Preschool and Nature Preschool. Play based, child led learning. Afterschool care available.

Lakeview Christian Preschool/Daycare.. 250-658-5082 30 mths to Kindergarten entry. Small group. Experienced teacher. Full time and part time spaces. Mornings only or full day. Monthly DROP IN STORY HOUR. For information please e-mail lakeviewschol@shaw.ca.

Sundance Playschool.............................. 250-590-9955 Group daycare for ages 3–5, centrally located off Fort. Offering an exciting ECE program in a lovely character house with a maximum of 16 children for a focus on individual attention. Great yard and gardens with lots of outdoor activities. Spaces coming available July 1st.

SAANICH Arbutus Grove Children’s Centre........... 250-477-3731 Formerly known as Goosey Gander Kindergarten. Half Day and Full Day Preschool Programs. Children’s learning is supported and nurtured through inquiry, exploration, play and creative expression. arbutusgrove.ca.

Lambrick Park Preschool & Childcare.. 250-477-8131 Gordon Head’s only parent-participation preschool and childcare centre. Flexible options, play-based learning and outdoor play. Allergy friendly. Celebrating 40+ years. lambrickparkpreschool.ca.

Little Readers Academy.......................... 250-477-5550 An enriched learn-to-read program for your 3-6 year-old!

Reading, Writing and Math. Half-day, weekend and evening sessions available. oxfordlearning.com.

Montessori Educare................................ 250-881-8666 Beautiful learning environment in Broadmead and Saanichton. 30 months to 5 years. Open all year around. Summer program available. montessorieducare.com.

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Oakcrest Preschool................................. 250-472-0668 A welcoming, nurturing environment with a large, bright facility. Learn through play with 2 caring ECEs. oakcrestpreschool.org.

ArtsCalibre Academy.............................. 250-382-3533 Comprehensive programs for Preschool through Grade 5, delivering academic excellence through music, dance, drama and visual arts. Outstanding educators, locations and facilities. ArtsCalibre.ca

Pacific Christian School – Pre-School... 250-479-4532 Your child will love the playful, safe environment and caring staff at PCS Pre-School. Come and explore Educational Excellence to the Glory of God. PacificChristian.ca Puddles & Paints Nature Daycare.......... 250-658-6573 I’d like to thank all the amazing families I have had the honour of meeting over the past (almost) two decades! Your children have been gifts in my life…each and every one bringing something special along with them. Thank you for your trust…

Lexie’s Little Bears Child Care was established in 2008, and it is where “Puddles” leaves off… “Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened!” ~ Dr. Seuss… All remembered, Lexie Biegun.

Rainbows & Dreams Preschool.............. 250-479-1966 Small classes for 3-5 yr olds in a safe nurturing environment. Children learn through play and fun–developing a sense of confidence, independence and creativity. Highly qualified ECE teacher.

Ready Set Grow Preschool..................... 250-472-1530 Inside Hillcrest Elm. in Gordon Head, we help children transition to Kindergarten. Licensed Preschool with highly qualified, warm ECE. heoscmanager@gmail.com.

Rogers Child Care Centre....................... 250-744-2343 Trusted High Quality Non Profit Care since 1991. Year Round Early Learning and Out of School Care. For more info go to rogerschildcare.com.

St. Joseph’s Catholic Preschool.. 250-479-1232 ext 120 • A Christian child centre for 3–5 year olds.

• A warm nurturing and challenging program • Offered by St. Joseph’s Catholic School.

Babies to Big Kids Childcare......................250-590-2722 949 Fullerton Ave. Licenced group childcare for children ages 6 months to 11 years old. Offering full-time and part-time care. Open 6:30am-5:30pm. info@babies tobigkids.com, babiestobigkids.com.

Castleview Child Care............................. 250-595-5355 Learning Through Play & Discovery. Licensed non-profit, qual. ECE staff. Since 1958. Preschool and full-time care. castleviewchildcarecentre.com.

Centennial Day Care............................... 250-386-6832 Providing quality childcare for 35+ years. Nature inspired, play based program. Brand new “green” building, central location. centennialdaycare.ca.

Christ Church Cathedral Childcare and Junior Kindergarten......................... 250-383-5132 ECE and specialist teachers provide an outstanding all day licensed program for 3-5 year olds. NEW location: 1670 Richardson opens March 2015. cathedralschool.ca.

Downtown Y Child Care Centre............. 250-413-8869 Enriched program, for children ages 3-5 years, supporting healthy child development and future school success. victoriay.com.

Lansdowne Co-op Preschool................. 250-370-5392 An extraordinary learning environment for families with young children. Parent participation. lansdownepreschool.com.

St. Margaret’s School.............................. 250-479-7171 For girls from Junior Kindergarten (ages 3-4) to Grade 12.

Unique STEM-focused curriculum with outdoor exploration, art and music. stmarg.ca.

Nightingale Preschool and Junior Kindergarten Ltd.................. 250-595-7544 We offer education through creativity and play, providing rich learning experiences through a well sourced and stimulating indoor and outdoor environment. Early years reading programme. nightingalepreschool.com. New Arts/ Drama programme – September 2015 – Kidsworks.ca.

Strawberry Vale Preschool..................... 250-479-4213 Programs for kids 3-4 at “The Little Red Schoolhouse.” An opportunity to be actively involved with your preschooler’s education. strawberryvalepreschool.org.

Parkdale Early Childhood Centre........... 250-382-0512 ECEs offer the highest quality care and positive learning experiences in our daycare and preschool. Full time or part time. Call for a tour or visit us at parkdalechildcare.ca.

Wiseways Preschool & Daycare............. 250-477-1312 Quality, fully licensed, Christian preschool/daycare for 3–4 year olds. Experienced team of ECEs. Spacious facilities include large playground and indoor gym. Subsidized fees welcome. Call for a tour. wisewaysvictoria.com.

Rainbow Express Daycare...................... 250-382-2314 Enriched preschool style program in a daycare setting.

Visit our website at rainbowexpressdaycare.com.

SIDNEY Acorntree Preschool............................... 250-686-1408 Balanced indoor/outdoor program, designed to stimulate natural curiosity and foster empathy and compassion towards others. We believe in the importance of both child and teacher directed activities. acorntreepreschool.ca.

Adel’s Play N Discovery House.............. 250-655-4888 Licensed childcare, 3-5 years, Reggio Emilia inspired.

Mon–Fri, 7:30am–5:30pm. 2146 Beacon Avenue W. adelplayndiscovery.ca, adelina.gotera@gmail.com.

Positive Path Early Learning.................. 250-655-7244 Located near the library and Sidney School, our program has earned a stellar reputation for quality child care and is growing as fast as the children we care for. Space is available for your child to embark on a journey of active exploration and discovery, enjoying a natural outdoor playground and an expansive indoor learning space. Experienced educators foster a lifelong quest for knowledge and guide children with Christian values and virtues. positivepath@shaw.ca.

Storyoga Preschool................................. 778-679-4004 Embracing and empowering children exactly as they are.

Storyoga Preschool is a nature and yoga based program located in Sidney, BC. storyoga.com.

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Ross Bay Preschool................................ 250-383-7445 Positive/supportive program motivating children to learn, discover and grow through play. Daily outdoor time, special guests and community events! rossbaypreschool @shaw.ca.

The Sir James Douglas Playschool....... 250-389-0500 Fun, creative and educational ECE program for 3-5 year olds to grow and develop life long skills. Come play and learn in our bright and modern centre in Fairfield.

Victoria Montessori................................. 250-380-0534 Unique, innovative learning environment combining the best of Montessori and Learning Through Play. Open yr. round. 30mths–K. victoriamontessori.com.

VIEW ROYAL Island Kids Academy View Royal........... 250-727-2929 High quality child care (ages 1-5). Preschool curriculum offered within a warm, caring child care environment.

Character development using the Virtues Project. Access to community programs including swimming, skating, Victoria Conservatory of Music. Part-time spaces available. islandkids.ca.

Little Friends Childcare Center.............. 250-479-8423 Infant/Toddler........................................... 250-479-9796 For a creative learning environment. Licensed group facility. Infants/Toddlers/Preschool. littlefriendschildcare.ca.

Little Wonders Preschool (View Royal OSC)..................................... 250-744-2718 A creative and supportive program that will prepare your child for a lifetime of learning! Out of School Care is also available for school aged children. viewroyalosc.com.

A Secret Garden Preschool.................... 250-380-8293 Program built on Christian values. Monthly themes, weekly topics and daily activities. asecretgardenpreschool@ shaw.ca.

View Royal Childcare.............................. 250-479-8067 Preschool structured, high quality childcare. Victoria Conservatory of Music classes. Part time spaces available.

2.5-5year olds. viewroyalpreschool@live.com.

View Royal Preschool.............................. 250-479-8067 Exciting inclusive program in a safe and exceptional care environment. 3-5 year olds. Outside play and themes enrich this program. viewroyalpreschool.com.

Mill Bay / Cobble Hill Cedar Montessori..................................... 250-710-9007 A beautiful rural setting where children are lovingly supported to learn at their own pace within a stimulating Montessori environment.

Starchild Centre........................................ 250-929-3240 Infant/toddler 3 to 5 daycare combines the best of Montessori and Waldorf. Our 9 acre hobby farm enables each child to have a garden plot, participate in planting tree, feeding animals, and other outside adventures. starchildcentre.ca.

DUNCAN Parkside Academy.................................... 250-746-1711 Providing high quality early learning and care from infancy to 12 years of age, in a stimulating, respectful, nurturing, nature based environment with fully educated and passionate early childhood educators. Visit parksideacademy. ca or find us on Facebook.

Queen Margaret’s School......................... 250-746-4185 Early Childhood Education Program. Co-ed nurturing curriculum to develop the whole child. Healthy snacks and lunch provided. qms.bc.ca.

Queen of Angels Early Learning Centre... 250-701-0433 We believe that the development of the whole child (physically, socially, emotionally, cognitively, and spiritually) encourages each individual to develop to their full potential. We offer an enriched full day program for 3–5 year olds based on Kindergarten readiness.

Sunrise Waldorf School Preschool........... 250-743-7253 A warm, nature-based Waldorf rhythm where wonder is nurtured. Led by Waldorf trained ECE teachers. sunrisewaldorfschool.org.

Chemainus St. Joseph’s Preschool........................... 250-246-3191 An enriching preschool program allowing children to grow as individuals in a safe and nurturing Christian environment.

Qualicum Beach Children’s Discovery Centre................... 250-752-4343 Our program recognizes the uniqueness of each child and provides a nurturing, safe and creative learning environment. Licensed preschool, group care and out of school care. Early Childhood Educators. childrensdiscovery centre.ca. childrensdiscoverycentre@hotmail.com.

Little Star Children’s Centre................... 250-752-4554 Mother, Daughter owned and operated. Earth friendly preschool education inspired by nature. Infused with fun and creative daily yoga practices! Licensed group care.

Enthusiastic ECE instructors. littlestardaycare.ca

Port Alberni John Paul II Catholic School.................. 250-723-0637 “Where children grow and learn through play.” We provide a program that will inspire development physically, socially, emotionally, cognitively, creatively and spiritually.

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efore Angus was born, a number of friends commented on how their boys seemed hardwired to love anything with four wheels. Their sons were captivated by diggers and dump trucks and even rideon lawnmowers at the park. They sought out “boy things” without encouragement.

Secretly, I pitied the conventionality of their children. I hoped for a girl who played trucks in the dirt or a boy who cuddled his stuffies.

Some dreams come true. Angus had a healthy supply of both Tonka Trucks and dolls when he was a toddler but generally the trucks were ignored; he heaped his attention on his “babies.” At the park, he’d watch the ride-on lawnmower for a second, then get back to business climbing up the slide. I was relieved. Vehicles are not in my vocabulary and there are few things that bore me more than vrooming toy cars around a room. Angus’s favourite playthings defied categorization: books, musical instruments, a zoo’s worth of tiny animals. Maybe there weren’t really boys’ toys and girls’ toys after all.

But there were. There are. It takes a single trip to Toys “R” Us to realize this. Or a road-tripping fast-food lunch. Boy or girl? they ask when you order kids’ food at a drive-thru window. Either answer delivers a thrilling hunk of plastic that will be played with only once.

Even Santa Claus has a gendered idea of presents. This past Christmas, while Angus was sitting on Santa’s lap, the jolly fat man made the mistake of asking him what he wanted for Christmas. Angus isn’t great with questions from strangers. He stared at Santa with his mouth open. “A toy car?”

Santa asked. Angus nodded. “A fast car,” Santa prompted. Angus nodded again, and that was that.

“What do you want for Christmas,” I asked Angus afterwards.

“Santa’s bringing me an orange hot rod,” Angus said. End of discussion.

Angus has a bin of cars in his bedroom.

Sometimes he brings them out and skids them across the living room, but they are certainly not a favourite plaything. In fact, the two orange hot rods Santa ended up bringing for Christmas have not been touched since December 25th. Angus’s stuffed animals, however, are heaped with affection on a daily basis.

Cars aren’t really a thing anymore, not for four-year-olds. Instead there seems to be a resurgence of the stuff my brother liked when he was a kid: Star Wars, Transformers, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles. At Halloween, most of the boys in Angus’s class came

Maternity & Beyond Laura TRUNKEY to school dressed as super heroes. Angus was one of three witches in his class—the other two were girls. A warlock? Some of our family members asked him. A wizard?

Angus scowled and shook his head. That witches were females didn’t occur to him.

The last class birthday party we went to, the face painter transformed all the other boys into Ninja Turtles and Spidermen, and my son into a cat.

The gender-bender son I hoped for has materialized, and yet instead of celebrating that, sometimes I feel concerned. Should I buy Angus some super hero books? Should I discuss the merits of Bat Man at the dinner table? I’ve watched the boys in his class karate chop each other while laughing menacingly. I’m not eager for Angus to join them, but I do wonder if a lack of common interests will get in the way of him making friends with other kids. Will those boys be entertained by cuddling a stuffed giraffe?

It’s not that Angus doesn’t have any friends. He has a “best friend,” who all other children seem to pale in comparison to. She was a cat at that birthday party also. She loves playing with Angus’s stuffed animals. She also loves running around like a hooligan, then pulling out Angus’s instrument collection and making a holy ruckus while singing at the top of her lungs. Angus loves this also. He’s found the first member of his tribe, I suppose. There are bound to be others.

Laura Trunkey is mother to the amazing Angus and the author of a forthcoming short fiction collection from House of Anansi. Email laurajtrunkey@gmail.com.

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“Today I have grown taller from walking with the trees.” by the fresh scent of spring. One of the earliest signs of spring here on the west coast is known not only for its vivid colour but also for its unusual odour: skunk cabbage. Skunk cabbage, also known as swamp lantern, can be found in wet, marshy places. The flowers give off heat, and, in colder climates, can melt snow as it emerges. It attracts

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pollinators like flies and carrion beetles to its flowers with that delectable odour we liken to the smell of a skunk. Although it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, its bloom means the dawning of warmer days, making it an early favourite for many.

It’s not just plants that tell us it’s time for longer days and lighter rains. An early arrival in the animal kingdom are our migrant rufous hummingbirds. With the blossoming of salmonberry flowers, rufous hummingbirds are out in force, zipping to and fro, sucking the nectar from the blossoms with

Nature Notes KeiliH GATES their straw-like bills. If we were to watch the flight of these speedy nectar lovers in slow motion, we would see the figure eight pattern made by their wings. This allows them to hold steady while sipping nectar from a flower, even in a storm. It also means that they are unique in their ability to fly forwards and backwards. These tiny birds are territorial so if you put up a hummingbird feeder watch them defend their space!

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The American robins that we see here in the winter have flown in to escape the harsh winter elsewhere, while our robins head south to wait out the cold. When it’s time to pull the switcheroo again in February, our summer robins return and the migrant robins take off, with us none the wiser.

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Cut It Out!

Tips from Parent Educator Allison Rees of LIFE Seminars

I’m So Proud of You!

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’m so proud of you! Words we would have loved to have heard growing up.

But when does it become a statement that crosses the line? What line? The line that says, when you succeed, get that A, win that race, quit that addiction, do the right thing…I feel proud of you.

Hmm. And when I don’t manage to pull this off, then how do you feel about me? Disappointed? Embarrassed? Do you think it is just semantics? Cut it out! Words carry a lot of power and in this case, they could spell out conditions that we have to meet in order to be loved.

What if I don’t feel close to a person who says they are proud of me because I quit smoking? What did they have to do with it? What if I feel controlled by that persons demands? The last thing I want to do is make that person proud of me.

Besides, what did they have to do with this thing that I worked so hard for anyway?

Okay, so it isn’t the end of the world if

you look at your child and say, “I’m proud of you!” but there are other ways to say this that could be much less conditional. You could even just turn this around and say, “You look proud of yourself.” Let the child (or adult) keep the accomplishment instead of thinking that they have to please you in order for you to have that loving feeling toward them.

Healthy self-esteem is developed in children when we give them unconditional love.

They don’t have to measure up, be the best, be good or make us proud. We love who they are, the essence of them. Behaviour can be discussed specifically and we can provide encouragement by noticing exactly what a child did. “You studied hard and ended up getting a good mark. That took determination.” Or “What made you work so hard for this?” We can say, “Even though your friends didn’t speak up, you did and it helped out a peer. He must have been so relieved.”

Why not let your kids keep their own

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