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Dear Auntyji

I have been married for almost 10 years, and my husband Neel is a wonderful man and a loving father. Most of my husband’s family lives in the UK, except his father and mother who live here in Australia. Now mum-in-law’s brother in the UK has been sick for a while - we had told Uncle Harry that we would visit him when we came to the UK later this year. However, we have decided to buy a bigger home this year, so the UK trip is off. But last weekend, I was talking to my hubby and I indicated that he should visit Uncle Harry, as it was the right thing to do. I was not too keen to visit, because it would be quite dull for me. But then, after a genius idea, I suggested that my hubby take his mother and go visit Uncle Harry. Neel thought it was an excellent idea, and now he and my mother-in-law are planning a quick UK trip, and I am a little disconcerted that my husband has not insisted that I go along with them. Should I be feeling left out, Auntyji? And is this small-minded of me to think this way? Mind you, if I had gone along with MIL, I would have had to listen to a continual litany of complaints about health. Lekin, I am still feeling left out. Please advise?

Auntyji Says

Oh my poor little gulabo, my little chameli - you have put forward an idea and now you are feeling upset because you are no longer part of the fun team. There is no reason for you to feel this way. You have given birth to your idea, and your work here is done. Did you seriously want to go on a yatra with your MIL and hubby? Did you know how boring that would have been? Sara din aur sari raat you could have had to listen to constant complaints about bad knees-shees, bad heart-shart, and gout-shout. And then, this torture would have been amplified as soon as you reached England, nah?

Uncle Harry would have been like a broken record, probably complaining about his ill health and with his sister by his side, it would have been a symphony of the damned. Just be grateful that your wonderful hubby is sparing you this misery and is taking one for the team. Wish your MIL and hubby a safe journey, give him a list of gifts to bring you back, and sit back and enjoy your week without worrying about listening to dard bhare dukhde.

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