Heather Paris Will Teach You How To Fix Your Relationships! By Mark Berger
Relationships are hard on various levels. In business, there are many factors that can either make or break a partnership. The one main factor is trust. Without trust, there is little hope of that relationship working out. Deals are brokered on the condition that all sides are getting a fair shake. The same thing can be said of personal relationships. Two people enter an agreement in hopes that each side will contribute to the partnership equally, or as close to equal as possible. If one person is dominating the relationship, then feelings of resentment, anger, or worse can fester and be acted out in some very unpleasant ways. Before any of that happens, one Warwick-based entrepreneur has a solution that has garnered favorable results. Heather Paris is a Relationship Educator and Coach, and has a wealth of knowledge in helping couples achieve serenity together. She is NOT a therapist and avoids the “he said/she said game of blame and shame.” Instead, she uses lived experience and education to cut to the chase with couples who are struggling. “I don’t need to know who is to blame, because in the end, both parties share the blame,” said Paris, who has spoken at length nationally and has written extensively on the topic. “There are many signs that a relationship is in trouble, and people may be blind to them. The biggest obstacle I have found is the lack of proper commu-
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nication between the couple. Without being completely honest with one other, then there is little chance the partnership will survive.” Paris noted that while vulnerable communication is a major component to bliss, there are other things to work towards. She goes on to say that, “your relationship is not a group project,” and advises couples to lean in on one another rather than turning against each other by taking their problems to friends. Paris also believes that your family is your family, and your work is not your family. “Your co-workers are not the people who will be by your side in times of crisis,” she said. We spoke about red flags in relationships, and Paris says that couples are rarely prepared for what happens when they have children. “When the babies come, some parents will stop prioritizing their relationship. While this may sound right, without the relationship, you may be jeopardizing the child’s future stability. I teach parents how to stay connected and on the same page after they become parents for the health and wellbeing of the entire family unit.”