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contents ➸ OCTOBER 2013 12 The Story of a Survivor Janie West’s fight against breast cancer
18 Fall Fashion Preview Our Scene models show off fall fashions provided by Only Options
28 Dining with the Gourmet Guys catering delicious food with a personal touch
33 Roughing it in Alaska with Lowndes High grad Payne Alderman
24 Health & Beauty Rhonda Tomlinson explains skin disorders
38 Arts & Entertainment List of upcoming events in October
42 Relationship Advice Mark Webb’s tips to recognize passive-aggressiveness
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ctober is Breast Cancer Awareness Month and the Scene is working with the Times to publicize as much information about the disease as we can. Fortunately for most women with breast cancer, it’s no longer a death sentence and the survival rate is very high. The disease is talked about so much more than it used to be, women today are taking their own health far more seriously than women of older generations. You’ll find a wonderfully inspirational story about a Hahira woman who is a 13 year survivor of the disease, with a beautiful outlook and attitude about her battle with cancer. And look to the Times throughout October for more uplifting stories as well.
Also in the Scene this month you’ll find a very interesting story about a young man who followed his dream to Alaska this summer, with breathtaking photos from his time there. The fashions this month were provided by Only Options and our lovely models that we found through the Scene model search look gorgeous in these fall fashions. Terrific advice from Mark Webb and Rhonda Tomlinson, plus an interview with popular local caterers rounds out this issue of our magazine. Enjoy the fall weather and enjoy the Scene!
Established 2005 Volume IX • No. 10 The ValdostaScene magazine is published monthly at 201 N. Troup St., Valdosta, GA 31601 Published by the South Georgia Media Group
PUBLISHER Jeff Masters EDITOR Kay Harris ASSOCIATE EDITOR Dean Poling CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Kristin Finney Kay Harris Dean Poling COLUMNISTS Rhonda Tomlinson Mark Webb CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS Payne Alderman Brandon Powers LAYOUT Derek Schaper
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on the cover: Janie West, a 13-year breast cancer survivor, poses in The Tin Bucket, the store she and Sharon Darby own on Hahira’s Main Street. photograph by BRANDON POWERS
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F E AT U R E
The story of a
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Thirteen may be unlucky for some, but a congruence of 13’s has been anything but for Janie West. Our interview took place on Friday the 13th. She first found out she had cancer on a Friday the 13th. And on the 13th of this month, she will celebrate 13 years as a cancer survivor.
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n Oct. 13, 2000, Janie West found what she thought was a cyst. She had a mammogram earlier in the year, so wasn’t too concerned but went to see her doctor just in case. Dr. Frank Hugh Smith of Southern OB sent her to Radiology Associates and an ultrasound seemingly confirmed it was a cyst. But just in case, they asked her if she wanted it aspirated, where a small needle is inserted to draw out fluid. Janie said yes, but when they couldn’t, they knew it wasn’t a cyst, so a core extraction was done instead. Two days later, she got the call.
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“I immediately started doing research, even though I was in a daze. I saw one surgeon but decided I wanted a second opinion.” Originally from Jacksonville, Fla., where her parents still live, West said she decided to go to Mayo to see another physician. She liked what the surgeon had to say to her, so that’s where she ended up going for all of her surgery and treatments.
“I liked that the surgeon would do reconstruction at the same time,” she said, which took on even greater importance when she made her next big decision. Although the cancer was only in one breast, she decided to have them both removed as a precaution. “For me, it was all about peace of mind. Insurance paid for it, and I knew that if there was any chance it would come back, and there was, I wanted to take care of it at the same time.” Janie was fortunate also that Dr. Edith Perez, a renowned breast cancer research physician, was also seeing pa-
tients at Mayo at that time. Although she maintains her Mayo practice, Dr. Perez primarily conducts cancer studies. “Talking with her made me more sure about my decisions.” Following the surgery, Janie began chemotherapy, driving down to Jacksonville one day a week for several months. Having her husband, Gary, at her side at every appointment made the trips more bearable, and having her parents in Jacksonville provided some comfort as well. And yes, she lost her hair when the chemo started, but she took control of it before it happened. OCTOBER 2013 | ValdostaScene
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“I knew I was going to lose it, so I had it cut down to about an inch all over my head. When I lost it about 7 to 10 days after the first treatment, it was so short, it just came out in the shower. But I controlled that, not the cancer.” Even with the loss of her hair, her lack of energy, and the fact that her world had been turned upside down, Janie still maintained as normal a life and routine as she could for daughters Heather, Hannah and Holly, and for her job running the pre-k at Hahira United Methodist Church. “Holly was in college at the time, Heather was a senior in high school and Hannah was in 8th grade. On the days I couldn’t leave the house because my blood counts were too low, I was blessed to have so many friends who would pick up the girls or do anything else I needed.” A parent at the pre-K took over classes on the days Janie couldn’t come in, but there weren’t many. And with
two daughters playing basketball, she still managed to go to most of their games. With so much out of her control, taking charge of the rest of her life took on an even greater importance. Friends gave her a hat and scarf party, which she wore with pride, and made meals, ran errands and did wonderful little things that cheered her up tremendously. “I came home one day from a treatment and an area in my yard had been planted with beautiful flowers. On the day of my last treatment, I came home to posters and pink balloons everywhere. I was very much taken care of.” Going from thinking she had just been handed a death sentence, “I thought the cancer was everywhere,” to being cancer-free for 13 years has been a long journey that included many lessons and many blessings. Two of her daughters are now nurses, and although Janie doesn’t
know if they were influenced by what they saw her go through, she knows it had to have an effect on them. Eight years ago, she and friend Sharon Darby opened the Tin Bucket in Hahira, a specialty shop with gift items, jewelry, clothing, and much more. It’s a comfortable, charming store where friends, neighbors and friends they haven’t met yet come to shop. From time to time, Janie is approached by a woman seeking advice after a new diagnosis, seeking comfort and words of wisdom from a survivor. Because that’s what Janie West is — a survivor. Walking in the survivor walk every year at the Relay for Life event is one way to celebrate her victory, and helping others is another. “It was the worst experience but the best. I grew in myself, my emotions and my faith. If you have your faith, your family and your friends, you have everything.”
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Fall Fashion Preview by KRISTIN FINNEY photos by BRANDON POWERS
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ooler temperatures, shorter days and football season all equal one thing… fall. It’s that time of year again, which means it’s time to get out your boots and jeans and pack up those flip-flops and sundresses. This fall, there are several styles to choose from to keep you warm while still looking fashionable. Deep and vibrant colors are very in this year, whether it’s a deep purple, as seen on our Scene model Ariel, or a deep orange as seen on models Porcia and Lauren. Another trend this year, which has carried over from summer, are oversized tops paired with fitted bottoms. A flowing and oversized blouse paired with skinny jeans and boots is the perfect fall outfit to keep you warm and in style. In south Georgia, fall can sometimes be quite warm, so another style trend in the state is the pairing of boots and dresses. This is a choice style for girls going out on the town as it offers enough cover to be warm, without feeling confining like skinny jeans. The newest trend hitting stores this year are leather pants. This once shunned fashion item has made a strong comeback in recent months and is taking boutiques by storm.
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Lauren is ready for a cool night on the town in her Trina Turk, orange patterned dread with black accents and dip top, $378. She has paired her dress with Pierre Dumas nude pumps, $69. She dolled up her outfit with some gold and bronze accented beucoup stone bangles, $28, a gold chain beucoup necklace with a black pendent, $55, and gold earrings with black stones and a diamond surround, $45.
The Scene models are ready for the cool fall weather in their stylish and classy outfits from Only Options in Valdosta.
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Scene model Ariel chose a purple French Connection button down blouse with pleats on the chest and a low cut front, $148, and a pair of skinny, black Joes Jeans, $170, to keep her warm this fall. She paired her outfit with some fun gold glitter Nicole pumps, $194, gold Moon and Lola New Orleans style earrings, $56, and a long, skinny gold and black Betsy Pittard Designs chain necklace, $38.
With boutiques in mind, in south Georgia it can be hard to find trendy boutiques offering cute clothing for young adults. In Valdosta there is a boutique offering the perfect outfits for fall this year and that is Only Options. All of the outfits on our Scene models can be purchased from Only Options at reasonable prices and all of them are perfect for going out on the town, going to a football game or going to school. Scene model Ariel Lester has chosen two perfect looks pairing oversized shirts and skinny jeans. She has chosen a brown Britt Ryan long sleeved satin blouse with gold buttons and a pair of skinny Joes Jeans. Paired with some Frye cowboy boots and some chunky gold bangles, this outfit is perfect for staying warm this fall. Ariel has also chosen a purple French Connection button down blouse. This blouse features pleats scores the chest and a low cut front which make it just the right amount of playful for a night out. Paired with the same Joes skinny jeans, some gold and black jewelry and a pair of fun gold glitter Nicole pumps, Ariel will stay warm and stylish on her night out.
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RIGHT: Scene model Porcia looks fabulous in her cream French Connection baby doll style top with gold lace across the bust, $148, and 7 For All Mankind brown leather skinny jeans, $198. She paired her outfit with cheetah print and gold flats by Nicole. She has accessorized her stylish outfit with a silver clutch by Lodis, $138, and Betsy Pittard Designs chunky stone brown and blue bracelets, $22-$32, and Betsy Pittard Designs gold earrings with aquamarine and brown stones, $42.
Scene models Porcia and Lauren have both chosen variations on some deep orange dresses that are very in style this season. Porcia’s dress is a Joy Joy, ginger dress with a kaleidoscope purple, blue, and black pattern. This dress has capped sleeves and a pouched top that make it flirty and fun. She paired her dress with a pair of light brown Frye cowboy boots and simple chunky jewelry to make this style her own. Lauren’s orange dress is a bit dressier and perfect for a dinner party or business meeting. This Trina Turk, orange patterned dress with black accents and a dipped neckline. Paired with Pierre Dumas nude pumps and gold and bronze accented jewelry, this outfit is classy and stylish. Lauren also chose another dress to create her perfect fall look. Her fun and flirty Leona emerald dress has a a bow around the neck, a peek-a-boo back and cuffed sleeves. Paired with button back, brown Frye boots and some gold jewelry this outfit is perfect for any occasion.
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Fall Fashion Preview
Rocking the newest trend to his stores this season is Scene model Porcia. She has chosen a daring and stylish pair of 7 For All Mankind brown leather skinny jeans. She has paired her trendy leather with a cream colored French Connection baby doll style top that features gold lace across the bust. The final touches on this fun and stylish outfit include a pair of cheetah print and gold flats by Nicole, chunky brown and blue bracelets and a silver Lodis clutch. If you are looking for the perfect outfit this fall, look no further than Only Options. Located at 1421 Gornto Road, this boutique is exactly the store you have been looking for for your fall fashions. For more information on Only Options please call them at (229)244-1807 or find them on Facebook.
Lauren looks ready for the fall in her Leona emerald dress, with a bow around the neck and a peek-a-boo back. This dress also has cuffed sleeves and is only $265. Paired with button back, brown Frye boots, $368, some gold bee pressed earrings, $45, and chunky, gold John Wind chain bracelets, $58, this outfit is perfect for a night out dancing.
Porcia is looks flirty and fashionable in her Joy Joy, ginger dress with a kaleidoscope purple, blue, black pattern, capped sleeves and a pouched top, $108. She has paired her dress with a pair of light brown Frye cowboy boots, $268. She chose simple chunky jewelry including a gold, braided, Hobo bracelet, $24, Betsy Pittard Designs chunky stone brown and blue bracelets, $32-$36, and Betsy Pittard Designs gold earrings with sapphire stones, $38.
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H E A LT H & B E AU T Y
5 Most Common Skin Disorders
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lmost everyone has some type of skin disorder… whether it’s waking up to a pimple that wasn’t there the night before, redness that occurs after a glass of wine, or just dry itchy, flakey skin. Here is a list of the most common skin disorders and descriptions that will let you know that you are not alone, but it possibly could be an issue that you need to address…
1. Acne Rhonda Tomlinson Nationally Certified Medical Aesthetician Ageless Beauty & Ageless Medical Aesthetics
Acne is a skin disorder that causes pimples when the passageway that connects the skin’s pores to the oil glands becomes clogged. Acne, which appears most often on the face, neck, shoulders, chest and back, can come in many forms. Whiteheads and blackheads are the most commonly known; nodular and cystic acne are more severe because they form deep in the skin and surging of the growth hormone is why acne is most severe in the “teenage years."
2. Rosacea Redness of the face, or a flushing that occurs due to hormones, environmental changes, life style, and genetics. Rosacea flushing can lead to broken capillaries, as these capillaries are broken the redness in that area does not go away… the more you flush the more you bust… so over time the redness becomes more and more prominent, even gets to the point it grows a thickness of the skin… especially in men.
3. Eczema There are three common forms of eczema: • Atopic dermatitis is the most common and is seen most often in children. One to three percent of adults compared to
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10 to 20 percent of children have this long-term genetic disease, which causes itchy rashes in the crux of the elbows and behind the knees. • Allergic contact dermatitis begins to show in adulthood and is caused by environmental factors such as cosmetic agents, fragrances and the metals in jewelry. • Nummular dermatitis looks like red and flaky coin-shaped patches of skin and is due to dry skin.
4. Malasma Hyper-pigmentation, chloasma, dark spots, or freckles are all forms of malasma. You mostly get this darkness due to penetration of the sun, although you may first develop it during pregnancy or each year the dark spots get more prominent and no longer fade in the winter months.
5. Psoriasis Psoriasis is a buildup of excess skin tissue that looks red and thick and is covered with silvery scales. It first appears on the elbows and knees, but can spread to other parts of the limbs and even the trunk. Certain forms affect particular areas like the hands, scalp, or the joints. All 5 of these skin disorders are not life threatening, but a few skin cancers can mimic some of these disorders such as basal cell, melanoma, and squamous cell, which all are also due from sun exposure and or gentics. If not sure always check with your doctor. They have definitely come a long way in perfecting in-office treatments, topical medications and oral antibiotics so that you can keep these conditions under control – to the point that it can be your little secret.
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or more than 30 years, Jeff Lind and Don Stanley have been serving the people of Valdosta with delicious foods. In 2007, these two culinary professionals decided to combine their skills and begin The Gourmet Guys catering. With the help of their team of cooks and assistants, The Gourmet Guys are proud to offer some of the best and most personal catering in Valdosta. Whether it’s catering the student’s lunches at Valwood, a daily task for The Gourmet Guys, or catering a wedding, these men can do it all.
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Their love for people and food make the catering business the perfect choice for Don and Jeff. Don said of the catering business, “There is nothing better than seeing a person eat your food and smile. That’s what we look for – a smile and empty plates.” Both men have extensive backgrounds in the food industry. Jeff was the owner of Jephs restaurants for 15 years. He also worked for Pitney Bowes for 23 years. Don has been in food service distribution for most of his life. He was the general manager for Sodexo for five years, he has been cooking for Valwood for 10 years, he worked at J.P. Mahoney’s, Remerton Grill and he also
helped get the Applebees on Inner Perimeter going. The catering business requires a lot of hard work and dedication, and the Gourmet Guys are happy to give both of those things. Unlike most caterers, Jeff or Don cook the food for the event and also serve it at the event. “A lot of caterers will cook the food and then send it to the event with their staff. We cook our food and serve it at the event, so the people making your food are there in person when you eat it. Either Don or I will be at every event. We only schedule two events in a day to make sure one of us will be at each,” explained Jeff.
Owners Don Stanley (left) and Jeff Lind began The Gourmet Guys catering service in 2007.
The Gourmet Guys are active in the community as well. They cater the Community Partners in Education awards ceremony as well as cooking for the Day of Caring. They take great pride in maintaining a 100 health
score in their kitchen, which is located in Valwood School. The Gourmet Guys offer a unique catering experience in that, while they do have a menu of their popular items, they are also open to doing
whatever you would like for your event. Jeff explained, “When you call us about catering an event, we will sit down with you and discuss what you are wanting for the event. It’s not our job to tell you what to eat at your wed-
ding. We try to customize your catering to your likes and dislikes.” The Gourmet Guys cater events seven days a week. They offer both plated meals, buffets and stations as well. When selecting meats
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and vegetables for their foods, the Gourmet Guys buy as much as they can from local farmers and they use fresh ingredients as often as possible. Carving stations are a very popular choice for many events. One of their most popular items is a 70 pound steamship round. When the Gourmet Guys are preparing their round for an event, they begin the cooking process at 4 a.m. They cook the meat “low and slow” at 250 degrees almost all day. They also offer honey smoked pit ham and smoked or fried turkey carving stations. The Gourmet Guys offer pasta stations that include marinara and Alfredo sauces with seafood, veggies or sausage. They have quesadilla stations offering cheeses, chicken, shrimp or veggie quesadillas. Another unique station that they offer are sushi stations. Their website explains that they “can roll almost anything.” Some of the rolls listed include shrimp, crab, tuna, veggie and California rolls. Some of the entrees included on the Gourmet Guys catering menu include slow roasted choice roast beef, choice black angus grilled sirloin fillet, smoked choice prime rib, grilled ginger pork tenderloins, chicken breast topped with crispy apple bacon and Monterey jack cheese, chicken breast stuffed with Alaskan crab meat and wild Georgia shrimp and much more. Appetizers are another specialty of the Gourmet Guys. Their online menu boasts gourmet items such as Hot Sea Island Crab dip, stuffed bacon wrapped dates, Mediterranean Salad, assorted meat sliders, Southwest chicken breast strips, fresh spinach and artichoke dip, fresh fruit displays, assorted cheeses, homemade pimento cheese and much more.
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The Gourmet Guys also offer a to-go program five days a week for lovers of their foods that do not have an event they need catered. This to-go program allows anyone to order from their pre-set menu for the month and feed their entire family for under $20.00. For $18.85, you can get a full entree, which easily feeds 4-6 people, or for $10 you can get a half entree which is perfect for two people. All of the entrees are prepared fresh and delivered daily. Some of the to-go menu items include chicken pot pie, chicken and dumplings, grilled southwest pork loin with mashed potatoes, smoked baby back ribs, cheese strada, beef tips and gravy and many more. To see a full copy of the month’s to-go menu or their catering menus, please visit their website at www.thegourmetguys.com. To-go orders must be placed at least two days in advance and can be picked up at Carter’s Market in Five Points or at Pammy Cakes. To place an order, they ask that you send an email to gourmetguys@bellsouth.net. If you are interested in having The Gourmet Guys cater your upcoming event, please contact them at weddings@thegourmetguys.com or call them at (229)244-0043.
“There is nothing better than seeing a person eat your food and smile. That’s what we look for – a smile and empty plates.”
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Wine Serving Temperatures The temperature at which a wine is served has an immense impact on its taste. Serving wine cool will mask some imperfections – good for young or cheap wine – while a warmer wine temperature allows expression of the wine’s characteristics – best with an older or more Wine Type °F °C expensive wine.
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A bottle of wine will cool 2°C (4°F) for every ten minutes in the refrigerator, and will warm at about this same rate when removed from the refrigerator and left at room temperature – the temperature of the room will affect the speed with which the wine warms up. If you need to chill a bottle of wine in a hurry, 35 minutes in the freezer will do the trick.
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Imagine Roughing It
...inAlaska! Lowndes High grad did more than imagine it. Payne Alderman did it.
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by DEAN POLING
ayne Alderman and a buddy spent many a time talking about traveling to Alaska. Just one summer. While they’re still young. Working a job there. Roughing it for several weeks. The buddy enjoyed the talk, but Payne Alderman wasn’t just talking. He meant it. He wanted to go to Alaska. He wanted an adventure. “The more we talked about it,” Alderman says, “the more I knew I had to do it.” This summer, he took his advice. Alderman went to Alaska. A 2010 Lowndes High School graduate, who loved playing baseball, Alderman spends most of his time attending the Savannah College of Art and Design, majoring in advertising. He didn’t talk about Alaska then bolt for the
great northwest. Alderman planned the trip. He spoke with people who made similar summer trips in the past and secured recommendations. He consulted his family, father Scott, mom Missy, and sister Casey, and received their encouragement and blessing. By this past February, he had already secured a job and lodging, working at the Russian River Campground, a rustic, salmon-fishing camp about two hours drive south of Anchorage. With school recessed for summer and everything secure, Alderman flew to Alaska on May 31. What he discovered surpassed his expectations. Now this trip would not be for everyone. Not even for many people who talk a good game of going to Alaska, but Alderman enjoyed what he found there. He and three other fellow camp employees shared a bunkhouse, a shelter that many would consider
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T R AV E L about the size of a backyard tool shed. This bunkhouse was located in an area which Alderman called “the pit.” Bears, eagles, owls and other wildlife lived near the pit. The work crew had no electricity, no running water. Each day, their residence received a ration of three five-gallon jugs of fresh water for drinking, cooking and bathing. They worked long hours, maintaining the camp, which is visited by tens of thousands of tourists each year for the region’s prime salmon fishing. First arriving, there was no night. The sun remained in the sky 24/7. After the solstice, the sun began setting at 11 p.m. for a few hours. But imagine scenes which likely filled so many pre-Alaska conversations for Alderman, imagine having days off where you could catch your supper fishing for salmon. Imagine catching enough salmon and halibut to ship 45 pounds of fish home to South Georgia. Imagine those days off, with the sun never setting, fishing in full daylight at midnight or beyond. Imagine
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seeing a brown bear, minding its business as long as you mind yours, fishing nearby. Imagine catching your fish, filleting it on the river, walking from river to camp and cooking it fresh for supper. Some may just imagine it, some may just talk about it, but Payne Alderman lived this life. He also likely made lifelong friends in the bunkhouse and the pit. Of the 11-man crew, Alderman was one of five young men from Georgia working at the Russian River Campground. They all became good friends. Alderman was scheduled to meet with his Georgia coworkers in September to watch an Atlanta Braves game. In Alaska, he and the crew worked, fished, and became good friends. Traveling into town became an excursion. The grocery store was an hour’s drive away. After being in the woods, seeing the bright lights of a store with all of its colorful merchandise became a carnival for the senses.
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Alderman and one co-worker pooled their money. For $700, they purchased a 1992 Ford Explorer, which they dubbed Dora. The vehicle survived several weeks but died one morning, in the long daylight of 4 a.m. Alderman and the other Georgia workers were making the drive south from Anchorage where they had picked up a visiting friend at the airport. The Explorer broke down. In Alaska, where winters are brutal, where the population is sparse, and miles can be measured by the scores between one place and another, a person can drive for hours without passing another vehicle. If a person is walking, or a car is broken down on the side of the road, travelers stop to offer help, even in the warmer months of summer. A young family stopped and gave the stranded Georgians a ride. On Aug. 24, Alderman returned to Georgia, returned to South Georgia family and friends. In September, returning to SCAD, he has no regrets about going. He will never have to regret not going to Alaska. He has an offer to return to his job next summer in Alaska, but hasn’t decided if he will accept it. Not yet. That’s talk for another time. “Don’t hesitate to take those opportunities,” Payne Alderman says. “You don’t know where that opportunity may lead.”
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Arts&Entertainment OCTOBER 2013 > Artists on Ashley
> The Broadway Boys
Price Campbell Gallery, Annette Howell Turner Center for the Arts, 527 N. Patterson St. Show dates: Sept. 23 through Oct. 30. Gallery hours: 10 a.m.-6 p.m. Tuesdays through Thursdays; 10 a.m.-4 p.m. Fridays and Saturdays; closed Sundays and non-reception Mondays. Admission: Free. More information: Call (229) 247-2787; or visit www.turnercenter.org
Mathis City Auditorium, 2300 N. Ashley St. Run date: Oct. 7. Annette Howell Turner Center for the Arts Presenter Series sponsors this nationally touring show featuring a collection of singers representing Broadway hits such as “Wicked,”“Mary Poppins,”“Spiderman,”“Jersey Boys,”“Mamma Mia,”“The Book of Mormon,”“Hair,”“In the Heights,”“Memphis,”“Motown,” etc. “Imagine watching a show with unparalleled vocals and explosive energy,” the Presenter Series’brochure proposes. “Imagine classic songs being completely reinvented. Imagine an evening full of show tunes presented with a contemporary flare.” Reservations, more information: Visit www.turnercenter.org; call (229) 247-2787; or visit the Annette Howell Turner Center for the Arts, 527 N. Patterson St.
> Artist Steven Tette Sallie and Harmon Boyette Gallery, Annette Howell Turner Center for the Arts, 527 N. Patterson St. Show dates: Sept. 23 through Oct. 30. Gallery hours: 10 a.m.-6 p.m. Tuesdays through Thursdays; 10 a.m.-4 p.m. Fridays and Saturdays; closed Sundays and non-reception Mondays. Admission: Free. More information: Call (229) 247-2787; or visit www.turnercenter.org
>“The Fabulous Fable Factory” > Artists Ben Blanton, Dennis Rothfuss, Derek Schaper Josette’s Gallery, Annette Howell Turner Center for the Arts, 527 N. Patterson St. Show dates: Sept. 23 through Oct. 30. Gallery hours: 10 a.m.-6 p.m. Tuesdays through Thursdays; 10 a.m.-4 p.m. Fridays and Saturdays; closed Sundays and non-reception Mondays. Admission: Free. More information: Call (229) 247-2787; or visit www.turnercenter.org
The Dosta Playhouse, 122 N. Ashley St. Run dates: Oct. 3-6. Gingerbread Players of Theatre Guild Valdosta presents this children’s show by playwright Joseph Robinette, based on the musical by Robinette and Thomas Tierney. Synopsis: “An inquisitive young boy finds an old factory operated by a Mr. Aesop and his seven fable-makers.” More information: Call (229) 24-STAGE; or visit www.theatreguildvaldosta.com
> South Georgia Regional Library art
>“The Aliens Are Coming. The Aliens Are Coming”
Roberta George Children’s Gallery, Annette Howell Turner Center for the Arts, 527 N. Patterson St. Show dates: Sept. 23 through Oct. 30. Gallery hours: 10 a.m.-6 p.m. Tuesdays through Thursdays; 10 a.m.-4 p.m. Fridays and Saturdays; closed Sundays and non-reception Mondays. Admission: Free. More information: Call (229) 247-2787; or visit www.turnercenter.org
Valdosta High School Performing Arts Center, 3101 N. Forrest St. Run dates: Oct. 5, 6. Little Actors Theatre presents this children’s play by playwright Tim Kelly, which is a spoof of alien invasions. More information: Visit www.littleactorsvaldosta.com
>“Emerge”: Sculptures and drawings by Erin Curry, Nicole Gugliotti, and Evie Woltil Richner
>Magnolia Festival
Valdosta State University Fine Arts Gallery, VSU Fine Arts Building, corner of Oak and Brookwood. Run dates: Sept. 16-Oct. 4. Gallery hours: The gallery is open Mondays through Fridays. More information: Call (229) 333-5835; or visit www.valdosta.edu/art
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Spirit of the Suwannee Music Park, Live Oak, Fla. Run dates: Oct. 17-20. Willie Nelson and Family lead the line-up of in this American Roots Music Festival that also includes John Prine, Kris Kristofferson, Stephen Marley, Drive-By Truckers, Railroad Earth, Mavis Staples, Donna the Buffalo, Dawes, Keller Williams with the Travelin’McCourys, The Duhks, Jim Lauderdale, Col. Bruce Hampton, Rev. Peyton’s Old Time Gospel Hour with Jimbo Mathus & Alvin Youngblood Hart, Grayson Capps, Tornado Rider, Seth Walker, The Heavy
Pets, Nikki Talley, Honey Island Swamp Band, The Stacks, Beebs & Her Money Makers, John Stickley Trio, Billy Iuso & Restless Natives, Grandpa’s Cough Medicine, Sloppy Joe, Quartermoon, Big Cosmo, Habanero Honeys, Steve Pruett’s Back from the Brink, Klob, Corbitt Brothers, Stephen Kellogg, Flagship Romance, Canary in the Coalmine, Tropic of Cancer, Jacksonvegas, Sentropolis, Jason Lamar, Alien Carnival.
> Brass Ensemble Oct. 21, 7:30 p.m., Whitehead Auditorium, VSU Fine Arts Building, corner of Oak and Brookwood, in this VSU Music event. Admission: Free.
> Pan Am Ensemble Concert Oct. 22, 7:30 p.m., Whitehead Auditorium, VSU Fine Arts Building, corner of Oak and Brookwood, in this VSU Music event. Admission: Free.
>“We Two Founts” Valdosta State University Fine Arts Gallery, VSU Fine Arts Building, corner of Oak and Brookwood. Opening public reception: 7-8:30 p.m., Oct. 14. Show dates: Oct. 14-Nov. 2. VSU Art hosts this exhibit featuring sculptural video by Derek Larson; paintings by Marc Mitchell. Gallery hours: The gallery is open Mondays through Fridays. More information: Call (229) 333-5835; or visit www.valdosta.edu/art
> Student Chamber Showcase Recital Oct. 23, 7:30 p.m., Whitehead Auditorium, VSU Fine Arts Building, corner of Oak and Brookwood, in this VSU Music event. Admission: Free.
> Faculty Recital, Larry Scully, piano Oct. 24, 7:30 p.m., Whitehead Auditorium, VSU Fine Arts Building, corner of Oak and Brookwood, in this VSU Music event. Admission: Free.
> Wind Ensemble performs Oct. 1, 7:30 p.m., Whitehead Auditorium, VSU Fine Arts Building, corner of Oak and Brookwood, in this VSU Music event. Admission: Free.
> Student Recital, Lacie Hall, voice Oct. 25, 7:30 p.m., Whitehead Auditorium, VSU Fine Arts Building, corner of Oak and Brookwood, in this VSU Music event. Admission: Free.
> Pops in the Park Oct. 10, 6 p.m., Valdosta State University Fine Arts Amphitheater, annual fund-raising event for VSU Music scholarships. More information: Call (229) 333-5973; or visit www.valdosta.edu/comarts
> Student Recital, Zach Jones, trombone, and Landan Frazier, saxophone Oct. 27, 3 p.m., Whitehead Auditorium, VSU Fine Arts Building, corner of Oak and Brookwood, in this VSU Music event. Admission: Free.
> Viola Day/Guest Artist Recital, Rebecca Albers, viola Oct. 12, 7:30 p.m., Whitehead Auditorium, VSU Fine Arts Building, corner of Oak and Brookwood, in this VSU Music event. Admission: Free. 827383
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> Guest Recital, Frank Proto, contrabass Oct. 16, 7:30 p.m., Whitehead Auditorium, VSU Fine Arts Building, corner of Oak and Brookwood, in this VSU Music event. Admission: Free.
> Student Recital, Brian McMillan, guitar Oct. 17, 7:30 p.m., Whitehead Auditorium, VSU Fine Arts Building, corner of Oak and Brookwood, in this VSU Music event. Admission: Free.
> Guest Artist Recital, Tesla Quartet, Ross Snyder and Michelle Lie, violins; Megan Mason, viola, and Kimberly Patterson, cello
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Oct. 19, 7:30 p.m., Whitehead Auditorium, VSU Fine Arts Building, corner of Oak and Brookwood, in this VSU Music event. Admission: Free.
> Azalea String Quartet Recital Oct. 20, 3 p.m., Whitehead Auditorium, VSU Fine Arts Building, corner of Oak and Brookwood, in this VSU Music event. Admission: Free.
> Student Recital, Billy Robinson, tuba Oct. 28, 7:30 p.m., Whitehead Auditorium, VSU Fine Arts Building, corner of Oak and Brookwood, in this VSU Music event. Admission: Free.
> Student Piano Recital, Sarah Seligosky, Vicorie Brown and Jody Morris Oct. 29, 7:30 p.m., Whitehead Auditorium, VSU Fine Arts Building, corner of Oak and Brookwood, in this VSU Music event. Admission: Free.
> Student Recital, Brian Summerlin, trumpet Oct. 30, 7:30 p.m., Whitehead Auditorium, VSU Fine Arts Building, corner of Oak and Brookwood, in this VSU Music event. Admission: Free.
>“On the Edge” Sawyer Theatre, VSU Fine Arts Building, corner of Oak and Brookwood. Run dates: Oct. 3-6. As part of the VSU Theatre & Dance season, the VSU Repertory Dancers present their annual show. Synopsis: “This year’s annual dance concert will present original choreography as well as restagings from our extensive repertoire by Sarah Wildes Arnett, Eric Nielsen and Catherine Schaeffer. One of the highlights in this year’s concert will reveal spectacular technical advancements as they relate to the choreographic process. Don’t miss what has become a seasonal favorite for students and patrons alike.” More information: Call (229) 333-5973; or visit www.valdosta.edu/comarts
>“An Evening with Amadeus” Whitehead Auditorium, VSU Fine Arts Building, corner of Oak and Brookwood. Run date: 8 p.m., Nov. 2. Valdosta Symphony Orchestra presents this concert featuring all Mozart, “Overture to Lucio Silla, K. 135”; Bassoon Concerto in B-flat Major, K. 191; Symphony No. 38 in D Major, K 504 (“Prague”). Synopsis: “Spend an evening experiencing some of the master’s most beloved works, including the jovial bassoon concerto performed by VSO principal bassoonist Shannon Lowe, and his radiant ‘Prague’Symphony, a piece as glorious as the city after which it was named.” More information: Call VSU College of the Arts Outreach, (229) 333-2150; or visit www.valdostasymphony.org
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R E L AT I O N S H I P A DV I C E
Recognizing
Passive-Aggressive BY MA R K W E B B Mark Webb is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice at South Georgia Psychiatric and Counseling Center in Valdosta. He is the author of “How To Be A Great Partner”. Read more of his articles at www.TheRelationshipSpecialist.com
Behavior In Yourself and Others
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assive-aggressive behaviors can ruin your relationship with everyone you know. Anyone can be guilty of being passive-aggressive and not even know it. It can be so subtle, that others cannot even tell you exactly what you are doing wrong. A passive-aggressive person is basically an angry individual who is expressing their anger in an indirect manner. They won’t admit or talk about their anger but it is there. It is very aggravating to interact with someone who won’t engage in honest communication. Read these signs of passive-aggressive behavior and if you identify with any of them, learn to be more direct in how you communicate with others.
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• Todd is a husband and father of three children. He is a kind and quiet man who never gets angry with his family. However, if they do something he doesn’t like or approve of, he will withhold his love, time and attention. If asked “What’s wrong?” Todd replies, “Nothing.” But there are no hugs or happy greetings; he remains cold and distant. • Sara asked her husband, Mike, to help her clean the storage closet. He says yes but his behavior says no. He isn’t interactive or interested. He quietly does the work at a low level of energy. Sara asks him if he feels okay and he abruptly responds, “I’m fine!” as he slams a box of books to the floor. She explores further with an “Are you sure?” He doesn’t answer but keeps working. • Natalie is late again. She’s been told the house rules a thousand times. Her mother makes her repeat her curfew time before she leaves home each time. She promises she will do better this time but she is late again. When asked for a reason, Natalie answers “I’m sorry. I forgot what time I was supposed to be home.”
• William asks Jennifer if she will help him with a task in the kitchen. Rather than saying no, she huffs and rolls her eyes. William wishes he hadn’t even asked. Her presence in the kitchen radiates tension. Do you see how frustrating passive-aggressive behavior is? Actions can speak louder than words.
Passive-Aggressive People: • Are difficult to engage in conversation. • Draw attention to themselves by sulking, acting withdrawn and quiet. • Are chronically late. • Are conveniently forgetful if they are asked to do something they don’t want to do. • Drop the ball on important matters. You are angry or disappointed because you needed them to deliver but they didn’t. Instead, you get an apology and perhaps they are even able to make you feel guilty for being angry and disappointed.
• Agree to everything, but do nothing. • Make excuses for why they aren’t doing the things they promised to do. • Withhold behaviors that are usual and expected. They punish others in subtle way. A husband might not confront his wife on her spending habits but he quietly undermines her relationship with their children. • Tend to suppress their feelings until they suddenly blow up. • Are unable to admit when they are wrong. They won’t acknowledge their part in a negative situation. • Are never to blame. He tells people his wife left him because she was money hungry. She says she was fired because the boss was jealous and threatened by her abilities. He tells friends that the police gave him a D.U.I. for no reason.
• Will appear pleasant and easy to get along with but the friendly exterior is really a front. They talk bad about you behind your back. • Will continue to do things you don’t like even though you’ve asked them not to. • Will frequently remind you of all the sacrifices they made for you. • Will train you not to ask them to do anything because they can procrastinate til the cows come home. They know you will get tired of waiting and you’ll do it yourself eventually. • Will not follow through with plans, dreams or goals. Maybe they are afraid or lazy but either way, it won’t happen.
The consequences of passiveaggressive behavior are obvious:
• It creates resentment and insecurity. • It makes people think they’ve done something wrong. • People never get to know the real you. The key to correcting passive-aggressive behavior is to learn to be assertive in communication with others. Express yourself with truth and honesty. Work on being more directly focused on strengthening, not destroying your relationships with others. If you relate to any of the traits identified in this article and would like to develop more effective communication strategies; I suggest you take this article to a local therapist who is skilled in communication techniques. Point out the examples in the article you see as areas you’d like to improve in your own life and prepare to see positive changes in your interactions with others!
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Rose Lane (left) and Vondia Noland an accountant at SGMC enjoy the business after hours event held at the new patient tower.
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