SHELTER HOME OF CALDWELL COUNTY, INC. PO BOX 426 • LENOIR, NC 28645 (828) 758-0888 19 SOUTH CENTER STREET . TAYLORSVILLE, NC 28681 (828) 635-8850
INSIDE THIS ISSUE: Life in Shelter
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Seeds of Peace
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Blackberry
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Better to Give
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Executive Director Retiring 4 Snow Days
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Support Groups
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2015 Donors
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SHCC staff contact 8
Board of Directors Brent Phelps, Chair Angie Clark, Vice-Chair Ruth Kincaid, Secretary Betsy Wilson, Treasurer Bob Benfield Heidi Downs Anita Dula Debbie Eller Laura Livingston Nancy Martin Marla Parsons Morris Reaves Rose Reighard April Sisk Holly Yongue Shelter Home Office Phone Numbers: Lenoir (828) 758-0888 Taylorsville (828) 635-8055 Crisis Lines: Lenoir (828) 758-7088 Taylorsville (828) 635-8851 24 hours a day Visit the Shelter Home website http://shelterhomecc.org
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Life in Shelter Have you ever wondered what Shelter life entails? A recent Shelter Home resident shared her feelings about the experience. “My thoughts of living in a shelter weren’t very good thoughts until I actually arrived at the Shelter of Caldwell County. Having bad thoughts is the reason I guess I’ve been homeless for eight years. I just stayed in abusive situations until I started having suicide thoughts... then called 911. It was the best thing I’ve done in a long while. Shelter life in my opinion isn’t bad at all. The Shelter of Caldwell County has helped me in so many ways that if I’d known about how it worked and the resources they had, I would’ve had a home of my own years ago. I actually put me here. It was up to me to call. They provided all I needed plus introduced me to a program that will get me a home. Being fifty five years old, it was the biggest embarrassment to be brought to a shelter, but everyone was kind and caring. Being around others like me (homeless) and dealing with different issues, I learned so much about domestic violence and maybe the reasons for men being cruel to women. When I first got to the Shelter I was a big mess, but I could actually breathe. I could relax eventually and just get me together. I had a nice clean room upstairs with another resident that was so helpful and sweet about answering my questions and just talking to me. I wasn’t allowed to have any girl friends while in my relationships. So, she was special to me, and I will always remember her. The staff at the Shelter actually do care about the clients and are very special people to do this job because I’m sure it can get frustrating at the Shelter. I didn’t have to watch over my shoulder, and after a few weeks I became a little more relaxed and comfortable. I got closer to God in the past two months, and I know he’s the only way to have a joyful life. They have a sexual abuse class that is Christian/spiritual based, and it’s my favorite. The classes I take at RHA have helped me learn new things, and I like them. I am so thankful for attending. I’ve prayed for guidance and to get a home of my own, and this Shelter has helped me so much. Following the rules here came so easy for me because I don’t have a problem doing the right things in life. The Shelter has actually helped me to love myself and with God’s help in my life, I feel a load has lifted from me.” Former Client
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MARCH 31, 2017 Mulberry Recreation Center 7:00 PM Fourth time's the charm, right, Burke? Last year's game was the closest yet (and by "closest", I mean Burke injured the most Caldwell attorneys yet!), but this year might be the year for Burke. Join us for an evening of hilarity, as old men and non-athletic young men battle it out to see who collapses first. Admission is $5 (13 and under free), with proceeds split between Caldwell Shelter Home and Options of Burke County. Game Sponsor: J & A General Store and 1841 Cafe
Half Court CHALLENGE Win this 2016 SUN TRACKER PARTY BARGE 18 DLX!!! WE WILL SELL TICKETS FOR $2 EACH FOR A CHANCE AT O-N-E SHOT AT HALF TIME TO WIN THE BOAT. $2 PER CHANCE OR 3 TICKETS FOR $5. (Value: $19,915) *Have to be present to win. The ticket holder has to take the shot.*
BLACKBERRY GLOW LACE UP YOUR RUNNING SHOES, AND JOIN US DOWNTOWN LENOIR Friday JULY 8th 5K RACE 8:30 p.m. START time 1 MILE FUN RUN 8:00 p.m. START time Take a 5K “GLOW” run through Lenoir or enjoy a walk/run with fun obstacles ALL to support emergency shelter and victim services in our community Visit the Shelter Home website for 5K and Fun Run details. Register on-line at https://runsignup.com/Race/NC/ Lenoir/BlackberryGlow5kandFunRun PEACEFUL
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It’s Better To Give We want to say thank you to the Community for making the 2015 Shelter Home Christmas the best one yet. We were blessed by the outpouring of gifts, time and love f r o m s o ma n y c h u r c h e s , businesses and individuals willing to GIVE this Holiday. Pictured to the right and below are volunteers or “Elves” who came in to wrap Christmas gifts for the Shelter Home residents on Christmas Eve Day.
Above is one very happy little boy at the Shelter Home. He is “Ninja Turtled Out”!!
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Executive Director Retiring by Sharon Poarch
“I am in the seventh year of a five year plan” I told our Board of Directors in January. “I want to retire to spend more time with my family. My last day will be May 1st.” Did you know, if you make a purchase on Amazon.com that . 5% could go to the Shelter Home? Just login at this address:
Have you ever said something and paused to wish you could take it back. That was me - when I actually said, “I’m retiring” to the Board of Directors of the Shelter Home in mid-January. The Shelter Home Board Chairman, Brent Phelps, had known my plan to retire since late last year. It was time to prepare the Board to begin the work of transitioning in new leadership for our mission. It has been my humble pleasure to serve our community and the victims of violence and abuse in our area for the last seven years. The opportunity to grow our mission in both service capacity and programmatic work has been a labor of love. Shelter Home of Caldwell County’s mission is one with a long history of compassion, service, resourcefulness, professionalism and an absolute commitment to a victim’s right to live safely without the threat of violence, abuse or intimidation. A Mission of Hope, Help and Healing was the cadence I stepped into as director in 2009, and will be so now as a new Executive Director is selected to serve by our Board of Directors and carry our mission forward. Inside St ory Hea dline
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I have said the hardest part in retiring is stepping away from “the work”, the cause, the commitment that is being an advocate for victims against whomsoever or whatsoever obstacles or barriers are placed in their path. There is a passion to serve and to do the right thing for those who need our help. This community has commissioned and supported the Shelter Home of Caldwell County to serve the men, women and children who need our help for almost 40 years. It is not just what “we”, the advocates, do within the shelter to serve victims, but the rich resources of people and community partners that makes our ability to provide critical services and resources so very strong and diverse. Inside St ory Hea dline
Thank you to the many individuals, churches, civic groups, businesses, foundations, funders, Volunteers and Board Members who support this very important mission in Caldwell County. I appreciate the opportunity to have been a part of the Shelter Home mission and partner with you in service to others. http://shelterhomecc.org Visit us on Facebook at Shelter Home of Caldwell County PEACEFUL
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To the women and children we have served who have most assuredly touched my life, may God Bless and keep you on a healthy path with safe and fulfilling futures. Having the opportunity to serve you has enriched my life. Thank you.
Sharon Poarch If you or someone you know are interested in applying for the Shelter Home’s Executive Director position, please visit: www.shelterhomecc.org/executive-director-job-posting
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SNOW DAYS! Winter Storm Jonas came in and surprised us all in January. We loved every minute of it. From building snowmen, to scraping the parking lot (Thanks Donald and Stephanie) to sledding, to snow cream, we cherished every moment. Sometimes we all need a break and it was welcomed!
SUPPORT GROUP SESSIONS “How can I get information about Domestic Violence. What can I do as a sexual assault victim to move on with life in a healthy way. I don’t need Shelter (or maybe I do), but I need to understand and learn what a healthy relationship looks like without violence, or manipulative control, jealous rages, or damaged property or exploitation… Where is help?” Call Lily Moody, Shelter Home Program Director (828) 758-0888 or email lily.moody@shelterhomecc.org
Bob Wykcoff is really the Jack of all trades. He is what we call, our Bob the Builder. Bob can fix anything we need fixed. Bless him, because we always find a project on Pinterest we would love to see in our Shelter, and he always finds a way to make it happen. The above picture is Bob painting at the Senior Center in Lenoir. As we said, he can do anything. Thank you Bob for your service.
Support Group attendance requires contact with an advocate prior to attendance. Partner Agencies referring clients must complete an agency referral prior to client attendance. (Support Groups are available in Spanish as needed.) (Las sesiones de grupo de apoyo están disponibles en español , según sea necesario . )
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The Shelter Home of Caldwell County is grateful to the following donors from 2015 who have supported the programs and service to the victims in our community. Individuals
Faith Based Organizations
Businesses/Organizations
Scott Hildbran
Antioch Baptist Church
Aarons, Inc.
Ron Attenberry
Steven and Debra Holsclaw
Baton Baptist Church
Altrusa Club of Caldwell County
Fred and Martha Barnes
Alan and Debbie Jordan
Buffalo Cove Baptist Church
Bernhardt Furniture
Beverly and Judy Beal
Ruth Kincaid
Cedar Rock Baptist Church
Blue Ridge Electric Membership Corp.
Annette Beam
Joyce K Knight
College Avenue Baptist Church
Caldwell Bar Association
Evelyn Beam
Euel Q Koontz
Confidence Advent Christian Church
Caldwell County Government
Helen Beam
Larry Laws
Connelly Springs First Baptist Church
Caldwell County Board of Education
John Black
Gary and Linda Letterman
Fairview Presbyterian Church
Caldwell Cty Frat. Order of Police #83
James and Kaye Blair
Steve and Brenda Lewis
Fellowship Baptist Church
Caldwell County Rotary Club
Stephen and Jean Branch
Darrell and Dottie Lloyd
First Baptist Church of Hudson
Cato, LLC
Kimberly B Britt
Nancy Martin
First Baptist Church of Lenoir
Chick-Fil-A of Morganton - FSU
Jerry and Millie Brooks
William Maynard, Jr.
First Presbyterian Church of Lenoir
Exchange Club of Lenoir
Al and Lilly Bunch
Mary Jane McKee
First United Methodist Church
Foothills Outdoorsman Association
Kimberly B Arnett
Geoffrey and Ann Burbridge Betty Lou and Wayne Miller
Flemings Chapel Baptist Church
Betty Buss
Cathy Eller Minton
Jennifer Clark
Timothy and Christina Moeller
GRC Wireless, Inc. - Men's #2 Sunday School Class Judy's CafĂŠ Gamewell United Methodist Women Lake Hickory Veterinary Hospital
Johnna W Coffey
Virginia Mullis
Golden Circle Club
Dennis and Linda Crowder
Barbara Myers
Dr. and Mrs. Thomas Cruden Eloise Parsons
Lenoir Kiwanis Club Grace Chapel United Methodist Women Lenoir Service League Granite Falls Methodist Church NC Alpha Gamma Kappa
Dottie Darsie
Kenneth and Clarence Phillips
Hattie Steele Missionary Circle
Roger Coffey and Sons Nursery
Jennie Deal
Rebecca Poer
Hudson United Methodist Women
Taylorsville Rotary Foundation, Inc.
Donna Doughty
Dr. Annie K Prestwood
Lower Creek Baptist Church
The Property Shop
Charles and Davanna Downs Rita Redberg
Piney Grove Baptist Church
Basil and Linda Roberts
Walmart
Robert and Katherine Esch
Poovey's Chapel Baptist Church
Dr. Jane Carswell Roberts
Woodsmen of the World
James and Karen Finley
Setzer Creek Baptist Church
Roger and Barbara Fisher
William and Beverly Salsbury
Tabernacle Advent Christian Church
Charles and Shirley Foushee Charles and Melanie Shell Lavina Smith Justin Fortner David and Kathy Spake
Kenneth Ferguson
Becky and Herb Stevens
Gwen Gibson
Lori Triplett
Betty Goble James and Dianne Graeber Samantha Greene
Don and Barbara Weiller Mr. and Mrs. Warren West
Cecelia M Hartsell
Elizabeth D Wilson
Cynthia Herman PEACEFUL
Paula Webb
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Unitarian Universalists of Caldwell Cty United Presbyterian Church Waterlife Church Yadkin Valley Baptist Church Zion United Church of Christ
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Grantors / Foundations
In Memory of Dr. Jane Carswell Roberts
AKC Kennel Club
Brooks and Faye Barber
Ann & Alex Bernhardt Foundation
Mr. and Mrs. Alex Bernhardt, Sr.
Mary Miller Rosa P. Miller
Bernhardt Furniture Foundation
Jean Bernhardt
NC Alpha Delta Kappa
Belk Family Charitable Fund
Al and Lilly Bunch
John and Betty Nicora
Bollinger Foundation
Margaret Cannon
Mr. and Mrs. Jack Pennell
Carpenter Foundation
Robert and Robin Carroll
Pat Pennington
Coffey Foundation
Robert Carswell
Wanda Prince
Council for Women
Patrick and Kay Crouch
Rita Redburg
DHHS Family Violence Prevention
Harry and Bobbie Curtis
James and Jeanette Roberts
George Foundation
Myra Dickson
Dr. Charles and Frances Scheil
Google Community Grants
Mr. and Mrs. Oscar Dobereiner
Charles and Melanie Shell
Governors Crime Comission
Joseph Doll and Beverly Frye
Mary E Small
Granite Savings Endowment
Beth Dudley
Dr. Mary Ester Small
Hogan Family Foundation
Christopher Edward Dudley
Walter and Dianne Spicer
Jonas Foundation
Kenneth Ferguson
Mary Sugg Styres
Leona B. Carpenter Foundation
Kenneth and Joyce Fisher
Robert and Gina Styres
NC Community Foundation
David and Dorothy Groom
Jack and Norma Suddreth
Robbins Foundation
C.J. Hartsell
Dr. Dennie and Dr. Debra Templeton
Stevens Family Foundation
Richard and Dorothy Hedrick
Virginia Thorne
United Way of Alexander County
Jeffrey and Rita Joines
Jenny Toves
United Way of Caldwell County
Donald and Janice Leach
Town of Gamewell
Whitener Foundation
Marsh and Patricia Lyall
David and Susan Wagner
Wilson Family Foundation
James and Lori Marks
Morris Walker
Carole Mattis
Carl and Shirley West
Local and State Governments
Lucy McCarl
Edna Weston and Gloria Kilby
Caldwell County
Dr. and Mrs. Donald McNeill
Kenneth and Ann Williams
Caldwell County DSS
Betty McRee
Rev Parker and Patricia Williamson
City of Lenoir
Ann Miller
Janet Wilson
Town of Gamewell
In Memory of Jessie Suddreth:
In Honor of Sandra Roseborough
Caldwell County Schools
Reva M Pennell
H Houston and Kaeti Groome Jr.
In Honor of Ruth Kincaid
In Memory of John and Maxine Jett
Elaine Bush
Donna Whitson
Sue Prestwood and Kimberly Kelley
In Memory of Willie Frazier
In Honor of CJ Hartsell
Mary Sugg Styres
Robert and Katherine Esch
In Memory of Claudia Kostrzes
In Honor of Winnefred Harding
John and Pamela Ballew
Phyllis Huffstetler
In Memory of Keith Suddreth
In Honor of Bob Belk
Patrick and Kay Crouch
Ann Hancock
Steven D Tuttle
In Honor of Jobie and Susie Redmond
In Memory of Teckla Kelley
TCS Designs
Thank you for your support of our mission. Please consider donating your gently used Apparel and Household Items to the Second Bloom Boutique, our thrift store supporting the Shelter Home of Caldwell County service to victims.
Reva M Pennell
In Memory of J.C. Knight William Maynard, Jr.
In Memory of Marie Bach Hogan Mr. and Mrs. WJ Hogan
Shelter Home Staff The Shelter Home provides crisis services 24/7 and is able to do this because of a fine staff and volunteers dedicated to making the Shelter Home a place of “Hope, Help and Healing.”
Sharon Poarch, Executive Director ............................................................................ …………….director@shelterhomecc.org Stephanie Lee, Business Manager .............................................................................. ….businessmanager@shelterhomecc.org Lily Moody, Program Director .................................................................................. ………...lily.moody@shelterhomecc.org Tina Gilbert, Thrift Store Manager……………………………..…….. ……………………………tina.gilbert@shelterhomecc.org Anita Hicks, Victim Advocate - Rape and Sexual Assault……..………………………………….anita.hicks@shelterhomecc.org Kim Watson, Court Advocate ................................................................................... ………..kim.watson@shelterhomecc.org Breanna McKay, Community Outreach Coordinator ................................................. ……breanna.mckay@shelterhomecc.org Anquinett Burnett, Child Advocate………………………………………………………….anquinett.burnett@shelterhomecc.org Julie Owens, Victim Advocate - Special Populations……………………………………………...julie.owens@shelterhomecc.org Lisa Clontz, Victim Advocate - Special Populations………………………………………………..lisa.clontz@shelterhomecc.org Patty Burke, Victim Advocate, Alexander County...………………………………………………patty.burke@shelterhomecc.org Dawn Chumley, Court Advocate, Alexander County...……………………….....................dawn.chumley@shelterhomecc.org Shelter Managers: Marley Lee…………………………………………………………………………………………….marley.lee@shelterhomecc.org Kim Wyckoff…………………………….………………………………………………………….kim.wyckoff@shelterhomecc.org Michelle Clark…………….…………….………………………………………………………...michelle.clark@shelterhomecc.org Tammy Watts………………………………………………………………………………………tammy.watts@shelterhomecc.org
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