Life On Mission - Tim Harlow by Lifetogether Ministries

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Life on Mission God’s People Finding God’s Heart for the World

Pastor Tim Harlow Parkview Christian Church

Unless otherwise noted, all Scripture quotes are taken from the HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®. Copyright 2011 by International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan Bible Publishing House. All rights reserved.

ISBN #: 978-1-940077-07-9

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TABLE OF

CONTENTS About The Author Foreword by Rick Warren Acknowledgements Endoresements Introduction to Life on Mission Contributors Using this Workbook

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OUTLINE FOR EACH SESSION SESSION ONE – OVERVIEW SESSION TWO – CONNECT SESSION THREE – SERVE SESSION FOUR – SHARE SESSION FIVE – GROW SESSION SIX – PRAY

APPENDICES Frequently Asked Questions Small Group Agreement Small Group Calendar Small Group Roster Accountability Partners Check-In Memory Verses Prayer and Praise Report

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SMALL GROUP LEADERS Hosting an Open House Leading for the First Time Small Group Leadership 101 (Top Ten Ideas for New Hosts)

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FOREWORD ABOUT THE BY

AUTHOR

Tim Harlow is the senior pastor of Parkview Christian Church, a multi-site church in the southwest suburbs of Chicago with an average weekend attendance of 8,000. (In 2013, they needed 14 services to accommodate the more than 20,000 people who celebrated Christmas at Parkview!) According to Outreach Magazine, Parkview was the 76th largest church in America in 2013, and has been on the â&#x20AC;&#x153;fastest growing churchesâ&#x20AC;? list seven of the last 10 years. Tim and his family moved to Chicago in 1990, when Parkview was a church of 150 people in a heavily unchurched area. Now the church is an indispensable part of the community, made up of former gang leaders and business owners, ex-strippers and soccer moms alike, all excited about Jesus P | 6

and doing ministry in the greater Chicago area and around the world. One of Tim’s very favorite stats is the 5,500+ people who have been baptized at Parkview during his watch. Tim graduated from Ozark Christian College with a degree in Biblical literature. He received a Masters in Religion from Wayland Baptist University in Texas and a Doctorate in Ministry from Northwest Graduate School in Seattle. Tim also lists among his favorite personal achievements being kicked out of Willie Robertson’s office for having a girly beard, the time that Dave Ramsey hailed him as the second most brilliant financial mind of all time (he may have been coerced), and spending Father’s Day eating steak in his backyard with Brian ‘Head’ Welch from Korn. In 1984, Tim somehow convinced a hot young Ozark chick to be his wife, and Denise has been his partner in life and ministry ever since, serving as Parkview’s Worship Director for the past 20 years. They have three daughters, two sons-in-law, and a grandchild on the way: Rachel (Ash), Lauren (Tommy), and Becca (don’t even think about it)!

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FOREWORD BY

RICK WARREN

Only a generous person could write an effective study on generosity. I have known Dale Oquist for nearly 30 years as a husband, father, pastor, ministry comrade, and friend. In every aspect of his life, Dale has shown himself to be passionate, committed, truly generous, and yes, a little crazy. I can think of no one more qualified to teach on â&#x20AC;&#x153;Crazy Generosity.â&#x20AC;? We all have the power to bring change and life to others. It happens every day, all around us. Whether you are sharing with a neighbor, taking a pay cut to help a fellow employee, reaching out to people in need, agreeing to be an organ donor, or just giving an encouraging word, you are being generous. Imagine a world where generosity was the rule, rather than the exception. A world where we give freely without expecting anything in return.

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The spiritual norms of Christian life include prayer, worship, and faith, but for many Christians, generosity is optional. Others are simply unwilling to sacrifice their own comfort for the benefit of others. This study will consider generosity from a Biblical perspective, and elevate it from optional to holy and sacred, where it belongs. Generosity is at the core of the character of God. It was based upon His virtue of giving good things freely and liberally, that God sent Jesus to redeem and rescue us (John 3:16). We cannot have a meaningful relationship with God without addressing the issue of generosity. I know what you are thinking, but this study is about so much more than money. All of our resources, whether they be time, talents, treasures, or trust, are gifts from God, and we need to honor God in the way we utilize them. When God changes your heart from self-centeredness to generosity, you begin to know freedom and transformation in every part of your life. This book will start you on the path to Crazy Generosity. A more generous world is a better world.

Rick Warren Pastor Saddleback Church

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ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

DEDICATION To Denise, my partner in love and mission for 30 years. In my head and my theology, I don’t believe God picks the perfect “one” for us to marry. But my heart tells me that either my theology is wrong – or I just got really lucky. I can’t imagine life or mission without you. ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS I’m so thankful for the people who helped make this book a reality. The big step was at some restaurant in Rwanda when Rick Warren said he wanted to get behind it. I’ll admit I didn’t even have to pray about that oneJ. To his son Josh and the team at Pastors.com, Nadim, Kyle, ??? - this is our project, and I’m so grateful to be in partnership with you. To John, thank you for your brilliant crafting. Tom, Dave, Cody and the team at Saddleback. To my daughter Rachel, my editor and re-write specialist. I would have had a nervous breakdown without you. Thank you for helping me, and for making me a grandchild. To my family, I love you all. Thank you Ash for your help on the website (www.lifeonmission.com) and your support. Lauren and Tommy for the edits and the love and the support. I’m so proud of your ministry. Becca – you are the example of this book in every way. My family lives this mission with me. P | 10

To my Parents, Dan and Faye who lived this mission first and let it be born in me. To my inlaws Don and Carol who did it for my wife and are my biggest encouragers. To my sister Dana and Jay – I love the way you live this. There is a staff full of people that work with me at Parkview that I can’t live without. Especially my right arm, Bill and my left arm Jenny. chaz casey karyn seth ricci leslie – thank you for your support and work on this project. To a group of elders who have always supported me and let me make plenty of blunders leading a church on mission – but never without their wisdom and incredible guidance. To the Lifetogether Team – Brett and Allen – this whole thing was really your idea. Thank you for making something from nothing. I have a band of brothers who keep me together. They are my accountability partners and life partners in every way. Ben Cachiaras, Greg Nettle, Eddie Lowen – we will walk this journey together. And my brother in laws – Jack and Doug – I’m so lucky to have you with me on this journey. So many others; Rick, Dave, Cal, Mike, preacher friends who keep me in this. Mentors – not just my dad and father in law – but Uncle Roy Wheeler, Ben Merold, Don Wilson, Bob Russell, Alan Algrim, Dick Alexander, and others that don’t want to claim meJ Parkview – my petrie dish for mission. Thank you for following a very inadequate shepherd and hardly complaining when I go after the lost sheep.

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FOREWORD BY

ENDORSEMENTS This book is where ministry meets real life. Tim’s writing is funny, sincere, and passionate as he teaches how to put the gospel on display and into words - no theology degree required. Ready or not, “qualified” or not, God’s inviting you to be used in a huge way… I really hope you’ll pick up this book and say yes. BRIAN “HEAD” WELCH, KORN

The mission given to the church is both the most important and the most worldchanging imperative in human history. LIFE ON MISSION helps to make it real and compelling for our day, in our world. JOHN ORTBERG | Senior Pastor Menlo Park Presbyterian Church Menlo Park, CA

Tim Harlow is deeply passionate about helping people find Christ. Discover how to connect with others, live a life of selfless service, and develop intentional relationships that will have an eternal impact as you live Life on Mission. CRAIG GROESCHEL | Senior Pastor LifeChurch.tv Author of Fight, Winning the Battles that Matter Most

If I had a friend living apart from God, who needed to meet Jesus through his Church, who was willing to give a church only one shot – I would want him to encounter Tim Harlow and Parkview. Tim loves the mission and loves the people it’s meant for. EDDIE LOWEN | Author and Pastor Westside Christian Church Springfield, IL

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Tim has captured succinctly and clearly the principles of living on mission that he has lived personally, his family has practiced, and the church he serves makes happen. Those principles are the very same that each of us are invited/called to live, regardless of our vocation or location. You will be challenged, encouraged, and stretched as you read Life on Mission! RICK RUSAW | Pastor LifeBridge Christian Church Longmont, CO

Tim Harlow helps us keep “the main thing, the main thing” in his powerful book and resource, Life on Mission. With crystal clarity Tim shows how we can discover God’s mission for our life and live it out. If every follower of Jesus read this incredible book and embraced its message, our world would be profoundly impacted for God and for good. JUD WILHITE | Senior Pastor Central Christian Church and Author of The God of Yes

Being a follower of Jesus implies movement. You can’t stay where you are and follow Jesus at the same time. Life on Mission will do more than inform you, teach you and encourage you; it will move you. I don’t know about you, but that’s what I need. We all too easily end up living life on accident, or life on cruise-control, but Jesus is inviting us to live life on mission and be a part of turning this world upside down. KYLE IDLEMAN | Pastor Southeast Christian Church Louisville, KY We have a mission that really matters -- for now and for eternity. Let my friend Tim encourage and equip you for the adventure of sharing Jesus with others. His book is an outstanding guide to a life of meaning and fulfillment. LEE STROBEL | Best Selling Author The Case for Christ and The Case for Faith

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FOREWORD BY

ENDORSEMENTS The reason Life on Mission is such an important book is simply because it is a reflection of Tim Harlow’s own “life on mission.” Tim models life on mission, has led an amazing church to live life on mission and now, with this book, leads us all to live life on mission. GREG NETTLE | President Stadia Global Church Planting

In a time when people are running from the church, Tim Harlow is running to it with a message every Christian needs to hear and put into practice- - STOP shopping and START serving! Consumerism has a stranglehold on the American Church. Life on Mission challenges the followers of Jesus to walk away from the spiritual shopping carts they’re steering in exchange for a basin of water and a towel. It’s a book that shifts our vision from what we want to what the world needs. JON WEECE Southland Christian Church, KY

Finally, a book that steps through what it truly means to be a follower of Christ and helps you flesh that out on a daily basis. Tim’s paradoxical style always hits its target. His humorous writing will help you become more serious about living a Life on Mission. DAVE STONE | Pastor Southeast Christian Church, Louisville, KY

Too often over time the church drifts from its original purpose. In this book, Tim challenges us to return to the basic foundational principles that are essential to re-mission our church. This is a must read from a pastor who has grown his church consistently year after year by keeping it on mission. DON WILSON | Senior Pastor Christ’s Church of the Valley Peoria, AZ

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If you have ever felt like your Christian life lacks passion or focus, you need to read this book! If you instinctively recognize that the church today is in trouble, but want to do more than give up, get angry, or wring your hands about it, this book is for you. If you want to live closer to the heart and actions of Jesus, you will love the practical, urgent (and funny!) guidance Tim Harlow provides. If you are part of the growing number of Christ-followers who are hungry for more than business as usual when it comes to how we live and what Church looks like, Life on Mission is an answer, a guide-book, and a gift. BEN CACHIARAS Mountain Christian Church, Joppa, MD “I believe this book will be transformational, because Tim Harlow is a transformational pastor who leads a transformational church. Tim issues a personal call to break out of safe-Christianity and truly live a life that marks others.” GENE APPEL | Senior Pastor Eastside Christian Church Anaheim, CA

“Tim Harlow is a leader who knows how to identify a mission and then accomplish it! In his book, Life On Mission, Tim gives you the practical tools needed so that you can fulfill the mission God has for you by connecting, serving, sharing, growing and praying. God has a purpose for your life and Life On Mission will make sure you get it done!” DAVE FERGUSON | Lead Pastor Community Christian Church

“Life on Mission couldn’t have come at a better time! America has become the ultimate mission field and now she needs missionaries willing to accept the challenge to reach out and point people to the Savior of the world and Redeemer of broken lives. Tim Harlow’s book lays out a clear plan of action for all of us who are willing to engage in changing our culture and helping lead people to an eternal future with God. I have accepted my mission and encourage you to read this book and do the same!” ALAN ROBERTSON | Duck Commander

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FOREWORD BY BY INTRODUCTION

TIM HARLOW

GREETINGS! WELCOME TO LIFE ON MISSION! When I look back at the months it has taken to put this study together, I’m grateful to be surrounded by such a great team of people who have spoken into these lessons. They have shared their lives and their passions, and I can hardly wait to see how God is going to use all this to bring more people into the kingdom! I’ve said repeatedly that our backyard is now the largest and most diverse mission field in the world. It’s almost as if God said, “Well, if My people are going to slack off from going to the world, I’m going to bring the world to them!” I can almost bet your neighborhood is multi-cultural. The people on your street may speak different languages and live different lives than you do, but they are exactly the people Jesus had in mind when He said, “Go and make disciples of all nations” (Matthew 28:19). P | 16

Now we know that “all nations” means the world – to the very ends of the earth. But I think we’ve forgotten that it also means the house next door, the end of the block, and around the corner. It’s time, brothers and sisters, to refocus our lives and redefine what it means to live a life on mission. We haven’t been given a new mission. We’ve been given a chance to re-engage with the longing of God’s heart – to transform lives by bringing heaven to earth today, and earth to heaven for eternity. Take this opportunity to meet with other Christians and to encourage one another to lovingly reach out, in word and in deed, to the people around you. Ask God to help you discover what He has planned for you: a Life on Mission. Glad we’re doing this together! Tim Harlow

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CONTRIBUTORS A special word of thanks to our guest teachers and those who shared their living testimonies with us in these sessions. All of you brought truth to life.

GUEST PASTOR-TEACHERS Alan Ahlgrim

Cal Jenigen

Gene Appel

Brian Jobe

Mike Baker

Mindy Caliguire

Chuck Booher

Pete Kunkle

Ben Cachiaras

Tim Liston

Bo Chancey

Greg Marksberry

Randy Cordell

Shan Moyers

Jason Cullum

Jim Putnam

Glen Elliott

Rick Rusaw

Reggie Epps

John Scott

Jeff Faull

Rick Stedman

Bill Geiger

Lee Strobel

Robin Hart

Dave Stone

Alan Hirsch

Jim Tune

Cam Huxford

Jeff Vines

Ken Idleman

Jud Wilhite

Kyle Idleman

Don Wilson

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USING THIS

WORKBOOK (STUFF TO HELP YOU HAVE A GREAT SMALL GROUP EXPERIENCE!) 1. Notice in the Table of Contents there are three sections: (1) Sessions; (2) Appendices; and (3) Small Group Leaders. Familiarize yourself with the Appendices resources. Some of them will be used in the sessions themselves. 2. If you are facilitating, leading or co-leading a small group, the Small Group Leaders section beginning on page 16 will give you some hard-learned experiences of others that will encourage you and help you avoid many common obstacles to effective small group leadership. 3. Use this workbook as a guide, not a straightjacket. If the group responds to the lesson in an unexpected but honest way, go with that. If you think of a better question than the next one in the lesson, ask it. Take to heart the insights included in the Frequently Asked Questions pages in the Small Group Leaders section. 4. Read the Outline for Each Session on page # so you understand how the sessions will flow. 5. Finally, enjoy your small group experience!

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OUTLINE OF

EACH SESSION Each session of this Life on Mission study provides a healthy balance that includes teaching, evangelism, ministry, practical exercises, and worship. As you apply truths from each section in your discussion every week, it will be exciting to see how God works in the lives of your group members and their families.

A TYPICAL GROUP SESSION FOR LIFE ON MISSION INCLUDES: WEEKLY MEMORY VERSES. For each session, we have provided a Memory Verse that emphasizes an important truth from the session. This is an optional exercise, but we strongly encourage you to give this habit a try because one of the best things we can do is to regularly fill our minds with Godâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Word.

HANGING OUT. Developing relationships with a few people who really know you and have earned your trust can help you to live the life Jesus wants you to live. The HANGING OUT section typically offers two options: getting to know your whole group by using the icebreaker question(s), or checking in with one or two group members your accountability partner(s) - for deeper connection and encouragement in your life as a Christ-follower. As your group gets started, use the Small Group Agreement (page #) and the Small Group Calendar (page #) to establish some guidelines and to show how everyone has a role to play in the life of the small group. As the group develops closer relationships, use the Accountability Partners Check-In Page (page#) and the Prayer and Praise Report (page #) to keep everyone connected.

WATCH AND LEARN / DVD TEACHING SEGMENT.

Every session combines video teaching segments from Pastor Tim Harlow, along with leadership insights and many inspiring, personal stories of men and women demonstrating real life-change.

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FIGURING IT OUT.

As a follow-up to the video teaching, this section includes questions designed to encourage discussion and to help you get the most out of what the leaders and speakers shared from their experiences, as well as from God’s Word. The focus is not on accumulating information, but rather on applying insights practically and creatively - in the heart as well as the head. (NOTE: Questions in this section with a * indicate the best ones to use if time is short.)

FOR DEEPER STUDY.

If you have time and want to dig deeper, we’ve provided additional Bible passages and questions. This section is useful for homework, additional group discussion, and personal study.

HELPING OTHERS. The personal connection in Life on Mission comes as we realize that we have been uniquely equipped by God to change the world! It may take time to discover how we can participate best, but one of life’s great joys and challenges is finding our calling and knowing how God designed us to help others, and to allow them to help us! LIVING IT EVERY DAY.

Nothing that we learn in this study will mean a thing if we don’t allow it transform our everyday lives. In James 1:22, we are told to be, “doers of the Word, not just hearers.” As His disciples, Jesus wants us to help people connect with Him in a close and personal way, and to live life according to God’s Word. This section provides practical ways that we can reach out to those around us, and to go beyond Bible study to biblical living.

GIVING IT ALL TO GOD.

Jesus wrapped up all the law of the Old Testament into two “bottom line” commandments. He said, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” and “Love your neighbor as yourself.” (Mark 12:30–31 niv). Each group session will close with time for a personal response to God and a group prayer, seeking to keep these crucial commandments before us at all times. (This is a good place to have different group members close in prayer. If the schedule allows, you can also provide some time for people to reflect on their Prayer and Praise Report or take a little time to meet with an accountability partner.)

REFLECTIONS. With each session, we provide daily Scriptures to reflect on between group meetings. We suggest you use these Reflection pages to seek God on your own throughout the week. This time at home should begin and end with prayer. Don’t hurry; take enough time to hear God’s direction. P | 21

SESSION ONE MEMORY VERSE: “But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth. (Acts 1:8)

OVERVIEW

hat does it mean to be a witness? In a courtroom, witnesses are called to tell their stories - to testify about what they have seen or experienced. Why? Just because they have interesting stories? No. It’s because their stories impact others, and have the potential to change the destiny of many. Jesus calls us as His followers to be witnesses - to tell

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our stories. We don’t have to be experts in theology or know all the answers about the Bible. We do have to be willing to tell people why we believe, and how we have been changed by the hope that is in us. Really, that’s what it means to live life on mission. To see opportunities right in front of us: opportunities to tell our stories in a way that will change someone’s destiny. Welcome to this first session of Life on Mission.

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE A WITNESS THAT’S WHAT THIS FIRST SESSION IS ABOUT.

SHARE YOUR STORY

ach of us has a story. The events of our life—good, bad, challenging or wonderful—have shaped who we are. God knows your story, and He intends to redeem it—to use every struggle and every joy to ultimately bring you to Himself. When we tell our stories, sharing them with others, we give others the opportunity to see God at work. When we share our

stories, we realize we are not alone—that we have common experiences and thoughts, and others can understand what we are going through. Your story can encourage someone else, and telling it can be a path to freedom for you, and for those you share it with.

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HANGING OUT As explained in the Outline for Each Session on pages ##, each part of our time together is designed to foster a growing sense of community. The willingness to let others get to know us better doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t come easily for many, but it is well worth the effort as we reap the benefits of God transforming us and connecting us to His family.

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s you begin at this first meeting, take time to pass around a copy of the Small Group Roster on page 100, a sheet of paper, or one of you pass your Study Guide, opened to the Small Group Roster. Have everyone write down their contact information. Ask someone to make copies or type up a list with everyone’s information and email it to the group this week.

BEGIN YOUR TIME TOGETHER 1). Now, let’s get a sense of the “experience geography” of our group. Where have you lived (or spent a significant amount of time) that is furthest from where you live right now? 2). Whether your group is new or ongoing, it’s always important to review the Small Group Agreement on pages ## that outlines the values we’ve found most useful in sustaining healthy, balanced groups. We recommend that you choose one or two values to emphasize during this study. 3). Rotating leaders is one of the group values we highly recommend for your group. People need opportunities to experiment with ways in which God may have gifted them. Your group will give you all the encouragement you need before, during, and after the session. 4). We also suggest that you rotate host homes, with the host of each meeting providing the refreshments. Some groups like to let the host lead the meeting each week, while others like to have one person host while another person leads. This helps to develop everyone’s ability to shepherd a few people in a safe environment. Jesus modeled this for us by giving others the opportunity to serve alongside Him (Mark 6:30–44). Look at the FAQs on pages ## in the Appendix for additional information about hosting or leading the group. 5). The Small Group Calendar on pages ## is a tool for planning who will host and lead each meeting. Take a few minutes to plan hosts and leaders for your remaining sessions. Don’t pass this up! It will revolutionize your group.

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KEY INSTRUCTIONS Whether your group is new or ongoing, it’s always important to reflect on and review your values together. On pages 96-98 is a Small Group Agreement with the values we’ve found most useful in sustaining healthy, balanced groups. We recommend you choose one or two values—ones you haven’t previously focused on or have room to grow in—to emphasize during this study. Choose ones that will take your group to the next stage of intimacy and spiritual health. If your group is new, welcome newcomers. Introduce everyone— you may even want to have name

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tags for your first meeting. We recommend you rotate host homes on a regular basis and let the hosts lead the meeting. We’ve come to realize healthy groups rotate leadership. This helps to develop every member’s ability to shepherd a few people in a safe environment. Even Jesus gave others the opportunity to serve alongside Him (Mark 6:30–44). Look at the FAQs in the Appendix for additional information about hosting and leading the group.

The Small Group Calendar on page 99 is a tool for planning who will host and lead each meeting. Take a few minutes to plan hosts and leaders for your remaining meetings. Don’t pass this up! It will revolutionize your group.

WATCH AND LEARN Watch the DVD teaching for this session, using the Teaching Notes section to record key thoughts, questions, and statements you want to remember or look into further. After watching the video, have someone read the discussion questions in the Figuring it Out section and direct the discussion. As you go through each of the subsequent sections, ask someone else to read the questions and direct the discussion.

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FOREWORD STUDY NOTESBY

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FIGURING IT OUT If time is short, the questions marked with an * should be given priority.

od has given you a mission - to be His witness right where you are, in your “Jerusalem” (i.e., your physical location and area of influence). Just like a witness in a courtroom, your story has impact, and could even mean the difference between life and death for someone who is far from God.

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Living life on mission means that the mission field is not “over there” somewhere, but right where you live. People who really matter to God are all around you, and God has given you the incredible assignment of inviting them to come home.

FIGURING IT OUT *What comments from the DVD teaching impacted you the most?

Think about your life. Where has God given you influence? Maybe in your school, neighborhood, or workplace? In other words, where are you already connected with other people?

How often do you spend time with people who aren’t Christians? When you find yourself in social situations with people who don’t know Jesus, do you feel: a) comfortable and friendly; b) somewhat uncomfortable; c) anxious; or d) I am rarely in social situations with non-Christians.

Think about people you know who don’t follow Jesus. How would you describe them? When you think about building a friendship with them, what’s your gut reaction?

*Let’s talk for a few minutes about the two “greats” in the New Testament. The Great Commission is found in Matthew 28:19-20. “Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” The Great Commandment is found in Mark 12:29-30. “The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” How do these two “greats” encompass what Cal Jernigen called “the main thing” for Christians? P | 33

Lee Strobel shared Jesus’ metaphors about being salt and light, and said that Jesus was telling us, “to live lives that are salty, that make people thirst for God.” How can the way you live your life make people thirst for God?

*Rick Rusaw told a story about jigsaw puzzles, and how God’s picture is incomplete without our piece of the puzzle. God has planned some things for you to do. What do you think they are? (See Ephesians 2:8–10.)

Why do you think, as Cal Jernigan pointed out, that we are prone to consider certain people beyond the possibility of faith? When have you been on the giving or receiving end of an “impossible conversation” that God used for His glory?

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FIGURING IT OUT In his teaching, Tim noted that there are two things you can’t do in heaven; you can’t sin, and you can’t tell people about Jesus. Which most accurately describes your view on sharing your faith: a) It makes me so nervous I go out of my way to avoid it; b) I’ll answer questions if someone asks but I don’t bring it up; c) I feel guilty that I don’t do it more often, so occasionally I’ll try; or d) I evangelize regularly and start conversations about God with strangers all the time.

*What barriers get in the way of seeing yourself as being on a daily mission from God in this world?

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GIVING IT ALL TO GOD Serving and helping others will help us grow closer to God and more like Christ. Growth also comes when we realize we need others, too. It may be hard to admit we need help, prayer, guidance, and encouragement, but the body of Christ is designed not only to be a place where we can invest our lives for God’s purposes, it’s also a place where God can meet our deepest needs through one another.

ALLOW EVERYONE TO ANSWER THIS QUESTION: “How can we pray for you this week?” Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page ##. WHAT KIND OF WORSHIP FITS YOUR GROUP? SPEND A FEW MINUTES WORSHIPING GOD TOGETHER. HERE ARE TWO IDEAS: Have someone use their musical gifts to lead the group in a worship song. Try singing a cappella, with a worship CD, or have someone accompany your singing with a musical instrument. READ A PASSAGE OF SCRIPTURE TOGETHER, making it a time of praise and worship as the words remind you of all God has done for you. Choose a Psalm or other favorite verse. *EVERY BELIEVER SHOULD HAVE A PLAN FOR SPENDING TIME ALONE WITH GOD. AT THE END OF EACH SESSION, WE PROVIDE REFLECTIONs for you to use in your daily time with Him. There are five daily Scripture readings with space to record your thoughts. On the sixth day, there is space to record your summary of the five reflections. These will offer reinforcement of the principles we are learning, and develop or strengthen your habit of time alone with God throughout the week.

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If you feel God nudging you to go deeper, take some time between now and our next meeting to dig into His word. Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme on your own, jotting your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. A great way to gain insight on a passage is to read it in several different translations. You may want to use a Bible app or website to compare translations.

FOR DEEPER STUDY READ LUKE 15:11–32.

The parable of the prodigal son may be the best known of Jesus’ stories. It’s actually the story of three people: father, son, and older brother. Each of us might identify with any of those characters in His lesson. Each person in the story also represents a mission - a way of living with a certain purpose in mind. The main lesson, of course, is that at some point, each of us plays the role of the prodigal child who needs to come home. The underlying challenge in the parable is the question; how long does it take to develop the father’s heart?

1.) Verse 11 says, “Jesus continued.” He’s already told the parables of the lost coin and the lost sheep. How does the shift from coin to sheep to son make these three stories work together? 2.) In each of these three parables, something is lost, and then found. What conclusions can we draw about people who are “lost” and how God feels about them? 3). How does this story change the way you see people who are rebelling or wandering away from God? 4). If you met the prodigal son today - a promiscuous young man who was squandering his inheritance on partying - what would you think of him? How is this different from how the father sees him? 5). In what ways do we sometimes act like the older brother in this story? In what ways could we call him a prodigal/wanderer, too? P | 37

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STUDY NOTES Christians today are not suffering from a lack of teaching or input. We can pull out our smart phones and listen to sermons, read Bibles and commentaries, or access thousands of opinions about the spiritual life. We don’t lack resources; we lack the willingness to apply what we have learned. Life on Mission is not new teaching or a never-before-heard insight into the reality of God’s claim and call over each of our lives. Rather, it’s the invitation to actually do what God calls us to do. It’s the insistence that we can put our faith into action. The Lord said, “Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them” (John 13:17). And James wrote, “Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says” (James 1:22). This is not to say we shouldn’t be intentional in our study and interaction during these sessions it just means that we will see God’s richest blessings in our lives only to the extent that we apply both the familiar and less familiar lessons we encounter together in the weeks to come.

REFLECTIONS

Each day, read the daily verses and give prayerful consideration to what you learn about God, His Spirit, and His place in your life. Then record your thoughts, insights, or prayers in the Reflect section below the verses. On the sixth day, record a summary of what you have learned over the entire week through this study.

DAY 1: “Don’t you have a saying, ‘It’s still four months until harvest’? I tell you, open your eyes and look at the fields! They are ripe for harvest.” (John 4:35) REFLECT: What “fields” are around you? What keeps you from seeing “the harvest” (the people who need to know Jesus)?

DAY 2: “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” (Luke 15:10)

REFLECT: How does it make you feel to realize that God and His angels have rejoiced over you? How will living life on mission lead to rejoicing?

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DAY 3: ”So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness.” (Colossians 2:6-7)

REFLECT: What practices or habits will help you to stay “rooted and built up in Him”? What is one thing in your life that would change if you were continually “overflowing with thankfulness”?

DAY 4: ”But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8)

REFLECT: How has God demonstrated to you that you are dear to Him?

DAY 5: ”But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.” (Acts 1:8)

REFLECT: In this verse, Jesus restates His commission to His disciples. To what degree would you say this is a description of your life? What needs to change?

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DAY 6: Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Reflections time this week.

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Summary

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SESSION TWO MEMORY VERSE: “While Jesus was having dinner at Matthew’s house, many tax collectors and sinners came and ate with him and his disciples. When the Pharisees saw this, they asked his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?” On hearing this, Jesus said, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’ For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.” (Matthew 9:10-13)

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t may seem obvious, but if we never connect and spend time with people who are far from God, it’s going to be impossible to introduce them to Jesus. Jesus set an example for us by hanging around with people who needed Him – people who were infected with sin and needed to be healed, not just physically but spiritually.

Jesus often did this around a meal, but also as He walked around throughout His day. He didn’t wait for them to come to Him - He went to them. He was always connecting with people, engaging them in conversation. More often than not, He didn’t preach at them but asked them questions. He even answered their questions with more questions!

Many of us tend to keep our social and relational circles limited to people who act and believe just as we do. Or we think that connecting with unbelievers means preaching at them, not just hanging out with them. Jesus calls His followers not only to believe in Him, but to live like Him. That often begins with choosing to connect with people who are far from God.

SHARE YOUR STORY As we said last week, WHEN WE TELL OUR STORIES, sharing them with others, we give others the opportunity to see God at work. YOUR STORY IS BEING SHAPED, even in this moment, by being a part of this group. In fact, few things can shape us more than community. WHEN WE SHARE OUR STORIES, we can encourage someone else, and learn. We can experience the presence of God as He helps us be brave enough to reveal our thoughts and feelings.

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HANGING OUT Open your group with prayer. Be willing to be real and honest. Remind the group to respect confidentiality; commit to keeping prayer requests and current needs within the group.

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SHARE YOUR STORY

By using the following questions and activities to get people talking.

Telling our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members. Start with the following questions to get warmed up - not everyone has to answer both questions. What barriers get in the way of Christians connecting with unbelievers?

Tell about a time when you were welcomed to a gathering or a meal as an â&#x20AC;&#x153;outsider.â&#x20AC;? What happened?

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Gene Appel, Senior Pastor Eastside Christian Church - Anaheim, CA

hristianity and truly s others.â&#x20AC;?

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FOREWORD STUDY NOTESBY

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STUDY QUESTIONS If time is short, the questions marked with an * should be given priority. God is at work in us long before we have any idea of His plans. So our stories, like the ones we’ve just heard, are filled with detours, mistakes, resistance, and hard lessons. God works in all of it to conform us to the image of His Son.

What was your most intense take-away from the stories and teaching we just heard about the importance of hanging out with people who are not followers of Jesus?

*What are some of your non-church activities (such as sports, work, volunteering at your child’s school, etc.) where you could connect with people who aren’t Christians? Since you’re already in those places, what can you do to initiate relationships with others?

What reward do the servants receive who invest successfully?

Unbelievers don’t just hear our words; they watch the way we live. Is there any behavior in your life that doesn’t align with the faith you profess? (This doesn’t have to be some glaring moral flaw. Do you drive in a way that honors Jesus? Do you gossip or put others down? Do your actions and attitudes show love and respect to all? Would some of your friends at work be surprised to find out you’re a Christian?)

What happens to the third servant? Why do you suppose the master is so harsh with him?

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FIGURING IT OUT *Are there places where you regularly hang out with unbelievers? What other places where you live could you consider visiting? Or, as Jim Tune put it, “What’s your Starbucks?”

*Gene Appel talked about the importance of good questions. These are not “pickup lines” or interrogations. They are not yes/no questions. In your own life, what kinds of questions draw you into conversation?

What was a take-away from Cam Huxford’s story about the group of women who deliver cookies to the local strip club? How close have you ever come to that kind of “outrageous” behavior for Jesus?

What barriers get in the way of you inviting your neighbors into your home for a simple meal and conversation?

How did the testimonies of the people on the receiving end of hospitality (such as the three waitresses, Kylie, Lucy, and Nicki) affect you?

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IN THIS SECTION, TALK ABOUT HOW YOU WILL APPLY THE WISDOM YOU’VE LEARNED FROM THE TEACHING AND BIBLE STUDY. THEN THINK ABOUT PRACTICAL STEPS YOU CAN TAKE IN THE COMING WEEK TO LIVE OUT WHAT YOU’VE LEARNED.

LIVING IT EVERY DAY A goal of “connecting with unbelievers” is a great place to start, but it won’t get us very far if we aren’t making plans to connect with specific people who need to know Jesus. Writing down names and praying specifically for these people will help us to reach out to them so they can experience God’s love through our friendship.

Take a look at the Circles of Life diagram below and write the names of two or three people you know who need to meet Jesus. Commit to praying for God’s guidance and an opportunity to share with each of them.

Family (immediate or extended)

Familiar

Friends

(neighbors, kids’ sports teams, school, and so forth)

Fun (gym, hobbies, hangouts)

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Firm (work)

Connecting with unbelievers can seem challenging and intimidating. It’s helpful to have other believers who can support our connection efforts by praying for us, holding us accountable, and maybe even going alongside of us when we reach out to those far from God. Praying together as we step outside our comfort zone is a great place to start, so that’s what we’re going to do right now.

HELPING OTHERS COMMIT TO PERSONAL PRAYER AND DAILY CONNECTION WITH GOD. YOU MAY FIND IT HELPFUL TO WRITE YOUR PRAYERS IN A JOURNAL.

PAIR UP WITH SOMEONE IN YOUR GROUP. (We suggest that men partner with men and women with women.) This person will be your accountability partner for the rest of this study. He or she doesn’t have to be your best friend, but will simply encourage you to complete the goals you set for yourself during this study. Following through on a resolution is tough when you’re on your own, but we’ve found it makes all the difference to have a partner cheering us on. As you go through this study, sharing your progress with your accountability partner means you don’t have to do it alone, but together with a friend. SHARE YOUR ANSWERS TO THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS: 1). WHY DID YOU DECIDE TO JOIN THIS STUDY? 2). WHAT’S ONE THING YOU WOULD LIKE YOUR PARTNER TO PRAY ABOUT? Tell the rest of the group one positive observation that you appreciate about your partner.

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GIVING IT ALL TO GOD

IT’S BEEN SAID THAT YOU CAN’T GIVE AWAY WHAT YOU DON’T HAVE. If you aren’t nurturing and building a relationship with God, then it’s nearly impossible to invite others into that relationship, no matter how creative you get about connecting with them. The best way to equip yourself to connect and share your faith is to stay connected to Jesus. How will you do that in the coming week? Take a few minutes to talk about how you can make it a priority to spend time with God every day. Don’t demand an hour or even a half-hour of time. You can start out by drawing near to God for a few minutes each day and gradually you will desire more. Use the Reflections at the end of each session for drawing near to God.

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If you feel God nudging you to go deeper, take some time between now and our next meeting to dig into His Word. Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme on your own, jotting your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. A great way to gain insight on a passage is to read it in several different translations. You may want to use a Bible app or website to compare translations.

FOR DEEPER STUDY READ MATTHEW 9:1–13. This is the memory passage for this session, with added verses that provide the context (the healing of a paralyzed man and Matthew’s own call to follow Jesus). While many of us first met Jesus in a religious setting, sooner or later we have to learn that Jesus is Lord over all of life. If He’s only the Master when we’re in church or with other religious people, then He’s not really the Master. This passage invites us to think about how we have followed Jesus and what we have done to bring others along. 1). If Matthew was one of the eyewitnesses of Jesus’ miracle with the paralyzed man, how do you think it set him up for the invitation to follow? 2). Matthew invited all his friends over for a life-changing party. Who showed up and what did they experience? 3). Why do you think Jesus was so “at home” with these sinners? 4). What was Jesus expecting us to do in response to His words that night: “But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’ For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners” (Matthew 9:13). 5). What is one way you have “gone and learned”?

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STUDY NOTES AS WE READ MATTHEW 9, it’s interesting to note that Matthew invited friends who were far from God to come and have dinner with Jesus. In the ancient Middle East, sharing a meal was particularly significant. It showed acceptance and friendship on a deeper level than a shared meal in our culture does today. Jesus fellowshipped with “sinners” before they ever thought about repentance or lifestyle change. It’s likely that many of them ended up believing in Him, but His acceptance of them wasn’t contingent upon that. He loves sinners unconditionally, and asks us to do the same.

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REFLECTIONS Each day, read the daily verses and give prayerful consideration to what you learn about God, His Spirit, and His place in your life. Then record your thoughts, insights, or prayers in the Reflect section below each verse. On the sixth day, record a summary of what you have learned over the entire week through this study.

DAY 1: ” Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality. Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.” (Romans 12:13-16)

REFLECT: How much of this passage would you say reflects your lifestyle? What does this list have to do with connecting with others?

DAY 2: ”But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’ For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.” (Matthew 9:13)

REFLECT: What have you done since the small group session to “go and learn” what Jesus said?

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DAY 3: ”Keep on loving one another as brothers and sisters. Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it.” (Hebrews 13:1-2) REFLECT: What are some ways you can “show hospitality to strangers”?

DAY 4: ”For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost.” (Luke 19:10)

REFLECT: We often talk about people being spiritual “seekers,” but who does this verse say is doing the seeking? What does that imply for us as His followers (those who want to live as He did)?

DAY 5: ”Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” (Matthew 5:15-16)

REFLECT: What does it mean to let your light shine? What is one way you can do that? How would it help you connect with others?

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DAY 6: Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Reflections time this week. the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things

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SUMMARY

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SESSION THREE MEMORY VERSE: “The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’” (Matthew 25:40)

SERVE

esus told us to love God and love others. Love, however, is often misunderstood. (We “love” chocolate, for instance!) To simply say that we love, or even have warm feelings toward someone, is not enough. Loving others means taking action and serving them.

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In fact, Jesus told us that when we serve others in practical ways – feeding them, clothing them, sheltering them, visiting them - that is how we show our love for Him. God sees our service toward others as love toward Him.

WE SERVE OTHERS IN PRACTICAL WAY - THAT IS HOW WE SHOW OUR LOVE FOR HIM.

Beyond that, our service to others may introduce them to the love of God. When we serve them, we break down walls in ways that words simply cannot. Rather than trying to convince someone to believe in God, or trying to “prove” that the Bible is true, we should begin with the simple and loving act of service. This builds trust with people who may have reservations about religion.

ervice is a way of showing people that we genuinely care for them. They are not “projects” to us - people we’re merely trying to convert. Rather, they are unique individuals who are loved by God, and one of the ways they’ll know that is if we show them His love by serving them.

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HANGING OUT Open your group with prayer. This third session ought to provide us with a reality check about the way forward. We’ve seen exciting possibilities in all that God is doing. But we also need to realize that as we continue to connect with, and serve, others, we will face opposition – both from circumstances and from spiritual attacks. When we face resistance, that’s when we need to dig deep, rely on each other, and keep spreading the Gospel and loving on people.

Share Your HEART. AS WE CONTINUE SHARING OUR HEARTS WITH ONE ANOTHER, WE WILL CONTINUE TO CULTIVATE DEEP CONNECTIONS IN OUR GROUP. CHOOSE ONE OF THE ACTIVITIES BELOW TO SHARE WITH EACH OTHER.

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When you think about the amazing power of authentic love, what examples can you cite from your life that illustrate how God has used love to transform you?

Check in with your accountability partner(s), or with another partner if yours is absent. Share something God taught you during your time in His Word this week, or read a brief section from your journal.

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FIGURING IT OUT IF TIME IS SHORT, THE QUESTIONS MARKED WITH AN * SHOULD BE GIVEN PRIORITY. When we talk about connecting with unbelievers, it is by serving them that we are able to build relationships of trust. The genuine love that we have for them as demonstrated by our service may be just the thing that opens the door and provides us the great privilege of sharing our stories and introducing them to Jesus, the hope that is within us. The Bible is full of examples and instructions regarding the kind of love God expects us to show â&#x20AC;&#x201C; the when, where, and how. Our mission is to take Him at His word, follow His example, and practice love as He has demonstrated. The good news is that we donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have to do this alone. Serving with your family, your small group, or others in your church can be a way to build community and serve at the same time. And it can be a way not just to meet needs, but to invite people into the experience of being loved like family.

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FIGURING IT OUT Most of us hate interruptions, but it is often life’s interruptions that provide us opportunities to serve others. How do you typically respond to interruptions or inconveniences?

*In our culture, we place high value on “climbing the ladder,” and on attaining wealth, power, or prestige. How do we tend to see people who don’t aspire to these things? What barriers to serving exist in a culture

What are some needs that you’ve noticed lately - opportunities where you could possibly serve others? How did you respond to those needs?

Jason Cullum challenged us to open our eyes to see the needs in our communities that we likely drive past every day. “Odds are, you have a need within a mile or two of your house.” What are some of the practical

*Randy Cordell pointed to Romans 12:1 as his theme for ministry: “Therefore I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God.” What did you take from his conviction that we need a broader definition of “worship” that includes serving others?

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STUDY QUESTIONS

If we only talk about God in theory but never demonstrate His love, we lose credibility. What are some ways that you and your family can put the Gospel on display through service?

In order to introduce people to Jesus, we have to genuinely love them to make them not just friends but family. What steps are you taking (or do you want to take) to love people in this way?

*What are some ways that youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve experienced Godâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s love and kindness through the acts of another person?

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hether we realize it or not, God has designed each of us with certain gifts and abilities that are

needed in His body, the Church. If we donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have any idea where He wants to use us, we need to make ourselves available and pay attention to the opportunities He brings

our way. Serving other Christians can be a great learning experience as we move toward serving unbelievers in the name of Jesus.

HELPING OTHERS Is there an area of service in this group or your local church that God has put on your heart? Commit to taking the first step and be willing to let God lead you to the ministry that expresses your passion. If you are not sure where you should serve, ask other members of the group to give you feedback about what they think would be a good fit. *We can often find significant opportunities to discover, practice, and improve our capacity to serve in Christâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s name in our own home. In what ways are you serving those who live with you under the same roof? How are you practicing hospitality? What are some skills and resources you know God has given to you that you can use to love and serve others?

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HELPING OTHERS Many of us have experienced days when we feel like we’re really having a positive impact on those around us as we share God’s love, while other days it feels like we’re running into a brick wall. That’s when it becomes important to remember that God works all things together for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. Reaching out to non-believers will rarely reap instant results. Ultimately, it’s not about what we do, but about how God uses what we do. Our desire ought to be to serve God and others every day - even when it doesn’t seem like we’ve got much in the way of opportunities. God has a way of using us even when we don’t know it, or when we feel unprepared to serve Him effectively.

In the previous session we asked you to write some names in the Circles of Life diagram. Who did you identify as the people in your life who need to meet Jesus? Go back to the Circles of Life diagram on page # to help you think of the various people you come in contact with on a regular basis who need to know Jesus more deeply. Consider the following ideas for action and make a plan to follow through on one of them this week. This is a wonderful time to welcome a few friends into your group. Which of the people you listed could you invite? It’s possible that you may need to help your friend overcome obstacles to coming to a place where he or she can encounter Jesus. Does your friend need a ride to the group? Help with childcare? Consider inviting a friend to attend a weekend church service with you and possibly plan to enjoy a meal together afterward. This can be a great opportunity to talk with someone about your faith in Jesus. Is there someone you wouldn’t invite to your group but who still needs a connection? Would you be willing to have lunch or coffee with that person, catch up on life, and share something you’ve learned from this study? Jesus doesn’t call all of us to lead small groups, but He does call every disciple to share His love with those *When you think of some of the gifts and abilities God has given people, what comes to mind as ways of using them to serve others? (Take turns suggesting gifts and abilities while the rest of the group comes up with various acts of service where they might be most useful.)

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GIVING IT ALL TO GOD Our small group can be a great resource for encouragement and accountability. Meeting together each week will create some Godfocused consistency in our lives. But after each session, we must also go our own way with God, and put into practice what we have learned. Knowing that we are praying for one another can make a huge difference as we seek to obey God in our daily lives.

SHARE YOUR PRAISES AND PRAYER REQUESTS WITH ONE ANOTHER. RECORD THESE ON THE PRAYER AND PRAISE REPORT ON PAGE #.THEN, SPEND TIME PRAYING FOR EACH OTHER.

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Take some time between now and our next meeting to dig into God’s Word. Explore the Bible passages related to this session’s theme on your own, jotting your reflections in a journal or in this study guide. You may even want to use a Bible website or app to look up commentary on these passages. If you like, share what you learn with the group the next time you meet.

FOR DEEPER STUDY READ JOHN 13:1-17 The final meal Jesus shared with His disciples was unforgettable. It’s mentioned in all four Gospels, and gets an extended description in John 13–17. Jesus not only taught about the significance of love in everything we do and say, but He demonstrated and highlighted the truth of His words. He definitely practiced what He preached!

1. What did Jesus say with His actions in these verses? What was the main point of His words? 2. Why do you think the opportunity to wash the disciples’ feet presented itself to Jesus? 3. How did Jesus connect the reality of our relationship with Him to the realities of our relationships with one another? 4. In what way does Peter’s response in verses 6–10 parallel how many of us respond to sacrificial service?

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REFLECTIONS Each day, read the daily verses and give prayerful consideration to what you learn about God, His Spirit, and His place in your life. Then record your thoughts, insights, or prayers in the Reflect section below the verses. On the sixth day, record a summary of what you have learned over the entire week through this study.

DAY 1: “Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” (Matthew 20:26-28)

REFLECT: Spend some time praying and asking God to show you how He wants you to live out this verse in your life. Specifically, who is He asking you to serve?

DAY 2: “The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”(Mark 12:29-31)

REFLECT: How would someone know by examining your life that this two-part commandment is the driving force in your life?

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DAY 3: ”Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God - this is your true and proper worship (Romans 12:1) REFLECT: How is serving others a way of “offering your body” to God?

DAY 4: ”Give fair judgment to the poor and the orphan; uphold the rights of the oppressed and the destitute. Rescue the poor and helpless; deliver them from the grasp of evil people” (Psalm 82:3-4). REFLECT: God calls us to not only serve those who can return the favor, but to serve people who are poor and oppressed. How often do you interact with “the oppressed and the destitute”? How is your life insulated from people in this situation?

DAY 5: ”A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” (John 13:34-35) REFLECT: As you participate in this small group, what opportunities are you finding to love and serve others?

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DAY 6: Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Reflections time this week.

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SESSION FOUR MEMORY VERSE: â&#x20AC;&#x153;But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect. (1 Peter 3:15)

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n this session, we want to talk about being ready for the inevitable “Why are you doing this?” question that will come up when we are genuinely interested in other people. Even if we are reaching out in imperfect ways, the impact of authentic love is so counter to the normal experiences of most people that they are intrigued. So they may open the door with a question. On the other hand, it may be that

people appreciate our kindness, but never ask why we do what we do. They may just assume that we’re “nice.” So at some point, God asks us to be bold, and to initiate the conversation. This can be a bit scary. We certainly don’t want to alienate people or push them away from God! And truth be told, we don’t want them to think we’re strange. But because Jesus is the way, the truth, the life and the only way to the Father, then we need to help people

know that. We can share the Gospel in a relevant way when we simply tell our own story. We don’t have to be Bible experts or have answers to all of the hard theological questions. We just need to be ready to share our own experiences, and to state clearly and simply how Jesus has changed our lives.

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HANGING OUT Open your group with prayer. Hopefully your experiences together over the last few weeks have created a deep and authentic sense of freedom in joining together to talk to God about whatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s happening in your lives. Some of it may be difficult stuff, but itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s all worthy of prayer.

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BEGIN YOUR TIME TOGETHER Telling our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members. Who explained the good news about Jesus to you? How did they do it? What was your initial response? What do you think keeps people from talking about Jesus or sharing the Gospel? Check in with your accountability partner, or with another partner if yours is absent. Answer this question: Who is one person in your life who seems to be curious about spiritual matters? Spend a little time praying for the person you mentioned.

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FIGURING IT OUT IF TIME IS SHORT, THE QUESTIONS MARKED WITH AN * SHOULD BE GIVEN PRIORITY. It’s one thing to understand and believe in the Gospel. It’s another thing altogether to be able to explain it. The good news is that you don’t have to be an expert. But you do have to prepare yourself to tell your story: what you were like before you met Jesus, how you encountered Him, and what changed as a result of putting your faith in Him. Being able to explain these simple pieces of your story in a concise, clear way will help you feel more confident about sharing when the opportunity presents itself. P | 91

READING QUESTIONS What parts of your spiritual story might be easily related to others?

*Even though Jesus gave all of His followers the “Great Commission” task of making disciples, many of us, as Alan Ahlgrim pointed out, don’t have the gift of evangelism. But we do have the “opportunity” of evangelism.

No one wants to be preached at. In fact, sometimes the most effective thing you can do is to listen to people. Tell about a time you shared your story. If you had it to do over again, what would you do differently? How

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FIGURING IT OUT *If Bill Geiger is right and we should be paying more attention to the ways God prompts us, what examples or experiences can you think of where you strongly suspect God was prompting you to speak or take some action?

Pastor Tim encouraged us to engage people by asking them what questions they have about God and faith. Have you ever asked someone that? What happened when you did?

*Each of us is automatically the expert on our own story and our own experience. But most people aren’t ready to hear the “epic” version of our story, so what do you think are the important parts of our BC story (before Christ) and our AC story (after Christ) that would help someone understand our hope?

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FOR DEEPER STUDY READ ACTS 25:23—26:32 As it is read to the group, ask someone to time how long it takes Paul to tell his story. The account of Paul’s appearance before King Agrippa provides a great example of how to give an account of God’s work in your life. You may never get the chance to speak to a president or influential leader, but you can trust God to give you a chance to tell your story to many people along the way. If He opens the door, are you willing to tell your story? 1. How much of Paul’s story was BC (before Christ) and how much AC (after Christ)? 2. In what ways did both Festus and Agrippa demonstrate possible responses to your story? 3. Why is it important, as in this case, to realize that you may not ever find out the results of telling your story? 4. As you think about Paul’s setting and his story, what other conclusions do you draw that affect your view of God’s prompting in your life?

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STUDY NOTES. THE MORE WE TELL OUR STORY, THE MORE COMFORTABLE IT WILL BECOME. OTHERS CAN HELP US REFINE THE SPECIFICS SO WE DON’T GET SIDETRACKED. WE CAN, AND SHOULD, BE READY FOR SOMEONE TO ASK QUESTIONS, BUT WE SHOULDN’T TRY TO ANSWER EVERY POTENTIAL QUESTION BEFORE IT’S ASKED.

TELLING OUR STORY Like Paul, we’re not trying to prove something in telling our story. We just want to be prepared to humbly share the joy and excitement we have found in living for Jesus, much like the story of the beggar who finds bread excitedly telling another beggar where he can find some, too. When the God of the universe chooses to love us and redeem us despite our sin, how can we keep that good news to ourselves? “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8)

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HELPING OTHERS IN ITS MOST BASIC FORM, THE PRACTICE OF LOVING OTHERS FLOWS OUT OF TREATING OTHERS AS WE WOULD LIKE TO BE TREATED.

To that we must add the kind of observation and interaction that helps us discover ways we can make them feel loved that are unique to them. The fact that God has loved us also means that He has gifted each of us with the capacity to love. Our mission is always to find ways we can use what God has given us by way of resources and gifts to better serve others. Depending on the size of your group, do this together or divide into threes. Take turns giving a 1-2 minute summary of your story. Both the specifics of your story and the experience of telling it can affect you in many ways. This exercise will give us all opportunities to cheer God, as well as to encourage each other and help bear one another’s burdens.

LIVING IT EVERY DAY LOVING OUR NEIGHBOR IS NOT SOMETHING WE DO OCCASIONALLY AS A PROJECT -IT’S HOW WE’RE CALLED TO LIVE OUR LIVES. UNTIL OUR MISSION IS OUR LIFESTYLE, WE WILL NOT BE EXPRESSING A FULL UNDERSTANDING OF WHY GOD HAS LEFT US IN THE WORLD ONCE HE SAVED US.

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STUDY QUESTIONS 1. What did Jesus say with His actions in these verses? What was the main point of His words? 2. Why do you think the opportunity to wash the disciples’ feet presented itself to Jesus? 3. How did Jesus connect the reality of our relationship with Him to the realities of our relationships with one another? 4. In what way does Peter’s response in verses 6–10 parallel how many of us respond to sacrificial service?

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GIVING IT ALL TO GOD

THROUGHOUT THIS STUDY, WE EXPECT A NEW SENSE OF BONDING IN CHRIST TO DEVELOP AMONG THE PARTICIPANTS. That sense of caring for each other and being interested in what God is doing in one another’s lives is a significant aspect of living life together. 1. Share your praises and prayer requests with one another. Record these on the Prayer and Praise Report on page #. 2. Close the session with an open time of prayer that focuses on the challenge of Jesus’ words in John 13:17: “Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them.”

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REFLECTIONS Each day, read the daily verses and give prayerful consideration to what you learn about God, His Spirit, and His place in your life. Then record your thoughts, insights, or prayers in the Reflect section below the verses. On the sixth day, record a summary of what you have learned over the entire week through this study.

REFLECT: Spend some time praying and asking God to show you how He wants you to live out this verse in your life. Specifically, who is He asking you to serve?

REFLECT: How would someone know by examining your life that this two-part commandment is the driving force in your life?

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DAY 6: Use the following space to write any thoughts God has put in your heart and mind about the things we have looked at in this session and during your Reflections time this week.

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SESSION FIVE

MEMORY VERSE: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. (Romans 12:2)

GROW

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reminded that having the Holy Spirit within us should bring about positive character change. The most compelling evidence for the power of God to change a life is simply that: a changed life. When you change and grow into someone who is more like Jesus - someone who is more loving, patient, and kind than ever before people notice.

It’s not a matter focusing on self-improvement and trying to change ourselves. It’s about inviting God in, turning it all over to Him, and asking Him to do the heavy lifting. So this week, we’re going to talk about growth. We are called to be disciples of Jesus and that means that we are to develop daily habits that help us to be more like Him as we rely on Him and

THE MOST COMPELLING EVIDENCE FOR THE POWER OF GOD TO CHANGE A LIFE IS SIMPLY THAT: A CHANGED LIFE

SHARE YOUR STORY sharing them with others, we give others the opportunity to see God at work. When we share our stories, we realize we are not alone—that we have common experiences and thoughts, and others can understand what we are going through. Your story can encourage someone else, and telling it can be a path to freedom for you, and for those you share it with. P | 107

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pen your group with prayer. Then use the following questions to jumpstart your time together. Be as honest and transparent as you can when you answer the following questions. Encourage one another as you respond to what each person shares.

BEGIN YOUR TIME TOGETHER 1. What was one idea that you took away from last week’s “Share” discussion? What’s one step you took to try and share your story with someone, or to get better at telling your story? 2. People often identify times of stress or difficulty as times that cause spiritual growth. Why do you think that happens? Has this ever been your experience? Explain. 3. The next session in this study is the last. Take a few minutes to discuss the future of your group. How many of you are willing to stay together as a group and work through another study together? If you have time, turn to the Small Group Agreement on page # and talk about any changes you would like to make as you move forward as a group.

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FIGURING IT OUT IF TIME IS SHORT, THE QUESTIONS MARKED WITH AN * SHOULD BE GIVEN PRIORITY. Growth is not about rule-keeping, but about freedom. The Holy Spirit within us sets us free from the behaviors, fears, and attitudes that used to enslave us. The process of growing as a disciple of Jesus is also what equips us with confidence to share our faith with others. Spend some time talking about how discipleship and evangelism are connected, and how they work in tandem in our lives to draw us closer to Jesus.

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FIGURING IT OUT

How will becoming more like Jesus (growth) help you to live life on mission? How does that growth happen?

Have someone read the memory verse for this session. What do you think it means to “test and approve” God’s will? What does that have to do with growth or maturity?

Has there been a spiritual mentor in your life? If so, how has that helped you to grow?

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*Kyle Idleman talked about the words of Jesus in John 15, where He compared branches (us) to being connected to a vine (Himself ). Kyle offered, “A simple challenge to Christians; be the branch.” What do you think that means? How do you “be the branch”?

Mike Baker said, “As you are making disciples, you, as a disciple, get a chance to grow.” Describe a time that you grew as a result of helping others understand Jesus better.

*Cam Huxford offered an interesting quote. “You need to be in a small group before you need a small group.” What does that statement mean to you? How has your understanding been affected by your experience over the last six weeks?

What spiritual disciplines or practices help to connect you with the Holy Spirit and train you for godliness? How does that help you “put the Gospel on display” for others?

*Tim challenged us to make disciples, not just converts. He noted that evangelism and discipleship are not two different things we do, but that each of them are part of one process: that of making disciples. What happens when people separate evangelism and discipleship?

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Sin can slow down our growth, and pull us off our mission. What’s one unhealthy habit or pattern in your life that you think God wants to help you change so that you can live life on mission?

HELPING OTHERS Normally, we might not think of evangelism (sharing how Jesus has changed our lives) and discipleship (the process of becoming like Jesus) as being connected. But being intentional about our own growth will enable us to share the Gospel more easily and authentically. When thinking about helping others, it’s easy to focus on tasks - the things we can do for them. But sometimes helping others is simply about how we treat them: about showing them someone who is kind, patient, and loving. Transformation as evidenced by the “fruit of the Spirit” that starts to show up in our lives will allow those around us to see the power of the Gospel. We can’t change by trying really hard or by living in solitude - only God can change us. But having a community of people around us to encourage us toward the goal of being like Jesus is so valuable. P | 116

1. Read Galatians 5:22-23. This is not a checklist of “fruits” that we need to develop in ourselves; it is a description of the beautiful character attributes that will be evident as we submit to the transforming power of the Holy Spirit. Spend some time affirming God’s work in one another: which of these traits have you seen in another group member? (Make sure each person affirms or encourages another in the group.)

2. Go out of your way this week to offer a kind word or express gratitude to someone who crosses your path. Being intentional about displaying the “fruit of the Spirit” in your life will not only be an encouragement to someone who might be having a bad day, but will also help you to continue your transformation.

LIVING IT EVERY DAY A small group is not only a place where we able to grow as disciples of Jesus, but it is also where we can nurture the growth of others. Sometimes, ironically, the thing that will help us to grow the most is through helping others move closer to Jesus. Effective groups facilitate growth when members use their spiritual gifts to bless and serve others in the group. Take some time to share about the following:

What are your spiritual gifts? How have you used them in the context of this small group? How has using your gifts helped you to grow as a Christ-follower? How have the gifts of other group members impacted your growth?

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GIVING IT ALL TO GOD While we can engage in spiritual disciplines that will open us up to the transforming work of God, it is ultimately God who causes us to grow and change.

SPEND SOME TIME JUST THANKING GOD AND PRAISING HIM FOR THE GROWTH THAT HAS BEEN EXPERIENCED BY OUR GROUP MEMBERS DURING THIS STUDY. SHARE YOUR PRAISES AND PRAYER REQUESTS WITH ONE ANOTHER. RECORD THESE ON THE PRAYER AND PRAISE REPORT ON PAGE #. THEN PRAY TOGETHER FOR EACH OTHER. OUR NEXT SESSION IS THE LAST IN THIS STUDY. IN THE GIVING IT ALL TO GOD SECTION OF SESSION SIX ON PAGE #, YOU WILL HAVE AN OPPORTUNITY TO SHARE THE LORDâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S SUPPER, BAPTISM, OR A FOOT-WASHING TOGETHER, OR PARTICIPATE IN THE SURRENDER AT THE CROSS EXERCISE. READ THE INSTRUCTIONS AND TALK ABOUT YOUR PLANS FOR THAT MEETING BEFORE YOU LEAVE TODAY. IF YOU LIKE, CLOSE WITH A CHORUS OR SONG OF WORSHIP.

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FOR DEEPER STUDY READ HEBREWS 10:24 -25

“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another— and all the more as you see the Day approaching.” 1.) What does this passage tell us about the role of community in our spiritual growth? 2.) The words “one another” appear twice here, and countless times throughout the New Testament. Use a Bible app or online version to find other references to “one another.” What does this tell us about how we are to walk with Jesus? 3).Who spurs you on to love and good deeds? If you don’t have someone in your life who does that, pray about finding someone you can encourage, and who will also be an encouragement to you.

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STUDY NOTES Each day, read the daily verses and give prayerful consideration to what you learn about God, His Spirit, and His place in your life. Then record your thoughts, insights, or prayers in the Reflect section below the verses. On the sixth day, record a summary of what you have learned over the entire week through this study.

REFLECTIONS Each day, read the daily verses and give prayerful consideration to what you learn about God, His Spirit, and His place in your life. Then record your thoughts, insights, or prayers in the Reflect section below the verses. On the sixth day, record a summary of what you have learned over the entire week through this study.

DAY 1: “Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 1:6) REFLECT: Growth is affected by how we respond to what God wants to do in our lives. How are you responding to God’s good work in you?

DAY 2: “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God..“ (Hebrews 12:1-2)

REFLECT: What are three things hindrances in your life that need to be “thrown off” so that you can run with perseverance?

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DAY 3: ”Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates. “ (Deuteronomy 6:4-9) REFLECT: In what ways is loving the Lord your God a continual practice and topic of conversation in your house as you grow together?

DAY 4: ”So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness.” (Colossians 2:6-7)

REFLECT: In what ways would you say your roots are growing down and your branches are growing up in Christ?

DAY 5: ”I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” (John 15:5)

REFLECT: What are you currently doing to remain connected to the vine? What fruit are you seeing as a result?

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Summary

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SESSION SIX MEMORY VERSE: “And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people. Pray also for me, that whenever I speak, words may be given me so that I will fearlessly make known the mystery of the gospel, for which I am an ambassador in chains. Pray that I may declare it fearlessly, as I should.” (Ephesians 6:18-20)

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f we are on a mission to connect, serve, share and grow, doesn’t it make sense that we should stay in communication with the One who is sending us out? The One who knows far more than we do and is able to help us accomplish that mission? Prayer is how we stay connected to God, and is the source of our power and strength.

Finding God’s heart for the world starts with prayer because it moves us from our perspective to His perspective. It allows us to invite God into our concerns, needs, and desires, but it also makes us realize that our compassion and care for our neighbors is only a hint of what God feels toward them. Without God’s help, which we access through prayer, our mission

will surely fail. Instead of prayer being the last thing we do after we have exhausted all other means, let’s put it front and center where it belongs. Prayer is a central, persistent means to bring God’s power to bear on every life we touch. We cannot live life on mission without it.

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HANGING OUT Open your group with prayer. Invite each person in the group to express one thing they need Godâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s help with, and one thing for which they are thankful.

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By using the following questions and activities to get people talking. Many of us have some kind of prayer story. We’re going to hear some in the video presentation for this session. But as we begin, do you have a “prayer story” you can share with the group? Whether it was something big or small, tell about a time you saw God act in response to prayer. When you were growing up, how did you pray (if you prayed at all)? What did you believe about prayer? How has your understanding of prayer changed over the years? Take time in this final session to connect with your accountability partner. What has God been showing you through these sessions about living life on mission? Check in with each other about the progress you have made in your spiritual growth during this study. Make plans about whether you will continue meeting.

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HOW CAN WE BECOME A PART OF GOD’S STORY? BY ALIGNING OUR STORIES WITH HIS. BY UNDERSTANDING WHAT IT MEANS TO FOLLOW HIM. USE THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS TO GUIDE YOUR DISCUSSION OF THE TEACHING AND STORIES YOU JUST EXPERIENCED, AND THE BIBLE PASSAGE BELOW.

FIGURING IT OUT If time is short, the questions marked with an * should be given priority. Prayer is an amazing privilege. Just think about it. If we speak, or even just direct our thoughts toward God, He listens! He is attentive to the stirrings of our hearts, and even initiates conversation with us. In every way, this is a miraculous exchange. Throughout this study, we’ve been talking about living life on mission: sharing our faith through our words and our actions. Prayer is not just making requests of God, but it also involves listening and making sure our mission is aligned with His plans for us. If we are trying to lead others to Jesus but never talk to Him about it, we’re less likely to be effective in our mission. Every move we make should be directed by prayer. We need prayer to survive. Without it, we lose focus, we lose motivation, and we start to think this mission depends on us. P | 131

FIGURING IT OUT When you face stress, grief, or challenge, do you respond by praying? Why or why not?

How can you begin to make prayer a habit or reflexive reaction to times of both difficulty and joy? In other words, how do you build a habit of prayer?

If you had to highlight one thought from the DVD teaching, what would it be? Why?

*Tell the group about a time someone prayed for you in a moment of need, and you felt God’s presence more powerfully as a result?

How do you respond to Bo Chancey’s idea that, in their church, they “pray for one”? What do you think that means?

When you pray for an unbeliever or for someone whose spiritual condition you really don’t know, what are you expecting God to do?

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FIGURING IT OUT Do you ever find yourself drifting away from communication with God? How does that impact your ability to live life on mission?

*Several of the teachers in this session have highlighted the power of corporate prayer. What experiences have you had with the power of prayer with other Christians?

*Let’s talk about Shan Moyers’ question: “What if you are where you are right now - your neighborhood, your job, the gym that you work out at - what if you are where you are right now not by chance, but by divine assignment?”

In what ways has your own prayer life been challenged by this session’s teaching?

*Pastor Mike Baker mentioned the quote from Hudson Taylor that has motivated his prayer life: “It’s possible to move men by God through prayer alone.” Tell about a time you saw this demonstrated in your own life.

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LIVING IT EVERY DAY We all have a lot of work to do as a result of what we’ve learned during this study. The Bible makes it clear that to those who have been given much, much will be required. We can’t afford to walk away from the truth we have heard, or to treat it lightly. Jesus has promised to bless us through these things we know if we will do them (John 13:17). Six months from now, what do you think you will be doing differently as a result of being a part of this group?

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HELPING OTHERS COMMIT TO PERSONAL PRAYER AND DAILY CONNECTION WITH GOD. YOU MAY FIND IT HELPFUL TO WRITE YOUR PRAYERS IN A JOURNAL.

Any time we think about helping others, our instinct is to focus on tasks. But the most important act of service we can do for someone is to pray for them. All our good deeds are useless if we’re doing them apart from God. Only God can change a human heart, and that change can be amazing! Share your answers to the following questions: 1). Is there someone in your life who doesn’t know Jesus that you could offer to pray for? Offering to pray WITH or FOR another person can also be a great way to break down barriers. Don’t just say you’ll pray - really do it. 2). If your group still needs to make decisions about continuing to meet after this session, have that discussion now. Talk about what you will study, who will lead, and when and where you will meet. 3). Review your Small Group Agreement on page # and evaluate how well you met your goals. Discuss any changes you want to make as you move forward. If your group will be starting a new study, this is a great time to take on a new role or change roles of service in your group. What new role will you take on? If you are uncertain, maybe your group members have some ideas for you. Remember, you aren’t making a lifetime commitment; it will only be for a few weeks. If you aren’t ready to fly solo, maybe someone would like to share a role with you.

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GIVING IT ALL TO GOD

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FOR DEEPER STUDY READ LUKE 15:1–7. This parable reveals the heart of God to seek and save the lost. In His teaching throughout the entire chapter, Jesus confronts the judgmental attitudes that were swirling around Him. He did not take lightly the lack of concern that was being shown for those who were considered to be “tax collectors (sell-outs) and sinners.” 1. How does Luke describe the setting in which Jesus told this and other parables in chapter 15? Why does the audience matter in this case? 2. How does this parable reveal the importance of being in tune, or in sync, with how God views people who are lost in the world? 3. How would you make a case for prayer from this parable? 4. As a result of prayer, when was the last time your church was able to join with the angels and celebrate the homecoming of a lost sheep? What conclusion might you draw from this? 5. In what ways is praying with others such a part of your life that people would notice if you stopped doing it?

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STUDY NOTES PART OF OUR MEMORY PASSAGE IN EPHESIANS 6:18-20 SAYS: to be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people. Similarly, 1 Thessalonians 5:16 says to, “pray continually.” This doesn’t necessarily mean we should be constantly chattering at God like an annoying child who keeps peppering his parent with questions or requests. Rather, prayer can simply be attentiveness. Praying can also mean listening to God, seeking His heart and wisdom about a person or situation, and listening for His direction and His “whispers” in our hearts. It is often these whispers that will shape our specific mission - the divine assignment God has for us.

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DAY 1: ”Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.” (Mark 1:35)

REFLECT: What do you think Jesus was praying about during those regular times alone with God? What would have to happen for your priorities to be closer to His?

DAY 2: ”But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.” (Matthew 6:6)

REFLECT: Why is it important for some of our praying to be done in secret?

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DAY 3: ”Is anyone among you in trouble? Let them pray. Is anyone happy? Let them sing songs of praise. Is anyone among you sick? Let them call the elders of the church to pray over them and anoint them with oil in the name of the Lord. “ (James 5:13-14) REFLECT: What is your typical response to times of trouble or happiness? What does this verse tell us it should be?

DAY 4: ”Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful. And pray for us, too, that God may open a door for our message, so that we may proclaim the mystery of Christ, for which I am in chains. Pray that I may proclaim it clearly, as I should.” (Colossians 4:2-4)

REFLECT: Paul encouraged prayer, and he also asked for prayer. Who prays regularly for you? Who is someone you could ask to pray for you?

DAY 5: ”Then he said to his disciples, “The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few. Ask the Lord of the harvest, therefore, to send out workers into his harvest field” (Matthew 9:37–38).

REFLECT: Why do you think that instead of simply telling them to go be workers, Jesus said, “Ask the Lord of the harvest…”? What does this tell us about our first priority when living life on mission?

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SUMMaRY

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APPENDICES GREAT RESOURCES TO HELP MAKE YOUR

SMALL GROUP

EXPERIENCE

EVEN BETTER!

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FREQUENTLY ASKED

QUESTIONS WHAT DO WE DO ON THE FIRST NIGHT OF OUR GROUP?

open, you’ll be amazed at the people God

Like all fun things in life–have a party! A

become a friend for life. You never know!

sends your way. The next person just might

“get to know you” coffee, dinner, or dessert is a great way to launch a new study. You may want to review the Group Agreement (pages 96-98) and share the names of a few friends you can invite to join you. But most importantly, have fun before your study

HOW LONG WILL THIS GROUP MEET? It’s totally up to the group–once you come to the end of this 4-week study. Most groups meet weekly for at least their first

time begins.

4 weeks. We strongly recommend the

WHERE DO WE FIND NEW MEMBERS FOR OUR GROUP?

weekly basis if at all possible. This allows

This can be troubling, especially for new

they aren’t gone for a whole month.

group meet for the first six months on a for continuity, and if people miss a meeting

groups that have only a few people or for existing groups that lose a few people

At the end of this study, each group

along the way. We encourage you to pray

member may decide if he or she wants

with your group and then brainstorm a

to continue on for another 4-week study.

list of people from work, church, your

Some groups launch relationships for years

neighborhood, your children’s school,

to come, and others are stepping-stones

family, the gym, and so forth. Then have

into another group experience. Either way,

each group member invite several of the

enjoy the journey.

people on his or her list. Another good strategy is to ask church leaders to make an announcement or allow a bulletin insert. No matter how you find members, it’s vital you stay on the lookout for new people to join your group. All groups tend to go through healthy attrition–the result of moves, releasing new leaders, ministry opportunities, and so forth–and if the group gets too small, it could be at risk of shutting down. If you and your group stay P | 146

CAN WE DO THIS STUDY ON OUR OWN? Absolutely! This may sound crazy but one of the best ways to do this study is not with a full house but with a few friends. You may choose to gather with one other couple who would enjoy going out or having a quiet dinner and then walking through this study. Jesus will be with you even if there are only two of you (Matthew 18:20).

WHAT IF THIS GROUP IS NOT WORKING FOR US?

HOW DO WE HANDLE THE CHILD CARE NEEDS IN OUR GROUP?

You’re not alone! This could be the result of

Very carefully. Seriously, this can be a

a personality conflict, life stage difference,

sensitive issue. We suggest you empower

geographical distance, level of spiritual

the group to openly brainstorm solutions.

maturity, or any number of things. Relax.

You may try one option that works for

Pray for God’s direction, and at the end

a while and then adjust over time. Our

of this 6-week study, decide whether to

favorite approach is for adults to meet in

continue with this group or find another.

the living room or dining room, and to

You don’t buy the first car you look at or

share the cost of a babysitter (or two) who

marry the first person you date, and the

can be with the kids in a different part

same goes with a group. Don’t bail out

of the house. In this way, parents don’t

before the 4 weeks are up–God might have

have to be away from their children all

something to teach you. Also, don’t run

evening when their children are too young

from conflict or prejudge people before

to be left at home. A second option is to

you have given them a chance. God is still

use one home for the kids and a second

working in you too!

home (close by or a phone call away) for

WHO IS THE LEADER?

the adults. A third idea is to rotate the responsibility of providing a lesson or care

Most groups have an official leader.

for the children either in the same home

But ideally, the group will mature and

or in another home nearby. This can be an

members will rotate the leadership of

incredible blessing for kids.

meetings. We have discovered healthy groups rotate hosts/leaders and homes

Finally, the most common idea is to decide

on a regular basis. This model ensures

you need to have a night to invest in your

all members grow, give their unique

spiritual lives individually or as a couple,

contribution, and develop their gifts. This

and to make your own arrangements for

study guide and the Holy Spirit can keep

child care. No matter what decision the

things on track even when you rotate

group makes, the best approach is to

leaders. Christ has promised to be in your

dialogue openly about both the problem

midst as you gather. Ultimately, God is your

and the solution.

leader each step of the way.

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SMALL GROUP AGREEMENT

OUR PURPOSE TO PROVIDE A PREDICTABLE ENVIRONMENT WHERE PARTICIPANTS EXPERIENCE AUTHENTIC COMMUNITY AND SPIRITUAL GROWTH.

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OUR VALUES GROUP ATTENDANCE

To give priority to the group meeting. We will call or email if we will be late or absent. (Completing the Group Calendar will minimize this issue.)

SAFE ENVIRONMENT

To help create a safe place where people can be heard and feel loved. (Please, no quick answers, snap judgments, or simple fixes.)

RESPECT DIFFERENCES

To be gentle and gracious to people with different spiritual maturity, personal opinions, temperaments, or “imperfections” in fellow group members. We are all works in progress.

CONFIDENTIALITY

To keep anything that is shared strictly confidential and within the group, and to avoid sharing improper information about those outside the group.

ENCOURAGEMENT FOR GROWTH

To be not just takers but givers of life. We want to spiritually multiply our life by serving others with our God-given gifts.

SHARED OWNERSHIP

To remember every member is a minister and to ensure each attender will share a small team role or responsibility over time.

ROTATING HOSTS/ LEADERS AND HOMES

To encourage different people to host the group in their homes, and to rotate the responsibility of facilitating each meeting.

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OUR

EXPECTATIONS •

Refreshments/mealtimes _____________________________________

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Child care ________________________________________________

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When we will meet (day of week) _____________________________

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Where we will meet (place) __________________________________

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We will begin at (time) ______________ and end at ______________

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We will do our best to have some or all of us attend a worship service together. Our primary worship service time will be ________________

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Date of this agreement ______________________________________

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Date we will review this agreement again _______________________

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Who (other than the leader) will review this agreement at the end of this study ________________________________________________

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GROUP

CALENDAR

Planning and calendaring can help ensure the greatest participation at every meeting. At the end of each meeting, review this calendar. Be sure to include a regular rotation of host homes and leaders, and donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t forget birthdays, socials, church events, holidays, and mission/ministry projects. Go to www.lifetogether.com for an electronic copy of this form and other ideas for your group to do together.

DATE

LESSON

HOST HOME

Monday, January 15

Steve and Lauraâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s House

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DESSERT/ MEAL

LEADER

Joe

Bill

SMALL GROUP

ROSTER NAME

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SPIRITUAL

PARTNERS CHECK-IN PAGE

MY NAME:

WEEK 4

WEEK 3

WEEK 2

WEEK 1

OUR PLANS

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Briefly check in each week and write down your personal plans and progress for the next week (or even for the next few weeks). This could be done (before or after the meeting) on the phone, through an email message, or even in person from time to time.

SPIRITUAL PARTNERâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S NAME:

OUR PROGRESS

MEMORY

VERSES Session One –See But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth. (Acts 1:8) Session Two –Connect While Jesus was having dinner at Matthew’s house, many tax collectors and sinners came and ate with him and his disciples. When the Pharisees saw this, they asked his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?” On hearing this, Jesus said, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’ For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.” (Matthew 9:10-13) Session Three –Serve The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’ (Matthew 25:40) Session Four –Share But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect. (1 Peter 3:15) Session Five –Grow Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. (Romans 12:2)

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HOSTING AN

OPEN HOUSE If you’re starting a new group, try

or she hopes to get out of the study.

planning an “open house” before your

You might want to review the Small

first formal group meeting. Even if you

Group Agreement and talk about each

only have two to four core members,

person’s expectations and priorities.

it’s a great way to break the ice and to consider prayerfully who else might

Finally, set an open chair (maybe two)

be open to join you over the next few

in the center of your group and explain

weeks. You can also use this kick-off

it represents someone who would

meeting to hand out study guides,

enjoy or benefit from this group,

spend some time getting to know

but who isn’t here yet. Ask people to

each other, discuss each person’s

pray about whom they could invite

expectations for the group and briefly

to join the group over the next few

pray for each other.

weeks. Hand out postcards and have everyone write an invitation or two.

A simple meal or good desserts always

Don’t worry about ending up with too

make a kick-off meeting more fun.

many people; you can always have

After people introduce themselves

one discussion circle in the living room

and share how they ended up being

and another in the dining room after

at the meeting (you can play a game

you watch the lesson. Each group

to see who has the wildest story!),

could then report prayer requests and

have everyone respond to a few

progress at the end of the session.

icebreaker questions: “What is your favorite family vacation?” or “What is

You can skip this kick-off meeting

one thing you love about your church/

if your time is limited, but you’ll

our community?” or “What are three

experience a huge benefit if you take

things about your life growing up

the time to connect with each other in

that most people here don’t know?”

this way.

Next, ask everyone to tell what he

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LEADING FOR

THE FIRST TIME TEN COMMON LEADERSHIP EXPERIENCES. WELCOME TO LIFE OUT IN FRONT!

Sweaty palms are a healthy sign. The Bible says God is gracious to the humble. Remember who is in control; the time to worry is when you’re not worried. Those who are soft in heart (and sweaty palmed) are those whom God is sure to speak through.

Seek support. Ask your leader, co-leader, or close friend to pray for you and prepare with you before the session. Walking through the study will help you anticipate potentially difficult questions and discussion topics.

Bring your uniqueness to the study. Lean into who you are and how God wants you to uniquely lead the study.

Prepare. Prepare. Prepare. Go through the session several times. If you are using the DVD, listen to the teaching segment and Leadership Lifter. Consider writing in a journal or fasting for a day to prepare yourself for what God wants to do.

Don’t wait until the last minute to prepare.

Ask for feedback so you can grow. Perhaps in an email or on cards handed out at the study, have everyone write down three things you did well and one thing you could improve on. Don’t get defensive, but show an openness to learn and grow.

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Use online resources. There are many notable small group leader blogs and resources available.

Prayerfully consider launching a new group. This doesn’t need to happen overnight, but God’s heart is for this to happen over time. Not all christians are called to be leaders or teachers, but we are all called to be “shepherds” of a few someday.

Share with your group what God is doing in your heart. God is searching for those whose hearts are fully His. Share your trials and victories. We promise people will relate.

10. Prayerfully consider whom you would like to pass the baton to next week. It’s only fair. God is ready for the next member of your group to go on the faith journey you just traveled. Make it fun, and expect God to do the rest.

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LEADERSHIP TRAINING 101 TOP TEN IDEAS FOR NEW LEADERS

CONGRATULATIONS! YOU HAVE RESPONDED TO THE CALL TO HELP SHEPHERD JESUS’ FLOCK. THERE ARE FEW OTHER TASKS IN THE FAMILY OF GOD THAT SURPASS THE CONTRIBUTION YOU WILL BE MAKING. AS YOU PREPARE TO LEAD, WHETHER IT IS ONE SESSION OR THE ENTIRE SERIES, HERE ARE A FEW THOUGHTS TO KEEP IN MIND. WE ENCOURAGE YOU TO READ THESE AND REVIEW THEM WITH EACH NEW DISCUSSION LEADER BEFORE HE OR SHE LEADS.

Remember you are not alone. God knows everything about you, and He knew you would be asked to lead your group. Remember it is common for all good leaders to feel they are not ready to lead. Moses, Solomon, Jeremiah and Timothy - they all were reluctant to lead. God promises, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5). Whether you are leading for one evening, for several weeks, or for a lifetime, you will be blessed as you serve.

Don’t try to do it alone. Pray right now for God to help you build a healthy leadership team. If you can enlist a co-leader to help you lead the group, you will find your experience to be much richer. This is your chance to involve as many people as you can in building a healthy group. All you have to do is call and ask people to help, you’ll be surprised at the response.

Just be yourself. If you won’t be you, who will? God wants you to use your unique gifts and temperament. Don’t try to do things exactly like another leader; do them in a way that fits you! Just admit it when you don’t have an answer, and apologize when you make a mistake. Your group will love you for it, and you’ll sleep better at night!

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Prepare for your meeting ahead of time. Review the session and the leader’s notes, and write down your responses to each question. Pay special attention to exercises that ask group members to do something other than engage in discussion. These exercises will help your group live what the Bible teaches, not just talk about it. Be sure you understand how an exercise works, and bring any necessary supplies (such as paper and pens) to your meeting. If the exercise employs one of the items in the Appendices, be sure to look over that item so you’ll know how it works. Finally, review the “Outline for Each Session” so you’ll remember the purpose of each section in the study.

Pray for your group members by name. Before you begin your session, go around the room in your mind and pray for each member by name. You may want to review the prayer list at least once a week. Ask God to use your time together to touch the heart of every person uniquely. Expect God to lead you to whomever He wants you to encourage or challenge in a special way. If you listen, God will surely lead!

When you ask a question, be patient. Someone will eventually respond. Sometimes people need a moment or two of silence to think about the question, and if silence doesn’t bother you, it won’t bother anyone else. After someone responds, affirm the response with a simple “thanks” or “good job.” Then ask, “How about somebody else?” or “Would someone who hasn’t shared like to add anything?” Be sensitive to new people or reluctant members who aren’t ready to say, pray or do anything. If you give them a safe setting, they will blossom over time.

With a greater opportunity to talk in a small circle, people will connect more with the study, apply more quickly what they’re learning and ultimately get more out of it. A small circle also encourages a quiet person to participate and tends to minimize the effects of a more vocal or dominant member. It can also help people feel more loved in your group. When you gather again at the end of the section, you can have one person summarize the highlights from each circle. Small circles are also helpful during prayer time. People who are unaccustomed to praying aloud will feel more comfortable trying it with just two or three others. Also, prayer requests won’t take as much time, so circles will have more time to actually pray. When you gather back with the whole group, you can have one person from each circle briefly update everyone on the prayer requests. People are more willing to pray in small circles if they know the whole group will hear all the prayer requests.

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PRAYER & PRAISE

REPORT

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PRAYER & PRAISE

REPORT

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NOTES

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NOTES

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