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Contents October 2014 | Breast Cancer & Domestic Violence Issue | Vol.2
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Is that really possible? Beast Cancer and Pregnancy
Having breast cancer during pregnancy is very rare but very possible! More and more women are choosing to have children later in life, and the risk of breast cancer goes up as women get older. Because of this, doctors expect there will be more cases of breast cancer during pregnancy in the future.
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The Urban Parenting 2014 Halloween Guide: Kids Games Kids love any excuse to play party games - and so they should! If you are having a halloween party this year, adding these kid’s game will make it a blast for all of those invited to your event. So lets party with some style!
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Enough is ENOUGH!
How to handle domestic violence, abuse and divorce properly especially when there are children involved in the equation.
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CANER!
OMG! BREAST
We hear it all the time? You’ve been diagnosed with breast cancer. Few people however, realize the extent to which this is critical o their well-being and ultimately their life expectancy. Well here are 8 things EVERY woman should know!
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Get Involved Dad! Costume Ideas Just for YOU! Let’s face it; Halloween was much simpler when we were just kids. However this doesn’t mean that you still can have some fun DAD
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Sexy Costumes Just for Moms
Mom, it’s time to figure out what you are going to wear this halloween. You know you want to look sexy, so what type of costume should you choose? Don’t Worry we got you covered.
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From Survivor to THRIVOR!
How does one recover from the harsh impacts of child abuse? Urban Parenting Magazine explores this question in depth with some very inspiring insight
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How you Handle Your Child’s Development... An inside look on how you and your response to your child’s development will utlimately effect them forever!
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s a man and a father of two, growing up in the slumlike, poverty stricken neighborhoods that most of us know well, to say that I had been through a lot is an understatement. As a young boy I was taught the characteristics of not only what it took to survive but also what it took to be a man, by societal standards of course. Those characteristics were and still are synonymous with the repetitive notions that we tell ourselves every day as to what the role of a boy leaning on the cusp of manhood should be. Be “tough, strong and courageous!” “Boy’s don’t cry.” “Never show your emotions” but only when it comes to anger because anger showcases your fearlessness, right? “You are to dominate and lead.” All common sentiments we’ve all heard before. But if this is the message we are trying to get across to our sons, what subliminal images are we displaying to our daughters? As we all know, children are very impressionable. Although our intent and actions may be pure when it comes to “raising a man” we must be sure to straddle that line between right and wrong carefully. A boy who grows to believe, “I’m a man. I am strong, tough and superior. I must dominate” could very well internalize it, as “You’re a woman. You’re weak and inferior. You have no value.” These boys eventually turn into men who objectify and abuse women because they only see them as objects. The girls who hear the same message normally internalize it the same way and accept this farce. Abuse and domestic violence has no place anywhere. Ever. In the span of the recent war in Afghanistan, as of 2012 there were 6,614 U.S. troops that were killed. In that same time period, 11,766 women were killed due to domestic violence. In order to create change within our
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society we must break our silence when it comes to the “status quo” of what it takes to be a man. We must challenge, deconstruct and redefine what true manhood is! Honestly, collectively as men we are taught that women have less value. Women are viewed as property and it ultimately equates to violence against women. However, like myself, there are a plethora of good men who act outside of this social norm but regardless of the fact we are still apart of the bigger problem. The good news is that we are also a part of the greater solution. Domestic violence, as you can see from the news lately with Ray Rice and others, is at an epidemic high and if you have a daughter of your own you can understand why that is a startling thought. So this is a call to all parents, not just fathers, raising sons. We must come together on how we will progress when it comes to teaching our sons how to be men. We must re-direct the notion that it isn’t okay to have emotions because It is. It is also okay to truly believe in equality, or being “just friends” with a woman without the expectations of sex. It’s okay to be whole. In order to understand true freedom, step outside of the box. Teach and live in a boundless atmosphere where our sons will understand that true liberation only comes from the liberation and uplift of others. Respectfully,
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Spanking VS Discipline Crossing this Line? Abuse? Minnesota Vikings superstar Peterson has been indicted for child abuse. On Saturday, the AP reported that “Minnesota Vikings running back Adrian Peterson was booked and released from a Texas jail on a child abuse charge early Saturday. Is spanking still acceptable in this day and age? Was he right or wrong? Voice your opinion
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62 % YES
41 % NO
Among Southerners, 62 percent of parents spank their kids and believe that spanking should be accepted 41 percent of the country believes otherwise when it comes to such a touchy subject and believes that this method is outdated.
Information provided by ABCNEWS.com poll
One of the most frequently used strategies to discipline a child, especially a younger child, is spanking. About 94 percent of parents of children ages three to four in the United States report having spanked their children in the previous year. However, use of corporal punishment is linked to negative outcomes for children (e.g., delinquency, antisocial behavior, psychological problems, and alcohol and drug abuse), and may be indicative of ineffective parenting.
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Breat Cancer & Pregnancy
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lthough it is rare for breast cancer to strike younger women, the fact remains that all women are at risk. And for those of childbearing age, the first sign and symptoms of breast cancer leading to a diagnosis can not only be upsetting and unexpected, but complicated as well. Developing breast cancer at a younger age in a woman’s 40s, 30s, even 20s will mean making important and difficult decisions about one’s life and future perhaps much sooner than originally expected. One concern is developing breast cancer during pregnancy, which although rare, can still occur. In this case, the treatment chosen will not only affect the patient and her body, but the growing baby inside her as well. It will depend on what stage of pregnancy she is in (first, second or third trimester) and what stage her cancer is in such as whether or not it’s advanced. Most pregnant women can have treatment for their breast cancer without affecting the baby. But some might be advised by their obstetrician or healthcare practitioner or even decide themselves to terminate the
pregnancy, more so if the pregnancy is in its earlier stages, in order to receive certain treatments that would be too risky otherwise. But it is essential to remember that it is a woman’s own decision, it is not medically necessary to terminate a pregnancy if the expectant mother is diagnosed with breast cancer. All it does is limit treatment options. Breast cancer itself will not affect the fetus only certain tests and treatments will. Generally speaking, tamoxifen, chemotherapy, radiation, and other drug-related therapies are avoided if the woman is pregnant because of their associated risks with birth defects. Tamoxifen, especially, is considered very unsafe because it is a hormonal therapy and is never recommended if the woman is pregnant or planning on conceiving. Surgery, either a lumpectomy or mastectomy, is the most common and preferred method of treatment for breast cancer in pregnant women. Another concern is whether or not breast cancer survivors can or should go on to have children after treatment and recovery. It’s a very controversial issue with firm advocates on both sides of the debate.
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There are two main questions here, for both the medical and health community and breast cancer survivors wanting their own children: 1) Do certain breast cancer treatments affect fertility?; and 2) Is it actually considered safe to conceive and carry a baby to term following breast cancer and breast cancer treatments? As far as fertility goes, there is no definite answer here. For chemotherapy, it depends on the age and what specific drug was used, some affect fertility more than others. And taking tamoxifen after chemotherapy to prevent recurrence is not recommended if the woman desires to become pregnant right away. Although tamoxifen is sometimes used as a fertility treatment, there is evidence to suggest that it damages developing embryos, and therefore is not considered safe to use. Many doctors caution these women to wait several years to ensure receiving the best breast cancer treatment possible and to go past the point of the biggest threat of breast cancer recurrence. But some women decide to go ahead and have babies anyway, since it’s so important to them.
Party Time
Halloween Party Guide: Kids Games
All the fun doesn’t have to sway just one way. With our Urban Parenting Party Guide, everyone will be able to enjoy the fun this year from Adults to kids!
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hile adults may be jumping on the Halloween bandwagon, first and foremost Halloween is a kid’s holiday. Besides trick-or-treating and costumes, Halloween parties are one of the many activities that kids can look forward to each Halloween. If you are thinking of jumping in and hosting your own kid’s party this year, one thing that you will need to think about is the games.
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When planning kid’s party games, keep in mind that many games will only have one winner. So be sure to play enough games that every child can be a winner, or consider providing second and third place prizes to help avoid hurt feelings. If you don’t want to use candy for prizes, Halloween party favors and small toys also make great prize ideas.
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Party Time unteer to be the mummy (preferably a child who was not the scarecrow if you play both games). Give each team a roll of toilet paper, and have Almost everyone is familiar with the game of them wrap their mummy with it (you can also musical chairs, so you probably won’t need a de- use rolls of streamers in Halloween colors if you tailed expression of the rules. All you need is one would prefer). The first team done wins. chair less than the number of kids attending the party (so 9 chairs for 10 kids, for example). CovPin the nose on the jack-o-lantern er the chairs with white sheets and paint some eyes and mouths on them to make them look like Create a large pumpkin out of cardboard, or ghosts. Line the chairs up or arrange them in a make one out of construction paper and pin it to circle. To play the game, play some music while a bulletin board. Paint or glue eyes and a mouth the children walk around the chairs. When the music stops, the child left without a chair is out. on the jack-o-lantern, leaving the area where the nose should be empty. Cut Remove a out several yellow triangles, chair, and writing the child’s name on keep playing the front and placing a small until there piece of double-sided tape is only one on the back. Blindfold chilchild left. dren and have them attempt to pin the nose where it Dress the belongs. To make the game more difficult, spin the scarecrow child in circles several times before having them pin the If you have nose on. some of dad’s old Almost any child’s party clothing game can be converted to a lying around Halloween game with a little the house, creativity. Of course, leave this is a fun plenty of time for snacks and game for the ever-popular costume kids. Divide contest. the children into small teams, and give all teams some clothes for their scarecrow. Jeans or overalls, flannel shirts, boots, gloves, and a straw hat are typical, though you can use whatever you have on hand. One child in the team is the scarecrow, and has to stand still while the others of the team put the clothes on. The first team to complete a scarecrow is the winner.
Ghostly musical chairs
Meet my mummy For this one, you will again want to divide children into small teams and have one child vol-
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How to properly handle abuse and talks of divorce in such a hostile situation.
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en and women deal with a lot of abuse in the family. But unlike any form of domestic violence, emotional abuse is the strongest yet the most subtle of all. It is too subtle that sometimes even the abused partner does not notice it. This kind of abuse leaves no identifying physical evidence, yet leaves a lasting mark to the abused person’s self esteem.
Emotional Abuse Emotional abuse may be described as subjecting a partner consistently to insult, embarrassment, scorn, shame or hurt. Emotional abuse may manifest itself in many different forms: from something as simple as mocking a partner for their beliefs or faith, or telling them nobody wants or likes them; to something as demeaning as telling a partner that he’s worthless; to the extent of threatening to hurt a partner or their family. People subjected to emotional abuse are constantly accused and criticized, and often faulted for every little thing they do. Domineering partners use emotional abuse to control, degrade, humiliate, or punish a partner to submission. This is comparable to how prison guards manipulate prisoners of war being cooperative. They use isolation to cut off any form of external support from friends and family, making victims dependent to the abusers. Abusers also use threats and intimidation to force a partner to submis-
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sion. Abusive partners use negative criticism to demean a partner about his appearance, actions, and abilities. Victims of emotional abuse often manifest the following symptoms:
This is when the incident is forgotten. The relationship is at peace, and no abuse is being done to the victim. Resolving emotional abuse
.Depression. .Fearfulness .Withdrawal. .Social isolation .Suicidal tendency .Feeling of guilt and shame Because partners are constantly exposed to ideas of being worthless, they start believing the lies over time and tend to develop low self-esteem and eventually develop the symptoms mentioned above. Abusive relationships usually cycle around 4 phases:
Phase 1, tension building. This is when the tension begins,communication starts falling apart,and the victim feels an intense need to please or placate an abuser.
Phase 2, incident. This is when the actual verbal and emotional abuse happens. The abuser starts getting angry, blaming and arguing with the victim. The abuser threatens and intimidates the victim.
Phase 3, reconciliation. This is when the abuser apologizes for what he’s said and done. He passes the blame onto the victim, denying any abuse he’s done, or says that what he did wasn’t that bad as the victim thinks it is.
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Phase 4, calm.
In a relationship, both partners should learn to say when enough is enough. An abusive environment is never good for both parties, especially for the children. Children who grew up in an abusive domestic environment tend to carry this behavior when he has his own family. As parents, it is necessary to work on resolving emotional abuse issues as early as possible before it destroys the entire family. Of course it is natural for an emotionally abusive partner to decline to undergo counseling, denying the fact the he is subjecting his partner to such abuse. However, for the good of everybody in the family, certain steps must be taken to stop the abuse. Counseling. Both partners need to talk to a trusted therapist or counsellor to discuss the origin or the reason behind the abusive behavior. Counseling also helps regain trust, confidence, and self-esteem. Trial separation. Some time away from each other to understand the importance of each partner in the relationship is sometimes helpful to make the abuser aware of his mistakes. Divorce . If an abusive partner refuses to acknowledge the fact that he is manipulating and taking advantage of his partner,it is time to let go of the relationship and start life anew. Love is supposed to help us grow, not trap us like a prisoner. If you feel like you’re being boxed in by an abusive partner, speak up. It is never ok to let yourself be subjected to so much abuse. It is not advisable to immediately jump into a divorce, try to work it out first. With the right help, you might still be able to rebuild a happy married life.
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always advocate self-care as the first step in preventing and treating health challenges. When it comes to breast health, the importance of self-care is a message I can’t share often enough. It is great to see pink ribbons everywhere in October during National Breast Cancer Awareness Month! If I had my wish, every pink ribbon would carry an additional important message for women. That message would read “You can improve your breast health and reduce the risk of breast cancer right now with a few simple lifestyle changes.” We may not be able to control where we live or our genetic risk factors- it’s true. However, a growing body of research is showing us that women really can make a difference in their breast health through diet, exercise, and weight management.
We need to emphasize that everyone should be focusing on what we can control not what we can’t. - We can evaluate our hormone levels with a saliva test. The best way for premenopausal and postmenopausal women to know if their bodies have an imbalance of estrogen, progesterone and testosterone is to do a saliva test. Saliva Testing is the most accurate and easy way to this. - We can use bio-identical hormones if we need hormone supplementation. Bio Identical means that the molecular structure of the hormones identically match the hormones made by our body as opposed to Pregnant Mare’s Urine which is natural to horses not humans. - We can change our habits: reduce alcohol consumption and quit smoking.
- We can manage our weight and exercise daily. Studies also show that maintaining a healthy, These simple steps can help optimize your body’s average weight is just as important in favorably hormonal balance and reduce the risk of develop- influencing the estrogen/progesterone ratio. Reging breast cancer, and provide additional health, ular exercise is equally important. On the other anti-aging, and disease-prevention benefits.
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hand, obesity, high insulin levels, alcohol intake, smoking, oral contraceptives, hormones from meat and meat products, pesticides, and herbicides can swing this ratio in the wrong direction.
“...women really can make a difference in their breast health through diet, exercise, and weight management.”
- We can do BSE’s- breast self exams becoming more familiar with our own body - We can become better informed - read Dr. John Lee’s “What Your Doctor May Not Tell You About Breast Cancer” as a start.
- We can eat a balanced diet choosing Eat organic to avoid pesticides, herbicides, and estrogens in meat and dairy products. Include one to three servings of cruciferous vegetables like broccoli, bok choy, cauliflower, brussel sprouts, and cabbage in your diet each day. Studies show that Indole 3 Carbinol the active ingredient helps balance estrogen levels. - We Can supplement wisely with EFA’s, essential fatty acids and use a fruit and vegetable concentrate if you do not eat 5 - 8 servings of fruits and vegetables daily.
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Just for dad dressing up as a fireman, policeman, soldier, fighter pilot, sailor, etc. But just one caveat, though. If you’re planning on attending a Halloween party with a group of other guys, make sure you’re not going to appear as The Village People. Pop Culture- Pop culture has recently given us a lot more choices for great costumes. You can opt to go dressed as a Survivor castaway, with some dirt smeared on your face, sandals, and swimming trunks. This is probably one of the easiest costumes you can assemble. You can also go dressed as Austin Powers, who seems never to go out of style. All you need is a velvet suit, ruffled shirt, pointy leather boots or shoes, and lots of colorful accessories to make an appearance as the shaggadelic man of Mystery. The Man of Steel is also back in business as one of the preferred costumes, with the recent return of the latest installment in the series.
Get Involved Dad! Costume ideas just for YOU! Let’s face it; Halloween was much simpler when we were just kids. I mean, you could just dress up as a clown or a ghost, and won’t have to worry about other people laughing at you. Now, it’s a whole different idea. You have to find a costume that would look sexy, scary, or funny enough without making you look stupid, especially when you’re with the ladies. When Halloween comes around and you need a costume for a party, for the office, or for the kids who will be sure to come trick-or-treating, just follow these great costume ideas for men, and you’ll be sure to get noticed without being laughed at. Men in Uniform- It’s not a big secret that women can go nuts over a man in uniform. Just ask the several other guys you meet who are wearing firemen, police, and soldier costumes. Dressing up in uniform is a great way to appear attractive and masculine. Uniforms always make great costumes, whether you’re
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Sports- Another good costume idea is to go and dress up as your favorite athlete. Don’t worry if you don’t really know how to play the game; that’s not the point here. Whether it’s baseball, football, basketball, or any other favorite sport, you can choose from lots of favorite sports icons to imitate. It would be a sure-fire hit, especially if some of the women arrive dressed up in one of those sexy tennis outfits or cheerleader uniforms. And don’t forget wrestling. You can have fun dressed up as Stone Cold Steve Austin, The Rock, Triple H, or any other well-known wrestler. It would be more fun if you can also imitate the way they talk and move. Construction Worker- believe it or not, a lot of women go for those muscular, sweaty men they walk by everyday in building sites, even if they won’t admit it. Wearing a tight pair of jeans, a white tank top or t-shirt, a construction hat and a tool belt will complete your get-up. There are lots more of great costume ideas for men. You can either go out and visit costume shops, or you can browse the Internet. The latter is particularly convenient and practical. Lots of great costume shops online have a wide selection of costumes and accessories at very affordable prices.
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Sexy Costumes Just for Mom
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alloween is just around the corner and you know what that means mom. It’s time to figure out what you are going to wear. You know you want to look sexy, so what type of costume should you choose? When making your choice this year, be sure to look through a large assortment of adult costumes to get a feel for what is available. Next, do some soul searching and try to determine what type of costume will match your current state of mind. Try to pick out something that compliments your mood and your costume will really shine.
Sexy Mom
This will not be a problem. To take charge, just slip into a sexy police officer costume and put your partner where he belongs. For you playful, flirty types who are looking for some serious attention from the boys, a sexy schoolgirl costume is guaranteed to get you the looks you crave. And when the country girl in you is just dying to get out, grab your hat and put on a sexy cowgirl costume. Finally, for those of you feeling as pure as the driven snow, you may be in the market for an innocent angel costume. There are so many sexy Halloween costumes available today that no matter what kind of mood you are in, there is a costume that is perfect for you. Remember, Halloween is a fun time of year and the perfect opportunity to do some role-playing that you might not otherwise be inclined to try. This is your chance to experience one of your fantasies by dressing up in a safe and accepted environment where not dressing up is the exception to the rule
Halloween is a fun time of year and the perfect opportunity to do some role-playing that you might not otherwise be inclined to try Feeling a little bit rowdy? A flirtatious black biker babe costume will fit the bill nicely. Are you ready to give someone the care and attention they require? Then try on one of the many attractive sexy nurse costumes available today. Maybe you are feeling the need to dominate this season.
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Going from a “Survivor” to a
THRIVOR Healing from the impact of child abuse
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aving children is a life long commitment and it can be a daunting task when you think of all the different ways you can go about raising your child.
There are also many schools and training centers that you can enroll your child in that will help them with their school work and teach them the study skills they need to get ahead in
Nowadays you need all the good help and information you can get when it comes to the development of your child, and there are many great websites on the internet that will give you a wealth of information. Whether you are just starting out with your first child, or maybe you need help with your teenager, you will find what you need to help you do the right thing for
school. There is help out their for parents who want their children to be the best they can be in all they do. Many websites can answer questions you have from doctor visits to separation anxiety. The first thing you will need to do to solve a specific problem is to find out what that problem is. So clarify the problem with your child’s development before you start looking for a solution. So identify the
“There is help out their for parents who want their children to be the best they can be in all they do.”
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key elements of the problem before you start looking for a solution. So identify the key elements of the problem before you start looking for a solution. Visualize the problem or relevant process or situation. Sometimes, when we can see
ence on their child’s development. When looking for help, make sure the program you choose will include you in the process. It has also been found that parents who take time to play and read with their child will have a positive impact on them. Providing a stimulating home environment and using discipline strategies instead of spanking your child will have a more positive impact on them also. Most programs give free information on the best ways to promote a better education for your child. You want the best for your child’s development and there are many websites out there that will help you get the best development you can find for your growing child.
"...to solve a specific problem is to find out what that problem is." the problem with a child’s development and all its important details right in front of us this will helps us understand the problem better. Other times we can’t see important elements because they have already occurred or are not visible. In these cases, it is valuable to visualize important elements of the problem. Sometimes things said about problems are easier than the actual problem itself. Research shows that parents are a major influ-
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Howyou
Handle your child’s Development Will effect them forever!
Having children is a life long commitment and it can be a daunting task when you think of all the different ways you can go about raising your child. Nowadays you need all the good help and information you can get when it comes to the development of your child, and there are many great websites on the internet that will give you a wealth of information. Whether you are just starting out with your first child, or maybe you need help with your teenager, you will find what you need to help you do the right thing for your child no matter what age they are or how many children or even grandchildren you are raising. There are hundreds, if not thousands of books out there that say they can help you with your child’s development. Most of them are reputable however, they are supposed to be a tool to help you and give you some idea of how to help your child grow up healthy and strong. You should rely on your instincts too because you probably know more than you realize. There are also many schools and training centers that you can enroll your child in that will help them with their school work and teach them the study skills they need to get ahead in school. There is help out their for parents who want their children to be the best they can be in all they do. Many websites can answer questions you have from doctor visits to separation anxiety. The first thing you will need to do to solve a specific prob-
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lem is to find out what that problem is. So clarify the problem with your child’s development before you start looking for a solution. So identify the key elements of the problem before you start looking for a solution. Visualize the problem or relevant process or situation. Sometimes, when we can see the problem with a child’s development and all its important details right in front of us this will helps us understand the problem better. Other times we can’t see important elements because they have already occurred or are not visible. In these cases, it is valuable to visualize important elements of the problem. Sometimes things said about problems are easier than the actual problem itself. Research shows that parents are a major influence on their child’s development. When looking for help, make sure the program you choose will include you in the process. It has also been found that parents who take time to play and read with their child will have a positive impact on them. Providing a stimulating home environment and using discipline strategies instead of spanking your child will have a more positive impact on them also. Most programs give free information on the best ways to promote a better education for your child. You want the best for your child’s development and there are many websites out there that will help you get the best development you can find for your growing child.
October 2014
Moment of Clarity
“Happiness is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it eludes you. But if you turn your attention to other things, It comes and sits softly on your shoulder. - Henry David Thoreau
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