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About This Issue
By Anita oldham
Power I am Today’s Woman
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By Lucy M. Pritchett
Survival Skills: Technology
and Life 10
By Marie Bradby
High-Tech Tinsel 12 By Jessica Smith
20 Things
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By Anita Oldham
Help! I Can’t Work My Phone and Other Tech Problems 26
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Looking Back
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By Tiffany White
STYLE
The Beauty Snob
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By megan Seckman
Her 13 Inspirations:
Jane Owens
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By megan Seckman
What’s Your Christmas Decorating Style? 36 By Yelena Sapin
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My Favorite Things By Melissa Donald
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Is Technology Taking Over Your Life? 50 By Bob Mueller
Technology is Changing Your Doctor Visit 52 By Cheryl Stuck
CONNECTIONS Just Ask Joyce 54
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5 Things Not to Miss
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By Gioia Patton and Tiffany White
She Looks Like Princess Diana
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Today’s Woman
Cover On Our
Love-Hate Relationship
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lison Cardoza, personal trainer and dance instructor at Milestone Wellness Center, shines brightly on our cover. Aren’t those headphones fabulous? Our talented assistant editor Jessica Smith spent nearly five hours decorating them using small fake jewels purchased from Michael’s. We discovered that you can purchase headphones encrusted in Swarovski crystals, but it’ll cost you. Find out more about it and Alison’s favorite workout tunes in 20 Things on page 20. — Tiffany White
In this issue… • Read about the great tech gifts geared toward women (page 12). • Answers to some of your technical problems (page 26). • Try these apps (page 28). — Anita Oldham
Photo: Melissa Donald Hair and Makeup BY:
Isidro Valencia
Styling by: Tiffany White CLOTHING: Dress, $220,
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I am Today’s woman ~ Open-Minded and Resourceful
Stephanie Lindsay ~ owner and floral designer, Green Lady Studio
by Lucy M. Pritchett / Photo: Melissa donald / Makeup: Holly Oyler
Background:
I lived in New York City for almost a decade working in marketing and media. I worked as senior promotions editor for Martha Stewart Living and senior sales development manager for This Old House. I moved back to Louisville in 2005 and worked as marketing director for Revive Skin Care. But I discovered what worked for me in NYC was not working here. I wanted to do something more authentic.
Making it happen:
I took some of the money I had saved for a down payment on a house and invested that in a new career. I was drawn to flowers and would often visit the flower market in New York City. I trained at the New York Flower School and apprenticed with floral designer Michael George. He is the one who created the spiral blossom technique. I launched Green Lady Studio in November 2007.
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Trends in floral design:
Flower arrangements are loosening up. What used to be considered filler in arrangements is now playing a more prominent role. Today’s designs feature the natural beauty of layering different shades of green and adding a few blossoms for texture and variety.
Appreciates about her hometown of Louisville: The pace of life. People appreciate time spent with family and friends. The community is supportive of local businesses and the environment. Louisville is a place where an individual’s voice can be heard and an impact made.
Using technology:
One hundred percent of customers who are brides come to me with inspirations organized on Pinterest. It is important to have an image on my website that can be pinned. Every time that image is re-pinned, it tracks back to my website.
AGE: 42
Business advice:
Once I took the leap to make the change of a career, a leap that was quite scary, I opened my ears and my eyes and talked to people in all parts of the floral field. Everyone had something of value to offer. One person I talked to was the 80-year-old uncle of a friend who was a wholesale florist in Lancaster, Ky. He told me to keep my overhead low. That’s why I don’t have a walk-in shop. And thanks to technology, I don’t need one.
Spends her time:
I spend half my time in floral arranging; 25 percent of my time in planning meetings with clients and writing proposals; 15 percent on buying and placing orders; and 10 percent on administrative work.
Hometown: Louisville NEIGHBORHOOD: St. Matthews Household: son, Roscoe Lindsay-Bruns, 9.
Buying the blossoms:
Green Lady Studio is a sustainable and eco-friendly business. I buy local as much as possible, and if I can’t get what I need locally, I use Fair Trade-certified or organic flowers. I even reuse the rubber bands that come on the bunches of flowers I buy, and I avoid floral foam as much as possible.
Pet Peeve:
I am ready to move on from those Mason jar arrangements. greenladystudio.com
PHOTO: Stephanie found design inspiration in the red English transferware “that my Gran used to serve our formal country Thanksgiving dinners” and the herbs of Thanksgiving. location: Decca Restaurant & Lounge; centerpiece, tableware: CS&K Antiques; pashmina: KN Prints Louisville. Today’s Woman
Survival Skills: Technology and Life
Kelly Hall
by Marie Bradby
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entucky Farm Bureau Mutual Insurance — a $1.8 billion property and casualty insurer, the state’s largest with 1.3 million policies — has been undergoing a technology transformation. At the helm of this reconstruction is Louisville native Kelly Hall, vice president for information technology.
Kelly and her husband, Tommy, have two children: son Taylor, 19, and daughter Janelle, 14. Here are Kelly’s survival skills:
Rule #1: Be a servantleader. “Work to achieve results
for your organization by making the needs of your colleagues a priority. This enables others to be greater contributors to the overall success of the organization.”
Rule #2: Respect others. “It is important
to establish and maintain positive relationships. It starts with respecting others, regardless of their status or role.”
Rule #3: Be a fact-based decision-maker and thinker.
“It is much easier to make decisions based on partial fact and speculation. It is more work to understand facts needed for a more informed and ultimately better decision. It is important to ask questions and be a good listener to create a climate that welcomes questions from others.”
Rule #4: Manage your time wisely. “This means
knowing how to prioritize work and home matters. Focus on what matters the most one day at a time while keeping a view to the future.”
Rule #5: Take the high road. “People, whether in your
personal or professional life, will disappoint or maybe hurt you. It is important to recognize when this is happening and not react to it, but respond ethically, no matter how uncomfortable the situation.”
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“A lot of our systems were older technologies,” Kelly says. “So, one of the charges that I’ve had is to transform the technology environment: the infrastructure, meaning the hardware, the file servers, the PCs, and the voice and data network; and the core systems for policy and claims that run the company.” For e-business, Kelly’s staff of 140 has produced websites for all insurance agents. Through a customer portal, clients already can pay their bills online but now will gain access to documents such as proof of insurance that would have been mailed or faxed. “The goal is to make our company function more efficiently and be more agile in the delivery of services to our customers,” says Kelly, 48, who came to IT after first working as a technical writer. A communications major at the University of Louisville, Kelly had hopes of being a broadcast journalist, but her ‘Aha!’ moment came when she couldn’t afford to take an unpaid internship. A savvy computer user, Kelly began her career in the healthcare industry, moving from technical writing to computer system training and development programming. One mentor encouraged her to go into IT management, so she got a master’s degree from Webster University pursuing dual majors: computer resources management and human resources development. “I feel very fortunate to have the opportunity to be able to stay local and be able to promote locally,” Kelly says about her VP position. “It’s difficult to find an [executive position] like this in your hometown.” Kelly believes some women aren’t drawn to the IT field because they think it’s just programming. “IT has diversified,” she says. “You can manage projects. You can learn the business of your industry, how departments are run. And you can work with a myriad of technologies.” lis sa Do na
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Rule #6: Be pragmatic. “Try to use
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common sense. Be down-toearth with yourself and others.”
Rule #7: Breathe!
“We all should stop and take a deep breath when the world around us is moving too fast. Don’t dwell on your failures, but rejoice in your successes, whether that is your child graduating high school, your project team pulling off a successful implementation, or simply managing to finish the laundry. “Women often beat themselves up for everything that doesn’t go right. I have to have reminders from my husband to let it go, move on, and be happy and grateful for what went well.” Today’s Woman
HIGH-TECH
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Trim your tree with shiny gadgets and great gifts that actually do what technology is supposed to do: make today’s woman’s life easier and more enjoyable. By JEssica sMiTh / phOTO illusTRaTiON By MElissa dONald
Read Anywhere, No Glare New Nielsen survey data suggests women prefer e-readers to tablets for reading, so digital literature-loving ladies are in luck: Amazon just released the striking Kindle Paperwhite in September. The new Kindle is designed with 62 percent more pixels and a 25 percent increase in contrast over earlier versions, meaning its display is sharper, clearer, and easier to read without wearing your eyes out like a computer screen. The screen is also “front-lit,” which means light is distributed evenly underneath an anti-glare layer but also down and away from the reader’s eyes. You can read on the beach or at night without disturbing anyone with the glow. The light won’t wear down the battery, though – Amazon advertises an 8-week battery life between charges. phOTO cOuRTEsy Of aM
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Cost: $119 (WiFi only) or $179 (WiFi plus 3G cellular) Get it: Amazon.com
Unveil Better Skin As far as we can tell, Clarisonic’s smallest Sonic Skin Cleansing System lives up to hundreds of squeaky-clean online reviews. Clarisonic advertises that the Mia cleans skin six times better than hands alone in just 60 seconds. Use it twice a day to shrink pores, help your skin better absorb moisturizer, and chase away residue and impurities.
Cost: $120 ($100 on Amazon.com) Get it: in one of 13 colors on clarisonic.com or
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< What are these things? They’re quick-response codes, or QR codes. If you have a smartphone or tablet with a camera, you can scan these codes much like cashiers scan products at the cash register. The codes will take you to a website where you can learn more about or buy each of our gift ideas. Learn more >> TOday’s Today’s WOMaN Woman
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First, you need a QR-code-reading app. Newer models of Android and Blackberry phones come with an app pre-installed, and there are free ones at the Apple App Store and the Android Market. Keep reading >>
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Enjoy Your Photos Again Women usually don the ‘family photographer’ hat, but if you’re like us, your digital photos tend to sit in folders on your computer, unused and un-viewed. Mixbook is an online photo editor and digital scrapbooking software that allows you to create, customize, and order photo books. Upload pictures from your computer or grab them from Facebook or a photo-sharing site such as Flickr or Picasa. Then, choose from pre-made themes, templates, backgrounds, and stickers and start customizing. You can even hit the AutoMix button to have Mixbook fill your entire book with photos in seconds. Create and share your digital scrapbook online for free or order a photo book in one of seven sizes in softcover or hardcover.
Cost: $7-$50, depending on book size, material, and number of pages Get it: www.mixbook.com
Talk, Text, and Do Pretty Much Anything Else Just released in September, Apple’s iPhone 5 is thinner, lighter, and more powerful than its predecessors. The iPhone 5 boasts a bigger screen, brand-new iOS 6 software, easier social media, a more intelligent Siri, and... oh yeah, 4G LTE technology — faster, stronger, and more capable communication standards. According to Business Insider, women prefer the iPhone over other smartphones, so Apple’s newest installment is sure to please any tech-savvy lady.
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And if you’re ditching your iPhone 4 for an upgrade, consider donating your old phone to the Center for Women and Families (thecenteronline.org), an organization with five locations around Louisville that helps victims of sexual violence and partner abuse. They’ll refurbish your old phone for a survivor so she’ll always have a way to call for help in an unsafe situation. A very merry win-win.
Try These Apps Evernote - evernote.com Collect any info and store it online for instant access Cardstar - cardstar.com Consolidate your membership and reward cards for easy access on your phone MyTMC - mytmcapp.com Find deals and coupons close to your location (enter “Do It Today” when you sign up)
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You’ve been taught not to play with fire since you were three, but it’s time to rethink that rule a bit. This Empire Anywhere Fireplace is safe to use indoors or out because it uses clean-burning bio-ethanol fuel that’s smokeless, odorless, and toxin-free. No chimney, vent, or electrical connection is needed. Warm up your winter and add a cool campfire ambiance to any room with this 12-by-12-inch beauty.
Cost: $110 Get it: Anywherefireplaces.com,
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Control All Your Electronics DVD player, sound system, television, DVR, game console — if you’re at a loss when it comes to juggling multiple remotes when you just want to watch New Girl, the universal remote is your solution. Control all your devices from one sleek little remote that’s easy to program — and there are lots of options ranging in price and capabilities to meet your needs. Intellireview.com has a nice review of 10 popular universal remotes ranging from about $25 to $200. You might also try an app such as iRule (iruleathome.com), which can turn your smart phone or tablet into a universal remote for a price and a little patience as you connect to your devices online.
Cost: $20-$200 Get it: Amazon.com, Wal-Mart, Target, Sears, electronics stores Forget the set-up: The Geek Squad at BestBuy can help you set up your universal remote if you need help.
Steps, Calories, Sleep... This Tracks It All
Cost: $99.95 Get it: in one of two colors on fitbit.com,
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The Fitbit Tracker is a master multitasker that tracks your steps, calorie intake, calories burned, hours slept, sleep efficiency, even floors you’ve climbed. Then, it automatically sends your stats to Fitbit.com or to an app on your smartphone. The tracker is small and discrete enough to ride in your pocket or clip to your waistband or even your bra. Fitbit.com also offers a social media platform and synchronization with other popular fitness programs such as LoseIt! and RunKeeper.
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The camera will lock on to the QR code, and the website linked to the code will automatically pop up, allowing you to find more details on a product or even order one on the spot. Try it out!
Use Your Whole Stovetop Set a pot anywhere on the ultra-quick Thermador Freedom Induction Cooktop’s generous 36-inch surface, and it will detect and heat the cookware using safe electromagnetic energy, leaving you freedom (ah, we see what they did there) to forgo segregation on single burners. Even if you need to move a pan to the other side of the range, the cooktop will transfer all settings to the pan’s new position. Monitor all positions and temperatures with a bright, smart touchscreen control panel.
Cost: price upon request (about $5000) Get it: Thermador partners in Louisville include Bonnycastle phoTo co
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Housecleaner in the Closet Push a button and watch the iRobot Roomba 650 tackle carpet, hardwood, laminate, tile, and the most formidable pet hair and dust bunnies. You do have to empty the debris bin when it gets full, but other than that, prop up your feet and watch the little dude work before it finishes its job, scoots back to its charger, and hooks itself up to prepare for next time. You can even program it to vacuum while you sleep so you wake up to clean floors every day. The 600 series is the newest Roomba offers, with better pet hairand lint-collecting technology, a new brush design, and a debris bin that doesn’t need emptied as often.
Cost: $399.99 Get it: iRobot.com, Amazon.com, BestBuy stores phoTo couRTEsy of iRoBoT
Jam Anywhere If you’re looking for portable, wireless, easy-to-use, high-quality, thumpin’ sound from your smartphone, tablet, or laptop, look no further than the Jambox from Jawbone. With Bluetooth Hi-Fi technology syncing your device and the speaker, the Jambox makes it easy to play DJ from a range of 30 to 40 feet. At about 6 inches long, the speaker packs an audio punch for its size, and you can stick it in a purse or jacket pocket. Jambox’s battery life is advertised at at least eight hours, and you can customize the color and design. Use it for conference calls, background music, jamming in your car, or spontaneous personal dance parties (we won’t tell).
Cost: $199.99 Get it: jawbone.com, Amazon.com, BestBuy, Wal-Mart phoTo couRTEsy of jaWBonE
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Phone Check! Dish on Market is offering customers a 5% discount if they are willing to leave their phones with the maître de. Owners Marshall and Anderson Grissom say they want customers to focus wholly on their meals, their bourbon, and the people they are with.
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The American Pie Council (APC) can help you get your homemade pie fix on Thanksgiving with its new cookbook, America’s Best Pies: Nearly 200 Recipes You’ll Love (Skyhorse Publishing, October 2012, SRP $24.95). You can find this
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Alice J. Schleicher, president of AJS Inc., was honored for a lifetime of contributions by Ivy Tech Community College Southern Indiana at the Legacy Award Gala.
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Santa’s Postmark You can mail Christmas cards to to be stamped to the Santa Claus post office: package them — with postage stamps affixed — in a sturdy envelope or box, and mail to: Postmaster, Santa Claus Station, Santa Claus, IN 47579
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Casey Neel was the model winner of the event.
Waterfront Fashion Week brought four days of bigtime fashion to Louisville. The fashion extravaganza was produced by operations director Peggy Hagerty Duffy and creative director Jo Ross.
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Weekly drawings beginning Oct. 3 - Dec. 19 at www.TodaysFamilyEveryDay.co PROMOTION
WIN: 4 Louisvil
WIN: A family
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membership to Frazier International History Museum and a pair of tickets to “Diana: A Celebration.”
WIN: $1000 trip to Gaylord Opryland’s A Country Christmas show plus an overnight stay.
WIN: A family of 4 visit to Christmas at the Galt House Hotel,
Tickets, which includ zoo admission, unlimited carousel rides, the ZooTram Shuttle, and a ticket to the Zoo’s new 4-D theater, DVD about Qannik, the Zoo’s polar cub, and two small plush animals.
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Family photo
session, which includes an 11” x 14” mounted print from Little Face Photography. Not valid on newborn or senior sessions.
WIN: A three-night stay for a dog
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featuring the spectacular “KaLightoscope Attraction,” including the NEW Peppermint Express Kiddie Train Ride through the Candy Cane Forest with “Sugar Pine” the Talking Tree. The experience is Nov. 17-Jan. 2.
in one of the luxury suites at the Kentucky Humane Society’s Eastpoint Pet Resort.
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WIN: Yum! Family Series Program The National Circus of the People’s Republic of China performing Cirque Chinois
Sunday, Nov. 25 at 7pm at The Brown Theatre on Broadway.
A Two-night stay at Carter Caves State Resort Park: • 2 nights lodging • 2 adult and 2 child tickets for the Cascade Cave System AND… A two-night stay at Cumberland Falls State Resort Park: • 2 nights lodging • 2 adult tickets for admission to the Gem Mining Sluice Both packages must be redeemed between Nov. 1-April 30, 2013
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Her Heart Inspires Louisville native, and heart disease survivor, Regan Judd has been selected to be a national spokeswoman for the American Heart Association’s Go Red For Women movement. Regan Judd returned to University of Kentucky’s Dance Team after her open heart surgery in 2009.
I stopped into a new store in the ever-growing historic New Albany. The Opal Gypsy (201 E. Market Street, New Albany) boutique has clothing and jewelry as well as many recycled and repurposed items by artists.
Do you Need Accountability to lose weight? The person who signs up for our weight loss challenge, Ready to Change Your Life, will have the accountability of thousands of readers. Three or four chosen readers will get a chance to have a personalized food source and trainer for three months, and after achieving at least part of their goal of getting healthier, these readers get a makeover!
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A Couple of Thanksgiving Options If you don’t want to cook: • Both J. Graham’s Café and the English Grill at the Brown Hotel will offer elegant dining options. The Brown Hotel: 502.583.1234. • Winston’s Restaurant, Juleps Catering, and The Bakery at Sullivan University are preparing Thanksgiving to Go ($130 for 4). Sullivan: 502.243.5866. NOVEMber
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Our chef/photographer Melissa Donald lists her favorite kitchen gadgets, which would make great gifts. Melissa, a self-professed garlic snob, tries to convert those around her to all things fresh. One thing she has recently stopped me from using? Garlic in a jar. Now, thanks to her intervention, I only use fresh garlic with the help of my garlic press! (See page 42.)
Doesn’t this sound intriguing?
The Light In The Piazza is a wondrous fable about love. The setting is Florence, Italy, early 1950’s. A well-off middle-aged woman dutifully drags her twenty-something daughter, Clara, to all the sights in Florence. A breeze separates Clara from her hat, which is promptly rescued by a handsome young man, Fabrizio. The attraction is immediate and because of Clara’s secret, perhaps even dangerous. You can see this at The Kentucky Center’s Mex Theater starting November 16 by The As Yet Unnamed Theatre Company. KCA Box Office: 502.584.7777
A Little Art Every Day The Louisville Visual Art Association has a new daily website featuring art for sale by a local artist. Find out how your art can be featured at www.artebelladaily.org
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Our cover model Alison Cardoza leads hip hop dances at Milestone Wellness Center, so we asked her for her favorite workout songs of the moment: “I love songs I can dance to! Some specific songs LMFAO ~ Party Rock, FloRida ~ Whistle, Pitbull ~ Crazy, Chris Brown ~ Don’t Wake Me Up, Rihanna ~ Where Have You Been?, and Owl City ~ Good Time.
The shiny headphones were created by Assistant Editor Jessica Smith with the help of some bling and some older headphones. We found Swarovski crystal headphones for $2,500. (Or maybe just bling them yourself.
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If I hear a great song on the radio, I use my app, Shazam, to get the artist’s name.”
Wedding Dress Design A look at some avant-garde bridal fashions.
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These dresses are designed by Karen Sabag who says she has incorporated the corset as a foundation for her dresses.
Holiday Extravaganza by The Woman’s Club of Louisville
Benefitting Heuser Hearing & Language Academy/ Salvation Army Culinary Program November 7, 5-6 pm ~ wine/cheese reception 6-9 pm food/bourbon tasting $60 at door
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Congrats, Leslie!
On November 16 at the National Philanthropy Day Leslie E. Vidra, Luncheon at the Galt attorney and House, she receives co-owner Of Ulrich And Vidra, LLC the 2012 Baylor Landrum, Jr., Leave A Legacy Award. This recognition is based on her work with nonprofits and with individuals planning their legacy gifts.
How have I missed this? Holiday Shopping & Benefitting Ho Ho Ho Holiday Boutique November 2, 4-8pm; November 3, 10am-3pm For the past seven years, the Ho Ho Ho Holiday local artists and designers all meet at Whitehall House (3110 Lexington Road) for you to shop and also help benefit Whitehall.
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Temptations Holiday Gift Show
at The Olmsted November 13, 4-8pm; November 14 & 15, 10am-7pm More than 30 juried vendors and benefits the National Multiple Sclerosis Society.
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Help!!
I Can’t Work My Phone :: and other technical problems :: By Carmen Brown
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ouch-screen phones. Televisions and video games controlled by the sound of your voice or your movements. It seems these futuristic ideas from just a few years ago have not only been invented but exceed our wildest imaginations. Technology has been incorporated into every part of our lives, and there is almost no limit to what it can do. The challenges are recognizing how technology can help you and knowing where to get help if you need it.
If your home computer gives you headaches, you might take some tips from Erik Eckel, managing partner and owner of Louisville Geek. The majority of the residential service calls Louisville Geek receives deal with a home computer that runs too slowly or won’t start up. “Residential computers normally have a three- to five-year life cycle, so most of those problems are with older computers,” Eckel says. “You want to make sure that you have the most current equipment and the most current software.” Eckel also says anti-virus software and a way to back up your computer’s information are must-haves. “Having an external drive or program like iCloud (for Macs) will help you recover your information if anything happens to your computer,” he says. For general technology issues, most computer and cellular phone companies have brick-and-mortar stores, customer service numbers, and websites to help you with any problem. In addition, some businesses offer classes to help you get the most out of your device. The Apple Store, for example, offers free workshops on how to use Mac-specific photo and music programs. Apple Stores also offer oneon-one sessions to help you with specific questions or needs for your Apple device. Local colleges and the Louisville Free Public Library offer computer classes to help you improve your skills. Even the most advanced computer user might still be a beginner when it comes to using smartphones. There are hundreds of thousands of apps for the iPhone and Android phones, and you can easily get overwhelmed when deciding what’s best for you. Basic apps such as Facebook and Instagram are easy to find and use; however, you can take advantage of several productivity, shopping, and other categories of apps to get the most from your phone. Remember, if you think of something you could use your phone for, there’s probably an app for what you need! Here are a few examples:
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For the shopper in you: A barcode scanner app for the iPhone or Android is useful for a bargain hunter. You can scan the barcode on a product, and your phone will search the Internet for that product to help you compare prices at other stores.
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For Food: Your phone can help you prepare dishes from around the world with one of the many recipe apps available. You can search by ingredient or meal, and some apps have an option that will randomly select meal suggestions with a shake of your phone. If you’re not a chef, there are apps to help you find local eats, one of which was created by Louisville’s own Michelle Jones. The Menu and Hours app was developed out of her own frustrations. “I researched what people wanted to know about restaurants, and it helped me develop Menu and Hours,” Jones says. “It’s a reference guide for Louisville restaurants with the menu, hours, location, and contact info.” Currently, the app is only available for the iPhone, but Jones hopes to develop an Android version this fall. “The feedback has been positive,” she says. “People seem to really appreciate the simplicity of the app.” Jones hopes to take Menu and Hours to different cities as it becomes more popular. Jones is also the mind behind ConsumingLouisville.com, a website about Louisville’s independent businesses, artists, and restaurants. She developed Let Them Tweet Cake, a women’s discussion group focused on technology and social media. “We meet quarterly and talk about technology,” Jones says. “We love that women are getting involved in technology and love to share knowledge.” If you want to learn more about any type of technology or social media, Jones says go for it: “Get over your shyness about asking for help. Our group is so excited about other women’s interests in technology that we are eager to help you learn!” Whether through a group, website, or friendly store associate, you can learn how to survive in this technologyfilled world.
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Cozi Calendar: A family calendar — school schedules to sports activities, meals, grocery lists, and chores.
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Inrix traffic: Real-time incidents, traffic forecasting and comparative traffic. — Recommended by Erica Champa Dietrich
Allrecipes: Recipes and shopping lists. — Recommended by Marsha Dumeyer Bergmann
Disney Junior: Games and TV shows. — Recommended by Kimberly L. Buechel
Myfitnesspal: Tracks calories, exercise, and offers motivation. — Recommended by Lauren Dahl and Papillon Blue
GroceryiQ: Build grocery lists with integrated coupons. — Recommended by Tracie Bouchard Morarity
WeatherBug: Weather alerts no matter your location. Flixster: Movie reviews and info on any movie in theater or DVD. — Recommended by Victoria Rankin
Snapseed: Add special effects to your photos. — Recommended by Nancy Schulte Daneshmand
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t’s been 15 years since we created our first technology issue, and we can’t believe the changes that have happened. We’ve transitioned from basic email and fax machines to MacBooks, iPhones, iPads, Facebook, and Twitter. In our Tuning Into Technology feature, we interviewed several women to find out how technology affected their careers. Here’s a snapshot of where we were:
Congratulations on 20 Years
“I work more efficiently. My environment is virtually paper-free because of computers.” — Ellen Jones “In 1994, I began developing websites. Within weeks, I had numerous projects.” — Elizabeth Lawler “I can reach people easier and faster with e-mail and Memory Call.” — Ellen Jones “The Internet is for the ‘90s, what the fax was to the ‘80s.” — Pam Kleier
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The Beauty Snob B O N S A I’M By Megan Seckman
Heidi Williams
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y beloved hair dresser — master stylist, illustrious colorist, fashionista — is a complete and utter snob. Getting my haircut from Heidi Williams, stylist at 146 Salon and Spa, is like therapy. Well, sometimes more like an intervention. First, I’m broken down. “How have you been — good God! Paint those toes, granola girl! You look like you’re 60! Might as well wear some Birkenstocks, Earthy Toes. That’s just wrong!” Then comes the counseling session. “Do you want to look like an East End housewife? Do you really want country-music-singer bangs? Is that what you’ve become? No. You are hip and young. I’ll give you the bob, but we’re going short with the bangs.” And finally, she builds me up again. “I could shave your head and you’d still look good. See you in six to eight weeks.” Each time I make the 30-mile trek to get my haircut, I leave feeling not only beautiful but also enlightened by my filter-less beauty snob. “Lots of things drive me crazy, but the worst is bad color, like the dark-on-the-bottom or light-on-the-top look,” Heidi says, “Or chunky highlights — they’ve taken over the mullet. Or what I refer to as Elvis hair — when girls wear their hair way too dark. All those styles make me think they may be trying too hard.
“I’m also a snob about outdated hairstyles,” she continues. “I don’t know why people are scared of trying something new — color, cut, or something simple, like getting bangs. Change usually ends in something good. I don’t have much of a filter and will tell my clients when they have billy-goat chin hairs that need tending or when they need a change.” I’m always grateful for Heidi’s honesty. When I’m too busy to notice my grooming sloth, get stuck in an aesthetic rut, or feel overwhelmed by insurmountable responsibilities, I can always rely on my beauty snob to slap me back into shape. After all, it is much easier to change your hairstyle than a career or a family. Sometimes the little things, like great hair, can change my entire outlook. Heidi is also choosy about her clients. “I don’t do men’s hair — that’s what barbers are for,” she says. “And I won’t cut kids’ hair. With children, you have to deal with the kid and the parent hovering over you. The way I see it, children should cost double since I’m pleasing two people.” She’s so choosy, I almost lost her in 2008 when we got into a political debate in the salon chair. Not only did I learn my lesson never to mix beauty with politics, but I almost lost an ear. So this election season, I bit my liberal tongue and painted my god-forsaken, earthy toes. Lookin’ good.
I’m A Snob About… will be an ongoing column.
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Jane Owens Marriage and Family Therapist Associate (MFTA) and Certified Social Worker (CSW)
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here is creativity in all of us. That’s what it’s all about. I think “T that’s how we heal, by harnessing
that creativity we have,” says Jane Owens, marriage and family therapist associate (MFTA) and certified social worker (CSW). Jane takes creativity to a different level by using it to heal patients at her practice, Jane Owens Family Therapy, on Frankfort Avenue. “The first rule in therapy is to meet [patients] where they are,” Jane says. Every client has a different way to reach healing, and Jane must creatively find the best way for that person to discover the answer. In addition to using conventional talk therapy, Jane uses the Mandala Assessment Research Instrument (MARI). This therapeutic tool uses easily recognizable symbols and colors laid out in life cycles. The purpose of using the MARI is to show clients where their psyche is at the time by asking a series of questions. “It gets to the place in our consciousness without our ego getting in the way,” Jane says. For example, in the process, Jane asks clients to change and improve a color choice. “That plants a seed in their brain of healing and improvement,” Jane explains. “That’s what we want to impart: to engender hope and change.” Jane is also trained in guided imagery through music. This program is designed to take a client in a relaxed, intentional state on a journey to process an issue. The transcendent, classical music that’s used is a reflection of life itself: certainties, ambiguities, paradox, light and shadow, and grace, or resolution. Because most healing comes from within, Jane says, the purpose is reaching a place where you can extract the problem from yourself. Jane says listening to that inner voice can help people find purpose in life. “People need to pay more attention,” she says. “Instead of saying, ‘Gee, that’s weird,’ ask, ‘What is that telling me? What do I need to listen to?’ Be still. Try to connect what’s going on in your life to that coincidence. “We as humans are trying to become whole,” she adds. “You have what you need to make it happen. You just need a little help from me.” Today’s Woman
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13 Things That Inspire Jane: 1. My dog, Zoey, I want to wake up every day like she does — with hope, optimism, and contagious enthusiasm. If we could all greet the day like this, exuding optimism and positive energy, I think we would wind up with more treats and walks too. 2. Practicing Mindfulness. Often it is the simple things that inspire me the most. Practicing mindfulness seems to be the key; that is, taking the time to be aware of what is around me and to be fully present in that moment. For me, a warm evening visiting with my husband, drinking a cold glass of wine on our deck under the sycamore tree, feeling the warm breeze, and listening to the birds as the sun sets is a true exercise in mindfulness. Time slows, and life is good. 3. Hillary Clinton. She is a strong woman, wife, and mother who has succeeded by utilizing her courage, intelligence, talents, and capacity for forgiveness. She has persevered despite mean-spirited personal criticism and having to listen to others say they hoped she would fail. 4. The Beatles. I fell in love with the Beatles when I was 13, and it is amazing how fresh their music sounds today. For me, they also symbolize the universal power of music. Music can change our mood, and research has shown it to be emotionally healing. That’s why I think it is so important that at any age, we connect with the music that is meaningful to us. 5. Exercise. Honestly, I am not always enthused when faced with the prospect of exercising, but I am never sorry when I do. Whether it is going to the gym or taking a walk, I always benefit from making the effort. 6. Louisville. I appreciate Louisville because we are incredibly friendly, have so many amazing independent restaurants and businesses for a city our size (or any size), have an incredible cultural environment, and remain politically progressive with a great history. 7. Friends. Keeping connected with my friends inspires me to keep going because of the support we offer each other while doing the best we can. Laughing and crying together while sharing similar life experiences makes us stronger. Also, research has shown social connection to be an important component in overall wellness. 8. Connection to God. The message of finding our purpose using our life experience and God-given gifts and finding the courage to make it happen has been an important one for me. I can see the amazing interconnectedness of this power every day. 9. Acorns. An acorn is created with all it needs inside to realize its potential as an oak tree. I am inspired by the little acorn as a metaphor for personal growth. We are born with what we need to realize our potential, but life often gets in the way. As a therapist, I feel fortunate to be able to help my clients get past the bumps in the road, also known as ‘life,’ by utilizing their strengths so they can get back to realizing their true potential. 10. Gratitude. I’m continually amazed by the power that honoring, identifying, and recognizing what is good in my life has had. When we have positive thoughts and interpretations of what is going on in our lives, the way we feel and behave is affected in a healthy way. When I get in bed, I try to use the quiet and calm as a time to review the day and name those things that were good — even if it was a good parking space at Kroger. 11. Family. My family constantly teaches me about myself, and over the years they’ve made me realize that there are truly things I cannot change. My capacity for patience, love, and forgiveness has grown because of family. My husband and children are amazing and supportive, enabling me to thrive and be myself. I have also come to know that family does not have to be related to me by blood. I consider my friends to be family too, which is a wonderful thing. 12. Resilience. I am often amazed at the resilience of the human spirit and the desire and ability we have to heal and move forward after trauma, emotional pain, or physical challenges. 13. Humor. Looking at the world in a different and humorous way is how I’ve lived my life. Laughter can diffuse difficult situations, endear us to others, and it just makes us feel good!
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What’s Your Christmas Decorating Style? By Yelena Sapin / Photography by Melissa Donald
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he end of Thanksgiving dinner marks the beginning of the Christmas season. As we load up the refrigerator with leftover turkey, stuffing, and pumpkin pie, our thoughts turn to mistletoe, candy canes, and decking the halls. Decorating for Christmas can be a way to express your personality, style, and family traditions, and there’s really no right or wrong way to go about it. Whether you want to stay simple and understated or go big and bold, we’ve got some tips and ideas from local pros to inspire you and get you started.
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be willing to give up doing things that nobody cares about so you have time to do what really matters.” Even in the most minimal decorating, the Christmas tree is usually the focal point. Many also spruce up mantels, front doors, foyers, stairways, and guest powder rooms. People who truly love to decorate tend to expand the holiday into kitchens, bedrooms, and other nontraditional spaces. “We have many customers who keep adding to their Christmas collection over the years,” Olliges says, “and they like to put up multiple trees in different rooms in their homes.”
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Before you reach for that box of tinsel, you need to figure out what type of Christmas you want to have. Do you want to go all out or keep it small and simple? How much energy, time, and money are you willing to devote to decorating your home? Some people downsize their holiday once the kids grow up, while others go in the opposite direction. People who entertain more also tend to decorate more. “But it’s easy to get overwhelmed thinking that you need to do it all,” says Kathy Olliges of Dee’s. “Ask your family what’s important to them and
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The Starting Point Once you decide on the scope of your decorations, you need to decide on the style. You can choose to stick with the traditional theme of reds and greens or opt for something entirely different. Metallics such as silver, copper, or gold or accent colors picked up from your home décor are always in style, says Jessica Schuler of J. Renee Designs. Also popular are elements found in nature: pine cones, florals, berries, birds, and squirrels, as well as natural materials such as raffia and burlap. When decorating on a smaller scale, Schuler suggests picking one thing and doing it really well: “Don’t spread yourself too thin. Lots of little trickles of Christmas here and there won’t show up as well as just one really outstanding tree or one spectacular mantel.” If you want to do a little more, the front door and the foyer are spaces that are typically impersonal, so adding something in these spots won’t be too overpowering. Your decorations don’t have to be elaborate to have an impact. An array of candle holders across the mantel or on a table can be a subtle way of invoking Christmas, Schuler says. An artificial garland can be livened up with some fresh pine branches, berry sprigs, or pine cones, many of which can be found in your own backyard. And any ornaments that don’t make it to your tree can add a touch of whimsy or sparkle when tucked into your other decorations.
Fireplace décor by Kristen Pawluk at Decorating Den.
The Big Finish The difference between decorating a little and decorating a lot is just a matter of expanding into more areas of the home and layering onto what you already have. Trees, greenery, garlands, topiaries, and wreaths are the mainstay of the Christmas look, but if you want to go even bigger, Kristen Pawlak of Decorating Den Interiors has additional suggestions: Put glass bowls or vases filled with Christmas balls on mantels, tables, bookshelves, or in the powder room. Fold strands of little lights into or around your household plants and greenery, layer them in with ornaments in glass containers, or string them up in unexpected places. For a personal touch, switch out pictures or photos in the house for holiday images of family gatherings, Christmas mornings, and the kids with Santa. You can also take presents from under the tree, or wrap boxes of different sizes or things you won’t miss for a while in pretty paper and bows, and put them in decorative piles around the home.
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Nature-themed trees from Dees.
What if you want to light up your whole house, hang wreaths on every window, and fill your yard with a collection of inflatables? “If that’s what makes you happy, then go for it!” Pawlak says. “It’s about making the holidays special and enjoyable for your family and guests.” And helping Santa find your house is just an added bonus.
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Over the years, I have learned about and acquired many different culinary gadgets that have made my life easier in the kitchen. All of these items have been on the market for a while, but these are things I feel every cook should have in her kitchen. Happy cooking, baking, and shopping! Garlic Press Garlic is one of the key items I always have in my kitchen, along with lemons and yellow onions. Garlic is so good for you and is a fantastic, flavorful addition to many dishes. I toss several whole cloves of garlic in with a mix of vegetables to be roasted. I use minced garlic in soups, aioli sauces, and spaghetti sauce, and I use chopped garlic when sautéing greens and other vegetables. I use my garlic peeler and garlic press at least five times a week. The garlic peeler costs about $7-$9. The garlic press price costs $12-$20.
Garlic Peeler To peel, simply place one clove of garlic at a time in this synthetic cylinder, apply some pressure, and roll the clove in the cylinder back and forth. In just a few seconds, you have a perfect clove of garlic without the fuss and mess of garlic under your nails or the paperthin outer layer sticking to your fingers.
3 Tbsp mayonnaise 2½ tsps prepared horseradish 1 large clove of garlic, minced Salt to taste — I like to use sea salt 2–3 tsp fresh-squeezed lemon or lime juice ¼ t sp Tabasco Chipotle Pepper sauce
Mix all ingredients together in a small bowl. I have served this with fried green tomatoes and crab cakes. This would make a great sandwich spread, or you could use a dab in a homemade vegetable/chip dip. Have it on the side with an omelet, or place a tablespoon in a homemade salad dressing for an extra kick. There is so much you can do with this little sauce!
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“My Favorite Things” Hand-Held Citrus Reamer/Juicer For the longest time, I avoided buying one of these. But this item gets used just as much as my garlic tools. When all I need is juice from a single lemon or lime, this is the tool I use. If a recipe calls for more juice or juice from an orange or grapefruit, I get out my electronic citrus juicer. Use the tip to remove any seeds before juicing. This is the most economical gift on my list and makes a great stocking stuffer. Cost is about $4. It’s perfect for when I am adding freshsqueezed lemon juice to my homemade salad dressings (recipe below).
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One of my pet peeves is soggy salads and lettuce that has been bruised and crushed because someone blotted it with a paper towel. Not appealing at all, and if that lettuce sits for a while after it has been damaged, it starts to break down and becomes slimy and gross. To avoid this, I always prepare my lettuce in a salad spinner. This fantastic device spins water off the lettuce and collects it in the outer bowl. I use my salad spinner for other items as well, such as chard and kale. It will cost about $20. PAGE 48
1 nub of fresh ginger root about the size of the first digit of your thumb 2 medium-size cloves of garlic ¼m edium-size yellow onion 1/3 c up fresh basil or about 1½ Tbsp dried basil ½ tsp salt ½ tsp ground black pepper ½ cup vegetable or canola oil ¼ cup olive oil 1/3 cup balsamic vinegar 1 tsp apple cider vinegar Juice from one small lemon (1-2 Tbsp) 1-1½ tsp pure maple syrup or honey
In the food processor, place the ginger root, garlic cloves, onion, basil, salt, and pepper and pulse until ground into small pieces. You will have to stop, scrape down the sides, and then pulse again. This usually takes two or three rounds of pulsing and scraping. Place the remaining ingredients and blend until everything is well mixed. Test the taste of the dressing with a piece of lettuce rather than a spoon. The lettuce will absorb some of the flavor and be more accurate. You want your dressing to be sharp because once you put this on your salad, it will not be as potent. Adjust to your liking. You might need to add more salt or vinegar. And I prefer maple syrup as a sweetener, but honey is just as good, although the taste is slightly different.
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“My Favorite Things” Dutch Baby Cast Iron Skillet
You will need either a blender or an immersion blender for this. 3 large eggs ½ c up all-purpose unbleached white flour ¼ tsp salt ½ cup milk 1 Tbsp butter, melted and cooled 1 tsp vanilla extract 1 Tbsp vegetable shortening
I think everyone needs to have at least one cast iron piece of cookware in her kitchen. I use this item almost daily. Used both on top of the stove as well as in the oven, this skillet can be used to sauté vegetables, fry an egg, roast a small chicken, make a Dutch Baby (recipe at right), or bake corn bread. Are they heavy? Why, yes they are, and for good reason. These items are virtually indestructible. They heat quickly, distribute the heat evenly, and retain the heat, which in turn uses less energy. People question the care of cast iron and what a hassle it is, but it really isn’t any different than taking care of a nonstick pan. Cast iron is extremely resilient and very easy to care for. Never wash with soap because soapy detergents can strip the seasoned oil from the skillet. For more information on re-seasoning and cast iron care, visit www.lodgemfg.com. One of my favorite recipes made in my cast iron pan is a Dutch Baby. This special breakfast dish is great for two people.
Immersion blender Oh, how I love this gadget! Essentially, this is a handheld blender. It’s great for blending soups, whipping cream, scrambling eggs, making salad dressings, and blending homemade spaghetti sauce (but even though I call it a blender, I would not recommend it for making smoothies). The key is to have a pot or bowl deep enough to allow the blender to blend all the ingredients. My device is extremely old, and there are newer, fancier models on the market that come with a few attachments. But I will be using mine until it quits. This is by far my favorite kitchen gadget. Prices range from $35-$60.
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Preheat oven to 450 degrees and place the rack in the middle lower section of the oven. Melt the butter on the stove or in the microwave. Remove from heat and let cool. Once the butter has cooled, place all ingredients except the vegetable shortening in a blender. Blend for about 30 seconds on medium speed and then stop to scrape down the sides. This ensures the flour is blended fully. Blend again for another 30 seconds. Place batter in a pan on the stove and heat on low, stirring constantly for 5 minutes. Do not allow the batter to simmer or boil. While the batter is warming on the stove, place the vegetable shortening in the cast iron pan and place the pan in the oven to preheat for 5 minutes. Remove the pan from the oven and swirl the melted shortening around, making sure to cover the bottom of the pan and slightly up the sides. Pour the warmed batter in the pan and gently (without moving the batter around too much), place the pan in the oven. Bake for 15-20 minutes. Then, reduce the oven temperature to 350 degrees and bake for another 5-10 minutes. If you turn on the oven light and watch, you will see the Dutch Baby rise and extend far above the top of the pan. The Dutch Baby will have a goldenbrown color when done. Do not let the top of this dish burn. Remove from pan, cut in half, and serve warm. I like to top mine with cooked apples. Simply chop or thinly slice apples in a pan and add about a tablespoon of water, a pinch of salt, and your favorite spices to taste. Cook slowly until apples are soft. Or, just spread some butter on top of the Dutch Baby and drizzle with warm maple syrup. This is a cozy breakfast on a cool autumn morning.
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Is Technology Taking Over Your Life?
by Bob Mueller
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here are times when we need to shut down our smartphones and laptops and give another person our total attention, face to face. When emotion matters, when subtlety counts, when the issues are complex and in need of explanation, when the time is joyful and in need of celebration — these are just some of the times when it’s best we are there in person with no distractions. So often we allow ourselves to fall under the mysterious seduction of the screen, denying ourselves the far richer and more fulfilling human moment of in-person interaction. So often we feel compelled to boot up, log on, or download. We’ve discovered a new addiction with enormous appeal and power. And manufacturers of technology proudly trumpet their products’ ability to provide users with instant access to anyone, anything, anytime in various modes: voice, type, or image. What does this technology take the place of? What did we do in airports while waiting for our flights before we had cell phones and laptops? Veg out? Talk on pay phones? Read? Sleep? Entertain new ideas? Converse with other people in person? How wonderful to be able to turn wasted waiting time into productive time, right? But beware. It is marvelous only as long as you remain in charge of the technology instead of letting the technology take charge of you. Our current ability to bring our offices and all our contacts with us wherever we go transforms wherever we go into a place where we always are. The physical surroundings matter less and less. We live by fielding more and more messages and processing more and more data while rushing to the ubiquitous trough to get still more. When do we stop and think? When do we linger over a thought? When do we make love? If we’re not careful, we start reading and sending messages everywhere we go. At lunch with a friend, while waiting in traffic, or perhaps while getting a colonoscopy. Why not? There’s just no stopping this electronic world now, nor should we want to stop it. It is spectacular, and it drives much of our prosperity. We are accomplishing great things these days. We are increasingly free from offices and wires and boring meetings or downtime. But I really wonder. What is the itch these electronic devices scratch? Why do so many of us crave being in constant touch everywhere and always? What is in the thousands of messages on Facebook or Twitter that is so important? Why can’t they wait? They always used to. When my plane landed in New York after two weeks in Scotland, cell phones popped open and laptops powered up. A sort of feeding frenzy took over the airplane as passengers who had been email-deprived for the length of the trip could finally log on. Few smoke anymore, but the old nicotine fit has been replaced by the technology fit. Why do we allow ourselves to become crazy-busy, keeping up with the most recent news flash, the latest stock quote, or the most recent email instead of putting our feet up and reading a good book, thinking a long thought, enjoying a lasting kiss, or just staring out the window for a minute or two? Let’s remind ourselves that as individuals and even as a species, life is limited and precious. Enjoy your life and strive to understand yourself and your purpose while you still have the chance.
Few smoke anymore, but the old nicotine fit has been replaced by the technology fit.
Bob Mueller is Senior Director of Mission & Stewardship at Hosparus, the community hospices of Louisville, Southern Indiana, and Central Kentucky. He has three books available: Look Forward Hopefully, The Gentle Art of Caring, and his latest, Create a Better World. Find Bob online at www.bobmueller.org and email him at bobmueller@insightbb.com.
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Technology is Changing Your Doctor’s Visit By Cheryl Stuck
Soon to be a memory: Your doctor completes your health exam, scribbles notes on a piece of paper, stuffs it in a manila folder holding your medical records, then hands you a prescription that most likely is illegible. Technology is changing the medical industry today, from computerized health records and databases to apps that might soon be prescribed for certain health issues. American hospitals and physicians are now required by the government to electronically enter healthcare records into a central database. The goal of using electronic databases instead of paper records is to improve accuracy, increase patients’ safety and access to information, and reduce costs for patients. There are four stages under the new requirements that hospitals and physicians must meet by 2016. Chief Information Officer for University Hospital and James Graham Brown Cancer Center Troy May says UofL Hospital is currently working on stage two. He says UofL has already been utilizing the first stage, computerized physician order entry, for eight years. “The first stage was to make sure the doctor’s office not only had a computer but that clinicians were actually using the computer,” May says. “In the old days, a physician would hand-write notes when he was doing rounds and give them to someone to transcribe into a computer or send out to a pharmacy, lab, or department.” Now, physicians or nurses enter data straight into the computer, where it is kept in a statewide database accessible by doctors with the patient’s permission. Physicians can track prescriptions, reconcile medications, view X-rays, prevent repeats of procedures, and make clinical decisions based on the records. In stage two of the new program, which launched this past March, doctors must show that a certain percentage of patients are accessing their data online. The remaining stages are still under development by the government.
Take two apps and see me in the morning Eventually, the four-stage program will allow patients and physicians to access the database with all records and instructions from a computer or even a smartphone. Some vendors such as Microsoft and Apple are already on it, offering free applications for patient health records.
May says resident physicians are eager to use these new technologies. “We have recently started supplying iPads in the hospital so it’s easier for physicians to carry patient information with them as they do rounds,” he says. “And the new vendor software can go on an iPhone or smartphone. Then you can access the information in the palm of your hand instead of having to go to a [nurses station]. There is also less chance of errors from bad handwriting.” Physicians will be able to monitor patients by setting alerts for immediate notification on their phones if a critical value is met. Then, wherever they are, they can instantly access the patient’s condition.
Your personal health care assistant Soon, smartphones might be prescribed to patients to act as medical devices to monitor heart rate or diabetes. We already have apps that track diets and physical fitness goals. But medical apps are being developed with an emphasis on quality, safety, and the hope that they will eventually be paid for by health insurance. One example is the DiabetesManager system developed by Welldoc, which patients can use through a smartphone app, standard cell phone, or desktop computer. The app collects information about a patient’s diet, blood sugar levels, and medication regimen. Patients can enter this data manually or link their devices wirelessly with glucose monitors. DiabetesManager can then advise the patient on healthy choices, such as by suggesting the best food after recording a low midday blood sugar reading. It also analyzes the medical data and sends clinical recommendations to the doctor. The Food and Drug Administration has given DiabetesManager clearance to operate as a medical device. But right now it’s pricey, at $100 a month. There is a possibility that some insurance companies would cover the cost if the system is prescribed by a doctor. However, beware of apps that aren’t FDAapproved. Some companies are developing apps and selling them without going through the rigorous requirements of the FDA.
Our Today’s Woman of Wellness panel tells us how they feel about new communication technology in their health care. Regarding a central database where healthcare professionals can access your records: “There are pros and cons. I believe it can be very helpful to have a main repository for accessing information, but the safety behind it is not a guarantee. It provides a snapshot of medications, illness, disease, and allergies but no terms of who can access the information.” Cheryl Scanlon, wellness manager at University of Louisville Healthcare “My primary care physician uses a computer to input my vital statistics and to record her notes about me. I am comfortable with it as long as a secure server is used and that HIPAA guidelines and regulations are followed. While at first glance it sounds like a good idea, I do not like the fact that unrelated health care professionals, like my eye doctor and dermatologist, would have access to each other’s records. I’d worry about my privacy.” Kristi Jedlicki, program manager at St. John Center for Homeless Men “My ophthalmologist has a completely computerized system that is so fast and efficient. I think it is wonderful. [I believe] one day, we will all have implanted chip technology so that in an emergency, health providers can scan the chip to find out vital information needed to diagnose life-threatening conditions and improve outcomes. I like the chip idea. If it is implanted, you certainly won’t forget to bring it along.” Deborah Tuggle, clinical nurse specialist, Critical Care Curriculum Regarding her doctor: “I receive emails reminding me of things like getting a flu shot or scheduling my next appointment. I feel that technology is more accurate than handwritten files that can be misplaced and even lost. It is not uncommon for file folders to be mixed up.” Rhonda Sigler, marketing manager at State Farm Insurance
Advisory group members are: Margie Beeler • Susan Boddy • Christie Bollinger, RN • Sherrice Bond • Kim Broecker • Jennifer Brown • Linda Burry • Kimberly Carpenter, DC • Tamella Buss Cassis, MD • Holly Clark • Stacy Cohen, RN • Diane Collins, RN • Pat Cooke • Funmilayo Dixon • Laurie Duesing • Kelly Davis Fleenor • Tanya Franklin, MD • Julie Garrison, MBA • Carol Graham, MD • Dawn Hayden • Pam Hayden, RN • Mary Haynes • Gretchen Houchin • Mary Jennings • Alexis Karageorge, MD • Dee Jay Kelly • Tomiko Coates Kiefer • Diane Kissel • Kristi Jedlicki Levenhagen • Melissa Little • Sean Maguire, MD • Geri Manning • Lisa Mattingly • David McArthur • Anne McReynolds • Tara Morris • Maria Munoz • Tina Nuttall, MBA, FACHE • Denise Orwick, RPh • Betsy Paulley • Mae Pike • Leesa Richardson, MD • Ticonna Roberts • Cheryl Scanlon • Rhonda Sigler • Burke Stephens • Rebecca Terry, MD • Myrdin Thompson • Deborah Tuggle • Lannette VanderToll • Jessica Walker • Marine Walls • Janie Biagi Watts • Cenia L. Wedekind • Anthony Westmoreland, RPh • Cathi Wiley • Kathy Wilkinson • Debbie Williams • Allison Young, LMT
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“My husband and I have been married for six years. He wants a baby; I’m not ready. We discussed our family plan before we married, and we did agree to begin trying in five years and that I would not work provided he could comfortably support that lifestyle. He has secured a wonderful position with a nice salary. We have no reason to believe that will change, but no one knows in today’s economic turbulence. I have been offered a great position, but it involves a lot of travel. I would like to postpone motherhood for another five years; my husband does not. I don’t want to damage our marriage, but shouldn’t he support me in this opportunity as it will secure our financial future?”
Joyce: It’s not always what we want but what we’re willing to give up to get what we want, that measures the wisdom of our choices. You and your husband have achieved a great deal in your short history as a couple. I commend you for discussing and mapping out a plan for your future before you made a lifetime commitment. That being said, I sense you are testing the very adhesive of your union. You have already begun to compromise this sacred institution in that you’re a year beyond your pledge to your husband to begin adding to your family tree. The career opportunity involving travel could complicate more than delaying your experience of motherhood. I detect an emergence of independence. One doesn’t lose his/her individuality in marriage, but there is a singularity that accompanies the institution. Your husband likely views your career as trumping the marriage at this point. He could also be second-guessing his significance in your life. Confidence in one’s spouse is not assessed solely by infidelity. The fabric of integrity is in every choice we make in our individuality. Whether it involves giving back an overpayment to a cashier or agreeing to call on a lunch break, once agreements are compromised, the credibility of a person is in peril. You clearly have breached a very important aspect of a premarital understanding. Let’s factor travel into this equation. Travel involves separation on a routine basis. No insinuation should be drawn from this observation, but temptations for either spouse are greatly increased in the course of business travel. When hearts get out of harmony, the perfect scenario for irritation, suspicion, and discontentment
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sets up. Marriage has enough problems without inviting new aggravations. Your desire not to damage your marriage should carry great weight in your decision. A compromise about adding to your family could be reached in that you could begin the process. You might not be able to conceive quickly, if at all. If you are traveling often, the odds of conception are greatly reduced in that you could be away from your husband during your fertility window. On the other hand, traveling complicates pregnancy and vice-versa. If a child is in your future, you will then be faced with compromising another aspect of your previous agreement — whether to stay at home or disrupt your career. I am a career woman. I can personally attest that parenting is an awesome gift, but it is a serious responsibility. In order to work at its optimum design, it takes teamwork — Mom and Dad. Mom and Dad work best together when marriage is not compromised to any degree. The decision to become a parent must be entered into in unison. Learning to work through marital grievances before a child arrives ensures the security of the child’s future. Balancing life as a woman isn’t easy. One must consider if the gains in life’s choices are worth the losses that accompany them. Your marriage is not only fragile — it is invaluable. Securing your financial future is laudable. Supporting one another is important. Honoring the commitments in marriage is fundamental. Change your family life…NOW! Write Joyce Oglesby, Family-Life Fitness Pro, at joyce@justaskjoyce.com. I’m here to help!
“Do you believe that a married person should not have a friend of the opposite sex? I have been friends with a guy since grammar school. Our families are friends. Everyone thought we would get married, but we are too close; he’s more like a brother. My husband is threatened by our relationship, and I have had to pull back from contact with my lifelong friend. Friend doesn’t understand, nor does Hubby. What’s a girl to do?” (Go to www.iamtodayswoman.com to read Joyce’s answer to this question.)
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During the 10 years that I’ve been an Arts & Entertainment editor I’ve gone to a lot of fantastic rock ‘n’ roll concerts. And without a doubt, Melissa Etheridge’s 2011 Horseshoe Casino concert ranks high on my list. I state this not only because of her stellar songwriting and raspy (signature) vocal skills, but also because Etheridge was very personable — talking from the stage between songs in such a deeply heartfelt and relaxed manner, that it seemed like she personally knew every single one of us sitting in the audience that night. Case in point: halfway through the Horseshoe concert the ‘you’ve got a friend in me’ vibe in the showroom kicked in to such a degree that it felt like the entire audience was suddenly transported to Etheridge’s California backyard, where it was merely coincidental that the barefoot, T-shirt-and-black-leather-pantswearing, smiling performer standing before us was also an Oscar and two-time Grammy Award winner. This fall, Etheridge is being honored by the National Women’s Museum of Art in Washington, DC, with her inclusion in the exhibition, Women Who Rock: Vision, Passion, Power.
Voted ‘Best of Las Vegas’ in 2005 and again the following year, Spectrum has developed the reputation as one of Motown’s greatest tribute groups, covering the music from The Platters, and Temptations, to Boyz II Men. 2012/13 marks the 75th anniversary season for the world-wide-acclaimed Louisville Orchestra, and this concert will be conducted by Bob Bernhardt.
November 13 @ 8pm Where Louisville Palace, 625 S. 4th St. TICKETS $37.50-$102.50 Contact louisvillepalace.com, livenation.com, 800.745.3000, or all Ticketmaster outlets.
November 3 @ 8pm Where Kentucky Center, 501 West Main St. $26 to $69 Contact louisvilleorchestra.org, the box office walk-up or drive-thru, or call 502.584.7777.
Ho Ho Ho Holiday Boutique
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The gold- and platinum-selling country music singer (I Could Not Ask for More, Suds in a Bucket, Born to Fly, A Real Fine Place to Start) is, like Etheridge, another music artist whose vivacious, warm-hearted, and down-to-earth performing persona is exactly what she’s like off stage as well. During a 2010 interview I conducted with Evans, she remarked: “I think, in country music, (you) cannot be an artist who puts on airs. Because if you do, fans recognize it right away and your career is kind of short-lived. But that’s not what country music is about,” she added. “Country music is about drinking beer, having fun together, and singing songs about real life. (laughs) We don’t get uppity!” At next month’s fan-voted American Country Awards, Evans is nominated for three awards: Best Female Artist, Female Singer of the Year, and Best Female Music Video — for her latest single My Heart Can’t Tell You No. — Gioia Patton
November 17 @ 8pm Where Horseshoe Southern Indiana, 11999 Casino Center Drive SE, Elizabeth, IN. TICKETS $30 to $50. Must be 21 years old or older Contact Ticketmaster outlets, or 1.800.745.3000. When
Spectrum — Motown’s Hits Louisville Orchestra Pops Series
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Temptations Annual Holiday Gift Show
The boutique features gift items from local boutiques, artists, and designers. Complimentary wine and appetizers will be served. When November 2, 4-8pm and November 3 10am-3pm Where Whitehall House & Gardens Contact 502.494.0391.
Choose from a variety of items including antiques, clothing, photography, pillows, pottery, paper, stationary, handbags, jewelry, and foods. When November 13, 4-8pm and November 14-15, 10am-7pm Where The Olmsted Contact www. temptationsholidayboutique.com/Welcome.html
Festival of Trees & Lights
Frazier History Museum Girls Night Out
You can get an early start on your holiday shopping while taking in the beauty of decorated trees, wreaths and greenery — all for sale. Check out the festival’s children’s activities, gift shop, and sweet shop. You’ll also be able to enter the Kosair Children’s Hospital home and car raffle. When November 9-11, 10am-9pm Where Louisville Slugger Field Contact
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Let the holiday spirit move you by attending the annual Light Up Louisville event. Bright, sparkly lights will be one of the main attractions along with fireworks, entertainment, food, crafts, and children’s activities. When November 23, 3-10pm Where Downtown on Jefferson Street between 5th & 6th Street Contact www.lightuplouisville.org
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Do a good deed this season by donating men’s, women’s, and children’s coats to those who are in need. When November 23, 10am-2pm Where Green Building Parking Lot Contact www.freecoatexchange.org.
Tis the Season to Win!
This month, we’re giving away tickets to Girl’s Night Out with Diana at the Frazier History Museum, the KaLightoscope Christmas at the Galt House, and Baseball Hotties, an exhibit at the Louisville Slugger Museum. Go to www.iamtodayswoman.com to enter!
A Well-Timed Christmas Murder WhoDunnit Inc. of KY.
The year is 1934, and during a lavish Christmas party, one of the few remaining American tycoons is about to name his heir. Knowing this the tycoon’s friends and family are ready to pounce…but which one is hatching a sinister plot? What is the secret they would each like to conceal? And why — Gioia Patton has everyone’s watch mysteriously stopped at 6:15? When Saturday evenings — November 17-December 15, and Friday evenings-December 7, 14, and 21, plus a special Sunday brunch show on December 9 Where The Hyatt Regency Louisville, 320 West Jefferson St. TICKETS $45.50 includes the meal, show, and gratuity. Discounts apply for groups of 6 and larger Contact the box office @ 502.426.7100 or visit www.whodunnitky.com. Advance reservations are required.
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She Looks Like
P rincess D iana By Tiffany White Photos: Melissa Donald Jewelry provided by Royal Jewelers Location: Frazier History Museum
Last month, we asked our readers to enter our Princess Diana Look-A-Like Contest, but instead of selecting one winner, we chose two. Patricia Benson and Bailee Palmer each received two tickets to Diana: A Celebration at the Frazier History Museum on display through January 13. “I ran the London, England Marathon to raise funds for Leukemia & Lymphoma Society, and when I was there, I had some double takes.” —Patricia Benson
“She did a photoshoot for my niece’s company, and the photographer and the woman running the shoot kept remarking how much she looked like Princess Diana.” — Amy Becht (her mother)
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Patricia Benson
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