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Why I read We have an eleven-yearold daughter. Wise Youth Today offers lots of great information on opportunities for youth activities as well as great articles that can help out the whole family. It also gives us an opportunity to showcase what our youth are accomplishing. Also, since we are on the Dave plan we certainly enjoy his advice column.
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Keeping Up With Your Memories Got Photos? Scrapbook! By Donna Billmire, owner of The Scrapbook Nook 940-627-8007
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f you are like me you have boxes full of photos that represent moments in your life. Now that we are in the digital age your photos may fill CD’s/DVD’s or precious space on your hard drives. Usually when I take photos there is a memory tied to it, be it a holiday, special occasion, sporting event or just a spontaneous moment from my children’s lives. What happens to these memories over time? Usually dates, names and feelings tied to the memory are forgotten. This is why I LOVE scrapbooking. Scrapbooking is a great way to get those photos out of the boxes and off those hard drives. Get them out where they can be treasured and enjoyed. Scrapbooking is one of the most popular hobbies in the US. Women (and some men) gather at “crops” much like the quilting “bees” of old, only here they share project and page ideas for preserving their own family memories. Traditional scrapbooking is building pages in a book or digital scrapbooking can be done right on your computer each can be equally rewarding. Can’t decide which way might be the best for you, enjoy hybrid or tra-digital scrapbooking which gives you the best of both world’s. We will always have events in which to take pictures. Boxes will continue to grow, megabytes will disappear as more and more photos are stored. Discover a scrapbooking style that is for you and DO IT! ■
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On The Cover: February 2009 In our 5th year of making a difference
If you educate a man you educate a person, but if you educate a woman, you educate a family. – Ruby Manikan
Loving yourself enough to love someone else. Alissa Sobieraj and her son, Gage. Read their beautiful story on page 26. Photo taken by Tammy Kelly Photography
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Love is, above all else, the gift of oneself. – Jean Anouilh, French dramatist (1910 - 1987)
ow many of us love someone else more than we love ourselves? I used to think that we should all love others more than we love ourselves until I really started to think about it. Should we? To love someone, after all, is the ultimate gift. To love someone you must be willing to open up your life, your thoughts and fears to someone else. Most of us over the age of eighteen can remember a time when the sun rose and set upon someone that we swore we loved like no other and that this love was true and that we would never be able to love someone in this way ever again. Then … summer ended and we returned to start school and now we can barely remember their names. Ah, sweet youth. Although, if we were to think about it, we did feel that way about that special summer crush, it just didn’t last forever. Does love last forever? Maybe that’s what unconditional love
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is. No conditions like distance, differences of opinion, weight, job loss, dalliances, age or time factor in to unconditional love. Unconditional love may be reserved for God and children. We are told that God loves us unconditionally and we love our children unconditionally. I think it is possible to love someone without loving them forever. You can love someone for a brief moment in time – as is proven out in our divorce rate here in the US – and still say you have loved. Those who have been divorced really can’t say, “well, I never really loved him.” Your friends and parents might beg to diff er with you. No amount of what they had to say or do made any difference to you at that point. You loved that boy and that was that. It’s okay to have loved and lost. It’s okay to have loved and maybe experienced that love change f rom a passionate, “I can’t stand to be away from you for
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one moment,” to a lukewarm, “I feel so comfortable with you,” kind of love. It is truly ‘better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.’ People who have loved know the meaning of life while they are in love. The meaning of life is about being you in your full potential. Waking up each and every day excited about being alive and looking forward to what the day brings. Smiling; laughing; experiencing the colors of the world around you. Life is great. Life is grand. Life is life when we are in love. We should all experience this kind of love at least once in our lives. Just to be able to relate to other people. Unconditional love is different. It is the love that lasts forever. Not because you want it to but because you can’t help it. You have no control over unconditional love. You can’t start it or stop it. Just ask any mother who has stared into
the face of a newborn child. You are just along for the ride and whatever it brings into your life you will bear it out. This love is the love that parents and people who are like parents experience. It is the love that says, “I wish you would make better choices but I will love you no matter what.” Our theme this month is about ‘Loving Yourself ’. Do you love yourself? Do you love yourself with a ‘summer crush’ kind of love or do you love yourself with a ‘no matter what choices you make I will love you forever” kind of love. We should love ourselves with the forever kind of love. If we don’t, we will experience so many heartaches and so many disappointments in ourselves that we will not be able to stand the test of time. Why is it important to love ourselves with an unconditional kind of love? Because we cannot love others the way they should be loved without it. As parents,
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we cannot love our children and be good examples of a human being living out their full potential without loving ourselves unconditionally. How can we show our children how to be loving people when we call ourselves stupid, let others abuse and take advantage of us and set standards for ourselves lower than the standards we set for everyone else? Loving yourself means that you want the best for yourself and for those around you; loving yourself means that you don’t hide from problems that must be faced and dealt with by making alcohol, drugs, work or money your excuse. Loving yourself means that you want to be the best you can be without using your ancestry, your environment and your lack of resources as reasons for failure. Your love for yourself is not a summer kind of love it is an unconditional kind of love. You are you until the end of time. ‘Until the end of time’
requires an unconditional kind of love. You have to be able to forgive yourself and go on. Today, why not start loving yourself the way you love your children. Be kind to yourself. Explain things to yourself in a manner that is easy to understand and follow. Pat yourself on the back when you do things well and hug yourself when things don’t work out as planned. Strive to reach your full potential and live the life of someone who truly loves themselves just as God loves you. Love yourself and then love your neighbors as you love yourself. How will you know when you truly love yourself? “ You Know You’re in Love When You Can’t Fall Asleep Because Reality Is Finally Better than Your Dreams.” – Dr. Seuss Enjoy the issue. ■
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Maegan McLaughlin of Bridgeport loves talking on her phone! Coy Johnson with his first deer – shot 12-21-08, 7 pt., in Jack County.
The Third Annual Decatur Junior Woman’s Club Daddy-Daughter Dance is 6 to 8 p.m. Saturday, Feb. 21, at the Decatur ISD Multi Purpose Building. The dance will include door prizes, raffle items, professional photography and food. Cost is $25 per couple ($5 for each additional sibling). Pick up registration packets at iCopy in the Prada Shops or at JMT Designs at 301 S. Washburn. Guests who pre-register receive five free raffle tickets. For more information contact Margaret Lowe at macanddave@sbcglobal.net, call (940) 393-3676 or visit http://www.decaturjuniorwomansclub.com. Proceeds benefit local charities Wise Kid Care, CASA, Wise Choices Pregnancy Resource Center, Mary’s Gift and Spirit of Christmas.
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Cody Robbins Band Texas Country, Classic Country, Southern Rock Upcoming shows: Jan. 23, Fat Daddy’s, Decatur, TX Jan. 24, Brazos Lounge, Mineral Wells, TX Feb. 13-14, Crazy Horse Saloon, Denton, TX Feb. 21, Fat Daddy’s, Decatur, TX Mar. 6-7, Texas Spur, Lindsay, TX Mar. 13, PK Roadhouse, Graham, TX Mar. 20, Fat Daddy’s, Decatur, TX Mar. 21, Brazos Lounge, Mineral Wells, TX www.myspace.com/codycountry 940-210-1769
Parenting Tomorrow’s Leaders By Keitha Story-Stephenson, DS
Parenting Guidelines for a New Year cont. Keitha Story-Stephenson, DS, owner of BlueSky Wellness Center, provides private consultation in Nutritional Wellness, Weight Management, ADD/ADHD Nutritional Management, and other Alternative Health Care, including private, individual behavior counseling. Services are available by appointment in Decatur at 1650 South Highway 51, Suite 600, inside JRobb’s Performance Studio in the Prada Center. Call 817-2399525 for appointment or visit us www.blueskywellnesscenter.com for more information.
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his month we continue with our Parenting Guidelines of the New Year. It is the author’s hope that you will use these suggestions as a means of encouragement and reinforcement in the task of parenting. • Children flourish with a frequent supply of verbal and physical affection. Frequent physical contact between children and parents is of the utmost importance. (hugging, gentle pats of affection, etc.) This reinforces the unique bond between parent and child. This positive affection should be on a regular basis when children are behaving appropriately. Parents should attempt to ref rain from expressing this type of affection after inappropriate behavior. • Rules should be detailed and clear to your child. As a parent, avoid making rules that you cannot or will not enforce. Enforcing rules must be matter-of-fact. The results of unacceptable behavior should be stated before the fact. Sit down with your child and discuss rules and results of bad behavior. Include their input in the “punishment”
“Parenting is a very important profession…” George Bernard Shaw (1944)
phase decisions. Remember, punishment should be age specific and in keeping with the offense. (time-out, grounding, removal of personal items, etc) • Recognize that the clarity of directions given to your child will influence their ability to follow them. Always make eye contact with your child. Yelling from the other end of the house is often ineffective for instruction. Be specific in directions. Avoid vague instructions like “behave”, “be good”. Instead, use action words and appropriate instructions like, “Stay out of the street”, “Be home by six o’clock”. As a parent, you must be prepared to enforce broken rules. If you fail to enforce consistently, rules and misbehavior have no meaning. Teach your child that you mean what you say.
Why I read I read Wise Youth Today because it is informative. As a mother of very active children, I can always find something to keep them entertained. The calendar is very helpful and keeps us updated on current events in our area. Seeing our beautiful children and their friends in the paper doesn’t hurt either. Thank you, Wise Youth Today and the local businesses for making this paper what it is today. — Lois Wallace, Bridgeport www.wiseyouthtoday.com
• Closely observe your children. Parents should praise a child for good behavior while they are behaving! This provides positive feedback to help the child develop good habits for the future. Always know where your children are and what they are doing. • Encourage your child to help with everyday tasks and family chores. In keeping with their age, children should be encouraged to participate in family responsibilities. This increases the bond of family and reinforces group participation. Also, this teaches the child responsibility for the future. Children enjoy time with their parents. Use time spent working together to grow closer to your child. Listen to them. Share your wisdom. Abraham Maslow once said, “If the only tool in your toolbox is a hammer, you will tend to treat every problem as a nail.” It is my hope that, as a parent, you can equip yourself with these and other tools to improve parenting skills and deepen the relationship with your child. Happy Parenting!! ■
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Happenings, Events and Reminders
February 2 Groundhog Day The world will be watching to see if Punxsutawney Phil sees his shadow. will his shadow predict six more weeks of winter?
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1st & 3rd Wednesday
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February 3 – Elmo (Sesame Street) celebrates his birthday February 6 – The game Monopoly goes on sale in stores in 1935. Celebrate by playing Monopoly today! February 7 – Charles Dickens was born in 1812. Can you name two Charles Dickens stories? Laura Ingalls Wilder was born on this day in 1867 February 8 – National Boy Scouts’ Day, founded 1910 February 9 – Hershey’s Chocolate founded in 1894 February 10 – Umbrella Day WHITE February 11 – White T-Shirt Day T-SHIRT February 15 – National Gumdrop Day February 16 – President’s Day DAY February 17 – Random Acts of Kindness Day FEB. 11 National P.T.A. Founder’s Day in 1897 February 19 – Mr. Rogers’ Neighborhood debuted in 1968 February 20 – The toothpick was patented in 1872. Love Your Pet Day February 26 – Wear your Levis day!! Levin Strauss was born in 1829
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Why I read I want to start off by saying that my family and I enjoy reading Wise Youth Today. It is always a pleasure to see the pictures of the kids in our community and learn what is going on with them and their lives. Our 8-year-old daughter Maikan, gets the biggest kick out of opening the pages and seeing her friends and reading about them. We are thankful to you and your family for printing and distributing such a wonderful magazine and for allowing our youth to take the spotlight! — Bonnie Sinclair CHS Special Ed.
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Dallas, Savana, and Preston Long with Mommy, Dee Long, from Boyd.
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Does your partner intimidate you with looks, actions and gestures? Does your partner put you down, call you names, insult you or play mind games? Does your partner control what you do, who you see or talk to and where your go? Does your partner deny the abuse or blame you for it? Does your partner threaten to take the children away or use visitation to harass you? Does your partner keep you from getting a job, make you ask for money or take away your money? Does your partner threaten to hurt you, leave you, commit suicide or report you to welfare? Does your partner slap, shove, push, kick, choke or threaten you with a weapon? Does your partner damage your possessions or smash things? Does your partner keep you isolated from supportive friends and family? Does your partner deprive you emotionally? Does your partner follow you, harass you or spy on you? If you answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions, please consider calling Wise Hope Shelter and Crisis Center for a free and confidential consultation.
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Shrimp or Psta appetizers • Prime Rib or Chicken Decadent Desserts • Set-ups available Hourly reservations available from 5:30 to 8:00 p.m. $35 per person Extend your evening! Make an early dinner reservation in time to see The Off 380 Production of CAT ON A HOT TIN ROOF Across the street at the Bridgeport Stage for just $10 per person. Childcare is available for both dinner and the play for a small fee. Sponsored by Bridgeport Main Street and Sagebrush Café
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Wow! Nice 8 point shot by Taylor Jo Partin. This is her first buck.
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Eagle Scout Justin Unger (Paradise), Alston Limerick (Boyd), Casey Martin (Rhome), Zack Hightower (Boyd), Phillip Benavides (Azle), Alton Frame (Boyd), Colton Unger (Paradise), Dereck Frame (Boyd), Lane Wolfe (Boyd), Danny Stockton (Azle), and Jonathan Peters (Azle)
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oy Scout Troop 147 would like to congratulate Justin Unger of Paradise on becoming Troop 147’s third Eagle Scout in 2008. Justin Unger is the son of Thomas and Angel Unger. Justin will be a 2009 graduate of Paradise High School. Justin’s Eagle Project was to build a monument sign in front of the First United Methodist Church in Azle. This is the Church that sponsor’s Justin’s troop. The sign was completed in December. On Saturday, January 10, 2009, Justin’s parents, Troop 147, family and friends honored Justin during an Eagle Scout Ceremony held at the River Church in Decatur. ■
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Why I read I read Wise Youth Today because in this day and time when negative is all around us and it seems that people have given up on our youth, WYT is a POSITIVE support to parents with great articles and showcases of our youth in a positive light! Youth are our future and we need (as a community) to support their dreams and aspirations. We should always set our young adults up for success, not failure! WYT provides a POSITIVE recourse for a growing community to empower parents and youth to succeed together! — Terri L. Johnson, Decatur Lindsey posing by the MMM Band trailer. Go Bulls!
LIt does not envy, it does
ove is patient, love is kind.
not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
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BEAUTY AND THE BEAST Bridgeport Main Street and Parks and Recreation Department presents Bridgeport Box Office. This month’s movie is Beauty and the Base on February 7th at the Bridgeport Stage, 1009 Halsell St. Doors will open at 6:30 pm and the movie will start at 7:00 pm. Admission is FREE buy everyone is required to have a ticket. Tickets may be picked up at City Hall and select downtown merchants. This event is sponsored by The Doctors’ Hospital, James Wood Pre-Owned in Bridgeport, and Bridgeport Tank Trucks. For more information, pleae call (940) 683-3480 or www.cityofbridgeport.net/parks&rec.
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Bowie ISD 940.872.1151 Boyd ISD 940.433.2327 press correct extension Bridgeport Middle 940.683.2273 Bridgeport High 940.683.4064 Ace HS 940.683.1830 Wise Co Spec Ed 940.683.8361 Chico Middle 940.644.5550 Chico High 940.644.5783 Decatur Middle 940.627.2384 Decatur High 940.627.2155 Decatur Cates HS 940.627.3183 Paradise ISD 940.969.2501 press correct extension Rhome Chisholm 817-636.2304 Rhome Prairieview 817.215.0550 Rhome Northwest 817.215.0200 Slidell ISD 940.466.3118 press correct extension Weatherford College - Decatur 940.627.1846 Hope Christian Academy Denise Custer 940.683.1899 Faith Temple Christian Academy New Fairview, Texas 817.703.3111
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You Can Never Be Too Cautious…
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his gives us something to think about worth anything had been stolen. The thieves had used the GPS to with all our new electronic technology. guide them to the house. They then used the garage remote control to open GPS A couple of weeks ago a friend told the garage door and gain entry to the me that someone she knew had their car house. The thieves knew the owners broken into while they were at a football were at the football game, they knew match. Their car what time the game was scheduled to was parked on the finish and so they knew how much green which was time they had to clean up the house. It adjacent to the would appear that they had brought a football stadium truck to empty the house of its contents. and specially allotted to football MOBILE PHONE I never thought of this....... fans. Things stolen from the car This lady has now changed her habit of included a garage how she lists her names on her mobile door remote con- phone after her handbag was stolen. Her trol, some money handbag, which contained her cell phone, and a GPS which credit card, wallet...etc... was stolen. 20 minutes later when she called had been prominently mounted her hubby, from a pay phone telling on the dashboard.. him what had happened, hubby says ‘I When the victims got home, they received your text asking about our pin found that their house had been ran- number and I’ve replied a little while ago.’ When they rushed down to the sacked and just about ever ything
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bank, the bank staff told them all the money was already withdrawn. The thief had actually used the stolen cell phone to text ‘hubby’ in the contact list and got hold of the pin number.. Within 20 minutes he had withdrawn all the money from their bank account. MORAL OF THE LESSON: Do not disclose the relationship between you and the people in your contact list. Avoid using names like Home, Honey, Hubby, Sweetheart, Dad, Mom, etc.... And very importantly, when sensitive info is being asked through texts, CONFIRM by calling back. Also, when you’re being text by friends or family to meet them somewhere, be sure to call back to confirm that the message came from them. If you don’t reach them, be very careful about going places to meet ‘family and friends’ who text you. ■
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I’m starting a photography business on the side to help generate extra income. I have friends who’ve told me they’d like to use my services. However, I feel weird about charging them, because they’re friends. How do I get past that? — Daniel
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I understand how you might feel weird taking money from friends, yet you’re providing a service, and you’ve opened this business to make money. They’re going to pay another photographer if you don’t do the job, so why shouldn’t they have the fun of working with someone they already know and like? There’s a psychology at work here. If you comp or discount them now, they may never see you as a true professional. But if you charge them a fair price, you’ll be establishing yourself as a pro. Still uncomfortable? Tell them you’ll do the work free of charge this time if they’ll help you find six new clients. There’s nothing wrong with a trade, especially when you’re starting out. Just make sure you get something worthwhile in the deal! — Dave
Dear Dave,
I make $60,000 a year, and I have two cars. One is paid for, and I owe $23,000 on the other. These are my only vehicles. I’d like to sell the one I still owe money on, but no one wants to pay that much. I have enough money in savings to cover the difference on one of the offers, but I was wondering if there’s a rule of thumb to determine whether to sell a car in this kind of situation? — Josh
Dear Josh,
Here’s how I look at it. If you really love the car, and by really focusing and saving like crazy you can pay off everything else in your life – except the house – in 18 to 24 months, then I’m okay with keeping the car. If you can’t, it’s time to sell! It also may be time to sell if the if the total value of all your vehicles – cars, trucks, boats, jet skis, and their sisters – is equal to half, or more than half, of your annual income. These are things that depreciate like crazy. You don’t want half of your income wrapped up in things that are going down in value. Josh, you can pay this thing off in two years or less if you haven’t got a bunch of other debt. But if you don’t like
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the car, or you don’t want to work that hard to keep it, then sell the thing and write a check for the difference. Then rebuild your savings in a hurry by putting what would have gone for car payments into your bank account! — Dave
Dear Dave,
We started doing a budget a couple of months ago, and already it’s springing leaks. It’s just a little bit out of balance in a few different places, but combined, it makes a big dent in our finances. How can we plug the leaks? — Joy
Dear Joy,
First, don’t worry about it. This kind of thing happens a lot in household budgeting, especially when folks are new to the process. Here are some ideas to help stretch your dollars and plug those leaks. Use the cash-only method when shopping for groceries. Take cash only for the amount you’ve budgeted for groceries. Use coupons only for items you normally buy. Lots of people use coupons just to be using coupons, thinking they’re saving when they aren’t. This adds more to the grocery bill. Even though the item itself
may be less expensive, you’ll buy things you don’t really need. Try stocking up on those items you use often when there’s a big sale, too. These are little things, but trust me, they add up! You buy groceries for a reason, right? So stop eating out! Only go to restaurants for special occasions, and don’t be afraid to use coupons in restaurants. Have you seen the price of a soda or iced tea these days? Drink water instead. Always check the sale and clearance racks first when it comes to buying clothes. There are good clothes at consignment stores and thrift shops, too. While you’re there, sell your old, worn out clothes, and anything you don’t wear anymore. Most of all, avoid the trendy, expensive clothes. Buy durable classics that don’t go out of style. When it comes to entertainment, nothing beats family time. It may sound old-fashioned, but there’s nothing wrong with a night of playing board games. It’s fun! If you like movies, use discount coupons and go to matinees whenever possible. The prices are always lower before dark. If you’re planning a trip with several other people, call ahead and ask for a group discount. — Dave
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Life Skills Deborah King is President of Final Touch Finishing School, Inc. which she founded in 1989 in Seattle. As a certified image professional, with over 30 years of experience, she presents her programs nationally and internationally for youth and corporate clients. She is co-author of “Image Power” and developer of several educational tools. www.finaltouchschool.com
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Air of Confidence
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hen someone first enters a room, what captures your attention? Is it what they are wearing, their smile, eye contact, hair, or some other physical characteristic? Leaders possess a unique quality that enables them to capture the attention of those they meet. Those who have achieved a level of success and mastery in their work also possess this quality. What is it? Confidence! A confident person ‘owns’ the room they enter communicating to all that they have the skill to handle whatever they may face. Confidence is also rated as the most attractive feature about someone. Do you possess a level of confidence that enables you to move with ease from one situation to the next? Are your children confident in the situations they face? Confidence is not something one is born with, it must be developed. The dictionary defines confidence as faith or belief that one will act in a right, proper, or effective way; the quality or state of being certain. A person who is confident is easily identified the moment they enter a room. They stand tall and move with grace and certainty. They are open to others and look for opportunities to connect with them. They easily meet and greet others and seem natural in conversation. They are competent in their abilities without being boastful. Acquiring confidence comes by learning and practicing a skill until it
become automatic and natural. Malcom Gladwell, author of Outliers, states that one must devote at least 10,000 hours to a given craft before they are truly successful. Many think confidence and social skills should be mastered by reading a few articles or attending a seminar on the topic. A brief brush with a new skill does not equate mastery. There must be ongoing learning, followed by practice and feedback, for an extended period of time before a new skill is developed and is truly useful. Developing a higher level of confidence will not only benefit you, it will benefit all those you interact with, most importantly, your children. You cannot give to others what you yourself do not possess. You may not work outside your home where you need to master a particular skill, but the level of confidence you have will be what you pass on to your children.
We all are products of the people and experiences we have been exposed to. Children who have been nurtured in homes rich with social skills are able to master the moments they are faced with. Their success is predictable. As you increase your own confidence, the situations you used to dread or avoid will become a source of enjoyment and will open new doors of opportunity for all. Civility Challenge #2 Pay attention to those around you. Every act of kindness starts with noticing others. Many uncivil acts are rooted in being in a hurry and unaware. Slow down and consider those you are with at home, at work, and in the marketplace. “When civility reigns, people rejoice!” — Deborah King
Why I read I read Wise Youth Today because I like to see pictures of the kids doing their other extracurricular activities and having a great time. There is also more diversity because it is not NEWS driven. I also enjoy the articles that help enforce “the right thing to do” instead of what everyone did wrong. — Angel Unger
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Learning the life skills of responsibility and building a strong work ethic through 4-H projects
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ll 4-H projects can help a 4-H member learn and develop responsibility and a strong work ethic. By seeing a project through from start to finish, 4-H members can develop a sense of pride and accomplishment and learn that often the more work and effort put into a project the more rewarding it can be. Some examples include learning financial responsibility through the Consumer Decision Making project and competitions, learning how to be a responsible baby sitter through the Child Development project and for me learning how to be responsible for my animals in the livestock projects. Responsibility, to me, means taking care of my stuff, specifically my 4-H animals, so my parents don’t have to get after me to do it. If I don’t take care of my animals there would be consequences not only for me but also for my animals. My consequences would be not having
any animals and the consequences for my animals might be not having water, food, clean pens or care when they are sick. By taking care of my project animals through feeding, watering, and by monitoring their health every morning and night I can notice if something is wrong with them. I didn’t just know how to do all this at once. It has taken time to learn what and how much to feed, what to do if they are sick, and how to ask for help when something is wrong that I have not seen before. I have learned to ask my parents, other knowledgeable project members, professional livestock managers and our veterinarian for help. Keeping my animals healthy and well taken care of is showing responsibility. A good work ethic relates to being responsible. My livestock projects help me learn a good work ethic by teaching me to get things done well and not just as fast as I can in order to have more
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time to go and play with friends. I’ve learned to get my animal activities, called chores at my house, done properly so I don’t have to go back and do it again or by hurrying and neglecting to notice something about my animals. It has taken time to learn how to do a good job in caring for my animals and each year I learn more by talking to other people and reading ideas and suggestions on how to take better care of them. The opportunities for learning responsibility and developing a good work ethic through 4-H are endless. If you have any questions about joining 4-H please contact the local Extension Office and find a project that fits your interests. ■ PARENTS: There is no better organization than 4-H to get your children involved in. You can contact the Wise County 4-H office at 940.627.3341.
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Enough Love For Someone Else
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y son was born May 3rd, 2007 in Khabarovsk, Russia. His birth mother gave up her rights to him immediately. There is no question about my love for him and just like any other Mom, I cried the first time I saw his face. The only difference is that my first glimpse of my son was in the form of four pictures taken inside of the Baby Home (Orphanage) in Russia. So why adopt? Well, I am single and in my late 30’s. I have not yet met the man of my dreams, unless you count my 20 month old son - and I do. I also have severe endometriosis and was told that it would be virtually impossible for me to become pregnant. So when given this diagnosis, oh 10 - 15 years ago, I started considering adoption. This little boy was meant to join me and my family. He has my sister’s eyes. When my brother saw his picture for the first time his first remark was “he looks just like me!” He has the “McAfee” nose (that’s my Mom’s side of the family) and one of my dimples. He also acts just like my brother did at this age. Trust me, as the oldest sibling, I remember it well. Gage is a typical toddler, but he has to experience EVERYTHING for himself. For example, he won’t believe me if I try to tell him the bath water is hot and can hurt or burn his hand. No matter how many times we discuss it and I tell him “no, no, no that’s hot,” he still wants to stick his hand in the water. It seems about once a week that he manages to get a finger or two into the water while it is still hot and I am adjusting the temperature for him. Each and every time he acts surprised that the water is hot and gets just a little fussy and we have to pause for maybe a minute to blow on his finger. Then he tries to stick his hand back
into the water! This may be normal for toddlers, but it was so typical of my brother that half of the time I run around muttering my brother’s name. Have you noticed that I do not refer to Gage as my “adopted” son? This is because he is my son - period. I actually cannot imagine loving a biological child more than I love this little boy of mine. Besides, he is my “first born” which means he will always occupy a special place in my heart. I just love referring to him as my son or my little boy. It makes me so happy. I have had so much support from my family and friends during the adoption process and this is something that is really needed. I could not have gone through the highs and especially the lows of the adoption process without my family. I have actively worked to get Gage since about mid 2007. It started with a Home Study, which is required by all adoption agencies before you can get started on the actual adoption paperwork. The Home Study is basically a visit by a Licensed Social Worker to your home for a face to face interview and an inspection of your house, but prior to this you must fill out extensive paperwork. I think it took me six weeks, maybe more, to complete the paperwork. It took four months to get the Home Study completed. I then started on the actual paperwork for the Adoption Agency. I had to get my work history, employment/salary verification, mortgage history, a letter from the Appraisal District, and original, certified copies of my birth certificate - gosh, I cannot remember everything right now. While I was filling out the paperwork I could tell you exactly what I still needed to get done though! Oh, I had to go to Ft. Worth and be fingerprinted by
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Homeland Security so I could be cleared by them. Everything I did had to be notarized and then sent to Austin for what is called an Apostille - basically they verify your notary and re notarize it. In June I finished the first phase of paperwork for the Adoption Agency and sent it to them. I got a call the very next day. This is unheard of. At first I refused to believe that they had a referral for me! I was sent the four pictures and one page of information on Gage and limited information on his birth mother. I had only three business days to consult an international adoption specialist (this is required) and send back any questions that I had. I did this and accepted the referral within a week. This was in June. The bummer part of my adoption process, and a low, was that in the summer Russians take very long holidays so instead of being able to fly to Russia within two to three weeks which is typical, I could not go until August. My heart broke a little more each day that I had to wait. No matter what I did I was thinking of him. I filled my days by working extra, playing softball and training for and completing a sprint triathlon. Nothing helped. I just wanted to meet my son. Competing in the triathlon did help with the stress though and completing a sprint triathlon had long been a goal of mine. I plan to complete another one this year. I finally got to meet Gage in August and he came right to me and let me hold him. My heart just melted and of course I cried. I was not about to let him go! I spoke to the doctor in Russia and he had a few minor health problems, but nothing that was going to deter me, so I signed the papers in Russia. After three days in Russia I had to leave him, those are the rules. Back to the
Pati Marcum (grandmother), Gage and Alissa Sobieraj States, more paperwork, more fingerprints - this time sent off to the FBI for clearance, and I also had to be cleared by our local Sheriff ’s Office. More waiting and waiting and waiting. I hoped to be in Russia for Thanksgiving. This didn’t happen. I hoped to be there for Christmas. This didn’t look like that would happen either. We were just going to skip Christmas this year if Gage wasn’t here. Finally, I received a call on Wednesday, December 3rd about 11am and had to be on a plane by the 7th as I had to be in court in Russia on December 12th and had to fulfill a few more requirements prior to going to court. I was fortunate as my Mom was able to accompany me to Russia. It was nice to have someone with me the whole time. The court finally released Gage into my custody on December 23rd so we got to spend Christmas together after all. Prior to gaining custody Mom and I could only see him from 10am - noon and again from 4pm - 6pm each day. I know he looked forward to the visits and he cried when we returned him to his room, but there was absolutely nothing we could do about it. We spent a few more days in Khabarovsk then it was off to Moscow for his U.S. visa. We got to visit the U.S. Embassy,
something I thought was pretty cool. Finally on December 31st, we left Moscow and began our journey back to Texas. I must admit, Gage was pretty good on the airplane. That was a long trip and the three of us were exhausted. We arrived home about 9:20pm on the 31st and my sister picked us up at the airport. We also had a wonderful surprise. Some of my closest friends met us at the airport and it sure was nice to see all those friendly faces. I want to clear up any common misconception that the child you adopt is the “ lucky one”. Gage is not the lucky one. I am. I am not overly religious, but my prayers were answered and I received the best Christmas present ever in 2008 - my son. While he is young I will borrow a phrase from a friend to explain adoption to him. I will tell him that “Mommy loves you so much that she flew all the way to Russia to get you.” Editor’s Note: We couldn’t think of a better way of sharing the true gift of ‘Loving Yourself ’ than to share Alissa and Gage’s story with you. If all of us had to go through this process to become parents how many of us would stand the test of time? Be thankful for your children. Love yourself by being a good parent for your children. ■
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y the time that most of you will be reading this, I will be at the hospital with my wife and a new baby. This will be my third child and just do not know how the boys are going to handle a little sister. I am betting that they will be just like Dad and she will soon have them wrapped around her little finger. If you haven’t noticed, our magazine has evolved and so has this column. I would be lying, however, if I said that working in this month’s theme of “Love Yourself ” into this article was easy. Fortunately, Kim came to my rescue again with a single word “respect” As parents, we have all heard the saying “monkey see, monkey do” and we generally refer to one child doing something and the other copying it. This applies to us as well. As parents, what we do and how we conduct ourselves in society dictates how our kids will conduct themselves. From a legal perspective, consider this. Do you speed when you are driving? Not just one or two over
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the limit, but really have a lead foot? Do you make threats when you are angry, say threatening to “kick someone’s butt (or other language)” if they don’t do what you want? Do you tell “white lies” about things to other folks or to your spouse or maybe tell your kids “don’t tell mom/ dad”? Don’t think I am being judgmental. I am as guilty as the next person of doing some of these things. But when Kim brought up this subject, it really made me think. We cannot be perfect, but can we do things a bit differently for the benefit of our children. Surely something as important as respect is worth it. We work hard for our kid’s education, their health, their happiness, and their ability to succeed. But if our kids don’t have strong respect for other folks and respect for the law, how far can they really go in life. Some might think that showing a higher level of respect for those around you will be seen as a sign of weakness.
In fact, when I have talked to kids about this subject, they are always concerned that other kids will look down on them. My response is always the same, “Don’t mistake my kindness for weakness.” You will always be stronger, both inside and out, if you hold your self to a higher standard for personal conduct. The weakest person in the group is the one who yells the loudest and is most obnoxious. In this issue, the focus is on “loving yourself.” I cannot help you with things like weight management or etiquette, but I can offer you encouragement to love yourself by defining who you are by the respect you have for others and society as a whole. Never forget that how you act is exactly how your kids will act. See you next month. ■
James M. Stainton graduated from Baylor Law School in 2000 and after a year with the 10th Court of Appeals in Waco, he started his law practice here in Wise County. A married father of two, Mr. Stainton strongly believes that the law should be accessible to all persons, regardless of age. If you would like to know more about Mr. Stainton, visit his website at www.WiseCountyLaw.com.
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Your Library By Cecilia Barham
Teens, Reading and Libraries
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t is 10:00 p.m. on Friday night; do you know what your teen is reading? Are they reading? Probably not according to the government agency Reading is Fundamental (RIF), the oldest and largest children’s and family nonprofit literacy organization in the United States. RIF reports that children often lose interest in reading as they enter adolescence. There are various factors involved in this lose of interest from too many competing interests to “reading isn’t cool,” but regardless of the reasons there are things you can do to encourage your teen to read. First, it is important to be familiar with what types of books teens are reading.
The Young Adult Services division of the American Library Association polls teens each year and provides a list of the “Teens’ Top Ten”. According to this poll, the most popular books for teens in 2008 were: 1. Eclipse by Stephenie Meyer 2. Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows by J. K. Rowling 3. Diary of a Wimpy Kid by Jeff Kinney 4. Vampire Academy by Richelle Mead 5. Maximum Ride: Saving the World and Other Extreme Sports by James Patterson 6. City of Bones by Cassandra Clare 7. The Sweet Far Thing by Libba Bray 8. Extras by Scott Westerfeld 9. Before I Die by Jenny Downham 10. Twisted by Laurie Halse Anderson As a librarian, I strongly support family involvement in encouraging and monitoring children’s reading habits. Familiarize yourself with these popular books – maybe even read them yourself! Next encourage your teen to read them also by leaving them lying around the house or talking about your favorite part of the book. You can also encourage your teen to read by offering to take them to the book store or better yet to your local library. The Decatur Library has many methods of encouraging teens to get excited about books and reading. We
have a unique collection and space for young adults with a new book area, a “good book” cart, a manga collection and posted book reviews written by other teens. Our young adult collection is updated monthly and includes both popular books and critically acclaimed books on a variety of topics and in a variety of genres. We hold annual events such as Teen Read Week, which is held each fall, and our popular Online Teen Summer Reading Club. The Online Teen Summer Reading Club runs in conjunction the annual Texas Summer Reading Club, which will be held this year June 16 – July 31. The Online Teen Summer Reading Club allows teens to participate from the library or from home on their computers. It has online blogs and book reviews, an invitation-only My Space page and great reading incentives. Additionally, we recently started a monthly book discussion club for teens. The next Teen Book Club meeting will be held on Wednesday, February 11th at 4:00 p.m. when we will be discussing Life as We Knew It by Susan Beth Pfeffer. If your teen is interested, the library has multiple copies of this book available for checkout. For more information on any of your library’s teen programs or ways to encourage your teen to read, just contact your local library. Books are our business! ■
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Just Be Lovable
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student recently came for his weekly lesson with a request. He had a song that he wanted to learn to play on the ukulele for his mother’s birthday. I thought that it was a wonderful gesture on his part so I inquired as to when her birthday was. “Three days” was his reply. “Okay, what is the song you’d like to play?” I asked. To my horror it was the Israel (“Iz”) Ka’ano’i Kamakawiwo’ole version of “Somewhere Over The Rainbow.” It’s a great tune but is a little more complicated to play than most people can handle in two weeks much less three days. (If you don’t know the arrangement, go to youtube.com and search for “Iz, Somewhere Over The Rainbow,” you’ll love it.) What do I do now, I thought? Then
before I could help myself I heard my own voice say, “Okay, but time is wasting, let’s get busy!” We started by going to the computer and pulling up youtube. Then before I realized it the half hour was over and there sat this very determined little boy wailing away on “Somewhere Over The Rainbow” and playing it perfectly! It was awesome! I didn’t get to see the performance that he presented to his mom but I can imagine how she must have felt. I know that the easiest fan that a musician will ever get is his mom but there was more to this story. I saw a boy who, without even knowing it was doing something that we all should strive for. He was being lovable. He had put everything he had into this single mission and he pulled it
off flawlessly. He had, with no selfish motive done something just to bring her joy. There wasn’t even the slightest hint of “look what I can do”. I could feel his love for her in every note. Sometimes I think back to a time when I was a young man and I was intrigued by an article about love. The advice that was offered made my mind do a double take. It said “Be Lovable.” I felt like some one had suddenly slapped me for no reason. What kind of advice was that little gem? Well, it did get me thinking, (sometimes that takes some doing!), but I still don’t know exactly what to tell you to do. However I do know, what it means to be lovable when I see others doing it. ■
Beginning at the tender age of four Glenn entered the music business with a weekly radio show. He moved on to television, recording and performing in live venues ranging from Sunday morning church service to opening for Grand Ole Opry stars. Glenn and his wife Leesa moved from Las Vegas, Nevada to Decatur, Texas in July of 2000. He began teaching in 2005 and recently opened Guitar Players Academy.
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Hears From Its Readers Dear Wise Youth Today:
I had a dream to take my granddaughter, Kaylee, to New York City when she turned thirteen. Her 13th birthday was in September of 2008. My first trip was in 1967 and I returned in 1990 with her mother, Kim French, who was sixteen at the time. Rockefeller Center ice skating rink held a huge dream for me. I skated in 1967 and then, Kim in 1990. I wanted to ice skate with Kaylee there also. This dream was a far off dream. I was injured at work in 1996 and couldn’t wear an ice skate let alone skate. Through years of therapy and determination, I made that dream come true. This is what I call loving yourself and that love flows to those around you. I, along with my best friend, Marci Russell, flew to New York with Kaylee and her best friend, Taylor Emola. We saw so many wonderful places and the highlight of the trip was ice skating with Kaylee at Rockefeller Center. My dream has come true.
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