February 16 2017 issue by Thefilam Courier

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STATEWIDE COMMUNITY CALENDAR

Compiled by AMELIA CASAMINA CABATU

Amelia Casamina Cabatu is a community leader and a familiar face, often hosting community events and celebrations. She is a veteran radio announcer and hosts the “FIL-AM COURIER COMMUNITY HOUR on 1270 KNDI Radio every 1st Sunday of the month. In addition to other affiliations, Amelia is the former Chair of the Philippine Celebrations Coordinating Committee of Hawaii. She owns and operates an adult daycare business and is happily married to Arnold Cabatu. They live in Salt Lake and are blessed with one daughter, Armay. Please send your event information to acmina808@gmail.com or call her at (808) 282-2033.

OAHU FEBRUARY 16-26, 2017 Filipino Chamber of Commerce of Hawaii 27th (FCCH)Annual Filipino Trade Mission to the Philippines. The trade mission aims to strengthen the business opportunities between Hawaii and the Philippines.Planned itinerary includes visits to Manila, Davao, Laoag, Vigan, Candon, and Baguio City. Official Travel Agency is Noble TravelTeresita Noble 808-244-4609. Contact Persons: Paul Alimbuyao754-8691, Bernadette Fajardo 342-8090

2017, Craft Fair and Cultural Performances Hawaii Convention Center, March 12, 2017 Craft Fair at the Convention Center with a Grand Parade onKalakaua Avenue. The Philippine Consulate is in partnership with Philippine Airlines, Congress of Visayan Organization (COVO), Filipino Chamber of Commerce of Hawaii (FCCH) and the FilCom Center for a bigger, colorful, and culturally-rich Philippine participation. For more information visit their website at http:/ /www.honolulufestival.com

MARCH 5, 2017 Fil-Am Courier Community Hour on KNDI 1270 AM Radio 3:30 PM – 5:30 PM. Log on to www.kndi.com and/or www.filamcourier .com and Social Media FB Page Fil-Am Courier with your host Amelia Casamina Cabatu. For more info call Amelia at (808) 282-2033

MARCH 24, 2017 Filipino Chamber of Commerce of Hawaii 23rd Annual Scholarship Golf Tournament, Ewa Beach Golf Club. 91-050 Fort Weaver Road, Ewa Beach Hawaii. The proceeds from the tournament will fund the Foundation’s scholarship program. Looking for interested players. Contact Persons: Eddie Agas 783-3327, Jack Legal 284-6832, Bernadette Fajardo 342-8090

MARCH 10 – MARCH 12, 2017 The 23rd Honolulu Festival, Hawaii’s Premier Cultural Event. Activities includes: March 10, 2017 International Friendship Gala. 6:00 PM; Hawaii Convention Center, March 11,

APRIL 8, 2017 Annual commemoration of the Araw Ng Kagitingan coordinated by the Philippine Consulate General in Honolulu in cooperation with the Philippine Celebrations Coordinating

Committee of Hawaii (PCCCH) National Memorial Cemetery of the Pacificl 9:00 AM11:00AM; Contact Persons: Cecilia Villafuerte 780-4985, Philippine Consulate General Honolulu 595-6316 APRIL 8, 2017 Associated Chinese University Women, Inc., presents “With a Song in My Heart” Hilton Hawaiian Village Waikiki Beach Resorts, Coral Ballroom, 9:00 AM; Coral Lounge Marketplace opens 11:25 AM-1:30 PM; Program, Luncheon, Fashions. Featured Entertainers: Kristian Lei & Baritone Chris Lowe, Fashions by Anne Namba. Benefit Scholarship, Community, Cultural Programs. Tickets $75.00 payable to “ACUW Fundraiser”. Mail to P.O. Box 62264 Honolulu, Hawaii 96839. Contact Phone Numbers: Tickets: 599-4386 or 839-5452 APRIL 15, 2017 Filipino Women’s Club of Hawaii Foundation (Formerly known as the Hawaii Filipino Women’s Club) Annual Terno Ball. Ala Moana Hotel Hibiscus Ballroom. 6:00 PM; Contact Persons: Nelly Pongco Liu 228-7808, Carlota Ader 797-4381, Mercy Mullins 226-1320

APRIL 30, 2017 Filipino Business Woman Association (FBWA) Scholarship Fundraising event. Rumours Nightclub, Ala Moana Hotel. 6:00 PM-11:00 PM; Cost: $30.00 Pre-paid, $35.00 at the Door. Contact Person: Elsa Talavera 358-8964 MAY 6, 2017 25th Annual Filipino Fiesta & Parade (5th Flores De Mayo) Kapiolani Park, Waikiki. 8:00 AM – 5:00 PM. For sponsorship and booth information contact the Fil-Com Center Arceli Rebollido 808-680-0451 or email:filcom@filcom.org MAY 13, 2017 Filipino Chamber of Commerce of Hawaii Filipino Entrepreneur of the Year and the Filipino Young Entrepreneur of the Year and Scholarship Awards Gala. Fil-Com Center, 94-428 Mokuola Street Waipahu, HI. 6:00 PM – 11:00 PM. Contact Persons:Rocky Anguay, 387-5821, Bernadette Fajardo 3428090 JUNE 1-JUNE 7, 2017 Adobo Festival, the very first in Hawaii presented by the Philippine Celebrations Coordinating Committee of Hawaii (PCCCH) in Cooperation with the Filipino Chamber of Commerce of Hawaii (FCCH) and the Hawaii Restaurant Association to promote local businesses and promote Filipino Culture and Cuisine Contact Persons: Cecilia Villafuerte 780-4985, Bernadette Fajardo 342-8090, Amelia Casamina Cabatu 282-2033 JUNE 10, 2017 119th Philippine Independence Day Celebration presented by the Philippine Celebrations Coordinating Committee of Hawaii (PCCCH) in cooperation with the Philippine Consulate General, Hilton Hawaiian Village Resorts Tapa Ballroom 6:00 PM; Contact Persons: Cecilia Villafuerte 780-4985, Bennette Misalucha 398-5988, Bernadette Fajardo 342-8090, Amelia Casamina Cabatu 282-2033 JUNE 23, 2017 Rotary Club of Kapolei 2017-2018 Installation of Officers and Board of Directors Fil-Com Center, 94-428 Mokuola Street Waipahu, HI. 6:00 PM; Cost: $50.00 for Dinner, Entertainment, Door Prizes and Rotary Foundation. RSVP to Rev. Alex Vergara, RCK President at 808-5514303 or email: alex@alexvergaraphotography.com JULY 8, 2017 Filipino Chamber of Commerce of Hawaii (FCCH) Installation of New Officers and Board of directors. 6:00 PM; Hilton Hawaiian Village Resorts, Tapa Ballroom Contact Persons: Bernadette Fajardo 342-8090, Brandon Dela Cruz 389-0517

AUGUST 27, 2017 Philippine Cultural Foundation of Hawaii Recognition Night honoring the 2017 Parents/parent of the year, recognizing the 2017 outstanding achievements of graduating high school valedictorians in public and private schools & presentation of the continuing scholar recipients, Empress Restaurant 100 N.Beretania St. 6:00 PM. We are currently searching for the parents/ parent of the year who sacrificed to send their children (3 minimum) to college and/or universities & have attained their professional chosen careers. Contact Persons: Janice Sevilla 595-8000, Lina Longboy 421-7381, Leo Rojas Gozar 630-6268, Maggie Domingo 783-0068 SEPTEMBER 16, 2017 Filipino Women’s Civic Club (FWCC) Annual Maria Clara Ball 2017 Ala Moana Hotel Hibiscus Ballroom. 6:00 PM; Contact Persons: Rose Galanto 688-4458, Cecilia Villafuerte 780-4985 OCTOBER 20, 2017 Filipino Community Center, Inc. Bayanihan Gala Fundraiser honoring extraordinary Acts of Servicefor more information and sponsorship opportunities contact Fil-Com Center (808) 680-0451 NOVEMBER 4, 2017 Filipino Business Women’s Association (FBWA) presents the Annual Kimona Ball and the Business Woman of the Year Awards Ceremony Dole Cannery Pomaikai Ballroom. 735 Iwilei Road, Honolulu, HI. 6:00 PM; Contact Person: Elsa Talavera 358-8964

KAUAI APRIL 29, 2017 Kauai Philippine Cultural Center 6th Major Fundraising Event Titled “Lets Show the World”. 5:30 PM; Kauai Marriott Grand Ballroom. Make checks payable to Kauai Philippine Cultural Center. PO Box 1961 Lihue, Hawaii 96766 Contact Information on the web: www.kauaiphilippinecultural center.org or email: kpcc2020@gmail.com

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Let love in and find love within

SERVING THE COMMUNITY SINCE 1987 PUBLISHER Mary Llanos Cordero MANAGING EDITOR Bennette Espineli Misalucha DIRECTOR OF DESIGN Armando Dela Cruz Busmente PRODUCTION MANAGER Alice Llanos Busmente ASSISTANT EDITOR Radiant Cordero COPY EDITOR Danielle Evangelista

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You don’t have to have a “special someone” in order to celebrate Valentine’s Day. You are a special someone. Even if you have a girlfriend, boyfriend, wife, husband, or a special friend you periodically spend time with when you don’t want to be alone on a Saturday night, you can still appreciate your own uniqueness and feel grateful for your existence. When we’re taught to serve others, share, and practice other acts of selflessness on a daily basis, it’s so easy to forget about our own needs. Entering into a government sector job before I graduated with my undergraduate degrees added excitement to my life. I was engaged in the work that I was always intrigued by and was studying at the time. The feeling gave me such fulfillment because I thoroughly enjoyed, and still enjoy my job, and did it well. Quickly into the first few years, however, I was overly consumed with the service to my job that I worked through birthdays, anniversaries, and even my own graduation. Not only did I let my job seclude me from the rest of my world, but my mental and physical health was affected because I ignored myself in the midst of all the work.

With those problems, I was essentially forced to rest and seek medical attention which cost me thousands of dollars in the past few years. Now, I am vowing to take the time to serve one very important person: myself. As paradoxical as it may seem, we must do our best not to forget to serve ourselves, share with ourselves, and practice acts of selflessness toward ourselves. Now, this doesn’t mean that we are to be greedy little gremlins and gobble up everything that satisfies our desires. It just means that we are just as deserving as anyone else to be a priority in our lives. I mean come on, if we don’t take good care of ourselves, what good are we to the people we love the most? What good are we to society? In a job like mine where I am continually serving, assisting, doing things for people, if I am not well or with a sound mind, I am unable to totally serve, assist, and do things to the best of my ability and for what is right for them. It’s okay to take time for yourself. It’s okay to treat yourself. It’s okay to

give yourself some of the love within you. Love is a gift to give others, and it is a gift to give ourselves. But even more importantly, love is the expression of the true self in its purest form. Now, this isn’t the optimistic part of the article where I tell all the single girls that they don’t need a man on Valentine’s Day because they are perfect and beautiful and if he don’t see that it’s his problem and he’s not worth a “girl-like-you’s” time. No, this is just truth. We all have love inside us. By giving love to others, we are simply opening up the pathway for love to channel through our entire being. When we put our egos aside, let go of our desire to control all things, and accept and admire our interconnectedness, love is easy. When we open ourselves up and let the love out, we realize that there’s so much love within. We realize we no longer need anything else in the world to supply us with love. We already have it. Make life easy on yourself by setting aside all things that prevent your true self, your best self, from expressing itself.

Mario Ramil Retired Hawaii Supreme Court Justice, 70, of Waipahu, Hawaii, passed away on Monday, January 30, 2017, surrounded by his family. He is survived by his wife Judy; sons Jonathan and Bradley, brothers Quintin Ramil, Jr., (Teresita), Lindo Ramil (Filipina), Cesar Ramil (Anita), and Michael Ramil, and sisters Norma Matro (Carlos) and Gloria Omania (Louis). Mario also leaves behind numerous adoring nieces and nephews, cousins, and a host of friends and colleagues. A Memorial Celebration of his Life is scheduled for Friday, March 3, 2017, with family greeting availability at 5 PM and services at 6 PM. Hosoi Garden Mortuary, Honolulu. Light refreshments to follow. A private inurnment ceremony will be held at another time to place his ashes at the National Memorial Cemetery of the Pacific, Punchbowl Crater. In lieu of flowers and gifts, the family requests donations be made to: University of Hawaii Cancer Center (indicate funds In Memory of Mario Ramil) to: UH Foundation, P.O. Box 11270, Honolulu, HI 96828 Oncology Nursing Society (c/o Sharon Shigemasu, 701 ILALO St. Honolulu, HI 96813) Hawaii Nurses Association (949 Kapiolani Blvd. #107, Honolulu, HI 96814)

Be your own valentine this year. Open yourself up, not just to share love with others, but to share love with yourself. Love is something you are. So, by simply sharing yourself with the people around you and allowing them to share their whole selves with you, Valentine’s Day will be a great success.

Radiant Cordero is the Assistant Editor and a member of the Asian American Journalists Association. Radiant was awarded “Outstanding Youth” by the United Filipino Council of Hawai‘i and “Top Outstanding Young Filipino” by the JCI Filipino Junior Chamber. Radiant attended UH Mânoa where she helped in the revival of the Ethnic Studies Student Association, founded the American Studies Undergraduate Leaders, and was active in the Honors Program, and most prominently,theKatipunan Club. In 2012, she obtained a double major with a Bachelor of Arts in Political Science and Bachelor of Arts in American Studies. Radiant then graduated with her Master’s in Public Administration degree from UH Mânoa in May 2016. She is an active community volunteer. Currently, Radiant serves as a chief-of-staff in the City and County of Honolulu and as a Board of Director with the Epilepsy Foundation of Hawaii and a member of the Filipino Chamber of Commerce of Hawaii.

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Golden, Joyful, and Treasured: By: MARIBELL PABALAN

The love story of Mr. and Mrs. Hermie and Letty Tesoro

ABOUT OUR COVER

About the cover Our beautiful cover reflects the red hot romance that still prevails in the marriage of Hermie and Letitia Tesoro, one of three couples we featured in our annual Valentine's issue. Photo credit to a man of many talents Alex Vergara, who took the pictures at the Tesoro's Kalihi home. Photo cover concept by Noah Felipe. Mahalo to Jeff Orig of Orig Media. Both Noah and Jeff may be reached at www.origmedia.com or at 808 447-9559.

Letty and Hermie reminisce on their 55 years of marriage while holding a restored painting of their wedding in the 1960s.

“When we first got married, you know what the father [priest] asked us? Do you know what Letitia means? It means joy, and Tesoro means treasure. That’s what we are: I am his joy and he is my treasure,” said an elated Mrs. Letitia “Letty” Domingo Tesoro as she and her husband Herminiglio sat down with me at their Kalihi home to share their love story. In a nutshell, that statement characterizes their time-tested fiftyfive years of marriage. Herminiglio or “Hermie” as he is fondly called, served in World War II as a guerrilla fighter defending the Philippines against Imperial Japan. After attending a dance that was used as a recruitment ploy to gain forces, Hermie was brought into the front lines

as a mortarman in the Bessang Mountain overnight. His military career was cut short for the better as he sustained shrapnel wounds to his hip and leg. He was treated at a makeshift treatment tent in the mountains for months. When he was able to walk again he was informed to take the first vehicle out of the war zone. Due to the lack of enlistment records, he did not receive any benefits for his service in America’s military. As luck would have it, Hermie returned to his hometown of Santo Domingo, Ilocos Sur where he began his journey to Hawaii as a sakada in the plantation on Oahu. “He had to go on a small boat like the one that carried the animals,” Letty

said. “Many people got seasick,” Hermie added. Upon arrival in Hawaii, Hermie did not last too long working in the plantation. He opted for better paying labor work in construction. Letty first caught Hermie’s eye when Letty’s brother-in-law--then a carpenter for Hermie--showed him an article in the local newspaper which featured Letty modeling her version of then first lady Jackie Kennedy’s suit for a school project. Hermie was working as a contractor for the military at Kwajalein in the Marshall Islands, but he resolved to meet the long ravenhaired Filipina beauty as soon as he returned to Honolulu.

The Tesoro family with their 4 children and 6 grandchildren.

It was a courtship steeped in tradition with Hermie having to ask Letty’s older sister for permission to take Letty on a date. Their first date was a movie at the old Kaimuki DriveIn theater under the watchful eyes of her sister, who was their chaperone with her three young children in tow. “When the kids had to go to the bathroom and get snacks, he had to accompany them,” Letty reminisced with a giggle looking at her husband. “You know the old-fashioned Filipino style, people think as soon as the boy kisses your hand, you get pregnant. That’s why at first when he kissed my hand, I cried.” The couple dated for two years before they were married as they awaited the end of Hermie’s job

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contract. In fact, there was barely time for a honeymoon as Hermie had to return to Kwajalein after three days to work on missile defense building projects. They started to build a family shortly thereafter. Faithful to their vows through the years, Hermie and Letty carried on through thick and thin. “One time, we had eleven mouths to feed,” Hermie recalled their humble beginnings. To save on expenses, Letty became a stay-at-home wife and mother to her four children until she started running her own foster home business for the elderly, one which has since spanned forty years. Today, at 98 (Hermie) and 79 (Letty) years young, the two connect through their love of ballroom dancing. Just last December Letty was dancing in 4-inch heels with Hermie jiving to a 1950s hit for a competition. They also actively dedicate their time by volunteering at church and within the Filipino community. In a society going at break-neck speed, the couple likes to keep it simple. No grand gestures of love for

his couple. For Hermie and Letty, less is more. “We were poor in the Philippines, so we didn’t really grow up with parties. Occasionally the kids came over with cake and food to celebrate,” Letty said. “We already know that we love each other. We don’t need big celebrations [to prove it],” Hermie added. In fact, when the couple celebrated their golden anniversary, they commemorated the happy occasion with a simple renewal of their vows. Letty and Hermie both attested that the key to their longevity is in helping each other succeed and in knowing when to keep quiet. “I help her when she needs [me],” Hermie mentioned. “When he gets angry I keep my mouth shut and he does the same thing too,” Letty confessed. The formula must work. After all this time, their marital joys seem to have been magnified and their treasures of the heart continue to increase.

Hermie and Letitia in their travels to Europe.

Letitia in her “Jackie O” suit. The outfit that brought to her the love of her life.

Maribell Pabalan is a mother, avid community volunteer, and contributing writer to the FilAm Courier. She currently works as an Account Manager for a Honolulu P.R. agency. In her spare time, she also serves as a marketing consultant designing collateral, building brand image and strategies for businesses. In writing for the Courier, Maribell aims to bridge the generational gap between 1st generation immigrants and the diverse Fil-Am millennials through feature articles.

Walking along memory lane. Each photo celebrates a milestone in the Tesoro family.

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By KATHLEEN LEE

Finding Love with the Help of Technology Erika J.S. Ordonez and Dr. Edward W.Y. Lam met through Coffee Meets Bagel, a smartphone app that allows people to see if they have any mutual friends who are also on the app. On meeting Erika for the first time, Edward described her as having the whole package, and thought she was beautiful. Erika’s impression of Edward: “I thought he was handsome and well-educated.” Edward said he was very surprised that Erika actually responded to him through the app and showed up for their first date at Hiroshi’s Restaurant.”The amazing thing was, immediately we clicked.” The couple, both born and raised in Honolulu, got to know each other better over time, and Erika became impressed with what she was learning about Edward. “He has his whole life together – he’s so

organized, so clean, and he’s so smart.” Edward felt the same about Erika. “Honestly, she’s brilliant. She’s a wonderful person, she’s caring, she’s loving, she’s more than I could ever ask for.” Edward mentioned that he was very direct with Erika during the beginning stages of their connection, and expressed that he was looking for a serious relationship. As it turned out, he and Erika were on the same wavelength regarding their intentions. Six months into their relationship, Edward, a primary care physician,shared with Erika his plans to open his own medical practice. At that time, Edward was working at his father’s practice. In response, Erika put aside her career in residential and commercial real estate finance to start working with Edward as the office and

business development manager of Lam Family Medicine. According to Edward, “I couldn’t be more thankful. Without Erika at the practice, it wouldn’t work – it’s really Erika who’s driving the ship. She tells us when we should start opening the practice, when we should make changes, and through her direction the practice has grown to become the happy placewhere we like to show up to.” Erika and Edward alluded to the growing pains they had to go through in starting up Edward’s medical office. As Erika described, “both of us are leaders, both of us love challenges, and both of us are stubborn.” Erika said that her parentshave owned a few businesses together, and that Edward’s mom is the office manager for his dad. “It’s really great to have mentorship from both of our parents’ sides to help us navigate through our professional and personal lives,” she stated. The couple recently exchanged their wedding vows on Saturday, January 28, 2017 at the Four Seasons Resort Oahu at KoOlinasurrounded by their close friends and family, with the glistening Pacific Ocean as a backdrop. The couple offered the following pieces of advice for individuals who are still searching for that special someone: 1. Have faith, trust and patience. Particularly with modern technology nowadays, love transcends communication boundaries of the past, and who knows – a connection across the world may end up changing your life in more than one exciting way.

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2. Approach with caution if you ever get the feeling that the other desires or requires you to compromise your morals or values. Selecting the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with is a big decision that will impact your future happiness, and it is important to respect the sanctity of the institution of marriage. The couple mentioned that they knew they were right for each other through getting to know each other’s family and friends, possessing the same religious faith, having similar values, and knowing that in each other’s absence, they can wholeheartedly trust the other person to make the right decision for the partnership. Marry your best friend – it makes life a lot more fun than you thought it could be!

Kathleen Lee spent the 80’s in the Philippines - born in Batangas on an Air Force base, and raised in Baguio (PMA, Fort Del Pilar) and Manila (Quezon City), respectively. She and her family moved to San Jose, California in the early 90’s, where she ended up at San Jose State University to study Political Science. In 2009, Kathleen moved to Hawaii, and learned more about the community working for the Hawaii State Legislature and YMCA of Honolulu. After a stint in the tourism sector, Kathleen now works with a PR agency with a focus on government relations.

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By RADIANT CORDERO

Prayers nurture faith and renew hope. It can change circumstances or perspectives, transforming people’s lives. Anyone who has ever experienced an answered prayer know that it can give people chances to move forward in their faith, career, or relationships. Eric and Millie Barsatan are two individuals whose prayers were

answered with a chance glance at the very person who would change their lives forever. It was a late Tuesday night in January of 2001 at Ocean Club at Restaurant Row’s “Ladies’ Night.” Eric with his friends, Millie with her nursing colleagues for a girls’ night out.

When Millie and Eric saw one another, the attraction was mutual. Millie noticed Eric’s dashing handsome looks while Eric was enchanted by Millie’s beauty. Tired of meeting and dating the wrong people after very long relationships, both were not looking for another relationship to jump into.

Both, however, were praying to God to connect themselves to their true love. Their chance-meeting was their answered prayer. God led them to meet each other, the right person for the other. The entering of the other into their lives was the powerful gift, an enlightenment, that their hearts desired. Millie was born in Sarrat, Ilocos Norte, Philippines and grew up in Hawai‘i after arriving at the age of seven. Eric was eight years of age when he and his family made Lana‘i, Hawai‘i their home. In their relationship, Millie is the introvert, cautious, and conservative, while Eric is the extrovert and risk taker. Opposites truly attracted with Millie and Eric. “Our differences actually complement and balance us. However, we are similar in many

ways, especially in our beliefs and values — the core foundation of our relationship,” stated Eric. Both Millie and Eric learned on their very first date, 16 years ago, on February 14, 2001, that they were both mainly raised by their respective grandparents, and were born in nearby towns in the Philippines. Granted, this faired out well for their future, making it easier to visit relatives in the Philippines without having to travel too far. For both, it was surreal to meet someone with such a similar upbringing, like a sign, that they were meant to be together. Respectively, both are dedicated to their work in the medical field: Millie owns her own Adult Residential Care Home business, and has been a nurse for almost 20 years at a major hospital. Eric owns his own CPR Training business, and too, works for

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a major hospital as a Physician Liaison. This past January, Millie and Eric celebrated their 10th year wedding anniversary. In those ten years, both have been blessed with four children, whom they call their “Straight A’s”: Adrian Sean (9), Austin James (7), Andrew Luke (5), and Ariana Sofia (3). Their exemplary relationship is what they also use to teach their children about life, “As we get older our viewpoints have focused more on having a quality of life, doing the things that we love and are passionate about. It’s all about being happy, healthy, and having a well-balanced life. Family first and live in the present. This is the same values that we talk to our children about.” Eric and Millie work hard every day, not only for their relationship, but to provide for their family. They both view the ups-and-downs of life as an exciting challenge, not an unfortunate hurdle. They don’t sweat the small

stuff, instead they try their best to focus on the big picture and what matters most: Their love for God, one another, and their family. Together, their advice to couples for a sustaining a marriage or relationship are: “Continue to make the relationship exciting.” “Never end the honeymoon phase.”

“Always show love and respect to one another.” “More laughter - the better.” “Have a plan for the future and be disciplined in staying on track.” Lastly, “Keep the faith, because with God, anything is possible.” Millie and Eric’s love story is still just beginning. Prayer brought them together, their faith and love keeping them and their family strong. For this

couple, prayer is not a concept, nor theory, but an existential journey of

two traveling companions, Millie and Eric, leading to love.

Radiant Cordero is the Assistant Editor and a member of the Asian American Journalists Association. Radiant was awarded “Outstanding Youth” by the United Filipino Council of Hawai‘i and “Top Outstanding Young Filipino” by the JCI Filipino Junior Chamber. Radiant attended UH Mânoa where she helped in the revival of the Ethnic Studies Student Association, founded the American Studies Undergraduate Leaders, and was active in the Honors Program, and most prominently, the Katipunan Club. In 2012, she obtained a double major with a Bachelor of Arts in Political Science and Bachelor of Arts in American Studies. Radiant then graduated with her Master’s in Public Administration degree from UH Mânoa in May 2016. She is an active community volunteer. Currently, Radiant serves as a chiefof-staff at the City and County of Honolulu and as a Board of Director with the Epilepsy Foundation of Hawaii and a member of the Filipino Chamber of Commerce of Hawaii.

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Mahalo nui loa and maram We love and ap preciate the genuine and appreciate We are so bless ed and thankful f blessed May God bless you all in the sa gifts of love, hap piness happiness piness,, joy,

ming salamat to everyone! sincere acclamation you have given us us.. for such an honorable accolade. ame way he has bless ed us with blessed p eace and p eople like you. peace people

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COMMUNITY VOICES

Question: What did my (Filipino) parents teach me about Love? WILLIAM CUDAL “Being the oldest of eight kids, I felt responsible for my younger siblings. My parents taught me that I have a role in the family and I took that to heart. I grew attached to my siblings as I watched them grow. We are all still very close, perhaps because of my parents’ love and their good example. The love of my family is the greatest love of all that my parents had taught me.” Parents: Jorge (deceased) and Flora Cudal

MARIA BORJE-BONKOWSKI, JD “They taught me that love is unconditional. That we need to show love to each over every day, in what we say and how we act, even if we don't want to. It is a value that I teach my children. “

AJ HALAGAO "My brother, sisters and I now have sons and daughters of our own. My mom and dad passed down to all of us an unwavering, unconditional love for our children." Parents: Avelino and Concepcion Halagao (both deceased)

BRANDON DE LA CRUZ "The best lessons are sometimes shown by example. With that said, they're still married to this day, and thus remain my benchmark for in the future."

NILDA QUINDARA “We didn’t have much growing up but we were richly raised by my parents with tender loving care. My father always reminded us that we have to be fair in our dealings with others, and we are to be always humble. My mother taught us to love and share always whatever little things we have with our family and those in need. As we all know, there is beauty all around when there’s love at home. My parents taught us, by words and example, that love should come from the heart.” Parents: Alipio and Servillana Austria (both deceased)

ELIZA MAY VILLANUEVA SHUMWAY “My parents taught me that you are never too old to be romantic. Also, a year ago, on Valentine’s Day, my Mama passed away just a week after my Papa did. They taught me that love has no limits and it conquers all fears even until death. A love that is forever lives on through all eternity.” Parents: Rufino and Josefina Villanueva

RUFINO DAN MAGLIBA IV One thing my grandfather, my namesake Rufino taught me was that love is possible with a dash of cooperation and a heap of unity. Thus, cooperation and unity encompass love and that without love we don't have family. Faith, Love, and Family: those are what I learned from my parents and grandparents.

AGNES DOLDOLEA REYES As the Ate (eldest daughter) of 8 siblings and the eldest of the generation of cousins my Filipino grandparents taught me that love is always unconditional, it means putting the happiness of others before yours, understanding, sharing, giving in, being considerate and caring for others. They instilled in us that the deeper meaning of Love is taking responsibility for the happiness, unity and harmony of the whole family.

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By BENNETTE ESPINELI MISALUCHA

Philippine Consul General Gina Jamoralin and her board were sworn into office by Supreme Court Justice Mark Recktenwald.

Gentlemen at the Gala: Consul Jeffrey de Mesa, Allan Alvarez and Filcom Exec. Director Donnie Juan.

Philippine Consul General is Installed as Dean of Hawaii Consular Corps With the historic Royal Hawaiian Hotel as the backdrop, Philippine Consul General Gina Jamoralin was installed by the Hawaii Consular Corps as its Dean for 2017-2018 during an elegant gala held last Saturday, February 9, 2017. The Consular Corps gala is an affair which annually gathers together the state’s illustrious diplomatic community. This year did not disappoint; in the

audience were three former state governors, two Supreme Court justices, consuls from 37 member countries and the town’s movers and shakers. In her brief remarks, Consul Jamoralin spoke about the Philippines’ hosting of the ASEAN conference this year. She also thanked the leadership of the immediate past Dean, Admiral Ronald Zlatoper, who served as emcee that evening.

Dean of the Hawaii Consular Corps Gina Jamoralin with State Governor David Ige

Con Gen Jamoralin and her 2017-2018 board.

Members of the Davao dance troupe offered a courtship dance.

Consul Mina Bautista, Allan Alvarez, Consul Joyleen Santos.

For Advertising information, please call 595.8787 A table full of supporters for Consul General Jamoralin: First row: (l to r): First Lady Dawn Ige, State Governor David Ige, Consul General Jamoralin; Second row: Rhoda Alvarez, Cecila Villafurte, Philippine Airlines’s Sol Solleza, Filcom Director Donnie Juan, Bennette Misalucha and Edmund Aczon

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by JORDAN SEGUNDO

SUCCULENT PLANTS IN THE OFFICE

Succulents are the perfect choice for an office space since they need little care and attention to grow well. In addition, if you go away on a vacation or business trip, they should fare well while you are away. It is not a guarantee, however, that your succulents can thrive in your office space. Careful selection, planting and proper care, though not much, are required. • Select a succulent that can tolerate the lighting in the office. Unless it is a sunny office, such as one that has a south or west-facing window, select a plant with minimal lighting needs. • Plant the succulent in a pot that contains 1 part high quality potting soil and 1 part coarse sand. • Water the succulent thoroughly after planting. Water it until the water drips out of the bottom of the pot. You need to water a succulent about once a month when the soil dries out. Overwatering can kill a succulent plant.

The workplace can be a stressful environment; personal conflicts between co-workers can be both a cause and product of this stress. Allowing the conflict to intensify will only further hurt the work environment. By understanding the issue and taking positive action, you can help solve the problem and make your office a place you really want to be. Here are a few helpful tips to effectively handle conflict. • Approach conflict with an open mind - Different people have different perceptions, and solving workplace conflicts requires finding a common ground, not waiting until one person caves to the other. Try to understand the other person’s point of view and how he or she arrived at it. • Consider what might have caused the conflict - Take an objective look at yourself and determine what you did or said to contribute to the situation. Try to place yourself in the other person’s shoes and consider how the situation could be handled differently in the future. • Listen carefully - Before jumping to conclusions, sit down with the person with whom you’re in conflict and try to understand the issue completely. During the conversation, make sure you acknowledge his or her feelings and paraphrase their opinion back to them to enhance your comprehension. • Ask for help - If the conflict continues to build, ask someone in the workplace you respect to act as a mediator. This could be your manager, a human resources professional, or a manager from a different department. • Be sure the problem is resolved - The problem isn’t properly resolved until both parties in the argument feel better about the situation. Set guidelines for how to handle a similar situation in the future.

PEANUT BUTTER BANANA SMOOTHIE You'll love this peanut butter banana smoothie! It's easy to make, and packed with protein-rich ingredients that will give you lots of energy during your workday. INGREDIENTS: 1 large banana, peeled 1 cup ice cubes 1/2 cup milk 1/4 cup Greek yogurt 2 heaping Tbsp. peanut butter 1/2 tsp. vanilla extract

To give this some extra chill, try using frozen bananas! Combine all ingredients. Blend until smooth, and serve immediately.

Jordan Segundo is most noted as the first contestant from Hawaii and the first Filipino-American selected as a Top 32 finalist on season two of American Idol. Since then, he has made a name for himself as one of Hawaii’s top entertainers. In addition to singing, he has branched out into acting and television hosting. He is currently the weekend weather anchor and a reporter for KITV4 Island News. Aside from performing, Segundo is also very active in the community. He generously volunteers his time and talents to worthy causes and non-profit organizations, such as the Ronald McDonald House Charities, the D.A.R.E. Program and the Fur Angel Foundation. When not performing, Jordan enjoys working out, cooking and hiking. To contact Jordan Segundo, visit his website at www.jsegundo.com

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By DR. ALFRED SISON

I hope everyone had a fantastic holiday season and new year! In my previous article I discussed about resolutions; part 2 is to make those resolutions into a healthy habit and making them stick. With a small amount of initial discipline, you can create a new habit that requires little effort to maintain. Here are some tips for creating new habits and making them stick; (Before you read please understand these habit forming ‘rituals’ are at best common knowledge, practical, and posted all over the internet and social media resources, I just happen to pick and choose what I would consider “professionally and personally relevant” versus let’s just say “stuff that you might just want to ignore on the internet.”) • Commit to Thirty Days – Three to four weeks is all the

time you need to make a habit automatic. If you can make it through the initial conditioning phase, evidence based research suggests 21 days, it becomes much easier to sustain. A month is a good block of time to commit to a change since it easily fits in your calendar. • Make it Daily – Consistency is critical if you want to make a habit stick. If you want to start exercising, go to the gym every day for your first thirty days. Going a couple times a week will make it harder to form the habit. Activities you

do once every few days are trickier to lock in as habits. • Start Simple – Don’t try to completely change your life in one day. It is easy to get overmotivated and take on too much. If you wanted to study two hours a day, first make the habit to go for thirty minutes and build on that. - Remind Yourself – Around two weeks into your commitment it can be easy to forget. Place reminders to execute your habit each day or you might miss a few days. If you miss time it defeats the purpose of setting a habit to begin with. • Stay Consistent – The more consistent your habit the

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easier it will be to stick. If you want to start exercising, try going at the same time, to the same place for your thirty days. When cues like time of day, place and circumstances are the same in each case it is easier to stick. Get a Buddy – Find someone who will go along with you and keep you motivated if you feel like quitting. Form a Trigger – A trigger is a ritual you use right before executing your habit. If you wanted to wake up earlier, this could mean waking up in exactly the same way each morning. If you wanted to quit smoking you could practice snapping your fingers each time you felt the urge to pick up a cigarette. Replace Lost Needs – If you are giving up something in your habit, make sure you are adequately replacing any needs you’ve lost. If watching television gave you a way to relax, you could take up meditation or reading as a way to replace that same need. Be and Accept Imperfect – Don’t expect all your attempts to change habits to be successful immediately. It took me four independent tries before I started exercising regularly. Now I love it. Try your best, but expect a few bumps along the way. Remove Temptation – Restructure your environment so it won’t tempt you in the first thirty days. Remove junk food from your house, cancel your cable subscription, throw out the cigarettes so you won’t need to struggle with willpower later.

• Associate With Role Models – Spend more time with people who model the habits you want to mirror. A recent study found that having an obese friend indicated you were more likely to become fat. You become what you spend time around. • Write it Down – A piece of paper with a resolution on it isn’t that important. Writing that resolution is. Writing makes your ideas more clear and focuses you on your end result. • Know the Benefits – Familiarize yourself with the benefits of making a change. Get books that show the benefits of regular exercise. Notice any changes in energy levels after you take on a new diet. Imagine getting better grades after improving your study habits. • Know the Consequences (it could be painful at first) – You should also be aware of the consequences. Exposing yourself to realistic information about the downsides of not making a change will give you added motivation. • Do it For Yourself – Don’t worry about all the things you “should” have as habits. Instead tool your habits towards your goals and the things that motivate you. Weak guilt and empty resolutions aren’t enough. Time to make your new healthy habits stick! Aloha, Peace, Mabuhay, Love. – Dr Al If you have questions or concern please feel free to contact via my website: www.alspsy.com

Alfred A. Sison, MA, LMFT, PsyD; "Dr. Al" is a licensed clinical psychologist with a subspeciality license in marriage and family therapy. He services individuals, couples, and familes through the therapeutic process, and maintains a private practice in Honolulu, HI. He holds a Doctorate of Psychology (PsyD), Clinical Psychology degree from Argosy University, Hawaii Campus and a Master of Arts (MA), Professional Counseling, Marriage and Family Therapy Specialty from the American School of Professional Psychology, Hawaii Campus. He completed his undergraduate studies with a degree in Bachelor of Arts (BA), Psychology from the University of California, Berkeley.

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By DR. CHRISTOPHER TORTORA, M.D. Medical Director of Hawaiian Eye Center

Age-Related Macular Degeneration (AMD) affects more than 2 million Americans and is the leading cause of severe vision loss for those 50 years and older. It is a progressive and usually painless eye disease that occurs when the eye’s macula starts to deteriorate, diminishing central vision. The macula is the small central portion of the retina, or the light-sensitive tissue lining the back of the eye. AMD develops slowly over time with symptoms often going unnoticed until significant damage has already occurred. It causes central vision to blur while peripheral vision is unaffected. Central vision is necessary to see straight ahead and distinguish fine details. There are two forms of AMD— dry and wet. Dry AMD is the most common and is a result of drusen,

white or yellow fatty protein deposits, in the macula. Eyesight becomes dimmed or distorted as drusen grow and multiply. In advanced stages, the macula becomes thinner and can lead to blind spots or complete loss of central vision. Wet AMD is far less common but advances much more rapidly. Abnormal blood vessels grow underneath the macula and leak blood and fluid into the retina. The abnormal blood vessels eventually scar and cause permanent loss of cen-

tral vision. In some cases, dry AMD can turn into wet AMD. Symptoms of AMD include dark, blurry spots in the center of vision and a decrease in the brightness of colors. Early detection is important to preserve eyesight. Those 50 and older should get a comprehensive dilated eye exam from an eye doctor every two to three years to check for AMD and other eye diseases. If early AMD is detected, more frequent eye exams may be needed to see if the disease is progressing.

Risk factors for AMD include: being 50 and older, smoking, obesity, hypertension, high cholesterol and a family history of the disease. Caucasians and women are also more likely to develop AMD. The best way to help prevent AMD or limit its effects is to exercise regularly, maintain a healthy diet and not smoke. Currently, there’s no treatment for early AMD and no cure for the dry form. Nutritional supplements based on extensive studies conducted by the National Eye Institute are available from a number of manufacturers and may be referred to as AREDS or AREDS2 (Age-Related Eye Disease Studies). The supplements consists of high doses of certain vitamins and minerals (vitmain C, vitamin E, zinc, copper, lutein and zeaxanthin) that help to slow the progression for those with intermediate or late AMD. Wet AMD can be treated with a variety of procedures that help to

close off broken blood vessels and slow the growth of new, abnormal blood vessels. Treatments can be helpful in stabilizing vision loss. Even with treatment, AMD may still progress or reoccur. It’s important to speak with an eye care professional about treatment options and risks.

Dr. Christopher Tortora , a board certified ophthalmologist, is host of “The Hawaiian Eye Show,” a weekly informational radio program about healthy vision broadcast live every Saturday at 8 a.m. on KHVH 830 AM/rebroadcast at 9 p.m. on KHBZ 990 AM. He and his colleagues at the Hawaiian Eye Center are committed to educating the public about the importance of preventative eye care. To learn more about a variety of eye health issues, please call the Hawaiian Eye Center at 621-8448 or v i s i t w w w. H a w a i i a n E y e . c o m a n d w w w . F a c e b o o k . c o m / HawaiianEyeCenter, where “life has nev

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