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Silver Magazine Letter from Editor What should I do with my life? This question can give us heartache, whether we are in our twenties or sixties. Having no idea what to do next hurts, even as it might excite us on some level. Whether graduating from college or retiring from a long career, the road ahead may appear to be devoid of landmarks intimidating in its blankness, goading because freedom is supposed to be so desirable yet its reality is often heavy with perplexing dilemmas.
kind of quest. This false belief often leads to paralysis of the will, along with the self-fulfilling measure of failure: "I'm a nothing who does nothing." Throwing away whole days watching movies doesn't help dispel this notion; succumbing to the luxury of wasted time further diminishes an already plummeting self respect. The only way to break this cycle is to shift The suffering intensifies when we encounter others into an attitude of curiosity and to venture our own age who announce firm, elaborate plans and out onto the stage of life. display no uncertainty about where they are heading. What no one tells us is the map they are following is Doing something, rather than nothing, is the sheer fabrication, something they devised in order to beginning of momentum even without a avoid the very emptiness that weighs on us so pre-determined direction, and especially if this acutely. is so. In actuality, we are all faking it, making up our lives as we go along. We are trying to construct an overall To the lost, I say: "Welcome to the ground of story that makes sense. Even those who emanate the your humanity." We reside for a brief time on most confidence have patched together a narrative a blue planet glowing in the darkness of from disparate pieces of experience, much of it space. Take a deep breath and watch the way found randomly and given the heft of purpose in the morning light crosses your kitchen table. retrospect. Your circumstances are temporary, as is every hardship. The key is to leave the The raw material from which a life is fashioned safety of home and put yourself out comes from the experiences we accrue when we are there, to let chance have it’s way with feeling most aimless when we bend to necessity and you and to accede to the play of fate. take the first job that comes along or an opportunity You will find your way. I know that arises through happenstance. It might be a you will!!! short-term volunteer commitment in which a nascent skill gets discovered and then developed. From there, we could meet someone who links us to another option, entirely unforeseen, or we might try doing something we have never done before and find the stirrings of a new vocation that feels uniquely right for us.
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A common trap is to tell ourselves that we should already have the answers. We sit around and condemn ourselves, instead of launching into this
Robot Friday Thomas Clemmons Celebrates 6 Years of Webcomic Success
By Eric Muehlhausen eric@edgemonthly.com
In our youth, we all had something we wanted to do when “we grow up.” For some it was being a firefighter or police officer, others an astronaut or scientist, and still others may have wanted to be pro athletes or actors/actresses. For some, those dreams did indeed bound into fruition, and for one such man in Amarillo, that dream came true in the form of his webcomic, Robot Friday. Thomas Clemmons, creator of the webcomic Robot Friday, grew up knowing he wanted to be an artist from an early age. In his teen years, Thomas was an avid comic book reader as well as carrying an interest in art. While attending high school in Lubbock, Thomas also found he had an interest in creative writing, which would come in handy in the years to come. As graduation approached, Thomas realized his best route for expressing his interest in art as a career was to study graphic design; a very lucrative, up and coming field in the mid 90’s. He went on to attend South Plains College in Levelland to pursue a degree in graphic design.
During his last year there, one of Thomas’s close friends received an opportunity to attend the University of Southern California for film music, and asked if Thomas wanted to come. As California was one of the major hubs for graphic design, art, & entertainment, Thomas was hard pressed to say no, and so left South Plains College and moved to L.A. While there, Thomas kicked off his career in graphic design working as an ink mixer in an Orange County screen printing shop owned by the famed t-shirt designer, Massimo. A year later, he moved on to a screen print shop in Compton. This new shop was founded by basketball great Shaquille O’Neal to engage inner city youth & provide them with job training & guidance. Subsequently, Thomas went on to work for Digital Graphics ADvantage, performing graphic design & layouts for the Pacific Bell Telephone Directory. Thomas’s 3 year stent in L.A. was an excellent learning experience, but it was very taxing, as anyone who’s just visited California knows. In 1998, Thomas decided to move back to Texas, making Amarillo his new home.
He started working for Graham Data Supply (GDS) doing graphic design & pre-press setups. Over the next 9 years, Thomas honed his skills further with GDS but never quite felt he was doing what he really had a passion for. In 2007 he decided to strike out on his own as a freelancer, doing graphic design for a range of products. Though he did indeed find some success as a freelancer, the constantly evolving field of technology began making graphic design easier & easier for nearly anyone with a fair working knowledge of computers. More affordable design programs with easy to use UI’s created the opportunity for part-time graphic designers to pop up and virtually flood the market; and so came to a close the “heyday” of career graphic design freelancing.
It was during the last year of his freelancing career that Thomas created Robot Friday, in 2009. Robot Friday was originally conceived as a vehicle for Thomas to voice his opinions by way of satire for the graphic design field. Robot Friday is about the everyday adventures of a group of artists, their talking pets, & a magic singing robot named Friday. Through each of his characters based on real life friends, Thomas expresses a different part of himself & his friends. Knee jerk reactionary Thomas, analytical Gary, level headed Karen, & happy-go-lucky Wesley, all tackle everyday issues in the fields of design & art. The cartooning style & comic layout techniques draw one to some of Thomas’s stylistic inspirations such as Bloom County, Calvin & Hobbes, Shoe, & Non-Sequitur. The choice of comic strip format over long form was also chosen for primarily nostalgic reasons, taking one back to the reminiscent comics of the mid & late 20th century. What began as a cynical take on the world of advertising & design has evolved into a more positive & jovial questioning of life on the whole. Although the ever advancing tech field had contributed to business drying up as a freelance graphic designer, it also created the opportunity for Thomas to monetize his passion. Through the use of “Ad Sense” style programs, banner ads, & online advertising, Thomas was finally able to turn his passion for comic strips into a business.
To date, Robot Friday boasts over 500 archived and ongoing strips updated 3 days a week, Monday, Wednesday, & Friday. In addition, Thomas launched his create a superhero design system aptly named, Design-ASuper, which he uses at conventions and in-store appearances to help people open the door to their imaginations. He also started utilizing YouTube and has joined a community of other comic artists for a series called “100 Days of Making Comics,” where each artist allocates at least 30 minutes a day making comics, and produces videos of their 3 month trek in the field of comics. To check out more of Robot Friday, visit online at www.robotfriday.com. You can hop over to Design-ASuper at www.designasuper.com. More of Thomas’s work can also be found on YouTube at www.robotfridaysketchcast.com. You can get in touch with Thomas via social media at www.facebook.com/robotfriday, www.twitter.com/robotfriday, and www.instagram.com/robotfriday, respectively.
Easy 30-minute crab linguine so you don't spend date night in the kitchen What makes date night better? I'll tell you what this bacon and crab meat linguine. Tons and tons of bacon and crab, chopped and sautÊed, and just waiting to be enjoyed. This is sort of like my favorite foods bacon and crab, twirled in-between noodles. Also? It's a gourmet meal that comes together really, really fast and it is so much cheaper to make it at home. You can even throw something green in here, like peas, and make it all even better. Or you could just drink it with red wine‌ or white! (My fave.) Yeah. Let's do that. Make this 30-minute restaurant-quality crab linguine right at home for much, much less. Serves 4 / Prep time: 10 minutes | Cook time: 20 minutes | Total time: 30 minutes Ingredients: 8 to 10 ounces linguine pasta 1/2 cup chopped bacon 1 small yellow onion, chopped 2 garlic cloves, finely chopped Salt and fresh ground pepper to taste 1 cup shredded Parmesan cheese, divided 2 tablespoons heavy cream 1 cup canned small peas, well rinsed and drained 1 (8 ounce) package lump crab meat Chopped fresh parsley, for garnish Parmesan cheese, for garnish Directions: Prepare the linguine according to the directions on the box, reserving 1 cup of pasta water. In a large skillet, cook the bacon over medium-high heat to a desired crispness. Add the chopped onion, garlic and seasoning with salt and pepper; continue to cook until onions are translucent and tender. Turn down the heat and stir in the prepared linguine. Add Parmesan cheese and 1/2 cup of the reserved pasta water; stir it to create a thickened sauce. If sauce is too thick, add more pasta water. Stir in the cream and remove the mixture from heat. Add peas and crab meat; stir to combine. Transfer to serving plates, garnish with parsley and Parmesan cheese and serve.
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Surprising Facts About Grandparents Fact: today, there are 70 million grandparents in the nation. Grandparents represent one-third of the population with 1.7 million new grandparents added to the ranks every year. Grandparents lead 37% of all U.S. households in this country that's 44 million households nationwide. That number is increasing at twice the average annual rate of U.S. households overall with the number to hit 50 million by 2015. Fact: Grandparents love being grandparents. 72% think being a grandparent is the single most important and satisfying thing in their life. 63% say they can do a better job caring for grandchildren than they did with their own. 68% think being a grandparent brings them closer to their adult children. 90% enjoy talking about their grandkids to just about everyone Fact: they are younger than ever before. 43% became grandparents in their fifties, 37% in their forties, with the average age of grandparents in this country at 48. Fact: grandparents are active. 43% exercise or play sports. 28% volunteer on a regular basis. 18% dance. Fact: they are intellectually curious. 71% say reading is one of their favorite activities. 86% read a newspaper in print or online. Fact: grandparents are wired. 75% are online. 70% use search engines to find information. 63% shop online. 30% instant message. 56% share photos online. 46% bank online. 45% are on social networks like Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Yahoo! Groups.
Fact: grandparents are in the workforce. 60% still have a full-time or part-time job. 23% have started their own business. Fact: they are becoming more modern. 33% have been married more than once. 38% report having sex at least twice a week. 10% have a tattoo. 15% have demonstrated for a cause. 17% have attended a rally. 7% have used recreational drugs. 6% have started a blog. 3% have run a marathon. 2% have gone skydiving. Fact: grandparents have money. They control 75% of the wealth in this country. They have the highest average net worth of any other age group ($254,000). By 2015, they will earn the highest average income. They spend $2 trillion every year on consumer goods and services. 55% no longer carry a mortgage.
adult children and grandchildren in the last 12 months: 23% on daycare. 40% on housing (mortgage or rent). 21% on education. 70% on cash for day-to-day expenses. 24% on health care. Fact: grandparents just want to have fun. They spend $100 billion each year on entertainment. They spend $77 billion each year on travel. Fact: they like to spend time with their grandkids. 60% live close to their grandchildren. 46% wish they could live even closer. 70% see the kids at least once a week. 66% travel with their grandkids. 81% have their grandkids for part or all of their summer vacation. 55% play video games with their grandchildren. Fact: grandparents take care of their grandkids. 72% take care of their grandchildren on a regular basis. 13% are primary caregivers. 92% have changed their grandchild's diaper. 64% accompany their adult children or grandchildren to the doctor. 86% bake cookies for their family.
Fact: they are generous with money and time. They make 45% of the nation’s cash contributions to nonprofit organi- Fact: many grandparents live under the same roof as their zations. They account for 42% of all consumer spending grandkids. on gifts. 15% have volunteered at a shelter. 6.2 million or 5.3% of all U.S. households are now multiFact: they support their adult children and grandchildren generational up from 5 million in 2000, according to the financially. They spend $52 billion every year on their U.S. Census Bureau Current Population Survey. grandkids alone. They spend $32 billion on educationrelated costs. 62% have provided financial support to their
5 Cancers You're More Prone to Get As You Age
We all wonder about whether or not we're going to get cancer, but does our risk really increase as we age? The simple answer is, yes. According to the American Cancer Society, 78 percent of all cancer diagnoses are in people 55 or older, and one in two men, and one in three women are at risk of getting cancer in their lifetime. As you get older, it's a lifetime accumulation of risk factors. It's a combination of environmental risks such as smoking and eating the wrong things combined with genetic risks like having a family history of a certain cancer. Essentially the longer you live the more chance there is of getting cancer.
cian they don't do a detailed look at all parts of your body. You need a total skin exam, including your scalp, nails, genital area, and in-between your toes.
Breast cancer: Breast cancer is the leading cause of cancer in older women, and for all women (with the exception of skin cancer), with over 230,000 women being diagnosed with it this year. What we do know is that breast cancer in younger women is often more dangerous. In older women breast cancer tends to be less aggressive. But that's not a reason to be less vigilant about getting a mammogram. In terms of why women get breast cancer, doctors are not The five cancers you should certain. There seems to be a cumupay close attention to if you are lative effect in the reduction of the a Boomer or older: body's immune defenses against cancers, and hormonal changes Skin cancer: The most also play a part. Studies also show common cancers that we see in that not having children can people as they age are sunincrease breast cancer risk as can a related skin cancers. However, skin cancers are treated a long menstrual history where you got your period early little differently in terms of cancer statistics because and/or had it end later in life. they range in seriousness. Melanoma is the most dangerous kind of skin cancer, but statistically, surprisingly What you can do: Get regular mammograms at least few people get melanoma. Other skin cancers, such as until age 75. Screening finds many early-stage precanbasal cell and squamous are more prevalent, but they are cerous lesions that could develop into invasive cancers often benign. However, you don't want to mess around if left unchecked. Talk to your doctor about your with skin cancer. Melanoma has the potential to kill you. vitamin D levels. Some studies show that vitamin D has a preventative effect on breast, prostate, and colorectal What you can do: Make certain you are friendly with cancer, so it's worth talking to your doctor. And if you your dermatologist and get your whole body checked find a lump or bump, call your doctor to have it checked regularly. Often when you see your primary care physi- immediately. Don't just let it go.
Prostate cancer: Prostate cancer is the leading cause of cancer in men, with the exception of skin cancer. About 56 percent of prostate cancer cases are diagnosed in men 65 years and older, and 97 percent occur in men 50 and older, according to the American Cancer Society. About one in seven men will be diagnosed with prostate cancer in their lifetime. In terms of what happens as men age, the prostate gets bigger the older men get, and there are hormonal changes, which can increase cancer risk. Early prostate cancers can often be watched. Many don't progress, but some are more serious and need to be treated.
What you can do: Screening is the most effective way of reducing your chance of dying from lung cancer, but screening is generally only recommended for people who have a history of smoking or who have been exposed to a lot of secondhand smoke. The screening is a simple CT scan of the lungs that can see little nodules in your lungs and raise a red flag; Symptoms you should get checked include a persistent cough, chest pain, and shortness of breath.
Colorectal cancer: Colorectal cancer is the third leading cause of cancer death in both men and women. In 2011, 90% of cases were diagnosed in What you can do: Have a people 50 and older. Early discussion with your doctor colorectal cancer has few at age 50 about whether to warning signs, which is why get screened. If you have screening and prevention is difficulty urinating, get up so important. If caught early, often at night to urinate, or the survival rate for colorecfind blood in your urine, talk tal cancer is 90 percent. to your doctor immediately. Also talk to your doctor What you can do: Get a about taking vitamin D and colonoscopy regularly a baby aspirin, both of starting at age 50. A colowhich have been show to noscopy will check for help prevent prostate cancer. polyps, which can be removed before they can Lung cancer: Lung cancer become harmful. Also is the second leading cause taking a baby aspirin a day of cancer in both men and has been shown to help women and causes more prevent polyps. Other deaths than any other cancer. factors can contribute to About 2 out of 3 people your risk. A diet with a lot of diagnosed with lung cancer red meat and fat, and not are 65 and older. Lung enough roughage can factor cancer is a cumulation of in. Always report symptoms smoking or your lungs being to your doctor related to exposed to second hand your bowels, including smoke or radon. blood in your stool, frequent constipation, and pains in your abdomen that don't go away.
Do you forget where you put your keys? Are you confounded when you see your neighbor’s youngest son and can’t remember his name? And where are your reading glasses? How much forgetfulness is normal and when should you be concerned? Becoming more forgetful is a natural part of aging, experts agree. Our brains age just like the rest of our bodies. One of the manifestations of brain age is forgetfulness. It’s a common experience. We joke about it all the time. The concern behind all the humor is that these changes may be the first sign of something more serious. How do you differentiate the normal from dementia? Unfortunately, there’s no easy answer to that question. Unlike various types of cancer for which there are screening tests and then courses of treatment, dementia and Alzheimer’s Disease cannot be screened, and even if they are discovered, there is no treatment that can reverse their course.
dementia. Normal Forgetting Is a Function of Distraction One reason we forget is that we haven’t given the information meaning. If something’s meaningful, it’s memorable. Pay attention to what you are doing. In addition to age-related brain changes, graying Americans are often full of information that distracts them from what they wish to remember. We focus on what’s important for our goal and we leave all the other stuff aside. You may remember that the meal you had was great, even if you can’t remember the name of the restaurant. As our businesses grow or our lives become more complex, we don’t pay attention because some information is not necessary to accomplish our goals.
But if you are truly worried about how serious your forgetfulness is a test developed by researchers at Washington University in St. Louis to differentiate between normal aging and cognitive decline is a helpful tool. It consists of eight yes-or-no questions that assess whether Most of us will experience memory loss as a natural there has been a marked change over time in the course of getting older. One of the first things to go is person’s behavior as seen through a series of scenarios. the speed of information processing. Your ability to If you answer yes to two of them, then it may be the first quickly read, understand, and process information slows, signs of dementia or Alzheimer’s. Called the AD8 as does your ability to handle more than one task at a Interview, the test can be given to you, your spouse, or time. And of course, you will find yourself grasping for your children to assess your cognitive status. words every now and then. But more worrisome is a major change in your ability to function in the world. Most Common Memory Complaints Even if memory problems are a common sign of aging, If you forget where you placed your keys, that’s normal. forgetting important things can be annoying and embarIf you forget how to use your keys, that’s a problem. You rassing. We’ve summed up the four most common may once in a while forget where you parked your car, memory complaints, and some tips for dealing with but if that happens to you once a week, that’s more like them:
Remembering names and faces: You recognize the Memory places: Forgetting where you put things can be face but can’t recall the name. Our memories live in neighborhoods and when we try to remember something, solved simply by always putting them in the same place every time you put them down. it helps if we can associate it with something that will get us into the right neighborhood. Tip: If you can’t put your keys or your wallet down in Tip: As soon as you meet someone, try to associate his its usual home, then say to yourself as you’re putting it or her name with something familiar. If, for example, down, “I am putting my keys on the nightstand.” And if you’re introduced to Mr. White and he has grey hair, you you can’t do either of those things at the moment you’re about to put them down, then don’t put them down! can think, “White has white hair.” Tip-of-the-tongue problems: You can’t think of the name of the movie you saw last night until you’re driving home from the dinner party where you made a fool of yourself groping for it. It’s again about making an association for yourself that allows you to pull it out of the right file in which you’ve stored it in your brain. Tip: Write down (on paper or on your Smart phone) the name of the movie and as many words as you can associate with it. That simple exercise will allow you to access those words the next time and make it easier to remember the movie title (or book name or painting or whatever it is that’s on the “tip of your tongue.”)
Prospective memory: If you forget to bring things to appointments, or walk out of the house without what you need for an important meeting, then the fix is to slow down. Tip: It’s about creating memory habits. Check your calendar at the same time and in the same place each day. Before you leave your house, think through what’s involved in what you are going to do. Do you have your insurance card? Do you have the folder you need to prepare your taxes? Do you need to bring anything else with you?
You’re a new step-grandparent, now what? Step-families are becoming one of the most common family forms in the United States. When step-families are formed, many new relationships are created and you might become an instant grandparent with stepgrandchildren. You might have both grandchildren and step-grandchildren in the same family. Grandparenting can offer some challenges, uncertainties, conflicts and rewards that exist in other relationships within a stepfamily. It’s important to understand the differences between step-families and biological families. Understanding the differences might help you in your new role as a stepgrandparent. There is no such thing as instant love. Relationships build over time. To expect step-grandparents and stepgrandchildren to instantly love each other is unrealistic. Step-families are not like first-time married families. First-time married families grow up together, while step-families do not. Step-families are confronted instantly with different traditions and values in everyday living.
Step-families are born of loss (divorce, death or separation). The feelings that come with that loss have to be taken into consideration. Conflict and change are normal. Recognizing this reality can help step-families understand that it takes several years for step-families to become a solid family unit. Personal histories of individuals in step-families are different. The parent and children have lived together longer than the new step-parent. The new stepparent can feel like an outsider, but the children also can feel like outsiders as they see their parent with a new mate. If you are a new step-grandparent, here are some tips to help you navigate your new role: • Remember that relationships are built over time. Your relationship and role as a step-grandparent will take time to develop. The important first steps in building a meaningful relationship with your step-grandchildren are communication and spending time together, to get to know each other.
• Recognize the vital role of grandparents and stepgrandparents in today’s families. Today, most families with children are busier than ever before. You can offer children in these busy families, companionship, time and a listening ear. Grandparents are “significant others who have a great deal to do with one’s view of life.” Grandchildren who are exposed to such contact are less fearful of old age and the elderly and they feel more connected to their family. • Create the grandparenting role that is comfortable to you and rewarding for your step-family. Stepgrandparenting, like other step-family roles, is challenging and undefined. As you carve a role for yourself that fits your son or daughter’s new family, here are some things to consider: • What are the ages of the step-grandchildren? • How available are the biological grandparents to the grandchildren? You may have more free time or easier access than others. • Does a strong relationship exist between the biological grandparents and the grandchildren? You do not want to be a competitor for time and attention, but want to give support that fits the needs of the step-family. • How do you and your step-grandchildren feel about your role as a grandparent? Step-grandchildren tend to have less contact with their step-grandparents, and consider this relationship less important than grandchildren do with grandparents. However, research has shown that children indicate a desire for more contact with step-grandparents. Talk with our stepgrandchildren. You might find that all of you want the same things, but have been afraid to communicate.
6 Secrets of Couples Recognize and embrace change People change throughout their lives. The ultimate key to successful relationships is the ability to grow and adapt together. This is especially important once couples reach their 50s and 60s and tackle significant life changes like their kids leaving home, careers coming to an end, health changes, and becoming grandparents. Continuously recognizing the changes that are happening, and understanding your partner's needs and talking about them are important for your relationship to thrive. Fight Successful relationships are not marked by the absence of fights. In fact, you should have arguments with your spouse. The way couples fight and what they fight about are more important than not fighting at all. Unhealthy arguments focus on things from the past, like bringing up something you’re mad about from 20 years ago. When you do fight, avoid the following unhealthy behaviors, contempt for your partner, defensiveness, refusing to talk, and negative remarks about your partner or name-calling.
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Forgive and move on Bringing up past hurts does nobody any favors in a relationship. Be willing to forgive and remember you are not always right. It takes two in a marriage. Give and take Compromise is important for any relationship, especially a marriage. No one can always be right or always get what they want. Marriage is work and both of you must participate for it to be successful. Remember why you love them When the going gets tough, successful couples remember why they want to be with each other. We don’t always like each other, but we always love each other. Focus on the positives in your relationship, like how you make each other laugh and how supportive you are of each other. Remembering why you fell in love and got married can help you through the inevitable rough patches. Always hold hands Sometimes the best secrets are the simplest. Many Facebook users we polled cited holding hands as their secret to a happy marriage. They may be on to something a study published in Psychological Science found that holding hands with a spouse lowered stress levels.
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6402 OAKHURST DR
SERVICES:
AMARILLO, TEXAS
AMARILLO URGENT CARE
806-553-6692
1915 COULTER AMARILLO, TEXAS 806-352-5400
AMARILLO, TEXAS
VIBRA HEALTHCARE
806-353-0052
7501 WALLACE BLVD AMARILLO, TEXAS 79124
HEALTH SERVICES:
5500 W. 9TH AVENUE
TURN CENTER
AMARILLO, TEXAS 79106
1250 WALLACE BOULEVARD
806-352-7244
AMARILLO, TEXAS 79106 806-353-3596
CONNER HOUSE 2 COTTONWOOD DRIVE
JO WYATT CLINIC
CANYON, TEXAS
1411 AMARILLO BLVD E
806-655-5965
AMARILLO, TEXAS 79107
HEARTIS AMARILLO RESEARCH ST. & WALLACE AMARILLO, TX 79124 806-353-1900 POTTER HOUSE 6800 PLUM CREEK DRIVE AMARILLO, TEXAS 806-353-5185 COUNSELING : ALZHEIMER’S’ ASSOCIATION
806-351-7200 TEXAS DEPARTMENT OF DISABILITY
806-373-5313
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4107 S.W. 49TH AMARILLO, TEXAS 806-373-7373
1901 MEDI PARK
CHILDERS PLACE
HERITAGE SKILLED NURSING & REHAB 1009 Clyde Amarillo, Tx 79106 806-352-5295 www.heritageamarillo.com MEDICAL EQUIPMENT:
AMARILLO, TEXAS
ALCOM MED ALERT
806-467-1156
3501 S. Georgia Suite A Amarillo, Tx 79109
GRIEF SUPPORT
806-352-2233
BSA HOSPICE
1-800-477-1815
www.bsahs.org 806-212-8028
BRITKARE 2112 S. COULTER
GENTIVA HOSPICE
AMARILLO, TX
3232 HOBBS RD
806-351-2500
AMARILLO, TEXAS 806-372-7696
NATIONAL HOME HEALTH CARE
3501-L WEST 45
TH
AMARILLO, TEXAS 791009
HOSPICE CARE OF THE
1800 S. COULTER
806-376-7214
SOUTHWEST
AMARILLO, TEXAS
www.dads.state.tx.us
www.hospicesouthwest.com
806-358-7851
806-356-0026 OUTREACH HEALTH
PHILIPS LIFELINE
SERVICES
INDEPENDENT LIVING
MEDICAL ALARMS
1616 S KENTUCKY
BIVINS VILLAGE I & II
& MEDICATION
AMARILLO, TEXAS 79102
3201 TEE ANCHOR BLVD
DISPENSING
AMARILLO, TEXAS
806-679-2511
806-342-5530/806-350-8144
tori.chewning@philips.com
PARK PLACE & THE
MENTAL HEALTH
CONTINENTAL
SERVICES
806-353-9907 HOME HEALTHCARE SERVICES: ACCOLADE HOME CARE 6300 I-40 WEST, STE 210 AMARILLO, TEXAS 79106 806-352-3900
415 SW 8TH AVE STE 300 AMARILLO, TEXAS 79101
GOODCARE HEALTH
INTERIM HEALTHCARE
COMMUNITY
HARRINGTON & MOORE 401 SW 12TH & 400 SW 14TH AMARILLO, TX 79101 806-337-5700
806-351-1000
806-468-9185
RETIREMENT
BROOKDALE SLEEPY HOLLOW 7401 SEVILLE DR AMARILLO, TEXAS 806-351-2105
AMARILLO, TX
SERVICES
4707 BELL ST
THE CRAIG
(806)-358-9807
6600 KILGORE
6811 PLUM CREEK DR.
THE CLAIRMONT
AMARILLO, TEXAS 79109
AMERITA SPECIALTY INFUSION
1300 S. HARRISON AMARILLO, TX 79101 806-337-4100 LONG TERM CARE:
THE GOLDEN PHOENIX PAMPA REGIONAL MEDICAL CENTER ONE MEDICAL DRIVE PAMPA, TEXAS 79065 806-663-5570
MISCELLANEOUS SERVICES: AMARILLO’S SENIOR COMMUNITY 1217 S. TYLER (806) 374-5500 RETRIED & SENIOR VOLUNTEER SERVICES 321 SW 7TH AVE. AMARILLO, TEXAS 79101 806-373-8389 Larue.johnson@pcsvcs.org
WEST TEXAS GROCERY DELIVERY AMARILLO, TEXAS 806-433-1403
1615 SOUTH ROBERTS
www.openroadmobility.com HOME NURSES: NURSES UNLIMITED 4037 W 50TH AMARILLO, TEXAS 79109 806-467-0672 1-888-859-0631 NUTRITION: FAITH CITY MISSION 401 SOUTH EAST 2ND AMARILLO, TEXAS 79105 806-373-6402
AVONDALE PHARMACY 5135 PLAINS AMARILLO, TEXAS 806-352-2708 D&S PHARMACY 3324 S. GEORGIA 806-352-2711 3500 N.E. 24TH 806-383-3377 PRO MED PHARMACY 701 N. TAYLOR AMARILLO,TEXAS 806-376-8245 SOUTHPARK PHARMACY 5901 S. BELL AMARILLO, TEXAS 806-358-2428 REHABILITATION:
www.faithcity.org
VIBRA HEALTHCARE 7200 W. 9TH AMARILLO, TEXAS 79106 806-468-2900
HIGH PLAINS FOOD
RESPIRATORY
BANK 815 ROSS STREET AMARILLO, TEXAS 79102
SERVICES:
806-374-8562
806-463-5114 AREA AGENCY ON
www.theprp.org
806-358-0331
OPEN ROAD MOBILITY 6103 STAR LANE AMARILLO, TEXAS 79109 806-353-2747
SERVICES 7132 W. I-40 # B AMARILLO, TEXAS
BUILDING A & B
CLINIC PHARMACY
CENTER
MOBILITY SERVICES:
ADULT PROTECTIVE
6700 W 9TH AVE.
AMARILLO DIAGNOSTIC
AMARILLO, TX
806-376-7960
SERVICES:
AGING 415 WEST 8TH PO BOX 9257 AMARILLO, TEXAS 79105 806-331-2227
PHARMACIES:
WESLEY COMMUNITY
AMARILLO, TEXAS
SENIOR CITIZEN’S
QUALITY RESPIRATORY SERVICES & REPAIR 6633 CANYON DRIVE 806-352-4140
HERFORD NURSING & REHABILITATION 231 KINGWOOD STREET HEREFORD, TEXAS 79045 806-364-7113 PLUM CREEK MEDICAL CENTER 5601 PLIM CREEK DRIVE AMARILLO, TX 806-351-1000 LEGACY REHAB & LIVING 4033 SW 51ST STREET AMARILLO, TEXAS 806-355-4488
PANHANDLE SUPPORT SERVICES 1502 SOUTH CLEVELAND AMARILLO, TEXAS 79102 806-373-0392 www.pcsvcs.org WIDOWED PERSONS SERVICE OF AMARILLO 2207 WEST 7TH- THE CANYONS AMARILLO, TEXAS 79106 806-374-9772 SKILLED NURSING & REHABILITATION THE ARBORS 1910 MEDI PARK AMARILLO, TEXAS 806-457-4700
STATE AGENCIES:
ELDER ABUSE HOTLINE 1-800-252-5400 FOOD STAMPS 1-806-376-7214 MEDICARE HOTLINE 1-800-633-4227 SOCIAL SECURITY ADMINISTRATION 1-800-772-1213
TEXAS DEPARTMENT OF AGING
& DISABILITY HOTLINE 1-800-252-9240 TEMPORARY
BIVINS MEMORIAL 1001 WALLACE BLVD AMARILLO, TEXAS COUNTRY CLUB NURSING & REHABILITATION #9 Medical Drive. 806-352-2731
Directory of Services
AMARILLO, TX 79101
MEALS ON WHEELS 219 W. 7TH AMARILLO, TEXAS 79101 806-374-1521
ASSISTANCE SERVICES: AMERICAN RED CROSS 806-376-6309 SALVATION ARMY 806-373-6631 TRANSPORTATION:
HERITAGE SKILLED
LE FLEUR
NURSING & REHAB
TRANSPORTATION 900 S. NELSON AMARILLO, TEXAS 79104 806-367-1476
1009 Clyde Amarillo, Tx 79106 806-352-5295
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