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The Most Difficult and Rewarding Job I Could Do It’s the May issue of Fieldstone, and, once again, we’re highlighting moms. I recently took a survey asking what was more difficult – running a femaleowned small business or being a mother? Each has very different challenges, yet both are extremely demanding, but I am going with the mom job as “most difficult.” Lucky for me, it’s also the most rewarding.
I asked my two boys what Mother’s Day meant to them. My oldest, who has lots of “moms” due to being a part of two blended families, answered me with lots of eye rolling as he escaped out the door with his recently acquired driver’s license. (Side note: If there’s a bigger blessing and a curse than a child turning 16, I haven’t discovered it yet.) Then my nine-year-old spoke up. “I wouldn’t be on this planet if it wasn’t for you. I can’t imagine a better mother.” Sigh. I don’t know what changes between nine and 16, but I can just imagine my own mother’s now-you-know-what-I-went-through look as I write this. Thanks to everyone who participated in this issue, whether you were part of a story or sent in a photo. And, as always, thanks to the many people who help put Fieldstone magazine together every month, as well as the local businesses that advertise here. Please think of them first when in need of a product or service that could be of benefit to you. Is there’s something you’d like to contribute to the magazine? If you have an idea for a topic you’d like covered in Fieldstone, please let us know. Send your comments or suggestions to suzanne@fieldstonemagazine.com. And don’t forget to check us out online at fieldstonemagazine.com. You can also “Like” us on Facebook to stay up-to-date on any information or events that arise between issues. About the Publisher Suzanne Gallent is a native of Chattanooga and a graduate of the University of Tennessee in Knoxville. After an 18year career as an account executive and project manager for a number of Nashville’s foremost marketing, advertising and public relations firms, she left it all behind to pursue her most challenging and rewarding job yet, full-time motherhood. She has lived happily ever after in Fieldstone Farms for eight years with her husband, Chip, and her two sons.
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Rebecca Walker and her two sons, Walker Owsley (a freshman at Franklin High School) and Liam Owsley (a fifth grader at Hunters Bend Elementary). They live in the Tenbury Wells neighborhood of Fieldstone Farms. Photo by Christi Kline
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The Most Difficult and Rewarding Job I Could Do.............. 4 Much Stronger Than I Ever Believed.....................................6-7 What I Fear, as a Mom................................................................8-9 Real Estate Facts..............................................................................10 12 Steps to Giving Back: Part Two............................................11 Calendar......................................................................................12-13 Kid’s Klassifieds................................................................................14
May Contributors Reece Bennett Scott Fishkind Izzy Bohn Sara Hamill Susan Shifay Cheung Rhonda Dianne Christian Rebecca Walker Maria Dinoia
Around the Neighborhood.........................................................14
May Cover Photo Christi Kline (949) 302-5608 Christi@AuthenticCapture.com
The Perfect Pour..............................................................................15 Memorial Day - More Then Barbecues..................................16 Your Patriotism Can Do Good Locally.....................................16
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Fieldstone Farms Group Knits for a Cause............................17 Got Baseball Gear? Donate to My Eagle Scout Service Project.................................................................................................17 High Hopes Annual Golf Tournament at Brentwood Country Club.....................................................................................18 FAM at the Factory.........................................................................18 Lawn Tips............................................................................................18 What’s Your Opinion? Critics Wanted!....................................19 Neighborhood Watch...................................................................19 The Fieldstone View.......................................................................20
Additional copies available at the Fieldstone Clubhouse, The Good Cup, Walgreens & Publix. Fieldstone Magazine is a privately owned company and is not affiliated with the Fieldstone Farms Home Owners Association, Community Management Associates, Inc. or any advertisers within. All content is ©2013, Fieldstone Magazine. All rights reserved.
The SAID Principle of Fitness......................................................21 Help Me Rhonda......................................................................22-23 Girls Just Wanna Have Fun Camp 2013..................................23
Seen Around Fieldstone - Easter Egg Hunt
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Photos by Paul St. Jacques
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Much Stronger Than I Ever Believed
by Rebecca Walker - Tenbury Wells
The day I’m writing this is a Sunday and this is always my hard day. The day that God meant for rest ends up, inevitably, being a hot mess. I think the Devil must have a heyday. I can just see him now, clicking his heels, pitchfork in hand, whispering to my son, “Go for it, she’s worn down. It’s totally fine to eat Instant Breakfast right out of the canister with a spoon in her bed. She’s too tired to fight it!” And, sadly, I am too tired. And, finding sand-like chocolate material under the covers is not the way you want to end a long day. You see, my second child was born with autism. With autism, the developmental milestones are not always met at the lightning speed that you would prefer. There is a reason that children develop on a continuum. Once you have had it up to your ears with one phase, they shift into something new. Not so much with autism. The rate of change can be painfully slow. I find that I have been repeating myself for quite some time now. I am saying things that would normally be dealt with in the toddler phase, but to a much older (and stronger I might add) boy. This is part of the reason autism is so
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exhausting, and sometimes causes me to consider an IV drip of vodka or morphine, whichever works quicker. Now don’t get me wrong, I love my son dearly. He is difficult, but you’ve never met a more charming person. I will often say that his smile is what gets him services at school. And, darn it, if that smile of his doesn’t get him out of sticky situations at home, too. Because autism is considered a spectrum disorder, children will have varying degrees of severity. Some children may be diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome, which has a high language component. Others may have Pervasive Developmental Disorder, which is still underneath the umbrella of autism, but may manifest in different ways for different children. When my son got the diagnosis of Pervasive Developmental Disorder-NOS, I was relieved in some sense, because it gave me a name for some of the harder behavior problems we were dealing with. Even though the NOS stands for “Not Otherwise Specified,” I sometimes wondered if the psychologists behind closed doors called it, “No Opportune Sleep” or, even more
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so, “Not Our Situation.” I have had some positive and negative experiences with doctors and psychologists, but no one truly gets your own situation like you do. And, no one really prepared me for the side effects of PDD, which are lots of repeating instructions, cross-eyed parents, no sleep, high anxiety and road rage. (Okay, road rage might be a separate issue.) But, maybe it is because I am so close to it. Much like waiting for the pot of water to boil, every day can seem like an eternity. I can see change, but only when I take a few steps back and look at the bigger picture. Case in point, when my son was in kindergarten, he became obsessed with a little boy in his class who had, in my son’s words, “straight hair.” This little boy had really thick hair that was kept pretty short. This thick hair resulted in it “not moving” when he ran. My son had beautiful, blond hair that had cute waves at the end. Even when cut into a little boy’s haircut, there was still some movement. Each morning, it became more and more distressing to my son when he would look in the mirror and move his head from side to side and see it “move.” I had the brilliant idea of lightly spraying his hair with hairspray. Seemed harmless enough. Man, was I an IDIOT!! The hairspray became a portal into maniacally needing to have hair that was pretty much glued to his head. He became so obsessed with his hair being “straight” that if one hair were out of place, he would throw a tantrum and be out of commission for a really long time. I now had to send hairspray to school in his backpack. He would get off the school bus with the most shellacked hair you have ever seen. It looked like a plastic wig. I won’t even talk about the nightmare it was to wash it out every night. (Ever had hairspray in the eyes?) One day, I decided that this had gone a bit far. I decided that the hairspray was overtaking our lives and something had to be done. I had gotten us in this mess, so I had to get us out of it. I thought about the fact that my son loved the calendar and remembered dates really well. So, I woke him up one morning and told him that beginning ten days from today, on May the 1st, all hairsprays would be unavailable at the stores. He blinked at me a few times and asked me why. I made up a story about how everyone was tired of hairspray and they would no longer be carrying it at any store in America. He bought it! We circled the day on the calendar, and I made sure he understood that on May 1st, he would no longer be using hairspray to make “straight hair.” May 1st arrived and we threw our bottle away. (I prayed to God he wouldn’t look under my side of the bathroom counter and see my stash). It was a small victory, but I took it.
particular season is hard. And, no, I might not get the cuddles, kisses and “I love you” exclamations that other children give their mother on this day, but I do get so much from him. He makes me a better mother and a better person. He pushes me to be my best. He has taught me so much about myself, and that I am much stronger than I ever believed. And when things are good, they are good! Oh, and did I mention how much he makes me laugh?! Thankfully, my son no longer mentions “straight hair” and only gets mildly annoyed at the occasional bed head. And, hopefully, the things he is doing today will be something I can laugh about later (like asking, “Is God really allowed to make dew on the ground, because it makes my shoes get wet” – ay caramba). At this point, I’m counting on being able to laugh, because otherwise, that morphine drip could be a little cumbersome to carry around.
As we come upon Mother’s Day, I am reminded that sometimes this is all I need – a big-picture moment; a moment when I can look back and reflect upon that time and think, “Okay, I made it out alive. Things are moving forward. We are progressing. And if I can make it through THAT, I can do anything.” As any mother can tell you, you need these things to hold on to when a
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Rebecca Walker lives in the Tenbury Wells neighborhood of Fieldstone Farms. This piece was adapted from a post on her blog streakofgenius.blogspot.com. If you would like more information on autism, please visit autismspeaks.org.
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What I Fear, as a Mom
by Susan Shifay Cheung - Dalton Park
I’ve observed that many women readily talk about the joys of motherhood, but not so much their worries and fears. Maybe it’s because we feel guilty about griping; as if we’ll be judged for being less than stellar moms. We compare ourselves to others, who seem to have it together. I’m sure you know someone who seems to take everything in stride, from working a job and keeping their house looking beautiful to baking perfect cupcakes and keeping their family’s schedules organized and running like clockwork. I feel our neighborhood can be competitive. It’s intimidating when your child starts grade school and there’s unspoken judgment on how much you’re involved in school activities. Peer pressure is rampant. We look at our neighbor’s green and lush lawns and we sigh all the more at the weeds overtaking our beds. When it’s our turn to host, we take days to clean and hope we host the most fun bunko group, or the most interesting book club. Faced with such pressure, it’s hard to discuss our deepest fears and concerns. Well, I’m admitting I don’t set out to be the perfect mom, the perfect host or the perfect neighbor. I’m doing what I can with what I’ve got. Doctors said it would be difficult for me to have children. After receiving that prognosis, becoming a mom became my obsession. It was a blessing that, eventually, I was able to have two children, but then other worries took over – potty training, language development, teething and readiness for kindergarten. I remember my Mom telling me, as she fussed over my 20-something self, that no matter how old or greyhaired I would become, she’d never stop being mom. Of course, in my 20s, I was relishing my independence and impatient with maternal fussing. Now, myself a mom of an eight- and nine-year-old, I completely get it. As an older mom and desirous of being a sprightly granny when the time comes, I’m preoccupied by health issues. Four years ago, I had a serious health scare with abnormally high blood pressure (bp) readings and depleted potassium levels. I ended up in the ER because my bp readings were stroke high. Due to that scare, I warn my girlfriends to be vigilant about their bp.
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According to the National Vital Statistics Reports, 2011, heart disease was the leading cause of death for women in the United States (one in every four deaths) in 2009. Multiple tests later, my bp has stabilized by the right medication, a low-sodium diet and watching my stress levels. Recently, I’ve been sleeping poorly. I’ve joined the 20 percent of Americans, who say they get less than six hours of sleep a night (the Sleep in America polls conducted on behalf of the National Sleep Foundation). I’m concerned about my sleeplessness, as prolonged sleep deprivation is known to cause serious health issues, such as high bp, stroke, depression, aging of skin and weight gain. My lack of sleep makes me snap at my kids; that’s unfair to them and makes me feel guilty. Along with my health anxieties, my top concern regarding my kids is bullying at school. We can’t pretend bullying doesn’t exist. The National Education Association cites one in seven students in grades K – 12 is either a bully or a victim of bullying, and 15 percent of all school absenteeism is directly related to fears of being
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bullied at school. I’m vigilant in looking out for this, as I was bullied as a child of immigrant parents in England. Yet, my kids’ experiences here vary from mine as a child, because they are looked at as being “different” in a more homogenized community. The United States Census Bureau Williamson County QuickFacts show 91 percent of the population here is Caucasian, and only 3 percent is Asian. My children have advantages that I didn’t have, however, because they grew up speaking English and I have the wherewithal to be their advocate. My most important job is to instill in them a pride and belief of self and values in the face of a majority that may be different to them in their social, political or religious stances. I encourage and praise, but I also tell them that life is unfair and show them how to deal with failure. I believe this lesson needs to be learned early. To be a strong family, I believe we should admit to our fears and concerns, as appropriate to your kids’ ages. I also believe it’s okay for children to see their parents argue, but they also need to see how to compromise and make up. I admit my fears to you in solidarity of knowing just how strong you are as moms (and dads). In the end, I believe we that if all parents truly do their best in raising their children, that’s enough. Happy Mother’s Day! Susan Shifay Cheung has turned her hand to many forms of writing in her various roles, over the years, as corporate trainer, management consultant, journalist and freelance writer. You can contact her at y2s2cheung@yahoo.com.
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12 Steps to Giving Back: Part Two
by Sara Hamill - Belmont
Last month, I wrote about the first six steps in the 12-step treatment process, which was developed by Alcoholics Anonymous in 1938. As I mentioned, though this process of personal change was developed with alcohol addiction in mind, everyone can benefit from it. If we are human and flawed, then this process is for us. All of us are struggling on some level with behaviors that affect our lives and relationships in a negative way. Sometimes we can have great awareness around what is unhealthy in our lives, but we can stay in the thought process forever without ever making a change. Most people struggle with knowing what change looks like or how to get there. That is where the 12-step process comes in. Step 7 is “humbly asking God or our Higher Power to remove our shortcomings.” Step 6 prepares us for this by allowing us some contemplative time to be “entirely ready,” because what we are agreeing to in this step is to leave behind the comfort of what we know to embark for the unknown. We are trusting that God will put something better in place of what we are leaving behind. On the surface, this seems logical. Why wouldn’t we want to leave a bad situation for a better one? But sometimes, unhealthiness disguises itself well. If I love shopping, but I do it often enough to ruin my finances and cause problems in my relationships, step seven asks me to move away from that with God’s help. In our minds, we will say, “But what will I do then to feel happy? I don’t want to give that up.” We have to trust that God will take care of us and give us peace in place of that. Step 8 involves “making a list of all persons we have harmed and become willing to make amends to them all.” This should be done with a tremendous amount of prayer, patience and help. Having done Step 5 (admitting to God, ourselves and another our wrongs), we should have some sense of which relationships need attention, but it is extremely easy to confuse people we resent with people we have harmed. We need to not be hasty when working through this step. Step 9 wants us to “make direct amends to such people whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.” In this step, we look at our list of people we have harmed – emotionally, physically or spiritually – and make the intentional step to meet with them and ask for forgiveness. This is hard! None of us like to admit that we have hurt anyone. Our pride will surely try to stop us from making this step. However, there are also some very important things we have to remember when following through. The first is that we should not meet with anyone
just to tell them we have resentment toward them or to inform them of something we have done, especially if they have no knowledge of it. To do so would harm them emotionally. In this instance, we have to either move toward forgiveness on our own or make amends in another way. For example, if we had an affair with someone’s husband or wife but the other spouse never knew, to tell them might relieve our conscience, but it would harm the unknowing party. So, perhaps as an amends, we might volunteer at a charitable organization instead. Second, we should never meet with anyone who would be unsafe for us. If we have experienced abuse of any kind, we should not re-approach that relationship, unless the other person has come to a healthy place, too. Third, we must take this step with no expectation that the other person will accept our apology graciously. If we are not ready for that, we must wait until we are. An “I’m sorry, but here’s why I did…” is not truly making amends. In this case, we must simply say, “I’m sorry.” Steps 10 through 12 are maintenance steps. They focus on continuing to take personal inventory, promptly admitting when we are wrong, seeking through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, praying for His will for our lives, and carrying the message of the 12 Steps to others. Once we start the 12 Steps, we continue to do them every day for the rest of our lives. When we struggle, we admit powerlessness and turn our will and lives over to God. We self-examine, solve relational conflicts when they happen, admit when we are wrong, and we try to live God’s will for our lives. It is the basic blueprint for a healthy life. I invite you to step into this process no matter what your life circumstances. If you have never walked the steps, it is important to do them with someone or with a group for support. Without the accountability, we find ways to take shortcuts and skip steps that are hard. Having support allows us to share our struggles with others. If we can face ourselves with honesty, we will experience a life change and freedom that is truly amazing. 12 Steps to Freedom Men and Women’s groups through Restore Ministries start June 24th. For more information on how and where to join any 12 Step group, feel free to contact me at shamill@ymcamidtn.org.
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Sara Hamill, a native Nashvillian, has been a Fieldstone Farm resident since 2003. She currently works as Restore Ministries Program Director, coordinating support groups for the Maryland Farms, Christ Church, and Brentwood YMCAs as well as church partners. She can be reached at shamill@ymcamidtn.org.
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Contributor Space Reservation: May 15th – Fieldstone is YOUR community magazine so if you have something positive to offer, please let us know! Contribution space is always free to residents of Fieldstone Farms but space is limited so reserve your space by the 15th. Contributor Submission Deadline: May 17th – Please have your text and pictures in to us by the 17th. New Advertiser Space Reservation: May 15th – If you would like to advertise with Fieldstone next month, please let us know by the 15th. Once again, space is limited but if you need any help with your ad, Fieldstone’s graphics department can do it! Please contact us as early as possible to allow us enough time to get it perfect it for you. Advertiser Artwork Deadline: May 17th – If you wish to submit your own camera-ready artwork, please have it to us by the 17th.
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Need an Experienced Cat Sitter? Contact Melissa McElroy at 615-779-6657. I am a cat lover with 18 years of cat experience. Lifelong Fieldstone Farms resident and senior at Franklin High School. Do you need a part-time babysitter or just a night out? My name is Samantha Sheridan. I am 18 and a senior at Franklin High School. I am a straight A student and have taken Early Child Care classes for two years. I have my license and can provide my own transportation. I live in Fieldstone Farms and I am available on weekends and after school every day except Thursdays. During the summer and upcoming year, I am available anytime. You can contact me, Sam, at 615.916.1712 or by email samanthamarie213@gmail.com. Morgan Polston - Babysitting, Pet Sitting, House Sitting MTSU student available on weekends, local neighbor Contact morganlpolston@gmail.com.
Meredith Wilken - 521-6449 or mkwilken@hotmail.com 12 years old, honor student, Red Cross Certified, 7th grader at Grassland Middle School! Need a reliable nanny, baby, house or pet sitter for the summer? I am 18 years old and will be off to college in the fall. I have five years experience, American Red Cross trained and I love kids and animals. Give me a call at 615-5576365. Have a blessed day. Courtney Cook. Need a babysitter you can trust? Call Kayla Turner at 866-7921 or 791-9311. I am a 16 year old junior at Christ Presbyterian Academy. I live in Wexford and love kids. 4 years experience. Rent–A–Teen - For all your technological issues
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Beginner Guitar Lessons - I am a 15-year-old Fieldstone Farms resident and have been teaching beginner guitar lessons in my home for three years. I have openings for a limited number of new students. $10 per half-hour lesson for ages 10-18. Contact Arin at: brewbeat@comcast.net
May 14th, 1:30 p.m. – Fieldstone Book Club The club meets the 2nd Tuesday of each month at 1:30 p.m. at the Clubhouse. Contact Shirley Fette at Shirley3799@att.net for more information. Everyone is welcome! May 21st, 6:00 p.m. - HOA Board Meeting Join us at the Clubhouse for the monthly meeting. May 21st - Last Day of School - Williamson County
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The Perfect Pour
When honoring your mother this Mother’s Day, you can make sure you do it with style by popping open some bubbly for a toast, or, if making a meal of the celebration, by uncorking one of the two Pinot Grigios recommended below. You can find all of these “perfect pours” at The Corner Wine & Spirits in the Harpeth Village Shopping Center on Hillsboro Road and at Del Rio Wine & Spirits at 111 Del Rio Pike.
Domaine Carneros – Taittinger Brut Cuvée: $29.99 Vintage dated each year, the Domaine Carneros Brut Cuvée represents the best of Carneros pinot noir and chardonnay made into a classic sparkling wine. The appellation is 100% Carneros and is aged in the bottle for three years before release. It will continue to develop further depth and complexity as it ages, but it is exceptionally fragrant with aromas of crème brûlée, honeycomb, melon, citrus zest and golden hay, which provide an overture to flavors of pear and golden apple. The cuvée features an elegant, round structure and the tantalizingly long finish that is the hallmark of Domaine Carneros wines.
Pinot Grigio Valdadige – Santa Margherita: $29.99 Highly regarded as one of the best Pinot Grigios on the market, and will make any meal a special one. Santa Margherita first introduced Americans to Pinot Grigio in 1979. Thirty years later, Santa Margherita remains the most requested Pinot Grigio and imported wine in America’s fine restaurants and is the benchmark by which all other Pinot Grigios are judged. This wellstructured and sophisticated wine is a perfect choice for entertaining, and pairs beautifully with a wide range of light-weight dishes.
San Angelo Pinot Grigio – Castello Banfi: $19.99 This white-gold colored Pinot Grigio opens with a Bartlett pear bouquet with hints of apricot and apple. On the palate, this wine is medium bodied, slightly acidic and crisp, yet easy to drink. The finish is dry and rather refreshing. Most important, it’s food friendly and would pair very nicely with seafood, especially broiled scallops. And now for something completely different… a quote from a very ambitious (and eloquent!) woman, who had no children, but was manager for 30 years of the Bollinger Champagne house of sparkling wines. “I drink champagne when I’m happy and when I’m sad. Sometimes I drink it when I’m alone. When I have company, I consider it obligatory. I trifle with it if I’m not hungry and drink it when I am. Otherwise I never touch it – unless I’m thirsty.” – Madame Lily Bollinger
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Memorial Day – More Than Barbecues
by Izzy Bohn - Northridge
Most people think of Memorial Day as the start of summer, a time for barbecues, pools and friends. But what is it really about? Memorial Day started in 1866 soon after the Civil War. Family members were grieving for the loss of their loved ones. Henry Welles, a drugstore owner in New York, had the idea that, once a year, all stores should close so Americans could remember the sacrifices made by our brave soldiers. Thus, Memorial Day was born. Every day, thousands of soldiers risk their lives so we can have freedoms like religion, free speech and the right to vote; things we often take for granted. This is why we have Memorial Day, to honor those who died fighting for our democracy. What can you do to remember them? Even a flag in your yard could inspire someone else to show their appreciation for our men and women in the military. While it’s difficult to thank a dead soldier, you can surely appreciate the living ones. If you know someone who is in the service, make sure to thank them for all their hard work. If you don’t, you can go to sco.uncc.edu/ veteransclub/write.html to write a letter to a soldier. It only takes 10 minutes and would make a great family activity to do together.
There is nothing wrong with having a barbecue and going to the pool, but make sure you don’t forget the real meaning of why we celebrate Memorial Day. Make it a priority to also participate in a parade, a memorial service or say “thank you” to a veteran, too.
Izzy Bohn is a sixth grader at Grassland Middle School. She lives in Northridge, enjoys writing, and playing the guitar.
Your Patriotism Can Do Good Locally If you’d like to do a little more to show your patriotic side than just wearing red, white and blue on the fourth of July, we’ve got the perfect solution. The Franklin High School Band is selling one-year subscriptions for Flags Across America – a program designed to promote patriotism, while supporting community fundraisers at the same time. A one-year subscription buys placement of a three-by-five (3’ x 5’) foot American flag on an eight-foot pole in your front yard, from dawn to dusk, on four national holidays – Memorial Day, Independence Day, Labor Day and Veterans Day. The flag is set up and taken down by FHS band members. More than 175 families participated in the 2012 Flags Across America campaign in our area, and the FHS Band is determined to top that number in 2013. You can help and be a part of the excitement at the same time with a subscription cost of only $40 per year. There are a couple ways to sign up. Send checks to FHS Band Boosters, PMB 110, 2020 Fieldstone Pkwy., Ste. 900,
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Franklin, TN 37069. Please include your phone number and e-mail address on your check, and ensure that your check has the correct address for installation or your flag could end up proudly flying on someone else’s lawn. You can also sign up by going online to thefranklinband.org and using your credit card through PayPal ($2 fee for PayPal use) . For questions, please e-mail FHSFlag@gmail. com. Thank you for your patriotism and for supporting Franklin High School Band!
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Fieldstone Farms Group Knits for a Cause The Ladies of Windsor knitting group has been working the past few months to supply little “Pocket Peace Pals” for a medical mission trip to Cambodia. The idea is not original to the group, but one that has been shared by many crafting groups in an effort to share hope, healing and peace, one stitch at a time, with children in global areas of conflict.
members of the mission team. The knitting group meets once a week (since November 2009), always enjoying tea together and each other’s company. It is a sharing and caring group that prides themselves in not gossiping! Karlyn Spencer is our hostess and, most of the time, there are five to seven members gathered. For more information about the “Pocket Peace Pals,” contact knitting4peace.org. If you’d like to join the Ladies of Windsor knitting group in our efforts, please contact Karlyn at (615) 595-0138. (The Pocket Peace Pals are not to be sold or used for profit-based activity of any kind. They are intended to fulfill the mission and work of the women knitting for peace.)
These particular Pocket Pals will accompany a mission trip this spring, and, in the fall, another trip is being planned to parts of India. The ladies who are knitting are also making the dolls for the Christmas Shoebox Ministry. First Presbyterian Church of Franklin is also participating in this effort by making the dolls. Pictures from previous trips have shown the enjoyment of the children as they receive such a treat. The dolls provide an entrée into the unfamiliar areas for the
Pictured L to R: Bobbie Peabody, Isabel Linder, Lois Parent, Shirley Bolich, Karlyn Spencer, Esther Hunter. Not pictured but a special thanks goes to Jane Skillen and Shirley Gouvan also.
Got Baseball Gear? Donate to My Eagle Scout Service Project My name is Reece Bennett, and I’ve been a resident of Fieldstone Farms for 15 years. I began my journey with the Boy Scouts of America as a Tiger Cub in first grade. I’m currently a Life Scout with Troop 1, chartered to Brentwood United Methodist Church, and a freshman at Brentwood Academy. On Saturday, May 18th, I will be carrying out my Eagle Scout Service project that benefits
Reviving Baseball in Inner Cities (RBI) of Nashville. RBI is a non-profit organization that provides organized games, coaching and equipment to underprivileged children. My project will consist of collecting and organizing new and used baseball equipment donations. There will be two collection sites: Jim Warren Park and Liberty Park, both which are conveniently located in Franklin. Upon completion of the donation drive, I will transport the gear to RBI’s storage facility for future distribution to its players. Bats, gloves, cleats, catcher’s gear, baseballs, gear bags, baseball pants, and softball gear are the items that RBI has specifically requested. So tell all your friends and bring as much gear as you can! Questions? Contact me at reeceman2@mac.com or (615)815-5548.
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High Hopes Hosts Annual Golf Tournament at Brentwood Country Club High Hopes presents its 10th Annual Giving on the Green Golf Tournament on May 20, 2013 at Brentwood Country Club. Proceeds from Giving on the Green benefit High Hopes Inclusive Preschool and Pediatric Therapy Clinic. This year’s event begins at 11:00 am with lunch, a shotgun start at noon with 18 holes of golf, and wonderful dinner with guest speaker, Sean Henry, President and Chief Operating Officer of the Nashville Predators. Participants can take part in contests including Hole in One, Putting and Beat the Pro with fantastic prizes including a Cadillac lease from Andrews Cadillac. Event chairs Jim Gray and Paul Varney expect this year’s event to not only provide golfers a fun and relaxing day of golf but to also raise funds for the quality programs High Hopes offers to children with and without special needs. “A visit to High Hopes will inspire any golfer to join us for this great day. The programs and services the preschool and clinic offer are life-changing for children and this is certainly an enjoyable way for golfers to make a contribution,” said Gray. High Hopes gives children of all intellectual, physical and mental abilities the opportunity to learn and grow together in a quality environment that provides basic life skills to improve their overall quality of life. High Hopes, Inc. is a 501(c)3 non-profit preschool and pediatric therapy clinic located in Cool Springs that loves, nurtures, and educates typically-developing children and children with special needs or chronic diseases. The preschool serves children from birth to Pre-K with and without special needs in inclusive classrooms, and the clinic provides one-on-one pediatric therapy to children and youth with special needs ages birth to 21 years.
Family fun and entertainment at The Factory on Friday, May 3rd, from 6-9. Live music, food trucks and stores will be open late. Visit artisans, paint pottery and grab drinks and munchies. Free admission.
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High Hopes team of experienced teachers and therapists support the individual educational and therapeutic needs of each child. High Hopes Inc. is the only inclusive preschool in Middle Tennessee with an on-site pediatric therapy clinic. High Hopes is truly unique in the way that children with and without special needs such as Down syndrome, Cerebral Palsy, Autism, and other developmental delays play, learn, and grow together every day. The 6,000 square foot outpatient pediatric therapy clinic provides multiple therapies including occupational, speech, physical, and feeding therapies. If you would like to participate in the golf tournament, make a donation and/or learn more about High Hopes and the services we offer please call: 615-661-5437 or visit our website at www.highhopesforkids.org.
Lawn Tips from Your Friends at Turf Managers
Its flower time in Tennessee. May is the time to plant your annual summer color. Summer annuals are the best way to add the WOW factor to your landscape. They include varieties like petunias, begonias, lantana, salvia, coleus, and zinnias. Some of you may be wondering why you didn’t see impatiens on the list. Well that’s because last year many of them were hit with a disease called downy mildew. This disease not only affects the plant but it also contaminates the soil as well. The department of agricultural has recommended not planting any this year but replacing them with New Guinea impatiens, SunPatiens, coleus, begonia, caladiums are all resistant alternatives to garden impatiens. Remember to keep your flowers watered and fertilized to get the best display possible. Call us at 269-7706 or visit TurfManagersLLC.com for more information.
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What’s Your Opinion? Critics Wanted! Do you love eating out, going to movies, listening to music, reading books or discovering interesting travel destinations near and far? Then we want your opinion. Fieldstone is looking for submissions from anyone of any age in the Fieldstone Farms community. What should you write about?
The Fieldstone Farms Neighborhood Watch committee is having a meeting on Monday, May 6th at 7:00 pm at the Fieldstone Farms Clubhouse and every FF resident is encouraged to attend. The Franklin Police will be there talking about what drugs our kids are being exposed to, and what parents can do about it. They will also talk about summer vandalism and what homeowners can do about that. This is a meeting you will not want to miss!
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Restaurants – maybe you’ve tried a new eatery in town and you’d like to report on the food, service, ambiance and family-friendly nature of it.
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Movies – maybe you’ve seen the latest Hollywood blockbuster or rented an independent documentary, and want to let us know what you and your friends thought of it.
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Music – maybe you’ve just seen some live music and want to let us know about a new band or singer in the area, or maybe you just want to give your opinion on a new album release.
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Books – maybe you’ve just finished a book – whether it was for your school English class or your monthly book club, let us know if you’d recommend it to others, and a few reasons why.
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Travel – maybe you’ve just discovered a fascinating destination in the next county, state, country or continent. Let us know if we should put it on our travel itinerary, take the whole family, go only if we’re the adventurous type, plan to stay a few weeks or save it for a long weekend.
You don’t have to be a professional critic, but it’s fine if you are. You don’t even have to be able to write yet; just get a parent to send in your critique for you. We heard somewhere that everybody has an opinion, and we’d love to hear yours regarding the above subjects. We may not be able to print all of them, but we’d love to have a wide variety of age groups represented. Here’s all you have to do: ▪▪
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The FF Neighborhood Watch committee has block captains in all but the following subdivisions. If you live in one of the subdivisions listed below, please contact Joe Street at jstreet@twfrierson.com or Tom Paden at thomaspaden@comcast.net and volunteer to be a block captain. Being a block captain does not require a lot of time. Subdivisions needing Block Captains: 1. Bentley Park 2. Clayborne 3. Crestfield 4. Maytime 5. Northridge 6. The Reserve 7. Trent Park 8. Wheaton Hall The FF Neighborhood Watch committee has set up Robo-Dial and Robo-text to alert FF residents of emergencies within our community. Please visit the FF website at www.fieldstone-farms.com to register your phone for this important service.
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The Fieldstone View with Maria Dinoia - Wheaton Hall
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Do you attend Steeplechase every year? If so, what’s the best thing about it? I have never been to Steeplechase, but have wondered if it would be fun. It might be nice to do something “so Nashville” after living here since 1993! – Missy Mutchnick
I don’t, but have yearned to since we moved here four very short years ago. I remember driving the 26’ U-Haul with car in tow, moving our family from Austin to Franklin on Memorial Day weekend. I wasn’t aware of the annual festivities and made a bad decision to turn directly into the path of Steeplechase exit traffic. Having just driven from Texas, I thought, “What’s another 1/2 an hour?” It was packed with people and it looked as though everyone was in their Sunday best, yet walking through the mud, wearing no shoes and big smiles. Some were even waving to me, helping to direct me through the maze of traffic. Upon a closer look, I realized some of these folks were enjoying an adult beverage and to me, it was just another sign that we picked the right place to live.
Steeplechase? I’m new to Franklin, but I did go once, while still in school at UT Knoxville. It was a road trip. My roommate at the time, her sister and I drove from Knoxville the night before and stayed at their Mom’s house in Hermitage. Their cute older brother and his friends picked us up the next morning. I don’t remember how early, ‘cause anything before noon was early for me back then, but it was before noon, so it was early. The boys had a cooler of Bloody Mary’s and snacks in the trunk of the car. We were stuck in traffic for so long trying to get there, my roommate and I jumped out of the car, ran to the trunk, whipped up a few cocktails and snacks, and before we knew it, we were there. I don’t remember seeing any horses, but we saw a lot of friends from Knoxville. Then after the tumultuous downpours, “The Hill” was just muddy enough to see a lot of our friends from Knoxville body board down it. Awards? What awards? After the sun went down, we eventually made it back to Hermitage and, finally, Knoxville. It wasn’t until I recently got lost coming home to Franklin from downtown Nashville that this adventure even crossed my mind. I had decided to try something other than I-65 home, so I went down Broadway to the West End split. Not knowing the difference, I took West End and found myself in what I considered the country. Thinking I was lost and might end up in Alabama, I quickly called my friend in LA, who is from here, and had him guide me back home. He guided me through Percy Werner Park. Once I saw the racetrack, that memory came flashing back. This prompted me to search for and find my old roommate from college. We are friends again to this day. We’re thinking of going again this year! – Christy Kalcheim
– Gregg Hodges Maria Dinoia is a freelance writer who currently writes for Country Weekly magazine and whose word eloquence has appeared in dozens of newspapers, magazines and websites. She happily resides in Fieldstone Farms with her hard-working husband and three adoring children.
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The SAID Principle of Fitness
by Scott Fishkind - Clarendon
For many people, the SAID principle might remind them of being a teenager. When they asked their parents WHY they had to clean their room (which was just going to get messy again anyway), they likely heard a response such as, “Because I SAID so, that’s why!” When it comes to fitness, the SAID principle refers to “Specific Adaptations to Imposed Demands.” Reaching specific goals requires the right training approach to elicit the desired response. Therefore, it is important to understand how the type of training will ultimately affect one’s physiology. For example, if someone’s goal is a lean, muscular physique and all they do is walk on a treadmill or elliptical, then they may get a bit leaner (if their nutrition is in place), but they aren’t likely to stimulate much muscle development, so the shape of their body won’t change dramatically. Also, if they don’t progressively challenge themselves by increasing exercise intensity and/or duration, the body will adapt and weight loss will typically stall. For building muscle (i.e. hypertrophy) a “physique athlete” style of training would be more appropriate. This would require using the acute variables (sets, reps, exercises, etc.) most optimal for this goal. Muscle growth is typically stimulated around the 6- to 12-rep range, occasionally bringing some sets to muscular failure. A higher volume of training is also required, which refers to using multiple sets and increased training frequency (more days per week). This triggers a certain cascade of events within the muscle tissue itself. You might also add in a bit more isolation type exercises using more externally stabilized environments like benches and machines. Someone interested in pure strength with less emphasis on muscular size would generally want to train around the 1- to 6-repetition range. This type of training stimulus has more of a neurological component to it. Rather than creating changes in the muscle tissue itself, more motor units within the muscle are recruited. This is equivalent to having more workers available to perform a task. Compound movements would also be favored over isolated exercises. If sport’s performance is the goal, then the training should be designed to emphasize the mechanisms involved in the performance one is trying to improve. However, there should still be enough variety in their program to avoid creating muscular imbalances. This type of training can still create a great aesthetic result as a side benefit, but it will typically be a “look” that is still a reflection of their training approach (compare a sprinter’s physique to that of a distance runner).
For marathon or other enduranceoriented athletes, the training should be designed in a way to gradually create the necessary physiological adaptations required for such events. This will occur on both an energy system and musculoskeletal level. For competitive runners, interval work is also recommended to help generate explosive bursts needed during a race. I highly recommend some cross training, especially full body strength and flexibility, to help prevent overuse injuries and imbalances. For years, athletes like boxers and football players spent a lot of time doing long distance runs (i.e. “road work”). While this did help their aerobic capacity and general conditioning, it didn’t necessarily help performance in their sport. Rather it was found that those types of athletes responded better by training their energy systems primarily for shorter intense and explosive bursts of effort. In fact, for sports-specific improvements, it’s optimal to emphasize lengths of work and recovery intervals that reflect those most closely found in the activity. An MMA fighter might use intervals that might reflect the workrest for each round, or a football player might use the intervals reflected during and between each play. For overall general strength and conditioning (sometimes referred to as “general physical preparedness”), one would benefit more from a program that focuses on metabolic conditioning, like a boot camp or cross-fit style of training. These cross training approaches utilize various elements of strength, power and cardiovascular conditioning. Lastly, one could use a hybrid approach (which is what I do personally). For example, one could alternate days of the boot-camp style and bodybuilding style of training. The result is a very athletic, functional physique with plenty of muscular size.
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Fieldstone Resident Scott Fishkind is a Certified Personal Trainer (ACE), IMPACT instructor (NESTA) and Certified Youth Fitness Specialist (IYCA). He may be reached at 615-804-9396, email: info@impactcoolsprings.com or www.impactcoolsprings.com.
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Help Me, Rhonda!!! An Advice Column for Fieldstone Farms
Dear Rhonda,
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We are very new residents to Fieldstone Farms. We love the neighborhood, but I fear that we may have gotten off on the wrong foot with our neighbors. Any advice?
- New Farmers on the Block Dear New Farmers on the Block,
New neighbors are an adjustment on both ends. I say reach out. Bake cookies, send a handwritten note with your contact information, or invite them to a BBQ. It is never too late. This is an amazing community. If your new neighbors are fuddy-duddies, there are plenty more all around you! Welcome to the Farm!
Dear Rhonda,
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Do you have any suggestions on a nice homemade breakfast I could make for my wife and mother-in-law on Mother’s Day? My usual is sausage and eggs, but I am trying to be more creative. Thank you.
- Husband at a Loss Dear Husband at a Loss,
Eggs Benedict
One of my favorite special occasion breakfasts is Eggs Benedict. Although it is a little high-maintenance, your wife and mother-in-law are sure to be dazzled by your leap into Creative Cooking!
1. To Make Hollandaise: Fill the bottom of a double boiler part-way with water. Make sure that water does not touch the top pan. Bring water to a gentle simmer. In the top of the double boiler, whisk together egg yolks, lemon juice, white pepper, Worcestershire sauce, and 1 tablespoon water. 2. Add the melted butter to egg yolk mixture 1 or 2 tablespoons at a time while whisking yolks constantly. If hollandaise begins to get too thick, add a teaspoon or two of hot water. Continue whisking until all butter is incorporated. Whisk in salt, then remove from heat. Place a lid on pan to keep sauce warm. 3.
Preheat oven on broiler setting. To Poach Eggs: Fill a large saucepan with 3 inches of water. Bring water to a gentle simmer, then add vinegar. Carefully break eggs into simmering water, and allow to cook for 2 1/2 to 3 minutes. Yolks should still be soft in center. Remove eggs from water with a slotted spoon and set on a warm plate
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While eggs are poaching, brown the bacon in a medium skillet over medium-high heat and toast the English muffins on a baking sheet under the broiler.
5. Spread toasted muffins with softened butter, and top each one with a slice of bacon, followed by one poached egg. Place 2 muffins on each plate and drizzle with hollandaise sauce. Sprinkle with chopped chives and serve immediately. Serve with fresh in-season fruit or vine ripened tomatoes.
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Dear Rhonda,
My son was over at a friend’s house, and his friend’s parents had the news on talking about the explosions in Boston. He subsequently has been experiencing nightmares about bombs. Should I have a talk with the parents?
- Living in a Bubble Dear Living in a Bubble,
It seems like we are revisiting this scenario too often these days. As much as we’d like to protect our kids from all the terrible news in world, the sad reality is that they will hear all sorts of information from other kids at school, their teachers, at a friend’s house, etc. I don’t think you need to talk to the parents about this specific incident. The news about the marathon is everywhere; the flags at the local schools and businesses are flying at halfmast. According to pediatrics.about.com, parents should provide simple, age-appropriate explanations of what happened and then answer their questions, providing additional details if necessary. Most importantly, reinforce to your children that these incidents are in fact rare and that they are safe. Jamie Howard, a clinical child psychologist in New York, recommends try to be calm and direct when you talk with your child, even if you’re a little afraid yourself. Also, sadness, anxiety and even nightmares are normal in children after a national tragedy. Lastly, don’t let teenagers fool you. Encourage them to communicate. You want to be there for them to correct any misinformation. Something that I found immensely helpful in the wake of the horrific events in Boston was a famous Mr. Rogers quote that has been circulating all around the web: “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.” To this day, especially in times of “disaster,” I remember my mother’s words and I am always comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers - so many caring people in this world.”
Girls Just Wanna Have Fun Camp 2013 A few spots are still available for the Girls Just Wanna Have Fun Camp this summer, run by 17-year-old McKenzie Babb. If you’re interested in signing up your daughter, here’s all you need to know: •
E-mail to reserve your spot – girlsjustwannahavefuninfo@gmail.com
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Location – Fieldstone Farms (exact location given upon registration)
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Ages accepted – 3 to 11
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Time – 9:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m.
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Cost – $120 ($10 discount for siblings)
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Participate in both weeks for just $230
Week #1 When: Monday, June 10 – Thursday, June 13 Week #2 When: Monday, June 24 – Thursday, June 27 Each week of camp includes 24 hours total of fun, crafts, games, a camp tote bag, water bottle and camp T-shirt. Each day has a different theme and activities will be planned accordingly.
You can always reach out to your pediatrician for additional help. Best of Luck.
Got a question? Contact Rhonda at askrhonda@live.com or to submit a question anonymously visit: askrhonda.us.
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