BOOM! July 2023

Publisher/Editor

Jim Watson 334.324.3472 cell/text jim@riverregionboom.com

Contributing Writers

Jeff Barganier

Tracy Bhalla

Greg Budell

Elizabeth Fishel

Robert W. Goldfarb

Julianna Hansen

Myrna Marofsky

Carol Morgan Milberger

Sheilia Munday

Dr. Blake Raggio

Nick Thomas

Jenny Wisniewski

Cover Photography

Photography by DiAnna Paulk photographybydiannapaulk.com

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Jim Watson, 334.324.3472 jim@riverregionboom.com

Know Your Freedoms & Rights

The other day my wife and I were exploring the new Montgomery Whitewater facility. We both agreed in time it will become a valuable asset to the quality of life for the River Region, both in terms of lifestyle and economically. As we were leaving to head back to our car, Sandy noticed a weed in one of the landscaped beds and she immediately bent down to pull it. Sandy is a Master Gardener, and she doesn’t tolerate weeds much. I encouraged her to let their landscaping crew do what they do but she would have none of it…she pulled more along the way. She will solve the weed problem, one weed at a time.

Jim Watson, Publisher jim@riverregionboom.com

Talking about weeds led me to discover one of most wonderful things about America, innovation, and ingenuity. As I was reviewing the news of the day, I came up on a man who created something called LaserWeeder. It’s a 20-foot-wide piece of farm equipment that is used to eliminate weeds in a farmer’s crop space through the power of robotics and lasers. It can eliminate 200,000 weeds per hour with an 80% cost savings in weed control! The founder uses Artificial Intelligence (AI) to program the machine to recognize the weeds and kill them. Amazing!

We as Americans have the freedom to think about ideas, like the LaserWeeder, to discover and create new solutions for problems we all can relate too. Eliminating weeds is a great example. Unfortunately, in America, we have allowed our government to have a bigger role in our lives and we risk losing the freedom to think for ourselves, innovate, and dream of new ways to improve our lives. Know your freedoms and rights, and as we celebrate our Independence Day this month remember that in America our fight for freedom is an ongoing battle, so roll up your sleeves and celebrate the greatest day in our history, Independence Day!

This month’s cover profile is Julianne Hansen, an artist who loves to share her work, ideas, and the importance of art in the world. Julianne is the owner of Julianne Hansen Fine Art & Pottery, an art studio located in Historic Downtown Prattville at 173 W. Main Street. She is also the creator of the Alabama Poppy Project, which is a tribute to deceased loved ones who served in our military. She has a great story to share, and I know you’ll enjoy it, please share with friends and family!

We have plenty other good reads this month on how to plan a summer trip with your grandchild, or how about how to get along with the other grandparents…we’ve all been in that place! One of our writers had a firsthand experience with dementia when her husband was diagnosed and she wrote a book about it, and she thinks it’s time to change the conversation around dementia. Our dear friend Greg Budell has discovered the need to get dumb when it comes to our phones, he may be on to something. Finally, Jeff Barganier ask us to run his feature from last July because he is a patriot and has deep concerns about the direction that our country is heading. I agree with some of his concerns, and we all need to be prepared to participate in our democracy when called upon.

There’s plenty more to read and share with your friends but don’t forget to try to complete the BOOM! Word Search for a chance to win $50 BOOM Bucks! Congratulations to Danetta Parker, June’s winner!

Thanks for sharing BOOM! with friends and family, I appreciate it.

Age well my friends. Celebrate Freedom this July 4th!

The mission of BOOM! is to serve the folks of the River Region age 50 plus with information and ideas to inspire new experiences, better quality of life and new beginnings.

The Eyes Have It: Blepharoplasty FAQs

In last month’s article, Beauty and the Brows, we discussed the options available for brow rejuvenation. This month, we will explore the topic of upper eyelid surgery by answering some frequently asked questions about blepharoplasty (eyelid lift), a simple and low-risk in-office procedure with minimal downtime but impactful results. As they say, “The eyes are the window to the soul.” So why not make them look their best?

What happens to the eyelids as we age?

In short: loss of collagen and elastin in the eyelid skin. (Fun Fact: upper eyelid skin is the thinnest skin on the human body). The loss of structural integrity creates a redundant, heavy upper eyelid which contributes to a sad or tired look. NOTE: Heavy upper lid skin not only affects the attractiveness of the eyes, but also can cause vision impairment. Keep in mind, a droopy eyebrow may contribute to a heavy upper lid appearance and may also require attention. In addition to upper lid heaviness, mispositioned upper lid fat pads may create aesthetically displeasing contour irregularities which can also be addressed at the time of surgery.

What exactly does an eyelid lift (blepharoplasty) entail?

In the most basic sense, upper lid blepharoplasty involves the precise removal of redundant upper lid skin. More advanced techniques address removal or repositioning of eye fat. To many patients’ surprise, an upper lid

blepharoplasty can be easily performed in-office under local anesthesia with minimal discomfort. The procedure takes no longer than 1 hour to perform and has very little downtime with low risks of serious complications. Of course, some mild but temporary bruising and swelling is expected for the first 1-2 weeks. A word of caution: Do not let the straightforward nature of the procedure fool you, as a successful blepharoplasty requires precise measurements and meticulous surgical technique to ensure a satisfactory functional and aesthetic result.

At what age is upper blepharoplasty usually required? There is really no age requirement for upper blepharoplasty. For instance, some patients in their early 30’s and 40’s who suffer from congenitally redundant upper eyelid skin may benefit from a modest skin excision performed in the office setting. On the other hand, patients in their 50’s, 60’s, and 70’s with heavy upper lids and droopy brows often benefit from a combined upper lid blepharoplasty and a surgical browlift.

Does Insurance pay for upper lid blepharoplasty?

Insurance often covers the procedure,

but only if the upper lid redundancy contributes to a problem with your vision. This visual deficit can be easily confirmed with a visual field test done by your local ophthalmologist (eye doctor) or optometrist. If the procedure is done for purely cosmetic reasons, you can expect to pay around $4000 out-of-pocket (varies depending on your surgeon’s associated anesthesia fees and facility costs). Just remember, when it comes to Facial Plastic Surgery, you certainly “get what you pay for.” It is your face, after all.

How can I learn more about blepharoplasty surgery?

If you are interested in learning more about upper eyelid surgery to correct a functional or aesthetic issue with your eyes, I suggest consulting with a surgeon experienced in a wide variety of both surgical and non-surgical facial plastic surgeryrelated procedures. This will ensure that you receive a thorough evaluation and comprehensive treatment plan.

As always, choose a surgeon whom you trust. There are few things more important than the relationship you have with your doctor.

In Good Health,

Dr. Blake Raggio Facial Plastic & Reconstructive Surgeon www.RaggioMD.com info@raggiomd.com

Upper lid Blepharoplasty and Lower lid Blepharoplasty

Attention Travelers Buy One, Get One Summer Promotion

It’s time to book your summer getaway with the Montgomery Regional Airport (MGM). Recently, the airport launched an incredible deal that allows you to experience the Washington, D.C., area with a steep discount.

MGM launched its Buy One, Get One summer promotional offer for travelers taking off from MGM and flying into Reagan National Airport (DCA) in Washington, D.C. Travelers will be reimbursed for a round-trip ticket, and MGM will take care of the parking fees. The promotion is valid on round-trip travel from MGM to DCA through September 30, 2023.

“It’s a great time to visit Washington, D.C. and see first-hand how easy it is to fly from Montgomery Regional Airport; choose the faster and easier way to fly!” said Wade A. Davis, MGM’s Executive Director. “The limited-time BOGO opportunity to explore Washington, D.C. is an excellent chance to fly local and save.”

Currently, MGM offers a nonstop from MGM to DCA operated by American Airlines. To take advantage of the promotion, purchase your ticket by visiting American Airlines at www.aa.com.

Once your purchase is completed, submit your proof of travel documentation to promotions@flymgm.com. MGM will also launch a bonus gift card offer for Delta Airlines passengers in the coming weeks. Things to Do in Washington, D.C.

From exploring the nation’s capital on a double-decker tour bus, from concerts and multi-course dinners to paddling on the Potomac and Anacostia rivers, D.C. has so much to offer. Tell us on Facebook at @ FLYMGM how you plan to discover your summer in D.C.

*Ticket purchases or travel completed before May 31, 2023, are excluded from this promotion, and reimbursement will only be made to the person identified as the purchaser of the tickets. To qualify, customers must submit legibly scanned or photographed proof of purchase to promotions@ flymgm.com. Visit https://flymgm.com/summer-

deals/ for additional rules and information.

Montgomery Regional Airport offers non-stop flights to Atlanta, Georgia (ATL); Charlotte, North Carolina (CLT); Dallas, Texas (DFW), and Washington, D.C. (DCA). MGM currently serves the region with daily flights by American and Delta Airlines. For more information on the airport, visit flymgm.com

FLIGHT NIGHT!

July 13, You are invited to join us at Common Bond Brewers on Thursday, July 13 from 6-8 p.m. for our summer #FlightNight. We'll be passing out MGM swag and one winner will have a chance to win two roundtrip tickets to visit Washington, D.C. on American Airlines! Experience D.C. this summer and leave with lifelong memories. #FlyMGM to nonstop fun!

By Robert W. Goldfarb

Changing My Course As I Grow Older

Whether steering myself through life, or riding along currents created by others, at 93, I realize age is now at the helm The deeper I move into old age, the more I realize how much of my life was spent hurrying to a destination chosen for me by others.

I see now how little voice I had in where I was to go or how I would get there. It was as though I had been plunged into a stream whose force and direction were determined at first by my parents, then by teachers, by friends who chose the games we played, Army sergeants, professors, bosses and the demands of raising a family.

At times I would tentatively touch the wheel to steer to a high school outside my district, for example, or to one branch of military service rather than another. My primary role, however, was to sit quietly and not capsize the boat I was on.

The time came when those who captained the boat allowed me to do some of the navigating. I turned into ports where I would go to college, find a job, marry and raise a family. But I made these course corrections knowing they would earn either a smile or frown from those who had mapped my journey. It was unlikely I would turn too sharply from the path they had set for me.

I'm now 93 and alone on the boat. My wife of nearly 70 years died suddenly

and unexpectedly. Throughout our years together, Muriel's hand touched mine as we guided our boat into harbors that offered promise. Her hand was no longer on the wheel with mine. For the first time in my life, I had to choose where I wanted to go and how I would get there. My children, grandchildren and close friends surround me with love and do their best to ease my journey. Their heartfelt kindness is bestowed with their suggestions that I avoid risk. They ask, for example, if it's wise for me to drive at night or continue running the three and five-mile races I enter. I'm touched by their concern and am aware that at my age the slightest injury could be catastrophic.

But I'm also aware of a different risk, finding myself becalmed in a pond whose still waters are surrounded by ports I don't want to enter.

I'm no longer being swept along a current powered at first by my parents and bosses and later by Muriel and me. Instead, I now feel the timid pull of old age slowly taking me where it wants me to go.

Navigating My Journey Alone

I'm grateful for the concern those I love have for me, but my journey through these final years is one I intend to navigate alone. Muriel often said I enjoyed opening windows within myself searching for qualities I had never explored. She said our shared eagerness to discover new possibilities heightened the excitement of our marriage. It's that excitement I want to recapture, the thrill of a rushing current, this time taking me to a destination I must choose.

Is it possible, at 93, to navigate that journey with excitement, perhaps even with passion? Muriel said that through the years, our marriage had also become a passionate friendship. She would expect the blaze of that passion to light my voyage.

I know she's alongside me on this journey that will take me where she would want us to go. She would not settle for paddling through a listless pond deemed safe for those in older age. She would want me to feel her hand on the wheel beside mine, turning into streams where adventure glowed.

Robert W. Goldfarb served as founder and president of Urban Directions, Inc. (UDI). He closed UDI in 2021 to concentrate on writing and serving as a volunteer mentor to aspiring entrepreneurs. His articles have appeared in The New York Times, The San Francisco Chronicle and elsewhere. His book, "What's Stopping Me From Getting Ahead" was published by McGraw-Hill.

Source: www.nextavenue.org

"I now feel the timid pull of old age slowly taking me where it wants me to go."

Credit: Photo by Clay Banks

Central Alabama Aging Consortium (CAAC), Connecting You To Services

CAAC coordinates services for the elderly and disabled populations and their caregivers in Autauga, Elmore, & Montgomery counties. The primary goal is to develop, coordinate, and provide services in the community that supports an active and independent lifestyle where those we serve can live and thrive. CENTRAL ALABAMA AGING CONSORTIUM (CAAC) is a part of a state-wide aging network that provides a variety of Home and Community based services to the region’s senior and disabled populations and their caregivers. CAAC coordinates services for these targeted populations in Autauga, Elmore, and Montgomery counties. The primary goal is to develop, coordinate, and support services in the community that promote an active and independent lifestyle where those we serve can live and thrive. CAAC is designated by the Alabama Department of Senior Services, the state unit on aging, as the Area Agency on Aging for the tri-county region and recognized by local governments, state agencies, and service providers as the lead aging organization of the Central Alabama area. The Consortium works with public agencies and private businesses to provide a full range of health, education and social services for older citizens and those with disabilities. Our goal is to foster independence and improve the quality of life for all senior citizens and their caregivers. For Your Free Phone Screening Call: (334) 240-4670 or toll free (800) 264-4680 or visit https://centralalabamaaging.org/

By Nick Thomas

A Berry Good Summer Breakfast Smoothie

Inventing the aircraft ejector seat would have been rather irresponsible before the parachute was developed. Likewise, the ability to prepare smoothies at home had to wait until the 1930s after the electric blender became widely available, although the term smoothie didn’t become part of the common culinary vocabulary until the 1980s.

The best feature of smoothies is that you don’t require the cooking skills of Julia Child to whip up a delicious breakfast. They can provide a nutritious start to your day by just tossing all the ingredients into a blender and, well, blending. Even I can do that.

There are hundreds of smoothie recipes online, often incorporating enough ice to reverse global warming. I omit the ice during blending – I have to contend with brain freeze most of the day, so why start the morning with my head already frozen numb?

Popular recipes these days also contain quantities of leafy greens that would send Popeye into a chlorophyll coma. Nope. I’ll eat my rabbit food as nature intended – in a salad accompanying my lunchtime pizza.

So I’ve concocted a smoothie blend that I like to prepare a couple of mornings a week. Is it the healthiest smoothie out there? No, but it is probably more nutritious than waffles drowned in melted butter and syrup, jelly-oozing donuts, or most breakfast cereals loaded with enough sugar to burn a cavity into cement.

Basically, it’s a mixture of fresh berries (strawberries, raspberries, blackberries,

blueberries) together with some banana, peaches, and fresh orange juice all blended with milk, cream, coconut water, vanilla, honey, a little brown sugar, chocolate protein powder, yogurt, and some avocado.

Yes, avocado, but you won’t see or taste it (and if you must, you can still add handfuls of kale if you’re determined to create a bilious green smoothie).

I also like to strain out the tiny berry seeds by blending them first with some of the milk and passing through a sieve, pushing with the back of a spoon to extract all the fiber and flavor, then returning to the blender with the other ingredients. It takes a few extra minutes, but you won’t be excavating seeds from your teeth for a week.

I include a little protein powder, too, just to provide a hint of grittiness to the texture. But not too much. I’ve had smoothies with so much protein powder they feel like you’re drinking a suspension of sand. Remember, it’s supposed to be a smoothie!

The milk can be any type, including

almond milk, but I prefer full cream milk and you can adjust the quantity to make the smoothie more or less thicker. The whipping cream and yogurt are certainly decadent but impart a richer consistency to the final product. And if you like your smoothies sweeter, add more honey.

And finally, yes, smoothies should be cold. So add some ice cubes to the glass at the end. But blend them in if you like and it might (just) stretch out to two servings. The ingredient list with quantities is shown below, but these can all obviously be adjusted to your own taste. While the predominant flavor is berry, the other ingredients blend well for a delicious and filling breakfast to see you through until it’s time for that pizza at lunch.

Ingredients

½ cup strawberries

½ cup raspberries

¼ cup blackberries

¼ cup blueberries

½ small banana

½ cup peaches

½ small avocado

Juice of small orange

½ to ¾ cup milk

¼ cup whipping cream

¼ cup coconut water

½ teaspoon vanilla

1-2 tablespoons honey

1 teaspoon brown sugar

1 scoop chocolate protein powder

½ cup yogurt (vanilla or berry flavored)

Nick Thomas teaches at Auburn University at Montgomery in Alabama, and has written features, columns, and interviews for many newspapers and magazines. See www.getnickt.org

Damn Delicious

Grilled Honey Mustard Chicken Tenders

The most juicy, tender chicken with the easiest marinade. Dijon, honey, olive oil, rosemary, lemon. THE BEST EVER.

Ingredients:

¼ cup coarse ground Dijon mustard

½ shallot, diced

3 tablespoons honey

2 tablespoons olive oil

2 tablespoons chopped fresh rosemary

1 tablespoon freshly squeezed lemon juice

Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper. to taste

1 ½ pounds chicken tenderloins

1 tablespoon canola oil

Instructions:

1. DIJON MIXTURE: In a medium bowl, whisk together Dijon, shallot, honey, olive oil, rosemary, lemon juice, 1 teaspoon salt and 1/2 teaspoon pepper; set aside 1/2 of the mixture in the refrigerator until ready to serve.

2. In a gallon size Ziploc bag or large bowl, combine chicken and DIJON MIXTURE; marinate for at least 2 hours to overnight, up to 8 hours, turning the bag occasionally. Drain the chicken from the marinade.

3. Preheat grill to medium heat.

4. Brush chicken with canola oil; season with salt and pepper, to taste. Add chicken to grill, and cook, turning occasionally, until chicken is completely cooked through, reaching an internal temperature of 165 degrees F, about 8 minutes.

5. Brush with reserved Dijon mixture, cooking for an additional 1-2 minutes.

6. Serve immediately.

Source: https://damndelicious.net/2019/09/09/grilled-honeymustard-chicken-tenders/

Summer Sizzle Comes to ASF

Kander & Ebb's Cabaret heats up the Festival Stage July 6 – August 6

One of the most famous American musicals of all time — from the creators of Chicago — Cabaret takes us to 1929 Berlin during the twilight of the Jazz Age as the Nazis are ascending to power. This groundbreaking musical focuses on the nightlife at the seedy Kit Kat Klub and revolves around American writer Clifford Bradshaw and the English cabaret performer Sally Bowles. Based on the writings of Christopher Isherwood and winner of Tony Awards and Oscars, Cabaret will offer our audiences a transformative theatrical experience unlike anything they’ve ever witnessed. JUL. 6–AUG. 6, 2023. Festival Stage, Recommended Ages 17+ To order tickets visit www.asf.net

Note: This play contains strong language and mature themes

By Myrna Marofsky

Let's Change The Conversation Around Dementia

Words of understanding allow those with dementia to be respected for who they were, who they are and who they can still be.

I call it "tragedy talk." I heard much of it after my husband Larry received his dementia diagnosis. It began at the first meeting with our memory team — a doctor, social worker and occupational therapist delivered a generic owner's manual about dementia.

It talked of continued decline and need for care and ended with a bunch of pamphlets and items creating an ominous To Do list. Seated around the table was my family, hoping to receive some guidance for going forward in a world that was rocked off its course.

Sitting right in the middle was Larry, who now had become a specimen. We had medical facts, many we didn't need to know then. We didn't have words of encouragement about what was still possible, even with some adjustments.

There were no suggestions there could still be good times while knowing there would be many hard ones. They had no idea who we were, our life, or how our heart was breaking. They didn't know because they didn't ask.

Words Are Powerful

Even the AMA (American Medical Association) agrees that the "tragedy discourse" surrounding dementia directly harms the impact of the disease "above and beyond the pathology." Not only does this negativity stigmatize those with dementia, making them feel less than others, but it also causes care partners to feel hopeless.

To the broader community, dementia is a crisis. Dementia is not only a disease of the brain but one of the heart. Yet heartfelt words of empathy, love and hope are missing from our conversations. Words are powerful. They cannot alter the reality around dementia but transform how we accept and live through it.

Changing my words and conversations changed my attitude from watching myself lose things to embracing what I still had.

It was how I maintained Larry's autonomy, kept our loving relationship and survived. When we reframe what we hear and help others do the same, we can change the conversations around and about dementia.

For example, think about the words "He can't," which leads to "We can't," which leads to "life is over as we knew it." Let's look at this differently. "Are there conditions where he could?" "What are the chances that things can go right?" "Let's try it." This shift in perspective allows for possibilities rather than

triggering emotions of defeat.

Larry had things he could do which made him feel valued. A simple rephrase avoids assumptions and looks at "capabilities," a word seldom heard in a dementia conversation. With this mind shift, the chances of having some good years, moments of pleasure or simply chances to see flowers bloom and watch the sunset together are within reach.

Daily Doses of Gratitude

Can you feel the dread implied in these catastrophic words "Dementia is the long goodbye?" Of course, there is loss after loss with all the associated grief, but if we constantly see through the lens of saying goodbye, no joy or memories will be made.

What if dementia is the process of finding daily doses of gratitude? Words filter how we see the world and how others interact with us. Consider the term "Dementiaism," a phrase coined in the UK to describe explicit or implicit bias of how a person with dementia is viewed.

It's easy to recognize. You hear it as "he will never know." You see it when someone with dementia becomes invisible to someone beside them. "Dementia-ism" could be a doctor who ascribes any medical question to the progression of dementia, even an ingrown toenail.

To eliminate this from our conversations requires more than a change in vocabulary. It requires intention.

Requesting that my husband be recognized and spoken to, asking

"Changing my words and conversations changed my attitude from watching myself lose things to embracing what I still had." | Credit: Getty

questions of the medical professionals that forced them to dig deeper, and never allowing anyone to trick him because he wouldn't know anyway took courage but was well worth it. It became, as Dr. Allen G. Power says, "a human rights issue."

Keeping our internal and external conversations from going negative prevents those thoughts from being contagious. At first, my friends heard only the heartache about our situation. Then they didn't know what to say back.

Finally, I learned to help them help me, not by painting a rosier-than-life picture but by thanking them for their thoughtfulness and turning the subject into a more enjoyable topics.

Consider changing the standard term "caregiving" to "care-living." Listen to the difference. Caregiving – heavy, burdensome, a job vs. "care-living" –hopeful, lighter, a choice. This change in perspective alone would help the thousands of care partners face each day with less dread and feel a little more in control of their destiny. Maybe they would create a "Ta Dah" list along with their long To Do list.

Maybe amidst what we call "interruptions," we could find "invitations" to interact lovingly, slow down and appreciate. Life circumstances can't be changed, but our words can. With transformative words that promote positive thinking, not audacious, but words of understanding with hints of hope, those with dementia will be respected for who they were, who they are and who they can still be.

For those on the other side of dementia, words can encourage strength and courage for the days ahead. Dementia doesn't have to be a tragedy unless we allow it to become one.

Myrna Marofsky is an entrepreneur, consultant, mother, and grandmother. Having previously written two business books, it was her husband's dementia diagnosis that led her down a new path that resulted in her writing a memoir called To The Last Dance, A Partner's Story of Living and Loving Through Dementia. She frequently speaks to audiences encouraging them to redefine "caregiving" to Care-Living.

Source: www.nextavenue.org

By Carol Morgan Milberger

How to Plan a Fun Summer Trip With Your Grandchild

I always thought a special bonding trip with each grandchild was a wonderful idea. Age ten is perfect, the ideal time while they still adore me, can endure travel delays but don't miss their friends too much.

Then COVID extended the timeline, and all of a sudden, I realized my oldest grandchild had turned eleven. She'll attend middle school soon, so if I'm to cement our bond while the magic of childhood is relatively intact, I needed to get moving. I developed a tentative trip, then asked for her parents' blessing.

Mandy (not her real name) was thrilled at the idea of visiting Washington, D.C. We'll tour the nation's capital, then spend time with my family in Maryland. Her eyes widened when I mentioned the Washington Monument and Lincoln Memorial. Mandy leaned forward and squeaked, "We studied the national monuments at school!"

Having a great time while traveling with children takes planning, awareness and communication. Consider the following tips to help produce a trip that is fun and rewarding for both generations.

Tips for a Successful Trip Planning is part of the fun. Set the travel date early. I was surprised at how much of her summer was already blocked off by March, and glad we found a time

that worked for both of us. Mandy immediately told her friends about the trip; clearly she was excited. I told her we'd start with the Hop-on Hop-off bus, since it would allow us to see the hot spots and spend time exploring what interests us most. This flexibility is perfect, since we can decide what we want to do while there.

Mandy and I got together to brainstorm questions and the top three things she wanted to do on the trip, then we reserved the flight together. I'll book a hotel, then wait a month or so before our next planning session.

Take individual desires into account. Working out, some downtime and morning coffee are important to me, whereas Mandy wants lots of pictures of monuments. I'm trying to take energy level, attention span and safety into account for both of us.

I'm a fan of lists, and will rely on our top three to five things when planning and traveling. This will help me remember that pictures are among her top three desires, so I'll remain patient while she strives for ten perfect Reflecting Pool photos.

I might even list what I want to avoid. I'm not a fan of long lines, so I'll plan outings to avoid crowds. If my plans don't work, we might pass the Smithsonian line and return later in the day. We'll take Mandy's dislikes into account as well. The dislikes conversation can branch into a discussion of concerns, which is also a great conversation to have.

Make lists. I'll create a packing list with Mandy. It's easy to mark items off as they go into the suitcase, and this will ensure we take everything we need. When I mentioned ponchos as a great summer option, none of my grandchildren knew what I was talking about. We marched down the hall to the utility closet where I unfolded a lightweight orange poncho.

The younger two loved it, but Mandy said she'd rather carry an umbrella. (I'll pack an extra poncho but keep in mind she is old enough to select fashion over getting wet.)

Here are some tips to help prepare for a seamless — and entertaining — travel experience for both generations

Having a great time while traveling with children takes planning, awareness and communication.

Credit: Grant Czerwinski

Discuss limits. I'll find out what parental rules regarding electronics (screen time, social media, texts, calls) will be in place during our trip. I told Mandy that D.C. is different than our small town, so we'll need to stay together while traveling. I asked her to gather friends' addresses so she can send postcards. Mandy says she knows about postcards, but I imagine addressing one will lead to a wide-eyed conversation about how we did things "in the old days." I'll ask her to pack downtime activities like reading, drawing or journaling to engage her while flying or in the evenings.

Attend to siblings. Mandy's siblings will be disappointed when they discover they're missing a trip and airplane ride, so we are trying to soften the blow. Of course, I'll take each sibling on a fun trip when they turn ten or eleven. Mandy and I hold our planning sessions while the siblings are busy with other activities. Mandy's parents will take the siblings on an outing while we are gone and Mandy will return with a fun gift for each of them.

Be prepared. Make sure you know about allergies and medication for your grandchild. TSA doesn't require identification for children under 18, but suggests checking with individual airlines. Keep in mind that if you are flying with a child that looks 18 (or age your airline considers as "adult"), you might need to prove their age, so it is a good idea to have legal ID or a birth certificate on hand. I plan to carry a signed medical release form so I don't have to wait for parental permission in case of emergency.

Have Fun. I hope to pack in as many treats, views and experiences as possible. My goal is to say "yes" to every one of her requests, without running out of time, money or energy. Who knows, I may end up with a lifelong travel companion!

Strengthening Our Relationship

In addition to fun, I consider this trip (as well as other methods of reaching out and connecting) to be mental health insurance. The teen years can be extremely tough. When, sometime in the future, Mandy feels lonely, excluded or unworthy, I hope she'll remember that no matter what, her grandparents love her.

While her grandfather won't join us on this trip, she can count on him to make silly faces, tell ridiculous Dad jokes, and be incredibly patient and kind. I'll always listen, cook healthy meals, and spend time with them. All these actions translate to love, something grandparents excel at.

Carol Morgan Milberger, Ph.D., is a retired psychologist who enjoys writing about various topics, including health, parenting, work, family, aging, and resilience.

Source: www.nextavenue.org

Thanks for Reading BOOM!

The author and her granddaughter Credit: Courtesy of Carol Milberger

By Elizabeth Fishel

How to Get Along With the Other Set of Grandparents

It's a grandparenting dilemma — how to share time, attention and defuse hot-button issues

It's often said that when a couple marries, there are four ghosts dancing around the marriage bed: his mother and father and her mother and father.

When a baby is born to the new couple, those four presences may grow all the more insistent. Now they're grandparents, and most of the time, they want to be equally involved with the new family — visiting, babysitting, celebrating holidays, and so on.

True, sometimes one set of grandparents may not want to participate, or they're preoccupied with their other grandchildren, or live too far away and don't travel, or aren't in good health. But when both sets of grandparents want to be hands-on, that's when stresses can show up.

Bringing It Home

We had some uncertainty ourselves when expecting our long-awaited first grandchild two years ago. Our son and daughter-inlaw, the new parents, lived a short distance away, and the other grandparents lived on the opposite coast. Thrilled to step into our new role, we dreamed our proximity would mean uncomplicated access to this precious new family member.

But a month before our granddaughter was born, imagine our surprise when we learned that the other grandparents were moving across the country to be near the new family themselves. We'd already become fast friends with the in-laws during the early years of our grown children's marriage and shared many good times together. Now we'd have to share our treasure, the first grandchild on both sides. How would this work out?

As things turned out, very amicably. Each

set of grandparents provides the help, attention and love that they can. And the other grandma and I spend happy hours checking in with each other about our granddaughter's every move. Who else has the patience to talk endlessly about baby minutiae: whether she's sleeping through the night, starting solid foods, or saying her first words? We're in love with the same girl, and she's able to love us both.

To Each Set According to Their Ability "Grandkids have room in their hearts for secure attachments to all their grandparents," says Dr. Rachel Ritvo, a child psychiatrist in Kensington, Maryland and retired Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at George Washington University. "The idea of the nuclear family is an aberration," she adds.

In many cultures around the world, grandparents live with their adult children and grandchildren, thus making hands-on help available daily, and both sets often contribute to childcare. Jews are one of the only cultures that even have a name for a grandchild's other grandparents, mehutanim in Hebrew, or in Yiddish, mehutan, suggesting the importance of the in-law relationship.

As the involved grandmother to four grandkids, ages four to thirteen, Ritvo sees how grandparents' many hands go far to lighten the child-raising load. She suggests that family elders ask themselves, "What are the routines and tasks that each set of grandparents can provide that fits into the

puzzle of raising children?"

Maybe one pair of grandparents lives close by and can help with school pick-ups, after-school care, and backup if one of the grandkids is sick. But the other pair, who lives farther away, can offer to move in for a short stint when a new baby arrives to help cook and offer care, or later on, when the parents need a getaway. To each set of grandparents according to their ability: the new family has plenty of needs to go around.

4 Ways to Defuse the Hot-Button Issues

Here are four other tips to ease some potential hot-button issues with the other set of grandparents in your family, according to Jane Isay, author of "Unconditional Love: A Guide to the Joys and Challenges of Being A Grandparent Today."

1. You're All On the Same Team

"The relationship with the other grandparents can be very much like sibling rivalry," says Isay. From the time a new baby is born, the two sets of grandparents may be quietly competing for time. Who's going to be the first to visit in the hospital, hold the newborn, watch the baby while the parents go out?

"At first you'll be logging who gets more minutes with the baby as if keeping track on a Fitbit," laughs Isay. "But eventually, you'll stop competing and realize that the more people who love the baby, the better."

There's one caveat, adds Isay, the mother of two sons: Mothers-in-law need to tread carefully at first. When a new family is forming, "The matrilineal line, mother and daughter, is more powerful than the mother-and-son connection," Isay points out. The mom of the new baby is generally "the Decider," and if she wants her own mother around to help her, so be it. If you're the father's parents, know that giving the new mother and her mother a special chance to bond can only be good for the new family as a whole.

2. Live and Let Live

Naturally, you'll be more in tune with the grandparents whose style you share. But what if the other grandparents' style is jarringly different from yours — they feed the grandkids nothing but hamburgers, and you're a vegetarian, for instance, or they're disciplinarians and you believe in talking it out.

Do your best to keep criticism to yourself, advises Isay. "The other grandparents are as old as you are, and you're not going to change them," she says about what she's learned from her own extended family with four teen-age grandkids. "It's not necessary to be best friends with your in-laws. Take your ego out of it, and then you can see their strengths." And don't grouse to your children on the subject. "If the other grandparents get on your nerves, call your best friend and tell her about it."

3. Keep Holidays Conflict-Free

"I thought maybe once she died, I'd get Christmas," says a disgruntled grandmother when she hears the other grandparent is out of the picture in Lynn Steger Strong's new novel of domestic drama, "Flight."

Yes, holidays can become a tug-of-war between both sides of a new family, but let your grown kids handle the plans and figure out how best to fairly and joyfully celebrate.

"Thank God for the two nights of Rosh Hashanah," says Isay about the Jewish New Year. In her family, each side gets one of the nights to host a family dinner with plenty of apples and honey to go around.

Other families divide Christmas Eve and the day itself, celebrate different nights of Hannukah or Kwanzaa, alternate taking charge of Thanksgiving and Christmas, include both sets of grandparents in the holidays, or find a different day to celebrate separately. Christmas in July, anyone?

4. Stay Close If You're the Distant Grandparent

Children live in the moment, Isay points out, and they don't experience time and space the way adults do. She tells a "paradigm story" about a little girl she met who has one set of grandparents down the street and the other, 3000 miles away, in Los Angeles.

When Isay asked whom she was closer to, the child was perplexed. Sure, she goes after school every day to the nearby grandparents, she said, but with the other grandparents, she goes to Disneyland. Her conclusion: "I love all my grandparents." Other ways to create bridges with faraway grandchildren: Lure the distant family to visit you or visit them as time and money allow; meet up for a multi-generation family vacation; take each grandchild on a special trip — and of course, screens! FaceTime saved a lot of far apart families during the pandemic and remains a wonderful distance-bridger. On Zoom, an out-of-town grandparent can read a story, play a game or help with math homework. "I want access whenever I can, because my immortality is in the memories that my grandchildren have of me," concludes Isay, "My job is to love them and give them these positive memories." And her final word: "We have our hand on a link of history. Don't break the chain!"

Elizabeth Fishel is the author of five nonfiction books including Sisters and Getting To 30: A Parent’s Guide to the 20-Something Years (with Jeffrey Arnett). She has contributed to numerous magazines including Vogue, Ms., New York, The Writer, and Oprah's O. She has written for Next Avenue since 2014. Source: www.nextavenue.org

By Jenny Wisniewski

Flock to These

Feather-Friendly Destinations

If you are a birder, you won't want to miss these North American hot spots

Jeff Bentoff is just one person among two million Americans who started birding during the pandemic. It began with Facebook. The Milwaukee, Wisconsin, resident began to notice photographs popping up of colorful birds taken by friends and neighbors.

"I realized that there were all of these amazing, colorful birds all around me ... I didn't know they were here, so it really piqued my interest. It made me wonder what am I missing," Bentoff said.

Bentoff bought himself a pair of binoculars and decided to join a neighbor on a jaunt to their neighborhood park. A blackthroated gray warbler, unusual in the area, had been spotted, and news had spread through the local birders' network. Bentoff knew they were hot on the warbler's trail when they came upon a gathering of people, including several photographers poised with their signature long lenses.

Since then, Bentoff has invested in a camera specifically for birding, downloaded several helpful apps (like the Merlin app that will identify a bird based on a bird call), and connected with several walking groups for birders.

He compares birding to learning a

language or a musical instrument. His goal is to gain more knowledge through practice.

"I want to know what's happening around me in the natural environment. To me, that's really exciting," Bentoff said.

With travel back in full swing, birders like Bentoff have taken to the skies. If considering a birding trip of your own — or visiting a special spot where you can enjoy a variety of activities including birding — the following four destinations are certain to spark your interest.

The Gaspé Peninsula, Quebec

Those who love the energy of a crowd — of birds, that is — will love the Gaspé Peninsula's Bonaventure Island. One of the largest colonies of northern gannets in the world resides on this uninhabited isle during the summer months.

Begin your adventure at Percé wharf where you can pick up a ferry to the island. First, however, the captain will encircle another of the area's draws, Percé Rock. Measuring nearly five football fields in length, the rock is an iconic monolith. It rises out of the Gulf of St. Lawrence, just offshore from the charming village of Percé. The ferry ride will give you a chance to see this natural work of art up close and personal.

Next, it is on to nearby Bonaventure Island and a zoomed-out look at the northern gannets. Appearing cigar-shaped in flight, the birds have a long pointy beak on one end and jagged tail on the other. Their pearly white plumage starkly contrasts with the crisp blue of the Northern Atlantic sky and sea as well as the claycolored cliffs where they nest.

The ferry ride is a great opportunity to see the birds in action. Starting as high as 100 feet, they circle the waters looking for prey and then divebomb the water at a high rate of speed.

After arriving at the dock, take the 3.5mile colony trail for a look at the northern gannet outpost. You will know that you are close when you hear a cacophony of cawing birds. The wooded trail empties out into a wide-open area on the edge of the island, and it is here that tens of thousands of northern gannets nest.

They are as captivating to watch on land as they are in the air. Their cream-colored heads and blue eyes come into focus, while at the same time, their multitude blends into an alabaster blur. And as entertaining as their fishing technique, the birds engage in what looks like a sort of sword dance, mated pairs facing each other and scraping the edges of their long bills back and forth.

Feather Friendly Destinations: L-R: Bonaventure Island is home to one of the world's largest colonies of northern gannets. Tens of thousands of the dark gray juveniles and mature white adults migrate to the island every year. A toucan perches on a branch at Corcovado National Park in Costa Rica's Osa Peninsula. A brown pelican comes in for a landing at Gulf Shores. Credit: Photos by Jenny Wisniewski

Percé is located just south of the Gaspé Peninsula's tip, an eight-hour drive from Quebec City. If that seems like a long trek, know that the scenery on the way up the peninsula is as lovely as the birds.

Gulf Shores, Alabama

Alabama's Gulf Coast is the place to set your eyes on a myriad of species rather than a single colony. (Although you do stand a good chance of seeing northern gannets in Gulf Shores during the northern hemisphere's winter months.) To help pinpoint areas ripe for birders, The Alabama Coastal Birding Trail offers six loops of over 200 miles.

In fact, over 170 species of birds winter along the 53 miles of Alabama coastline, according to the Alabama Ornithological Society. Many others pass through the region as they travel the Mississippi Flyway.

In the spring, the beaches are a good spot to view permanent residents who nest on its sandy shores. This includes snowy plovers, least terns, black skimmers, American oystercatchers and Wilson's plovers.

You may also want to try your luck watching an aviary phenomenon in action on Dauphin Island, aptly named "America's Birdiest City" for three consecutive years by the National Audubon Society. The barrier island is a short ferry ride from the western tip of the Gulf Shores peninsula.

Called a "fallout," birds, like indigo bunting, fall from the sky following a particularly arduous journey from Mexico across the gulf. Adverse weather conditions require great effort from the birds to the point that they fall out of the sky from pure exhaustion.

However, it is the shorebirds that most enthrall Alabama's visitors. To really get a good vantage point of Alabama's finest in their natural habitats, get off the well-trodden birders' path and kayak the waterways instead.

Wild Native Tours offers half-day kayak

trips through Oyster Bay, the Intracoastal Waterway and Bon Secour Bay and River. Not only will you see brown pelicans, blue herons, great egrets, cormorants, ospreys and belted kingfishers, you will learn about their habits and other fun facts from owner and guide Kristian Aboud. In addition to the birds, you also stand a good chance of kayaking alongside a pod of dolphins.

Pinnacles National Park in Central California

Pinnacles National Park sits quietly in the shadows of Sequoia and Kings Canyon National Parks (145 miles west) and Yosemite National Park (130 miles northwest). All the better for the California Condor that frequents its canyons and the tourists who don't need to fight the crowds when coming to see them.

California condors are the largest land birds in North America with a wingspan of more than nine feet and a weight typically reaching 20 pounds. Their longevity is hefty, too; California condors, an endangered species, live over 60 years. Seeing them in their natural environment is a treat, and Pinnacles offers one of your best bets for doing so.

If you don't mind a bit of an adventure, getting to Pinnacles is fun, too. The park has two entrances, neither road connected to the other. To reach the western entrance requires a seven-mile drive down a remote, winding road that narrows to one lane. To reach the Visitors' Center or campground, enter from the east.

Each side of the park offers a hiking trail that will take you past the spires that Pinnacles is named for and to a group of talus caves, one of its finest features (aside from the California condor). Hiking through the caves is a bit like hiking through slot canyons: dark, extremely narrow with some mild climbing required. The caves have formed over time as boulders have fallen from cliffs forming a giant pile of rubble.

If you take the western route out of the park following a day of hiking and

searching for California condors, consider a stop at Chalone Wineries for a rest and a glass of their signature Chardonnay while sitting amidst the stark beauty of the Gabilan Mountains. The drive is mere minutes from the park's boundary.

Costa Rica's Oca Peninsula

In the southwestern corner of Costa Rica lies the remote Osa Peninsula, once an island in the Pacific. A mere 700 square miles, it houses 2.5% of the world's biodiversity including over 460 species of birds. An array of 16 species of hummingbirds are among them.

However, the scarlet macaw is, by far, the peninsula's biggest showstopper. In fact, the Osa Peninsula is the site of Central America's largest population of this colorful bird. Their loud, distinctive crooning often alerts visitors to their presence long before their bright ruby red feathers come into view. In addition to their namesake color, they also boast canary yellow and bright blue on their wings.

The bird's size gives them away as well. The largest parrots in the world, the scarlet macaw can measure up to 33 inches from beak to tail. In addition to scarlet macaws, guests stand a good chance of catching sight of cotingas, pelicans, cormorants, boobies, antbirds, Amazon parrots and toucans.

A great place for a guided hike is Corcovado National Park. Keeping an ear tipped to the treetops, the guides quickly throw down their tripods equipped with high-resolution magnifying lenses when they spot a bird of interest.

In addition to the birds, you will likely see two and three-toed sloths and spider, capuchin, titi and howler monkeys. Be sure to adjust your gaze to ground level from time to time. You stand a good chance of seeing tapirs, wild peccaries, coati and more.

Jenny Wisniewski is a freelance writer based in Milwaukee. She writes about elder care, the environment and travel. More of her work can be found at jennywisniewski.com and on LinkedIn. Source www.nextavenue.org

GROWING UP IN RURAL SOUTH ALABAMA

Growing up in rural South Alabama provided wonderful life lessons on the origin of the food we ate. Each summer my parents planted the large garden area next to our house and produced the most wonderful black-eyed peas, lima beans, okra, corn, and of course the best tomatoes ever! My parents made this process to appear effortless, plow the soil, plant the seeds, or plant then harvest as each matured, although, I am sure plenty of seven dust was used to prevent insects. During the peak of the growing season, we picked and shelled peas and beans, cleaned the corn to scrape off the cob and freeze for the winter months and canned any excess tomatoes that my dad did not consume.

Our area had fruit trees: Bartlett pears, blueberry trees, pecan trees, figs, Muscadine, and grape vines which were all canned or frozen but also made into delicious pies when fresh. We never thought of the need to spray the pecan trees nor to fertilize to make a bumper crop of pecans.

Fast forward 25 years, the garden has been dormant for all these years and my son decides that he would like to try his hand at truck farming using sustainable farming methods. His degree from Auburn was not in horticulture, which would have been helpful in this venture, but he did take advantage of classes and workshops offered by the Auburn extension service. In addition, he "followed" small farmers in various parts of the country who were

successful and had a profitable business. He tried various crops, did not stick with the peas and beans of my childhood and with each different planting he attracted new nonbeneficial insects which ate his crop. After a few years of trying to grow enough produce to sell, he gave up, and went back to school. He felt the lack of organic matter in the soil and the poor pH would take longer to overcome than he could afford.

Having retired last summer, I now want to grow vegetables in my back yard as well as reintroduce the native fruit trees to my old home place, The closures during COVID reinforced the fact that being able to grow your own fruits and vegetables was critically important.

I planted seeds in raised beds last fall but the seeds I planted never broke the surface of the potting soil/compost mixture. In the Master Gardner program, I hoped to acquire the knowledge needed to be able to grow the nutrient dense foods that we need to be healthy, to be able to select the native scrubs and flowers for my yard which will attract beneficial insects and birds. In the modules we have covered about

plant botany and insects, I understand the difficulty of growing and hope with my newly acquired knowledge plus trial and error that I have been searching for at the farmer's market in the last several years.

Once again, we have been fertilizing the old pecan trees at my old home place hoping to make them once again produce the large crop of fully filled out pecans which have not produced for about 25 years. We have made a bit of progress and have produced pecans; but continue to have worms and black unfilled pecans which we are continuing to work on these trees but may need more expert help to get these incredibly old trees producing.

Education is key to being able to grow any crop. Schools should offer more in-class instruction so that our next generation understands the difficulty of food production and that it does not just show up at their grocery store. Having grown up in a rural area, I knew the work and trials that farmers endured to grow their crops and have the utmost respect for them as a profession.

Sheilia Munday, an intern in the 2023 Master Gardener Class, lives in Montgomery. For more information on becoming a master gardener, visit www.capcitymag.org or email capcitymag@gmail.com

AUM OLLI Looks Ahead to the 2023 Fall Term

AUM OLLI completed the 2022 – 2023 term with its June mini-term. The year was successful with the addition of new members, some new instructors, and some new courses. The plans for the coming year are already in development.

The schedule for the 2023 Fall Term is complete. The catalog has been proofread and sent into the printing process. The final version should appear online and in mailboxes within the next few weeks. Registration for current members begins August 25 and for new members on August 29. August 29, from 10:00 a.m. – Noon, is the Fall Open House, at which individuals can meet and talk with instructors and ask questions about courses in which they might like to register.

AUM OLLI will continue to offer courses in the three categories that make up the schedule each term – study/discussion, active, and hands-on (do-it-yourself). The fall schedule contains many of the popular courses from previous

terms. The course on the Far East has been updated to contain discussions of recent developments, and the study of architectural masterpieces moves into the next section. Active courses in the fall schedule include the two Tai Chi courses – one for pain relief and an introduction to Tai Chi (this latter one meets twice a week). Available hands-on classes are zentangle, memoir writing, and jewelry making. The art course that meets at the Montgomery Museum of Fine Arts will meet at the Museum at its regular time. The popular Brain Bowl, which is again in the schedule, might count as study/ discussion or hands-on or perhaps even active.

The schedule features some returning courses and some new courses. After an absence of several years, returning courses will include gardening and pickleball (which will meet at the AUM Wellness Center). In response to numerous requests, two new computer courses are being offered, one on electronic fraud

(recognizing and preventing it) and an introduction to Microsoft. Other new courses include a theatre appreciation course and an introduction to football.

The fall schedule also includes a rich variety of bonus opportunities, lunch presentations, and field trips. These are described in detail in the forthcoming catalog.

Go to the AUM OLLI website (www.aum. edu/OLLI) after the middle of July to see the fall catalog when it is posted. It will contain the schedule and detailed course descriptions as well as the bonus opportunities, lunch presentations, and field trips. Registration opens in the latter part of August.

Secure Borders - Honest Elections

Editor's Note: Jeff reasons we have lost our American Republic given the fact that U.S. troops are defending every border in the world except the United States border. Michael Yon, former special operations soldier and international war correspondent, believes communist Chinese special forces are entering the U.S. via our southern border. Jeff requested we run this feature from the July 2022 issue again for this 4th of July issue. He urges readers to pray God will deliver America from utter destruction at the hands of enemies foreign and domestic.

About forty-seven years ago as a US Army Reservist, I was assigned to the 322nd Military History Detachment. This unique unit was attached to the 101st Airborne Division at Fort Campbell, Kentucky. Our job was to write a history of the 101st in Vietnam. My CO, Major McKenzie, told me years later that our work (mostly his work) was archived at Fort Campbell’s Don F. Pratt Museum. During a writing assignment to nearby Clarksville, Tennessee, I was allowed on post to visit the museum in search of this historical manuscript.

To my chagrin, I found the road leading to Fort Campbell’s gate littered with tattoo shops, massage parlors, pawn shops, check cashing stores, title loan stores, beer joints, and “adult” novelty shops. I have always believed the presence of some such establishments, anywhere really, poses a national security threat. But perhaps this threat is especially keen near military installations. In my view, the proximity of prurient businesses to American Soldiers besmirches the honorable, heroic mission our servicemen and women face. Our warfighters deserve better. In fact, they deserve the absolute best. Not the crumbs. And certainly not the current incompetent civilian leadership in whose hands the

American people have placed their destiny.

The curator of the museum was out, so I was unable to locate the document. But before departing, my escort treated me to a tour of the post. There were few soldiers present because the 101st was in the field training. I learned later, according to a Pentagon announcement, that elements of the 101st Airborne Division (Air Assault) had been ordered to deploy to Europe. Headquarters, 101st Airborne Division and the 2nd Brigade Combat Team have been notified to begin movement to Europe as soon as this summer. By the time you read this, the 101st may already be in Eastern Europe. The deploying units will join V Corps in support of the US commitment to Europe and NATO Allies as part of the ongoing response to the invasion

of Ukraine. Following the disastrous withdrawal from Afghanistan, whoever’s actually running the Biden Administration wants new wars. So, we pivot to Ukraine and Somalia.

As Major General JP McGee, Commanding General of the 101st Airborne Division explained, “Over the last six months we conducted two division-wide training exercises, greatly increasing the readiness of our Soldiers, units, and Families. As we have for the last 80 years, the 101st Airborne Division stands ready to deploy anywhere to support and defend the Nation and our Allies. The contributions and sacrifices that our Families make in support of our Soldiers are critical to our success. They are an integral part of the Screaming Eagle Team and we are committed to supporting them while deployed. Since D-Day, June 6, 1944, this division has repeatedly answered the Nation’s call in every major conflict. Once again, Screaming Eagles head to Europe. The Screaming Eagles of today are ready to support our Allies to preserve the long-lasting stability in Europe that our predecessors fought and died to secure.”

It disturbs me to see our brave young warriors deployed like pawns; not, as I see it, “to preserve the long-lasting stability in Europe” as General McGee states. But to secure the borders of corrupt foreign countries while America’s borders are deliberately and

Jeff exploring Fort Campbell

systematically abolished. Meanwhile, terrorists—perhaps from those very countries we feign to protect, as well as from countries that flat-out hate us—infiltrate America through our open border. The invasion of our southern border seems no accident but follows the pattern of similar invasions of European countries. Invasion is part and parcel of the unrestricted warfare our enemies have declared against us, designed to destabilize

country also be allowed to vote in fraudulent elections?

A nation without borders isn’t a nation. The 101st should be deployed on OUR border!

Because immigration and election laws are not being enforced, we are witnessing the lawless destruction of our country; and becoming an increasingly subjugated people. In effect, we are now the United States of America in name only. And whether or not America is ever restored to its former status depends on four words:

America and overwhelm resources. The fact that invasion is allowed, if not encouraged, would seem to constitute treason as committed by the Biden Administration’s puppet masters whose policies place them in league with America’s enemies.

Will millions of people flooding our

SECURE BORDERS - HONEST ELECTIONS

May God help us during this season of feckless leadership, skyrocketing inflation, widespread lawlessness, border control by narco-terrorists/ human-traffickers, suppression of speech, fraudulent elections, food shortages, $30.5 trillion US debt--$40 billion to Ukraine, etc., etc.

Happy 4th of July!

Jeff S. Barganier is a novelist, travel writer and manager of Cindy Barganier Interiors LLC. He travels far and wide upon the slightest excuse for something interesting to write about. Contact: Jeffbarganier@knology.net Instagram: @jeffbarganier . You may print out Jeff’s features at www.jeffbarganier.com

Soldiers from the 3rd Battalion, 187th Infantry Regiment, 3rd Brigade Combat Team, 101st Airborne Division (Air Assault), conclude their multi-day qualifications with the firing of AT4, recoilless smoothbore anti-tank weapon, at Fort Campbell, KY, March 31, 2022.

Military engineers from 326th Brigade Engineer Battalion "Sapper Eagles," 1st Brigade Combat Team, 101st Airborne Division blow through concertina wire.

Thousands of migrants advance towards US border.

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Montgomery Whitewater Grand Opening, July 7-9

the

must-see, must-try destination in the River Region

This summer Montgomery will welcome a new wave of fun with the grand opening of Montgomery Whitewater – a 120-acre world-class outdoor adventure center offering rafting, kayaking, and a unique mix of adventurous outdoor activities, festivals, and competitive events designed for all ages and abilities. Anchored by a state-of-the-art whitewater course, it will also feature relaxing recreational walking trails, dining, craft beer, and live entertainment experiences. Located just off the I-65 and I-85 interchange near the downtown tourism district, this highly anticipated addition to the Montgomery experience will be a signature adventure destination for the Southeast.

Residents and visitors alike will enjoy relaxing hours on the sprawling greens, heart-thumping adventures on the water, and unique ways to connect with their community whether that's in a yoga class, meeting room or over dinner in the indoor/outdoor restaurant. Located at 1100 Maxwell Boulevard, Montgomery, Alabama 36104. https://montgomerywhitewater.com/

Volunteers needed at River Region Connects!

Thursday, August 16, 2023 - 8:30 am - 11:30 am and 11:30 - 2:30 pm at Montgomery Multiplex

What is River Region Connects? River Region Connects is a One Day, One-Stop Shop for the community's homeless population to gain access to vital services. Most importantly, the event is outcome oriented; it is not just a day for people to wait in line but a day for people to make changes and have immediate access to essential services. Volunteers...working on the front lines!

• You will be matched with a homeless client to guide them through the event. • Treat clients with dignity - Try to talk with them, not at them. • Respect client privacy - When handling paperwork, do not review it unless necessary.

• Ask for help if you need it. • Don't promise services as some of the services have limited availability and eligibility requirements. Register today, www.handsonriverregion.org Interested but need further information? Call 334-261-6182.

Frenchie’s Now Open in Cloverdale

Frenchie’s, a new French-inspired cocktail bar and bistro, now open at 514 B2 Cloverdale Road. Restaurateur Jud Blount and Chef Eric Rivera of Vintage Hospitality Group (Vintage Year, Vintage Cafe, Ravello & Red Bluff Bar) have partnered with Restaurateur Tyler Bell of Il Panificio (Dino’s, El Rey Burrito Lounge & Leroy) to offer a new spot to complement the existing restaurants and bars in the Cloverdale neighborhood. With limited seating, reservations are highly recommended while walk-ins can be accommodated at the bar on a first come, first served basis, and on the patio as weather permits. Currently, the hours are 4:30pm-10pm Monday through Thursday, and 4:30-11 pm on Friday and Saturday, Frenchie’s plans on opening on Sunday later this Summer or in the Fall. Snacks such as smoked trout dip, calamari, a cheese plate and French onion dip are featured. Chef Rivera’s versions of classic bistro fare like croque monsieur, moules and steak frites rounds out the larger options. An ode to Birmingham’s Chez Fon Fon’s shrimp remoulade salad is offered and a crème brûlée can be found alongside a puff pastry. The drink menu focuses on classic cocktails and wines from small producers, primarily from France. By the glass options will remain relatively small, with a dozen or so wines available to drink at a time. Both restaurant groups are both well known for their wine collections, so guests can expect a well rounded cellar menu to be offered as the business matures. www.frenchiesmgm.com

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Buddy Guy the "Damn Right Farewell" Tour at the MPAC, Thursday October 26 at 7:30pm

Buddy Guy’s Damn Right Farewell tour will see The Americana Music Association Lifetime Achievement Award winner performing hits from throughout his career, in addition to his new #1 album. Amid his core classics you’ll hear new fan favorites from the project, including “Gunsmoke Blues”, the forever timely and spellbinding “We Go Back”, and “Follow the Money.” The follow up to his sixth Billboard #1 album The Blues Is Alive And Well, the Blues Album chart-topper reunited with his Grammy Award winning producer/songwriter and longtime collaborator Tom Hambridge, who rejoins him on tour, to bring audience members even more emotionally-charged music with even more bone-chilling hard earned lyrics and lessons that continue to garner critical recognition and praise. Visit www.mpaconline.org for more and tickets.

Downown Auburn's Cheers on the Corner

TCool off this summer at Cheers on the Corner, an annual taste of downtown Auburn on Friday, July 21, from 6 - 10 p.m. During this sips and bites trail, guests will be provided a small pour of wine or bubbles paired with a savory bite from restaurants like The Hound, Acre, Draft House, and more. You will also receive a complimentary souvenir glass. New this year will be a Best Small Bite and Best Sips contest where you get to vote for your favorite! Participants must be 21 years or older to purchase a ticket. Tickets are $45 in advance and $50 the day of. Tickets will go on sale on June 30. "This event is one of our largest fundraising events for our Merchants Association...so the money that we make off of this ultimately goes back to further supporting them, and it also allows us to have free community events," said Jessica Kohn, downtown Auburn coordinator.

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MMFA: Alabama A to Z, 45th Annual Museum Exhibition June 30 through September 24, 2023

Since 1960, the Museum has partnered with the Montgomery Art Guild to present a biennial exhibition of contemporary regional art in its galleries. The biennial exhibition contains an exciting variety of media, subjects, and themes by some of the most talented contemporary artists of Alabama. This year’s edition, Alabama A to Z, welcomes applications from artists around Alabama with realistic or abstract works inspired by characteristics of our home state, including but not limited to its people, history, culture, geography, environment, and personal experiences. On view in the Atrium, Blackmon, Goldman, Richard, and Weil Galleries. Visit www.mmfa.org

Capital City Master Gardeners Association Lunch & Learn @ Montgomery Cultural Arts Center

Capital City Master Gardener Association presents Lunch & Learn, the 1st Wednesday of Every Month from 12-1 pm. They will meet at Montgomery Cultural Arts Center (Armory Learning Arts Building), 1018 Madison Ave., Montgomery 36104. Mark your calendars, July 5, "Sprouts & Greens in Small Containers", Sue Brasel, Central Alabama Master Gardener, Have you ever tried growing sprouts? Where can you find seeds for sprouting? Do you grow vegetables in containers? What about rooting new plants from celery stalks or something similar? Come join us to hear the answers to these and other questions! August 2, “Fall Vegetable Gardening” Mike Forster, Master Gardener, will present “Fall Vegetable Gardening”. What can you plant in the Fall? When is a good time to start a Fall garden? Which vegetables perform best in cooler weather? Should I plant from seed or look for starter plants? Can I plant directly into the ground or is a raised bed a better option? So many questions, but Mike will have answers! Join us. BRING A SACK LUNCH, FREE PROGRAM, WATER PROVIDED, For information, please contact the Montgomery County Extension Office 334.270.4133. Also visit www.capcitymga.org.

10 Tips for Looking After Your Husband at Home

From a 1950s Book (maybe), #6 Could Be Controversial

Wives were taught to be water. To bring harmony to the mountain of the home, their husband, and to be the river that nurtures and forever quenches the thirst for reprieve from the darkness of the outside world. While strong husbands have always held the wolves at bay, women have, since time immemorial, held the home together with their awesome grace, their love, their strength of spirit.

A tree is known by its fruit. The fruit of the past produced our mothers, our grandmothers, our great grandmothers, as well as their beautiful, timeless, feminine charm. This popular excerpt has often been cited for its contrasting societal norms of past decades and those of the present day, though its denoted origins have also been contested. We now share it with you, our reader, for whatever truth lives inside it.

Hate it. Or love it. We leave it to you.

1. Have dinner ready

Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal–on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home, and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.

2. Prepare yourself

Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up

your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.

3. Clear away the clutter

Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.

4. Prepare the children

Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces if they are small, comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures, and he would like to see them playing the part.

5. Minimize the noise

At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the children

to be quiet. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad to see him.

6. Some DON’TS

Don’t greet him with problems or complaints. Don’t complain if he’s late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day.

7. Make him comfortable

Have him lean back in a comfortable chair, or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.

8. Listen to him

You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.

9. Make the evening his

Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment; instead try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his need to be home and relax.

10. The goal

Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can relax.

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Julianne Hansen Artist-Patriot-Entrepreneur

This month’s cover profile is Julianne Hansen, an artist who loves to share her work, ideas and the importance of art in the world. Julianne is the owner of Julianne Hansen Fine Art & Pottery, an art studio located in Historic Downtown Prattville at 173 W. Main Street. She is also the creator of the Alabama Poppy Project, which is a tribute to deceased loved ones who served in our military. The Alabama Poppy Project is conducted during Memorial Day Weekend each year in Downtown Prattville, where more than 2,000 ceramic poppies are on display honoring our heroes. We recently spent some time with Julianne and if you would like to tap into your own creativity, Julianne would be a great place to start and we know you’ll enjoy getting to know Julianne as much as we did. BOOM!: Please give us a brief biography, i.e., where you’re from, education, what brought you to the Montgomery area, did you raise your family here, schools, family, etc.?

Julianne: I grew up in Alaska where I learned the value of hard work and creative thinking. My mother was very artistic and it suited her well as a professional dog groomer and my father was an avid outdoorsman, commercial fisherman, bush pilot and guide. Upon graduation from High School, I journeyed to the “lower 48” for some education and training prior to competing in the Miss Alaska Pageant alongside Sara Palin and many other very intelligent, beautiful young ladies. I was awarded 4th runner up and enough scholarship monies to pay for Cosmetology school in Utah. I married and had 5 beautiful children and, in 1996 moved to North Alabama

where I began to dabble in various forms of art and began to pursue a love of art & marketing. Though the marriage ended, my passion for art grew, and when I met Steven Hansen through an online dating website, I

signed us up for a pottery activity, which led to lessons, which led to my purchasing a pottery wheel and kiln…and the rest is history! Steven is a retired Lieutenant Colonel in the US Air Force and now works as a civilian for the USAF, so moving to Prattville, was the natural course after we married in 2013. Steven had 4 adult children when we met and I had 5, so between the two of us, we had 9 kids, and as of today, we have 18 grandchildren!

BOOM!: Julianne, you are a pottery artist along with several other artistic mediums, would you share with our readers how you became involved with making art as a profession? Is pottery your preferred medium? How

Julianne and husband Steven walking in the Alabama Poppy Project, Downtown Prattville, AL

Photo Credit: Aubrey Motes

Julianne with Steven and son Kyle

Julianne's Freedom Flight, Best In Show

"You

can change the world with a single work of art. Even a painted rock with a pretty picture could change a person’s attitude which can cause a chain reaction of good with infinite potential! Never underestimate the power of art."

would you describe your art?

Julianne: Many years ago, I began to paint. I love painting wildlife, then began to paint portraits in soft pastel. I gained an agent and did very well doing pastel portraits commissioned by clients. I then went into marketing and graphic design when the portrait commissions slowed due to a sluggish economy. I had tried pottery but failed miserably! I felt that was one medium I couldn’t master, so I gave up until I met my husband. He had a love of pottery and took a class in college, so I thought that would make a perfect date!

It turns out it was the WAY I was taught that determined my skillset, which in turn changed my mindset about it as well. When I opened my gallery in 2017, I thought the gallery would be filled with my artwork along with a few pieces of pottery. That concept has completely flipped around. My paintings sell as soon as I put them up, so I don’t have many in the gallery….and the pottery is something I can do in batches with help in the glazing by my Gallery Supervisor and Steven. To describe my art is to say, it’s very approachable and literal. The pottery is functional art – which is quite gratifying to see people actually use it! I still love to paint in acrylic and do portraits in pastel when I can find the time.

BOOM!: Your husband Steven has been your biggest supporter when it comes to your artwork, would you share some

of your love story with us and what it means to have Steven’s support during your art journey?

Julianne: Steven is my soulmate. As corny as that sounds, it’s the truth. When we first met in person, back in the fall of 2012, it was more like a reunion than a first meeting. We both kept trying to figure out where we had met before because we both felt like we had known each other for eons. We had met on a church dating website, and communicated via text, emails and phone calls for weeks prior to actually meeting face to face. Because he lived in Prattville, and I in Decatur, it was a 2.5 hour drive to visit each other unless we met in the middle in the Birmingham area. Eventually he proposed and we both put our homes up for sale with the agreement that whichever sold first, that person would move. Mine sold, and to Prattville I moved. It wasn’t easy moving to a new area after being so well established in North Alabama, but I knew it was where I was supposed to be. One of the MANY wonderful things about Steven is his desire to serve others and make them happy. He has ALWAYS been a supporter of my projects and has been a team player and jumped in to help whenever or wherever he sees a need. When the pottery sales started getting out of control, he stepped in to help glaze, load kilns, change electrical elements, and I can’t even count the thousands of pounds of clay he has loaded and unloaded. Each shipment we receive is 4,000-6,000 pounds. I have never met a more loving, selfless and service minded person in my life.

BOOM!: You are the owner of Julianne

Julianne and Steven's first pottery date

Julianne creating her signature pottery art

Photo Credit: Aubrey Motes

Julianne creating her signature pottery art

Hansen Fine Art & Pottery, an art studio located in Historic Downtown Prattville at 173 W. Main Street, can you tell us how you came to open your unique art studio? How would you describe the art available for sale and the classes you offer? What’s the best way for our readers to connect with your art classes?

Julianne: I felt the need to open the gallery after the passing of Steven’s youngest son, Kyle in 2017. His death affected me greatly and I was slipping into a terrible depression. On Father’s Day 2017, we drove by the corner of Bridge Street and Main in Historic Downtown Prattville and saw a “For Rent” sign in the window and I mentioned that would be a perfect place for a gallery. Without skipping a beat, Steven said, “Do it”. So we did – not having any idea how to even operate a gallery. In September 2017, we opened our doors and in March of 2022 we expanded into the space next door. Initially we thought the gallery would be just that, a beautiful space to view and purchase artwork…but I was asked if I would do a few classes and that’s where the gallery studio came into being. Now, we hold several classes a week, some are for groups and some are one-on-one, but all focus on the tremendous power of art creation. It is the best therapy for those who are stressed and inundated by the noise of the world. We post classes to our website

(www. juliannehansen. com) and to our social media pages. Because they are so popular, they are often sold out quickly, but anyone can call to schedule a class during business hours. They don’t have to wait for a formal group class to get their hands dirty.

buried. It was triggering very painful feelings and I needed to just get busy doing something, yet still honoring Kyle and the many men and women who gave their lives in the service of their country. In addition, I wanted to honor all those who served yet are no longer living. I had seen an art exhibit in London using ceramic poppies, so I thought why not do a smaller version in Prattville. We had the perfect spot next to the Spillway and Dam, it looked like war-torn Europe with the broken windows of Daniel Pratt’s Gin Shop in the background. I created 1000 ceramic poppies in my own unique style and design and incorporated a white ribbon to be tied to the “stem” made from a steel rod. Each ribbon would

BOOM!:

Some of our readers may be familiar with a project you launched in 2020 called the Alabama Poppy Project, would you tell us how the project came about, where it takes place and what the impact has been on the people in

Alabama? How can our readers support the Alabama Poppy Project?

Julianne: The Alabama Poppy Project was created in 2020. After the passing of our Kyle in 2017, I found it extremely difficult to attend the Memorial Day events held at the cemetery in which he was

display the name of a person who served in the armed forces during their lifetime, but are no longer living. Then came the shutdown of 2020 due to COVID-19. We didn’t even know if we would be allowed to display everything we had worked so hard to create, but we went forward knowing it was outdoors, free to visit and social distancing would be very easy to accomplish. The event went beautifully and the response was incredible! We decided to add another 1,000 poppies for the next year and we’ve kept the number of poppies on display at or over the current year (2,023 on display this year). The number of cities and states represented by visitors has been tremendous! I can’t believe so many people drive such a distance to visit our

Julianne & Steven on the Oregon Coast in 2021

Photo taken at the recent wedding vow renewal for my daughter Heather and her husband Allen Wheeler (unfortunately, not all family members were present) at Prattvillage Garden. Photo Credit to Georgia Sheridan

"Pot on the Spot" during Artists on Main Event held during the 2021 Parade of Pumpkins with Ana Leigh Byrd, age 10. Photo Credit to Carl & Lisa Byrd

sweet poppy field. More information can be found at www.AlabamaPoppyProject. com

BOOM!: Julianne, you have said that one of your goals is to touch more people through art and help others understand the importance of doing one little piece of art at a time, would you expand on your philosophy of sharing art with others?

Julianne: Art can do more than just putting paint on a canvas…though that act in and of itself is quite therapeutic and healing. When we use art to help build others up, tell a story, raise funds to help those less fortunate or honor someone’s memory, we do something that is remarkable. A piece of art can be made once, but it’s effects can touch millions which could be directly or indirectly. You can change the world with a single work of art. Even a painted rock with a pretty picture could change a person’s attitude which can cause a chain reaction of good with infinite potential! Never underestimate the power of art.

BOOM!: What is it about living in the Prattville/River Region area that you like? What do we need more of?

Julianne: I love the giving spirit of those in this area. We see so many people willing to do so much good for others in times of trial and stress. We live in a very charitable community!

We need more areas and outlets that are made specifically for the creation and display of art. Communities that embrace art are not only beautiful, they attract tourists and provide tremendous revenue opportunities. I would love to see a large-scale art facility that can be used for performing arts as well as visual arts. I think Prattville’s founder Daniel Pratt’s love for art would be validated with such a venue considering he had the very first art gallery in Prattville over 100 years ago.

BOOM!: How do you like to relax and wind down from a full day of activity?

Julianne: As corny as it sounds, we like

to go on long walks together. We live 1.5 miles from my gallery, so a brisk walk around downtown provides not only a 3 mile workout, it’s a chance to talk about the day work out problems and reconnect together.

BOOM!: With a busy life, how do you like to spend time with family and friends?

Julianne: Our home is always Grand Central Station when it comes to family. It’s a place to gather and grill-out or just chill-out. With as many grandkids as we have, there’s always a birthday we are celebrating, and it’s a joy to spend time with the family and stay caught up on everything going on in their lives.

BOOM!: What are some of your favorite travel experiences? Favorite getaway spot? Any travel dreams planned?

Julianne: With Steven’s job, we travel a great deal to San Antonio, which is always a favorite place for us. Our first meeting was at Aldridge Gardens in Hoover. We plan a dream vacation next year when we plan on cruising for 11 days in Europe!

BOOM!: As you’ve aged, how have your priorities changed? How would you describe what it means to “age well”?

Julianne: I don’t sweat the small stuff anymore. So many people focus on the “fiddly” things that don’t really matter. What matters is time. 100% focus. With social media and phones constantly in everyone’s hands, we are missing out on what really matters which is our family.

While I love it when people say I don’t look my age, I am always wondering what exactly is 58 supposed to look like? I have no fancy beauty routine, I have no elaborate exercise routine or diet –though I know I should. Aging well is to be happy. Being content in this day and age is a rarity and I think that is why I am so happy…I am content. God has given me so much to be thankful for and I am so very thankful.

BOOM!: Do you have any hobbies or other activities that grab your attention?

Julianne: My life is my hobby! If I want to try something I do it.

BOOM!: Many people, as they age, experience a renewed sense of purpose, new goals, etc. How would you describe this sense of renewal in your life? Any advice for the rest of us seeking renewal?

Julianne: Be the person you want to be and who you believe God needs you to be. Be kind to yourself - that’s not the same as being selfish. Serve others. Try the things you’ve always wanted to try –NOW. Make lasting memories with those you love.

BOOM!: What are some of the future challenges you’re contemplating for the art studio? special projects? Yourself?

Julianne: Honestly, I have no idea. When the inspiration hits, you’ll know, because nothing holds me back from a project I want to get done.

BOOM!: Give us three words that describe you?

Julianne: Faithful – Creative – Tenacious

We want to thank Julianne for sharing some of her life's story with us this month. Julianne is an ambassador for the local art community through her art, her classes, and her community projects. If you want to be infected by her enthusiasm for art or have questions for Julianne, call her art studio at 334.301.0336, and schedule a class while you're at it. You can email Julianne at julianne@juliannehansen.com. The best experience would be to grab a friend and explore her art studio in Historic Downtown Prattville at 173 W. Main Street. We hope you’ll share Julianne's story with friends and family, they’ll enjoy the reading experience. Thanks to DiAnna Paulk and her creative photography skills, you're the best! If you have questions, comments, or suggestions about our cover profiles, including nominating someone, please text them to Jim Watson at 334.324.3472 or email jim@riverregionboom.com

Thanks for Reading BOOM!

Julianne's portrait of a child

BRING BACK THE "DUMB" PHONE!?

My opinion- the greatest BOOMer comedian was the late Norm MacDonald.

A phenomenal storyteller who died way too young, Norm once pointed out that not that long ago, people would have given you a funny look if you said, “let me grab my phone so I can take your picture”. Such things existed only in fiction. James Bond might have had such a phone back then. Now, we all do, and taking pictures is one of a phone’s thousand talents.

I think phones are getting too talented.

Shockingly, Gen Z (ZOOMers) is gravitating towards older phones or “dumb phones” as they’re called. This is a fascinating and heartening trend because Gen Z has discovered something.

From Counter Point Research- “The trend toward using “dumb phones” can be attributed in part to the rising awareness of the harmful effects of social media and digital devices on mental health. Research has revealed that excessive use of smartphones can cause anxiety, depression, and other mental health problems. As a result, many members of Generation Z are acknowledging the importance of a digital detox and are turning toward using basic phones as a viable solution”.

Digital detox. Makes sense. I think I could use one.

Simply put, the smart phone has become

a bit overwhelming. It knows too much.

I remember when an Instant Message was something you wrote to your crush on notebook paper, folded and deftly handed them as you passed each other in a school hallway between classes. It took skill, imagination, and timing. There was an excitement to itanticipating visual contact with your target then eagerly waiting for a reply in kind. As opposed to texting, there was no instant gratification. When we were the same age as today’s Gen Z, we were told “all good things come to those who wait”. Who waits for anything anymore?

My phone camera is great. I use it frequently. However, there is something to be said for the old school roll-of-film era. You took the film to Walgreen’s. The next day you returned, opened the greatly anticipated packet of pictures, deliberately going through each photo. The “blurries” were discarded along with the photos of your captured spasmodic facial expressions. It was more expensive and far less convenient but wasn’t it kind of fun?

These digital miracles are costing us the joy of anticipation. What is there to look forward to when everything is available instantly?

All I’m saying is that Gen Z may be on to something.

My daughter (Millennial) recently took a great job in New Orleans. Her Mom

and I met her there for lunch recently. Like a bolt of lightning, she made her mother and me aware we were ignoring her while staring at our phones. “That’s the thing with you BOOMers” she admonished with Master Snark. “Always with your head buried in your phones”! Busted! We laughed at her observation, not just because it was true, but it’s something many BOOMers accuse our successor generations of doing. She flipped the tables on us.

You know what I rarely use my phone for today? TALKING TO SOMEONE!

I’m so old I remember the telephone’s original and sole purpose! I’m not counting the phone in my radio studio. It’s a land line wired into a control board and it’s part of the job. For the most part I chat with people I never see or meet. It’s fun!

For some reason, I don’t like talking much on my iPhone. It’s just not fun anymore. I prefer to send messages. Again, I’ve lived through the phone’s many evolutions. I liked it better when you could see the mouthpiece.

I remember, fondly, the day I brought home a 20-foot chord so I could call my girlfriend from the privacy of the space between the washer and dryer in my parent’s basement.

I loved the sound of spinning the old dial phones. When the Push-button Princess came out, I was all for it as it changed the shape of the phone not to mention their color. Then came the Crappy Cordless era where one was not tethered to the phone by wire but bound by position because the audio quality was rarely reliable when one moved too far from the base.

Our columnist at "Columns" with daughter Janelle in New Orleans. This restaurant contains a working phone booth!

"A true story from the Greg files"

In 1988 I got my first cell phone. It weighed a ton. Suddenly though, the rich and famous were not the only ones who could call from their car. While using it in the car was awkward and somewhat dangerous, I loved calling people from my car because I could.

I am no anthropologist, but I have a theory. Mankind has had the need to have our faces buried in something since prehistoric times. Cave newsmen and artists carved images into the stone wall. It brought cave tribes together. No doubt a cave freak created the first erotic images around that time. Ever since we’ve had our faces buried in scrolls, books, newspapers, and TVs.

The smart phone has become overwhelming. Everything is there.

BOOMers- we were blessed growing up in simpler times. I re-imagine my teenage years and wonder how the devices of today would have impacted me then. If I could not only talk to but see my girlfriend, or watched a ball game or a movie, and asked the phone (and gotten answers to) the questions required by my homework not to mention the temptation of seeking adult images, I might still be stuck between the washer and dryer in my parent’s basement.

Heck, just 10 years ago I was still using

the flip phone the kids today are bringing back. Perhaps there’s something to be said for the “dumb” phone. Maybe it’s time to get a phone for calls only. I’ll go back to getting the news at 10 on TV and checking the scores in tomorrow morning’s paper. Once fun, Facebook has become a chore. When I need guidance or want to know what trends my peers are up to, I’ll find a good magazine that delivers the info I need.

Like this one!

Hat-tip Gen Z. I think I’ll bury my head in a BOOM!

(What are your thoughts on "The Bluewater Cafe"? If you have a comment on this column, email me at gregbudell@aol.com. It's still fun to hear from new people!)

Greg Budell lives in Montgomery with his wife, Roz, and dog, Brisco. He's been in radio since 1970, and has marked 17 years in the River Region. He hosts the Newstalk 93.1FM Morning Show with Rich Thomas and Jay Scott, 6-9 AM Monday - Friday. He returns weekday afternoons from 3-6 PM for Happy Hour with sidekick, Rosie Brock. Greg can be reached at gregbudell@aol.com

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“It Won’t Happen to Me”

The statistics cannot be denied. Seventy percent¹ of Americans will need longterm care before they die. On average, someone needing long-term care will receive over four years of care in their home and then will go on to a facility, such as an assisted living, a memory care facility, or a nursing home for another two years. Long-term care includes assistance with bathing, dressing, eating, moving around, toileting or incontinence due to physical limitations or cognitive impairment.

The interesting dynamic is how differently men and woman tend to view long-term care, which relates to how they tend to think about risk. Harley Gordon, an influential elder law attorney, wrote a book about it, “The Conversation,” Helping Someone You Love Plan for an Extended Care Event.” He notes, “Men are wired to minimize if not dismiss risk in life. If there is no risk of a serious event happening, what consequences can there be? If there are no consequences, why put together a plan?” Whereas, he says, “women have an aversion to risk. They see the risk of serious event and the consequences of it as being inseparable.”

Gordon observes that trying to motivate men to plan for long-term care with the statistics doesn’t work because they don’t believe it will happen to them, whereas women hope it won’t but understand that the odds are that it will. He recommends that since men are most motivated by taking care of those they love, the conversation about planning for long-term care needs to focus on the consequences to those they love if they fail to act, and long-term care is needed.

Financial Thoughts with Susan Moore

We conduct a variety of workshops and seminars at MWM. The mission statement of MWM is very simple: “and then some.” We attempt to do what is expected, what is required “and then some”. The Planning for Retirement workshop is part of our monthly “and then some” workshops. In addition, MWM conducts daily current events market updates that attempt to explain what is going on in the financial world. If you would like to be on the mailing list or receive email notifications of upcoming webinars, please call 334.270.1672.

By Susan Clayton Moore, J.D. Principal of Moore Wealth Management, Inc.

The cost of long-term care can be prohibitive. Genworth, in its annual 2020 Cost of Care Survey, estimated that a home health aide in the Montgomery area cost $3,432 a month or $41,184 a year. The cost of an assisted living facility in the Alexander City area was estimated to be $3,323 a month, or $39,876 a year. So, six years of receiving long-term care in the Montgomery area currently costs more than $230,000.

There are multiple ways to financially plan for long-term care, including traditional insurance, hybrid types of life insurance and long-term care insurance, long-term care annuities, self-insuring, etc. These methods will be covered in a Webinar format on Wednesday, July 19th by Susan Moore of Moore Wealth Management, Inc. at 12 p.m. Please call 334.270.1672 or email sarah@moorewealthmanagement. com, for more information and reservations.

Susan Clayton Moore, J.D., is a financial advisor and wealth manager of Moore Wealth Management, Inc., with offices in Auburn, Montgomery, and Alexander City, AL. Susan has under advisement over $170 million (as of 1.21.2022) in brokerage and advisory assets through Kestra Financial and has been a financial planner for nearly 40 years. Contact Susan at 334.270.1672. Email contact is susan@ moorewealthmanagement.com

The opinions expressed in this commentary are those of the author and may not necessarily reflect those held by Kestra Investment Services, LLC or Kestra Advisory Services, LLC. This is for general information only and is not intended to provide specific investment advice or recommendations for any individual. It is suggested that you consult your financial professional, attorney or tax advisor regarding your individual situation.

Securities offered through Kestra Investment Services, LLC (Kestra IS), member FINRA/SIPC. Investment Advisory Services offered through Kestra Advisory Services, LLC (Kestra AS), an affiliate of Kestra IS. Kestra IS or Kestra AS are not affiliated with Moore Wealth Management, Inc. https://bit.ly/KF-Disclosures

¹https://www.genworth.com/aging-and-you/finances/ cost-of-care.html

Long Term Care Webinar July 19th, Noon, Register today 334.270.1672

There are multiple ways to financially plan for long-term care, including traditional insurance, hybrid types of life insurance and long-term care insurance, long-term care annuities, self-insuring, etc. These methods will be covered in a Webinar format on Wednesday, July 19th by Susan Moore of Moore Wealth Management, Inc. at 12 p.m.

Bug Spray

Maybe it's the appearance of all the flies and other biting bugs outside has led me into a bit of a blending frenzy this morning - and believe me, I've nothing against insects generally and rarely kill one, but certain ones do seem to love to bite me - and my horse!

I have two blends that I tweak year to year - one for humans and dogs, one for horses. This morning I mixed up two 1-liter bottles of the horse blend and one 8oz bottle of the human blend. They smell SO much better than store bought bug sprays. SO, So much better! IN fact, the smell is so much better that the horses will run off if I pull out a bottle of the store-bought brand, but they love it when I spray them with mine.

Now I can't reveal all my secrets, but let's just say that my base is an aloe vera gel base, mixed with one third water, and the secret ingredient, one tablespoon of apple cider vinegar. Added to this is a combination of a whole bunch of essential oils; some are the same for both humans, dogs, and horses, but some are very horse specific. They are generally exposed to a greater variety of biting flying insects, so I hit them with the full arsenal, so to speak. Humans and dogs are generally not exposed to things like horse flies and bot flies, for example. Bot flies lay visible eggs on the hairs of horses, usually on their legs. You can actually see the individual yellow-colored eggs, which must be removed or when the larvae hatch they burrow under the skin of the horse (!) And

worse, if the horse scrapes the eggs off with their teeth, the larvae can then hatch in their mouth and the larvae burrow into their gums. Ugh!

We discovered this problem when living in Alabama. Our poor chestnut horse's legs were covered in these horrible yellow eggs. I had no idea what it was then; it was a quick and steep learning curve! But fortunately my essential oil journey was already underway and I stumbled upon a specific oil that deterred the bot flies from laying their eggs on my horse EVER AGAIN! It was in fact just one essential oil, diluted of course, but then sprayed on his legs every other day. From the first day we discovered this, he never had them lay on him again (phew). The manager of the stable he was boarded at asked me to please share the secret with her as she had another 16 horses dealing with the same issue and scraping bot fly eggs off 16 horses is no joke!

The secret? Atlas Cedarwood essential

oil - Cedrus Atlantica. Always check the Latin Name when you're buying essential oils to make sure you're getting exactly what you want. I use maybe three 30 ml bottles each summer in Alabama. Now I use it as part of my horsefly blend here in Pennsylvania.

Other essential oils that are good for keeping the bugs off include Lemongrass (Cymbopogon schoenanthus), Eucalyptus (Eucalyptus Globulus), Citronella (Cymbopogon nardus), Lavender (Lavandula Angustifolia) to name a few you should have heard of - again, and I cannot stress this enough - make sure you check the Latin names, the ones in parentheses, to be 100% sure you are buying the right thing. If you buy a "copy" at the very least it could be from a different plant entirely and therefore would not have the same therapeutic benefits, and at worst it could just be a completely adulterated oil and have zero benefits at all.

A few that you may not have heard of, or didn’t know of this particular benefit, include Basil (Ociumum basilicum), Thyme ct. Linalool (Thymus vulgaris ct. linalool), Rosemary (Rosmarinus officinalis ct verbenone), Catnip (Nepeta Cataria) and Patchouli (Pogostemon cablin). All of these will repel insects of one form or another and sometimes it's a bit of trial and error to find the mix that works best for the locale that you are in. At the very least though, you know that you are not poisoning yourself and your family/animals with all the horrors that are in commercial products. Happy blending!

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Tracy Bhalla, independent consultant with NYR Organics and founder of LogHouseAromatics.com; after 25 years of using homeopathic remedies, it was time to take charge and complete my Aromatherapy Certification, which I achieved April 2020 and since founded LogHouseAromatics.com as a source for useful essential oil and general natural health information and a place to purchase certain products. email: nyrbhalla@gmail.com I am here to answer any questions you may have.