6C THE WICHITA EAGLE ■ SUNDAY, DECEMBER 15, 2013
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Grandson’s bullying behavior needs evaluation DEAR ABBY: Our 7-year-old grandson has been a handful since he was able to walk. He has been sneaky and has told lies for as long as any of us can remember. He has been suspended from school more than 10 times for various things. He stole several hundred dollars from his mom’s purse and took it to school so he would have money to buy snacks. He stays awake longer than everyone else in the house so he can take things and hide them in his closet. He knows what he does is wrong, but it doesn’t bother him. He is also abusive to his disabled sister. It is hard to imagine that a 7-year-old could give hatefilled looks that you don’t even see from adults. I’m afraid at the rate he is going, he will seriously hurt someone or be hurt himself. He also has a very big heart. That is why we don’t understand what is going wrong in this little boy’s head. Please help if you can.
seen the photographs. I now know they were aware of the situation, but did nothing. How should I approach the situation? It would be very bad if my parents found out.
– FACING THE CONSEQUENCES IN NEW JERSEY DEAR FACING THE CONSEQUENCES: You now know why it’s a bad idea to send nude pictures, because once they are out of your control, anything can be needs more of his parents’ done with them. While this is attention. Or he may have embarrassing, you should serious emotional problems. The boy needs to be evaluat- absolutely tell your parents ed by a mental health profes- what happened because they may want to take this matter sional so his parents will understand what’s driving his to their lawyer. Your former employers ignored sexual behavior, and it can be adharassment, attempted codressed. Please don’t wait. DEAR ABBY: I’m 17 and a ercion and blackmail. If it can be proven, they should pay few months ago I made the the price for it. mistake of taking and sendDEAR ABBY: May I share ing nude photographs to my boyfriend. An adult co-work- a pet peeve of mine? I wish er, “Jim,” got the photographs you’d raise the consciousness of people who write obituwithout my knowledge or permission and showed them aries and fail to mention the musician who provides the to my other co-workers, inmusic for the funerals and – GRANDMA OF A BULLY cluding managers. Jim IN NORTH CAROLINA threatened to continue show- memorials. The musician often does more preparation ing the pictures around unDEAR GRANDMA: Your for the services than the pallless I did him a “favor.” Out grandson’s behavior may bearers. Why are their names of distress, I quit my job, not have something to do with omitted? I usually want to realizing that managers had the fact his disabled sibling
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know who they are when I attend. – WONDERING IN GEORGIA DEAR WONDERING: I can think of a couple of reasons. The first is that some obituaries are actually taken from the eulogy, which may have been written prior to the death by someone in the family. If the obituary was written by an employee of a newspaper, the information may have been taken as part of a standard list of questions about the deceased and any survivors. Frankly, I think it would be more suitable if the musician’s name was included on the program. If it hasn’t been included, there is nothing rude about telling the officiant or a family member how much you enjoyed the music and asking who provided it.
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY This year you often feel as if others come on a little too strong. Understand that you are not going to change them, but you can establish your boundaries. As a result, mutual respect will grow. ARIES (March 21-April 19) ★★★★ You have a lot to do, yet you seem to enjoy the pace. You also have a lot of energy. Tonight: Hang up the mistletoe. TAURUS (April 20-May 20) ★★★ Be aware of a possessive streak that a loved one sometimes inadvertently triggers. Tonight: Order in. GEMINI (May 21-June 20) ★★★★★ You will be in the moment. Try not to be so extravagant when choosing a gift for a special person. Tonight: Forget tomorrow. Live now. CANCER (June 21-July 22) ★★★ Slow down and take some time to relax and enjoy being with your family. Tonight: Do something just for you. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22) ★★★★★ You don’t need the holidays to make you smile -you just need people. Tonight: Where people are. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) ★★★ A friend or family member’s request for you to join him or her for brunch might be too appealing to say “no’’ to. Tonight: You could go on and on. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22) ★★★★★ You seem to be in the right place at the right
time. Get away from the hectic pace and everything that surrounds you, at least for a little while. Tonight: Refreshed, anything becomes possible. SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21) ★★★ Work with someone directly. This person might demand that you be an active partner in something you both are involved in. Tonight: You do not have to explain. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21) ★★★★ Others could be very belligerent in declaring that they will do what they want without first discussing it with you. Tonight: In the moment. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) ★★★ Use the daylight hours to the max. Pretend that you are Santa as you go off to complete your holiday shopping list. Tonight: Get some much-needed R and R. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18) ★★★★★ You could turn a boring project into a happening. Tonight: Your inner child emerges. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20) ★★★ You might need to
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distance yourself from others. Once you cancel some plans, do whatever you want. Tonight: Stay home.
Earl Wayne and Marie Hole 50th Wedding Anniversary
Join us in Celebration of Richard Slane’s 90th birthday on December 20th by sending him a birthday card! Family will gather for a good meal to celebrate this momentous occasion. Please take a moment to share your well-wishes and congratulations with Richard! Cards should be mailed to: 9221 Suncrest Wichita, KS 67212.
Gary Barkman and Linda Fuller are celebrating their anniversary! The couple’s 2 children and 6 grandchildren will have an open house at Hyde Park Recreation Center: 201 S. Greenwood Wichita, Kansas, on Saturday, December 21st from 1:00 p.m. - 3:00 p.m. The happy couple resides in Wichita, Kansas.
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Joseph and Samantha Hall Samantha Hoffman and Joseph Hall, both of Westwood, Kansas were united in marriage on September 14, 2013 at 3:30 p.m. at The Elms Resort and Spa in Excelsior Springs, Missouri. The wedding was officiated by ordained ministers; Casey Skinner and Jackie Stahl. The bride’s parents are John Hoffman of Gardner, Kansas and Marsha Hoffman of Wichita, Kansas. The groom’s parents are Jimmy and Lisa Hall of Independence, Kansas.
Earl Wayne Hole and Marie Coats were united in marriage, December 15, 1963, at 1st United Methodist Church, Ottawa, Kansas, with Rev. Charles Knight officiating. They resided in Wichita from 1964 until 2008 and then moved near Greenwood, MO. Earl Wayne was employed at Boeing for thirty six years and Marie was employed for Boeing for nineteen years. Both retired in 2000. The couple has two children; Sherri (Bart) Nitz, Lake Winnebago, MO, and Jeff (Jennifer) Hole, Lake Winnebago, MO. They are blessed with three grandsons; Justin Nitz, Alec Nitz, and Hayden Hole The couple will celebrate this special occasion with a family vacation in Hawaii.
Courtney Fromm Poynter and Robert Lewis Patton both of Wichita, KS were united in marriage on June 1, 2013 at St. James Episcopal in Wichita, KS and was officiated by Rev. David Lynch and Rev. Robert Terhune. The maid of honor was the brides sister; Jillian Poynter and the best man was the grooms brother; Michael Patton. The bride is the daughter of Duane and Jill Poynter of Wichita, KS and the grand-daughter of Joan Fromm and the late Dr. Arthur Fromm, Joe Poynter, and the late JoAnn Poynter. The groom is the son of Rob Patton of Wichita, KS, and Leila Terhune of Austin, TX and the grandson of Rev. Robert and Lorna Terhune, the late Annabelle Lewis, and the late Donald Richard Patton. The happy couple honeymooned in LaJolla, CA and Kauai, HA and resides in Wichita, KS.
70th Wedding Anniversary Howard Knight and Doris Turner were united in marriage on December 19, 1943 at Kechi Methodist in Kechi, Kansas and Dr. Caffin officiated the wedding. They will celebrate their anniversary with a card shower. The happy couple has 4 children, 8 grandchildren, and 12 great-grandchildren. Howard was a Contractor at Howard Knight Construction for 50 years before retiring in 1985. Doris is a homemaker. The couple resides in Wichita, Kansas. Please send cards to Celebration Baptist: 7202 E. 9th St. N. Wichita, KS 67206
William and Genevieve Bankston 50th Wedding Anniversary William Bankston and Genevieve Mathia were united in marriage on December 20, 1963 in Joe and Ethel’s home in Columbus, Georgia by a Baptist minister. William was an Engineer at Boing/Spirit and retired in 2013 after 31 years. Genevieve was a MA at JC Penney's and retired in 2011 after 28 years. They currently reside in Derby, Kansas. The happy couple just went on a 14 day cruise to Hawaii to celebrate and will also be celebrating on Saturday, December 21, 2013 from 5 p.m. - 7 p.m. at Abuelos in Wichita, Kansas. The dinner will be hosted by the couple's four children and ten grandchildren.